The Improper Adoptee

How Many More Will Join Her?

2011-11-25T13:15:00.012-05:00

This post is late, but she is not forgotten. Sweet Candace. Whom I share a birthday with. And will light a candle for every year until I die. I know she will not mind either if I ask one to be lit for another murdered Adoptee, beautiful Hanna Williams, who was starved to death by her horrific Adoptive Parents this past year, and who should be given the death penalty like Connell Watkins should of gotten. That obese, tyrannical, worthless cow who I envision every day frying in a goddamn electric chair....
I am tired of the lies about Adoption. Both these incredibly wonderful young girls were deprived of basic necessities which cost them their precious lives. Due to selfish Adoptive Parents who did not care about them as much as they did about themselves. Being Adopted is not a guaranteed joy ride. And many times Adoptees are subjected to women who are absolutely not stable enough or just to plain evil to even be around any child, let alone play a part in raising one . It is beyond time the system was changed. It is beyond time Adoptees had basic human rights, like being able to be emancipated if they wish, being able to have a legal outlet to have their Adoption terminated if they are not being treated right, or do not like who Adopted them, and be able at all times, to look at their records, as Closed Adoption needs to be abolished once and for all. We were not born to be anyone's balm, tool, possession or minion and I am tired of Adoptees being treated like we are less important than everyone else. I know all the beautiful dead Adoptees are tired of it to...and with their souls they cry out in the darkened night, how many more, how many more until they will see, until they STOP....my love to you Candance and Hanna...and my promise to you that until the day we meet, I will fight like hell for our justice on earth...

Light A Candle For Candace....

2010-11-19T05:30:00.012-05:00

They cry in the dark, so you can't see their tears
They hide in the light, so you can't see their fears
Forgive and forget, all the while
Love and pain become one and the same
In the eyes of a wounded child
Because Hell
Hell Is For Children
And you know that their little lives
can become such a mess
Hell
Hell Is For Children
And you shouldn't have to pay for your love with your bones and your flesh
Because Hell
Hell Is For Children
And you know that their little lives can become such a mess
Hell
Hell Is For Children
And you shouldn't have to pay for your love with your bones and your flesh
No, Hell Is For Children
Hell
Hell is for Hell
Hell is for Hell
Hell Is For Children
Hell
Hell is for Hell
Hell is for Hell
Hell Is For Children
Hell
Hell is for Hell
Hell is for Hell
Hell Is For Children
Hell Is For Children
Hell Is For Children

And Hell IS Attachment Therapy..........

Sorry all you nutjobs out there, like Jeane Newmaker, Connell Watkins and Julie Ponder, but you can not take an Adopted child who ALREADY LIVED WITH HER NATURAL MOTHER AND REMEMBERED HER and physically force her to beleive her Adopted Mother gave birth to her, and verbally abuse her and cut her down because she fights you.
It is wrong imo, to do the same to Adoptees Adopted as infants or Adopted from another country as they all know reality is they were carried inside another woman, ESPECIALLY WHEN THAT CHILD IS TOLD HE OR SHE IS ADOPTED. DUH....GOD. GET SOME SMART PILLS......
"Rebirthing Therapy" or "Attachment Therapy" is nothing but a gateway to push Adoptees into a psychotic mindset.
And this is bonified child abuse.
Yet this quackery still goes on every day in this country.
And some Adopted children do not survive it.....

PLEASE LIGHT A CANDLE TODAY FOR CANDACE. FOR ALL THE BIRTHDAYS SHE HAS MISSED. FOR ALL THE BIRTHDAYS SHE WILL NEVER HAVE. WHEN I BLOW OUT MY BIRTHDAY CANDLES TODAY, I WILL BE THINKING OF HER........
AND MY WISH?
THAT IS ONLY FOR CANDACE AND ME TO KNOW........

Candace Newmaker (Elmore)
November 19th 1989-April 18th 2000

National Dead Adoptee Month.....

2010-11-17T23:46:00.018-05:00

When Michael Blosil (Bryan) committed suicide this past February, gay rights activists began commenting on every forum that ran the story about his death, that he died because he couldn't handle all the "vile hate spewed at homosexuals". Elaboration after elaboration began to paint the picture that Michael was himself indeed gay, due to his interest in fashion, due to his enrollment in school learning this very trade, due to his love of art. A possible fact perhaps hidden deeply by The Osmond Family themselves. But I didn't buy it. I KNEW he wasn't gay. I made a comment on Mirah Riben's blog,"Family Preservation Advocacy" stating those very feelings. "He isn't gay Mirah" I said. And I was right. So I'm psychic. So what. No big news to me. I know alot of things other people don't know....Surprises don't elude those with ESP however, (ask Sylvia Brown if you don't believe me) and we can't pick up on everything all the time, so my stomach turned as the words of so many Americans, so misinformed about the pain Adoptees go through, hit me like a brass knuckled fist punched me in my belly button. Cutting word after cutting word indicated in reader's opinions, that Michael had a genetic "defect" from his biological Mother, a disease called depression inherited from bad DNA due to having a Mother that was probably "trailer trash" because she was single.....or on drugs. One of the many mental illnesses "ALL bastards have" just BECAUSE they ARE dirty little bastards. Not one word was mentioned of course, that I have come across, that perhaps Michael's depression was BECAUSE he felt rejected from his Natural Mother. Yet all the evidence points exactly to this plight. A plight all Adoptees are forced to deal with, one way or another all throughout our lives. And how do so many Adoptees deal with this agony? With drugs, alcohol, nymphomania, hysteria over rejection from peers and romantic interests, self-destruction, coldness, reckless and self-destructive behaviour, apathy, inability to concentrate, petty crimes, and yes, depression and suicide. Not all Adoptees engage in all these behaviors however and most Adoptees usually just hone in
on a few of them.
Yet sometimes that behavior can end up being our lifelong balm...
And our lifelong curse.......
It isn't just Adoptees who can begin to go down the wrong path due to feeling unwanted by our Natural Mothers either. Many children whose Mothers have died, or who walked out on them and their Fathers later in their life, can begin to travel quickly in the wrong direction.
Our burden however, is the one most avoidable, if outdated laws would just change in this land of the (cough, cough) free........
I remember a girl I knew in Jr. High School in the early 70's. She was pretty and smart but dubbed a "goody two shoes" like I was, by the kids who smoked cigarettes and drank beer across the street at 12 and 13 right before first classes.. She was ladylike and perhaps a bit prissy according to the cool, popular kids , but I thought she was kind and warm and I liked her alot. When we were in 9th grade, her Mother killed herself. She, for reasons I am still unaware of, went into the garage, a Mother of three, and turned on the ignition....hours later this sweet 14 year old came home to find her Mother in a cloud of carbon monoxide. I, like everyone else in my class was absolutely horrified when we heard this news. I didn't even know what to say to her. And neither did anyone else. I was afraid to talk to her about it. Terrified I'd say the wrong thing. And terrified that my own Natural Mother was dead, somewhere, out there. Because I needed to just see her once. At least. To hear her voice. And to hear why she could not keep me. A question ALL children whose Mother was not there as they grew up, no matter what the situtation was, Adopted or not, would want to know. Because that is just human nature. I had met her Mother once. She was such a beautiful woman. She was funloving and nice. Full of laughter and smiles. And God I remember thinking my friend was so lucky to have her for a Mother.
Months later I knew the kind of darkness my friend was in. Due to her grief. Her pain. And perhaps her anger. She stopped caring about school. About grades. And pretty soon leather jackets started to replace her frilly dresses and kilt skits, while looks of sarcasm replaced her look of self-assurance. She started hanging out in the smoking lounge at our high school, inhaling Marlboros just like me. Both of us lost due to the separation of us and our Mothers. In an overwhelmingly big school. The circumstances were different, but the the confusion and feelings of abandonment were the same. And so was the apathy....
The insensitivity I have come across on the internet, pertaining to Adoptees has made me very angry, as the typical stereotypes pertaining to bastards have come up from the deep dark murky waters, like a sea monster, rearing it's ugly head. So hence, another post from me........and my vent to the entire world........
Stop treating us like we are bad seeds. Or damaged goods. Or like we all come from inmates at the local jail or from bad blood. We don't. And we aren't. Look instead at the REASONS Adoptees are depressed. Or take their lives. Not legally being allowed to know who our Mothers are while we are growing up (and therefore not knowing the circumstances of our relinquishment which feeds our feelings of powerlessness and self-hate). And having Adoption Agencies play games with us when we try to find them as adults. "Beemommies" that buzz around all over the internet cement the depression and feelings of low self-esteem their children will have, as they ignore the fact that they still feel dumped by them. Adoption may seem like a "gift" to many Adopted Parents, but we feel like the returned gift. Just not good enough...and love from Adoptive Parents is not the cure all like social workers, Adoption Agencies and Church Clergy tell them it will be. Just like a new friend doesn't erase the pain of being cast aside by an old one.
It will always haunt me that Michael's last painful feelings were concerning a young woman he knew. I think male Adoptees have a very hard time dealing with rejection from females, as they may represent his Mother over and over. Light must be shined on the fact that it is the Adoption System and that feelings of not being wanted by our Mothers make us ultra sensitive to not being loved by others that can drive Adoptees to suicide, not because Adoptees come from the Island of Misfit Toys in a leaking boat by the way of the Genetic Defect River
to begin with.
Since this is National Adoption Awareness Month, I think it is damn high time, the world was AWARE of what the truth about Adoptees REALLY is.
There is scant information on the internet about any experiences Michael may have had with his Natural Mother. But I am not complaining about that. Because, especially in this rude age of TMI, it is none of anyone's business if he met her, and if he did, how his relationship with her panned out. All that matters is that HE knew who she was. Or that he was given that right. I did come across an interview Marie Osmond gave years ago on the Larry King Show and she said refreshingly bluntly, that she felt it WAS her Adopted children's right to know who their biological parents were.

KING: In all of your cases, did you know the birth mother?

OSMOND: I didn't -- I don't know my birth mothers.

KING: None of them?

OSMOND: No.

KING: Don't know their names.

OSMOND: I would have to look in the papers. But I have all the information if my children want to know.

KING: For health reasons?

OSMOND: Well, no, but if my children want know, I think that's their privilege and prerogative.

KING: And if they want to meet them someday that's okay, too?

OSMOND: I look forward to it.

And I guess she meant this of course, as sadly Michael's Natural Mother was at his graveside to say goodbye....
Most Mormon's do not share her viewpoint however, and we all know the NCFA is proof of that.
But we also know that Adoption Agencies and The Department of Social Work do not tell the truth to Adoptive Parents that our need to know who our Natural Parents are as we were growing up is an essential part of taking care of us. Instead they hide behind Adoptive Parent's insecurity blaming US for what are normal reactions due to the human condition when Adoptees are made to feel shame due to the Birth Mother Privacy lie, and feeling unwanted even in Open Adoptions.
And they do this in part due to greed.
Even when the last shovel of dirt covers the coffins of Adoptees who knew OH SO better.....

Rest In Peace Michael Our Angel
You will be missed forever.............
And forever we will love you.....

(I will post once more on Friday. Concerning another beautiful Adoptee gone too soon. It has to be Friday and if you stop by you will see why.
But then I am gone again.
I don't have closure due to the self-centered Adoption Industry.
So Closed Adoption is hard for me to write about.
Two is all I can handle this month.
Despite the many sad stories.
And I won't be back.
At least until the "Adoption Professionals" slap us hard in the face again and it hurts more to hold my anger in than to unleash it on them....)

Our Psychotic World.......

2010-10-25T20:56:00.042-04:00

Yes, I know I said I was not blogging anymore,

and no I am not going to continue writing, but. I just HAD too....I may post however, from time to time concerning INSANE CPS and corrupt Adoption Agencies and when do, you will know I am REALLY PISSED OFF.
Like right now..........
"Just who do the Social Services think they are? When did Communism become the ruling party of these islands. Scrap Big Government dictatorship. 'We the people' don't need any of them... Ever!!!!

Ian London UK, 18/10/2010 08:08

My feelings EXACTLY Ian!....

"Joyfully kissing her beautiful baby boy -

the girl branded too stupid to be a wife or a mother"

By Alison Smith Squire

"Laughing in the autumn sunshine, a baby boy takes his first wobbly steps along a sandy beach. His delighted and attentive mother offers a safe pair of arms as his proud father captures the moment with his camera.

It is a touching scene that any parent would recognise. But it is particularly precious
for Kerry Robertson and her new husband Mark McDougall.
Kerry, you may remember, is the slender brunette whose wedding was dramatically halted a year ago by Fife social services because they judged her too ‘stupid’ to understand the vows. Four months later, the social services struck again. As Kerry breast-fed her three-day-old son Ben, council officials who feared she lacked the intelligence to be a good mother came into the maternity ward and took the child into care.
Already banned from marrying, Kerry, 18, and Mark, 26, were forced to leave the hospital without their newborn son. Today, however, The Mail on Sunday can reveal that they have been reunited with their little boy and are now both living with him for the first time since he was born. The authorities in Ireland, where they fled before the birth in the hope that they could keep their baby, have agreed that Ben can indeed stay with his parents. This is not their only piece of happy news. Earlier this month, Mark and Kerry finally married in a tender ceremony at a hotel in County Waterford, defying those who said their relationship could never last. All I ever wanted was to be married to Mark and to live a normal life with our son,’ said Kerry yesterday.
Now I just feel so contented and happy to be a proper family at last. I love being with Ben and being his mum. I have cried a lot over the past year but it’s only brought Mark and me closer.’ The couple’s resilience and the resourcefulness they have shown in fighting for the right to bring up their son together seems to make a mockery of the view that Kerry was too weak-minded to be a wife and mother.
Some would say it is difficult to see why Fife social services came to that conclusion in the first place.
This article continues here....,....
oh, btw, Happy Halloween everyone! (and if you need a really horrifying costume this year, try dressing up as a social worker).........

I'm Leaving Blogger......

2010-03-17T07:52:00.164-04:00

****LAST RECENT UPDATE****(UNLESS SPOOKIE MAKES UP MORE NEW LIES ABOUT ME)
(ALL UPDATE REMARKS ARE IN RESPONSE TO SPOOKIE'S CONTINIOUS CYBERBULLYING AND LIBELOUS POSTS ABOUT ME THAT SHE REFUSES TO STOP WRITING).

WELL IT IS April 7th, 2011, WELL OVER A YEAR SINCE SPOOKIE FIRST STARTED LYING ABOUT ME GETTING VISTIS FROM THE POLICE WHICH NEVER HAPPENED AND HOW SHE WOULD HAVE ME THROWN IN JAIL FOR CALLING HER A HACKER, WHICH NEVER HAPPENED EITHER. (OF COURSE, LOL. CAN ANYONE SAY BEYOND IMMATURE, BRAZEN, LOUDMOUTH, BULLY DRAMA QUEEN? SPOOKIE WAS BORN A LOSER, AND SHE WILL ALWAYS BE A LOSER. THAT IS ALL SHE IS CAPABLE OF BEING. THE POOR PSYCHOTIC TWIT. HER LATEST VICTIM, A WOMAN NAMED LISA WHO SPOOKIE NEVER MET IS BEING TORTURED BY HER NOW. THIS IS HOW SPOOKIE OPERATES. SHE JUST RANDOMLY CYBERTORMENTS PEOPLE WHO OTHERS DISLIKE, EVEN THOUGH THEY DID NOTHING TO HER. JUST LIKE SHE HAS LIED TO AMY AND PUTS ON THIS BIG ACT THAT SHE IS HER FRIEND AND WILL HELP HER DESTROY THIS WOMAN WHO IS SEEING HER EX-HUSBAND. I DO FEEL SORRY FOR AMY THAT HER MARRIAGE DIDN'T WORK OUT, BUT IF I WAS GETTING A DIVORCE, I WOULDN'T TALK ABOUT IT ON THE INTERNET. I AM NOT THE ONLY ONE WHO HAS SAID THAT TO AMY. I WOULDN'T CUT DOWN JUDGES ONLINE EITHER. YOU NEVER KNOW WHO IS FRIENDS WITH WHO IN THIS WORLD.... AND PERSONALLY I HOPE LISA SUES SPOOKIE FROM HERE TO HELL FOR CYBERABUSING HER SO BADLY. SHE WOULD WIN TOO. WHAT AMY'S EX-HUSBAND DID OR DID NOT DO, I DON'T WANT ANY INVOLVEMENT IN, NOR WILL I STATE AN OPINION ON, BUT IT ISN'T LISA'S FAULT DON'S MARRIAGE ENDED AND SHE DOESN'T DESERVE TO BE VERBALLY EXECUTED BY SPOOKIE. THIS IS WHY EVERYONE SHOULD STAY AWAY FROM THIS INFANTILE PERSON. SHE IS JUST A BIG MOUTH, NOSY, TABLOID IN HUMAN FORM WITH NO CLASS WHAT SO EVER. SINCE IT HAS BEEN A YEAR SINCE SHE TOLD TALL TALES ABOUT ME, I WILL STOP UPDATING ON WHAT A LIAR SHE IS, AS IT IS VERY OBVIOUS SHE IS ONE, SO MY WORK IS DONE :) SPOOKIE WILL CONTINUE LYING 24/7 HOWEVER, BECAUSE THAT IS ALL SHE HAS THE MATURITY TO DO. ESPECIALLY SINCE SHE HAS POOR AMY CONNED THAT SOMEONE NAMED VICKI IS AFTER HER TOO. THIS FAUX PERSON CONTACTED HER HUSBAND AND OTHER BLOGGERS, BUT I THINK WE ALL KNOW THIS IS JUST ANOTHER ONE OF SPOOKIE'S SCAMS. FOR THAT IS THE ONLY TRUE TALENT SHE HAS. SETTING PEOPLE UP AND DRAWING THEM INTO HER BLACK WIDOW SPIDER WEB. GET IT? WEB. :) LOL).

