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The Untold Story of the Prodigal Mother

2012-02-25T00:00:00.004-08:00

In last week's Dear Dee Dee column, I wrote about parenting prodigal children. In "What's Really Going On Here?" I talked about the spiritual warfare going on in our families and the lengths to which Satan will go to see that our children do not grow up to be the next generation of believers.

Since there were no reader questions this week, I am taking the liberty of following up that column with "The Untold Story of the Prodigal Mother," a stvory that evolved from my quiet time one morning as I poured out my heart to God about my own prodigal. In Scripture we read about the prodigal son, his father, and his disgruntled brother. But nowhere is the mother mentioned, until now....her story is our story.

The Untold Story of the Prodigal’s Mother

by Dee Dee Wike

            Hopeless. In a word, that is exactly how she must have felt as her son disappeared over the horizon with not so much as a backward glance over his shoulder. How had their relationship managed to deteriorate so badly? It seemed only days ago that they had sat beside one another in the breeze of a warm summer evening, watching the sun set over the pasture below as the sheep bleated to one another after a long day of lazy grazing.

            She remembered the day he was born. After months of waiting and dreaming of the great things her son would accomplish, he arrived just before the bitter chill of winter set in. The harvest had been plentiful that year and there was much to celebrate. Now just days after his birth, the family had gathered around a table laden with the earth’s richest fares, rejoicing not only in God’s bountiful blessings but also in the new life asleep in his mother’s arms.

            The first few months were joyful ones for her as she nursed her little one and cradled him often. What special moments they had together! Always dreaming of the special plans God had for him, she prayed for the child, as he lay nestled at her breast, hopeful that Jehovah would capture the heart of her little boy and grow him into a great man of God. Remembering the stories of Moses, Abraham, Joseph, and David, her imagination ran wild with thoughts of all the ways God might use him to reveal the truth regarding His own Son, the Messiah. Surely God’s hand would be with her son all the days of his life, as he followed in the footsteps of his parents and older brother by living a life of dedicated service to their God.

            Her son, like so many other young boys his age, was taught the stories of the patriarchs, the apostles, and the prophets who had foretold the coming of the Messiah. He knew of the miracles Jesus had performed. But there were those in the temple who preached a different message, who used their position and influence to deceive many who believed. Before long, questions began to swirl around in his mind, confusing him and weakening his faith. What if all those stories about God were not true?

            When her son began voicing some of those questions and spending his time with those known to hold different beliefs from theirs, she became alarmed. She prayed. She spoke the truth. She could tell her son was slipping away from them, changing somehow, but there was little she could do to stop what was happening.   Her own frustrations and fears tormented her.   Their relationship, once so close and endearing, became one of strain and conflict. Although the truths of what he had been taught had not changed, his beliefs had, and she was losing the battle.

            As her son challenged the boundaries of God’s commands and his parents’ convictions, feelings of love between the son and his parents gave way to anger and resentment toward them.   Frustrated by her own inability to get through to him, the mother became despondent and depressed, feeling as though somehow she had failed him and the God who had entrusted her with this young man’s life. It was more than she could bear.

            As his rebellious attitude and restlessness escalated, she knew it was inevitable that one day her son would leave. How she had prayed that God would somehow soften his heart and rekindle it with passion for God and His truth! But that day never came. Having enough of religious traditions and the restrictions he felt they imposed on his individuality, he asked for his inheritance, packed up his belongings, and set out in search of freedom—freedom from religious mores, outlandish beliefs, and a holiness that was impossible for any man to attain. Surely the pastures of a foreign land would be greener than the ones he had called home.

            The day he left was a day of great pain, yet relief of sorts for his mother, who had been subjected to his tirades and the unending questions by those who surely blamed her for the disgraceful direction his life had taken. Because the father was away herding sheep much of the time, he could not appreciate the depth of frustration and pain the mother had suffered as she watched her son pull away from them, day by day. Although the son’s decision to leave came as no surprise to her, the father was left stunned by his son’s insistence that he be given his share of the inheritance. It was clear that he had no intention of returning home—ever.

            The older son, seething with resentment, had watched as his younger brother heaped insults and disrespect on his parents for months. He had been there to comfort his mother one time too many. For him, this day had not come too quickly. He was glad to see his brother go, although he couldn’t stand the fact that his father had given that undeserving wretch one cent of their inheritance!

            In the days that followed, life slowly returned to normal for the father and older brother, but the mother’s broken heart seemed to hemorrhage within, draining her of all her energy and the desire to do anything. She fell into a deep depression, always wondering where her son was, how he was getting along, and fearing the worst. Her prayers, like her tears, flowed unceasingly.

            The father, who had always gotten along well with him, couldn’t understand how the younger son had become so selfish and discontent. Yet, he was of age to be on his own. What choice had either parent except to let him go find himself in a distant land?

