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BATTLE OF THE SEXES [Night Of The Living “Him” Part III]

noreply@blogger.com (Kellsmania) — Wed, 27 Jul 2011 04:51:00 +0000

BATTLE OF THE SEXES [Night Of The Living “Him” Part III]

"...we don't ever go out...I mean yea sometime we go out but damn what u call it and her boo go out ALL the time..."
-Anonymous Women Fooled By The "HIM" Revolution

The idea of faking a boo to make others jealous or to create the illusion that you're out on the town doing something when your actually home doing nothing seemed like a good idea right? The pioneer of the "HIM" movement set out with ~~good intentions~~ of letting others know she has somebody who does whatever, whenever and however she wants. "HIM" is on call at all times, he always has money, never works and strangely he's never tired. On the surface the idea and creation of "HIM" seemed harmless but what most women don't know is, "HIM" has set the bar to unmatchable expectations, he has made it impossible to be a good boyfriend to women who stupidly believe in this urban myth of “HIM.”

Women in real relationships are strangely jealous of her friend and "HIM," never mind the logic reasoning of why their homegirl is using "HIM," all she cares about is the two of them always being out. Men feel the pressure; how can you compete with a ‘make-believe’ person? The pretend existence of "HIM" puts a strain on real couples. You're tired? You have to work tomorrow? You have to help your grandmother do what!? She doesn't care, she does not want to hear it and she’s not impressed. Why? Because her friend’s "HIM" is always on deck, he always puts her first and if he can make time to do everything so should you! Right?

In general what most women will never understand is people put out what they want others to know. The secret competitive world of females is a constant battle to see whose love life is more exciting. “HIM” can and will always outdo a real life boo because “HIM” is rich yet never works, he has no real life responsibilities and he does everything right, every time, all the time. Men in real relationships are put under the microscope for not being as good as “HIM.”

The problem with "HIM" is once created he has to keep up appearances in the creators life. Some men believe women use the word "HIM" rather than a name, because “HIM” can be substituted with any dudes name. Women who use "HIM" may be perceived as being a hoe by most men, the assumption is that the names change so much she creates "HIM" to avoid the ~~hoe~~ title. So are you REALLY sure you want to be laying in bed with "HIM”?

Between fairy tale competition and fighting a battle impossible to win against “HIM,” the nonsense has to stop. If you’re lonely and/or delusional do it on your own time. “HIM” has served its purpose, many people are now on to what “HIM” stands for, so drinks with “HIM” is no longer impressive, it’s actually hurting another relationship. So if you use the word "HIM" you have a problem and you're a home-wrecker. Beware.

Night Of The Living “Him” Part IV: The DEATH Of "HIM" The Conclusion Coming Soon.

By K.E.L.L.s

10 Warning Signs That You'll Be Lonely Forever. BEWARE.

noreply@blogger.com (Kellsmania) — Fri, 08 Jul 2011 18:01:00 +0000

~~10 Warning Signs That You'll Be Lonely Forever. BEWARE.~~

Being Lonely Has NOTHING To Do With Being Alone Or Being Single. Being Lonely Is A State Of Mind. Being In A Relationship Will Never Fulfill, You Have To Be Happy With Yourself BEfore You Can Be Happy Doing Anything Else. Females Usually Commit Lonely Suicide & Have Plenty Warning Signs That A lonely Life Awaits Them...Here Are 10 Signs Not In Any Order, If You Find Yourself Doing More Than One Of These Things Check Yaself & Rethink What You're Doing.

1. Beware Of Celebrity Crushes

Ladies Often Tweet, Joke, Etc. Regarding The Subject Matter Of Their Celebrity "Boo." Unknowingly To Many Females (& Vice Versa) Men (& Most Women) Do Not Care To Hear This. Celebs Are "Regular" People, Being On TV Is The Difference From Them Not Being “~~Normal~~.”

Be Careful, When You Promote Your Love For A Celeb To Some Men What Your Basically Saying Is "I'm With You Cuz I Can't Have Him." Yes Really.

Many Women Will Say, "Oh Please That Ain’t True" But Ask Yaself This, If It Ain't True Why Say It? Suppose Your Walking Down The Block With Your Real Life Boo & Your Celeb Boo Walks Up, Says Come With Me? Will You Go? Most Probably Will, Some Won’t, But Actually How Is Your Real Boo Supposed To Feel? You’re Telling Him Your Attracted To Another Male & He Shouldn’t Feel A Way? Why? Because That Man Is On “TV”?

2. "...Oh I Don't Do That"

Women Often Are Single NOT By Choice, Like Most Proclaim, But By Force. Having A Longer List Of Things They Won't Do Rather Than What They'll Try Many Have Already Given Themselves The Long Kiss Of Loneliness. Men Are Not Mind Readers & Our Assumptions Are Mostly Always Wrong. Rather Than Leaving Us In The Dark By Not Speaking Up Throw Us A Bone & Not A Hint.

Women Have All This “I Do's & I Dont's” Not Realizing That This Is What's Making Them Miserable. Men Have A Short Attention Span For What We Consider Unnecessary & Would Rather Be Alone, Lonely & Miserable Than Deal With What You Won't Do.

3. You Do NOT Think Like A Man

The First Step To Realizing A Problem Is Admitting You Have One. Ladies Cannot & Will Not Ever Be Able To Think Like A Man. Women Are Emotional, Men Are Logically (Most Times) & Trying To Think Logically With An Emotional Thought Process Will Forever Leave You Baffled. Rather Than Try To Think Like A Man How Bout You Attempt To Understand Him?