AND GOLLY, I WAS SO SCARED....ALL THIS PAST YEAR. NOT. LOL. LITTLE MISS KOOKIE SPOOKIE (AND SINCE SHE CALLS ME "THE BASTARD" IN A RECENT POST, WHICH IS A BIGOTED REMARK AND SHOULD BE ILLEGAL, KOOKIE IS VERY FITTING, ESPECIALLY SINCE SHE STARTED CALLING AMY AND I "KOOKS" FIRST) JUST HAD TO HAVE A BIG, FAT TEMPER TANTRUM ALL OVER THE WEB BECAUSE SHE CAN'T CONTROL THE POLICE. POOR BABY....

SO SHE CONTINUES STILL, NOW, TO LIE ABOUT ME ADMITTING TO WRITING A BLOG THAT SAYS SHE IS INTO DIGUSTING BEASTALITY. A SUBJECT THE POLICE DIDN'T EVEN DISCUSS WITH ME WHEN I SPOKE TO THEM IN APRIL 2009 (WHEN I WAS TOLD SPOOKIE WOULD BE TOLD TO TAKE DOWN HER POSTS AND STOP WRITING NEW POSTS ABOUT ME) ABOUT A BLOG I SAID TO THEM I NEVER WROTE AND NEVER ADMITTED TO THEM THAT I WROTE LIKE SHE IS SAYING I DID (AND IF I DID ADMIT I WROTE THAT BLOG, WOULD I SIT HERE AND LIE ABOUT THAT NOW? DUH. OF COURSE NOT). SHE ALSO CONTINUES TO LIE ABOUT THE POLICE COMING TO MY HOUSE TWICE WHICH THEY DID NOT AND MY SAYING I STARTED THE CYBERBULLYING WHICH I DID NOT DO EITHER. I TOLD THE POLICE I DID NOT WRITE THAT BLOG AND THEY LEFT IT AT THAT AND SHE JUST CANNOT STAND THAT. OR THAT I HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO ACCUSE HER OF HACKING ME IF I WANT TOO. SO HENCE HER CURRENT HYSTERICAL RANTINGS ABOUT ME AND AMY BURT ALL OVER THE INTERNET, CONTINUING TO CALL US NAMES THAT ARE TOTALLY A FORM OF CYBERBULLYING.

IF SPOOKIE CAN NOT GET WHAT SHE WANTS, THEN SHE JUST STARTS LYING TO MAKE IT SEEM LIKE SHE GOT WHAT SHE WANTED. WHAT A THREE YEAR OLD.....

**********SPOOKIE ALSO PURPOSELY NEVER TALKS ABOUT THE MYSPACE GROUP SHE PUT UP TO CYBERBULLY ME TWO YEARS AGO THAT MYSPACE TOOK DOWN BECAUSE IT WAS ABUSIVE.

***********SHE NEVER TALKS ABOUT HOW AFTER SHE SENT ME THAT RUDE EMAIL ON MYSPACE I NEVER TALKED TO HER (FOR LIKE 3 WEEKS) UNTIL SHE STARTED CYBERBULLYING ME ON AN ANIMAL RIGHTS FORUM BY MAKING FUN OF MY TRADER JOE'S POST, INDICATING THAT I WAS STUPID, MOCKING HOW I WRITE AND LAUGHING AT ME. SHE NEVER ACKNOWLEDGES THE FACT THAT AFTER SHE WAS REALLY MEAN TO ME ABOUT INFORMING PEOPLE THAT SO- DELICIOUS WAS NOW BEING MARKETED UNDER THE TRADER JOES LABEL, I WASN'T EVEN RUDE BACK TO HER. OR THAT AFTER I REPLIED TO HER, SHE STARTED RIPPING ME APART, AND CYBER BEATING THE HELL OUT OF ME.

********** SHE NEVER SAID SHE WAS SORRY FOR PICKING ON ME IN THE FIRST PLACE BY MAKING FUN OF MY POST ON TRADER JOE'S EITHER.......WHICH SHE SHOULD HAVE.

SPOOKIE ALSO LIES ABOUT WHAT I SAID AS STEPFORD CHILD. AND I DID NOT SAY MOST OF WHAT SHE HIGHLIGHTS ON HER BLOG. SHE IS A GRAPHIC ARTIST AND CREATED SOME OF THESE IMAGES HERSELF WHILE OTHERS MADE FAKE MYSPACE STEPFORD CHILD ACCOUNTS PRETENDING THEY WERE ME AND THEN THEY DELETED THE ACCOUNTS CONSTANTLY. I WAS ALSO PHISHED A FEW TIMES TOO. AND MY ORIGINAL ACCOUNT WAS HACKED. JOHN GREENE IS ALSO A VERY BULLYISH TYPE OF PERSON AS ALL OF THEM ON THAT FORUM WERE, AND ALL OF THEM STARTED RIPPING ME APART BECAUSE I CRITICIZED A POEM WRITTEN SOLELY TO PROMOTE THE CORRUPT SYSTEM CALLED OPEN ADOPTION. I WAS TOLD FROM SOMEONE TOO WHO MET JOHN GREENE AT THE PROTEST LAST YEAR HE HAD A VERY AGGRESSIVE PERSONALITY, HE WAS A MAJOR TURN OFF AND THIS PERSON FELT AFRAID OF HIM AND DID NOT LIKE HIM. OTHERS FELT THAT WAY AS WELL. AND MOST ADOPTEES CAN'T STAND JOHN GREENE EITHER BECAUSE HE PLAYED A PART IN DRAFTING A DIRTY OPEN RECORDS BILL IN RHODE ISLAND. HE IS KNOWN AS A BENEDICT BASTARD....SO WHO THE HELL CARES WHAT HE THINKS ABOUT ANYONE. I STILL HAVE THE EMAIL FROM THE PERSON WHO TOLD ME THEY WERE NOT IMPRESSED WITH GREENE AT THE PROTEST TOO. DITTO FOR ADOPTED JANE. I'VE ALSO HEARD AN EARFULL ABOUT HER ...AND EVERYONE KNOWS THAT CERTAIN SEARCH ANGEL'S ON MYSPACE ARE CONNECTED TO ADOPTION AGENCIES AND MANY PEOPLE TOLD ME AS WELL THAT MOST OF THE NATURAL MOTHERS WHO SAY THEY GAVE UP THEIR KIDS IN OPEN ADOPTION AND ARE ALL HAPPY ABOUT IT, LIKE THE ONES WHO ATTACKED ME ARE FROM THE NCFA AND ARE INVOLVED IN THE ADOPTION INDUSTRY, SO I WILL CONSIDER THE SOURCE..ESPECIALLY SINCE SPOOKIE SAID HERSELF SHE WAS SENT BY PEOPLE EQUATED WITH THE ADOPTION INDUSTRY... IT AMAZES ME THAT SPOOKIE CAN ACTUALLY THINK THE WAY SHE ACTS IS PERFECTLY FINE....WHAT A HYPOCRITE! I MEAN REALLY, WHAT KIND OF EXAMPLE DOES SHE SET? AN EYE FOR AN EYE LEAVES THE WHOLE WORLD BLIND....TOO BAD SHE IS TOO UNINTELLIGENT TO UNDERSTAND THAT....AND GEE IT MUST OF TAKEN HER A LONG TIME TO WRITE ALL THOSE POSTS, RESPONSIBLE MOTHERS OF 3 YEAR OLDS DON'T SPEND THAT MUCH TIME ON THE INTERNET. AND SPOOKIE SPENDS MORE TIME ONLINE THAN DOING ANYTHING ELSE AS ONE CAN TELL FROM ALL SHE HAS OUT THERE. IT IS SAD SHE LOVES HER COMPUTER AND CUTTING ME DOWN MORE THAN SHE LOVES BEING WITH HER SON AND DOING ALL THE WORK THAT NEEDS TO BE DONE TO TAKE CARE OF A CHILD......TIME AND WORK THAT IF DONE RIGHT LEAVES NO TIME FOR BEING ON THE INTERNET AS MUCH AS SHE IS........AND HOW DOES SHE KNOW HOW MANY ALTERATIONS I HAVE MADE TO MY NEW BLOG LAYOUT? BECAUSE SHE IS ON MY BLOG 24/7 AND SHE NEVER EVER LEAVES!!! SHE HAS IT UP ALL DAY LONG! ALL NIGHT LONG TOO! AND I KNOW THAT BECAUSE MY STAT COUNTER TELLS ME SO. ISN'T THAT STALKING BEHAVIOR? DAMN STRAIGHT......

**********SO WHAT IS THE EXPLANATION FOR HER CYBERBULLYING BEHAVIOR THAT SHE SPEWED ON ME ON THAT ANIMAL RIGHTS FORUM? SHE WAS WRONG TO TREAT ME THAT WAY AND SHE HAS YET TO ADMIT THAT.

**********ALL I DID WAS FIGHT BACK . AND SHE CALLS THAT STALKING AND CYBERBULLYING. PFFT.

**********ISN'T SHE THE POT CALLING THE KETTLE BLACK. SHE STARTED THIS WHOLE WAR.

**********AND SHE ALSO PICKED ON OTHER PEOPLE LIKE CASSI, JOY, GERSHOM, AMY, ULB, AND MANY MORE WHILE SHE WAS CYBERKILLING ME. YET I HAVE NEVER PICKED ON ANY OF HER "FRIENDS" AND NO ONE ELSE IS COMPLAINING ABOUT ME BUT HER.

**********WHY? BECAUSE I WAS SET UP......SHE HAS DONE ALL OF THIS ON PURPOSE. BECAUSE I QUOTED CHRIST IN MY MYSPACE AND SHE HAS SAID SHE "HATES ALL THIS CHRISTIAN CRAP".

**********AND BECAUSE IMMORAL AND DANGEROUS PEOPLE WHO I HAVE GOTTEN IN TROUBLE AND CRITICIZED IN THE PAST ONLINE AND OFF WANT REVENGE ON ME BECAUSE THEY ARE IMMATURE, SELFISH, GREEDY, VIOLENT, MENTALLY DISTURBED AND CONSCIENCELESS SPOILED BRATS. AND THEY TOLD HER TO DO THIS TO ME......

AND BECAUSE OF ADOPTION TROLLS ON THE INTERNET.....

I WOULDN'T BE SURPRISED IF SOME LOON IN AN ADOPTION AGENCY PAID HER TO DO THIS TO ME TOO...MAKE THE ADOPTEE WHO SPEAKS OUT AGAINST MAKING ONES CHILD FEEL REJECTED THROUGH ADOPTION AND ALL THE LIES, CORRUPTION AND DISHONESTY ON THE PART OF ADOPTION AGENCIES LOOK CRAZY BECAUSE THE TRUTH IS SPOKEN ABOUT THEM. YES, KICK THE ADOPTEE'S ASS AROUND LIKE A SOCCER BALL...TTHAT IS THE ADOPTION INDUSTRY'S FAVORITE GAME ANYWAY, AND IT IS ONE THEY HAVE PLAYED AT MY EXPENSE MY WHOLE LIFE. SPOOKIE WAS PROBABLY DROOLING...........

**********AS I SAID BEFORE IN MY SIDEBAR, STAY AWAY FROM HER, AS SHE WILL SET YOU UP TOO AND TRY TO HURT YOUR GOOD NAME ALL OVER CYBERSPACE. SHE GETS OFF ON THAT.

SHE DID IT TO AMY JUST BECAUSE AMY STOOD UP FOR ME. AND TO OTHER PEOPLE BECAUSE THEY DIDN'T WANT TO GO AGAINST ME THE WAY SHE WANTED THEM TOO.

THERE IS SOMETHING VERY WRONG WITH SOMEONE TO TRYS TO GET EVERYONE IN THE WORLD TO HATE SOMEONE THEY DON'T LIKE. AND THAT IS WHAT SPOOKIE HAS TRIED TO DO TO ME.

IT IS OBVIOUS THE WAY SHE ACTS, THAT SPOOKIE HAS A PSYCHOLOGICAL PROBLEM AND HAS THE ABNORMAL NEED TO BE OVER EVERY ONE'S HEAD ALL THE TIME. AND SHE LIES TO TRY TO DO THIS TOO. LITTLE MISS BOSS EVERY ONE AROUND. LITTLE MISS I TELL EVERYONE WHAT TO DO. LITTLE MISS ABUSIVE, RAMPAGING TYRANT...... SOMEONE NEEDS AN ANAL MANAGEMENT COURSE.....BECAUSE CONTROL FREAKS LIKE HER ARE MENTALLY ILL AND ARE THE ONE OF THE LOWEST LIFEFORMS ON EARTH. THEY ARE ALSO THE MOST IMMATURE PEOPLE ON EARTH TOO AND NO ONE LIKE CAN STAND THEM EITHER. IT'S VERY SAD SHE DOESN'T SEE THAT.

AND REALLY.......A MORE VICIOUS, FOUL, HATEFUL, SPOILED, ANGRY, SELF-ABSORBED, ATTENTION HOGGING, LOUD, CHILDISH PERSON YOU WILL NEVER FIND...(AND WHO PURPOSELY IGNORES THE FACT TOO, THAT I SPOKE TO THE POLICE ABOUT HER CYBERBULLYING ME, AND I HAD CALLED THEM AND WAS TOLD THAT PUTTING PERSONAL INFORMATION ABOUT ME ON THE INTERNET WAS "IMMORAL"). YUP. THAT'S SPOOKIE....THE JOKER AND PENGUIN FROM BATMAN..WITH FANGS. THAT IS HOW SHE HAS MADE ME AND MANY OTHER PEOPLE FEEL, BECAUSE THIS IS HOW SHE ACTS. AND THIS IS WHAT SHE IS LIKE.

AN "UN-MEDICATED MAD WOMAN" WHO LIVES TO BARBARICALLY ABUSE PEOPLE. AGAIN, IF SHE EVER BULLIES YOU CALL THE POLICE ON THIS BLOWHARD. THE CYBERBULLYING SHE HAS UNLEASHED ON ME AND AMY IS CRIMINAL, BECAUSE SPOOKIE IS ANTI-SOCIAL AND ACTS LIKE A PSYCHOPATH. THIS IS HER. HER PROFILE PICTURE.

IF YOU EVER SEE HER OFFLINE. RUN SHE VERY WELL COULD STALK PEOPLE OFF LINE AND I HAVE A SICK FEELING SHE HAS PEOPLE WATCHING ME.

I AM HONESTLY AFRAID FOR MY LIFE AND IF ANYTHING HAPPENS TO ME SHE SHOULD BE THE FIRST SUSPECT ALONG WITH ALL THE PEOPLE SHE TALKS TOO.

THE ONLY THING SHE SAYS ON HER BLOG ABOUT ME THAT IS TRUE IS THAT I AM OUT OF WORK RIGHT NOW. BECAUSE THERE IS NO WORK IN THIS AREA. IT IS VERY HARD TO FIND WORK HERE AND EVERYONE KNOWS THAT. THIS IS NOT A YEAR ROUND COMMUNITY. AND THAT IS PARTLY WHY I AM MOVING. (AND I DON'T MOOCH OFF OF SOCIETY EITHER. SHE KNOWS WHERE SHE CAN GO FOR SAYING THAT. SPOOKIE IS ABOUT AS SENSITIVE AND KIND AS GEORGIA TANN...)

I ALSO DO HAVE AN INTERNET PACKAGE WITH VERIZON. HER KNOWING THAT IS PROOF SHE HACKED ME.

BUT HOW WOULD SHE KNOW I AM UNEMPLOYED AT THE MOMENT?

WE LIVE IN DIFFERENT STATES.

AND I NEVER SAID THAT ONLINE. HMMMM...............

