For me, it all began with one question.

This is the story behind that question—and the foundation of my life’s work: The Five Facets® Philosophy on Healing.

My first son, Gavin, lived just twenty-six minutes.

Over the seven years that followed his birth and death, I experienced two second-trimester miscarriages; two complicated, but successful pregnancies; a six-week psychiatric hospitalization for severe depression; and one final pregnancy. Six weeks before that child was born, I discovered that my husband and my best friend were having an affair.

Like many people, I spent years trying to figure out how to understand—and to stop—the pain.

And there was one question that fueled me forward:

How is it that some people go on to live happy, fulfilled lives following tragedy, mishap, or mayhem, while others succumb to drugs, despair, a life of void, or suicide?

That question sent me on a journey that has now spanned more than two decades.

Looking back, that question was more about understanding the indomitable human spirit I believe we all possess. A question with hope and possibility at its center. That single question and the thousands more it spawned took me on a journey of personal growth—not looking for another coping strategy, but trying to understand what truly influences the way we think, feel, behave, relate, heal, and live.

I read and researched and reflected and connected with hundreds of others who had endured and transcended hardship. I found myself immersed in their stories and in better understanding our existence.

And yet, despite years of searching, I still hadn’t found the answer that would bring everything together for me.

The foundation of my work—The 5 Facets—actually wrote themselves into my memoir, Digging for the Light: One Woman’s Journey from Heartache to Hope. I wrote this about the morning I discovered the affair:

“Every piece of hope I’d ever held onto before had just been shredded.

“My faith in people, my trust; my belief in God, in dignity—every spiritual, emotional, social, physical, and academic part of me lay in a heap to be tossed out with the garbage.

“It never made it to the garbage.

“I recycled it, instead.”

In one of the later edits of the manuscript, those five things stood off the page and what went through my mind was, “That’s it. That’s the answer to the question you’ve been asking all these years.”

From there, I began asking more questions and delving into those five aspects of our human existence. And The 5 Facets—the Academic, Emotional, Physical, Social, and Spiritual—was born.

As I revisited the thousands of questions I’d asked and the many answers I’d discovered over the years, I began noticing five overarching themes. I compiled those themes, along with The 5 Facets, into what is now known as The Five Facets® Philosophy on Healing.

At its heart is a simple belief:

Before we can fully unlock our potential, it helps to understand the hidden influences that shape our choices, behaviors, relationships, pain, growth, and even the way we view ourselves.

Because healing isn’t simply about moving beyond our past.

It’s about understanding ourselves more deeply so we can live, love, lead, relate, and grow with greater clarity, confidence, and ease. For each time we’re able to heal one aspect of our struggle or heartache, we’re that much closer to achieving the desired outcome we want, what I call our next-level potential.

Years after those initial discoveries, I’d find myself exploring the energetic and spiritual nature of our very existence.

I discovered that sometimes healing the human side of ourselves is enough, while others also want to explore the soul aspects of our being. And each person’s path is right for them. Recognizing the truly individual nature of our innate potential has helped me not only thrive in the face of adversity, it’s helped me better support the thousands of people I’ve connected with.

That’s the heartbeat behind everything I write, teach, coach, and speak about.

If you wonder how conflict, grief, relationships, leadership, human behavior, and unlocking our potential could possibly be connected…

They’re all part of the same conversation.

Healing is rarely about just one area of our lives.

Everything is connected.

If you’re here because your heart has been hurting…

you’re in the right place.

If you’re trying to make sense of conflict…

you’re in the right place.

If you’re longing for healthier relationships…

you’re in the right place.

If you’re ready to better understand yourself—and the people around you…

you’re in the right place.

Because while the circumstances that bring us here are all different, the desire is often the same:

To hurt less.

To understand more.

To heal.

To create a life we genuinely love.

And in some way, I believe we all want to also make a positive impact of some kind in our own lives and in the world around us.

I’m honored you’re here, and I look forward to walking this journey alongside you.

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The other day, while out for a walk, I came across a tiny set of keys lying on the path.

A few steps later, I spotted a small padlock.

Sure enough, they belonged together.

What struck me wasn’t the lock or the keys themselves.

It was the realization that I had walked that exact same path just minutes earlier and never noticed either one of them—even though they were sitting in plain sight.

It made me think about how often that happens in life.

How often we search for answers, clarity, confidence, healing, purpose, or direction while overlooking something important that is already available to us.

Sometimes our attention is elsewhere.

Sometimes we’re moving on autopilot.

