tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873723488811186143Sat, 28 Jan 2012 23:16:25 +0000Resource And HelpVideosThoughtsStorieshttp://thegrievingroom.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com (From Grief to Grace)Blogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873723488811186143.post-4290798530775453712Fri, 20 Jan 2012 12:04:00 +00002012-01-20T04:04:44.663-08:00Thoughts © James Randklev Photography Anyone who has ever put their ear to a conch shell believes he hears the sea.No matter if someone may say it is not the sea actually... you hear it.It is as real the sea, as the sun hot. It is unexplainable. The waves moving and crashing within the shell. But you listen.And if you listen, you can hear it. Anyone who has ever heard, felt, smelled, saw or touched a http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~3/dVPjUKp6kDU/message-of-conch-shell.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (From Grief to Grace)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~4/dVPjUKp6kDU" height="1" width="1"/>http://thegrievingroom.blogspot.com/2012/01/message-of-conch-shell.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873723488811186143.post-4714457555404946871Wed, 11 Jan 2012 10:17:00 +00002012-01-11T02:19:29.017-08:00Stories Today. Forgive. Yourself. Forgive Yourself. Whatever you think you did, or didn't do good enough.... Whatever mistakes you made.... Whatever you wish you would have done.... Whatever you could have done, but didn't..... FORGIVE YOURSELF. You are not God, Christ, Buddha, Moses, and most certainly you have no control of what only the Universe declares possible. Stop hating yourself, beating http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~3/IUqUMrgPZHI/forgive.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (From Grief to Grace)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~4/IUqUMrgPZHI" height="1" width="1"/>http://thegrievingroom.blogspot.com/2012/01/forgive.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873723488811186143.post-8562903466030653299Mon, 09 Jan 2012 06:57:00 +00002012-01-08T22:57:46.324-08:00Stories After my son died, I came across this art piece by Vlad Studio, and it resonated deeply with me. It's a simple little picture, but it speaks volumes of how I felt then, and how I sometimes still feel. Alone. Barely Hanging on. Left Behind. Isolated. You will most certainly feel all of those things and more when you lose a child. You will also feel those things when you are struggling to http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~3/cY_YQ6D8TqQ/never-alone.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (From Grief to Grace)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~4/cY_YQ6D8TqQ" height="1" width="1"/>http://thegrievingroom.blogspot.com/2012/01/never-alone.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873723488811186143.post-121240581661358608Sun, 01 Jan 2012 10:27:00 +00002012-01-01T03:26:56.866-08:00Resource And Help We as parents don't think much about our sanity when we are strugglingto keep our addicted child alive and ever onward toward some hope of recovery.But that is the very thing we must do. The old adage that if you are not well, your children will not be well, and all those similarsayings really is true. I know you suffer. Emotionally, spiritually, mentally, physically.... It can be a full http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~3/O8YXXg8iM0Q/taking-care-of-yourself-too.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (From Grief to Grace)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~4/O8YXXg8iM0Q" height="1" width="1"/>http://thegrievingroom.blogspot.com/2012/01/taking-care-of-yourself-too.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873723488811186143.post-3707842373055625345Sat, 10 Dec 2011 12:04:00 +00002011-12-10T04:06:30.740-08:00Stories Stupid Christmas.It's my favorite Holiday.I have avoided it for the last 4 seasons. It still doesn't seem right to me to have another Christmas without Dallas.I know I should carry on shouldn't I? But it doesn't hold the same sparkle for me anymore.That in itself is sad.I have not put up a tree for 4 years. I have attempted to avoid it at all costs, sending the youngest one elsewhere so hehttp://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~3/TjiFoWvrfhs/holiday-lovehate.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (From Grief to Grace)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~4/TjiFoWvrfhs" height="1" width="1"/>http://thegrievingroom.blogspot.com/2011/12/holiday-lovehate.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873723488811186143.post-4166096035704623208Mon, 21 Mar 2011 05:07:00 +00002011-12-10T03:01:06.278-08:00Resource And Help The Unexpected Path Your Child is Walking presents:Life Coaching for PARENTS OF ADDICTS. A space for you to heal. A space where you get the support you need. A space for you to find your own way again. Untangle your guilt, and shame. That no longer serves a purpose for you, your family or your child. What YOU need in this moment to help you find some peace. The Unexpected Path http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~3/Iovs3_4x250/unexpected-path.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (From Grief to Grace)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~4/Iovs3_4x250" height="1" width="1"/>http://thegrievingroom.blogspot.com/2011/03/unexpected-path.