SPOOKIE ALSO MADE AMY AFRAID FOR HER LIFE AS WELL. SHE WAS SCARED SPOOKIE OR SOMEONE ELSE FOR HER WAS GOING TO COME TO HER HOUSE AND CAUSE HER HARM.
AND ONE HAS TO WONDER HOW STABLE A 45 YEAR OLD WOMAN IS WHO HAS PURPLE HAIR AND WHO AT ONE POINT HAD NAILS 7 INCHES LONG, SO ABNORMALLY LONG, THEY TWISTED. SPOOKIE IS VERY WEIRD AND VERY EVIL AND PRIDES HER SELF ON BEING A TOUGH LONG GUYLANDER (THINK AMY FISHER) PUNK ROCKER, HELL'S ANGEL BIKER TYPE, LEATHER JACKETS AND ALL. NOT VERY COMFORTING AND NOT VERY PLEASANT.
SPOOKIE JUST LIVES TO GET IN ONE'S FACE. DON'T LET HER GET INTO YOURS. NOW ON TO BETTER THINGS...I AM BEYOND SICK OF TALKING ABOUT THIS PATHOLOGICAL LIAR AND CYBERPLAYGROUND BULLY AS I AM FEELING ILL AGAIN, BECAUSE AS I SAID BEFORE, SPOOKIE IS TOXIC AND HAS DESTROYED MY HEALTH.
PLEASE CONTINUE READING THE REST OF MY UPDATES POSTED JUNE 19TH AND BLOGPOST BELOW THAT WAS POSTED ON MARCH 17TH.
I DO NEED TO SAY THIS HOWEVER: FOR ANYONE WHO DOUBTS SPOOKIE MADE THE TROLLCAT PICTURE THAT HEADS THIS POST TO THREATEN ME HERE IS A SCREENSHOT FROM HER BLOG THAT SHE WROTE: (I REALIZE THE PRINT IS VERY SMALL AND I APOLOGIZE TO THE READER, IT CAN BE SEEN MORE EASILY IF IT IS PRINTED OUT AND WHAT SPOOKIE SAYS IS QUOTED UNDER THE IMAGE. THIS IS ALSO ONE OF THE SHOTS I HAVE BURNED TO A CD).

"Stalkers are lol trollcat
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Fucking EPIC! LOL Ha ha ha ha ha ha!!! Thanks, Trollcats!
IA, this Trollcat is for you. No, seriously. No, you don't understand. It's really, really for you. It was made just FOR YOU!
Awesome, amirite?
STALK MOAR. lol!
…whew, I'm lol'ing."

AND GUESS WHO MADE IT? I AM SURE YOU ALREADY KNOW.
I CAN BACK UP EVERYTHING I HAVE SAID ABOUT SPOOKIE AS I HAVE MANY MORE SCREENSHOTS INCLUDING ONES FROM COMPLAINTS FROM OTHER ADOPTEES ABOUT HER. 3 CD'S FULL OF EVIDENCE ACTUALLY.

AND BECAUSE SHE LIES ABOUT ME IN EVERY POST ON HER CYBERPUNK BLOG, I NEED TO SAY THIS AS WELL:

SPOOKIE IS NOW LYING ABOUT ME "ATTACKING BLACKS AND LATINOS ON MY SPACE". (SHE SAID THAT YESTERDAY ON HER LIBEL BLOG). I NEVER DID ANYTHING OF THE SORT AND FUCK YOU SPOOKIE FOR INDICATING I AM PREJUDICED AGAINST THESE TWO WONDERFUL NATIONALITIES (AND IT'S AFRICAN AMERICAN, NOT "BLACK" YOU STUPID, DISRESPECTFUL BITCH) BECAUSE I AM NOT AND EVERYONE WHO KNOWS ME KNOWS DAMN WELL THAT I AM NOT.

SPOOKIE IS ALSO SAYING I AM GOING TO BE HOMELESS. YES, SPOOKIE IS GOD AND KNOWS EVERYTHING, LOL. MOST LIKELY SHE MEANS SHE IS COMING TO BURN DOWN MY HOUSE. SHE IS JUST THE TYPE TO DO THIS, SO I'LL BE KEEPING MY EYES OPEN. AS I HAVE SAID BEFORE, ALL OF THIS BECAUSE I IGNORED HER AFTER AN EMAIL SHE SENT ME. (3 YEARS AGO! 3 YEARS!!) SO AS ANYONE CAN SEE, SHE BACKWARDLY MIRRORS ME INTO BEING A STALKER, BECAUSE SHE CAN'T STAND THAT I IGNORED HER. THIS IS PARTLY WHY SHE STARTED ATTACKING ME THAT DAY ON MYSPACE. SHE WANTED ATTENTION. SPOOKIE ACTS LIKE A JILTED LOVER GONE POSTAL!!! SHE ACTS LIKE A LOSER. SHE IS THE ONE WHO NEEDS HELP AND SHE IS NOT MATURE ENOUGH TO HAVE A CHILD EITHER.

SOMEONE SAID TO ME RECENTLY SOMEONE SHOULD CALL A SOCIAL WORKER ON HER. LET'S HOPE SOME ONE DOES.....

AND NOW BACK TO MY ORIGINAL POST I'M LEAVING BLOGGER:

I'm Leaving Blogger.........
March 17th, 2010
Due to SPOOKIE/SPOOKIECATS compulsive lies about me and Amy Burt, I have decided, that after three years of serious mental abuse and cruelty shown to me by spookie, over a fight THAT SHE STARTED, (and yes, she made the picture that heads this post to threaten me, please see my sidebar announcement) I am going to start another blog under a new name, on another computer (since she is probably hacking this one already as certain features on this blog are not working anymore) with a proxy (purchased through a legal, legitimate company) where she can never, ever, find me again, and send me comments telling me I'm a dirty little bastard, calling me Baba Yaga (whatever THAT means), that I should kill myself like she did a year ago December about a week before Christmas because my life is "worthless" and telling me that all my Adoption Records are burning in hell (where all we little "rotten" little bastards should be).

Amy also left Blogger because of this tyrants behavior last year. spookie as I state above, picks on and antagonizes people, says treacherous, HORRIBLE, HORRIBLE TOTALLY UNTRUE things (like she does about me on her 3 totally immature tabloidlike blogs) and then if one fights back she says they are cyberbullying HER.

Due to spookie I am literally ill. Because she is poison. She is like cyanide. She is also a "MONSTER", as another blogger, a Real Mother called her in an Email to me . She has been a poison to Amy Burt as well, and as you can see below and within this link, where she is as usual, completely and totally out of control. After being seriously spammed, stalked and flammed by spookie and sent a massive amount of psychotic and unbelievably sinister comments since August of 2008, as I was (and I still have 85 in my inbox which is only a quarter of what she sent me, as I deleted many because they were too evil to even have in my computer) for months, she finally went to Blogger to beg for help. spookie then followed her there (as Veraciousness Inc.) and began to abuse her some more, along with cyberabusing/cyberbullying Gershom, Joy, ULB and lying like hell about all of us on this forum.

Amy says quite accurately and quite clearly that spookie is spamming and cyberbullying everyone in the Blogger Adoption community. She spammed Cassi and other Real Mothers too. For well over a year, laughing and patting herself on the back the entire time. The way she is to Amy on this forum, is exactly how she was to me in March of 2007 on an animal rights forum after I wrote an informative post about Trader Joe's. She began the "conversation" first, by mocking and making fun of what I had written, while hurling personal insults at me, which were immature and obnoxious. I replied to her, that since what I wrote was for the best interest of animals, she should not be taunting me, and her reply to me began an onslaught of cyberbullying from her that has tormented me to present date.

AMYADOPTEE View profile
I keep getting some really hateful comments from a certain blogger. She has threatened in the past in some of these comments. I am fed up. I am tired of it. Someone please help me. She created a blog to attack me and several others.
Her name is Suzanne.
Her ip address is the following:
Domain Name optonline.net ? (Network)
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Veraciousness, Inc. has left a new comment on your post "IN DEFENSE OF A FRIEND":
KITE KAMP GIRL said...
"Okay get over yourself Spookie. You said no more comments. I am not going to respond or post any of your comments. So forget it. IA, Gershom, Joy, ULB, and I are not going to give you airplay. Stick to your own blog. I have too many other articles to write and discuss than to deal with you.

(spookie:)
" Yes, I know you do, Big Shot. VERY IMPORTANT ARTICLES, I might add.
"Need Sunglasses?" "Looking for a Telescope?" "Gosh, Do You Need Astronomical Binoculars?" "Website Monitoring! YAY!" "Do You Want a Safe Abortion?" (oops! wrong blog!) "So Many Choices for Webhosting, Y'all!" "NASCAR & More, Your Source for REDNECK SPORTS" "SKATEBOARDING THROUGH DREAMS" (I was a skater; what was so difficult about it?) "GET PAID TO REVIEW MY POST PAYPERPOST" "Need a Classy Business Suit? MySuitNY.com" (Ugh, 33rd & Broadway, midtown ZOO)
"THIS DESERVED A POST OF ITS OWN" (oops again, this is just Amy being a c*nt and proving that she cannot be amicable with strangers when reached out to.
Kudos to Marc for the attempt) And look who is calling the kettle black, the poster of libel. I love your link to a post that does NOT call you a dyke. Do you always lie like IA? Get off your high horse, Amy. you're nothing special. I don't need or want your airplay. You're a nut, just not on a large scale like IA is. You absorb gossip like a sponge and believe others' bullshit just because it comes from the mouths of adoptees. Well, that's a fine way to live, Amy. You're a credible person. You posts about me prove you're a bitter, nasty little coward just like IA, and really, I don't care. I was amicable to you, and you just ignored it. You tried to claim I called you a dyke, and you know I did not post the comment you blogged about, but you refuse to straighten out a damn thing because you have to — you MUST — defend you NUTTER of a friend or you yourself loses ALL Credibility as well.
I don't give a flying fuck if you ignore me or don't.
Enjoy knowing you posted lies on your stupid, penny-making blog. Get a real job, hobo. Just remember this, AMY. YOU blogged about me TWICE before I posted one word about you on my blog. YOU are the one who bashed me before even knowing anything about me, and you refused to even know ME. You went solely on the words of a lunatic you call your friend, ONLY because she is adopted. YOU ARE PATHETIC. I have a chronic pain condition and CFS. I DO NOT side with everyone with the same condition simply because they have been diagnosed with the exact same condition(s)! THAT IS LUDICROUS! Oh, my bad, I forgot to mention, immune deficiency also runs in my family. Should I start being sympathetic to all people who have an anti-immune disease, always siding with their opinions, posts and diatribes because we share a common thread? Do you see the stupidity and ignorance in this yet? In what you and THE IMPROPER ADOPTEE seem to choose to do?
As for Joy, the other one IA likes to throw into the pot, well, good for her that she is such a strong person and can handle being berated and bashed all over the internet and in person. HURRAH for her. Everyone isn't her, though. I don't care about Joy, or how she can handle being torn apart online. Others can't, and they expressed that to your psychotic pal numerous times, yet your buddy just laughed and wrote cruel mockeries back to them, and this is what people like Joy, Teresa and you think is OKAY and proper behavior? Yes, telling Raine that her son should die in Iraq was so sweet because as we all know, ALL people joined the military because they "enjoy killing." *rolls eyes* You all believe that load of crap your friend says? And as for me, of course I'm pro-adoption, because I've been involved in SOOOOO MANY adoptions and I've always been *rolling eyes more* and I hate adoptees because...well, WHY? Only IA knows, because I sure don't. I have adopted friends, and I don't hate them at all. I never did, and in all my life, I never had involvement with adoption until my friend, the adopted one, asked me to help her. OHMYGOD, I must be pro-adoption for being a helpful friend to an adopted friend.
You're a handful of kooks.
As for Teresa, ULB, she has NO IDEA what anything is about. It's NOT ABOUT ADOPTON in the way you all discuss it. It never was. I asked AFTER we discussed a situation in an animal cruelty group. ULB knows nothing about the incidents, and she has no idea what she is talking about when commenting on the topic. I'm not shocked by shit. I didn't give a shit if IA posted links to all those sites, and why would I want to "hide the truth?" WTF are you all on?!? LAY OFF THE STEM, GALS!!! This was all about IA NOT APPROVING OF MY FRIEND'S ADOPTION and NOT LIKING THAT I ASKED HER OPINION, AND THEN IA NOT AT ALL LIKING THAT I WAS BAFFLED AND CONFUSED AS TO WHY SHE SUDDENLY IGNORED ME, WHEN WE WERE HAVING AN ONGOING CONVERSATION. How was I to know the woman was a lunatic, snapped, and was readying her mission to bully me forever?!? To create lies and say I made up my friend's adoption to "hurt poor Stepford," and to use my groups and moderator status to abuse me by sending out hate bulletins, telling strangers that I ABUSE ANIMALS.
As for Gershom, she's just as dishonest. Gershom knows I never did what IA said, but she won't post anything to dare go against her psychotic BPD friend. IA claims I "spammed Gershom 100 times," or something as nutty as that, but Gershom knows the truth, and Gershom can live with her lies. As for the anons that post to IA, we all know they are IA. You've all got one hell of a friend.
YOU GET OVER YOURSELF, AMY. YOU BLOGGED ABOUT ME FIRST, and TWO TIMES, Bitch. After Marc sent you that message, did you not ever get mine, asking you to understand the situation and see the truth, and just stop being a immature teenager about this, act adult and don't side with someone just because their your "online BFF?" What are you, a vindictive, biased adoptee? You can't allow yourself to see another side to a situation when an adoptee is involved and a non-adoptee is? Amy, you're a hypocrite. Leave your stupid, ignorant blogs up. You're a laugh. I will post your moronic comment on my blog, because you're an ass. You posted two blogs about me, and were out of line. You link to nothing that proves I called you anything close to a dyke, yet you tell people I did. Why lie? Are you in middle school? How mature of you. Gee, if I was adopted, I suppose you'd not be a nasty bitch and threaten me, huh. After a year of bullying, abuse, harassment and stalking by your FRIEND, I won't tolerate any of you bitches to fuck with me. Excuse my french. NOT.

kangia View profile
Nov 29 2008, 5:32 am

From: kangia
Date: Sat, 29 Nov 2008 02:32:45 -0800 (PST)
Local: Sat, Nov 29 2008 5:32 am
Subject: Re: Help
...or just set yoour comment settings to "Moderate". This way, you'll
choose what comments your publish....(SETTINGS -- COMMENTS)

spookie View profile
Nov 29 2008, 11:36 am

From: spookie
Date: Sat, 29 Nov 2008 08:36:41 -0800 (PST)

Pull up your big girl pants and deal with it, since you blogged the
libelous entries first, two to be exact.
Maybe you shouldn't have jumped to conclusions and posted lies?

Keep moderation on, and remember, Blogger does not intervene between
bloggers. Deal with it, and keep out of others' business next time.
That's why you got involved. You decided to stick your nose into a one
of your friend's cyberbullying, and when asked to not get involved,
you did the opposite. Next time, don't get involved. It's really as
simple as that.

AMYADOPTEE View profile
Nov 29 2008, 11:43 am
From: AMYADOPTEE
Date: Sat, 29 Nov 2008 08:43:14 -0800 (PST)
This is what I am dealing with. She stalks me and several others
where ever we go. Is there anyway to stop this individual? She is
cyberbulling everyone involved in the adoptee rights movement.

spookie View profile
Nov 30 2008, 7:23 pm

From: spookie
Date: Sun, 30 Nov 2008 16:23:13 -0800 (PST)
Local: Sun, Nov 30 2008 7:23 pm

AMY is a fake, she's crying wolf.

http://spookieisinsane.blogspot.com/

She has a blog she recently created, where she is posting personal
information and requesting people call "Suzanne'S" employer and harass
the employer. AMYADOPTEE posted the advertising agency's mailing
address and phone number specifically to encite users to call and
break the law via telecommunications means, telephony laws are not out
of date and are very easy to prosecute.

AMY can break the law now, but will pay for it later. Maybe she miss
the holidays.

"She is
> cyberbulling everyone involved in the adoptee rights movement."

She forgets that I'm friends with Robin's daughter, who is a super
cool woman, that I really think Marley is an advocate and doing a
great job, whereas people such as IA are not, and I'm friends with
many adoptees I met due to AMY's friend cyberbullying me.

****A note from the Improper Adoptee: Amy is very good friends with Raine's Mother Robin (Motherhood Deleted blogspot) and has been long before spookie ever talked to Raine. spookie also used Marley to hurt me, and I have heard through the grapevine that Marley wants nothing to do with spookie due to her antics.

(spookie con't)

"AMY obviously has some mental issues. For AMY and The Improper Adoptee to
stalk and harass me to this extent only proves that she is many cards
short of a full deck, and I feel sorry for her and The Improper
adoptee, for both of them are obsessive and vindictive, instead of
wanting peace and neutrality. Both want to hate and to blame others,
not just stop the madness and move on. They are pitiful, sad women. I
hope they can find a new user to harass some day soon. I'm going to
persue the legal route, and after that, they won't have me to bully
via the internet or telephone anymore. They will have to find a new
victim, perhaps they already have one chosen from The Improper
adoptee's HIT LIST of HATE on her blog, abolishadoption.blogsopt.com
IA lists all those that she deems evil and deserving of abuse online.
AMY goes along with it.
Amy Kirsten Burt is the new Improper Adoptee."

I have written many posts about how spookie was making fun of good information I posted on a myspace animal rights forum, three years ago this month, which I still have burned on a cd, along with a host of other horrific comments she sent me and one from Gershom who says spookie was spamming her constantly. spookie began this whole fight with me and then terrorized anyone who stood up for me, while terrorizing, badgering and browbeating me as well while I had to deal with selfish trolls, there for the money grubbing, people abusing, Adoption Industry, a bunch of demented women who didn't care at all about throwing their own infants away, and spent their time online promoting this cold and immature act.....while they made up fake profiles of my myspace name trying to paint me black.

