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Our Mood Attitude - have a better day everyday

noreply@blogger.com (Anthony Parker) — Sun, 27 May 2012 12:42:24 PDT

It’s a sad fact of life that most people awake to begin each new day with a neutral attitude mind set. They depend upon a stimulus that is something external that influences an activity to set the mood or attitude for their day.

Put it in a more simple way they set their day and mood attitude for that day by reacting to what just happens to happen to them.

If things go well and it’s a beautiful sunny day they will set off in a good mood attitude for that day. But if things go wrong and it’s cold and raining this is the mood theme that will be set for the day.

By not simply taking control of your attitude people like this hand over control their mood attitude to the elements. That is, they allow themselves to be in a kind of autopilot mode and let the winds of chance control their day.

We don’t do this with our car. Just start it up head down the road and hope for the best or watch TV, read a book without first having even a little bit of input into what you are about to be entertained by.

Airplanes and ships don’t leave their ports without some kind of control over the direction and destination.

Yet the most important journey we make we do every day and most days we set off in with a neutral attitude mind set. Just winging it with our fingers crossed hoping for the best.

Just a slight change in attitude even by a few degrees will change your destination for that day to the better.

What happens to a waiter that has a bad attitude compared to a waiter with a positive attitude and willing to be helpful? One gets tips and other doesn’t.

When an artist starts to paint on a blank white canvas they start with nothing. A big blank empty white vast of nothing. Artists’ even have to prime and seal the canvas with an undercoat gesso medium for durability. Often they choose to add a little colour to that undercoat by mixing red or another colour into it. Why?

In this case ‘Painting a sunset’ they have started the painting with an end in mind. To paint a sunset on a blank white canvas it takes layers and layers of expensive paint to get the mood of the sunset. But by tinting the very foundations to be a pinkish tone, they have the mood happening before they even open a tube of paint.

You too can change the very foundation of your day before you step out the front door.

Yes, sure just being a positive thinking person might not bring you a winning lottery ticket but it will improve your life day by day and step by step.

Your attitude that you leave home in will set the foundation attitude mood for that day.

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The Personal To-do List.

noreply@blogger.com (Anthony Parker) — Mon, 21 May 2012 12:13:11 PDT

"Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least".
Goethe, Johann Wolfgang Von

We all have an ever changing personal “To-do list” that we are working through. Most of us keep it in our heads and never actually put it down on paper. But we all walk around adding to it all the time saying things like.

“I must finish painting the fence or I must learn how to play the guitar, go for a run etc.”

Our personal to-do lists are different for each of us. They can be all sorts of things like joining a gym, read that book, start a diet or learning to play the piano. It could be anything that is personally important to you and your happiness.

This to-do list is forever evolving as we are always adding to it and removing items from it all the time.

An interesting fact that most people overlook about a true personal to-do list is that every item on the list will a have a few things in common.

1. They are all important personally to you and your happiness. Why else would you even consider them if this wasn’t true.

2. All these items require you to take some form of action to make them happen.

If you stop and think about it and look through your personal goals you will see this common theme.

So why is this important?

If you want to truly achieve and reach these goals you should be taking some form of daily action towards them. Things like joining a gym, losing weight, going for a run don’t just happen you need to make them happen. There lies the clue to success with personal to-do lists.

“You need to make it happen”

All it takes is realizing that it's all right to say no when necessary to things that have nothing to do with your goals and mean nothing to you. Then focus on your highest priorities. So when you take action toward items on your to-do list. The effort of each step will be motivated and rewarding.

Have you ever heard someone say something like “I always wanted to learn to play the piano”? Yet they still after all these years have taken no action toward this.

Truth is if they really desired this. Really wanted this. They would have made it happen. This type of goal is shallow and does not deeply motivate you. Only have goals that motivate you personally.

When you set goals for yourself, it is important that they motivate you: this means making sure that they are important to you, and that there is value in achieving them. If you have little interest in the outcome, or they are irrelevant given the larger picture, then the chances of you putting in the work to make them happen are poor.

Motivation is the key to achieving goals.

If your goals are not motivating you, then keep looking until you find something that does.

To make it happen requires you to really want and desire to make it happen. Again motivation is the key…

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The Subconscious Mind

noreply@blogger.com (Anthony Parker) — Mon, 14 May 2012 16:46:17 PDT

To have a better understanding of how your mind works. It’s a good idea to have a look at the way your mind processes thoughts. Much in the same way it is good for a racing car driver to know how the engine works or a chef to understand food and ingredients. This offers them the ability to get the best from what they are working with.

Whatever you think about the most and impress on your subconscious mind is expressed as condition.

Like it or not everything that's around you right now in your life you have created in your thoughts consciously or subconsciously. Your home, your car, your job, your friends… everything….

Then it is worth investing sometime to understand this creative process…..

The nuts and bolts of your mind.

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How to unleash the hidden powers of your subconscious mind.

noreply@blogger.com (Anthony Parker) — Tue, 08 May 2012 13:41:12 PDT

How to unleash the hidden powers of your subconscious mind.

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Think Outside the Box

noreply@blogger.com (Anthony Parker) — Tue, 01 May 2012 12:10:36 PDT

Your personal world that surrounds you right now is a mirror-like image of what you have been thinking about the most in your life to this very point in time.

