The New Man: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp

TNM 082: Siona Van Dijk - How to Use an Online Dating Site

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 01:00:00 -0000

Are you one of the millions of men who are looking to find that special someone? Are you quietly using or considering an online dating website? And if so, how is your online profile already screwing up your chance to meet Mrs Right? This week, Siona Van Dijk from the online dating site, Gaia Soulmates is here to help you avoid looking like a tool while making the most of your online dating efforts.So many men (and women) are screwing up their chances for finding a partner just by falling into a few potholes in their profile. In this show, Siona Van Dijk walks us through some of these danger zones and helps you get the most of your online dating experience. In this episode:How do you get the most out an online dating site?Is there a stigma around online dating?How are dating sites different from Facebook and other community sites?How are guys screwing up their profiles?How is your profile perceived by your potential partner?How long should you plan to be on an online dating site?How can you create a unique and authentic profile?How to move the online interaction into a face to face date?How many dates should you go on?What’s more important -- shared values or shared interests?Where online can you find women with depth and consciousness? Visit http://soulmates.gaia.com/

TNM 081: Derek Sivers - Capitalism with Heart and The Tao of Business

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 01:00:00 -0000

Are you one of those guys who seems to get paralyzed in the process of starting something new?Do you think you need a bunch of training or preparation before you can take action? And what is the one single practice that will change how you experience everything in your life? This week, we’ve got Derek Sivers on the show to talk about The Tao of Business and how any situation in your life can become a positive one.In this day and age of corrupt capitalists, CDBaby founder Derek Sivers shows us how you can build a multimillion dollar company just by focusing on helping others. In this episode, Derek reveals the Tao of Business and how just trying to make money usually delivers the opposite.In this show:What is the Tao of Business and how can it help you even if you don’t own a business?Do you need an MBA or a bunch of training to run a business? How can learning too much be harmful?How does personal development influence how you earn a living?What is the practice Derek uses to turn *everything* into a positive experience?If you’re prone to take things seriously, how can you learn to be more playful and creative with your life?What’s the simplest way to build a solid business in a very short period of time?How did the Segway inventor screw up royally and what can you learn from this?Visit Derek Sivers online: http://sivers.org

TNM 080: Reuvain Bacal - How to Handle a Breakup or Loss

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 01:00:00 -0000

How do you handle a breakup or the loss of something big in your life?Do you “man up” and act like nothing’s wrong, go numb or collapse into a pitiful pity party?And how can you keep this loss from festering and infecting your future relationships?This week we’re talking about breakups and loss. Listen in as Reuvain Bacal and I lay out some options to help you get through the tough times and come out a stronger man.This is an extra special episode. We’ve had tons of requests to dive into this topic so we spent the extra time delivering even more helpful information that you can use today.In this episode:Why do men have a tendency to isolate when they struggle?Should a guy just “get back on the horse” or “spend some time alone”?How can a bad breakup infect future interactions with women?Why do we idealize our partner after they’re gone?How does stress from the breakup or loss ravage your body?Why is acting like a tough guy actually a sign of weakness?How to avoid collapsing into your own self pity?How do you work with intense emotions and confusion?What can you do to help the recovery process move along quicker?When is it okay to get back into dating?How can breakups be a catalyst for getting your life on track?When is it time to get professional help?

TNM 079: Brian Johnson - How to Wire Your Brain for Success and Positivity Part 2

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 01:00:00 -0000

What is the difference between pleasure and enjoyment?What habit is the quickest ticket to a depressing life?And how can you become an optimist without being full of shit?This is part two of our talk on positive psychology with Philosophers Notes creator, Brian Johnson. Join us as we lay out the fundamentals to having a fulfilling life.Visit: http://philosophersnotes.com/thenewmanIn this episode:What drains you?What depletes you?What’s the difference between pleasure and enjoyment?Bill Harris, “Thresholds of the Mind” & HolosyncWhat are the fundamentals to living a satisfying life?Why is a gratitude journal huge?Quit your bitching!Are you proactive or do you play the victim?What is the quickest ticket to depression?What is a practical optimist?How does a pessimist view the world?How to be more optimistic?http://philosophersnotes.com/thenewman

TNM 078: Brian Johnson - How to Wire Your Brain for Success and Positivity Pt 1

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 01:00:00 -0000

What is the real reason you work so hard to have security, friends, sex, status and, hell, anything?Do you have a job, a career or a calling?And what are the simple steps you can follow to ensure that you have a life full of satisfaction and fulfillment?Sound like a cream-dream? Well, philosopher and entreprenuerial badass, Brian Johnson is back on The New Man to talk about what the emerging field of Positive Psychology can do for you.Visit http://philosophersnotes.com/thenewmanIn this episode:What is Positive Psychology?Why does it matter to you?Martin Seligman, “Authentic Happiness”Abraham MaslowMihaly Csikszentmihalyi, “Flow”What is the science of happiness, true well-being and flourishing?Happiness is the end game -- beyond material possessions, spirituality, relationships, sexWhat are your unique strengths?Find your signature strengths at http://www.authentichappiness.comHow do you find out what you love?Do you have a job, a career or a calling?Marci Shimoff, “Happy for No Reason”Maslow, “What one CAN be, one MUST be.”How do you create flow in your life?http://philosophersnotes.com/thenewman

TNM 077: Kendra Cunov - What is Polyamory and How do Open Relationships Work?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 01:00:00 -0000

Is polyamory just a fancy word for sleeping around when you’re in a committed relationship?Do all open relationships end in a self absorbed, sex-crazed disaster? And what can you learn from the mother of a newborn who stayed home last night while her husband was on a date?This week, Kendra Cunov is on The New Man to discuss her experience with polyamory and open relationships.Kendra is the mother of a newborn and also the wife in an open marriage. In this episode she talks about her extensive experience with polyamory and open relationships. You will not want to miss this interview.In this episode:What is Polyamory?Open relationshipsOpen marriage and pregnancyHow to be parents and be in an open marriageNot just for about the sexDoes wanting an open relationship mean something is wrong with your current relationship?The number 1 pitfall of open relationshipsWhat about jealousy?Is having an open relationship a lot of work?Why do open relationships fail?What needs to be in place before a couple would try an open relationship?

TNM 076: Joel Harper - No more excuses! Do you DESERVE to be in amazing shape?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 01:00:00 -0000

What’s your excuse for not being in shape? Is it not enough time or money to go to the gym?How is staying fit like brushing your teeth?And what can you do when your partner and you are just not on the same page when it comes to fitness?This week, big time and big city personal trainer, Joel Harper is on the show to tell you everything you need to know to get off your ass and stay in shape.Joel Harper is a long-time certified personal trainer in New York City. He trains everyone from celebrities to Olympic Medalists and his training philosophies have been captured in the New York Times best-selling books YOU: THE OWNER'S MANUAL, YOU: ON A DIET, YOU: STAYING YOUNG and YOU: BEING BEAUTIFUL with Dr. Mehmet Oz.Joel's workouts have been featured in multiple publications and TV programs, from Esquire to Oprah Magazine, all because his simple yet effective, no machines, no barbells exercises get results.In this episode, Joel delivers a ton of information that will eliminate any excuses you may have created. Time, money, equipment -- it doesn’t matter. He also lays out some fundamentals for working out, how to deal with your partner when you’re not on the same fitness page and confronting any possibility that you may not believe you deserve to be in great shape. In this show:Joel’s Workouts: No equipment necessary, short amount of timeThe 4 Key Factors to Effective WorkoutsStretching -- when/how to get most benefits Why is it easier for certain guys to stay in shape than others?Why do you workout? To look better or to be stronger?What about the guy that doesn’t have time to workout?What to do if you’re feeling painWhat happens if you and your partner are out of sync when it comes to fitness?Do you deserve to be in amazing shape? In a great relationship? In a great job?So much conflicting information on fitness and nutrition: What are the facts?What’s one thing you can do to feel more fit and strong today?Where to find Joel’s workouts online for freehttp://www.fitpackdvd.com

TNM 075: Bryan Bayer - Sexual Hang Ups and How to Overcome Them

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 01:00:00 -0000

Bryan Bayer -- Sexual Hang Ups and How to Overcome ThemAre you one of those guys who gets all squirmy when the topic of sex comes up?What are your beliefs around sex? Is it dirty and bad? Or fun and nourishing?And how does your relationship TO sex affect EVERYTHING in your life -- especially your interactions with women?This week Bryan Bayer is here to talk about how all of us have hang ups with fornication and what you can do to today to have a better sex life.In this episode:http://www.tripplanier.com/sexWhat are the blocks that come up for guys around sex?All of us have some hang ups or hooks around sexNot owning desire has us making small talk, talking bullshitYour relationship to sex is communicated LOUDLY outside of the bedroomWomen can feel where you’re hung up on sexHow can some guys “get away with” talking explicit about sex with women?If you’re not comfortable with yourself as a primal, sexual being it will show up in many areas of your lifeIt affects guys in relationships tooAre you bringing your raw masculine attraction to the bedroom?Guys can be in touch with their raw masculine but at the same time objectifying their partnerGuys can be in a connected space with their partner but lacking a true passionate groundSex with heart, raw/primal energy is an idealMacho Jerk is all about the cock, raw/primal energy but no heartNew Age Wimp is all about the heart connection but lacks his primal/raw energyGrowing up with guilt/shame around sexPhysical blocksProtecting your ballsPay attention to where you hold tension in your bodyBreathing fully can impact sexual polarityEmotional blocksBelief structures“Sex is...” fill in the blankFind your unconscious beliefs around sexInterpersonal blocks -- Relationship blocksSex is suffering because relationship is sufferingPunishing our partner or vice versaNot feeling safe with our partner or vice versaResonance vs polarityDavid Deida -- masculine and femininePolarity and intensity come from not doing everything togetherThe importance of the Man-caveQuality of time vs quantity of time with your partnerEmotional hang upsFear of sexPerformance anxietyNotice where you hold tension, how full is your breathingTake a look at your belief structures around sexNotice where you’re holding back emotionsIf you’re holding back in your relationship, start being more straight forwardIf you feel that the relationship is losing its zing, be willing to spend less time together in service of creating more passion and polarityAuthentic Sexual Power -- DVDs and CDsVery explicit and informative PracticesFor more information on the Authentic Sexual Power DVD Set visit:http://www.tripplanier.com/sex

TNM 074: Pt 2 How to Navigate a Woman's Emotional Minefield

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 01:04:00 -0000

When you’re woman freaks out, do you buckle or try to make it all go away?Do you prefer a passionate woman or a stepford wife robot?And does your woman really support you or does it seem like she’s just another obstacle getting in the way of the life you want to have?Alyson Schwabe and Christiane Pelmas are back for part 2 of our talk on how to navigate a woman’s emotional mine field.This is part 2 of our in depth talk on how to approach tough topics with your woman. In this one, we learn a BIG lesson around how to deal with a woman’s “emotional storm”, how saying “yes, dear” is killing her respect for you and other tips for avoiding those big traps men often fall into.For information regarding The Red Pill Weekend visit http://www.tripplanier.com/redpillIn this episode:Don’t be afraid of your woman’s stormHow to go through something hard and come out okayWhy am I in this relationship?Life with a woman is about stormStorming is about being passionateDo you want a passionate woman or a stepford wife robot?Storming is to test a man, to see if he’s trustableThe storm does not mean something is wrongDo not buckle to the stormIf you buckle, she will take over your role in the relationship or look for some way to fill itIt’s not about winning a fight or dominating the scenarioShe’s entitled to her response and it has virtually nothing to do with youDon’t take on her feelingsAnd don’t defensively postureStay curiousWe want to know that in our relationships, we can say anythingMost common belief: I’m the only one that has to deal with thisDon’t try to do it aloneGet help with big problem areas -- find a therapist, coach or counselorTrust that your relationship can stand the test and actually growLook at your partner as a team member, not as your opponent

