The Hottest Tips on the Planet

2010-11-01T22:06:00.000-07:00

75 Crazy-Hot Sex Moves

With these scorching bedroom tricks, you may have to put the fire department on speed dial.

By Jennifer Benjamin

a girl on top of a guy on a kitchen counter

Robert Whitman

Pop quiz: When is your body best primed to get busy? If you’re thinking Um, right now? you’re our kind of girl... and you’re totally correct.

So why not make the most of that healthy lust? We checked in with top experts to get the best booty tricks you may not have tried yet. Work your way down the list in succession or mix and match moves custom-made for his package. Either way, let the games begin.

1. Have a naughty-movie marathon. Rent a bunch of flicks with famously steamy sex scenes. How could you not get inspired?

2. Intensify his orgasm by placing two fingers an inch behind his balls and feeling for a dent (the perineum, a big pleasure trigger). For the last 30 seconds before he comes, massage the spot in a circular motion.

3. Tie two or three knots in a nylon stocking, and gently wrap it (don’t tie it) around the base of his penis so it’s snug but still has some give. The compression makes him even more sensitive, and the knots stimulate your clitoris as you move in girl-on-top.

4. Put a small mirror out to the side, parallel to his body, while you’re going down on him — he’ll have an eye-popping view.

5. To make his orgasm explosive, gently squeeze the base of his penis for five seconds before he comes, then release.

6. Close your eyes and masturbate in front of him. It’s a turn-on because he’ll feel like the only viewer of a private porn show.

7. Text your man racy one-word messages that, when strung together, hint at what you want him to do to you that night.

8. Make a playlist of sultry songs, and set it to shuffle during sex. Change up your pace and mood to match each new tune.

9. Buy a small, bullet-shaped vibrator that has a remote operation. Hold it over your clitoris, and hand him the controls.

10. While your man is hard, use one hand to push his penis up toward his stomach. Lick the underside of his shaft by keeping your tongue flat and moving your head from side to side to cover more surface area.

11. While he’s giving you oral sex, tell him to insert a finger in your vagina and stroke your G-spot with a come-hither motion.

12. Get it on outdoors in a sleeping bag in your backyard. The cozy space makes missionary position even more intimate.

13. For increased sensation for both of you, apply a warming lube designed for sex to his penis right before he enters you.

14. Straddle your guy, then lean forward and rest your upper body on his torso. Bring one leg out to the side, and bend it so that the inside of your leg is against the bed. Then straighten the other leg, and slide it in between his legs. You’ll be better able to rock your clitoral area against his pelvis.

15. As your man goes down on you, ask him to draw figure eights with his tongue over your clitoris so he hits every angle.

16. Challenge yourselves to have sex every day for a month. More frequent encounters rev your libido, culminating in a big domin-O effect with each session.

17. Before sex, take a hot shower together and rub each other’s bodies with salt scrub. The steam and rubbing action will stimulate the nerve endings and blood flow.

18. Sit on the sofa with your legs spread, feet on the ground, and your hips slightly off the edge. Have your man kneel in front of you and enter you, then use your legs and arms to slide yourself up and down on him.

19. Explore tying each other up by getting a sport sheet — which slips over your bed and has four Velcro restraints at each corner — from a sex shop.

20. While on top, straddle your guy and clench your legs so his arms and torso are pinned down. As he keeps still, roll your hips in a clockwise direction. Switch to counterclockwise, then back, every 30 seconds.

21. Play porn star by bringing a camcorder into bed to view yourselves. But don’t record the action — just seeing each other through the lens is a huge turn-on.

22. Trade butt-cheek massages, using firm, kneading motions to stimulate the surprisingly sensitive gluteus muscles.

23. Kiss and lick your way down his torso, stopping short of his penis, then give him a smile and work your way back up. Repeat several times until he begs for mercy.

24. Pop an erotic film into the DVD player, and let the noises serve as inspiration — you’ll feel like you’re in the midst of an orgy.

25. Build momentum by keying in to an ocean legend that the seventh in a series of sea waves is the strongest. Lie on your back on a bench and have your man make every seventh thrust his most powerful.

26. For a superintimate move, have him sit Indian-style (with legs crossed) on the bed or floor. Then straddle him, wrap your legs behind his back, and rock back and forth.

27. On a cold, rainy day, pick five spots in your apartment, and challenge each other to have sex in every one before sundown.

28. When out at a party, lean your back against him so it looks like you’re just affectionately resting your body. Then subtly grind your butt into his package instead.

29. Flash back to high school by keeping your panties on during sex. He can massage you through the fabric — with both his hands and his mouth — as foreplay. Then, when you’re begging for skin-on-skin contact, have him pull the panties to the side to enter you. Put lube on his penis, then get on top, slip it between your labia, and slide up and down along his shaft, targeting your clitoris.

30. In girl-on-top position, lean back and place both hands on the bed behind you with your head tilted back. He’ll get a full view of your breasts and torso and a tickling sensation from the feeling of your hair on his legs.

31. When giving him oral sex, invite him to finish on your breasts.

32. Run your fingertips over your nipples and gently squeeze your breasts in your hands, all while holding eye contact with him.

33. Ignite all his senses by giving him light, fluttery, barely there kisses all over his body, from his forehead down to his toes.

34. Put a frozen grape in your mouth and warm it up a bit. Then hold it between your teeth and glide it down his neck, around his nipples, and over his lips. Finally, use your tongue to slip the grape into his mouth.

35. Have him tease you by varying his thrust technique: entering you with just the tip and then going only halfway in or stroking you on the outside with his member. He can even swirl inside you, grinding with a circular motion.

36. In the middle of intercourse, dig your nails into his butt and pull him in closer.

37. When he’s giving you oral sex, have him approach you at a perpendicular angle so he can move his tongue across your clitoris, rather than up and down. It’s easier for him... and superintense for you.

38. While kissing him, lick and suck his tongue to simulate action below his belt.

39. Ignite all his senses by giving him light, barely there kisses all over his body, from his head down to his toes.

40. In doggie-style, make a downward V with your fingers, and place them over your labia to put pleasuring pressure on your clitoris.

41. Make upright sex easier by standing on a step stool to line up your pelvis with your man’s. Wrap one leg around his waist and have him cradle an arm under your butt for support.

