“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”
Eleanor Roosevelt

“All of our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them.”
Walt Disney

If only we were taught such truths in kindergarten and elementary school, right? These two quotes are the kind you should print out and read to yourself first thing every morning to get you started in the right mood, mental mindset and congruent energy.

I would add one more quote though, and it would sound something like

‘Your dreams are one step ahead of you, showing you who you are becoming.
Be wise enough to believe in and follow your dreams because therein lie the gifts that the world is gifting you.’

Manifest Your Desires

As Disney’s quote suggests, let’s have the courage to manifest our dreams. Courage in this case, means putting yourself to a task just by committing. This can be as uncomplicated as starting your day in the flow.  Get out of bed on the ‘right side of the bed’ to do your best to ensure that your day starts in the flow you prefer, as it is easier to stay in the flow than it is to try to get in the flow.

Flow your desires. I began with those fabulous quotes because when you give credibility (such as you may when reading quotes by famous people) to the legitimacy of your dreams, you treat them differently. For many people, this is the first thing they have to flow.

Flowing Process

Most often, people have a hesitation around thinking about or allowing themselves to dream. This often stems from past disappointments that leave you feeling discouraged from even thinking about manifesting.

So, often, one of the most powerful things you can do is to simply focus on what you wish to manifest. To get into your Source’s Golden Flow, or the place where you also have your Source Energy (some call it God, the universe, Higher Self and so on) helping you in your manifestation, just follow a few simple steps:

1 Welcome –
Welcome what you want to manifest. Frankly and simply put, a lot of people are unwelcoming of their desires because they are so afraid it will never manifest that they close the door to their own dreams. So, just say to yourself ‘I welcome __________.’ And fill in the blank with your desired manifestation.

2 Hold or Allow it –
As you welcome your desired manifestation, tune into the feel of it. As you hold the though, feeling or experience of it, you are allowing it’s flow to enter into your being and your life. You are be-coming it.

3 Let it Flow –
Now just let it go. Counter-intuitive as it may be, let it flow by letting it go.

You can always flow and you can flow as much as you like. However, when you are out of the flow, things you desire to manifest get further away, not closer. So, you can get into the flow of your manifestation, but then you have to let it go. Trying to hold on will actually take you out of the flow, so flow and then welcome again but don’t hold it tight!

Love, Light & Flow,

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Originally posted 2014-01-09 19:53:37.

“Dos capuchinos, porfa” I ask in Spanish. Karl and our daughter just went to the buffet while I hold a table for us and begin to type. We’re in the beautiful Bahia Principe hotel, about 90 miles south of Cancun. We love this area, called the Mayan Caribbean, and have come at least once a year for the past 16 years, starting with our honeymoon. This hotel is so large that they have four lobbies. Yesterday we rode the tram from the beach to our lobby and estimated that they have about a hundred acres of land. And we’ve never seen the hotel so crowded- as though they’ve rented each of their 3,000 rooms!

Generally coming here is coming to paradise. We get in the flow, bring groups who also get in the flow and live it up. Meals are included and everything is delicious. They have plenty of veggies, guac and refried beans – some of my favorites. Outside the amorphous pools turn corners, go by a pool-side bar, under a bridge and then parallel the ocean. Ahhh, the ocean. Sitting on the coral white sands is like nothing else; gazing at the calm ebb and flow of the aqua colored water and seeing some silver-blue fish swimming by, asking me to feed them. And I do. I feel loved by life and my Source Energy here, and I love the fish and the other critters we see walking about.

It’s obvious we love coming here, having even turned others onto the trips. Less obvious is the benefit they bring. Our journeys, or retreats, are all about raising our energy and improving our lives. They are about connecting more intimately with our inner guidance and becoming aware of our desires and the development that lies between us and the fulfillment of these desires.

It’s not just a vacation or a retreat, but rather a revitalizing of our minds, hearts and souls. And so, we come.

Rewind Back Two Years

The Death of Something Good

All things change and even good things come to an end. The last three trips over the last couple of years have felt different, like it would be our last trip and as though the trips just weren’t stirring me the same wonderful way.

