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	<title>The Gateway Church</title>
	
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		<title>Search the web from The Gateway</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 23 Jul 2010 20:42:47 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Search The Web And Raise Funds From Our Homepage! We’ve added a great new facility to our website so that you can help us raise funds whenever you visit our site. You’ll now find a brand new easysearch search box on our homepage.  It works just like our easysearch page &#8211; http://thegatewaychurch.easysearch.org.uk &#8211; so [...] <span class="post_excerpt_readmore"><a href="http://www.thegatewaychurch.info/search-the-web-from-the-gateway" title="Read more">Read more &#187;</a></span><hr /><a href="http://ashford.turtleinteractive.com/download">Download Ashford for WordPress</a><hr />]]></description>
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<p>We’ve added a great new facility to our website so that you can help us raise funds whenever you visit our site.</p>
<p>You’ll now find a brand new easysearch search box on our homepage.  It works just like our easysearch page &#8211; http://thegatewaychurch.easysearch.org.uk &#8211; so when you use it to search the Web, you&#8217;ll raise funds for us!</p>
<p>What’s more, because easysearch uses innovative search technology to combine the strengths of several major search providers together &#8211; Yahoo! Ask.com, Bing and more &#8211; it brings you the best, most accurate search results on the Web, in one ‘easy’ search. </p>
<p>So, if you want to find top quality search results AND raise funds for us, visit our easysearch page at http://thegatewaychurch.easysearch.org.uk or use the easysearch box on our homepage.</p>
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		<title>Three hills to climb!</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 11 Jul 2010 12:15:47 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[ A recent prophecy talked of us reaching a plateau, where we were happy, but with 3 hills of higher places in God to climb. God would give us joy for the journey and there would be times where I would turn back and give joy filled vision to keep us going! Exciting stuff! As [...] <span class="post_excerpt_readmore"><a href="http://www.thegatewaychurch.info/three-hills-to-climb" title="Read more">Read more &#187;</a></span><hr /><a href="http://ashford.turtleinteractive.com/download">Download Ashford for WordPress</a><hr />]]></description>
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<p>A recent prophecy talked of us reaching a plateau, where we were happy, but with 3 hills of higher places in God to climb. God would give us joy for the journey and there would be times where I would turn back and give joy filled vision to keep us going! Exciting stuff!</p>
<p>As I have pondered the prophecy, I believe that the three hills are small group life, leadership development and evangelistic growth.</p>
<p><strong>Small Group Life</strong><br />
We want our groups to be based around the Acts 2: 42-47. In those amazing verses we can find four things the early church were devoted to&#8230;</p>
<ul>
<li>Apostles Teaching &#8211; we want to make sure we are applying what is taught on Sundays so that we are not just hearers of the Word, but doers.</li>
<li>Fellowship &#8211; our small groups are where you know and are known, where genuine friendship build one another up.</li>
<li>Breaking of bread &#8211; where we celebrate communion most often and enjoy worship together.
