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September 16: London, UK

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Presented by Anatomie Studio London

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6:30pm – 8:30pm

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Le jeu avec le feu (Playing with Fire) is a 1975 French comedy-drama, directed by Alain Robbe-Grillet.

A group of men are kidnapping young women all over Paris and holding them for ransom. They send a ransom note to a wealthy man, “the banker”, before before they kidnap his daughter, Carolina, which persuades the banker to hire a private detective to protect her. This detective is secretly one of the kidnappers, so he talks the banker into letting him take his daughter into hiding in a specialized clinic, which is actually a brothel. So, they’ve managed to kidnap a woman without her or her father knowing she’s been kidnapped. That’s just the beginning of the plot twists.

A major portion of Le jeu is crime-drama-as-absurdist-farce. Men kidnap young women in broad daylight and in front of multiple witnesses. Characters constantly change costumes, identities and loyalties. Two men meet on top of the Arc de Triomphe to negotiate the ransom for a woman they both know (or think they know) hasn’t been kidnapped. The criminals complain about the difficulty of holding people for ransom in a depressed economy. Not to mention breaking the fourth wall.

Another major portion is European softcore, of the “woman in captivity” variety. Carolina can freely wander around the brothel and look in to various rooms, containing kinky vignettes; Carolina observes but does not participate. This includes even a brief scene of bestiality with a girl and a dog.

After various plot machinations, there’s an elaborate car chase, and it turns out Carolina and the kidnapper were in on the scam from the beginning, and they live happily ever after.

The problem with Le Jeu is that the male characters know this is a comedy, but the women look like they aren’t in on the joke. In the aftermath of the Jeffrey Epstein and Gisèle Pelicot affairs, I can’t quite laugh off women being kidnapped, gaslit and drugged to be sexually abused by men. I would have liked this a lot more if it was played entirely as a farce and nobody really got hurt.

Alain Robbe-Grillet was married to Catherine Robbe-Grillet, a dominatrix and erotica writer. Actress Anicée Alvina (Carolina) starred in Robbe-Grillet’s previous film Successive Slidings of Pleasure (1974), along with her co-star Jean-Louis Trintignant. Sylvia Kristel is best known as the star of the original Emmanuelle and many other European softcore movies.

Cover image courtesy of Domina Gea. Photography by L. Thomas.

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A Lover’s Pinch was published through the conventional process of finding an agent, submitting the manuscript to the agent, the agent submitting the manuscript to various publishers, and waiting for one of them to accept it. It did earn through its advance, which not all books do, and I still get a small amount of royalties from sales. However, I have some questions about the deal, and if I ever go through a publishing company again, I will do some things differently.

Conversations with other authors who write about similar topics make me wonder, however, if going through a publishing company is even the right path. The Celluloid Dungeon has a niche, controversial topic, and I might have more success promoting it than a publishing company. No matter how much (or little) effort a publisher puts into marketing a title, they still get their cut. Reviewing my royalties statement shows that the portion of total sales of paper copies that come from my direct, person-to-person sales keeps rising. In 2025, 25% of paper sales were through my own efforts.

However, self-publishing Celluloid Dungeon, in a way that meets my standards, will cost. Even if I do all the editing, copy-editing, proofreading, layout and cover design myself, I’d still want an index, and that costs thousands of dollars. I also want it to have a strong visual appeal, and that means paying licensing fees for photos, running at least a few hundred. I’m looking at four figures to do it right.

There’s also the problem of which companies to use. Amazon KDP is the 800 lb gorilla surrounded by 10 lb monkeys, at least in terms of ebooks and online sales. Getting it into brick & mortar stores means going through the IngramSpark system (even if you use another company) and they take their cut. But fighting for shelf-space in retail is no sure thing. There’s also direct sales companies to consider, if this title is best suited to that.

Vikings (2013-21) is a historical drama TV series, broadly based on the life of legendary leader Ragnar Lothbrok. While I’m no expert on this particular period, the series plays pretty loose with history. E.g. the series began in season 1 with a story based on the Lindisfarne raid of 793, but one major plot arc of season 3 is based on the Viking siege of Paris in 845, and characters have only aged a few years.

For this blog’s purposes, we are concerned with a subplot of the siege of Paris arc. The leader of Paris’ defense against the Vikings is Count Odo (played by Owen Roe, loosely based on Odo of France), who chafes under the rule of Emperor Charles. Odo’s lieutenant Roland (Huw Parmenter) sends his sister, Therese (Karen Hassan), to seduce the count. So far, so typical for this kind of show.

What’s not typical is that Odo is a sadist, and even less typical, he is a consensual sadist. In his first private moment with Therese (Season 3, Episode 10), he takes her to his dungeon.

Odo: If you would submit.
Therese: To what?
Odo: To being chained up and whipped. Of course, I will allow you to choose the whip. Some are more severe than others. You will always be able to call a halt, though I would prefer to decide myself. It would keep my interest.
Therese: Undoubtedly.

