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Sex and Morality (Francisco D’Anconia’s Speech)

noreply@blogger.com (Superman) — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 14:30:00 +0000

"Tell me what a man finds sexually attractive and I will tell you his entire philosophy on life" - Francisco D'Anconia

Before reading this post, I want you to visualize your ideal woman. The woman that most turns you on...in my case it would be Japanese and Russian women.

Then read this speech to see what that says about your philosophy on life.

From Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand

“Do you remember what I said about money and about the men who seek to reverse the law of cause and effect? The men who try to replace the mind by seizing the products of the mind? Well, the man who despises himself tries to gain self- esteem from sexual adventures–which can’t be done, because sex is not the cause, but an effect and an expression of a man’s sense of his own value.”

“You’d better explain that.”

“Did it ever occur to you that it’s the same issue? The men who think that wealth comes from the material resources and has no intellectual root or meaning, are the men who think–for the same reason–that sex is a physical capacity which functions independently of ones mind, choice or code of values. They think that your body creates a desire and makes a choice for you just about in some such way as if iron ore transformed itself into railroad rails of its own volition. Love is blind, they say; sex is impervious to reason and mocks the power of all philosophers. But, in fact, a man’s sexual choice is the result and the sum of his fundamental convictions. Tell me what a man finds sexually attractive and I will tell you his entire philosophy on life. Show me the woman he sleeps with and I will tell you his valuation of himself. No matter what corruption he’s taught about the virtue of selflessness, sex is the most profoundly selfish of all acts, an act which he cannot perform for any motive but his own enjoyment–just try to think of performing it in a spirit of selfless charity!–an act which is not possible in self-abasement, only in self-exaltation, only in confidence of being desired and being worthy of desire. It is an act that forces him to stand naked in spirit, as well as in body, and to accept his real ego as his standard of value. He will always be attracted to the woman who reflects his deepest vision of himself, the woman whose surrender permits him to experience–or to fake–a sense of self-esteem. The man who is proudly certain of his own value, will want the highest type of woman he can find, the woman he admires, the strongest, the hardest to conquer — because only the possession of a heroine will give him the sense of an achievement, not the possession of a brainless slut. He does not seek to . . . what’s the matter?” he asked, seeing the look on Rearden’s face, a look of intensity much beyond mere interest in an abstract discussion.

“Go on,” said Rearden tensely.

“He does not seek to gain his value, he seeks to express it. There is no conflict between the standards of his mind and the desires of his body. But the man who is convinced of his own worthlessness will be drawn to a woman he despises–because she will reflect his own secret self, she will release him from that objective reality in which he is a fraud, she will give him a momentary illusion of his own value and a momentary escape from the moral code that damns him. Observe the ugly mess which most men make of their sex lives–and observe the mess of contradictions which they hold as their moral philosophy. One proceeds from the other. Love is our response to our highest values–and can be nothing else. Let a man corrupt his values and his view of existence, let him profess that love is not self-enjoyment but self-denial, that virtue consists, not of pride, but of pity or pain or weakness or sacrifice, that the noblest love is born, not of admiration, but of charity, not in response to values, but in response to flaws–and he will have cut himself in two. His body will not obey him, it will not respond, it will make him impotent toward the woman he professes to love and draw him to the lowest type of whore he can find. His body will always follow the ultimate logic of his deepest convictions; if he believes that flaws are values, he has damned existence as evil and only the evil will attract him. He has damned himself and he will feel that depravity is all he is worthy of enjoying. He has equated virtue with pain and he will feel that vice is the only realm of pleasure. Then he will scream that his body has vicious desires of its own which his mind cannot conquer, that sex is sin, that true love is a pure emotion of the spirit. And then he will wonder why love brings him nothing but boredom, and sex–nothing but shame.”

Rearden said slowly, looking off, not realizing that he was thinking aloud, “At least . . . I’ve never accepted that other tenet . . . I’ve never felt guilty about making money.”

