The Paradigm House

A Heart That Listens

2013-05-06T23:29:00.000+05:00

By: Sarah Haris

Often we are driven by the objective to win a conversational battle, to prove ourselves more intellectually profound than others, to prove others wrong, to find faults in others. In pursuit of this objective we totally forget that:

"Sometimes it is better to be kind than to be right.

We do not need an intelligent mind that speaks, but a patient heart that listens."

Earth Day 2013: The Face of Climate Change

2013-04-22T12:54:00.000+05:00

Every year on April 22, more than one billion people take part in Earth Day. Across the globe, individuals, communities, organizations, and governments acknowledge the amazing planet we call home and take action to protect it.

Earth Day 2013: The Face of Climate Change

Climate change has many faces.

A man in the Maldives worried about relocating his family as sea levels rise, a farmer in Kansas struggling to make ends meet as prolonged drought ravages the crops, a fisherman on the Niger River whose nets often come up empty, a child in New Jersey who lost her home to a super-storm, a woman in Bangladesh who can’t get fresh water due to more frequent flooding and cyclones…

And they’re not only human faces.

They’re the polar bear in the melting arctic, the tiger in India’s threatened mangrove forests, the right whale in plankton-poor parts of the warming North Atlantic, the orangutan in Indonesian forests segmented by more frequent bushfires and droughts…

These faces of climate change are multiplying every day.

For many, climate change can often seem remote and hazy – a vague and complex problem far off in the distance that our grandchildren may have to solve. But that’s only because they’re still fortunate enough to be insulated from its mounting consequences. Climate change has very real effects on people, animals, and the ecosystems and natural resources on which we all depend. Left unchecked, they’ll spread like wildfire.

Luckily, other faces of climate change are also multiplying every day.

Every person who does his or her part to fix the problem is also a Face of Climate Change: the entrepreneurs who see opportunity in creating the new green economy, the activists who organize community action and awareness campaigns, the engineers who design the clean technology of the future, the public servants who fight for climate change laws and for mitigation efforts, the ordinary people who commit to living sustainably…

On April 22, 2013, more than one billion people around the world will take part in the 43rd anniversary of Earth Day. From Beijing to Cairo, Melbourne to London, Rio to Johannesburg, New Delhi to New York, communities everywhere will voice their concerns for the planet, and take action to protect it.

We must harness that power to show the world The Face of Climate Change. And we’ll call on our leaders to act boldly together, as we have, in this pivotal year.

Source: http://www.earthday.org

In Search of "Me", Till I Listened to Thee

2013-03-10T22:16:00.001+05:00

By: Mehmet Ozan

" At a distance you only see my light, come closer and know that I am you " ~ Rumi

I wondered among these “me’s”, which one is the real me?
I tried to hear the sound deep within, till I listened to THEE.

I listened to the cry of my soul, waiting to fly free,
To drink the wine of Your love and go on a spree.

Over my ignorance and my blindness, I rue.
I wonder why, never before, I had known You?

I was deluded by the splendor of the physical,
I was blinded to the Eternal beauty of Yours.

I learnt that You live in the broken hearts,
I went on breaking, till it cracked apart.

That’s where the Light entered me,
Illuminating my soul, and all, I could see.

To THEE I belong, and to Thee shall I return,
Till then, gripped in agony, in this fire I burn.

There is no truth but Truth, there is no god but You,
I kneel before You, I bow before You, You, I woo.

I want to cease to exist, I want to cease to be,
I want to drown into You, like a river falls into the sea.

Come and wash away the image of my existence so there is no 'I' and 'we'.
Empty my being of my ‘self’ and blind me of all that I see, except THEE.

I ask myself, why is there a veil, when I belong to You, why this separation?
I hear a VOICE: Annihilation, annihilation, our union lies in self-annihilation.

~ Mehmet Ozan

Painting By: Sadaf (Sadaf's Art Gallery https://www.facebook.com/sadafsartgallery

Pain of Losing a Beloved

2013-02-24T20:41:00.000+05:00

By: Shazia Yousuf

Pain of losing a loved one cannot heal, it never can. You must try to bury it with the deceased; but both continue to live on in your heart, they never die. The pain and sorrow of the loss stay fresh as a new wound, but time teaches you to move on in life with the burden of sorrow buried within.