            The younger son left the comfort, safety, and love of his family in search of happiness and independence. While he was away, he squandered his fortune in wild living, even spending part of his inheritance on prostitutes in an effort to satisfy his deep desire for love and fulfillment. Without the watchful eye and concern of his loving parents keeping tabs on him, he could do as he pleased, and he did. One day, though, when the money had run out and the only thing filling his stomach was hunger pain, he realized that he had acted foolishly. Homeless and desperate enough to eat the pods the pigs were being fed, he began to long for the comforts of home.   Even his father’s servants lived better than he. They were clothed, fed, and sheltered by a loving master who appreciated and rewarded their good service to him. How could the son have been so foolish as to think he could make it without the love and support of his family?

            As he lay out under the stars feeling smaller than the blades of grass beneath him, he looked toward heaven and began praying to the One who had watched over him through all his months of wandering. Deep in his heart he knew he had sinned. All the wine, women, and worldly goods that had consumed his inheritance failed to fill that empty place inside. His physical hunger was only symptomatic of a deeper spiritual hunger that had somehow been suppressed all these months. In the silence of that starry night, far from home, the son began confessing sin after sin. As the weight of his sins slipped from his shoulders, his heart became tender toward his heavenly Father and toward the earthly family he had left behind so many months before. He knew what he had to do.

            As the sun dawned fresh upon a glistening meadow, he rose and turned toward home. Not knowing how he might be received, he resolved to go humbly to his father, ask his forgiveness, and settle for being received and treated as one of the hired servants.   After several days’ travel, the son anxiously topped the hill overlooking his father’s sheep pasture just as the sun was beginning to set. His father, looking longingly toward the setting sun, saw a familiar silhouette on the horizon. Could it possibly be?

            Inside their home the mother poured a pitcher of water drawn from a nearby well. As water splashed from the pail onto the table, the drops mixed with her tears. Would she ever see her son again? With each passing day her hope dimmed like the stars at sunrise. Yet she could never completely abandon the hope of seeing her son once more. As she stood there with her eyes closed, relishing memories of a sweet little boy’s laughter, she was aroused by the sound of music and laughter from outside the house. Curious, she went to the window and looked out, hardly believing what her eyes beheld.

            Silhouetted in the glow of the sunset, with servants all around, stood the father and the prodigal in the clutches of a warm embrace. Suddenly the servants scurried in different directions, carrying out the father’s orders to kill the fattened calf, prepare a feast, and bring the ring and robe to make the son’s homecoming official.

            As the older brother stood glaring in the shadows, the mother knew that the conflict was far from over. The younger son had returned home seeking forgiveness, which she knew the older son would be reluctant to extend. Her prayers of thankfulness for the safe return of the lost son quickly turned to prayers for reconciliation and healing as she realized she now faced a perhaps more difficult challenge, restoring peace between these two rivals. For now, though, she would simply rejoice in the return of her son and her hope.

What's in a Name?

2012-02-23T00:00:00.002-08:00

Author and writing consultant, Rick Shelton, made a statement at a recent workshop that has stuck with me. Although he was giving a Writing Workshop on how we as educators could better instruct children in the art of writing, his truths hit home with me as an author.

"A character should only have a name if he or she does something important in the story."

Hmm. After I thought about it, the statement was so obvious I had the urge to slap my hand against my forehead. After all, if the character is so minor he contributes little or nothing to the plot, why do we care about his name?

As readers of fiction, we want to connect with the characters in the story. One of the first ways anyone connects is by knowing another's name. Yet if I give a name to everyone in the story, it devalues the main characters, as well as disconnects the reader. Once a character is named, we automatically begin to picture that character in our mind. We try to form an opinion of that character. Are we going to like this person or not? How is he important to the plot? What is he going to do?

But if we name insignificant characters it becomes confusing to the reader. The reader asks herself, "Wait a minute. What happened to ---?"

Take for example the paraphrased beginning of a recent young author's short story:

Me and my friends, Mallory Grace and Susan and Emily and Emma Claire all went to the mall. Mallory Grace and I decided to get an ice cream. I got chocolate chip and Mallory Grace ordered a plain vanilla. While we were sitting in the food court enjoying our frozen treats we saw some cute boys.

Well, okay. Are you asking yourself where did Susan and Emily and Emma Claire go? Our writing consultant, Mr. Shelton, would advise that if they no longer appear in the story, then we don't need to know their names.

The young author could just as easily have begun with something like, I went to the mall with Mallory Grace and some friends.

Now, although the examples are elementary, the point is still valid. So consider, please, if it is truly important to give a name to the post man, the bus driver, and the sister's pet poodle. Unless they have more than a half-page part in the story, it's not impolite to allow them to remain nameless. If you found this hint helpful, you may want to read more from Rick Shelton at http://www.rickshelton.us/

Happy writing,

Cleaning House

2012-02-21T22:32:00.000-08:00

On Friday of this past week, I subjected my physical body to a good cleansing. I don’t mean my daily shower or my personal grooming habits. I am talking about the inside, the parts I can’t see, those that work behind the scenes. The parts that keep our body operating; the liver, the kidneys, yeah…those parts that you can’t reach with a loofah, need a good cleansing every once in a while too.

There are times that getting positive results come from doing something that isn’t particularly pleasant. For instance, many people do not like exercising, yet, exercising is very good for us. In my experience above, I had to drink a very nasty concoction that left a bad taste in my mouth for the better part of 24 hours. It wasn’t a fun experience, but it was very good for me. I feel better. I feel healthier. It was worth the unpleasantness. Because of it, I want to eat better and treat myself with more respect.

