The Narrow Gate Invites

Taken With You

noreply@blogger.com (The Narrow Gate Girls) — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 18:12:00 +0000

I shared this over at Christian Women Take Root and will tomorrow at the Surrendered Scribe. Yet, it's a message resonating so deep in my spirit, I wanted to share here as well. As you can see, it's a very busy season for each of us. We're so grateful you stopped by and we will post as God leads us. Thanks!

Recently I watched the Liam Neeson movie, Taken. It's an action adventure thriller rated PG-13 for violence, language and theme. I'm not saying it is a Christian movie at all. I'm sharing what God showed me about His intense Love for us in relation to the movie. If this kind of movie is something you typically watch, does any of this resonate with you?

Taken is about a dad who after losing his marriage gave his successful career as a government "preventer" up to be closer to his teenaged daughter. They have a good relationship, but he wants it to be better. The ex wife is very bitter and not helpful, the new husband is the epitome of wealth, nice guy, but possible secrets.

The daughter has an opportunity to go across the world and spend time in another country, so her dad is led to believe. He learns it's more than that and feels betrayed, but allows her to go with restrictions.

She ends up taken almost immediately in the country for human trafficking.

And you can bet, daddy is going to do His all to get her back.

Here is what God Showed Me:

---Our Havenly Dad/Father is taken with us, even when we betray and/or let Him down.

---His arms are open and He will pursue you with unconditional love to the ends of the Earth.

---He is not a stern, miserable father, but a warrior dad who will protect and cover you with His undying love for you.

---Even if you can't see it, He is violently fighting the forces against you.

---No matter what you've done, said, thought about, He WILL come back for you. You just have to ask Him.

---The world offers so much and mocks boundaries, but in the end, things are just things and the One setting boundaries is the One who offers the most freedom in the world. The world will end up bowing down to the Dad who everyone made fun of at first.

If nothing else, KNOW He is TAKEN with YOU!

I'm not on my computer today so you're spared my picture! You can learn more about me, Julie Arduini, at The Surrendered Scribe. My next published work will be a story in Kathy Vick's giftbook, Run Like A Girl, by Howard/Simon and Schuster. It releases July 7.

I Just Can't Keep Quiet On This One: Especially for Memorial Day

noreply@blogger.com (The Narrow Gate Girls) — Sat, 23 May 2009 15:06:00 +0000

I need to warn you---you are either going to totally understand, or roll your eyes and think, here she goes again.

I am the girl that cries when Neil Diamond's America plays. I devour history books and although I've never served in the military, for years I've had this burden to write to soldiers if nothing else, just to say thank you. I've never left North America and yet there is something in me that understands we are a blessed nation.

And I get pretty agitated when contemporary "intellectuals" try to re write history. I hate that my schooling never once mentioned creationism. I'm peeved that children today are to think that the Bible really has no place or memorial as a cornerstone of history.

What?

That is why the American Patriot's Bible needs to be in your hands.

I'm not kidding, I got choked up picking up the book. Just looking at the cover, it just is a gorgeous book for subject matter and artistic mastery. It made me think even further back in history when people died trying to print Bibles, and how carelessly society today treats the Bible in recognition and touch.

This will be our family Bible for a lot of reasons.

I enjoy the translation, New King James Version. I thought the font was easy on the reads for all ages, I even tried to imagine a senior citizen veteran perhaps, picking this book up. I think it would be very special to them.

There are also amazing features:

Full color presentation page and family record section

48 full-color insert pages, presented in 12 four-page sections

1,632 pages including illustrations, two-color Bible pages, 254, articles, and 66 book introductions.

I wanted to review this book right away for Memorial Day and because I was so excited. This book exceeded my high expectations. There are even text boxes that highlight Scripture that US Presidents used for their inaugurations. I loved that.

The profiles on founding Fathers, people throughout American history who used the Bible and believed in it, amazing profiles I did not know about. It is obvious a ton of research and editing went into this endeavor. From Patrick Henry to the crew of Apollo 8, it gives great information that stirs a patriotic feeling from head to toe.

I can't say I always tell readers to read the foreward, introduction and anything precluding a beginning chapter, but in this case, I'm begging you to. In a day where God is trying to be removed from everything, I relished reading the Seven Principles of Judeo-Christian ethic. The Call to Action page is impressive as well.

There is also a map of the United States, a list of each state and when it joined the union. There is a map at the back regarding the journeys of our patriarchs and a comprehensive concordance and subject index.

Are you sold yet? Summer is so much more than baseball and picnics--to me it's a season above all to really celebrate our country and all she means. If you are looking for a family Bible, a gift for a soldier, a veteran, a history lover or even a gift for yourself---look no further.

Book Description:
THE ONE BIBLE THAT SHOWS HOW ‘A LIGHT FROM ABOVE’ SHAPED OUR NATION. Never has a version of the Bible targeted the spiritual needs of those who love our country more than The American Patriot’s Bible. This extremely unique Bible shows how the history of the United States connects the people and events of the Bible to our lives in a modern world. The story of the United States is wonderfully woven into the teachings of the Bible and includes a beautiful full-color family record section, memorable images from our nation’s history and hundreds of enlightening articles which complement the New King James Version Bible text.

A You Tube video featuring The American Patriot's Bible
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yjHaNCre6do

You can buy here!

Julie Arduini knows the call on her life is to write and encourage others. She maintains a personal blog, The Surrendered Scribe, which reveals her writing resume. Her next published work will be a quote in Kathy Vick's Howard/Simon and Schuster gift book, Run Like a Girl. This will release July 7. She's also working with an awesome group of ladies at Christian Women Take Root who are journeying through The Love Dare. This is ongoing, so there is no wrong time to join!

Agent of Truth

noreply@blogger.com (The Narrow Gate Girls) — Tue, 05 May 2009 03:10:00 +0000

I confess, I enjoy Facebook. Not the changes so much, but the opportunity it gives to reconnect with old friends and meet new ones. From a writing ministry aspect, it's opened many friendship doors.

One of my Facebook friends is someone I haven't met in person but she is a sister in Christ who is kind enough every once in awhile to respond to my updates. My updates can range anywhere from my espresso addiction to deep thoughts. After such a deep thought she gave a nice response in return. With it, she said something that caught my attention.

I sound like an agent of truth.

You know, this isn't a bad thing. The way she worded it is a whole lot better than how it's said in the Freaky Friday remake: "Fun sucker." Seems like when I just utter something that makes total sense, I'm most likely killing someone's fun.

But I'd also like to think more than not I'm sharing His love and encouragement. That kind of truth needs to spread a whole lot more, but we're so politically correct, we hope we smile and our message spreads through our pained expressions on our faces.

I want you to know you are loved. You need to know unless you completely turn around and grieve the Holy Spirit, you most likely don't need to worry about your place in Christ if you've already asked Him to be your Savior. The fact that you ask tells me you most likely didn't take your name off the books, so to speak.