Women Give The Thought Process Of A Man FAR Too Much Credit. In A Woman’s Eye A Man Has This GRAND Scheme Of A Lie Or How He Will Get Over Only To Later Realize Most Men Cannot Think That Far Ahead To Put These Scheme’s Together. (See Warning Sign Number 6)

4. Time Spent

To Have A Healthy Relationship You Need Time Together, As Well As, Time Apart. Spending Every Moment Together Is Unhealthy, Not Spending Enough Time Is Unreal.

We Must Respect Each Other’s Time Or Nothing Will Ever Work. Women Don't Want Men Who Aren't Doing Anything With Themselves Yet Many Cannot Deal With Those Who Are. Sacrifice Is A Real Word. In Order For The Future To Be Care Free Your Boo Must Go Hard Now. Rather Than Nag Him About That "Quality Time" Encourage Him To Be Productive & Constructive.

Weirdly Nagging Him About Free Time Seems To Mean That You Don’t Want Him Around For Long, If Not, Wouldn’t You Want Him To Go Out & Get It To Secure Your Future As A Couple? To Nag About The Present Would Mean “Fool You Ain’t Goin’ Last That Long Let’s Have Fun NOW”

Infamous Quotes Such As “If You Really Love Someone You’ll Make Time” Is FALSE. Men Want To Spend All The Time In The World Normally Laid Up Or Hanging Out But Sadly It’s Unreal.

5. Be A Mystery NOT Mixxy

A Female Should Be Like A Ancient Myth Or Urban Legend.
“Sometime Seen On The Scene But Never Guaranteed To Be There.”

Nobody Should Be Able To Determine Your Going To Be Somewhere. A Dude Is Usually On The Scene For Two Reasons, Making S*it Happen Or Watching Sh*t Happen.

Ain't Nothing Worst Than A Female That's Always On The Scene With No Purpose, A Man However Will Always Be A lot Of Places With No Purpose, It's Possibly A Double Standard We're Just Going To Have To Accept.

6. Be A Non-Over Thinker

The Most Common Mistake By All Women (& Most Men) Is Over Thought. The Minute You Over Think Yourself Is The Exact Moment You've Lost.

"You Must Think I'm Stupid" Is Possibly The Most Contradiction Of A Statement Ever Uttered By A Female. If You Assume Your Man Is Lying & You Hit Him With The "U Must Think I'm Stupid..." Yet He Doesn't Confess To What You Think Is A Lie Which Might Be The Truth & You Stay With Him Doesn't That Make You Stupid?

Women Will Forever Out Think, Out Logic & Ultimately Stress Out They Own Damn Self With Unrealistic Ways The Man Is Lying.

7. Build With Builders & Stop Looking For Buildings

Music & Movies Are The Strongest Shaper Of What We Believe We Want & Need. Females Hear These Glamour Lyrics Of Being With A Boss Never Understanding What A Real Boss Is Or Does. A Drug Dealer Is Not A Boss, A Rapper Is Not A Boss, A Ball Player Who Is Good Is Definitely Not A Boss Yet We Substitute Being A Boss With Having Money, Or The Illusion Of It.

Most Females Cannot & Will Not Ever Meet A Real Boss. Real Bosses Probably Wouldn't Put Up With 95% Of The Antics Most Women Pull. He Def Is Not Built For the Drama Life Some Possess. To Be With A “Boss” It Takes Understanding, Sacrifice (See Warning Number 4) A Strong Will Of Knowing He Loves You & Support.

Women Wanna Meet Dudes Who Already Possess Everything They Believe They Need In A Man. Years Ago The Leaders & Strong Minded Men Started Out With NOTHING & Built It Ground Up. You Think MLK Would Have Had A Dream If He Ain’t Have A Good Joint In His Corner? You Think Denzel Would Be As Dope As An Actor As He Is Had His Joint Nagged Him About His Crappy Pay In The Beginning Of His Career? Would Bob Johnson Be Where He Is If His Joint By-Passed Him & Went To Mess With A Dude Who Was Already Getting It?

Before You Leave Your “Ain’t Shit” Man Think About Him In 10 Years. Will He Still Be That Way? Or Would The Help From You & What You Two Will Build Be Strong Enough For Him To Turn It All Around?

8. Your Love Life Is NOT A Song

Every So Often A Song Drops Proclaiming The Love One Has For Another. R&B Singers Become Breathless, Sleepless & Seem To Possess Super Human Powers By Moving The Stars, Clouds & Mountains To Get To Their Lover

The Problem With These Songs Of Impossible Feats Is Some Women Compare Them To Their Life Forgetting & Ignoring It's Entertainment Or The Other 12 Songs On The Album Based On "Oh Baby I'm Sorry" Songs. There Are Actually Women Who Strangely Believe These Songs & Not The Entertainment Aspect Of It. Singers Usually Have HORRIBLE Love Lives So Comparing Yours To Theirs Seems Beyond Pointless. No Man Is Going To Move The Stars & Heaven To Get To You. Do Not Side Eye Him Believing Cause He Doesn’t Say These Type Of Things He Doesn’t Love You.

9. Every Man DOES Not Want You

The Art Of Chivalry & Giving Compliments Have Been Back Seated By The Thirst Of Others Males & The Actually Thought That If A Man Gives You A Head Nod He Is MADLY In Love With You. Flirting Is A Weird Way To Feel Good About Yourself, It Actually Has Nothing To Do With The Other Person But Rather A Self Assurance Way To See If We’re On Point.

Women Who Believe Everyman Wants Them Will Never Ever Find A Man Who Really Does. They Date & Involve Themselves With Men For All The Wrong Reasons That Sound Like The Right Ones. A ‘Thirsty’ Man Will Throw A Compliment As Bait, If You Decide To Bite He Will Reel You In, Not Necessarily Wanting You But You Wanted Him So “Ahh Fuck It” He’s There.

