The Gay Girls Guide

The Gay Girls Guide To Being Gay and Christian

info@gaygirlsguide.co.uk (The Gay Girls Guide) — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 10:28:37 PDT

Christainity/Catholicism and Homosexuality – Mutually exclusive or a misinterpretation of the bible?

In Britain alone, there are at least as many homosexuals as there are people attending mass on Sundays, but the appalling truth is that many Catholics are forced to lapse from their religion due to the Church’s total rejection of their sexuality. While homosexuality is not a matter of personal choice, and religion is, the Catholic Church’s view that homosexuality is “an objective disorder” with a “tendency ordered toward an intrinsic moral evil” often leads to a choice between God and self.

Mainly stemming from Leviticus 18:22, which states, “Thou shalt not lie with mankind as with womankind. It is abomination.” This passage is the most significant verse relating to homosexuality which has been taken out of context throughout the centuries and used as a tool to promote homophobia. How can one be a practising Catholic and homosexual? Does one have to give in order for the other to survive? Or can both be of equal importance in a person’s life?

“I have been a practising Catholic all my life,” commented Claire. “I go to Mass every Sunday, and attend confession regularly, but my homosexuality is between God and myself. I believe that the Church’s stance is wrong, a misinterpretation of the Bible which is outdated. But I know that my priest wouldn’t be so understanding, so I choose to confess that part of my life directly to God, where I know He recognises the diversity of His creations. It’s hard to be Catholic and gay or lesbian, but the strength of sexuality and religion cannot cancel each other out. To give up one would be to give up half of myself, and I know God understands that this is the way He made me. The whole guilt thing which surrounds sex in the Catholic Church affects me just as much as it does any other practising Catholic, but I only enter into sexual relations once I am in a serious and committed relationship. With no church willing to marry me and my partner, this is the best I can do.”

The story of Sodom and Gomorrah is also often quoted but it is not a condemnation of homosexual relationships as we would understand them today. It is, in truth, a condemnation of inhospitality. Ezekiel 16:49-50, Jeremiah 23:14, Wisdom 19:14, Ecclesiastes 16:8 and Luke 10:10-12 all refer back to the sin of Sodom being inhospitality, pride and greed. Homosexuality is not mentioned.

Jesus himself taught about the importance of love and commitment in relationships, never mentioning homosexuality - “What matters is purity of heart, justice, honesty, compassion and peace-making.” Just as Jesus’ love for and ministry to outcasts and foreigners broke down barriers in His time, so lesbians and gays are challenging today’s churches to remove their culture-bound barriers and prejudices.

The majority of references throughout the bible which have been quoted as God’s detestation of homosexuals are, in fact, a warning to mankind not to idolise anyone or anything other than God. As mankind was made in God’s own image, “Thou shalt not lie with mankind as with womankind” was more a warning not to violate God’s image than anything else. “If we abandon ourselves to godless lust and fail to respect the image of God in ourselves and others, we choose self-destruction. If we worship and serve our creator instead of the creature, and experience life abundant, we can relate with each other as whole human beings – sexually, emotionally and spiritually.” (Rev. Dan Geslin)

Acceptance of yourself is a necessary part of being a Catholic. Understand that an institution such as a church can be mistaken and never allow anyone to force his or her beliefs onto you. If you can do this, then make your peace with God, for He is the only one you should ever have to answer to.

Don't let homophobia like this stand

info@gaygirlsguide.co.uk (The Gay Girls Guide) — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 13:08:00 PDT

Found this on a website and it seems, unfortunately, that this type of extreme view is on the increase:

"While I do believe it is child abuse in the extreme for Lesbians and Homosexuals to be allowed to Foster or Adopt a child, this case involves a more narrow issue; that is, can Gays and Lesbians enter into private contracts to engage in activity that is contrary to existing law?

Why is that important to me? I believe that homosexuals cannot meet the minimum requirements for marriage and therefore are ineligible, as couples, to legally establish themselves as parents for children not of their womb or seed. Thus, if a Lesbian has a child and marries or cohabits with another woman, only the woman that bore the child should be allowed under law to have any parental rights over that child. If a gay man sires a child, his male partner should never have any lawful rights as a parent for that child."

We need to stand up and be heard, challenge views like these before they are allowed to infect a new generation. For evil to succeed, all that is required is that good people do nothing folks. Make your voice heard.

Are You in an Abusive Relationship?

info@gaygirlsguide.co.uk (The Gay Girls Guide) — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 00:01:13 PDT

Are You in an Abusive Relationship?

Abusive relationships are something we all know about. We hear about them on the news, we watch with disgust as one unfolds before us during our favourite soap, we even discuss them at the local bar, but they almost always involve physical violence of some degree. The startling fact is that more abusive relationships involve forms of aggression other than physical.

Threats, isolation, monopolising your perceptions, degradation and enforcing trivial demands all constitute abuse. If you take a closer look at your relationship, at what has really been making you feel so unhappy for so long, you may come to realise that it is far from healthy. Abusers wield power like an axe, bringing it down on their partners if that supremacy is threatened in any way. Breaking a person’s spirit makes them more compliant. Compliancy equals total control. Total control is abuse.

Sometimes abusive relationships are easy to identify; other times the abuse may take subtle forms. Nikki, 26, spent five years with her partner Linda. “She never hit me,” commented Nikki, “but she didn’t have to. I had to report on everything I did, everyone I spoke to, everywhere I went. If I was five minutes late from the shops I had to explain in detail what had kept me, and even then I was never sure if she believed me. She stopped me seeing all of my gay friends over time, often inventing reasons why they were no good for me to be around. She even made my family so uncomfortable when they visited by making a scene or deafening us with her silence that they eventually stopped calling round.