Are you going to get the same reward as Mother Theresa? Probably not, but her faith and service were for eternity, just like mine. But our rewards are going to be different. Is this a license to sin---not even. Our goal on Earth should be not just a relationship with Christ, but a resemblance to Him that others recognize. Hard to accomplish that drunk off your rocker, don't you think?

I don't want to be an agent of conflict or an agent of dissension, but I don't want to hold back, either. This agent of truth upholds life, the Bible, and marriage between one man and one woman. I don't have a monkey for an uncle even though I'm sure some of my family may accuse me of being bananas.

So I've been called a lot of things, but agent of truth sounds like a keeper.

How about you?

By the way, you can find me on Facebook under Julie Arduini. There are two of us, I'm the older one who lives in NE Ohio. I am not the (Julia)track star in college nor am I the young lady (Julie)living in France.

I'm also on Twitter at http://www.twitter.com/JulieArduini

Inviting you to the Christian Women Take Root Love Dare Challenge

noreply@blogger.com (The Narrow Gate Girls) — Sat, 25 Apr 2009 15:25:00 +0000

This originally posted at my personal blog, The Surrendered Scribe.

It's Character Confession Time!

(This is a long one, but sometimes that just are how confessions are! If you want to pass any of this information on, especially about The Love Dare Challenge at Christian Women Take Root, please, please feel free. We don't want any women left out!)

To give my confession, I'll share a story. Years ago when I was a new mom I was at a church where once a year a guest preacher came to play his guitar and pray. I know folks squirm at the thought of someone praying over them and I get that, because I've seen the "thus saith the Lord" prophetic moment abused. But I'm also living proof God still uses donkeys to talk. Not that the preacher was a donkey, but I get I'm dust. I also get how fine the line is when someone prays over someone. So to be responsible with you, I will not say "thus saith the Lord" and if I feel like I'm supposed to share something, it's something I want you to go to God with, don't take the generalization I have in Him as gospel. I can assure you none of my prayer moments in this vein have encouraged anyone to drop everything and run to Africa---or Vegas--or leave their husband, etc...Simply put, people have asked me to pray for lost things and I have and returned with a thought that is not mine because I'm not that smart. I've said pray about it, and look there, that location kept coming back to me. And they did, and it was there, even though they looked there before. It's not a Julie thing, it's a God thing, and if you disagree, I understand, but it's central to my confession, this background. By the way, I'll jump on the soapbox for a second and say I'm not afraid of authentic prophetic moments due to the new age movement, counterfeit, psychic stuff the enemy has out there. Any tricks evil has is a counterfeit of what God already had going for His glory. We just saw it abused and got afraid. There, I'm off my soapbox.

I say all that to say at the end of that service, there was an altar call and this man prayed over people. Again, it wasn't thus saith the Lord, and it wasn't quit your job or marry that person. It was direction I believe at least for me, was Holy Spirit directed. This is what was imparted:

"You are frustrated because you look around and see all the people dealing with the little things, stressed because of the little things, and you get the big things. You wonder why doesn't that person over there have to deal with that? Why me? You know you are dust in My hands, that's why I use you. And as your faith grows you will continue to have those hard times, but you will have faith to speak to those big issues and say in His name, mountain move, and you will see it, in Jesus' name, move."

That's the gist of it. But no one, not even my husband, knew my heart then, and it was exactly where I was. Where peers were wondering about clothes and whether they would get a raise or not, I was nearly bedridden and infertile. I was so scared, but I prayed. Each day my prayer got stronger. That mountain disappeared.

The same for so many other issues. God uses our family to go through injustice or crisis for lessons in grace, forgiveness and trust. I am not a perfect example in any of these times, but I am learning to be a willing one.

And here I am.

On May 4, the social network Christian Women Take Root is kicking off The Love Dare Challenge At our own pace we each have a copy of the book The Love Dare, by Stephen Kendrick. This is a book from the movie Fireproof. Character Caleb Holt faces the end of his marriage when his dad hands him the book and dares him to give it a real try before divorce.

We're offering this as a group at Christian Women Take Root because I guess the cliche goes, "there's safety in numbers." The group is private, Christian, and for women only. Although we encourage women to take the challenge with their spouse, this is a place you can go with daily discussions that can encourage and show you are not alone. It's called dare because it isn't easy. No matter where your marriage is, God is asking you to take it to the next level. That can be scary.

That's why I'm a fraidy cat!

I'll be overseeing the group but trust me, it by no way means I have marriage perfected. It means God gave me a burden for marriages to live in a consistent state of oneness, or strive for it. There are times I fall flat on my face through my own selfishness, or I give what I think is my all and that oneness is not returned, again, because my spouse is human. I know the defeated one hates marriage, and I know anyone daring is going to have a target on their back.

That's where I'm done being a fraidy cat.

I am personally inviting you (unless you are a guy, then I ask you to pass this info on to your wife, mom, sister) to join Christian Women Take Root (if not already a member, membership is free) and then join the group, the Love Dare. There are so many other groups for women available, please check them all out. If you want to find me, I also facilitate Finding Freedom Through Surrender and Marriage: Striving for Oneness.

Discussions are going on at Love Dare group right now, and you are welcome to start your own. Your information will stay within the group and we absolutely will not tolerate someone having the courage to share in the group find that their information be passed on at a place like Facebook or Twitter. The Love Dare is a safe place where we can hold cyber hands together and trust God to change our hearts and our marriages.

One thing I want to really emphasize is just because it kicks off May 4, it doesn't mean we end in exactly 4o days. I'd rather we do this as we can, and from what I've heard and read, there are days where applying the challenge that day is going to take some "wrasslin'" with the Lord, yourself, and that takes time, been there, done that. Each lady is to take this at her pace as He directs. There will be a discussion for each day, but approach it as you feel led, and please don't feel obligated to participate in discussions, although we'd love it. Just come and feel encouraged, share your wisdom or experience.

But let's not be fraidy cats. We have mountains to move.

In Jesus' name.

Alter Call

noreply@blogger.com (The Narrow Gate Girls) — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 16:50:00 +0000

photo from Flickr

Last night I was at a concert where our home church was the message and entertainment. One of our pastors was giving his testimony. I turned around to see the sound booth above and a projector giving the order of service.

The projection read thank you and alter call.

I turned again. Alter call? Isn't it altar call?

Or is it alter call?

Listening to the testimony I realized perhaps the correct spelling is altar, but the application is alter. I know when I step forward with that "burn in my belly" it's because I know God has something for me. It's going to transform me into a closer image of Him. It might not be that moment or that week, but it will happen.

And it will be altering.

Think about the next altar call you experience. Do you go forward? Do you respond in your seat? Do you respond at all? If you do, do you go forward in faith your life will change?

Do you ever respond to an alter call?

Julie Arduini is a wife, mom and surrendering writer. Her personal blog, The Surrendered Scribe, shows her writing resume. A graduate of the Christian Writers Guild, she is also a columnist with Take Root and Write. She has a tentative story to contribute to the Jeanette Littleton book, GodSightings. Her verse for 2009 is Deuteronomy 11:11-12. She's a new columnist with the daily online newspaper, The Cypress Times.