If our physical bodies need cleansing, how much more do our spiritual bodies need soaping? My thoughts are not always Godly. My actions do not always portray the will of God for my life. My tongue does not always speak life. My heart does not always love. My actions often times give me away. I am a sinner, yet, I am saved by grace. I thank God daily that He loves me enough to show me the error of my ways.

Our children can attest to the fact that discipline doesn’t feel good. If we remember back to our childhoods, we know from personal experience that discipline hurts. Yet, we know that it is necessary. Without discipline, our children will not learn right from wrong. If we fail to do our job as parents, the ones that God has entrusted to us will have a harder time becoming the men and women God has called them to be.

Hebrews 12:6 states: “For the LORD disciplines those he loves, and he punishes each one he accepts as his child.” It doesn’t feel good getting disciplined by God, does it? I know. I have been the recipient of a holy “spanking” more than once. God desires for me to “clean” house. With His help I will think Godly thoughts. I will listen to His bidding and act accordingly. I will choose to speak life. I will choose to love. I will choose to live a holy life, submitted and obedient to the Holy Spirit. I know there will be times that things get messy. I also know that God will be with me, enabling me to clean up the cobwebs and dust, making my home fit for a King.

Thanks for taking the time to grow with me today!

Blessings!
Darlene

Praise God for Pig-Poo

2012-02-21T00:00:00.000-08:00

Have you ever heard someone say "Why me?" or, "Why am I having to deal with this or go through this?" To be honest, I don't know why, nor can I tell you I understand. Quite frankly, I can't understand unless it's a particular situation I've already gone through. I can only say, I'll pray for you, or I'm sorry you're having a rough time. Neither of these answers, while they are heartfelt, help take the pain or dislike away.

In Luke 15:11-32, we read the parable of the Prodigal Son. I know most people know the story, but let's recap, shall we?

A man had two sons. The younger asked for his inheritance. Although this meant that when his father died he wouldn't get anything, he decided he wanted it now. Instead of waiting. (Still relevant today, isn't it?) Like most young people, this young man probably thought nothing could bother him and all would be well in the end. He could do what he liked, no one could tell him he was wrong as he was a man now. (Sound familiar?) And he ended up squandering all his inheritance in riotous living. Did riotous throw you? He wasted it. ALL.

Luke 15:14-15 - And when he had spent all, there arose a mighty famine in that land; and he began to be in want. And he went and joined himself to a citizen of that country; and he sent him into his fields to feed swine.

Swine (pigs) were filthy and forbidden to Jews. So this shows just how desperate this young man was. But wait. It gets worse...

Luke 15:16 - And he would fain have filled his belly with the husks that the swine did eat: and NO MAN GAVE UNTO HIM. (<~ evidently, there was no welfare! But that brings up another whole thought. I'll save it for later) ;)

This young man, who started out thinking he knew everything, that he was on top of the world, ended up being so destitute and downtrodden that he was considering eating pig food. This man had hit rock bottom.

And here is my favorite part: verses 17-19 -
And when he came to himself, he said, How many hired servants of my father's have bread enough and to spare, and I perish with hunger! I will arise and go to my father, and will say unto him, Father, I have sinned against heaven, and before thee, And am no more worthy to called thy son: make me as one of thy hired servants.

He was READY to become a SERVANT in his father's house. He felt worthless. He was dirty. He had nothing left. He had finally learned humility!

Sometimes, when things are so very hurtful, the pain is deep, the wound is fresh, that's when we finally learn to lean on Jesus. That's when we learn that He's there, just waiting for US to come home. And I'd be willing to bet by the rest of the parable, that father was so very thankful his precious son had to deal with Pig Poo.

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If You Have a Finger, You Can Do It!

2012-02-20T00:00:00.000-08:00

If you have a finger, you can do it. If you have four fingers, a thumb, and an ink pad you can do it even better. What is the crazy lady talking about, you ask? Why fingerprint drawings of course. My daughter and I discovered our first Ed Emberley fingerprint drawing book at our local library, and what a fascinating time we had with that book. It was an older book, but Ed Emberley's Complete Funprint Drawing Book looks equally interesting. Since then I have learned that Mr. Emberley is author of over 80 books, two of them medal winners, with one of the most popular series being the drawing books.

Finally an art project that requires more imagination then talent. That is
most assuredly what this fairly inartistic gal needs. Turn any finger print into an instant picture with just a few squiggles and lines. Don't worry Ed's books are chock full of wonderful colored illustrations that even the most novice of artists can follow. Not only do Ed's books offer hours and hours of low cost entertainment, but they also afford the opportunity for you big kids to do something fun with your little kids. So get out there and create, create, create. And while you are at it, check out Ed's Picture Pie cut and paste book which looks like something I could do as well.

So ends another episode of Kids Korner with me, Children's Author Aileen Stewart. Join me next week for another exciting episode same krazy time, same krazy channel. And feel free to drop by my personal blog Aileen's Thoughts any day of the week for even more on reading, writing, and life in general.