The very environment of your work, neighbourhood and the friends that you surround yourself with regularly supports this. Right down to the books that you read, TVs shows and the movies also support this lifestyle you live in.

People that thought a lot about being a doctor, a designer and a lawyer most of the time became one. People that decided to think more about partying or anything else outside of work became that with a job to suit that life style.

Look at it this way. We don’t question the idea that if you change a program in your computer you change what it can do or what it becomes. We are no different. Our thoughts are programs that change our very outcomes and destinations.

There are millions of IPads and IPhones in this world. At first they were all the same like clones. They had the same programs or apps, yet as soon as the owner started to install new apps the apps changed the IPad or IPhone to suit the controller’s environment. A month later or two you would not find two the same.

Now if this is true? And it is…
You are the owner or better still the controller of this amazing mind of yours. What programs or apps are you going to regularly run in your mind?

The other side of this is that we all have a few programs or things we have or do in our lives that we would love to change. The good news is that you can change by just changing your very thoughts. Some deep rooted programing might take time but you will change as your mind will want to follow your thinking. Just like a computer will follow the owner’s control of programing.

A train can only follow the tracks laid out in front of it. Change the direction of the tracks and you change the train’s destination. Change your thoughts and change your destination.

I can define what I think about therefore I can control what I become.

Earl Nightingale

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If not now, when?

noreply@blogger.com (Anthony Parker) — Tue, 01 May 2012 12:11:10 PDT

Have you been putting off the very thing you feel you should be doing? The thing that has been niggling you in the back of your mind for some time now.

Reading that book, joining that gym, taking that class, going on that date or maybe learning the guitar.

Why put off for tomorrow what you can do right now. The only point in time that you have any power over is right now. As in this very second because tomorrow never really gets here.

The memories from yesterday that might be a swaying factor to why you have not taken any action. Are all from the past and your past does not equal the future. You are not your past, you are you, today. Right now here in this very moment.

So if not now, when…

So When, When are you going to take action and break from any past or future limiting beliefs?

It has to be now, today, right this very moment.

We all know “when people” that say things like, “I always wanted to learn this or do that” but if they really desired this they would have found a way to make it happen. Truth is they (“the when people’) might say it, think it would be fun but don’t deeply desire it. They didn’t do anything about it because this wasn’t import to them and sat on the fence and took no action. These people are taking the “when” option not now.

So if this niggling in the back of your mind is what you deeply desire. Then take a step towards that direction today. Now here today.

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Put on your own oxygen mask first. - take time for yourself

noreply@blogger.com (Anthony Parker) — Tue, 01 May 2012 12:11:23 PDT

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection."
- Buddha

Life can be very busy. We all get caught up in being busy at being busy.

Places to be, work to do, bills to pay, people to meet, mouths to feed. Life gets so fast and we can get so worn down in the process.

When we are over tired we become eructated quicker and quick to jump to conclusions and put people down. We lose interest in our work and conversations.

Everyone suffers when you are not preforming to your usual standard. It does not just affect you and your personal world. It affects all the people you meet, the tone of your voice, all conversations, the performance of your work and even the way you drive the car.

The first thing that we seem to neglect is ourselves. There seems to only be so much time in the day and most times, taking care of exterior responsibilities are more important that taking care of our inner selves.

Just by putting on your own oxygen mask first and taking a little more care of you and yourself. It changes everything.

But Putting on your own oxygen mask first, isn’t that selfish?

It may seem selfish to look after yourself first but in the end everyone benefits from you being in top form. You will have better concentration for work, better mood for the family, safer driver in fact the list is endless. You will be a better person for everyone around but more importantly you will feel better yourself.

If you don’t regularly maintain your car it gets run down. But more than often we don’t seem to offer the same rule to ourselves as our cars.

Many of us apply this rule the wrong way around. By deciding to rest and slow down and to look after ourselves once we become ill. Rather than slowing down life and rest so we do not get ill in the first place.

Slow down and enjoy a coffee or a tea. Still the chatter in your mind, kill the personal agenda for a few minutes and totally enjoy the moment.

Go out with friends have a few laughs, take some quiet time out for yourself or maybe get some exercise.

Do it now. If you haven’t taken quiet time today to just sit and listen to your inner world, go and do it.

Nothing is more important than you are. Nothing is too big of a task to solve if you first take the time to tap into your own magnificence.

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The Most Astounding Fact

noreply@blogger.com (Anthony Parker) — Tue, 01 May 2012 12:12:26 PDT

Astrophysicist Dr. Neil DeGrasse Tyson was asked by a reader of TIME magazine, "What is the most astounding fact you can share with us about the Universe?" This is his answer.

Stop and Hear the Music - an Urban Legend?

noreply@blogger.com (Anthony Parker) — Tue, 01 May 2012 12:12:38 PDT

A Violinist in the Metro: Urban Legend?

This is a story that appeared in newspapers, websites and blogs all over the world since 2007 - An urban legend?

A man sat at a metro station in Washington DC and started to play the violin; it was a cold January morning. He played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time, since it was rush hour, it was calculated that thousand of people went through the station, most of them on their way to work.

Three minutes went by and a middle aged man noticed there was musician playing. He slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds and then hurried up to meet his schedule.