42. Cop a trick from yoga to intensify your connection: As he enters you from behind when you’re on all fours, do cat/cow stretches, slowly rounding and then arching your backs.

43. Create a buffet of sensual pleasure by blindfolding your man. Then alternate using a cashmere glove, silk panties, and a piece of leather to stroke his skin. Next, it’s your turn.

44. While driving home one night, tell him to pull off into a secluded parking area. Then take him in the backseat.

45. With your man sitting on a chair, straddle him, then slowly slip him inside you and caress his lips with your nipples.

46. While kissing, gently run your fingernails up and down the inside of his arm. It’s a teasing, arousing sensation that will leave him craving more.

47. In-bed aggression makes sex more exciting, so have him be a little firm with you by pinning you to the bed. Playfully resist by trying to close your legs or sit up. Just don’t get too rough, and make sure you have a safe word.

48. Have him stand with his back pressed up against one side of a door frame. Bend over and hold on to the other side so you’re in a standing doggie-style position.

49. Show up at his place in a long coat and knee-high boots and nothing on underneath.

50. Try side-saddle position for a more unique and snug fit. Make a bridge with your arms behind you on one side of him and your legs in front of you on the other. Then slide yourself down onto his penis so you’re perpendicular to his body.

51. For a tighter fit during missionary, bring your legs together and up toward you, then rest them both on one of his shoulders or keep them high and straight.

52. As you feel yourself reaching orgasm, slow down to an intensity of about 75 percent of your full speed, stay there for one minute, and then pick up the pace again. This technique will make your orgasm even more intense.

53. Challenge him to turn you on using only one finger on less obvious spots, like behind your knees and the nape of your neck.

54. Before company comes over, get it on in one of the chairs in your living room. Seeing a guest sitting there later will remind you of how naughty you were.

55. Come to bed wearing nothing but sky-high fetish-style or gladiator heels. Your footwear will give your tryst a kinky S and M vibe.

56. While pleasuring yourself, call your man and give him a play-by-play of what you’re doing. It’s both a turn-on and an education.

57. To get better leverage in missionary, lie with your head toward the end of the bed, put your feet up against the wall, and use your legs to push back and forth underneath him.

58. Take an ice cube and run it over sensitive spots, like his nipples, lower stomach, and inner thighs. Follow each stroke with hot breath on the area, letting your lips graze his skin.

59. To help you orgasm during missionary, slip a small vibrator over your clitoris while he’s on top. He’ll also reap the benefits from that extra bit of buzzing on his nerve endings.

60. Instruct your man to sit in a chair, and bind his hands together behind him using a scarf. Then give him a lap dance, teasing him with your untouchable hotness.

61. Before you orgasm when he’s giving you oral sex, lift your hips slightly and clench your butt muscles to make it more intense.

62. Run a superhot bath and get in so that your heads are on opposite sides of the tub. Use your feet to tickle, stroke, and gently massage each other’s sensitive spots before getting on top of him.

63. In missionary, up the G-spot action by having him rotate his body clockwise, using his arms to support himself, until you’re facing opposite directions. From there, grip his waist with your thighs as he thrusts back into you.

64. In girl-on-top, as you are sliding up his penis, contract your vaginal muscles, squeezing your way up his member. Then release, and slide back down his penis. The clenching of the muscles will help you reach orgasm and give him a tight fit.

65. Pick up a couple of sushi rolls, lie down on your couch, and invite your man to enjoy a meal off your naked body. If he’s not a fan of raw fish, use Gummi bears instead.

BELOW-THE-BELT TRICKS: Give his package the VIP treatment with these tips.

66. Lick the skin between his balls during oral sex, then lightly suck each one.

67. Using massage oil, rub his chest and penis with the same motions.

68. Gently rub a bit of lube onto the head of his penis while stroking his shaft with your other hand.

69. Lift his sack, and flick your tongue on the crease of skin where the scrotum meets his body.

70. Slip on a massage mitt (a plastic glove found at most sex stores), and give him a lubed-up hand job.

71. Wet the fabric of his underwear with your tongue, and puff short breaths of hot air on it.

72. While your man is on all fours, lower yourself under him and gently tilt his penis toward you so you can suck from underneath.

73. Drape a warm, wet washcloth over his penis to get his blood pumping.

74. Slip a vibrating ring onto the base of his shaft while giving him oral sex.

75. Take a beaded necklace (one without exposed string or wire), lube it up, then wrap it around his penis and roll it up and down.

Naughty Moves That Scare Him: There’s a fine line between crazy-hot and just plain crazy.

Tie his hands to your bedposts. Then, to really build anticipation, leave him there for 12 hours.

When he’s on top, use your fingernails to etch the words I love you backward into his back so he can read it in the bathroom mirror.

As you orgasm, scream out not only his name but also his full street address. Initiate sex against a wall.

Then, just as you’re about to climax, burst through it like the Kool-Aid Man.

Do a sexy pole dance when you pass one of any kind: street-lamp poles, traffic-sign poles, the poles holding up the volleyball net at his family reunion....

Why doesn't my guy cuddle after sex?

2010-11-01T22:02:00.000-07:00

Why doesn't my guy cuddle after sex?

When it comes to the moments following sex, there are three types of guys: "cuddlers," "snorers," and "up-and-outers."

When their hearts are in the right place, most guys start out as cuddlers. In the early stages of infatuation, a potent chemical cocktail is keeping him tuned in and turned on, and he won't be able to keep his hands off of you — before, during, and after sex.

But today's cuddler is tomorrow's snorer, especially as he gets more comfy in a relationship, which isn't necessarily a bad thing. In the end, you want a partner who's comfortable with you. Rolling over and falling asleep after sex is more of a man's natural state. His body has just gone through hell to make sure he achieves ejaculation, which basically requires a lot of blood rushing to his genitals and then rushing out. That blood flow away from his genitals is what causes him to feel so exhausted. Men's bodies grind to a halt after sex and return immediately to the prearoused state.

Since women have no reproductive need to ejaculate, blood circulates longer in the genitals. That means that they remain in a semiaroused state — and have the energy and desire to cuddle, engage, interact. So if your guy is falling asleep right after sex, cut him a little slack. Try cuddling him, or ask him to hold you. But don't try to engage him beyond some good solid spooning, and don't take it personally when he falls asleep.

