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		<title>Raising Resilient Kids in a Hyper-Connected World</title>
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<p>By Corey Pitts for BetterHelp</p>
<p>Parenting has never been easy, but the job now follows families into places previous generations never had to manage. A child can be sitting at the kitchen table, completely safe at home, and still be absorbing the unrelenting pressure of group chats, online conflict, and social comparison that does not pause when the day ends, <a href="https://www.betterhelp.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">BetterHelp</a> reports.</p>
<h3>Key takeaways</h3>
<ul>
<li data-list-item-id="e810947d71b326d37bc07efb91f2ae2bc">Modern parenting has become harder because children’s stress now follows them home through social media, group chats, comparison, and constant digital connection.</li>
<li data-list-item-id="eca0bbadd65a02a2e9429403e99989c3d">Social media can intensify anxiety, depression, body image concerns, and identity pressure, especially for adolescents who are still developing emotionally.</li>
<li data-list-item-id="ed011e6ccb4fdd3b0f8ae96e5cd100193">Mothers often carry much of the invisible mental load of modern caregiving, including monitoring children’s emotional well-being, online exposure, and digital boundaries.</li>
<li data-list-item-id="ee8b9cf4d88f634a02915769d39a5d0a0">Resilience today is less about toughness and more about emotional awareness, healthy coping, flexibility, and support from trusted adults.</li>
<li data-list-item-id="edb5228694dc5f3bf60b44e057f7d1ff8">Families can build healthier digital habits through open conversations, shared technology rules, offline connection, and access to mental health support.</li>
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<p>Pew Research Center found that <a href="https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2020/07/28/parenting-children-in-the-age-of-screens/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">two-thirds of U.S. parents say parenting is harder today than it was 20 years ago</a>, with many pointing to technology and social media as central reasons.</p>
<p>The concern parents describe goes far beyond screen time, reaching into how <a href="https://www.hhs.gov/surgeongeneral/reports-and-publications/youth-mental-health/social-media/index.html" target="_blank" rel="noopener">childhood now unfolds through a constant stream of information, reaction, and judgment</a> before many children have the emotional foundation to process it.</p>
<p>Mothers, in particular, have found themselves absorbing the weight of that pressure in ways the culture rarely stops to examine.</p>
<h3>The new landscape of childhood stress</h3>
<p>Childhood stress has always existed, but the form children live with today is different in ways that were not possible a generation ago.</p>
<p>The U.S. Surgeon General has warned that children and adolescents who spend more than three hours daily on social media face double the risk of anxiety and depression, and recent data shows that teenagers now average 3.5 hours on those platforms each day.</p>
<p>Psychologist Jonathan Haidt, in his book The Anxious Generation, traced the sharp <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/video/opinion/100000010079854/parenting-in-the-age-of-social-media-and-help-ai.html" target="_blank" rel="noopener">rise in youth mental health struggles back to around 2012 and 2013</a>, tracking closely with the moment smartphones became standard in children&#8217;s lives. A generation ago, stress tied to school or peers was mostly contained to specific places and times.</p>
<p>Today, it travels with children everywhere they go, and the free, unstructured time that researchers have long connected to healthy emotional development has been steadily replaced by digital pull and the expectation of constant availability.</p>
<p><a href="https://www.nysut.org/about/officers/melinda-person" target="_blank" rel="noopener">New York State United Teachers president Melinda Person</a> has observed that constant device use is affecting students&#8217; ability to focus and <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/your-personal-renaissance/202605/freeing-our-children-from-the-harm-of-social-media" target="_blank" rel="noopener">be present in reality, and engage in authentic learning</a>.</p>
<h3>Social media, comparison, and identity formation</h3>
<p>Courts are now adding legal weight to what researchers have been documenting for years. In March 2026, a California jury found Meta and Google liable for deliberately engineering Instagram and YouTube to be addictive and for undermining the mental health of children and teenagers.</p>
<p>The architecture behind that ruling connects directly to what millions of teenagers experience every day. These platforms are built to deliver constant social feedback, from likes and follower counts to a steady feed of images showing how others look and live, and adolescents whose sense of self is still taking shape process those signals in ways that adults typically do not.</p>
<p>The U.S. Surgeon General has found that 46% of adolescents say social media makes them feel worse about their bodies, and the harm runs deeper than body image. Figuring out who you are has always been one of adolescence&#8217;s most demanding tasks, but that process now unfolds on a public, permanent stage rather than a private one.</p>
<p>In <a href="https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2025/04/22/teens-social-media-and-mental-health/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Pew Research&#8217;s survey</a>, one teen girl said her peers feel &#8220;they have to look and be like them or they won&#8217;t be liked.&#8221; Parents, who largely formed their sense of self away from a public audience, tend to see social media as something that can be managed or put down, but most teenagers experience it as the space where their social lives actually exist.</p>
<p>That difference helps explain why conversations about digital life can be so hard to start. <a href="https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2025/04/22/teens-social-media-and-mental-health/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Pew Research</a> found that while 80% of parents say they are comfortable talking with their teen about mental health, only 52% of teens feel the same way.</p>
<h3>The hidden mental load on mothers</h3>
<p>The hardest parts of modern parenting are often the ones no one sees, and mothers are still the ones most likely to carry them. Research from the University of Southern California found that mothers report taking on roughly <a href="https://dornsife.usc.edu/news/stories/moms-cognitive-burden-chores/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">73%</a> of all cognitive household labor, and the tasks within that category reach far beyond scheduling and logistics.</p>
<p>They include tracking mood changes, absorbing children&#8217;s digital anxieties, staying ahead of what children are being exposed to online, and making invisible decisions each day about how much access is too much and when concern becomes overprotection.</p>
<p>The pressure grows because mothers are often sorting through conflicting advice with no clear agreement on where protection ends and <a href="https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/teenagers/how-to-raise-independent-teenagers-while-staying-connected/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">independence begins</a>. And that uncertainty makes modern caregiving feel constant, because the watching, weighing, and second-guessing rarely stop at the end of the day.</p>
<h3>What resilience looks like today</h3>
<p>Resilience has been redefined, and the new version applies as much to the adults raising children as it does to the children themselves. Rather than pushing through pain or performing toughness, resilience now looks like knowing how to name what you are feeling, adapting when plans fall apart, and finding ways to manage stress that do not make things worse.</p>
<p>Journalist and author <a href="https://www.cnbc.com/2025/04/10/harvard-expert-this-is-the-key-to-raising-resilient-kids.html" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Jennifer Breheny Wallace</a> has written that &#8220;a child&#8217;s resilience is rooted in the resilience of the adults in their lives,&#8221; and that framing puts shared responsibility at the center. Children build it when adults around them stay honest about difficulty rather than hiding it.</p>
<p>Parents build it by accepting that they are not supposed to have every answer and that modeling how to struggle well is one of the most useful things a caregiver can do. Resilience, for everyone, grows through support rather than pressure.</p>
<h3>The role of support for both kids and parents</h3>
<p>Raising children through these pressures is not something families can sustain alone, and research backs that up. The <a href="https://scholarworks.uni.edu/grp/4620/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">American Psychological Association</a> found that 48% of parents describe their stress as completely overwhelming, compared to 26% of other adults, and 41% say they feel so stressed they cannot function.</p>
<p>And children absorb that stress from the adults around them, which means support for parents is also support for kids. Schools and community networks play a real part here, creating structures where children find connection and parents find others who understand what they are actually facing.</p>
<p>Professional support has also grown far more reachable, making it possible to connect with licensed therapists by video, phone, or message without the cost and scheduling obstacles that have long kept people away.</p>
<p>A recent <a href="https://childmind.org/about-us/reports/2025-study/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Child Mind Institute study</a> found that 92% of parents and 88% of young people share the same core values around emotional health, and that common ground is steadily changing how families talk about mental well-being, moving it from a crisis response into a more ordinary, ongoing conversation.</p>
<h3>Navigating the digital world without fear</h3>
<p>Online safety is one of the biggest concerns parents carry today, but the goal has never been to keep children away from technology entirely. The approach that tends to work starts with conversation, and research from <a href="https://www.nationwidechildrens.org/family-resources-education/700childrens/2022/03/healthy-digital-boundaries-for-kids" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Nationwide Children’s Hospital</a> supports creating family rules around technology together rather than handing down rules children had no part in making.</p>
<p>Teaching a child to pause and question what they are seeing on a screen is a more lasting skill than any parental control app, but that skill also needs room to develop away from the screen itself.</p>
<p>Time offline gives children real friendships, physical movement, and open-ended moments that no feed or algorithm can replace, while still leaving room for technology to play a useful role.</p>
<p><a href="https://www.uab.edu/news/news-you-can-use/how-to-set-healthy-boundaries-on-social-media" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Kaylee Crockett</a>, PhD, a clinical health psychologist at the University of Alabama at Birmingham, has noted that “social media carries both risks and benefits,” and holding both of those truths together may be where healthier digital habits begin.</p>
<h3>Takeaways</h3>
<p>Mothers take on more than most people see, and much of what they carry never gets named, let alone celebrated.</p>
<p>Research makes clear that raising resilient children is not a task any one person can do alone. <a href="https://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/this-mothers-day-research-offers-a-new-way-to-see-the-support-mothers-need-302760214.html" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Dr. Martha G. Welch, MD</a>, whose work examines maternal support networks, has said that &#8220;support is not optional, it is foundational,&#8221; and building systems that care for caregivers as much as they care for children remains urgent and unfinished work.</p>
<p><a href="https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/family/tending-to-your-mental-health-as-an-overwhelmed-single-mom/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Access to mental health resources is expanding</a>, and conversations within families are growing more open as the cultural understanding of what modern parenting actually demands slowly catches up with reality. The families working through all of this, day after day, deserve support that matches the size of the job.</p>
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<p>Over the past decade, India&#8217;s relationship with mental health care has shifted meaningfully. Conversations that once just remained behind closed doors are now happening more openly. Workplaces have started to acknowledge burnout and stress in ways that they did not before. Families are now reaching out for professional support earlier than previous generations did. And across the country, the demand for structured, clinical mental health and addiction treatment has grown at a pace that the existing infrastructure is still working to match.</p>
<p>Within that national picture as a whole, Hyderabad has emerged as one of the cities where the response to that demand has been most visible. A combination of established medical infrastructure, growing specialist capacity, and increasing public awareness has positioned the city as a meaningful centre for rehabilitation and mental health care in South India and even beyond that.</p>
<p><strong>The Rising Need for Mental Health and Addiction Treatment</strong></p>
<p>The treatment gap for mental health conditions in India still remains wide. Estimates from national health surveys have shown that the majority of people living with diagnosable mental health conditions, including substance use disorders, depression, anxiety, and psychotic conditions, do not receive any formal clinical care. The reasons are familiar. They are stigma, cost, limited awareness, and, in many parts of the country, a straightforward lack of accessible services.</p>
<p>However, Hyderabad has seen a measurable shift in this pattern. Awareness campaigns run through schools, corporate organisations, and community health programmes have already contributed to a greater willingness to identify and name mental health problems. Whereas, families in Hyderabad are increasingly looking for professional support for addiction and psychiatric conditions and they restrain themselves from managing them privately at home or through informal community networks.</p>
<p>For those who are looking for a <a href="https://www.jagrutirehab.org/rehabilitation-centre-in-hyderabad.html" target="_blank" rel="noopener">rehabilitation centre in Hyderabad</a>, the range of available options has grown considerably over the past several years. But the growth in demand has also highlighted how much further the system needs to develop in order to meet the needs.</p>
<p>Addiction treatment in particular has seen rising referral volumes across the city. “We are seeing people with alcohol dependency, prescription drug misuse, and substance use disorders at a rate that mirrors their increasing prevalence and increasing willingness to seek help,” say specialists. Mental health professionals in Hyderabad say the profile of people coming forward for treatment has also widened. Younger age groups, as well as working professionals, now represent a larger share of those seeking support than in previous years.</p>
<p><strong>Healthcare Infrastructure Is Supporting Growth</strong></p>
<p>One reason Hyderabad has become an important centre for addiction treatment is the strength of its broader healthcare system. In recent years, the city has achieved a reputation as a major centre for medicine, pharmaceuticals, biotechnology and specialist health care. The environment has created the right conditions for rehab centres to grow along with a strong network of hospitals and mental health professionals and even medical institutions.</p>
<p>For those who choose to get treatment, it also means improved access to experienced clinicians and a broader array of support services along the road to recovery.</p>
<p>Some of the factors that contribute to the growing rehabilitation landscape in Hyderabad are:</p>
<ul>
<li>A well-established healthcare ecosystem that is supported by public and private investment</li>
<li>Access to qualified psychiatrists, psychologists, and addiction specialists</li>
<li>Medical colleges and training institutions that provide professionals with expertise in mental health and addiction care</li>
<li>Strong referral networks between hospitals, psychiatrists, and rehab facilities</li>
<li>Increase in availability of specialised treatment for co-occurring mental health conditions</li>
</ul>
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<p>The quality of a rehabilitation programme is closely tied to the strength of its clinical team, whereas detoxification is often the first step; long-term recovery typically requires much more than managing withdrawal symptoms alone.</p>
<p>The most effective facilities are those that can provide access to:</p>
<ul>
<li>Consultant psychiatrists</li>
<li>Licensed clinical psychologists</li>
<li>Experienced addiction counsellors</li>
<li>Mental health professionals who are trained in dual diagnosis treatment</li>
<li>Ongoing therapeutic support throughout recovery</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>This multidisciplinary approach allows treatment providers to address not only substance dependence but also the underlying emotional, psychological, and behavioural factors that often contribute to addiction.</p>
<p>Another important development has been the growth of services beyond residential treatment. In the past years, several individuals completed inpatient care and then faced the challenge of returning directly to everyday life with limited support.</p>
<p>Today, a broader continuum of care has become available across Hyderabad that includes:</p>
<ul>
<li>Partial Hospitalisation Programmes (PHPs)</li>
<li>Intensive Outpatient Programmes (IOPs)</li>
<li>Relapse prevention support</li>
<li>Structured aftercare services</li>
<li>Ongoing counselling &amp; recovery planning</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>These services help in creating a smoother transition from residential treatment back into work, along with family responsibilities and daily routines. It also gives individuals access to continued support during one of the most important stages of recovery.</p>
<p><strong>Rehabilitation Services Are Expanding Across the City</strong></p>
<p>The expansion of rehabilitation facilities in Hyderabad shows how a market is responding to documented demand. Over the past several years, the number of residential rehabilitation centres that operate in and around the city has grown significantly. The range of models on offer has also diversified from basic detoxification units to comprehensive programmes offering integrated psychiatric care, family therapy, and structured relapse prevention.</p>
<p>Organisations with established rehabilitation networks in other parts of India have also extended their services to Hyderabad, which further brings with it clinical models refined across multiple facilities and patient populations. The <a href="https://maps.app.goo.gl/N82deLfsGvRnDhUx5" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Jagruti Rehabilitation Centre in Hyderabad</a> is among the facilities that have expanded into this market, which further offers residential addiction treatment and mental health rehabilitation as part of a broader network of care.</p>
<p>The growth in facility numbers has also brought greater variation in the level and quality of care on offer, which means that families who navigate this space need to evaluate clinical standards carefully rather than just making decisions based on proximity or cost alone. The markers that distinguish a well-run rehabilitation facility from a basic one, including on-site psychiatric oversight, individualised treatment planning, family involvement, and structured aftercare, remain the most reliable indicators of likely treatment quality regardless of how the facility presents itself.</p>
<p>What the expansion does represent is a genuine broadening of access. Families in Telangana and neighbouring states who previously had limited local options, or who faced the disruption of travelling to another region for residential care, now have a more viable range of services within reach.</p>
<p><strong>Why Hyderabad Is Becoming a Preferred Destination for Recovery</strong></p>
<p>Over the past several years, Hyderabad has become one of the cities many families consider when looking for addiction treatment or mental health support. It was once a destination known primarily for healthcare, pharmaceuticals, and technology. But the city is now also developing a reputation for quality rehabilitation services.</p>
<p>The reasons are practical rather than just accidental.</p>
<p>For many families across South and Central India, getting to Hyderabad is relatively straightforward. It is because the city is well-connected by major road networks, railway routes, and a busy international airport, which makes travel easier than it might be to some of the country&#8217;s larger metropolitan centres.</p>
<p>This accessibility has made Hyderabad a treatment destination for people coming not only from Telangana but also from neighbouring states such as:</p>
<ul>
<li>Andhra Pradesh</li>
<li>Karnataka</li>
<li>Maharashtra</li>
<li>Odisha, and</li>
<li>Chhattisgarh</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Another factor is the changing conversation around mental health.</p>
<p>Like much of India, stigma still exists. However, Hyderabad&#8217;s large professional workforce and growing awareness of mental health issues have helped create an environment where seeking treatment has become more accepted than it once was. For many individuals and families, that shift can make the decision to ask for help feel less daunting.</p>
<p>Access to ongoing support also plays an important role.</p>
<p>Recovery rarely ends when a residential programme finishes. Most people benefit from continued guidance when returning to work, family responsibilities, and everyday routines. Hyderabad&#8217;s rehabilitation ecosystem has also expanded to include a range of services that support this longer-term process, which are:</p>
<ul>
<li>Outpatient treatment programmes</li>
<li>Ongoing psychiatric care</li>
<li>Recovery support groups</li>
<li>Alumni communities</li>
<li>Relapse prevention services</li>
<li>Continuing counselling and therapy</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>These resources can provide valuable continuity after residential treatment. It further helps people maintain momentum as they move through different stages of recovery.</p>
<p>No single reason explains Hyderabad&#8217;s growth as a rehabilitation destination. Instead, it has emerged through a combination of factors working together:</p>
<ul>
<li>Strong healthcare infrastructure</li>
<li>Increase in availability of specialist clinicians</li>
<li>Greater public awareness of mental health</li>
<li>Growth in investment in addiction treatment services</li>
<li>Expansion of long-term recovery support networks</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>The demand for addiction and mental health treatment across India continues to exceed the resources currently available. Even so, Hyderabad&#8217;s continued development in this area shows a broader effort in improving access to care and creating more pathways to recovery for people who need support.</p>
<p>While challenges remain, the city&#8217;s rehab sector continues to grow and offers individuals and families more treatment options than were available just a few years ago.</p>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Staci-lee Sherwood]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 15 Jun 2026 17:00:40 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p><img width="715" height="488" src="https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-899748046.jpg" class="attachment-featured-img size-featured-img wp-post-image" alt="" style="align:centre; margin-bottom:40px; height: 300px; width: 600px;" decoding="async" srcset="https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-899748046.jpg 715w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-899748046-300x205.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 715px) 100vw, 715px" />Hidden away in a long list of consumer products is an ingredient whose use is directly causing the extinction of Orangutans.</p>