A minute later, the violinist received his first dollar tip: a woman threw the money in the till and without stopping continued to walk.

A few minutes later, someone leaned against the wall to listen to him, but the man looked at his watch and started to walk again. Clearly he was late for work.

The one who paid the most attention was a 3 year old boy. His mother tagged him along, hurried but the kid stopped to look at the violinist. Finally the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk turning his head all the time. This action was repeated by several other children. All the parents, without exception, forced them to move on.

In the 45 minutes the musician played, only 6 people stopped and stayed for a while. About 20 gave him money but continued to walk their normal pace. He collected $27. When he finished playing and silence took over, no one noticed it. No one applauded, nor was there any recognition.

No one knew this but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the best musicians in the world. He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written with a violin worth 3.5 million dollars.

Two days before his playing in the subway, Joshua Bell sold out at a theater in Boston and the seats average $100.

This is a real story. Joshua Bell playing incognito in the metro station was organized by the Washington Post as part of an social experiment about perception, taste and priorities of people. The outlines were: in a commonplace environment at an inappropriate hour: Do we perceive beauty? Do we stop to appreciate it? Do we recognize the talent in an unexpected context?

One of the possible conclusions from this experience could be:

If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world playing the best music ever written, how many other things are we missing?

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Urban Legend?

Analysis: True. For 45 minutes on the morning of January 12, 2007, concert violinist Joshua Bell stood incognito on a Washington, D.C. subway platform and performed classical music for passersby. Video and audio of the performance are available on the Washington Post website.

"No one knew it," explained Washington Post reporter Gene Weingarten several months after the event, "but the fiddler standing against a bare wall outside the Metro in an indoor arcade at the top of the escalators was one of the finest classical musicians in the world, playing some of the most elegant music ever written on one of the most valuable violins ever made." Weingarted came up with the experiment to see how ordinary people would react.

And how did they react? For the most part, not at all. More than a thousand people entered the Metro station as Bell worked his way through a set list of classical masterpieces, but only a few stopped to listen. Some dropped money in his open violin case (for a total of about $27), but most never even stopped to look, Weingarten wrote.

The text above, penned by an unidentifed author and circulated via blogs and email, poses a philosophical question: "If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world playing the best music ever written, how many other things are we missing?"

Which is fair to ask. The demands and distractions of our fast-paced workaday world can indeed stand in the way of appreciating truth and beauty and other contemplative delights when we encounter them. But it's equally fair to point out that there's an appropriate time and place for everything, including classical music. Was such an experiment really necessary to determine that a busy subway platform during rush hour might not be conducive to an appreciation of the sublime? Probably not, though it makes for an interesting story just the same

Do You Know What Time It Is?

noreply@blogger.com (Anthony Parker) — Tue, 01 May 2012 12:13:10 PDT

“No matter how persistent the illusion time is, it is still and illusion.”
Albert Einstein

The other day I watched a BBC documentary on ‘Time’ by Professor Brian Cox called 'Do You Know What Time It Is'. The interesting point was that time is nothing but an illusion. It’s a trick.

It is different for each and every one of us as we live in individual bubble-like lives. We have our own perception of what time really is.

They had someone phone Sydney where it was midday from London 11am the day before. Which time is correct? What is ‘now’ here can’t be ‘now’ there too.

If we steer up at the stars at night what you’re seeing was ‘Now’ for the stars in time millions of years ago. Not now, not this second as you are seeing it or feeling it. It is just the illusion of it being now personally to you.

This is the same if you and a friend are standing on a beach looking at a boat on the horizon. The light reflection that you are seeing of the boat happened millionths of a second before you saw it. Creating to you the illusion of being now. But for your friend standing further down the beach it would be a different now to them.
If time was real it would be the same time everywhere.
The trick time plays on us makes you think that it is real and you are completely under its control.

Your conscious mind functions according to time. It sees and uses the future, present and past as real divided time lines. We are taught from birth that future, present and past is a real divided times.

But for the subconscious past, present and future are all one time.

This is why your goals should be seen or set as being in the present now because this is the only time that exists to the subconscious.

The present which is now is the only true time. Anything that happens, happens now. There is no other time.

When you think of the past you are doing it now but just thinking of the past. When you dream of the future? You do it now. You can’t go back and do things yesterday or do something tomorrow, now. When you were in your past it was still now. When you learnt from the past you did it now.

Your only point of power it is right now at this very second. Now that you have read this that second is in the past. Now this second is in the past and so on and so on.
There is nothing you can do in any other time but right now.

This now is where we are all creating our lives or our futures.
What you do with this very ‘Now’ is what will determine your future.
Your thought and actions now will change that future.

If you are using affirmations, seeding or any other techniques to attract something you want to get. Like a promotion, a raise, the new car or a house.

You need to do this as if you already have it now. Not in the future.

The subconscious does not understand the future like the conscious mind.
If you are affirming it as the future, then that is just what you will get more of it in the future. Not here and now but has something you have not got yet and will not get.

Look at it this way. The word tomorrow is also an illusion. Tomorrow never gets here. When the day that is tomorrow now, does get here it is changed to today and no longer tomorrow.
So when you are visualising something you want as tomorrow.

The subconscious will always bring it to you tomorrow so it never gets here.

Now is the time.
Now is the only true time.