Risen Indeed!

noreply@blogger.com (The Narrow Gate Girls) — Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:56:00 +0000

After All

noreply@blogger.com (The Narrow Gate Girls) — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 04:00:00 +0000

I have had some very personal, bumps in my road of this life lately.

It would be so very easy for me to gripe and complain most of the day.

My flesh would like to lash out in my fear and anger that surrounds the sound of the enemy’s voice. I have been working on quieting his voice. It is a minute-by-minute conscious struggle.

Before I knew the Lord, I was a top-notch worrier.

I was so very good at it. I was taught by the best, could compete with the best.

I was also very well trained in the negativity department. I knew so very well how to over analyze and see the bad in any situation.

So when the enemy tries to come in now, these are the things he uses--
My thoughts mostly.

I am so grateful that I now have the ability to discern the voice of the enemy vs. the voice of the Lord.

I can sense evil before the thoughts even come.

I am so thankful to the Lord for choosing me, seeking me out, and finding me. If I didn’t know who he was these days, my life would be different. I have to admit that I continually fight the voice of evil, and some days I still let it in.

But I know that I know that my God is who He says He is. And He really is in control.
I am thankful for the road that He has prepared for me, and I know He is counting on me to follow His lead.

The good Pastor Osteen says often, “The enemy fights you the hardest when he knows God has something good in store for your life.”

I am fighting this good fight of faith and standing on His path—through His word and His promises. I am ready for the next turn or twist in the road—ready for what He has in store. I will keep my eyes fixed on Him, and I know His light will lead the way.

I have to trust Him.

I choose to trust Him.

After all, I’ve given Him my life.

Maria and her family reside in NE Ohio. She and her husband are the parents of two. Their daughter is a person with hemipelegic cerebral palsy.Because of her experiences, Maria provides parent-to-parent support for families involved in her local early intervention program. Her gift for writing has come directly from the Lord since her daughter’s diagnosis. She writes a monthly column entitled, “Special Parents, Special Kids” for the Mahoning Valley Parent magazine in Ohio; and has expanded into Parent magazines in parts of Pennsylvania and West Virginia.
She is also a contributing author at http://www.mommiesmagazine.com/.Maria's first published work is in Jan Ross and Jeanice McDade's Women of Passion's anthology, "Ordinary Women Serving an Extraordinary God". Both Kim and Maria have been selected to have their work tentatively included in Lori Wagner's upcoming book, Quilting Patches of Life, Volume 2.

All or Nothing

noreply@blogger.com (The Narrow Gate Girls) — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 04:01:00 +0000

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It has been weeks, too many weeks, since I had the strength to sit down long enough to focus my thoughts and write. My mind and thought life have been a battlefield. It is as though I am fighting in the front lines and honestly, there have been times when I wanted to pull the white flag out of my pocket and give up. But I didn't, and I won't.

I have come to a place in my walk that He either is or He isn't. Black or white, no gray in between. For me, it is all or nothing. I either walk in His fullness or not walk at all.

A few weeks ago I had a difficult situation occur in my life where I had a choice to make. Was I going to put my hope and faith in what God says in His word or was I going to rely on what the world was telling me? The situation was very close to my heart and my mind raced constantly. Day and night I would re-wind and re-play all that had happened over and over again like a broken record. I kept thinking about it, talking about it, and thinking about it some more. I was making myself crazy!! I went to God, gave it to Him, but then moments later I would pick it back up again. I would talk to my husband, whose wisdom lined up with the word of God, and still, I could not shut my mind off. I prayed and prayed, cried, and worried. I knew then that I had a choice to make. Did I truly believe?

I asked myself . . . did I really believe in this God who I sang to and worshipped at church on Sunday? Did I really believe that His son walked the earth among common people 2,000 years ago and died for me? Did I really believe in the Holy Spirit? Did I believe that He dwells in me, leads me and guides me? If I didn't then what was I doing.

Then I read John 14.

Sure . . . I was going to church, volunteering my time, reading my bible, praying occassionally but I was missing it!! I was missing who He is, why Jesus came, the power of the Holy Spirit, . . . it was like I was dabbling in it but not submerging myself. I was like the child at the seashore running in the water a bit then running back out. I had to take the plunge!

All or nothing, it is who I am. I am praying that my days ahead are filled with Him. Today is a new day, time to immerse myself in Him. To the world I may begin to look like a freak, one who is 'out there' but for me, I have no other choice. I cannot continue to stand where the waves of this life toss me around and try to cloak me in discouragement and defeat. I have to believe with my whole heart, my whole being. I have to stand in who I am and who He is. All or nothing, for me there is no other choice.

Kim

One Day at a Time

noreply@blogger.com (The Narrow Gate Girls) — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 04:00:00 +0000

Maria wears a lot of hats and one of them is as a columist with Mahoning Parent magazine. She finds as she encourages special need families with her own experiences, many of those writings are God breathed and fit in here as well. This is the case with today's post!

I have been on this special parenting journey for six years now, and the most valuable thing I have learned recently is that we have to take this one day at a time. Some days, one hour at a time…can you relate?

My prayer this month is that you will become more aware of the precious present with your child—and not be consumed by the next appointment, treatment or therapy that you have scheduled or would like to try. Our kids are doing amazing things right before our eyes—and sometimes we don’t even realize it.

This took me a very long time to see. I enjoy my daughter—all of her—now more than I ever did. I enjoy both her strengths and her weaknesses, because they both are a part of who she is. For far too long, I focused on the limitations of her body, instead of seeing all of the amazing things she was capable of. And in the meantime, I missed out on so much valuable time with her that I can never get back.
In order to accomplish focusing on her capabilities, I had to first change the way I thought about the disability that is only a part of her. Honestly, this took time. Changing the way we think about the disability itself takes time.

If you are still in the process of accepting the disability—changing the way you think about it will naturally fall into place. With acceptance comes a certain amount of peace—peace in your mind, mostly. That’s how it played out for me. I was searching for some kind—any kind of peace so I could take care of my many other responsibilities in my life, and still know my daughter was going to be OK—no matter what the outcome of the next thing we were going to do for her was going to be. I knew this peace was the only thing that would enable me to take just one day at a time, and enjoy the beauty of the person that God made her to be. Webster’s definition of peace is, “freedom of the mind from annoyance, distraction or anxiety; serenity, tranquility.”

Some people find this peace in research—books, articles that have proven to have solved something related to their child’s different abilities. Others find it in sharing their experiences with other families that understand. Still others find it in a non-stop race to find the latest therapy or tool that may get their child to accomplish their next goal.

All of these things are great, and I’ve been in and through them all…
But in the midst of each and every one, I didn’t feel content. Sure, my intentions were good, but I was driven by fear and worry for the future. The opposite of peace is worry. You can’t have them both at the same time. Our minds weren’t wired that way.