<p>The post <a href="https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/orangutans-are-going-extinct-for-a-product-we-dont-need/">Orangutans Are Going Extinct for a Product We Don’t Need</a> appeared first on <a href="https://goodmenproject.com">The Good Men Project</a>.</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<img width="715" height="488" src="https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-899748046.jpg" class="attachment-featured-img size-featured-img wp-post-image" alt="" style="align:centre; margin-bottom:40px; height: 300px; width: 600px;" decoding="async" srcset="https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-899748046.jpg 715w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-899748046-300x205.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 715px) 100vw, 715px" /><p>Hidden away in a long list of consumer products is an ingredient whose use is directly causing the extinction of Orangutans. The destruction caused by logging for palm oil has devastated their population bringing them to the brink of extinction. Many other species have also been adversely affected as their habit is being destroyed. Palm oil isn’t even something we need to survive. The industry has caught on to consumer awareness and has relabeled palm oil and its derivatives under a long list of names intended to hide the truth from consumers. Their actions show us they know they’re doing something wrong.</p>
<p><strong>Companies who do this should be boycotted. If they lie about using palm oil what else do they lie about? No ingredient is worth permanent destruction of land or causing extinction of any species.</strong></p>
<p><strong>So much destruction for something unnecessary</strong></p>
<p>Industry will tell you the benefits of using palm oil but never the down side. They openly ignore the crisis they have created while hoping consumers fail to see through their lies. There are better sustainable alternatives to use such as coconut or sunflower oil for cooking. For soaps and cosmetics look for products using shea butter, cocoa butter or jojoba oil for moisturizing. These have all been around for years and time tested. A newer addition to alternatives is microbial oil which is made by fermenting sugar is a high-tech alternative.</p>
<p><strong>Plight of Orangutans</strong></p>
<p>During the Pleistocene era, fossil evidence suggests between 1.8 million years to 11,500 years ago, orangutans lived throughout much of Southeast Asia, from Java to southern China. Now they’re only found in Borneo and Sumatra. Orangutans are among the largest primates and considered the most intelligent of the great apes. Their historical home has been torn apart while their population has dropped to record lows. It’s estimated over 100,000 Bornean orangutans were killed between 1999 – 2015, a staggeringly high loss in just sixteen years. Maybe 50,000 exist in the wild but daily deforestation of their home leaves a bleak future.</p>
<p>Reproduction is slow. A single birth is typical and offspring stay with their mom for about eight years. Females reach maturity between ten and fifteen years and live to about forty five in the wild. In her lifetime the adult female will have just three offspring. Biruté Mary Galdikas, who recently passed away, spent decades studying and working closely with the orangutans of Indonesian Borneo. She founded the nonprofit Orangutan Foundation International and credited with saving orangutans and why we still have them today.</p>
<p>A 2024 study found that nearly 19 <strong>million</strong> acres in Indonesia have been cleared. The deforestation is devastating to the ecosystem and while much of the land is used for palm oil some remains idle after clearing. The loss of biodiversity can never be replaced once lost. This industry also increases Green House Gas which drives the warming of the planet leading to more severe storms, droughts, wildfires and floods. The biggest commercial markets driving the deforestation are India, China and The EU.</p>
<p>Click here to read the study</p>
<p><a href="https://www.pnas.org/doi/full/10.1073/pnas.2318029121"><strong>https://www.pnas.org/doi/full/10.1073/pnas.2318029121</strong></a></p>
<p>A member of a rescue team walks towards an unconscious orangutan after he received an anesthetic shot at the Damage rainforest in central Kalimanatan province (AP file)</p>
<p><strong>The long list of Palm Oil names</strong></p>
<p>Product labels are suppose to tell consumers what they’re buying by showing what ingredients are used. Educated consumers can decipher what many ingredients are but the masses can’t. They often buy toxic products without knowing it. Tricky tactics are used to hide dangerous or controversial chemicals. Take Johnson &amp; Johnson Baby Powder that for years used deadly asbestos as a binder, hiding this fact under the ‘inactive or inert ingredients’ on the label. They also use palm oil in their products. Palm oil isn’t deadly to humans but the same tactics apply. They have proven themselves to be untrustworthy.</p>
<p>Palm oil is disguised under <strong>hundreds</strong> of names. The nonprofit Orangutan Foundation International compiled a list of all the names used on labels to hide the fact they either are wholly or partially derived from palm oil. Just to name a few; Palmate, Glycerin, Stearic acid, Vegetable emulsifier and Calcium stearate.</p>
<p>Click here for the full list</p>
<p><a href="https://orangutanfoundation.org.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/Palm-Oil-Alternative-Names-07-2019.pdf"><strong>https://orangutanfoundation.org.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/Palm-Oil-Alternative-Names-07-2019.pdf</strong></a></p>
<p><strong>The products and companies that use palm oil</strong></p>
<p>Palm oil is used in so many products it’s hard to keep track. Margarine, packaged goods (cake, cookies, chips) and spreads use it as do many toothpastes, shampoos, soaps, cleaning products and cosmetics. Best way to avoid palm oil in food is to ditch packaged goods which also contain many unhealthy additives high in saturated fat, dyes and pesticides. Sustainable brands can be found making it easier to replace using palm oil.</p>
<p>Click here for the guide to alternatives</p>
<p><a href="https://www.ethicalconsumer.org/palm-oil/brands-companies-use-palm-oil"><strong>https://www.ethicalconsumer.org/palm-oil/brands-companies-use-palm-oil</strong></a></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Some of the brands using palm oil: Nestle, Danone, PepsiCo, Kellogg’s, Johnson &amp; Johnson, Colgate Palmolive and L’Oreal. These behemoth companies don’t make natural sustainable products. In 2004 the nonprofit World Wildlife Fund created the RSPO (Roundtable on Sustainable Palm Oil) guideline. The WWF was created by and for trophy hunters, over the years there have been many controversies about them. We can’t rely on what they say on face value. The RSPO has many weaknesses such as lack of verification, failure to question the plantation, lack of enforcement. It’s more rubberstamping to assuage the public than help for oranguatans.</p>
<p>Click here to read about companies and deforestation</p>
<p><a href="https://earth.org/major-companies-responsible-for-deforestation/"><strong>https://earth.org/major-companies-responsible-for-deforestation/</strong></a></p>
<p>Many companies have been removed from the RSPO for failure to comply. If no one is held accountable companies have no reason to stop the deforestation</p>
<p><strong>How you can help </strong></p>
<p>Because palm oil use is so widespread and hidden best thing to do is get an app for your phone to use while you shop. This will educate you on what products use it. There are shopping guides that provide alternatives to palm oil products and nonprofits you can support that fight to save what few orangutans we have left. Products that use palm oil aren’t just funding cruelty and extinction, these products often contain other chemicals that are dangerous to use and consume.</p>
<ul>
<li>First thing to do is download the app to scan all products for palm oil, regardless of what they call it. You can download for wither android or iphones .</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li>Click here on your Android phone for Google Play Store app</li>
</ul>
<p><a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.venturedna.palmoil"><strong>https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.venturedna.palmoil</strong></a></p>
<ul>
<li>Click here on your iPhone for the Apple Store app</li>
</ul>
<p><a href="https://apps.apple.com/us/app/palmoil-scan/id671945416"><strong>https://apps.apple.com/us/app/palmoil-scan/id671945416</strong></a></p>
<ul>
<li>This App and barcode scanner are supported in the United States, Canada, the United Kingdom, New Zealand, Australia and Singapore</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li>Here is another app to try</li>
</ul>
<p><a href="https://palmsmart.azurewebsites.net/Home/TourApp"><strong>https://palmsmart.azurewebsites.net/Home/TourApp</strong></a></p>
<ul>
<li>To learn more about nonprofits working to save orangutans click here</li>
</ul>
<p>for the Orangutan Foundation founded by Birute Galdikas</p>
<p><a href="https://orangutan.org/"><strong>https://orangutan.org/</strong></a></p>
<ul>
<li>and here for Rainforest Action Network</li>
</ul>
<p><a href="https://www.ran.org/issue/the-businesses-driving-deforestation/"><strong>https://www.ran.org/issue/the-businesses-driving-deforestation/</strong></a></p>
<ul>
<li>Click here to learn more about all the species effected by deforestation for palm oil an excellent source for information rarely reported by the ‘news’ <a href="https://palmoildetectives.com/"><strong>https://palmoildetectives.com/</strong></a></li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li>Click here to learn about the certification</li>
</ul>
<p><a href="https://rspo.org/as-an-organisation/certification/"><strong>https://rspo.org/as-an-organisation/certification/</strong></a></p>
<ul>
<li>Watch this film on YouTube</li>
</ul>
<p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=chDeyAHI4ck&amp;t=4s"><strong>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=chDeyAHI4ck&amp;t=4s</strong></a></p>
<p>They only have your voice to survive</p>
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<p>This post was <a href="https://www.realitycheckswithstacilee.com/post/orangutans-are-going-extinct-for-a-product-we-don-t-need" target="_blank" rel="noopener">previously published on Reality Check with Staci Lee</a></p>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 15 Jun 2026 16:30:04 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p><img width="724" height="483" src="https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2201681286.jpg" class="attachment-featured-img size-featured-img wp-post-image" alt="" style="align:centre; margin-bottom:40px; height: 300px; width: 600px;" decoding="async" srcset="https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2201681286.jpg 724w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2201681286-300x200.jpg 300w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2201681286-594x396.jpg 594w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2201681286-600x400.jpg 600w" sizes="(max-width: 724px) 100vw, 724px" />I recently sat down with the brilliant Alexis Redding, a developmental psychologist at Harvard who is doing the heavy lifting to help us understand what’s actually going on with young adults today. </p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<img width="724" height="483" src="https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2201681286.jpg" class="attachment-featured-img size-featured-img wp-post-image" alt="" style="align:centre; margin-bottom:40px; height: 300px; width: 600px;" decoding="async" srcset="https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2201681286.jpg 724w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2201681286-300x200.jpg 300w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2201681286-594x396.jpg 594w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2201681286-600x400.jpg 600w" sizes="(max-width: 724px) 100vw, 724px" /><p id="p-rc_8dfaf92af92a7726-19" data-path-to-node="1"><span class="citation-51">I recently sat down with the brilliant Alexis Redding, a developmental psychologist at Harvard who is doing the heavy lifting to help us understand what’s actually going on with young adults today</span><span data-path-to-node="1,4">. </span></p>
<p data-path-to-node="1"><span class="citation-49">Alexis shared how we often look at the &#8220;kids these days&#8221; and think they’re living in a completely different world, but Alexis’s research shows that while the hashtags have changed, the big, messy feelings of figure-it-out-ness are the same as they were 50 years ago</span><span data-path-to-node="1,12">.</span></p>
<p data-path-to-node="1"><span class="citation-48">Whether you’re a parent to an almost teenager like I am, or a leader managing a Gen Z team, this episode is all about ditching the magic wand approach and getting real about our own stumbles to build authentic, human connections</span><span data-path-to-node="1,16">.</span></p>
<p data-path-to-node="1"><strong>Key Themes from the Conversation</strong></p>
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<li data-path-to-node="1"><span data-path-to-node="4,0,0,0"><strong data-path-to-node="4,0,0,0" data-index-in-node="0">Ditching the Direction for Exploration.</strong></span> <span class="citation-47">When giving advice to young people who aren&#8217;t yet self-authoring, it’s better to offer competing options that invite them to choose, rather than a single directive</span><span data-path-to-node="4,0,0,4">.</span></li>
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<p id="p-rc_8dfaf92af92a7726-21" data-path-to-node="4,0,1,0"><span class="citation-46">&#8220;They have not heard from me guidance and a suggestion, they have heard a direction&#8230; what I want to do instead is give them two possible answers that contradict with each other slightly, that invite exploration.&#8221; </span></p>
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<li id="p-rc_8dfaf92af92a7726-22" data-path-to-node="4,1,0"><span data-path-to-node="4,1,0,0"><strong data-path-to-node="4,1,0,0" data-index-in-node="0">The Power of the Messy Middle.</strong> </span><span class="citation-45">Leaders and mentors should share their own failures and C- moments to normalize the struggle and move away from the pressure of a perfect trajectory</span><span data-path-to-node="4,1,0,4">.</span></li>
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<p id="p-rc_8dfaf92af92a7726-23" data-path-to-node="4,1,1,0"><span class="citation-44">&#8220;I need them to know that I know what it feels like to get a C-, and to feel disoriented by that&#8230; and also to know that it was kind of okay on the other side.&#8221;</span></p>
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<p id="p-rc_8dfaf92af92a7726-24" data-path-to-node="4,2,0"><span data-path-to-node="4,2,0,0"><strong data-path-to-node="4,2,0,0" data-index-in-node="0">Re-evaluating the Mental Health Crisis Label.</strong></span> <span class="citation-43">Labeling every struggle as a crisis can ramp up the temperature and prevent honest, human conversations that might not actually require clinical intervention</span><span data-path-to-node="4,2,0,4">.</span></p>
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<p id="p-rc_8dfaf92af92a7726-25" data-path-to-node="4,2,1,0"><span class="citation-42">&#8220;If a student says, &#8216;I&#8217;m feeling really depressed,&#8217; what does that mean to you?&#8230; you might find in that conversation is that student is having an emotional reaction that does need clinical care&#8230; But we might equally find a student who says&#8230; &#8216;it just feels really hard this week.'&#8221;</span></p>
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<p id="p-rc_8dfaf92af92a7726-26" data-path-to-node="4,3,0"><span data-path-to-node="4,3,0,0"><strong data-path-to-node="4,3,0,0" data-index-in-node="0">Validation Over Problem-Solving.</strong></span> <span class="citation-41">The most effective way to support someone in a difficult transition is to sit with them in the uncertainty rather than rushing to fix the situation</span><span data-path-to-node="4,3,0,4">.</span></p>
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<p id="p-rc_8dfaf92af92a7726-27" data-path-to-node="4,3,1,0"><span class="citation-40">&#8220;It&#8217;s not validation for validation&#8217;s sake&#8230; it&#8217;s like, &#8216;that feels hard, and here&#8217;s the conversation we&#8217;re gonna have about it,&#8217; so that it is authentic, so that when that person walks away, they feel seen and heard.&#8221;</span></p>
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<h3 data-path-to-node="6">Actionable Takeaway</h3>
<p id="p-rc_8dfaf92af92a7726-28" data-path-to-node="7"><span data-path-to-node="7,1"><span class="citation-39">The next time a young person or a direct report comes to you with a struggle,</span> <strong data-path-to-node="7,1" data-index-in-node="78"><span class="citation-39">take three minutes to ask &#8220;What does that look like for you?&#8221; before offering a solution.</span></strong> <span class="citation-39">Resisting the urge to fix things immediately allows them to feel seen and often helps them identify their own path forward</span></span><span data-path-to-node="7,3">.</span></p>
<p data-path-to-node="7"><span data-path-to-node="7,3">Enjoy getting to know Alexis? Watch <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9V95WhTylz4">Alexis&#8217; TEDx Talk</a> and get her book <a href="https://hep.gse.harvard.edu/9798895570753/mental-health-in-college/">Mental Health in College</a>.</span></p>
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		<title>Why Some of Our Best Conversations Happen Away From Home</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Muhammad Abid]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 15 Jun 2026 16:00:36 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p><img width="725" height="482" src="https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2173988689.jpg" class="attachment-featured-img size-featured-img wp-post-image" alt="" style="align:centre; margin-bottom:40px; height: 300px; width: 600px;" decoding="async" srcset="https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2173988689.jpg 725w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2173988689-300x199.jpg 300w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2173988689-594x396.jpg 594w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2173988689-600x400.jpg 600w" sizes="(max-width: 725px) 100vw, 725px" />&#8212; It&#8217;s a strange thing. The people we care about most are often the people we talk to the least. Not because we don&#8217;t love them. Not because we don&#8217;t want to connect. But because life has a way of filling every available space. Work needs attention. Bills need to be paid. Kids need rides.&#8230;</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<img width="725" height="482" src="https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2173988689.jpg" class="attachment-featured-img size-featured-img wp-post-image" alt="" style="align:centre; margin-bottom:40px; height: 300px; width: 600px;" decoding="async" srcset="https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2173988689.jpg 725w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2173988689-300x199.jpg 300w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2173988689-594x396.jpg 594w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2173988689-600x400.jpg 600w" sizes="(max-width: 725px) 100vw, 725px" /><p>&#8212;</p>
<p>It&#8217;s a strange thing.</p>
<p>The people we care about most are often the people we talk to the least.</p>
<p>Not because we don&#8217;t love them.</p>
<p>Not because we don&#8217;t want to connect.</p>
<p>But because life has a way of filling every available space.</p>
<p>Work needs attention. Bills need to be paid. Kids need rides. Laundry needs folding. Phones keep buzzing. Emails keep arriving. Before long, entire weeks pass filled with logistics rather than conversations.</p>
<p>Many relationships don&#8217;t break down because people stop caring.</p>
<p>They break down because people stop having the kinds of conversations that allow them to truly know one another.</p>
<p>And sometimes the only way to create space for those conversations is to leave the environment that keeps interrupting them.</p>
<h2><strong><b>Home Is Wonderful, And Distracting</b></strong></h2>
<p>Most of us spend years building our lives around routines.</p>
<p>There is comfort in that.</p>
<p>The familiar coffee mug. The usual commute. The grocery store you know by heart. The neighborhood where you recognize faces.</p>
<p>But routines come with a hidden cost.</p>
<p>We begin operating on autopilot.</p>
<p>Conversations become transactional.</p>
<p>&#8220;Did you pay the electric bill?&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8220;What time is practice?&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8220;Can you pick up milk?&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8220;Don&#8217;t forget your appointment tomorrow.&#8221;</p>
<p>These exchanges are necessary, but they aren&#8217;t the conversations that deepen relationships.</p>
<p>They keep life moving.</p>
<p>They don&#8217;t necessarily help us feel connected.</p>
<h2><strong><b>Travel Changes the Conversation</b></strong></h2>
<p>One of the most overlooked benefits of travel has very little to do with the destination.</p>
<p>Travel changes how people interact.</p>
<p>When routines disappear, something else often emerges.</p>
<p>Curiosity.</p>
<p>People start asking different questions.</p>
<p>They notice things together. Share experiences. Talk about what they&#8217;re seeing. Discuss what surprises them.</p>
<p>The conversation naturally shifts away from obligations and toward observations, feelings, and ideas.</p>
<p>Many couples discover they talk more during a week of travel than they have during the previous month at home.</p>
<p>Parents often learn things about their children they never knew.</p>
<p>Friends remember why they became friends in the first place.</p>
<p>The environment changes, and somehow the conversations change too.</p>
<h2><strong><b>Shared Experiences Create Stronger Memories</b></strong></h2>
<p>Psychologists have long observed that experiences often create more lasting happiness than possessions.</p>
<p>Most of us don&#8217;t regularly revisit the television we bought five years ago.</p>
<p>But we revisit memories.</p>
<p>The unexpected rainstorm.</p>
<p>The wrong turn led to somewhere beautiful.</p>
<p>The small restaurant nobody planned to find.</p>
<p>The conversation that happened during a long drive.</p>
<p>These moments become part of family stories.</p>
<p>Years later, people rarely remember every detail of a trip. They remember how they felt.</p>
<p>And often, they remember who they shared it with.</p>
<h2><strong><b>The Value of Being Present Together</b></strong></h2>
<p>Modern life creates a strange illusion of connection.</p>
<p>We&#8217;re constantly communicating.</p>
<p>Texting. Messaging. Commenting. Sharing.</p>
<p>Yet many people feel increasingly disconnected.</p>
<p>Part of the reason may be that communication and presence are not the same thing.</p>
<p>Being physically present with someone in a new environment creates opportunities that digital communication struggles to replicate.</p>
<p>You experience the same sights.</p>
<p>React to the same events.</p>
<p>Create the same memories.</p>
<p>There is something powerful about experiencing life together in real time.</p>
<h2><strong><b>Travel permits us to Slow Down</b></strong></h2>
<p>Many adults struggle with rest.</p>
<p>Even vacations become projects.</p>
<p>Itineraries. Reservations. Schedules. Checklists.</p>
<p>But some of the most meaningful moments happen when nothing particularly productive is occurring.</p>
<p>A long walk.</p>
<p>A quiet morning.</p>
<p>A conversation over coffee.</p>
<p>Watching a sunset without checking a phone.</p>
<p>These moments are increasingly rare.</p>
<p>Travel sometimes permits us to reclaim them.</p>
<p>Not because the destination itself creates meaning, but because it removes many of the distractions competing for our attention.</p>
<h2><strong><b>Why Nature Changes People</b></strong></h2>
<p>One reason travelers are drawn to places with dramatic natural landscapes is that nature has a way of putting everyday concerns into perspective.</p>
<p>Standing beside a mountain range or overlooking a vast lake can create a sense of scale that is difficult to find in daily life.</p>
<p>Many people planning a <a href="https://www.littleamerica.co.uk/canada" target="_blank" rel="noopener"><u>Holiday to Canada</u></a> are drawn not only by the scenery but by the opportunity to disconnect from constant demands and reconnect with the people around them.</p>
<p>The experience isn&#8217;t simply about seeing a new place.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s about creating the conditions where meaningful experiences can happen.</p>
<p>And sometimes those experiences take the form of conversations that might never occur at home.</p>
<h2><strong><b>Children Remember More Than We Think</b></strong></h2>
<p>Parents often feel pressure to create perfect experiences.</p>
<p>Perfect vacations.</p>
<p>Perfect holidays.</p>
<p>Perfect memories.</p>
<p>But children rarely remember perfection.</p>
<p>They remember presence.</p>
<p>They remember feeling included.</p>
<p>They remember laughing together.</p>
<p>They remember the moments when adults were paying attention.</p>
<p>Years later, what often remains are not the details of the itinerary but the emotional experience of being together.</p>