TNM 073: Pt 1 How to Navigate a Woman's Emotional Minefield

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 01:00:00 -0000

Are you scared to bring up certain topics because you don’t want to cause a shitstorm with your girl?Do you resent your partner for saying what you can and can not do?And how is it possible that by avoiding conflict, you’re actually killing the relationship?This week, Alyson Schwabe and Christiane Pelmas are on the show to talk about how to navigate a woman’s emotional minefield and approach taboo subjects or those conversations you’ve been avoiding.In this episode we talk about addressing taboo and touchy topics with your woman. Whether it’s money, going on a weekend trip with the fellas or having anal sex to spice things up in the bedroom -- navigating a woman’s emotional storm depends on YOU being confident in what you want and speaking that clearly. Alyson and Christiane lay out some amazingly valuable tips from a woman’s perspective to help you have a more satisfying relationship.For information regarding The Red Pill Weekend visit http://www.tripplanier.com/redpillIn this episode:“If I could just talk to her about this, things would be better...”Fear that even speaking about stuff will set off a fightCan’t talk about sex, money, health issuesHow to discuss taboosSpeaking your desire is the biggest topicMany people struggling being straight up with what they want in relationshipIt’s a dealbreaker that things can’t even be discussedWe imagine how our partners will respond -- not based in realityDating women with kids from a previous marriageIt’s not okay to speak your truthQuit assuming you know what your partner is going to say or doJoking “around” the subject doesn’t help you -- it hurts youIt’s not the topic that she’s rejecting, it’s how you’re approaching itNot owning your desire has you come off as creepy, untrustworthyIf she can’t trust how you’re speaking about something, she can’t trust how you may do itFallacy: “You’re responsible for my being satisfied”Drill down and get clear about why you desire thisMake it right for having this in your lifeDon’t let your shame stuff it for youDon’t make it that she’s not okay with itDeep down, are you okay with it?If you’re scared or timid -- be straight with that, bring that to the conversationThe danger of cutting off or not owning your desireCutting off what you want makes you less trustworthyShe may not like the content but she’ll trust you moreYou have a choice in every situation -- you just may not like the optionsWhat’s more important to you? To live a lie or to in integrityBeing in relationship with a whole person

TNM 072: Clay Collins - How to Follow Your Purpose AND Pay the Bills

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 02:00:00 -0000

Clay Collins - How to Follow Your Purpose AND Pay the BillsDo you feel stuck in a job but don’t think you could possibly survive as a your own boss?Are you thinking, “If I follow my passion the money will just come!”And is it really possible to connect your life purpose to the way you earn a living? This week, Clay Collins is on the show to talk about how YOU can live your mission AND pay the bills.So many guys make the sickening choice between following what they truly love and sticking with a job just to pay the bills. It’s a tragic “either/or” scenario. Clay Collins has made it his mission to teach men how to build their own business online so that they can care for their families and live a life in alignment with their deeper purpose.Clay brings up a strong point that in our today’s culture where men lack a valid initiation into manhood, owning your own business will serve that purpose. We’ll also talk about the myth of “If I follow my passion the money will just come”, the danger of Job-ification and what you can do today to bring your life into alignment without having to live on the street.Be sure to visit http://www.projectmojavesite.com/newmanIn this episode:The Mission of Project MojaveFinanceYourFreedom.comQuit your job, escape cubicle hellLiving into your full potentialHoping a job will provide a sense of meaning/purposeHoping more education will provide meaning/purposeThere is no job that will “do it all” for youFeeling like a f**k upStumbling in the workforceFeeding your family while following your purposeGuys are hesitant to take financial risks when they have a familyDo you follow your vision or do you feed your family?Internet Marketing and Inner GameWhat is a Freedom Business?Helping people earn a living on the internet within three monthsTo free up time for personal growth, family, etc.Freedom Business is a stepping stone to your Mission BusinessDesigned to work quickly and without much startup moneyInformation ProductsWe want a guarantee of successWe want the nuts and bolts of what to doTesting your business ideaThe Myth of: Do what you love and the money will followBeing driven by opportunityThe need for a purpose in what you doBeing driven by what you loveHow your Freedom Business serves your MissionWhat is Job-ification?How to keep from hating what you doLack of itinitation rites for men in our culture and becoming a man through businessRunning a business will make you grow upMission Mindmap, Statement and JournalWorking on yourself is working on your business“What is my purpose in life?”“What do I need to do today so I can fall asleep tonight in peace knowing I have given everything?”http://www.projectmojavesite.com/newman

TNM 071: Guy Sengstock Pt 2 - Are you trying to get something from the world?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 01:00:00 -0000

Are you spending your day trying to GET money, ass or attention?Do you accumulate things in order to feel better about yourself?And how could you earn a living by helping others transform their lives for the better? This week, Guy Sengstock is back for part 2 of our talk on finding your purpose and mission in life. We’re back with Guy Sengstock in our exploration of how to find your purpose or mission in life. In this episode, Guy shares his own personal story of revealing his passion and gifts.We also make some powerful distinctions around how men use the world as a place to GET SOMETHING -- money, sex, attention, validation, etc. The flip side is seeing the world as a place to EXPRESS SOMETHING -- namely your talents and abilities to provide value or positively impact others.Guy also walks us through a preview of his year long transformational coaching program. This is a great offering to consider if you’re looking to make some major changes in your life AND develop some skills to earn a living by helping others.For more information on this year long transformational coaching visit:http://www.AuthenticManProgram.com/TCLT/Or contact Guy Sengstock at (415) 290-8385 or guy@aretecenter.comFor more information on what Circling is:http://blog.authenticmanprogram.com/2009/05/24/guy/#commentsIn this episode:How Guy found his purpose by following his heartGoing to art school in San FranciscoHow Circling came to beBeing gifted at somethingFeeling more alive giving the giftFollowing where he felt most aliveFollowing his deepest desireThe difficulty of speaking your purpose/missionHow you make your money, the people you hang out withThe importance of having other men in your lifeThe need for feedback from othersHumans are the only creatures who can lie to ourselvesThe Narcissus MythFalling in love with the reflectionAgonizing over a yearning for the reflectionYou already are what you’ve been searching forYou’ve found your purpose when it’s not outside of you “to get”A BMW or ConfidenceWe want things because of the experience we think they will provideWhat is an expression of your confidence?Are you trying to get something from the world?Or are you trying to express something in the world?Look at what you’re currently doing in lifeWhy am I really doing this?Start to be brutally honest with yourselfWhat does that get you?Did you choose this?If no, what would you choose?Coaching, therapy, men’s groupsDavid DeidaYour death bedGuy’s year long coaching programHow to be fully yourselfCreating transformational momentsYear long transformational crucible

TNM 070: Guy Sengstock - How do you find your purpose or mission?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 01:00:00 -0000

Is your job a place to just make money or is it something you deeply love?Do you ever find yourself at work wondering, “What in the hell am I doing?”And -- be honest -- why are you living the life you’re living? Is it a reflection of what you deeply desire or has it just happened?This week Guy Sengstock returns to The New Man Podcast to talk about how to find your purpose in life. Guy Sengstock (coach, Arete Creator and Co-Owner of Authentic SF) joins us to talk about how to find your purpose or mission in life. Guy’s purpose (and career) is basically to help others find their purpose; so who better to have in the hot seat? We discuss how men get caught up in the WHAT of their lives -- the emails, the to do list, the accomplishments. And yet we have a deeper connection to WHY we do them. This leaves us feeling drained and burdened instead of alive and energized.Join us as we fumble f--k our way through an exploration of this critical process in a man’s life.For more information on Guy’s year long transformational coaching training visit:http://www.AuthenticManProgram.com/TCLT/Or contact Guy Sengstock at (415) 290-8385 or guy@aretecenter.comFor more information on what Circling is:http://blog.authenticmanprogram.com/2009/05/24/guy/#commentsIn this episode:The Circling ProcessPurposeFinding your missionHelping others find their purposeTrying to find your purpose kinda screws it upThe danger of not listening to yourselfLiving under the ultimate male-illusion“If you work hard enough one day it’ll be over”David DeidaStriving to feel release, blissFinding the answer means finding freedomMen are lost in the content of our livesTo Do Lists, Jobs, Details, the GrindstoneGetting lost in emailsHow do you feel after your work?Purpose equals contextPurpose is why you’re doing what you’re doPurpose is not the accomplishmentYear Long Coaching ProgramWhen work becomes a burdenThe difference between work and living your purposeWhy are you doing what you do?What do you really want?What is my desire? Separating your voice from the voices of others Parents, Friends, SocietyHaving the balls to ask these questionsYou always have a “why” for the things in lifeIs it your “why”?Your current life supports you to stay where you areFeeling drained or burdened indicates you’re not living your purposeStart to get honest with yourselfBe willing to admit that you don’t know what is driving youWhat gives your actions meaning?Start with what is your purpose right now?Are you living someone else’s life?Doing what your told?Defying what your told?Everything I do is something I’ve consciously do from the heartDiscovering your prison cell is elatingYou’re not locked in your prison cellThe beginning of choiceYou can only make choices for things that you’re aware ofThere’s more possibleContinuously waking upNot a utopiaIs your “why” a chosen why?

TNM 069: King Mott - How Can a Gay Man Help Your Monogamous Sex Life?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 01:03:00 -0000

Are you one of those guys who confuses homosexuality with pedophilia?How are gay men similar to straight men?And what can you learn from a gay man about improving the sex in your monogamous relationship?This week Associate Professor King Mott is on the show to discuss taking on the Roman Catholic Church and what to do about you married guys that are cruising for ass away from home.This week King Mott joins us on The New Man. He’s an Associate Professor of Political Science and Gender Studies at Seton Hall University and recently went head to head with the Roman Church over their scapegoating of homosexuals in the pedophilia cases that plagued the institution.King also discusses what it’s like to be a gay man in America, how gays (generally) see the world much differently than straight men, what it’s like to be a gay man doing men’s work and how gay men are way ahead in the realm of having sexually satisfying monogamous relationships. In this episode:Roman Catholic ChurchPedophiliaHomsexualityEquating pedophiles and homosexualsHomosexuality within the Roman ChurchBigotryThe New York TimesStanding up to the Roman ChurchPrejudice against homosexual, lesbian communityPerpetuating HomophobiaPedophilia has nothing to do with sexual orientationSeton Hall and it’s administrationThe importance of controversial ideasRoman church aiding pedophilesScapegoating gay menThe straight while male establishmentIdeas are changing towards LGBTHomophobia is another form of misogynyWhite straight men are not at faultLiving in a patriarchal societyFear of anything differentThe importance of personal experienceIrony of sex in American cultureMixed messages in our culture with regards to sexSex is privateTrying to legislate sexual moralityBeing a “fag” in the locker roomYounger generations are more tolerantMost of us know someone who is gayMost gay men are not safe in parts of this countryHow are gay and straight men similar?EssentialismGay people see the world differentlyGay ghettos -- Chelsea, the Castro -- crime rates are lowThe danger of stereotypingStraight alpha malesHow gays interact - power differentialsGays and women being outside of the power differentialGays and men’s workThe Mankind ProjectStraight men and same sex experiencesShameBeing in one’s powerSeeking truth in a safe wayFather issuesWaiting to see if it’s safe to come out of the closetGays as social chameleonsTrust is built and earnedWhat gay men and straight men can teach each otherStraight men and the struggle with monogamyGay men and emotional monogamy vs sexual monogamyYou don’t have to expect “everything” out of just one personWhat happens after prince charming meets his princess?The trap of “finding the one”Marriages that are emotionally and sexually deadTalk with your wife that you’re feeling stuck in the marriageShe may be feeling stuck, tooDivorces, satisfying marriagesCLAG -- Center for Lesbian and Gay Studies

