The Philosophers Zone

noreply@blogger.com (KDB Business Services) — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 06:53:00 +0000

Sharing Adventures with Different Cultures

In today's society we grow up sharing our country with many other cultures. There are so many things we can learn to share with each other if we just open up our hearts and minds to these different concepts and ways of life.
When I was a child of around 10 or 11 years old we had a 40 year old man named Salem come for a visit from Africa. It was a cold January week in which we had approximately 3 feet of snow fall.

My brothers and I were rushing about to get our outfits on to go play in the snow. Salem watched us with wonder.

"What is it that you go out to do with the snow, my children?" he asked in his broken English.

"We make snow forts, have snowball fights, ride down hills on our sleds, skate on the ice rink we made in the backyard, make snow angels. It is so much fun! Do you not have snow where you come from?" I asked him with amazement.

"I have never seen snow except on the television. Is it not cold? I see you have five layers of clothes on your person. And it is wet. Will you not freeze before you can have any fun?"

"Oh, we do get cold and wet but we have too much fun to care. Then we come inside, warm up in a hot shower and have hot chocolate and marshmallows."

My mother came around the corner with a smile on her face. "Salem, would you like to go out and play with the children? You could have great stories to tell your children back home. I have found some of our old clothes, and a snowsuit just for you." My mother held out my father's old black and orange skidoo suit he had worn years ago up north when he lived on his parents farm.

Salem was nervous about getting cold, yet the excitement showed through his dark eyes as they glanced back and forth from the snowsuit and boots to the great big snowflakes falling around outside the window.

He pulled on his snowsuit awkwardly; tucking his pant legs into the boots with great enthusiasm, becoming more enthralled with the prospect of romping around in the great big yonder.

That day was a day Salem would never forget. We had him out for over 6 hours doing everything we possibly could. When we finally came inside we were soaked from head to toe, teeth chattering, and almost blue from hypothermia.

The rest of that night, Salem delighted us with stories from his homeland. A world we knew nothing about. It was a wonderful time. At the end of the week when Salem had to return home, we felt like we were losing a part of us. We had learned that in so many of the ways we were different, we were still so inherently the same.

In a world full of diversity, where so much can be accomplished, it is sad to see that there is still so many people narrow minded and closed off from the possibilities that we could all share if we would take the time to see each other as all one mankind, to revel in the differences, and not run from the fear of the unknown, or the uncertainty of the situation. If we spent half as much time in getting to know other people and cultures as we do in prejudging or stereotyping, we could maybe see the potential we would have for true peace on earth.

noreply@blogger.com (KDB Business Services) — Fri, 05 Oct 2007 20:11:00 +0000

Now I don't want to discredit myself, but I am going to admit that I am an advent Montel Williams, Murray Povich, and Dr. Phil watcher on day time tv.
Montel makes us aware that there are alot of issues out there that we may not pay attention to until it hits home. He is big on inspiration stories.
The other day I tuned in to teens who saved other people even when their own lives were in jeopardy. These are the true real life heroes.
In an age where it is every man for himself, it is such a refresher to watch these stories of people who are willing to step outside of their own personal safe bubble to reach out to a complete stranger in need.
You can turn on the news and see horror stories, and disasters, yet you hardly ever see hero stories. There are parents killing their kids and themselves, there is gang shootings, enraged, betrayed lover stabbings, and so much more.
How did we get so self centred and absorbed? Was it a reaction due to actions against us(perceived or not) that led us to be so wrapped up in a coccoon? Is it really only going to get worse for society? Are we predesigned to fail as mankind? Is life on earth just one slow waste of time?
Why is it that no one knows your name or worth until you are dead? Why is it when something good does happen, we all hold our breath waiting for the bad to follow?
It's pitiful. Sad, and scary, to think with all we have going for us, that we could automatically just end up in the negative.
Well, it is nice to tune in to Montel on a gray cloudy morning and find out that there is still a ray of sunshine to be found. So, thank you Montel, and to all the others out there that renew my faith in society with their selfless acts of kindness and brotherly love.

noreply@blogger.com (KDB Business Services) — Tue, 25 Sep 2007 16:52:00 +0000

Two Year Old Cleans Up
It is sometimes a very hard thing to get your children to learn how to clean. I had to try just about everything, including bribery to get my children to finally clean up after themselves.
I am reminded of a time long ago, when my oldest child was only a toddler. My daughter loved playing with my keys. We woke up one morning very late to get to a doctors appointment. After running around the house chasing my daughter to finally get her little buns dressed, I was at a loss for where I had put my keys.
I searched high and low. I checked every drawer in her bedroom, my bedroom, the bathroom, the kitchen, every available spot I could lay my eyes on where I thought the keys may have gotten to.
The time slipped by. We were too late for the appointment I had to call and cancel it. I was not impressed as I had to wait another four months to be seen again.
As I surveyed the mess of our house caused by my massive overhaul search method,I asked my daughter if she had seen my keys.
She ran into her room and grabbed her own toy keys to bring to me.
“Mommy have mine.” She quipped in her cute little baby voice.
“Thank you sweetheart, but Mommy can’t lock the door or drive the car with your keys, baby girl.” I smiled and kissed her fondly on the head.
With the appointment missed and the day wasted, I decided I may as well spend what was left on baking some cookies. My daughter loved to help me bake. Licking out the bowl and beaters were her specialty. We were going to a church picnic the following day, and I needed to make some cookies for my Sunday school class children.
I opened the oven door to take out the roasting pan and almost dropped it with surprise at what was inside. My keys lay neat in the bottom of the tray.
I started to laugh hysterically. My daughter just stood, mouth agape as I slid to the floor, holding my stomach, tears pouring down my face. She too started to laugh.
My husband came home at that time. He scanned the room in bewilderment. Clothes hanging from lamp shades, toys thrown all over, cupboards open, drawers hanging out, pots and pans littered the usually immaculate kitchen floor. There in the middle of the mess with flour from head to toe were his two girls clutching each other and laughing like wild hyenas.
When we were calmed down, my daughter and I played a new game called “Tidy Up Time.”
That is one of the joys of trying to teach your children to put things away. Sometimes it may not be something of theirs, and sometimes they may not recall where they put it. But remember, It is Always in the Last Place you look.

About the Author
Melanie Bremner is a mother of three who has written and published several children’s stories, taught Sunday school, and graduated from business school, with a minor in psychology.
She is presently running and maintaining an online retail children’s shop, and produces a bi-weekly newsletter full of stories, facts and fun for the whole family. If you would be interested in receiving tips on various topics of raising children, you can sign up for her newsletter at http://bargainbin4kids.com/

noreply@blogger.com (KDB Business Services) — Sun, 22 Apr 2007 21:04:00 +0000

A day in the life of a 35 year old mother of three.
It is 7am. I have a 6 week old crying to be fed, a 14year old not getting ready for school because he is too tired from playing his playstation until 3am, and a 17yr old who can't find anything appropriate to wear for her political debate in the school gymnasium that day.
Hours of sleep last night for mom?
3.
Level of patience?
2
One thing I have learned is how to feed the baby at the same time I am doing other things. I have the baby locked in one arm, shirt half pulled up enough so he can nurse, I am putting the kettle on with the other arm,and yelling orders to the other children as I try to mentally take stock of the days chores.
Any of this sound familiar to you? Any mother of more than one child has lived a day probably pretty much the same as this one.
How do we cope?
How do we maintain our composure when every ounce of our being is crying out for relief?
Can I make it through another day without losing anymore of my precious sanity?
But then your children do something that makes you remember why you started this whole family thing.
Your 17 year old daughter takes the time to make you a tea, as she has made one for herself. She has made it perfect, just the way you like it. She smiles, and kisses your cheek as she puts it on the coffeetable in front of you.
Your son passes by and shares a bite of his toast and peanut butter with you before he heads out the door to the school bus.
Kisses and hugs, and "I love you Mommy! You're the best!" As they both head out the door for their own day of learning and experience.
A smile crosses your tired, wrinkled face. The world is right again. Energy has been restored. You are once again proud to be a MOM.
It is the little things in life we need to hold on to. In today's society we get bogged down by so much other junk, we forget to keep our minds and hearts on what really matters.
We must make that effort every day to remind ourselves of why we are where we are and what we can be thankful for. Keeping a positive attitude is so crucial to maintaining a healthy, balanced life. But it is worth the effort. Nothing is ever totally inconceivable even if it may appear to be so.
This is my inspirational thought to share with you for the day.

noreply@blogger.com (KDB Business Services) — Fri, 17 Nov 2006 19:49:00 +0000

Hey there. I have been pretty busy and away for a long time. I know some of you probably stopped coming by to visit me because I have been missing in action.
I got married on August 12 this year and found out I was pregnant 2 days later.
So I am now 5 months pregnant next week. I have gone through the morning sickness.
The hormonal ups and downs, and everything else that is associated with pregnancy. My baby is 14 years old so it is almost like this is all new since it has been so long now.
I have been establishing myself, creating a niche in the business world. I think I finally know what I want to be when "I grow up".
I went from trying to lose weight and feeling good about myself to gaining weight for a good cause(which somehow doesn't appease all senses), but helps with the overall self esteem.
I came across an article which I thought was pretty helpful when getting by.
I would like to share it with you.

Living a life of "Frustrated Potentiality"?
Copyright 2006 Doreen Banaszak

Frustrated Potentiality...

I wish I had this phrase 5 years ago when I was sitting at
my desk, wanting to bang my head on it, thinking how much
more I could be doing if I wasn't working 60 hours a week
at a job that wasn't meaningful to me. At least I would
have had a phrase to explain exactly what I was feeling!

How does "frustrated potentiality" feel to you? What images
does it conjure up for you?

When I came across this phrase the other day it
immediately reminded me of a famous quote, that talks about
people leading "lives of quiet desperation", but with one
big difference...

"Desperation" lacks hope, "frustration" indicates a
willingness to do something, if you can get past the
frustration.

If you've ever felt this and are like I was, you simply
plow forward and focus on changing your circumstances.

But what usually happens when we follow this course? We
get what we think we want and then we want more, so yet
again we are back in our state of "frustrated potentiality".

So if changing circumstances doesn’t help, what will?
Learning how to "create" your experience is the key to
getting beyond frustration and into flow.

Let's take your career for example. If you always wanted
to do meaningful work, but felt as though you couldn't make
money doing it, you will always experience "frustrated
potentiality" until you actually do work that is meaningful.

Ok, now you know why you are frustrated...

So, where are you feeling "frustrated potentiality"?

Ask yourself this question regarding any area of your life,
your relationships, money, career, family...

Now use these 4 steps to turn your frustrated potentiality
into unlimited potentiality...

Step One, Get HONEST!

Ask yourself what you really want in this area. Let's go
back to the career example. What you really want here is
to make money doing meaningful work. That's it, plain and
simple. The trick here is to be completely honest. If
you're not, you will remain frustrated even though you say
you think you know what you want.

Step Two, Define What You Mean

Now ask yourself, what does "meaningful work" mean to me?
What would I be doing? Who would I be doing it with? Do I
like to work independently or with a group? What have I
always felt was important? What ideas have I had in the
past around the idea of meaningful work? How much money do
I WANT to make?

DO NOT THINK ABOUT HOW YOU WILL DO THIS! If you do, I
guarantee you will not get to step 3.

Take a moment and just start asking. Let the flow carry
you to the next question. What you'll end up with is an
idea of how this might actually be a possibility for you.

Step Three, Create a Vision for Yourself

Now create a vision of you doing what you've defined.
Picture yourself doing the work and collecting the check.

Why is this so important? Because until you can feel that
this is a real possibility for you, you won't have the
ideas and thoughts that will create the opportunities to
make it happen. If you are not positive about this, you
may as well stop now.

Step Four, Look for it!

I had a client who got to this level of detail and found a
job description that matched exactly what she had defined
for herself.

Another client took his definition on a job interview and
asked exactly for what he had defined and got it.

Many entrepreneurs have used this to define their ideal
client and they seemingly appeared out of nowhere.

So a life of "frustrated potentiality" or one of "unlimited
potentiality".

It's your choice, now that you have the these 4 steps!

----------------------------------------------------
Doreen Banaszak is a coach, teacher and the author of the
upcoming book, due for release Spring 2007, "Excuse Me,
Your Life Is Now", the follow-up to Lynn Grabhorn's New
York Times Best Seller, "Excuse Me, Your Life Is Waiting".
Register for Doreen's free mini-course, "Access Your
Power", 4 Steps to Deliberately Create Any Experience You
Want" at
http://www.your-life-is-now.com

noreply@blogger.com (KDB Business Services) — Tue, 14 Mar 2006 01:24:00 +0000

I recently have changed my lifestyle and thinking process. I have had a bit of a hard time avoiding certain mistakes repeatedly. But I decided to embark on a journey for enlightenment the last few years and have come to realize my attitude has been all wrong.
The following article I found to be a good read. Hopefully it will give you some insight into a new way of thinking to maximize your full potential.

How Are Your Choices Forming Patterns and Perspectives In Your Life?
Copyright 2006 Awakenings Life Coaching by Kathryn Bonner

The way you view life is vital, it is the key to the
method, the way you understand and experience life. There
are those who find life to be wonderful, breathtaking,
magnificent, amazing, joyful, miraculous, adventurous, and
there are those who don’t.

I find it to be quite amazing how some people truly do live
life out of the thoughts or feelings of lack. I hear them
complain and be negative in most areas of their living, and
don’t realize that they are their own worst enemy!

I know a woman who grew up with polio and had eighteen
surgeries growing up. She was in a brace or a cast all the
way up to her hips, limiting her movement for much of her
life. She could not do the things other children and young
adults could do! I never knew her as a child with this
disease. I’ve only know her as an adult and knowing her
now, and I know of her magnificence! She says and believes
that her polio was a gift! There are many who may have
taken these very circumstances and taken on the opposite
view. She could have ended up a very bitter woman, and we
as a society would have thought she had the right to be
because of her polio.