<p>The feeling of belonging.</p>
<p>The sense of adventure.</p>
<p>The knowledge that someone made time for them.</p>
<h2><strong><b>The Journey Home</b></strong></h2>
<p>One of the most interesting parts of travel happens after it&#8217;s over.</p>
<p>People return home with the same jobs, responsibilities, and routines.</p>
<p>But often something subtle has changed.</p>
<p>A couple feels more connected.</p>
<p>A family feels closer.</p>
<p>A friendship feels refreshed.</p>
<p>The problems that existed before the trip may still exist.</p>
<p>Yet the relationship often feels stronger because people have spent time being fully present with one another.</p>
<p>The destination mattered.</p>
<p>But the connection mattered more.</p>
<h2><strong><b>What We&#8217;re Really Looking For</b></strong></h2>
<p>When people say they want a vacation, they are often talking about much more than travel.</p>
<p>Sometimes they want rest.</p>
<p>Sometimes they want adventure.</p>
<p>Sometimes they want perspective.</p>
<p>And sometimes they simply want uninterrupted time with people they love.</p>
<p>The older I get, the more I suspect that many of our best memories are not tied to places at all.</p>
<p>They&#8217;re tied to moments of connection.</p>
<p>Places simply provide the backdrop.</p>
<p>The real story is always about the people.</p>
<p>And perhaps that&#8217;s why some of our best conversations happen away from home.</p>
<p>For a little while, the noise gets quieter.</p>
<p>The distractions fade.</p>
<p>And we remember what it feels like to truly be present with one another.</p>
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		<title>Dark and Darker: The Ugly Underbelly of &#8216;American Exceptionalism&#8217;</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Richard Lowenthal]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 15 Jun 2026 15:30:20 +0000</pubDate>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<img width="724" height="483" src="https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-949403032.jpg" class="attachment-featured-img size-featured-img wp-post-image" alt="" style="align:centre; margin-bottom:40px; height: 300px; width: 600px;" decoding="async" srcset="https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-949403032.jpg 724w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-949403032-300x200.jpg 300w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-949403032-594x396.jpg 594w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-949403032-600x400.jpg 600w" sizes="(max-width: 724px) 100vw, 724px" /><p>For decades, I’ve heard the proud term “American exceptionalism” bandied about, mainly by conservatives. These folks describe the United States in glowing terms and insist it is an “exceptional,” even “divinely-inspired” nation. Since the rise of Donald Trump and MAGA in 2016, the idea has been folded into the broader Make America Great Again movement. More recently, Trump amplified it even further with his aggressive announcement of the so-called “Donroe Doctrine.”</p>
<p>But what does all this <em>mean</em>? What IS this strange concept of “American exceptionalism,” anyway, and why is it at the forefront of US politics again?</p>
<p>I’ve researched this idea extensively, thought about it at length, and talked with friends about it. Based on my research, thoughts, and conversations, I’ve concluded that the US <em>is</em>, indeed, quite exceptional — meaning, unique and very unusual. This is mainly due to its novel, unique status as a totally immigrant-based (“melting pot”) nation.</p>
<p>But in terms of positive attributes vs. negative ones, the US weighs in at about 1:5. That is, “American exceptionalism” has some positive aspects — but the negative aspects far outweigh the positive. And I can prove it.</p>
<p><strong>American Exceptionalism and Manifest Destiny</strong></p>
<p>The New World Encyclopedia section on “<a href="https://www.newworldencyclopedia.org/entry/American_exceptionalism">American exceptionalism</a>” says:</p>
<p><strong><em>“American exceptionalism</em></strong><em> has been historically referred to as the belief that the US differs qualitatively from other developed nations because of its national credo, historical evolution, or distinctive political and religious institutions. The difference is often expressed in American circles as some categorical superiority, to which is usually attached some alleged proof, rationalization or explanation…. However, the term can also be used in a negative sense by critics of American policies to refer to a willful nationalistic ignorance of faults [</em>crimes?<em>] committed by the American government.”</em></p>
<p>Later in the entry, the authors specifically link “American exceptionalism” to the 19th-century belief in America’s “manifest destiny”: the idea that God ordained the US to overspread North America and lay claim to all lands between the East and West coasts. They write:</p>
<p><em>“American exceptionalism is close to the idea of <a href="https://www.newworldencyclopedia.org/entry/Manifest_Destiny">Manifest Destiny</a>, a term used by Jacksonian Democrats in the 1840s to promote the annexation of much of what is now the Western United States (the <a href="https://www.newworldencyclopedia.org/entry/Oregon">Oregon</a> Territory, the <a href="https://www.newworldencyclopedia.org/entry/Texas">Texas</a> Annexation, and the <a href="https://www.newworldencyclopedia.org/entry/Mexico">Mexican</a> Cession). Manifest Destiny saw itself as extending liberty and democracy from sea to shining sea across the American continent….”</em></p>
<p>Yet another aspect of “American exceptionalism” is the widespread US attitude that our “specialness” and unique position among nations entitle us to ignore/flout international rules and laws. This attitude is peaking under the current Trump administration, which consistently flouts international law, disrespects and <a href="https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/world/here-are-all-the-us-allies-trump-insulted-in-his-davos-speech/ar-AA1UFMvT">insults allies</a> and venerable institutions such as NATO, and loudly asserts its right to attack and blockade other sovereign nations like Cuba, Venezuela, and Iran, at will.</p>
<p>The US even refuses to recognize the International Criminal Court and is one of the few modern nations to reject membership or even requests for cooperation. And the US, especially under Trump, has been increasingly hostile to the UN and all its proposals, research panels, and reports (for example, concerning climate change).</p>
<p><strong>Exceptionally good, exceptionally evil — or some of both?</strong></p>
<p>As should be clear from the above information, the idea of “American exceptionalism” is a mixed bag, to say the least. But I would go further and say that the entire concept is misguided, arrogant, and horribly racist and White-centric.</p>
<p>Sure, the US truly IS a unique and powerful nation that can easily qualify as “exceptional” — but that could also mean exceptionally <em>bad </em>or evil, and not necessarily “exceptionally good.”</p>
<p>Sadly, as I’ve explored this long-standing belief system, the dark side of “American exceptionalism” has become increasingly obvious and disturbing. Think about it: just under the surface of such beliefs as “American exceptionalism” and “manifest destiny” lurk several unwholesome, super-aggressive, and downright nasty, racist assumptions.</p>
<p>Take early US history. To expand from coast to coast, the (mainly) white settlers had to displace or even kill off the original inhabitants of the land, the Native Americans. We believed they were “inferior” and “uncivilized,” so we had no qualms about asserting our civilized “superiority,” stealing their land, forcing them onto “reservations,” and often wiping them out entirely. <em>We committed full-scale genocide.</em></p>
<p>Then, of course, there’s the glaring issue of slavery. The US was originally a slave-owning society, and much of our early expansion and progress was built on the backs of slave labor. It took the Civil War and the Civil Rights movement of the 1960–70s to reverse and, to some extent, undo the horrid racism and unfairness built into the original American system.</p>
<p>But today, under the potent influence of Trump and MAGA, racism and social inequities are rising fast. Many of the rights and freedoms of BIPOC citizens are again being t<a href="https://www.npr.org/2026/04/30/nx-s1-5805050/supreme-court-voting-rights-congressional-black-caucus">hreatened or even removed</a>. Under the new MAGA version of “American exceptionalism,” much of the social progress of our former liberal democracy is being actively attacked and reversed.</p>
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<p><strong>The Monroe Doctrine turns into the “Donroe Doctrine”</strong></p>
<p>Then there’s the famed “<a href="https://www.newworldencyclopedia.org/entry/Monroe_Doctrine">Monroe Doctrine</a>” — which Donald Trump has appropriated and rebranded as the “Donroe Doctrine.” According to this US doctrine, which was spearheaded by President James Monroe in 1823,</p>
<p><em>“European powers would no longer colonize or interfere with the affairs of the newly independent nations of the Americas. The United States planned to stay neutral in wars between European powers and their colonies. However, if these latter types of wars were to occur in the Americas, the United States would view such action as hostile….</em></p>
<p><em>The three main concepts of the doctrine — separate spheres of influence for the Americas and Europe, non-colonization, and non-intervention — were designed to signify a clear break between the Americas and the autocratic realm of Europe. Monroe’s administration forewarned the imperial European powers against interfering in the affairs of the newly independent Latin American states or potential United States territories. While Americans generally objected to European colonies in the Americas, they also desired to increase United States influence and trading ties throughout the region to their south.”</em></p>
<p>Fast forward to today, and Trump’s “Donroe Doctrine,” which is directly asserted in the 2025 US <a href="https://www.whitehouse.gov/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/2025-National-Security-Strategy.pdf">National Security Strategy</a>, looks and sounds like the Monroe Doctrine on steroids. It revitalizes and expands the belief that the US <em>should</em> exert overarching control over the Western hemisphere… precisely because we are so “exceptional” and powerful. It also asserts our perfect “right” to dominate and, in effect, <em>rule </em>the entire hemisphere.</p>
<p><strong>A dark stew of arrogance, racism, and white supremacy</strong></p>
<p>As I explored these interrelated American beliefs and doctrines, certain overt themes and similarities became glaringly obvious. Far from holding the US up as a benevolent, caring “beacon for humanity,” these themes and similarities revolve around white supremacy, extreme arrogance, racism, and willful aggression — all “justified” by our supposed “divine mission.”</p>
<p>At bottom, “American exceptionalism,” belief in America’s “manifest destiny,” the Monroe Doctrine, and today’s “Donroe Doctrine” all have two primary things in common: they are all bent on overt conquest and/or domination, and they carry and encourage strong racist, white supremacist attitudes. Plus, they arrogantly insist that US policies and actions are part of a “divine mission” — and are thus unassailable. They reek of imperialism and deep-seated racism.</p>
<p>So, I’m forced to conclude that the overall US belief in “American exceptionalism,” including all the variations mentioned above, is inherently immoral, unethical, uber-aggressive, and violence-promoting.</p>
<p>There have been times in US history — especially the period between World War II and the early 1980s — when the US (briefly) lived up to its promise and its self-promoted reputation as a beacon of hope and freedom. For a short while, the US <em>was</em> truly exceptional — in a good way. For a short while, in the second half of the 20th century, the US was deeply respected and even revered around the world.</p>
<p>But with the rise and triumph of MAGA and “Trumpism,” the US lost <em>all </em>of its positive momentum — and positive image. And no wonder, for we are steadily reverting to and expanding on our racist, aggressive, domination-oriented past. Today, justice, fairness, racial equality, and equal opportunity are all declining or fading, while extreme oligarchy, White supremacy, and (White) Christian Nationalism are rising fast.</p>
<p>Perhaps my earlier assessment of “American exceptionalism” as one part positive to five parts negative was too generous. In reality, an accurate ratio might be closer to one part positive to <em>ten </em>parts negative.</p>
<p>This is nothing to be proud of. “American exceptionalism” has <em>always </em>been a major, ongoing cause of horrific moral, ethical, and humanitarian lapses and disasters. We are usually <em>not </em>the “good guys” we imagine ourselves to be. In fact, today we’re morphing — rapidly — into a highly dangerous <em>rogue nation</em>.</p>
<p>If we can’t or <em>won’t</em> turn things around in our country, the US may go down in history as an exceptionally arrogant, aggressive, and even <em>evil</em> nation.</p>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 15 Jun 2026 15:15:53 +0000</pubDate>
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<p>Entrepreneurial growth often begins with urgency. A founder sees an opportunity, moves quickly and builds the business through direct involvement. This early stage can be highly effective because decisions are fast, communication is immediate and the leadership team remains close to customers and daily operations.</p>
<p>Over time, however, growth creates a different set of demands. The company must move from personal control to organisational structure. It needs financial systems, internal teams, management processes and risk controls that allow the business to operate consistently at greater scale.</p>
<p>The business themes connected with Sanjeev Kumar Soosaipillai and Arani Kumar Soosaipillai provide a useful case study for this transition. They show how entrepreneurial momentum must eventually be supported by structure if it is to become sustainable company development.</p>
<p><strong>From Start-Up Energy to Trading Stability</strong></p>
<p>The first challenge for many entrepreneurial businesses is trading stability. Early success may come from determination and opportunity, but stability requires repeatable performance. The company must be able to serve customers, pay suppliers, cover costs and generate enough cash to keep operating.</p>
<p>Sanjeev Kumar Soosaipillai&#8217;s business context highlights the importance of financial control at this stage. In sectors involving retail, supply or physical assets, growth depends heavily on working capital. Stock must be purchased, rent must be paid and supplier obligations must be managed.</p>
<p>A business that lacks financial visibility can become trapped in short-term problem-solving. Every late payment, cost increase or stock shortage can become urgent. Trading stability gives leadership room to plan rather than simply react.</p>
<p><strong>Formalising the Organisation</strong></p>
<p>As a company moves beyond the earliest stage, informal arrangements become less reliable. The founder may still set the direction, but employees need clearer roles, responsibilities and reporting lines. Managers need to know what decisions they can make and how performance should be reviewed.</p>
<p>Formal structure does not have to make a company slow. When designed well, it improves speed because people no longer need to wait for constant approval or interpret unclear expectations. Structure gives employees a framework for action.</p>
<p>Arani Kumar Soosaipillai&#8217;s role can be viewed through this lens of organisational development. Corporate functions such as HR, recruitment, internal communication and policy development help convert a growing business into a more professional organisation. They give the company a clearer operating rhythm.</p>
<p><strong>Developing Internal Teams</strong></p>
<p>Growth eventually requires the founder to rely on others. This can be one of the most important transitions in any founder-led company because the original business may have been built around personal judgement and direct oversight. Delegation becomes necessary, but it only works when the right people and systems are in place.</p>
<p>Developing internal teams means more than adding headcount. It requires understanding which capabilities the business needs as it grows. Finance, operations, HR, procurement, compliance and management may all need to become more formal over time.</p>
<p>The quality of internal teams affects resilience. If knowledge sits with one or two people, the business is vulnerable. If managers are not trained, employees receive inconsistent direction. Strong teams spread capability across the organisation and reduce dependence on the founder.</p>
<p><strong>Managing Risk During Expansion</strong></p>
<p>Entrepreneurial companies often grow because they are willing to take risks. That willingness can be valuable, but risk must be managed more carefully as the business becomes larger. More employees, customers, suppliers and contracts mean that mistakes can have wider consequences.</p>
<p>Risk management begins with visibility. Leaders need accurate information about cash flow, operational performance, legal obligations and workforce issues. They also need processes that bring problems to attention before they become serious.</p>
<p>Managing risk does not mean avoiding opportunity. It means understanding whether the company has the capital, people, systems and management capacity to support a decision. Structure helps leadership ask those questions before expansion creates new commitments.</p>
<p><strong>Creating Processes That Support Scale</strong></p>
<p>Processes are sometimes viewed with suspicion in entrepreneurial businesses because they can be associated with bureaucracy. That concern is understandable when processes are poorly designed. Good processes, however, reduce confusion and help people act with confidence.</p>
<p>A growing business needs repeatable processes for recruitment, onboarding, purchasing, reporting, performance management and internal communication. These processes help ensure that common activities are handled reliably. They also make training easier because employees are not dependent only on informal instruction.</p>
<p>The key is proportionality. A developing business does not need the structure of a multinational, but it does need enough organisation to avoid repeated mistakes. Processes should support commercial activity, not distract from it.</p>
<p><strong>Balancing Entrepreneurial Drive with Professional Management</strong></p>
<p>The strongest growing businesses do not abandon their entrepreneurial character. They retain the ability to identify opportunities, move quickly and make practical decisions. What changes is the support system around that drive.</p>
<p>Financial discipline ensures ambition does not outrun cash flow. HR systems ensure headcount becomes capability rather than complexity. Governance supports better decisions, while communication keeps employees aligned. These elements allow entrepreneurial energy to operate within a more reliable framework.</p>
<p>This balance is often difficult because founders may fear that structure will slow the business down. In practice, the right structure can create more freedom. It allows leaders to focus on strategy because the organisation is better able to manage daily operations.</p>
<p><strong>Building a Company That Can Last</strong></p>
<p><a href="https://thebossmagazine.com/post/sanjeev-kumar-soosaipillai-workplace-safety/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Sanjeev Kumar Soosaipillai</a> and Arani Kumar Soosaipillai can be presented as part of a wider business case study in building structure around growth. One side of the story concerns commercial development, working capital and operational expansion. The other concerns people systems, internal teams and corporate infrastructure.</p>
<p>The connection between these elements is what makes growth sustainable. A business needs commercial opportunity, but it also needs the systems required to manage that opportunity. Without structure, expansion can become unstable. Without entrepreneurial drive, structure can become static.</p>
<p>This balance is also important for morale. Employees in a growing company often want clarity about priorities, but they do not want to feel trapped by unnecessary rules. Practical structure helps them understand expectations while still leaving room for initiative, judgement and commercial responsiveness.</p>
<p>The transition from start-up activity to formal business structure is therefore not a loss of entrepreneurial spirit. It is a necessary stage in turning that spirit into a company capable of lasting. Growth begins with momentum, but it endures through disciplined systems and professional management.</p>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 15 Jun 2026 15:00:04 +0000</pubDate>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<img width="724" height="483" src="https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-1189369807.jpg" class="attachment-featured-img size-featured-img wp-post-image" alt="" style="align:centre; margin-bottom:40px; height: 300px; width: 600px;" decoding="async" srcset="https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-1189369807.jpg 724w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-1189369807-300x200.jpg 300w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-1189369807-594x396.jpg 594w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-1189369807-600x400.jpg 600w" sizes="(max-width: 724px) 100vw, 724px" /><p>A man keeps returning to relationships that emotionally exhaust him.</p>
<p>A woman repeatedly apologizes for things that are not her fault.</p>
<p>A founder burns out every two years, promises balance, downloads another productivity app, and starts the cycle again.</p>
<p>A corporate leader commands boardrooms with confidence but cannot sit alone in silence for ten minutes without reaching for a screen, a drink, or another meeting.</p>
<p>From the outside, these patterns look irrational.</p>
<p>From the inside, they often feel strangely safe.</p>
<p>That is the terrifying elegance of coherence theory.</p>
<p>The idea that most human beings are not behaving randomly, foolishly, or weakly — but coherently.</p>
<p>Even when they are suffering.</p>
<p>Especially when they are suffering.</p>
<p>And perhaps that explains one of the most painful truths about adulthood:</p>
<p>People do not merely fear change.</p>
<p>They fear becoming someone emotionally unfamiliar to themselves.</p>
<p><strong>The Human Mind Prefers Familiar Pain Over Unfamiliar Peace</strong></p>
<p>Modern self-help culture sells transformation like a software update.</p>
<p><em>Wake up at 5 AM.<br />
Drink electrolytes.<br />
Journal.<br />
Meditate.<br />
Cold shower.<br />
Protein intake.<br />
Digital detox.<br />
Therapy.<br />
Healing.</em></p>
<p>The assumption underneath all of this is simple:</p>
<p><em>If people know better, they will do better.</em></p>
<p><em>But what if awareness is not the real problem?</em></p>
<p><em>What if the problem is that the current version of you still serves an emotional purpose?</em></p>
<p>That changes the entire conversation.</p>
<p>Because suddenly procrastination is no longer laziness. It may be protection.</p>
<p>Perfectionism may not be ambition. It may be fear disguised as excellence.</p>
<p>People-pleasing may not be kindness.It may be attachment insurance.</p>
<p>Emotional avoidance may not be indifference.It may be survival.</p>
<p>And this is where coherence theory becomes deeply uncomfortable.</p>
<p>Because it suggests that many of the behaviors ruining our lives are also the behaviors that once emotionally saved us.</p>
<p><strong>We Call It Personality. Sometimes It Is Just Survival With Better Branding.</strong></p>
<p>One of the most confronting realizations in psychotherapy is this:</p>
<p>Many people do not actually know who they are outside their coping mechanisms.</p>
<p>The “strong independent woman” who struggles to receive help because vulnerability once invited disappointment.</p>
<p>The “logical man” who prides himself on emotional control because somewhere during adolescence he learned that softness was humiliating.</p>
<p>The endlessly productive entrepreneur who panics during stillness because silence forces him to confront emotional exhaustion.</p>
<p>The socially charismatic extrovert who secretly fears being emotionally known.</p>
<p>The parent who confuses sacrifice with love because their own upbringing never taught them emotional expression.</p>
<p>We romanticize these patterns because society rewards functional suffering.</p>
<p>India, especially, has mastered this.</p>
<p><em>We glorify overwork.<br />
Normalize emotional suppression.<br />
Reward martyrdom.<br />
Celebrate endurance.</em></p>
<p>And then quietly wonder why anxiety, loneliness, emotional numbness, and burnout are exploding across every age group.</p>
<p>The tragedy is not that people are struggling.</p>
<p>The tragedy is that many people no longer recognize struggle because it has become their baseline identity.</p>