This is truly you’re only point of real power and the only time you can use your full power. See it now as if you have that promotion today, that raise today, see yourself driving that new car, enjoying that new house now.

It all comes down to this...

All wanting is affirming the not having

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Keep looking Don’t Settle.

noreply@blogger.com (Anthony Parker) — Tue, 01 May 2012 12:13:29 PDT

Keep looking Don’t Settle.
Steve Jobs

We are told it is good to have a balanced life. I can remember as a child being told that this was the secret to life. Not too much not too little. Just find the perfect balance.

I have found that this advice is wrong. Not just wrong but completely wrong.

If you have goals that you what to achieve in life then life is not about balance.

Although for some people, having a good working life, home life and church life is their desire and that’s good, if that’s what you want. But for most people they want success or to achieve greatness or personal goals in their lives.

Tiger Woods, Paul McCartney, Steve Jobs and Tom Cruise are all great examples of people that live anything but a balanced life. The one thing they all have in common is they are obsessed with a burning passionate desire for something that has made them the top of their field.

If you want to lose weight, get the job of your dreams, become wealthy, write a book or play an instrument well. If you build a burning desire that is white hot for your goal so that your desire turns into an obsession. Then you will start to get outstanding results like Woods, McCartney, Jobs and Tom Cruise.

If you were to have met any of these people before they became household names. What do you think they would have a burning desire to talk to you about? Would Paul McCartney want to talk about golf or computers?

You become what you think about most of the time. Earl Nightingale

The more emotions behind your thoughts the stronger the desire, the stronger the desire the more powerful emotions become. You will become completely unbalanced in life to the point that all you can think about is your chief aim. And that is the very point of what I am saying here.

When Andrew Carnegie one of the richest man of his time taught Napoleon Hill the information of how to become rich. It was released as a book called “THINK and grow rich” not “Know the right people and grow rich” or ‘Sit back and relax and grow rich’.

So is life about finding the balance? I don't think so....

It’s all about your thoughts, you’re thinking.

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The Power of Space.

noreply@blogger.com (Anthony Parker) — Tue, 01 May 2012 12:13:43 PDT

Between stimulus and response there is a space.
In that space in lies your power and freedom to choose your response
In those responses lie your growth and your happiness. Author unknown

Between whatever happens to you in life and your response there is a small space in time. In that space you can choose to let go and be in auto pilot by having blind faith in that you will be ok. Or on the other hand you can take over the controls and have complete control of your destiny.

We all have the power of choice.
The more we exercise this power to choose.
The more freedom you get and your space grows larger.

On the other hand the more a person does not choose to use this space wisely.
The smaller this space becomes until there is no space at all.
They spend all their time reacting to everything and anything in life.
More than often they are the complainers.

A hunter does not aimlessly shoot a bullet in the air and complain about not hitting the target.
They aim and take control of the outcome.

Your day doesn't just "happen."

Whether you know it or not, it is carefully designed by you for you.
All the choices you make in your day, after all, are yours.

You choose your direction, you choose happiness or you choose sadness.
You choose to be successful or you choose failure.
You might choose loneliness or you might choose friendship.

Every new moment of everyday offers to you a new moment to make a different choice. You don’t need to just simply react to all that happens to you at any given moment. You can choose to act in way that benefits you.

This gives you a perfect opportunity to do things differently to produce more positive results.

Just by simply changing your view point in any situation can be a real life changer.

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The Super-Conscious Mind [Video]

noreply@blogger.com (Anthony Parker) — Tue, 01 May 2012 12:13:56 PDT

The Super-Conscious Mind (Pt 1 of 4)
Here is a series of videos I found really interesting from the Discovery Channel.

See parts 2 - 4

The Super-Conscious Mind (Pt 2)

The Super-Conscious Mind (Pt 3)

The Super-Conscious Mind (Pt 4)

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The Expanding World

noreply@blogger.com (Anthony Parker) — Tue, 01 May 2012 12:14:12 PDT

A man walking home along the street notices a complete stranger standing ahead of him.

The stranger smiles and politely asks him if he would like $1 million to spend on anything he deeply desires, but he must spend it at the local mall.

The man readily agrees and can’t believe his good fortune.
He walks into the mall and instantly sees a suit. It is a horrible colour and design but he says I will have that and buys it.

Finds an ugly dining table that is outdated but thinks I will have that and buys it. Finds a huge range of books he will never read let alone like them and buys the lot.

This goes on all day until the money is gone.

When the man gets home he complains and rants and raves to the stranger.
Why is my home filled with all these things I don’t want, I don’t like?

The Stranger replies “You were asked to spend the money on what you deeply desire. The choice was yours to choose what you liked not what you don’t like”.

Everyday most people spend time, energy and effort in what they don’t want. I know I wouldn’t spend $1 million on things I don’t want or like.

The energy for creating what you want is in your thoughts, you’re thinking. Everything you do or have starts with a thought.

Once we start to understand that what you think about as in your thoughts expand and become your life. You start to be very careful about what you think about.

The good news is that you can quickly and very easily change your thoughts. You have the ability to choose your thoughts and your attitude.

So choose positive instead of negative.
Look for the good in things instead of the bad.
Look to empower someone with a compliment instead of criticism.

If your thoughts are on what you don’t want and when what you don’t want expands. It expands to create your world in reality.