<li>Prayer &#8211; where we pray for one another regularly.</li>
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<p>There was also signs and wonders being done, believers caring for one another practically and financially and people getting saved daily.<br />
One of the hills of higher place sin God is our small groups embodying Acts 2 church life!</p>
<p>The second hill is <strong>Leadership Development</strong>. Bill Hybels wrote that the Church is the hope of the whole world and it stands or falls on its leaders. In this next season of establishing The Gateway Church we want to make leadership development a priority.<br />
We have a leadership team of Andy Moyle, David Hutton and Andy King.<br />
We are going to start up &#8220;Impact&#8221;  &#8211; a monthly gathering of the next tier of leaders and potential leaders who lead small groups and other areas of Church life to develop them in their leadership. It will be a mix of vision, leadership development and prophetic ministry- we want to grow some big leaders to grow a big Church!</p>
<p>The third hill is <strong> Evangelistic Momentum</strong>. When we moved to Kings Lynn to plant a church it was to reach lost people and see them added to a vibrant New Testament Church, full of the grace of God, with relevant Biblical teaching and the power of the Spirit changing lives. We want to see momentum grow evangelistically. The disciples worked in <em>partnerships</em> to reach out with the love of God. We&#8217;d like to see people working in partnership to reach out to friends and family.<br />
For that we have three goals<br />
i) Form partnerships to deepen friendships with those that are not-yet Christians, so that not-yet Christians become part of our wider community<br />
ii) Put on some great events where we get Christians and non-Christians together and trust the Holy Spirit to build some great connections and do His thing!<br />
iii) Build towards an Easter Alpha Course with 20 guests.</p>
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		<title>Gdansk Church Plant</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 19 May 2010 22:41:20 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[We recently sent £600 to Kev and Em Reilly who are planting a church in Gdansk, Poland. Here&#8217;s a reprint of their story so far, to stir your prayers&#8230;  The Story so FarIn August 2008, Kev and Emma Reilly and their four daughters moved to Gdansk, Poland in order to plant a church under [...] <span class="post_excerpt_readmore"><a href="http://www.thegatewaychurch.info/gdansk-church-plant" title="Read more">Read more &#187;</a></span><hr /><a href="http://ashford.turtleinteractive.com/download">Download Ashford for WordPress</a><hr />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>We recently sent £600 to Kev and Em Reilly who are planting a church in Gdansk, Poland. Here&#8217;s a reprint of their story so far, to stir your prayers&#8230;</p>
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The Story so FarIn August 2008, Kev and Emma Reilly and their four daughters moved to Gdansk, Poland in order to plant a church under the apostolic oversight of Mike Betts and his team. With no language, no contacts and not much of anything else, <a href="http://www.gracechurchgdansk.org/">Grace Church</a> (them and their good friend Tom who spent a year with them) began to pray and worship, and learn how on earth to do family, school, work and church in Poland. </p>
<p><a href="http://www.thegatewaychurch.info/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/312034.jpg"><img class="alignnone size-medium wp-image-278" title="Gdansk Collage" src="http://www.thegatewaychurch.info/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/312034-300x300.jpg" alt="Gdansk Collage" width="300" height="300" /></a><br />
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<p>Through a series of divine appointments, God began to connect us with students and teachers in the local university. Creative ideas and approaches to outreach began to flow and the Holy Spirit led us to start an English writing group, regularly gathering people into our home on a Sunday night. We began to fill our home at every opportunity – 30 friends and neighbours for Christmas parties, 20 or so for birthdays, BBQ’s and other gatherings. Any and every opportunity was taken to connect broadly and meaningfully with people.</p>
<div> In May 2009, a young Russian student turned up to Kev’s work for a teaching practice. She’d been praying for a church that she could be a part of and we happened to be starting one! She became our first church member. Things began to gather momentum. A month later, an English guy moved to Gdansk for work and found us on the website. Our Polish neighbour began to ask significant questions about Jesus and the kind of church we were starting. And so it continued&#8230;a Swedish girl we met at the university started to come. Guys from Nigeria, Lesotho and Ghana soon followed. A Polish girl started to come following a divine appointment on a plane and then a Montenegrin girl. It’s been twenty months since we first landed here and at the point of writing we have just had our highest attendance at our weekly church meeting – 13 adults! </div>
<div>In July 2009, Kev visited Kaliningrad – a small enclave of Russia, 120 km up the road &#8211; and made meaningful connections with a church and a charity ministering to Russian orphans there. We’re going back again this July, but this time with a team of nine – over half of whom are from Grace Church Gdansk &#8211; to serve in an orphanage.</div>