We have been given the freedom of thought, the freedom of
choice, the freedom to believe, the capacity to be
thinking, feeling human beings! Wow! What freedoms we
have! What a beautiful thing this freedom of thought is
and how powerful it is!

What are you doing with your mind? What way are you
choosing to live your life? What thoughts, what
disposition to you want or do you long for?

This journey of life is exactly that, a journey. Much of
this journey is made up of our thoughts. Thoughts about
ourselves and about others and thoughts about what others
think of us! It can get very heavy or it can be beautiful
thoughts of others!

When someone thinks highly of you, you know it! When
someone thinks poorly of you, you know it! You feel great
around those that think well of you, and you feel awkward
and unsure, less confident around those that don’t. It’s
amazing what thoughts do and how they can be felt! You can
feel them in your body!

In my journey I have always tried to see everyone in a
positive light, and be a positive light to those I
encounter. It’s my choice to see and experience beauty
fully. It is my choice to enjoy each and every human being
I encounter, no matter how different they might be. I am
able to discover and uncover the beauty within them. This
is my choice to do so and I find it to serve me well. I
find it to bring much beauty and joy to my life.

There have been times when people have surfaced in my life
for one reason or another that I did not want there. There
is a particular woman who seemed to be always there, I
didn’t like her hardness. Her viewpoint on life was very
different from mine. We were complete opposites in our
thinking. Yet, both of us were deep thinkers, both of us
held deep convictions within our very souls. Both of us
took God very seriously and yet very differently! She was
brought into my life to strengthen my faith at a time when
my faith was faltering. She was the only one who saw that
my faith was faltering because she knew exactly what it was
to have faltering faith! When my dearest friends didn’t
see it, she did! She knew life on a different level than
I. She brought life to me on a different level. She
expanded my mind, and I became one of compassion for her!
It is amazing this life! When I finally made the choice to
allow her into my life, I believe God used her to
strengthen my faith at a time when I needed it!

Choices are amazing. We have to make so many every day!
With every choice there is a consequence. With good
choices we experience good or great consequences. With bad
choices we experience bad or horrible consequences. We
become attuned to these outcomes, or we don’t.

I would encourage you to begin really thinking, examining
the choices you make and why you make them. They form
these amazing patterns in your life!

I have always taught my daughters this and used the dating
scenarios with them. I felt that it was tremendously
important for them to view the young men they were allowing
into their young lives in total truth. (Think about
viewing one in total truth, for that matter think about
viewing yourself in total truth). I would remind the girls
that certain behaviors, if they allowed them, or merely
accepted them, that they were in the process of allowing
certain types of behavior become acceptable. Letting them
know that patterns were being formed in their young lives.
Making them aware if they were living unconsciously (sleep
walking through life), or consciously (awakening) in their
relationships was HUGE! I never wanted them to be living
their lives unconsciously!

So many of us can sleep walk through life allowing
unbecoming behaviors to become a part of our lives! This
therefore sets the patterns up and sets the stage of your
life!

Think about the patterns you have in your life, what are
you compromising on? What are you settling for? Why?

Raise your echelon of accepted wisdom! What kind of role
model are you being for your children, for your co-workers,
your employees? What leadership role are you in? Where to
you want to change? What is working for you? What isn’t?
How to you want to experience this life!?

The thing I love about life it that we can always choose!
We can choose to break free of thoughts and behaviors that
no longer serve the right purpose for us! We can allow
ourselves to be transformed and awakened! We can
recognize this life is a journey with many paths and can
choose to stay on the road we are on or we can take the
fork in the road that will lead us to places known and
unknown making good and right choices along the way!

Here’s to living fully and being fully awakened!

Kathryn

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noreply@blogger.com (KDB Business Services) — Mon, 06 Feb 2006 22:38:00 +0000

Oh my Goodness! I am so sorry to all my faithful viewers for my absence. I have been very busy and didn't even realize that it has been almost 2 months since I was on here!
But things are on a roll for me now. I am getting married in August and have had a tons of things to plan for that. I am excited! Being in love changes your perspective on life though, I can tell you that. I have been revived and the words are finding their way to the pages again. I have had writers block for some time now and have not been feeling quite myself due to that. I wrote my first poem the other night for the first time in 2 and a half years.
For someone like me who has always used the pen and paper as a way of expressing myself it has been pure torture for me not to be able to write any emotions out. I felt dead and disassociated with all people and circumstances around me. I felt I was lost in a void with no hope for seeing the light. Then I found a very special man. He had been there all along as a dear friend but I had never thought he may be what my soul craved....until that fateful day when I needed him most and he was there. Funny how life works.
Now everything seems to be all piecing together. My business plans are taking off and apparently working out. Still alot to do but for the first time in 6 years since the plan was conceived it is looking like it may just go somewhere.
My ex husband has even managed to astonish me!!! I had the divorce papers sent over and called to make sure he signed them and sent then back since it takes 4 months to finalize. He congratulated me and gave me his blessings! Now anyone knowing my ex would know he just doesn't do that kind of thing. He is a well known jerk and even admits it himself. I feel like I have a whole new chance to do and live the life I wanted to and should have the first time around 17 years ago.
I know alot of you may not care about this, or even wonder why I am telling you my business. I just wanted to let you know that if you allow yourselves to be who you are and truly meant to be regardless of society you can find true happiness and expression. You may have to endure some hardships, even ones that may feel like they will be the death of you, but this is the time to delve into your inner resources and strengthen the character you are capable of being. With that you can acheive anything life throws at you. Write it all down!!! Share it with others. I am so tired of hearing sad and pathetic stories on the news and talk shows. Why is everyone so eager to share their misery but no one ever spreads the joy?
The only joy you seem to see is when someone wins the lottery. That's not true joy. True joy is when a passion is experienced that enriches your life in a meaningful way. Something that has an impact on you and others around with a lifelong impression that causes you to change your way of thinking for the better.
I will leave you with that thought. I hope I have encouraged you to ponder upon your own existence and per chance wonder if you may not be living up to your full potential. To all those out there who would love peace of mind and peace on earth, take care and good will! Never forget who you are and what you stand for! Never let anyone try to dash your hopes and dreams! Remember all those remembered and revered are the ones who always persisted and continued with their passions regardless of anyone elses' opinions! It is what separates the great from the average. Don't settle for average! We were destined for great things! You must believe!
Until next time my friends! Take care!

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noreply@blogger.com (KDB Business Services) — Wed, 07 Dec 2005 00:31:00 +0000

So I have been living my dreams and keeping my vision alive of becoming known as an author for children's stories. I am feeling so good these days even though I am still yet to sell more than one book. I know it is a process and it will take some time but I am moving forward even if it is only one baby step at a time. Since I have carried this dream for 25 years as I have untiringly plugged away at story after story and idea upon idea(whether still in the making or not), I am not about to give up. I had my first piece published when I was only a child and the fire has never died. My passion for writing has kept me sane through all the bad times when I have been tempted to give up and stop caring. It has been my anchor to keep me rooted in humanity when the world threatened to change me for the worse.
The following article provides a few helpful tips on tapping into your dreams and learning how to be a true visionary.

Become A Visionary – Tapping Into The Artist In You
Copyright 2005 So-lu'shunz Management Services

Purpose is what you’re created for. Mission is what you’re
meant to do about it. Visions are the evidence.

We are all visionaries.

Anyone who has ever dreamed of a better way or a bigger
brighter future on a broader plain is a visionary. If you
see a more vibrant life in you than you are living, you’re
a visionary.

America is founded on our ability and our right to dream
and then bring those dreams to pass. We’re all seeking the
American Dream and it’s not a prescribed vision but assumes
that each one of us is able to dream his or her own future.
America was founded to cradle those dreams.

Visionary is a title we’re a bit threatened by, because it
is so often ascribed to the celebrated among us, such
greats as Martin Luther King, Albert Einstein, Golda Meir,
George Washington Carver. And others with a different kind
of vision such as Walt Disney.

Some visionaries are so well known we no longer need their
first names to identify them, Edison, Bell, Gandhi,
Pasteur, Jefferson, Franklin. But to be threatened by
their greatness is to deny the greatness in you. Your name
need not become a household word in your lifetime for you
to be a great visionary. You need only to gain the tools
to insure that each dream manifests in a better reality

Vision is the ability to see what others are not (yet) able
to see; to create within oneself a new and better, bigger,
brighter reality. It is thinking outside and beyond and
above the norm. It is refusing to be harnessed or halted
by convention or opposition, distraction or disappointment.
Any inability of the visionary becomes inconsequential to
the need for the vision to come to pass. It requires a
great deal of faith and an equal degree of discomfort with
the status quo.

A visionary is one who has learned the art of creating
visions and who is then so filled with his dream that he
cannot help but bring it to pass. We can all learn the art
of creating visions, of directing our dreams to a
purposeful end.

Visionaries are fearless - they will face embarrassment,
derision and mockery. They are much like a woman in the
final stages of labor – the child must be born, regardless
of the circumstances. The process takes on a momentum all
its own and the visionary becomes accountable to the vision
and to facilitating its “delivery.”

Have you ever felt so pregnant with a dream that you were
certain you would burst if it was not delivered into the
world? Then you are a visionary. Now what can you do to
facilitate the process? (See Birthing Your Dream available
at www.solushunz.com, Resource Articles)

Perhaps you’re thinking you don’t have world changing,
revolutionary dreams, so this couldn’t possibly apply to
you. But any vision, of any size, nurtured and directed,
once realized will impact your world and deserves a chance
to grow and transform – that’s what visions do.

The difference between a dreamer and a visionary is the
determination to bring the vision to pass. A dreamer is no
less creative, but is far less dedicated to the
transformation of the vision into reality.

A dreamer dreams to avoid reality. A visionary dreams to
change it.

Can we learn to dream creatively and with direction, or is
this a gift born into a select few? The good news is that
anyone can learn the skills necessary to create
well-developed visions, utilizing the unique gifts and
talents we each possess, and utilizing the resources at
hand, bring them into the real world, fully formed and
ready to. This is a skill none of us can afford to ignore,
if we are dedicated to a better reality for ourselves and
those around us.

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Karin is a certified Life Coach, consultant and trainer
specializing in the EffectivenessCoaching process. She has
helped leaders at all levels to increase their personal and
professional effectiveness by guiding them through the
process of learning to do less and be more. To sooth
holiday stress, visit Karin’s website at
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noreply@blogger.com (KDB Business Services) — Tue, 29 Nov 2005 01:57:00 +0000

I am just so excited that I am posting it on all my blogs! I have got my website up and running and am eagerly awaiting all customers. There are several categories for ebooks and my own writings are published as ebooks or hard copy according to your preference. I am posting new books every day and hope you will pay me a visit regularly. Please tell all your friends and family. You can visit me at http://onestopebookshop.ca
After all the work I have been doing setting up my site, marketing strtaegies, working my day job taking orders for Sears, looking for a new apartment, looking for a new job since it will be in a new city, organizing and packing, and all the day to day duties I am feeling the need to go on vacation.
I read this article and thought it was the perfect solution for my situation. Talk to ya later! I'm off to the spa!

How to Get Away From It All Without Going Anywhere
Copyright 2005 Vivian Banta

So many people when they have returned from taking a trip
say, "I need a vacation from my vacation." This usually
occurs if there is a lot of travel involved in the holiday
or if people have over-scheduled their activities to take
advantage of the wealth of tourist attractions at their
destination. So, apart from reinstating your healthy
eating and sleeping habits, how do you get some rest,
relaxation and enjoyment when the œ"vacation" is over or
too far into the future?

Here are five great tips to on how to get away from it all
without going anywhere:

Mini-spa experience
Just because it isn't summer doesn't mean that you can't
pamper yourself. Whether you make an appointment for a
free makeover, schedule a massage or manicure, or indulge
in some cosmetic goodie or extra, it's a great way to carve
out some time for you. Even taking a shower or bath by the
light and fragrance of aromatherapy candles can be a nice
break from the ordinary.

Read
Remember all those books and magazines you lay aside
thinking you'll have plenty of time to read them when you
go on vacation? Well, why not now? The cooler seasons
bring rainy, cloudy days that many booklovers (me included)
proclaim are ideal reading weather. Just make sure that
you are reading what you want to, not what somebody else
said "you should" read, as this is a surefire trigger for
procrastination.

Bring the exotic into your everyday experience
Part of what we like about going away for vacation is being
able to experience things out of our ordinary, day-to-day
experience. So, who's to say that has be the exclusive
domain of a formal "vacation"? Treat yourself and your
family to a special breakfast on the porch with the fine
china you only use once in a blue moon. Go to a restaurant
that features cuisine you've never tried. Visit a store
that specializes in international wares and pick up a
little something from a foreign locale to add a little bit
of mystique to your normal decor.

Try something new
More often these days, people incorporate learning
experiences into their vacation experiences. So, why not
sign up for a class or workshop? You can tackle personal
development, acquire a new skill, learn some history or
take up a new hobby. Any way you choose to do it, opening
doors to new experiences can also lead to a rejuvenation of
the spirit.

Be a tourist at home
Unless you have played tour guide to an out-of-town
relative or friend, you may not have visited tourist
destinations or historical sites in your own city or
region. Get a visitor's guide from your city and hit the
town. Viewing local attractions alongside tourists can be
an eye-opener and offer you a fresh perspective on the
place you call home. Additionally, If you don't already,
make plans to attend events at your local theater, symphony
or museum. Too many of us will do these things when we are
"out of town" and don't take advantage of the wonderful
arts communities and tourist attractions in our own
communities.

So, if you feel the need to get away from it all, remember
that you don't necessarily need to leave home. Sometimes a
great vacation is right in front of you!

----------------------------------------------------
Vivian Banta (MBA/Coach U CTP Grad) is a life coach who
works with people in pursuit of their passion who want to
fully engage in their lives. Are you ready to plant your
heart in the garden of your dreams? Find out how by
visiting her website at http://gardenofsenses.com or e-mail
her at coach@gardenofsenses.com to schedule a free,
30-minute personal coaching session.