Sometimes we’re so focused on where we want to go that we fail to recognize the resources, strengths, opportunities, and insights that already exist within us.

And sometimes, the very thing we’ve been looking for has been there all along.

Why We Struggle to Unlock Our Potential

When people think about reaching goals–whether that’s healing a loss event, creating change, or pursuing a dream, they often assume they need more information, more motivation, more discipline, or a better strategy.

Sometimes that’s true.

But in my experience, one of the greatest barriers to growth isn’t a lack of any of those things.

It’s a lack of understanding the hidden drivers that influence how we see and experience life.

And those hidden drivers? They are, in varying degrees, the very human aspects that influence both your struggle and your success.

For more than twenty years, I’ve studied a question that became the foundation for The Five Facets® Philosophy on Healing:

How is it that some people go on to live happy, fulfilled lives following tragedy, mishap, or mayhem, while others remain stuck, disconnected, or overwhelmed by the very same circumstances?

What I discovered is that while every person possesses the same five core dimensions of the human self, those Facets, as I call them, are structured differently within each of us.

The Five Facets® are:

• Academic
• Emotional
• Physical
• Social
• Spiritual

You and I and everyone esle (currently 8 billion people) are born with all five.

Yet the details that comprise those Facets are different for each of us. Additionally, each of us has a unique hierarchy that influences how they process information, make decisions, respond to challenges, build relationships, experience growth, and create change.

Understanding that hierarchy often reveals why certain approaches work beautifully for one person and fall flat for another.

The Key May Not Be What You Think

Many of us spend years trying to force ourselves into systems, solutions, and strategies that were never designed for how we naturally operate.

We assume something is wrong with us.

We believe we need to work harder, to push more, to fix ourselves, and sometimes we even believe we need to become someone else, or a different version of ourself. Yet often the answer isn’t found in changing who we are.

It’s found in understanding ourselves more deeply.

When we understand our intrinsic blueprint, we gain insight into the the wiring that influences how we see, experience, and navigate our life, both the struggle and the success. We can then begin to recognize what naturally supports our growth and what inhibits it. We learn how to navigate obstacles with greater awareness. And we begin making decisions that align with who we are rather than who we think we should be.

Unlocking What Has Always Been There

The little padlock now sits beside my computer, not because it has any monetary or significant value. But because it reminds me of something important: The vast human potential we all possess is everpresent. And yet, far too many of us either don’t see it because we’re following some hidden process, or we don’t yet believe in it.

Possibility is everywhere and in everything, but it often goes unnoticed, just like the padlock and the key I walked over and didn’t see.

And the next step we need is often much closer than we think. In fact, sometimes the key is hidden in plain sight.

The invitation is to be open to seeing something when it appears on your path. To be curious. To look inward as carefully as we look outward. And to remember that the answers we seek are not always found by adding something new.

Sometimes they emerge when we finally understand and recognize what has been there all along.

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Every year, as Mother’s Day approaches, the world fills with messages of celebration—
gratitude, flowers, brunch reservations, and reflections on what it means to be celebrated as a mother and to be loved by a mother.

And for many… that lands beautifully.

And for many others… it doesn’t.

For some, this day brings an unmistakable sense of uncertainty or sadness—
a quiet (or not-so-quiet) awareness that something is missing, feeling messed up, or unresolved.

Sometimes the loss event is easy to identify and the grief is easy to understand.
Sometimes it’s not.
Sometimes it appears as a subtle longing.
Sometimes it’s a gut-and-mind-wrenching conflict in the form of unanswered questions.
Sometimes it’s a feeling of love that seems to have no outward place or expression for it to go.
And all too often, it shows up in a form that society—in large part—hasn’t been trained or taught to recognize, let alone acknowledge.

Two days after I gave birth to my firstborn, I received a Mother’s Day card, and I wept. What kind of mother has no child? It was an internal question that would plague me for years, and one I relentlessly pursued the answers to—plural, because there are countless more questions beneath that one, and an even greater magnitude of responses.

Several days later, as we were leaving the funeral for my son, Gavin, my good friend said something like, “You’re a great mom, and he’s so lucky to have you.”

Neighbor, I literally fell to the floor, as that same question left my mind and echoed out in an audible wail of a broken mother’s heart. “What kind of mother has no child?!?”

It took me a few years to recognize that, even though I didn’t have the opportunity to do the traditional “Mom” things, I was his mother in so many ways—ways that were merely (and vastly) different than what we humans expect or envision about Motherhood.

I did feed and nurture him. I sang to him and rocked him to sleep. I told him how much I adored him. It’s simply that all of those things took place with him inside of me, where they were invisible to the eye and mind that hadn’t yet broadened their lens of awareness.