Karl felt it too. We’d visit our favorite pyramid, looked at each other and sighed, feeling like it was going, flowing right out of our lives. How do you let go of the place where you’ve had visions of past lives, where you’ve had meditations that tapped you into the highest realms of energy you’ve ever seen and where you were first gifted a channeling ability?

In my heart, this land that I call home (because my soul is at home here), was transforming, no longer feeding my soul as it once had.

It is strange to see things coming to an end or a close before my eyes. It’s like reality is melting right before me, but it doesn’t know it. Don’t know if you’d call it a gift or a curse. Either way, I’ve learned to go with the flow, realizing that things change for the better. Sometimes I’m relieved by the change and other times I’m not ready to let go. I certainly wasn’t ready to let go of my Mayan Caribbean home…

A few years ago we were bequeathed a time share, so we figured it was time to start traveling to new places to find a new favorite spot.

Back To The Present

Death Means Rebirth

We’ve come to this hotel six times over the years and little changed. This year there was change.

For starters, I should say that the flow still brought us here for an annual retreat. Nothing better than escaping the freezing weather at home to lay on the beach and revitalize your soul during the winter.

You can imagine that we know this hotel pretty well – six visits later. Around the second visit I was sure I’d gotten stuck in the twilight zone, walking around in a circle trying to find our room… of course, such an experience makes it such that you create an internal map of the place.

So delight entered my eyes when everything looked familiar and different on this trip. The hotel had made some noted changes from our last trip two years ago. A new colorful water park for children greeted youngsters with a “You must be shorter than this to come play!” sign at the entrance. My daughter, who won’t be short enough for long, acquiesced.

New white rattan furniture added extra seating and tables poolside, creating the ability for some (like me) to come blog in our bathing suits. A few other changes greeted us, but overall, just as I see things melt, I saw things reborn in my eyes.

What? I asked. What’s going on? I feel an inner spark and home is stirring my soul again! How is this possible?

It’s not possible, it’s a change. A change that was occurring and occurred in me. Truth is, the end of an era or a cycle came and our way of life was what ended or died. In its place a new life was coming forward. At home, we were undergoing a significant change with a new move out of state. Just as our daughter is no longer a little girl, but is becoming a little lady, we too were growing and moving on to our next level. The Mayan Caribbean had reflected this, showing that our old life was changing and my ability to have my soul stirred and revitalized was being born again in a new and more exciting way.

Let It Go to Let It Flow

Life is all about flow and flow is all about change. True, we can’t all see things ending and starting anew. For me it is one of the byproducts of making my personal and spiritual path a priority. Still, life offers deaths and rebirths to us all. They are a wonderful thing, attachments aside, because they allow us to become different people in different adventures within our lifetime. In the flow of life this is natural. As we journey through different stages of life, our needs, desires and focus in life change and evolve.

You don’t have to be able to see things ending before you to be aware that they are ending. You can choose to co-create your life such that you are a part of the changes and a designer of your next chapter. Designers and co-creators have visions and dreams, so have these. They also work with life, recognizing that life (God, Source or whatever word you like) is a far larger contributor to your experience. So the best designers and co-creators are in the flow of their desire and change. The best designers and co-creators, thus, welcome deaths – and rebirths- in their lives.

Originally posted 2014-03-07 23:40:22.

“To be in the now moment means that you release all of the problems, all of the worries, and you bring the full of yourself to here and now.  And within that now moment, your now moment allows your source to flow through you into your life.” The Oracle

The now moment is infinitely small, yet infinitely big. In its smallness, it contains nothing. Yet, the moment of the now contains everything. Because the now moment contains nothing, to be in the now, you must let everything go and empty.

For a moment, empty yourself of everything. Let everything go. Let your problems go. Let your to do lists go. Let your preoccupations go. Let your thoughts and feelings go. As you empty you enter the Golden Flow. The Flow moves from the Source that you are, into your persona, through your body and into your life. This Flow contains a beautiful dream where all your deepest hopes and desires are manifest. The only thing missing from this dream is you. When you are in the Golden Flow of the now moment you are able to step into the dream and it becomes manifest in your life. This is one of the ‘secrets’ of The Law of Attraction.  To the degree you align to the bigger dream of your life, it becomes real.