Francisco missed the significance of the first two words; he smiled and said eagerly, “You do see that it’s the same issue? No, you’d never accept any part of their vicious creed. You wouldn’t be able to force it upon yourself. If you tried to damn sex as evil, you’d still find yourself, against your will, acting on the proper moral premise. You’d be attracted to the highest woman you met. You’d always want a heroine. You’d be incapable of self-contempt. You’d be unable to believe that existence is evil and that you’re a helpless creature caught in an impossible universe. You’re the man who’s spent his life shaping matter to the purpose of his mind. You’re the man who would know that just as an idea unexpressed in physical action is contemptible hypocrisy, so is platonic love–and just as physical action unguided by an idea is a fool’s self-fraud, so is sex when cut off from one’s code of values. Its’ the same issue, and you would know it. Your inviolate sense of self-esteem would know it. You would be incapable of desire for a woman you despised. Only the man who extols the purity of a love devoid of desire, is capable of the depravity of a desire devoid of love. But observe that most people are creatures cut in half who keep swinging desperately to one side or to the other. One kind of half is the man who despises money, factories, skyscrapers and his own body. He holds undefined emotions about non-conceivable subjects as the meaning of life and his claim of virtue. And he cries with despair, because he can feel nothing for the woman he respects, but finds himself in bondage to an irresistible passion for a slut from the gutter. He is the man whom people call an idealist. The other kind of half is the man whom people call practical, the man who despises principles, abstractions, art, philosophy and his own mind. He regards the acquisition of material objects as the only goal of existence– and he laughs at the need to consider their purpose or their source. He expects them to give him pleasure– and he wonders why the more he gets, the less he feels. He is the man who spends his time chasing women. Observe the triple fraud which he perpetrates upon himself. He will not acknowledge his need of self-esteem, since he scoffs at such a concept as moral values; yet he feels the profound self-contempt which comes from believing that he is a piece of meat. He will not acknowledge, but he knows that sex is the physical expression of a tribute to personal values. So he tries, by going through the motions of the effect, to acquire that which should have been the cause. He tries to gain a sense of his own value from the women who surrender to him– and he forgets that the women he picks have neither character nor judgment nor standard of value. He tells himself that all he’s after is physical pleasure– but observe that he tires of his woman in a week or a night, that he despises professional whores and that he loves to imagine he is seducing virtuous girls who make a great exception for his sake. It is the feeling of achievement that he seeks and never finds. What glory can there be in the conquest of a mindless body? Now that is your woman chaser. Does the description fit me?

“God, no!”

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Shit African Parents Say...

noreply@blogger.com (Superman) — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 14:30:00 +0000

Wow...so spot on. True story!

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Who Do Asian Girls Date?

noreply@blogger.com (Superman) — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 14:30:00 +0000

Don't you wish more Asian girls were like her?...hahaha I kid...Not!

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Mike Tyson on Fornicating

noreply@blogger.com (Superman) — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 14:30:00 +0000

"Are you talking out of turn? I normally don't do anything with womens unless I fornicate with them first. So you shouldn't talk anymore. Unless you wanna, you know..." - Mike Tyson

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The Evolution of Attraction and Sex

noreply@blogger.com (Superman) — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 14:30:00 +0000

Via Big Think

Michio Kaku is an amazing teacher! Explains hard things in a simple way.

Michio Kaku (Transcript):

We have today jet travel. We have today the fact that almost anyone can have children. We have the situation today - because of prosperity and because of industrial revolution, because of international travel - that there’s mixing of the genes, which means that the gross evolution of the entire species itself has probably slowed down. But does that mean that evolution has stopped? No. People still prefer other people who are healthy. This means that we are evolving toward becoming healthier and healthier people.