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873723488811186143.post-1456715115286019114Fri, 11 Feb 2011 23:00:00 +00002011-12-10T03:01:32.817-08:00Resource And Help 1. Parents Are Enablers We love our sons and daughters. We would do anything to remove the pain. Take away the addiction. Smooth the road. We’d give our life if it would help. I once wrote a letter to my son about using drugs. I used the analogy of him standing on the railroad tracks and a train (drugs) is blasting down the tracks and blaring its horn but he hears nothing. I told him it http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~3/MDtKkh929Vg/7-truths-about-addicted-child.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (From Grief to Grace)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~4/MDtKkh929Vg" height="1" width="1"/>http://thegrievingroom.blogspot.com/2011/02/7-truths-about-addicted-child.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873723488811186143.post-5780985251206003059Wed, 13 Oct 2010 10:10:00 +00002011-12-10T03:01:55.961-08:00Resource And Help  If you have been affected by heroin, this powerful Documentary by National Geographic is for you!! Big loud applause to National Geographic for getting involved, researching, and documenting this harrowingbusiness of death.You can watch episodes that involve: The Producers, The Traffickers, The Dealers, The Users, The Doctors, and The Enforcers. Heroin can be life threatening, claiming the http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~3/QW3Hhpn5vgY/alert-october-18-2010-must-watch.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (From Grief to Grace)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~4/QW3Hhpn5vgY" height="1" width="1"/>http://thegrievingroom.blogspot.com/2010/10/alert-october-18-2010-must-watch.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873723488811186143.post-544697261485077641Tue, 31 Aug 2010 07:04:00 +00002011-12-10T03:30:10.184-08:00Videos Nature's first green is gold, Her hardest hue to hold. Her early leaf's a flower; But only so an hour. Then leaf subsides to leaf. So Eden sank to grief, So dawn goes down to day. Nothing gold can stay. ~ Robert Frost http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~3/sfKtWXNHgFo/stay-gold.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (From Grief to Grace)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~4/sfKtWXNHgFo" height="1" width="1"/>http://thegrievingroom.blogspot.com/2010/08/stay-gold.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873723488811186143.post-5563494623758907148Fri, 27 Aug 2010 13:07:00 +00002011-12-10T03:03:52.484-08:00Resource And Help A heartbreaking, but enlightening glimpse into the shattered world of those left behind following the death of a child to suicide. Another Book Recommendation for you parents.Well, actually.... for everyone. Chasing Death is the journey of Jan Anderson after her son Kristian's death.Kristian died on Halloween 2002 of a heroin overdose. This book is the final result of 6 and 1/2 years of http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~3/EOvNouJf5MA/chasing-death-losing-child-to-suicide.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (From Grief to Grace)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~4/EOvNouJf5MA" height="1" width="1"/>http://thegrievingroom.blogspot.com/2010/08/chasing-death-losing-child-to-suicide.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873723488811186143.post-3773238047415276810Mon, 26 Jul 2010 20:39:00 +00002011-12-10T03:04:21.554-08:00Resource And Help   At my daughter's funeral, I was amazed when a friend told me he had to get back to his office. It dawned on me that people were going about their business. The world went on, though my world had ended. --Emily After the service I stood at the grave site, holding a rose from the casket. Time had stopped. My sister came up and said I had to leave because other people wanted to go http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~3/I2nNaRLsedg/and-sword-shall-pierce-your-heart.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (From Grief to Grace)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~4/I2nNaRLsedg" height="1" width="1"/>http://thegrievingroom.blogspot.com/2010/07/and-sword-shall-pierce-your-heart.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873723488811186143.post-5517310503254762874Fri, 18 Jun 2010 05:41:00 +00002011-12-10T03:04:52.878-08:00Resource And Help Any parent who has lost a child to a heroin overdose will tell you NO! to that question. No, it will not "cure" them. There is no cure for heroin addiction. There is no cure, for heroin addiction. Many of the adolescents and teens who have died from a heroin overdose have already been to rehab. Probably more than one or two rehabs. It is possible that they have had family http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~3/udxCZrmtv1c/will-rehab-cure-your-child-of-heroin.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (From Grief to Grace)2<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~4/udxCZrmtv1c" height="1" width="1"/>http://thegrievingroom.blogspot.com/2010/06/will-rehab-cure-your-child-of-heroin.