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noreply@blogger.com (KDB Business Services) — Wed, 23 Nov 2005 23:46:00 +0000

BRRRR. Even as a born and bred Canadian I still hate the winter! It takes an extra ten minutes to get out the door in this season. The only thing I like about it is the fact that because I have tons of pockets on the coat I can skip carrying my purse.
I have been busy and I apologize to my faithful readers that I have missed 8 days. I am moving in a month and have had lots to do since it is a relocation to another city. Plus throw a baby shower in there for my sisterinlaw and there goes two days alone in preparations. It was worth it though. We had a contest where we had to guess the baby food without the labels and I tell you, they didn't have flavours like that for my kids 13 years ago! Yuck! I understand why babies make those faces and spit it out now! Some food is not meant to be mixed and ground up together.
Keeping on the theme of children I would like to introduce the following article to you. I thought it was an amusing yet truthful read.

What 9/11 and a 3-Year-Old Taught Me About Gratitude
Copyright 2005 Tony Mase

One of the most important concepts Wallace D. Wattles wrote
about in his books was gratitude. As a matter of fact, in
the book for which he's best known, "The Science of Getting
Rich", Wallace D. Wattles devoted an entire chapter to
gratitude and used the word gratitude some thirty-two times
throughout the book.

Although I'd been studying "The Science of Getting Rich" by
Wallace D. Wattles for over three years, and made
incredible changes in my life by applying its principles, I
still didn't completely get this gratitude "thing".

I understood the importance of gratitude intellectually
and, at least to some extent, was applying it in my life,
but, and I don't know if this was just a "guy thing" or
what, I didn't feel like I really understood it emotionally
at a deep down, visceral level.

Then it happened...

September 11, 2001...

A day few of us will ever forget.

The one thing I'll always remember most about that fateful
day was my son, who was three years old at the time,
looking at me with his big brown eyes asking me the dreaded
but inevitable...

"Why Daddy?"

For lack of anything better, I gave him the best good guy,
bad guy analogy I could come with at the time and then, for
whatever reason, I ended it with, "as bad as this appears
to be, we have a lot to be thankful for."

Hoping that was that, I quickly began thinking of something
else we could do or talk about to get his mind off the
horror he'd just witnessed on television.

Suddenly, I heard him ask...

"Like what Daddy?"

"Like what, what?" I replied.

"Like what we have to be thankful for?" he asked.

"Great," I thought to myself, "I thought we were done with
this."

"Well," I said, "we can be thankful that you, me and mommy
are okay. A lot of little boys and girls lost their mommies
or daddies today. Some of them lost both."

He thought for a moment and then asked, "What else Daddy?"

"Well," I replied, "we can be thankful that so many people
were able to get out of those buildings alive before they
collapsed."

"What else Daddy?" he asked.

"Well..." I hesitated, desperately trying to think of
something else.

"Come on Daddy," he said, "what else we have to be thankful
for?"

"Well," I said, "we can be thankful for all the brave fire
fighters, paramedics and police officers who are helping
those who need it."

"And the fire fighters have fire trucks with lights and
sirens, huh Daddy?" he asked with a smile on his face.

"Yes son, they do," I replied, returning his smile.

"What else Daddy?" he asked.

"Well son," I said, "we can be thankful that we have a
strong military to protect us."

"And they have tanks, huh Daddy?" he asked, this time with
a really big smile (for whatever reason, he *really* likes
tanks :-)).

"Yes son, they do," I replied, "and they have lots of them."

"What else we have to be thankful for Daddy?" he asked...

As his "grilling" continued (which at the time seemed like
it went on forever :-)), and the list of things we had to
be thankful for grew larger and larger and larger, I could
*feel*, rather dramatically, our thoughts shift from those
of doubt, uncertainty, fear and worry, to those of
certainty and faith.

Finally...

I got it! :-)

You see, all too often, when something's not "right" in our
lives, or something's not the way we'd prefer it to be,
even though it may be only a *tiny* portion of our overall
experience, we tend to focus all our mental energy on it
causing us to lose our perspective and, in the process, we
virtually insure we'll get more of the same... more of what
we *don't* want.

On the other hand...

Gratitude forces us to focus on what's right in our lives,
on the things that are the way we'd prefer them to be,
which, chances are, are the overwhelming majority of our
experience at any given time, causing us to put things in
their proper perspective and thereby virtually insuring
we'll get more of the same... more of what we *do* want!

Since that unforgettable day, I've repeated this simple
exercise dozens of times...

Whenever I feel thoughts of doubt, uncertainty, fear or
worry starting to creep in, I simply ask myself what I have
to be thankful for right *now* and then I keep asking...

What else...

What else...

What else...

It's never failed yet to almost instantly help me regain a
"constructive" perspective and replace those "destructive"
thoughts of doubt, uncertainty, fear and worry with
"constructive" thoughts of certainty and faith.

Thanks son. :-)

----------------------------------------------------
Tony Mase is a serious student of the works of Wallace D.
Wattles and the publisher of "The Science of Abundant Life"
ebook by Wallace D. Wattles...
http://www.thescienceofabundantlife.com

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noreply@blogger.com (KDB Business Services) — Wed, 16 Nov 2005 03:12:00 +0000

Have you ever noticed that if you are engaged in something you enjoy doing you automatically become well versed in the subject? You know what is going to happen and can find all the energy and motivation needed to complete the task at hand. That is one reason why it is important in our lives to have an activity all of our own that we can get lost in if we are spending our days in a job we don't necessarily care for. We need that time to become self absorbed. To allow our mind to relax and become immersed in a little selfish pleasure. It gives the body time to unwind and process the days events on an even keel. It is a stress reliever. It allows the body to function in a more effective manner in all aspects of the day to day activities.
The following article talks a little more about how we can incorporate anticipation into our daily actions so we can have a wealthier, enriching life experience.

Creative and Rich - How Anticipation Creates Wealth
Copyright 2005 Tania French

A wealthy person anticipates riches. Without anticipation
you swim in a sea of uncertainty. With it, you participate
in making your creative life a wealthy life.

A few days ago I decided to replace a person working for us
who was chronically late.

Well, it’s done. Yesterday I hired someone who fulfills all
the requirements of the job. And I’m thrilled about the
change. It’s so gratifying to have someone who is eager and
happy to learn and to help.

And guess what else I found. This person anticipates what
needs to get done. What a great gift to be around someone
who thinks ahead and does things without asking. That is
key.

Anticipation and Participation go hand in hand. A Doer
actively participates in every aspect of life. And the
secret to full participation is to anticipate each new task
by allowing it to appear in your mind.

This doesn’t mean that you don’t relax. In fact, the
opposite is true. People in touch with the pulse of life
have to be relaxed. Anticipation Is relaxing. Because you
never have to look back and worry. You’ve silenced the
worry-monger. You are marching towards your goal by
anticipating each moment.

Always keep your goal in mind. This is key. The target of
anticipation is your goal.

You have become an efficiency machine. Because you’re not
wasting precious energy by procrastinating. Your mind,
cleared of clutter, becomes a vessel for creative thinking.
You are refreshed and rejuvenated, and you’re always
looking forward, never back. You refuse to be on auto-pilot.

I don’t want to be on auto-anything. Those auto-pilot
blinders cause the death of creativity. Beware and declare.
Otherwise that sneaky auto-pilot might creep into your
thoughts again. After all, you can get addicted to being a
slave to the grave that you dig for yourself.

There’s no other way to live a life of wealth than to
embrace what’s around the corner. By anticipating what’s
needed. And participating to get the job done.

You have now conquered the fear that can whisper in your
ear.

Anticipation leads to Creation and turns into Wealth. Just
remember that order. You’re on your way to a life of
prosperity and riches.

Now that I’ve gotten your attention, shift your gears and
read something totally radical, totally out-of-the-box.
I’ve got that something for you. And I bet you’ll be
knocked off your feet as soon as you start inhaling these
powerful words.

----------------------------------------------------
Tania French is a composer who has enjoyed performances and
radio broadcasts of her music worldwide. Her new CD
“Renewal” (released December, 2005) will feature a
rejuvenating fusion of new age, classical, and world songs.
Subscribe to her popular newsletter at
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noreply@blogger.com (KDB Business Services) — Tue, 15 Nov 2005 03:45:00 +0000

Do you have a victim mentality? Do you know someone who does? Where nothing is ever your fault, the world hates you, and everyone is in a conspiracy to make sure your life is hell and every time you get to take one step forward you are knocked two steps back.
I was in that mindset for years. It is very hard to get out of. To retrain your thought process and over talk your immediate responses so you are not always just a reactive creature of habit. Change takes alot of work. Our innate sense of being is to just go with the easiest or the most comfortable. Even if we are miserable it is something we know, something we can hide in. Who has time to relearn the right way to behave when our lives are busy enough as it is. We muddle through. We run away if we get into situations we can't deal with, or we just curl up internally and go through our lives as mere shells of existence.
The following read talks more in depth of the victim mentality and ways we can overcome.

Owning Your Own Controls
Copyright 2005 Eldon Taylor

What makes the difference between two children raised in
the same environment with the same parents when one ends up
a neuro-surgeon and the other a hardened violent criminal?
What makes the difference between two patients suffering in
a hospice center from identical conditions when one
requires very little medication and is liked by all, while
the other suffers bitterly regardless of the medication and
no one really wants to be around them? What are the subtle
differences that seem to allow one person to live a certain
life style free of illness while another doing the same
things becomes ill as a result? What defines a stimulus as
stressful to one while the same exact stimulus is welcomed
with excitement by another? The answer is so simple as to
be overly obvious.

In my work, I have had the opportunity to work with a wide
range of individuals in differing settings, ranging from
the inmate incarcerated in maximum security to the terminal
patient in the hospice center. Over the years my
observations ultimately led to this hypothesis: the persons
who seem to suffer most consider themselves to be victims.
The classic victim scenario in the prison generally goes
something like this: all but for the grace of God there go
you. Translated by the inmate population, this means
something like, "What would you do? Where would you be?
After all, my daddy was an alcoholic, my mother was a
prostitute and the neighbor boy hung heroine on me when I
was only eight".

The fact is, our environment and circumstance do imprint us
in profound ways. Our very ability to cope depends in large
on our choices and they are predetermined in large by our
enculturation process. Thus, what else could the victim of
these tragedies do?

We all grow up with some substantially similar ideas and
notions about what is fair and acceptable. We all tend to
say things like "When I'm a parent, I'll do it
differently"; and yet, when our children act in some way
that meets with our disapproval, we respond just as our
parents did. Psychologist call this process imprinting. In
very simple terms, if you raise a duckling with chickens,
it will behave as a chicken. There is a marvelous story
that illustrates this point.

It seems one day that an eagle flew over a chicken coop. To
his amazement, pecking in the yard below, was a large
gathering of chickens and a lone, beautiful female eagle.
He swooped down for a closer look and the chickens together
with the eagle fled to the chicken house. For days the
eagle watched the chickens from a distance until one day he
was certain that he could stop the beautiful eagle before
she reached the chicken house. With the prowess of an eagle
he was suddenly in between the eagle and the chicken house.
She trembled. He spoke, "What are you doing living down
here like a chicken". She answered, "I am a chicken". He
argued, showing her the similarities between himself and
her. He told her of what it was like to be an eagle and
soar high above the earth. His stories only frightened her.
Finally she said, "Well if I'm an eagle then you will not
harm me". He responded in the affirmative. She said, "Then
step back and show me." As he stepped backed she seized the
opportunity to run into the chicken house. When the other
chickens questioned her about the encounter, she told them
all of how she had outsmarted the eagle. Of course, all the
chickens commended her for tricking the eagle.

Many of us are like the female eagle. We outsmart ourselves
with betrayals of who we really are. Our choices are
predicated on our beliefs and our beliefs have been adopted
from the same process inherent to the story about the
chickens and the chicken house. Here is another example of
how this kind of reason pervades who and what we are.

One day a man walking the streets of Manhattan passed
beneath a high rise complex that consisted of very
expensive condominiums. As he passed under the balcony of
one of the two story units a flower pot which had been
placed precariously close to the balcony edge fell and
crashed down on his head. Now imagine this man's choices.
What could he do? What would be the normal thing to do?
Well, he could take the broken pot back to its owners and
put it guess where. Administer a beating to the idiot that
put the flower pot too close to the edge, that's what most
people respond with as their first thought when I have
presented this scenario to audiences. What else could he
do? Well, he could be metaphysical. You know, kismet,
what's to be will be, after all, maybe the blow to his head
rearranged some neurons and now he will experience higher
consciousness. So just be metaphysical and act as if it was
supposed to happen and just go on down the road. What else
could he do? Well, he could be an opportunist. You know
that flower pot fell from a wealthy person's ledge. Whip
lash, concussion, something like that---sue the sucker!

What else could he do? What would you do? How about taking
the flower to a florist, potting it and returning it as a
gift of love? Could you just as well do that? Of all the
possibilities, which one do you think would produce the
best outcome for yourself in terms of happiness, wholeness
and even health?

The fact is, the normal person has been trained to behave
in a normal manner. Normal means that they have a right to
become angry and exact punishment. Robert Laing once said
something like "normal man has educated himself to be
normal and thus to become absurd" in his book THE POLITICS
OF EXPERIENCE. The emotional reaction termed anger is just
one such absurdity. What happens to the body when one
becomes normal is no less than a weakening of the immune
system and further, suspended states of fight flight, or as
we know it in more modern man, anxiety and depression,
literally produce chemistry that is toxic to the human
condition. As Dr.'s Steven Locke and Douglas Colligan point
out in their book, THE HEALER WITHIN, these hostile
emotions, victim, if you will, feelings, literally can
condition the body in the direction of disease as well as
produce certain diseases in and of themselves (1986).