It's the up-and-outer — the guy who bolts the minute he's capable of moving postsex — that you should take personally. Up-and-outers and casual hookups often go hand in hand; they're likely more interested in getting laid than pursuing a relationship. I'm not saying that's always the case, but it usually is. However, since it sounds like your guy is just a snorer, you probably have nothing to worry about.

31 Days of Sex

2010-11-01T21:51:00.001-07:00

31 Days of Sex

Try one of these superhot sex tips with your man every day this month!

By Christie Griffin

Day 1: Amp Up Your Attitudes

31 days of sex is, well, a lot of sex. So start things off right with a sincere, enthusiastic attitude. Tell your guy how badly you want him and make that your motto for the next month. It's going to be a sexcellent 31 days...!

Photo Credit: Noel J. Federizo

Day 2: Pillow Position

Stack a pillow or two under your backside the next time your guy is in the missionary position. He'll be able to enter you at a deeper angle and you'll have a better orgasm.

Photo Credit: Jesus Ayala/Studio D

Day 3: Give Him a Peep Show

It's no secret that guys get off on sexy visuals. But teasing him with a personal peep show can be hotter than simply baring it all. So try strutting around in just your bra and panties when you're brushing your teeth, folding the towels, whatever. He won't be able to take his eyes off you.

Photo Credit: Jonathan West

Day 4: Oral Sex Prep

You might love oral sex exactly how your guy does it, but here's how to make it a little easier on him: Grab two pillows, and place one under his chest and one under your hips. His chin won't dig into the mattress, and he'll have a greater range of motion with your pelvis lifted higher than usual as well.

Photo Credit: Tamara Schlesinger

Day 5: Scintillating Visual

Keep your high heels on while you and your guy do the deed. They'll make your legs look ultra sexy, and give off a couldn't-wait-to-get-it-on vibe.

Photo Credit: Lara Robby/Studio D

Day 6: Great Textpectations

In the middle of the day, send your guy a naughty text to get him psyched to see you later. Try something saucy like, "Don't work out too hard tonight...you'll need your energy in the bedroom later!"

Photo Credit: Butch Hogan

Day 7: Stand and Deliver

Getting busy against a wall brings out an intense gotta-have-you-now thrill. It can be tricky though, so try lifting your leg or have him bend his knees a bit. Or if you're petite and he's strong, then just have him pick you up and prop you against the wall.

Day 8: Go Slow-Mo

Try doing the same things you always do in the bedroom, but slow down to one-fourth of your normal speed. You and your guy will have time to really bond, and since you'll be feeling sensation over a longer period of time, both your orgasms will likely be out of this world.

Photo Credit: Eric McNatt

Day 9: Jersey Girl

Clothes can make sex hotter...especially something like a sports jersey of your guy's favorite team. Swipe one out of his dresser drawer or surprise him with a brand-new one of your own. Leave the jersey on, but nothing else.

Photo Credit: Jesus Ayala/Studio D

Day 10: Clean Cutie

Getting it on in the shower is an intimate, sexy experience. If you feel body conscious, then light a couple of candles and flip off the switch. Or just jump into your guy's shower when you know he doesn't have his contacts in yet. Then get all sudsy and steam up the bathroom!

Photo Credit: Eric McNatt

Day 11: Let's Hear It for the Boy

Get so loud tonight that you make the dog bark. Seriously, just go for it. Wake the neighbors, act like you're trying out for the cheerleading squad, just let loose. You'll be surprised how turned on you and your man get from the vocalization.

Photo Credit: Tamara Schlesinger

Day 12: Dare to Watch a Dirty Movie

From the moment you select a skin flick to watch to the moment when you are both breathless, taking the plunge into porn will add fiery fervor to your real-life bump and grinds. If you're freaked out by the idea of porn, don't be: Your guy is likely going to only spend about 30 seconds watching the movie before he can't take his eyes off your reaction. So be daring and let your inhibitions go tonight!

Photo Credit: Eric McNatt

Day 13: Naughty Note

Spice up today's workday by sending your man an out-of-the-blue e-mail. Tell him how much you desire him and what you'll do to him the minute he comes home. Send the message to his personal account, though, just in case his work vets incoming messages. Then wait for a racy reply...

Photo Credit: Courtesy of Apple.com

Day 14: I'll Have the Special

While out to dinner, caress your guy's leg as high as you can get away with. Knowing that you have booty on the brain will whet his appetite even more.

Photo Credit: Tamara Schlesinger

Day 15: Sensual Seduction

Getting a back rub from your guy is a two-for-one deal: He checks out your body while you relax and feel more and more turned on. Don't be surprised when he rolls you over to your back and pounces on you...

Photo Credit: Eric Cahan

Day 16: Have a Quickie

Quickies are always fun because they're so spontaneous, so pick a random place today to get it on. A few of our favorite places for superfast sexcapades: the laundry room, the stairs, and the car.

Photo Credit: Getty Images

Day 17: Lusty Lap

While your man is sitting in a chair or on the couch, go for this girl-on-top spot. There are a lot of perks to this sex position: You get to control the speed and tempo because you're on top, he gets a great view of your breasts, and if you lean back a little, there will be even better G-spot stimulation.

Photo Credit: Tamara Schlesinger

Day 18: Happy Trails to You

The area between a guy's belly button and penis is a little-known erogenous zone. Kiss, lick, and tease the area for several minutes to make him hit the roof in desire for you.

Photo Credit: Drew and Derek Riker

Day 19: Set the Scene

You know how sex is always more fun on vacation or in a hotel room? Re-create that luxurious feeling tonight at home. Buy champagne, pull out the special 300-thread-count sheets, and spritz a sexy scent into the air.

Photo Credit: Getty Images

Day 20: Love in the Tub

Draw a warm bath tonight and invite your man to join you. Slowly massage his scalp with shampoo and let him get you sudsy. Then enjoy the uninhibited bliss you'll both feel next.

Photo Credit: Cristina Tarantola

Day 21: Standing Ovation

Instead of letting your guy relax on the couch or lie on the bed while you go down on him, make him stand. Lead him to a nearby wall and coyly tell him he'll need the support later. Because the blood will rush to his penis, the sensation of oral sex will be more intense than usual. We guarantee he'll reach for the wall to keep from his knees from buckling!