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873723488811186143.post-2339001830677639369Thu, 27 May 2010 10:00:00 +00002011-12-10T03:05:19.382-08:00Resource And Help When my son died, I had no idea whatsoever that by law, I could have had a home funeral. This is something I would have liked to have done. It was hard to let him leave the house with the medical examiner... even harder to allow his body to float from coroner to funeral home for a week, before his service and cremation. I would have been blessed to have been able to wash and care http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~3/GQbNFqC8vn0/must-read-home-funerals.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (From Grief to Grace)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~4/GQbNFqC8vn0" height="1" width="1"/>http://thegrievingroom.blogspot.com/2010/05/must-read-home-funerals.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873723488811186143.post-7335189627484120582Tue, 18 May 2010 23:39:00 +00002011-12-10T03:06:36.022-08:00Resource And Help I recently came across a website that really got my interest.It compiles data from actual heroin users who remain anonymous, reporting informationon the price they are able to buy heroin, in their city, county, and state.Not all cities and counties are available, but near close to it.If you want to look at the truth of how cheap it is for kids to not only get heroin, but to also get enough http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~3/n_BosFYbtGI/price-of-heroin-in-dollars.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (From Grief to Grace)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~4/n_BosFYbtGI" height="1" width="1"/>http://thegrievingroom.blogspot.com/2010/05/price-of-heroin-in-dollars.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873723488811186143.post-7547354842547093768Mon, 03 May 2010 11:37:00 +00002011-12-10T03:06:19.617-08:00Stories We always come across people who have no time, inclination, compassion nor understanding of what it is that breaks our heart, rips us to shreds, muddies the waters of our thoughts. This is true everyday and everywhere.Grieving people can tell you they experience this many times. For most people grief is uncomfortable to deal with. People honestly don't know what to say, how to say it, and http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~3/YaZzcNH9H2w/compassion-for-grieving.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (From Grief to Grace)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~4/YaZzcNH9H2w" height="1" width="1"/>http://thegrievingroom.blogspot.com/2010/05/compassion-for-grieving.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873723488811186143.post-7146486701158912178Sun, 25 Apr 2010 08:36:00 +00002011-12-10T03:07:00.782-08:00Resource And Help A while back, I had written an article regarding grief as a possible disease. Not the so called "normal" grief; the grief that inevitably occurs eventually leading to mourning then healing. But grief that is protracted, which disables the griever, manifests into something that disables mentally or physically. In my article, I cited a paper written in 1961 by Dr. George Engel entitledhttp://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~3/iT8THrL7uBU/prolonged-grief-disorder.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (From Grief to Grace)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~4/iT8THrL7uBU" height="1" width="1"/>http://thegrievingroom.blogspot.com/2010/04/prolonged-grief-disorder.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873723488811186143.post-3583101392723408122Tue, 20 Apr 2010 07:00:00 +00002011-12-10T03:07:36.377-08:00Resource And Help No matter the circumstances when someone dies, we tend to haul out the same old clichés.Part of it is probably our fear of hurting someone by saying "the wrong thing."Part of it is that we are so overwhelmed by emotions that we don’t know what we really think.But a good part of it is also our general discomfort with grief. For most of us, the raw reality of losing someone (or seeing http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~3/H2ZTEhClOmo/drive-by-grieving.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (From Grief to Grace)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~4/H2ZTEhClOmo" height="1" width="1"/>http://thegrievingroom.blogspot.com/2010/04/drive-by-grieving.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873723488811186143.post-5422440025211345978Tue, 13 Apr 2010 00:44:00 +00002011-12-10T03:08:02.409-08:00Resource And Help In its 17th annual tracking study of parents’ attitudes toward drugs and teen drug use, the Partnership for a Drug-Free America® today reports that the current generation of parents – the most drug-experienced group on record – sees less risk in a wide variety of illicit drugs, and are significantly less likely to be talking with their teens about drug abuse, when compared to moms and http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~3/eK-11z-lLys/parents-see-less-risk-today.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (From Grief to Grace)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~4/eK-11z-lLys" height="1" width="1"/>http://thegrievingroom.blogspot.com/2010/04/parents-see-less-risk-today.