“I loved her, I thought she wanted me to be happy. I thought when she was buying me things, it was to show me how much she cared, but it wasn’t. She was dictating what I wore, what I listened to, what I had in the house. She controlled the money, I had to ask if I wanted something. She even pushed me to leave my job, claiming she was earning enough for the both of us and we could spend more time together. It got to the point where we were arguing so much when I was leaving to go to work that I had was late almost every day. Added to that were the phone calls every hour, telling me how much she missed me. She was actually checking up to see where I was. I got fired. She got her way. When things were good, they were fantastic. But when they were bad, I felt worthless and useless. Who was going to want me. That’s why I stayed so long. She really made me believe that she loved me, and that no one else would”

In general, abusive relationships have a serious power imbalance, with the abuser controlling or attempting to control most aspects of life. Healthy relationships share responsibility and decision-making tasks and reflect respect for all the people in the relationship, including children.

If the abuser is unwilling to own up to their behaviour and seek help the wise course of action is to remove yourself totally from the situation. This is painful, but is generally safer and ultimately better for both parties than allowing the cycle of abuse to continue. Be prepared for the abuse to increase after you leave - stepping out of the cycle enrages the abuser, as it shatters their illusion of control. Detachment with love is difficult, but it is the best solution if your partner is unwilling seek help.

In a healthy relationship you should never feel pressure to do anything you don’t want to. You should never be embarrassed by your partner’s behaviour or silenced by a mere glance. There should be balance, both parties having their say, and both people being respected in their opinions. If this is lacking, then the relationship is dangerous. Leaving is the hardest thing you can do; but it is also the most sensible.

The complete top 20 ranking of lesbian heroines - seriously?

info@gaygirlsguide.co.uk (The Gay Girls Guide) — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 11:10:03 PDT

According to poll results (it didn't say who conducted the poll), which asked 2,600 lesbians of all ages, Angelina Jolie is the number one lesbian heroine.

Seriously? OK, I know she's hot, but she lives with a man, and, despite her bisexual tendencies, she is definitely on the straight side of the spectrum. I know she doesn't have to be a lesbian to be a lesbian heroine, but it would be nice.

This was the list (comments are mine):
The complete top 20 ranking of lesbian heroines is as follows:

1. Angelina Jolie

2. Madonna

(Only gay as a publicity stunt which should actually push her down the list, not up it)

3. Pink

4. Martina Navratilova

Our first out lesbian in the list, one of the greatest achievers of the modern age. I think she should top this list.

5. Ellen DeGeneres

Heroine does seem a bit strong don't you think?

6. Kylie Minogue

As much as I love Kylie, has this descended into a gay man's list?

7. Lady Gaga

8. Annie Lennox

Has repeatedly stated that she is offended that people keep insisting she is a lesbian. How does that make her a heroine?

9. Beyoncé

Come on

10. Germaine Greer

11. Liza Minnelli

To gay men maybe

12. Gwen Stefani

13. Cher

The gay man thing again, she didn't exactly handle her daughter's coming out and then subsequent decision to have gender reassignment surgery well, in fact, if rumours are correct, she freaked out. A lot.

14. Janet Jackson

WTF

15. Tori Amos

16. Britney Spears
Are you serious? A Madonna-wannabe in her 'lesbian' actions.

17. Cyndi Lauper

18. Scarlet Johansson

Please people, get some perspective

19. Sarah Jessica Parker

Jesus, what people did you poll?

20. Dolly Parton

Don't you think it's strange that a top 20 Lesbian Heroine list contains only 2 out lesbians, and at least 2 homophobes? Is this a sad reflection of the number of gay women out there for others to look to for inspiration? What about the Poet Laureate, the first female and gay? Surely there's a better Top 20 out there...

Who's missing? Let me know your thoughts.

Play Fantasy Football with the Gay Girls Guide

info@gaygirlsguide.co.uk (The Gay Girls Guide) — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 09:36:12 PDT

Time to get your football heads on and start picking your Fantasy Football team. Why play alone, go to http://www.premierleague.com, sign up if you're new or log in with your details from last season, go to the 'league' section and use this code:

15298-8219

to join the Gay Girls Guide League.

Let the battle commence...

She Said What Episode 8 - Lesbian Chat Show

info@gaygirlsguide.co.uk (The Gay Girls Guide) — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 05:30:16 PDT

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The Gay Girls Guide Presents Breathe

info@gaygirlsguide.co.uk (The Gay Girls Guide) — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 14:02:52 PDT

Just feeling your skin brush against mine was all that started it. Surely you felt too, the electricity that pulsed from me to you, surging through me the first time we touched. You had to have felt it, it had come from you.

I wanted so much to reach out to you, just to feel my fingertips softly touch your face but something in me stopped. Too soon. Or not soon enough. The hesitation was there even though it was the only thing in the world that I wanted to do.

And breathe.

You turned your face away from mine, no idea what you were looking at or if your eyes were even open. All I could see was you. I stepped closer, into you where you could feel the heat of my body behind you. You didn't move and that was all I needed. Gently I moved your hair away from your neck, my fingers brushing your skin again but this time I knew you felt it. As my arm moved around your waist you lean back in to me, so close that my lips found themselves on your neck, barely touching. I could hear your breathing deepen, mine did too, and while I lost myself in that you turned to face me. Your eyes looked into mine, seeing right through to my soul, everything I had wide open for you to see. I was certain you could see all that I ever was or could be.. I felt so naked. It felt so right.

Then your lips were on mine, lightly, simply exchanging breaths until the deepest one pulled you onto me. That kiss, that first kiss was more than it could ever have been in my mind. Every inch of my body awoke and danced.

I wanted to savour every moment, every inch but you pulled me into you and I could not restrain. A moan from deep within you and I knew that you were mine.

Passion instead of lust, longing instead of want. Was that only me?