TNM 068: Brent Kessel - It's Not About the Money

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 01:00:00 -0000

Brent Kessel -- It’s Not About the MoneyAuthor/Financial Planner/Yogi Brent Kessel joins us to discuss the inner demons and voices we ALL carry with regards to money. First off, money is not the root of all evil -- it’s our grasping and clinging for it. From this place, Kessel helps us figure out what our unconscious processes are that keep us “stuck” financially.Do you and your partner struggle to see eye to eye with your finances? By diving into the different money archetypes, you’ll see the possible solutions for finding harmony with the family finances.Brent’s book, “It’s Not About the Money” is a solid guide for mastering the inner game of money and helping you find true well being.In this episode:Yoga, Meditation and MoneyBlending finances with spiritualityLeaving a meaningful legacyLife changes in IndiaPsychology and FinancesAbacus PortfoliosWhy finances/money such a loaded topic for peopleFear for SurvivalYour financial worst case scenarioFears that we face have less power than the ones we don’tIt’s Not About the MoneyHappiness and fear usually unrelated to how much money you haveIt’s about you, your relationship to fear and moneyA four year old runs your financial lifeIf I just had more I would be happyFulfillment and well beingBelieving advertisingComparing ourselves to othersPrioritize well beingWhy the disconnect between reality and our thoughts?The mind makes a problem out of lifeWhat is running the mental treadmill?Nothing wrong with moneyDalai Lama on moneyMoney is not evilGrasping, clinging creates the problem“If I have that then I’ll be happy”We Get What We Think We DeserveSubconscious mind, nervous system and moneyLottery winners, NFL Players and bankruptcyCore story with moneyEight Financial AchetypesThe GuardianThe Pleasure SeekerThe InnocentThe IdealistThe CaretakerThe StarThe Empire BuilderThe SaverBalance is better than being imbalancedHow to save your marriage with money problemsWe attract the achetype that we most need to developWhat is your money mask?Secrecy keeps us trapped in our money woes

TNM 067: Sean Stephenson -- Get Off Your “But” and Live Large

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 01:00:00 -0000

Sean Stephenson -- Get Off Your “But” and Live LargeIn these “tough times” Sean Stephenson is here to show us how to cut the crap and move forward. Sean avoided a death sentence at birth, multitudes of surgeries and physical setbacks to live an amazing life as a therapist, author and speaker -- impacting people around the world.In one particular story, Sean tells us how his mother asked him if he was going to use his situation as a gift or a burden. Heavy stuff for a fourth grade kid. Sean is here to remind us how to lose the excuses and victim-mentality that keep us playing small. The only thing holding you back is yourself. Listen on if you want to grow.In this episode:Interpreting the challenges in lifeReality Show on A&E “Three Foot Giant”Your “victim story” is the biggest thing holding you backFairness is an illusionYour responsibility to live is a vicTOR vs a vicTIMYour mentality creates your realityLiving your dreams makes some people nervousIs this going to be a gift or a burden in your life?Nobody has it easyMaintain and upgrade your beliefsHow your community keeps you where you areSurround yourself with solid peopleThe “Sean-tourage”You are like your friendsCharacter traits of those around youHow do we choose our friends?If something is meant to be, you can take it slowTolerating crappy relationshipsBook -- “Get Off Your But”FearsInsecuritiesExcusesGo for long term pleasure which is fulfillingFinding your purpose is sexyWhat do I need to do today to be living my purpose?Where are you most happy & fulfilled?We are more scared of success than failureBeing challenged about how much you want itRule with a velvet hammerHow challenging yourself physically strengthens you mentallyWhat was the worst day of your life?Learn from others’ experiencesThe boundary of your problemFace your fearWhen you do things that are courageous you gain confidenceInnerGameMagazine.com

TNM 066: Tripp Lanier pt 2 - You Can't #$@* it Up and You Can't Get it Right

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 01:00:00 -0000

Tripp Lanier pt 2 -- You can’t #$%* it up and you can’t get it rightWe rejoin the discussion with Tripp Lanier as he shares a powerful story about an exchange with Zen Master Jun Po Roshi. Ray and Tripp talk about the dangers of becoming a “wound worshipper”, how your wariness makes others wary of you and how your secrets ultimately own you. Also, listen as the benefits of getting real with your fears and the transformation of sharing them with others is revealed.In episode 2:The gift of being smacked with a stickA valuable lesson from Jun PoLiving a paradox“You can’t fuck it up and you can’t get it right”Working so hard to get it right and not screw it upPlay full out and have fun with the screw upsSacred LaughterLearning to recognize when you feel less wholeWhat gets in the way of your potentialShadow work mixed with meditationWaiting to open up until you trust someoneWariness begets warinessTrying to protect yourself actually pushes people awayBeing less approachable, intimidatingPushing away people that actually want to helpBecoming a retreat, seminar or workshop junkieHow to melt shameTerminal uniqueness Making things less significant without being dismissiveDon’t be a wound worshipperYour secrets kill you -- get them “out there”It’s not that bad when you put it out thereHaving your friends help you see what is driving youWhat are you scared of? What are you defending yourself against?Notice what you’re avoidingCan you be playful with that?Tell someone what you’re scared ofBeing more trustworthyThe energy drain of “keeping it all together”Where the juice, depth and meaning in life is for you

TNM 065: Tripp Lanier - The Dangers of "Not Enough"

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 01:00:00 -0000

Tripp Lanier -- The Dangers of “Not Enough”In this episode, the tables are turned and New Man host, Tripp Lanier is the one being interviewed. He recently stepped into a deeper level of practice, and guest interviewer Ray Brejcha prods and pokes to find out what is going on.Tripp talks about his recent experiences, including The Mankind Project’s New Warrior Training Adventure as well as a 7-day Hollow Bones Zen Meditation retreat. The discussion touches on life transitions, stepping into the unknown, and honoring your potential as a man. It also focuses on the deeper issues that lead to living a satisfied life when so much of our inner wiring is saying “not enough”.In episode 1:Why Tripp hosts the showLife TransitionLetting go of identitiesLiving with a boat anchor tied to the legFive years of darknessHonoring your potentialStepping into uncertaintyHow to trust uncertaintyWalking out on to an icy lakeFeeling challenged by life and loving itFollowing the feeling of being aliveMankind Project New Warrior TrainingHollow Bones Zen RetreatResistance to mythopoetic men’s workIron John by Robert BlyJun Po RoshiGoenka VipassanaPart of me may dieNoticing where you’re guardedBeing less openBeing defensiveBoundaries vs Resistance or a WallNot being able to receive compliments or gratitude“Don’t beat your own drum”Missing out on receiving love and appreciationHitting the wallFear of never being satisfiedNot enough -- No matter what I do it won’t be enoughNot able to celebrate successWanting to feel more secure in the face of the unknownMeditation -- the part of you that can’t be taken away or destroyedCultivating a sense within that is secureWill I still be ok?Confronting the hard realities of life and still being okThe TaoSamadhiSoul exfoliation -- peeling off layersGetting cookedSitting in resistance

TNM 064: Vernon Reid - Open Your Mind to What Matters

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 26 May 2009 01:00:00 -0000

Vernon Reid - Opening Your Mind to What MattersNot many guitarists come close to having Vernon Reid’s resume:Grammy WinnerPlatinum Selling ArtistComplete badass virtuoso in jazz, funk, r&b, metal, punk, etc.Shared the stage and studio with Carlos Santana, The Rolling Stones, Public Enemy, etc.He’s a chameleon, but how does he escape categorization or the limiting beliefs that restrain so many people? Where does he find “the juice”? And how is playing with the Stones just as exciting as having his lost wallet returned?Listen to this lively discussion where Vernon discusses having an open mind, finding your own voice, using mortality as inspiration and finding the "wild" moments in your everyday life. In this episode:Avoiding categorization -- being put into a boxKeeping the focus on what you loveMarching to the beat of your own drumAnthrax vs Burt BacharachMusic is about diving into the human experienceUnique expression of “their moment”Learning how to listen to musicListen without judgingJames BrownThe BeatlesThe Rolling StonesDave Clark 5Sly StoneJimi HendrixCarlos SantanaFrank ZappaMusic that black people listen to vs what white people listen toDisclipline and practicingAt first playing was awful, frustratingLittle breakthroughs lead to big breakthroughsLearning how to be with frustrationAs a father seeing disclipline in younger generationsInstant gratification vs hard workTrying to remove risk from the equation of life“Inside of your struggle is your sound”Comfort and convenience can take away from your voiceAvoiding and distracting ourselves from mortalityUsing mortality and frustration to live the momentPeople want to avoid what sucksShortcuts mean no individualityGreat people all struggledFinding your voice without fixing it or perfecting itJeff Beck shows us how to be ourselvesThe Edge from U2Henry Rollins hates U2Johnny Marr, The Smiths “How Soon is Now”Walter Becker from Steely DanHaving your own sound/voice is more important than techniqueRealizing your own voiceRonald Shannon Jackson Fusion -- Jazz and RockCarlos Santana, John McLaughlin & Robert Fripp (King Crimson)The Decoding SocietyThe Who “I hope I die before I get old”Older men still in “the young man’s” game of rockThe importance of living in the moment and projecting yourself into the futureBeing fascinated with young people - prettiest, sexual peakThe only constant is change vs The more the things change, the more they stay the sameScience Fiction and his fascination with gearForbidden Planet & The Day the Earth Stood StillWhere’s my Jet Pack?The future was supposed to be dopeI want my hovering skateboardThe sexual culture is buckwildHow does life measure up to your dreams?Having his wallet returned just as big as playing with The Rolling StonesHearing his daughter readThe “little stuff” is massive It’s about the wild momentsWe’re bored with lifeGiraffesElephants are bad motherfuckersWe overlook the familiarThe quotidian things mean a lotMortality makes us live moreBeing inspired by the people in our livesThe overemphasis of being results orientedThe danger of losing “the journey”All the girls you ever slept with are going to pass awayWe’re only here for a little whileGeorge CarlinThe planet is going to be fineReally taste this moment in life A last time for everythingYour last orgasm