The correct answer in our flower pot analogy is of course,
pot the flower and return it as a gift. The idea is not
foreign in terms of possible alternatives and yet it is
seldom ever considered. Our choices arise from our
definitions and they have been incubated all too often in
chicken houses, but let's stop for a moment and look at one
of the preferred enculturated choices from the human
chicken house. My work and research has demonstrated that
for every fear there is an anger response. Sometimes the
anger is withheld, turned in, and sometimes it is acted
out. Nevertheless, there is no such thing as anger without
some fear underpinning it! Now, what exactly is anger? My
examination of this cycle of fear and anger has given rise
to an acronym that I often use when describing anger.
A---a, N---nasty, G---getting, E---even, R---response. A
nasty getting even response. If fear and anger are
circular, what is it that gives rise to feeling frightened,
anxious or nervous, becoming angry and responding in a
fight/flight way when the stimulus is something like the
way my employer speaks to me, the way my significant other
looks at me, or just the stuff one feels when cut off in
five o'clock traffic and given the infamous bird. None of
these things are truly life threatening and after all,
isn't that what the fight/flight functions are wired in
for, the preservation of the species?

Dr. Carl LaPresch used to speak of the four "F's" in his
introductory lectures regarding basic psychology. These
four primitive drives were the basis for most behavior. In
fact, it was Carl who first suggested to me that perhaps
the highest act of human consciousness was cortical
inhibition---over riding the wired in responses that can
occur in the primitive brain. The four "f's" are easy to
remember and oriented to species preservation: fight,
flight, feeding and---well the propagation of the species.

Why then a fight/flight response to a synthetic
stimuli---that is a stimuli that is not life threatening?
What special lens do we attach to certain events in life
that give rise to a perception of threat when indeed the
threat is not a tiger in hot pursuit? My early hypothesis
regarding the fear/anger loop eventually led to the
conclusion that perceived threats were rejection oriented.
In other words, our individual intrinsic value was denied.
Interestingly though, for most of us, the normal strategy
for avoiding rejection is itself the ultimate rejection.
There are two ways to be tied up in the world. One is to
have someone literally bind you and another is simply to
tether oneself to a thread, refusing either to pull hard
enough to break it or to let it go. Many of our beliefs are
the product of the latter. We refuse to let them go. Like
the eagle raised by the chickens, we know what we are
expected to do and define our behavior accordingly. Thus,
to resolve conflict we establish strategies designed to
protect us from rejection. Among these strategies our
defense mechanisms function, as well as our attitudes,
toward everything we will encounter in our lives.

When I was a boy my definitions included labels and what I
have termed for years as the no-don't syndrome. In my many
lectures throughout America and Europe, the audience has
repeatedly verified that my experience was not unique.
Indeed, it was the rule. If this generalization applies,
then most of us were raised with statements like: "You're
not old enough." "You're stupid or that's stupid."
"Children are to be seen and not heard." "Don't do
this"---"you can't do that"---and so forth as well as a
host of labels.

It was not long before I was wearing glasses and one of my
best friends was black. My early definitions were in direct
conflict with my experience; still, various strategies for
coping with this conflict developed, albeit most
unconsciously.

It wasn't until I was in my thirties that I learned that
not only did I wear glasses and have black friends, but my
grandfather was Jewish and my great grandmother was Native
American. For years I had coped by demonstrating that I was
"tough enough" to wear glasses and not get called four-eyes
and to stand up for what just inherently seemed wrong and
later became known to me as bigotry and racism. In other
words, my defense strategy was compensatory---aggression
would align my inner with the outer---my experience with my
training as a child could avoid conflict by simply becoming
too tough for someone to challenge my behavior.

The result was devastating. Not only did I poison myself,
but the never ending quest to justify my actions produced
increasing needs for aggression. My relationships
deteriorated and/or were destroyed, and well, you can just
imagine the havoc wreaked in my own life. The method of
choice for conflict in my particular upbringing was
aggressive---and hostility was the norm.

What I have found over the years of life and work is that
once again, this was not a unique pattern. Oh, the
circumstances may vary from individual to individual, but
the essence of the lesson never did. The result for many of
us is a mechanism called blame. That brings us right back
to our inmate whose daddy was an alcoholic and so forth.
Alas, a light went on that set years of work and research
into perspective, at least for me.

Now here is the bottom line: as long as one blames anything
or anyone they are effectively tied up. There is nothing
they can do. They are victims of their circumstances. They
can only but whimper. As victims, they are helpless. As
victims, perhaps they are even due benefits such as
sympathy, attention, special care and so on. But as
victims, they are not in charge of their circumstances
and/or their responses.

Applying this theory I discovered that regardless of the
circumstances, from hospice to prison, the suffering was
directly related to blame or "victim-hood". What is more, I
discovered that on the opposite side of this continuum,
rested the self responsible. The person who assumed control
of their own life and found creative solutions for
difficult situations---returning the flower, if you will,
replanted in a new flower pot.

These responsible individuals were in charge of their own
inner environments. Their secret was simple, they did not
become angry and involved in blame. Oh they did not
necessarily accept everyone or anything, in fact, quite the
contrary in some instances, but they did not waste time
eliminating their possibilities by divesting their power
via blame. They took the initiative to resolve situations
positively and assumed the responsibility for doing so.
Unlike the whimpering victim, they were what they made of
the stuff of life and accepted so.

There is an interesting experiment that has been replicated
many times and perhaps addresses the effect this kind of
hopelessness/helplessness mentality can have on physical
health. Dogs were placed in Pavlovian slings where they
could do nothing when electric shock was administered by
psychologist Martin Seligman at the University of
Pennsylvania in an experiment to determine the effects of
helplessness. Seligman suggests that many of us have
learned that nothing can be done in many circumstances to
make a difference. Once the dogs were conditioned to the
shock they were then placed in cages with floors that on
one side of the cage an electric grid could be used to
apply shock while on the other side of a low barrier wall
the dog could escape the shock. What Seligman discovered
has many ramifications. Dogs who had not been conditioned
in the sling ran around frantically when shock was first
administered. They learned to jump the small wall and
escape the shock. They became so good at it that when the
electricity was turned on, they simply got up and casually
jumped over the wall. However, dogs that had been
conditioned to the sling ran frantically at first just as
the unconditioned dogs but soon quit and only whimpered.
They accepted the shock passively and thus the whimpering
shocked dog metaphor (Ibid). This sense or conditioned
belief in victim-hood has been demonstrated to effect the
immune system in a negative manner. The Institute of Noetic
Sciences has funded much of the research in what is now
termed PNI or psychoneuroimmunology and this body of work
shows clearly, as does the entire body of literature
regarding mind/body wellness, that the deleterious effects
of certain mental processes on the body can literally kill
( ). Nothing I could do---helplessness---victim-hood---this
side of the responsibility equation is among the worst of
mental processes one can adopt regardless of its source. In
fact, in a paper that is now in press, we learned from a
follow-up study of terminally diagnosed patients conducted
by PROGRESSIVE AWARENESS RESEARCH, that the physicians
attitude is somehow more influential on patient life
expectancy than either the treatment modality or the
patients attitude toward their future, their responsibility
regarding the disease and/or their outcome expectation.
Somehow the attitude of the physician is assumed to have
been communicated to the patient for in every single
instance where the physicians responded to the
questionnaire regarding patients role in terms of the
positive use of their mind with neutral to negative
evaluation, the patient died. The study generally indicated
a survival rate of over 30% for all respondents (remission)
and an increase in life by up to three years over time
given in prognosis for those patients whose physicians
generally agreed that the mind has a role in patient health
even in the face of "terminal" illness. The assumption
suggests that one must fully accept the responsibility for
their own lives and mental processes even if that means
guarding against the influence of another.

What then is the pragmatic to overcome, or I prefer, to
outgrow, this early conditioning. Once again, it's so
simple as to be difficult---difficult to believe and
difficult to do. The answer is forgive! In my research we
began applying three messages as cognitive tools to untie
the victim. They are called the forgiveness set and consist
of these three statements: I forgive myself; I forgive all
others; and I am forgiven.

When you forgive, you can not blame. If you do not blame
it's exceedingly difficult to become angry. What you cannot
become angry about, you do not fear. When there is nothing
to fear, there is nothing to become angry about or no one
to blame. Life is simply a miracle and living is the
process of maximizing the miraculous experience. Every
thought or deed becomes therefore differently oriented.
When you accept responsibility for everything in your
universe, you gain the power to make changes. The real
changes are made in you and thus your experience of life
and self become qualitatively different almost immediately.

You are in charge of your inner environment, and your
beliefs, attitudes and emotions do matter to you. Your
health, your enjoyment of life, your ability to become all
that you are is inescapably involved in your ability to
forgive and let go.

But alas, you may say, that's all too simple and further
life sucks and then we die. And I am sure you can find many
that will agree. Still, if you want to see the barnyard
from the sky, spread your wings and see for yourself.
Seeing is believing. Try it---I promise, you'll like it.
And if necessary, fake it until you make it.

----------------------------------------------------
Eldon Taylor is the author of over 200 books and self
improvement programs. His vitae is listed in over a dozen
"Who's Who" publications. He is diplomat in the American
Psychotherapy Association and received the 2005 Peace Prize
awarded by the United Cultural Convention for his work in
teachning self-responsibility around the world. His works
are available in five languages and are sold around the
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noreply@blogger.com (KDB Business Services) — Sun, 13 Nov 2005 19:35:00 +0000

You know in school when they ask you where you see yourself in 5 or ten years? Back then we had such high visions. Some we managed to fulfill, others we are still working on and yet others again seem to be just a dream. The main thing we must remember though is every day we have the opportunity to advance and to reach for our goals to become the best humans we can possibly be despite our obstacles. That is the true measure of success in personal development.
The following article will help you establish a strategy to better plan and implement your perfect goal towards a deeper sense of personal development.

Developing Personal Depth
Copyright 2005 Mark Myhre

Everyone seeks personal depth to one degree or another.
Personal depth stands as *the* way to add richness and
beauty to our lives.

Nobody wants to be considered a shallow person. Still,
the concept of becoming a ‘deep’ person turns many people
off. We have this image of a deep person as someone who
spends a little too much time stroking his beard and
smoking his pipe, lost in thought way beyond us mere
mortals.

They ponder too much. They’re smarter than us. They go to
the opera -and actually know what the fat lady is singing
about! They’re just not normal.

Fortunately, personal depth exists as something else
altogether.

Achieving greater personal depth (and not coincidently,
greater success at anything you pursue) involves taking
specific actions. You can achieve greater personal depth
starting today by working with the seven characteristics
listed below.

1. Develop and use the generating energies of trust and
value.

Trust: Even though you don’t have all the answers, you know
you’ll get by. You’re ‘enough‘ and you know it. You can
count on yourself. You can rely on your power, strength
and talent. Whatever happens you know you can face it: you
know you’ll make it. Even though it may not be perfect,
you’ll handle the situation at hand ‘good enough’. That’s
trust.

Value: You might not be highly visible in the world, but
the role you play in life *is* highly valuable. You know
you are valuable in your way - to yourself and to those who
love you. Also, you recognize, respond and act upon your
value.

2. Develop and use the sustaining energies of life such as
discipline and ownership.

The discipline that’s self-imposed: You decide on
something and then you *follow through*. You follow your
own plan, your own rules - that’s discipline.

Ownership: Own your thoughts and feelings. Own your
emotions. Own your failures - so you can change them. Own
that you’re responsible. And own your successes - so you
can keep them. Ownership gives you the ‘right’ to change.

3. Continuously create new meaning, new destiny, new
personality, and new self-image.

People with personal depth never settle for the way they
are. They may be satisfied, but they always seek to become
more. More meaning in their life. Higher destiny. Greater
complexity of personality. And new self-image.

4. Develop and strengthen character.

Character: By knowing your ideals and your principles, and
living by them…. by having ideas and opinions and standing
by them…. That’s how you build character and thus increase
your personal depth.

5. Continuous expansion of your power, strength,
responsibility and creativity.

You look for ways to be more powerful; to act, to get
involved in the world around you. You look for ways to take
more responsibility from the most minute to the most
magnificent. You know your strengths and look for ways to
use them. You work on expanding your creativity.
(Creativity is anything you do that inspires you or
inspires others.) Just taking a walk can be creative!

6. Sustained actualization.

You’re in touch with your thoughts and feelings, and you’re
not afraid to put them into action. You always think and
feel. You’re aware of that thinking and feeling. And you
act upon those thoughts and feelings.

7. Generating spirituality.

You don’t have to separate yourself from the mundane of
life to experience your spirituality. Rather, you seek the
spiritual *within* the material. Your spirituality
eventually becomes your number one priority.

You come to realize everything you experience is a
manifestation of your spirituality. There is no separation
between the spiritual and the living of life - that’s the
goal of the person seeking or having personal depth.

***

As you can see, personal depth is not something you check
off on a to-do list. Let’s see… walk the dog, take out the
trash, and oh yeah - achieve personal depth. No.

It’s an ongoing, never-ending, always-expanding endeavor.
Basically it all comes down to becoming more of yourself.

There are no limits, and that’s the good news. You can
always experience greater personal depth.

----------------------------------------------------
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secrets that teach you how to deal with depression, stress,
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noreply@blogger.com (KDB Business Services) — Sun, 13 Nov 2005 00:55:00 +0000

I work in a Call Centre. But I receive inbound calls only. I refuse to do outbound. Once upon a time before I had much experience I did have to try a telemarketing job and I lasted 2 weeks. I hated it and totally empathized with all the home dwellers who have to be bothered answering these calls.
The other day, I had someone call me from The Toronto Star newspaper. They had a deal for the Saturday paper only being .49c instead of the usual $1.50. I tried to tell the gentleman that I didn't read the paper and I didn't need the t.v. guide due to the fact I have a channel listing all the shows when I care to look. Besides I have my favorite shows and I know when those are all on. He persisted and acted like I didn't even say no. He rattled off all my information to which I agreed was correct. Then he istantly said he was patching me through to the verification department to set up a payment service for me so I could receive my first edition.
Before I had a chance to object, he promptly pushed some buttons and I was listening to music. Thank Goodness! I hung up!
Now, knowing the Call Centre rules as I now have 3 years experience, I know that was not allowed and he was lucky I had the chance to hang up or I could have had his job.
The following article is pefect! I am going to try some of the tips she writes just to see what the effect is. I now am anxiously awaiting a call so I can have some fun!