Still your lips were on mine, our tongues teasing each other, promises of what was to come.

How we found ourselves by the bed I have no idea, where our clothes had gone I didn't care. Your skin on mine was all I knew, all I wanted to know.

You lay on the bed, and whatever connected us pulled me on top of you. It was almost more than I could bare, feeling your nakedness with mine, the softness of your body beneath me.

Still kissing you, I began to trace my hand along your side, down to your thigh and as I did you pulled your leg up, opening for my body to slip between you. I gently pushed your legs apart and moved myself down, my tongue leaving yours, running over your breasts, your nipple, your stomach. Down to where your wetness waited.

A rush of nervousness came over me. For so long I had dreamed about what you would feel like, how you would taste, the thought alone of feeling your warmth on my face had made me wet more times than I could remember.

Then tip of my tongue lightly touched your clit and the gasp from you rushed throughout my body. Teasing you was as hard for me as it was for you to bare. I wanted to feel your clit in my mouth, hear you as I gently sucked, still teasing it with my tongue. But I restrained, I had waited this long a little longer would only serve to make it that much sweeter. So I lightly ran my tongue from your clit, down to where you were open and wet and let it explore, pushing deeper into you, feeling your hips rise to meet each stroke. I needed to be inside you.

My finger traced where my tongue had just been, only entering you as deeply as my tongue had done, while my tongue retraced its path back to where you needed it to be. Slowly, I moved into you, each caress of my finger matched by my tongue. One finger, then two, now three, you opened to take as much of me as you could, losing yourself in the twisting and turning of my fingers inside you. I could feel you tighten around me as your clit throbbed in my mouth, your breathing faster still, deeper, moans from somewhere inside you I'd never touched before.

I could feel your hands on the back of my head, pulling at my hair, your hips raised even more still as you pulled me into you as far as I could go. You were close, I could feel it. I could hear it in your voice, lost to the sounds coming through you but from where you did not know. Nor did you care.

"Don't stop" you whispered "Please." I was never going to stop. Not now, not after all this time, waiting to be this way with you, waiting for you to feel you part of me as i dived deeply into you. And then you were coming, your whole body contracting around me, thrusting, gasping, pulsing, throbbing, your rhythm mine, my pleasure yours.

And breathe.

Slowly.

Deeply.

Simply breathe.

You said 'Let me touch you' but there was no need. My cunt ached to feel you inside it. It had to be now, and then it was. Your fingers moved into me slowly, manipulating me until I welcomed you inside, pulling you deeper. Deeper. Faster. More.

Still it was not enough. I wanted all of you inside of me, but more than that I needed all of me in you. Our bodies one. Your mouth devoured mine, your hunger palpable, my desire consuming every part of me.

Then your mouth was on my neck, my breast, my nipple in your mouth, your tongue twisting it around the way your fingers moved inside me.

Down you kissed, each time your lips reconnected with my skin electricity jolted throughout me.

Don't stop…

And you didn't.

The touch of your tongue between my legs exploded throughout my body, no longer did I feel in control of myself, completely at your mercy.

Slowly, you dived into me, exploring my depths with your tongue and your fingers. My excitement flowed as you teased and tormented me to the edge of ecstasy. Coiling my mind around your tongue I could feel nothing else in the world apart from you between my legs. You were in me and on me, through me and around me, everything was you. Deeper. Deeper. Breaths drawn from my very soul resonated from my body as you pushed and then pulled me over the edge.

And breathe.

Breathe. Something so simple to do, so hard to catch.

Breathe.

You kissed your way back up my body till you were on my lips, devouring me, your hunger for more clear. Gently I ran my nails along your sides until my hands cupped your face. Such softness underneath my fingertips, such sweetness to touch.

I could wait no more, I had to be inside you again, more this time. I reached my hand between your legs to find you wetter still than when I had left you.

With ease I slid into you, harder this time, deeper, more, intensity rising with your hips. You straddled me and thrusted onto my hand, yet still our lips never parted. Even through your gasps, I kept mine on yours, inside and on you, as much as I could.

And then they were off me, biting my neck, my shoulder, searching for something to get a hold of. More inside you now, I felt like you would take all of me into you. With every stroke you bit me harder. With every bite in you more.

Your hips dictated the rhythm, hard and fast. Inside you I twisted my hand, back and forth, hitting that spot, that spot, waiting for the moment I could whisper to you 'let go'.

And then it came, I felt it start to reverberate from your very core. You held it back, afraid of its strength, unsure of its vastness.

I whispered to "Let go," but still you held on, grinding, pulsing, thrusting, wanting. With the deepest stroke, I whispered again "Let go". This time you could do nothing else. So deep where your moans that they were almost silent, heard only with my body, vibrating through my skin. As you released, your nails dug into my back, holding on to let go. It rose from your soul, bursting forth in an explosion of rapture, the cry from your mouth echoed by your wetness below.

Your head fell on to my shoulder, your body spent. Gently I withdrew from within you and as I lay you on the bed what little strength you had pulled me onto you. Tightly you held me, your face buried in my chest. I had to look into your eyes, to see your soul as you had seen mine but I did not want you to move. You must have heard my thoughts, because as I grasped you tighter you pulled back. Your eyes looked up into mine and you placed a soft kiss on my lips before putting your head back on my chest.

"Thank you" was all that was heard through the silence in the room.

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info@gaygirlsguide.co.uk (The Gay Girls Guide) — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 11:01:29 PDT

I hadn't realised that my blog required everyone to sign up before they could comment...that's now fixed...

The King Is Dead - Michael Jackson Rocks The World One More Time

info@gaygirlsguide.co.uk (The Gay Girls Guide) — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 01:33:53 PDT

It's pretty hard to not want to blog today, yesterday really was one of those 'where were you' moments. It was a night when it was OK to phone and text people in the middle of the night, because it was one of those things that everyone would want to know.