Sundays with Kristi - Fruit of the Spirit - Love

2012-02-19T00:01:00.000-08:00

By Kristi Burchfiel

What does it mean to love?

The word love has taken on several meanings in our culture. The word love in the English language has been used to describe our feelings toward food, clothing, relationships, pets, colors, weather, seasons…you get the picture. Yet, when I say, “I love Mexican food,” I really don’t mean the same thing as when I say, “I love my husband.”

Love is the first aspect of the collective Fruit of the Spirit that is listed in Galatians 5:22-23. Love is mentioned often throughout scripture. For example:

1 John 4:7 – Love is from God
1 John 4:19 – We love because God first loved us
John 13:34-35 – Our first commandment is to love God and the second is to love others like God loves us
Romans 5:8 – God showed us love because while we were still sinners, He died for us

I could go on and on, but probably the most famous passage of scripture that deals with love is 1 Corinthians 13. Nicknamed “The Love Chapter,” it gives the most complete list of what love is and what it isn’t. We’re going to focus on just a few verses, but I encourage you to go back and look at the whole chapter. As an overview, the chapter can be broken down into 3 parts. The first part, verses 1-3, tells us what it’s like when we try to do good things without love (basically the equivalent of nails on a chalkboard.) The third part, verses 8b – 13, tells us that we grow in love and it is perfected in us over time. The middle section where we’re going to focus, verses 4-8a, describes the characteristics of love.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8a (NASB)
“Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly. It does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. Bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things, love never fails.”

That’s quite a list. I’ve seen these verses on posters, wall hangings, read at weddings, quoted and generally used as a “feel good” sentiment. However, I remember one time when a friend I loved had disappointed me. OK, that’s an understatement. I was hurt and angry and telling God about it. God brought me back to this list. I saw it in a completely different light and have never been able to look at “love” the same way. Let me show you:

Love is patient (because the people I love will test my patience)
Love is kind (even when no one is kind to me)
And is not jealous (no matter how nice someone else’s things seem to be, or how few things I feel I have)
Love does not brag and is not arrogant (because I realize that everything I have isn’t really mine and belongs to God anyway)
Does not act unbecomingly (because I will be given plenty of opportunities to act unbecomingly)
It does not seek its own (because this world will try to teach me to only look out for myself)
Is not provoked (because Satan will use people to try and “push my buttons”)
Does not take into account a wrong suffered (because I will suffer wrongs done to me)
Does not rejoice in unrighteousness (because it will feel like everyone else is)
But rejoices with the truth (because so few people will champion the Truth)
Bears all things (because I will have burdens)
Believes all things (because no one else will think it’s possible)
Hopes all things (because no one else will see that through God all things are possible)
Endures all things (because it will seem easier to give up)
Love never fails (because everything else will)

Certainly, the parts in parenthesis I’ve added, but you get the idea. God wouldn’t have had to tell us about the qualities of love if they weren’t going to be tested. If we never got frustrated, we wouldn’t have to have patience. If we never had any burdens, we wouldn’t have to practice bearing them. You get the idea.

As mentioned in the other verses above, God is love. God is the perfection of all these above qualities. God loves each and every one of us even though we have hurt God and caused Him to display all of these characteristics of love toward us at some point in time. Since we are to love others in the same way God loved us, I realized I had a lot of room for improvement. Thankfully, God is patient and forgives us as we learn to let Him love others through us with His perfect love.

RESPONSE:
“Father, Your love is amazing. I get frustrated, experience hurt, lose hope, and feel failure. Yet, because of Your love I, too, can love others even while experiencing all those other feelings. I love You and You love me. With Your help, I will display to others Your perfect, unfailing love.”

Think about times when people you love have done things that make it seem difficult to love them. Which of these characteristics is God allowing you the opportunity to practice? How can you show God’s love to other people?

What's Really Going on Here?

2012-02-18T00:00:00.004-08:00

by Dee Dee Wike

This week’s question is one that I hear often and one I myself have asked many times over the past few years:

If we are raising our kids according to the principles God has set forth in His Word, why are they falling into such rebellion?

We all know families, including our own, that suffer the heartache of living with prodigal children. As I have struggled with my own challenges parenting a teenager, I have observed that many parents, even the most devout and committed Christians I know, are dealing with the same issue. No matter how hard we try to bring up our kids to love God and walk in obedience to His Word, many of them are walking in blatant disobedience, engaging in self destructive behaviors that threaten their well being and our sanity. So what’s really going on here?

If we look to Scripture, it isn’t hard to find an answer. In 2 Timothy 3:1-5, Paul writes:

But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people.

Could anything more accurately describe our prodigals, whatever their age, and our society in general?

There is no doubt that we are living in the last days. We see signs all around us. Satan knows his time is short to steal, kill, and destroy any remnant of God’s goodness, especially in our children. He employs influences of many kinds to do his dirty work, including bad friends, social media, and entertainment choices. If you add up all the weapons in Satan’s arsenal, it is no wonder that we feel outnumbered and overpowered by the evil influences we battle day in and day out as we strive to raise godly children. What’s a Christian parent, or any parent interested in raising children of moral character, to do?

