The Pat Crosby Leadership Hour

Global ForGIVEness Mastermind Meditations ~ Free the Inner Blocks to Your Success

2009-11-25T15:03:00.001-05:00

Networkers: Different Organizations have asked to include this ForGIVEness work in their team training ~ to facilitate smooth and open communication among themselves. Releasing old hurts allows you to move forward in achieving your dreams.

Please join us.... ForGIVEness ~ Key to Success

LISTEN AT
http://iloveforgiveness.blogspot.com/

Dear Hearts,

An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth, a limb for a limb makes the whole world blind, dumb, and lame.

Forgive NOW.

You are invited and welcome to join our special

ForGIVEness Mastermind Meditation for Global Release and Harmony and Enlightenment.

“No two minds ever come together without thereby creating a third, invisible intangible force, which may be likened to a third mind.” - Napoleon Hill

This is the first in a SERIES of planetary masterminds for ForGIVEness.

This is a powerful half hour program.

You can also save this link and RE-ENERGIZE your Forgiveness Meditations for the each of 31 days.

In this way, you will bring the extraordinary and healing power of ForGIVEness into your lives, family, community, and our planet.

ForGIVEness is THE most powerful energy needed on this planet right now....

Invite a Friend, too, who would like to lighten their burden.

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KNOCK! KNOCK!

Forgiveness opens the door in your heart to love.

1. Do you self-sabotage?
2. Do you have feelings of unworthiness?
3. Do you drag around old baggage?
4. Do you wall yourself up and create hard places that make you sick?
5. Do you know you can hurt your heart by holding grudges and judgments?
6. Do you want to have more love?
7. Do you want to experience unconditional love?

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Pat Crosby

845.434.3829 US voicemail

Get Real! Expect A Miracle!
http://ILoveForGIVEness.com

2009-10-11T13:43:00.000-04:00

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I first encountered Ho'opono Pono on the Big Island of Hawaii.

Mahealani is a revered Hawaiian Elder who travels and teaches this beautiful practice of forgiveness.

Nancy Kahalewai publishes books by the Hawaiian Elders - among her other gifts.

If you would like to explore the Hawaiian roots of Ho'opono Pono and learn more, go here
http://www.bigislandmassage.com/publish.htm

Ho'opono Pono and Fun with Mahealani Kuamo'o-Henry (left) & Nancy Kahalewai (center) on tour in Tahiti.

Pat Crosby

Talks Tony Robbins asks why we do what we do

2009-08-19T12:34:00.001-04:00

About this talk

http://www.ted.com/talks/tony_robbins_asks_why_we_do_what_we_do.html

Tony Robbins discusses the "invisible forces" that motivate everyone's actions -- and high-fives Al Gore in the front row.

About Tony Robbins

Tony Robbins makes it his business to know why we do the things we do. The pioneering life coach has spoken to millions of people through his best-selling books and three-day seminars. Full bio and more links

Scam-sters to be avoided... especailly for our hopeful, gullible, naive, and eternally young-wishing friends...

2008-12-26T16:33:00.003-05:00

EASY LEADERSHIP LESSONS

Yikes!

The scamsters are always at it.

"There's a sucker born every minute" maybe is now there are 10 suckers signing up every minute for some "deal".

Be it the BIG MADOFF (as in Made Off) with a $50 billion global Ponzi scam that is leaving massive global carnage in its wake, or the little chicken fly-by-nighter creeps calling you up with some story to hook the hopeful, naive, and gullible.

(On, did you REALLY think gifting programs were OK? - If so, consider booking time in scamster hell along with Madoff and crony crooks...)

Anyway, the Missouri Attorney General tells you to avoid the FREE GRANT SCAM. These crud-PHONECALLsters are targeting the desperate and financially challenged among us. Who knows who else they will catch in their phishing nets.

So read up, be aware, and spread the message in case any of your friends are still naive and gullible (and desperate.)
http://ago.mo.gov/newsreleases/2006/020106.htm

On the side bar, click some of the sidebar links to up your ANTI-SCAM IQ.

REMEMBER: IF it Looks TOO GOOD to BE TRUE - IT IS :(

True success comes from right action, with right intention, and right effort applied consistently OVER TIME. Get Rich Quick is a hallucinogenic fantasy for addicts.

Successfully,

Pat

This message is ARCHIVED at
http://ThePatCrosbyLeadershipHour.Blogspot.com

Choose Love! Let it Go...
http://ILoveForGIVEness.com

10-26-08 Leadership Dialogue ~ Answer YOUR Questions Tonight ~

2008-10-26T23:13:00.001-04:00

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From Seth Godin's blog.

Be careful of who you work for

Posted by Seth Godin
October 24, 2008
http://sethgodin.typepad.com/seths_blog/2008/10/index.html

The single most important marketing decision most people make is also the one we spend precious little time on: where you work.
Think about this for a second. Your boss and your job determine not only what you do all day, but what you learn and who you interact with. Where you work is what you market. Work in a high stress place and you're likely to become a highly stressed person, and your interactions will display that. Work for a narcissist and you'll develop into someone who's good at shining a light on someone else, not into someone who can lead. Work for someone who plays the fads and you'll discover that instead of building a steadily improving brand, you're jumping from one thing to another, enduring layoffs in-between gold rushes. Work for a bully and be prepared to be bullied.
And yet, there are plenty of books about getting a job, but no books I know of about choosing a job. There are hundreds of sites where job seekers can go to find a new job, and virtually none where you can find reviews of bosses or companies or jobs.
Ted Zoromski really needed a job, so he took one doing human spam (outbound telemarketing). That's his first mistake. This isn't a stepping stone to something better, it doesn't teach you much, it grinds you down and it doesn't make you more marketable. When he found he was also making calls he found offensive, he quit.
Years ago, when I had ten people working for me at my book packaging company, one client accounted for about half our revenue. They were difficult, constantly threatening litigation, sending lawyers to otherwise productive meetings, questioning our ethics and more. It was clearly the culture of their organization to be at war. So I fired them. I gave them the rights and walked away, even though it meant a huge hit to our organization. Why do it? Because if we had stuck with them, it would have changed who we were, who we hired and how we marketed ourselves going forward. We would have had a lifetime of this.

How many job offers with good pay have you turned down in your lifetime? How many clients? Compare that to how many times you've been rejected. That's totally out of whack. Great marketing involves having a great product, and not every job (or every client) is worth your time or attention or love.

If you want to become the kind of person that any company would kill to have as an employee, you need to be the kind of employee that's really picky about who you align with.

10-26-08 Leadership Dialogue ~ Answer YOUR Questions Tonight ~

2008-10-26T20:10:00.003-04:00

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Good Evening, Leaders~

Wow! With so much getting re-configured these days, it seems an opportune evening to look over the recent set of Sunday Evening Conversations we have had ~ and take an evening to review, comment, question, answer, and discuss some of these advanced leadership topics.

ALL the billionaire business crowd are insisting this is an OPPORTUNE time to start and to do business.

You can review some of these hot topics:
1. Interview with Big Al Tom Schreiter on communicating with the subconscious in business.

2. Seth Godin ~ The Dip ~ When to Quit &When to Continue

3. Diamond Cutter ~ Secret Energies at work in success & non-success ~ and how to fix.

4. Any other topics that you can review on our Leadership Generic Blog at
http://ThePatCrosbyLeadershipHour.Blogspot.com

You will also find something quite wonderful and fascinating on the blog ~ while browsing youtube, I came across a great video of the real and original NAPOLEAN HILL ~ author of everybody's favorite THINK & GROW RICH. Really kewl to see him in the flesh and voice.

Our calls are unique in that we go into topics that arise in leadership as you prepare yourself to lead a team, and then to handle the various team dynamics that come as your team grows.

Many other calls teach and discuss how to get a team up and running, and how to do web 2.0 outreach. We specialize in the inner journey of leadership ~ and somewhat of a roadmap (if it exists?) along the pathway of leadership.

It is our philosophy that true leadership arises within each one of us ~ and grows as we grow.

This is an OPEN MIKE call, so come prepared to chime in.