Photo Credit: Eric Cahan

Day 22: Create a Where-to-Rendezvous List

Grab your man, a pen, and a piece of paper and brainstorm all the fun places you'd like to have sex. A limo? A tent? An airplane? The sky is the limit! Warning: Making this list will get you two so horny that you'll have to have each other right. this. second.

Photo Credit: Getty Images

Day 23: Multiple Rounds

Instead of a sack session that finishes with one happy ending, try to accomplish multiple orgasms. Here's how you do it: After you orgasm, have him (or you) resume touching an area that is not hypersensitive. The stroking in other regions will keep your nerves and sensual energy on high alert, while your nether regions cool off just enough to take the action all over again.

Photo Credit: Noel J. Federizo

Day 24: Get a Leg Up

In Cosmo's recent guy poll that surveyed more than 30,000 dudes, 42 percent of them said that women don't play up their legs enough. So your mission today: Exfoliate, shave, moisturize, and then ask your guy to give you a calf rub. His hands will likely move north he'll be so turned on!

Photo Credit: Tamara Schlesinger

Day 25: And...Action!

Ready to push the boundaries? Then grab a camcorder (or a digicam with video capabilities) and prop it on a dresser or bookshelf so that it can record you and your man in the heat of the moment. Whether you watch it or not is beside the point — just knowing you're being recorded will bring out your erotic sides. But if you do plan to watch it, here's a hint: Turn the lights down or light some candles before filming. Watching a naughty video that has good lighting is a little too graphic for some.

Photo Credit: Eric McNatt

Day 27: Give Him Some Props

Handcuffing the guy — or being handcuffed yourself — is all about playfully teasing each other. The idea here is to tease him into a frenzy until he begs for mercy. Cutting off some sensations — like his ability to touch you — heightens other experiences, like your touch on his body.

Photo Credit: Jesus Ayala/Studio D

Day 26: Boss Him Around

Try being more erotically expressive than usual tonight. You can clue in your man by praising his sexual performance. For example, compliment him on what he does well, then add a subtle suggestion like, "It turns me on so much when you touch my thighs."

Photo Credit: Robert Delahanty

Day 28: Ice, Ice, Baby

Pop a small icecube into your mouth during oral sex. This trick is fantastic if you've been going at it for awhile and need a new sensation to reenergize him.

Photo Credit: Getty Images

Day 29: Thrill Every Inch

While you're making out with your man, let your mouth meander over to the side of his neck, right beside his ear. The skin next to the earlobe is probably the most sensitive on his head, so feeling your lips here will make him tingly all over.

Photo Credit: Tamara Schlesinger

Day 30: Sweet Treat

Here's how to make sex even yummier. Blindfold him, and then put a dab of chocolate syrup, honey, or powdered sugar on at least five small spots on your body. Then challenge him to kiss your body until he finds your sweet spots.

Photo Credit: Jeffrey Westbrook/Studio D

Day 31: His Turn!

After weeks of encouraging your sexual prowess, why not give your man a stack of Cosmos and ask him to circle the tricks and tips he finds the most arousing? Then pick one (or heck, 10!) to try tonight.

Photo Credit: Drew

14 Sex Moves You've Never Heard Of

2010-11-01T21:49:00.000-07:00

14 Sex Moves You've Never
Heard Of

All you nooky know-it-alls are in for a treat. We hunted down totally original, out-of-the-box booty ideas we guarantee you'll love

By Jennifer Benjamin

You might want to cover the honey bear's eyes.

Ruy Sanchez Blanco

Since you read Cosmo, you may think you're familiar with every sex trick in the book. Reverse cowgirl? Been there, done that. The "Tailbone Tickle"? Sooo June '06. Luckily, sex experts are constantly coming up with ways to push the envelope, whether it's by inventing spankin'-new moves or upgrading the carnal classics. "Putting a twist on tried-and-true techniques will create different sensations and make your sex life more interesting," says certified sex educator Lou Paget, author of The Great Lover Playbook. Of course, we'd be remiss in our duties as erotic enlighteners if we didn't share these cutting-edge tips with you. So after searching far and wide, we've compiled the wildest, most O-inspiring moves we could find.

1. Temperature Tease
Forget about just stroking your man with a simple pair of satin panties! For a real treat, pop those silky numbers in the freezer a day before you're ready for action. Then loosely wrap the icy fabric around his package and gently slide it up and down. "The coolness combined with the satiny smooth texture provides a surprising sensation," explains Olivia St. Claire, author of 302 Advanced Techniques for Driving a Man Wild in Bed.

But act fast — the heat coming off your man's below-the-belt region will melt the chill rapidly. So once the panties hit room temp, go the opposite route and really warm things up. Paget suggests microwaving a damp washcloth for about 15 seconds. Then use it to rub his member in an up-and-down motion, just as you did with the underthings. "Not only is the warming sensation soothing, but it also brings the blood flow to his groin area, increasing his arousal," explains Paget.

2. Naked Chef
Incorporating food into your passion play is a classic carnal activity. Turning your bodies into a sexy buffet is a fresh, tasty spin. Take a few of your favorite erotically appealing flavor combinations, like peanut butter and honey or whipped cream and chocolate sauce. Put a dollop of, say, peanut butter on an area where you'd like to be licked (avoiding your genitals). Then dot the honey on the same spot on the opposite side of your body. Instruct your man to first lick off one flavor and then make his way over to the other, providing a pleasurable sensation for you and a flavorful sensation for him. Continue mixing up yummy treats in symmetric spots all over your body.

3. Pleasure Map
Okay, now this is going to sound a little out-there, but trust us, guys say it feels un-freakin'-believable. Heat up some massage oil, and put it into a turkey baster. Then use the baster to draw shapes, spell out naughty words, or create trails on his body — from his neck, over his arms, then down his back, butt, and legs. "The hot oil moving in specific lines will excite the skin more than a broad stroke of oil would," explains sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of He Comes Next. Once you've left your hot, slippery mark, knead your designs.

4. Body Paint
For a unique sensation, use a clean artist's paintbrush to tickle each other's skin. "Take turns running it across the inner arms, behind the knees, over the tops of the feet — any area where you're very sensitive," explains Paget. "The bristles arouse the nerve endings, sending a message to the brain that you're yearning for more touch and sensation." For varying effects, test out different brush sizes.