First of all, we must lean on God and stand on His promises like never before! Satan and all his demons are no match for God and His power. 1 John 4:4 says, “You, dear children, are from God and have overcome them, because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world.” We cannot give up the battle for our children’s souls. This is spiritual warfare and we must fight against the forces of evil which can destroy our children if we cease fighting for them. “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up” (Ephesians 6:9). No matter how difficult things get, we must love our children, invest our lives in teaching them God’s principles, and model what it means to walk in grace and godliness.

We also need to “carry each other’s burdens, and in this way (we) will fulfill the law of Christ” (Galatians 6:2). Said another way, we need to support and encourage those who are struggling with their own parenting challenges. No one suffers alone in the body of Christ. No one suffers in vain. Look for the purpose in your pain and resolve to “comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God” (2 Corinthians 1:4).

If we as Christians will pray without ceasing for our children, encourage one another through these difficult days, and train up our children in the way they should go (Proverbs 22:6), then I have hope that we will eventually see them return to the God of their youth and follow Him all the days of their lives.

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If you have a question you would like answered from God's Word, please email deedeewike@gmail.com or mail your question to: Dee Dee Wike, PO Box 193, Collierville, TN 38027-0193.

It All Depends on Your Point of View

2012-02-16T00:00:00.005-08:00

by Karina Harris

Writers have several options when choosing which point of view to use when writing fiction. Since I have no experience whatsoever with writing in the first person, this post shall be limited to the one suggested by most instructors (limited third person) and how it differs from one I have noticed in some other new writers' works (omniscient)...including my own. What's the difference, you ask? Allow me to explain.

A limited third person point of view allows the reader to know the thoughts of the main characters in a story.
The omniscient point of view gives the reader everyone's thoughts, sometimes including the writer's.

Everything I have read about point of view recommends the use of limited third person and strongly discourages the use of omniscient POV.

Most people who read fiction want to identify with a character in the story. They invest a part of themselves into that character, and for better or worse, say to themselves, "That could be me."

People can't emotionally invest in every character in the book. And if they are constantly made privy to the thoughts and motives behind every character, rather than better understanding the story (as young authors believe will be the case by sharing every internal detail), the opposite happens. The reader feels disconnected from all the characters.

Experts say it is better storytelling to choose to reveal only the main characters' internal musings. I have struggled with this personally. I wanted my readers to understand what all the characters in the room were thinking. I believed this better explained their actions. However, it was pointed out to me that since we as readers connect with only one character at a time, it is better to choose one character and relate the whole scene from his point of view. Now, as writers we can still show what other characters are thinking through the eyes of the main character.

Let's look at two examples:

Mike wanted desperately not to be the last person chosen this time. He stood as tall as he could, puffed his chest out as much as he dared and held his head high. Joe and Tim, the team captains stood at the front of the group. Joe looked at all the other boys, and picked the ones he thought had the best athletic ability. He hated to lose. Tim was more thoughtful. He didn't like to see anyone left out, and he had noticed that Mike was often chosen last.

This is an example of omniscient point of view. We know what Mike and Joe and Tim all think. And its difficult to connect with anyone, because we know what everyone is thinking! Let's look at the same scene strictly from Mike's point of view:

Mike wanted desperately not to be the last person chosen this time. He stood as tall as he could, puffed his chest out as much as he dared and held his head high. Joe and Tim, the team captains stood at the front of the group. When it was Joe's turn to choose, Mike made a concerted effort to make eye contact. He watched Joe scan the faces of the other boys in line. For a split second their gazes locked, and Mike held his breath. Then just as quickly Joe's gaze moved down the line. Mike let his breath out slowly, like a deflated balloon, as Joe remained true to form and chose the best pitcher.

Next it was Tim's turn. Mike's heart hammered in his chest and his hands felt sweaty as he waited for Tim to make his choice. He closed his eyes for a moment, willing Tim to see him, to really see him. When he opened his eyes, Tim was looking right at him. Unlike Joe, Tim's gaze didn't skitter away immediately. He seemed to ponder his choice carefully. Please, thought Mike. Please pick me.

Who do you, the reader, identify with? Mike, of course. We see the whole scene unfold through his eyes. We feel his emotions, and we long for him to be chosen as well. Do we still get a sense of Joe's and Tim's character? Absolutely. Can we imagine what those two boys are thinking by their actions? Yes. And yet we weren't told their thoughts...we were shown their thoughts through Mike's interpretation of their actions.

For more on this discussion, check out the following link from award winning author, Robert J Sawyer:
http://www.sfwriter.com/ow07.htm

Out of the Mouth of Babes

2012-02-14T22:10:00.000-08:00

If I pay attention, I can always tell if my son is about to say something that isn’t appropriate. For instance, one day while we were sitting in the waiting room at a medical office, he was staring rather hard at a really, and I do mean really, old couple. Maybe if I hadn’t of been so sick, I would have caught him before the inevitable happened. Then again, we wouldn’t have been there if I hadn’t of been so sick, so we were kind of in a catch twenty two.