If you were to empower someone with a compliment it changes whole dynamics. Try it with the very next conversation you have. That’s just the tip of the iceberg. Imagine if you made it a habit.

When you get home like the man above. You will find your life, your home filled with things you love.

[Thinking about thinking]

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Fear of public speaking

noreply@blogger.com (Anthony Parker) — Tue, 01 May 2012 12:14:24 PDT

Recently I was invited to speak at an event; while I was sitting in my seat waiting I felt the familiar unwelcome feeling of nerves building-up. The heart starting to beat faster the thoughts of key points I needed to make bouncing around in my head.

I found myself starting to second guessing everything from opening words to reminding myself not to “mmm” and “ahhhh”.

This all brought back to me from many years ago a lesson I learnt about speaking from a group of friends. One of them was a confident young corporate highflyer; she was attending a public speaking course and was trying a few of her newly learnt tricks on us.

What she had us do was to stay seated at the table and talk about something you are very passionate about. We all took a turn and were having a good laugh. Now she arranged the chairs in rows like a hall than asked us to stand up with a fake microphone and talk again about the same topic.

Now we all stumbled and struggled where moments before in the same room to the same people it was so much easier.

What happened?
Why such a difference?

When we were sitting down and chatting we were comfortable because it is just that; chatting.

But when we stood up in front of a group of people that all changed. You are no longer chatting you are now presenting and performing. There is no sound, just you and the microphone and everyone watching you. You feel judged.

What happen to us?

Our mind changed from a friendly and safe mode to a threatened and unsafe mode. The conscious mind sent an alert signal to the sub conscious ‘Danger’. Even though it was just the same people in just the same room talking about just the same information. It was now seen and read as a threatening environment.

By standing up in front of people it kills our minds safe mode of confidence and excitement. This is the primitive conscious mind doing its primitive job by alerting you of danger and putting you on alert. No difference to blinking when someone ‘pretends’ to throw a ball at you. It’s a primitive response.

The conscious mind cannot tell the difference between an actual experience and a vividly imagined one. This is why some movies can scare you others move you to tears or a how a bad dream can terrify you. Even when sub consciously you know it’s just a movie or a dream.

The fear of speaking is a primitive response and can be as real as you make it to be. The more time you spend going over and over the words and thinking over and over about it, the more you will work yourself into a state of fear.

The more you focus on what you ‘can’ do and how good you ‘can’ be the better you ‘will’ be…

A Few Tips on Speaking and Presentations:

:Fact: 80% of success is in the presentation and appearance and not the words so spend 80% of your time on your presentation, eye contact, honesty and appearance.

:Most people spent 80% of the time working the words when it should be 20% of the time. This is not what sells people it’s the delivery.

:Less is more

:Slow down. Everything is much better at half the speed

:Try not to just read a bit of paper.

:Slowly move around the stage

:Don’t point at people

:Video yourself first with your phone if you need to

:Use the pause. Slow down and pause where you can.

:Also watch professional presenters on utube and pick up on their skills.

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See: http://www.executivecoachingx.com/executive-coaching/fear-of-public-speaking/
and http://www.businessspeeches.co.uk/overcoming-fear-public-speaking.html

Lost Car Keys

noreply@blogger.com (Anthony Parker) — Tue, 01 May 2012 12:14:44 PDT

I was talking to a friend today. He was explaining how he had unexpected visitors stay with him over the weekend. He came home and walked in the door and put his car keys down in an unfamiliar place.

It wasn’t until the next day that he realised that the keys were missing. He started to search around in the normal places and pace around the house.

Funny thing was that he noticed that his mind was starting to overreact by panicking and thinking of a ‘plan B’ by trying to work out other ways of getting to work while he was still searching.

Suddenly he stopped and did something different. Walked to the kitchen, poured a glass of water sat down and relaxed allowing the panic to totally subside away. He then slowly got up and walked into the spare room put his hand around the back of the couch and picked up the keys. From a place he would never normally put them.

It is interesting the way our mind seems to bring us the answers so much easier. When we stop and let go of trying to control everything.

Clearly the conscious mind finds it difficult to handle situations like this. It was darting around in a panic away down the track by starting to think of a plan B or even a C. Plus pacing around the house and being in a panic is not good for anything.

The funny thing here is when you lose your keys the subconscious knows where you left them. It remembers everything. We all know that if you were to be placed under hypnotise you would easily be able to recall where you put the keys.

If we can calmly relax and allow the conscious mind to stop all the constant chattering by try to control everything. We would then be able to reach this information because it really is all there waiting for us.

Even if you were to talk directly to your subconscious by saying “I know that you remember everything that I do in each and every moment of my life. So please show me where I put my car keys”.

More than often you will get a far better result by slowing down and relaxing than by panicking and getting angry.

Even the times that we are looking for some direction or inspiration, if we were to shut down all the constant chattering in your head and allow the deeper subconscious to answer you. You will get amazing results.

A recommended read: The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

>> The Time is Now:

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The Power House for the mind

noreply@blogger.com (Anthony Parker) — Tue, 01 May 2012 12:15:09 PDT

Where does the power come from that makes some people so successful?

How can one person reach amazing success?

Yet another and more than often a person with more qualifications, overall higher skill level plus having more odds stacked in their favour is so unsuccessful in life?