5. Naughty Pearl Necklace
Believe it or not, this country-club accoutrement can be a passion prop. Pick up a 36-inch fake strand (this trick will ruin the real deal) and wear it all day so your body warms up the balls. "When you're ready to romp, take off the pearls and cover them generously with lube," suggests Paget. "Coil the pearls around the shaft of his penis comfortably but snuggly enough that the beads rest against his package."

Intertwine your fingers and place the palms of your hand on either side of his penis. Next, slide your hands up and down in a wave motion, causing the warm, smooth beads to roll over the length of his shaft.

6. Scrunchie Tip 2007
If you've kept up with your Cosmo sex tips, you may remember reading that a scrunchie can be used on a man's member to help him maintain an erection. Now we're upping the ante and taking that technique in a new direction. Start by stacking six scrunchies on top of each other over his package. "Then remove them one by one using your lips and tongue," says St. Claire. "As each piece is removed, it releases a little bit of pressure in his penis, which will make his orgasm more intense when it happens. Plus, the movement of the fabric will feel wild on his skin."

7. Double Mint, Double Pleasure
You can create a pleasurable hot-and-cold double-whammy sensation with a few sips of warm mint tea. "The tea makes your mouth hot as you put it on each other's private parts," explains Paget. "Meanwhile, the menthol in the mint will cool down the area when you pull your mouth away, creating a hot-and-cold tug-of-war."

Have him take a small sip of the tea before exploring you with his mouth. He should sip often to ensure you're getting the full mint effect. He can alternate by blowing cool air on the warm, tea-soaked skin, making the tingly feeling more intense. After he's â€” or rather, you're â€” finished, put the minty moves on him.

8. Frisky French Kiss
Mix up your usual oral sex routine by having him take his above-the-neck technique below the belt. "Even if his skills are already stellar, it's a fun, unique, and pleasurable experience to have him French kiss your down-there area the way he would your lips," says Jane Bogart, coordinator of health promotion at the University of California at Santa Cruz and author of Sexploration. He can tickle the area with his tongue, wiggle it in a circular motion from top to bottom, and gently suck the skin.

9. Feel Buzzed
We've recommended using tongue vibes during oral sex before, but the buzzy sensations can be too intense for some people. A sexy solution: Have him lay a regular vibrator against his cheek when he's down below or do the same to him. "This technique cushions the vibrations so they're not overpowering," says Paget.

10. The W
When moving down south, many women converge on their man's General, inadvertently ignoring the surrounding areas. But his pelvic region has tons of sensitive spots aching for attention of their own. "Starting at the spot where his left thigh meets his groin, move your tongue down toward his scrotum, up between the testes, and then come down and around, finishing in the crease between his right thigh and his groin," suggests Bogart. "The invisible lines that make up this W shape are thin-skinned and full of nerve endings, making them especially sensitive."

11. Dual Oral Action
This trick is so simple but so amazing. "While giving him oral sex, slide a finger into your mouth and tickle his penis at the same time you're stimulating him with your lips and tongue," says St. Claire. "It's an unexpected new sensation for him."

12. Stuck on You
During intercourse, you're all wrapped up in each other. So extend that carnal concept even further by literally tying yourselves together. Take a really long piece of sturdy plastic wrap (long enough to fit around your body about eight times). Then fold it in half, twist it into a long rope that fits snuggly around both of your bodies twice, and secure it with a knot at your waist so you're locked together. (You can also use a Pilates stretch band or a knitted scarf that has a bit of give.) Whether you then get into girl-on-top, missionary, or straddle him face-to-face, you won't be able to move more than a few inches from each other. "This not only increases the intimacy but also the fun factor, as you find inventive ways to move in sync," says Bogart.

13. Passion Prop Play
To put a creative spin on standard missionary, stroke his back with a few sensual, around-the-house items. Keep a paddlebrush, a soft scarf, and a baseball (yes, a baseball) on your bedside table. While he's on top, alternate between scratching his back and butt with the bristles of the brush, stroking him with the scarf, and rolling the baseball over his skin. "The changes in sensation will keep him on his toes during the act and provide him with an extra dose of pleasure," says Kerner.

14. Web 'n' Wild
For a postpassion wrap up, set up an instant-messenger account with a secret name, and tell your man to be online at a certain time. Then send him a message — pretending to be a sexy stranger — and recount all the dirty details of your last rendezvous together. "Not only are you confirming how amazing your sex life is, but it's also a form of exhibitionism as you brag about your sexual escapades to a 'stranger,'" explains Kerner. Your play-by-play will whet your appetites for the next romp.

Not-So-Hot Moves

These may sound hot, but they're not.

The move: Using food below the belt during oral sex
Reality check: Tasty treats can be erotic, but putting sugary edibles down south can lead to a vaginal infection.

The move: Dripping warm wax on your erogenous zones
Reality check: If it's too hot, the wax will adhere to your nipples or inner thighs and sear your skin.

The move: Getting it on in a very public place
Reality check: Sex in a local park is often not as exciting as you'd think. You may be so paranoid about getting caught, you can't enjoy it.

The move: Going way too far with the superkinky stuff
Reality check: Light love taps can make the action more playful; tying each other up can feel dangerously lusty. But anything more extreme (wooden paddles, whips, chains) may be too intense for most.

Sex in a Car…and 5 Other Small Spaces

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Sex in a Car…and 5 Other Small Spaces

Sure, joining the Mile High Club might seem like a great idea...but only 4 percent of you have actually done it in a tiny airplane lavatory, according to a recent Cosmo poll. Far less of a myth: Sex in a car, where 80 percent of you have tried it! This got us thinking about the other tight spots you might be compelled to christen. Here’s how to pull off getting off in even the most awkward spaces.

By Christie Griffin

Car

This sex spot combines need-it-now-ness with some reassuring, locked privacy.

Best sex position for this spot: Standard girl-on-top, like the Hot Hula

Cosmo tip: Skip the backseat and recline the passenger side instead, which will give you maximum space and comfort. If your car has leather seats, lay a blanket down first so his and your skin don’t stick to the seat.

Closet

Remember when Nate and Serena had smokin' hot sex in the coat closet on Gossip Girl? We dug that clothes-falling-all-over-the-place scene...didn’t you?

Best sex position for this spot: Standing doggy style, a.k.a. The Hang Ten

Cosmo tip: A little “research” is required if you’re at a social gathering: you’ll want to find a walk-in closet, since most coat closets aren’t as spacious as they are on NYC’s Upper East Side.