Thirsty Men Love Women Who Think Everyman Wants Them. He Will Copy & Paste Beautiful Messages In Hopes Someone Takes It. Be Wary & Understand There Are Plenty Of Kind-Hearted Men Who Love To Compliment Women, But He Does Not Want You.

10. Chivalry Isn't Dead It Just Isn't Appreciated Anymore.

The Minute A Guy Offers A Simple Gesture Of Chivalry He's Considered Lame Or Corny. Most Will Never Agree But The Art Of Chivalry Does Exist, It's Alive & Well But It Hidden Like A Secret Society. Every Female Does Not Deserve Chivalry. Every Female Should Not Get A Chivalrous Act & Most Will Never Appreciate It.

What Most Women REALLY Want Is "Convenient" Chivalry, Only When It Works In Their Favor Is It Ever Noticed Or Appreciated. If A Man Opens The Door, Pulls Your Seat Out, Says Yes Ma'am To Waitress and/or Walks You To Your Door At The End Of The Night “SOME” Would Consider It Lame and/or Overkill. That Same Woman May LOVE The Fact That He Pays For Everything, Thus, She Wants It Conveniently.

Women Have Grown So Used To The Thirst (See Warning Sign Number 9) That Everything A Man Does Seems Like A Scheme. (See Warning Sign Number 6)

Men Can No Longer Do Acts Of Chivalry Without It Seeming Or Have The Woman Assume It's Not Genuine. Chivalry Exist, It May Have Taken On Different Forms & Meaning But It Is Still Around.

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Understand Being Lonely Is REAL. The One's Who Proclaim They Self Alliance To Them Selves With NO Need For A Man Are The Most Confident Loneliest Women Around. We All Want Love & Us Men May Not Need WOmen & Ya May Not Need Us But We're Stuck With Each Other So STFU & Deal With It.

By K.E.L.L.s

BATTLE OF THE SEXES [Night Of The Living “Him” Part II]

noreply@blogger.com (Kellsmania) — Tue, 14 Jun 2011 05:05:00 +0000

BATTLE OF THE SEXES [Night Of The Living “Him” Part II]

"It's Alive!...It's Alive!" -Delusional Women In Excitement Of Creating A "HIM"

The secret competitive world of relationships; often stated, never seen and possibly never real. The ideal creation and/or reason to have a "HIM" is to outdo, outshine and seemingly out sexy the ‘opposed’ competition. Many females are so competitive towards friends, self appointed haters and ladies in real relationships that she feels the need to toss the "HIM" grenade at all possibly times. 'Drinks with "HIM" later...' is the most updated occurrence in our now delusional social networking world.

The creation of "HIM" is often to taunt an ex-lover, seek attention from who you really want, kill your competition and/or avoid the reality of your loneliness.

Dream it into reality and speak it into existance, but the problem with "HIM" is a unreal expectation of what we normally get and/or experience. Wheter females are aware of it, males pay attention, the attention most seem to get from "HIM" is far greater than what we're willing to give. A male will often think to himself 'If this "HIM" has time to work, take care of responsiblities and still be out drinking, electric sliding and entertaining every night how can I compete with that?'

Most women have unknowingly set their self up for failure with the creation of this “HIM” because no man will ever feel the need to compete with it.

“HIM” relationships offer nothing but upset. The creatioin of "HIM" is actually causing harm rather than solving a problem. Females in real relationships don't feel the need to call their boo a "HIM" because they've invested too much time into that person to hide it. If they feel the need to not want to share information on who their man is they will saying NOTHING.

There is a huge difference between keeping your business private and to yourself vs. calling your secret boo a "HIM” Claiming to call your new boo “HIM” out of wanting to keep your business private is a utter contradiction within itself. Rather than calling your secret “HIM” to avoid nosey people, wouldn’t it make more sense to say nothing?

The idea of keeping business to yourself does not mean give it a aka of "HIM" because a aka is doing far more damage than the actual name of who he is would do. The love interest who's attention you seeked has paid attention to your "HIM" escapades and may feel inferior for not being able to make you as happy as "HIM" did.

Be careful, because that relationship you created to draw attention may be the reason your still single, lonely and getting NO attention.

To Be Continued...

By K.E.L.L.s

NIGHTLIFE "The Prequel" Pt. 8 The Great Illusion

noreply@blogger.com (Kellsmania) — Tue, 14 Jun 2011 04:16:00 +0000

NIGHTLIFE "The Prequel" Pt. 8 The Great Illusion

I'm going to show you a magic trick…I’m going to take a service people demand, a service people ask for in order to socialize…then I'm going to tell you how important I am to it. While I'm at it I'm also going to take credit for inventing the wheel, as well as, creating gravity.

The problem with nightlife is the wrong people self-rewarding themselves with the wrong things. Most promotors are responsible for nothing worth being responsible for rather than throwing a party you may or may not have went to. Being the best or number one at something that would pop wheter your there or not is like wanting credit for breathing. Nightlife creates an illusion of importance to many eager minds wanting to make a name for themselves.

There are in fact many people who genuinely contribute to the motion of the party life, but that's a very small percentage. Far and few in between actually hold a seat at the relevant table and most times the ones boosting and ranting about their nightlife ‘accomplishments’ are not those ones.

Nightlife is the new drug game for those who once did something. Ask a old head who was the man back in the day about 88' and he'll tell you 900 old stories about how he 'used' to get it and how he ‘used’ to be the man, now ask most promoters about their relevancy and I guarantee you they tell you about some old party nobody cares about now.

The old won’t make way for the new and some of the new don’t deserve to be respected by the old. Nightlife’s demise is the people who ruin it with ill-faded business and the idea of helping each other out tossed out the window. The magic trick is fueled by egos and a tainted existence to feel important.

Nightlife is a hustle not respected. Don’t believe in magic.