<p><strong>The Strange Safety of Emotional Familiarity</strong></p>
<p>In my upcoming book <em>Before The Breaking Point</em>, I write about a phenomenon I have repeatedly observed in therapy rooms, boardrooms, and even within myself:</p>
<p><strong>“Human beings often confuse emotional familiarity with emotional destiny.”</strong></p>
<p>That sentence disturbed even me when I first wrote it.</p>
<p>Because once you begin observing people through that lens, patterns become impossible to ignore.</p>
<p>The son raised in emotional unpredictability unconsciously gravitates toward chaotic relationships.</p>
<p>The daughter raised around emotional inconsistency keeps chasing emotionally unavailable partners because anxiety feels more familiar than stability.</p>
<p>The high-achiever who built self-worth around productivity slowly loses the ability to rest without guilt.</p>
<p>The man praised only when useful begins measuring love through performance.</p>
<p>The woman who became the emotional caretaker of her family cannot stop rescuing emotionally unstable people.</p>
<p>None of this is accidental.</p>
<p>The nervous system prefers known pain over unknown peace.</p>
<p>Because known pain feels manageable.</p>
<p>Unknown peace feels psychologically suspicious.</p>
<p><strong>The Man Who Could Run A Company But Could Not Sit Through Dinner</strong></p>
<p>A few years ago, I worked with a senior business leader whom I will call Arvind.</p>
<p>On paper, Arvind was the kind of man LinkedIn worships.</p>
<p><em>Early 40s.<br />
Luxury SUV.<br />
Leadership role in a multinational.<br />
Financially successful.<br />
Sharp communicator.<br />
Hyper-efficient.<br />
Respected by employees.<br />
Feared in meetings.</em></p>
<p>The kind of man people describe as:<br />
<em>“Sorted.”</em></p>
<p>But his wife had a different description.</p>
<p>Unavailable.</p>
<p>Not cruel.<br />
Not abusive.<br />
Not irresponsible.</p>
<p>Just emotionally absent.</p>
<p>During one conversation, she said something that stayed with me long after the session ended:</p>
<p>“He only comes alive during crisis.”</p>
<p>At first, Arvind laughed it off.</p>
<p>But over time, a pattern emerged.</p>
<p>He functioned brilliantly under pressure.<br />
Escalations energized him.<br />
Conflict sharpened him.<br />
Deadlines activated him.</p>
<p>But ordinary emotional intimacy exhausted him.</p>
<p>Slow evenings with family felt unbearable.<br />
Vacations irritated him after two days.<br />
Silence made him restless.</p>
<p>One Sunday, his daughter asked him to sit and watch a movie with her.</p>
<p>Twenty minutes later, he was replying to emails.</p>
<p>Not because the emails were urgent.</p>
<p>Because stillness felt psychologically unfamiliar.</p>
<p>Weeks later, during a session, he spoke about his childhood for the first time.</p>
<p>His father had been emotionally unpredictable.<br />
Affection was inconsistent.<br />
Approval came through achievement.<br />
Calmness at home usually meant tension was about to arrive.</p>
<p>And suddenly his entire adult personality began making sense.</p>
<p>His nervous system had learned something dangerous very early in life:</p>
<p>Pressure meant preparedness.Stillness meant vulnerability.</p>
<p>He did not become addicted to work.</p>
<p>He became addicted to emotional familiarity.</p>
<p>That distinction changed how he saw himself.</p>
<p>Because for years he had treated burnout like a time-management problem.</p>
<p>When in reality, it was an identity structure.</p>
<p><strong>I Saw Parts Of Myself In Him</strong></p>
<p>That was the uncomfortable part.</p>
<p>Because while listening to Arvind, I realized how many high-functioning men quietly build their identities around usefulness.</p>
<p>Including me.</p>
<p>There was a phase in my own life when every hour needed structure.</p>
<p><em>Consulting calls.<br />
Writing.<br />
Sessions.<br />
Meetings.<br />
Travel.<br />
Panels.<br />
Deadlines.</em></p>
<p>People often praised my discipline.</p>
<p>Very few noticed the restlessness underneath it.</p>
<p>I remember once being at home after an unusually quiet week.</p>
<p>No urgent calls.<br />
No workshops.<br />
No travel.<br />
No emotional emergencies to solve.</p>
<p>And instead of feeling relaxed, I felt strangely irrelevant.</p>
<p>That frightened me.</p>
<p>Because it forced me to confront a possibility I had never articulated before:</p>
<p>What if parts of my productivity were not ambition…</p>
<p>…but emotional survival?</p>
<p>In <em>Before The Breaking Point</em>, I write:</p>
<p>“Some people fear failure. Others fear stillness because stillness removes the noise protecting them from themselves.”</p>
<p>I think modern urban India is filled with people living inside that sentence.</p>
<p>Especially men.</p>
<p>Men who can negotiate contracts worth crores but cannot articulate loneliness.</p>
<p>Men who know market trends but not their own emotional patterns.</p>
<p>Men who built impressive lives externally while remaining emotionally abandoned internally.</p>
<p>And the frightening thing is that society rewards them for it.</p>
<p>Until the body collapses.<br />
The marriage cracks.<br />
The child stops trying.<br />
Or the silence finally becomes louder than the success.</p>
<p><strong>Wall Street Understands Coherence Better Than Most Therapists</strong></p>
<p>Morgan Housel once wrote that doing well with money has less to do with intelligence and more to do with behavior.</p>
<p>The same is true for emotional life.</p>
<p>History is filled with brilliant people destroyed not by lack of knowledge — but by psychological patterns they never questioned.</p>
<p>The collapse of Lehman Brothers in 2008 was not merely a financial failure.</p>
<p>It was a behavioral one.</p>
<p>Inside the company, risk-taking had become culturally coherent.</p>
<p>Short-term rewards reinforced dangerous decisions.<br />
Aggression became identity.<br />
Caution looked weak.<br />
Slowing down looked incompetent.</p>
<p>And when entire systems reward unsustainable behavior long enough, people stop recognizing danger.</p>
<p>This does not happen only in finance.</p>
<p>It happens inside marriages.<br />
Families.<br />
Corporations.<br />
Friendships.<br />
And individual identities.</p>
<p>The startup founder who keeps scaling while emotionally collapsing.<br />
The executive who calls burnout “drive.”<br />
The employee who wears exhaustion like status.<br />
The father who thinks providing financially excuses emotional absence.</p>
<p>Human beings normalize whatever helps them survive long enough.</p>
<p>Even when it slowly destroys them.</p>
<p><strong>Social Media Has Turned Healing Into Aesthetic Performance</strong></p>
<p>The internet has created a generation fluent in therapeutic language but increasingly disconnected from emotional depth.</p>
<p><em>People now know terms like:<br />
Trauma response.<br />
Gaslighting.<br />
Attachment style.<br />
Boundaries.<br />
Narcissism.<br />
Regulation.</em></p>
<p>But vocabulary is not transformation.</p>
<p>Sometimes self-awareness itself becomes performance.</p>
<p>Curated vulnerability.<br />
Aesthetic sadness.<br />
Therapy quotes over sunset backgrounds.<br />
Public declarations of healing while privately repeating identical patterns.</p>
<p>Real transformation is far less cinematic.</p>
<p>It is repetitive.<br />
Embarrassing.<br />
Contradictory.<br />
Slow.</p>
<p>It often involves admitting that some parts of us benefited emotionally from staying the same.</p>
<p>And that realization can shatter identity.</p>
<p><strong>Myth vs Truth</strong></p>
<p><strong>Myth:</strong> People stay stuck because they lack discipline.<br />
<strong>Truth:</strong> Many people stay stuck because their current behavior still feels emotionally protective.</p>
<p><strong>Myth:</strong> Self-awareness automatically creates change.<br />
<strong>Truth:</strong> Insight without emotional safety often changes nothing.</p>
<p><strong>Myth:</strong> High-functioning people are emotionally healthy.<br />
<strong>Truth:</strong> Functionality and emotional regulation are not the same thing.</p>
<p><strong>Myth:</strong> Peace always feels peaceful.<br />
<strong>Truth:</strong> For many nervous systems, peace initially feels unfamiliar and unsafe.</p>
<p><strong>Myth:</strong> Healing means becoming a new person.<br />
<strong>Truth:</strong> Sometimes healing means finally separating yourself from the survival role you mistook for identity.</p>
<p><strong>So What Actually Changes A Person?</strong></p>
<p>Not shame.</p>
<p>Not hustle culture disguised as self-improvement.</p>
<p>Not productivity porn on LinkedIn.</p>
<p>And certainly not pretending to be emotionally evolved because you listened to two podcasts and started drinking matcha.</p>
<p>What changes people is slowly creating enough emotional safety to no longer need the survival strategy.</p>
<p>That takes honesty.</p>
<p>The kind of honesty that forces difficult questions:</p>
<p>What does this behavior protect me from?</p>
<p>Who would I become without this coping mechanism?</p>
<p>What identity am I terrified of losing?</p>
<p>What emotional truth have I avoided by staying constantly distracted?</p>
<p>Because perhaps the real reason people stay the same is not weakness.</p>
<p>Perhaps some part of them still believes the old version is necessary for survival.</p>
<p><strong>DSN Thinks</strong></p>
<p>There is a strange comfort in staying the same.</p>
<p>Even when the sameness hurts us.</p>
<p>Because familiarity creates psychological certainty.</p>
<p>And certainty, even painful certainty, can feel safer than transformation.</p>
<p>But healing begins the moment we stop asking:<br />
<strong>“What is wrong with me?”</strong></p>
<p>And start asking:<br />
<strong>“What once happened to me that made this version necessary?”</strong></p>
<p>That question changes everything.</p>
<p>Not overnight.<br />
Not dramatically.<br />
Not in the cinematic way social media promises.</p>
<p>But quietly.</p>
<p>And quietly is how most real change begins.</p>
<p><strong>Dr. Sheetal Nair</strong> is a Psychotherapist, Author, TEDx Speaker, and Peace Enabler. His upcoming book <em>Before The Breaking Point</em> explores the hidden emotional systems that shape identity, burnout, relationships, masculinity, ambition, and modern mental well-being in contemporary India.</p>
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<p>Imagine starting your day without sitting in traffic, circling the block for parking, or squeezing onto a crowded train. For many city dwellers, those daily frustrations have simply become part of the routine—but they don&#8217;t have to be.</p>
<p>As more people rethink how they get around, <a href="https://www.velotricbike.com/collections/electric-bikes" target="_blank" rel="noopener">electric bikes</a> are quickly emerging as a smarter and more flexible alternative. Combining convenience, efficiency, and modern design, they offer a refreshing way to navigate the city while making everyday commutes and spontaneous trips feel less like a chore and more like something you actually look forward to.</p>
<h2><strong>Why More People Are Rethinking the Way They Commute</strong></h2>
<p>As cities become more congested and the cost of car ownership continues to rise, many people are looking for a smarter way to get around. They want something more affordable, easier to live with, and lighter than a car—without sacrificing comfort or convenience. Modern <a href="https://www.velotricbike.com/collections/electric-commuter-bikes" target="_blank" rel="noopener">electric commuter bikes</a> answer that need by combining practical transportation with intelligent features and effortless pedal assistance, making everyday travel less stressful and helping riders arrive without feeling exhausted or breaking a sweat.</p>
<p>At the same time, potential buyers often have concerns. Some worry that ebikes may be too heavy, overly complicated, or difficult to integrate into everyday life. Others want a bike that delivers performance and comfort without the oversized proportions that can make some ebikes feel cumbersome or awkward in everyday settings. These priorities have made thoughtful design and user-friendly technology more important than ever.</p>
<h3><strong>Minimalist Design Meets Lightweight Practicality</strong></h3>
<p>Designed with simplicity in mind, the Velotric Tempo combines the practicality of a <a href="https://www.velotricbike.com/collections/lightweight-ebikes" target="_blank" rel="noopener">lightweight ebike</a> with a clean silhouette, concealed wiring, and integrated components for a refined, uncluttered look. Its removable battery makes charging more convenient, while the lightweight 34-pound frame (without the battery) makes it easy to maneuver, carry, and store—without compromising everyday comfort and capability.</p>
<h3><strong>Smart Features That Enhance Everyday Riding</strong></h3>
<p>The Velotric Tempo integrates thoughtful technology designed to make every ride more convenient. Riders can take advantage of Apple Find My and Google&#8217;s Find Hub compatibility for added peace of mind, while NFC unlocking provides quick and secure access. Features like One-Touch Class Switching allow seamless adjustments to riding modes, and riders can also unlock higher speed limits where regulations permit, creating a more personalized riding experience.</p>
<h3><strong>Smart Performance Designed Around the Rider</strong></h3>
<p>Powered by a 350W motor with 45Nm of torque, the Velotric Tempo delivers smooth, responsive assistance that feels natural in everyday riding. It also features Pulse Mode<img src="https://s.w.org/images/core/emoji/17.0.2/72x72/2122.png" alt="™" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />, which monitors heart rate and automatically adjusts pedal assist levels to help riders maintain a comfortable effort. By combining intelligent technology with balanced performance, the Tempo creates a connected riding experience that feels effortless and enjoyable.</p>
<h2><strong>What You Stand to Gain with a Lightweight Ebike</strong></h2>
<p>For many first-time riders, a lightweight ebike is an easy way to make everyday travel a little more convenient without having to completely change their routines. Pedal assist takes some of the work out of riding, making hills, and longer trips feel much easier to handle. Whether it&#8217;s commuting to work, running errands, or just getting around town, riders can usually arrive feeling less worn out and ready for the rest of their day.</p>
<p>Compared with relying solely on a car, lightweight ebikes also provide greater flexibility for short trips and daily mobility. They can help riders avoid traffic congestion, reduce transportation costs, and make spontaneous outings more convenient. Their approachable design and intuitive riding experience make them accessible even to people who haven&#8217;t ridden a bike in years.</p>
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<p>Paychecks don’t always reflect what society claims to value most. Some of the roles that keep communities running smoothly earn modest wages, while jobs tied to profit, entertainment, or specialized expertise can command eye‑popping salaries.</p>
<h2>1. Professional Sleeper</h2>
<p>Ever dreamed of getting paid to snooze? Some do just that. Luxury bed testers or sleep study subjects, rest for science or comfort. This job highlights our pursuit of perfect rest amidst a sleep-deprived society. It’s humorous, yet it sheds light on our neglected need for quality sleep.</p>
<h2>2. Water Slide Tester</h2>
<p>Yes, it’s real. Testing slides for fun, safety, and thrill levels. It screams fun but also underscores our leisure obsession. A reminder of the lengths we go to for the perfect vacation experience. It’s a splash of humor on our priority list.</p>
<h2>3. Pet Food Taster</h2>
<p>Humans tasting pet food for quality? Surprising, but true. It shows our deep care for pets, almost to an extreme. It’s a mix of dedication and a hint of eccentricity, reflecting our bond with furry friends.</p>
<h2>4. Professional Line Stander</h2>
<p>They queue for you, for anything from tech releases to concert tickets. A serious commentary on our impatience and the value of time. It questions what we deem worthy of our wait. This role speaks volumes about our fast-paced society and the premium on convenience. Convenience reigns supreme, but at what cost?</p>
<h2>5. Ethical Hacker</h2>
<p>They breach systems to enhance security. A crucial role in our digital age, it highlights our ongoing battle with cyber threats. A serious job that underscores the importance of safeguarding information. It’s a modern-day digital knight role, essential yet paradoxical.</p>
<h2>6. Fortune Cookie Writer</h2>
<p>Crafting those tiny paper fortunes. A casual nod to our love for whimsy and fate. This role blends creativity with a sprinkle of existential curiosity. It’s light-hearted yet makes you ponder the small ways we seek guidance.</p>
<h2>7. Golf Ball Diver</h2>
<p>Divers retrieve lost balls from golf course water hazards, a task that spotlights the intersection of sport and environmental concern. This job not only reflects the massive scale of leisure sports but also the unseen efforts that recycle and sustain them, emphasizing the hidden costs of our hobbies.</p>
<h2>8. Professional Mourner</h2>
<p>Ancient Traditions in Modern Times. This job, rooted in historical practices, involves attending funerals to express grief. It raises questions about the authenticity of emotions and the ways societies deal with loss, inviting reflection on the evolving nature of mourning and communal support.</p>
<h2>9. Professional Apologizer</h2>
<p>In Japan, professionals apologize on behalf of others, navigating the complexities of societal harmony. This role underscores the importance of reputation and the lengths to which individuals and companies will go to preserve it, reflecting on the cultural weight of apology and face-saving.</p>
<h2>10. Professional Cuddler</h2>
<p>In an age-craving connection, professional cuddlers offer warmth and comfort, for a fee. It’s heartwarming yet bittersweet, reflecting our deep-seated need for human touch and companionship. In a world brimming with digital connections, this job emphasizes the irreplaceable value of physical presence.</p>
<h2>11. Digital Detox Consultant</h2>
<p>Tech overload? Enter the digital detox consultant, guiding us back to real-world interactions. Their emergence speaks volumes about our screen-addicted society. A study by NIH highlights the mental health impact of excessive screen time, making this job not only relevant but essential for our digital well-being.</p>
<h2>12. Snake Milker</h2>
<p>Venomous snakes are milked for their venom, crucial for antivenom production. It’s a job that’s as dangerous as it is vital, highlighting our battle against natural threats. This role underlines the bravery and scientific curiosity driving our quest for survival and medical advancement.</p>
<h2>13. Chief Listening Officer</h2>
<p>Companies hire them to listen to employee concerns and feedback. It marks a shift towards valuing employee well-being and engagement. This is a testament to the evolving workplace, where listening is not just appreciated but institutionalized.</p>
<h2>14. Iceberg Mover</h2>
<p>Post-Titanic, professionals work to redirect icebergs from shipping routes. It’s a monumental task that underscores our struggle against nature’s might and our dedication to safety at sea. This job illustrates our ongoing efforts to learn from past mistakes and protect lives.</p>
<h2>15. Astronomical Artist</h2>
<p>These artists collaborate with scientists to visualize the cosmos, blending art with astronomy. It’s a role that celebrates human curiosity and our quest to understand the universe. It reflects our desire to explore beyond our limits, turning scientific data into stunning visual narratives.</p>
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<p id="b339" class="pw-post-body-paragraph ot ou iq ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">We all want to be loved, but do we really want to love?</p>
<p id="b3e5" data-selectable-paragraph="">Or maybe we simply tell ourselves that we love another person when, in reality, we love the image of them that we have created in our minds, the perfect image. The version of them that we believe will fill the void within us, the sense of lack we carry, the longing and need to be loved.</p>
<p id="cb62" class="pw-post-body-paragraph ot ou iq ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Have you ever thought about that?</p>
<p id="4875" class="pw-post-body-paragraph ot ou iq ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">The name you give to this thing called <em class="qc">“love,”</em> or when you say those three words, <em class="qc">“I love you”,</em> have you ever stopped to ask yourself whether it is really love, or whether you’ve simply put a label on something else?</p>
<p id="07e1" class="pw-post-body-paragraph ot ou iq ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Recently, I came across a few lines in a book I’m reading these days:</p>
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<p id="f0ba" class="ot ou qc ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph=""><em class="iq">The Spanish language seems remarkably honest when it comes to conventional notions of love. </em>Te quiero<em class="iq"> means “I want you” as well as<br />
“I love you.” Then there is</em> te amo<em class="iq">, another expression for “I love you,”<br />
but without that ambiguity. Interestingly, it is used far less often.</em></p>
<p id="eb4d" class="ot ou qc ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph=""><strong class="ov ja">Perhaps because real love is just as rare.</strong></p>
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<p id="9d4d" class="pw-post-body-paragraph ot ou iq ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Right?</p>
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<p id="df5c" class="pw-post-body-paragraph ot ou iq ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Before we call something love, we should look inward.</p>
<p id="575a" class="pw-post-body-paragraph ot ou iq ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Because what we often call love is not really love at all. It may sustain the early stages of a relationship, but sooner or later the curtain falls. The perfect image you’ve projected onto another person begins to unravel, and suddenly they are no longer who you imagined them to be.</p>
<p id="e91d" class="pw-post-body-paragraph ot ou iq ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">And then what happens?</p>
<p id="006f" class="pw-post-body-paragraph ot ou iq ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">We begin to complain. We blame. We become disappointed.</p>
<p id="8ee1" class="pw-post-body-paragraph ot ou iq ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">And despite having someone beside you, that feeling of lack remains.<br />
The emptiness is still there. So, in many cases, we stay trapped in the same loop. We think, “Maybe I just haven’t found the right person yet. Maybe someone else will finally love me in the way I need and fill this emptiness inside me.” So we move on.</p>
<p id="e2da" class="pw-post-body-paragraph ot ou iq ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">But that doesn’t work either. And it never will.</p>
<p id="5296" class="pw-post-body-paragraph ot ou iq ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">How could it?</p>
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<p id="75b3" class="pw-post-body-paragraph ot ou iq ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Eckhart Tolle wrote that the prerequisite of any genuine and authentic relationship is <em class="qc">presence</em>. A pure attention toward another person in which there is no wanting whatsoever. A space where another person is allowed to be exactly as they are. A space of being.</p>
<p id="ec65" class="pw-post-body-paragraph ot ou iq ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">And in that space, your being touches the being of another.</p>
<p id="a08a" class="pw-post-body-paragraph ot ou iq ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Isn’t that beautiful?</p>
<p id="3f59" class="pw-post-body-paragraph ot ou iq ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">It truly is.</p>
<p id="58a9" class="pw-post-body-paragraph ot ou iq ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">But the truth is, we cannot offer that kind of presence to another person<br />
if we cannot offer it to ourselves first. We cannot be fully present with someone else when we are disconnected from our own being.</p>
<p id="3fc8" class="pw-post-body-paragraph ot ou iq ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">If we never become aware of the patterns we keep repeating, if we continue telling ourselves that we love while unconsciously seeking only to be loved, then those three words, <em class="qc">I love you, </em>lose their meaning.</p>
<p id="60d4" class="pw-post-body-paragraph ot ou iq ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Because perhaps what we really mean is: <em class="qc">I love being loved.</em></p>
