The Modesty Movement

The Naked Truth About Modesty (Full Version)

2013-07-12T19:28:00.001-07:00

Long Time No Hear

2012-11-25T08:01:00.001-08:00

Hello,

I'm back after taking a bit of a hiatus. I have had quite a few things happen in my personal life that have kept me away form blogging. I am glad to be back. I hope everyone is well ,and that those of my subscribers living in the US had a great time with friends and family for Thanksgiving.

Man Problems

2012-08-15T11:05:00.002-07:00

Ok, I am writing this post to vent. I am thoroughly disturb by the number of women going through mind blowing circumstances with men. Instinctively when we hear of these relationship horror stories we want to blame men, and jump on the " All men are dogs" band wagon, but this simply is not true. Not saying that men are perfect, and some how have no issues of their own to deal with, but it is high time us women start taking responsibility for the way that we are treated. There are good men, and great men even, looking for good women to wife up. Number 1 : Ladies get some standards and stick to them, Number 2: Keep your legs closed, there is just no way he's going to respect you and take you seriously if you are easy. In the words of Miss More Roses from Black Women Who Want More group, being Easy is EASY, try doing what's hard for a change. Believe it or not, a man who loves you will wait for sex PERIOD. Keeping you legs closed is the BEST way to weed out the pretenders from the contenders for your heart. Try connecting with a man's heart, mind, and soul, instead of his penis right off the bat. Try attracting a man with your awesome personality and sense of humor, instead of your breasts and thighs. Now in today's society that's HARD. Again STOP BEING EASY!!!

Stop over functioning and doing TOO much too soon, for someone you barely know. Love on yourself, and get your own self-esteem up before trying to go after a man, then looking to him to validate your own existence and SPECIAL-ness. Please don't chase men, if a man wants you he will hunt you down and pursue you. Even the animal kingdom demonstrates this, the male species always has to fight, dance, or flutter around in order to win mating rites with the female species. I really want to see my sisters in humanity reclaim their sacred sexuality and femininity.

If you need some help getting started on the road less traveled, and being considered a goddess instead getting treated like crap then finding yourself with the same jerk in a different shirt, I am going to recommend some required reading. Of course you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink. You make the choice, what's it going to be. For myself, I'm choosing goddess status.

The Following books will enlighten you and get your mind straight, if you don't learn from this, then sadly, you will never learn, and you may just find yourself, a heart broken 50-60 year old women, bitter and worn out from destructive relationships. These books helped change my entire life!!

1. Choosing Me Before We You can get this for like $10 on Amazon
2. Why Men Love Bitches
3. Why Men Marry Bitches
4. Mr. Unavailable and The Fallback Girl
5. I Kissed Dating Goodbye

Fall 2012 Fashion Trends | Boots

2012-08-15T09:49:00.001-07:00

As you all should well know by now, I love Fall fashion. Makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Here are a few of my favs. i will be posting more as inspiration moves me. Toodles <3 <3 <3
* This collection is from fashiontrends.com

Christian Hijabi

2012-06-15T18:40:00.003-07:00

It is the verse in 1 Corinthians that got me to thinking about modesty and covering my head too. There is such a thing as a Christian Hijabi....my mother is one, mashallah!!

Christian Hijabi

2012-06-15T18:40:00.001-07:00

It is the verse in 1 Corinthians that got me to thinking about modesty and covering my head too. There is such a thing as a Christian Hijabi....my mother is one, mashallah!!

Abaya Addict: I AM IN LOVE

2012-06-07T20:38:00.000-07:00

Ok, if yall don't know already, you seriously need to know. Abaya Addict, all I can say is WOWZERS!!! The clothes are totally trendy, modest, fun, colorful, and for the most part affordable. I am going to pick me a few items up, as I am dire need of clothes, now that I am slimming down!! I will share my favorite looks. Be sure to visit their website. I'm sure you will fall in love just like me.

Kim Kardashian Carl's Jr Sexy Ad

2012-06-06T08:05:00.001-07:00

Now this is sex selling at its wort. I am absolutely APPALLED. I have ZERO respect for her other than she is a fellow human being. I actually feel bad for her some how. SHe most be a sad and miserable soul. WOW...Your thoughts??????

Spring Fashion 2012 - Modest Styles

2012-05-10T11:15:00.001-07:00

More Spring Fashion Favs!!!

2012-04-02T18:26:00.000-07:00

Here are a few more spring fashion favs that I just fell in love with... hope you enjoy!!!!