Pain at times is good; it lets you realise the pain of others. It gives your life a direction, a meaning - to add meaning to others' lives, to be a source of relieving sorrows with any kind deed, words of encouragement, a listeneing ear, or a simple smile.

So whenever your heart aches in rememberance of a beloved, go out and heal others.

Death Teaches Us

2013-02-21T19:31:00.000+05:00

From the diary of my late father Muhammad Haris

Death tells us not to waste time.

It tells us to love each other from the depth of our hearts.

It gives us a message that we have to be accounted for our own deeds to the Divine being.

It is a benefit for all mankind.

It is the only thing that will survive in the future.

It is the path to eternity.

It is the mode of completion.

It is the moment of ultimate joy for an upright man to meet The Almighty.

Waves of Change

2013-01-15T09:21:00.000+05:00

By: Shazia Yousuf

The bitterness of winter, ice cold rains, crisp skin thrashing winds, none could stir those that were a part of the sit-in at Alamdar. United against one cause, to not let the deaths of their loved ones go unnoticed like the deaths of so many innocent victims of mass killings.

You Made My Day

2012-11-27T23:10:00.000+05:00

By: Sumaira Hasan

Over the weekend, I went for my regular groceries at a nearby Tesco. At the till, I had to wait a while as the customer before me took ages to come back with an item she wanted to replace.

Maqtal-e-Hussain

2012-11-19T11:02:00.000+05:00

By: Zahoor ul Islam

Maqtal Hussein saja howa hai abhi talak,
Qatal abhi bhe jari hai insaf ka,
Jo samajthae thae kae zulmat ka sooraj doob giya,
Unka khawab abhi bhi hai buss aik khawab sa,

Sacrifice - The True Essence of Eid-Ul-Azha

2012-10-26T18:30:00.000+05:00

By: Shazia Yousuf

“In keeping with Hazrat Ibrahim’s submission to the Divine command to slaughter his son Ismail, on the day after Hajj, Muslims all over the world celebrate Eid, highlighting Allah’s mercy towards that supreme sacrifice by replacing Ismail with a sheep. It is a sacrifice not of a goat, or a cow or a camel but of need, love, desire, habit, greed and a thousand other obstacles in the way of submitting to truth. It represented the death of ego, whereas Muslims merely slaughtered an animal.” Abdul Sattar Edhi.

May this Eid ul Azha be the source of true joy attained by the sacrifice of ego, greed, desire, love and all obstacles that prevent us from submitting completely to the Divine Being. We must remember:

"It is not their meat, nor their blood, that reaches Allah; it is your piety that reaches Him….And give good tidings [O’ Prophet], to all who do acts of righteousness.” (Al Quran, The Pilgrimage, 22:37)

May we all be rightly guided.

Eid ul Azha Mubarak!

Perspective - Are Marriages Really Made in Heaven?

2012-09-25T10:52:00.000+05:00

By: Shazia Yousuf

“Rishtay asmano pe bantay hein” (Marriages are made in heaven).

Most of the elderly aunties are heard chanting this. A lot of us actually believe in this too. In fact, marriages don’t just happen! At the back of the mind, everyone is a believer of the fact that all marriages that take place and those that eventually work out well have something to do with the cupid up there in the heaven. Anyone just doesn’t get married to anyone. There is believed to be some Divine energy associated with marriages.

Getting married was easier in the past. Maybe cupid was more efficient back then. In eastern society marriages were mostly arranged. Parents would take the decision first, ask for the children’s wish and consent later and close the deal. The children mostly had to agree since they usually had no other option available but to say yes. Love marriages also happened. But love relationships were also limited to just seeing, liking and concluding that yes this is Love! Decision making was easier. Marriages worked out, people lived happily ever after too, or at least they tried to. Mostly, people married first and love blossomed eventually. Even if it didn’t, marriages still survived, maybe due to closely knit family structures and family pressures. Match making was simple, yet many a times, the matches were a total mismatch! The marriages still had to work.