To Be Continued…

By K.E.L.L.s

"When Being In Love Goes Wrong" (Little Red Corvette)

noreply@blogger.com (Kellsmania) — Tue, 14 Jun 2011 03:54:00 +0000

"When Being In Love Goes Wrong"(Little Red Corvette)

I Guess I Should Of Known, By The Way U Parked Ya Car
Sideways That It Wouldn't Last...
See Your The Kind Of Person, Who Believes In Making Our Once
Love Em & Leave Em Fast.
-Prince "Little Red Corvette"

Is it possible to love a promiscuous lover? Or someone whom in the past had a "loose" lifestyle? Do people ever change? Or is the old saying "can't turn a hoe into a housewife" true? What really matters? The fact that we've had lovers in the past or the number of lovers we've had? Should it matter? And if so how can we ever learn to love or be in a relationship if that did? Virgins no longer exist so aren't we all loose?

People can and do change given the right circumstances. An insecure person cannot be in a committed relationship with a person of a 'sexually free' background, or someone who use to live a wild life, the simple thought of them "sexually sweating" with another person will destroy their brain! To have the image of someone in between their lovers legs will simply drive them crazy. At some point and time your current was with another, so why devote brain power to think about this?

Does asking him/her about their past solve any age-old mystery? Does it make you feel better? How does this form of questioning the past benefit your current relationships? I understand we all want to learn about the person and what he/she pass lovers were like, but asking or caring about sexual escapades solves nothing, knowing whether they are disease free and healthy should be the only thing of concern. Love the one your with and not worry about who they've been with.

By K.E.L.L.s

The Twitter Epidemic: Buried Alive

noreply@blogger.com (Kellsmania) — Wed, 11 May 2011 02:20:00 +0000

The Twitter Epidemic: Buried Alive.

Many things separate social networking sites like myspace and facebook apart from twitter. On Twitter we’re forced to view opinions and/or ideas we
1. sometime don't care a bout
2. don't always agree with and
3. don't wish to see.

Between RTs , inconsistent tweople, party promotions and the ever present “yo listen to my song” tweets many have just resorted to scrolling right past your "epic" tweet or something you felt was important to read.

Ever see a question tweeted and/or statement then see them RT they self a few minutes later? Or see them say, "So nobody goin' answer me huh?" That's someone who doesn't realize that they've just been buried alive by the bulk of nonsense on a "friend’s" timeline.

The problem with following people based on one day of agreeing with them is that we all have millions of different ideas, if someone tweets something you agree with on a Tuesday, you follow them, but on that Wednesday they start talking about some ol’ other stuff that you don’t agree with, without even realizing it most times you question them "This can't be the same person, how could he/she say this!?" We grow attachments to the people we follow and expect certain things from them forgetting that we're all different from day to day.

A large percentage of time on twitter is spent scrolling. Gurantee you most of your tweets are not getting the attention it deserves because of this. Your good thoughts and/or opinions get buried alive. Your good words may be falling on death ears. Try not to get buried alive.

By K.E.L.L.s

BATTLE OF THE SEXES[Night Of The Living “Him”]

noreply@blogger.com (Kellsmania) — Tue, 03 May 2011 04:03:00 +0000

BATTLE OF THE SEXES [Night Of The Living “Him”]

Social networking created delusion and gave birth to the "HIM." Webster’s dictionary simply defines “him” as male and/or in reference to a male, but the beautiful (ahem… and sometime lonely) women of the cyber world has turned “HIM” into a person they are in a “relationship” with.

Most times a reference to being with this “HIM” is made up. The power to update a status of what were doing or will be doing with this “HIM” has all together destroyed some female’s brain cells.

Agree of not females are in a secret competition with one another where the game is to show others how poppin' her and her "him" is. Females feel the need to out do each other with the affection of there boo and/or the amount of things they do together. If a female is out, she loves to tell others, mainly other females, what her and her man is doing. The problem with "him" is most females for whatever reason doesn't have a boo to be the real “HIM” so the logical explanation is to create one, therefore controlling "HIM."

With a created "HIM” you will never have problems and you two can be doing whatever you want when you want, while in reality your home under the covers with a scarf on.

Females in 'real' relationships give "him" a name, why? Because females in real relationships are always with that “HIM,” there is not need to give your ‘real’ boo the “HIM” title.

The difference between keeping your relationship to yourself vs. being with “HIM” is, if you’re 'in a relationship’ that you want to keep business to yourself you say NOTHING, no reference to ‘him’ at all. Females in "HIM" relationships will tell you every single thing 'him' and her do, they give ‘him’ more airtime than a real previous boo because they control what she and this fictional person do together.

"HIM" is possibly the best lover ever created because he only exists in 'happy' times. He doesn’t talk back nor does he ever curve you to do other things. “HIM” usually exists only on the weekends or when others are not around.

Beware of people who promote “HIM” as they’re boo they're capable of telling you anything to seem popping.

To Be Continued…

By K.E.L.L.s

The Twitter Epidemic: Wait These Are My Friends? Right?

noreply@blogger.com (Kellsmania) — Tue, 03 May 2011 04:03:00 +0000

The Twitter Epidemic: Wait These Are My Friends? Right?

Digital depression is defined as, a unknowing reality of what is real in the social networking community.

“…I'm apart of the In-crowd! My mentions be rocking! My friends loves what I tweet. They RT everything I say! Plus the wavy light skin girls is loving me now! …I got cool friends! Right? I Do Right, These are my friends...Right?” -Random Delusional Twitter Soul

Social networking has caused a serious delusion in social skills. Daily we see people step full beyond their area of expertise or modify their character just to appease the people they have following them...err I mean "friends." Somewhere twitter has confused some to who or what reality is. Many people truly believe the hundreds sometime thousands of people following them are friends and support anything they're doing. There are many people that truly believe people care about what they’re saying or tweeting. The reality of twitter is a large percentage of follows are courtesy follows, most people follow you because you followed them, some follow just because and others just followed for no reason. With the brilliant app option of mute many people are truly stuck in the muted twilight zone, the courtesy follow has claimed their existence without them even knowing it.