Odo puts her in the metal manacles. In the closeup, it’s clear the cuffs are padded. It’s not clear if these are supposed to be padded in the diegesis of the scene, or if this is an error. It does look like Therese could easily slip her slender wrists out of them if they weren’t padded.

Odo: Tell me when to strike. Say strike.
Therese: Strike.

Odo does strike her. Therese’s response is hard to gauge. Is she play-acting reluctance to seduce Odo, or is she genuine repelled by this, but resolved to carry on out of loyalty to her brother?

In Season 4, Episode 2, Therese gets even more intimate with Odo. After nudging him towards usurping the Emperor, she picks out a crop or quirt for him to use on her, and even teases him with it. He hesitates:

Odo: This is more of a brute than we have used before, and it will hurt you more.

Therese doesn’t flinch; if she’s not into it, she’s playing her part well.

Later in the episode, Therese’s wounds are tended by her brother, and they have an incestuous affair.

By Season 4, Episode 6, Odo is drunk and openly talks of deposing Charles to Therese, who now only half-heartedly plays the game of seduction. She offers to undress, but instead Odo chains her and pulls her dress up to her waist, before whipping her. He still asks her for her permission, and only starts when she says, “Strike.”

In Season 4, Episode 8, Therese turns the tables on Odo, and says she wants to switch, using the same language as he did with her. He agrees to this. In Odo’s dungeon, she has him chained standing and stripped to the waist. He gives her the word to “Strike!” and she does, then hands it over to her brother Roland, who gags Odo and beats him to death. Therese watches this, looking pleased with herself.

After killing Odo, and painting him as a traitor to his emperor (which Therese goaded him into), Roland and Therese attempt to ingratiate themselves with Charles. He has them garotted to death anyway.

It’s a cliche to associate sexual deviance with moral and/or political deviance, but this plotline breaks from the usual tropes. Odo commands brutal violence in defense of Paris, and plots against his lord, but he’s not depicted as any worse (or better) than other figures in this milieu. He’s played as an older, heavier man (with a prosthetic arm), contrasted against the rugged Vikings, but also against the foppish Emperor. He is no more politically deviant than anybody else.

I don’t know why the writers and producers of this series decided to have this dynamic between Odo and Therese. It would be plausible to have a non-consensual sadist character, who doesn’t care in the slightest about his victims, but not as interesting. It makes Odo a more interesting character, instead of just another ruthless, treacherous noble.

There’s also the question of whether this kind of relationship could have existed at all in this time period. This was long before the creation of modern, liberal concepts of personal rights, especially for women. Why does Odo insist on getting Therese’s consent, when he doesn’t need her consent for ordinary sex? His insistence that Therese choose the whip to be used on her, and that she can call halt, makes him oddly vulnerable. It may be that no other women will put up with his desires, and Therese’s willingness to submit to him paradoxically gives her power over him.

I wouldn’t say a relationship like this, in this time and place, is impossible, but it strains credibility.

See this blog post for more discussion of this Vikings plotline

The following contains spoilers for I want your sex (2026), starring Olivia Wilde and Cooper Hoffman, and directed by Gregg Araki.

Elliot Bell is an aimless, unemployed 20-something man. He gets a job as an assistant to an eccentric artist, Erika Tracey, which leads to him being her lover and her submissive.

The film initially sets up a generational contrast. Elliot is the prototypical Gen Z (or Zed) male: ambition-less, timid, passive, and stuck in a protracted adolescence, or even childhood. His girlfriend, Minerva, is too busy studying for her MD for sex, and regards him with at best, boredom, and at worst, contempt. His female friend and roommate Apple is, like him, too cautious to act on their mutual attraction.

Erika is a (late) Gen X woman, an aggressively sexual, shock artist who wears fetish wear in her art studio. She brings Elliot (apparently the only heterosexual man in her employ) into her office and broaches the idea that he become her sexual partner. Erika gives Elliot a copy of a Harold Robbins novel, as if it were a relic of a bygone era. Elliot reads it in bed, then masturbates, thinking about her.

Elliot becomes the lover and submissive of Erika, in a series of scenes shot like David Lachapelle editorials. I should emphasize that there are no scenes of negotiation between them. Elliot does become infatuated with her, his passivity responding to her overwhelming presence and control. Erika does seem to have some emotional attachment to Elliot, but she’s also fickle.

The turning point comes when Erika calls up Elliot and demands a threesome. Elliot recruits his friend and roommate Apple. They both drink heavily before they go to Erika’s house. Somewhere along the line, this scene goes from comedic awkwardness to rape-y coercion. Though Apple has hinted at bi-curiosity before, Erika goes after her like a thirsty vampire, largely ignoring Elliot. Erika barks orders at them both, until Apple quits.