When you are having mental machinations, worries, or charged emotions, your energy is pulled away from the Source that you are. You are off center. Your center exists in the now. It is from the place of being on center that spiritual growth and evolution occurs.  The center of a river is where the current flows strongest. It is the center of self where Source energy flows most powerfully.

Take the time to find your now moments. Tell your mind to let it all go, even if only for a few minutes. Tell your mind it can come back to its concerns later, but for now, empty. Do this often. As you do the tremendous power of Source’s flow begins to move through you. Then, hang onto your hat as your life moves in wonderful ways.

Kristopher

Originally posted 2009-02-20 16:54:09.

The truth is that you need to allow what you and your Source Energy are working to attract to your life so that you may experience it. Sometimes realizing that what you desire to experience is not a reward, but rather a experience that You (you & your Source) know will benefit you, can help you release some of the wishing or desperately wanting in your life. When you see that it is just another growing experience in life that is meant to help you be more of who you truly are, you may be able to allow it to come more easily.

Originally posted 2012-06-26 15:54:32.

“There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so.” – William Shakespeare

When we are trying, we are thinking there is something we should be doing differently. Unlike changing our lives towards an improvement, trying is always about thinking that something is not acceptable the way it is. Trying sucks. It can leach our time, our energy and leave us greatly disappointed.

5 Reasons To Flow Trying & Start Being

1. Not You: You Can Try, But You’ll Never Be Who You Are Not
   Can you think of any time when trying wasn’t about you reaching, pushing and efforting to be someone else? People who are gifted or experts make things look easy because they don’t have to reach and push, rather they seem to magically conjure their gift or expertise. They are: they are gifted because it is already a part of who they are. Trying to be more or do more is outside of who you are. Be you. When you are you and you authentically be and do, you become magically talented to. At that point, your talent feeds you instead of starving you, as trying tends to wear us thin.
2. Puts You Out Of the Flow
   In the flow, you are wonderful enough, as you are authentically. In the flow, all is well and you have everything that you need and what you want is coming your way. Trying is outside of the flow of life. Have you ever noticed that when you are having a great day in the flow or when you are in the zone, trying takes you right out? Have you ever been enjoying playing a game and then the minute you realize you are winning and you decide to win, you lose? That’s because you stepped right out of the flow and right into trying!
3. Trying Is Synonymous With Exhaustion
   When you are trying, you always feel like you are reaching and stretching yourself. Have you ever heard the saying “stop trying, do”?
   True, a lot of people try hard to do something and make it happen, but it tends to exhaust them. It also raises the bar so that next time you have to try twice as hard. Trying implies doing something you are unlikely to succeed at. Doing your best, on the other hand, is about brining forth your best – no efforting, but focusing.
4. Chasing A Carrot – You Never Finish Trying
   Pretty straight forward, right? When you are gifted or an expert (an everyone has their gifts they just need to be developed) there is no trying because you love what you are doing and doing it feeds your soul. On the other hand, when you try, it’s like you are running a marathon that you are trying to finish, but the finish line keeps moving out in front of you. To try is not the same as to be or to accomplish. It is a slight difference in syntax, but the world of difference in mindset and energy.
5. You Can’t Try To Be Authentic
   Authenticity is a key words these days. This is because being able to be the wonderful, talented, loved and abundant version that you naturally and authentically are is pretty hard to pass up for anyone. Yes, we’d all like to feel unconditional love, to be successful and be happy – a promise of authenticity. Still one of the greatest challenges has been to stop trying to be who you are not and to allow yourself to be who you authentically are. Why would this be difficult? Because there is no instruction manual or no rules about how to be you. We get accustomed to rules at school, rules about how to behave, how to think and when to laugh out loud. We grow up with rules about when to pay fees, where to live and where not to go…
   Authenticity is not about rules at all. In life there is a lot of trying – we are taught to stretch, hurt ourselves (sometimes) and get out of our flow to try. Now it’s time to just be, to abide by what’s in our hearts and souls – and not bother trying anymore.