I normally start work at 5am so would usually be in bed by the time the news broke here in the UK (on Twitter which beat the main news sites by some 5/10 minutes), but as I'm off today I'd stayed up beyond my bedtime. And then I couldn't switch of the TV, total shock TV, something that happens only a handful of times in a lifetime. The world was in collective shock. Diana and 9/11 are the only other comparisons I have in my lifetime.

As much as any death is a sad event, I couldn't help but think of the thousands who dies each day, many of whom suffer extremely violent deaths, none of which could even come close to generating the frenzy which accompanied the news that the King of Pop was dead. A sad indictment of our society? A measure of the impact of one man? Probably a bit of both. And I'm just as responsible, on here blogging about Jacko, not Darfur?iran/Afghanistan/Irag/Insert as necessary.

So many times, on Sky News, on BBC, online, the phrase 'you could separate the man from the music' was used, but can you? Didn't the man make the music? If it wasn't for the man would there have been such hype over his music? Do I just not get it?

And how did Uri Geller get on so many TV stations with the same crap? He refused to answer when he last spoke/saw Jackson, preferring to talk more about himself. Bandwagon anyone?

The news people are harping on about how he will be missed, but will he be missed anymore than if he had continued to life his hermetic life? He hadn't produced anything meaningful in a musical sense since 1995 and hardly stepped out in public since that last round of molestation charges in 2005. Am I being too harsh? Yes it's shocking, yes he was a fabulous musician and entertainer, but that can't gloss over the other stuff. We can't let it.

Before his death had even been confirmed the internet was buzzing with the news that it was a suicide/overdose, with even the number 24 being touted as the number of pills he swallowed. This morning I see the story has moved on and it was heroin/speed in his system, the same cocktail that did for River Phoenix or an OD of painkillers depending on what you read. I doubt we'll ever know anything beyond 'stress-induced cardiac arrest' and thus the conspiracy theories will abound a la Elvis.

For now there is a world in grief, united for once, but it will pass and life will return to normal. Just for the next few days, I'm going to watch how the world reacts to the death of a single man, no matter how great, at the expense of all other news. Who the hell knows what is going on in other countries that we'll never know about.

The Gay Girls Guide To Abusive Relationships

info@gaygirlsguide.co.uk (The Gay Girls Guide) — Sat, 16 May 2009 01:06:16 PDT

Abusive relationships are something we all know about. We hear about them on the news, we watch with disgust as one unfolds before us during our favourite soap, we even discuss them at the local bar, but they almost always involve physical violence of some degree. The startling fact is that more abusive relationships involve forms of aggression other than physical.

Threats, isolation, monopolising your perceptions, degradation and enforcing trivial demands all constitute abuse. If you take a closer look at your relationship, at what has really been making you feel so unhappy for so long, you may come to realise that it is far from healthy. Abusers wield power like an axe, bringing it down on their partners if that supremacy is threatened in any way. Breaking a person’s spirit makes them more compliant. Compliancy equals total control. Total control is abuse.

Sometimes abusive relationships are easy to identify; other times the abuse may take subtle forms. Nikki, 26, spent five years with her partner Linda. “She never hit me,” commented Nikki, “but she didn’t have to. I had to report on everything I did, everyone I spoke to, everywhere I went. If I was five minutes late from the shops I had to explain in detail what had kept me, and even then I was never sure if she believed me. She stopped me seeing all of my gay friends over time, often inventing reasons why they were no good for me to be around. She even made my family so uncomfortable when they visited by making a scene or deafening us with her silence that they eventually stopped calling round.

“I loved her, I thought she wanted me to be happy. I thought when she was buying me things, it was to show me how much she cared, but it wasn’t. She was dictating what I wore, what I listened to, what I had in the house. She controlled the money, I had to ask if I wanted something. She even pushed me to leave my job, claiming she was earning enough for the both of us and we could spend more time together. It got to the point where we were arguing so much when I was leaving to go to work that I had was late almost every day. Added to that were the phone calls every hour, telling me how much she missed me. She was actually checking up to see where I was. I got fired. She got her way. When things were good, they were fantastic. But when they were bad, I felt worthless and useless. Who was going to want me. That’s why I stayed so long. She really made me believe that she loved me, and that no one else would”

In general, abusive relationships have a serious power imbalance, with the abuser controlling or attempting to control most aspects of life. Healthy relationships share responsibility and decision-making tasks and reflect respect for all the people in the relationship, including children.

If the abuser is unwilling to own up to their behaviour and seek help the wise course of action is to remove yourself totally from the situation. This is painful, but is generally safer and ultimately better for both parties than allowing the cycle of abuse to continue. Be prepared for the abuse to increase after you leave - stepping out of the cycle enrages the abuser, as it shatters their illusion of control. Detachment with love is difficult, but it is the best solution if your partner is unwilling seek help.

In a healthy relationship you should never feel pressure to do anything you don’t want to. You should never be embarrassed by your partner’s behaviour or silenced by a mere glance. There should be balance, both parties having their say, and both people being respected in their opinions. If this is lacking, then the relationship is dangerous. Leaving is the hardest thing you can do; but it is also the most sensible.

The Gay Girls Guide To Female Ejaculation

info@gaygirlsguide.co.uk (The Gay Girls Guide) — Sat, 16 May 2009 01:05:40 PDT

Female ejaculation has long been discussed more in terms of an event which happened to a friend of a friend’s girlfriend than anything else. You probably sat with your friends and giggled at the very idea, but deep down you wondered if such a thing was really possible. The debate on this one is still ongoing with scientists still afraid to declare in one voice whether it exists or not. Through research, both personal and private, I have come to the conclusion that it does, and here’s what I have discovered.