Some might say ‘They are lucky’ or ‘They land on their feet’.

But more than often luck has nothing to do with it….

One of the key factors to getting the real power house of success working for you is passion.

The successful person uses repetition with passion over a long period of time. Often they are not even aware of it. They seem to just get caught up in the passion of loving what they do.

In fact most of the people that get this continued success would do what they do even if they didn’t get paid for it. It’s not just about the money.

Example: Lennon & McCartney did not become talented songwriter performers overnight. It took years of passionate dedication and repetition to reach that level. They more than likely did not consider the mind and how it works, just got on with what they loved to do with passion and excitement.

When you repeat small steps toward your overall goal with ‘Passion’ it forces your subconscious to assist you with purpose that builds on itself. A bit like children’s building blocks getting higher and higher but with a solid foundation. This passion leads to a focus that helps you to keep your eye on the ball.

How can we tap into this power house?

Imagine it on a blank sheet of paper.

Mark a cross on the left edge of the page. This is where you are today.

Now put a cross at the opposite right side of the page. This is where you want and need so badly to be which seems miles from you today. This is your dream destination. It could be the perfect weight, the perfect job, house or income.

We know that you are not overnight magically going to appear over there at the right side of the page.

But if you were to start moving in the direction of your goal. By making baby steps towards your dream. Setting small and simple achievable goals often. Things that you know you can easily do.

Not only will you be moving in the direction of your dream but you will start to build a passion. Beginning to believe that this is achievable and that you can make this happen. Then it is a simple task of feeding this burning passion by not letting the fire go out.

Then very soon you will be able to mark your way across the page towards the right side.

Mt Everest was not climbed in a day by jumping from the left side of the page to the right instantly. It was climbed step by step to small achievable camps to reach the ultimate pinnacle of all mountains.

It’s all about the passion of doing what you love.

This is different for every one of us.
Don’t follow other peoples dream live yours.

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Negative thinking v Defensive thinking

noreply@blogger.com (Anthony Parker) — Tue, 01 May 2012 12:15:27 PDT

Have you ever noticed negative thinking comes easier to us than positive thoughts?

That through the day we often think negatively before positive. It is easy to beat yourself up thinking you’re a negative person when maybe you are not negative after all….

Imagine you had an over protective mother that is with you every moment of every day. No matter how fast you run and hide she is there inside your head always.

Warning you of things like:

“Don’t touch that, it might burn you”.
“Don’t run or you might fall”
“Don’t walk or you might be late”
“Don’t be late or you’ll get in more trouble”.

This over protective mother is trying to warn you of every possible accident that might happen to you all through the day. All day chatting to you, fully intending to be helpful by trying to protect you from every possible outcome. Like most mothers she has been there for you since the day you were born.

The over protective mother is your subconscious mind. From the day you are born it has recorded every event every moment of everything that has ever happened to you. From as a child falling over when you were learning to walk, tripping over in the playground at school to being late for work.

Nothing is forgotten it remembers everything and at any moment can recall anything and everything from the past. You may not be aware that when your subconscious sees you doing something it sees as a risk it pulls information from your recorded memories in the form of a defensive warning.

Our minds are wired up to be defensive which is often seen to be thinking negatively. So you might be fooled to think your thoughts are negative. But the truth is that we are wired up in more a protective way like the over protective mother.

Here are two simple examples:

1. If I was to throw a ball toward your face as you walked into a room. Your instant reaction and thoughts are defensive and protective by blinking and shielding your face.

2. If your parents made you eat broccoli as a child, your subconscious (the over protective mother) recorded this as something you did not enjoy. You may not be consciously aware of this but your subconscious remembers this as something to avoid so it sends to your mind thoughts not to eat the broccoli. Even if you like broccoli your mind with tell you otherwise.

This is the reason why we find it easier to be thinking negatively or defensive about something and it takes more effort to think about the same thing positively.

The good news for us is we can override this inner constant chatter at any time as your past does not equal the future. You can change your tomorrow today by simply choosing your thoughts and actions instead of letting your subconscious choose your actions in a defensive way.

>>Stand up and act

>>Reaching the subconscious

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Reality: It’s the little things that count

noreply@blogger.com (Anthony Parker) — Tue, 01 May 2012 12:16:02 PDT

“A small leak can sink a great ship” Benjamin Franklin

If we look up at the stars at night what you’re seeing was ‘Now’ for the stars in time millions of years ago.

Not now, not this second as you are seeing it. It is just an illusion as some of these stars may no longer exist. It all happened in the past. You are looking at the past and not the now as it may seem to you.

What has happened to you in your life up to this point is not who you are. It is what you have become from your thoughts and thinking and actions from the past.

It is the small thoughts and the things we do often in our day to day habits to where the real mind power is. As you begin to change your thoughts and no matter how small, your new reality with instantly follow.

John Kehoe in his book Mind Power explains…

Imagine you have an eye dropper full of red dye and every day you squeeze one drop of dye into a large bowl of water. At first you would see no effect, because the dye would quickly dissipate and be absorbed. If, however, you continue to add a drop every day, the water would gradually turn to a pale pink, to a deep rose and finally to a brilliant red.

In creating a new reality for yourself your eye dropper is your daily thoughts and actions.