TNM 063: Sera Beak - Bust Out of the Cultural BS and Follow Your Own Path

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 19 May 2009 01:01:00 -0000

Sera Beak -- Bust Out of the Cultural BS and Follow Your Own PathSpiritual Cowgirl and author Sera Beak joins us on the New Man Podcast to discuss what it means to be Red-volutionary. She’s the author of “The Red Book: A Deliciously Unorthodox Approach to Igniting Your Divine Spark”.In this episode we talk about how spirituality can be a bit stuffy or pretentious. Sera drives home the point that it’s about following your true passions and interests. Being “spiritual” isn’t about following some set of rules -- it’s about fiercely being yourself.And that takes guts.If you’re NOT interested in the whole “spiritual” scene, this discussion may light you up. We talk about rebellion, sex, thigh high boots, great food and a few of the things the Bible warned us about. In this episode:The Red Book: A Deliciously Unorthodox Approach to Igniting Your Divine SparkThe Spiritual CowgirlUnorthodox approach to spiritualityBeing your self is the essence of being spiritualPretentious Spiritual TypesSera Beak is SatanDisturbing the BuddhistsDon’t be provocative just for the sake of being provocativeProvoke with compassionBe your authentic selfReclaiming spirituality from those who have made it boringBrazilian bikini waxed prayersTrying to fit into external expectations of what is spiritualHow to get real and present Inside out spirituality vs cookie-cutter spiritualityLiving from a larger place is a turn on to othersWhere do men base their value? If it’s from the inside it is sexyDoesn’t have to be esoteric or woo-wooWhy is it so hard to answer the question, “who am I?”Cultural expectations, rules and cuesNot necessary to read a ton of books or go to workshopsStop following the crowd unconsciouslyStanding out from the crowdSocial resistance doesn’t mean it’s wrongPerseveranceHow giving birth is painful but not wrongGrowing and learning to be yourself can be uncomfortableDiscern what pain means you’re going down the wrong road and what pain is part of the process of growingHow are we different from other cultures?Becoming who we are is the natural human conditionWesterners are luckyPrivilege of being able to pursue spirituality in lifeMake the most of the privilegeWhat is “red”?REDvolutionarySpiritual Super-heroinesSex toys, good wine and gold body glitterFashion HumorGreen vs RedHumping Trees vs Hugging TreesMaking love to all existenceFist-f##ked by Mother NatureWhere to men fit in?Masculine and Feminine doesn’t necessarily mean Male or FemaleBeing more passionate, playful and authenticFierce love knows no genderBringing the feminine back to spiritual practiceWhat is sexy?The danger “spiritual” ways of beingThe Devil Wears CrocsThigh High BootsWhat the hell is “red” for me?Sera’s Offerings

TNM 062: Sandor Gardos - Take a Stand for Your Sexual Needs

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 12 May 2009 01:00:00 -0000

Sandor Gardos -- Take a Stand for Your Sexual NeedsThis is part 2 of our talk with Dr. Sandor Gardos. In this episode he continues to lay out some simple distinctions and the practices you can do TODAY to quit settling for a crappy sex life without killing your marriage. In this show:Women’s arousal pattern is different than men’sWhy she doesn’t initiate sexGet over the myth of reciprocity in sexWomen want to feel deeply desired by their partnerNot just deeply desiring to “get off” with herMake the passion about her, not just about “getting off”What if you no longer desire your partner?Don’t be afraid to get outside help -- qualified sex therapistGo to a sex therapist vs “regular” psychologistAASECT.orgSSTARNET.orgDon’t overdo “closeness”Avoiding conflict, being the peacemakerNon-violent communicationBalancing domesticity with sexual passionDon’t get neuteredHarmony can reduce passionWhat are you doing to remove the spark from your relationship?Where’s my desire in this moment? Own it.Vulnerability means speaking what you wantsVulnerability is taking risksTake your woman “on a ride”Do something where you don’t know how she’s going to respondWhen and how to talk to her if this stuff isn’t workingAccept that you have different styles -- doesn’t mean you’re wrongRemove the blame and shameWhy women have sexWhat if she doesn’t care about sex?Your sexual needs matter -- don’t cut it offKeep it simple and stick to the basicsMyPleasure.com -- products and education

TNM 061: Sandor Gardos - Get Your Sex Life Off of Life Support

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 05 May 2009 01:00:00 -0000

Sandor Gardos -- Get Your Sex Life Off of Life SupportWhat’s the deal with this myth that marriage is the death to your sex life? Does it have to be this way? Do you have to spend the rest of your days sneaking around with porn or affairs to get your sexual needs met?In this episode, Dr. Sandor Gardos returns to The New Man to lay out some very simple things you can do to get the sexual juices flowing in your committed relationship. In this show:Oprah’s Vah-J-JVibrator called “The Sure Thing”The AphroditeOprah makes it ok to use sex toysIt’s now mainstream to take an active role in making sex lives betterMyth: Sex life is over after marriageChris RockMarried life = death of sexRepressing sexual desireTurning to pornHaving affairsWhat can this guy do?Not a myth that sex changes in marriageBeing passive won’t make it betterProbably not as bad as you think it isDesire discrepancyMost common thing sex therapists deal with in couplesPolarizing sexCouples are closer to sexual desires than perceptionTaking it personally that she doesn’t want to have sexPerceived rejectionCoping mechanismsShutting off desire -- clamping it offNot being alive as a man when cutting off sexual desireTrying to “keep the peace” doesn’t serve the relationshipResentment is almost irreversibleAvoiding anger actually builds resentmentWhat a guy can do to turn this aroundSimple techniquesChange the dynamicIt’s not always that the guy wants all the sexFor half of couples, the woman wants more sexNon-goal oriented sensualityKeep her guessingSex is no longer about ejaculationNeediness is not attractiveBuild arousal and passionGetting out of the sexual routineRoutine is the enemy of passionNovelty is an aphrodisiacSmall changes can have a big impact

TNM 060: Decker Cunov & Bryan Bayer -- AMP 2.0 Is Your Life on Autopilot?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 01:00:00 -0000

Looking back, we can see how millions of small decisions made by thousands of people managed to put our economy in the toilet. It’s this disconnect or inability to see how our “small” actions impact not just ourselves but the rest as a whole.So how are the little decisions you make daily -- places where you’re just rolling along on autopilot -- creating a doomsday scenario for you?Where are you asleep at the wheel? How would you know? The guys and gals at AMP (Authentic Man Program) are here to talk about a new program that is less focused on relating with women and all about getting your entire life on the right track.You won’t do it alone, but you just may have a blast. In this episode we discuss:AMP -- No longer just focusing on relating with womenFocusing on living an inspiring lifeAre you lit up by your life?This leads to great success with womenIt’s about living an amazing life as a wholeShitty economy as a motivator for living with more integrityMicro-breaks in integrityJust going with the flowAllowing things to just happen even if we’re not in alignment with themShows us how important integrity is individually and collectivelyLittle things add up and impact all of usWhat is the impact of my actions on other people?Being disconnected from the things that make a huge impact in our lifeBeing on autopilot in your lifeTaking things for grantedBeing disconnected from our decisions means it is easier to be out of integrityRecognizing how our actions impact othersSeeing where in our lives we’re “going through the motions”Helping people see where they’re sleepwalkingChallenging each other, having fun, lighting a fire under our assHow do I know if I’m sleepwalking?Do the things I do nourish me?People around us can support us in our sleepwalkingGetting more explicit about why you do what you doGetting clear about what you really care aboutEnjoying yourself more as part of the processRecognizing what is already amazing in your lifeIf I’m really happy in my life I don’t need to buy a bunch of stuffSave money by being happier with what you already haveBeing needy means being out of relationship to what really matters to youConsumerism: Buying stuff to fill a hole in your lifeUsing people to feel better about yourselfGetting in touch with what is most importantWaking up out of your own sleepwalkingRelating with women as a metaphor for living your lifeWho is AMP 2.0 for?Back to basics: getting finances together, taking care of your body, improving your living situationClearing out emotional, mental, relational leaks that drain you of energyReclaiming energy instead of just trying to get byNo man left behind, price is not a barrier to participateWhat are guys really challenged by, what do they want to learn?7 week online courseKicking Tripp’s ass for fun

TNM 059: Yeah Dave Romanelli: The Power of Pleasure

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 01:00:00 -0000

“The Power of Pleasure”If money can’t buy happiness then where do we find it? The answer is in life’s simple pleasures. It sounds like a cliche, but the truth is that we’ve trained ourselves to multitask and split our attention across many different arenas. The cost? We don’t take the time to truly experience and enjoy our day and it’s contents.We’re so focused on finding relief in the future that we’re forgetting about the moment we’re living in -- now.Our culture and its expanding arena of attention-grabbers like facebook and twitter make it more challenging to just have a glass of wine or a simple meal. For instance, we’re finding it increasingly necessary to eat AND read email AND watch TV.According to “Yeah Dave” Romanelli, a former PR agent for Shaquille O’Neill we can create a short checklist of things to focus on throughout the day -- Humor, Something Delicious and the Beauty all around us. This will ultimately have a big, positive impact.In this episode we discuss:Jeff Spicoli and Fast Times at Ridgemont HighTechnology AddictionContinuous Partial AttentionWashington Post Experiment -- Joshua Bell, violinist in the subwayHow meditation is hardGetting kicked out of a meditation retreatADHDBad energy is worse than body odorThe Likability FactorLaughter is the way to get the panties off of a girlJerry Garcia and the Grateful DeadIndiaCreating spaciousness in your mind creates spaciousness in your life

TNM 058: Ray Brejcha: Building Attraction with Women

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 01:00:00 -0000

If a guy ever tells you he doesn’t get nervous when approaching a beautiful woman, he’s probably full of shit. Even the guys who teach this stuff get nervous.Meet Ray Brejcha -- coach, speaker and workshop facilitator. He specializes in helping men create attraction and find deeper connections with women.In this episode, Ray will talk about what’s possible by attending the Red Pill Weekend.Topics in this episode:Creating AttractionDeeper ConnectionsBeing the nerdBeing the guy who has it all but still feels emptyHow to get beyond small talkConcentrating on outer appearances to cover up insecuritiesUsing women to fill a voidFollowing a hunch instead of having it all figured outThe importance of feedback from men and womenThe value of having solid men in your lifeKilling attraction -- being needy, wishy washy or being fearful of rejectionBeing clear with your desireHow core beliefs sabotage you -- "I don’t deserve this," "I’m not enough," etc.How so many “successful” men have a difficult time with womenSettling for less vs going for what you wantHow taking risks builds attractionWhat to expect at The Red Pill Weekend

TNM 057: Jeremy Geffen Part 2: Sometimes Losing it All is Just What the Doctor Ordered

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 01:00:00 -0000

Dr. Jeremy Geffen returns to discuss his incredible vision quest in the mountains of Columbia.Are you lacking any motivation or direction beyond paying the bills? Do you have any idea what MATTERS to you? How would you even find out what that is?Listen to Jeremy talk about how this arduous ritual smacked him in the face with reality -- beyond paying the bills and being someone special.You don’t have to wait to lose your job or your life in order to benefit from losing it all.

TNM 056: Jeremy Geffen: Vision Quest -- Discovering What Really Matters

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 01:00:00 -0000

Some would say that being a successful doctor or professional is a meaningful lifetime achievement. “If I could be that, I’d be set!” Well, what does it mean when one of the most successful oncologists in the world is struggling for life meaning and direction? What does HE do to get answers?Instead of buying another Porsche, this doctor went to the mountains of Columbia to take part in a sacred, age-old ritual -- the vision quest. AFter strenuous preparations, he was “planted” on top of a mountain alone for four days and nights without food, water or shelter. He withstood torrential downpours and extreme conditions but he did not leave his post. Why would a guy do this? Listen to Dr. Jeremy Geffen, author of The Journey Through Cancer: Healing and Transforming the Whole Person talk about this amazingly difficult journey.And ask yourself, “What would my life be like if I were willing to leave it all behind?”

TNM 055: Kute Blackson Pt 2: Quit the Blame Game and Step Up

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 01:02:00 -0000

Kute Blackson continues downloading his 6 Step Process for getting your life out of fear and into gear. In this series he describes the pitfalls guys get into when life trips them up -- analysis paralysis, the blame game -- and how you can move through them and into positive action. It’s times like these that separate the men from the boys. What will you do?