You can see what kind of person spookie is too by how she talks to other people. She is also a provoker, an instigator and tries to make someone insane in order to get what she wants with extreme monotonous behavior, like some beyond annoying mosquito that is in your face 24/7, 352, or like a dripping faucet that never ever, ever, ever shuts up that you are forced to listen too every day of your life. This is how she operates. How she will continue to operate with every single poor soul she encounters in her life, sooner or later. For instance this person on the trollcats forum "unknown" :

Look at how spookie replies. (Click on the picture to read). "Douchnozzle"? It is obvious how she verbally abuses this poster because he or she disagrees with her. I never stalked spookie, nor did anyone else. Her calling me a stalker is bonified slander and libel. She was the one stalking people, and she is still stalking me as my stat counter tells me constantly. Here is another statement from spookie on this forum to poster "unknown". spookie claims she is an ex-marine. What? I find that hard to believe after all the times she has bragged she was a heavy partier and a punk rocker.

As I state in my side bar announcement she attacked a myspacer named something to the extent of "pagan bunny" on her animals rights forum that I had saved in my favorites a few months ago. Last year when I was googling Amy Burt's name in IE to see what links came up about her due to spookie's psychotic writings about her, spookie then put on her blog that my using IE was so lame, and I had a problem because I was searching Amy's name. Well, how did SHE know what I was googling? Because she had hacked me and found a way to my desk top, that is how. And she still is. That is why after I saved this conversation where "pagan bunny" was telling spookie she was rude and I looked at it a couple of days later, IT WAS GONE. She deleted the whole thing. And now her myspace group is on private (with some weird message begging people to join so she can message them). Gee, I wonder WHAT she will message people about....What spookie says on the rest of this trollcats forum about me is also untrue and I address that in my side bar announcements & disclaimers to your right, more than half way down, that sports the same picture that heads this post.
spookie's last vengeful act of late towards me, posting all over the internet that I am going to jail, which is a baldfaced lie, due to me exposing her for manipulating browser links, proves all said in my sidebar about her is true.
The police never even contacted me since she started blasting this manure all over the internet over two weeks ago, and this is just another example of one of spookie's narcissistic fits. Especially since she can not prove she ISN'T a hacker. And especially since I have no police record and I have never been arrested or in jail in my whole life.

I never said I hoped Raine's son died in Iraq either, and I wrote a post about what was really said almost a year and a half ago, yet she continues to lie about this and what really happened to make me look like I am something I am not. And since I have no intention of lowering myself to spookie's mean girl 7th grade level, and putting her name all over the internet, while making rude and untrue comments about her, which I could do if I felt like it (but who has time for that anyway? Who can spend 19 hours a day online doing that? That is just SICK, SICK, SICK vile behavior), I will instead just walk away from this situation, because that is the mature and sane thing to do.

Other Bloggers should be aware that the Adoptee Kristina (myspace) is also involved with and helping spookie and Adopted Jane and Adoptee John J. Greene have had something to do with her attacking all of us as well. So be careful who you trust. So do two maniacs I put restraining orders on a few years ago, a drunk in this town, and a loser I didn't want to date who needs serious therapy. spookie continues to lie about me on forums and 50 other places, even though she was told by the police not to say anything else about me again. The police here don't think I have mental problems either, and nothing was ever said to me even suggestingt that. Or about me abusing a toddler online, infringement of copyright laws, etc, etc, etc.

spookie tries to push people to the limit, and get everyone she can against her intended victim/victims, as she has to Amy, me, and the rest of us. She has this insane Joker from Batman aura, this fanged demon energy that tries to make people lose it, she knows it and she turns the heat all the way up hoping this will happen-she is one of the most dangerous type of people on the internet.

So please, as I have said many times before, stay away from her and her type, as there are many others like her as well, who have been hurting people since the internet first came to be. Feel free to enter spookie's IP in the legal and well used IP tracking website (that Amy, who has given me permission to reprint the nasty conversation she had to endure with spookie and provide the link that takes you to google help where this went down and who got spookie's IP totally legally on her statcounter and who had the legal right to publish it on the help forum) and see what comes up.....very interesting when you look at locations and NetNames in the results.....I'll leave it to the reader to figure that one out.....(spoiler: think bad Adoption Record bill..

If you Dear Reader, ever come across spookie and she harasses you or verbally abuses you or someone you know in any way please call your local police department on her. I had a bad feeling about spookie when she first initiated contact with me on myspace. She insulted my profile and then went on to insult my pain due to experiences with the Closed Adoption Industry when she sent me an insensitive message that I chose not to reply to.(And I wasn't feeling well, so I couldn't write her back at that time anyway). Afterwards, instead of just asking me why I hadn't written her back, she choose to begin ripping me apart and cyberbullying me in a myspace group. spookie loves to try to come across as pure as Mother Teresa when in fact she is just truly a very mean person with a much too big mouth. Don't let her hurt you the way she has me and my friend Amy.....

My blog will stay up with a few entry's that people seem to read alot, and the format you see now will have some changes made to it within the next two weeks

I wish all Adoptees and Real Mothers who have been so nice to me peace and closure in this hell we have been thrown into called the The Closed Adoption Industry. It is very sad that we Adoptees are made to feel the love we have for our Real Parents is dirty, and that the love Real Mothers have for the infants manipulated away from them is a sin, as Church Clergy wants the whole world to believe. THEY are the ones who are dirty, and they are the ones who are sinners, for breaking the 11th commandment, and I hope your God is as merciful to you as all of you have been to us...as you continue to break our hearts, break our souls, worship money, cover your deceptive asses and lie like the devil himself. I will be commenting still on my favorite blogs until my new blog is done, but after this, there will be no more new posts on The Improper Adoptee.

gavleston-I will continue what I wanted to say to you in a comment on Gershom's blog rather than continue the first post I wrote to you, as it is sensitive, heartfelt and does not deserve to be mocked by spookie on her blog (as this last post will be, as she is one of the most predictable people I have ever met).

To everyone who supported this blog and me thankyou, take care and please continue to fight the good fight!

Another Adoptee Commits Suicide: Marie Osmond's Adopted Son Michael Blosil

2010-02-28T08:13:00.022-05:00

And my heart is with him. Wherever you are Michael, I wish you peace. The end to all your confusion. The end to all your pain. Pain I understand. I wish for love and light to embrace you. Forever. You deserve no less. Very rarely, when an Adoptee takes his or her life, does it make major headlines, and thanks to the Adoption Industry, the statistics pertaining to Adoptee suicide are downplayed, if not hidden, because many Adoptees have ended their lives due to the pain of Closed Adoption Records and the discrimination of denying us our OBC's (Original Birth Certificates). If you read the article pertaining to this horrifically sad story you will see that Michael felt he did not "fit in" which is a common feeling for Adoptees as they grow up, especially in Closed Adoption, but there are many Adopted children who feel this way when they are put into Open Adoption as well. Many times these devastating feelings and how Adoptees negatively view themselves never goes away, and it is a documented fact, that many Adoptees use drugs and alchohol to deal with low self-esteem, because they feel like they don't belong. I hope Michael was never pressured by the Mormon Church to never look for his Real Parents, which all Adoptees need to do for their own emotional health and in order to feel secure in their identities. Despite the fact, that Troy Dunn, a bishop in the LDS Church seems to understand that Adoptees need to put the pieces of our lives together, and be able to read the first chapter of our life stories, like everyone else, not all of those with authority in this religion may agree. And manipulation like that can sometimes be just to much for those who are Adopted. I am not saying that this fact is what could of caused Michael to give up on his life, but I am strongly suggesting that it should be considered a possibility. I am saying however, with this recent tragedy, more respect HAS to be given to those that are Adopted, and the oppression forced on us by the government, Adoption Agencies, The Department Of Social Work, some Adoptive Parents, The Catholic Church and the NCFA who want to keep our seals filed until we die, must be lifted. I extend my sincere condolences to the Osmond Family, and to the Blosils and my heart truly goes out to Marie Osmond, as I wish her strength during this dark time. I also extend my condolences to those in Michael Blosil's bloodline as well, for they will never have a chance now to know him.

(Note: This post has nothing to do with the post below, and I will publish the second half of it early next week).

The Grass Isn't Always Greener On The Other Side......

2010-02-25T20:37:00.023-05:00

I usually have no patience with the infertile women I meet online. Because they do not vie for Open Adoption Records, and only seem to be absorbed with their own pain, their own sense of oppression that they feel due to barrenness, their own sense of deprivation and lack of control, while ignoring the fact that Closed Adoption, that alot of them choose, causes the same feelings of of anguish for Adoptees. They don't care either, that the baby or toddler that they Adopted from China, Guatemala, Africa or Russia, may have been grabbed away from his or her Real Mother on the street so an Adoption Agency could financially profit from this thievery and they can be a parent. Nor do they care about the risk of death and severe psychological damage due to Attachment Therapy that they inflict on their Adopted children, I mean what the heck, they could always return the child or bury the child and get another one, I mean there are SO many orphans out there....I have actually seen some AM's write that. And then I met galvesten. On another Adoptee's blog. Yes, I know, alot of the Real Mothers and some other Adoptees find her annoying or perhaps even a troll from the Adoption Industry. But to me, there was something about her that was different. She wasn't like rixal, who drives me crazy, so crazy in fact that I told her that we should call our AP's Mr. & Mrs. as a joke last year, just to piss her off. She is so dense however, that she actually took me seriously....a lot of other Barreness's (get it? LMAO, foot stomping good!) in Bloggerland who purposely put our identities in emotional bondage by writing Congress everytime it seems we may get a bill passed, telling them to keep our records sealed and then whine all day online that we are ungrateful little brats make me want to rip my hair out as well. I mean WHAT is their problem? I am not responsible for their conception problems and I have never withheld information about them from them. Nor would I ever do anything so cruel and insipid to anyone. And this is part of the reason I am so angry at them. But anger wasn't what I was feeling when I read comments that gavelston left. At least not anger at this woman. For surprisingly, I found that I could relate to what she had said. Or part of it. There have been people in my life, people who swore they would be protective of me, and people who should of been, because we were both thrown in the same sinking boat, who, to nullify their own immature egos, have gregariously flaunted that every dream I had, that didn't come true for me, has come true for them. Or for other people they know. And one person I know, purposely set out to do, what I wanted to do for a career because I ended up with a physical injury at 19 due to an abusive, unjust and sinister act that four irresponsible people, who were jealous that I was better looking and more talented than they were and who blamed me for things I never did, or was even responsible for, inflicted upon me. Three of them were in the medical profession. I was left, so far away from who I once was, due to the evil done to me, that I couldn't even TRY for my dream anymore. And he knew this. And for years he loved to call me up and let me in on all the exciting people he had met, and wag his status quo in my face, just to rub it in....smiling like the chesire cat on the other end of the phone. People like this, who get off on causing others pain, kick them when they are down and get satisfaction from it, are one of the lowest life forms on planet earth. And while they think they are all that, and have all that you want, and are on top of the world, while they try make you suffer more, they neglect to see the weeds growing in their own garden.......

galveston // February 14, 2010 at 11:51 am"I apologize, Liz. I realize that sounds like a screaming rant, but I just got the news that my (very recently) ex-husband’s brand new wife had her twins earlier this week. It’s left me angry. She sent me a birth announcement from her hospital bed. That’s not your fault. However, it’s a bit unfair to label me as the entitled one. I’ll let it drop and not comment again. I shouldn’t ruin everyone’s conversation".

galveston // February 14, 2010 at 11:42 am
"No, Liz, I don’t suffer from “entitlement.” I suffer from geniune pain that I cannot bear a child and will never have a family of my own. I suffer that my husband of 15 years left me because I couldn’t have children and then married his mistress who gave birth to healthy twins within a year. I contemplated suicide and had to seek psychological help. It’s not “entitlment” because I couldn’t have my favorite toy or a new wardrobe. It’s devastation. Do you share the resentment I’ve seen expressed toward infertile women on other anti-adoptions sites that say we caused our own infertility because we must have left an STD untreated or committed the sin of going to graduate school before trying to start a family? Why is a desire for a child nothing but selfish entitlement? How can you paint all infertile women with the same brush? No doctor could explain why I couldn’t conceive. No, I’m not insane enough to try and have six embryos implanted in me. I had to choose my own health at some point and give up my dream of having my own children or a husband. Hopefully, some day I’ll be in a psychologically healthy enough place to participate in an organization like Big Sisters and make a difference. I can’t expose a child to my current depression. That would be supremely unfair to the child. But I’m not selfish for wanting a family. I’m not selfish for having wanted a child. Now I can’t even adopt because I’m unmarried and not in a financial or psychological position to do so. I never would have dreamed of telling an adopted child she was my second choice. That child woudn’t have made me fertile. She’d have made me a parent. I’d have loved him/her dearly.A sense of entitlment? I hope that’s not how you’d speak to a friend suffering from infertility. I guarantee you the sentiment would not be received well."

I have to say that this woman (?)( and yes, I question her description because she acts more like a spoiled brat adolescent), who treated galvenston so cruelly by dangling her natural newborn babies in her face, is playing a dangerous game of Russian Roulette with karma. And yeah I know. Sorry people like her, along with other sorry people like her probably don't even believe in karma. Or they think they are immune to it, while they judge others harshly, refuse to forgive or understand, and put their own personal victories over having compassion for another human being, so they can pacify the bad human element of selfishness that lurks deep within them. Walking merrily along on their crooked life path, while they mock the dreams of others, or have just outright stolen from them.....and why do they get to do this? people like gavelston may ask. And have asked. Why doesn't God stop them? Why do they get to be so happy when they have been so HORRID. For two reasons. And the first one being, the higher the climb, the harder (and more devastating) the fall.....when you have more than anyone else, or someone else, and being blessed so makes you cold and conceited, arrogant and juvenile, you are also given a false sense of safety. And security. Those who deem themselves untouchable to life's fallacies will make the helplessness they feel in the next realm even more intense and completely unbearable, as the power and control they may have had on earth, to fix what befell them is no longer available to them. At all. In any way. In any shape. In any form....for the fool's who live out of their own ego's and not their hearts, are destined to have all they put out, shoved right back down their throats, without a hand to pull it out with. And then there is the other side of the fence......the second reason. Which is what inspired me to write this post......for galvensten. And maybe even for me.....
To be continued.......

Angel of Mercy Reaps His Own Reward........

2010-02-24T13:59:00.006-05:00

And as usual, all governments are good for sometimes is destroying blood ties...what happened to Franciso's Mother makes me physically ill and completely outraged and I hope they poach Gallo. This story isn't for those with weak stomachs, but the ending is for those with warm hearts.......

Argentine Stolen At Birth, Now 32, Learns Identity
By MICHAEL WARREN
Associated Press
Tue Feb 23, 7:34 pm ET
BUENOS AIRES, Argentina – The search is finally over for Abel Madariaga, whose pregnant wife was kidnapped by Argentine security forces 33 years ago.
After decades of doubt and loneliness, of searching faces in the street in hopes they might be related, Madariaga has found his son.
"I never stopped thinking I would find him," the 59-year-old father said, squeezing his son's arm during a packed news conference Tuesday.
"For the first time, I know who I was. Who I am," the young man said, still marveling at his new identity: Francisco Madariaga Quintela, a name he only learned last week.
The Grandmothers of the Plaza de Mayo rights group believes about 400 children were stolen at birth from women who were kidnapped and killed as part of the 1976-1983 dictatorship's "dirty war" against political dissidents, which killed as many as 30,000 people.
Madariaga and his wife, Silvia Quintela, were members of the Montoneros, a leftist group targeted for elimination by government death squads. He last saw his wife — a 28-year-old surgeon who treated the poor in a Buenos Aires suburb — being pushed into a Ford Falcon by army officers dressed as civilians as she walked to a train on Jan. 17, 1977.
Madariaga managed to flee into exile to avoid the same fate. Ever since, he has made finding the children of those who disappeared his life's cause.
Returning to a democratic Argentina in 1983, he became the grandmothers group's secretary and first male member. He lobbied the government to create a DNA database and dedicate judicial resources to the effort, and developed strategies for persuading young people with doubts about their identities to come forward and get DNA tests.
All the while, his own son's fate remained a mystery.
As it turned out, Quintela gave birth to the son the couple had planned to name Francisco in July 1977 while imprisoned in one of Argentina's largest and most notorious clandestine torture centers, the Campo de Mayo in suburban Buenos Aires. Surviving prisoners later reported that the newborn was taken from her the next day, and she disappeared shortly thereafter.
A military intelligence officer, Victor Alejandro Gallo, brought the baby, his umbilical cord still attached, home to his wife, Ines Susana Colombo. They named him Alejandro Ramiro Gallo and never told him he was adopted. The marriage didn't last — Gallo was a violent man, Francisco Madariaga said — and he never felt like he belonged, looking nothing like his brother and sister.
While the Gallo family fell apart, the younger Madariaga escaped in his own way, twice touring Europe as a professional juggler.
Meanwhile, Gallo was convicted of murdering a couple and their child during a robbery in 1994 and served a 10-year prison term.
Francisco Madariaga's doubts increased, until finally he confronted his adoptive mother. "She broke down and was able to tell me the truth," he recalled, adding that he can't say he blames her. "There was so much violence — physical and mental — and she suffered. She also was a victim."
On Feb. 3, encouraged by his friends, the young man and Colombo approached the grandmothers group to tell their story. Fearful of Gallo, they rushed to take a blood test the next day, and DNA results arrived last week. Father and son finally met on Friday — the same day Gallo was arrested on suspicion of illegal adoption.
Colombo also has been detained and questioned, according to an attorney for the grandmothers group, Alan Iud. Colombo and Gallo are represented by public defenders who didn't respond to calls after hours Tuesday.
Trembling before the cameras, Abel Madariaga recalled his reunion with his son.
"When he came through the door that night, we recognized each other totally, and the hug that brought us together was spectacular," he said.
Over the years, the grandmothers group has succeeded in identifying 100 children of the disappeared. Madariaga has organized many news conferences announcing such victories. This time, his chest heaved as he presented his own son to the world.
"At times I wondered what the hell I was living for. I had to find a way to continue, thinking about everyday things, hoping for this moment of happiness," the elder Madariaga said. "Hugging him that first time, it was as if I filled a hole in my soul."
Francisco Madariaga stopped smiling only at the mention of the name he was given by the Gallos.
"Never again" will I use this name, he said. "To have your identity is the most beautiful thing there is."