Work From Home - Fun With Telemarketers
Copyright 2005 Elaine Currie

During the time I have spent working at home, I have
encountered many telemarketers. That's how I found out
about their radar: when I went out to work telemarketers
always rang in the evening while I was trying to cook or
eat dinner, now they ring during the day when I am trying
to work at home.

A joke that arrived in my email made me realise that I am
not alone in being less than fond of telemarketers. (In
fact, they are on my list right up with lawyers and estate
agents.) I'll be sharing a few tips from this joke with
you throughout this article but, if you want to read all 20
of them, you can see them at my website on the same page as
this article.

I can usually identify telemarketers immediately because
they will almost inevitably open with "Good morning, madam.
How are you today?" Nobody but a telemarketer would dream
of ringing a person and addressing her as "madam".
Presumably that is a marketing technique which is supposed
to give the illusion that you are the customer and the
telemarketer is there to serve you but it just gives me the
idea that I should have let the answering machine pick up
this call. The tip for circumventing the whole thing is:-
As soon as you realize it is a Telemarketer, scream "Oh my
God!" and then hang up.

It took me quite a while to get to grips with the constant
annoyance of telemarketing calls. I was brought up to be
polite but I eventually discovered it is impossible to get
rid of telemarketers without resorting to rudeness. I
don't ask these people to ring me up and try to sell me
things I don't want: everything from jigsaw puzzles and
books, through lingerie and cinema tickets to health
insurance and mobility aids. As I (thankfully) am and
always have been fully mobile, I don't understand the
reason for the last one.

Actually, the telemarketer who was offering mobility aids
was a great example of a bad telemarketer. His opening
gambit was "Good morning, madam. I'm from XYZ Company, I
expect you've heard of us?" When I replied "No." his
response was a grumpy-sounding "I can't think why not".
So, did he ring just to point out that I'm ignorant? When
he hurried on with his script and asked me if I have any
difficulty getting in or out of the house, I was tempted to
reply "Only when I'm drunk" but I managed to bite my lip on
that one: "no" is definitely the only safe word to use when
dealing with telemarketers.

A better way of dealing with this type of call is the
following tip:- If they say they're John Doe from XYZ
Company, ask them to spell their name. Then ask them to
spell the company name. Then ask them where it is located,
how long it has been in business, how many people work
there, how they got into this line of work if they are
married, how many kids they have, etc. Continue asking them
personal questions or questions about their company for as
long as necessary.

Alternatively try this tip:- Tell them you are hard of
hearing and that they need to speak up . . . louder . . .
louder . . .

The telemarketers for mobile phone companies are the
thickest skinned and most persistent variety of the species
I have encountered so far. They also tend to have the
strongest accents and I feel mean giving them a hard time
when they are at a disadvantage to begin with. I always
used to answer their questions in the hope that they would
realise that I was not a good prospect for mobile phone
upgrades. When I asked the last mobile phone telemarketer
why he thought I might want to give up my virtually free
phone deal and pay for line rental, he just started over
with his script listing the number of free minutes of air
time they would "give" me. The fact that I would not use
the air time seemed to make no difference, there was
nothing about that in his script and I had to resort to
abrupt termination of the call.

Next time I'll try this tip:- Tell the Telemarketer you are
busy at the moment and ask him/her if he/she will give you
his/her home phone number so you can call him/her back.
When the Telemarketer explains that telemarketers cannot
give out their home numbers say, "I guess you don't want
anyone bothering you at home, right?" The Telemarketer will
agree and you say, "Me either!" Hang up.

The telemarketer who wanted me to switch to a new power
supplier taught me a lot about the telemarketing
profession. The power supply marketers who turn up on my
doorstep, accost me in the supermarket or telephone me,
usually baffle me with figures, blind me with science and
leave me feeling I should sign up with them immediately.
The last one to phone me happened to ring while I was in my
office at home and I had my power bills to hand. The
telemarketer asked me how much I paid each month to my
power supplier and then assured me that he could save me
30% on my bills. I was impressed and asked how he
calculated that figure. He informed me that he had a
"chart". In an effort to finally understand the mysteries
of calculating these savings, I asked the telemarketer to
give me an exact breakdown of the amount his company would
charge for my most recent electricity bill. He said he
couldn't because he was not good at maths. As he had given
me the price per unit, I found it pretty easy to calculate
for myself but I couldn't understand why the cost came out
higher when he had said his company charged 30% less. I'd
barely managed to ask for an explanation when he hung up.
This particular telemarketer taught me that telemarketers
will tell you anything their script requires even if they
don't understand it or know it is a complete lie.

This tip might help:- Tell them to talk very slowly,
because you want to write every word down. Alternatively
this might work:- Insist that the caller is really your
buddy Leon, playing a joke. "Come on, Leon, cut it out!
Seriously, Leon, how's your momma?"

Telemarketers should be treated like children at bedtime:
use a firm tone when saying "no" and do not be drawn into
conversation. I have tried ignoring the "How are you
today" but that just means they launch straight into the
script. Next time I am going to try "I'm so glad you
asked, because no one these days seems to care, and I have
all these problems. My arthritis is acting up, my eyelashes
are sore, my dog just died . . . "

I've tried asking pointedly: "What do you actually want?"
but the reply was "I want to try to save you money" (how
kind considering we are perfect strangers). If only I'd
received the telemarketer joke before this I would have
said "I just filed for bankruptcy and I could sure use some
money".

I've also tried "Are you selling something?" but they never
fall into the trap of answering that one. For days when
I'm not busy and fancy a little fun, I'm keeping a
crossword puzzle on my desk. I'll ask every telemarketer
who calls to help me solve some clues. I've made out a
score card for me -v- telemarketers and I give myself
double points each time I can force a telemarketer to hang
up.

----------------------------------------------------
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Profit Site to help everyone who wants to work at home:
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noreply@blogger.com (KDB Business Services) — Sat, 12 Nov 2005 02:26:00 +0000

I read this article today and I had to chuckle to myself. I left Toronto 2.5 years ago for this smaller town of Belleville because I couldn't live with all the rude people in the big city. What has happened to society that we can't find it in ourselves anymore to be civil to one another? When did this start happening? Why is there so much negativity floating around? Can no one find some form of happiness to bring a smile to the day?
I used to hate to ride the subway because people bang you with their bags and don't apologize, they step on your feet as they brush past you to get on the train or bus cutting in line, they talk over you to their friends spitting in your face and not even acknowledging that you are there, or they throw their back pack on the only available seat left and get annoyed when you go to move it so you can sit down.
Those are just a few of the annoyances I have come across on a daily basis. That is one environment as well. Of all the environments in all the locations you find yourself in throughout your daily existence the rudeness will and does catch up to you to cause some serious stress. I swore I would never go back to that city. But as I stay here I realize that people are the same whereever you go it just varies in degrees and population count. It is a shame.
Read the following article and see if you agree or disagree.

Is it Just Me, or are People Getting Ruder?
Copyright 2005 Mary Eule

I’ve been wondering this for a while and have been dying to
ask my business colleagues and friends. But whenever I’m
get ready to pop the question, I manage to convince myself
that it’s silly, reveals my cynical nature (or advance
years!) and is probably just a figment of my jaded
imagination… certainly not worthy of intelligent discussion.

The question, however, continued to reside nervously on the
tip of my tongue, eager to fly out (particularly just after
leaving my apparently mute colleague a fourth voice mail
message). But it wasn’t until I read Keith Ferrazzi’s
masterful book, “Never Eat Alone” that I summoned the
courage to thunderously and openly inquire, “Are people,
particularly those in business, much ruder than they use to
be?”

And… “Have we become so numb to it that we actually expect
- and worst yet, accept it as normal and okay?”

I think yes. I hope I’m wrong.

Let me, however, step back a bit… Why did Ferrazzi’s book
serve as my catalyst?

The short answer is that it’s just plain good. It is a
brilliantly written book – simple without being simplistic
– in the same league as Dale Carnegie’s classic “How to Win
Friends and Influence People.” And in an age when everyone
seems to be a marketing, internet or personal motivation
coach it’s refreshing to read something so balanced and
genuinely inspired. Most importantly, however, Ferrazzi
reminds us that we’re not in this alone - people make
business happen!

He reiterates what some of us already know. We’re all
better off – emotionally, financially, and physically –
when we take the time to build thoughtful, intimate (not in
the “biblical” sense :>) and sincere relationships with
others. Ferrazzi says that while our personal styles and
levels of openness should be adjusted as appropriate,
making strong human connections is essential to our well
being. I couldn’t agree more! This is, after all, what it’s
all about – and long overdue advice. Thanks, Keith!

But then it occurred to me. How can you develop
relationships with people when they don’t call, email, or
show up – even when they’ve promised to do so?!

And I’m not referring about those little, unintentional
slip-ups that happen to all of us occasionally - like when
you’ve forgotten your Aunt Hilda’s birthday; or waited
until the last minute to send in your wedding RSVP; or
failed to send a thank-you note.

No, what I’m talking about is far more baffling and
egregious. I’m referring to the friends who call you one
day before your big dinner party and reiterate how much
they’re looking forward to seeing you - and then don’t
show up – no explanation, no call, no nothing.

Or how about that real estate agent who promises to get
back to you with a price no later than 2 pm, and you never
hear from them again?

And what about that old friend or colleague who can’t wait
to have lunch with you next Thursday and then doesn’t
return your confirmation calls or emails?

Then there’s my favorite… you’ve killed yourself to help
someone get something “urgent” done (usually a boss or
co-worker) and even managed to save the day… You email “the
document” before the deadline, sure that the recipient will
be relieved and grateful. But you never find out. No
“thank you”. No “way to go”. No nothing.

Or is it just me? Maybe so…

I was raised in a home where we were taught to treat
everyone with the same amount of respect and kindness.
Period. Behavior that didn’t measure up to this standard
was not tolerated. We learned that the true measure of
someone’s character rested in their commitment to do the
right thing - even when they didn’t have to.

For example, whenever I leave a hotel room, I wipe off the
counters; gather my towels together in one convenient spot;
turn off the television, lights and air conditioning;
return the iron to the closet; and make sure that all my
scraps of paper are where they belong – in the trash can.

Why? Because it’s just the right thing to do (and my
mother would probably rise up out of her grave and kick my
butt if I didn’t :>). Yes, hotels employ a cleaning staff
who “are paid” to clean up after me, but why should they?
It’s my mess. I was responsible for making it, so I am
responsible for cleaning it up – even if I don’t have to.

I have adopted my parents’ code and although I sometimes
fail, I continually strive to measure up to those standards.

But what does this look like in the “real world”? It means
you… 1. Return calls… even if it’s only to say “no”

2. Honor your commitments… if you tell someone you’re going
to do something, you do it. If you absolutely cannot, you
let them know beforehand.

3. When you’re asked to RSVP, you do so

4. Say “thank you” and “please”… to strangers, friends,
family members, waiters and waitresses, taxi drivers,
colleagues, children, teenagers… everyone.

5. Call when you’re going to be late

6. Return emails (unless it’s spam)

7. Welcome people into your home… do your best to make them
feel comfortable and important

8. Clean up after yourself

9. Value other people’s privacy

10. Honor your parents

11. Respect elders

12. Chew gum quietly

13. Say “excuse me” when you burp

14. Open doors for others

15. Allow someone with only two items to move ahead of you
in the grocery line

16. Respect other cultures, religions, ethnicities and the
like.

17. Don’t push in front of someone… even if you’re in a car

18. Share your things

19. Don’t act like a pig… even if it’s at an
All-You-Can-Eat buffet

20. Don’t brag

21. Never litter

Are these rules a thing of the past? Passé in today’s
fast-paced culture? Old fashioned? Silly? Or am I just
imagining things?

But if I’m not… why? Are we overloaded, overbooked and
over committed? Has it become too easy to make excuses?
Have we been forced into a “every-man-for-himself” mindset?
Did our parents and teachers fail us?

Or is it that we just don’t care because they’re not
important. What do you think?

----------------------------------------------------
Mary Eule specializes in helping small and medium-sized
businesses get and keep profitable customers. Formerly a
Fortune 500 marketing executive; founder of two successful
small businesses and award-winning speaker, Ms. Eule is
President of Strategic Marketing Advisors, LLC. and
co-author of a new book, "Mandatory Marketing: Small
Business Edition".
She has a BA in Journalism/English from the University of
Maryland and earned her a master’s degree in marketing from
Johns Hopkins University. Log onto her website:
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noreply@blogger.com (KDB Business Services) — Thu, 10 Nov 2005 21:33:00 +0000

Do you remember when you were little? All the times you found things you wanted. Christmas is the time when every child is bombarded with the advertising. You almost can't turn the t.v. on or else every fifteen minutes you will have a child running into the kitchen saying "Mommy!(or Daddy)can I have a new....." But they do know what they want, what appeals to their senses. My children are old enough now to get allowance and to save for what they really want. My daughter spends her money on the impulse of the moment. My son saves his money for weeks on end for the big master purchase he has been thinking about for months. But they know what they like and I allow them to get it as long it is not harmful or immoral.
The following article explains how the simple process of getting what you want can be acheived in the same way a child can get what he wants from his parents.
Read on, I thought it was a cute yet informative read.

How a 7-Year-Old Gets What He Wants... and How You Can Too!
Copyright 2005 Tony Mase

Kids are the absolute masters at getting what they want and
my 7-year-old son is no exception. Although he's never read
a word of Wallace D. Wattles' writings (he is however very
familiar with the basics of Wallace D. Wattles'
philosophy), over the last seven years he's reduced how to
get what he wants to a science.

Here's his "scientific" formula for getting what he wants:

1. He clearly recognizes the "source" of his supply.

In his case... Daddy! :-)

2. He's very clear and very definite about what he wants
"next".

It might be a toy or a video game; or to do something or go
somewhere. Whatever it is, he's very clear and definite
about it and, so as not to confuse his "source", he usually
focuses on one thing at a time, the one thing he wants
"next".