TNM 054: Kute Blackson: Get Out of Fear and Into Gear

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 01:00:00 -0000

Life coach to the stars, Kute Blackson is back on The New Man, and he’s just in time. Many listeners are dealing with a ton of fear these days -- finances, career and the world in general all seem to be going to hell in a hand basket.But what can YOU do about it, right now? Kute walks us through a powerful 6 Step Process to cut the crap and make your life better -- regardless of the world outside.

TNM 053: Stuart Davis: Pt2 How to Pull Your Head Out of Your Ass

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 01:05:00 -0000

We’re back for Part 2 of our hilarious discussion with Stuart Davis -- rock star, buddhist monk and host of “Sex, God, Rock n Roll”. In this episode we discuss: a good woman will challenge and support you to be a better man in every area of your life becoming a father can crush any grand ideas you have about who you think you are there is no such thing as an “un-spiritual” moment stepping into “the fire” of life and confronting your deepest fears the significance of being able to laugh at yourself how surrendering doesn’t mean defeat what happens when we resist our life the amazing new pill, “Alco-hard” the new TV show “Sex, God Rock n Roll”

TNM 052: Stuart Davis: Spirituality and Dick Jokes

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 01:05:00 -0000

In part 1 of our talk with Stuart Davis -- rock star, buddhist monk and host of “Sex, God, Rock n Roll” -- we hear how a “spiritual” guy can also be unapologetically rude and crude.Stuart shares some hilarious stories about how he would rather be dead than conform to any means of authority -- family, religion, school, day jobs and women’s clothes included.We also discuss: it’s easy to be a punk and point out society’s shortcomings -- it takes skill to offer something constructive his relentless pursuit of freedom has landed him in jail and almost killed him drummers aren’t complete idiots (some of them at least) how spirituality turned him into a self righteous asshole how life can be enjoyable after the sparkle and “rush” has passed what had him see the real meaning of his lifeBe sure to keep an eye out for Stu's latest TV show "Sex God Rock n Roll" on HDNET this summer.

TNM 051: Brian Johnson: Pt2 Do You Have the Balls to Live the Life of Your Dreams?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 01:05:00 -0000

Do you feel a moral obligation to live your greatest possible life? If you are like us you are tired, and you have bills to pay...but is that all there is in store for us? Brian Johnson won't stand for anything less that the greatest life possible for himself, and he wants to help us get there too. In part two of our talk with Brian, we talk about his latest project, Philosophers Notes, and how to get inspired and make practical changes in our lives right now. Listen as Brain tells us how we can learn to step up our game and stop living our lives half-assed.

TNM 050: Brian Johnson: What would you do if you weren't afraid?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 03:24:00 -0000

Have you ever thrown up on your way to work, and not from too much fun the night before?If you had all the money and all the time in the world what would you do?Brain Johnson has found his answer, but things didn't always come together so clearly for him. Over the years he has quit a promising job with a fortune 500, dropped out of law school, left a 5 year relationship, and walked away from a couple of businesses.From these experiences he has learned a bit about the art of living, now he is sharing what he loves to do with the world.Listen as Brian talks to us about how he went form literally puking in his car on the way to work, to living his dreams from an open-air office in Bali.

TNM 049: Steve Pavlina: What to do if You've Lost Your Job or Your Job is in Danger?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 03:09:00 -0000

Times may be a bit lean right now but the truth is, this is a great opportunity. Before you write us off as crazy, listen to what Steve Pavlina has to say about job loss, bankruptcy, and any of life's major challenges. Personal development expert and massively popular blogger and author, Steve breaks it down for us in 3 easy steps: Step 1: If you are not dead, this challenge will make you stronger. Step 2: This is your opportunity to think about what you really want in life. Step 3: Ask yourself what kind of goals inspire you right now. If you move towards you inspiration fully, learn from your passion, and share it with the world, you can't fail according to Steve. Listen as Steve puts it all in perspective and gives us some real advice on how to live our dreams.

TNM 048: Steve Pavlina: Playing it "safe" is like living in a locked box

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 03:56:00 -0000

Are you playing it safe, but feeling trapped in the life you have created for yourself? How do you know when it's time to move on from a job, a relationship, or even the town you live in? Steve Pavlina has some unique and profound suggestions to help us out with that. Tripp and Steve agree that often times the best strategy to victory in life's battles, "burn the boats behind us!" In this weeks show Steve shares with us:What he means by "burning the ships behind us, but not the food and supplies"How a brief trip to jail re-framed his life and set him on the path to create the "best personal development website"Why the "safe" that protects us, can quickly become the "safe" that imprisons us.How his strategy for setting goals is different, and more effective than other mainstream approaches.What Steven Covey means by his insistence that we go for "win-win" or "no deal."Where courage comes from, why it is essential, and how to get more of it. Listen as Steve takes us into his work of no-nonsense personal development and how our efforts to grow can bring us exactly what we want out of life.

TNM 047: Decker Cunov: Pt2 Choose Everything in Your Life

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 04:43:00 -0000

Are you being true to yourself, or are you just being a selfish prick?Is there a way to know the difference? This week we continue our conversation with Decker Cunov about consciously choosing the life you live.Listen to learn:Where is the line between being selfish and being right with yourself?What happens when you actually allow you heart to be open?Why people don't want to feel how much they love each other.The truth that underneath the touch veneer, you actually give a shit.Decker shares with us what is possible when we are really willing to be our true selves.

TNM 046: Decker Cunov: How to Learn to Trust Your Gut.

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 02:00:00 -0000

Do you have a feeling something needs to change in your life? Are you not exactly sure what it is? This week we're talking with Decker Cunov, men's coach, Authentic Man Program leader and President of Authentic World about taking the first steps to getting more connected. Decker points us to a world in which we get in touch with what is really going on in our bodies, with our emotions, and in turn, what is really happening in all of our relationships. Join us as we talk with Decker Cunov about really feeling, and what it means to "trust your gut?"

TNM 045: Shawn Phillips: Getting Your A$$ Out of a Rut, And Into High Gear!

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 01:00:00 -0000

Are you driving your life, or is it driving you?In part two of our latest talk with Shawn Phillips we discuss: How to live your life in "thirds" instead of halves.How to shift to the new "s-curve" for your life.Why there really is no reason for your belly to keep getting bigger.What is the alternative to the "mid-life crisis?"How to pick your peak season this year.Are you in touch with the joy in your life? The keys to reaching mastery The one thing you can do today to get on the path of strength. Listen as Shawn Phillips helps us get on the path of strength, and get our lives back.

TNM 044: Shawn Phillips: The Body, Focus, and a Passionate Life

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 01:50:00 -0000

What are you tolerating in your life? What are you putting your time into? What are you saying no to?Make 2009 the year you drop all the bullshit and truly focus on what is really important in your life. Shawn Phillips returns to The New Man and this show is all about focus.So what is focus?"It's not what is on your mind, it's what is not on your mind" says Shawn. Shawn and Tripp get into the details around: The state of presence that arises when everything else drops away.How to know what you really want out of your efforts. If you don't know, you can't have focus.How increasing your focus by just 20% per day can increase your results exponentially.What is the difference between intensity and stress?Making life more expansive with focus. Listen as Shawn Phillips coaches us into cultivating our intense focus and opening new doors in our lives.

TNM 043: Jun Po Denis Kelly: Did You See the Size of that Chicken?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 01:00:00 -0000

Can you imagine not getting angry if someone was trying to steal your money? What about someone violating your daughter?Jun Po Denis Kelly insists that there is no place for anger, no matter what happens. Seriously? The path of the modern-day warrior looks for what is true beneath our reactivity. In the case of anger, there is always something deeper.What does all this have to do with a chicken?Listen as Jun Po tells the story about the chicken and one simple step we can take today, to change the rest of our lives.

TNM 042: Jun Po Dennis Kelly: From Heroic Doses of LSD to the Spiritual Hero's Journey

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 16 Dec 2008 01:01:00 -0000

How can a heroic dose of LSD lead to a dedication to spiritual practice. We'll according to Jun Po Dennis Kelly, that is the only way to go in order to find true freedom with true integrity. Jun Po has spent his life committed to the truth, the deepest truth, and has the scars to prove it. In his psychedelic experimentation, he took extremely high dosages, much more intense than your average day-tripper. Living on the fringes of the law landed him on a "government sponsored vacation," in federal penitentiary. Yoga and Zen mastery helped him to focus his passion constructively. Recently, Stage 4 throat cancer took his body to the very edge of survival and back. Jun Po's life on the edge has given him a serious gift for sharing the truth. Listen as Jun Po Dennis Kelly shares his uncompromising journey to find out what lies beneath all the bullshit.

TNM 041: Marcus Buckingham: The Truth About You

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 01:03:00 -0000

Marcus Buckingham wants you to be the best you can possibly be. Not only that, he has a quick, effective program to help you get there. Marcus has made a career out of studying high performance people from business to sports and reverse engineering their secrets for success. From this research he has learned some secrets to success that are in direct opposition to what we are taught growing up. In our dialogue with Marcus, you will learn: How do we define strengths? Who is the best judge of your strength? What do you call something you are very good at, that you don't like to do? How do you make your strengths even stronger? You are born perfect, how are you going to contribute that to the world? How to create your "strong week" plan? Listen as Marcus shows us how to amplify our strengths and make a real impression with our time here on Earth. "It is your responsibility to offer your greatest, and longest lasting contribution to life." --Marcus Buckingham

TNM 040: Tripp and Casey: The Best of Season 1

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 02 Dec 2008 01:54:00 -0000

Will The New Man Podcast solve all your problems and make you rich and famous?Maybe not, but judging from the feedback we're getting, it can seriously help.The New Man Podcast just turned one. Over the course of our first year, we've interviewed dozens of teachers, leaders and successful men and women across all aspects of life about sex, parenting, professional life, and more. Listen as Tripp and Casey look back over the first year of The New Man and reflect on what they personally learned and where the show is headed in the year to come. In our exploration of what a New Man might look like, we have uncovered key insights, patterns, and habits of highly effective men (and women) in the most important areas of our lives from career, to purpose, to sex and relationship and everything in between. We love hearing from you about how the insights shared in these interviews are impacting your life. That's why we have created a new way to enjoy and share The New Man Podcast. Tripp and Casey handpicked the best of the best from this year and created a 6-disc CD set, a greatest hits of the first season and the perfect gift for the men in your life.

TNM 039: Guy Sengstock: Pt 2 - Jesus was not a Family Man

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 01:27:00 -0000

Why didn't Jesus or the Buddha have a family?Does becoming a father mean your spiritual life is over?This week we continue our conversation with Guy Sengstock about integrating spiritual development and a healthy family life. In this candid and open conversation, Guy gives us an inside look at where he finds the balance point of these two seemingly opposite pursuits in life. Listen to the conclusion of our dialogue with Guy as he shares with us the challenges and benefits of practicing parenting and personal development.

TNM 038: Guy Sengstock: How to be a father without losing your f*****g mind.

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 01:45:00 -0000

Does the true spiritual journey require a life of monastic celibacy? Does having a family mean we can't pursue the deepest of truths? When Guy Sengstock fell in love with his wife, he was putting himself through art school by working as a personal trainer and a stripper, while on a spiritual path of meditation and eastern philosophy. Not exactly the picture of the typical family man. He was also developing Arete workshops, dedicated to helping people grow and find deeper, more authentic versions of themselves. So how do wife and kids fit in with meditation and personal development? Listen as Guy shares with us how he balances family life with spiritual life, and how he has found a way to complimentary balance it all.