I finally found this peace through God and His word.

There, I found my feelings put into words—coupled with words of encouragement and hope for the future. Not just for my future as a mom—but hope for my daughter, and my entire family. My faith in God and the fact that He chose me to be Olivia’s mother is what gets me through each hour, each day—and all the future appointments to come. You see, I’ve given all of the decision-making to Him. He’s the light on my path of this journey, and since I came to know who He is, it’s amazing—I can see the road so much clearer! With Him leading my way, I am able to truly enjoy my daughter, instead of worrying about her future. This peace is so very special to me.

I encourage you to find your own peace, so you too can know you are not taking this journey alone. I’m not claiming I have this calm, tranquil peace each and every hour--but I do know that with God by my side, I have the strength to walk this journey one day at a time.

Maria and her family reside in NE Ohio. She and her husband are the parents of two. Their daughter is a person with hemipelegic cerebral palsy.Because of her experiences, Maria provides parent-to-parent support for families involved in her local early intervention program. Her gift for writing has come directly from the Lord since her daughter’s diagnosis. She writes a monthly column entitled, “Special Parents, Special Kids” for the Mahoning Valley Parent magazine in Ohio; and has expanded into Parent magazines in parts of Pennsylvania and West Virginia.
She is also a contributing author at http://www.mommiesmagazine.com/.Maria's first published work is in Jan Ross and Jeanice McDade's Women of Passion's anthology, "Ordinary Women Serving an Extraordinary God". Both Kim and Maria have been selected to have their work tentatively included in Lori Wagner's upcoming book, Quilting Patches of Life, Volume 2.

And the winner is...

noreply@blogger.com (The Narrow Gate Girls) — Sat, 21 Mar 2009 04:17:00 +0000

The streamers are down, the refreshments picked over. Party time is over---for this year at least. We've had a great week meeting bloggers and new friends at Twitter and Facebook. We probably met new folks who had no clue what they were clicking on as Julie accidentally signed this blog up for the "not so family friendly category". Oh every party needs a goof, right?

Anyway, the cheese fries are long gone so it must be time to announce our winner of the Jan Ross & Jeanice McDade anthology: Women of Passions: Ordinary Women Serving an Extraordinary God. Both Julie and Maria have work included in this book, along with other writing friends. This particular giveaway, because we get awesome international hits we appreciate, is open to one winner anywhere we can deliver mail.

What a blessing, this is truly an international winner...RUBY!!!!

We're hoping to connect with Ruby for her address so she can get her copy of this book. If you would like to purchase a copy of this book either for you or for a gift, please click here.

Thanks for stopping by during the Ultimate Blog Party '09. Our hope is you'll become a regular reader we can get to know better.

Have a blessed weekend!

Utimate Blog Party '09: Virtual Cheese Fries and a Real Book Giveaway!

noreply@blogger.com (The Narrow Gate Girls) — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 04:00:00 +0000

Come in, Come in!

It's party time!

So glad you're here!

We're the Narrow Gate Girls, otherwise known as Kim Zaksek, Maria Spencer and Julie Arduini. We live in NorthEast Ohio within minutes of each other. Last year we obeyed God's call to blog on deeper matters of faith.

None of us have the journey in Christ mastered, in fact, most of our blogging shows what we're learning, fighting, or re hashing a mistake or experience. Our party is different because we don't want to wear masks. What you see is what you get with us. And it's okay. In Jesus Christ we embrace that, and our hope is you embrace that fact about you, too.

We tend to get caught up analyzing what God is doing, so much so you might have to tap us at the buffet table and tell us to stop staring at the forks. We've gone out before thinking there might be a message from the Lord in the utencil area.

But we're fun, at least we think so! The rare times we get together we require one item:
CHEESE FRIES!!!!

So please, make yourself comfortable, grab some cheese fries, ignore us lingering over the forks, and have fun. We'd love for you to visit often. You can subscribe to this blog via RSS feed or Feedblitz. You can also follow, or both! You can learn more about each of us by reading the sidebar here, and of course, through our individual posts. Feel free to invite others to visit, virtual cheese fries for all!

To make this fun for you, we have a book giveaway!

Women of Passions: Ordinary Women Serving an Extraordinary God is by our friends Jan Ross and Jeanice McDade. Maria and Julie both have work included in this book. Leave a comment on this post with a way on how to contact you if you win. We'll take comments from 12:00am March 20-11:59PM March 27. On March 28 we'll randomly pick one INTERNATIONAL entry and send a copy of this book (it's in English) to you.
Enjoy!

Don't Eat the Cabbage

noreply@blogger.com (The Narrow Gate Girls) — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 19:37:00 +0000

Granted, it was St. Patrick's Day when most wear green and talk shamrocks and leprechauns for the day. However with Italian relatives extending a dinner invite before our weary family trekked 300 miles back home, I assumed we'd be eatingItalian. All morning my mind partnered with my stomach and together they concocted a great menu: garlic bread, lasagna, salad with homemade dressing, ziti and sauce chocked with so much meat my cholesterol rose imagining the simmering pot.

I walked in their kitchen, eyes wide open and took a whiff. My gut repulsed at the smell. Cabbage. Corned beef. Not a sauce or salad in sight. My meal wasn't quite what I expected. It spoiled the rest of my day and definitely made for a long trip home!

I believe surprise menu choices aren't the only area where expectations fall. There are people we love, respect and look up to that we desperately await a serving of lasagna-type praise. Instead, the plate we find before us is filled with foul smelling cabbage.

For instance, many of us can relate to loving our parents and we're excited to share our report card. With a cursory glance and a sigh it's handed back with the bland response,

"Nice job. How come you didn't get all A+'s?"

There isn't much to savor when we're criticized or discouraged. Most people we love don't wake up and decide to dash our dreams with the curse of their words. Usually they have been served their own corned beef where the typical reaction during a dinner is to pass the plate and keep serving the food. Words like lazy, ugly, stupid, no good, ignorant, and clumsy are sadly passed around as often as salt during meal time. Worse yet, those offerings sting as much as salt on an open wound. Time doesn't help, nor does the ridiculous phrase that 'sticks and stones may break our bones but words will never hurt us.' Too many negative words tossed our way and we can leave the dinner table smelling like Pig Pen from the Peanuts cartoon.

Is it possible to overcome a lifetime of meals where the menu every time was a fresh plate of discouragement? Absolutely! Grab a new plate called His Word. No matter what meal is on special at your home, school or place of work, grab the Bible and dig in. The appetizer, meal and dessert are all from the Master Chef. His words are always special. When you receive anything discouraging or negative, toss it off that new plate. As it states in 2 Corinthians 10:5:

"We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ."

As diners, we're special, beloved and heirs. Just because we've been served the corned beef and cabbage surprises of life doesn't mean we have to eat it.

May this prayer be a tasty morsel to chew on as you enjoy this day:

"Lord Jesus, continue to be my Master Chef who helps me push away the discouraging meals and instead feast on the scrumptious truth found in Your Word. Every day I'm your special of the day. Thank You Jesus for loving me. Amen."