He looked intently at the gentleman, who was hunched over and walking very slowly. My son took it all in and voiced exactly what he was thinking. “That guy is really old. He is about ready to go see God.” Now, I suppose that is a polite way of stating the obvious. I mean, he was really old. My son was not purposefully being rude. He wasn’t trying to be hurtful. He simply observed and he reacted.

How does a parent explain to a six year old appropriate speech? I mean, we are just getting the basics of appropriate behavior under control, at least some of the time. I know all of us as parents have countless stories of our kids saying the right thing at the wrong time. We get embarrassed over them speaking the truth. Being polite means we only say certain things certain ways. I admit there are times I wish I did not have inhibitions about stating the truth, up front and without apologies. In this politically correct world that is not an acceptable behavior. We might offend someone.

The Bible does tell us in Psalm 40:10 I do not hide your righteousness in my heart; I speak of your faithfulness and salvation. I do not conceal your love and your truth from the great assembly.

It seems to me this verse is the opposite of being politically correct. How about you? I will not hide my righteousness in my heart? To me that means, I should be sharing my faith. I should be sharing the gospel and the goodness of God. I should be showing the love of Christ and the salvation that only He can give. I should be speaking truth.

Does this mean I should make an announcement if a really, really old guy walks by me? Ah no, there are still some thoughts that should remain thoughts. But it does mean when important truths need to be spoken, we should pray and seek God’s will. If He is leading us, if our words are used to bring life, then we must speak.

Thanks for taking the time to grow with me today :)

Darlene

Valentine's Day, part two

2012-02-14T00:00:00.000-08:00

But as I was thinking, Valentine's Day encourages love. Love of all types exist. Love between a husband and wife, mothers and father and their children, and the list goes on. But when I consider just how much I cherish and love my family, I'm humbly reminded about God's love for mankind.

For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son; that whosoever believeth on Him should not perish, but have everlasting life. ~ John 3:16

This is probably one of the most well-known verses in the Bible ~ and it should be. As a mother that spends almost every minute of every day with her children, it tears me up to even consider giving one of my children up to pay someone else's sin debt. Yeah. Right. Ain't going to happen. I'm selfish that way, I suppose...

Praise God I don't have to though. He's already done it so I can either accept His gift of eternal life, or I can go along my own little merry way. And pay the price ~ Romans 6:23

The other night, a friend of ours loaned us his copy of the movie Courageous and it inspired me to write this post. Why? Because God can use any medium to reach someone's heart for Him. After watching, (and bawling through) this funny, heart-warming, faith-affirming, heart-breaking movie, I want to be even more dedicated to Him. In everything I do.

So, this is my personal contest for the month of February. Leave a comment, any comment on ANY POST written by ANY SISTER here, and your name will be added to the hat to win a DVD of Courageous. Tweet this giveaway for an extra chance! Trust me. This movie is that awesome. You're going to want to win it.

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Feeling The Love

2012-02-13T00:00:00.000-08:00

Since Valentine's Day is quickly approaching I thought I would share two books that express the idea of how much we love our children. But don't think that these books are only good for Valentine's Day because that is simply not the case. I Love You is a sentiment good for every day of the week, and so are these books!

I Love You to the Moon by Melissa Staehli is a beautiful story of a parent's love for their child. The watercolor style illustrations lend an added warmth to the catchy rhymes, and the extra large print and simple sentences are perfect for beginning readers. The size of the print made me want to point to each word as I read, which strikes me as something a child would find useful when learning to read. I would definitely recommend this book for children ages three to six.

I Already Know I love You by Billy crystal was a wonderful surprise when I read it. For those of you who wonder if an actor/director can write a children's book, the answer is yes. Mr. Crystal shares his thoughts about the impending birth of his first grandchild in a warm and touching way. This book would make an excellent gift for grandparents or expecting parents and a cornerstone for a new baby's library.

And although great book selections are of utmost importance, no Valentine's Day would be complete without a special treat. I made these treats for my daughter's first grade class on her birthday, and they were such a hit that I thought I would recreate them with red and white sprinkles for Valentine's. To make these simple yet delicious treats simply buy some pre-made Rice Krispie treats and pop them on craft sticks. Then put 1 and 1/2 cups of semi sweet chocolate chips in a large glass measuring cup. Add one tablespoon of vegetable oil and heat in the microwave on high for one minute. Stir until the chocolate is smooth. Dip the Rice Krispie bars in the chocolate and sprinkle with candy bits. Allow to harden in the refrigerator for ten minutes on a cookie sheet lined with waxed paper or parchment. Wallah, a fantastic treat in no time at all.

So ends another episode of Kids Korner with me, Children's Author Aileen Stewart. Join me next week for another exciting episode same krazy time, same krazy channel. And feel free to drop by my personal blog Aileen's Thoughts any day of the week for even more on reading, writing, and life in general.

Sundays with Kristi - Are You Fruitful... or Just Fruity?

2012-02-12T00:01:00.000-08:00

By Kristi Burchfiel

Have you ever wondered if a fruit tree can refuse to make fruit?