The courtesy follow does exist. Some cannot differentiate what is real and what is ‘twitter,’ when you sign on your logging into a parrelel world filled with people you may meet one day, some you may never see in real life and people who do not care to meet or see you. The unreal realm of twitter has created social monsters and help develop character for most, wheter it for the better or most time worst.

Social networking tricks such as #teamfollowback has a large group of otherwise ‘uncool’ people believing the thousands following them are true friends. Based on follower numbers many have tried things they otherwise wouldn’t because they believe the hype of their follower numbers. Party promoters born party promoters failed. Rap career started rap career dead. The problem with #teamfollowback is that after a while people scroll pass your name, your numbers are so high no one cares what your saying.

Digital depression is real, ever be on all day then sign out? Doesn’t it feel like something is off or something is missing? Now magnify that into a person who believes their followers are real life numbers of who is their friend. So are you stasified with your followers…err I mean “friends?”

By K.E.L.L.s

Sex Therapy 101: Employee Of The Month

noreply@blogger.com (Kellsmania) — Tue, 03 May 2011 04:03:00 +0000

Sex Therapy 101: Employee Of The Month

Sex isn't that hard to come by, good sex is rare and great sex almost doesn't exist. When we find that partner that gives it to us right it's a feeling of accomplishment. A perfect sex partner is like the employee of the month and/or your best salesman of the year. The culture of corporate America is to never, under any circumstance, let your best employee go. Once you accomplish the job of satisfaction, you ain’t going no where.

It’s very easy, yet unsatisfying, to just hop in the bed grab, rub, lick, suck, bang, fuck but what's the purpose? We all search for that corporate climber who is the best person for the job of handling the “business.” Many workers come and go but your top salesman will always be the best and remembered for being it. He/she knows exactly how to negotiate and close the deal and we think about our business transaction even when we're engaging in another activity not regarding "business transaction"

Good employees are hard to come by so before you fire your salesman of the year take a look at the unemployement line.

By K.E.L.L.s

BATTLE OF THE SEXES "The Prequel" [The Friend Zone]

noreply@blogger.com (Kellsmania) — Mon, 04 Apr 2011 01:53:00 +0000

BATTLE OF THE SEXES "The Prequel" [The Friend Zone]

Ever been in a "relationship" and had sex with a friend in your head? Are you in an imaginary relationship with your opposite sex friend without them even aware you have feelings towards them? Does the thought of them with another upset you, yet your introduced as a bro/sis? If so you might be stuck in “The Friend Zone.”

Men and women view friendships extremely different. Most men stuck in the zone start a friendship 'really' wanting to sleep with you. Women, however, start off many friendships genuinely not wanting the guy but develop feelings over time because “he’s always been there.”

In the friend zone men want you from the start; women usually want you once you stop wanting them.

Opposite sex friendships can be mutual and they do exist. There are several friendships we have with the opposite sex that are genuine and despite how many people find them appealing we just can't view them that way. The simple thought of them being naked is disgusting. It's weird to even hear about them being sexy to another person.

But can the friend zone be escaped? Possibly, but over time your feelings either develop for that person, wanting them more and they become such apart of you that it may seem you’re actually with them or you’re around them so much that you settle for whatever title you can get.

Some men are just so lucky to be around they'll accept the friend zone not necessarily wanting to be there but it puts them around you so they’ll be cool with it. Women will accept it to a degree but once their feelings are involved and she wants you she will fall back and not settle.

The friend zone has its benefits because some relationships are just better as friendships.

To Be Continued…

By K.E.L.L.s

Love & Life Pt. 10 “Temporary Madness”

noreply@blogger.com (Kellsmania) — Fri, 01 Apr 2011 00:24:00 +0000

Love & Life Pt. 10 “Temporary Madness”

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You can't love someone without hating them a little bit. They say being in love is a temporary madness. When your in love nothing else matters, it's almost like being in a dream, time just stands still. Once you wake up from that dream you have to make a decision, either keep dreaming or stay awake. But is “love” the idea of never being able to be apart or is that what “being in love” is?

Love actually isn't spending every moment together, it's not falling asleep and waking up smiling at one another, it’s not even day dreaming about kissing that person, love isn’t the thought of living together forever. It’s not excitement or happiness, laughing or crying, all of those things are just what being in love is, which like many other things we can convince our self we are.

"Love" is the after affect of "being in love," it's the memories we have once being in love has burned away. Many people don't truly understand what love is or what it means to love someone. None of us will ever be a perfect definition of what love is and chasing it will only result into you convincing yourself time after time that your actually in love. Any of us can be in love but only few actually find love.

Being in love is the strong feelings you have for something we like a lot. Its very immature and careless to say, "hey I like you a lot" so we substitute that strong liking to being in love. The excitement of being in love is what drives love.

“Being in love” can fade away but “love” always remains.

To Be Continued…

By K.E.L.L.s

The Reality of A Real World (Too Real To Keep It Real)

noreply@blogger.com (Kellsmania) — Sun, 20 Mar 2011 22:06:00 +0000

The Reality of A Real World (Too Real To Keep It Real)

The most prominent word in any hood is the word "real." Some people whole existence is defined by the word or what they perceive as the definition of what "real" is. Aside from what's "real" the word we often miss is "respect." For "real" to work we must have respect. Without respect nothing you do will ever be real. People who live to portray what's "real" usually really live horrible lives because they lack respect. Jails are filled with "real" individuals who really live that life and love to keep it “real.”