Female ejaculation is the expelling of a clear liquid from the urethra, often accompanied by a more intense orgasm produced by direct stimulation of the G-spot rather than the clitoris. By stimulating the G-spot (so-called after Ernest Graffenberg who first wrote about it in 1950) you are touching a series of glands which produce the lubrication needed for sex. Although the existence of the G-spot is still questioned, anyone who has had anything inside them-self or their partner and managed to manoeuvre it to ‘that’ spot will agree that it most definitely does. Fingers are recognised as the best means of finding the G-spot, the flexibility of your digits outclassing anything else.

Some have tried to argue that female ejaculation is no more than urine, orgasmic urination to be precise, where urinary incontinence due to orgasm (and g-spot play which is located close to the urethral sponge). Personally, I choose to believe that people can tell the difference between urine and vaginal fluid.

Want to know how to do it? Find the G-spot, keep constant, but rhythmic pressure on it, and listen to your partner. Her moans and sighs, or lack of, will tell you if you’re hitting the right note. There are two major problems women face, which prevents them from the immensely enjoyable experience of ejaculation, are the female's mental attitude, and their partner’s inability or unwillingness to spend the time and effort during lovemaking and to learn the necessary techniques. Before you start, wash your hands well and trim your fingernails. Make sure that the thumb, and first two fingernails do not extend past the fingertips. Trimming them as far back as possible would be best. Make sure that there is no dirt under your fingernails. Place a towel on the bed as a surprising amount of fluid can be released during female ejaculation. Compared to a male it can be like a water cannon instead of a water pistol.

Explain that just prior to ejaculation, she most likely will feel like she is about to pee. This is a difficult point for many women, as they will immediately draw back. Convince her that it is normally impossible to pee during an orgasm, and that the feeling is simply the first sign she is about to ejaculate. Since the movement of the fluid through the urethra will initially feel exactly like when she starts to pee, this is very important. The reflex to stop peeing will immediately abort the ejaculation, so she needs to be told to relax, and allow the fluid to pass. In other words when she feels like she is about to pee, she should go ahead and pee. Only it really won't be urine, it will be an ejaculation, and within a couple of seconds it will be very obvious to her that this is something quite different. Once she knows the feeling, she will be able to push it out once it starts, with astounding results. Unlike a man, this is not the end. You can continue, and she may well have multiple orgasms and ejaculations with further stimulation.

So if women can ejaculate, how does it shoot out with such force? Easy, the vagina becomes narrow, engorged with blood as sexual excitement heightens, and the spasms which occur during orgasm create enough pressure to eject the vaginal fluid. Doesn’t sound so daft now, does it?

Whether you’re convinced of it’s existence or not, if you could actually make a woman ejaculate, wouldn’t you feel great? This particular type of orgasm is incredibly intense and is not something you just achieve by shoving your fingers into your girlfriend. It takes time to find that spot and the right type of stimulation to suit your partner, but G-spot play will eventually lead to more multiple orgasms than clitoral stimulation.

The trick is to not become goal-orientated. Sex is meant to be fun, and as long as you are both enjoying what is happening, don’t place to emphasise on trying to achieve everything at once. Concentrate too much on what you’re doing and you’ll miss what you did. The sex will be over, and you will have spent so much time wondering if your fingers should be 2 millimetres to the left that you will forget to listen to your partner, completely missing the fact that she was actually enjoying where you were. Ultimately, sex is about pleasure and passion as opposed to technique and strategy. Just go with the flow. Literally.

The Gay Girls Guide To First Dates No. 2

info@gaygirlsguide.co.uk (The Gay Girls Guide) — Sat, 16 May 2009 01:05:40 PDT

This wasn't what Jessica was expecting when her date asked her if she wanted to see her rabbit

The Gay Girls Guide to a Seven Day Relationship

info@gaygirlsguide.co.uk (The Gay Girls Guide) — Sat, 16 May 2009 01:05:40 PDT

When most people enter a relationship. they usually hope for a couple of things; that they’ll be happy, the sex’ll be great, and it will last (both the sex and the relationship). But when you look at the usual running patterns for most lesbian relationships it becomes quite obvious that ties which held couples together for many-a-year could easily be squashed into seven days, therefore leaving you more time for added ‘loves of your life’ rather than devoting months and years on end to something which will probably just end anyway. Why only have one woman fall for you when you can have hundreds? Here’s how:

Day 1 (Saturday)

Saturday seems to be a pretty popular day for relationships to begin, so we’ll start our journey here. You will, off course, have to leave the house. Heading towards somewhere you know lesbians hang out is also going to increase your chances - honestly, it will. If they serve alcohol where you choose to go, drink lots and encourage any woman you find even the slightest bit attractive to do the same. This way both of you will gradually develop into goddesses by the end of the evening and you will never have met anyone with whom you share so much in common. Hell, it’s almost like talking to yourself. She will be amazing, take her home if you can.

Day 2 (Sunday)

If you have taken her home no doubt you have spent all night exploring every inch of each other’s personalities and bodies, searching for flaws and hang-ups you might disapprove of. With a hangover the only thing you’ll be glad to notice is that she hasn’t threw up all over the bed and you remembered to make it to the bathroom before peeing. She is your perfect partner. Everything seems so right.

Day 3 (Monday)

If Sunday went to plan today is the day you should ask her to move in with you or, at the very least, give her a key to your house/flat and car if you have one. After all, she is so perfect and you got on so well on Saturday night and Sunday why shouldn’t you want to spend every minute of your time together. This is a good move and if you’ve chosen well she will already be trailing you to her house to pack her bag and collect Tiddles. When you return you will spend all night talking about what a great decision this is and how the two of you won’t let it be like all those other relationships and make this one work. You will probably have sex all night vowing that every night will be like this.