All Adoptees Need Is Love? Think Again.....

2010-02-13T19:21:00.026-05:00

Readers should be aware that some of these "effects"' can last a lifetime for an Adoptee raised in Closed Adoption and can hurt many relationships we have, including those with our own natural children. Abusive, controlling, immature, self-absorbed Adoptive Mothers, along with those that expect an Adopted infant to provide ego fulfillment for her, completely exacerbate all trauma's for the innocent child. The same applies to the same type of Real Mothers who reunite decades later with the "abandoned" infant, (with the exception of the latter) now an adult. Despite the fact that I abhore psychology, and I disagree with some of things that she says, because she is wrong, the following list below from Nancy Verrier's website caught my attention and struck a nerve: what we Adoptees go through, as babies, toddlers, children and teens is just another reason why we should be spared even more trauma as adults, being denied our OBC's. Enough is enough......ya think? Especially considering the fact that we never did anything to deserve all this agony in the first place............

An adoptive family is different from a biological family.
An infant knows its own mother at birth: smell, voice, heartbeat, energy, skin, etc. Senses the adoptive mother as the wrong mother.
The child comes into the family traumatized by the separation from the mother.
No matter what we call it (relinquishment, surrender), the child feels abandoned.
The natural order of things is interrupted: may affect child's understanding of cause and effect.
Infant cannot make sense or integrate what has happened to him: world unsafe ... chaos, confusion.
The child is grieving. Mother needs to notice signs: seems sad, depressed, daydreams (dissociation).
Fears another abandonment: anxious, hypervigilant. clingy.
Somatic responses to anxiety may include: irritability, gastrointestinal problems, projectile vomiting, asthma, rashes, sleep disturbance, etc. Often an elevation in pulse rate, blood pressure.
Affect: rage, sadness, fear, numbness, dissociation, constriction, depersonalization.
Adoptive mother cannot mirror the child as birthmother could have: no genetic markers.
Bonding with adoptive mother will be difficult: fear of another abandonment. Anxious attachment (clinging) is not same as bonding. Bonding is enhanced by a mother's understanding, acknowledging, and validating her child's feelings (rather than discounting, defending against, or giving assurances).
Lack of genetic markers makes the child feel as if she doesn't fit, doesn't belong. Child has to figure out how to be in the family. Hypervigilant. Tries to adapt.
As child begins to adapt, he forms a false self. Begins to lose authentic self. Becomes a "chameleon."
Child copes with pain of loss in one of two ways: compliance, acquiescence, and withdrawal, or aggression, provocation, and acting out. If two adoptees in family, there is usually one of each. Behavioral methods of coping have nothing to do with the child's basic personality. May trade off.
Behavior may be difficult, but it is not abnormal. Normal way of responding to an abnormal event: separation from biological mother.
Family dynamics will be affected. (Families with biological children need to consider this before deciding to adopt).
Children may have difficulties around birthdays (separation day): fussy, sad, angry, ill. Celebrate early.
Symptoms will fit criteria for PTSD, but more complex(see J Herman, B. van der Kolk).
Because of trauma many adoptees have difficulty in school due to problems with attention, distractibility, and stimulus discrimination.
When trauma occurs early, child, in trying to make sense of it, creates a set of beliefs, which seem to become permanently imprinted into psyche ( i.e., blaming self for abandonment: "I was a bad baby.") This often results in distorted reality and low self-esteem, self-worth, and self-realization.
Children are not a "blank slate" at birth. Most of personality traits are genetic (but personality must be distinguished from behavioral coping style.) Adoptive parents cannot expect the child to be like them.
The core issues for adoptees: abandonment, loss, trust, rejection, intimacy, guilt and shame, mastery and control, and identity.
Obtain medical records. If it's important for me, then it must be important for my child.
More research needed:. Many neurologists and neurobiologists such as Carla Shatz of U.C. Berkeley, Bruce Perry of Baylor, Daniel Siegel of UCLA, and William Greenough of U. of Illinois are studying the effect of early environmental influence upon the brain's wiring. We have to ask what this means for children whose earliest experience includes separation and loss. Also of interest is the effect of trauma upon the chemical makeup of the body. Scientists such as Judith Herman, Bessel van der Kolk, and James Prescott note elevated levels of adrenaline and cortisol and a drop in serotonin in trauma victims.

Actress Mia Farrow Criticizes Haiti Adoption

2010-02-05T07:40:00.016-05:00

Now if only she would START bringing into light THE corrupt practice of The Adoption Industry in the United States, which IS Closed Adoption and the denial of Original Birth Certificates to we Adoptees along with the deception and back stabbing which IS Open Adoption......if any Adoptive Mother knows how bringing a child to America from another country and forcing parts of bad American culture on them can hurt them psychologically it would be Mia Farrow due to the despicable behaviour of her beyond a loser ex-husband Woody Allen who horrifically took advantage of her Adopted daughter Soon-Yi. Babies are coerced and manipulated away from their Real Mothers everyday in this country due to the promise of a better life, which considering all the emotional harm the Adoption System causes is nothing but a fairy tale for countless Adoptees. Especially for those Adopted by abusive and toxic people....which does include some celebrities........like Adoptive Mother Of The Year (COUGH, COUGH, RUNNING FOR MY BASTARD BARF BUCKET NOW) Joan Crawford, (may she be rotting in hell)........
Associated Press
GENEVA –
"UNICEF goodwill ambassador Mia Farrow has criticized as "deplorable" attempts to take children out of Haiti illegally after last month's devastating earthquake.
The U.S. actress says groups or individuals who want to help Haiti's children should rather support orphanages or their families inside the country.
Farrow, who herself has adopted 11 children, says offering parents a better life for their children elsewhere is "completely unacceptable and immoral."
Adoption practices in Haiti are in the spotlight since a group of American missionaries was caught trying to smuggle Haitian children out of the country in the wake of the Jan. 12 quake.
Farrow was taking part by telephone Thursday in a news briefing for the U.N. children's fund's annual appeal".

In case you have forgotten about the scandal surrounding Mia Farrow and Woody Allen let me refresh your memory............

"In 1970, Farrow married the musician André Previn. Farrow and Previn had three biological children (twins Matthew and Sascha, born in 1970, and Fletcher, born in 1974). They adopted Vietnamese infants Lark Song and Summer Song ("Daisy") in 1973 and 1976, respectively, followed by the adoption of eight-year-old Soon-Yi from Korea around 1978. André and Mia divorced in 1979, but remained on good terms. Lark died on Christmas Day of 2008.
In 1980, Farrow began seeing film director Woody Allen. Together they adopted Moses "Misha" Farrow (born 1978, adopted 1980) and Dylan "Eliza" Farrow (born c. 1985, now called Malone). In 1987 Mia gave birth to Satchel O'Sullivan Farrow, now known as Ronan Seamus Farrow. During their relationship, Farrow starred in many of Allen's films, and several of their children also made appearances.
Farrow and Allen parted after Farrow discovered a sexual relationship between Allen and her adopted daughter Soon-Yi. During the subsequent custody battle involving Farrow's and Allen's three children, Farrow filed charges that Allen had abused their daughter Dylan, then seven years old. Allen has adamantly denied the charges. A doctor concluded that Dylan "either invented the story under the stress of living in a volatile and unhealthy home or that it was planted in her mind by her mother" because Dylan presented the story inconsistently. The charges were dropped to avoid subjecting the child to a court trial, although a judge called Allen's conduct "grossly inappropriate". Farrow ultimately won custody of the children. During the public fracas, Frank Sinatra allegedly contacted Farrow with an offer to have Allen's legs broken, a courtesy Farrow wrote of in her 1997 autobiography What Falls Away.

Farrow has been estranged from Soon-Yi since Soon-Yi's 1997 marriage to Allen. Farrow called the loss a "tragedy" in The Observer and remarked that "she's not coming back." Farrow said of Soon-Yi: "She was on the streets in Korea when she was captured and brought to the state orphanage. And in a way I can see from her perspective — a very limited perspective — that she's improved her situation. For a little orphan kid from Korea ... Perhaps she's not to be blamed." In a widely circulated quote, Soon-Yi dismissed Farrow as "no Mother Teresa".
Farrow later adopted six more children, including Gabriel Wilk Farrow, adopted in 1995 and named after Elliott Wilk, the judge who oversaw Farrow's 1993 legal battle with Allen. Her adopted daughter Tam Farrow died in 2000 at the age of 21, following a long illness. In late 2008, her daughter Lark Previn died".

List of Mia Farrows Children:

With André Previn
Matthew Phineas Previn (born February 26, 1970; twin of Sascha)
Sascha Villiers Previn (born February 26, 1970; twin of Matthew)
Fletcher Farrow Previn (born March 14, 1974)

Adopted with Previn
Soon-Yi Previn, (born in South Korea, October 8, 1970; adopted c. 1978)
Lark Song Previn, (born in Vietnam, February 15, 1973, died in New York, December 25, 2008; adopted 1973)
Summer Song Previn (also known as Daisy), (born in Vietnam, October 6, 1974, adopted 1975)

With Woody Allen
Ronan Seamus Farrow (born December 19, 1987), (birth name Satchel O'Sullivan Farrow)

Adopted with Allen
Moses Amadeus Farrow (also known as Misha Farrow) (born January 27, 1978, adopted 1980)
Dylan O'Sullivan Farrow (also known as Eliza Farrow, current name is Malone, born July 11, 1985)

Later adopted solely by Farrow
Tam Farrow (1979 – March 2000)
Isaiah Justus Farrow (born 1992)
Kaeli-Shea Farrow (now known as Quincy, adopted 1994)
Frankie-Minh (born 1991, adopted 1995) (named after Frank Sinatra)
Thaddeus V. Farrow (born c. 1988, adopted 1994)
Gabriel Wilk Farrow

Characters Unite Against Adoptees.........Part IV, The Last Straw...

2010-01-31T11:14:00.040-05:00

So I am innocently sitting on the couch watching a rerun of a "Monk" Episode I happened to like, eating my Pirate Booty Aged White Cheddar Rice Puffs this past summer when I saw it. The bowl sitting on my lap fell onto the floor soon after...it didn't matter. I was to furious to continue eating anyway...... "I'm an Adoptive Father" (said by a gay character) would echo in my ears and haunt me for the rest of the night, while my soul screamed WELL WHAT ABOUT US?!!!!!!! once again for the millionth time while I tried to fathom, why the HELL a Tv Character had more rights then I did....

Then my anger, after reading the following quote, turned into sardonic laughter........I suppose that is because I am exacerbated. Infuriated. Exhausted and Humiliated. Closed Adoption will do that to ya...

"USA Network has launched CHARACTERS UNITE, a new multimedia platform committed to combating intolerance and promoting acceptance. To make a pledge against intolerance and prejudice go to charactersunite.com"

Yeah........for everyone but bastards.......but why should we be included, when some who fight for equality for themselves benefit further by using us as commodities.......

I agree with this African-American man. The view from the back of the bus DOES suck. So does not having the legal right to be given your own Original Birth Certificate.
Because you weren't born the right way. Which is the emotional equivalent of being treated like dirt because you don't look the right way. Which is equally as ridiculous......
I was in sixth grade when I first heard about it.
"Black Like Me" was making a huge impact not only on alot of white Americans, but on me too. I remember our teacher explaining the reason why this book was written, as he gave us excerpts to read. And why John Howard Griffin was such a phenomenal man. And all the sympathy I had for African-Americans. I could relate. I knew exactly what it felt like to be treated like you weren't good enough. I remember too, a sense of excitement breaking through the numbness that always encased me, which was also a form of shock at the audacity of the situation forced on me and the nerve of being told I could not know my Mother's own name, because the ostracization of the African American people was finally being seen in the right light. That it was wrong.....something I could never discuss with so many adult bigots around me. Something that no one ever discussed enough. The dots would connect in my heart and in an indirect but similar way, I felt that perhaps the pain I felt about Closed Adoption Records and the shame society wanted me to feel because I was born out of wedlock was being recognized as well. For being raised in Closed Adoption is the loneliest feeling in the world....yet forty years later, the same loneliness still constantly stings my 4th chakra........

WHY CAN'T USA CREATE AN ADOPTED CHARACTER? WHY CAN'T AN ACTOR OR ACTRESS REPRESENT US? WHY CAN'T A TV SHOW BE CREATED ABOUT THE OPPRESSION WE FACE? WHY CAN'T SOMEONE SAY "I'M A BASTARD" AND PLEDGE TO STOP INTOLERANCE TOWARDS US?.....

And when will I see "Adopted Like Me" in my Tv listings....
In my wildest dreams I imagine it. A non-Adopted person pretending they are Adopted, trying to renew their drivers' licence and being treated like a terrorist because they have only an Amended Birth Certificate to present...
or calling an Adoption Agency to request a search for their Real Mother and being told they can only meet her or have her name IF she gives her permission for them to see her.........
or sending an Adoption Agency money for unidentifying information, that they are legally entittled to, only to never get it and be refused a refund.......
or to go to Vital Statistics and have a total stranger tell them it is illegal for them to have their own OBC and see their Real Parents names while this person who has nothing to do with them at all and whose bloodline is none of their business, can look at it and know who they are anytime the urge strikes......
or to have an Adoption Agency employee literally laugh at their request to meet their Real Father, followed by a remark that was made to make them feel like they are from Mars...
or in a flashback to their childhood when they were drawing a family tree in grade school and asking the teacher if she will find out who their Real Mother is, so they can do the assignment right and being told, you aren't legally allowed to know who gave birth to you dear.....
And portraying WHAT this feels like. All the hurt. The feelings of inferiority. The shame. The anger at how UNBELIEVABLY UNINTELLIGENT the way we are treated is. And the intense frustration that sours our lives....

Then I read something else, that makes what I am saying even more important. On
another blog, a few days ago.......

Anonymous said...
"When will it be our turn, you ask?
Well, we are the INVISIBLE MINORITY. Our discrimination isn't even acknowledged AS DISCRIMINATION.
When people use "bastard" as a cuss word, they really cannot look around them and know who they are bashing. Some people using this term don't even realize what they are saying. They are slamming a "fiction character", a person without a known father. That's the problem. THE MAJORITY OF OUR SOCIETY STILL BELIEVES THAT THE FATHERLESS ARE LESSER THAN THEM!!!!
I also believe that President Obama has NO IDEA WHAT ADOPTEE RIGHTS IS."
January 30, 2010 10:28 AM
And I have said that many times myself. That calling evildoers a "bastard" is condescending to all of us. A form of prejudice. Discrimination. Categorizing. Hate speech...I wrote two blogs two years ago about this very subject.
I still don't understand the concept of the word bastard however. We DO have Fathers, we wouldn't have been conceived if we didn't. So what moron thought up that theory...probably someone as brain cell strapped as the blockhead who drafted the laws that African-Americans could not go to a white Christian Church, or drink out of the same water fountain or sit in the front of the bus....
The very real truth, "that our discrimination isn't even acknowledged as discrimination" is one reason WHY we must start to push harder. Why we need to call The White House comment line constantly and politely let President Obama know that if this country is to truly execute diversity, WE MUST BE INCLUDED. More E-mails need to be sent to Reps, Senators and Governors. And our stories need to be heard, in person, face to face with those who make our laws. I can not emphasize that enough. Let them see our tears. See the sadness in our eyes. Let them UNDERSTAND by hearing the heartbreak in our voices how the United States is treating us like second class citizens....and that ADOPTIVE PARENTS IN THE NCFA WHO VIE FOR CLOSED ADOPTION RECORDS, HAVE NO RIGHT TO HAVE MORE RIGHTS THAN US, BECAUSE WE ARE HUMAN BEINGS JUST LIKE THEM AND WE NEVER HAVE BEEN, NOR EVER WILL BE LESS THAN THEM......
When I first came into the Adoption community online, a Real Mother wrote to me that "you guys are going to have to shout it from the rooftops". Damn good advice. But until I buy a megaphone and get over my fear of heights, I am not climbing on top of my house anytime soon....of course I know she didn't mean that literally, but we have to be louder, and spend as much time letting Congress and the media know how we feel as we do blogging. Yet I won't undermine what we have done on line. For we have broken the ice. And educated many people. And with the trail of our words we have created a base from which changes can come about and our plights heard. I am glad for the African-American citizens in this country that Martin Luther King's so just and so beautiful words have finally come true. For the wonderful African-American people are free at last......and not a moment too soon......I like to think too, that John Howard Griffin had a little to do with that..at the very least he paved the way for empathy, WHICH IS WHAT WE ADOPTEES DESPERATELY NEED RIGHT NOW, and he will always be a hero to me, along with Rosa Parks, whose spirit is alot like mine. But until tv networks, like USA begin to treat us like we matter as much as the rest of America, there is no rest for the weary, nor will our work be done. After all, NO form of the media has any right, in this age of political correctness to silence our voices and position us to be less important than anyone else....neither does any State Government...and until Adult Adoptees are finally allowed to eat at the grownup table, and The Closed Adoption System is abolished like it should be, and Open Adoption protects Real Mothers and their infants, I will never, EVER, stop asking those responsible for my pain and for the shunning of it,
WHAT ABOUT US?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...........................
and take delicious pleasure in how that question astounds them..........