TNM 037: Wolfgang Bloch: Finding the Passion in Life

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 01:00:00 -0000

Are you able to let mistakes you make become opportunities for something greater? Wolfgang Bloch has always taken the unconventional path in life. Born in Ecuador, he followed his passion to California and into the arts and graphic design. A surfer from the age of twelve, he was also cultivating a love of the water. After a successful, but ultimately unrewarding career in commercial art, he broke free and eventually found his true passion...and learned to find art in life's imperfection.Wolfgang tells us how "grunt work" can be seen as a "base" for our true expression and how to tell when it is just a dead end.Wolfgang has gone on to become a renown fine artist in the surf world and beyond, creating mesmerizing surf vistas. He has just released a book showcasing his work and chronicling his journey. Listen as Wolfgang describes his uncommon path and the values that helped him rise to the top of the surfing art world.

TNM 036: Ken Wilber: Integrating the Battle of the Sexes

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 01:10:00 -0000

The life of the New Man just got a whole lot more complicated.This week we're talking with Ken Wilber, world-renown Integral philosopher about the evolution of men's and women's roles in our society. Ken shows us how our current disagreements over equality between the sexes actually stemmed from old school tools and "little things" like pregnancy.Ken also talks about how we're all influenced greatly by not just technology but our personal beliefs and the pressures of society. His work is centered around showing how all of these forces impact us and one another. In other words, Ken shows us how all the pieces in this crazy life fit together and the end result is fascinating. You may never see your life the same way again.

TNM 035: Ed Fell: The Mankind Project

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 01:09:00 -0000

How much bullshit are you tolerating? Are there things you wish you could do before you die, but are not getting around to them? Are you tolerating a life that you never thought you would have, feeling that there is no way to change things? Ed Fell wants to help us out. As a longtime member of The Mankind Project, Ed points to the fact that men have no initiation ceremonies in American culture and often drift through life, unsure of themselves as a result. We have heard several times on the New Man about the importance of initiation ceremony. The Mankind Project is dedicated to giving men a healthy initiation to manhood and giving us an experience of who we truly are and what it feels like to be our authentic selves. From that experience of initiation, The Mankind Project offers a close network of support and challenge, to help men live their lives to the fullest. The last item on that "bucket list" might just be the journey inward, to really get to know ourselves.___We'd love to hear your feedback about The New Man and the PLM network. Please take a moment to <a href="http://survey.personallifemedia.com">fill out our survey.</a>

TNM 034: Authentic Man Program: The Power of Integrity

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 01:00:00 -0000

What the hell is integrity really? Why would it play an important role in our lives and our interactions with other men...and women? This week we're talking again with our friends Bryan Bayer and Garrison Cohen of the Authentic Man Program, about their latest tools to help men achieve their true potential. Listen as the fellas from AMP cover: How our being nice can be the barrier to our own greatness; How it is really our duty to express how we really feel, regardless of the outcome; The importance of owning our attraction; What we have to put on the line to evolve to the next level; Where to find the arena to play our highest game; Calling ourselves on our own bullshit; The latest multimedia products from AMP; How to put all of this theory in to real action. Click Here to start discovering your potential with the Authentic Man Program.

TNM 033: Robert Masters: So What Do You Do With Your Anger?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 01:01:00 -0000

Anger is an emotion, something we feel in our bodies very viscerally. What we do with our anger is another story entirely. Anger gets its bad name from anger expressed as aggression or violence. In this episode, Robert examines this distinction and give us insights on how to work with our anger. We explore: Taking a relational approach to anger. How do breathing and eye contact change an argument? How unspoken emotions can affect relationships despite our holding them in. Where to start working with anger. The role of shame, guilt and sadness. Meditation as a tool. Learn how to honor your anger and maintain healthy engagement with women, and every other relationship in your life.

TNM 032: Robert Masters: The World Needs More Anger

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 01:05:00 -0000

Why does the macho jerk seem to get the girl while the nice guy gets left behind? It might just have something to do with their relationship to anger. This week we welcome Robert Augustus Masters back to The New Man and share his uncommon insights about the role of healthy anger in our lives. Robert gets into the juicy details about: How to separate anger from aggression What is the cost of ignoring your anger? Why does the world need more anger?(hint: more anger with less aggression) What is our moral fire Soft does not have to mean weak. What are you really pissed off about? Listen as Robert helps us find that healthy middle way when it comes to our anger.

TNM 031: Byron Ricks: Searching for Dad

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 01:18:00 -0000

Barack Obama and John McCain have one thing in common, they both grew up with absent fathers. Byron Ricks details how important the father-son relationship is to growing boys, and how this may have affected who the candidates, and other men with absent fathers, have become in adulthood. In this uncommon discussion we learn: What are the 9 side-effects of growing up fatherless. When do boys learn start to learn about sex? What it's like for a young boy who doesn't have a father in his life. The unique benefits of male-bonding. Boys innate desire to do 'one-better' than our dads. How a "surrogate" father can fill the role for absent fathers. How to rebuild self-respect, self-confidence, and a strong sense of identity. Join us in learning about Byron Ricks mission to help men and boys facing the world when their fathers are not around.

TNM 030: Bill Harris - Who's Running the Show?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 01:21:00 -0000

Frustrated because your life is not going the way you want it to? Ever consider that it might be your own damn fault? Bill Harris tells us that it is our own patterns, that we are not aware of, that has us running on auto-pilot making the same mistakes over and over again. Listen as Bill Harris gives us the secret behind: Harmful core beliefs and our "evidence" to support these beliefs. Attracting the kind of women you really want. The power of awareness in terms of changing your life. What are you focusing on? How to build a business with intention. Finding opportunity within challenges. Centerpointe Research Meditation Holosync Bill gives us insights on a novel approach to getting the results we want in life. Here's a hint guys, it's not about analysis or figuring things out.

TNM 029: Kute Blackson - What Are You Waiting For?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 01:37:00 -0000

Is your life passing you by? Are you holding back, waiting for your best friend's funeral before you express how you really feel about them? Are you leaving things off the table...unsaid, undone, unattempted? Why? Do it NOW! This IS the game, there is no where else to go. This is your life, passing you by one day at a time. Are you living it to the fullest? In Part 2 of our dialogue, Kute Blackson shakes us out of our slumber so we can really begin to live our lives. "We think we are in a prison...but the door is open, walk through it!" exclaims Kute. In this show we look into: What game are you buying into right now? What your resistance to things in your life really is. Where are you holding back? Why your girlfriend might be acting bitchy when you seem unsure of yourself. Where to look to find your deepest wisdom Listen as Kute helps us realize the deepest truth about our lives and how we can truly live it each and every day.

TNM 028: Kute Blackson - Are You Ready To Die?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 03:02:00 -0000

Are you ready to die? Does some part of your life suck? Are you stuck because you don't have any other choice? Have you tried everything you can and you just can't change it. Bullshit. Thats what Kute Blackson is telling us. Bullshit. When we find ourselves in that miserable, stuck place, we are invariably wasting energy avoiding our truth and keeping ourselves muted because we are afraid to face the unknown. "If you are feeling pain and dissatisfaction, that's your doorway, go through it and find who you really are", Kute insists. It may be necessary to experience the death of "self" to live life. What do you need to give to the world so that you can die complete? Listen as Kute a Tripp take us into the darkness, searching for that light of freedom on the other side.

TNM 027: Sandor Gardos - Pt 2 Can Sex Become a Spiritual Practice?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 01:48:00 -0000

In Part two of our discussion with Dr. sandor Gardos, we take a deeper look into everybody's favorite topic...sex. Unfortunately, the sex life of most men is not where it could be. We're not talking about how to pick up women here, we're talking about something deeper. What is behind our sex drive and what is our sexual energy really? Men tend to look at sexual energy as frustration, something to be fixed,,,and as soon as posible. Men train themselves at a young age to relive sexual energy as fast as possible, not cultivating and using sexual energy to invigorate our lives. Women tend to see this sexual energy differently, even using different words to describe sexual feelings. Where men talk about "sexual frustration" women speak of the same pleasurable feelings as "juicy" or "alive." Sandor encourages us to see this energy not as something to avoid, but something we should honor as our very life essence. He invites us to learn to be with strong energetic sensation and practice cultivating and holding sexual energy. Why is Viagra the best selling drug in the country? Often we can be very dissociated during sex, perhaps fantasizing about someone else or generally checking out altogether. Most of us would rather take a pill than truly look inside ourselves to discover what may be getting in the way of our sexual desire. Dr Gardos points out that most men don't know what is possible with orgasm because we don't know how to be with intense sexual energy. At the highest levels, sex can become a pathway to deep spiritual states...a very direct route Dr Gardos says. So where is the average guy to start on this path of sexual self-discovery. Dr. Gardos suggest finding community, whether locally or online and begining to take in and share information. This can be tough at first but there are resources out there for men willing to take a look. This is not another goal that has to be met or an achievement we need to reach, but an opportunity for us to know ourselves better and live more fully because of it.

TNM 026: Sandor Gardos - What is Killing Passion in Relationships?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 01:55:00 -0000

Is the "conventional relationship" ideal killing the passion in relationships? This week's guest, Dr. Sandor Gardos lets us in on what he sees as the secrets to maintaining passionate relationships. Knowing everything about one another, always maintaining equality, laying everything on the table...These may be good ways to maintain friendships, or business relationships, but when it comes to hot sex in relationship, these are the very things that may be draining passion. The thing is, women want hot sex lives as much as we do. The things we do to try and strengthen our relationships can be the very things that will ultimately weaken our connection. Sandor hears from women all the time with fantasies every bit as raunchy as any man's he hears, and with a lot more detail. It seems men are generally less in touch with their actual desire than women are, despite popular perception to the contrary. Not only does Dr. Gardos help us identify the problem areas, he describes what the path to erotic partnership can look like. Integrity, differentiation, variety &mdash these are keys we have learned from previous guests and seem to apply in all areas of our lives. Listen as Dr. Sandor Gardos shares with us a piece of his vast wisdom on sexuality and relationship.

TNM 025: Rob McNamera Pt 2 Mind/Body Nutrition and Exercise

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 01:38:00 -0000

How much exercise is required to build strength and feel great? In part two of our conversation, Rob lays out a simple and straightforward plan to build high-performance strength. The good news: it's not Olympic level marathon training, Rob says we can do it in under 3 hours a week. Rob highly recommends Shawn Phillips new book, Strength for Life as a great resource for getting started on a program like this. Rob goes on to talk with us about Full Strength, a meal replacement product developed by Shawn Phillips that has been clinically shown to produce positive results in muscle building and fat and cholesterol reduction. A recent clinical study at the University of Oklahoma confirmed the wisdom that went into the production of Full Strength and documented surprisingly positive health benefits to the participants. Listen as Rob gives rounds out our discussions on the role of Strength for The New Man.

TNM 024: Shawn Phillips Pt 2 Hitting the Wall vs. Balanced Recovery

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 12 Aug 2008 01:04:00 -0000

Are you noticing instability in your life as you push closer to your limits of performance? Operating at "full-bore" may not be the best way to get where we want to go. Shawn Phillips advises that for optimum performance, rest can be just as important as exertion. This applies to our physical bodies as well as our profession, our personal relationships and our purpose in life. "Recovery is like the silence between the notes, that makes the music." Says Shawn. For many of us, our lives are driven by our attachment to our goals. Shawn and Tripp also explore the possibility that there is a difference between commitment and attachment. Attachment is our dependence on an outcome. Commitment is our willingness to "play" regardless of the outcome. When we get too far into attachment we lose focus, lose our power, and lose our ability to remain present in the moment. "I'm committed to the game without attachment to the outcome" Shawn says. Listen as Tripp continues his dialogue with Shawn Phillips, Author and Human Performance expert.