We welcome back out chatty and vivacious co-host Lynn Rothfuss tonight ~ who has been on a sabbatical for awhile contemplating her..... (fill in the blank). It's always good to hear Lynn's heart-felt and deeply processed shares. No glib chit-chat here. She delivers full value when she talks.

This call will be ARCHIVED for listening on demand at
http://ThePatCrosbyLeadershipHour.Blogspot.com

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Other News:

Big Al's newsletter contains many tidbits of golden information and ideas. I have appended a recent one below. We may or may not get to discuss it tonight... depending on how the call goes....but for sure, subscribing to Big Al's list is a MUST.

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Happy News! After an all-nighter (reminds me of school finals), I FINALLY got my new book uploaded.... (well I am going to re-do the cover on the print version when I get some more techie help this coming week....)

Here is what our friend Bob Burg, author of the business best-seller, has to say about this book. I must admit, I was stunned and delighted with his fast and powerful endorsement of my book:

TOP AUTHOR BOB BURG, THE GO-GIVER
"There are very few things more counterproductive than holding a grudge. In this little gem, Pat Crosby shares a method for forgiveness that can provide you with more happiness, joy, peace of mind, and financial success."

-Bob Burg, coauthor (with John David Mann) of The Go-Giver (www.TheGoGiver.com)

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Don't you just love the part about "financial success"? Bob has a deep understanding of the energies involved in being successful. AND he's such a delightful speaker and author.

So you can find the book online, PLUS a new online support group for those interested in dropping old stones from the past and lightening up at

http://ILoveForGIVEness.Blogspot.com

I recommend the ebook version - as it is in full-color. AND it has live links to the online free meditation exercise (short and to the point) to free you up to move forward.

Believe me, it is free, fast, and easy ~ after all, we are into business innovation with rapid sure-fire results here.

I have learned so many techie wonders working on this project.... soon I will even get my new ILoveForGIVEness.com url up and running over the Blogspot. url.

Thanks to EVERYONE who has been so supportive, so patient, so understanding. Writing, publishing, and then promoting a book IS a major life event!

Isn't being in business so much fun?

So creative... so stimulating. So adventuresome.

Sure is better than sitting around being depressed listening to the mass media hysteria, right ?

I'm in several Ning groups ~ so decided to start one of my own ~ for people who want to dump the old past and move on.

The views and experiences the newly-forming members are posting are quite awe-inspiring and mind-blowing all at the same time.

http://ILoveForGIVEness.Ning.com

Already, we have members from several different cultures, so the photos and movies members are posting are totally inspiring.

My FAVORITE is the video on The 7 Wonders of the World. You will NEVER guess what they are...

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Big Al Tom Schreiter Report Picks

October 23, 2008

It's bizarre. Distributors spend hundreds of dollars on products, services, advertising, travel, promoting . . . just to get prospects . . . and not a single dime on learning what to say when they get there.

Stop the insanity. Go to:

http://www.fortunenow.com/public/10.cfm

(This is for serious network marketers only.)

In this issue . . .

1. Not enough good quality prospects = Stress. Eight quick solutions.

2. "Live" Big Al workshop schedule - New locations!

3. What you shouldn't say to prospects.

4. A simple sentence to get your prospect's instant attention.

5. What's new at FortuneNow.com.

6. Where are we?

7. Fat Boy Report.

Not enough good quality prospects = Stress. Eight quick solutions.

The cause of stress in network marketing is having too few prospects.

When we only have a couple of prospects, we press, we push, we strain to make them join our opportunity. Prospects feel this pressure and instinctively back away from us.

This leads to fewer prospects and the vicious cycle gets worse and worse.

When we have an abundance of prospects, we're happy. We are not desperately waiting for a single decision from a single prospect. We aren't married to the outcome of a single presentation.

Instead, we're relaxed. We simply share our opportunity and take the first prospects who volunteer and step forward. Now we're working with volunteers and we have more great prospects waiting in line.

Which scenario describes your network marketing career?

A. Are you pressing and struggling from too few prospects?
B. Or, are you simply accepting applications from the best volunteers from your large pool of quality prospects?

The solution is simple:

Increase your marketing so that you have an abundance of prospects.

Why not increase your personal contacts now? Here are some quick ideas:

1. Host your class reunion. You don't have to wait for a 10-year or 20-year anniversary. You can do it anytime.

2. Take your best three or four headlines and first sentences and test them. Mail out 100 postcards and test the response for each.

3. Start your own breakfast club. The attendees will gladly send you pre-sold referrals for your efforts.

4. Offer to be a guest on a local radio talk show.

5. Loan out ten "How To Get Rich Without Winning The Lottery" books. Want to learn how to do it with great results?

Go to http://www.fortunenow.com/products/item30.cfm and scroll down to the bottom of the page where it says: "How to use this book (Free 14-page report)" and click on that link to get the complete report.

6. Establish some contacts who will send you referrals.

7. Pass out 10 product CDs.

8. Pass out 10 product samples or information packs.

There are plenty of ways to expand your universe of quality prospects. Just pick a method that's comfortable for you.

Get seven no-cost examples of ways to sponsor new distributors, taken directly from the '103 Ways & Places to Sponsor New Distributors' manual.

Simply go to:

http://www.fortunenow.com/products/item28.cfm

LISTEN to Diamond Cutter Book Review & Discussion Here

2008-10-19T23:24:00.000-04:00

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LISTEN to Pat Crosby - Failing? Or Succeeding in Network Marketing Oct 5 08 Teleseminar

2008-10-05T23:24:00.000-04:00

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Letting Go of the Past to Advance into Leadership. Forgiveness Workshop Oct 11 08 Hurleyville NY

2008-09-17T16:55:00.000-04:00

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Hello Friends,

Please join us SATURDAY afternoon ~~~

COLUMBUS WEEKEND
(Also see the beautiful autumn leaf color turning that the New York Catskill Mountains are famous for when attending this Saturday workshop :)

OCTOBER 11, 2008

2-5 PM PROMPT for a Forgiveness Gold Workshop experiential energizing experience.

Arrive at 1:30 PM for registration, shopping, refreshments.

Here, you will meet with the angels and guides of forgiveness, who will walk you - step-by-step - through an empowering afternoon of learning to forgive - in a whole new way ~ Energetically !

This is an afternoon of prayer, meditation, and energetic release of old patterns that keep you bound in old energies while acquiring new skills and contact with your angelic guides who will help you progress more freely and with greater ease into new ways of being, lightness, happiness, and abundance.

You will leave lighter, freer, and more energized to go about your daily life and activities.

These wonderful angel friends are here to help YOU release energetically the old restricting, constricting bonds and heart wounds that keep you weighed down.

We will learn HOW To contact and work WITH the Angels of ForGIVEness in this workshop, We will actually DO the process of forgiving energetically with these guides!
Your new angel friends will go home with you ~~~ IF you ask them to!
We will teach you HOW to do this in an atmosphere of fun and joy ~~~

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FORGIVENESS GOLD WORKSHOP INFO

WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT TO RECEIVE

* Clear & untangle negative energy patterns in your own template.

* Obtain clarity about forgiveness, soul contracts, responsibility of your actions, thoughts, feelings, and prayers.

* Learn about the energetics and spiritual forces that you can call to your assistance to let go and forgive.

* Learn about how to invoke these powerful allies in healing and clearing your physical, emotional, and mental bodies.

* Increase your capacity to hold the light.

* Learn to utilize golden photon particles for self healing physically, emotionally, mentally. Self healing in the great shift in consciousness that is now fully underway on this planet.

* Take home skills that you can use for ongoing healing and personal development and evolution.

* Notes and journal for your continued expansion of understanding and ability to love and nurture relationships - with yourself and others.

* Safe, nurturing environment for the unfolding of your soul power in light and love.

You will have these learned tools to TAKE HOME with you for further progress in your journey.

OVERVIEW OF WORKSHOP

1. INVOCATION OF SPIRIT GUIDE ANGELS & INTRO OF FORGIVENESS ANGELS.
This workshop is spiritual - rather than religious.
It is not exclusive of any particular religious path or tradition.

2. DISCUSSION:
Your goal for this workshop.
Powerful forgiveness stories.
What IS and what IS NOT Forgiveness.
Forgiveness & Health.