Zara Phillips Provides The Best Commercial Break

2010-01-28T14:17:00.011-05:00

I could put on my blog, until the final part of my series Adoptees And The Media is posted next week, as her wonderful film illustrates the RIGHT way to discuss Adoptees in the media......(and since now too I am her #1 fan..:) You rock Zara....

Modern Family, Ancient Oppression......Part III

2010-01-27T18:51:00.029-05:00

Alot of people are under the impression that I hate all Christians. This is not true. There are many Christians I know, some from as far back as grade school who I will always love, care about and have fond memories of. There are some that still give me nightmares too....yet, many Christians can be very nice people, and have pulled me out of deep water when I was about to drown. Alot of people are under the impression that I also hate all Adoptive Parents. That also isn't true. I love my Adoptive Father and I always will. I also just happen to like him as a person as well. He is a very nice man, and he tries to be friendly, polite and giving. And I do have respect for the AP's who realize we need to know and have a good relationship with our Real Parents, because this is crucial to our well being and our spiritual, emotional and mental health. Our strength, motivation and endurance on a planet, where we are all forced to face the fact that life can sometimes be nothing less than a maddening and insufferable bitch..... AP'S that are selfless and sacrifice their own needs to alleviate our pain by not interfering, manipulating, sabotaging, and trying to make us feel guilty for the primal and God given yearning to love and be loved by those who made us and who we are physically a part of are giving us the best gift they ever could. A gift all Adoptees are entitled too....
I do however, hate Catholic/Christian Pro-Closed Record Clergy and the continual lies they curse us with, their refusal to admit that they altered facts about many Adoptees families and births along with their infuriating indifference about ever making this oh so wrong right. They add fuel to my fire too with the bigoted myths they still teach about we bastards being evil in Catechism, the outlandish mindset Mormons expect Adoptees to execute on their Natural Parents by denying their very existence and the refusal all of them inflict on us by never forgiving us for what they wrongly say we are and for what our Real Mothers have done. I extend my hatred on all AP's who do the same......One thing Christian AP's like this love to do, online and off is push the misguided theory that God not only condones but created Adoption(which of course in my mind and theirs means the Closed Adoption system and all the abuse that goes with it). They use compulsively the story of Moses to demonstrate that God is in favour of every corrupt act the Adoption Industry, The Church and themselves commit. We Adoptees, Real Mothers and the general public read post after post constantly about how Moses's Mother put him in a basket and sent him down the Nile river, joyfully ignoring the fact in their blather that Jochebed did this to save his life, not because she didn't want to be a parent. Or because she was poor. Or because she was single. She had tried to hide him from The Pharaoh of Oppression for three months but could do so no longer and that is why she set her son a sail with her sister watching Moses the whole time. And as their plan panned out, Jochebed would be the one to nurse her son and watch over him as he grew, while Thermuthis the daughter of the Pharaoh who found him, raised him into adulthood. Pretty smart.... Three weeks ago I watched an interesting program on the History Channel that asked could events that were said to have happened in the Old Testament be proven by science that they actually occured and while watching I was reminded of something that these AP's and The Church constantly overlook. Although Moses was raised by the Egyptians, he knew he wasn't one of them. Granted, they were kind to him, but they were not kind to those who shared his blood. And it would be witnessing the abuse of one of his people, that would cause Moses to commit a murder that would end up motivating God to create a whole new set of laws for the Jewish people and eventually for the Christians as well. Moses was never punished by God for killing the Egyptian slaveowner who he saw viciously whipping the Jewish slave that caused such anger to rise in him that in order to make him stop, he took his life. And many people come to the conclusion that the reason God sought no vengeance on Moses, was because God wanted the Jews to be freed from the bondage that the Pharaoh of Oppression had inflicted upon them. And I agree with this. But I see another take on this as well. As to why Moses was spared by God because God could of chosen anyone to lead the Jewish slaves to freedom, it wasn't like Moses was the only one on earth to aid Him in doing this. In the New Testament, when Christ's family is discussed, He is traced back all the way to Adam and Eve.
Every single man who came before Him that he is related to by his Mother's blood is mentioned, going back to the beginning of time. So therefore it is obvious that one's ancestors are deemed very important in the Christian religion as they are in the Jewish religion. This fact can be seen quite clearly in the Old Testament as a man or woman of the Jewish faith is almost always mentioned as the son or daughter of, followed by their Father's name. Moses is written to be Moses, the son of Amram. And it is because of this importance of bloodline, and the passion that all of us share concerning our nationalities, that God did not punish Moses and let him live to be 120 and deemed a hero. God UNDERSTOOD him. He understood the love people feel for their own people and those they are related too. How they are a part of them, and form their identity as to who they are in this world from them. And after all God created man to BE this way........
So for this reason, I can not, I will not ever believe that the same God approves of ripping babies away from their Mothers simply because they are not well off, or taking babies away from their Christian Mothers, as Jesus demands through the 11th commandment to forgive all who repent, or any alteration of the time or day He choose
to bring anyone into the world. Nor do I think He will take lightly the guilt and shame forced on we Adoptees when we want to know who is in our bloodlines or the immature self-centered on the part of social workers, The Adoption Industry, The Church and some AP's sinister lie that only a mentally ill/dysfunctional/ungrateful/neurotic Adoptee needs this information and will be harmed without it.
I find it quite predictable too that Pro Closed Record AP's steamroll over the fact that God chose for Moses, in the end to spend the rest of his life with those of his own heritage, and not his "Adoptive" Egyptian family......(and granted, if the Egyptions weren't abusing Moses's people, then maybe he would of still been involved with the people who raised him, while still being an active part of his nationality). God sends His message that people should not be cut off from their bloodlines or have them hidden from them, not only through the story of King Solomon, but also through a major event that happened to Moses in his adult life.
So it is quite hypocritical for Christian AP's, imo, to use the story of this great man Moses for their own agenda while never mentioning or seeing the oppression that Moses experienced through "Adoption" himself.
Oppression comes in many forms, and this is why I suppose the new tv series "Modern Family" upsets me due to the storyline of a homosexual couple that Adopted a cute little baby girl from Vietnam, whose character's name is Lily. For I find this hypocritical too...I have a hard time I guess, supporting gay marriage which leads to gay couples Adopting because we Adoptees are now faced with yet another group of people who are using us to further themselves. And as they do this, they are completely engulfed in tunnel vision and refuse to see how both The Adoption Industry takes away our rights as human beings. On the website, Queer Planet, concerning one of the entries I posted last year, entitled "Rotten Tomatoes" someone left a comment which proves this very point.

"Prominent studies are finding there is no harm to children who are raised by gay and lesbian parents , she said. Children do better with two parents, but they don’t necessarily have to be a mom and a dad, she said. ..
Here is the original post:
Rotten Tomatoes
September 27th, 2008 Tags: adoptees, adoption, baby, bastard-nation, child, florida, improper, improper-adoptee, include-data, include-name, lesbian, loop-values, rotten-tomatoes, special-links, state Category: lesbian"

And who is doing these "studies" anyway? Gay psychologists? Gay wannabe Parents need to understand for the best interest of children, that heterosexual children are going to feel more confused living with people who are not straight like they are as they have been put into a scientifically unnatural situation like having two Mothers for Parents or two Fathers (for it is a scientific fact that it takes a sperm and an egg to make a baby, not a sperm and a sperm) because Closed and Open Adoption is an unnatural enough situation to begin with(due to being told we can not know our own Parents names and feeling rejection from our Real Mothers) and they do not need nor deserve to have to deal with the pressure of two scenarios that are foreign to them. With all the blogs on the internet, that complain about how down trodden the Adoption system is to Adoptees, I can not believe not one gay PAP, whether they be a homosexual or lesbian have not come across our words or felt our pain. And it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that when they buy into the very system that oppresses us that was designed by the very people they claim are oppressing them they are merely then the pot calling the kettle black. I also worry about straight Adoptees from other countries who get a triple whammy being Adopted by gay couples, as it is difficult for them to be in a land so far away from their own people. There are many blogs written by Vietnamese, Korean and Chinese Adoptees, some that are linked on my blog that discuss the true trauma of feeling different and not feeling like they fit in because of their ethnicity. It does not help Adoptees either for gay couples to buy into the many corrupt practices that the Adoption Industry engages in, one being literally stealing children from their Mothers on the streets in Asia and then advertising them as orphans that are in need of a home, so they can feed the insatiable, greedy monster called their bank account. "Modern Family" which was created in part to be a gay rights vehicle commits all these emotional crimes against we Adoptees and it angers me that our rights, once again are virtually ignored while everyone hears gay activists through tv shows like this loud and clear, whilst we are flaunted in their opposers faces like a weapon that shoots out we are the same as you ammunition. And keeps us cemented in the plight of never, ever being treated the same as everyone else in this country. Gay people are not denied their Original Birth Certificates because they are gay. NO ONE is denied their OBC's in the United States but us, and when gay couples, like heterosexual couples, Adopt, they justkeep us another step away from obtaining them. They are also helping to promote the idea that Americans should Adopt internationally, which more often than not turns into a disaster due to the gross dishonesty in this country which is why Guatemala now refuses to Adopt out their children to residents of the United States, and other countries like China and Russia are more interested in domestic Adoptions for their children now. "Modern Family" is not the only series either that keeps the bindings tight around Adoptees psyches, for when it comes to lambasting us in the media, the pickins are never slim..........
To be continued.....

Slaughtering Real Mothers and Adoptees On Live Tv....Part II

2010-01-25T10:47:00.055-05:00

Not for Adoptees it isn't...new century, different techniques, SAME ABUSE. The very first time I saw
an episode of WEtv's sinister reality show "Adoption Diaries", I was so enraged and felt so emotionally injured I called AmyAdoptee. I had to tell her about this new circus side show staring helpless infants being exploited and their rights to privacy denied. But that is Adoption Industry. On both sides of the coin. They take our lives, that belong to no one but us and all the intimate details about our births and our families that are ours alone, and then build a tall brick wall called Birth Mother Privacy and keep all these facts private from US, barricaded behind it. A wall almost every one of our Real Mothers never wanted built...and as I have said before, the statistics from Alma and Soundex are proof of that. In a radio interview Dr. Jennifer Bliss (social worker & doctor of psychology, ROTFLMAO) and the co-founder of The Independent Adoption Center that created "Adoption Diaries" and who should be nominated for next year's demon award says quite bluntly that Open Adoption causes LESS psychological problems than Closed Adoption (which we all know isn't true, as the child still feels rejection from his or her Mother). In this statement, "Dr." Bliss, whose very name is a mockery to all Adoptees, and a wake up call to the general public (ignorance is bliss...get it?) unwittingly outright admits that Closed Adoption is NOT healthy for children and is NOT in the best interest of the child. Yet in an ironic paradox, Bliss completely overlooks the fact that her Adoption Agencies tv show is not healthy for children either. I swear to God-I swear to God, that if I was one of those poor babies on this program, when I grew up I would sue the butts off of every single ghoul involved in this diabolical series. How dare they! How DARE they broadcast to the entire world, on live tv the act of outright rejection from any child's Mother. Because in all reality that is what it feels like to Adoptees..and Adoption will always be about US more than anyone else..... The entire concept of privacy is perverted for us anyway by the Adoption Industry, social workers and Church Clergy and now Adoptees are whipped with this travesty by the media with this reality from hell tv show that for most unwed Mothers is totally unrealistic, as the majority of single pregnant females, including 18 year olds would never relinquish their child. No person should have to endure what these infants will they see as tweens or teenagers if they ever happen upon the episode with their Real Mother's faces plastered all over their and their friends tv's or monitors, indifferently handing them over to people who have nothing to do with who they are and paying for them to boot. I do not care how some fancy smanchy tittled buffoon like Jennifer Bliss describes the act of Open Adoption or addresses it in her letters from the Independent Adoption Centers (especially when this wench isn't even Adopted). She has NO business speaking for any of us:

"The cases highlighted in this series are accurate portrayals of the work we do everyday at the Independent Adoption Center. Each of them will touch your heart, deconstruct the myths and fears that surround open adoption, and reveal its beauty".

BEAUTY?!!
Why because some self pitying barren woman gets her "dream" baby (and what Natural Mother gets a "dream baby" anyway? Oh yeah, the ones who pray to the Holy Stork in the sky, who then designs one to her exact specifications and temperment.....)
and is such a selfish, immature person that she can't say to the baby's birthmother , you should be selfless, buck up, grow up and take responsibility for the life you made. This is YOUR child and it is your God given job to take of him. So work your ass off the way you are supposed TO and be honorable. I would feel terrible if my Mother had given me away.....

BEAUTY?!!
When one of the "birthmothers" on this show named Sara, who has a two year old she on film calls a pain and is negative about him and states that the child she is carrying will get in the way of her ambitions to go to school and become a police officer, so she just gets rid of her through Open Adoption. Gee, how heartwarming that she cares more about serving and protecting the public rather than her own child. And what a warm and fuzzy feeling we get watching social workers condone her trashing her toddler because of the commission they will get for the selling of the daughter she carries inside of her.

Dr Ignorance is Bliss goes on to say:

"Instead, children who are adopted will draw their family trees with an added branch, and proudly tell you how their birthmother “just knew” when she found the people meant to be their parents. Children will see in their birthparents’ eyes that this decision was made out of love, and they will grow up fully understanding the unbelievable gift of adoption".

Yes, it is such a GIFT to have the entire world watch your Mother not make one iota of an effort to take care of you.
AND HEAR THIS. ALL YOU NEW GENERATION OF AP'S AND "BIRTHMOTHERS". NO ONE WANTS TO BE GIVEN TO SOME ONE ELSE AS A GIFT BY THEIR REAL MOTHER. THAT IS LIKE YOUR HUSBAND GIVING YOU AS A GIFT TO ANOTHER MAN WHO CAN'T GET HIS OWN WIFE. HOW WOULD ALL YOU REAL MOTHERS AND ADOPTIVE MOTHERS FEEL ABOUT THAT HUH? BEING VIEWED AS A GIFT MAKES ADOPTEES FEEL USED AND TAKES AWAY ALL THE RESPECT THAT ADOPTEES FEELINGS ON THE MATTER SHOULD GET. ADOPTEES ARE MADE TO FEEL THAT WE ARE BENEATH EVERYONE. ALL CHILDREN WANT TO FEEL THEIR REAL MOTHERS SACRIFICED WHAT THEY WANTED TO DO TO TAKE CARE OF THEM, WHICH IS WHAT EVERY REAL MOTHER IS SUPPOSED TO DO, AND ALL CHILDREN WANT TO FEEL ACCEPTED BY THEIR MOTHERS AT BIRTH, AND DURING THEIR CHILDHOODS. ADOPTEES NEED TO FEEL THAT IMPORTANT, AND ADOPTION MAKES ADOPTEES FEEL LESS DUE TO CLOSED RECORDS AS WELL. OPEN ADOPTION DOES NOT ALLEVIATE FEELINGS OF REJECTION. NOR DOES IT ALLEVIATE A CHILD PLACED IN OPEN ADOPTION FEELING THAT HIS OR HER MOTHER DIDN'T CARE ENOUGH TO EVEN TRY TO MAKE IT WORK. ESPECIALLY SINCE NOT ONE OF THESE BIRTHMOTHERS ON THIS TV SHOW HAS SHOWN ANY REMORSE WHATSOEVER FOR GIVING AWAY THEIR CHILD.

And finally...

"Without any previous experience in open adoption, I was a bit skeptical of its practicality, so I understand if you are as well. However, I ask you to keep an open mind as you watch each episode. Through journeys of uncertainty and heartache, you will witness the creation of lifelong connections built on trust, gratitude and love".