In the past thirty-plus years, I’ve spent a great deal of time reflecting on my friend’s proclamation and the thousands of stories I’ve borne witness to. More and more I see the commonalities underneath the experiences that many labels and viewpoints create separation. And I see an even greater need for us to deepen our awareness of the very things that could be uniting us, rather than subtly working to keep us separate.

In the hours, weeks, and months leading up to Mother’s Day events across the globe, marketing and media streams are filled with all Celebrate Mom things—commercials, articles, and images encouraging gratitude, love, and reflection.

In the midst of it all, there are countless women—and men—who struggle around Mother’s Day, in very different ways and for very different reasons.

While we hear about some of those experiences through growing grief awareness platforms and programs, they most frequently appear in two forms:
Missing My Mom. Subscript: My mother died.
Moms Missing Their Moppets. Subscript: My child was born and my child died.

And yet, there are so many more stories that are rarely talked about as part of the same, shared experience.

Those categories cover a larger class of people than any of us might want to imagine…
yet there are so, so many more people—’Moms’ and ‘Mom-less’—who need to be remembered and recognized, too.

If you, Neighbor, as Mother’s Day approaches, are somehow feeling sad, mad, shamed, depressed, deprived, less than special—or [insert your whatever]—regardless of the circumstance(s) leading to your conflict or sorrow—please know you are not alone.

There are many paths that lead to this feeling… and they deserve to be named.

For Those With A Mother’s Heart

You, who have dreamt of being a mom, but for whatever reason(s), those dreams have not materialized as you expected…

Maybe you have experienced the death of a child who entered this world alive…
maybe you experienced infertility… stillbirth… miscarriage… ectopic pregnancy…
maybe you are in separation from your children due to parental alienation or the trending “no contact”…
maybe you are feeling lost in a newly empty nest…
maybe you are in what many label a “non-traditional” relationship or role and bringing children into the world feels complicated or impossible…

Maybe you are a single father, playing both Mom and Dad roles, and your children are asking tough questions about where their “mommy” is, and you feel like others in your community do not understand your struggles…

[insert your experience…]

I feel you. I see you. I honor and salute you—each of you who carries a mother’s love in your heart, but may not be able to show or share it because something is standing between you and that nurturing.

You possess a Mother’s Heart in so many ways.
You are worthy.
You are loved.
You are wanted.
You are needed.

You deserve to live your best life and to celebrate You, Neighbor, even in the face of these losses.

For Those Missing Their Mother or Mother Figure

You, who are navigating this day without your mom…

Maybe her death is recent or has stretched across years…
maybe you’re missing her presence, her voice, her hugs ……
maybe your relationship was complicated…
maybe the missing is due to emotional or physical distance…
maybe there is a physical or mental illness that triggers dread or fear…
maybe you’re parenting your own children and grieving the absence of her guidance in both your lives…
maybe you were raised in an adoptive or foster home—whether you felt loved and supported, or not—and find yourself longing to know or understand your biological bloodlines.
maybe you’re longing for even the possibility of what you wish that relationship could have been.

[insert your experience…]

Whatever your experience—your feelings are valid, and they belong here, too.
I feel your Mother-related heartache. I see you and I salute YOU today and always…

And For These Mothers Whose Struggles Are Not Always Seen

You, who is beating your not-a-super-hero-mom-self up because you are feeling fatigued, overworked and underappreciated…
You, who feels like a “bad” mom because you’re frustrated or angry at your children for not finishing their chores, today of all days…
You, who is feeling ungrateful because you don’t know what to do with yet another Special Mom Mug or all you really want for Mother’s Day is a day to yourself…
You, the single-parent mom, who feels like she hasn’t done enough because there simply isn’t enough of You to go around…
You, the male mom-figures, who nurture the souls and bodies of your children every day, often without recognition for your contributions…
You, the terminally ill mom who fears she won’t live long enough to witness and celebrate your child’s next success… the mom who is forced to worry about who will mother your child(ren) when you die…
You, the sick mom who, no matter how much you’d like to get out of bed and do something with your child(ren) today, you don’t have the energy…
You, the mother who, for whatever reason, has a difficult relationship with your child(ren) and longs for easier associations with them…
You, the mom who is feeling guilty for working too much and not spending as much time as you’d like with your dear one(s)…

I feel your Mother’s heart. I see you and I salute YOU today and always…

I don’t see any one of these as labels or as being better or worse than the others.
I see people. Period.