3. CHANTING OF SACRED SOUNDS to release, heal, and re-align.

3. GUIDED FORGIVENESS MEDITATION. Meet Your Angels & Guides.

4. HOW TO ACCESS & USE PHOTON ENERGY - GOLDEN LIGHT PRANA PARTICLES - FOR SELF HEALING EMOTIONALLY, PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, SPIRITUALLY. Instruction and practice in working with golden photon particles for self healing physically, emotionally, mentally.

You will have these gifts and skills to take home with you.

5. Review and experiences shares.

WHAT TO BRING:

1. Journal to document and capture your experiences.
2. Pure water to drink and any snacks you may need to sustain yourself.
3. Healthy Vegetarian Refreshments to share.
4. Open Heart and Willingness to Learn.

BONUS: Workshop Participants will also receive a free ebook of Pat's upcoming book... The Little Book of Forgiveness. + an audio MP3 guided meditation on forgiveness that you can use over and over again as need and inspiration arise.

REGISTER AT
Pre-Register and Save
http://ForgivenessStore.blogspot.com

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ARE YOU IN THE STATE OF FORGIVENESS ?

Hello Friend,

* Is your life full of one golden moment after another?
* Do you feel the love of the universe reigning down on you?
* Do you feel yourself pulsating and radiating with throbs of joyful unconditional love?
If so, you are in the State of Forgiveness.

The State of Forgiveness is a magical realm within your very own self.
You were born with it.
Your soul was created with it.
It is your birthright to live in it.

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BOOK A WORKSHOP IN YOUR AREA, FOR YOUR GROUP OR ORGANIZATION.
QUESTIONS & CONTACT
845 . 434 . 3829
patcrosby@gmail.com

REGISTER AT
Pre-register and Save
http://ForgivenessStore.blogspot.com

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Pat's new book on The little Book of ForGIVEness is forthcoming soon on Amazon & Barnes & Noble online.

Receive an advance e-book FREE when you register for this workshop!

PLUS a free audio version of the Guided ForGIVEness Meditation online for all new subscribers at http://ILoveForgiveness.blogspot.com

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WHAT OTHERS ARE SAYING....

TOP AUTHOR BOB BURG, THE GO-GIVER

"There are very few things more counterproductive than holding a grudge. In this little gem, Pat Crosby shares a method for forgiveness that can provide you with more happiness, joy, peace of mind and financial success."

-Bob Burg, Co-author (with John David Mann) of The Go-Giver (www.TheGoGiver.com)

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TOP AUTHOR, MENTOR, COACH, TRAINER JOHN MILTON FOGG, GREATEST NETWORKER IN THE WORLD:

"There are angles among us. I know. I met one. Her name is Pat Crosby and she is here spreading the Power of Forgiveness with her magic golden particles. Breathe them in and untangle your life."

Thanks Pat.

I appreciate you!

John Milton Fogg

Author, The Greatest Networker in the World

currently residing at: http://BeliefBusters.com

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TOP AUTHOR, SPEAKER, SACRED SITE TRAVELER, GEOLOGIST JAMES TYBERONN:

"Pat Crosby is a true 'Earth-Keeper. Her depth of understanding teamed with her extensive travels to sacred sites all over the planet have given her keen insight and wisdom that is clearly reflected in this book. It is a must read for all on the path"

James Tyberonn Earth-Keeper.com

~~~***~~~SPECIAL GIFT FOR NEW FORGIVENESS SUBSCRIBERS ~~~***~~~

You can get a sneak preview AND listen to the special guided forgiveness meditation gift by
signing into the subscribe box at
http://ILoveForgiveness.blogspot.com

~~~***~~~ Wishing YOU Well On Your Journey Of ForGIVEness ~~~***~~~

Your Friend,

Pat Crosby

You are welcome to forward this email to interested persons !
Thank you :)

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Pat Crosby
email patcrosby@gmail.com

Voicemail 1.845.434.3829 US
SKYPE UniversalPat

Worthless Friends on Social Sites? Charless Heflin blog

2008-09-16T22:06:00.000-04:00

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Charles Heflin

Do you have a bunch of worthless friends?

What is the meaning of a “friend” in social media?

We know who our friends are in real life… Has the Internet changed the definition or terms of friendship?

We create friends in the offline world because we have things in common. You scratch my back, I scratch yours… We feed each others interests… It’s never discussed, it’s just what friends do.

The same should apply to online friends… You share something in common, feed the interest, share, comment and reward your online friends so that the connection goes a little deeper and you are granted mind-share from the other party becuase you “scratched their back”… The unspoken law.

Mind-share is what we are all after in our online endeavors… Always remember, when someone gives you their attention (mind-share) then you have increased your reach. Reach is never determined by the size of your friends list, it is determined by how many are paying attention.

Does your social media strategy include a system for ensuring quality or is this a numbers game for you?

Here’s a formula or law of engagement that fosters quality, breeds trust, builds authority and enacts the law of reciprocity among those you network with. As in the offline world, the mechanics of online friendship abide by the same unspoken laws…

I call it the O.G.R.E.S. relationship management formula

O = OBSERVE

Staying on top of your industry by reading the top bloggers’ blogs is a way of observing. You are staying connected with the top of your game. You know where and how to find bleeding-edge information that will be timely and well received by your target audience.

I will cover ways to observe in another post but for now I just want the point to be clear. Without observing (listening) then you will not be able to connect with your audience in a meaningful way.

G = GATHER

Based on what you observe you can now gather good information into your social communities. An example would be writing a blog post about what you observed. Another example would be bookmarking the observation. Another would be sharing a link to the observation.

R = REWARD

It is rewarding to the blog owner that you gathered their information into a blog post and expanded on it or repurposed it for your audience. You linked back to the originating post and the blog owner received a trackback notification. This notification tells them that someone just linked to their content. They will probably follow the link and read what you wrote. This is rewarding to the blog owner becuase you recognized (rewarded) their effort. Now you have branded yourself in their mind… good for future relations.

Rewarding is a way to get “noticed” by the community amidst a sea of noise. Rewarding is how you rise above the noise and the chatter to become a player in your industry. Recognizing and rewarding others for what they do is the only way to establish meaningful and powerful relationships in social media.

Reward people by telling them happy birthday… Reward people by commenting on their latest photo… Reward people by commenting on their blog posts. Doing this will build a community that will aggregate / syndicate your content to the far reaches of the web… It’s the unspoken undercurrent of “real” relationships.

Breaking it down this way is a little blunt but it really is the undercurrent of all relationships even though we don’t talk about it.

E = ENGAGE

Engage your community with information that you have gathered. When you find something interesting, create an entire content strategy out of it… Engage the people that you know are interested and be sure to reward them for their interaction.

Engaging fosters two-way communication. Without two-way communication, the social web would not exist. You can engage through social networks, audio, video, text, email, SMS texting … you name it, if you can two-way communicate with it, you can engage with it.

S = SEEK

Seek people that also Observe, Gather, Reward and Engage. By doing this you will ensure that you are building a powerful and active community. These will be your aggregators, they will share your content across the social web becuase you have done the same for them.

The power of your aggregators, your “true” online friends, compounds over time… It gets stronger and stronger… It is a true asset… Work that does not have to be repeated. Your true online friends will cause your search engine visibility and resulting traffic to surge becuase they follow this same formula… They reward becuase you reward… It’s pure, unspoken, human nature.

Your friends will put your material in front of your target audinence through many different channels bringing you traffic, action and sales. They’ll Digg it, Mixx it, Plurk it, Feed it, Tweet it, Blog it, share it, you name it.

This is how you increae your “reach”… This is how you build authority on the Web.

Continuing to work this formula will continue to build your authority over time. Chris Brogan recently asked his community how they would define authority on the Web.

I define authority by the amount of mind-share you have which is fostered by the number of real connections you have. This post is how I define it and act on it… How do you define/build authority on the Web?

Are you building relationships of value (breeding authority) or are you building a “friends list”?

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This has been part 6 of a multi-part series on using social media effectively to build a “real” business online. Here are the previous 5 posts that have led to this one.