While My Country Burns in Ishq-e-Rasool

2012-09-21T21:28:00.003+05:00

By: Shazia Yousuf

Ever since the news of the objectionable video on Prophet Muhammad (sm) has spread amongst the Muslims, there has been a lot of anger and rage throughout the Muslim world. Anger, sadness, and resentment are the obviously expected reactions when someone who is kept in high esteem and is highly loved is ridiculed and mocked.

In response to this video, there have been protests, rallies and demonstrations throughout the world to take this video off the internet. Muslims of Saudia, Kuwait and UAE have not shown any reaction to this. Their leadership has however spoken directly to the US authorities, conveying their grief and concern over the obnoxious film.

There have been protests outside the US embassies all over the world including Afghanistan, Pakistan, Yemen, Libya, Philippines, Indonesia, Egypt, Paris and Australia.

“Hundreds of Muslims took to the streets of Australia's largest city, some throwing rocks and bottles in clashes with police. Some carried placards reading ‘Behead all those who insult the Prophet’”.

This text written on placards in Australia shocked me. I always thought that the violent reaction in our part of the world was a result of lack of education and enlightenment. But I am sure Muslims in Australia must definitely be more educated compared to people in countries like ours.

Today, in Pakistan, we are observing “Youm-e-Ishq-e-Rasool”, a day to express our love for our beloved Prophet Muhammad SAWW. Prominent buildings are burning, protestors pelting stones, there is fire on streets. Looking at the news it seems we are heading back to the dark ages (dour-e-jahalat). Or maybe we never came out of the dark ages in the first place.

If we were Muslims not just by birth but if we actually practiced Islam, we would be the most patient, most tolerant race on the face of the earth. We have been taught to “exhort one another to truth and exhort one another to endurance” (Quran [Al-Asr, 103:3])

Court Marriage – Causes and Effects

2012-07-04T10:21:00.000+05:00

By: Advocate Sadia Tariq

Searching for “Prince Charming” is the dream of every young girl. But, the criteria of choosing their Prince these days are quite divergent from their parents’ choice!

Immature inexperienced girls are often charmed by the physical appearance of the guys who impress girls by their trendy outfits, cool hair styles, latest perfumes and their obsessive conversations. These are enough to impress and trap simple girls coming from average backgrounds.

Guys lure girls for various motives which include acquiring wealth in the form of dowry and more at later stages, using the girls in different negative activities; human-trafficking is one of them. The girls are often trapped and fall prey in the name of love and presumptions of baseless promises.

To escape from the suffocating atmosphere at home, dating under burqas is now quite common. These dates eventually end up with court marriage without the parents’ wishes and consent.

There’s Still a Longing To Run Free.

2012-06-12T14:07:00.000+05:00

By: Tasmiyah Iqbal

There’s still a longing to run free.

To conquer. To achieve.
To get to the top of the ladder.
To get the best out of myself.
To be able to be right.
To be able to choose the right.

There’s still a longing to run free.

To expand my horizon.
To break from these clutches.
To taste each and every drop of life.
To laugh till I get tears in my eyes.
To love till I die.
To know what is love, to know what is life.

And there’s still a longing to run free.

To explore. To evolve. To nurture.
To touch each and every corner of the world.
To smell all the roses.
To dance in the rain.
To soar high above the sky.
To shout on top of my lungs.

There’s still a longing to run free.

To show the world that I’m not wrong.
To show the world that I can move the oceans.
To actually move the oceans.
To show the world that I care.
To be the change that we all want.

And there’s still a longing to run free.
To be crazy and lame.
And insane.
To make you laugh.
To make you smile.
To cheer you up.
To throw colours everywhere I go.

And there’s still a longing to run free.

To escape from my secret world.
To be the person that I am.
To puke all the guilt away.
To find a better day.

There’s still a longing to run free.

Originally published at: http://tasmay.wordpress.com/2008/05/03/theres-still-a-longingto-run-free/

The Process of Never Giving Up on Your Dreams

2012-05-25T13:19:00.000+05:00

By: Tasmiyah Iqbal

The process of never giving up on your dreams is simple: Just keep going. Don't stop believing in yourself.