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873723488811186143.post-7519118007495594759Tue, 02 Mar 2010 01:59:00 +00002011-12-10T03:09:13.995-08:00Videos When I first heard this song, I cried. And everytime after that, I do the same... http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~3/X2wdmqXmTvk/blog-post.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (From Grief to Grace)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~4/X2wdmqXmTvk" height="1" width="1"/>http://thegrievingroom.blogspot.com/2010/03/blog-post.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873723488811186143.post-4227955425751464955Sun, 31 Jan 2010 06:41:00 +00002011-12-10T03:09:42.662-08:00Resource And Help “If we're honest, there is not a person among us whose life has not been disrupted—either directly, or indirectly—by addiction. We invite you to join us to build this Foundation into a leading national voice and to restore hope for families like ours who want nothing more than to heal and comfort a sick child."— Dr. Robert Day and CJ Taylor Day, SAMA Foundation Co-Founders Those http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~3/LWHg_s-cwNc/science-and-management-of-addictions.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (From Grief to Grace)6<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~4/LWHg_s-cwNc" height="1" width="1"/>http://thegrievingroom.blogspot.com/2010/01/science-and-management-of-addictions.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873723488811186143.post-2646279309248864823Fri, 22 Jan 2010 10:30:00 +00002011-12-10T03:10:09.361-08:00Videos No matter what else happens in life one thing is always sure... changes come. They come when we are still or active, waiting or unaware. Whether good or bad, changes will come. One of the certainties of losing someone beloved, is that you will feel all sorrow and tragedy deeper. All of it. Even if you have always been compassionate, able to empathize with another's sufferings, losing http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~3/SFjg5P5gh7o/change-is-gonna-come.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (From Grief to Grace)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~4/SFjg5P5gh7o" height="1" width="1"/>http://thegrievingroom.blogspot.com/2010/01/change-is-gonna-come.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873723488811186143.post-609049767451082739Tue, 19 Jan 2010 18:52:00 +00002011-12-10T03:10:33.065-08:00Resource And Help 2010 Suicide Prevention Project What can you create that will cause someone, at the very least, to stop and think? The simple act of engagement can draw in the outcast, help prevent loneliness and discourage destructive behavior. This call for submissions is open to university and college students, staff and educators. The Engagement Project is a program of the http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~3/V97nL-JED6M/student-artists-and-designers-suicide.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (From Grief to Grace)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~4/V97nL-JED6M" height="1" width="1"/>http://thegrievingroom.blogspot.com/2010/01/student-artists-and-designers-suicide.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873723488811186143.post-390993733664983199Tue, 22 Dec 2009 15:05:00 +00002011-12-10T03:11:00.332-08:00Resource And Help There is more to addiction than the matter of brain chemistry, of course. Nonetheless, the neuropharmacology of addictive drugs can be spoken of with a specificity undreamed of only two decades ago. Addiction is a behavior, a state of mind, a way of life--but it is not only these things. It is also a biochemical process. For all their similarities, drugs do have characteristic signatures.http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~3/wJ3LRUSTVak/chasing-dragon.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (From Grief to Grace)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~4/wJ3LRUSTVak" height="1" width="1"/>http://thegrievingroom.blogspot.com/2009/12/chasing-dragon.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873723488811186143.post-7994841885337206192Mon, 14 Dec 2009 13:33:00 +00002011-12-10T03:11:35.883-08:00Videos You must take 10 minutes to watch this video.   http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~3/Xu8u_nwKBpc/death-and-mother.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (From Grief to Grace)2<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~4/Xu8u_nwKBpc" height="1" width="1"/>http://thegrievingroom.blogspot.com/2009/12/death-and-mother.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873723488811186143.post-1281899718540738315Fri, 11 Dec 2009 04:58:00 +00002011-12-10T03:12:06.290-08:00Resource And Help Please don't forget that on December 13, 2009 Compassionate Friends Chapters all over the United States and worldwide, will be holding their annual Worldwide Candle Lighting ceremony, for all of the children who have passed. This is a time for companionship, sharing, and hearing the names of our beautiful children. Below you will find the link to locate the Chapter nearest you. http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~3/A_bw7jXu2Fs/worldwide-candle-lighting-december-13th.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (From Grief to Grace)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheGrievingRoom/~4/A_bw7jXu2Fs" height="1" width="1"/>http://thegrievingroom.blogspot.com/2009/12/worldwide-candle-lighting-december-13th.html