Autism. Supporting team members & team families. NY Times article.

2008-09-14T23:41:00.002-04:00

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September 14, 2008

By JANE MARGOLIES

WHEN Victoria Berrey took a cruise with her mother and sister three years ago, she returned to her home in Santa Clarita, Calif., with one regret: She’d never be able to do a trip like it with her own children, both of whom have autism. “I worried about the confined quarters and the need for the boys to sit still in the dining room,” said Mrs. Berrey, whose older son, Miles, now 12, is on a restricted diet, and whose younger boy, Mathew, 8, has difficulty with any disruptions in routine. “Where would I take Mathew if something happened and he started yelling? What if one of them fell overboard?”
But last March Mrs. Berrey and her sons did enjoy a cruise, a three-day sail on a Royal Caribbean liner with special arrangements for people who have autism. At boarding, the 11 families who had booked the Autism on the Seas package through Alumni Cruises didn’t have to wait in line, and they were able to do the muster call in a private conference room rather than crowd on deck with the thousands of other passengers.
The group sat together at meals, so when one of the kids got antsy or let out a holler, there were no stares or glares or why-can’t-you-control-your-child lectures. Mrs. Berrey was even able to drop off her boys at the kids’ club where the staff had been specially prepped. “I got to experience what other parents experience all the time,” she said.
For most people, family vacations amount to almost a right. But for those grappling with autism — a brain disorder that affects one in 150 children and is four times more likely to afflict boys than girls, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention — travel is a trickier proposition.
The 1.5 million Americans diagnosed with autism, also known as autism spectrum disorder or pervasive developmental disorder, have impaired abilities to communicate and interact socially, with cases ranging from those who cannot speak and live largely cut off from the world around them to highly functioning individuals who can express themselves extremely well, though they might have trouble with back-and-forth conversation; many have narrowly focused interests (an obsession with fans or train timetables, for example), or display unusual behaviors like the repetition of just-heard words, or the avoidance of eye contact or of being touched.
Yet for every parent who decides they’re better off staying at home with a child who might have a meltdown if someone accidentally brushes against him at a hotel breakfast buffet, there are others who are determined to hit the road, particularly if there are nonautistic siblings in the equation. And with Americans who have disabilities spending $13.6 billion annually on travel in the United States (not including the caregivers and family members who often accompany such individuals), according to a 2005 Harris Interactive poll for the Open Doors Organization, a small but growing number of tour operators, travel agents and resorts are offering specially geared getaways.
The Autism on the Seas trips from Alumni Cruises, a booking agency in Shelton, Conn., have tripled the last two years, far outpacing the company’s beading- and home school-themed voyages and now accounting for almost half its revenue. Adam’s Camp, a Colorado organization that provides camp-style sessions at Snow Mountain Ranch, in Granby, for children with disabilities and their families, added a fifth week this year and is considering a sixth because of the increased demand from the families of children with autism. It has also begun a program on Nantucket and hopes to add additional sites.
At Smugglers’ Notch Resort in Vermont, three-quarters of the participants in a program for people with special needs are autistic, and that number increases every year, according to Kris Connolly, manager of adaptive programs at the resort, who will provide one-on-one care if required, or steer a child with autism to a group of kids who are the same developmental, as opposed to chronological, age. “We might spend an extra 20 minutes at the pool if the water is calming to a child, or he enjoys the feeling of buoyancy,” she said. “If we see real enjoyment at the swing set, that’s where we’ll take extra time.”
And while hotels and resorts have focused on accommodating guests with physical handicaps since the enactment of the Americans With Disabilities Act in 1990, according to Scott Berman, a hospitality and leisure analyst at PricewaterhouseCoopers, the 300-hotel chain Microtel Inns & Suites, which has won awards from disability-rights organizations for going above and beyond the requirements of the law to welcome guests with physical differences, includes discussions of hidden disabilities like autism in staff training.
“There’s been a sea change in terms of awareness,” said Marguerite Colston, spokeswomen for the Autism Society of America, who credits celebrities like the former Miami Dolphins quarterback Dan Marino and the actress Jenny McCarthy, who have spoken out on behalf of their own children and those like them, with helping spread the word. “It used to be that when people heard the word autism, they thought ‘Rain Man,’ ” Ms. Colston said, referring to the 1988 movie in which Dustin Hoffman plays an institutionalized autistic savant. “Now they realize there’s a broader range.” And with more and more children being diagnosed with autism — now the fastest-growing developmental disability in America, according to the society — “it’s much more likely that any given person will know someone with autism,” she said.
All of which is not to suggest that vacations with an autistic child are easy. The very idea of travel — the chance to see new places, try new foods, experience new cultures — is directly at odds with the needs of many people with autism, who require well-established, strictly observed routines to feel secure.
And while the airport experience since 9/11 has become much more trying to all of us, it can be extremely challenging for someone who has inherent difficulty waiting or standing in line, not to mention answering questions posed by a security guard. “If a guard asks, ‘Did you pack your own bag?’ someone with autism might repeat the question, or just repeat the word, ‘bag,’ ” said Dr. Melissa Nishawala, director of the Autism Spectrum Disorders Service at the New York University Child Study Center. “The child might read ‘dangerous explosives’ on a sign somewhere in the airport and start repeating those words. Loudly. In line.”
Then there is the plane ride itself. “By the time they get on the plane, the parents and the child are stressed out,” said Dr. Ron Balamuth, a New York psychologist who specializes in working with children who have developmental disorders. “For a kid who needs constant stimulation, that’s like putting him in a flotation tank.”
In June, a mother and her young autistic son were kicked off an American Eagle flight departing from Raleigh-Durham in part because of the child’s behavior. An item about the incident on the Chicago Tribune’s blog drew 221 posts by the end of the day — almost twice as many in support of the airline as sympathetic to the family.

Parents who travel with autistic offspring employ many strategies. They pick destinations that will appeal: a resort with a pool if the child loves water, or Disney World if he has a fixation with “The Lion King.” They role play with their child before departure to prepare for the experience. “I had a family with a child who had tremendous difficulty waiting in lines, waiting for anything,” said Dr. Balamuth. “They turned their house into a flight gate. The family lined up with suitcases, they took off their shoes, they play acted the whole thing.”
Itineraries, even daily schedules, reviewed in advance help autistic travelers know what is going to take place, and when. “If a child can read, it’s words on a page; if not, it’s pictures,” said Lisa Goring, director of family services for Autism Speaks, an advocacy group. With her own son, Andrew, 12, Mrs. Goring ticks off activities as they occur. “He’s anxious if he doesn’t know when an activity will end,” she said.

Parents carry a letter from their child’s doctor explaining the condition (to whip out at the airport or to present at guest relations at Disney World, where it can secure a pass to circumvent long lines). They take along familiar toys and a DVD player so favorite movies can be watched en route. And if the child is on a gluten-free, casein-free diet (thought to relieve allergies and other medical ailments that might be distracting to someone with autism), they cart along a lot of food, too.
If parents find a destination that works for their child, they often return. Anthony and Felicia Cerabone of Staten Island bought a timeshare at Smugglers’ Notch, where their son, Anthony, 15, has participated in the resort’s SNAP program for people with special needs for 10 years. “He knows that every July we go,” said Mrs. Cerabone. “He knows that every day he goes to the camp. By now it’s routine.”
Gina Delgiudice-Asch, a rheumatologist, and her husband, Will, a high-school math teacher, from Princeton, N.J., have managed to range farther afield with their two children, even though their son, Andrew, 16, has autism, Dr. Delgiudice-Asch said from Avalon, N.J., where the family rented a house at the shore for a week at the end of June.
Sometimes she or her husband will take a one-on-one trip with their 13-year-old daughter, Samantha, a nationally ranked junior tennis player — on a recent jaunt to Los Angeles, mother and daughter visited the set for “Ocean’s Thirteen” and ducked in and out of shops on Rodeo Drive. “With Andrew, everything has to be more planned,” said Mrs. Delgiudice-Asch.
But often the family travels as a pack, taking along a familiar babysitter or a teacher from Andrew’s school to help. They have vacationed everywhere from Winter Park, Colo., where instructors at the National Sports Center for the Disabled had Andrew on skis four hours a day, to Costa Rica. “It was hard when we got to the resort, and they didn’t have a grilled cheese for him right away,” Dr. Delgiudice-Asch acknowledged. “But he got the hang of it.”
They go to family-oriented resorts rather than exclusive places where “we might be impinging on other people’s vacation,” she said. And they stick to coach after a bad experience flying first class from California to Cabo San Lucas, Mexico, when Andrew, who was 6 at the time, started crying and a passenger complained to the flight attendant.
Though they’d like to see Europe, they haven’t gone as a family. That’s not because Andrew, by now a seasoned traveler, couldn’t handle the flight, but because he would have too much difficulty with the time difference, his mother said. “But we’re still doing fun things on vacation as a family,” she said. “We’re not letting autism back us into a corner.”

http://travel.nytimes.com/2008/09/14/travel/14heads.html?th&emc=th

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! COMMENTS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

One of our team members

- has autism. Many have been wondering how to understand some of his behaviours.