<div>We have twenty or so with us in June for NewEurope Weekend and, very excitingly, we have a church birthday weekend this May when we will have our first baptisms. We’ll have 20 or so staying with us for the weekend in a house with its own lake, and there will be friends and family joining us for baptisms and a BBQ on the Saturday.</div>
<div>Things go up and down here, people come and go and as a church, we’ve got more holes than a Polish road! However, the simple truth is this: Jesus calls and uses ordinary people to join Him in building His church and so we have stories like these to tell.</div>
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		<title>Help for Heroes</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 26 Apr 2010 22:05:52 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>andymoyle</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[We are hosting a Chinese Buffet and Charity Auction for help for heroes on Fri 14th May at Springwood School, Queenway, Kings Lynn at 7.30pm. Tickets are £7.50 for adults, £3.75 for under 12s. Bring a bottle! We&#8217;ll have a great fun evening &#8211; so please bring friends, family and neighbours. If you have something [...] <span class="post_excerpt_readmore"><a href="http://www.thegatewaychurch.info/help-for-heroes" title="Read more">Read more &#187;</a></span><hr /><a href="http://ashford.turtleinteractive.com/download">Download Ashford for WordPress</a><hr />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>We are hosting a Chinese Buffet and Charity Auction for help for heroes on Fri 14th May at Springwood School, Queenway, Kings Lynn at 7.30pm. Tickets are £7.50 for adults, £3.75 for under 12s. Bring a bottle! We&#8217;ll have a great fun evening &#8211; so please bring friends, family and neighbours. If you have something that can be auctioned or know someone who may be able to donate something, please get in touch asap!<br />
There&#8217;s loads of great things for auction &#8211; cinema tickets, a children&#8217;s party, a gas boiler service, cakes, 3 course meal&#8230; and many more! There&#8217;s no pressure to buy anything and starting prices will be low.</p>
<p>Please buy tickets in advance <a href="https://www.thegatewaychurch.info/chinese-buffet/">here</a>, on Sunday or give us a ring on 07905 913291.</p>
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		<title>Men’s Breakfast</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 31 Mar 2010 23:05:36 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[ We love a good fry up with the lads. Especially when we get to hear about &#8220;men behaving godly&#8221;! Our first men&#8217;s breakfast with Maurice Nightingale is on Sat 8th May, 8.30am at The Globe Hotel on the Tuesday Market Place. Spaces are limited, so get in quick &#8211; £7.50 book online or with [...] <span class="post_excerpt_readmore"><a href="http://www.thegatewaychurch.info/mens-breakfast" title="Read more">Read more &#187;</a></span><hr /><a href="http://ashford.turtleinteractive.com/download">Download Ashford for WordPress</a><hr />]]></description>
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<p>We love a good fry up with the lads. Especially when we get to hear about &#8220;men behaving godly&#8221;!</p>
<p>Our first men&#8217;s breakfast with Maurice Nightingale is on Sat 8th May, 8.30am at The Globe Hotel on the Tuesday Market Place.</p>
<p>Spaces are limited, so get in quick &#8211; £7.50 book online or with Andy one Sunday soon!</p>
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		<title>Zeph 3:17</title>
		<link>http://www.thegatewaychurch.info/zeph-317</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 21 Mar 2010 22:40:41 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>andymoyle</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[ &#8220;The Lord your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with singing&#8221; Zeph 3:17 What a great God! He sends His presence, He changes lives, He loves His people and rejoices [...] <span class="post_excerpt_readmore"><a href="http://www.thegatewaychurch.info/zeph-317" title="Read more">Read more &#187;</a></span><hr /><a href="http://ashford.turtleinteractive.com/download">Download Ashford for WordPress</a><hr />]]></description>
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&#8220;The Lord your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with singing&#8221; Zeph 3:17</p>
<p>What a great God! He sends His presence, He changes lives, He loves His people and rejoices over them. His love is breathtakingly amazing and He sings over us.</p>
<p>Bring it on!</p>