Tent

Doing it in a tent is about the closest you can come to having sex in the great outdoors...without getting eaten alive by mosquitoes.

Best sex position for this spot: Spooning side-by-side, like Saucy Spoons

Cosmo tip: If there’s another tent near yours, you’ll have to be discreet, so keep your moans of pleasure on mute. But don’t be bummed—silent sex can be extra sensual.

Fitting room

Just think of the view you’d get from the three-way mirror...hot, hot, hot!

Best sex position for this spot: Standing face-to-face, with you on top of the room’s bench so your feet don’t show, like The Sofa-Spread Eagle. No bench? Opt for another standing position where he has to pick you up, like the Stand and Deliver.

Cosmo tip: Only attempt this in a fitting room with a door, so you can lock it. Department stores are best, since you can stake out a floor where the rooms are less trafficked and there isn't an attendant on duty.

Elevator

“Going down?” Why yes, yes you are...if you’re brave enough for this scandalous sex spot.

Best sex position for this spot: The Lusty Leg Lift, an advanced face-to-face standing position...perfect for a sex goddess who gets it on in elevators!

Cosmo tip: Try it in an older elevator that moves slowly or a freight that’s used less often. This way you’ll have more time before a technician can “rescue” you, after you pull or push the Stop control.

Shower

Because sometimes the recipe for awesome sex calls for those three little words: Just add water.

Best sex position for this spot: Standing with him behind you, like Slippery When Wet

Cosmo tip: If you think you may “dry up” in water, keep a silicone-based lube handy. Or just have your guy take a step forward so that the shower is hitting his back and not your lady parts. Bonus points if there’s a mirror that lets you watch the wet and wild action!

10 Sex Cravings All Guys Have

2010-11-01T21:34:00.000-07:00

10 Sex Cravings All Guys Have

There are certain things your man needs to be satisfied in the sack but just won't ask for. But we're sharing our findings with you...

By Jennifer Benjamin

While men might brag to their friends about the kick-ass sex they're having, they rarely get into specifics. And when it comes to actually divulging their secret desires to the women in their lives...well, they're even more tight-lipped.
But they will tell Cosmo — in large part because they know we'll pass on the information to you. So we spoke to a bunch of guys and experts to find out what tops men's bedroom wish lists. Though every dude has different needs, "there are some universal sex moves and attitudes that most men want but don't know how to request," explains sex therapist Sandor Gardos, PhD, founder of MyPleasure.com. To learn about his carnal longings — and how to satisfy them — read on.

1. HE WANTS A GIRL WHO CAN TURN HERSELF ON
Women, as you know, need time to get revved up. Although your man may be more than willing to pull out all the stops to get you hot, he wouldn't mind if you gave yourself a running start. "A number of women still believe that it's solely a man's job to arouse them," says Georgia sex therapist Gloria Brame, PhD. "To have a really fulfilling sexual experience though, you have to put some effort into getting yourself into a sexual state of mind."
To give your libido a boost, draw on the same sources of inspiration you use during solo self-pleasuring missions. Once his seduction scheme begins, close your eyes and fantasize about a hot encounter you had with your man...or even some other dude. "It's totally okay to think about another sexual partner when you're trying to turn yourself on," reassures Brame. "You just might not want to tell your boyfriend about it."

2. HE WANTS SEX TO BE FUN
Unfortunately, real-life romps aren't as seamless as they are in the movies. "Things don't always go smoothly during sex — some positions don't work, and odd noises happen," says Gardos. "If you get hung up on a mishap, it will ruin the mood. But if you can both laugh, it becomes a light bonding moment."
Chas,* 28, agrees. "One night I tried a new move that wasn't executed properly, and my girl hit her head on the nightstand! She didn't hurt herself, so we could joke about it, and then we got back to what we were doing."
Frisky fun is about more than damage control though. Make a silly bet to be paid off in sexual favors or play a board game naked in bed and agree that the loser has to grant the winner one lusty request.
* Names have been changed.

Mattress pointer: Learn how to laugh at goofs.

Tamara Schlesinger

3. HE WANTS YOU TO DROP HINTS
When it comes to pleasing the women in their lives, every man wishes he had ESP (extrasexual perception). But the truth is, your libidinous longings can be baffling. "That's why a guy loves it when you're able to guide him without barking out orders," says Gardos.
So when giving erotic instruction, throw in some positive reinforcement. "Tell him how good it feels when he does something right, or remind him of a technique that always gets you off," suggests Brame. "If he's not giving you enough foreplay, ask him to use his hand or mouth to warm you up, saying that you want to draw out the experience."

4. HE WANTS TO WATCH
For men, what they see is almost as good as what they get, so make sure to give him an eyeful. "One time during sex, my girlfriend led me over to a mirror so we could see ourselves in action," remembers Tyler, 21. "I found it really sexy, but what made it hotter was how into it she was."
Another way to turn him on with sight: Keep some clothes on. Sometimes men prefer when you leave a little to the imagination. "Sexy lingerie can be as arousing — or more so — as being nude, because it builds anticipation," says Bob Berkowitz, PhD, coauthor of When Men Stop Having Sex.
More great views: you in girl-on-top position or, if you're feeling brave, touching yourself in front of him.

5. HE WANTS YOU TO BE NAUGHTY
Even if you're a bad girl at heart, you might hold back with your guy. "Women are often afraid to get naughty in a relationship, because they don't want to shatter any 'good girlfriend' image he has or they don't want him to think they're weird," explains Brame. "But men want to see that no-holds-barred side of you — they just don't want to offend you by asking for it."
What dirty-girl tricks fit the bill? Pretty much anything that shows him how much you like sex and how much you want it with him, says Gardos. To let him know you're into him, grab his butt hard when he's climaxing or gently nip his shoulder.
You may also want to do something unexpected, like initiating a new position or trying a passion prop. "My girlfriend and I were out shopping when she suggested we check out this sex-toy shop," Nick, 27, says. "We ended up buying this thing called a penis sleeve, which is basically a thick, bumpy condom. Not only was it fun to use, but I loved how eager she was to try it."