Also, many people have autistic family members.

This article helps people explain the condition. Autism is growing rapidly among the population. Now up to 1 in 150 people.

Many researchers think it is connected with the huge # of injections children are now required to receive - by law. I have heard up to 65 vaccinations in the first 6 months or so of life.... this is a separate topic of huge debate ---- which you can google if so inclined.

Knowing about the condition and how it effects people's behaviours helps them to:

1. Understand
2. Not judge and criticize and make harsh comments TO the autistic person, their family members, in our case - their team members.
3. Take away the fear of the autistic behaviours.
4. See beyond the behaviours to the heart and soul of the person.
5. Help US coach and mentor a person with unusual behaviors - who still has magnificent dreams - just like the rest of us.

In these ways, they are supporting a person with autism.

And Big Al won VERY favorable response from participants at a recent Big Al event I was present at for the considerate and generous way in which he responded to some behaviours of an autistic business person in the audience.

As I am learning about this condition and how it effects people, I am quite amazed to learn that many people think both Bill Gates as well as Thomas Jefferson have (had) autism.

So learning to support our team members and team family members with this condition nourishes the gifts that these particular individuals have and can contribute to our team and to our world.

Many Blessings,

Pat

***

I'm sure there is a message there about supporting people but......I need my information a little more direct. :-)

Kim

On Sat, Sep 13, 2008 at 12:33 PM, Pat Crosby <patcrosby@gmail.com> wrote:

Leaders,

Many sorts of people join our teams....here is an interesting article on how to support our growing team organizations.

http://travel.nytimes.com/2008/09/14/travel/14heads.html?th&emc=th

Kim Bolte

Thanks Pat,

That puts the whole thing into context. I always thought Autism was just something kids had. I never dawned on me that those kids grow up. I have a very dear friend with Tourette Syndrome a beautiful young woman 27 who was also having a rough go of it. But the Indian Gaming Association employed her in a customer intensive position and she is doing great and deals with it with humor and no shame (anymore) it is great to see.

Kim

How to REALLY offer your products & services to REAL people

2008-09-11T23:21:00.001-04:00

EASY LEADERSHIP LESSONS

CEO Duane Cashin explains HOW to really offer your products, services and programs to real people.

LEARN FROM THE MASTERS

http://ceoclubs.com/audios/cashin.mp3

The Chief Executive Officers Club is a nonprofit organization which creates a nurturing environment for CEOs dedicated to improving the quality and profitability of their enterprises through shared experience and personal growth.

Comprised of chapters in the U.S., Korea, United Arab Emirates and China, the CEO Club is a 30-year-old nonprofit, by-invitation-only membership association. We have a sister relationship with the Academy of Chief Executives in the United Kingdom. Members must be CEOs of businesses which have above $2,000,000 in annual sales. Our average club member has $20,000,000 in annual sales.

Powerful free audio training archives

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Kim Klaver: Is MLM REALLY THIS BAD?

2008-07-30T14:32:00.003-04:00

Wednesday, July 30, 2008

What if they didn't know it was MLM?

Negative perceptions about mlm (network marketing) plague network marketers almost wherever they go. That makes for a pretty crappy experience for folks, and it's one reason people quit.

The Microsoft Windows operating system, Vista, has the same perception problems. People have heard so much negative about it that they don't want to be bothered. They enjoy ragging on it, as you will see below.

However, the marketing team at Vista did something very clever, and documented it in this two minute video below.

After soliciting the usual "oh Vista sucks" type comments from people, they showed them something "new" -- in disguise. Watch these jaw-dropping reactions.

Next up for a transformational video: (new school) network marketing?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bsStHxtVr_w

More free training online, on demand
http://ThePatCrosbyLeadershipHour.blogspot.com

http://kimklaverblogs.blogspot.com/2008/07/what-if-they-didnt-know-it-was-mlm.html

LISTEN to Ken Huggins Memorial. Death - When a Team Member Crosses Over

2008-07-20T23:32:00.005-04:00

EASY LEADERSHIP LESSONS

Rick Berry Comments:
Every should have their daily dose of "Greens" !

Pat Crosby Comments Back:
Big Al Would Agree !

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A Poem by Henry Van Dyke read by Lynn in Celebration of Kenn Huggins Passing.

Lynn changed only one word by adding Ken's name in last sentence of poem.

"A Mile With Me"

O who will walk a mile with me
Along life's merry way?
A comrade blithe and full of glee,
Who dares to laugh out loud and free,
And let his fancy play,
Like a happy child, through the flowers gay
That fill the field and fringe the way
Where he walks a mile with me.

And who will walk a mile with me
Along life's weary way?
A friend whose heart has eyes to see
The stars shine out o'er the darkening lea,
And the quiet rest at the end o' the day,
A friend who knows, and dares to say,
The brave, sweet words that cheer the way
Where he walks a mile with me.

With such a comrade, such a friend,
I fain would walk till journey's end,
Through summer sunshine, winter rain,
And then?- Farewell, Ken we shall meet again!

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Hello, hope your day is going fantastic
!
Thought you might enjoy this video of IZ,singer Pat played on last nights call, for celebration of Ken's passing.

The energy from his voice,tone,vibration could not be fully experienced and enjoyed through MFF's phone quality.

IZ - Over the Rainbow / What a Wonderful World

A tribute to Bruddah IZ - Israel Kamakawiwo'ole, a fravorite son of Hawaii whose music brought joy to millions the world over. Featuring a medley of "Over The Rainbow" and "What a Wonderful World." IZ served as a goodwill ambassador for the native people of Hawaii and will remain in our hearts forever. Aloha and Mahalo!

Richard Dennis, Bernard Tritz comments on Ken & team support.

2008-07-20T23:25:00.001-04:00

EASY LEADERSHIP LESSONS

Callers Response to Ken Huggins Crossing

Bernard Tritz - who had a NDE (near death experience) himself - shares this message he received from Ken Huggins after Ken totally crossed ver.

This message was read at Ken's memorial service today.

My dear dear friends,

I have gone to a new life. I know you are missing me terribly, be comforted in the thought that one day we will all be together again enjoying a new life. A life full of everything we could not experience before and all that we wished for is now reality. Some of you understand perfectly well what I am talking about. During our life together we spoke of future and possibilities. We dreamed together of the perfect place and the perfect life. Well it’s real for me now. Be certain that I am with you although you can’t hear me or see me, I am in the next room near by. We will work together but on a different plane this time.

Please be not sadden, I am gone from sight but in spirit I am with you. I am fully totally and completely happy. I am fulfilled and one day you will be to. Remember to always love to the maximum. Enjoy life to the fullest. Serve like you never served before. Love like you never loved before. Every breath you take can be the last one make it count. Every person you encounter is a child of God thus very precious. Many are trust into you care for a time, treat them well. Be good to each other your next life depend on it.

If tears must fall let them be tears of joy, have no regrets our life together was fulfilled.

I am off to my next assignment, some things we have no control over. Prepare for it the best you can, keep in mind everyone of you will depart from this life. It is a great experience. I love all of you beyond your understanding. I am full now. I am complete now.

We will be together again.