(Scripture taken from the NIV Bible)

Photo from Flickr

March 20-27 is Five Minutes For Mom's Ultimate Blog Party 09. This is a great way for women bloggers to connect and meet new cyber friends. There are always a ton of great giveaways and The Narrow Gate Invites and The Surrendered Scribe both are going to be in on the party.
This site will be giving away one copy of Women of Passions:Ordinary Women Serving an Extraordinary God by Jeanice McDade and Janet Ross.
Both Maria and I have works included in this book. It's a wonderful book with many stories, poems and testimonies by women you may know in the blogging world. As a reader I have to tell you I was blown away by the depth the women shared. They opened a curtain up of their lives and totally let the reader in. The book blessed me and we are excited to give it away.
So stay tuned and let folks know about the Ultimate Blog Party. It's an awesome event!

Julie Arduini is a wife, mom and surrendering writer. Her personal blog, The Surrendered Scribe, shows her writing resume. A graduate of the Christian Writers Guild, she is also a columnist with Take Root and Write. She has a tentative story to contribute to the Jeanette Littleton book, GodSightings. Her verse for 2009 is Deuteronomy 11:11-12. She's a new columnist with the daily online newspaper, The Cypress Times.

Peace

noreply@blogger.com (The Narrow Gate Girls) — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 04:00:00 +0000

I have been seeking this peace for quite some time.
Ever since I came to know the Lord, I have been searching.
In His word.
In His promises.
In my fellow brothers and sisters in Christ.
“Where is this peace?” I have asked frequently over the past four years. “Why don’t I have this peace always?”

Recently my world was rocked. Everything I thought to be true within my marriage and my life were not so true. I have had absolutely no choice but to present all of my requests to God. Actually, my entire life.
Finally.
He’s been waiting for the past four years.

I put my life in His hands—all of it. My kids, my marriage, my everything,
I now trust Him to have His way and do His will.
I have been broken into pieces, and I trust that He is putting me back together daily.
I have surrendered.
I will obey.

And guess what?

I’m finding more and more of His peace each and every day.

March 20-27 is Five Minutes For Mom's Ultimate Blog Party 09. This is a great way for women bloggers to connect and meet new cyber friends. There are always a ton of great giveaways and The Narrow Gate Invites and The Surrendered Scribe both are going to be in on the party.This site will be giving away one copy of Women of Passions:Ordinary Women Serving an Extraordinary God by Jeanice McDade and Janet Ross.
Both Maria and I have works included in this book. It's a wonderful book with many stories, poems and testimonies by women you may know in the blogging world. As a reader I have to tell you I was blown away by the depth the women shared. They opened a curtain up of their lives and totally let the reader in. The book blessed me and we are excited to give it away.So stay tuned and let folks know about the Ultimate Blog Party. It's an awesome event!

Maria and her family reside in NE Ohio. She and her husband are the parents of two. Their daughter is a person with hemipelegic cerebral palsy.Because of her experiences, Maria provides parent-to-parent support for families involved in her local early intervention program. Her gift for writing has come directly from the Lord since her daughter’s diagnosis. She writes a monthly column entitled, “Special Parents, Special Kids” for the Mahoning Valley Parent magazine in Ohio; and has expanded into Parent magazines in parts of Pennsylvania and West Virginia.
She is also a contributing author at http://www.mommiesmagazine.com/.Maria's first published work is in Jan Ross and Jeanice McDade's Women of Passion's anthology, "Ordinary Women Serving an Extraordinary God". Both Kim and Maria have been selected to have their work tentatively included in Lori Wagner's upcoming book, Quilting Patches of Life, Volume 2.

The Advocate

noreply@blogger.com (The Narrow Gate Girls) — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 04:00:00 +0000

If you've read any of my blogging, you know the last few years have been marked with health insurance issues. One of the most awesome things God ever did was give me a word that one claim (thousands of dollars) would end up in total and complete victory. That's another story that indeed in His way lead to the very thing He promised.

But the story didn't end there like I hoped. Ever since we get unusual claims that make no sense. They aren't as staggering as that first claim, but it rocks me to the core none the less. I've written before that my fear over receiving mail from insurance is so strong, I equate it to my personal kryptonite.

When I was recovering from surgery, I received a piece of mail, a bill, from a local hospital. It was a bill dated 10/2008 from a service back in 6/06. Our employer doesn't even use that insurance anymore, so I figured great, here we go again.

For awhile we did. Trying to trace the bill it appeared the insurance reversed their payment, and the hospital decided someone has to pay it, it might as well be me.

What I'm sure they didn't count on was me not giving in without a fight. Sure I had fear, a lot of it, but I called the insurance company we used to have. They had no idea what was going on so they called for a review. They were nice enough to keep in touch with me to let me know they still could not track where they took back any payment. Still, they kept investigating.

I did my part by calling the hospital to let them know where things stood. A couple weeks ago I called with a specific name, department, phone number and extension of the person working with me in case the hospital wanted proof it was truly under investigation. The person on the phone was extremely rude. She wouldn't even take any information, instead telling me to pay up now or go to collections.

Um...no.

I was scared and shaking but I said sorry, I've been screwed by claims before and I'm not handing over my checkbook until I know it's legitimate. She relented and told me to call back later.

Oh did I.

But first, I called the insurance and asked for the person who has been working with me. She was on another call but the girl who answered the phone asked if she could help? What? Another person wants to help me? I asked if it was possible for someone to call the hospital and assure them they are reviewing the claim.

She did me one better. She called the hospital, created a conference call, and pretty much made a poor guy who happened to answer the phone on behalf of the hospital billing department sweat bullets.

By the end of the call she got him to admit he didn't even have proof that the insurance ever took back payment. If that's the case, there is no need to even generate a bill. He promised he'd look for that proof and fax it right to her.

I thanked her over and over for being my advocate. She stood in the gap for me and pleaded my case.

I don't have the end of the story, at least I don't think so. The poor guy left me a message regarding the fax. I never requested the fax, insurance did. When I tried to call with the local number he gave (I believe the hospital consults out) it was a wrong number. When I tried to call the out of state number he originally called on, it just rang and rang.

I'll keep pursuing it but my gut (which I'm believing is the Holy Spirit) is this bill was dismissed. My advocate assured me during the conference call she was sure this event would be resolved immediately. I'm believing with her.

But that lady, no matter what happens, showed me in the flesh what an advocate can do. Just think about Jesus. He stands in the gap for us and pleads our case in front of Our Heavenly Father. I can't put in words how I felt knowing she was for me and on my side.

So why do we drag our feet when it comes to trusting the best Advocate of all?

March 20-27 is Five Minutes For Mom's Ultimate Blog Party 09. This is a great way for women bloggers to connect and meet new cyber friends. There are always a ton of great giveaways and The Narrow Gate Invites and The Surrendered Scribe both are going to be in on the party.
This site will be giving away one copy of Women of Passions:Ordinary Women Serving an Extraordinary God by Jeanice McDade and Janet Ross.