Life is filled with irony. One great irony is that when we stop trying, things always seem to work out just fine – or better than we could have planned. When you stop trying you stop getting yourself out of the flow. So, believe it or not, you are better off saying “why bother”, let trying flow and just being you and doing what you love and do best.

Originally posted 2013-12-31 18:04:47.

In Manifesting, Timing Is Everything

Its Like Waiting For A Subway Train

I sit on the bench in the underground subway station. Some of my thoughts are focused on the now- when is the next subway and which line to take. I look all around at other subway trains going by, the people, posters and the floor. Most of my focus though is on where I’m going, what I’ll be doing and what it will be like when I get to where I’m going.  I don’t get desperate nor do I grasp as to when my train is coming because I know that will likely make it take longer to come; I also don’t fall asleep, causing the train to pass me by the minute I’m out.

Ahh. Here’s my train. Now I get on and everything starts to change rapidly. The train’s movement causes nothing but motion inside and blurry landscapes outside, but I don’t mind because I’m on my way to a new place with all new experiences.

Waiting for and riding the train is like waiting for any change in life.

“Life Is Like A Box Of Chocolates” Or Waiting For A Train

As you get further and further into your personal and spiritual growth, you find that you are meant to be the best version of yourself, which is the version of you in your desires, hopes or wishes. You also find that manifesting you and your desires is all about working with the laws that govern life, such as the laws of physics, and that ultimately, life is ‘like a box of chocolates’ (quote from the movie Forrest Gump) as well as being just like going on a subway.

Manifesting Lessons Of Chocolates & Trains

You may know what chocolate you’d like to eat or where you want to go, but as you reach into the box or see a train coming, it’s not always your chocolate or your train. If you can’t wait, a different train will take you somewhere else. If you fall asleep while waiting, it’s likely the train will pass you by. Timing is everything whether you’re riding the subway or manifesting.

You know when your train has come. At that point you get on the train as if it were no big deal, it’s just what people always do. Then you ride the train. Take the right actions at the right time and wait patiently, knowing that your train will come and that it will come sooner if you aren’t too impatient or too lackadaisical.

Ultimately, life ebbs and flows, just like the ocean and our job is to just enjoy and ride the wave.

Originally posted 2014-01-27 16:24:36.

It’s not just you that you want in the flow!!!

Join me in this video to learn a few tips to Feng Shui your home –

Why? Because the energy that flows all around us and into our homes has a large effect on our lives.  Being as interested in energy, Spirit and improving my life as I am, I took a course to become certified in Feng Shui in Hong Kong. To practice what I learned, I ran the Feng Shui on my brother-in-law’s home who we were staying with in Hong Kong.

I asked him if he’d had certain health issues – his eyebrows raised, and he said “Yes, how did you know? My Feng Shui master cured it though-”

That’s the power of Feng Shui.

Watch the video and learn a few, simple and fun things you can do to improve the energy and the flow of energy in your home!

Originally posted 2014-05-21 19:31:07.

How Do You Know The Rules In Life?

I met with a friend yesterday and she told me she was relieved when she saw my Facebook update that read “Who said technology takes away our quality of life? It provides me peace and quiet”-

She hadn’t know whether it was okay to let her daughter watch TV or not and was glad that I, even as a channel or medium and biz/life coach, allow television.

Back In The Womb

Let me tell you a little story that will shift how you define or set the ‘rules’ in your life…

When I was pregnant, I deliberately didn’t read any books on pregnancy. While my friends were reading about ‘what to expect’, I was focused on having a good pregnancy. I knew that scientific research has shown that reduced stress, healthy eating and happy feelings lead to better development and health in vitro. I also knew that women have had babies with no manual, other than the advice of other women, since the beginning of time. This meant that it’s not about the ‘right’ way to raise a child. There is maternal instinct that kicks in and I knew that every mother and every child is unique. This means that general ‘rules’ don’t work for all because you’d need a new set for every new circumstance and every different person.