There’s a reason why we are attracted to certain people of the opposite sex. According to evolutionary psychology, what we want is healthy mates. Beauty, for example, is a way in which we have of judging the health of another person. The theory says, for example, that if you are at a bar on Friday night and you want to “pick up” somebody rapidly, you can’t do a blood test. You can’t do a physical examination to find out how healthy that person is, so you need markers. According to evolutionary psychology, the markers are for estrogen and testosterone - shown in the body by beauty and physical health. For example, estrogen has estrogen markers: large eyes, small chin and thick lips. Same thing with testosterone: testosterone makes large necks and strong jaws and a lower voice. That also means the person is fit; the person is healthy. These are markers that we use.

So the point I’m raising is that evolution on a one-to-one basis is constantly taking place because we constantly prefer people who have a better immune system, people who are physically fit - masquerading as what we call "handsome" and "pretty."

I read and Christopher Ryan's book last year, and recommend it: Sex at Dawn

Christopher Ryan (Transcript):

To understand how closely related we are to Chimps and Bonobos; we’re more closely related to them than an Indian elephant is to an African elephant. It’s extremely close, whether you look at it in terms of DNA or how long it’s been since the lines, the evolutionary lines diverged. And it’s important to know that we’re equidistant from Chimps and Bonobos. So any time you read that Chimps are the closest non-human primate to us or conversely that Bonobos are the closest, they’re both false. Chimps and Bonobos are equidistant from humans. As close as your left hand and your right hand are to your head. They’re exactly the same distance. So it’s very important to understand that.

Now, on one side you’ve got Chimps, who are very aggressive, there’s evidence of warfare between groups. Murder is relatively common, rape is common, infanticide. All sorts of aggressive behavior is rampant in Chimp societies. But on the other side, you have Bonobo’s, who are very highly sexualized, and in which over 40 years that they’ve been observed in the wild and in captivity, not a single case of murder or infanticide or rape or lethal combat between groups has ever been observed. Not in zoos, not in the wild. So they’re sort of the light and the dark side of human nature, we could say. And it’s important not to fall for this line that we’re closer to Chimps and therefore the nasty, aggressive, dark side of man, as one book puts it, is more deeply embedded in us than the other side.

What we all share, the three of us, the Chimps, the common Chimps, the Bonobo, and humans is an exaggerated sexuality where the vast majority of the sexual behavior that we experience has nothing at all to do with reproduction. Over 99 percent of our sex acts don’t result in conception. That’s very unusual in the animal world. Most animals, including most primates, other than the three of us, the Chimps, Bonobos and humans, might have sex a few times a year. Gorillas, for example, probably have sex 10 to 15 times for each baby gorilla that’s born.

Now you think about how many times an average human being has sex over a lifetime. And I’m not only talking about intercourse, think of all the types of sex we have that can’t possibly result in conception. It's a very small percentage of our sexual behavior that really has anything to do at all with reproduction. We share this trait with Chimps and Bonobos. We split from them about seven million years ago. So according to conventional thinking and evolutionary theory, if a trait is shared between these three species that separated six to seven million years ago, it’s very likely that that trait was shared also by the last common ancestor.

So we can look back to six to seven million years and say, that has been six to seven million years of human primate promiscuity, pretty much uninterrupted until we get to 10,000 years ago with agriculture and the advent of monogamy. So that gives you a sense of why it’s so difficult for most people. We’ve been, you know, going down this same path for so long and then suddenly we’re told, no, no, that’s not the way we behave anymore. And in fact, that’s not natural. So if you behave that way or you want to behave that way or you fanaticize about behaving that way or you get off on watching other people behave that way, there’s something wrong with you. You’re sick. There’s something wrong with your relationship if you think about someone other than your husband or wife every time you have sex. There’s something wrong with you or something wrong with him or her. That’s all wrong. That’s not only wrong, but it creates untold suffering in people because they feel shame about something there’s no reason they should feel shame about.

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Black Men Dating White Women (Jungle Fever)

noreply@blogger.com (Superman) — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 14:30:00 +0000

Via Assanova @ Real Made Men

You guys wanted me to write more about interracial dating, well I came across an interesting video that fellow blogger Assanova shared on his blog.