3. He clearly communicates his desire to his "source".

He makes absolutely sure his "source" clearly understands
what it is he wants, leaving no room for error whatsoever.

He does this by providing his "source" with a picture of
what he wants, either from a brochure or one he prints off
the Internet, or he takes his "source" to the store and
shows him exactly what he wants (and, in the process, shows
him exactly where to get it).

4. He goes about his business to the absolute best of his
ability with full *faith* that his "source" will provide
when the time is right.

After he's clearly communicated what he wants to his
"source", in his mind it's a "done deal"...

Keeping what he's asked for in mind and thinking about how
much he'll enjoy it when he receives it, he goes about his
business (that of being a "good kid", which he does
perfectly) *knowing* his "source" will "come through" with
what he wants when it's the right time for him to have it.

5. He's very *grateful* to his "source" for all he has and
all that's coming his way.

His "source", who very much enjoys being the recipient of
his gratitude, is as anxious to give him what he wants as
he is to get it. As a matter of fact, his "source" so
enjoys his gratitude that he goes out of his way to
"surprise" him with all sorts of good things he doesn't
even ask for.

There's really not much more to it than that. I can tell
you from personal experience, his "formula" works and it
works all the time.

Let's look his "formula" from a different perspective...

1. Does he set long-range, mid-range and short-range goals?

Nope. He just focuses on what he wants next. My gosh, he
doesn't even put it in writing!

2. Does he set goals in all areas of his life?

Nope. He just focuses on his most pressing need or want at
the moment.

3. Does he set deadlines?

Nope. He learned a long time ago (the hard way, but he did
learn it), it's not a good idea to impose his will upon his
"source".

4. Does he have action plans?

Nope.

5. Does he plan his time?

Nope.

6. Does he go out and try hard to "make it happen"?

Nope.

7. Does he read books, listen to audio programs and attend
seminars on how to get what he wants?

Nope.

8. Does he work on becoming the kind of person who is
capable of getting, or worthy of, what he wants?

Nope. He knows he's good enough the way he is. He knows his
"source" is a good and loving "source" who wants him to
have the things he wants as much as he wants to have them.

Now...

Does he get *everything* he wants?

Absolutely not!

His "source", being wise and all-knowing :-), knows there
are certain things he doesn't really want or if he gets
them he won't like them or be happy with them. In that
case, his "source" comes through with something even better.

Hmmm...

Does any of this sound familiar?

It should. :-)

His "scientific" formula is the very essence of what
Wallace D. Wattles teaches about getting what you want...

Simply substitute "Formless Substance", "Thinking Stuff" or
whatever you prefer to call the "Universal Power" for
"source", follow his simple formula and you'll be well on
your way to getting what *you* want.

----------------------------------------------------
Tony Mase is a serious student of the works of Wallace D.
Wattles and the publisher of "The Science of Abundant Life"
ebook by Wallace D. Wattles...
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noreply@blogger.com (KDB Business Services) — Thu, 10 Nov 2005 00:16:00 +0000

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When I was growing up I was very quiet and shy as a grade schooler. As I developed more skills, found new friends, and realized I had some great personality traits and skills, I started to open up and feel less self conscious.
Now the only time I am really shy is when I get into a crowd of people I don't know and have no idea of what types of people they are. But after a half an hour of mingling and listening to new conversations, I usually find my voice.
The following is an article that talks about shyness and some key steps to help you conquer your shyness so you can live every experience to the fullest.

7 Ways to Soothe your Shyness
Copyright 2005 Uncommon Knowledge Ltd

Shy people instinctively know that they are missing out.
Shyness equals lost opportunities, less pleasure and fewer
social connections. Shyness can be crippling but there are
tried and tested ways to make it a thing of the past.

When I was fifteen I was shy. I recall an attractive girl
attempting to engage me in conversation. My shyness made me
focus on me instead of her. I heard my own voice but not
hers and I thought about what I was trying to say instead
of what she was trying to say.

The formula for shyness is "too much focus on the self"
plus anxiety. To make it even more unpleasant, sometimes
when you are feeling shy you experience physical sensations
which ‘hijack’ your calm logical self.

My pulse raced, my mouth dried up and I felt like the
village idiot! I couldn’t think what to say so I said
nothing apart from making barely audible grunting noises!
Cary Grant eat your heart out! When I detected pity in her
eyes (or was it contempt, or boredom) I mumbled my excuse
and got out of there. I hated being shy and was determined
to change it.

How shyness is developed and maintained

Shyness really is a combination of social anxiety and
social conditioning. To overcome shyness you need to learn
to relax socially. This enables you to direct your
attention away from yourself and gives you the space to
practice certain conversational skills. In most cases, the
heightened emotions of socializing when young simply
condition the sufferer to respond to social events with
fear, instead of excitement and pleasure.

Relaxed socializing is so pleasurable, not to say
productive, but it is an advantage denied to many until
they learn to relax. To start reducing your own shyness, I
want you to absorb the following tips and ideas and start
to put them into practice:

1) Think about the way you feel and behave around familiar
people you are comfortable and spontaneous around. It’s
that feeling transferred to new people and situations that
equates to your emerging social confidence.

2) Focus your attention away from yourself. Sure, you can
think a little bit about how you are coming across, but if
all your focus is on your own words and feelings then you
might as well be by yourself. Notice what other people are
wearing and make a mental note, listen to their
conversation, imagine where they might live, make a point
of remembering names. Not only does this give you more to
talk about, it also ‘dilutes’ social anxiety leaving you
feeling calmer.

3) Ask people open questions. Many people like to talk
about themselves and will find you interesting if you find
them interesting. Ask questions that require more than a
‘yes’/’no’ response such as ‘What do you like about this
place?’ rather than: ‘Do you like this place?’ Once they’ve
answered use ‘add-on’ questions connected to the first such
as: ‘What other places do you like in this city…?’ Next you
can express your views. This is a great way to get the
conversation going. If the conversation doesn’t ‘take’ then
no matter, you’ve done your bit.

4) Stop trusting your imagination so much! Have you ever
had an imaginary picture in your mind of a holiday
destination only to arrive and find the reality is
different from the way you had imagined? That’s how
reliable imagination is. Stop imagining what others think.
I do lots of public speaking and I’ve long since stopped
trying to second guess what others think of me - it's just
too painful. Besides, what a person thinks about you has a
lot more to do with who they are than who you are.

5) Stop using ‘all or nothing’ thinking. The ‘completely
this/completely that’ style of thought occurs when you are
emotional. People who are depressed, angry or anxious see
reality in terms of differing extremes, simplistic all or
nothing terms. An angry person is ‘right’ and you are
‘wrong’; the depressed person feels like a ‘failure’ while
others are a ‘success’. In reality, life is composed of
infinite gray areas. So stop fearing that you might say the
‘wrong’ thing! Or that people will ‘hate’ you. Once you
start to relax more socially you’ll notice much less black
or white thinking because anxiety actually causes you to
think in all or nothing terms.

6) Take your time. You don’t have to blurt things out. Ask
questions and if questions are asked of you can take time
to consider your response (within reason). Don’t just blurt
out what you think might be the ‘right’ answer. A slow
answer is a relaxed answer.

7) Finally, use hypnotic rehearsal. Hypnosis is the
quickest way to change your instinctive/emotional response
to any situation. Only think about meeting others when your
mind and body is relaxed. This conditions you to associate
relaxation with being around new people. In fact you’ll
find that when you relax deeply enough often enough whilst
hypnotically rehearsing being comfortable around others
you’ll reach the point where you just can’t be shy any
more! This is what I call a ‘happy inability!’

I now love meeting new people and suspect that my current
social confidence would be unrecognizable to my fifteen
year old self.

----------------------------------------------------
Former 'shy guy' Mark Tyrrell is Creative Director of
Uncommon Knowledge Ltd and regularly demonstrates his lack
of shyness to audiences of hundreds. He teaches people how
to use hypnosis and sensible psychology to lower anxiety
and improve confidence. He has helped create a hypnosis
session so that others can overcome shyness as he did:
http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/downloads/self_improvement/overcoming_shyness.html

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noreply@blogger.com (KDB Business Services) — Tue, 08 Nov 2005 23:55:00 +0000

Today was a good day. I was feeling rather mad at myself for yesterday. I took the job working for the Sears call centre taking catalog orders, to better give me an edge so that I could provide the best service I can to my customers who will come to the online store I am presently working on setting up.
In the frame of mind I allowed myself to be in yesterday it made a real impact on my day. I felt like I was cutting myself short and not living up to the true potential I have. If I am going to make this work and learn from it to improve, it means I have to have the right mindset. Remember that any criticsm that comes my way is for my benefit and not to be hurtful. I often have a hard time with that due to my upbringing. Some of you may relate.
With my mind on the right track, and my motivation in full swing, I set out to do my very best at work today. I ended the day with $65 in commission(goal was $30 for the day) and I took 15 calls an hour which was the quota. I enjoyed every call and focused on the customer, building a solid foundation of customer support and satisfaction. Due to my attitude, mindset and a smile in my voice, I had a successful day. This truly is the key to maintaining a good, happy life. It is our choice.
I came across this article and although it is a little scientifically spoken, I think it explains what I am feeling.

You are What you Feel
Copyright 2005 Mary Desaulniers

When Wordsworth described the Romantic mind as an ”Orphean
lyre” played upon by the wind, he used an image that
struck a chord in the Romantic Imagination, an image that
unleashed a century of political, literary and social
rebellion.

Why did the image of the lyre speak so dramatically to the
people 300 years ago? Can we see in our current research on
emotions and the body concrete evidence that what was once
a poetic metaphor is an actual physiological truth?

By calling the mind a lyre played upon by the wind,
Wordsworth made a bold departure from Descartes whose
assertion,”I think, therefore I am” completely dismissed
the importance of the body in the psychological and
intellectual scheme of things. This Mind versus Body
dualism haunted Western Imagination until the Romantics
made an impassioned claim for the importance of breath,
inspiration and feelings in language and poetry. “Poetry is
the spontaneous overflow of powerful feelings,” wrote
Wordsworth. And in claiming a place for feelings,
Wordsworth made an equally bold claim for the disconnected,
the disenchanted and the disgruntled of his social
universe; those exiles who inhabit his poetic landscape are
reminders of what we have lost: connection with kin, the
land and God. And by reclaiming them, he not only restored
the importance of feelings, sound and movement to the
“body” of poetry, he also called for a more egalitarian and
compassionate “body politic” where everyone had a place in
the social network of connections.

Thanks to the work of Dr. Candace Pert (Molecules of
Emotion: The Science behind BodyMind 1997), we can see now
how Wordsworth’s metaphor is played out in our real and
actual bodies. Emotions and thoughts do not reside solely
in the head; as a matter of fact, the body functions like a
vast neural network of reactions to thoughts and feelings.
Think of the body as a huge limbic Web where messages are
transmitted and received back and forth in an unending
chain of interactions.

And the central sources of this transmission are
emotions—emotions that release specific neuropeptides that
are attached to specific receptive cells (receptors) all
over the body. The emotional circuitry of the brain is
connected to every organ of the body, says Mona Lisa Schulz
M.D. Ph.D in The New Feminine Brain 2005. This means that
our emotions create definite and specific changes to the
cells of the body. The circuitry works in an interactive
manner: chronic moodiness can trigger chemical imbalances
that cause depression which in turn increases the body’s
chances of developing illness and pain. And illness or pain
can also influence the dynamics of the cells to produce
deeper and more intense depression. Physical symptoms can
have their first cause in the emotional dynamics of the
body.

Current research in cell biology suggests that each cell
has the ability to change its constitution and program
according to its response to the external environment. Like
a lyre that is played upon by the wind, our cells are
altered by the waves of feelings and emotions that move
through our bodies, influencing our perceptions and
experiences of the world.

Such a fluid and porous connection between mind and body
suggests that the material nature of our body ( and indeed
of the world) can be seriously questioned. To what extent
are our bodies solid? To what extent can our own
receptivity alter our experiences of the world? To what
extent can we, by switching our perception and feelings,
change the course of events in our lives? To what extent
would this Brave New World of ours be a matter of
survival—survival of the most malleable and most porous?

Perhaps a look at some of the documented physiological
reactions to negative emotions can persuade us of the
direction we need to take with our thoughts and feelings.

Negative emotions like fear, anger, sadness can bring about
Fatigue, Apathy, Shortness of breath, Insomnia,
Depression,Dysfunction of the immune system, Increased
susceptibility to infections, Autoimmune disorders, Cancer.

Positive emotions like love and joy can bring about
Increased body temperature, Feeling of strength in the body
or Empowerment, Enhanced immune system, Change in appetite,
Improved attention, learning and memory, Increased sense of
well-being.

Anger, sadness, fear, hatred all release neuropeptides that
disrupt the release of natural opiates like endorphins and
serotonin in the body. These natural opiates increase our
feelings of well-being. It is clear that the choice is
ours: the choice not only to think positively but to choose
actions that elicit positive responses in our cells. Our
bodies are as fluid as Wordsworth’s lyre and it is
incumbent upon us to move in the most effective direction
the biochemical make-up of our cells by consciously
selecting our emotional reactions to events.

If we are what we eat and what we do, we are even more
intensely what we think and what we feel.

----------------------------------------------------
A runner for 27 years, retired schoolteacher and writer,
Mary is now doing what she has always done--being engaged
in what she loves--running, weight training,writing,helping
people reclaim their bodies by seeing that weight is just
matter that needs to be processed. Nutrition, exercise,
positive vision and purposeful engagement are the tools
used to turn this matter into creative selves.
You can subscribe to her free newsletter by contacting
news@GreatBodyat50.com
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noreply@blogger.com (KDB Business Services) — Mon, 07 Nov 2005 23:50:00 +0000

I was in one of those moods today where you really can't bring yourself to do anything. I dragged my butt out of bed and into the shower barely with a moment to spare.(good thing I learned how to have a shower in 3 mins)I was barely speaking audibly on the phone at work today, and didn't promote one extra sale(supposed to make at least $30 extra a day)I came home and turned on the tube. Cat's dish empty, dishes in the sink, and meat for dinner still in the freezer.
I decided I would settle down to work on my blog sites. I became even more unenthused when I realized that hardly anyone had visited me the night before. But knowing that 90% of online businesses fail due to lack of motivation and perserverance I knew I would hold on and conduct business as usual regardless, which meant creating that new sales letter pitch for my product list.
I have been a procrastinator my entire life. I have embarked on new idea after new idea as they were presented to me, with the same end result.
I started to think about my ex husband and all the products he had designed yet never patented. Years later he would see them in stores making alot of money with someone else name attached. We need to find our motivation any way we can and stick to it. It starts by just doing it! If we procrastinate we can't tap into the positive energies that create our motivation and drive to bring us to a complete succession in our lives.
The following article helps share some key points to getting focused so we can maintain our motivation and enthusiasm to reach our goals.