6. HE WANTS A "WOW, WHAT WAS THAT?" EXPERIENCE
To separate yourself from the pack, you'll need to pull a move so wild, he won't be able to stop thinking about it the next day. "If you've mastered one particular technique that's really hot and different, the entire erotic experience will stand out in his mind," explains psychologist Joel Block, PhD, author of The Art of the Quickie.
Now, you don't have to bust out a complicated trick best used by yoga instructors — just tweak an old standby, say, switching between oral sex and intercourse...with him blindfolded.
You may also want to come up with your own signature mouth move. "When my ex-girlfriend would go down on me, she took her time exploring the whole area with her tongue," remembers Peter, 32. "And she did cool stuff with it, like alternating between using the flat part and then covering the same territory with just the tip. It was an entirely different sensation!"

7. HE WANTS TO MIX THINGS UP
Repetition can make once-hot sack sessions seem ho-hum. So be open to varying things in bed. Any change in speed, pressure, or position will make the act more interesting and pleasurable. "Variety keeps him in a heightened state of arousal because he never knows what to expect," says Block.
During foreplay, wrap your fist around his member (with lube!), moving it up and down with long, smooth strokes. Then add your other hand, and gently twist both hands in opposing directions. When you get to intercourse, start off slowly in missionary. Next, rest your feet on his shoulders for deeper thrusting. Finally, roll over, and let him enter you from behind.

8. HE WANTS NOOKY OUT OF NOWHERE
"You'll win big sexual points with your guy if you spring sex on him out of the blue," says Gardos. "It gives him a huge ego boost by reinforcing the fact that you're really hot for him."
For a spontaneous seduction, ask him to pull over to a deserted spot for a roadside romp when you're driving home one night. Or at a party, take him into a back bedroom or closet. Joe, 23, remembers a naughty surprise attack at a black-tie affair. "My date and I were sitting down at dinner, and she slid her hand under the table and began to pleasure me — right in the middle of the meal! It was so spontaneous and unexpected. I could barely sit still," he recalls.

9. HE WANTS TO TAKE YOU
The best way to bring out the sexy beast in your guy? Initiate some take-me-I'm-yours action. "He'd love to be raw and animalistic with you, but he needs to know you want it too," says Brame. "Kiss him seductively and then pull away, saying that if he wants more, he can come and get it." During the act, you can also tell him "harder" or "faster" if you feel like he's handling you with kid gloves.
Dave, 24, was totally psyched when a woman asked to be ravaged. "An ex-girlfriend lay down on the bed and begged me to rip off her clothes, which I did. The sex was great, but letting me tear her shirt in half was the best part because it was passionate and intense."

10. HE WANTS TO DO NOTHING SOMETIMES
On the flip side, occasionally men prefer it when you take over. Lying back while a chick has her way with him is an ultimate guy fantasy.
Just ask Brian, 26: "I was dating a woman who was sort of a bookworm. But when I got her into bed for the first time, she was wild. Before I could even try to take off her clothes, she threw me back on the bed and blindfolded me with her bra," he remembers. "Then she gave me the best oral sex ever. I didn't have to lift a finger."
For a softer approach, Brame suggests treating your man to allover titillation: Have him lie on the bed naked. Then, starting at one foot, kiss and lick your way up his leg and along the crease where his thigh meets his torso. Next, move to his side, up to his neck, and down to his main event. When you're ready for intercourse, treat him to reverse-cowgirl so he can't help you, even if he wants to. Trust us: The payback will be awesome.

The Hottest Sex Tips on the Planet

2010-11-01T20:47:00.000-07:00

The Hottest Sex Tips on the Planet

Cosmo rounded up the steamiest tricks and mattress methods from women around the globe. Grab your passion passport and start reading!

guy kissing girl's shoulder

Sure, we American chicks know how to give and get toe-curling thrills in bed, but there are still a few frisky things we could learn from booty-lovin' babes abroad. With the help of Cosmo editors and readers around the world (there are a whopping 50 international editions of Cosmopolitan) and some of the top cross-cultural sex experts, we've rounded up the steamiest secrets on earth. Dig in to snag the confidence and hot bedroom habits of foreign bombshells.

Stretch Out Foreplay

Always rushing through the arousal stages of sex is a shagging shame. "In many cultures, seduction begins long before a couple gets to the bedroom," says Amy Sueyoshi, PhD, assistant professor of human sexuality and ethnic studies at San Francisco State University. "The mere knowledge that a sexual encounter is about to happen can be a huge turn-on." So take a cue from Korean women: "Before the sex act even begins, our readers will blindfold their boyfriends with scarves and then tantalize them by slowly dragging silk over their bodies from head to toe, lingering extra long around his pelvis area," says Kyung-Hae Yoon, editor of Cosmo in Korea. Kick this move up a notch by sliding the silk back and forth under his testicles while he's standing, and he'll be seeing stars. Extending the amount of fun you have before actual intercourse makes sex feel more like an all-night party than a flash in the pan, which is exactly why India's famous Kama Sutra has entire chapters devoted to kissing, caressing, and oral sex. Another thing to keep in mind: There's no rule that says you can't have an orgasm during foreplay. "Whether it's done manually or orally, women should encourage men to take them all the way before intercourse even begins," says Sueyoshi. Have your guy stimulate your G-spot by inserting his finger into your vagina and applying pulsing pressure to the front (belly side) wall while he rhythmically strokes your clitoris with his tongue.

Bonus: Intercourse after having an orgasm can be incredibly intense because your hot spots are already sensitized.

Be Just as Gung Ho for Sex as a Guy

Doing-it divas in countries like Australia, Israel and South Africa aren't afraid to turn the tables when it comes to traditional sex roles. "Aussie women don't get hung up on what's considered 'feminine' or not — they generally have no problem initiating sex with a man they're attracted to," says Gabrielle Morrissey, PhD, an Australian sex expert and author of Urge: Hot Secrets for Great Sex. Clearly, patience is not a virtue when getting it on Down Under: According to a survey in Australian Cosmo, 38 percent of readers have gotten it on with a guy within 24 hours of meeting him. Israeli and South African women are just as likely to go after what they want. "In Israel, women join the army at the age of 18, and their fast, high-adrenaline lifestyle spills over into their sex lives," says Lea Kantor-Matarrasso, the editor of Israeli Cosmo. There's no doubt that instant gratification can sometimes be the best kind, so attack your boyfriend (or newly acquired boy toy) the very second you get the urge. Pin him against the wall with one hand (holding his hands over his head) and press your breasts and hips against him hard while unbuckling his pants with the other. Once his member jumps to attention, pull him down onto the floor on top of you. "It's a myth that whoever is on top is always in control," says Morrissey. "By thrusting your hips up and down, placing your hands on his butt, pulling him into you and kissing him hard, you can direct the action." That's not to say you shouldn't go for a ride. Try pushing him onto a chair, unzipping his pants, going down on him for a few seconds, then climbing on. He won't know what hit him, but he'll be happy as hell. For the ultimate in rough 'n' ready fun, try one of South African Cosmo readers' favorite bed games, called the Randy Wrestling Roll. Start by lying on your side facing each other, with your thigh flung over his hip, and guide his penis inside you, then entangle your arms and legs and start rolling around on the bed or carpet as you thrust into each other. The goal? See who can end up on top most often — but in this game, everybody wins.