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<p id="7795" class="pw-post-body-paragraph ot ou iq ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Don’t remain trapped in this loop. Look inward. Give yourself enough time to fill yourself with <a class="z pm" href="https://medium.com/@whispersbyiqra/the-beauty-of-presence-a-life-within-a-life-e7a29b7384fe" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-discover="true">the beauty of presence</a>. Become familiar with your own being. Because only then can you truly love. After all, you cannot pour into another cup when your own cup is empty.</p>
<p id="1f71" class="pw-post-body-paragraph ot ou iq ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">And this happens so often. We hurt one another in the name of what we call love, when in truth it isn’t love at all. My heart aches whenever I see this pattern repeating itself. Love becomes obscured by our wanting.</p>
<p id="f072" class="pw-post-body-paragraph ot ou iq ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">And something so beautiful becomes increasingly rare.</p>
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<p id="1179" class="pw-post-body-paragraph ot ou iq ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Please become aware of this.</p>
<p id="a3bd" class="pw-post-body-paragraph ot ou iq ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Offer yourself the gift of presence first, so you do not keep falling into the same cycle. And may you learn to love from a place of wholeness rather than lack. A place where two people offer each other the freedom to be exactly who they are. A place where both accept not merely the personality, the expectations, or the image, but the essence of <em class="qc">being</em> itself.</p>
<p id="7d9d" class="pw-post-body-paragraph ot ou iq ov b jt ow ox oy jw oz pa pb gn pc pd pe gq pf pg ph gt pi pj pk pl hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">May you be able to give, and receive, that rare kind of love.</p>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Muhammad Abid]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 15 Jun 2026 13:30:01 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p><img width="724" height="483" src="https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2157720501.jpg" class="attachment-featured-img size-featured-img wp-post-image" alt="" style="align:centre; margin-bottom:40px; height: 300px; width: 600px;" decoding="async" srcset="https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2157720501.jpg 724w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2157720501-300x200.jpg 300w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2157720501-594x396.jpg 594w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2157720501-600x400.jpg 600w" sizes="(max-width: 724px) 100vw, 724px" />&#8212; When I was younger, I thought travel was about destinations. I wanted to see famous landmarks. Check places off a list. Take photographs that proved I had been somewhere interesting. There is nothing wrong with that. Exploration is exciting. New experiences expand our understanding of the world. Some places genuinely deserve every bit of&#8230;</p>
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<p>When I was younger, I thought travel was about destinations.</p>
<p>I wanted to see famous landmarks. Check places off a list. Take photographs that proved I had been somewhere interesting.</p>
<p>There is nothing wrong with that.</p>
<p>Exploration is exciting. New experiences expand our understanding of the world. Some places genuinely deserve every bit of their reputation.</p>
<p>But as I&#8217;ve gotten older, I&#8217;ve noticed something.</p>
<p>The trips that stay with me are rarely the ones I took because a destination was popular.</p>
<p>They&#8217;re the ones that changed how I saw something.</p>
<p>My life.</p>
<p>My relationships.</p>
<p>My priorities.</p>
<p>Myself.</p>
<p>The place mattered.</p>
<p>But the perspective mattered more.</p>
<h2><strong><b>We Spend Much of Life Looking in the Same Direction</b></strong></h2>
<p>Most adults live within a relatively small circle.</p>
<p>We wake up in the same home.</p>
<p>Drive the same roads.</p>
<p>Work with the same people.</p>
<p>Visit the same stores.</p>
<p>Follow the same routines.</p>
<p>Routine isn&#8217;t a bad thing. In many ways, it&#8217;s what allows life to function.</p>
<p>The problem is that routine can also create a kind of blindness.</p>
<p>When every day looks similar, we stop noticing things.</p>
<p>We stop questioning assumptions.</p>
<p>We stop seeing alternatives.</p>
<p>The world becomes smaller than it actually is.</p>
<p>Travel interrupts that process.</p>
<p>Not because it magically solves problems, but because it changes our point of view.</p>
<h2><strong><b>Distance Has a Way of Creating Clarity</b></strong></h2>
<p>One of the strangest things about leaving home is how often it helps us understand home better.</p>
<p>When you&#8217;re immersed in daily responsibilities, it&#8217;s difficult to see the bigger picture.</p>
<p>You&#8217;re too close to it.</p>
<p>Work demands attention.</p>
<p>Family obligations need managing.</p>
<p>The future requires planning.</p>
<p>But step outside your usual environment for a week or two, and suddenly things look different.</p>
<p>Problems that felt overwhelming sometimes feel manageable.</p>
<p>Goals become clearer.</p>
<p>Relationships come into sharper focus.</p>
<p>The physical distance creates emotional distance.</p>
<p>And that distance often produces clarity.</p>
<h2><strong><b>Why Nature Affects Us So Deeply</b></strong></h2>
<p>I&#8217;ve also noticed that many of the trips people remember most involve nature.</p>
<p>Mountains.</p>
<p>Oceans.</p>
<p>Forests.</p>
<p>Wide open landscapes.</p>
<p>There is something about standing in a place that feels larger than yourself that changes the way you think.</p>
<p>Modern life constantly reminds us of our importance.</p>
<p>Our deadlines.</p>
<p>Our schedules.</p>
<p>Our responsibilities.</p>
<p>Nature reminds us of something else.</p>
<p>Scale.</p>
<p>Perspective.</p>
<p>Humility.</p>
<p>And oddly enough, many people find that comforting.</p>
<h2><strong><b>Travel Changes Conversations</b></strong></h2>
<p>One thing I&#8217;ve observed in my own relationships is that some of the best conversations happen away from home.</p>
<p>At home, conversations often revolve around logistics.</p>
<p>Who&#8217;s picking up the kids?</p>
<p>Did we pay the bill?</p>
<p>What&#8217;s happening next week?</p>
<p>Necessary conversations.</p>
<p>But not always meaningful ones.</p>
<p>Travel changes that.</p>
<p>People talk about what they&#8217;re seeing.</p>
<p>What surprises them.</p>
<p>What they are learning.</p>
<p>What they want from life.</p>
<p>The environment changes, and somehow the conversation changes too.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve had discussions during long drives and quiet walks that never would have happened in my living room.</p>
<h2><strong><b>The Gift of Being Fully Present</b></strong></h2>
<p>We live in a culture that rewards constant attention.</p>
<p>Every app wants it.</p>
<p>Every platform competes for it.</p>
<p>Every notification demands it.</p>
<p>As a result, many people struggle to be fully present.</p>
<p>Even during moments that are supposed to be enjoyable.</p>
<p>Travel sometimes creates an opportunity to reclaim attention.</p>
<p>Not perfectly.</p>
<p>Not all at once.</p>
<p>But enough to notice things again.</p>
<p>A sunrise.</p>
<p>A conversation.</p>
<p>A quiet moment.</p>
<p>A landscape that doesn&#8217;t need to be photographed to be appreciated.</p>
<p>These moments are increasingly rare.</p>
<p>And therefore increasingly valuable.</p>
<h2><strong><b>What We&#8217;re Really Searching For</b></strong></h2>
<p>People often say they want adventure.</p>
<p>Sometimes that&#8217;s true.</p>
<p>But I suspect many people are searching for something else.</p>
<p>Perspective.</p>
<p>A break from routine.</p>
<p>A reminder that the world is larger than the small corner they inhabit every day.</p>
<p>For some, that might mean hiking through mountains. For others, it means spending time in small communities, experiencing different cultures, or simply slowing down long enough to notice life again.</p>
<p>Many people who choose to <a href="https://www.travelessence.co.uk/australia" target="_blank" rel="noopener"><u>travel to </u></a><a href="https://www.travelessence.co.uk/australia"><u>Australia</u></a> talk about the country&#8217;s landscapes, wildlife, and iconic destinations. Yet what often stays with travelers isn&#8217;t a single attraction. It&#8217;s the feeling of openness, the sense of scale, and the opportunity to experience a different pace of life than the one they left behind.</p>
<p>The destination becomes part of the story.</p>
<p>The perspective becomes the lasting memory.</p>
<h2><strong><b>The Older I Get, the More I Value Experiences</b></strong></h2>
<p>There was a time when I measured success by accumulation.</p>
<p>More achievements.</p>
<p>More possessions.</p>
<p>More milestones.</p>
<p>Now I&#8217;m less certain that&#8217;s where meaning comes from.</p>
<p>The moments I value most are experiences.</p>
<p>Conversations.</p>
<p>Connections.</p>
<p>Shared memories.</p>
<p>The times I learned something unexpected about myself or someone I care about.</p>
<p>Travel often creates those moments because it removes us from the habits that usually dominate our attention.</p>
<p>For a little while, we stop managing life and start experiencing it.</p>
<h2><strong><b>Coming Home Different</b></strong></h2>
<p>The best trips don&#8217;t change who we are.</p>
<p>They change what we notice.</p>
<p>We return to the same homes.</p>
<p>The same jobs.</p>
<p>The same responsibilities.</p>
<p>Yet something feels slightly different.</p>
<p>Perhaps we&#8217;re more grateful.</p>
<p>Perhaps we&#8217;re more patient.</p>
<p>Perhaps we&#8217;ve remembered what actually matters.</p>
<p>The destination may have lasted a week or two.</p>
<p>The perspective can last much longer.</p>
<h2><strong><b>Conclusion</b></strong></h2>
<p>When I was younger, I thought travel was primarily about seeing new places.</p>
<p>Now I think it&#8217;s often about seeing familiar things differently.</p>
<p>The most meaningful journeys aren&#8217;t always measured in miles traveled or attractions visited.</p>
<p>They&#8217;re measured by the conversations we have, the perspective we gain, and the way we return home with a clearer understanding of ourselves and the people around us.</p>
<p>Places matter.</p>
<p>But perspective is what stays with us.</p>
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<article>I grew up in a time when television was king.Everyone was watching Star Trek, daytime soap operas, the evening news with Walter Cronkite, police shows like Starsky &amp; Hutch, comedies like Sanford &amp; Son, and evening dramas like The Rockford Files and The Six Million Dollar Man. At school, my classmates and I chattered about the programs we watched. And we imitated our heroes, like the actor Henry Winkler’s “Fonzie” on the sitcom Happy Days.Dad would sit with my mother, sister, and me in the evenings as we watched all those shows.But Dad always had a book in his hands, and he seldom looked up to see what we were engrossed in. Sometimes, Dad reminisced about before television, when his family sat around and listened to radio programs or read books for entertainment. “The radio was great,” he’d say, “because you could imagine everything you heard. And our imaginations are limitless.”</p>
<p>He felt the same way about books.</p>
<p>As a young man, I thought that my father was a relic who grew up in the dark ages. Even his old family photos were in black and white.</p>
<p>Once in a while, a history program or movie on TV would pique my father’s curiosity. And sometimes he enjoyed shows like All in the Family and Barney Miller.</p>
<p>But mostly he read books.</p>
<h3>A drunk librarian who won’t shut up</h3>
<p>When I wasn’t watching TV as a boy, I liked to draw in my sketchbooks or go outside and adventure in the woods.</p>
<p>My parents encouraged me to read more, like my sister, but I found it hard to focus. Whenever I picked up a book, I’d count the pages to see how many before the end of the chapter.</p>
<p>I managed to get through books here and there, but I was far from being well-read. My dance with books and literature would come much later in life.</p>
<p>Most of the people I know in my generation are still focused on television, whereas younger folks spend their time on social media platforms like TikTok and YouTube. If the young do watch movies, they tend to pay for streaming services and watch programs on their devices.</p>
<blockquote><p>If television’s a babysitter, the Internet is a drunk librarian who won’t shut up. — Dorothy Gambrell, Cat and Girl Volume 1</p></blockquote>
<p>Television is starting to remind me of radio in my Dad’s day. A sort of dying entertainment. Especially cable programs.</p>
<p>We still have TV in our home, with a cable service plan that includes fast internet service. But I’m beginning to wonder why. Apart from the Internet connection, which I need for my work, I see less and less return on investment for cable service.</p>
<p>The cable programs offered are mostly older movies I’ve seen. Of course, there’s pay-per-view to watch recent films, but increasingly, the stuff coming out of Hollywood today doesn’t appeal to me. They’re either political tutorials or tired remakes of past movies.</p>
<p>There was a time when I used to be an information junkie, and I enjoyed news programs and discussion panels.</p>
<p>But not today.</p>
<p>Cable news shows are little more than partisan political silos and intellectual echo chambers. And the programming seems to endlessly loop, with little substance. Also, the infernal ad interruptions take up more time than the news shows. I’ve found it’s much faster, more efficient, and more informative to read a few reputable online news sources.</p>
<p>Last month, after endlessly clicking channels, I had a little meltdown.</p>
<p>“Why do I bother?” I said to my wife, adding, “There’s nothing here.”</p>
<p>“I know,” she said, looking up from her iPhone, where she usually retreats in the evenings to watch videos and catch up on messages. So I fetch my iPad Pro and click on YouTube, scrolling about for a video, podcast, or documentary to escape into.</p>
<p>But even YouTube has become a stale wasteland of repetition, advertisements, and the same old stuff repackaged in a futile effort to please the algorithms. In disgust, I exit YouTube and check my emails.</p>
<p>Among the ocean of messages is a newsletter from a former book editor I follow.</p>
<p>The newsletter mentions the Harvard Classics, which I inherited from my father. But I look closer and see that it’s not the Harvard Classics, but the Harvard Classics “Shelf of Fiction.” Reading further, I learned that the “Shelf of Fiction” is 20 selected volumes of classic fiction. The set is meant to be a complementary addition to the original Harvard Classics.</p>
<p>I researched a little more to see which classic authors appear in the collection. They include Henry Fielding, Jane Austen, Sir Walter Scott, William Makepeace Thackeray, Charles Dickens, George Eliot, Nathaniel Hawthorne, Edgar Allen Poe, Victor Marie Hugo, Guv de Maupassant, J. W. von Goethe, Leo Tolstoy, Fyodor Dostoevsky, Ivan Turgenev, and others.</p>
<p>Talk about a list of literary luminaries.</p>
<p>If you’re unfamiliar with or haven’t read all of these writers, don’t feel bad. Neither have I.</p>
<p>I casually mentioned the discovery to my wife. She did some quick sleuthing and found a used set in very good condition.</p>
<p>“Do you want it?” she asked.</p>
<p>“Absolutely,” I said.</p>
<p>My wife is awesome.</p>
<h3>To fill up and live</h3>
<p>I didn’t turn to books until my university days.</p>
<p>I read books in school because I had to, rarely for personal edification or enjoyment. But something changed at university. I didn’t like that others in class, including my professors, knew a great deal more than me. And being ignorant makes one sort of pathetic in classroom discussions and debates.</p>
<p>So I started reading more.</p>
<p>At first, it was hard because my focus was poor. But like anything, the more I did it, the better I got. My vocabulary and comprehension grew. I started reading a mix of fiction and non-fiction. Most of it was oriented toward schoolwork and politics. The one area I neglected was classic literature.</p>
<blockquote><p>She read books as one would breathe air, to fill up and live. — Annie Dillard, The Living</p></blockquote>
<p>Through graduate school and into my law enforcement career, I continued to read a variety of books. And I seemed to absorb quite a bit about structure, pacing, and how to craft a decent essay and short story.</p>
<p>Toward the end of my police career, I began publishing occasional essays in the local papers, and I started a blog.</p>
<p>At first, I wrote about art- related topics, but over time I expanded to explore personal development, and eventually life lessons. The more I wrote, the more I measured the grand expanse between my work and the work of authors I admired.</p>
<p>Thus began my first foray into classic literature. Which brings me back to the Harvard Classics Shelf of Fiction.</p>
<figure> <picture><source /><source /><img decoding="async" src="https://miro.medium.com/v2/resize:fit:700/1*17cvo4t5dEvIxEYbv6pSuA.jpeg" alt="" /></picture><figcaption>My new Harvard Classics Shelf of Fiction</figcaption></figure>
<p>Thanks to my wife’s research and decisive action, the entire set arrived last week. I decided that my time would be far better spent diving into this curated collection of literary splendor than clicking through tired old movies and endless ads on cable TV.</p>
<p>I read somewhere that if one were to read a mere 15 minutes a day from the original Harvard Classics 50 volume set, one would complete the series in a year. So, I imagine the 20-volume shelf of fiction will take considerably less time to consume.</p>
<p>Except for one thing: old-school literature can be a slog.</p>
<h3>For I hope my friends will pardon me</h3>
<p>When the Harvard Classics Shelf of Fiction arrived on our doorstep, my wife removed all the well-preserved books from the box and lined them up beautifully in my office on a desk behind my father’s WWII Japanese samurai sword (given to him by an old Captain in the Japanese army).</p>
<figure> <picture><source /><source /><img decoding="async" src="https://miro.medium.com/v2/resize:fit:700/1*TJ45V8uCBrahH1UDBMCx-w.jpeg" alt="" /></picture><figcaption>The Shelf of Fiction, behind my Dad’s WWII Samurai Sword</figcaption></figure>
<p>I excitedly picked up the first book, containing Henry Fielding’s “Tom Jones” novel, as well as introductory sections and even criticism. I flipped to the first paragraph of “Tom Jones” and read the following:</p>
<blockquote><p>An author ought to consider himself, not as a gentleman who gives a private or eleemosynary treat, but rather as one who keeps a public ordinary, at which all persons are welcome for their money.</p></blockquote>
<p>Huh?</p>
<p>And what the heck is “eleemosynary?”</p>
<p>So I looked up the strange word and found out that it basically means “charitable.”</p>
<p>Then I reread the first paragraph and several that followed. And the gist was that authors should consider themselves as sort of like restaurant owners or publicans and that they should outline what they have to offer to the reader much like a restaurant menu. Further in the chapter, I learned that what Fielding is going to be writing about is human nature.</p>
<p>“This will take some work,” I thought to myself.</p>
<p>Namely because of the old vocabulary words, references to books I’ve never read, and older style of writing. And yet, if one is patient, there is such beauty in Fielding’s words and wisdom.</p>
<p>Consider this nugget:</p>
<blockquote><p>For I hope my Friends will pardon me, when I declare, I know none of them without a Fault; and I should be sorry if I could imagine, I had any Friend who could not see mine. Forgiveness, of this Kind, we give and demand in Turn.</p></blockquote>
<p>I randomly flipped ahead in Tom Jones, and landed on the first page of Chapter 11, with the title: “A Short Hint of What We Can Do in the Sublime, and a Description of Miss Sophia Western.” That artful phrase, “What we can do in the sublime,” pleased me.</p>
<p>It held the kind of elegant phrasing I often aspire to in my writing.</p>
<h3>Pessimism is not in being tired of evil but in being tired of good</h3>
<p>On a random <a href="https://www.webpages.uidaho.edu/engl_258/lecture%20notes/sublime.htm" target="_blank" rel="noopener">webpage</a> for the University of Idaho, one can find the following words about sublime experiences:</p>
<blockquote><p>Sublime experiences, whether in nature or in art, inspire awe and reverence, and an emotional understanding that transcends rational thought and words or language.</p></blockquote>
<p>I know this is true because when I stood in the Accademia Gallery of Florence, looking up for the first time at Michelangelo Buonarroti’s famous marble sculpture “David” I felt a vertiginous sense of awe and amazement. Great art can do that.</p>
<p>So can great literature.</p>
<figure><picture><img decoding="async" src="https://miro.medium.com/v2/resize:fit:700/1*8MfuLbzDQQpUwbk20-aoJg.jpeg" alt="" /></picture><figcaption>Michelangelo’s “David”</figcaption></figure>
<p>Sometimes in my reading of other books and literature, I encounter the kind of sublime writing that takes me somewhere far beyond all I know and understand. To a place of possibilities, luminous prose, divine expression, and a sense of connection with great minds and souls who have gone before us. And these souls have so much to teach us if we are willing to take the time to read and read deeply.</p>
<p>I was taking notes the other day as I worked on The David Foster Wallace Reader.</p>
<figure> <picture><source /><source /><img decoding="async" src="https://miro.medium.com/v2/resize:fit:700/1*al7_ucJyp6zh5EobaETQqg.jpeg" alt="" /></picture><figcaption>The David Foster Wallace Reader</figcaption></figure>
<p>In one of Wallace’s head-spinning short stories, “The Broom of the System,” there is a story within the story about “Thermos” woman, who wears a neck scarf to hide a little tree frog that lives on her neck.</p>
<p>And here comes a spoiler…Thermos woman dies in a train accident and the tree frog shows up later at her boyfriend’s apartment, looking for a new home. The frog story alone sort of teleports you to, well, I’m not sure where, but it expands your mind and invites many thoughts about alienation, loneliness, and more.</p>
<p>And that’s the thing about literature, it has the power to transport us into the sublime.</p>
<p>Another very different book filled with notes in my study is “The Everlasting Man” by G. K. Chesterton.</p>
<figure> <picture><source /><source /><img decoding="async" src="https://miro.medium.com/v2/resize:fit:700/1*Nyvv-euXIiRgGb8m5GRygg.jpeg" alt="" /></picture><figcaption>The Everlasting Man by G. K. Chesterton</figcaption></figure>
<p>Consider the current state of affairs in the United States (and elsewhere in the world), with our polarized society, hatred on university campuses, Rome-like indifference (taking our blessings for granted), and troubled sense of something coming. And then contrast all that with Chesterton’s words:</p>
<blockquote><p>Pessimism is not in being tired of evil but in being tired of good. Despair does not lie in being weary of suffering, but in being weary of joy. It is when for some reason or other good things in a society no longer work that the society begins to decline; when its food does not feed, when its cures do not cure, when its blessings refuse to bless.</p></blockquote>
<p>Books and literature educate, warn, enrich, and sometimes even transform us.</p>
<h3>Do you ever long for something deeper?</h3>
<p>As a writer who wants to continually improve my craft, investing in good books and literature is the surest path forward.</p>
<p>But it’s more than that. I’m finally discovering what my father, and my sister when she was young, already knew. And that is that books and literature satisfy our souls in a way that cable television and TikTok videos are seldom likely to compete.</p>
<p>I don’t have to rely on algorithms or the priorities of marketers to feed me content. I can bypass all that nonsense and swim in much deeper waters.</p>
<p>Sometimes swimming in these deeper waters takes more effort, but the rewards are worth it.</p>
<p>I don’t mean to sound like a literary elitist or a tired old pedant. There are times when we all need to shut our brains off, and sometimes a silly romantic comedy on TV or a hysterical cat video on YouTube is just the thing.</p>
<p>But do you ever long for something deeper?</p>
<p>Do you ever get tired of the loud voices, comments, likes, ads, repetition, and pointlessness of so much of today’s entertainment? Do you ever wonder where the depth is? Where the answers to the great questions of life and the consolations of the soul can be found?</p>
<blockquote><p>That is part of the beauty of all literature. You discover that your longings are universal longings, that you’re not lonely and isolated from anyone. You belong. — F. Scott Fitzgerald</p></blockquote>
<p>You may not feel these things so much when you are younger, but time, experience, and maturity will erode the charm of childhood amusements. And then your heart and mind begin a quiet quest for answers. For companionship. For hope.</p>
<p>For the sublime.</p>