As a kinkster, this is when I lost all sympathy for Erika. Peel back her sexually liberated persona and she’s just an exploiter who doesn’t give a damn about anybody else’s desires or boundaries. Maybe Elliot is masochistic enough to handle it, but Apple is not. This ends Elliot’s long relationship with Apple, and leaves him nowhere to live.

I Want Your Sex is very stuck in the male gaze. The main spectacle is Olivia Wilde in a series of sexy outfits. Cooper Hoffman is not a subject of the gaze in the same way. (His chunky body makes him look like an overgrown child next to her.) The only time the movie shows male frontal nudity, is when Elliot sees the stud Minerva has been sleeping with behind his back. This sends our protagonist into total shock.

On the night of Erika’s big show, a critic’s comment sends Erika into a downward spiral. She wants to have a quickie with Elliot and sends him to wait in a stall in the ladies’ bathroom, but then gets distracted. When Elliot eventually comes out of the bathroom, he finds that Erika has used a video she took of one of their sessions in a video installation. In front of the media, Elliot dresses down Erika for violating his trust and privacy, which leads to her being “cancelled”, and him getting fired.

Against all common sense, Elliot goes back to Erika’s house, where she’s (apparently) drunk, and she gets him drunk. He blacks out, wakes up wearing a pink bra and panties, and finds Erika floating face down in her pool. He tries desperately to revive her, then calls the police, only to find that Erika has disappeared. This leads to the film’s framing device of Elliot telling his story to a pair of police detectives. They release him because they couldn’t find a body.

Finally, Erika turns up, alive. She explains to Elliot that her studio had been losing money and the failure of her show meant she couldn’t get out of debt. (Erika’s luxurious house with a pool and fancy car makes me suspect her money troubles are her own fault.) The only way (she said) she could not go broke was to fake her own death, and set up Elliot as a witness. This made art speculators buy all of her pieces immediately. (She did explain to the police that she’s not dead, so Elliot is off the hook for that.)

When Elliot says that she roofied him, making him think he might have killed her in a drugged blackout, which lead to him being interrogated by the police, she says that he’s now famous because of his relationship with her, and he can leverage that to get a career started. There’s a message for the modern age: “Fame, at any cost, no matter who you step on along the way.”

In a flash-forward to a year later, Elliot is a successful podcaster, interviewing Erika about her new book. Her hooks are sunk so deep into Elliot that he’s still drawn to her years later.

Pillion did a better job of exploring a dom-sub relationship from an inexperienced male submissive’s perspective. Collin is as awestruck by Ray as Elliot is of Erika, but Collin also sees Ray’s moments of affection and care. Erika may, in her way, like Elliot, but we never see her doing anything to help or support him. Elliot has to find out the hard way what kind of person she is.

The film wants to portray Erika as a complicated character, a charismatic bitch with a heart of gold. In practice, she’s pretty simple: she uses people, to advance her artistic career, to feed her ego, or just to screw with them. Her apology to Elliot is supposed to be her moment of vulnerability, but it looks more like her being even more manipulative.

Gregg Araki is the out gay male director and co-writer of this film, and the film takes an outsider’s perspective on heterosexual relationships. The directorial stand-in character is Zap, a gay man who is Elliot’s co-worker at the studio and later friend. Compared to Elliot and his failed-to-launch sexual and romantic life, Zap inhabits a completely different world of frictionless, man-on-man hookups, dates and weekend-long orgies. In his implied view, Elliot’s emotional vulnerability is quaint and naive; why not toughen up and separate physical and emotional intimacy entirely? This gap in expectations may be why Erika’s actions in the threesome scene don’t make her irredeemable in the eyes of this story.

There aren’t a lot of mainstream films about female dominant/male submissive relationships, and even fewer good ones. I Want Your Sex is not a romance; it’s a vulnerable person being taken advantage of. That the person taking the advantage is beautiful and female shouldn’t make a difference. It’s still statutory rape if it’s a teenage boy and an adult woman. Olivia Wilde, as Erika, has directed feminist films like Don’t Worry, Darling; you’d think she’s have a better understanding of sexual power dynamics than this.

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Books and Movies

O Miss Pearl, “The Everlasting” by Alix E. Harrow [Femdom Book Review]

History of BDSM, Killing Me Softly (2002): The Celluloid Dungeon

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The BDSM Store, BDSM Punishment Generator

Hannah McKnight, I Want to be a Crossdresser

Sex & Relationships

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Tantric Sexual Healing, Erotic Intelligence: Can Sexual Practice Increase Wisdom?

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Oz Bigdownunder, Orgasm Monster Pro 2 Review

Sex Work

Hellga, Fisty Cuffs

Charlotte Cheshire, Luxury Companionship for Every Body: Finding a Disability-Friendly Independent Escort

Mx Valentina, Bespoke Encounters

Ur Little Secret, PSE Meaning: What Is the Porn Star Experience with an Escort?

Sex Worker Search, Fairphone Sex Work Phone Update

Sandra, In Flight Entertainment

Teena Laurent, On Companionship Without Condition

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