Most problems in the hood are a direct result from dudes wanting to show love and display how real they are to their people by representing for their hood. If a friend is killed, a dude will kill another out of "love" even If the family of the victim ask for "respect" to not take any vengeance. Love Is killing the hood, being real is fueling it and respect is neglected from it. Many events in the hood are ruined because of "love" when we Actually need to spread respect. Love Is what brings problems to our events respect should keep It away.

Keeping it real will always be a problem in our hoods, what most dudes don’t get is the real test of what’s real is longevity and what you can offer your community to help it beyond representing it.

Don’t overdose on the “REAL.”

By K.E.L.L.s

The Twitter Epidemic (It's Just Twitter...)

noreply@blogger.com (Kellsmania) — Mon, 14 Mar 2011 04:26:00 +0000

The Twitter Epidemic: It’s Just Twitter...

Last year a Harlem dude lost his life after a back and fourth argument via twitter turned real. Stemming from something that wouldn't bother most people, something that could have easily been ignored or disregarded, nevertheless, it happened. The problem with most people is that they dismiss everything to not be held accountable for anything. Twitter possesses one of the worlds most deadly weapons ever created. Way before guns, knives or even violence; words was and still is the most powerful tool we all possess to hurt others.

Your words may not penetrate everyone's natural defenses, but some have a lower tolerance than others. Some people are set off from the most serious of things to most minor, consisting of topics varying from family to street creditability all the way to materialistic things, such as who has more money or who crew is better. You never know who is serious, who is easily pushed to that point or who is really "about that life," so is it just twitter?

A high percentage of real life beefs are now started and is fueled by "just twitter." The constant interaction with people you may dislike is too overwhelming for some. The ever-constant use of the word now made famously by twitter "subliminal" and indirect shots is not handled well by most people. With the urge to’ keep it real’ and not look like a sucker many spill they problems from a social site onto the streets.

Twitter is real. Most dismiss it as “just twitter” to justify the things they say. Depending on who you follow will give a different definition to "it's just twitter" but for the small percentage of people who can't differentiate the entertainment of twitter from the streets it ain't just twitter. Real problems arise from twitter because it is wheeled by real people; some who can't handle seeing their name tweeted with a derogatory statement after, it just simply boils their blood.

Be careful of what you say.

To Be Continued…
With "The Twitter Epidemic: It’s Just Twitter... Pt. 2 The Subliminal Theory"

By K.E.L.L.s

Change Goin' Come! Stage 5 “The Push vs. The Pull”

noreply@blogger.com (Kellsmania) — Tue, 08 Mar 2011 05:43:00 +0000

Change Goin' Come! Stage 5 “The Push vs. The Pull”

"...Whose Ass I Gotta Kick" -President Barack Obama

The best job you can do is to not be held responsible and/or accountable for anything. Being the leader or the point person in any form of organizational structure will always gain you praise, as well as, hate. The easiest thing to do is criticize the job of another person. Everyone assumes to know what's best when they don't have the real consequence of dealing with the aftermath of those real decisions.

Many believe they would do a better job than president Obama is doing, not taking into consideration the state he was handed the union. Sure there was things promised not done yet but the political red tape of the real world slows any process down. Something as simple as renaming a street goes through many levels of legislation, so why isn't this expected for the decisions & plans the president has planned? There are countless meetings just to talk about the meeting coming up. We are all familiar with the hood term "politics" and all knows that it means a process we can’t control, so why are we lost, confused and for some, upset with the job being done?

For everything good he does he's criticized for ten things wrong. Some out of his control most take time & others not fast enough, yet people want immediate improvement. The U.S.A has been in trouble for some time. There are many things set in place to avoid problems but those things have been crumbling for years. Reganomics is the actual cause of the state we are in. That was the start of the end. So before you criticize things you don't understand do your research and learn our history. The current Prez is actually responsible for fixing problems that failed 30 years ago & it will take long after he's served & gone for our problems to be fixed.

Land of the free home of the "know it alls" this is America.

By K.E.L.L.s

"The Perils of Success Edition 6 (Something Is Missing.)"

noreply@blogger.com (Kellsmania) — Tue, 08 Mar 2011 05:42:00 +0000

"The Perils of Success Edition 6 (Something Is Missing.)"

Something is missing here. I don't know where it is or who took it, maybe someone killed it. Some people don't even care that it’s missing. Aren't we supposed to encourage thinkers and people of purpose? People of integrity, respect and values? Aren’t we supposed to respect their minds? But those people are the new outcast. Believing in something and standing behind it is now considered taboo.

Don’t be a follower, show me something! But soon as you present yourself as a leader and voice an opinion it’s too much, you’re coming on too strong.

Years ago being a follower got you nowhere, today its gets you the title of being normal. Many people never realize the potential they have if they spoke up. The best people to look up to and be inspired by are the people around you. Surrounded by critics, haters & debaters it’s much easier to conform to the norm.

Regardless of who hates you or disagrees with your words you should always speak your mind. Many of us can't differentiate hate from an opinion, someone not agreeing with us is simply too much so we say nothing.

Embrace Free Thinkers.

By K.E.L.L.s

"The Perils of Success Edition 5 [The Curious Case of The Benjamin Button Effect]"

noreply@blogger.com (Kellsmania) — Tue, 08 Mar 2011 05:40:00 +0000

"The Perils of Success Edition 5 [The Curious Case of The Benjamin Button Effect]"

Life can be extremely overwhelming and because of the demand for knowledge, it seems many of us peak at a very young age. Technology and the easy grasp of being able to obtain knowledge make the world a smaller place. Years ago you had to travel to learn about the world, now we can do it from sitting in your living room.

Motivation is the hardest thing to find when you feel burned out. Who can you turn to for motivation or support when many around you feel the same way? Everyday is a hustle but the grind of everyday can prevent your hustle. That 9-5 can stall you from your ultimate goal. It’s a vicious cycle that’s impossible to break because we have to work to have money to live but are we living if we’re not living our dreams?