Love

Ken

Through Bernard Tritz

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Audio archives & training notes are also at
http://ThePatCrosbyLeadershipHour.blogspot.com

One of our most esteemed volunteer mentors, who you hear every Saturday night on our weekly core training, Richard Dennis, shared his beautiful remembrance of how the team rallied and supported Richard and his wife Cheryl and other family members when their dear son Garth passed over last year.

Here is Richard's contribution to our conversation - via email

Our son Garth passed on June 10th, 2007.

The outpouring of support from our team was a great
comfort to us. We had dozens and dozens and dozens of email and
letters. Some had made photos of Garth from a webpage to pay tribute
to him. Many shared their own pain and understanding.

It was really tough for us and, to be honest, it still is. I think of
him every day. I cry for our loss at some time almost every day.

It greatly touched us to have the support of those who knew Garth and
those who didn't, and especially to feel the empathy from so many in
our group.

And, of course, we had no insurance to cover Garth's funeral expenses.
You and others were very kind to help us with that expense.

It was all a great comfort to us. Cheryl & I are so grateful to
everyone in our team.

And we're greatly saddened to now lose Ken Huggins. He had a huge
heart, and a great sense of humor. He was a Green's Green. I'll miss
him a lot.

Thanks, Pat.

Richard Dennis

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Pat Crosby

845.434.3829 Anytime
patcrosby@gmail.com

AUDIO OF PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT STORIES IN MLM

2008-07-06T23:27:00.005-04:00

EASY LEADERSHIP LESSONS

LISTEN TO THIS AUDIO HERE

Bob Burg AUDIO INTERVIEW - THE GO GIVER

2008-07-05T18:34:00.002-04:00

EASY LEADERSHIP LESSONS

LISTEN TO THIS CALL HERE

ORDER THE GO-GIVER HERE AT AMAZON.COM

BOB BURG

The Go-Giver tells the story of an ambitious young man named Joe who yearns for success. Joe is a true go-getter, though sometimes he feels as if the harder and faster he works, the further away his goals seem to be. And so one day, desperate to land a key sale at the end of a bad quarter, he seeks advice from the enigmatic Pindar, a legendary consultant referred to by his many devotees simply as the Chairman.

Over the next week, Pindar introduces Joe to a series of successful “go-givers”: a restaurateur, a CEO, a financial advisor, a real estate broker and “The Connector,” who brought them all together. Pindar’s friends share with Joe the Five Laws of Stratospheric Success and teach him how to open himself up to the power of giving.

Joe learns that changing his focus from getting to giving—putting others’ interests first and continually adding value to their lives—ultimately leads to unexpected returns.

Imparted with wit and grace, The Go-Giver is a heartwarming and inspiring tale that brings new relevance to the old proverb “give and you shall receive.”

Problems in Business: Read The little Book of ForGIVEness, endorsed by Bob Burg

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LISTEN to SNAKES IN SUITS FREE TELESEMINAR HERE

2008-06-29T23:31:00.002-04:00

EASY LEADERSHIP LESSONS

WHO Do you need to ForGIVE?
http://thelittlebookofforgiveness.blogspot.com/

ORDER SNAKES IN SUITS HERE ON AMAZON

2008-06-29T23:25:00.002-04:00

EASY LEADERSHIP LESSONS

Well, Leaders,

* Do you ignore those early little warning signs - you know, the ones you shove aside as not nice?
* Were you programmed to always see the best in people?
* Do you think it is "not nice" to talk about ugly things people do?
* Have you lost money - lots or little - getting sweet-talked into something?
* Do you brush off your having been taken advantage of with comments such as "Oh well, it wasn't THAT much!"
* Do you buy excuses: "Oh He/She couldn't help it."
* Do you think it is important to be "LIKED"?
* Do you WANT/NEED to BELIEVE in the good things people tell you? About anything?

It is time for a happy Sunday night call, again. This time, we have a REALLY happy topic: Deceit, Lies, Manipulation & Other (Happy) Info: Snakes In Suits

The HAPPINESS comes in AFTER you learn how manipulators manipulate. How you can be SPARED the deep pain - financial, emotional and otherwise - of being worked over by the con-men and con-women of this planet.

Tune into this enlightening conversation. You will hear stories that will make your hair curl - without little pink rollers!

But you will be more aware of how to look underneath the face value of things to the dark underbelly.

You can stick you head in the sand if you want to, but that is very expensive in the longer run.

We would LOVE to hear YOUR favorite stories of getting taken over - so we can all learn to spot it, and see it coming, and avoid it - or head it off at the pass.

Join Pat Crosby & Rick Berry in this informative and shocking conversation of discovery.

This will be a GENERIC conversation. NO COMPANIES will be mentioned...anywhere on the call.

To YOUR Success,

Pat Crosby

You can learn how this process works in MLM by reading
http://Pat.SuccessIn10Steps.com

When Psychopaths Go To Work
Paul Babiak, Ph.d. & Robert D. Hare, Ph. D.

This is an important book to know - as we have all been mislead by charming - but greedy, charismatic thieving con people. This type of person only wrecks havoc and hell wherever they go. Learn to identify them - in advance - for the safety and health of your personal life plus your business, team and company. .... Pat Crosby
http://Pat.SuccessIn10Steps.com

Let's say you're about to hire somebody for a position in your company. (Or recruit them onto your team. Or find them in your organization somewhere.) Your corporation wants someone who's fearless, charismatic, and full of new ideas. Candidate X is charming, smart, and has all the right answers to your questions. Problem solved, right? Maybe not. We'd like to think that if we met someone who was completely without conscience -- someone who was capable of doing anything at all if it served his or her purposes -- we would recognize it.

In popular culture, the image of the psychopath is of someone like Hannibal Lecter or the BTK Killer. But in reality, many psychopaths just want money, or power, or fame, or simply a nice car.

Where do these psychopaths go? Often, it's to the corporate world. Researchers Paul Babiak and Robert Hare have long studied psychopaths. Hare, the author of Without Conscience, is a world-renowned expert on psychopathy, and Babiak is an industrial-organizational psychologist. Recently the two came together to study how psychopaths operate in corporations, and the results were surprising. They found that it's exactly the modern, open, more flexible corporate world, in which high risks can equal high profits, that attracts psychopaths. They may enter as rising stars and corporate saviors, but all too soon they're abusing the trust of colleagues, manipulating supervisors, and leaving the workplace in shambles.

Snakes in Suits is a compelling, frightening, and scientifically sound look at exactly how psychopaths work in the corporate environment: what kind of companies attract them, how they negotiate the hiring process, and how they function day by day. You'll learn how they apply their "instinctive" manipulation techniques -- assessing potential targets, controlling influential victims, and abandoning those no longer useful -- to business processes such as hiring, political command and control, and executive succession, all while hiding within the corporate culture. It's a must read for anyone in the business world, because whatever level you're at, you'll learn the subtle warning signs of psychopathic behavior and be able to protect yourself and your company -- before it's too late.

To YOUR Success,

Pat Crosby

Learn about MLM scams. Protect Yourself, Friends & Family. Learn HOW to be successful in home business.
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LISTEN: Laura Lucas on 5 Love Languages

2008-06-09T00:10:00.002-04:00

Hear Laura Lucas on 5 Love Languages HERE

MP3 File

2008-06-08T22:23:00.004-04:00

EASY LEADERSHIP LESSONS

June 8, 2008

6.08.08 Laura Lucas Review the 5 LANGUAGES of LOVE

Learning the 5 Love Languages

Laura Lucas' review of the book
"The Five Love Languages"
by Gary Chapman.