There comes a time in your life when giving up seems easier than trying harder. You find it hard to cope up with everything. Perhaps the competition is tough or it's not a great time for your work to survive. You tell yourself, Ok...maybe, this isn't what I'm supposed to do so that's why I'm having trouble dealing with it. Or maybe you tell yourself that, hey! I'm not destined to do this which is why I keep on failing. And then you give up. You pack your bags and leave. You find it easier to do that.

But imagine what could have happened if you hadn't escaped? Hadn't given up? Had tried a little harder? Pushed your limits a bit further? Dreamed bigger than you had dreamed before? Or simply, had just kept going?

"Khula" - A Stigma or a Relief?

2012-05-18T14:59:00.000+05:00

By: Sadia Tariq

The author is an advocate and marriage counsellor.

“Haan Bibi kiya soocha aap ne, rehna hai apne mian ke saath ya nahe?”

(So what have you decided, do you wish to live with your husband or not?)

This is a typical question a Judge asks a woman, who files a case in the court for obtaining “khula” (divorce initiated by a female). The usual reply from most of the women is:

“No Sir, I don’t want to live with my husband anymore.”

The Judge then announces the dissolution of the marriage by way of khula between the couple. And it adds up as one more entry into my list of disposal cases.

As cases add on to my list, they bring a lot of questions to my mind. Will this woman miss her good memorable time spent with her ex-husband? Or will she just remember those bad phases, on grounds of which, she applied for khula? What will this woman now do? How will she tackle her life? How will she now plan for her future?

Handling such cases on a daily basis, the major question that arises in mind is:

Is taking khula considered as a stigma or a relief in our society?

The Gift That I Want On This Mother’s Day

2012-05-13T13:14:00.001+05:00

By: Shazia Yousuf

I wish you not to show me your love,

In just odd forms and ways,

I wish you not to shower your love,

With just paper cards, chocolates or bouquets,

I cherish your love,

In those sweet little moments,

When I’m boiling with wrath,

And you make me smile,

When I ruin the French toast,

And you say it’s “kind of nice”,

When you feel sad, when I am sad,

When you try to walk,

The path to which I guide,

But you make me proud,

When you choose your path,

When you win the race,

When you lose the race yet you win the race,

By standing strong,

Against all storms,

When I see you strong,

When I see you tall,

That’s when I feel,

I do not need,

Not one Mother’s day,

Every moment that you shine,

For me is my prize!

Happy Mother's Day

How To Lose Belly Fat - A Simple Guide

2012-05-08T18:18:00.001+05:00

By: Shazia Yousuf

Do you have that spare tyre around your belly that you so want to get rid of? Who doesn’t! But the only problem is, acquiring a tyre is a lot easier than losing it.

I have seen people go on diets, do workouts and aerobics, and shed pounds with a great deal of effort. But as soon as they commit one sin, just one simple indulgence in that “death by chocolate”, or just a handful of fries (ok maybe a little bit of munching on that juicy burger too), and the scale goes wild!

A simple workable solution for “How to lose belly fat” is what most of us are looking for. Reading up on this, I came up with a lot of tips which just required you to undergo a little bit of habit or a routine change, and which could do wonders.

So here are some of those tips that I thought would be a great share for all of you.

Weeds

2012-04-26T12:24:00.000+05:00

By: Shazia Yousuf

In a garden with lovely vibrant blossoms and fresh crisp green vegetation, weeds are inevitable. A gardener has to be vigilant, always on the lookout for them; de-weeding every now and then, or else the plants in the garden would grow weak and wilt.

But some of the weeds are so beautiful; you may not even want to pluck them off. Looking at the beauty of these naturally growing plants, it makes me wonder, who are we to mercilessly pull the weeds out?

Weeds are also a part of nature, essentially God’s creation. Nothing exists without a reason; nothing comes into being on its own. So, are we out of our selfish desires, deciding on our own to put an end to a life that is actually meant to live on?