The technology era and our generation require instant gratification. We want things fast and we want it now. We bust our ass, work hard and prepare our self for a job market that doesn’t match or has yet to catch up to our qualifications. Over qualified is a saying heard all the time with our generation, but isn’t that the point to obtain knowledge? Wouldn’t we want the best on our team? We don’t work hard to get smart to be dumb, so what is an appropriate qualification?

We peak young to make our lives easier when we get old, but the ‘Benjamin Button’ in all of us works against us. Its almost like “what am I working for? Why try?” The powers that be seem to already have our lives planned for us but let’s say fuck them and anyone standing in your way to reverse that growth pattern. Fuck Benjamin Button, his aging process and get as smart as you can. Over qualification simply means “you’re smarter than me so I’m scared of you.”

To be over qualified is to be ready and we’re waiting.

By K.E.L.L.s

The Reality of A Real World (40 years past speaking up)

noreply@blogger.com (Kellsmania) — Tue, 08 Mar 2011 05:37:00 +0000

The Reality of A Real World (40 years past speaking up)

Why are you scared? What's the point of having a voice if you don't use it? 40 years ago being a leader and/or having a voice willing to speak up against B.S and ignorance meant something. Today we dismiss it and anyone who is outspoken. Many people can't stand another who speaks what they feel; the idea of someone speaking their mind is too overwhelming for them to comprehend. We substitute real for the fake and we're entertained by what we presume as real.

We live in a time of instant gratification and listening to the words of an ordinary person seems outrageous to some. "Come on wit' that rev run shit" and/or positive thinking is what most say/hear everyday, then we turn around and praise Dr. King or Malcolm X? There are everyday people in each of our lives that need/deserve/have earned that respect of an ear to listen to him/her but reality of world is dismissive. We often choose contradictions to how we think. Most of the time we want positive thinkers but the idea of someone constantly being positive doesn’t seen genuine so we dismiss it.

Many people in our everyday circles are way more influential and forward thinking than you may know. Embrace It.

By K.E.L.L.s

Change Goin' Come! Stage 4 “Eight Years Behind A Four Year Fresh Start”

noreply@blogger.com (Kellsmania) — Tue, 08 Mar 2011 05:36:00 +0000

Change Goin' Come! Stage 4 “Eight Years Behind A Four Year Fresh Start”

”George Bush Had Eight Years To Rip Apart The Country, President Obama Cannot and Will Not Fix It Four” -Kells

It clearly is easier to ruin something than fix it. Imagine starting a race in eighth place with a injury, the person in 1st is in top condition, it’s almost like racing against yourself. The more the current commander in chief repairs the more things there are to fix, it’s a failed system set in place by previous heads of government.

Regardless of how you feel about his progress or the things he has or hasn't accomplished President Obama has done more in his few years than Bush did his whole term. We have a clear agenda of what's to be done & presumption of how it will be done. Politicians have a tough job because an agenda must be laid out regardless of if it will get accomplished or not. Think about our own personal to do list that consist of minimal tasks that never get done, when we want it done, such as make doctor appointment, buy lotion, pick up cleaners, whatever daily errands we plan to cross off, now compare that to a countries to do list, fix economy, stop war, create jobs for 800,000 people! How will this be possible to do in the allotted time given to the Prez?

We all spend more time talking about what a person didn't do rather than what they did. Obama cannot wake up, rub his head, drink a cup of OJ & say ok let me fix this shit. There is & will always be political red tape that prevents immediate actions. Congress, legislators & the house prevent dictatorships by a process many don't understand. Pres Obama can only work as hard as the structure allows him.

Obama has made history not only by winning the election but also by many of the actions he stands behind, healthcare, the economy, the war are all things he stands firm in. Many of us get stressed & discouraged from our small task of responsibility now imagine running the U.S.A? Heavy Is The Head That Wears The Crown.

By K.E.L.L.s

The Reality of A Real World (Overwhelmed & The Pressure To Do Right)

noreply@blogger.com (Kellsmania) — Tue, 08 Mar 2011 05:32:00 +0000

The Reality of A Real World (Overwhelmed & The Pressure To Do Right)

Stress will make you lose sleep, feel unease and make you very anxious; the pressure of life and to do right is an added weight to your shoulders. What really matters in life? Is it money? Is it family? Whatever you want to get out of life you can get it. We can all easily go out into the world and make tons of money, but at what price? Your freedom? Your morals?

It’s easy for any of us to get up, get out and get something but what the fuck do we want? Life is scary, we have total control to do anything and regardless of the outcome we control our life. That's a dangerous & scary notion because life has so many temptations the pressure is intense.

The road to the wrong path is always tempting, easy money and a fast profit is a very hard thing to turn down. To do right is to live right but at what point does living right become so overwhelming that doing wrong seems easier?

It’s a battle within you. Should I work hard now and benefit from it later? Or work hard later and not worry about it now? The statistics of life are real numbers and even with all the numbers, facts and examples we still make proven mistakes? People who are rich choose to work hard at some point in their life to achieve that wealth. We all got to grind at some point the question is when will you?

By K.E.L.L.s

"The Perils of Success Edition 4 (The Pitfalls of a Stalled Mind)"

noreply@blogger.com (Kellsmania) — Tue, 08 Mar 2011 05:31:00 +0000

"The Perils of Success Edition 4 (The Pitfalls of a Stalled Mind)"

How is it possible to be bored? Life is full of things to do & accomplish. At what point does our mind shut down from wanting and needing to learn? We all have associates that are more than content with living a mediocre life. Their brain has simply stalled from living a life of purpose.

When did wanting more or wanting your circle of friends to be better become a bad thing? The moment you attempt to encourage a friend who has stalled your preaching, but when did this become a problem?