And one of the greatest lessons I’ve learned and shared throughout my years working with loss, grief, healing—and ultimately human potential—is a truth I hope people remember:

There is no universal loss hierarchy, Neighbor.

The only loss hierarchy is the one we claim for ourselves.

There are countless ways that Mother’s Day can touch the heart—
some filled with joy, some filled with sorrow, and many holding both at the very same time.

And perhaps… that is the shared experience.

Not that our stories are the same—
but that we each house both hardship and happiness alongside one another, and that something within them wants to be seen, acknowledged, and honored.

So, Neighbor…
whatever is on your Mother’s Day heart this year—

I see you.
I honor you.
And I celebrate and salute you.

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Comparing themselves to others.

And yes—that’s the one we hear about most often.
It’s the one we’re told to stop doing.

But it’s not the only one.

There are actually three distinct forms of comparison—
and two of them tend to go unnoticed, even as they shape how you see yourself, your life, and your growth.

This became clear to me as I moved through a 7-year string of significant life loss events—experiences that didn’t just change my circumstances, but challenged how I interpreted everything.

What I began to notice was this:

Comparison wasn’t the problem.

Unrecognized comparison was.

The Three Types of Comparison

1. Comparison to others
This is the most visible form.
Looking at someone else’s life, education, financial or social status, progress, or choices, to name a few—and measuring yourself against it.

It’s easy to spot.
And because of that, it’s often the only one people try to address.

2. Comparison to your past self
This one is more subtle.

It shows up as:

• “Before [your loss event] I could do or was [what you believe you no longer have or can do.]”
• “I was happier before [insert your loss event.]”
• “Why can’t I just get back to who I was before [insert your loss event]?”

This type of comparison also stems from some sense of lack, and works to hold you in a conflict and grief pattern, delaying your healing and movement toward your next-level potential or goal, whatever that looks like for you.

3. Comparison to a perceived self
This one can be the sneakiest, and one I’ve never heard anyone else speak about.

It’s shaped by expectations—your own, and those you’ve been conditioned to believe over time.

This form of comparison often shows up in two ways:

• “I should be able to heal or do ABC because–[I’ve experienced this before; I’m educated; I have the resources…].”
• “I shouldn’t have to be dealing with this because–[Someone made a vow to me. It’s not fair…].”

Like the other two forms of comparison, this one also diminishes the value of your other life experiences and tends to hold you in a conflict and grief pattern.

Why This Matters

This isn’t about telling you to stop comparing.

Because comparison, in and of itself, isn’t inherently negative. It’s a common human trait.

It’s a lens.

And like any lens, it shapes what you see.

Your healing and growth happens when you begin to recognize you’re in comparison mode. And when you can identify which form of comparison you’re in? Now you’re empowered to make a different choice and to take steps toward what it is you DO want to experience, whether it’s related to work, relationships, or your own personal growth.

Understanding and recognizing these forms of comparison will always influence:

• how you relate to others
• how you interpret your progress
• and what you believe is possible from here

A Simple Place to Start

Instead of asking,
“How do I stop comparing?”

Try asking:
“What am I comparing myself to right now?”

Awareness, as I like to say, is not just ‘more than half the battle’ it is more than half of the becoming into whatever version of yourself you want to see, and be.
This awareness helps you create clarity around your thoughts and your situations, helps you respond more intentionally, and helps you move forward with more confidence and ease.

Curious, Neighbor?

I also recorded a short video that walks you through these three types of comparison.

Watch the video here →

Here’s a brief clip about comparison in a conversation between two of my favorite thought leaders: Simon Sinek and Lewis Howes.

I’d love for you to share how this topic resonated with you and what strategies you’ve used to help you spot and step out of any form of comparison in your life, Neighbor. Please feel free to join the conversation by leaving a comment!

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Neighbor,

I’ve been sharing this powerful guide one-on-one with clients and with those who have followed this work since the early days.

And in honor of the 15th anniversary of my first public presentation, it felt like the right time to offer both a refresher—and a simple, step-by-step guide on how to use it.

Because often, the hardest part is figuring out where to actually begin when everything feels complicated and jumbled together.

It’s the question we all face in times of struggle, confusion, and loss: I don’t even know where to begin.

This guide was created for that moment.

It’s one of the simplest ways I know to help you move from overwhelm to a more grounded, manageable starting point—often in just minutes.

🧩 Step 1: Self Awareness

Where am I feeling stress—and what does it feel like?

This is where you begin.

One question.

Conflict and stress can show up in any one—or more—of your 5 Facets.