I’ve wondered that sometimes as I look at the lovely trees that create the wonderful fruit I enjoy eating. Now certainly, there are times when the weather gets too cold and freezes and the trees don’t produce fruit. Or, if they don’t get enough water, then they won’t be able to produce fruit. But I’m talking about a fruit tree that has all its needs met and all the resources at hand, but just simply decides that it doesn’t want to produce fruit.

In Galatians, Paul talks about the fruit that we as believers in Jesus Christ are to produce. Galatians 5:22-25 says, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. Now those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live by the Spirit, let us also walk by the Spirit.”

That’s quite a list of fruit. Over the next several weeks, we’re going to look at each quality mentioned individually, but today, I want to look at the passage as a whole. Two things stand out to me from these verses. First, the word fruit is singular, not plural. Paul is referring to one fruit, not many fruits. So, even though this lists nine different characteristics, we do not get to pick and choose which ones on this list we’d prefer to display and which ones we’d rather leave off (can anyone say patience!). Our life in Christ should be made up of a fruit that displays clearly all nine qualities listed.

Second, we have to allow God to work through us to produce this fruit. Our personal desires and passions will not produce this fruit. Motives matter. Producing fruit of the Spirit is not each of us trying to work up something or trying to do more, be more. Producing fruit is more about dying than trying. No matter how hard I try, I will never love like God loves, have joy like God has, patience like God, etc. But, if we belong to Jesus Christ, He produces this fruit in us and through us, we just have to get out of the way by dying to our own personal desires and agenda. We have to let it go. We will never be able to produce the fruit of the Spirit on our own, only by dying and allowing Jesus to live each day through us will we be able to see Jesus produce fruit through our lives.

Now, just like it would seem ridiculous to us to see a fruit tree that refused to bear fruit, even if all the right conditions were met. So, it must seem to God when we accept Him into our life and ask Him to be Lord over our life, and then refuse to allow Him to produce fruit through our life. Granted, I know that some days I’ve felt like I’ve been more “fruity” than “fruitful.” Still, I know that God loves me, forgives me, and wants to work in me so that even in my crazy, mixed up life, His perfect fruit is evident and points others to Jesus Christ.

Dear Jesus, some days, I’m like a fruit tree that doesn’t want to produce fruit. I struggle against You and try to do things out of my own desires and for selfish motives. Forgive me! I want my life to produce Your perfect fruit so that You may be honored and praised. I will stop trying and start dying to myself daily so that You may live through me. Help me overcome the temptation to take back control. I live in the Spirit, help me to walk in the Spirit. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.

RESPONSE:
What aspect of the fruit of the Spirit do you find a struggle in your life? How do you feel like God is working to make your life more fruitful? Share your thoughts below.

Don't Be Afraid of the Water!

2012-02-11T00:00:00.000-08:00

Hi, there! Hardly seems a week has passed since I posted the blog announcing the "Dear Dee Dee" column, featured Saturdays at Sisters in Cahoots! I am excited about this opportunity to serve you by sharing God's answers to your questions. I join my fellow bloggers in inviting you to stop by our blog daily (better yet, subscribe!) for inspiration, writing tips, humor, information, and fun!

This week’s letter comes from fellow author, Amanda Stephan.

Dear Dee Dee –

I have a question. When you're asked to do something out of your comfort zone, do you panic? How do you handle situations that seem so out of control that you just want to hide?

Wow, what a great question, Amanda! There are times when we are all called upon to do things that take us way out of our comfort zone. It is natural to be nervous and even reluctant to venture into the unknown. Just look at Moses! He felt like a wimp and even told God he was incompetent, but God used him to accomplish a God-sized task – to deliver the Hebrews from 400 years of captive servitude in Egypt.

Our great God has an amazing way of taking a willing (or in Moses’ case, an unwilling) vessel, pouring His power and anointing into it, and doing something that far exceeds our expectations and abilities. Whether our challenge is to stand in front of people and give a presentation or take on a project or job role we feel unqualified to do, we can avoid panic if we keep these things in mind:

1. PRAY – First and foremost, from beginning to end, pray about the situation and have others pray with and for you. God hears and answers the prayers of His children, and He loves for us to ask for help when we feel powerless. "And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints. Pray also for me, that whenever I open my mouth, words may be given me so that I will fearlessly make known the mystery of the gospel" (Ephesians 6:18-19).

2. PREPARE – Taking as much time as you have available (even if it isn't much), prepare by studying your material, knowing who your audience is (or what the task will require of you), and putting in writing at least the major points you want to cover in your presentation or the steps it will take to accomplish the task ahead of you. "Preach the Word; be prepared in season and out of season; correct, rebuke and encourage -- with great patience and careful instruction" (2 Timothy 4:2). "Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a workman who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly handles the word of truth" (2 Timothy 2:15).

3. PRACTICE – Use your notes and practice in front of a mirror, making sure to look up from your notes as often as possible. Try not to read everything word for word. Making eye contact with your audience will keep them interested in what you have to say. "I may not be a trained speaker, but I do have knowledge. We have made this perfectly clear to you in every way" (2 Corinthians 11:6). "Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last; but we do it to get a crown that will last forever" (1 Corinthians 9:25).