Earth Day – Mobilize The Earth Towards “A Billion Acts of Green”

2012-04-22T08:37:00.001+05:00

By: Shazia Yousuf

April 22, 2012 will be the 42nd anniversary of the Earth Day. Last year’s theme was “A Billion Acts of Green” and the goal was to generate a billion acts of environmental service and advocacy before the global Earth Summit 2012 in Rio.

This year, more than one billion people around the globe will participate in Earth Day 2012 and help Mobilize the Earth™. People of all nationalities and backgrounds will voice their appreciation for the planet and demand its protection and contribute towards "A Billion Acts of Green".

We may contribute to a greener earth, by doing at least one act of conservation in order to make those “billion acts of green” possible.

The Beast

2012-04-15T23:44:00.001+05:00

By: Shazia Yousuf

(Extracted from the diary of my late father Muhammad Haris)

“When the time of the resurrection approaches [the sinners], We shall bring forth ‘The Beast’, [the animal, the Satan within them], which will rise [with them] from the earth to speak [and confront them], because they had no faith in Our Revelations.” (Al Quran 27:82)

“Beast from the earth” has not been clarified convincingly by anyone. It is not yet understood what kind of creature it would be, whether one or several, or would it be an animal, insect, monster or a human being. Various scholars have interpreted this in different ways.

Roots

2012-03-13T11:56:00.001+05:00

By: Shazia Yousuf

Roots of a tree are not visible, what is seen by the world are the shoots, leaves, flowers and fruits that the tree bears. The health and the growth of a tree depends a lot on the roots, but it is not visible to the world, its apparent significance is barely any.

So is the case with humans. Your ancestors may have been humans of great substance, but that in no way makes you equally great. Your roots may mean a lot in who you are, but what matters more is the fruits of kindness, compassion, selflessness, courtesy, forbearance that you reap.

"A tree is known by its fruit; a man by his deeds. A good deed is never lost; he who sows courtesy reaps friendship, and he who plants kindness gathers love." - Saint Basil

On This World Women's Day I Support a Cause

2012-03-08T20:46:00.000+05:00

By: Shazia Yousuf

"Woman is a ray of God, she is not a mere mistress. She is the Creator's self. One might even say, she is not created!" ~ Rumi

A Road Trip to Gawadar

2012-03-07T10:42:00.001+05:00

By: Shazia Yousuf

My friends and I had been craving for a road trip adventure. Not being able to take too many days off from work; we had to come up with some place not too far from Karachi, yet worth the experience.

After some planning and research, we discovered that Pearl Continental Hotel at Gawadar popularly known as Zevar PC Gawadar, was offering rooms at fairly cheap rates and that it had water sports facility available. Gawadar is a small sea port in the province of Baluchistan at a distance of about 632 km from Karachi towards the southwestern Arabian Sea coast of Pakistan.

Hence we decided on taking a road trip to Gawadar; the main attraction for us was jet skiing at the beach.

We were a gang of sixteen people, so we hired a thirty two seater Toyota Hiace van, booked rooms for a night at the Zevar PC Gawadar, and set out on the much awaited adventure.

We started off early in the morning. The drive is supposed to be 8 hr long in an SUV, but it took us around 12 hours.

Wisdom Corner - Points To Ponder : Apparent Vs Real

2012-02-23T11:23:00.000+05:00

From the diary of Muhammad Haris

Apparent loss may be real gain.
Apparent cruelty may be real mercy.
Returning good for evil may really be justice not generosity.
Apparent failure may be real gain.

Thought of the week - Love Is In The Air

2012-02-14T23:46:00.001+05:00

“Love is in the air…” since it’s the Valentine’s Day. Youngsters anxiously wait for this day to let their sweethearts know how much they care.

But The Divine being doesn’t wait for any special day for the manifestation of His Love and bounty. We must understand how sacred love is. It isn’t something that can be bought off the shelf and distributed. Love is also not something reserved for just a “sweetheart”.

Expression of love should also not be reserved for one special day. We shouldn’t wait to tell those special people in our lives how much we care. Love needs expression, at every moment, every day. Your loved ones deserve it not only on one particular day. And who has seen tomorrow. So be generous; it’s never too late. Give your love away; it only multiplies.

Let’s celebrate love and leave your mark on the lives you touch!