Which Facet(s) is it showing up in for you right now—within the Academic, Emotional, Physical, Social, or Spiritual? Choose the Facet(s) that resonate with you in this moment.

And just as important… what does it actually feel like?

I suggest not overthinking it. Write down the first thought that comes to mind, for in my experience, that is the place from which the greatest results often come from. Not to mention: The entire goal of this is to help bring ease, not over-complicate what already feels complicated.

Your next steps begin with awareness.

🧩 Step 2: Self Assessment

What do I want or need to happen?

Once you can see what’s happening, the next question becomes:

What would you rather be experiencing within the Facet(s) you selected in Step 1?

This may include all of the Facets you identified above, or you may begin narrowing it down here.

There is no right, wrong, perfect, or permanent response; only what feels right to you in this moment. Healing and conflict resolution happen in micro-moments.

Trust your instincts as you begin creating these mini intentions.

🧩 Step 3: Personal Assets

What strengths and internal resources do I already have?

Before looking outside of yourself, pause here.

What do you already have within you that can support you? This, too, is broken out by Facet.

I encourage you to remember there is NO RIGHT OR WRONG way to approach this. If an idea pops into your mind for a Facet, don’t second-guess if you’re choosing the ‘right’ one. Go with it. Write it down and move on.

And remember that it’s okay if you don’t choose all of the same Facets you did above. Follow your instincts.

This might be that you possess:

• an ability to see different perspectives
• you’re resilient
• experience or wisdom you have
• you’re not afraid to ask for help
• or even the willingness to begin
• [insert your ‘whatever’] as I like to say

Often, more is already present than we initially recognize.

🧩 Step 4: Outside Resources

What support exists around me?

Now, we bring in your outside resources by Facet, again remembering to keep moving without second-guessing or over-analyzing your responses.

What support is available outside of you?

Remembering the fluidity of the process: there’s no right or wrong and you might—or might not—choose different Facets here.

This could include:

• people or their stories
• tools or platforms (like apps, YouTube, etc)
• guidance
• or additional forms of support
• books
• your community

Support is not singular—and it doesn’t have to be all or nothing.

🧩 Step 5: Next Steps

What is one supportive step I can take from here?

This is where clarity and action unite to create movement in the direction of where you want to be.

Not a ten-step plan.
Not a complete life overhaul.

Just one next step that feels manageable.

Research and historical data have shown that taking action on one new direction or change at a time tends to be more effective and sustainable than tackling a whole bunch of shifts at once. Given that, sometimes there will be two Facets that you can work with simultaneously, but my suggestion is to stick to one or two and table the others for later.

By the time you reach this point in the guide, you will have one or more Facets in which you’d like to move from conflict or grief to resolution and healing.

Choose one (1) Facet or two (2) Facets and decide on a single step that you can take right now, or within the next week, though the sooner you schedule the action to take place, the more quickly you will move forward.

For now, what is the next step you will take toward what you said you wanted to achieve in Step 2?

That step might be:

• having a conversation
• making a decision
• setting a boundary
• asking for help
• choosing rest
• or simply giving yourself permission to begin differently

The point is not speed.

The point is direction.

Because once you can see more clearly what is happening, your next step often becomes easier to recognize.

And as cliché as it might sound, this is a way to both literally and figuratively put one foot in front of the other.

💬 Make the most of this guide

As I encourage everyone—print it.

Keep copies where you’ll actually see and use it.

Your nightstand.
Your desk.
Your car.
Even in the bathroom alongside your Sudoku or crossword puzzles.

Because this isn’t something you use once and move on from.

It’s something you return to—again and again—as different moments arise.

✨ If you’re new here

If you’re new to this work and don’t yet have your copy of the Heal It Your Way™ Quick Clarity Guide, this is your invitation to join the Neighborhood—where I share priority access to reflections, tools, and resources—and to receive your free digital copy.

👉 Join the Neighborhood here

You don’t have to figure everything out.

You just need a place to begin.

This gift is a great first step to let your healing begin and to take a big step toward the next-level potential you’re seeking, Neighbor.

With wisdom, warmth, and a welcome path forward,

Annah ❤️

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That question began an exploration that has now spanned more than two decades.

At the time I first asked it, I was navigating a seven-year string of losses that included the death of my firstborn following unexpected delivery complications; two miscarriages; hospitalization for severe depression; and infidelity.

As you may have experienced in the face of your own trials and tribulations, there were times when I felt as if I were drowning in a sea of pain with no boat or lifeline anywhere on the horizon.