<p>If you want to know what we can do in the sublime, what awe, joy, and reverence await, pick up a good book. Get lost in the arms of great literature. Allow the words and magic prose to hug you. Feel their warmth and reassurance.</p>
<p>Have you seen the lovely movie Shadowlands?</p>
<p>At the <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OTjKrLKjrhY" target="_blank" rel="noopener">end of the movie</a>, the actor Anthony Hopkins (playing C. S. Lewis) says to a young student, “We read to know that we’re not alone. Do you think that is so?” The young student says that he never thought of it that way before.</p>
<p>Nor did I when I was younger.</p>
<p>But now I understand.</p>
<p>If I were the young student answering C. S. Lewis, I’d tell him, “Yes, Sir, I agree. Books allow us to live many lives beyond our own. They take us out of ourselves, and also within ourselves more deeply. F. Scott Fitzgerald was right, we can discover that our longings are universal. That we belong.”</p>
<p>That’s what we can do in the sublime world of books and literature. We can love. Laugh. Cry. Explore. Learn. Grow.</p>
<p>But most of all, we can belong.</p>
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<p>John Patrick Weiss writes stories and essays about life, often illustrated with his black and white photography. Visit <a href="https://johnpatrickweiss.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener"> JohnPatrickWeiss.com.</a></p>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p><img width="800" height="500" src="https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/pim-de-boer-xmB3Ly6e4ow-unsplash.jpg" class="attachment-featured-img size-featured-img wp-post-image" alt="" style="align:centre; margin-bottom:40px; height: 300px; width: 600px;" decoding="async" srcset="https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/pim-de-boer-xmB3Ly6e4ow-unsplash.jpg 800w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/pim-de-boer-xmB3Ly6e4ow-unsplash-300x188.jpg 300w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/pim-de-boer-xmB3Ly6e4ow-unsplash-768x480.jpg 768w" sizes="(max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px" />At the International Labour Organization, governments must find a way to codify protections for gig workers — and regulate their AI bosses.</p>
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<p>By <a href="https://inequality.org/authors/lena-simet" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Lena Simet</a> and <a href="https://inequality.org/authors/anna-bacciarelli" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Anna Bacciarelli</a></p>
<p>Most discussion of artificial intelligence and work is about the future: which jobs may disappear, which skills may lose value, which workers may be replaced. But for millions of gig workers, who work for online platforms such as Uber, this future is already here.</p>
<p>Algorithms set their pay, assign their tasks, monitor their performance, and determine whether they can keep working at all. The issue is not just that technology may someday replace workers. It is that companies are already using it to control them while shirking the responsibilities that normally come with that kind of control. This leaves many workers with unstable pay, dangerous conditions, and little recourse when something goes wrong. But this could be about to change.</p>
<p>From June 1 to 12 in Geneva, governments will enter a final round of negotiations at the International Labour Organization, the UN agency dedicated to labor rights, over the first <a title="binding global standard for what is called platform work" role="link" href="https://www.ilo.org/resource/conference-paper/ilc/ilc114/decent-work-platform-economy" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">binding global standard for what is called platform work</a>. This new treaty would regulate jobs managed through apps and websites, from taxis and delivery to home care, cleaning, and online piecework. Governments will decide whether companies that control this work should be required to treat workers as employees and comply with labor protections.</p>
<p>The stakes go well beyond the gig economy. <a title="Increasingly" role="link" href="http://onlinelabourobservatory.org/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Increasingly</a>, workers report to an algorithmic boss in hospitals, care work, domestic labor, and beyond. The question is whether governments will set rules for how companies use these systems to manage work or let companies keep writing the terms themselves.</p>
<p>Gig work today offers a preview of what happens when they do. These companies promise flexibility and independence. For many workers, the reality is low and unstable pay, dangerous conditions, and no sick leave, unemployment insurance, or retirement benefits.</p>
<p>This isn’t a flaw in the system. It <i>is</i> the system. Companies use software to manage workers closely, then contracts to deny responsibility for them. The result is familiar cost-shifting in a new technological form: workers absorb the risks while companies maintain control.</p>
<p>And it is scaling fast. <a title="DoorDash" role="link" href="https://ir.doordash.com/news/news-details/2026/DoorDash-Releases-Fourth-Quarter-and-Full-Year-2025-Financial-Results/default.aspx" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">DoorDash</a>, which now operates in 30 countries, reported global revenue growth of 38 percent from the same period the previous year in the fourth quarter of 2025, and Uber, operational in about 70 countries, ranked ninth on <a title="Fortune’s 2025" role="link" href="https://fortune.com/ranking/100-fastest-growing-companies/2025/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Fortune’s 2025</a> list of the 100 fastest-growing public companies, with earnings per share growing 445 percent over three years. These companies create value by shifting costs off the company’s books and onto everyone else.</p>
<p>In recent months, <a title="Human Rights Watch spoke" role="link" href="https://www.hrw.org/feature/2026/05/13/algorithms-of-exploitation/rights-abuses-in-the-gig-economy-and-the-global-fight" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Human Rights Watch spoke</a> with workers in 10 countries. They described the same kinds of abuse everywhere.</p>
<p>In Beirut, we spoke with Apraham Orfalian, 74, who has worked for Uber since 2015. In October 2024, a passenger held a knife to his throat, forced him out of his car, and stole his vehicle and his phone. Without the car, he lost his income. Without sick leave, workers’ compensation, or support from Uber, he had to rely on his siblings to get by. “We are workers for Uber,” he said. “We generate income for them. At least they should show responsibility.”</p>
<p>In Gulf countries, delivery workers described cycling in extreme heat because they felt they could not afford to refuse orders, even when conditions were unsafe. In India, a worker injured on the job was left to cover his own medical costs. In the UK, another went months without income or injury compensation after being attacked while working.</p>
<p>Some governments have started to act. <a title="Mexico" role="link" href="https://www.gob.mx/stps/documentos/reforma-en-materia-de-trabajo-en-plataformas-digitales?state=published" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Mexico</a> adopted legislation extending social security and labor protections to some full-time platform workers. In <a title="India" role="link" href="https://edition.cnn.com/2026/01/01/india/india-gig-workers-delivery-strike-intl-hnk" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">India</a>, worker protests pushed the government to restrict 10-minute delivery promises that put dangerous pressure on delivery workers. Courts in the <a title="UK" role="link" href="https://www.supremecourt.uk/cases/uksc-2019-0029" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">UK</a>, <a title="France" role="link" href="https://www.courdecassation.fr/decision/686e0205e0a6f0ca1546ef1a" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">France</a>, <a title="Spain" role="link" href="https://www.boe.es/diario_boe/txt.php?id=BOE-A-2021-7840" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Spain</a>, and <a title="Italy" role="link" href="https://www.uni-europa.org/news/decisive-ruling-on-platform-employment-in-italy-shows-the-way/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Italy</a> have recognized rights that companies tried hard to avoid. But these gains are uneven and fragile. Without global standards, companies can keep exploiting gaps.</p>
<p>Strong ILO standards <a title="should start from a basic principle" role="link" href="https://www.hrw.org/news/2026/05/13/ilo-labor-treaty-should-protect-all-gig-workers" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">should start from a basic principle</a>: if a company <i>controls</i> the worker, it should bear the <i>responsibilities</i> that come with that control. That means a presumption of employment in which companies exercise employer-like power; pay for all working time, which often includes waiting for assignments; safety protections; social security; protection from arbitrary deactivation; and a meaningful right to understand and challenge algorithmic decisions that shape pay, ratings, and access to work.</p>
<p>Some governments are trying to weaken those protections before they are written. They want standards that simply defer to weak national laws and define workers narrowly, and promise transparency without giving workers real power to challenge the decisions that shape their livelihoods.</p>
<p>Companies that depend on gig workers will say stronger rules would destroy flexibility. But that flexibility doesn’t really exist for many workers. Even if a worker can choose when to log on, they deserve protection from poverty wages, arbitrary dismissal, and uncompensated injury. If a business model works only because it evades workers’ rights, that is an argument for regulation, not against it.</p>
<p>This is about more than how companies that use gig workers operate. It is about whether labor law can keep pace with the way companies now organize labor. If workers cannot understand or challenge the systems that govern their work, software will become an efficient way to exercise control without accountability.</p>
<p>Governments meeting in Geneva can still set limits and protect workers’ rights. They should use that power before exploitation becomes the blueprint.</p>
<p><em>This piece was first <a href="https://fpif.org/ai-runs-the-global-gig-economy-governments-must-respond/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">published</a> on our sister site Foreign Policy in Focus.</em></p>
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<p>You have your goals already set, most of the design planned out on a thought board, and it is now time to get to the event location and see what is going on.  There are often several different questions that you are going to have to ask. You need to be aware of accessibility, if you need to bring your own team, and even more!</p>
<p>Here, we are going to cover some general <a href="https://www.zkipster.com/blog/event-venue-questions" target="_blank" rel="noopener">genres of questions</a> that you want to ask the event space manager before you choose the proper event location. Let’s go!</p>
<h2>Staying on a Budget</h2>
<p>One of the most important things that you have to stick to is your budget. Just about everything else can change, but when it comes down to it, you have to make sure that you don’t go over budget. There are several questions that you can ask to help you out here.</p>
<p>Questions about pricing are a great way to start. You also want to start a line of questioning that delves into the possibility of any hidden fees. It’s a hard question to ask, but it can help you stick to a budget and plan for any contingencies, such as damaged property.</p>
<p>Another way that you can stay on budget is to also ask about package deals. Most of the time, you’ll see this with weddings, but there may also be packages available for events that come with different discounts and bonuses. Don’t hesitate to ask questions, and definitely prepare your questions ahead of time.</p>
<h2>Catering Options</h2>
<p>Depending on your type of event, you may be looking for orderves to start your event, or you may be looking for a full-on meal, and that’s something completely different!</p>
<p>Keep in mind, as was mentioned in the budget section, it is important to remember that there are going to be package deals, or at least that is the most likely result with most event locations that have an included kitchen.</p>
<p>On the flipside, you may have to <a href="https://www.dpnak.com/blog/13-not-so-obvious-questions-to-ask-a-caterer" target="_blank" rel="noopener">ask questions</a> about what kinds of entrances catering can come through, who has access to what entryways, and how catering staff can circumvent going through the crowd of attendees.</p>
<h2>Team Options and Staffing</h2>
<p>If you already have a team ready to go that you’ve built a rapport with, you may have a vast series of questions to ask. Can your team be allowed the same access as other staff members? Do they already have staff available? Is there a way that you can integrate teams, or would there be a discount for having your own team?</p>
<p>Some event spaces are going to already have staff available to work your event. This is a great way to save money, but you do have to ask the question about what kinds of services are available, whether you should bring additional team members, and whether you will have time to brief the staff on the event or not?</p>
<p>These are definitely the kinds of questions that you need to be asking because you don&#8217;t want to interfere with the way that their team runs, but you still want to provide the best experience possible for your attendees.</p>
<h2>Accessibility and Technology</h2>
<p>One of the most important things that you will need to be aware of is going to be the accessibility features that you will need for your attendees’ comfort and safety. From non-slip surfaces to accessible restrooms, you need to make sure that you know exactly what is going to be provided for your guests.</p>
<p>Additionally, will the event space have technology available for you to make sure that guests have the right lighting, the proper AV equipment, as well as access to any equipment that might best assist your attendees as well. These two are distinctly tied because to make sure your guests have a pleasant experience, they need to have access to the best channels of communication available.</p>
<h2>Further Questions</h2>
<p>When you are working in the event business, no question is off the table. You need to be able to ask the questions necessary to make sure that your attendees are as comfortable as they can be. You can ask about bar options, drinks that come with the event location, and you would also ask about the different ways that other event managers have decorated the space and used the space to their advantage.</p>
<p>All in all, these major categories are a great way to start the conversation about your event. While having a conversation with the event space coordinator, you may even find out information that you might not have thought about!</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<img width="724" height="483" src="https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2268654638.jpg" class="attachment-featured-img size-featured-img wp-post-image" alt="" style="align:centre; margin-bottom:40px; height: 300px; width: 600px;" decoding="async" srcset="https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2268654638.jpg 724w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2268654638-300x200.jpg 300w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2268654638-594x396.jpg 594w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/iStock-2268654638-600x400.jpg 600w" sizes="(max-width: 724px) 100vw, 724px" /><p class="has-text-align-left is-style-plain wp-block-paragraph">Study finds that interbreeding between critically endangered primates of <a id="34932" href="https://palmoildetectives.com/2024/10/31/phayres-leaf-monkey-trachypithecus-phayrei/" type="post">Bangladesh Phayre’s langurs</a> and endangered capped <a id="43232" href="https://palmoildetectives.com/2026/01/11/capped-langur-trachypithecus-pileatus/" type="post">langurs raises serious concerns about their future survival</a> as distinct species. Species hybridisation is a sign of ecological disruption, and researchers point to human-related threats such as <a href="https://palmoildetectives.com/tag/palm-oil-deforestation/">palmoil and timber deforestation</a>, habitat fragmentation, and <a href="https://palmoildetectives.com/tag/hunting/">hunting</a> as key drivers for them interbreeding. These pressures not only push the species to hybridise but also threaten their long-term existence in the wild, highlighting the urgent need for conservation efforts to address habitat destruction and protect these seriously endangered primates.</p>
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<p class="has-background-color has-text-color has-background has-link-color wp-elements-339b16fb81890e9efea62b3a3e3c1c9b wp-block-paragraph"><strong>This article was originally published in Mongabay and was written by Mohammad Al-Masum Molla, <a href="https://news.mongabay.com/2024/10/langurs-in-bangladesh-face-extinction-as-hybridization-between-species-escalates/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">read the original article</a>. Republished under Creative Commons attribution licence. Research by Ahmed, T., Hasan, S., Nath, S., Biswas, S. … Roos, C. (2024). Mixed-Species Groups and Genetically Confirmed Hybridization Between Sympatric Phayre’s Langur (<em>Trachypithecus phayrei</em>) and Capped Langur (<em>T. pileatus</em>) in Northeast Bangladesh. <em>International Journal of Primatology.</em> doi:<a href="https://doi.org/10.1007/s10764-024-00459-x" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">10.1007/s10764-024-00459-x</a></strong></p>
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<h2>Key Takeaways</h2>
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<li>Interbreeding between critically endangered Phayre’s langurs and endangered capped langurs raises concerns for the primates of Bangladesh.</li>
<li>Human activities like deforestation, habitat fragmentation, and hunting drive this hybridization, threatening both species’ survival.</li>
<li>Research shows that hybrid langurs often become infertile, putting future populations at risk of decline.</li>
<li>The study highlights the urgent need for conservation to protect these primates and their habitats in Bangladesh.</li>
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<h2 id="h-hybridisation-a-major-concern-for-phayre-s-and-capped-langurs" class="wp-block-heading">Hybridisation: a major concern for Phayre’s and capped langurs</h2>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">This hybridisation of the endangered primates, which researchers of the study say is caused by habitat loss due to deforestation and other human interferences, could push them to extinction in a few generations.</p>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">“Bangladesh’s <a href="https://palmoildetectives.com/2023/03/19/golden-langur-trachypithecus-geei/">langur populations</a> are small and isolated, limiting gene flow. This hybridisation in restricted populations heightens their extinction risk. Furthermore, our laws primarily protect pure langurs, leaving hybrids unprotected. If hybrids persist into future generations, we’ll face tough decisions about their role in our ecosystem,” Tanvir Ahmed, the study’s lead researcher, told Mongabay.</p>
<h2 id="h-interbred-langurs-grow-up-to-be-infertile" class="wp-block-heading">Interbred langurs grow up to be infertile</h2>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Monirul H. Khan, a professor at Jahangirnagar University’s Zoology Department, agreed with Tanvir and said that the significance of interbreeding is that these langurs don’t survive for a long time.</p>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">“They are usually born infertile. So the population of langur will gradually decrease,” he said.</p>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">The study, published in the <a href="https://link.springer.com/journal/10764" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener"><em>International Journal of Primatology</em></a>, recently found that out of 98 langur groups observed, eight comprised both Phayre’s and capped langurs.</p>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">“We analysed genetic samples of the species in the lab and confirmed one case of hybridisation. This langur had a <a href="https://palmoildetectives.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/capped-langur-trachypithecus-pileatus-threats.jpg">capped langur mother and a Phayre’s langur father</a>. Another female with a hybrid appearance showed signs of motherhood, indicating that at least female hybrids are fertile and give birth to young,” Tanvir said.</p>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">“The genetic characteristics of a distinct species tend to become most threatened when their hybrid females can reproduce. Fertile hybrid females threaten to bring the two species closer together as the offsprings begin to mix characteristics. That is exactly what could be happening to them,” he said.</p>
<h2 id="h-both-species-stand-to-lose-as-genetic-traits-don-t-get-passed-on" class="wp-block-heading">Both species stand to lose as genetic traits don’t get passed on</h2>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">The research shows that the ‘spectacled’ Phayre’s <a href="https://palmoildetectives.com/2021/06/27/dusky-langur-trachypithecus-obscurus/">langurs</a> and the capped langurs, with their distinctive shock of black fur on their heads, are under threat of losing their distinct genetic makeup to hybridisation.</p>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Researchers conducted the study over five years, between 2018 and 2023, in six forests in northeastern Bangladesh — Lawachara National Park, Satchari National Park, Rema-Kalenga Wildlife Sanctuary, Rajkandi Reserve Forest, Patharia Hill Reserve Forest and Atora Hill Reserve Forest.</p>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">The study involved field surveys for 92 days between March 2018 and April 2019 and from July to December 2022, employing three trained local eco-guides to monitor the mixed-species groups until October 2023.</p>
<figure id="attachment_289114" class="wp-block-image alignwide size-large"><img decoding="async" class="wp-image-35342" src="https://i0.wp.com/palmoildetectives.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/capped-langurs-and-phayres-langurs-hybrid-groups.jpg?resize=750%2C500&amp;ssl=1" alt="(Left) A mixed-species group of Phayre’s and capped langurs in Satchari National Park. (Right) A male hybrid of Phayre’s and capped langurs in Rema-Kalenga Wildlife Sanctuary. Image by Auritro Sattar. Images by Rasel Debbarma and Auritro Sattar." width="750" height="500" data-recalc-dims="1" data-attachment-id="35342" data-permalink="https://palmoildetectives.com/2026/02/15/saving-primates-of-bangladesh-from-extinction/capped-langurs-and-phayres-langurs-hybrid-groups/" data-orig-file="https://i0.wp.com/palmoildetectives.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/capped-langurs-and-phayres-langurs-hybrid-groups.jpg?fit=1536%2C1024&amp;ssl=1" data-orig-size="1536,1024" data-comments-opened="1" data-image-meta="{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}" data-image-title="capped langurs and phayres langurs hybrid groups" data-image-description="" data-image-caption="&lt;p&gt;(Left) A mixed-species group of Phayre’s and capped langurs in Satchari National Park. (Right) A male hybrid of Phayre’s and capped langurs in Rema-Kalenga Wildlife Sanctuary. Image by Auritro Sattar. Images by Rasel Debbarma and Auritro Sattar.&lt;/p&gt; " data-large-file="https://i0.wp.com/palmoildetectives.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/capped-langurs-and-phayres-langurs-hybrid-groups.jpg?fit=750%2C500&amp;ssl=1" /><figcaption class="wp-element-caption">(Left) A mixed-species group of Phayre’s and capped langurs in Satchari National Park. (Right) A male hybrid of Phayre’s and capped langurs in Rema-Kalenga Wildlife Sanctuary. Image by Auritro Sattar. Images by Rasel Debbarma and Auritro Sattar.</figcaption></figure>
<h2 id="h-habitat-loss-puts-many-species-under-pressure" class="wp-block-heading">Habitat loss puts many species under pressure</h2>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">The study shows that, although it’s relatively rare, hybridisation among primates is an escalating concern worldwide, often driven by habitat loss and fragmentation. It serves as a stark reminder of the significant impacts of human activity on biodiversity. The situation in Bangladesh gradually becoming more common emphasizes the urgent need for strong conservation efforts.</p>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">The study mentions how hybridisation is a vital indicator of ecological change, raising serious concerns about species’ genetic health. Tanvir added that this study is groundbreaking, as it documents the first hybridisation incidents among these <a href="https://palmoildetectives.com/2021/01/25/popa-langur-trachypithecus-popa/">langurs</a> in Bangladesh and their entire distribution range.</p>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Hybrids being fertile could lead to the extinction of the parent species. “Additionally, mixing species can enable the spread of diseases between previously unconnected populations, posing risks to both wildlife and human health, since these animals are often hunted and traded,” said Sabit Hasan, a researcher of the study.</p>