5 Tips To Increase Your Personal Power
Copyright 2005 Christopher Green

Have you ever started a new project full to the brim with
enthusiasm only to have your enthusiasm and motivation wane
as the months go by? When we’re pursuing something of worth
in our lives, enthusiasm and motivation are two very
important factors. They act as driving forces for us and
keep us on course to achieve our goals. So how can we
maintain high levels of both? Try these ideas:

1. The most important one: Have at least one person in your
life who is like-minded. This means someone who wants to be
the best they can be, who has dreams and goals and takes
action to make them a reality. I know such people can be
hard to find! They don’t have to be following the same
course in life as you. My best friend is studying to become
a pilot and I enjoy computers and writing, yet because we
love what we do, we help each other stay focused and
motivated. But where can you find similar people? Try clubs
and associations connected with your interests, the
workplace, and of course, the Internet. Pick any subject
and I guarantee you will find groups and forums for it
online. Be proactive – seek out positive people. What they
bring into your life – and you theirs – is priceless.

2. Watch inspirational movies. This is going to be down to
personal taste, obviously, but here’s a selection of films
that inspire me: The Star Wars films, Rocky I & II (the
rest are no where near as good!), Shawshank Redemption,
Twelve Angry Men, Guess Who’s Coming To Dinner, The Count
Of Monte Cristo – There’s many more but these are my
favourites and never fail to give me a boost. You could
also add to this videos and DVDs of your favorite sporting
moments – in fact anything that inspires you. Build your
collection and watch them when you feel enthusiasm levels
dropping.

3. Related to the first tip: read biographies about people
you admire. Again, personal taste will dictate who you read
about but here’s some people I admire greatly: Martin
Luther King, Lance Armstrong, Helen Keller, Sir Winston
Churchill, Lord Horatio Nelson, Franklin D and Eleanor
Roosevelt, Muhammad Ali to name but a few. The beauty about
this is that you read about people who achieved so much
with their lives. You are learning about people who “walk
the talk” rather than listening to people who haven’t done
anything and may well be negative about life. If you want
to achieve your dreams it is absolutely vital to stay
positive. Reading about people you admire will do for your
positive attitude what pizzas do for your waistline, i.e
expand it!

4. Have a picture board and fill it with pictures of your
goals: Type of house, views of the area where you want to
live, car or boat or bike you want, jewelry, clothes –
whatever it is you want! This is to give you a visual
reminder everyday about the goals you are pursuing and
reminds you that what you are working towards is something
very worthwhile. It boosts enthusiasm and keeps you focused
and on track.

5. Read quotations everyday. I’m a big believer in the use
of quotations to inspire and I’m always on the lookout for
new ones to add to my list of favourites. My list is 6
pages long and growing! Here’s a couple of good websites to
checkout:

www.quotationspage.com & www.motivatingquotes.com

And to practice what I preach and to close this article
nicely, here is the lastest quote I’ve added to my list and
the one that inspired me to write this article:

“If you aren’t fired with enthusiasm, you will be fired
with enthusiasm.”
– Vince Lombardi

And there you have 5 tips to help you maintain your
enthusiasm and motivation. Put all 5 to use and you will
stay positive and on course to achieve your goals!

Until next time.

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noreply@blogger.com (KDB Business Services) — Sun, 06 Nov 2005 23:44:00 +0000

We have been discussing life and what importance we place on certain things in our lives. We know we have to reduce our stress in any way we can, we have to eat properly, we have to remember how to be happy, we have to keep our eyes on the prize if we want to live a a more successful life, and we have to learn to appreciate our families and loved ones.
We cannot allow ourselves to be sidetracked with the unimportant or we will have no time or energy for what should be our top priorities. Do you want to become an old person with too many regrets? I don't.
The following article came across my desk and I thought it was rather humourous with yet a solid message attached to it.

What Can Taking A Crap Teach Us About Life?
Copyright 2005 Rasheed Ali

This story was told to me as a joke but, the power of its
meaning is something many of us have taken for granted as
we go through life from one problem to another and never
being satisfied.

Many years ago a young man who had moved to the Big City to
pursue his goals of becoming wealthy, decided that it was
time to visit his aging father in his home town. It had
been five years since he last saw him, so this was a very
important trip. Not only that but he was on the verge of
something Great and he wanted to tell his father in person.

Luckily a friend was passing through his home town and he
sent the message of his trip to his father. You see, his
father was too poor for a phone and couldn't read. So, it
was very difficult for him to contact his father. The young
man was just getting started so purchasing a train ticket
was a HUGE deal, financially for him at this time. He did
purchase the ticket however and headed on the long voyage
home.

As he sat in his cabin on the train, he became pretty
friendly with the other people he was sharing the space
with on the trip. He told them of his voyage to see his
father and how he hadn’t seen him in five years since he
left for the city.

They were expressing their joy and best wishes for his
trip, when all of a sudden the conductor announced that
they would only pause for a few seconds at the young man’s
stop, not letting anyone off and proceed on to the next
stop since the train was behind schedule and some very
important people had to get off there.

The young man’s heart sank into his stomach because he
realized that he could only afford to go straight back to
the city and he wouldn’t get to stay with his father. He
sat and thought very carefully, with the focus of a surgeon
about what to do.

Suddenly he sat up with a glowing smile on his face as
though the world had been lifted from his shoulders.

When the train arrived at the station, the young man stuck
his head out of the window and screamed to his father to
come closer.

He then said to his father, “Father the train is not going
to stop, but I need to know; Have you been taking a crap?”

His father looked up at him with a smile of content and
said, “Yes son, yes I have.”

The train then took off and he sat down with a look of
relief and feeling pretty good about the situation. The
people on the train were sitting, still shocked by his
question. They asked, “Why, why would you ask such a
question after you haven’t seen your father in FIVE years?

The young man smiled and said, “Well, if he’s been taking a
crap then he’s had food and if, he’s had food, he has money
to buy that food, then everything is okay for now. Maybe
not perfect, but okay for now!”

They smiled and nodded, since they finally understood.

Although money for food is something most of us take for
granted, remember it and appreciate it for what it is.

Too often we are distracted by the things that make us
unhappy and problems or obstacles we have, that we never
celebrate the small things in life. Cumulatively such small
treasures, gives us immense power and success if only we
recognize them for what they are.

Think about the things that you haven’t celebrated and what
they mean to you. Write them down in a journal. It doesn’t
matter what it is. Whether you saved $1 more, gave $1 more
or learned something new.

How do those things make you feel?

Remember that feeling every time things get rough. There’s
power in it!

----------------------------------------------------
** Rasheed Ali was once homeless and penniless on the
streets of New York and is now helping to change the lives
and businesses of THOUSANDS of people around the world with
his innovative coaching, mentoring and newsletters. He is
the worlds first Solution Coach and 80/20 Principle Expert.
You can learn more about him and his newsletters at
http://www.SleepYourWayToRiches.com
key and http://www.RasheedAli.com

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noreply@blogger.com (KDB Business Services) — Sun, 06 Nov 2005 01:14:00 +0000

Any hockey fans out there? I love the Leafs(so shoot me, I am Canadian)and the Red Wings( I bet you thought I was going to say another Canadian team, eh?)
I am watching the game right now between Toronto and Tampa Bay. It is the second period. The Leafs went into this period up two goals. Within the first three minutes of play the Lightning struck. I have thought up a theory. It must be easier to shoot into that net. Whenever the Leafs start out on the good side they always lose their momentum(and lead) while they are on the other side of the rink during the second period. Then for the third period when they are back to the right side they get back their mojo. Now I know I don't sound like a pro and I admit I am not. I don't study stats, I don't watch the sports channel, I don't read the sports articles, but what I do see is what seems to be a pattern. It could apply to the other teams as well but since I only watch the Leafs and Wings I couldn't say.
My ex boyfriend thinks I am being silly and sound like a typical female who knows nothing of sports(yeah, he studies the stats, watches the news, and even discusses the teams/game with anyone who will listen). Yet why is it that when we go to bet the games I am the one who usually comes out the winner? I have my own system and I like who I like and I know how they play.
Like take this for example. Sundin just came back from a week of no play. How many games were lost while he was gone(more than should have been!). He came back tonight and has gotten 3 points and the game is not even over yet. The team is organized, coordinated with each other, and have a zest that seems to have been missing in the last few games. Could one player really have so much effect on a whole team? Apparently so(guess that's why he is the highest paid player?). I enjoy the consistent players. Tucker is one of my favs. He loves to play. He is known for even playing when he shouldn't(broken ribs,etc.). But he is always reliable. He may not be a big ticket scorer but he does his share, is there for assists, and is tough enough for a little guy. And since his brother in law is no longer on the same team he seems to stay out of the penalty box a little more.
I am just so glad that hockey is back. Last winter was a long haul up here in the north with no hockey to keep us going. Winter just isn't the same without hockey.
Wouldn't you agree?

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noreply@blogger.com (KDB Business Services) — Fri, 04 Nov 2005 21:24:00 +0000

One of my favorite comedy sitcoms I love to watch these days is called "Everybody Loves Raymond". This show strikes a cord with me due to the fact I can relate. Raymond is always getting himself in hot water. He has a wife who stays home and looks after the house and kids. He is still stuck in the old ways of thinking he is the king of his castle and his wife is just there to serve him. But true to form and the attitude of the women of 2005, his wife Debra always knows how to put him in his place. Another show I love like this one, is Home Improvement. Same kind of idea with the man as the main bread winner who is also a male chauvinist and is always stepping out of line and having to be knocked back down to reality by the ever patient wife.
The one thing I enjoy about these shows are the realism as well as the comedy. All these people live fulfilling lives with meaning, loving families, and lots of friends and interests.
Can you say the same thing? Do you know who you are? Do you know where you're going? It may seem like a stupid concept since you are no longer a teenager, but it isn't. We all need to stay focused and remain true to who we are. We need to fill our lives with activities and people who keep us in a positive frame of mind and attitude. We can't always have control over outside events in our life but it doesn't mean we can't control the way we intrepret it.
The following article will help you to centre in on your true purpose so you can complete your mission in life successfully.

Discovering Your Life Purpose - An Overview
Copyright 2005 So-lu'shunz Management Services

When you look in the mirror, do you see a purposeful,
productive, satisfied human being looking back at you, or
do you see someone who’s caught in the grind, moving on
autopilot, and not having much fun in the process?

How long has it been since you opened your eyes in the
morning with a sense of anticipation, yes and even
excitement? If you haven’t felt that sense of wonder and
expectancy since you were a child, you’re not alone, read
on!

If this sounds familiar, you’re probably also wondering why
you’re here, whether there is a purpose or if you’re an
accident? Is there something you should be doing with your
life that you’re missing? How will you know? And how in
heaven’s name should you go about it?

Life with a plan is the answer. You’re may be thinking,
“Oh, no, not that, not another plan!” Ah, but this is a
grand plan, one you can truly live by, a freeing plan, not
another system to be bound to. This plan works for you not
on you!

Today we’re introducing the concepts of PURPOSE, MISSION,
VISIONS & GOALS. These terms are often confused and
mistakenly used interchangeably, when in reality they’re
very different, though definitely linked. An understanding
of their meanings and the part they play in moving us
forward is vital to getting us back to that place of
excitement and anticipation we knew as children.

PURPOSE & MISSION

These two terms are often used interchangeably, but what
appears to be a subtle difference is significant to your
success. The simple difference is that purpose is what
you’re made for and mission is what you’re meant to do
about it.

Each of us has a purpose, a reason we were created.
Discovering what that is unlocks our greatest potential and
catapults us forward into our destiny.

Mission, from the Latin mittere to send, is the beginning
of the adventure. Once we know our purpose for existing in
the first place, we can begin the process of discerning our
destiny, what we’re meant to do about it.

No one is here without purpose and each of us has a mission
we are meant to live out. Everyone has sensed at some time
that they were meant to be or do something bigger than
themselves, a reason for living beyond just getting by. No
one is a mistake. Whether you know it or are even able to
grasp it, you’re here right now, at this particular point
in history, for a reason.

No one on earth, from one end of time to another can fill
your spot exactly the way you can. You are unique. Even
the marks of your fingertips are unlike any that ever were
or ever will be again; you’re “fearfully and wonderfully
made” according to the Book of Psalms. If your very
fingerprints bespeak such uniqueness, how much more your
purpose for existing!

Once you are certain of your purpose, discovering your
mission is an adventure in itself, a journey into the realm
of your gifts and talents, a look at what excites you and
where your passions lie. It’s uncovering and examining
those markers that have been there all along pointing the
way to the answer to the major questions of your life.

VISIONS

Webster defines vision as the act or power of imagination;
mode of seeing or conceiving. It is engaging the mind in
conceptualizing. And it’s a great activity for the porch
swing, walking through the forest preserves, or floating in
a boat, loosely attached to a fishing pole.

Visions are the pictures of what you will do about your
discovered mission, your reason for being here. If mission
is the hub of the wheel, then visions are the spokes.
Visions are a lot like oil paintings, colorful, detailed,
diverse and they come in all sizes and styles.

They all have in common that they begin as a dream in the
mind of an artist and they only appear on canvas when they
have become life size on the inside of the visionary and
they simply must manifest! When the vision is so real on
the inside that you find you can almost operate from within
it, it’s time to make a path for it into the physical world
(see the author’s article, Birthing Your Dream).