And yet, I had this keen awareness that there was something so much stronger than the pain, and that suffering didn’t have to be my destiny.

So that question? It was about understanding the indomitable human spirit. The spirit of those individuals I’d heard about who had transcended “the unimaginable.” If I could understand that, then I could follow in their footsteps rather than being pulled under by the emotional riptide that kept trying to drag me back.

That single question led to hundreds more.

And eventually, thousands.

The beautiful part is that the answers piled up, too. Though I didn’t set out to create any sort of framework or develop a philosophy, the revelations were staggering in how they unearthed outdated concepts, beliefs, and support systems that can actually hold us in conflict and grief patterns—and themes we can draw from to help create forward movement, no matter our circumstance.

It was in one of the final edits of my memoir, Digging for the Light: One Woman’s Journey from Heartache to Hope, that something profound revealed itself to me.

In that memoir, I wrote about the morning I discovered my husband’s affair with my best friend:

“Every piece of hope I’d ever held onto before had just been shredded. My faith in people, my trust; my belief in God, in dignity—every spiritual, emotional, social, physical, and academic part of me lay in a heap to be tossed out with the garbage.
It never made it to the garbage.
I recycled it instead.”

In one of the later manuscript edits, those five things stood out in a way they hadn’t before.

Spiritual.
Emotional.
Social.
Physical.
Academic.

That’s it. That’s the answer to the question you’ve been asking.

That thought led to countless more questions—and countless more answers.

Over time, I compiled all of my findings into The Five Facets® Philosophy on Healing—an exploration into the intrinsic human blueprint shaping how each of us experiences life.

Those five aspects? They are the universal gifts we are all born with. They are inside each of us, Neighbor. And understanding them is a key component in successfully navigating hardship.

Each person is born with the same five facets of human identity—Academic, Emotional, Physical, Social, and Spiritual. These are the collective aspects of our existence.

Even more extraordinary, though, is that each of these Facets exists in a hierarchy unique to each one of us.

That hierarchy shapes how we interpret events, process challenges, communicate with others, and decide what comes next.

Understanding that lens changes how we understand behavior, relationships, leadership, and healing itself.

Fifteen years ago, when I first began sharing this work publicly, I could see how it helped people understand conflict and grief.

What I did not yet see was the full scope of where that understanding would lead.

The questions didn’t stop after that first presentation.

If anything, they expanded.

Through years of working with clients and sharing this work with national and international audiences, I’ve seen how this framework supports individuals far beyond how to respond to some of life’s most difficult experiences.

It carries meaning in families. In communities. In leadership rooms.

Because at the center of everything is one constant: humans. And humans don’t stop being human in relationships or boardrooms.

Again and again, this model has proven to benefit our ability to live more purposefully, passionately, and productively.

When people understand the intrinsic lens through which they experience life, they begin to see themselves—and others—more clearly.

Clarity improves.
Compassion for ourselves and others expands.
Confidence and collaboration strengthen.

Misinterpretations decrease.

Communication improves.

Fifteen years later, the original question still matters.

But the exploration it sparked has revealed something larger.

What began as a search to understand healing has grown into a broader investigation into identity, relationships, leadership, and the potential each person carries within them to achieve their next-level potential, in whatever form that looks like to them.

The questions and the work continue—because there is always something new to learn and something new to share.

If this sparks your curiosity, I invite you to explore more about The Five Facets® and the intrinsic human blueprint here on the site.

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“Your word for 2026.”
“Claim your intention.”
“Choose your theme.”

These practices can be meaningful and have worked for millions. I’ve seen them inspire reflection and spark inspiration.

But here’s something many people discover by February or March:

The word and the plan that felt so powerful in January…
have slowly faded, leaving millions more feeling frustrated — even like they’re failing.

Why?

Because buzzwords are often trendy — and trends, by nature, fade.
They’re easy to choose when motivation is high… but harder to lean on when old habits, stress, or self-doubt creep back in.

So today, I want to offer you something different.
Something steadier.
Something you can return to anytime you’re struggling — not just at the start of a new year.

I call them Power Mantras.

Power Mantras are part of The Five Facets® Philosophy on Healing, and they’re designed to do something very specific:

They help you stay aligned with where you’re going
when your past programming, conditioning, or comfort zone tries to pull you back.

A Power Mantra isn’t a lofty goal or a polished affirmation.
It’s a simple, inspirational soundbite.
A personal cue.
A phrase that interrupts old patterns and helps you reset in the moment — to stay on the course you’ve set for yourself.

Think of it as a compass guideing you toward your goals.
“Not this way — remember where you’re going… and who you’re becoming.”