<h2 id="h-deforestation-habitat-fragmentation-and-hunting" class="wp-block-heading">Deforestation, habitat fragmentation and hunting</h2>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">The study blamed human activities such as <a href="https://palmoildetectives.com/category/boycott/boycott-palm-oil/">palm oil deforestation,</a> habitat fragmentation, hunting and trapping of primates as some of the causes that can increase the risk of such hybridisation.</p>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">“The existence of <a href="https://palmoildetectives.com/2022/08/18/a-mystery-monkey-in-borneo-may-be-a-rare-hybrid-between-a-proboscis-monkey-and-silvery-lutung/">fertile hybrids is particularly alarming</a> because it suggests that gene flow between these two endangered species could irreversibly affect their future genetic composition,” Tanvir said.</p>
<figure id="attachment_289116" class="wp-block-image alignwide size-large"><img decoding="async" class="wp-image-35345" src="https://i0.wp.com/palmoildetectives.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/hybrid-phayres-langur-with-half-sibling-feeding-on-fruits-at-satchari-national-park.-image-harish-debbarma.jpg?resize=750%2C500&amp;ssl=1" alt="The genetically confirmed hybrid with its half-sibling feeding on fruits at Satchari National Park. Image by Harish Debbarma." width="750" height="500" data-recalc-dims="1" data-attachment-id="35345" data-permalink="https://palmoildetectives.com/2026/02/15/saving-primates-of-bangladesh-from-extinction/hybrid-phayres-langur-with-half-sibling-feeding-on-fruits-at-satchari-national-park-image-harish-debbarma/" data-orig-file="https://i0.wp.com/palmoildetectives.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/hybrid-phayres-langur-with-half-sibling-feeding-on-fruits-at-satchari-national-park.-image-harish-debbarma.jpg?fit=1536%2C1024&amp;ssl=1" data-orig-size="1536,1024" data-comments-opened="1" data-image-meta="{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}" data-image-title="Hybrid Phayres langur with half-sibling feeding on fruits at Satchari National Park. Image Harish Debbarma." data-image-description="" data-image-caption="&lt;p&gt;The genetically confirmed hybrid with its half-sibling feeding on fruits at Satchari National Park. Image by Harish Debbarma.&lt;/p&gt; " data-large-file="https://i0.wp.com/palmoildetectives.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/hybrid-phayres-langur-with-half-sibling-feeding-on-fruits-at-satchari-national-park.-image-harish-debbarma.jpg?fit=750%2C500&amp;ssl=1" /><figcaption class="wp-element-caption">The genetically confirmed hybrid with its half-sibling feeding on fruits at Satchari National Park. Image by Harish Debbarma.</figcaption></figure>
<figure id="attachment_289118" class="wp-block-image alignwide size-large"><img decoding="async" class="wp-image-35346" src="https://i0.wp.com/palmoildetectives.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/juvenile-hybridand-capped-langur-mother-with-phayres-langur-father-at-satchari-national-park.-image-by-mahmudul-bari.jpg?resize=750%2C500&amp;ssl=1" alt="The genetically confirmed juvenile hybrid with its capped langur mother and Phayre’s langur father at Satchari National Park. Image by Mahmudul Bari." width="750" height="500" data-recalc-dims="1" data-attachment-id="35346" data-permalink="https://palmoildetectives.com/2026/02/15/saving-primates-of-bangladesh-from-extinction/juvenile-hybridand-capped-langur-mother-with-phayres-langur-father-at-satchari-national-park-image-by-mahmudul-bari/" data-orig-file="https://i0.wp.com/palmoildetectives.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/juvenile-hybridand-capped-langur-mother-with-phayres-langur-father-at-satchari-national-park.-image-by-mahmudul-bari.jpg?fit=1536%2C1024&amp;ssl=1" data-orig-size="1536,1024" data-comments-opened="1" data-image-meta="{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}" data-image-title="juvenile hybridand capped langur mother with Phayre’s langur father at Satchari National Park. Image by Mahmudul Bari." data-image-description="" data-image-caption="&lt;p&gt;The genetically confirmed juvenile hybrid with its capped langur mother and Phayre’s langur father at Satchari National Park. Image by Mahmudul Bari.&lt;/p&gt; " data-large-file="https://i0.wp.com/palmoildetectives.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/juvenile-hybridand-capped-langur-mother-with-phayres-langur-father-at-satchari-national-park.-image-by-mahmudul-bari.jpg?fit=750%2C500&amp;ssl=1" /><figcaption class="wp-element-caption">The genetically confirmed juvenile hybrid with its capped langur mother and Phayre’s langur father at Satchari National Park. Image by Mahmudul Bari.</figcaption></figure>
<h2 id="h-the-beautiful-primates-of-bangladesh" class="wp-block-heading">The beautiful primates of Bangladesh</h2>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Ten of the 121 mammal species found in Bangladesh <a href="https://www.thedailystar.net/primates-of-bangladesh-14611" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">are primates</a>. According to the hybridisation study, Bangladesh is home to less than 500 Phayre’s langurs and 600 capped langurs.</p>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">The <a href="https://palmoildetectives.com/2024/10/31/phayres-leaf-monkey-trachypithecus-phayrei/">Phayre’s langur </a>has a brown to grey-brown back, white fur on its belly and face, and a “spectacled” appearance due to wide white rings around its eyes. Its face and extremities are black, and it has long hair on its head that points backward. Additionally, its tail is longer than its body and has a tuft of dark hair at the tip.</p>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">The capped langur is known for its distinctive crown of long, erect hairs on its head. It has a black face, grey to blackish-grey fur on top, and brownish-yellow or orange fur below, with the distal half of its tail being blackish.</p>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">The study suggested the government prioritize habitat preservation and create corridors to connect isolated primate populations, facilitating natural langur dispersal.</p>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph">“If we don’t take action now, we risk losing not just two monkey species but also a vital part of Bangladesh’s biodiversity,” Tanvir said.</p>
<p class="wp-block-paragraph"><em><strong>Banner image:</strong> The genetically confirmed hybrid (right) with its capped langur mother at Satchari National Park. Image by Harish Debbarma.</em></p>
<p class="has-background-color has-text-color has-background has-link-color wp-elements-15a47e16ab0ee067a8df00f4ddf35896 wp-block-paragraph"><strong>This article was originally published in Mongabay and was written by Mohammad Al-Masum Molla, <a href="https://news.mongabay.com/2024/10/langurs-in-bangladesh-face-extinction-as-hybridization-between-species-escalates/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">read the original article</a>. Republished under Creative Commons attribution licence. Research by Ahmed, T., Hasan, S., Nath, S., Biswas, S. … Roos, C. (2024). Mixed-Species Groups and Genetically Confirmed Hybridization Between Sympatric Phayre’s Langur (<em>Trachypithecus phayrei</em>) and Capped Langur (<em>T. pileatus</em>) in Northeast Bangladesh. <em>International Journal of Primatology.</em> doi:<a href="https://doi.org/10.1007/s10764-024-00459-x" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">10.1007/s10764-024-00459-x</a></strong></p>
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<p><b>Mike Wilson</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> is a United States Marine Corps veteran, skilled tradesman, entrepreneur, and founder of the Association of Ukrainian Cowboys. After service as a body repair mechanic, he built businesses, raised five sons, and developed a lasting attachment to Ukraine. Since 2015, he has supported Ukrainians through marksmanship training, veterans’ engagement, ministry, and community-building, including Kyiv’s Western Saloon, a cultural project bringing American cowboy music, hospitality, and fellowship to wartime Ukraine with resilience and warmth.</span></p>
<p><b>Scott Douglas Jacobsen</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> interviews Mike Wilson about Ukraine’s battlefield motivation, technological adaptation, wartime leadership, and community resilience. Wilson argues Ukrainians fight with a defender’s purpose rooted in home, family, and sovereignty, while drones, Javelins, and evolving military culture reshape modern warfare. He critiques European caution, reflects on Volodymyr Zelenskyy and Petro Poroshenko, and describes Kyiv’s Western Saloon and the Association of Ukrainian Cowboys as projects for fellowship, music, peace, laughter, and post-traumatic relief.</span></p>
<p><b>Scott Douglas Jacobsen:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Outside of obvious technological advantages such as drones, which account for a large proportion of casualties, what gives Ukrainians an advantage on the ground over Russian forces? For example, is morale a factor because they are defending their own homes and families?</span></p>
<p><b>Mike Wilson:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Absolutely. Ukrainians are fighting to defend their country, their families, and their communities. That creates a powerful motivation.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Russian soldiers, by contrast, often lack that personal incentive. That naturally creates an imbalance in commitment.</span></p>
<p><b>Jacobsen:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Is fighting for something inherently stronger than fighting against something, or are Ukrainians fighting for their country precisely by fighting against an invasion?</span></p>
<p><b>Wilson:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Most soldiers would rather not be at war.</span></p>
<p><b>Jacobsen:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> In any war?</span></p>
<p><b>Wilson:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> They do their best, but the training is still subpar in many areas. That is not something that can be changed overnight. It takes years, even decades, to change an institutional mentality and develop a professional military culture.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">I am not sure I am answering your question particularly well, but I think Ukraine&#8217;s greatest advantage is motivation. This is our country.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">I have children. If someone breaks into my home and is bigger or stronger than I am, I am still going to fight. I will use every tool available to protect my family. That gives me an advantage because my motivation is fundamentally different from that of the intruder. He may be there to steal, rape, or commit violence, but that is not the same as defending your home and your loved ones. There is a different switch that flips when you are protecting your family. At that point, there are no limits, you use whatever you have to defend them.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Fortunately, Ukraine is also a technology-driven country. Its technology sector was advancing rapidly before the full-scale invasion, and that expertise has translated into extraordinary innovation in drone development and battlefield technology. I am not a technical expert, so I may not use the correct terminology, but Ukraine&#8217;s drone capabilities have expanded dramatically in what they can accomplish for both offense and defense.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">This war has introduced an entirely new model of warfare that militaries around the world are studying closely, including the United States.</span></p>
<p><b>Jacobsen:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> They are all taking notes.</span></p>
<p><b>Wilson:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Absolutely. Technology has made an enormous difference.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">I am also grateful that Ukraine received weapons systems that significantly strengthened its defenses. Systems such as the TOW and the Javelin destroyed large amounts of Russian equipment and helped slow the advance during the early stages of the invasion. Those capabilities were invaluable. I am still frustrated, however, by what I see as shortcomings in military leadership.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">When Volodymyr Zelenskyy first took office, I was disappointed by what I perceived as a confrontational interaction with members of the military. In my opinion, it was disrespectful. He was, of course, the elected president, and military personnel should respect civilian authority, but I believed the incident unnecessarily escalated tensions before the full-scale invasion. I watched the exchange on video, and it received widespread coverage.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">To me, it appeared to be an attempt to assert authority in a way that damaged relations with the armed forces.</span></p>
<p><b>Jacobsen:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> In your opinion, has his attitude toward the military improved?</span></p>
<p><b>Wilson:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Yes. After the full-scale invasion in 2022, he had to change quickly. The reality of war transformed the situation, and his approach evolved accordingly. I have always respected both Petro Poroshenko and Volodymyr Zelenskyy for leading the country during wartime.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">I also observed what I viewed as turning points in both administrations. In my opinion, Poroshenko was placed under significant pressure by the Obama administration and then–Vice President Joe Biden and was compelled to make concessions.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Poroshenko struck me as deeply committed to Ukrainian sovereignty and freedom, but I saw a noticeable shift in his position. My interpretation was that Ukraine was in an extremely difficult situation. Russia was applying military pressure, while Ukraine needed financial assistance, military equipment, training, and international support.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">From my perspective, Western governments often attached conditions to assistance, creating what I viewed as coercive leverage: assistance would be available only if specific political demands were met. That is how I interpreted the situation.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Ukraine is a relatively small country facing a much larger adversary, and I believe its leaders often had limited room to maneuver.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">I have also been highly critical of Europe&#8217;s response to the war. In my view, many European governments have enjoyed the benefits of security while relying heavily on the United States for defense commitments. I believe expressions of solidarity are not enough.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Words alone accomplish very little. What matters is action. I have heard Ukrainian soldiers criticize some of the military equipment supplied by Germany, describing older systems as worn out or difficult to maintain. Those criticisms have contributed to frustration among troops who depend on reliable equipment in combat.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">They are having to cannibalize equipment, taking parts from one machine to keep another operational. I have heard Ukrainian soldiers say that if a piece of equipment arrives with &#8220;Made in Germany&#8221; on it, they are skeptical because, in their experience, much of what has been supplied is older equipment requiring significant maintenance.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">That is one reason I have been disappointed by Europe&#8217;s overall response to the war. In my view, European governments did not apply enough meaningful pressure on Russia. The sanctions were often structured to minimize disruption to Russian oil and gas exports in order to protect European energy prices. Publicly, governments expressed strong opposition to the invasion, but I believe their actions were frequently more cautious than their rhetoric.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">That reflects both my military background and my political perspective. I served under President Reagan and, for a brief period, during the final years of the Carter administration. Looking back, I see long-term trends in international politics and believe that many of the global challenges we face today developed over many years.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Even so, I remain optimistic. I believe the international system will eventually find a new balance and that a new generation of leadership will emerge. I do not think we can continue relying on the old assumptions.</span></p>
<p><b>Jacobsen:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> How has that influenced your own life in Ukraine?</span></p>
<p><b>Wilson:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> It has had a tremendous impact because I also became involved in ministry. I served as both a deacon and an elder in my church and spent many years teaching. I continue much of that work here. More than anything, it shapes my character. I try to approach everything with both passion and compassion.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">That philosophy influences everything I do, including the cowboy saloon I hope to open and the Ukrainian Cowboys Association, which is organized as an NGO.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The purpose is to serve the community. People here have endured enormous stress and trauma. I want to create a place where they can step away from the war for a little while, a place where they can experience joy, peace, friendship, music, and laughter.</span></p>
<p><b>Jacobsen:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> I often say that not every interview has to be about bombardments or bullets.</span></p>
<p><b>Wilson:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> People genuinely appreciate having an opportunity to relax and let their hair down without constantly living under tension.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">That is one reason I believe I can make a greater impact here than I could back home in Montana. There, I would simply be preaching to the choir.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">I grew up as a city kid until I joined the Marine Corps. Later I became a contractor and builder, and I raised my children in Montana, where we owned horses.</span></p>
<p><b>Jacobsen:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Quarter horses or thoroughbreds?</span></p>
<p><b>Wilson:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Paint horses.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">They are a cross between Quarter Horses and Thoroughbreds. Occasionally we would have a foal that did not display the typical paint markings. It would still be registered as an American Paint Horse because of its bloodline, even though it might appear to be a bay, gray, or chestnut.</span></p>
<p><b>Jacobsen:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> When does the saloon open?</span></p>
<p><b>Wilson:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> I have been working on the project for a couple of years. The biggest challenge has been finding the right location.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">We found one building that I absolutely loved. It was beautiful, with five-meter ceilings, an ideal dance floor, and exactly the right amount of space. We even commissioned preliminary design work because we thought we had secured it.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Unfortunately, the property became involved in a government lawsuit and lacked basic infrastructure, electricity, sewage, and utility connections. The owners wanted us to pay roughly one million dollars to resolve those issues.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">I told them, &#8220;You fix your problems first, and then I will consider leasing the building.&#8221; That deal fell apart.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">This Friday we will inspect three additional locations. If we find the right one, I estimate it will take another six months to complete renovations, decorate the space, obtain permits, and prepare everything for opening.</span></p>
<p><b>Jacobsen:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> How many saloons are there in Kyiv?</span></p>
<p><b>Wilson:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> None, at least not in the traditional American sense.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">There is a place called Texas Ranch outside Kyiv on the road toward Odesa. It captures some of the atmosphere, with buildings designed like an Old West town complete with a sheriff&#8217;s office and western-themed facades. They serve barbecue and grilled meats and have created an enjoyable environment.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">However, it is located outside the city and operates more as a themed restaurant than as an authentic American-style saloon.</span></p>
<p><b>Jacobsen:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> The meat here is generally very good.</span></p>
<p><b>Wilson: </b><span style="font-weight: 400;">Although I have yet to find a truly mouth-watering steak or ribs comparable to the best American barbecue.</span></p>
<p><b>Jacobsen: </b><span style="font-weight: 400;">What makes a great burger? What makes great ribs?</span></p>
<p><b>Wilson:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Much of it comes down to the meat itself and, more importantly, how it is processed.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The way the animal is aged after slaughter, the temperature controls, and the amount of time the meat is allowed to mature all influence tenderness and flavour. If the process is rushed, the meat remains tougher.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The cuts also differ from those commonly used in North America. The direction of the grain affects both texture and how the steak chews.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">My executive chef is based in the United States and has been recognized among the top Black chefs in the country. He is excited to be part of this project.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">We want to use local Ukrainian beef while refining the aging and processing methods to produce the flavour and tenderness we are looking for. Controlled bacterial activity during aging is actually beneficial because it naturally tenderizes the meat.</span></p>
<p><b>Jacobsen:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Bacteria is your friend, in this case. What is the biggest lesson you have learned about the Ukrainian business community, including organizations such as the British-Ukrainian Chamber of Commerce? How do people build networks and successful partnerships?</span></p>
<p><b>Wilson:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Relationships are everything. As a foreigner, you do not automatically understand the legal, cultural, or commercial landscape. You need trustworthy local partners who understand how business is conducted.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">It is also important to have experienced people around you who can navigate challenges and help protect your interests.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">For that reason, I partnered with one of the country&#8217;s leading law firms and with an experienced restaurateur who has spent roughly thirty years in the hospitality industry. His company, Smokers, already has a Texas-inspired interior design and understands the western aesthetic.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">He brings relationships with suppliers for beef, alcohol, and other food products, and his experience is extremely valuable. He accepted a 10 percent ownership stake in exchange for contributing his expertise and network.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">I will be the public face representing the American vision of the cowboy saloon, but I also want strong Ukrainian leadership. On the registration documents, for example, the director is listed as Svetlana Kitsko, reflecting that this is a partnership rooted in Ukraine rather than simply an American project.</span></p>
<p><b>Jacobsen: </b><span style="font-weight: 400;">Thank you very much for the opportunity and your time, Mike.  </span></p>
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<p id="bddc" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">I saw her today after fifteen months.</p>