When we fully accept that we are creators with our day to day thoughts and actions, it becomes clear that being conscious of what you are thinking right now in the ‘Now’ moment is so important. You are creating your future in your every thought, mood and action.

It's the little things you do that can make a big difference. What are you attempting to accomplish? What little thing can you do today that will make you more effective? You are probably only one step away from greatness. - Bob Proctor

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Alignment with yourself

noreply@blogger.com (Anthony Parker) — Tue, 01 May 2012 12:16:19 PDT

Have you ever driven a car that was out of alignment?

It’s hard to hold the steering wheel steady. If you let go the car has a mind all of its own and pulls you away from your desired direction. You quickly find out that you can’t let go of the steering wheel if you want to keep control and stay on the road.

Most things in life are so much easier to deal with day to day when you are deeply happy and aligned within yourself about who, why, where and what you are.

A misaligned vehicle takes much greater focus and much more physical strength just to keep it pointed in the right direction. Your life isn’t any different.

It is just like when you are about to take-off in a plane.
“If a mask should drop down in front of you put yours on first before attending to others”. Success is really all about alignment. When you’re out of alignment, with whom you are and with what you came here to do. You are not completely in control of your actions.

Have you ever come home stressed from work and carrying that 'misaligned' stress into your home and cause stress or arguments that you really didn’t want or intend to start?

Dealing with disagreements or big decisions is so much easier when you have a clear mind and can pull from the deep clear thinking resources of your mind.

Slowing down and taking a big breath or listening to some great music is a great starting point. Clearing and cleaning your mind of stress. By slowing down, you have more control over what is or has happened to you. This way you can skilfully select your action instead of your reaction.

Professional football players play the game at such a fast pace that most of their moves and skills are just reactions from years and years of playing at this pace. We daily do the same. But it doesn’t have to be this way. Unlike the football players we can choose to slow it all down and gain full control and alignment with you and yourself.

Eric Clapton once said about playing the guitar. When he learns a new guitar riff he first plays it perfectly very slowly and then when he is ready he speeds it up. He says “If you can’t play it slowly there is no way you can play it fast.”

Alignment with you and yourself, is all about getting in a better frame of mind first before attending to other matters. Everything in life is so much better when you skilfully select your action to what is happening to you.

See: > Stand up and act

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The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

noreply@blogger.com (Anthony Parker) — Tue, 01 May 2012 12:16:33 PDT

As we grow up in life we are educated and trained to fit into a box that society believes that we need to conform too.

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

We are taught everything from writing, maths to reading.
We spend all our younger years in schools learning all we need so we can take on the world for ourselves.

But the ironic thing here is the one thing we all use every moment of the day for everything we do we get no training for.
Just left to our own devices.

What am I talking about?
Your mind…

Everything you do in your day is first started with a thought in your mind.
A thought first goes through your mind about getting out of bed, having a shower, making a coffee in the morning or a thought is used first to finish that important report. It all starts with thinking.

Yet in school we get no training on how to get the best from your mind or better still what kind of thinking is good for you.
What thinking and thoughts gets results.
What habits you should encourage or avoid.

Steven Covey has spent a lifetime studying what kind of thoughts and thinking successful people used in a regular way that formed habits of success. In his book the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Steven outlines these habits in a simple way that we all can understand.

This is a book I have read over and over and have given so many copies away over the years. It is something that should be taught at school for everyone. It can be applied to the individual or a family or a business. If you are interested in getting better results from your thoughts this book is a must….

The habits are designed to be applied in order from 1 to 7. If you can’t apply habit 1 then you will struggle with 2 and 3 etc.

Also the habits and in three groups:
1. Independence or Self-Mastery: Habits 1 to 3
2. Interdependence: Habits 4 to 6
3. Self Renewal: : Habit 7

Here is the first set of 3 habits for Independence or Self-Mastery.

Independence or Self-Mastery:
The First Three Habits talk about moving from dependence to independence or self-mastery.

Habit 1: Be Proactive: You are responsible for your own decisions and actions in life. Take responsibility for your choices. Stop playing the victim. - This one is a harder to apply than you might think.

Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind Goals: What is it you want? Where are you going? A ship does not leave port without a chartered plan. Having a target or an ideal goal is important.

Habit 3: Put First Things First: Things that are important to you in life (items you have in Habit 2) should be put first. Things that matter most should never be at the mercy of things that matter least. It is much harder to truly live this habit if you have not mastered habits 1 & 2 first.

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People has sold more than 15 million copies in 38 languages. It is also available as an audiobook. It is one of those books that you read through once then read it in small parts again and again as you work the habits into your life.

Even if you learn 1 new principle that can apply and help you it is worth it….

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Outside Inside | Busy being busy

noreply@blogger.com (Anthony Parker) — Tue, 01 May 2012 12:16:52 PDT

We spend most of our lives busy at being busy.

On the phone, working, driving, texting, twittering, facebooking, catching up for a coffee or watching mind numbing TV. The list of distractions that we are adding we add to our lives is endless.

It seems that we are always looking to the outside for inner satisfaction.

When it comes to finding something truly fulfilling in life more than often we do the same. We look outside of us to fill the empty spaces. This is great to start with in the honeymoon period. But you soon grow use to this ‘new thing’ and very soon you need to work on consistent renewal or replacing it with something else. Just to fill the same empty space as before. This goes on and on.