Both Maria and I have works included in this book. It's a wonderful book with many stories, poems and testimonies by women you may know in the blogging world. As a reader I have to tell you I was blown away by the depth the women shared. They opened a curtain up of their lives and totally let the reader in. The book blessed me and we are excited to give it away.
So stay tuned and let folks know about the Ultimate Blog Party. It's an awesome event!

Julie Arduini is a wife, mom and surrendering writer. Her personal blog, The Surrendered Scribe, shows her writing resume. A graduate of the Christian Writers Guild, she is also a columnist with Take Root and Write. She has a tentative story to contribute to the Jeanette Littleton book, GodSightings. Her verse for 2009 is Deuteronomy 11:11-12. She's a new columnist with the daily online newspaper, The Cypress Times.

Moving Boxes

noreply@blogger.com (The Narrow Gate Girls) — Thu, 05 Mar 2009 05:00:00 +0000

I thought the Wii Fit would serve as a great exercise for my changing body. I never thought the Holy Spirit would use it for an exercise of my mind!

I was doing the body test and at the end is a balance exercise. One had me standing still, looking at a red circle in the middle. Suddenly moving boxes start floating. I started leaning towards the boxes and not the circle.

When the test ended, I obviously scored low for balance. It gave a tip at the end that could have knocked me flat.

"Be sure you don't follow visual cues. Keep your focus

on the middle to stay steady."

I can't let go of that sentence. Isn't it natural to sway with the front page declaring depression? Nose dive in faith after a phone call questioning your parenting? Tumble after an unexpected bill arrives?

These are the moving boxes I move to, forgetting the steady, red dot in the middle.

I'm working on focus and staying still no matter what's floating around me.

How about you?

***

March 20-27 is Five Minutes For Mom's Ultimate Blog Party 09. This is a great way for women bloggers to connect and meet new cyber friends. There are always a ton of great giveaways and The Narrow Gate Invites and The Surrendered Scribe both are going to be in on the party.

This site will be giving away one copy of Women of Passions: Ordinary Women Serving an Extraordinary God by Jeanice McDade and Janet Ross. Both Maria and I have works included in this book. It's a wonderful book with many stories, poems and testimonies by women you may know in the blogging world. As a reader I have to tell you I was blown away by the depth the women shared. They opened a curtain up of their lives and totally let the reader in. The book blessed me and we are excited to give it away.

So stay tuned and let folks know about the Ultimate Blog Party. It's an awesome event!

Julie Arduini is a wife, mom and surrendering writer. Her personal blog, The Surrendered Scribe, shows her writing resume. A graduate of the Christian Writers Guild, she is also a columnist with Take Root and Write. She has a tentative story to contribute to the Jeanette Littleton book, GodSightings. Her verse for 2009 is Deuteronomy 11:11-12. She's a new columnist with the daily online newspaper, The Cypress Times.

Robbed To Redemption

noreply@blogger.com (The Narrow Gate Girls) — Fri, 27 Feb 2009 17:45:00 +0000

There are so many keywords and themes God is putting in my path these days, I could blog a whole lot more if I had the time.

I'm quite taken with this revelation.

It's no secret or surprise Christians the last few years have been attacked. I know from 2003-5 I wasn't sure I'd survive the onslaught of loss and change. On the other side of those things I totally see the purpose behind those hard times. I'm stronger, and now I'm serving out of those broken places.

What I never thought about though was moving beyond the robbed. I know God had a plan for His glory in all those things, but I knew also the defeated one had a target on my back and wanted me down and out for good. So many people have been robbed of so many things by his tactics.

Here's the good news. Besides God using what satan intended for evil as God's glory, He redeems. For every financial hit, persecution, health crisis, all the hits that nearly knocked me out---I'm asking for 100 fold redeeming situation.

Not because God is Santa and I'm demanding tit for tat.

Because He is my Daddy and He wants to lavish on us, more than we can ever guess.

I'm already feeling the redemption. Despite everything around me in the news, there is a joy deep in my heart once I start to laugh I'm afraid I won't be able to stop. It is joy only God can give.

Are you living with a robbed mentality or redemptive?

Julie Arduini is a wife, mom and surrendering writer. Her personal blog, The Surrendered Scribe, shows her writing resume. A graduate of the Christian Writers Guild, she is also a columnist with Take Root and Write. She has a tentative story to contribute to the Jeanette Littleton book, GodSightings. Her verse for 2009 is Deuteronomy 11:11-12. She's a new columnist with the daily online newspaper, The Cypress Times.

The Hearts Behind Real Living Ministries

noreply@blogger.com (The Narrow Gate Girls) — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 05:00:00 +0000

It’s a common phrase you probably hear from teens: “Get real.” However when you hear the words from Perry and Joy Chickonoski, the phrase takes a fuller meaning.

Joy and Perry Chickonoski are the founders and co-leaders of Real Living Ministries based in Boardman, OH, a suburb of Youngstown. Their mission is to ignite a passionate relationship with Jesus Christ through Real Living Ministries’ Life Coaching Center. Perry and Joy have a team of dedicated volunteers equipping the church through personal coaching, workshops, small groups and community events. Together they encourage, motivate, and train the body of Christ and bring the gospel to the pre-Christian on their terms.

Real Living stands for Responding Entirely to the Affections of the Lord. Joy explains, “Real Living is not just looking to start something new, but rather to return to God’s original plan for the body of Christ. Everyone wants to feel alive: to love and to be loved without conditions. This is what it means to ‘desire life.’

Joy comes to Real Living with over twenty-five years of international and national service. She’s an ordained minister and an author of Becoming Lovers: The Journey from Disciple of Christ to Bride of Christ.

Perry Chickonoski is Vice President in charge of Business Banking for Chase in Youngstown. He has twenty years of service helping small businesses get their start. In addition, Perry has over fifteen years experience as local church treasurer. His experience and understanding of business and church affairs gives him unique perspective for church boards and pastors seeking financial freedom. Working in the business field, especially in this economic climate, Perry explains his heart to serve at Real Living.

“Everyone wants ‘good days;’ to wake up in the morning knowing that your life means something and that you are a part of something extraordinary.”

Real Living’s encouragement comes from 1 Peter 3:10-11. Through Real Living ministries, their heart is help people seek peace. Peace begins with getting REAL with God, ourselves and others.

Real Life Ministries is sponsoring a conference, Come to the Journey. Hosted by New Life Assembly of God in Poland, Ohio, the conference is based off of Joy’s book.

The conference is for men and women who want to deepen their relationship with the Lord. The cost of the event is $30.00 per person before the 21st, and $35.00 at the door. No childcare is available for this event.

To learn more about Real Living Ministries, Joy Chickonoski or her book, or the Come to the Journey Conference, please visit http://www.getrealliving.com/ and http://www.localadlink.com/. To call Real Living Ministries for more information, please call 1-330-965-6000.