THESE ADOPTEES SHOULD FEEL GRATEFUL? For being exploited on reality tv by their Real Mothers, and soon to be Adoptive Parents, social workers, and the Adoption Industry.
Well golly......Thank you Jesus!

The "birthmother" that I mentioned above named Sara has set an absolutely terrible example for single pregnant females everywhere. Hell, the entire Adoption Industry has and I am sure they are very proud of her. Only dysfunctional, abnormal and grossly selfish women willingly give away their own newborn baby, but due to a massive amount of money to be made by the Industry, they are honored instead of criticized for it, the way they should be. To to rub more salt into our wounds, Sara's own Mother was sitting right next to her in her hospital room telling everyone that she would help Sara with her little girl, which got about 3 seconds of exposure. I felt sorry for this woman because I don't think she wanted to lose her Grandaughter, but alas, making money for The Independent Adoption Center is supposed to be considered more important than then the fact that this future Adoptee was a welcome treasure to other members of her bloodline.......

One has to ponder if some of these birthmothers and PAP's aren't just paid actors and actresses........

The issue of coercion is prominent with "Adoption Diaries" as well. After the episode I painfully endured featuring Sara, and the bonehead PAP's who think their pain is more important than the pain we Adoptees suffer, Jolie and Glenn, there was another episode right after it and unlike Sara, this birthmother, did not want to sign away her child or her legal rights. Enter the battleax social worker who went out into the hospital waiting room to tell the salivating PAP's that it took 5 trys to get her to sign the papers. Strangely NONE of this was EVER taped.......what we do see later however is this poor girl hysterically crying in the hospital parking garage and it doesn't take a psychic to wonder if she was seriously manipulated and pushed into giving her child away.......

The Independent Adoption Center has a hell of alot of nerve in my opinion to be in the business of destroying the self esteem of children put up for Adoption and the straight out buying and selling of children and then flaunting it in the faces of American citizens who do not know about the dark truths of Adoption.
They also have alot of nerve, when there are so many "birthmothers" who have been lied to about the realities of Open Adoption, one being that they have NO control over whether the Adoptive Parents will end all contact between her and her child, which they have the legal right to do, while the "birthmother" has no legal rights to stop this from happening, and totally ignoring this heartbreaking fact while they push to put vulnerable young women into this very position.
Bloggers like Cheerio (Surviving Adoption Loss) and Cassi (Adoption Truth) know all about the dirty little tricks the Adoption Industry plays on scared new Mothers, and how they instead of supporting them and helping them to keep this new member of their family with them, encourage them to relenquish, by destroying all their self confidence, and then laugh all the way to the bank....
I am really tired too, of infertile women getting all the sympathy while we Adoptees are virtually ignored because we are in part looked at as the "bad" ones because we are born out of wedlock and the good barren woman is married and never did anything wrong. I wonder how many wed women who can't conceive had sex before marriage or had abortions in college. Judging a book by it's cover is one of the stupidest things people can do.....
SO HEAR THIS HOLLYWOOD!!
Just once I would like to see a reality show that talks about the reality of how much pain Adoptees are really in due to rejection by natural Mothers. Just once I would like to see a reality show about how disturbing it is for us to be denied our OBC's and always being treated like second class citizens like we are, discriminated against every day instead of show after show that glorifies the using of innocent babies, who are CONSTANTLY silenced as children and adults.
And as everyone in this entire country as of late, screams for their civil rights, we Adoptees are also being overshadowed by another group of people in order to get their rights. And they see no qualms about using the media to hurt us either........
To be continued.........

The Media: Exploiting Adoptees and Birth Mothers Should Never Be Unexpected....Part I of IV

2010-01-19T07:14:00.028-05:00

On Lorraine Dusky's blog, First Mother's Forum, I made a comment two days ago about how I felt a reporter employed by 20/20 was absolutely outrageous when he was asked by an injured Haitian child if he would help her. She reached out her weak hand to him and looked into his eyes as he said straight to her face, No, I can't, there is nothing I can do. As I stated to Lorraine, I wasn't sure at first who this atrocity of a human being was, but after poking around ABC's website and seeing the clip again that I saw last Friday night, I was even more appalled then when I saw it the first time. I thought the man in the tan shirt was just one of this show's anchors, and I presumed he was Chris Como, but I could of sworn he was called Richard. And I was right. I don't watch primetime tv all that much, which includes 20/20, so I am not too familiar with their reporters. I wasn't even aware they had a Medical Editor and now I will never forget....On Triona's blog, 73 Adoptee, which is one of my favorite blogs of all time, I also mentioned that I thought it was insane that after four days no supplies or relief could come to the poor suffering people of Haiti but a plane full of video equipment and rating grubbing reporters from 20/20 sure as hell could. What, they couldn't bring any doctors, or medical supplies or penicillin with them? Food, water or donations of clean clothing? Nope. The only thing there was room for on that plane, was the oversized ego of Dr. Richard Besser. The man in the tan shirt....

One needs not to be a rocket scientist to figure out that I do not like The Medical Industry. One just needs to read my entries and click on links I have provided on this blog to get the message. And with their irrational holier than thou attitude comes the destruction of the Hippocratic Oath that they all must swear to, as their arrogance and conceit inflicts emotional disturbance to all around them. And it goes without saying that the majority of them seem to only care about no harm coming to themselves...... What the hell kind of healer, physician, doctor, as they love to call themselves, could just stand there in the mist of intense suffering that those in Haiti have had to endure for almost a week and refuse to help a little girl? He could not of examined her as best he could, given her some bottled water he SHOULD of brought with him so people would not suffer dehydration as he knew damn well supplies from the U.S. had not yet arrived. He couldn't offer to take her back to America with him and give her needed medical treatment and then fly her back on his own dime? He couldn't organize a group of other health professionals to put together a bunch of very needed diagnostic machinery and help them load it onto the cushy metal bird that brought him into this third world hell? He couldn't donate some of his own money to enable her and her family to survive this current tragedy and ensure them a better life there after Haiti begins to put their country back together? Obviously not. And by not helping this innocent, Dr. Bessor takes the depersonalization and the insensitivity of the Medical Profession to a whole new level. To the height of exploitation. Or "sensationalism" as Triona so accurately put it. Or as an "observer" like Lorraine wrote when she responded to me. Despite the fact that this man is a television star now, he is a doctor first. I do not care if he is actively practicing or not. I do not care if his main concern was if his makeup looked alright as his face is plastered all over millions of tv screens, or about the vacation in Disneyworld he was dreaming about taking when the taping was done. No person who has the education and the ability to help the sick and injured has any right to be a detached narrator walking amongst those in dire straits, like so many citizens of Haitai are in right now. Dr. Bessor never had any right to be a slave to the sponsors of 20/20 more than he was to the whole world by the promise he swore to keep. Especially to the universe's youth.
There is much talk amongst the Adoption community here in Bloggerland about the media exploiting Haitian children who barren women are clamoring in droves to take home with them, not caring if their parents aren't even one of the 70,000 dead. Corporate America rubs the back of Corporate America as 20/20 promoted Adoption on this joke of a broadcast by speaking first about how many pending Adoptions are backlogged now as paperwork is missing, and then going straight to the heart of their agenda by interviewing a Haitian man not speaking in English who we are told is saying poor Haitian parents are selling their offspring for $150-300 American bucks. Yes, that's right, let's just ignore story after story of corruption in the world of Adoption including how children were literally being stolen from their Real Mothers on the street in countries like Guatemala, China and Russia so Adoption Agencies can Adopt them out at high cost to Infertile American couples who couldn't care less if they were stolen or not. Let's just give the tittle of sainthood to the Corrupt Adoption System and all the poor suffering women who just can't conceive. I also left comments about this subject on Lorraine and Triona's blogs and Mirah Riben's blog which is incredibly covers the Haitian tragedy. I urge everyone to click on the AdoptAuthor link to your left and read the important and poignant quotes from organizations that support our views like the UN and Unicef. Mirah has a video on AdoptAuthor where a woman whose child was stolen from her for the purpose of Adoption tells her story. Heartbreaking.
The people of Haiti do not need their children to be taken away from them by rich and financially stable Americans. They need funding from people so their families can function and be together. Many poor children in Haitai however are separated from the parents they love under the guise of giving them a better life, but as I said in another comment, if I was Adopted from a third world country and some American couple Adopted me, and I went to live in some beautiful house, with a stocked fridge I would not feel happy or grateful. My first reaction would be I feel sorry for my parents in Haiti that they are suffering hunger and I am not. I feel sorry for my parents that my surroundings are nice and theirs are not. It is hard to feel happy, safe and calm when you are okay but people you love are not. And as usual, alot of today's PAP's and AP's delude themselves into thinking that if they Adopt a child whose parents are still alive from a foreign country that that child will just forget all about his or her Real Family and like them better because they give them more material things. What an insult. How shallow and selfish do they think these children are? Entire families should be brought over here and helped or they should be financially helped in Haitai. But what helps fuel this moral mindset into non existence at an even higher speed is the media. As of late AP's (NCFA anyone?) and The Adoption Industry have, Tv shows and movies behind them all the way, supporting the same lies we have fought for decades and putting Real Mothers and Adoptees in the same unflattering bigoted light blinding the whole country to the truth, and personally I am DAMN sick of it...
I got a bad feeling from Life Unexpected's trailor like I did the Pregancy Pact's trailor. I hadn't said anything but planned to watch it's premiere. I would like to thank the heartless producers of this obnoxious piece of trash for sending me to bed in tears...... and for perpetuating the cruel stereotype of women who conceive out of wedlock. There were so many lines in this script that made my heart stop. And my heart fall into my stomach. Not only from the character of Cate, Lux's Real Mother, but from her Real Father's character Nate who said right in front of her not long after he found out she was his child that he thought Cate 'got rid of it". Add to this the nauseating scene where Lux tells her new found Mother, a famous radio jock, that she was never placed with an Adoptive Family after Cate had her at 15 because she was born with a hole in her heart and this made her an unattractive candidate due to the high medical bills that would ensue from the surgeries she would need. Lux never mentions who did pay for her three years of operations (the State I suppose), but she made it clear that no one wanted a three year old to Adopt, everyone wants a baby, to which Cate replies, "not everyone"......
Lux is treated like dirt by her foster family as well, and this is why she first contacts her Real Father whose name and address she peeked at on her case workers file when she wasn't looking. She needs to talk to her Real Father to get his signature on an Emancipation form so she can be declared a legal adult on her upcoming 16th birthday, get a job and her own place from the $3000 she has managed to save. After other rude comments to her and getting the definite vibe her Real Parents still don't want her around and haven't matured one iota since they were in high school, which is exactly how they are portrayed, Lux storms off, never wanting to see either of them again, a scene I am sure Pro-Closed Record AP's everywhere drooled over. Nate and Cate (a couple's name so goofy that Lux even jokes about it and created on purpose I am sure to lower them even more) begin to talk amongst each other after their pretty daughter storms out and of course they travel down memory lane straight into the bedroom where they care more about getting it on again, then they do about chasing after Lux to console her. The next morning as Cate leaves Nate's apartment there is poor Lux, bundled up in a blanket over her coat as it is winter and cold in Portland. It becomes clear that she slept outside her Real father's home all night, rather than going back to her horrific Foster Parents where she was told they would be more than happy to have her never come back, as they don't get paid enough to deal with her annoying requests like not having their tweenager son walk in on her when she is still in a towel. After yet another unpleasant conversation with Cate, Lux storms off to the courthouse to begin she hopes, her new independent life only to have the judge shoot her down. To her great surprise however, Nate and Cate follow her there where she is put into joint custody with them and this shall be the overtone of this new series. Or as Cate puts it, she will begin to grow up with her financee's and Lux's help . To suggest that she is still a self-centered scattered brained horndog who can not still be a grown woman capable of being a Mother in her 30's is the sinister undertone of of this new program that disappointed me beyond words. But when it comes to the subject of being fair, forgiving and compassionate on the subject of giving birth unmarried, what else in this country and in the hypocritical world that pushes pre marital sex left and right called Hollywood can we expect? That those who could change the way both single Mothers and we bastards are looked at still chose to mock us and refuse to grow up themselves.....
To be continued.....

New Year Sentiments........

2009-12-30T17:18:00.015-05:00

All of our oppressors.....our oppossers.....you can call us what you want...dirty little bastards, ungrateful little brats, village idiots, "dyfuctionalists", Quasimodo's, bundles of sinful flesh, dogs on a leash, puppets on a string......but we are not any of these things....we are people just like you, despite the fact that you want to own us....control us...destroy us...and to that I say....in 2010 (yes, THAT's RIGHT 2010 not 1510 where the sealed records system mindset is from) the fight continues on....YOU wouldn't take it (WHAT would YOU say, all you NCFA AP's, social workers, Adoption Agency employees, ministers and priests if YOU were told you could not have your families heritage and your OBC...I shutter to think!) and there is no way in hell we should either.....
Happy New Year everyone.......may this be the year the USA finally comes out of her catatonic state.......:) Blast this video loud, maybe it will help shake things up a bit!

WE MUST NEVER FORGET. Candace Newmaker.....

2009-11-19T16:22:00.018-05:00

Today is Candace Newmaker's birthday. She would of turned 20.
But Adoption murdered her. Adoption has murdered me in many ways too.......
And her Adoptive Mother's weapon of choice?
Attachment Therapy.
And Candace's killer?
Satan's little helper walks free as I type this.........

Look at her face. You can see the evil emanating from it as her laughter continues to haunt all of us. Adoptees and Real Mothers alike......

Today is my birthday. Or that is what I have been told. Considering the fact that CHS lied to me for 25 years about not knowing the time of day I was born, which was illegal, why should I believe them about what day I was born.....especially since
this Christian Adoption Agency vies for Closed Records and the employees there lie about themselves and say they are Adopted when they are not. A game they first started playing with me in the early 80's long before they took it to the internet.
(Like an Adoption Agency would hire an Adoptee and let them ten feet near any other Adoptee's sealed files, teach them how to search for another Adoptee's "birthmothers" current whereabouts, or let them see OBC's with "Illegitimate" or "bastard" stamped across them. Yeah RIGHT........)

It is a well known fact that Christian Clergy, Adoption Agencies, and many a power abusing, immature AP changed the real birthdate of an Adopted infant to a fake date which appears on the Adoptees AMC (Amended Birth Certificate). This was done for differant reasons to serve well all those involved in the child's Adoption EXCEPT the child of course, even though all the true facts that were altered are a very needed form of secutiy and stability for the child's sense of self and identity in every stage of the child's life. Lying outright to some Adoptees about when they came into this world aids the Church's need to punish we dirty little bastards for the rest of our lives. You know since priests, ministers, cardinals, bishops and nuns find Christ's order to forgive each others sins and do nothing at all to punish them so repugnant and all.............this trickery and deception also aids the Adoption Agencies to be able to give their infertile clients more bang for their buck by letting them buy having the power of god since they can't buy making god let them conceive their own child. So THEY decide when the baby they are going to Adopt was born..........what month, what day, what year which doesn't even let the Adoptee have the the control to know how old they really are! which NO person has any right to do to another person. And it goes without saying, that this isn't even an act of decent parenting either. It is an act of OWNERSHIP. And there is a hell of a big differance between the rightful authority Real Parents exhibit with their children and the ownership mentality some Adoptive Parents execute. Telling a child they Adopt that they are a Gemini when they are really a Scorpio also helps to keep Real Mother and child separate forever as they cannot find each other when they start searching..........the true self-serving motive for why Adoptive Mothers lobbied Congressmen in 1951 to get Adoption Records sealed in the first place......

As a psychic, I know that Candace Newmaker is not at peace. She has not passed to a better place and her spirit bitterly lingers in the realm that keeps her on this earth. She is angry. She is mad at god too. And I don't blame her. Alot of Adoptees raised in Closed Adoption don't feel god is love either, thanks to Pro-Closed Record Christians and the condescending act of HUMAN BEINGS given as "gifts" to Adoptive Parents, the new age mindset amongst Christian Adopters and those who think Adoption is a religion...(Oh Gawd)...And of course how the Church and many AP's try to make us hate ourselves.....(feel shame, whip! whip! feel shame, whip! whip!) We know damn well that sealed files have nothing to do with any form of love......Hate, control, mockery and discrimination, yeah. But love? Pfft..........

Candace didn't feel too loved wrapped up in that heavy itchy blue blanket either. Fighting for her life, her identity and her sanity, as a psychotic Infertile and psychologist forced their money grubbing, ego fulfilling agenda on her, along with their obese asses, the last sounds little Candace ever heard were Jeanne and Ponder yelling at her and Watkins cutting her down along with the gurgling in her lungs from choking on her own vomit because those three losers wouldn't let her out. They wouldn't listen to HER FEELINGS. They wouldn't take HER seriously. They wouldn't let her be released from the drone status THEY wanted her to brainwash herself into SO SHE WOULD BELEIVE SHE WAS BORN AGAIN LITERALLY TO JEANNE NEWMAKER, HER INFERTILE ADOPTIVE MOTHER. Attachment Therapy reveals the true sinister arrogance many AP's carry within their resentful hearts. And how deeply they care only about themselves and not the innocent infants and children they Adopt. Backed by powerful child abusing industries (Adoption Agencies, Departments of Social Work and the Church) and a paid off government, they have gotten away with immoral and insepid acts that social workers would call negligence and attorneys would call personal injury if the same behaviour was shown by natural parents to their offspring. And thanks to Attachment Therapy they have gotten away with murder too......and this we must NEVER forget......