Day 4 (Tuesday)

Just coming up to the midway point in your new relationship and things might start to slow down a bit, but don’t worry. You can convince yourself that it’s just the upheaval and change of the pas few days which has left you both exhausted. Tomorrow everything will be fine again. You might have sex tonight, but don’t count on it.

Day 5 (Wednesday)

By around midday you’ll start to realise that you have not had sex what feels like some time. Both of you will probably feel that this is the other persons fault and you will want to have a huge screaming row followed by make up sex.

Day 6 (Thursday)

You will start to remember al the things she screamed at you yesterday and all the things you wanted to say but thought that they would be too cruel. You wished you had’ve spoken your mind and you can feel the resentment building inside of you ready to explode. Why did she have to change? Bitch to friends about ‘her indoors’.

Day 7 (Friday)

Today will be the final day of your relationship. You just can’t stand being around her, you have nothing in common and you don’t even find her all that attractive anyway. She’s such a bitch now, nothing like she used to be when you first met her. She used to be soft and caring, attentive and sweet. Now she just ignores you or picks on every little thing that you do. She never listens to you and you may as well be talking to yourself. You doubt you’ll ever speak to her again.

(Additional Day 8 Saturday)

Today you might want to head out to somewhere lesbians are likely to hang out in a bid to get over your broken heart. It is likely that your very recent ex will be there too but don’t panic. You will become best friends just before you leave with your new woman and in about five days you’ll be bitching to her about the way your latest love has changed from the perfect little creature you picked up on Saturday into a lesbian Lecter.

And that’s how to fit a whole lesbian relationship into one single week. Simple.

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Watching

info@gaygirlsguide.co.uk (The Gay Girls Guide) — Sat, 16 May 2009 01:05:40 PDT

Just feeling her lips softly brush against your skin was enough to make you wet. You would lie at night, lights off, eyes closed, and rest your hand gently between your spread legs. Touching, lightly at first, your hips would start to move with your fingers as your mind drifted deeper into fantasy. There you would see and slowly undress her. God, how she was perfect. You were so wet. Your fingers pressed harder as you could feel the excitement build. The scene inside your head had changed swiftly, fleeting from one fantasy to an another, searching for what you wanted, what you needed.

Next, you were in a room, alone with your boss. You’d always had a thing for her, the older woman, the authority, the sensual curves of her slender body, her flawless complexion, her flowing black hair. You were on your knees in front of her your hands slowly tracing her soft thighs. Soon her skirt was around her waist and your fingers had moved to beneath her panties. With swiftness, her panties were down and she had stepped out of them to spread her legs. She pulled your head closer to her pussy, urging you to taste it, you didn’t need any encouragement. You kissed her once, then again, then again, and again more passionately until you were sliding your tongue into her pussy. You could hear your boss, her breathing getting heavier, the moans of pleasure as you found ‘that spot’.

And in your room, you had three fingers sliding in and out of yourself, stopping only to rub your rock-hard clit as you let yourself go and feel every stroke of your tongue. You loved how women tasted, you loved to listen as they lost control totally and utterly, and you loved to watch as they fucked your tongue, knowing how much they enjoyed it.

Your pussy was so wet. It hadn’t felt like that in such a long time. But soon it changed again, leaping from one thought to another as your desire changed and grew. And there was a faceless stranger in front of you on her hands and knees, her cunt wide open. She looks at you as you reach out to touch her ass with both your hands. It was so firm and soft, you realise you’re naked but for a strap-on and she was pleading with you to fuck her. You reach out your fingers and touch her ass again, teasing, bending down to follow your fingers with your tongue. Your tongue touches her open asshole and her lips begin to move as her breathing quickens.

“No, stop, please” she pleads, “just fuck my cunt”

“But I know you like this”, you reply, still using your tongue to drive her crazy. You stop using your tongue only to slide you fingers into her ass, stretching it for the strap-on which you have been dying to see move deep inside her ass. No would not mean no, and stop would not mean stop. You both had a safe word, and that’s all you had to pay attention to.

You stand back from her for a moment, admiring the way she was, knowing that her pussy was dripping wet and her asshole would open easily for almost anything to fuck it. Lifting a bottle of baby oil, you pour it into your hands and then rub it onto the strap-on, knowing she’s waiting, you take your time. You take the tip and push it against her ass, softly at first so she spreads her legs with no resistance, urging you to thrust it in deeper. You place both your hands on her hips and pull her hard against you as you push your hips into her. The noise, the screams she lets out as it’s full length is inside her almost makes you cum as you imagine you are really there, hearing those noises, feeling her ass.

As you fuck yourself harder with your fingers, the desire to touch your own ass grows and you move your other hand down so your fingers can press against you asshole. Without realising, you had slipped a finger into your ass while your other hand rubbed furiously against your throbbing clit. You knew you were going to cum. You started to making noises, imaging it was the woman in your head that you were fucking calling out, moaning with every thrust of your hips. As you fucked her faster and faster, so your hands worked on your own cunt and ass faster until you couldn’t refrain from cumming. With one final thrust of your hips, and one final scream, both the woman in your head and you came.

I loved watching you do that.

Facebook rejects ad for lesbian film [UPDATED}

info@gaygirlsguide.co.uk (The Gay Girls Guide) — Sat, 16 May 2009 01:05:41 PDT

In what can't possibly be the wisest move in Facebook's short history, they have inexplicible decided that this ad:

is too 'rauncy' for it's viewers. You know you've seen far more 'explicit' ads than this on Facebook, what other reason can there be other than homophobia?

Follow the developments on this story here.

Facebook, due to pressure from the lebsian community have backed down and allowed the ad to be used without changes...Power to the People!!!