<p id="8c24" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">We didn’t speak. We didn’t look at each other. We didn’t exchange the polite smiles strangers offer one another in elevators.</p>
<p id="edd1" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">We simply existed in the same building.</p>
<p id="7ecc" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">The court was crowded. That felt appropriate.</p>
<p id="6f22" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">A place dedicated to providing justice should never be empty.</p>
<p id="2d68" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">There were people everywhere. Families, lawyers, clerks, assistants. Everyone carrying folders thick with grievances. Some were fighting over marriages. Some over land. Some over money.</p>
<p id="195a" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">A lawyer’s assistant handled most of the process. He had done this hundreds of times before. Perhaps thousands. He moved with the efficiency of a man delivering parcels.</p>
<p id="e2d9" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Sign here.</p>
<p id="049e" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Initial here.</p>
<p id="8208" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Wait here.</p>
<p id="0329" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">This was what we did for twenty minutes.</p>
<p id="ce8b" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">That was all it took. Twenty minutes.</p>
<p id="1f7f" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">A relationship that occupied 18 years of my life required approximately twenty minutes of administrative attention.</p>
<p id="9506" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">I cried a little. Not visibly, of course.</p>
<p id="cd9c" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">I am trained out of visible grief quite early.</p>
<p id="3730" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">A man may lose a marriage, a dream, a future, half his life.</p>
<p id="7558" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">But God forbid he lose composure.</p>
<p id="8b95" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">So I performed strength.</p>
<p id="f3c9" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">About five minutes into the process, it started feeling heavier than I expected.</p>
<p id="760b" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">So I pulled out my earbuds.</p>
<p id="6d03" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">There is a playlist on my Spotify called <em class="os">Duggu</em>.</p>
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<p id="aa01" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Duggu was the nickname I gave her during the happier years, back when we were still collecting memories instead of legal documents.</p>
<p id="5bca" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">The playlist contains only sad Hindi songs.</p>
<p id="4ddb" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Which, now that I think about it, is a remarkably optimistic thing to create.</p>
<p id="ae1e" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">I pressed play. The first song began.</p>
<p id="60a5" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">After the paperwork was signed, we were directed to the notary window.</p>
<p id="2bbd" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">They called her first. She stepped forward and placed her thumb on the stamp pad. Then on the documents.</p>
<p id="37d1" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Again. And again. And again.</p>
<p id="ec35" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">The law requires certainty. The law likes repetition.</p>
<p id="43a9" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Then they called me.</p>
<p id="aa65" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">I walked to the same window.</p>
<p id="b830" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">I looked at the stamp pad.</p>
<p id="a7a2" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">And I noticed the place where her thumb had pressed moments earlier.</p>
<p id="038c" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">So I placed mine there too. A ridiculous thing to do.</p>
<p id="f459" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Childish.</p>
<p id="4825" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Embarrassing.</p>
<p id="09f1" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Entirely irrational.</p>
<p id="e2fc" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Obviously, I did it. What else was I supposed to do?</p>
<p id="81b4" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">For fifteen months there had been no conversations, no messages, no accidental meetings, no shared moments.</p>
<p id="a9c0" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">And there, on a government-issued stamp pad, was the last trace of her I was likely to encounter that day.</p>
<p id="81d6" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">So I touched it. You may call me cringe. You may judge me for this.</p>
<p id="a9b6" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">I have already judged myself far more harshly.</p>
<p id="7755" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">The court, meanwhile, continued its business.</p>
<p id="b790" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">A Sardar ji nearby was arguing with relatives over a piece of land.</p>
<p id="31c1" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Lawyers wandered the corridors searching for potential clients with the alertness of street vendors.</p>
<p id="dbe9" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Someone was laughing. Someone was crying. Someone was waiting.</p>
<p id="671c" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Most people in courts are waiting. Waiting for justice.</p>
<p id="c736" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Waiting for money. Waiting for freedom.</p>
<p id="26b2" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Waiting for someone else to suffer.</p>
<p id="ab62" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Outside, near the canteen, there was a cat.</p>
<p id="6aba" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">The canteen owner poured milk into a small bowl.</p>
<p id="4c4b" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">The cat approached cautiously, then drank with complete happiness.</p>
<p id="5d8d" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">I envied her.</p>
<p id="d07f" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Imagine being capable of such uncomplicated joy.</p>
<p id="7179" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">A bowl of milk. A patch of shade. No lawyers. No paperwork.</p>
<p id="1a6e" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">No first motions. No second motions. No memories. Just milk.</p>
<p id="9296" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">And there I was, listening to a playlist named after the woman standing ten feet away from me while signing papers that would officially separate our lives.</p>
<p id="331f" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">The process ended. I was told I would need to return for the second motion.</p>
<p id="13c0" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">We walked in different directions.</p>
<p id="be7f" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">I deliberately waited.</p>
<p id="323a" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Partly because I wanted to cry.</p>
<p id="7355" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Partly because I didn’t want to watch her get into a cab and leave.</p>
<p id="ab77" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Outside, the cat was still drinking milk.</p>
<p id="9719" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">I thought I would drink. That seemed like the apt response.</p>
<p id="deba" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">People have been attempting to dissolve heartbreak in alcohol for centuries.</p>
<p id="76d3" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">The fact that the method continues despite its spectacular lack of success is oddly admirable.</p>
<p id="0051" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">I bought a bottle. Poured a drink. Took two sips.</p>
<p id="8c5a" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">And discovered something unfortunate.</p>
<p id="49b0" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">I no longer possess the ability to drink my way out of reality.</p>
<p id="b748" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">The alcohol remained alcohol. The memories remained memories.</p>
<p id="68ec" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Nobody left. Nothing softened. So I poured no more.</p>
<p id="29e1" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Instead, I made a different decision.</p>
<p id="0d4c" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">I will run more. I will cycle more.</p>
<p id="15cd" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">I will box more. I will lift more weight.</p>
<p id="37ee" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">Not because exercise heals heartbreak.</p>
<p id="e54a" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">It doesn’t. People exaggerate about the outcomes of workouts.</p>
<p id="5288" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">A half marathon cannot repair a broken marriage.</p>
<p id="1791" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">A heavy bench press cannot rewrite history.</p>
<p id="c6b3" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">A punching bag offers nothing.</p>
<p id="828f" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">But suffering, at least, should be useful.</p>
<p id="0409" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">If I must carry pain, I might as well carry it uphill.</p>
<p id="9c34" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">If I must be exhausted, I might as well earn it.</p>
<p id="2ce2" class="pw-post-body-paragraph nx ny iq nz b oa ob oc od oe of og oh gn oi oj ok gq ol om on gt oo op oq or hn bg" data-selectable-paragraph="">~ A<br />
Home, Delhi</p>
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		<title>American Rare Coin Collectors Association: Where Rare Coins Hide</title>
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<p>Rare coins rarely look dramatic.</p>
<p>They do not glow. They do not come with alarms. Most sit quietly in places nobody thinks to check. A coffee can is in the garage. A junk drawer in the kitchen. A tackle box that hasn’t been opened since the 1990s.</p>
<p>That is the strange part of the coin world. Some of the most valuable finds begin in the messiest corners of a house.</p>
<p>The <a href="https://americanrarecoincollectorsassociation.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">American Rare Coin Collectors Association</a> has spent decades evaluating collections across the country through traveling events and in-person reviews. Their experience has shown one consistent pattern: valuable coins are often stored in the least impressive places imaginable.</p>
<p>“We’ve seen coins worth thousands sitting next to fishing hooks, screws, batteries, and rubber bands,” they explain. “People assume valuable coins would be stored carefully. A lot of times they aren’t.”</p>
<p>That reality surprises almost everyone.</p>
<h2>The Coffee Can Pattern Is Real</h2>
<p>Coin experts joke about coffee cans for a reason.</p>
<p>They appear constantly.</p>
<p>A family member saves silver coins for decades, drops them into a container, and eventually forgets what is inside. Years later, someone rediscovers it during a move or estate cleanout.</p>
<p>One story still stands out.</p>
<p>“A woman walked in carrying an old coffee can filled with silver dollars,” they recall. “Most were common. Then we spotted one rare date mixed into the pile.”</p>
<p>That coin turned out to be a 1893-S Morgan silver dollar, one of the most sought-after dates in the series.</p>
<p>“She had absolutely no idea it was different from the others,” they say.</p>
<p>This happens because rare coins often look nearly identical to common ones. The differences are usually tiny:</p>
<ul>
<li>A date</li>
<li>A mint mark</li>
<li>A condition detail</li>
</ul>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>That’s it.</p>
<h2>Junk Drawers Are Sneaky Time Capsules</h2>
<p>Every house has one.</p>
<p>The drawer filled with keys, receipts, tape, dead pens, random batteries, and loose change.</p>
<p>Coin experts love these drawers because people throw coins into them without thinking.</p>
<p>“A lot of collections don’t start as collections,” they explain. “People just set aside older-looking coins over time.”</p>
<p>That habit matters more than people realize.</p>
<p>According to the U.S. Mint, billions of coins circulate every year, but older silver coins still occasionally surface in ordinary household change. Pre-1965 dimes, quarters, and half dollars contain silver, which is why people saved them for decades.</p>
<p>Then they forgot where they put them.</p>
<p>“We’ve had people bring in sandwich bags from junk drawers that ended up containing silver coins saved in the 1970s,” they say.</p>
<p>The funny part is that the coins are often sitting inches away from expired coupons and loose paper clips.</p>
<h2>Tackle Boxes Hide More Than Fishing Gear</h2>
<p>Tackle boxes are strangely common in coin stories.</p>
<p>Why? Small compartments.</p>
<p>Collectors love organization. Tackle boxes offer cheap storage with lots of little sections.</p>
<p>Over time, those boxes move into garages, attics, and closets. Eventually, they stop looking important.</p>
<p>“We opened one tackle box expecting fishing lures,” they recall. “Instead, it was full of old wheat pennies, Mercury dimes, and silver quarters.”</p>
<p>This creates a dangerous situation. Families cleaning out garages may assume the box is junk and throw it away without opening it carefully.</p>
<p>That happens more than people think.</p>
<h2>Sock Drawers and Closets Create “Invisible Collections”</h2>
<p>Some collections disappear because they become too familiar.</p>
<p>People stop seeing them.</p>
<p>A small envelope in a sock drawer sits untouched for thirty years. Everyone in the house knows it exists, but nobody asks what’s inside anymore.</p>
<p>“We hear this all the time: ‘Oh yeah, those have always been there,’” they explain. “Then someone finally opens the envelope.”</p>
<p>Inside might be silver certificates, old coins, or early mint sets quietly sitting in the dark for decades.</p>
<p>This is one reason collections often stay intact so long. Familiarity makes objects invisible.</p>
<h2>Why Rare Coins End Up in Strange Places</h2>
<p>The answer is simple: trust.</p>
<p>People hide valuable items in places that feel safe or private.</p>
<p>Not everyone owns a safe. Not everyone uses bank storage. Many collectors grew up during periods when hiding valuables inside the house felt normal.</p>
<p>Some used:</p>
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<li>Cookie tins</li>
<li>Freezer containers</li>
<li>Mason jars</li>
<li>Old toolboxes</li>
<li>Ammo cans</li>
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<p>“We’ve even seen coins hidden inside old board game boxes,” they say. “Nobody thinks to look there.”</p>
<p>The storage method usually made perfect sense to the original owner. Years later, it looks random to everyone else.</p>
<h2>Estate Cleanouts Are Where Surprises Happen</h2>
<p>This is where the biggest discoveries happen.</p>
<p>Families cleaning homes often move fast. They sort, donate, toss, and clear rooms quickly.</p>
<p>That speed creates risk.</p>
<p>“A lot of people don’t realize they need to slow down,” they explain. “One small container can hold the most important item in the house.”</p>
<p>Estate situations also create another problem: nobody remembers what mattered.</p>
<p>The person who built the collection understood it. The next generation may not.</p>
<p>A CivicScience survey found 38% of U.S. adults have collected coins at some point, yet many younger individuals have little connection to the hobby. That gap creates confusion during inheritance situations.</p>
<p>“A lot of people tell us their kids just aren’t interested,” they say. “So the collection ends up sitting untouched until somebody finally has to deal with it.”</p>
<h2>Why Condition Get Destroyed Accidentally</h2>
<p>Strange storage creates another issue: damage.</p>
<p>Coins stored loosely rub together. Humidity affects surfaces. Rubber bands leave marks.</p>
<p>Then comes the biggest mistake of all: cleaning.</p>
<p>“People find old coins and immediately try to polish them,” they explain. “That can destroy collector value instantly.”</p>
<p>A scratched or cleaned coin may lose a major part of its appeal to collectors.</p>
<p>That is why experts recommend leaving coins exactly as they are found.</p>
<h2>What Experts Notice Immediately</h2>
<p>Most people see a pile of coins.</p>
<p>Experts see patterns.</p>
<p>They scan for:</p>
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<li>Key dates</li>
<li>Rare mint marks</li>
<li>Unusual condition</li>
<li>Older designs</li>
<li>Better-preserved pieces</li>
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<p>American Rare Coin Collectors Association uses this process constantly during evaluations.</p>
<p>“The first thing we do is separate what needs closer attention,” they explain. “You’re looking for the coins that break the pattern.”</p>
<p>That is usually where the story changes.</p>
<h2>The Real Lesson Hidden in All This</h2>
<p>Rare coins are not always locked away in perfect displays.</p>
<p>Sometimes they are sitting in a rusty tin next to old screws.</p>
<p>Sometimes they are in a kitchen drawer under expired batteries.</p>
<p>Sometimes they hide in plain sight for fifty years before someone finally asks the right question.</p>
<p>“What surprises people most is where these coins show up,” they say. “The valuable stuff usually isn’t where anyone expects it.”</p>
<p>That is what makes coin hunting strange, unpredictable, and oddly fun.</p>
<p>The next valuable coin might not be in a museum.</p>
<p>It might be in somebody’s garage right now.</p>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p><img width="800" height="500" src="https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/julian-hochgesang-7-LeWrEh0pc-unsplash.jpg" class="attachment-featured-img size-featured-img wp-post-image" alt="" style="align:centre; margin-bottom:40px; height: 300px; width: 600px;" decoding="async" srcset="https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/julian-hochgesang-7-LeWrEh0pc-unsplash.jpg 800w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/julian-hochgesang-7-LeWrEh0pc-unsplash-300x188.jpg 300w, https://goodmenproject.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/julian-hochgesang-7-LeWrEh0pc-unsplash-768x480.jpg 768w" sizes="(max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px" />Licensed therapist Leslie Davenport breaks down some of the tools that can help manage anxiety in the face of mounting climate catastrophe.</p>
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<p class="has-default-font-family wp-block-paragraph"><em>Dear Leslie, </em></p>
<p class="has-default-font-family wp-block-paragraph"><em>A lot of my work in therapy for anxiety has focused on recognizing catastrophic thinking and assessing what is more realistic. How would you suggest adapting this for a world where reality itself is increasingly becoming more catastrophic, and science suggests things will get worse in the future? </em></p>
<p class="has-default-font-family wp-block-paragraph"><em>—  Anonymously Anxious</em></p>
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<p class="has-default-font-family wp-block-paragraph">Dear Anonymously Anxious,</p>
<p class="has-default-font-family wp-block-paragraph">Your question points to something I’ve had to reckon with in my own practice as a therapist. Before I became more aware of the impacts of climate change, I used the same framework you describe — I helped clients recognize their distorted thinking and recalibrate toward what’s realistic.</p>
<p class="has-default-font-family wp-block-paragraph">But as I came to understand the actual science, I had a striking realization: For climate-aware clients, their anxiety isn’t distorted at all. It’s a healthy response to real destruction and the inadequate efforts to address it. Shifting toward “what’s realistic” isn’t what we’re after to manage climate anxiety. Instead, it’s about navigating high-stakes uncertainty by developing new skills — helping people stay grounded and functional while channeling their distress into meaningful action with others.</p>
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<p class="has-default-font-family wp-block-paragraph">I think part of what you’re asking is how to distinguish a clear-eyed view of the climate crisis from catastrophizing. First, we need to understand the human tendency to catastrophize. Part of what shapes our perception of reality is something less visible than the daily news. We all have <a href="https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2018.01561/full" target="_blank" rel="noopener">cognitive biases</a> operating mostly beneath our conscious awareness. One in particular is relevant here: the negativity bias, which causes us to register threatening situations three to five times more intensely than positive ones. That might have been useful for our evolutionary survival, but it can also have a distorting effect — especially in the age of doomscrolling, when it’s altogether too easy to overwhelm ourselves with bad news.</p>
<p class="has-default-font-family wp-block-paragraph">That’s why a balanced view also requires staying current on the real progress being made: <a href="https://grist.org/project/indigenous/klamath-river-dam-removal-tribe-pacificorp-salmon/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">dam removals</a>, <a href="https://grist.org/energy/solar-power-industry-trump-data-centers/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">renewable energy growth</a>, <a href="https://grist.org/regulation/held-v-montana-youth-climate-lawsuit-supreme-court-decision/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">youth litigation wins</a>, <a href="https://grist.org/food-and-agriculture/puerto-ricans-are-devising-the-food-system-of-tomorrow/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">communities building resilience</a>. This kind of news often gets less attention, so finding it can take some effort. But seeking out these stories may help to remind you that there are answers to the problems we face.</p>
<p class="has-default-font-family wp-block-paragraph">Still, these advances don’t diminish the urgency of the genuine crisis we’re facing, and for now, our climate problems are still outpacing solutions. Watching that unfold, watching the status quo persist, can be agonizing. In therapy terms, the cognitive goal has to shift from “accurate assessment” to “functional clarity.” Accurate assessment asks, “How bad is it?” Functional clarity asks, “Given what I understand, what can I do?” The first question keeps you spinning while the second moves you forward. It can help you channel your emotions into motivation — to get involved with a local organization, lobby your elected officials, or change your own behavior.</p>
<p class="has-default-font-family wp-block-paragraph">Learn to distinguish between threat awareness, which is necessary and healthy, and threat rumination, which exhausts without informing. When your mind is cycling through worst-case futures with no path forward, that’s your signal to use the tools you’ve been building in therapy: Take a walk, do a breathing exercise, seek out a story about climate progress.</p>
<p class="has-default-font-family wp-block-paragraph">This is also where therapy offers something that information alone can’t. Climate anxiety lives in the body as much as the mind. Therapeutic tools (somatic practices, working through grief, reining in the runaway thoughts that keep you up at night, and building confidence to act) strengthen your capacity to stay present with the shifting climate reality without being overwhelmed by it. That’s not “coping” in the familiar sense of managing symptoms until life returns to normal. It’s developing the inner resources to keep showing up, keep caring, and keep acting with an open mind and heart. That kind of resilience makes sustained engagement possible.</p>
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Leslie</p>
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<div class="bio-block__text"><strong>I’m Leslie Davenport</strong>, a licensed therapist, educator, speaker, consultant, and internationally recognized voice on the emotional and psychological dimensions of climate change. If you’ve got a question about climate and mental health, <a href="https://gristorg.typeform.com/askatherapist" target="_blank" rel="noopener">please consider submitting it for a future column</a>.</div>
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