Go for Your Pleasure in the Sack

Maybe we could all use a quick trip to Paris to give our sexual egos a boost. According to Sylvie Overnoy, the editor of French Cosmo, women in France are anything but shy when it comes to making demands in bed. "The attitudes of French women regarding sex are, one, speak your mind and, two, do anything you please," says Overnoy. Having sex exactly when and how you want is all the rage for Hungarian babes as well, who do the deed more often than the women of any other country — 152 times per year, according to the 2003 Durex Global Sex Survey. Considering that Americans are hitting the sheets 118 times per year on average according to the Durex survey, there must be something Hungarians know that we don't. "The secret may be that Hungarian women won't let much of anything get in the way of having a good time in bed," says Hungarian Cosmo's editor, Anita Pocsik. "In some countries, having sex during your period may be taboo, but here, girls just throw down a red towel on the bed and it's business as usual." Hungarian chicks aren't afraid to ask for what they want either. "Hungarian women have no qualms about giving sexual instructions," says Sandor Gardos, PhD, a sexologist of Hungarian descent and founder of Mypleasure.com. "They know it doesn't have to be a long, drawn-out discussion — all you have to do is take the guy's hand and move it where you want it or whisper a few specific commands." So the next time you're getting it on, moan the words "faster," "slower," "harder," or "softer." Or if you're already a vocal vixen, get on top and show him with his middle and ring fingers (his index finger won't feel as gentle) exactly how you want your clitoris to be touched. Don't be shy about getting specific and telling him precisely how much pressure you want from his tongue during oral sex, for example. "In several different studies, men have reported that the single most exhilarating moment of sex for them is when the woman they're with has an orgasm," says Gardos. "So the ironic thing about being selfish in bed is that you end up not being selfish at all."

Push Your Booty Boundaries

Even if you can already think of a hundred ways to get turned on, why stop there? Italians, for one, are fabulous at finding new venues to stage steamy sessions. "Most of our readers live with their parents until well into their 30s, so finding places to have sex outside the house is a serious necessity," says Cinzia Felicetti, the editor of Italian Cosmo. In the Euro RSCG Love and Lust 2002 Survey, 88 percent of sexually driven Italians confessed to doing it in a car, and 16 percent have gotten busy on a plane or train. But you don't have to do it in the air, on the rail, or in a public parking lot to have wild sex. You can steam things up at home by moving outside the bedroom and doing it on top of a sturdy table, kitchen counter, bathroom sink, or hood of a car that's parked in your garage. Things get even hotter in Greece, where they boldly go where most cultures are too shy to venture. "Both men and women here enjoy anal sex, and no one considers it a big deal," says deputy editor of Greek Cosmo, Margarita Michelakou. Like bringing sex toys to bed or using flavored lubes, anal sex is just another option for spicing things up. For a more sedate version of bottoms-up fun, try gentle pressure on the anus, which can feel wonderfully intense because that area is so packed with sensitive nerve endings. To silently get the signal across that you're interested in going there, try massaging the outside of your own back door while doing it doggie-style so that he has a clear view of the action (his eyes will probably pop out of his head). Or just grab your own cheeks and pull them gently apart, helping him to penetrate you deeper vaginally. Yet another often ignored erogenous zone is the female perineum. While you probably already know that pressing on the male perineum (the area between his testicles and anus) feels amazing for men, you might not know that the same spot on your bod can be pleasurably potent. Ask your guy to either lick you there or rub that area with his fingers the next time his head is nestled between your thighs.

Have a Secret Sex Life

No, we don't mean cheating on your main squeeze. This is about discovering the booty benefits of dirty daydreaming and solo sex. According to the Penguin Atlas of Human Sexual Behavior, only 19 percent of U.S. women think about sex one or more times a day. And according to the text Sex in America: A Definitive Survey, almost 60 percent of U.S. women never masturbate. Yikes, looks like many of us could use a libido intervention, so let Brazilian and Spanish babes be your inspiration. "Young women in Brazil frequently plan parties with their friends where a sex coach teaches them new ways to please themselves and their partners and gives them tips on how to perform stripteases and use vibrators," reports Cynthia Greiner, the editor of Brazilian Cosmo. Another path to a secret sex life is pure fantasy, says Sarah Glattstein Franco, the editor of Spanish Cosmo. "Forty-eight percent of our readers use fantasies to reach orgasm both while masturbating and while having sex."

The real shocker: Sixty percent of Spanish men and women say that the star of their sexual fantasies is their current partner. Simply letting your mind wander to the sexiest experience you can remember having with your beau is an easy way to get so turned on that you can't wait to have sex again. Or why wait at all? While picturing a sexy scenario, caress your breasts until your nipples are hard, stroke your stomach and upper thighs until you feel yourself getting wet, then slide your fingers between your vaginal lips and spread the wetness upward toward your clitoris. How fast and hard you rub is up to you. Be willing to try different strokes and pressures and go with what feels best. And get creative. Try doing it standing up and leaning against a wall or with one foot up on a chair while you watch yourself in the mirror. Once you see just how insanely sexy you look touching yourself, you may be confident enough to let your very lucky man look on while you do it. Just don't forget to peel him off the ceiling when you're done.

Frisky Foreign Facts

52% of Israeli Cosmo readers watch porn.
—Israeli Cosmo

23% of Spaniards have had sex with two people at the same time.
—Euro RSCG Love and Lust 2002 Survey

94% of Italians would rather have an unattractive partner who is great in bed than an attractive partner who is lousy in the sack.
—Euro RSCG Love and Lust 2002 Survey