TNM 023: Shawn Phillips: Health is Killing You!

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 01:00:00 -0000

Is settling for mere "health" actually sending you to an early grave? We all think health is something we should be happy with when we have or something to get back to when our health fails us. Shawn Phillips will not settle for mere "health." Shawn calls us to enter a life of Strength, a place where our abundant health can serve us in all aspects of our lives and allow us to put ourselves out there in the world. We've all taken up a workout routine, trying to get "back in shape" because we think we should. Shawn invites us to get past the should's, and find our true strength, the source of our potential greatness. From this place, the weight room becomes an expression of the abundance of our lives, and our bodies will show the results. Listen to Shawn and Tripp talk about how to stop "doing fitness" and start being fit.

TNM 022: Rob McNamera: What is Strength?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 11:44:00 -0000

Are you feeling at your best physically? Are you looking for that edge to keep you sharp at the workplace and help you handle the intensity of life's challenges? If you are like the average man, chances are you have not felt that great since you were in your teens. Not only is our poor physical condition slowing down our bodies, but its slowing down our minds as well. This week we are talking with Rob McNamera about strength. Strength is the abundance of power. This abundance is true for our muscles as well as our brains, and affects our performance across the board. We can increase this abundance with regular strength training. Listen as Rob breaks down the secrets of strength and shares with us the dire importance of taking care of our bodies.

TNM 021: The Seduction Community, Where to Go Next?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Thu, 01 May 2008 22:33:00 -0000

What do you do when you master the art of seduction? After years of practice in the seduction community, Garrison still felt something was missing. He had become a pick-up artist, with no trouble meeting and dating women but the profound relationship still eluded him. In his continuing search he came upon a concept called "inner game" and the Authentic Man Program. Listen as he shares with us what he found to be the ultimate practice to deepen his relationships with women and give him what he was looking for all along. Resources: - Ross Jeffries - NLP - Neuro-Linguistic Programming - Authentic Man Program - The Game

TNM 020: A Reformed Pick-up Artist

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Fri, 25 Apr 2008 12:30:00 -0000

Are you wanting to meet more women and have more success in dating them? Ever thought of becoming a pick-up artist? This week we sit down with Garrison Cohen, a "reformed pick-up artist" that has tried every technique there is in the world of seduction. Garrison walks us through his journey in the seduction community including a time as a Pickup Artist trainer. He shares with us the insights he learned from each of the schools of seduction and where it all led for him. This is part one of a two part series. Resources: - Ross Jeffries - NLP - Neuro-Linguistic Programming - Authentic Man Program - The Game Areas of Conversation: podcast, Falling Fruit, The New Man, Tripp Lanier, Men's issues, mens group, relationships, women, men, fallingfruit, fallingfruit.tv, online media, production, dating, relationships, sex, testing, male female, masculine, masculinity, dating

TNM 019: The Icing on the Cake of an Amazing Life!

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Sat, 19 Apr 2008 10:33:00 -0000

What you can do once you have find a sense of wholeness? In Part 2 of our discussion with Bryan Bayer of the Authentic Man Program we get into the benefits of doing development work on our ability to relate with women. Bryan describes how presence becomes 'a vortex,' drawing people (specifically women) towards us. He then describes what interactions look like the 'need to get something" is dropped. It might look something like this: "What do you do for work?" "I am a shepherd, I just lost one of my flock the other day and I am having a hard time with it." Bryan treats many social interactions as an opportunity to create artistic expression. This should be fun, once we let down our guard a little. We also get into the unique kind of opportunity AMP presents for men. "10 years of therapy didn't get at what we got to in 2 days at AMP," said one participant. AMP is a unique mix of challenge, inquiry and compassion that can trigger rapid insights and growth. Listen as we learn how relating with women is just the icing on the cake of an amazing life! Disclaimer: Tripp and Casey have both attended the AMP program and both found it challenging, rewarding, and a profound growing experience. Resources: - Authentic Man Program - The Game - Dekker - Goenka Vipassana Meditation - Ken Wilber - David Deida - Leo on the Authentic Man Program

TNM 018: Bryan Bayer: The Authentic Man Program, Part 1

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Thu, 10 Apr 2008 10:51:00 -0000

Ever notice how some guys just seem to be magnets for women? Ever wish you could be that guy, effortlessly attracting amazing women into your life? We sure do, and there may be help for us yet. This week we're in the studio with Bryan Bayer, co-founder of the Authentic Man Program. Bryan gives us the story of how the AMP program came into existence out of his own pain and struggle finding real connection with women. At one point, Bryan spent months asking himself, "what would I do if no woman ever found me attractive again?" From this deep inquiry, he discovered a whole new sense of integration and used it as a tool to fuel his own personal growth. He also had help from amazing women in his life that were willing to explore the depths of his being with him and give him feedback on what they were experiencing. AMP was developed with Bryan as his own guinea pig. The AMP facilitators work with all types of men, helping them to integrate more of "themselves" and get rid of that sense of "need" that keeps women at a distance. Listen as Bryan gives us a sense of where we can go in our interactions with women and how the AMP program is a great resource to help us get there. Resources: - Authentic Man Program - The Game - Dekker - Goenka Vipassana Meditation - Ken Wilber - David Deida - Leo on Authentic Man Program

TNM 017: Alissa Kriteman: Dating, Relationships, and Sex

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 10:21:00 -0000

What is the deal with all this testing from women? In part two of our conversation, Alissa Kriteman shares an intense example of how she has tested her man and how his strength and ability to hold that deepened their relationship immensely. Alissa shares with us some secrets that single men should know about meeting and attracting women and what role a healthy sense of self can play in finding a partner. She gets into the very thing guys want to know about the most, what we are missing in the bedroom. No, it's not about any elaborate technique or physical qualifications fellas. It's also not something we can "figure out" exactly. She goes on to speak about the wisdom of desire, and encourages us to cultivate our ability to "be" with desire and allow it to subtly guide us in life. Listen as Alissa lets us in on the world of women. This is part 2 of a two-part series. Listen to part 1, Alissa Kriteman: Just for Women. Resources: - Just For Women Podcast - Meet the Dreamer (Alissa's Book) - Authentic Man Program (Alissa is a facilitator) - Allison Armstrong - Charlotte Kasl - David Deida Areas of Conversation: women, sex, relationships, single, dating, desire, Just for Women Podcast

TNM 016: Alissa Kriteman: Just for Women

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Thu, 27 Mar 2008 09:02:00 -0000

Do you ever wonder what women talk about when we're not around? We sure do, that's why we had to get an insiders perspective from relationship consultant Alissa Kriteman. Alissa hosts the hugely successful podcast Just for Women: Dating, Relationships, and Sex. She talks with experts about all the issues facing women in the world and helps her listeners live fuller lives with better relationships. Given her experience talking with women, we thought she might have some insights for The New Man...she definitely did! Alissa gives us the female perspective on how we, as men, show up in the world of women most of the time. She details the differences of worldviews experienced by men and women and how knowing these differences empowers us to have deeper, more authentic relationships. Listen to this fun conversation with Alissa as we take a look inside the world of women. This is part 1 of a two-part series. Listen to part 2, Alissa Kriteman: Dating, Relationships, and Sex. Resources: - Just For Women Podcast - Meet the Dreamer, Alissa's Book - Authentic Man Program (Alissa is a facilitator) - Allison Armstrong Areas of Conversation: women, sex, relationships, single, dating, desire, Just For Women Podcast

TNM 015: Have you Lost your Teenage Fire?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 10:04:00 -0000

When does a boy become a man? In more tribal times in human history, the transition to adulthood for men was very clear. It was accompanied by support and ceremony and left no question in the minds of the boys or the tribe about status or responsibility. Our modern social structure seems to have abandoned this support structure for transition, something we are learning is so essential for young men. Threshold Passages is one organization that is changing that. Threshold Passages brings together young men on the path to adulthood, with willing mentors dedicated to helping these young men on their way. Together, these men and boys at varying stages of life, share wisdom, energy and support in the form of Adventure weekends and weekly group meetings. This week we talk with Ed Lippolis, a program "mentor" at 39 years old and Patrick Hillman, a program "journeyman" at 16 years old. We get the perspective on both sides of this unique group mentoring program and hear about how important this program is in each of their lives. Resources: - thresholdpassages.org Areas of Conversation: Rite of passage, mentor, coaching, big brothers and sisters, elder, tribe

TNM 014: Robert Augustus Masters: Fear is Just Excitement in Drag

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 10:49:00 -0000

In Part 2 of our discussion with Robert Augustus Masters, he breaks it down to the practical level for us. Robert talks about several practices we can do to "get in our bodies" and get in touch with our true power. "Repressed anger is as harmful as inappropriately expressed anger," Masters says when describing how to allow emotions to arise naturally. He says healthy anger is "the guardian of healthy boundaries." Robert talks about being present to the emotions that are arising and giving them space to be expressed authentically. When he says "Fear is excitement in drag," Masters is talking about the similarity of the emotions of fear and excitement as they are felt. When we allow the emotion to arise, without avoiding it, fear can be an exhilarating and useful emotion. If you haven't already, we recommend listening to Part 1: Are you Stuck in the Friend Zone? to hear more of Robert's understanding supporting these practices. Resources: - robertmasters.com - Feldenkrais - Boulder Center for Integral Living Areas of Conversation: fear, emotion, repression, anger, power, men's issues, vulnerability, men's groups

TNM 013: Robert Augustus Masters: Are you Stuck in the Friend Zone?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 10:30:00 -0000

Robert Augustus Masters is an Integral Psychotherapist and group leader. Integral means that he is working with mind, body, emotion and conditioning in a flowing and organic way. Robert works with guys who have the balls to make the changes to make their lives better. His work focuses primarily on the body, as men tend to get "stuck in their heads" and cut off from their feelings. Some women can feel this and may experience the man to be less trust-able and less desirable because of it. The "Friend Zone" is the place men go when they are not in touch with our true power. Masters clarifies that power does not mean overpowering and that there is a real difference between anger and aggression. When men get in touch with the power from their core, they are more authentic, trust-able and attractive to women. Robert insists that vulnerability is not weakness but, in fact, authenticity. If we can learn to be vulnerable without crumbling, we can be more in touch with our lives and other people. This is part 1 of a two-part series. Listen to Part 2: Robert Augustus Masters: Fear is Just Excitement in Drag. Resources: - robertmasters.com - Feldenkrais - Boulder Center for Integral Living Areas of Conversation: anger, power, men's issues, vulnerability, men's groups

TNM 012: The Warriors Journey: Returning from Iraq, Part 2

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Thu, 28 Feb 2008 11:34:00 -0000

"The willow which bends to the tempest, often escapes better than the oak which resists it; and so in great calamities, it sometimes happens that light and frivolous spirits recover their elasticity and presence of mind sooner than those of a loftier character." - Albert Schweitzer In Part 2 of our conversation with Dan Taslitz, we hear about Dans experience coming back from Iraq and what he went through in transition back to civilian life. Dan has developed a system to convert stress into true strength and teaches men the power of vulnerability, learning to bend with resilience and not break in rigidity. Listen as Dan gives us a glimpse of his life as a soldier. He then shows us his new life as a leader and compassionate warrior helping others resource their trauma to find true strength. Resources: - Part 1 of this talk: The Warriors Journey: From Trauma to Strength - www.onefreedom.org - www.magisgroup.com Areas of Conversation: Marine, Reconnaissance, Iraq war, warriors journey, trauma recovery, The Peaceful Warrior, service, patriot