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		<title>Awash with the presence of God</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 11 Mar 2010 11:55:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>andymoyle</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I have thoroughly enjoyed our Sunday gathering these last few weeks. We have had some amazing times of worship together &#8211; lost in awe and wonder of our great God and lots of contributions. We are beginning to live in the good of 1 Cor 14. &#8220;What then shall we say, brothers? When you come [...] <span class="post_excerpt_readmore"><a href="http://www.thegatewaychurch.info/awash-with-the-presence-of-god" title="Read more">Read more &#187;</a></span><hr /><a href="http://ashford.turtleinteractive.com/download">Download Ashford for WordPress</a><hr />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I have thoroughly enjoyed our Sunday gathering these last few weeks. We have had some amazing times of worship together &#8211; lost in awe and wonder of our great God and lots of contributions. We are beginning to live in the good of 1 Cor 14.</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;What then shall we say, brothers? When you come together, everyone has a hymn, or a word of instruction, a revelation, a tongue or an interpretation. All of these must be done for the strengthening of the church.( NIV v26)&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p>I have had a few questions about whether one can say &#8220;We will sing that song again and then I am going to bring a tongue, ask God for the interpretation&#8221; &#8211; surely a tongue is more a bubbling up? Well yes it often is, but 1 Cor 14 also goes on to say<br />
<blockquote>&#8220;The spirits of prophets are subject to the control of prophets&#8221; (NIV v32)</p></blockquote>
<p> &#8211; that means you can hold onto a prophecy or tongue and choose to bring it at a more appropriate time or even next week, if it doesn&#8217;t fit right now. It also means that you can choose to bring it now!</p>
<p>When David warned that he was about to bring a tongue and stirred us to seek God for the interpretation, it meant that some of you got that very gift for the first time. Often people need encouraging the first few times and as confidence grows they can get on with it. The same happens with bringing a Scripture &#8211; last Sunday there were a few with open Bibles at passages that the Lord was stirring in hearts &#8211; a little encouragement meant we were all edified.</p>
<p>Bring it on!<br />
<blockquote>&#8220;Pursue love and earnestly desire the spiritual gifts, especially that you may prophecy. (ESV v1)&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p> Let&#8217;s press into worshipping our great God and building one another up with spiritual gifts! Please be there on Sunday and be prepared to &#8220;bring a&#8230;&#8221;!</p>
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		<title>Healthy Confrontation</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 09 Mar 2010 14:58:17 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>andymoyle</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[“What’s your problem *%#@$?” – a profound question. I’ve thought about it frequently. On this particular occasion, I had been trying to parallel park. The driver behind pulled up, wound his window down and asked me that question, before driving off very fast. In many ways, he handled conflict well , getting 6 out of [...] <span class="post_excerpt_readmore"><a href="http://www.thegatewaychurch.info/healthy-confrontation" title="Read more">Read more &#187;</a></span><hr /><a href="http://ashford.turtleinteractive.com/download">Download Ashford for WordPress</a><hr />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>“What’s your problem *%#@$?” – a profound question. I’ve thought about it frequently. On this particular occasion, I had been trying to parallel park. The driver behind pulled up, wound his window down and asked me that question, before driving off very fast.</p>
<p>In many ways, he handled conflict well , getting 6 out of 7 steps right – He acknowledged it with clarity and passion. He took initiative quickly. He didn’t talk behind my back to other motorists. He spoke to no one but me. His summary was direct – there was no confusion of what he thought or felt. But he missed the last important step.</p>
<p>Jesus said “If your brother or sister sins against you, go and show them their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over.”</p>
<p>Firstly “If…”. To be alive means occasional conflict which needs dealing with rather than running away from. Secondly Jesus says “you”. Whether the problem is your fault or the other person, as soon as you become aware of it, Jesus expects YOU to take responsibility for resolving it.</p>
<p>Thirdly “go” – approach, don’t avoid them. Avoiding conflict destroys friendships, marriages and families. Go straight away – although if you are getting madder and madder, don’t be like Jim Carrey –and get dumb and dumber. Cool off and then go! Ask yourself “Why am I angry?” and “what do I want?”</p>
<p>Fourthly no third parties, no phone a friend, no gossip. Go directly to the person involved and fifthly use sensitivity. Jesus said “between the two of you” – don’t embarrass them in public. Listen and talk to them the way you would like them to talk to you. Six is “show them” – be direct. Tell them what is wrong, how it made you feel and what you would like to see changed for the better of both of you.</p>
<p>Unfortunately, the driver that confronted me missed this last step – aim at reconciliation. “If he listens to you, you have won him over”. Aim to restore the relationship – rarely simple and never quick, but always worth it.</p>
<p>I wrote that article for our local newspaper’s thought for the week. It is basically a condense of a chapter from John Ortberg’s excellent “<a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/0310250846?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=keepchickens-21&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1634&amp;creative=19450&amp;creativeASIN=0310250846">Everybody’s normal until you get to know them</a>“</p>
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