Pre-Ramadan Body Makeover Challenge

2012-04-02T18:19:00.000-07:00

Today is the start of the Pre-Ramadan Body Makeover Challenge. This is a 90 day challenge to get your mind, body, and spirit right before Ramadan, insha Allah. I started this challenge, because I know what a toll Ramadan can take on the body, and also can stall weight loss goals, if proper preparation is not made. This is also a time to focus on making up fast days, and getting the mind geared for the reason for Ramadan anyways, which is to please Allah SWT, but also for us to receive blessings, and bless others, insha Allah.

Sister Zainab Ismail, fitness and nutrition director of Nadoona, gave a wonderful talk on our Blog Talk Radio Show all about diet & exercise. She laid an excellent foundation to get started on this 90 day challenge. If you missed this talk, then PLEASE go and listen to it before starting the 90 day fitness challenge. Also if you want more personal 1-on-1 help from Sister Zainab, please go to Nadoona website to enlist her professional services.

Below I will post the contest rules. All entries must submit all contest requirements by July 10th, 2012. The contest will run from TODAY April 2, 2012 - July 2, 2012. IF you have any questions please ask on facebook, or email us at themodestymovement@gmail.com

Candice Smith-Soner

Contest Rules

1. Say Bismilah
2. Go to Facebook & Like our fan page, go to our blog themodestymovement10.blogspot.com and follow/subscribe to our blog

... 3. Submit your before & after photo with a newspaper showing the date you started

4. Submit your before & after measurements

5. Write a 75-100 word essay about What Ramadan means to you

The contest will run from April 2,2012-July 2,2012

This is a 90 day challenge. One winner will be chosen to win a prize pack worth over $500.00, insha Allah

Please submit all entry requirements to themodestymovement@gmail.com

Pre Ramadan Body Makeover Challenge 03/31 by TheModestyMovement | Blog Talk Radio

2012-03-31T17:34:00.001-07:00

Pre Ramadan Body Makeover Challenge 03/31 by TheModestyMovement | Blog Talk Radio

WE ARE LIVE ON THE AIR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Please Tune in to find out how to lose weigh & feel great!!!

Turban Hijab/ Head Wrap Style

2012-03-17T13:11:00.001-07:00

This look is HOT for Spring!!

Spring Hijab Tutorials For All My Hijabis

2012-03-17T13:10:00.001-07:00

How to Wear a Maxi Dress & Maxi Skirt! How to Style a Maxi Skirt & Dres...

2012-03-17T12:56:00.001-07:00

I thought thi video was awesome!! Really great ideas on how to rock these must have items for SPRING & SUMMER. All my modest fashionista HOLLA!!

Spring Fashion Trends 2012

2012-02-07T19:33:00.000-08:00

Wow, I can't believe we are actually a few months away from springtime. I'm even more excited about the spring fashion that is soon to hit stores. This spring is all about fun, bright, and bold colors. Feminine silhouettes, and flowy fabrics. Color blocking isn' going anywhere, and you can pull this look off by finding shades of bright pastels and neon colors that flatter your skin tone. Afrocentric tribal prints will have a strong influence on spring fashion and mixing these prints with stripes and/ or polka dots will be sooo in style.

Accessorizing will also follow the same suit. Colors, big funky chunky bracelets and earrings. Over sized clutch purses in bright pastels and funky prints are going to be a must have.

Spring 2012 beauty trends will be about girly color eye shadows, bright lip color, and of course healthy skin never goes out of style. When hitting the salon or spa for your manicure & pedicure, the look will be about the funky color french. Say bye bye to the traditional pink & white french mani and get cray with color!!

I posted some fashion eye candy for you all to enjoy. If you try any of these trends, please take pics o be featured here on the blog. As always keep it, fun, feminine, colorful, and modest for Spring 2012!!

Kim Kardashian in An Abaya!!!!!

2012-01-16T16:22:00.000-08:00

Yes, I know I'm probably UBER LATE, but I have to admit my jaw hit the floor when I saw photos of
Kim K and her mom vacationing in Dubai. Kim K looked gorgeous and so did her mom as they were seen rocking both an abayas and caftans. Take a look for yourself. I think she looked sooo much more beautiful and queenly, covered than she does showing off her goodies. What do you think?

New Year, New You

2012-01-16T16:07:00.000-08:00

Happy New Calendar Year too you!! This year is going to be wonderful and The Modesty Movement will be here dedicating our time to help you be the best you can be in 2012. This year we are going to deal with relationships, how to be more feminine, and reach goals. G-d willing you will be able to make the most of your time and be the best you ever.