CANDACE: Whoever is pushing on my head it’s not helping. I can’t do it. I can’t do it. I can’t breathe. It’s too dark under here. Please quit pushing on my head. I can’t do it. Somebody’s sitting on top of me.

CANDACE: I can’t do it. [Screams] I’m gonna die…

PONDER: Do you want to die?

CANDACE: No, but I’m about to…

WATKINS: Go ahead and die.

CANDACE: Please, please I can’t breathe.

CANDACE: Please quit pushing on me.

CANDACE: I need some help. Help! Help me please…

CANDACE: Can you let me have some oxygen? You mean, like you want me to die for real?

PONDER: Uh huh.

CANDACE: Die right now and go to heaven?

PONDER: Go ahead and die right now. For real. For real…

WATKINS: Just go ahead and die. It’s easier…

CANDACE: You said you would give me oxygen.

WATKINS: You gotta fight for it.

CANDACE: [vomits] OK, I’m throwing up. I just threw up. [Vomiting] I gotta poop. I gotta poop.

CANDACE: Uh, I’m going in my pants.

PONDER: Go ahead.

WATKINS: Stay in there with the poop and vomit.

CANDACE: Help! I can’t breathe. I can’t breathe. It’s hot. I can’t breathe…

WATKINS: Getting pretty tight in here.

PONDER: Yep… less and less air all the time…

PONDER: She gets to be stuck in her own puke and poop.

WATKINS: Uh huh. It’s her own life. Quitter.

JEANE NEWMAKER: Baby, do you want to be born?

CANDACE: [Weakly responds] No. [This is Candace’s last word.]

WATKINS: Candace is used to making her life everybody else’s problem. She’s not used to living her own life.

PONDER: Quitter, quitter, quitter, quitter, quit, quit, quit, quit. She’s a quitter…

[Ponder and Watkins chitchat about their dream homes and a million-dollar property nearby that is being remodeled.]

WATKINS: Let’s talk to the twerp.

[They unwrap Candace.]

WATKINS : Oh, there she is sleeping in her vomit.

As a psychic I know too, that you two wenches Ponder and Watkins, are going straight to hell.....

Candace Elizabeth Newmaker: November 19th 1989-April 18th 2000

Shadows Of The Family Tree

2009-07-16T12:18:00.009-04:00

is the name of it and I am sure it is as awesome as the tittle it was given....I plan on purchasing AmyAdoptee's new E-book, which is chock full of good information for all Adoptees (and everyone else who is sane enough to know that Closed Adoption is just plain wrong), and I absolutely can not wait to read it! Having Amy for a friend, and talking to her on the phone as much as I have has been one of the good points of being in the Adoption Blogger circle, for it has enabled me to meet her as well as learn alot from her incredibly educating entries. Amy is a smart cookie, she is strong and compassionate, sympathetic and kind, and I am beyond honored to know her. I have heard her laugh, I had heard her cry, and I always feel relieved when I hear her voice. Now I can be touched when I read her newly published words......
Go Amy!
(Click on the link for her Texans For Adult Adoptees OBC Access Blog at
the bottom of my blog in the Bastards Are Beautiful list to order it for only $10! Deal of the year.....:)

Exhaustion And Blogging Don't Mix.......

2009-07-07T15:05:00.005-04:00

so when I sat down Friday to type the entry I posted for The Fourth of July I probably shouldn't have, as I have had to correct it yet once again, changing wording I posted incorrectly and leaving out entire sentences I wanted included....when coffe fails to work, it is best to walk away from a computer too.....(either that or the typo fairy really nailed me...;)

** double typo boo-boo fixer (damn,I'm glad this holiday is over......)

Just A Little Typo.....

2009-07-06T13:53:00.002-04:00

So I don't insult the whole country, the * fixes my technical boo boo below....
:)

Fighting The Tide That Drowns Me........

2009-06-30T14:29:00.018-04:00

I waited until Monday morning to read Sunday's paper and then after I read her article, I wished I hadn't read it at all....I wish I hadn't paid two bucks for it either.....but alas, when one is involved in the agonizing fight for Adoptee Rights, there is rarely any rest for the weary, or balm that ever heals our wounds....her words upset me for many reasons. One being we all know that our Real Parents medical histories are NEVER updated from the time scant amounts of information are written down when our Mothers were carrying us. Therefore, it goes without saying that diseases that they had yet to get and diseases that had yet to be named, that could be passed on to us and our own children, are never relayed to us while we are growing up and when many of us are adults. Perhaps she isn't aware of this, but as an Adoptee she needs to be. I don't know her personally although she is well known, and loved I might add here. Where I live. Her column at times has even made me smile or let out a big laugh, as she talks about the perils of Parenthood. But not this time....I respect her feelings, sort of, yet I feel she has set us back in this maddening war we have been thrown into for what we never should of lost in the first place. Our OBC's. Due to the greatest form of identity theft in the United States. Closed Adoption. The general public should know that her feelings about Closed Adoption do NOT reflect the majority of Adoptees in America (especially mine).....and the statistics for reunions through registries like Alma and Soundex are proof of that....so are the multitude of blogs from rightfully ungrateful little bastards and BSE Mothers all over Bloggerland.......yet, in all reality it does not matter. For Birth Mother Privacy IS A LIE, and if just one Adoptee, just one, wanted to see her face in her Real Mothers, and feel her Real Father's strong arms around her, that should be enough. Yet we have been all jammed into the same can, like a bunch of sardines, along with the hope of any individuality concerning the circumstances of our conceptions and births lost within a dark sealed container.......and like sardines and the ever condesending G word, that STINKS......

"Gratitude to go around"
By Alicia Blaisdell-bannon

June 28, 2009

"Once again, I was unable to stop my birthday from rolling around that last week in June.

And, once again, there came a time, a quiet moment when I was driving in to work, when I thought about the parents who created me.

And then I thought about my birth parents.

My birth parents did a difficult thing 57 years ago, giving a baby up for adoption. I don't think I quite fathomed how difficult it would have been until I had babies myself. You think it's a myth, that whole bonding at birth thing (because "you don't even remember labor pains" certainly is) until they place an infant in your arms and suddenly you are metal filings to her magnet.

I have imagined the scenario in my mind many times, my 20-year-old birth mother holding firm to her decision not to keep a baby born out of wedlock, as they would have said then (and some still say today, though it sounds dreadfully old-fashioned now). Of course, I have no idea what actually happened — in the hospital or afterward.

And I've never pined to know, although I understand those who do go down that path. I have enough medical history to satisfy me and, as for the rest, I suspect it will remain a story whose ending simply is never known.

The story I'm familiar with is that of a couple, in upstate New York, who tried for 10 years to have a baby, but couldn't, and applied to adopt. And one morning, a couple days before Christmas, they got a call that a 6-month-old baby was available and coming their way.

And so I did.

I have heard people refer to their birth parents as "the people who created me," but that doesn't ring true to me.

I get it that my eyes, and my hair color, and my ability to gain five pounds by driving by a bakery (10 if I inhale) all have genetic explanations.

But the adult who was created from that 6-month-old child is the product of two loving people and the life they created for their new baby, their little girl, their stubborn "tween," their college student, their married-then-divorced daughter.

Because of them, I like to laugh. And read. I like to listen. And share. If I'm comfortable in my own skin, it's because I grew up thinking everyone should be.

On my birthday, I always whisper a prayer of gratitude to my biological parents. I hope, whoever they are, they know they started a story that, thanks to the parents who raised me, has had many happy chapters".

FEEL FREE TO LEAVE A COMMENT TO THIS ARTICLE ABOUT ADOPTION ON THE NEWPAPERS WEBSITE, ALL REAL MOMS AND ADOPTEES (AND PLEASE DO):
http://www.capecodonline.com/apps/pbcs.dll/section?Category=LIFE0701

AP's and PAP's Should Not Be Online 24/7 Harrassing We Adoptees

2009-06-27T14:45:00.012-04:00

because doing so maybe causing your infertility!! According to the following article, and many scientists, laptops are reducing sperm counts and are effecting a woman's reproductive system as well! So instead of whining online all day long, that you can't get pregnant and trying to find a fertile woman's baby to manipulate away from her that she wants to keep, or Adopting a baby you know was stolen from her Mother off the street in China, try turning off your computer for a while and let Nature take her course!!

"Laptops linked to male infertility"
MAYWOOD, Ill., June 15 (UPI)

Men who aspire to fatherhood may need to start changing how they use laptops, a U.S. reproductive specialist warns.

Dr. Suzanne Kavic of the Loyola University Chicago Stritch School of Medicine in Maywood, Ill., near Chicago, says excessive laptop use has been linked to male infertility.

"Laptops are becoming increasingly common among young men wired into to the latest technology," Kavic says in statement. "However, the heat generated from laptops can impact sperm production and development making it difficult to conceive down the road."

Kavic -- director of the division of reproductive endocrinology at the Loyola University Health Systems and an associate professor in the department of obstetrics and gynecology and department of medicine at the School of Medicine -- recommends placing laptops on desktops to prevent damaging sperm and decreasing counts and motility.

Sperm quality and quantity as well as sperm motility -- movement -- are key to male fertility, Kavic says.
© 2009 United Press International, Inc.

Thankyou DMC and Zara Phillips!

2009-05-05T06:45:00.006-04:00

for helping to expose how mistreated we Adoptees are by the government and for helping to banish the myths spewed out by the Adoption Industry that buy and sell children like we are sacks of potatoes. If you have not read the heart wrenching lyrics composed by these two very talented Adoptees, then take a look at what follows:
"Tell me do you remember
When you’re on the streets
Do you look for me,
The way I look for you,
how I wish I knew, I wish I knew,
as Darryl raps,
At night I can't sleep, I toss and turn My true reality is what I wanna learn
But they are tellin me I can't see the proof On a little piece of paper that holds the truth
Of who I am and what I be Yeah I’m living but I’m missin a part of me
I have a right to know where I come from"

"At night I can't sleep
I toss and turn
My true reality is what I wanna learn
But they are tellin’ me I can't see the proof
On a little piece of paper that holds the truth
Of who I am and what I be
Yeah I'm living but I'm missin’ a part of me
I have a right to know where I come from
Cause it’s my human right like everyone.”

We Adoptees all know we feel these lyrics in our souls every day and can as well further appreciate the words of Zara Phillips herself concerning being denied our Civil Rights in this country:
“Growing up in England, I always saw the United States as being so far ahead, but with this, America is really behind. When I heard how backward things are here, all I could think was, ‘Are you kidding?’”
DMC has made equally important and poignant statements concerning how unfairly we "Illegitimates" are treated in America:
“Knowing who you are is about health, happiness — a human right",
"People who aren’t part of the adoption community don’t know about the issues, the pain, the emotions that can come from not knowing where you come from.”
I am hoping like everyone else, that this much needed musical testament to all we have lost, that also shines a light on the unjust emotional torture sealed files have caused us throughout our lives, will help win New Jersey Adoptees legal access to the little peice of paper that will let them be legit human beings in the USA once and for all, and will eventually help all of us Adoptees have access to our true idenities, our heritage, and our medical records by being granted the right to possess our orginal birth certificates as well. I agree with other Adoptees that "I'm Legit" would be an incredible theme song for this year's Adoptees Rights Protest in July, and I hope DMC and Zara win a Grammy for it! No one deserves that award more than you two! You both rock and will always be heros to all of us....so again, thankyou!

Back To Adoption

2009-04-24T07:52:00.012-04:00

It has been agreed that spookie will no longer be discussing me and I will no longer be discussing spookie, which is for the best. So this blog will be back to concentrating on the unfairness of Closed Adoption laws in The United States and what we must do to win the legal rights to what is rightfully ours and always should of been, our OBC's. Two voices that are being heard all over Adoptionland and the airwaves are of the incredible and well known musicians, DMC and Zara Phillips who have put both their and our pain due to the hijacking of our information and the Birth Mother Privacy Lie into a wonderful new song that will hopefully educate the public how we Adoptees are trodden upon and are treated as nothing less than commodities. So on that note (and excuse the pun), I would like to say.....

Ann Coulter Blames Single Mothers For America's Problems On This Morning's "Today" Show.....

2009-01-07T17:45:00.030-05:00

"Unhappy with today's problems? Ann Coulter blames single mothers".
Ann Coulter appeared on the Today Show, her "life time ban" having been shortened to a single day. Ann Coulter spent just shy of ten minutes jousting verbally with host Matt Lauer, who took on a tone of mAnn Coulter on the Today Show more in sorrow than in anger.
Matt Lauer started by denying that NBC had "banned Ann Coulter for life" and asked why she had said that she was. Ann Coulter pointed out that the story had been spread by Matt Drudge, who claimed to have gotten in from an unnamed source within NBC. Ann Coulter pointed out that she had only been rescheduled after Drudge had splashed the headlines of her "life time ban" on his website. Ann Coulter did go a little too far, as is her practice, by comparing herself to Roland Burris. She is, by the way in case you were wondering, delighted that the Democrats are tearing themselves apart over Roland Burris.
Matt Lauer spent some time thrusting and parrying with Ann Coulter about the use of Barack Obama's middle name, Hussein. Ann Coulter, feigning innocence, wondered what the big deal was about the use of the President Elect's middle name, which actually is Hussein. Matt Lauer suggested that Ann Coulter was stroking up the tin foil hat brigade which still believes that Barack Obama is a secret Muslim. Matt Lauer, by asking that question, proves that he doesn't get Ann Coulter. Ann Coulter was not trying to provoke right wing crazies, but rather the left wing variety. She says "Barack Hussein Obama." Matt Lauer is shocked that Ann Coulter used the President Elect's full name. Ann Coulter feigns innocence wondering what the big deal with the name is. What's in a name? Just imagine "Thomas Hitler Dewey" trying to run for President in 1948.

Matt Lauer then proceeded to the actual book Ann Coulter is selling, "Guilty", by arguing that Ann Coulter is being mean to unwed mothers. Ann Coulter pointed out that children of unwed mothers tend to possess social pathologies, such as having criminal records and drug problems, far out of proportion to their numbers. If Ann Coulter can be faulted, and this may be in the book, she didn't mention that for every unwed mother there is an unwed father who is just as, if not more so, irresponsible.

Matt Lauer finished up by objecting to Ann Coulter's "tone," suggesting that, really, people elected Barack Obama because they cared about the issues. Ann Coulter had a good laugh over that. Ann Coulter on the Today Show, pointing out that the media eschewed tough, issues-oriented questions of Barack Obama and preferred soft balls.
All in all, it was a fun little sparring match. Matt Lauer was a game fighter, but Ann Coulter artfully parried all of his blows and landed a few herself. It was Ann Coulter by a technical knockout".

A FUN little sparring match? I highly doubt it was fun for any single Mother, or BSE Mother or Adoptee to listen to this hard hearted, overly aggressive, battleaxe to speak about a subject she knows NOTHING about. I have to wonder what Coutler thinks about widowed single Mothers as well. You know who God choose to make single since the world began by letting their husbands die..... or women left by their husbands against their will. Or women who left their minister and pastor husbands because they cheated on them. Coulter also apparently will be trashing single Mothers in her new book pictured above, "Guilty:Liberal Victims And Their Assult On America". It goes without saying as a Christian woman who looks down on females parenting alone, she is no alli in our fight for Open Records. Nor, I doubt is she a forgiving Christian like most aren't when forgiveness is SUPPOSED to be the foundation of this religion, for in reality, Christianity DOES NOT EXIST WITH OUT IT AND IS A FALSE RELIGION. So instead of "slamming" single Mothers, someone needs to tell Coulter that she needs to remember that Jesus's best friend was a FORNICATING prostitute and that He was never a finger wagging, blowhard like she acts like, jump off her Ivory Tower, and stop thinking she is all that when she is nothing but ALL JUDGEMENTAL. Because THAT is what she is "Guilty" of......and isn't THAT a sin according to Christ? Hmmmm?.....
The comments due to her little prima donna temper tantrum this morning on NBC are coming in fast and hard on many websites and many forums. This is my favorite from AOL News:
angie
2009-01-07 19:19:04
"Ann Coulter is a shrill shrew... I had the unpleasant experience of catching this interview. Could she be more bitter?!?! Is she unable to have kids herself or is it that no self respecting man would touch this frigid wretch? Statistics can be manupulated to prove any point you want to make when manipulated to support the bull you choose to regurgitate. Anyone who would buy her book deserves to be ripped off for utter stupidity".

And oh yeah......wasn't there someone else who had a single Mother? Hmmmm....let me think....oh that's right........THE FUTURE PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES. YEAH....A REAL DRUG HEAD, JAIL BIRD HE IS.....I think she is just attacking single Mothers because she can't stand the fact that the son of one is about to hold the most powerful position in the world. Pretty much trashes her categorizing theories doesn't? Trashes the Adoption Industries so tiring and assine mind$et as well......