It is ESSENTIAL, in my opinion, to understand the different Personality Colors (types) to help us understand others and how to communicate most effectively. Just as there are 4 primary personality colors (types), there are 5 primary Love Languages. Understanding this Love Languages builds on that foundation of personality types by taking it a step further and identifying the "Language" in which the people in our lives communicate and express love.
At this time, I want to clarify 2 terms:
"Language" -any set or system of words or symbols as used in a more or less uniform fashion by a number of people, who are thus enabled to communicate intelligibly with one another.
>>Example: Saying "I love you," in American English to someone who only speaks French would NOT commuicate your intended message. It would NOT be understood, But saying "Je t'aime." (in French) would CLEARLY express the same message.
"Dialect" - a variety of a language that is distinguished from other varieties of the same language; a special variety of a language
>>Example: The primary language of the United States is American English. However people in Texas sound different than people in Boston: people in Minnesota sound different from people in Georgia. And yes, people in Kentucky speak "Bluegrass" American (**GRIN**)
So just as we want to communicate with others in a verbal Language that they can understand, we want to be aware of what Love Language they understand and communicate in that language. In that way we maximize our communication and receive the fullest response to our efforts.
Are they UNDERSTANDING what you're trying to express???
Why is this so important?? Love is a primary human emotional need. Increasing our understanding and "fluency" of Love will contribute to our own personal development and impact our relationship with others.

SO???? How does this apply to Business builders you may ask.

Often times, Your ability to focus and build a business from home is impacted by the significant people in your life. Their love and support can lift you up, and just as easily their nagging and criticisms can tear you down.

What if their lack of support or negative words were just a "SIGNAL" that they were feeling unloved? How you spend your time, what you talk about, and where you invest your money may be sending them the WRONG message if you are not aware of what love-language they speak. If you could ease the tension or gain their support, would that help you???

I say "Yes."
Learning more about the 5 Love Languages
is a prudent investment in yourself and your business.

Gary Chapman identifies 5 Primary Languages of Love, and acknowledges some variations of "dialect" within each language. He states that each person has 1 or 2 primary "love languages" they can understand or receive--if the love being offered is not in "their language," they will not be able to understand what's being offered. Similar to the example I mentioned earlier about speaking English to someone that only speaks French. How about if someone came up to you and said something in Japanese or Russian?? would you understand them?? most likely not. So when you can identify what language someone receives love in, you can effectively offer your love in a way that will be understood.
As I discuss each Love Language, you will likely start to reflect on yourself and others close to you in an attempt to identify the "Love Language." Please keep in mind that GIVING and RECEIVING go hand-in-hand; however, a person may "GIVE" or offer love in a language other than they "RECEIVE" in. This difference can be for a variety of reasons, but simply put is often a "learned" or "programed" way to express love.

5 Love Languages:

1.) Words of Affirmation

2.) Quality Time

3.) Receiving Gifts

4.) Acts of Service

5.) Physical Touch

1.) Words of Affirmation:
"The tongue has the power of life and death." (Gary Chapman)
For persons with this primary love-language, they need to HEAR verbal compliments and words of appreciation. They need to hear that they look good, prepared a great meal, are appreciated for what they did do such as mowing the grass or working hard to provide a comfortable home, etc. They thrive on your encouragement and affirmation of their abilities. These must be genuine expressions, not just flattery in order to get what you want. Body language and tone of voice are key factors in expressing this love-language.
The book reminds us, "Love makes requests, not demands."
>>Note: In addition to clearly detailing each love-language the end of each chapter has wonderful, practical suggestions to help you become more "fluent" in each language.
2.) Quality Time:
"Togetherness."
For persons with this primary love-language, they require giving your undivided attention, not just your physical proximity--looking into their eyes, doing something with them that they value or enjoy doing. This love-language is notable for 2 significant dialects:
Dialect of Quality Conversation: Don't confuse this one with words-of-affirmation which focuses SAYING. Rather quality-conversation focuses on HEARING, listening sympathetically, asking questions with a genuine desire to understand thoughts/feelings/desires. Make eye contact. Don't "do" other things at the sametime. Listen for feelings. Observe body language. Refuse to interupt. Please note, quality-conversation involves not only sympathetic listening, but also SELF-REVELATION.
At this point Gary Chapman refers to 2 personality characteristics, DEAD SEA and BABBLING BROOK. We know this thru the Colors training as Self-Contained (Dead Sea) and Open (Babbling Brook). He also points out how these opposites often attract and are a 'good match' while dating--since one like to do all the talking and the other one is relieved not tohave to talk much at all. However, this 'fit' is short lived, especially in a marriage. The Open-person eventually crave more openness and sharing from the other; while the self-contained one suffers from information overload and may withdraw from truly listening.
Once again, the chapter offers some great concrete steps to help. Especially for self-contained personalities that are trying to communicate in this love-language.
Dialect of Quality Activities: Communicating in this dialect requires experiencing something together. You willing "do" or actively participate in an activity that the other person enjoys, and do it with a postive attitude. To communicate in this love-language, the activity must be something the other person values or enjoys. And remember, your attitude while participating in the activity is key.
Where will you FIND the time?? Gary Chapman honestly concludes there is NO time to be found--You must MAKE the time!!! Making time to express your love is as ESSENTIAL as "lunch and dinner."
3.) Receiving Gifts:
The gift itself is a symbol of a thought, a visual symbol of love. The gift can be purchased, found, or made. What matters is the thought, time, and/or effort that went into the gift. Cost is generally of little importance unless it is greatly out of line with what can be afforded.
For persons with a "savers" mentality, this may require an attitude change toward money to be an effective gift-giver. "Savers" will experience some emotional resistance to spending money, but investing in a significant other and fulfilling their love needs is well worth it.
Dialect of Gift of Self or Presence: With this dialect, your physical presence, your body, becomes the symbol of love.
4.) Acts of Service:
This love-language is expressed thru DOING; doing something you know will please the other person. The act will require thought, planning, time, effort, and energy such as cooking a meal, keeping a clean house, washing the car, mowing the grass, painting a room. When an activity they value is done with a postive attitude it express your love.
Gary Chapman points out that this may require a reexamination of stereotypes of roles. Out past experiences and programming can greatly impact our prospective, but if we truly want to express our love we may need to consider acts of service previously outside of our learned role.
**Note: "What we do for each other BEFORE marriage is no indication of of what we will do AFTER marriage."
5.) Physical Touch:
Physical touch is a powerful vehicle for communicating love. Holding hands, hugging, running your fingers thru their hair, kissing, embracing, and sexual intercourse are all examples of physical touch. Love touches can be simple and brief such as putting your hand on their shoulder or sitting close on the couch; other love touches may demand more time and attention such as massaging or intercourse. A slap in the face or, on the contrary, a hug can communicate your feelings to most people; but, if their primary love-language is touch it "shouts" your message. If touch is their primary love-language, nothing is more important than holding them as they cry. Your touch communicates you care.
Dialect of Sexual Intercourse: Note that having a strong desire for sexual intercourse does not necessarily make it the primary love-language.
Discover YOUR Primary Love-Language with these 3 Questions:
1.) What does your loved-one do or fail to do that hurts you most deeply? The opposite of what hurts you most is probably your love language.
2.) What have you most often requested of your loved-one? The thing you have most often requested is likely the thing that would make you feel most loved.
3.) In what way do you regularly express love to your loved-one? Your method of expressing love may be an indication that that would also make you feel loved.
Different dialects are the result of each individual being influenced by personality type (color), parents, perception, emotions, needs, and desires.
One of the clearest clues to a primary love-language is listening to the person's criticisms about behavior--"You don't appreciate me," "You never spend any time with me." "You never listen to me," "You never bring me flowers anymore," "Where were you when I needed you?" Often times these hurtful phrases are cries for love and attention-now you have a tool to translate them and thereby understand them.

Love is a CHOICE. It can not be coerced. Each of us must decide daily to Love.

This review is a mere highlight of the wonderful nuggets of valuable information contained in the book. The author has several versions more target to specific audiences, such a Married Couples, Men's Edition, of Children, of Teenagers, for Singles as well as other titles too numerous to mention.

Presented by Your Friend in KY and MLM,

Laura Lucas

2008-06-08T22:22:00.000-04:00

EASY LEADERSHIP LESSONS

LISTEN to John Milton Fogg Interview HERE

2008-04-07T11:58:00.003-04:00

John Milton Fogg in a round table discussion with Pat Crosby, Richard Dennis,and callers

Early stories of Big Al Tom Schreiter - among other great tidbits.