Thought I would share it here, as well as post my commentary.

Here are the points Dr. Johnson makes:

Black men date White women because of a self-hatred for themselves
Most interracial relationships between Blacks and Whites are middle/upper class Black men marrying lower class White women
Never see rich White women marrying poor Black men
Black men marry White women for acceptance from White race
Do it to sooth inferiority complex in presence of White man
Black men who marry White women have low self-esteem
White women who Black men marry, are White women no other White men wanted
If White women could have White man with same socioeconomic status, they wouldn't marry Black men
Preaches against interracial relationships
Black men marry outside their race more than any other race put together
Views it as case of self-hatred

My Rational Take On It

While watching the video, what immediately jumps out at me was Dr. Johnson's blunt, eloquent and succinct speaking style. He speaks like Malcolm X, tells you nothing but the truths without sugar coating it. This immediately tells me he's a rational person.

I will respond to his points with my objective and rational take on them.

If you've followed my blog for some time you would know that I am generally not attracted to Black women. That doesn't mean I am never attracted to Black women, it just means I am attracted to them a lower percentage of the time compared to other races. In general, I am attracted to Japanese and Russian girls, but that's for a different post.

Some of the points he makes I agree with, but most I don't.

Chris Bosh and Wife

Point 1 - Disagree - I don't think Black men date White women because of a self-hatred for themselves.

They date White women because that is the idealized version of beauty in the world. It is hard to escape it, even for someone like me who was born in Africa. It is subconsciously indoctrinated into you through the media.

Looking back in my past, when I was still growing up in Africa, I would say I began liking White women from seeing them on TV. They were very exotic and intrigued me. Even at that time, when I was about 7 years old, I was fascinated by them. I would see them in movies and my body not knowing what sex was at that time, would want to kiss them, thinking it would bring me closer to their mysticism.

State College = Nothing But White People

Fast-forward to me arriving in America in 4th grade, and their mysticism quickly disappeared, they were old news after seeing them all over the place. However when I moved to the states, I was living in State College, PA (Penn State), and that place was not diverse at all. From the moment I started 4th grade, till the time I left State College in the middle of 7th grade, I don't remember ever having any Black girls in my class, except for one bi-racial girl (mulatto) in 4th grade.

With numbers like that, they were no girls to like BUT White girls. It's human nature for men to make due with what they have. So I got used to White girls you could say, those where the only girls around.

I heard about a study, where they say that your preference in the opposite sex is discovered and developed before you're 12 years old and once you grow past that age, it's hard to change it. In other words, if you prefer dating Black, White, Asian, etc. from around 7-12 years old, it's going to be hard to all of a sudden change and start preferring another race.This needs to be looked into some more.

Anyway that's where I think I started to like White women, and it then shifted to Asian girls, and now I'm kind of neutral, I constantly keep fluctuating.

Michael Jordan and Wife (Model)

Points 2, 3 - Disagree - About his point of most interracial relationships being between upper/middle class Black men marrying lower class White women.

I think that's a general theme that reflects more on the sexual nature of men and women, that we learn from evolutionary psychology.

Regardless of race, the female species marries the male with the highest social status she can get. Males on the other hand marry for beauty, since it is a symbol of health and fertility. A woman marrying a male with low social status, regardless of whether she was rich, would be playing an evolutionary unstable strategy. Women who played that strategy were eliminated after many generations, and those that played the evolutionary stable strategy of marrying a man based on his social status, where allowed to have their genes propagated into future generations.

Points 4, 5, 6, 9, 10, 11 - Disagree - I don't know if this is necessary the case.

If White beauty is deemed as the highest standard of beauty and is subconsciously indoctrinated in Black men by media. Is it then not rational for a man to want to achieve what is viewed as the highest standard of beauty?