Here’s an example from my own life.

There was a time when I was struggling with confidence and being relentlessly hard on myself.
Any mistake — real or perceived — became ammunition for self-criticism.

During one therapy session, as I listed everything I’d “done wrong,” my therapist declared:

“That’s a mighty big hammer you’ve got out today.”

It stuck.

From that moment on, “Put down the hammer” became my Power Mantra.

Whenever I caught myself spiraling into self-blame or feeling like a failure, I’d pull out that phrase — a redirect that was an important part of rewiring old patterns and beliefs that had been keeping me stuck.

It helped me stop mid-thought, recalibrate, and choose compassion over criticism.

Simple.
Memorable.
Powerful.

Another example comes from a client.

A single mother raising two children while navigating constant hurdles and uncertainty.
For her, the mantra “Everything happens for a reason” became an anchor.

Now — that phrase doesn’t resonate with everyone. And that’s okay.

But for her, it shifted her nervous system out of despair and defeat and back into hope.
It helped her pause long enough to ask, “What might still unfold here?”

That’s the key.

Power Mantras are personal.
They work not because they’re trendy —
but because they align with how you’re wired.

They meet you at the intersection of thought, emotion, body, relationship, and meaning — touching multiple Facets at once.

And that’s why they last.

So as you look toward the New Year, here’s an invitation:

Instead of asking,
“What’s my word for the year?”

You might ask,
“What phrase could help me return to myself when I drift?”

One you can use when you’re overwhelmed…
when old patterns resurface…
when motivation fades…
when you need a reminder of who you’re becoming.

That’s where real change takes root.

✨ And if a Power Mantra comes to mind as you’re reading this, I’d love to know — what might it be?
Hit ‘reply,’ share it in the comments or simply note it for yourself.

Sending wishes for success in the new beginnings you’re creating, Neighbor.

Annah ❤️

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In this reflection on the power of “tell me more,” I explore how asking better questions can shift conflict, reveal common ground, and support healing.

If you’ve ever felt divided within yourself…
Or at odds in a personal or professional relationship…
Or watched a community struggle to find common ground…

If you’re seeking to heal conflict, grief, or adversity — within yourself or in the relationships and situations surrounding you — this is for you.

Like happiness, healing isn’t a destination — it’s a journey.

And every meaningful journey asks us to cross bridges.

Bridges between where we are and where we want to go.
Between pain and possibility.
Between tension and understanding.

A Valentine’s Day Reflection on Connection and Leadership

In this month focused on love and bringing people together, I began Valentine’s Day at a meeting of the National Speakers Association North Carolina chapter — a group with one shared focus: to make a difference in the world through our individual expertise.

Nearly 40 of us gathered, and instead of the usual networking round of “say your name and what you do,” we broke into small groups to answer prompts centered around love.

One question stumped me:

“When was the first time you fell in love with speaking?”

I honestly couldn’t think of a defining moment.

What came to mind instead was a joke I’ve told hundreds — if not thousands — of times:

“I came out of my mother wearing stilettos and asking questions, and some things never change.”

I then added, “I guess you could say I’ve always loved connecting and speaking in various forms.”

That was my answer in the group.

And it was true.

The Power of Asking a Different Question

But the next morning, one of the first waking thoughts I had was that question — and I was transported back to standing at the front of a classroom during my final debate speech in college.

The roles had been randomly assigned. I was cast on the least favored side of a hot-button issue that had much of the nation aligned in favor of the opposing viewpoint — and, as I anticipated, much of the room followed that same popular opinion.

As memory serves, when the opening vote was taken, one person abstained. Every other person supported the other side.

At first, I considered myself sunk.

How could I possibly navigate a subject so firmly weighted the other way?

Then I asked myself a different question:

What is at the heart of what both sides actually want?

Because at the center of most disagreements — beneath the arguments — are shared desires.

So that’s the direction I took my talk.

Not to convince anyone they were wrong.

But to focus on what we had in common.

By the time we voted again — as I recall — there were a couple abstentions, maybe one still on the other side, and everyone else voted for my approach.

A landslide.

Not just for me.

But for what turned out to serve the collective, too.

At the time, our debate centered around healthcare models. Today, there are multiple variations of HMOs meeting the diverse needs of our nation — evolving systems shaped by the very tensions we were exploring in that classroom.

The Common Thread: Seeking Shared Ground

Here’s the thread — and it likely connects to something you’re navigating right now.

When we seek what’s shared rather than what separates, we create the conditions for something better to emerge.