The Modesty Movement is also happy to announce our radio show that will be broadcast live on Blog Talk Radio THIS SATURDAY @ January 21st @ 7:30pm. Our Topic will be Modesty, Femininity, & The Modern Woman. Please join us. You will also be able to call in to share your thoughts and opinion.

Spanish Rose

2011-12-12T19:40:00.001-08:00

Spanish Rose by cocokisses featuring ruffle tops

Givenchy ruffle top
£899 - farfetch.com

Amanda Wakeley elastic waist skirt
$870 - net-a-porter.com

Dune heel pumps
£69 - houseoffraser.co.uk

Kaliko lace handbag
£32 - debenhams.com

Mastoloni vintage bangle
$4,900 - nordstrom.com

Tahitian pearl jewelry
$84,160 - barneys.com

All Saints knitted shawl
$150 - allsaints.com

Buy Hervé Gambs Orchid Flowers in a Mini Glass Cube, Red online at...
£20 - johnlewis.com

Inner Wild Child

2011-12-12T19:25:00.001-08:00

Inner Wild Child by cocokisses featuring black scarves

MICHAEL Michael Kors tie shirt
£215 - net-a-porter.com

Valentino silk pants
$1,200 - net-a-porter.com

Franco Sarto stacked heel
$89 - zappos.com

Margit Brandt black scarve
€32 - welikefashion.com

Rabia Z Does It Again

2011-10-17T19:05:00.000-07:00

My all time favorite islamic fashion designer Rabia Z did it again Queens. She managed to come up with the most banging Fall Collection for 2011. I would personally like to think she took my suggestions that I left on her fan page, about making more modern, urban pieces (Big Smile), but even if she didn't, I'm glad she did. These pieces can be worn by any modest fashionista, hijabi or not, muslim or non muslim. Take a look for yourselves.

Observing Modesty - A Men's and Women's Responsibility

2011-09-26T17:11:00.000-07:00

Boxer Muhammad Ali Talks about Modesty

2011-09-26T16:45:00.000-07:00

Eid Mubarak Eid Fashion

2011-08-29T08:58:00.000-07:00

I'm sure all of you have spent this month planning every detail of what you are going to wear for Eid. For those who don't know, Eid is the 3 day festival celebrating the end of the month long fast (Ramadan).What are you wearing for Eid celebrations? Here are a few ideas. Pleas email pics of your Eid outfits to The Modesty Movement :) themodestymovement@gmail.com

Why You Can't Get Married

2011-08-23T20:10:00.000-07:00

Seems like sooooo many women are having man problems. Men afraid of commitment, men that have five girlfriends at the same time, men living with a woman for years on end with marriage nowhere in sight. And the question is why? I truly believe that women have more control over this situation than most think they have.

Conventional advice in magazines like Glamour and Cosmopolitan will have you thinking to get a man, all you have to do is bend over backwards (literally and physically), and be the ultimate sex goddess in order to get and keep a man. Be flirty and you're sure to grab the man of your dreams attention. I mean honestly, now days a woman will give a man sex and he doesn't even have to buy her a Happy Meal from McDonald's. Even with all this advice about being an independent sex goddess, women are still single and trying to figure things out.

I think that conventional modern dating is the reason why women are finding themselves single, and that perhaps the wisdom and ways of old will find women feeling worthy and headed down the alter (more frequently) again. I mean think about it, back in the day our grandmother's and great-grand mothers didn't have a problem getting a husband and it was mostly due to the fact that people "courted" not dated, families were involved, and the women weren't had higher standards, weren't giving up sex to every Tom, Dick, and Harry that got her excited, and weren't out chasing the men.

Maybe you think I'm old fashioned, and overly opinionated, but the statistics speak for themselves. I would love to see a return to old fashion courtship, were parents advice (which is usually right), is taken into serious consideration, and "dates" were the kind that were planned and thought out, and didn't end with being in bed with a complete stranger.

As you all know, I am Muslim. In Islam boyfriend/girlfriend relationships are not permissible, yet getting married is very important, and highly advisable. People get to know each other, by chaperoned visits, or outings (usually the father, older brother, or another person who knows the woman very well, and has her best interest in mind). A woman has her full rights, and should never be forced to marry someone she doesn't want to according to Islamic rule (sadly this happens in some countries today). Ironically, these marriages have a higher success rate, than those who went the whole I met him at a bar route.

I would love to hear from those of you who ditched traditional, modern dating, and found your dream guy by way of courtship or other forms of non traditional match making. Share your story of how this can work in the modern world, for the modern woman.

My earnest prayer is that each and every woman feel worthy again. Worthy of love, and understanding her worth. May Allah make every woman feel worthy again ....Ameen.