In addition, if a Black man is living in a predominantly Non-Black area, is it not rational for him to look at dating other races?

Points 7, 8 - Agree - This one I agree with, it is pure fact.

Obviously we're generalizing, but that tends to be the case. Most Black men who date interracially are dating women who are either not heavily desired compared to other girls of their race or lower in socioeconomic status. I think this has to do with the Plus 2 rule (+2), which I'll discuss below.

I wrote about it before, in my rants about women being racist when it comes to online dating. It had a study where it showed that if White women were to choose between two men they would deem to be equal in looks, but one was a White man and the other a minority, they would always take the White man. That's an obvious rational choice, due to the racial backlash. But the interesting thing was, that in order for a minority to overcome that, he would have to be +2 better in looks just to be on an equal playing field.

In other words, if we were to judge looks on a scale of 1-10, with 10 being really good looking. Two men who were both 8s, but one being a minority, would not be able to compete for the White woman's attention. The minority would have to be a 10, just to be considered.

The scale is for looks, but it can be changed to other representative scales such as socioeconomic status, or my favorite in this case, game.

I see the latter a lot, although I've never openly talked about it except to my wing Prince P, who also has experienced it, and feels this principle is true.

What we've both experienced from doing cold approach is that being minorities, we're automatically at a disadvantage when wanting to date White women, or even any other races.

We've both seen some White guys get approach invitations, girls numbers, dates, lays, etc. with what we both consider "mediocre" game. For example, using the same scale from above, a White guy's game could be an 8/10 and he would get the girl. If our game was an 8/10 or 9/10 we would most likely not get the girl. It's almost like our game has to be a 10/10 i.e. flawless to get her to consider dating interracially.

We both repeatedly experienced this so much, that we fundamentally PLANNED for it if we wanted to succeed in our ventures. Almost everything we do, we would include a White person in it, since it built more comfort with White women.

While doing our meetup group, we made sure one of the assistant organizers was a White guy. Otherwise, White women, who happened to make up the majority of women on meetup.com, would not come to a meetup with a Black guy and Indian guy leading it. That's just the plain truth. Same thing with our photo shoots with models. Having a White guy would just automatically build more comfort, to a point it became a rational choice. The times we didn't have a White person with us would just seem like self-immolation.

In pickup they say it's always better to pickup women when you can show you're pre-selected by women. We both learned a supplement to that, which was this: It's a lot easier to pickup White women if you can show you're pre-selected by White people. Example, when Prince P (an Indian guy) and me (a Black guy) invite two White girls to a party, chances of them coming are medium to low. However, if we have a White dude with us when we meet and talk to the White girls, chances of them coming to our party shoot up. This would happen a lot.

We never liked this one bit, but being the rational men that we are, we knew we could not blank-out reality. Reality is what it is, irrespective of what we think. In order to succeed with reality, we had to acknowledge it.

It seems like in order to date outside the race, you need to have a +2, whether you do it with game, social status or looks, you need to bring a +2 to the table to be considered. Obviously this my generalization, but it appears to to be true from Prince P and I's real world experience.

Anyway, that's my commentary on his video, which I thought was deep and made me think about this issue much more.

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Girl's Rules for Dating

noreply@blogger.com (Superman) — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 14:30:00 +0000

Found this article while reading news on my new iPad.

Girl Code and Dating: The Official Rules

Excerpt:

When you’re out together and single...and you both like the same person.

Then neither of you should actively go after him or her! Sisters before misters, hos before bros, whatever. If the object of your mutual desire approaches one of you, but not the other, the lucky one should really think twice before flirting back. Unless this person is really really really really hot, in which case, hopefully the rejected friend will be a real pal and let you have your moment.

So in other words if a hot girl likes me and her not-so-hot friend likes me as well, I get penalized for having 2 girls like me!! Whatever happened to "Survival of the Fittest?"

Read the whole article here to learn how girls thinking and logic can fuck up your game.