Siddhārtha Gautama, the founder of Buddhism, said,
“Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without

The ironic thing is the only way to true inner satisfaction is from the inside out. So why do we keep looking on the outside in?

The simple answer is that we still think and act on that seeing is believing. When the truth is believing is seeing.

Ex-Beatle George Harrison once said that he spent all his life looking for inner peace, trying to fill that inner gap with anything and everything. I have even travelled to India and followed the gurus. But in the end I was to ironically find that the answer to my search was inside me all the time.

If we were to start looking for inner peace within our own minds and souls by cleaning, clearing away and relaxing and not the other way around like the rest of the world says “seeing is believing”. The world says I want to see results before I put any faith in it.

As Jesus said "He who believes in me will live, even though he dies”. He did not say “live with me so you can believe”

If you are looking for the answers to life try looking deep into yourself for answers first.

Be still, slow down, take a deep breath and find gratefulness for who, what and where you are in life.

Stop trying to be busier as it will one day consume you.

Also see: Do your thoughts and thinking affect your health?

Also see: Gratitude - It really does change everything

Also see: Keep it simple - Less is more

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The Starfish Parable

noreply@blogger.com (Anthony Parker) — Tue, 01 May 2012 12:17:13 PDT

As a man walked a desolate beach one cold, grey morning he began to see another figure, far in the distance.

Slowly the two approached each other, and he could make out a girl who kept leaning down, picking something up and throwing it out into the water.

Time and again she hurled things into the ocean. As the distance between them continued to narrow, the man could see that the girl was picking up starfish that had been washed upon the beach and, one at a time, was throwing them back into the water.

Puzzled, the man approached the native and asked what she was doing.

The girl replied, Throwing starfish back into the ocean.

The surf is up and the tide is going out. If I don’t throw them back, they’ll die.

The old man said, don’t you realize there are miles and miles of beach and hundreds of starfish?

You can’t make a difference!

After listening politely, the girl bent down, picked up another starfish,

and threw it back into the surf. Then, smiling at the man, she said

I made a difference for that one.

[The starfish parable - Original Story by: Loren Eisley]

Each of us is but one person:

It is more than often the small things that make a difference. You may not be the loudest voice in the crowd or the tallest tree in the forest but you do make a difference. Maybe we can't change the whole world, but there isn't one of us who can't help change one person's whole world.

One at a time. We can make a difference

I came across this parable this week in Richard Branson’s book. It made me stop look and listen and to keep on keeping on.

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The Past and the Future

noreply@blogger.com (Anthony Parker) — Tue, 01 May 2012 12:17:28 PDT

The Past is not who you are, it’s who you were.
James Ray

I lot of people believe that the past is what has made us and is still shaping who we are today.

To a certain degree this is true but only if you allow it.

There will be some really great moments from the past that have helped to mould you and make you. But for most people they focus of the low moments of falling down and where they feel are their weaknesses.

We can more than often limit our ability to become what we want to be, both today and in the future. We put up walls of limitation with our thoughts where there really are no walls. By choosing to hold on to negative feelings from events from things in the past.

The Past does not equal the future.

Anthony Robbins

If a child that is learning to walk falls over they don’t give up and say “That’s it, I was not cut out to be a walker”. But we as adults do exactly that. We try to do something that didn’t quite work the way we thought and we throw our hands in the air saying “That’s it, I give up”.

It doesn’t mean that your past never happened and that we should pretend it was never there. It just means that the past belongs in the past.

Many people take the negative feelings from events in the past and bring them into the present or even into the future.

The first step towards leaving your past in the past is to simply be aware that you are holding onto the past by letting its memories influence your choices you make day to day. Make the change today by living in the now moment and rethink your choices at this very moment.

It is in your moments of decisions to where the real power is. If you can clean away any negative past influence and approach your daily decisions with a clear open mind. This is where the real power of transforming change is.

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You are a creator

noreply@blogger.com (Anthony Parker) — Tue, 01 May 2012 12:17:46 PDT

Your day doesn't just "happen."

Whether you know it or not, it is carefully designed by you for you.

All the choices you make in your day, after all, are yours.

You choose your direction, you choose happiness or you choose sadness. You choose to be successful or you choose failure. You might choose loneliness or you might choose friendship.

This gives you a perfect opportunity to do things differently to produce more positive results.

Just by simply changing your view point in any situation can be a real life changer.

Stuck in traffic? Rather than get angry and stressful. Try playing and audiobook or your favourite album. Better still stop and get a coffee…

Or think of the last time you really got angry and lost your cool.
What was it that really got to you?
How did you let this get to you and affect you so badly?
Who did you end up hurting or need to say sorry to?

What if this whole event could have been avoided?
What would have been the outcome?
At what stage would a very small change of thought or direction have changed everything?

So instead of reacting to or worrying about conditions over which you have little or no control, focus your time and energy on things you can control. Just little changes make a big difference.

Like a great ocean liner is steered but a very small rudder. It is the small changes you do often that make the real difference in your life day to day.

All your problems, challenges turn into opportunities.

Your day doesn't just "happen."

You make it happen. You are a creator …..

So stop reacting in the moment and start creating a better day for you.

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