TNM 011: The Warriors Journey: From Trauma to Strength, Part 1

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Thu, 21 Feb 2008 23:01:00 -0000

Dan Taslitz is a war veteran. He served on the front lines in the Iraq war in Marine reconnaissance in some of the most extremely high stress, high pressure situations. When someone goes through an experience like this, their brain and body adapt in order to survive. How does that adaptation translate into normal life when a soldier, like Dan, returns from the battlefield? Its not always easy. Dan paid close attention to his experience and the changes that were occurring for him. He made a successful transition back into society, translating his stress into strength. He has developed an intimate understanding of the traumatic experience. He brings this wisdom to his work with OneFreedom.org to help integrate soldiers into society after their service in battle. Dan helps soldiers resource their strength and learn to adapt in the face of challenges. Listen as Dan shares his warriors journey through intensity towards integration. Resources: - www.onefreedom.org - www.magisgroup.com Areas of Conversation: Marine, Reconnaissance, Iraq war, warriors journey, trauma recovery, The Peaceful Warrior, service, patriot

TNM 010: Status is the Enemy of Contentment

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Fri, 15 Feb 2008 08:20:00 -0000

Is your career really aligned with your life's purpose? How important is a man's purpose in life when choosing a career? This week we sit down with Marty Nemko, Career Editor for U.S. News and World Report and Kiplingers.com and get his unique perspective on career and the popular stereotype of men. Marty brings a no-nonsense approach to his career advice, but there is wisdom in his perspective. He tells us what the most rewarding careers have in common and what to look for when seeking that perfect job. He flips conventional wisdom on its head and looks at the truth behind the flashy careers like doctors and lawyers and why these may not be the best paths to a rewarding life. Marty is also passionate about how men are seen in today's western society. He argues that the portrayal of men as incompetent, aggressive, and powerless is not only inaccurate, but is having a harmful effect of the psyche of men and buys. Listen as he shares with us what he has learned from a lifetime of writing and research on professional life and specifically men's roles in society.

TNM 009: Women are Not Just a Pain in the Ass?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Thu, 07 Feb 2008 11:26:00 -0000

We're dodging flying coffee mugs right now for even suggesting that, but that's how it can feel to a guy now and then. What is going on with the women of our lives in these moments of apparent torture? This week we sit down with the amazing women of the Authentic Man Program and they share with us a little bit about how women work. We learn how women perceive men and how we can "show up" more fully to experience new depths in meeting, dating, and serious relationships with women. The Authentic Man Program is a San Francisco-based workshop that helps men learn to look deep inside themselves and connect with their deepest truth. It also shows them how to take that awareness out into the world to meet and relate to other people—especially women. Kendra, Shana, and Alexis give us a glimpse inside what they bring to the Authentic Man Program and share with us some practices we can use to deepen our relations with the opposite sex. Far from being a pain in the ass, these women (and all women really) are our trusted allies in finding our deeper selves and finding intense connection with a partner. Resources: - Authentic Man Program Areas of Conversation: presence, relationship, couples, inner game, seduction, meeting women, deep relationship, healthy communication

TNM 008: Is Pornography Great for a Relationship?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Wed, 30 Jan 2008 17:41:00 -0000

Porn is a part of nearly every man's sexual life. LiYana points out that a little porn is good for spice here and there, but too much porn can be junk-food, polluting our healthy relationship and distracting us from connection to our partner. She urges us to practice in the bedroom, giving our full energy to our partners. LiYana then shares with us the key differences in how men and women open emotionally in relationship. Bringing a little consciousness to these differences is often enough to get through the hang-ups and into the true depths of connection. Learn how to express love and the other things you love in your life rather than the typical compromise of love or these things. If you are experiencing resistance to commitment, get in touch with what are you going to lose by entering into a committed relationship? "Get in touch with that, then we can work with it," she says. You can have something EXACTLY the way you want it. There's plenty of love to go around. Learn about the different styles of intimacy men and women bring to the table. Find out what absolutely has to be there if you want to take your relationship beyond monogamy. Relationship lived in this way will call us to be our highest expression of a man. Resources: - redefiningmonogamy.com

TNM 007: Looking to Redefine your Monogamous Relationship?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 17:51:00 -0000

Every man has had wandering thoughts or wandering eyes at some point during his committed relationship. Most likely it happens every day! Should we be avoiding these thoughts—repressing them so we don't hurt our partners? Absolutely not, according to LiYana Silver, it's part of what makes you a man. So why do our special ladies seem to get so pissed off about it? It likely has to do with our ability to stay connected to them. If we can develop strong, healthy constant connection to our partners, there is no limit to our freedom. We might even go so far as to take our relationship outside of the normal rules of monogamous commitment if that's what we want to do, according to LiYana. Listen as LiYana lets us in on the secret "Kryptonite" that melts the resistance and defensiveness of any woman in relationship to establish true, deep connection. This connection is liberating for men in relationship, as we will feel the reigns loosen through trust. Resources: redefiningmonogamy.com Areas of Conversation: relationship, couples, polyamory, monogamy, deep relationship, healthy communication

TNM 006: Is it Necessary to Get Close to Death to Live Life?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Thu, 17 Jan 2008 10:46:00 -0000

In the final episode of our three-part in-depth conversation with Jayson Gaddis we explore the deepest truths of men's Rite of Passage work and how we can bring this truth to our everyday lives. What happens when we step out of our "safe zone" and why are some constantly chasing the adrenaline rush in danger? Jayson talks with us about the power of stepping out of this "safe zone" and how embracing our "edge" can become a practice in our lives. We pulled together some resources to start you off on this very effort. They are all centralized here at mensgroupresource.com. This is Part 3 of three-part series. Listen to Part 1: Join a Fraternity! Be All That You Can Be! Now You're a Man! Right? & Part 2: Is it Necessary to Get Close to Death to Live Life? Additional Resources: - innernature.org - Authentic Man Program - school of lost borders - mankindproject.com - Way of the Superior Man - Fire in the Belly: On Being a Man - Into the Wild - FightClub.com

TNM 005: How Does a Rite of Passage Affect the Rest of your Life?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Thu, 20 Dec 2007 13:10:00 -0000

How does rite of passage affect the rest of your life? Are you really alive? So you've experienced your Rite of Passage, you're speaking to your animal spirits, now what? Jayson gives us some suggestions on how to take your insight back into the world and how to stay connected to your highest self throughout your life. What is the Rite of Passage really about? Are you in touch with the fact that one day you will die? Rite of Passage work gives men an alternative to their tendency to stay up in their head and analyze. It allows you to stay present in your body, feel from your heart, and be truly aware of the world around you. Popular culture often hints at the kind of initiation into manhood we are talking about. War films, coming of age tales and hero stories are often built around a man's Rite of Passage in some way. Fight Club pointed to the problem, but didn't really offer a workable solution. The film Into the Wild is Jayson's favorite Rite of Passage story, and every man with these questions should check it out. Email Jayson: Jay(at)innernature(dot)org "Wouldn't it be cool if there was a website that he could go find this information?" - Jayson We pulled together some resources to start you off on this very effort. They are all centralized here at mensgroupresource.com. This is Part 2 of a three-part series. Listen to Part 1: Join a Fraternity! Be All That You Can Be! Now You're a Man! Right? & Part 3: Is it Necessary to Get Close to Death to Live Life? Additional Resources: - innernature.org - Authentic Man Program - school of lost borders - mankindproject.com - Way of the Superior Man - Fire in the Belly: On Being a Man - Into the Wild - FightClub.com

TNM 004: Join a Fraternity! Be All That You Can Be! Now You're a Man! Right?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Wed, 19 Dec 2007 15:44:00 -0000

Is joining a fraternity is a necessary part of a man's development? Well, maybe. College fraternities are addressing a genuine need all young men feel—the need for a transition from childhood to be accepted as a grown man. The problem is that they are doing a poor job of meeting that need with genuine and healthy "Rites of Passage." This week Tripp and Casey sit down with Jayson Gaddis and talk about the Rite of Passage concept and its absence in modern western culture. With no Rite of Passage, men miss out on an essential ingredient to our healthy development. Jayson points out that the typical pattern of following the "shoulds" in life and not getting in touch with our true purpose is almost epidemic. "It's a recipe for midlife crisis," he says. This is Part 1 of a three-part series. Listen to Part 2: How Does a Rite of Passage Affect the Rest of your Life? & Part 3: Is it Necessary to Get Close to Death to Live Life? Additional Resources: - InnerNature.org - The Authentic Man Program - From Boys to Men: Spiritual Rites of Passage in an Indulgent Age - Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood

TNM 003: I'm Not Calling You Fat

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Wed, 19 Dec 2007 15:31:00 -0000

In the previous episode we learned that being in a serious relationship doesn't mean that you are cut off from what you truly want in life. This week we continue our discussion with relationship experts Alyson and Reuvain and learn practical ways to communicate your desires to your woman. Alyson even gives us a tip on how to approach your woman honestly, even if its something as sensitive as sexual attraction and body weight that has become a challenge to your relationship. Get the inside scoop on how to bring your relationship with a woman into the world of healthy differentiation, and feel the depth of connection that results. This is Part 2 of a two-part series. Listen to Part 1: Feeling Smothered? - Learn How to Live Your Truth and Be in Relationship

TNM 002: Feeling Smothered? - Learn How to Live Your Truth and Be in Relationship

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Tue, 18 Dec 2007 12:03:00 -0000

Does the traditional model for relationship feel limiting to your true nature? Do you feel like you constantly have to compromise your authenticity to avoid conflict with your partner? We have, and we're learning that it doesn't have to be that way. In this episode we're talking with psychotherapists Alyson Schwabe and Reuvain Bacal, relationship experts and specialists in women's and men's issues. They let us in on something the therapists call 'differentiation' and what we think of as 'the opposite of a shitty relationship.' Healthy differentiation means maintaining autonomy while in relationship to another. The lack of differentiation is perhaps at its strongest in our romantic relationships, where desires, social models, and insecurities pull us into dependence. If we can learn how to establish healthy differentiation our relationships may take on a whole new level of reward and freedom. Listen as we learn what it looks like to lack differentiation and learn some techniques for how to get to a healthier relationship. This is part 1 of a two-part series. Listen to part 2: I'm Not Calling You Fat.

TNM 001: When is the Last Time you were Called on Your Bullshit?

caseycapshaw@gmail.com (The New Man) — Thu, 13 Dec 2007 15:11:00 -0000

Tripp Lanier, professional coach and men's group facilitator, kicks off The New Man by calling on a group of Boulder men to discuss Men's group work. The guys talk about what they think when they hear "men's group," what they would like to gain from participating in a men's group, and the unique value that men can offer one another Rollie, an internet professional and spiritual practitioner, brings up a common phenomenon he calls the "pre/trans" misconception in which pre-conventional "macho" behavior is associated with the masculine and avoided or repressed, preventing an authentic Trans-conventional masculinity from emerging. Keith, freelance writer and Kung-fu teacher, points to Taoist principles of yin and yang and the inherent power in each. He notes that as men cultivate the softer yin energy they cut off their own personal power and the power of that yin as well as their inherent yang energy. Rich, restauranteur, relates that in his years as a married man, he unknowingly missed out on the unique relationship that other men provide. He looks into how a men's group can be similar and different from one on one coaching. Casey, marketing professional and New Man producer, shares that his clarity of direction allows him to be more available for giving in relationship and the world. The support of men keeps him on his "edge," the place where he is growing and expanding his capacities to handle life's challenges. Join the group as they explore the potentials men's work and dig into how to approach the concept of men's specific personal growth.