GOALS

It’s at this point that goals come into the plan.
According to Webster, one of the synonyms for goal is
design, which implies a carefully calculated plan. Goals
are where the rubber meets the road.

You may be thinking “oh no, not more goals. I get goals at
work, goals at home, on the school board, from the Chamber
of Commerce… No more goals!” But this is where the artist
begins preparation to bring the dream to life on canvas;
building the frame, stretching the canvas, applying the
gesso, choosing and mixing the paints, drawing preliminary
sketches. Each step in the process is necessary; each step
pointedly bringing him closer to the realization, in living
color, of what until now has been alive and vibrant only in
his mind’s eye.

It’s at this point that she begins the visible work. The
rest has been an inner exercise, a function of the mind and
heart. Designing goals involves doing the research,
getting out the slide rule, making the Gantt chart, doing
the sketches, calculating the cost. But by this time the
vision is so real and the visionary is so ready to burst
with it, that the goals are no chore, but a welcome means
by which to deliver the dream.

It’s only when we confuse the process, mixing up the terms,
trying to do them out of order that life becomes a chore.
Discover your purpose and your mission, begin to create
your visions and design well-crafted goals to support them
and bring them to pass and before long you’ll be the
enthusiastic kid in the mirror again, eager to get out and
make a giant splash in the world!

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Karin Syren is a certified coach specializing in the
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all levels to increase their personal and professional
effectiveness by guiding them through the process of
learning to do less and be more. Gain, regain and maintain
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noreply@blogger.com (KDB Business Services) — Fri, 04 Nov 2005 02:40:00 +0000

The holiday season is fastly approaching. All the stores a bustle of Christmas activity preparations. We are digging into our attics and walk in closets, for all our seasonal decorations to make our homes look like the pages on the catalogs we devour. Madly scouring for the perfect gift for people who have everything already.
Sounds like a fun time, no? Where did we lose the true meaning of Christmas and trade it for commercialism and status?
Back in the good old days, children gathered around a fire, huddling under blankets together, anxiously awaiting grandpa's energetic,animated story of Santa and his reindeer. Mother, and the oldest girls in the kitchen talking excitedly about their eventful lives while they all share in the preparations of the bounty of food laid before them. No mention of money or thoughts of expensive gifts bestowed upon them.
Food, family, festivities, and pure enjoyment for the opportunity to be one with those who share their love.
The following article discusses how we can learn to enjoy the abundance within our lives and find riches where we have never thought we could.

Creating Money Out of Thin Air
Copyright 2005 Wayne McDonald

As my friend Ida says, "Money is Easy." Creating more
income or abundance in our lives is that simple, but most
of us try to make it harder or more complicated than it is.

The hardest thing about our relationship with money is
giving up our idea of what that income is or where it will
come from. We must focus on what it CAN BE. For example,
most people would argue that they are on a fixed income and
there is only so much money they receive each month. Others
say their monthly paycheck is XYZ dollars and they don’t
want to get a second job.

In the first example above, the person has defined the
boundaries of their income and they do not allow the space
for other income to flow. In the second example the person
has defined a limited channel of how and where the money is
to appear. To create more money out of thin air we must be
willing to let go of our limited thinking, remove the
boundaries around our abundance and stop outlining how it
is to appear in our life.

You’ll notice that I am interchanging the word money,
income and abundance. The first step of creating money is
recognizing that money is abundance. I know you can create
more abundance in your life. Sometimes that abundance
appears as money that you can spend. Sometimes abundance is
someone taking you to lunch or getting an unexpected rebate
or discount on a purchase you made.

The following rules will help you expand your thinking and
break down any boundaries that you have about money or
abundance.

RULE#1

Money is energy. It follows the Laws of Nature and like the
tides of the ocean it has a natural rhythm of flowing in
and out. When we allow money to flow to us and not restrict
or define how it is to come to us then we become the
masters of abundance. We restrict the flow of abundance
when we do not allow someone to take us out to lunch… "Oh
no, you shouldn’t pay for lunch." We restrict the flow of
abundance when we don’t pick-up the penny that we find on
the street. You ask the Universe for more abundance and it
is given to you at your feet but it is beneath you to
pick-up change that you find lying on the ground. [Note:
When I started to pick-up money on the street the
denomination and amount increased!] Or we restrict the flow
of abundance with limited thinking. Every time you say I
only earn XYZ dollars you are defining a boundary and
limiting more abundance to flow.

RULE#2

Money is impersonal. Money is not good or evil. It has no
values or beliefs except what we put on it. Money does NOT
care who you are or what your background is or what your
past family history was. This follows Rule#1 because money
is energy and only that. It can be used for any purpose
that we want. Money can be used to help people and it can
be used to harm people. But how we use it or what we think
about money does not change the nature of money, which is
energy.

RULE#3

Money is unlimited. When we understand Rules One and Two,
then money or abundance can freely flow to us as much as we
will allow it. For example, in this past year there have
been several natural disasters where thousands of people
have lost their homes and needed help to rebuild their
lives. People rallied together to help those displaced and
said we need XYZ dollars. Within hours, millions of dollars
poured in from all sources. Imagine and KNOW that you too
can do the same. Create the need, open the energy and let
the Universe provide all the good into your life.

OPENING THE FLOW

I know you can create more abundance in your life because
your Being is Energy and Money is Energy. The first step is
developing a relationship with money. Each night before you
go to bed write in your journal at least ten things that
you are grateful for. Recognize, write and give thanks for
all the monies that you have. Give thanks for that person
that took you out to lunch. Give thanks for Spirit, God or
Universe for the money that you found on the street. Give
thanks for that person that smiled at you on the bus. This
simple exercise takes only ten or fifteen minutes to do.
Give yourself permission to try this and see what opens and
flows into your life. If you forget to write in your
journal for a couple of days or week, take notice how the
flow may have slowed up or stopped. Pick-up the pen and
start writing again in your journal and develop a habit.

YOUR JOURNAL

As you develop this new fun habit you can begin creating
new sources of income to appear. TRUST ME THIS WORKS. I
found $640 in cash on the street last year! You can create
what you want to appear in the future, but always write in
the present tense. Remember NOT to create boundaries and
remember NOT to define the outcome.

Here are examples of phrases you can write in your journal
even BEFORE they appear:

I give thanks for all the unlimited income that flows in my
life.
I give thanks for my new job that is financially rewarding
and is a short drive from home.
I give thanks for all the monies I have.
I give thanks for the overflowing financial abundance in my
life.
I am grateful to receive abundance and all the good in my
life.
I am grateful for my all paid vacation to Hawaii.
I give thanks for the opportunity to be open to receive all
the good in my life.
I am grateful for my health.
I am grateful for my wonderful body that functions healthy
and perfectly.
I am healthy whole and complete
I am grateful for right and perfect health.
I am grateful for all the relationships in my life.

Creating more income or abundance in our life is easy. Let
go of boundaries and limiting thoughts and allow all the
good to flow into your life. Soon you will be telling
others how to create money out of thin air. Namaste

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Wayne McDonald is a licensed Life Practitioner and a Public
Speaker. Are you ready to make a shift in your
Relationships, Finances, Business, Health, Life purpose and
Happiness, Love and Joy? To learn more visit
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noreply@blogger.com (KDB Business Services) — Wed, 02 Nov 2005 20:50:00 +0000

Information overload! Too many things to do in a 16 hour time frame! Who honestly gets 8 hours of sleep on a consistent basis? Right now I am working a full time job, setting up a full time online business(including making my website from scratch, researching marketing strategies and implenting everything I learn), trying to keep a neat and tidy home, cook, prepare lunches, arrange schedules for everyone in the family, look after 3 cats(2 of which need to be fixed and declawed), working on my next children's story and trying to get all the illustrations together(once again formatting myself).
I have discussed the matter of stress, burn out and anxiety in our lives and have been trying to find the best remedies to help us find some relief to all the "madness". The following article lets you in on another tip you can try to see if this is the right solution for you. Live long, be strong, and find the balance in your busy life!

2 Super Techniques that will Improve Your Life
Copyright 2005 Lambert Klein

How would you like to learn two simple techniques that can
vastly improve your life?

If I told you that it is possible to significantly relieve
yourself of anxiety, worry and stress as well as bad habits
in a very short time, would you take the time to learn
these two simple procedures?

You may be more interested if I told you it had help me
personally and I have witnessed the proof. I was taking 5
blood pressure pills daily. Anxiety and stress were an
everyday battle. There seemed to be no hope.

Well now I take only one BP pill daily. I am feeling so
much better both physically, mentally and emotionally. I
have been utilizing these two tools about 7 months now.

The first technique that I studied after doing much
research is called Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). All
the relevant information you need to understand EFT is
free. There are some improvement eBooks that you can
purchase if you desire but this is not required.

So what is EFT?

EFT is a psychological version of acupuncture that is so
simple to do that you can learn to do it in less than 30
minutes. Emotional Freedom Technique is not painful at all.
There are no needles incorporated. You basically tap with
your fingers on key meridian points while saying some
simple phrases.

EFT is based on traditional Chinese medicine's energy
system, the same system which acupuncture is based. When
you tap on the meridian points you are unblocking energy
fields throughout your body. These barriers could have been
causing health issues for some time.

The powerful effectiveness of EFT depends on the problem
involved and the number of difficulties you are dealing
with. The more complex issues may eventually need repeated
sessions. Believe me it is well worth the minor amount of
time for a constant relief of these significant problems.

Here are some examples of how you can benefit from EFT.

· Anxiety · Stress · Bad habits · Fears · Physical pain ·
Cravings · Depression · Anger · High blood pressure · Panic
attacks

You can include just about anything else to this list. EFT
is so simple to utilize yet can return tremendous results.

The second procedure is called Z-Point.

Z-point is also a very simple process which in addition can
give great results.

With Z-point you merely say phrases out loud or to
yourself. Z-point will help you release negative emotions
and make improvements to you with positive affirmations.

Like EFT with Z-point you can start off simple and add to
the process as you learn. In fact Z-point one-page
instruction sheet will adequately guide you though the one
time installation process and shows you the daily phrases
to read each day.

You will clear all the negative ways, patterns and emotions
that have piled up throughout the years. I'm convinced that
you will see results if you continue to utilize these tools.

So don't put it off. Start today! Put these two fantastic
tools to work for you right now. Just think you won't have
to invest anything to learn how to improve yourself except
a little time.

----------------------------------------------------
Lambert Klein is the owner of Think Healthy supplements and
products.
You can find out more about EFT and Z-point here.
http://www.coral-cure.com

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noreply@blogger.com (KDB Business Services) — Mon, 31 Oct 2005 23:26:00 +0000

It's 6am. Your alarm has just gone off and it is time to get up for work. Do you instantly wake up ready for your day, or do you groan and moan, feel sick to your stomach, and curse all the way to the bathroom? Another 4 hour sleep night? Piles of incomplete work waiting for you on your desk at work? The thought of a hundred emails to be answered sending sharp pangs of pressure behind your eyelids?
When was the last time you had a vacation?
How many people do you know that end up in jobs not even related to the field in which they trained for? They work their fingers to the bone, bills to be paid, children to feed, no time to think about the fact that their dreams have long since been abondoned. Career burnout is becoming a wide spread epidemic in the 21st century. It is the killer that no one has time to prepare for until they are knocked off their feet and immobilized. Don't let you or one of your loved ones become a statistic. Stop the insanity before it has a chance to take a hold of you and bring you down.
The following article provides some useful tips on how to help you prepare yourself so you can avoid the pain and anguish of a career burnout that could cause irreversable damage to your health,wealth,and family.

3 Keys to Managing Career Burnout
Copyright 2005 Ann Ronan

I recently gave a presentation on this topic at an Annual
Conference of Human Resource Professionals. The room was
full! So I thought the information might be timely for
some of you.

What is burnout? What are the symptoms and causes? And if
you're experiencing it, what can you do?

The dictionary states that burnout is "exhaustion of
physical or emotional strength or motivation usually as a
result of prolonged stress or frustration." I put usually
in italics because even when you love your work like I do,
you can overdo and find yourself burned out.

Symptoms of burn out can be physical, behavioral and
spiritual. Here are some signs that you're heading for burn
out:

• fatigue
• muscle tension
• headaches
• insomnia
• not keeping commitments
• lack of effectiveness
• irritability
• anxiety
• sense of emptiness-nothing left to give
• lack of joy
• not able to laugh

Causes of burnout can come from within ourselves or from
our organizations. Some common causes are high expectations
of ourselves, denial of our basic needs like food and
sleep, poor time management skills, inability to set
boundaries or to say no.

Organizational causes can be a culture of competitiveness,
or one in which being constantly busy and overworked is
prized with email and phone calls taken along on
"vacations." Insufficient training in new job roles or
cramped, noisy environments can also contribute to burnout.

Here are 3 ways to manage burnout: change the stressful
situation, reduce your vulnerability to stress and/or
change the way you react to stress that cannot be changed:

1. Change the stressful situation if you can. If there are
some high stress aspects of your job, see if you can rotate
this task with others. Limit the number of hours you are
under stress. Spend some time on career/life planning. Set
your priorities and live by them.

2. You can reduce your vulnerability to stress by taking
care of your physical self with good nutrition, exercise
and enough sleep. Avoid nicotine and don't overdo caffeine
and alcohol. Surround yourself with supportive people, work
with a coach who will listen to you deeply and help you to
create a good balance of work and other aspects of your
life.

3. Finally, change the way you react to stress. You can do
this by modifying your self-talk and self-criticism.
Learn techniques to calm yourself - a few deep breaths can
bring you right back to a centered place, able to face
whatever stress is in front of you. Become a self-care
expert and have some fun.

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Join Ann for a weekly study group by telephone that will
“Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life. Register here:
http://www.authenticlifeinstitute.com
Ann helps others to acknowledge what they love to do and to
do more of it. As a Religious Science Practitioner, she
provides spiritual coaching to help others disarm their
worries, doubts and fears.

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