Some straight people just don't get it

info@gaygirlsguide.co.uk (The Gay Girls Guide) — Sat, 16 May 2009 01:05:41 PDT

On Friday I found myself at home in the early afternoon watching mindless daytime TV. It was Loose Women, a show her in the UK which some say has single handedly set back the women's rights movement 10 years, but I kinda enjoy it in a perverse kind of way.

Anyway, they were discussing Miss California's infamous 'gay marriage' comments and the panel were asked their views. Carol McGiffin, usually my favourite and someone who is in favour of gay equality, gave her answer and I realised just how much straight people just don't get the whole 'gay' thing.

What she said was that Miss California had simply expressed what she believed to be true and if that was her opinion she should be allowed to express it.

Really?

OK, so off course she should be allowed to express it, but whether she should or not is another matter. If her opinion had been 'whites should only marry whites' would she be granted such freedom of expression? Would people on TV be defending her right? I very much doubt it.

Until the straight world accepts that being gay is no more a choice than being straight, we will always have to defend our right to equality, and have to listen to blatant homophobia touted as 'acceptable,' and even defended, under the freedom of speech banner.

The Gay Girls Guide To Coping With Your In-Laws

info@gaygirlsguide.co.uk (The Gay Girls Guide) — Sat, 16 May 2009 01:05:41 PDT

Coping With Your In-laws

When you meet the girl of your dreams, everything seems perfect. You find your perfect house or apartment, you make your move and then you set about choosing the colour scheme. Things couldn’t be better. But as with all good things in life, you never get the good without the bad and with your perfect girlfriend comes her ‘perfect’ family. Experience of your own family throughout your life will tell you that no family is flawless and you have to be prepared to walk into the middle of feuds, secrets, and traditions which have been in place for generations. And you have to know how to cope with one of the most frequent stresses and strains in a relationship.

Your Mother-in-law sits proudly at the head your new family, commanding everyone’s respect. Behave towards her the way you expect your own mother to be treated, but understand that you will not always be given the benefit of the doubt when you make a mistake. Only your mum will give you that. Her number one priority will always be her family and her daughter is a central part of that. She will always know best when it comes to her daughter and she might even use you to try and get that through to your partner. She has carried her, given birth to her, fed her, clothed her and loved her all her life. You, on the other hand, have only been on the scene for five minutes and she is naturally wary of your intentions. Despite the myriad of mother-in-law jokes floating around, chances are she is a reasonable and sane person who wants to be convinced that you are good for her daughter. Prove that you are and you will win her love and respect. Show her that you’re not and you will unleash her wrath which will probably never subside, at least not fully.

Father-in-laws are a different kettle of fish altogether. Where the mother is a domineering figure, the father usually adopts the strong, silent approach. His silence is acceptance to a point, never seeming to have much to say but speaking volumes in the process. Men are, by nature, unemotional creatures, but there is always something that will trigger an outburst and that is usually a threat to his family’s harmony. Don’t assume that just because he rarely speaks up that he has to be convinced of your credibility any less. Upset his wife or daughter and he will automatically swing into attack mode, making his feelings clearer than crystal, not afraid to say things which your mother-in-law may find to upsetting to discuss.

Sister-in-laws are usually the fun part of the package. They’ll be eager to divulge your partner’s gory past and will more than likely be supportive of your relationship. She will want to be your friend (especially if she is younger than your partner) and will defend you more than any other family member. A sister-in-law is a fantastic asset to have on your side; she will put forward your case if you’re not there and inform you of the gossip behind your back. Maybe it’s the usual tight bond between sisters that allows sisters-in-law to accept you from the outset. If she’s straight she knows you’re no threat to her relationship, if she’s not she sees you as a peer, someone else she can connect with. But remember – she is first and foremost your partner’s sister, and that is where her loyalties lie.

Brother-in-laws. They’re men. They’re unemotional. They’re not interested in what you’re doing with his sister other than being content in the knowledge that you make her happy. Like a mini-version of the father-in-law, they will talk about nothing much but tear you apart if you step out of line.

The extended family today is nowhere near as close-knit as it was in days gone by. Just because your immediate in-laws and partner talk about aunts, uncles and cousins with derision does not mean that you have license to join in. They have had a lifetime of experiences with these people and they will always be regarded as family, regardless of their actions. You are an outsider and families never like strangers to agree that their family is far from perfect. Watch what you say and who you say it to until you are sure that they can be trusted. A misplaced word to a bitter cousin can be as devastating as a crude comment to your mother-in-law.

You can get on with your in-laws as well as you do with you own family (sometimes even better because you get to start with a clean slate). Courtesy and respect cost nothing and if you give then you should definitely be receiving. If you feel you are being unfairly treated by any one of your in-laws, discuss it with your partner, there might be a logical explanation and she might be able to help you overcome your differences or act as a go-between and rectify the problem. Don’t just waltz in and expect to be accepted immediately, it takes time to show that you are good enough to be with their daughter/sister/granddaughter. The charms and good looks you used to win your girlfriend over will be redundant with your in-laws; you are just going to have to rely on your personality.

Have you got what it takes?

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Being Gay Helps Save the Planet

info@gaygirlsguide.co.uk (The Gay Girls Guide) — Sat, 16 May 2009 01:05:41 PDT

There have been many theories put forward as to why the planet is going to shit in the way that it is, global warming, global recession, global intolerance and the like. Behind global warming, many explanations have been put forward - high carbon emissions, decimation of the rain-forests, over-industrialisation etc but one of the major factors which seems to be as taboo as a gay jesus is the fact that the world is severly overpopulated and people need to stop popping out sprogs.

Once you get past all the religious zealots who insist that being gay is a 'choice' (even though their sexuality isn't - always amazes me how gay people are ignored when they say 'I was born this way' because the christians etc know better even though they have no first-hand experience) then you have to look at being gay as something which happens naturally across the animal kingdom (yes folks, we're animals too).