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How To Practice Pickup (Adam Lyons)

noreply@blogger.com (Superman) — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 02:00:00 +0000

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What If Einstein is Wrong?

noreply@blogger.com (Superman) — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 02:00:00 +0000

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Reader Poll Results and The Superman Fund

noreply@blogger.com (Superman) — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 14:30:00 +0000

Quick Update

Was out doing day game with Dave last week for the first time in a month. It kinda felt good, although my head is up my ass. The break and partying with models has given me a Super Inflated ego. Met up with a model this week, but she turned out to be an old hag. I'm some what back in DC, more details to come as they're finalized...on to the actual post.

Thanks to everyone that participated in the first ever Journey of Superman reader poll. A lot more people voted than I expected, I keep on forgetting how many people are lurkers haha. Maybe y’all will start leaving more comments now that my blog is becoming interactive.

Here are the results, and I was surprised with the final results. Interracial dating was in the lower third after the weekend but came back to take the cake from hacking online game; looks like a lot more people are interested in it than I thought.

Reader Poll Results

20.41% - Interracial Dating and Shit No One Wants to Talk About

I didn’t expect this to win out, I’m actually kind of glad that it did. The Black Guys Paradise page on my blog receives a steady stream of traffic from interracial dating search terms on Google as well as interracial dating forums, so I guess they got together for a final push and it worked.

16.33% - Hacking the Matrix: Online Game Hacks

I knew this one would score highly and I’m not surprised. The shit I’ve wanted to share is so fresh and game changing that I had to keep it to myself for a while, which is hard considering that I like to share shit…hence the blog haha! Anyway, I moved on to greener pastures, plundering hotties on modeling sites and such, so I don’t feel the need to keep this information to me and a few wings of mine. I don’t want to overhype shit, but the online game hacks I have are the kinda of shit that I actually thought about charging for, true story, brother got eat.

Donate to the Superman Fund

So instead of charging a few $$$ for it, I decided I’ll just give these tactics away. If you find value in them, you can donate to the newly minted “Superman Fund” below. This is a fund to help pay for various things like dates, parties, photo shoot equipment, etc. that I greatly need. I am not asking for anybody to be an altruist, rather I encourage you to donate whatever you can if you believe I and my blog have provided “value” to you in some shape or form. The more donations, the more the posts will keep on flowing.

16.33% - Personal Thoughts, Inner Demons and Goals

I am definitely surprised with this one. I thought people wouldn’t wanna read about my personal opinions, demons or goals. Come to think of it, my Super Saiyan 2 post was well-received. I’ll start posting about these more often.

14.29% - Interesting Articles and Videos I Find About Dating, Life, etc.

This one is easy for me to do. I plan on posting at least one new article or video a week that I find across the web. Some might not be about dating, since I don’t read a lot of pickup stuff since taking AFC Adam’s bootcamp, but things will still remain balanced.

14.29% - Rational Self-Interest and Game Theory

I think I messed up on this one, and forget to differentiate between Game Theory the Mathematical Social Science and Game Theory in terms of Pickup Theory. Regardless, I will assume it’s the former.

12.24% - Building a Playboy Lifestyle Filled With Models

I’m honestly surprised that this didn’t do so well, considering the model posts and videos are what began to blow my blog up. I guess few people actually want to follow through with the nuggets I was posting on this.

4.08% - Book Reviews

Not surprised about this one. I do the Book Reviews mostly for myself as reference notes in addition to Google haha. Google loves my blog, especially the book reviews. Just Google “fountainhead book review” and you’ll see why.

2.04% - Other

To the person that asked me about writing about the Asian girl I wussed out in approaching, elaborate on which Asian girl you’re talking about…I need more details to know what you’re talking/referencing to.

With that being said, I have heeded your opinions and will start posting more about the topics you’d like to read about.

While you await my next posts, if you find that I’ve provided value to you, whether it be inspiration, humor, etc., and you would like to donate to this blog, you can do so below.

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