Between tension and understanding.
Between conflict and clarity.
Between where you are and where you want to be.
Between your inner world and your outer life.

The Power of Asking “Tell Me More”

In one of my favorite podcast conversations, Simon Sinek described how continuing to say “tell me more” while speaking with someone who holds different views eventually reveals common ground.

From that awareness, a shift happens where a deeper understanding unfolds between the two moving forward.

And as I understood him, that becomes the foundation for a more productive conversation.

The common thread in everything we’ve mentioned here — the classroom debate, Simon’s conversation, and whatever you’re navigating right now — is this:

When we seek what’s shared rather than what separates, we create the conditions for something better to emerge.

Between tension and understanding.
Between conflict and clarity.
Between where you are and where you want to be.

And when we build bridges intentionally — ones that suit our current situation or need — it better serves every area of our lives.

Building Bridges Within Ourselves and the Collective

That is the heart of my life’s work.

The Five Facets® Philosophy on Healing helps us understand the core structure we all enter this world with — our academic, emotional, physical, social, and spiritual facets — and how each person’s intrinsic blueprint uniquely shapes how we think, feel, relate, act, and seek meaning.

Understanding our own blueprint helps us heal ourselves.
Recognizing that these same five facets live within every person lays a foundation for seeing the common ground within the collective.

A Question to Carry Forward

Where in your life are you being invited to build a bridge?

When you build bridges intentionally — ones that suit your current situation or need — it better serves every area of your life.

If this sparks your curiosity, I’d love to explore it with you in a complimentary Heal It Your Way™ Discovery Call.

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Last week, I woke up with gratitude on my mind—thankful for the opportunities I’ve had here in Scotland to share my healing messages and to connect with so many like-minded seekers on their own journeys to living their best lives.

But almost immediately, those thoughts were hijacked by old memories—flashbacks of trauma and ruminations about the parts of my marriage and divorce that were so unfair. I did what I usually do: reminded myself that I don’t need to focus on the past, and I went about getting ready for my day.

Yet later, on my morning walk, those memories came flooding back again—the countless lies, the conversations, the years of outside influence that weren’t supportive at all. I caught myself repeating, “It doesn’t matter.” But then I realized… maybe it does. Because if it keeps resurfacing, it’s asking for attention. As one therapist once explained to me, these are “involuntary flashbacks.”

That’s when I leaned into a practice I’ve started using recently. In my mind, I imagine a wide, sunlit meadow. In the center is a large family-style table where I invite my emotions to come and be heard. When I asked which emotion was present that day, the word rose up immediately: indignation. That sense of frustration, anger, and hurt when something feels profoundly unjust.

And here it was again—that recurring theme that often triggers me: unfairness.

But instead of shaming myself for “going back there,” I remembered a lesson that came to me many years ago through my connection to The Universe—what you may call God, Source, or your Higher Self.

That lesson is this:

When we revisit a theme in our lives, it doesn’t mean we failed to resolve it before. It means we are adding depth and dimension to our learning.

This is the heart of healing—it isn’t linear. It spirals. It deepens. Each return invites us to integrate another layer of wisdom across our entire being…the academic, emotional, physical, social, and spiritual aspects of our mortal existence.

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My first two children were delivered by cesarean section. Thanks to my high-risk specialist, my next two were vaginal deliveries.

That third birth came with its fair share of challenges — one being hemorrhoids so bad I couldn’t sit for weeks without one of those donut pillows.

And here’s the kicker… those little annoyances never left.

After years of putting up with them, I finally decided to ask my doctor about removal. She referred me to a proctologist.

When I arrived for my appointment, the receptionist asked for my insurance card. As I handed it over, I realized I’d given her my dental card.

“Oh, wait!” I said. “Wrong card — we’re looking at a different part of my body than my teeth.”

A few seconds later, she looked up, chuckled, and said, “I just got that.”

Since all the paperwork had been filled out in advance, the doctor knew why I was there — but in true doc fashion, he came in, sat down, and said, “So, tell me what’s going on.”

With a half-grin, I replied, “Well… when I delivered my daughter, I ended up with massive hemorrhoids that have been with me for decades years. I finally decided to get over my embarrassment and see if something can be done about them.”

He smiled, and gave a slight nod of his head. I’m pretty sure there was a silent snicker in there.

And honestly — is there any delicate way to talk about that?

Humor may not cure everything, but when we’re willing to lean into it — even in life’s messiest moments — it can help us heal.

Your turn:

When was the last time you found yourself laughing in the middle of something completely uncomfortable, messy, or hard?

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