So, the ‘right’ way is different for you than it is for me. A book wasn’t going to be able to tell me what was right for me or my new baby. As a matter of fact, a couple years later potty-training was seamless for my daughter and we did it pretty quickly without bed-wetting. Behavior-wise, my daughter, who is now 8, is intelligent, and remarkable. She receives compliments from adults all of the time. Some people think that we ‘got lucky’ having such a great kid, but luck doesn’t put you in or out of the flow. You do.

Thus your ‘rules’ have to be what’s right for you. Determining this can be as simple as recognizing the why or the intent of things. When it comes to watching TV, the important thing to look at isn’t whether you judge TV or TV shows as good or bad because from a spiritual or universal laws-perspective, there is no such thing, which Shakespeare captured beautifully: “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” Watching TV can put you in your Golden Flow or take you out of it. A show can inspire you or even whisper the answer to a question you’ve held, as if it were a muse. It can also do the opposite.

If your child is watching TV for fun and, perhaps, even being exposed to new ideas (for example, my daughter watches cartoons and animal planet where she is discovering a world of animal breeds and all about them) then they will stop watching when they are done. Technology has the advantage of showing them a world that exists and can open their imagination further by exposing them to sights, ideas and experiences that they otherwise couldn’t have. They might learn about how things are made, like marbles, how puppies are born deaf and blind, and about different people and careers all of which can broaden their imagination and horizons.

On the other hand, if your child is watching TV all of the time and the TV serves as an escape or companionship, then a need is going unfulfilled. A child needs love and quality time. Although we, as parents, tend to be quite busy, we want to spend quality time with our children and be certain that the time with them is spent appreciating them as opposed to making them feel as though they should go unheard or unseen. If TV time makes you happy because your child is no longer a bother, there is a problem. However, similar to kids playing electronic games, the TV or the X-box aren’t the problem, it’s the fact that you are having challenges in life that are contributing to your feeling that your child is a bother. No parent wants to feel this way, so this is the issue that should be addressed.

Potty Training In a Weekend

A friend of mine read a book and tried potty-training her daughter in a weekend. She locked them both up in the kitchen and tried taking her to the bathroom every hour and rewarded any proper use of the toilet with a plethora of gifts and games. Honestly, it reminds me of Pavlov’s salivating dogs who were trained that food would follow the ringing of a bell, so they salivated when they heard the ring. Needless to say, my friend said the weekend was torture for them both and the training was a failure compared to mine. They had accidents and bed-wetting for a couple of years to follow.

Determining how to teach your baby to eat, be potty-trained or how much TV time and electronic game-time is allowed depends on what is in the flow for you and your child. Recognizing when TV time is in the flow and beneficial or out of the flow and detrimental can make or break your relationship with them and their experience with you as a parent.

Since you can’t always see what is in or out of the flow, you always want to look to the intent of the activity. You want your child to choose things in life that intend to benefit them, which puts them in the flow.

It’s important to also remember that what worked for you as a child growing up may not be in the flow and beneficial for your child. The ‘rules’ of life change all of the time, so re-examine what’s healthy or beneficial for them and also for you as a parent.

People who are pragmatic this way tend to be more in the flow of life and tend to have better experiences because they know how much of what and when to bring things together. They automatically create positive and loving environments in their homes, in their friendships or anywhere else.

Most importantly, children who are loved and whose parents make choices that keep them in a loving and healthy flow of life become wonderful, creative and successful people when they grow up. You always want what’s best for your children; a little time focusing on their flow and the intent of what they are doing now will echo goodness and well-being throughout their lives. Parents who take the time to look past whether TV or any other activity, is good or bad also set a wonderful example for their children by teaching them to see beyond surface appearances or snap judgments. And these are lessons that will mold love and depth in the lives of their children.

Originally posted 2014-01-13 19:16:50.

Everywhere you go, your Source Energy, the Universe is there supporting you and guiding you in the most fantastic ways, and often in the most unexpected places.