Julie Arduini is a wife, mom and surrendering writer. Her personal blog, The Surrendered Scribe, shows her writing resume. A graduate of the Christian Writers Guild, she is also a columnist with Take Root and Write. She recently placed 10th in the JournEzine Christmas story contest about the Good News of Bethlehem. Her verse for 2009 is Deuteronomy 11:11-12. She's a new columnist with the daily online newspaper, The Cypress Times.

One True Love

noreply@blogger.com (The Narrow Gate Girls) — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 05:00:00 +0000

In this week filled with “love”—Valentines, roses and chocolate…I am thanking the Lord for His love.

Unconditional love.

Laura Woodley’s lyrics from “Into The Light” resound within my soul this Valentine’s day…words from the Lord to us….

I want her
I love her
She’s the one for me.
I choose her
I know her
My blood has made her clean
She is my true love.

Even though I have known the Lord for almost four years now, it wasn’t until recently that I truly completely began to understand and accept this love. It is a love like no other.

Pure.
All-encompassing.
True.

He will never leave you.
He will never disappoint you.
He is always with you.

Always.

This Valentine’s day, be grateful for your one true love.

His name is Jesus.

Maria and her family reside in NE Ohio. She and her husband are the parents of two. Their daughter is a person with hemipelegic cerebral palsy.Because of her experiences, Maria provides parent-to-parent support for families involved in her local early intervention program. Her gift for writing has come directly from the Lord since her daughter’s diagnosis. She writes a monthly column entitled, “Special Parents, Special Kids” for the Mahoning Valley Parent magazine in Ohio; and has expanded into Parent magazines in parts of Pennsylvania and West Virginia.
She is also a contributing author at http://www.mommiesmagazine.com/.Maria's first published work is in Jan Ross and Jeanice McDade's Women of Passion's anthology, "Ordinary Women Serving an Extraordinary God". Both Kim and Maria have been selected to have their work tentatively included in Lori Wagner's upcoming book, Quilting Patches of Life, Volume 2.

Now This Takes Focus

noreply@blogger.com (The Narrow Gate Girls) — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 05:00:00 +0000

During the afternoon, I'll be with a group of ladies. I get to speak today and guess what the topic is?

Focus.

I'm going to end my presentation showing everyone this picture, challenging myself and them to focus on Him in everything.

Does this picture just sum that up perfectly?

Because you can focus on the crowds, the traffic, the birds, the wire (just like we focus on work, family, finances, church, things), all good things that make sense.

The focus has to be on Him when it comes to the family, the finances, work, church, things...

I'll let you know how it goes...right now I have to...

FOCUS!

Julie Arduini is a wife, mom and surrendering writer. Her personal blog, The Surrendered Scribe, shows her writing resume. A graduate of the Christian Writers Guild, she is also a columnist with Take Root and Write. She recently placed 10th in the JournEzine Christmas story contest about the Good News of Bethlehem. Her verse for 2009 is Deuteronomy 11:11-12. She's a new columnist with the daily online newspaper, The Cypress Times.

Deep Calls To Deep

noreply@blogger.com (The Narrow Gate Girls) — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 05:00:00 +0000

The worship song “ All Who Are Thirsty” has been resounding in my soul these days…the verse is as follows:

“All who are thirsty,
and All who are weak,
Come to the fountain,
dip your heart in the
Stream of Life
Let the pain and the sorrow,
be washed away
In the waves of His mercy as
Deep calls out to deep…”

Psalm 42:7 states, “Deep calls to deep in the roar of your waterfalls; all your waves and breakers have swept over me.”

I never truly knew what “deep cries out to deep” meant until recently. When a challenge enters your world, and you exhaust all of your emotional and physical energy trying to overcome it in your own strength, true surrender happens.

True, honest surrender.

When life comes at you, and completely breaks you into a million little pieces, you have absolutely no other choice but to humble yourself and become transparent before the Lord.

Humble.
Transparent.
Broken.

Then and only then can you receive the deep, amazing, refreshing healing of God’s overflowing river of mercy, love, and hope.

Humble yourself before the Lord.

Repent of your sins, no matter how small or how large you think they are.

He already knows the secrets of your heart.

Go ahead.

Dip your heart in the Stream of Life.

Receive all of His promises.

He is waiting.

She is also a contributing author at http://www.mommiesmagazine.com/.Maria's first published work is in Jan Ross and Jeanice McDade's Women of Passion's anthology, "Ordinary Women Serving an Extraordinary God". Both Kim and Maria have been selected to have their work tentatively included in Lori Wagner's upcoming book, Quilting Patches of Life, Volume 2.

My Action Plan

noreply@blogger.com (The Narrow Gate Girls) — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 15:03:00 +0000

This past week I had the experience of writing and revising my first formal 'action plan.' It sounds so business like to me - action plan, strategic plan, p.o.a. meeting, . . . so many words and they sound so formal. I tend to be the creative type, one who has so many ideas swirling in my mind at one time. I am a do-er, a go-getter or as my husband says, "I know you like to 'fly off the cuff' or 'shoot from the hip' but a plan will help you to focus. Ahh . . . focus, now he had my attention.

So on a Saturday morning we sat down with our mission statement and began writing our action plan. It took a long time, was tedious and sometimes frustrating , but in the end we had a two page plan with a main goal, objectives, action steps, and measurement tools with dates. A visual plan, an action plan, a guide . . . with focus on Jesus.

Since then I have used 'the plan' as a guide. It has given me direction, helped me plan my days, and most of all it has helped me to stay focused. On a daily basis it reminds me of what He has called me to do while I am here on the earth in addition to being a wife, a mother, a daughter, a friend.

What does your plan or rather I should say what does 'His plan' for your life look like?

Sit down with a piece of paper, a pencil, and the Lord. Ask Him. I'm sure He will amaze you.

Kim

What's Your Motivation?

noreply@blogger.com (The Narrow Gate Girls) — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 05:00:00 +0000

Along with focus, there are other themes God is bringing to the front burner. Love. Heart. Motivation.

What?

You mean like the actor preparing for his role saying, "What's my motivation?"

Yeah, like that.

The better my focus, the healthier my heart and love---the better my motivation.

But once my focus is off Him and on my self, boy does my motivation take a turn. A bad turn.

My desire this year is to have His heart, His focus, His love, His motivation.

And for it to be no act!

Lord, help me!

Anyone out there relate?

Julie Arduini is a wife, mom and surrendering writer. Her personal blog, The Surrendered Scribe, shows her writing resume. A graduate of the Christian Writers Guild, she is also a columnist with Take Root and Write. She recently placed 10th in the JournEzine Christmas story contest about the Good News of Bethlehem. Her verse for 2009 is Deuteronomy 11:11-12. She's a new columnist with the daily online newspaper, The Cypress Times.