Pat Crosby Interviews John Milton Fogg on Belief Busters

2008-04-01T23:24:00.003-04:00

JOHN MILTON FOGG INTERVIEW. FORGIVNESS & POWERFUL LEADERSHIP

2008-01-17T16:19:00.004-05:00

EASY LEADERSHIP LESSONS

LISTEN TO THIS CALL HERE.
John Milton Fogg Interview. With Pat Crosby and Richard Dennis.

GET YOUR SPECIAL OFFER FROM JOHN HERE
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Here are the free LINKS from John Milton Fogg that he offered on the interview to our readers-listeners.

Hi Leaders,

What has forgiveness got to do with your business success and your family & personal relationship success?

Last week, on our leadership call, John Milton Fogg offered to send out to our readers these links on Ho'oponopono - cleaning and forgiveness -
http://ThePatCrosbyLeadershipHour.blogspot.com

Here is the link directly from John to his blog with lots of goodie information.
http://transformingmlm.typepad.com/itstime/2008/01/tmmsesson-draft.html

MUST LISTEN: THE EASIEST WAY. Interview of Mabel Katz with John Milton Fogg - part of his subscription only Mastermind Lectures offered as a gift to our readers-listeners.
http://themastermindsessions.com/MabelKatz.mp3

This link includes two free teleseminars with Ma Bell.
Her mission includes reaching out to the Latino community.
http://businessbyyou.com/teleseminars

To YOUR Ultimate Success,

Pat Crosby

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Scroll down for several free trainings from John Milton Fogg

HO'OPONOPONO - Forgiveness-The Heart of All Relationship Building
SUNDAY 1.20.08

Please email questions in advance to patcrosby@gmail.com

HINT:
Be sure to SCROLL to the bottom of this post to see an unbelievable special offer direct from John Milton Fogg to readers/listeners of The Pat Crosby Leadership Hour.

John Milton Fogg is renowned for being a stand and giving voice - as are all the legendary trainers - to the power of building relationships as a foundation in long-term success in networking.

His classic million copy best seller The Greatest Networker was one of the first books I read when I was learning how to build a networking organization and set my own financial foundation and learn how to be a networker.

Through all the ups and downs of life and career, the lessons on heart-centered relationships have stayed with me. And guided me when it was decision-tree-making time.

The imagery and word pictures John so masterfully paints in The Greatest Networker are deeply ingrained in my consciousness. And part of my successful networking style.

In a fascinating conversation I enjoyed with John the other day, he shared with me his own heartful journey of emerging into the next level through the process of Ho'oponopono - clearing the heart of the debris life can leave on our hearts if we don't clear it away regularly.

This debris can be heavy as well as damaging to all our relationships - with our self, our loved ones, our families, our communities, and our business networks.

Let John's insights help you navigate this passageway into a higher consciousness and greater awareness of how to open up and foster high level relationships for you. Especially in the business arena.
And tell you how he is implementing the power of forgiveness in his own journey of success.

John Milton Fogg with Pat Crosby
at Art Jonak's Mastermind Leadership

GIFTS to our listeners of The Crosby Leadership Hour from John Milton Fogg
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READ-LISTEN to The Greatest Networker In The World - million copy best seller
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JOHN MILTON FOGG RESOURCES & LINKS FOR YOUR LEADERSHIP EXPANSION
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TRAIN WITH THE MASTERS in JMF's brilliant interview collection:

The Mastermind Sessions are a brilliant collection of trainings with top achievers in the industry. Here is just 1 sample from The Mastermind Sessions our friend and colleague Richard Dennis

About the Master RichardDennis">

Legendary Creator of Dead Doctors Don't Lie

Richard Dennis was first mesmerized by MLM in a Miami hotel conference room one hot summer night in 1977. "The company president drew a circle on the blackboard with sticks coming down out of it, each leading to more circles with more sticks leading to more circles. I'd never seen anything like it. I finally knew how I was going to make my fortune."

Seventeen years later, it actually happened. (Richard explains: "I've always had a long runway.") He was driving a bus in Miami & Miami Beach and earning extra money as a copywriter, when he came up with a title for one of his projects:

"Dead Doctors Don't Lie!"

Richard didn't have a clue that this headline would not only change his life, but the entire MLM industry. Today, he does network marketing by writing articles and blogging, and he believes there is room for a lot of others to build their own network marketing empires through writing.

Mastermind Session Interview #58. Richard Dennis, creator of Dead Doctors Don't Lie - with Pat Crosby at Power Marketing & Promotions Training with Big Al Tom Schreiter, Houston, TX

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EASY LEADERSHIP LESSONS - MORE ON HO'OPONO PONO

I first encountered Ho'opono Pono on the Big Island of Hawaii when I spent one winter there.

(Enjoy my spiritual trip to Hawaii blog here - MLM lifestyle allows frequent travel to exotic destinations. )

Mahealani is a revered Hawaiian Elder who travels and teaches this beautiful practice of forgiveness.

Hear an audio interview with Mahealani at
http://iloveforgiveness.blogspot.com/

Nancy Kahalewai publishes books by the Hawaiian Elders - among her other gifts.

If you would like to explore the Hawaiian roots of Ho'opono Pono and learn more, go here
http://www.bigislandmassage.com/publish.htm

Ho'opono Pono and Fun with Mahealani Kuamo'o-Henry (left) & Nancy Kahalewai (center) on tour in Tahiti.

Pat Crosby

WOW! In planning this special Leadership Hour call, I asked John if he had a special smallerstarter pack for newbies. I could not believe what John came back with.

He didn't divvy up the training into smaller bits. No! Instead, he cut the price. DRASTICALLY.

PLUS is giving you ONE WHOLE TRAINING SERIES TO GIVE AWAY. Boy! SOMEBODY is lucky on your list!!!

Check this out! He has REDUCED the price of his awesome networking university on a CD by an incredible amount.

At this price, you can give your whole team, past, present and future - the most awesome in-depth training of MLM in the industry today.

It works out to around $50 US a set. And that is before taxes and your CPA adds up all your allowable deductions! (Check with YOUR CPA on this - legal disclaimer.)

John's gift is so huge, so immense, it is almost incomprehensible.

I am posting the entirety of John's email to me today here so you can see for yourself.

If you listen to the MP3 file, you will hear the rich velvety soothing voice of John Milton Fogg at his training best. So isn't that sweet voice an even nicer icing on the cake for this incredible package.

Ho'oponopono. WHO can YOU FORGIVE TODAY!

To YOUR Success!

Pat Crosby

Direct from John Milton Fogg for participants of The Pat Crosby Leadership Hour

Do you have a MasterMind?

You should. (That is... IF you're sincere and
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An UNBELIEVABLE BETTER OFFER...... READ ON TIL YOU GET THIS ONE.....
John is so modest... he just called it a "better" offer...Pat

A better offer...
For one more week (ends midnight January 20), I'm
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I do not know how to create a better offer. It's here:

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I appreciate you.

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CALL NOTES

Welcome to The Pat Crosby Leadership Hour.

You can access call notes, resources, replay of this call, and notices of future calls at
ThePatCrosbyLeadershipHour.blogspot.com
http://ThePatCrosbyLeadershipHour.blogspot.com

The Pat Crosby Leadership Hour is committed to exploring the highest truths, trust, and passion within the network marketing industry -

Going to the real human heart connection that draws us all together in this rich endeavor of creating and sustaining life-long relationships.

Pat has built a major international organization and now trains and mentors others and is a force for bringing out the highest good in the network marketing industry through writing, education and teleseminars.

Tonight, we have the privilege of turning tables on one of the industry's GREATEST Interviewers - John MIlton Fogg. John has interviewed and made available the success tips and strategies and inner mind set of the most successful people in the MLM industry. For decades.

His NY TIMES best-selling book The Greatest Networker In The World has sold over ONE MILLION copies..

Tonight we will be exploring in a conversation of discovery the leadership principle of FORGIVENESS. In Hawaiian language this is called ho'o pono pono. Other current modalties are Radical Forgiveness, Jampolsky's Attitudinal Healing, A Course in Miracles, & The Emotional Freedom Technique - to name just a few..

Tonight we will explore forgiveness as a business and leadership principle.

Thank you for joining us.

Welcome Pat! Welcome John!