In the wild, it is often used as a means of natural population control, where populations are too big for the food supply to sustain continued growth. Homosexuality offers all the 'emotional' needs of partnership, without the side-effect of putting the entire species in jeopardy of starvation.

I have often wondered, therefore, if the increasing numbers of visible gay people has as much to do with population control as increased 'tolerance'. Yes, I know gay people can also have kids, but they don't tend to pop them out as often as the 'breeders' who seem to think that having more kids than is needed to replace the parents is a splendid idea.

I'd be interested to hear what you think?

Top Ten Reasons to Make Gay Marriage Illegal - This is just hilarious

info@gaygirlsguide.co.uk (The Gay Girls Guide) — Sat, 16 May 2009 01:05:41 PDT

I found this comment online when reading through the scary comments on a 'pro-gay marriage' piece. It has an American slant but it is absolutely hilarious and deserves to be spread...please include the link to the original author if you are doing the spreading:

Top Ten Reasons to Make Gay Marriage Illegal (By Drod)

01) Being gay is not natural. Real Americans always reject unnatural things like eyeglasses, polyester, and air conditioning.

02) Gay marriage will encourage people to be gay, in the same way that hanging around tall people will make you tall.

03) Legalizing gay marriage will open the door to all kinds of crazy behavior. People may even wish to marry their pets because a dog has legal standing and can sign a marriage contract.

04) Straight marriage has been around a long time and hasn't changed at all like many of the principles on which this great country was founded; women are still property, blacks still can't marry whites, and divorce is still illegal.

05) Straight marriage will be less meaningful if gay marriage were allowed; the sanctity of marriages like Britney Spears' 55-hour just-for-fun marriage would be destroyed.

06) Straight marriages are valid because they produce children. Gay couples, infertile couples, and old people shouldn't be allowed to marry because our orphanages aren't full yet, and the world needs more children.

07) Obviously gay parents will raise gay children, since straight parents only raise straight children.

08) Gay marriage is not supported by religion. In a theocracy like ours, the values of one religion are imposed on the entire country. That's why we have only one religion in America.

09) Children can never succeed without a male and a female role model at home. That's why we as a society expressly forbid single parents to raise children.

10) Gay marriage will change the foundation of society; we could never adapt to new social norms. Just like we haven't adapted to cars, the service-sector economy, or longer life spans.

Partners With Cancer

info@gaygirlsguide.co.uk (The Gay Girls Guide) — Sat, 16 May 2009 01:05:41 PDT

Check out this new forum for the partners of people with cancer. As it's fairly new, please bear with us as it gets going, but without you, there will be no forum.

Please forward this to anyone you think might find it useful. Partners and friends welcome (or anyone else who's life has been touched by cancer) in this place for support, advice, letting off steam, having a laugh, and hopefully making some new friends.

It's lonely out there as all the support that I have found is geared towards the patient. This is for those close to the patient who can need the support just as much.

http://www.partnerswithcancer.com

and follow Partners with Cancer on Twitter here

Hope to see you soon

Race for Life

info@gaygirlsguide.co.uk (The Gay Girls Guide) — Sat, 16 May 2009 01:05:41 PDT

As you may be aware, my partner was recently diagnosed with breast cancer. Through the swift action of the NHS, she has have the tumour (which was starting to spread) removed and luckily it hadn't managed to make it to the lymph nodes. She'll still have to have chemo and radiotherapy, but she is so, so lucky.

Her friend is doing one of Cancer Research's Race for Life in Belfast and is dedicating it to my partner.

If you can, please support her (and help the millions of others who are affected by this ever-spreading disease)

New series from one of the creators of The L Word

info@gaygirlsguide.co.uk (The Gay Girls Guide) — Sat, 16 May 2009 01:05:41 PDT

Check out the new lesbian web series, Anyone But Me, from one of the creators of The L word.

Anyone But Me is an exciting new webseries brought to you by one of the writers and producers of The L Word and thirtysomething, Susan Miller.

Miller, an Obie award winning playwright (My Left Breast), joins forces with Tina Cesa Ward, filmmaker, in launching this uniquely cross platform show, chosen by A4AMobile (creators of MyBroadway.com) for broadcast on mobile devices, as well as the web.

How many more Fritzls are there out there?

info@gaygirlsguide.co.uk (The Gay Girls Guide) — Sat, 16 May 2009 01:05:41 PDT

With the news that an Italian Fritzl has been arrested you can't help but wonder how many other women are suffering the same fate at this very minute. That's without even thinking of those who must surely have died in these conditions with a world never knowing their story.

And, as if you could make a story such as this any worse, there is also the news that this woman not only suffered at the hands of her father, but also her borther AND she managed to escape after 10 years, but her father managed to convince police that she was delusional, leaving her to suffer the unimaginable for a further 15 years.

I know this isn't a gay girl issue (tho who is to say, she was locked away when she was only 9) but it is a female issue and one which we should all be up in arms about.

Gay Girls Guide News Bulletin 21st March 2009

info@gaygirlsguide.co.uk (The Gay Girls Guide) — Sat, 16 May 2009 01:05:41 PDT

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Lesbian Makes 3rd Bid for Presbyterian Ministry
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Presbyterians may have first lesbian minister
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SAN FRANCISCO (KGO) -- A church court is deciding whether a San Francisco woman will become the nation's first ordained lesbian minister in the Presbyterian ...
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Church Court Mulls Lesbian's Ordination Bid - Sacramento News ...
OAKLAND, Calif. -- A Presbyterian deacon who has twice been denied ordination because she is a lesbian is again asking church officials to let her application proceed. Friday, March 20, 2009.
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Film preview: The London Lesbian & Gay Film Festival, London
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