How do we motivate people that are stuck in a comfort zone? Lead by example? It’s easy to lead a horse to water, they might even take a sip but show them how to make their own source of water and that might change the course of their life.

"The Perils of Success Edition 3 (The Friendships of Success vs. Failure)"

noreply@blogger.com (Kellsmania) — Tue, 08 Mar 2011 05:29:00 +0000

"The Perils of Success Edition 3 (The Friendships of Success vs. Failure)"

Success is defined as, the favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors. To continue to be successful it takes more than hard work; you need a strong support team. Failure lives right around the corner from success; failure is defined as nonperformance of something due, required, or expected. Just like success failure needs support; the people around you can both strengthen or weaken you.

In life the people around us define us. You are who you associate with, look around at your closest friends, that’s who you are; you don't want to be that person? So you got to change your circle. Association breeds similarity.

People usually hang with people of the same interest and dislikes, it would be ignorant to try and fit in with a crowd not of your belonging. Many people seal their own fates by hanging with people who only hold them down. The challenge is to associate with a crowd that challenges you to be better.

Many people will never adopt this way of thinking because the peer pressure of friends wanting to hold you back will often win, they would rather not be judge and hang with a idle minded crowed but is that friendship?

By K.E.L.L.s

The Reality Of A Real World (The Pressure Of A Black Male) [The Real Talk Edition]

noreply@blogger.com (Kellsmania) — Tue, 08 Mar 2011 05:27:00 +0000

The Reality Of A Real World (The Pressure Of A Black Male) [The Real Talk Edition]

"Be careful! Watch ya step. Move with caution. Watch those around you!"

Is life short? Whoever came up with that saying obviously didn't have much going for themselves because life is long, it can easily become long and drawn out with the wrong decisions. The pressure to do right is not a part time thing is a full time job. Adding to that pressure is the task of being black man and/or minority. We have to work ten times as hard, most often, to get the same outcome of our racial counterparts.

A black man needs to support of his lady. We often play strong but the pressure to do right is intense and the support and encouragement is needed always. Most times were so preoccupied trying hard to not to do wrong that nothing seems right. We often see and hear many saying ‘products of my environment’ and the pressure to do right is hard when it seems no matter how much you try to change you will always remain the same.

Our community lacks positive influences and many times we forget that. We forget the lack of good role models & that need of an extra voice for granted. Your whole life can change in one second and as a man that is a hard pill to swallow. Rather than chop men down build us up. A man won’t tell you but he needs a woman that's not only there for him but willing to understand what he's going through.

Females charge everything to the individual rather than the pressure that man has. The spotlight is always on us to do right. Think logically about your man rather than figuratively. Most men are deeply in love with their mate but the bigger picture is our future and/or success. Coretta Scott King once said "the hardest part about being with a man of passion is understanding that passion." Women don’t understand men want to provide but the pressure to do right is so overwhelming for some.

If our women backed us up, and vice versa, imagine the feats we can accomplish if we gave each other had that perfect push

By K.E.L.L.s

"The Perils of Success Edition 2 (The Gift & The Curse)"

noreply@blogger.com (Kellsmania) — Tue, 08 Mar 2011 05:20:00 +0000

"The Perils of Success Edition 2 (The Gift & The Curse)"

When did it become so bad to be successful? We all know people who would rather have a normal life than to carry the weight of success. With ‘mo' money comes mo' problems’ but have we ever asked why that is? Jealously? Of course. Envy? Most definitely, But why? Shouldn't seeing another do well for themselves motivate us to do the same?

Success is a heavy burden; people expect greatness from 24/7. Many people would rather lead mediocre lives than chase their dreams, some just can't handle it.

Good people turn bad, then desperate chasing it, so why should we let that curse control us? What is the balance? Is there any balance or any common ground between success and failure? Your success defines who you are, it let's others know what choices you've made and what your priorities are. People always assume your life to be perfect when crowned a successful person, in their eyes nothing can ever be wrong with you and everything is always all right, but people without your problems will never understand them.

It’s the gift and the curse of being successful. People rather devalue your problems because you are successful and disregard any feelings and/or emotions you have.

When your successful people look up and down to you at the same time. One day we all hope to be at a place in life where we are successful, but with all the problems that come with it, is that what we really want?

By K.E.L.L.s

"The Perils of Success Edition 1"

noreply@blogger.com (Kellsmania) — Tue, 08 Mar 2011 05:17:00 +0000

"The Perils of Success Edition 1"

"Your Success Took A Shot at you, what you gonna do now? How ya gonna kill it? Your gonna become unsuccessful?"
-American Gangster

With success comes many problems. As we all strive to be the best, success puts us to the test. Sacrifice is the key element of success, not sacrifice as in being or acts of selfishness, but self-sacrifice, that strict list of priorities and responsibilities that accompany your road to the riches.

Success is and can be a drug; many cannot and choose not to carry the burden of success, ignorant? Yes, but for many it is a wise choice. With success comes the pressure of success, your life, your relationships, your mind all becomes one big distorted image. We all want success but can we all truly handle it?

Wealthy people complain everyday about the pressures and pitfalls of their success yet some still want it and chase it. Many reveal all the time; their life was better when they had no money, why? Because with more money you accumulate the more problems you’ll have.

Money does not equal success; it is simply a way that society has chosen to weigh ones success.

Relationship seems to be the burden of ones success, we all want to be with and around people of success without truly understanding what it takes for them to continue succeed. Do we as lovers or even friends understand how to support successful spouses?

Love and success can and sometimes do co-exist the only problem being time.

We learn everything about what it takes to be successful except how to deal with it. Being that we all define success different ways, what can we do to make every aspect of our life work with success rather than against you?

By K.E.L.L.s

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