This is a power sign I received as I was disembarking off my plane in Albuquerque airport. I looked up and there was the message I needed at that moment.

Messages like this occur frequently if you only just allow it. When you are in the Golden Flow of Allowance, open and accepting, your Source Energy is able to guide and support you in each moment of your life.

It is a wonderful feeling to know that you are supported in The Flow.

Kristopher
http://golden-flow-system.com

Originally posted 2008-12-09 21:39:22.

Thoughts & Encouragement to Help You Attain Your Goals

You know the phrase, “Become a new you in the New Year!”? We’ve all heard it in one form or another through various channels. Sometimes it’s weight loss commercials on TV, sometimes it’s through an ad in a magazine, and sometimes it’s a little closer to home – from a friend or a loved one. I’d like to encourage you to think critically about the ‘become a new you’ notion. While this phrase is cloaked in positivity, it’s actually rooted in negativity. The idea of becoming a new person infers that you must abandon yourself to become someone else entirely – someone better. This phrase also reeks of negativity because the subliminal message is that you are not good enough. It causes you to dwell on your downfalls.

I have a challenge for you as the New Year draws near. I challenge you to change your mindset. Far too many of us start thinking, ‘If I just make it through this holiday season, then I’ll emerge on the other side with motivation to make the changes in my life I so long to see.’ What if, instead of limiting yourself to merely ‘making it through,’ you opened the door of abundance in your own life. Change your thinking to thriving instead of existing. The idea of just ‘making it through’ something is bleak, isn’t it? Wouldn’t you rather experience life and thrive no matter the season or the situation?

Well, I’m happy to tell you that you can! The simple act of changing your thinking will launch you from negativity to positivity – just like that! Did you know that taking on a new mindset is the most effective catalyst for taking on new behavior? The power of the mind is astonishing. Let’s say your goal for the New Year is to enjoy a healthier lifestyle. Maybe you are struggling with your weight, or maybe you just know you are not very healthy. The moment you decide to change your thinking from simply ‘making it through’ to ‘thriving,’ you will begin to see open doors where there was once only dead-ends.

In a motion to make this less nebulous and more tangible, I want to give you a very basic example that can be applied to many circumstances and situations. Picture yourself at a holiday party. The wine and bubbly are flowing and the hor’deurve table is full of a sweet and savory delights. If you were stuck in a negative mindset, the situation would likely end in you eating everything you wanted, all the while telling yourself, “It’s okay, just make it through this holiday season – you’re going to be a new person in the New Year.” The problem with this thinking is that you are not giving yourself a realistic, manageable path to success. How will you reach your goals if your thinking and habits don’t change?

Now, picture yourself getting ready for that holiday party. You’re anticipating a plethora of delicious food and drinks and you want to enjoy yourself. You are thinking ahead, though. You know that if you gorge on the holiday food, you won’t feel great afterward. Physically, you will feel like you over did it and emotionally, you will feel, empty! So, since you have decided to change your thinking, you are keeping your goal in mind. Why wait until New Year’s Day to start getting healthy? Won’t it be much easier and more fulfilling to make small decisions and changes now through New Year’s Day, so that you have some momentum to keep fueling that goal? You decide to have a healthy snack at home before the party so that once you’re there, you can enjoy your favorite things, but you don’t over do it and better yet, you don’t feel deprived! After the party, physically, you feel good and emotionally you feel wonderful.

Yes, this is a very simple example, but what I want you to see is that you always have two choices ahead of you. Whatever your goal may be, you can choose the healthier, more fulfilling path by thinking positively and thinking ahead, or you can make it much more difficult for yourself by taking the oft-easier, but sadder path of negativity.

Also, no matter what your goal for the New Year might be, take this to heart: You do not need to become a new person. Who you are is unique, wonderful and the culmination of all of your life’s circumstances and events. Why would you want to erase that? Sure, we all have areas we’d like to improve and goals we’d like to reach for – that is healthy! I challenge you to pursue a new version of YOURSELF, not a whole new you!

Many blessings to you and yours this holiday season and in the New Year to come!

Originally posted 2013-12-27 22:53:09.