Shifting Your Focus

noreply@blogger.com (The Narrow Gate Girls) — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 19:41:00 +0000

Maria's note:

As you may or may not know, I write a monthly column for our local Parent magazine entitled, "Special Parents, Special Kids" and as I was writing next month's, I realized Julie, Kim and I were all writing on the same thing: Focus. Even though my article is geared toward reaching parents of children with disabilities, I pray all moms and dads will find peace in "Shifting" their focus once and awhile...and know that God has it all figured out, anyway...He is in control.

I’m sure all of you, like me, have many other responsibilities in your everyday lives besides caring for your special child. Taking care of our spouse, other children, our home—meeting the demands at work or school, etc…Things that aren’t always the first on our minds, because our special child may need more of our attention and energy, more of the time. Not that the other people and responsibilities are not important, just that when you became a special parent, things just shifted in the direction of that child’s needs above all—treatments, therapies, appointments, research, school needs, etc...

I have tried to multi-task to the best of my ability over the past 6 years, and train myself to be there for everything, all the time. And as I’m sure you can imagine, it doesn’t always work out that way.

Recently, I had the privilege of shifting my attention to other things (very important things) in my life—and I call it a privilege because I realized that even in the midst of not staring at my daughter and focusing on the next step in her treatment—she survived! And I gained a new perspective on this special parenting life of mine. It’s OK to make other people and things priority, and not feel guilty about it.

When other things take precedence over your special child, it actually forces you to take a few steps back and see the fruits of your labor. Most of us spent (or you may be still spending, depending on how old your child is or when you became a special parent) many of the early days in our journey setting up services for our child. Making sure he or she received the best care, the best way we knew how. We made mistakes along the way, but reached a point of knowing when to continue on a path, and when to take a detour. If you’ve been on this road for awhile, you have learned the ins and outs of the things that may benefit your child, and if they are a right fit for your situation.

When events cause you to change the focus of your attention to other things in your life, it creates an opportunity for you to actually be proud of yourself as a parent.

I recently had this happen to me, and when it was all said and done, I was grateful for my mind—that I allowed it to focus on other very precious and important things in my life. And it made my heart happy—that I gave my daughter the opportunity to shine on her own. I didn’t need to constantly have her on the front page of my to-do list. She was able to “stand on her own” so to speak, without me holding her hand through each step. The break allowed me to rejoice in how far I have come as a special parent—and how so far she has come on her own—without me.

Our kids grow and learn and progress---all at different times, and at different paces—without us. As hard as that is for me to actually say, and see the written words—it is so very refreshing. Many of us have been carrying the burden of our child’s disability within us for a very long time—and I finally know now that it was never a burden after all. It has been an honor—to be chosen to be her parent, and to do it the best way I know how with the support of services and friends—and God. He chose me after all, and He chose you.

Taking a step back from your situation and taking a deep breath will help you see that. Even if circumstances beyond your control cause you to do it, and your attention has to be spent elsewhere—it is worth it. I truly believe He wants us to capture each moment of our lives—not just with our special children—but with all of our children, with our spouses, at our workplace, and in our day to day routines.

Our children were given to us for a very specific purpose.

Not so we could minimize the other things in our lives, but to enhance them.

Enjoy each moment.

Take a breath.

Be proud of the very special parent you are.

Maria and her family reside in NE Ohio. She and her husband are the parents of two. Their daughter is a person with hemipelegic cerebral palsy.Because of her experiences, Maria provides parent-to-parent support for families involved in her local early intervention program. Her gift for writing has come directly from the Lord since her daughter’s diagnosis. She writes a monthly column entitled, “Special Parents, Special Kids” for the Mahoning Valley Parent magazine in Ohio; and has expanded into Parent magazines in parts of Pennsylvania and West Virginia. She is also a contributing author at http://www.mommiesmagazine.com/.Maria's first published work is in Jan Ross and Jeanice McDade's Women of Passion's anthology, "Ordinary Women Serving an Extraordinary God". Both Kim and Maria have been selected to have their work tentatively included in Lori Wagner's upcoming book, Quilting Patches of Life, Volume 2.

Calling All Worshippers

noreply@blogger.com (The Narrow Gate Girls) — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 17:01:00 +0000

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Once again I am going to follow Julie's lead with the theme this week. Worship . . . the word alone gives me goose bumps. I too am a worshipper.

When I first began walking in my faith I thought everyone should be jumping around and worshipping like I do, at the altar, hands up, singing and praising. After all, we serve a mighty God, how could people just sit in their seats? Well, my thoughts have certainly changed since then, and yes once in awhile you can still find me dancing at the altar, but most often I can be found with my hands in the air at my seat or sitting quietly holding my son, all while worshipping the glory of our God.

Worship . . . we all worship in our own way. One friend worships on Sunday through the beauty of 'the mass,' another through the lens of her camera, another while holding babies in the nursery, another while sitting quietly with his hands folded and head bowed. Everyday we have the opportunity to worship Him through our words, our actions, and the choices we make.

Worship. How do you worship? Not just on Sundays but each day.

Worship Him. He is worthy of our praise.

************************************************************************************

Kim

The Visual Worshipper

noreply@blogger.com (The Narrow Gate Girls) — Thu, 22 Jan 2009 05:00:00 +0000

I think another part of the Focus message God is speaking to me is to slow myself down and focus on Him so I don't miss even the smallest detail He wants to share.

This week He blessed me with a message I know on my own, I'd miss even if it was on a billboard in front of me. I'm really embracing the message because it addresses a regret I've quietly carried.

I'm not a worshipper. At least I didn't think I was. You've read Maria's posts, now she is a worshipper. My husband is a worshipper. These are people who can stand on a platform and scream hallelujah and praise His name---on key no less.

That's not me.

This week I learned it's not supposed to be that way.

What I've been is a nature lover. In college, even in my wildest times, I still marveled at a sunset. No matter what was going on around me, a water scene like a lake or beach gave me peace I could never put in words.

But I took pictures.

I take pictures of clouds, flowers, sunsets, weather, and nature locations. Recently I started sharing those pictures and even framed them all and placed them throughout the living room. I really had no clue why beyond they gave me peace.

This week He gave me the answer. I believe I read it, but this is what I learned,

I am a visual worshipper.

My pictures are simple, but the clouds, the perspective, I truly don't know how to explain it, display God's mastery. When I go to these peaceful places and snap a picture, it's my worship time. When I share those pictures, I'm on key visually to shout to the world, "Hallelujah! Isn't He great?" I don't need a choir platform for that.

He gave me a lens instead.

Does this resonate with any of you?

Julie Arduini is a wife, mom and surrendering writer. Her personal blog, The Surrendered Scribe, shows her writing resume. A graduate of the Christian Writers Guild, she is also a columnist with Take Root and Write. She recently placed 10th in the JournEzine Christmas story contest about the Good News of Bethlehem. Her verse for 2009 is Deuteronomy 11:1-12. She's a new columnist with the daily online newspaper, The Cypress Times. All nature pictures are from her camera, captured in Upstate NY or NE Ohio.