4. PERSONALITY – Put on a happy face! Smile! Be yourself, the unique and gifted person God created you to be. Use your God-given intelligence, humor, and gifting to build rapport with and engage your audience or the team of individuals it might take to accomplish your project. "Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God's grace in its various forms" (1 Peter 4:10). "Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!" (Philippians 4:4)

5. PRETEND (visualize) – As you practice, prepare, and pray about the challenge before you, pretend that you have succeeded in your endeavor. In other words, visualize how you want it to go and the results you want to achieve. See yourself speaking eloquently, acquiring the knowledge and skills to tackle that project, and know that you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. "Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened" (Matthew 7:7-8)

6. POWER -- Pray for the power of the Holy Spirit to encourage and give you confidence. "Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen" (Ephesians 3:20-21). "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness" (2 Corinthians 12:9)

7. PROMISES – Stand on God’s promises to be with you, to go before you, to give you the mind of Christ, to provide for you, to give you grace to help you in time of need, and to complete the good work He has begun in you. You are not standing at the podium or facing your challenge alone. He is with you! "Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature and escape the corruption in the world caused by evil desires" (2 Peter 1:4). "The LORD is faithful to all his promises and loving toward all he has made" (Psalm 145:13).

8. PRAISE – Praise God for the chance to make a difference in all you do and thank Him for seeing you through. Praise Him for equipping you to do that which He has called you to do. "Praise the LORD. How good it is to sing praises to our God, how pleasant and fitting to praise him! (Psalm 147:1)

Don't be afraid of the water! Step out of the boat with courage, knowing that Christ is there to help you succeed. Just remember to give Him the glory for all He does in and through you!

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If you have a question you want answered, email deedeewike@gmail.com or mail your question to:

Dee Dee Wike

PO Box 193

Collierville, TN 38027-0193

Read What You Want to Write

2012-02-09T00:00:00.000-08:00

I recently spoke to a high school career class about writing. One of the questions I received was, "How do I get better?"

One way is to study the type of writing you want to pursue. I write fiction. I have always loved to read, but now as an author, I also pay attention to how my favorite authors write. What is it that makes me want to read and reread certain authors' works?

There have even been times lately when I find myself wanting to treat a particularly well-written novel much like a text book...get out my highlighter and mark away with notes in the margins to help me in my own quest to find the perfect word or phrase or even twists for my own works. Now, please hear me say, I'm not suggesting copying someone else's words. We all know where that can lead. But studying the way they put words together, their use of vocabulary, the way they write dialogue, can all help you in your own writing.

Allow me to give a personal example:

I once read a post suggesting new writers tend to overuse dialogue tags. The writer gave several reasons why that was a bad idea; one of the main ones being that dialogue should be strong enough in itself so readers don't need to be told "how" it was said.

I wasn't convinced. So I picked up a couple of my favorite books and browsed through some of their dialogue. Guess what? The author of the post was correct! There weren't an abundance of "she said joyfully" or "he whispered softly" tags.

But don't take my word for it. Start purposefully reading your own favorites. How do they describe the setting? What words do they use to show emotion? How do they handle dialogue? You may just find for yourself another reason why you love that particular author...and can take those characteristics and practice them yourself.

Happy writing,

It's That Time of the Month!

2012-02-07T22:04:00.000-08:00

Alright, let’s face it. There is a certain time of the month when our husbands wonder who we are and what happened to their wonderful, witty, sweet, beautiful wives. Last week, my husband was asking that very question. The poor guy, I really felt sorry for him. I went from being mad to bawling my eyes out. He had no clue what he had done. I’m not sure I knew either, but I know he did something! Sound familiar?

The fact is, we women go through hormonal changes every month before our cycle that distort our thinking process, our logic, our feelings and emotions, our patience and our ability to simply function the way we normally do. I know you may take exception to these thoughts and differ with me, but if you honestly evaluate yourself, you will agree with me. I’m not saying every one of us experience all of these debilitating characteristics to their fullest extent every month. I am saying to one degree or another we experience one or more of these each month. There are months I simply get a little emotional. Other months I have absolutely no patience. I think you get the idea.

It seems as if God has thrown us a curve ball. Our physical bodies are leading us down one path, a path where our actions and our words are often times the exact opposite of God’s nature. And He’s the one who made us with all these raging hormones and fluctuating moods. That does not give us the right to follow our flesh. It does give us the opportunity to overcome our flesh and win the prize.

I Corinthians 9:24-27 reads like this: Do you not know that those who run in a race all run, but one receives the prize? Run in such a way that you may obtain it. And everyone who competes for the prize is temperate in all things. Now they do it to obtain a perishable crown, but we for an imperishable crown. Therefore I run thus: not with uncertainty. Thus I fight: not as one who beats the air. But I discipline my body and bring it into subjection, lest, when I have preached to others, I myself should be disqualified.

I don’t want to be led around by emotions and mood swings like a dog on leash…do you? I want to discipline my body and bring it into subjection. I want the Holy Spirit to lead me, not my flesh. It’s time we stop making excuses for ourselves and learn to be temperate in all things. It’s time we put an end to “it’s that time of the month!”

Thanks for growing with me today! Darlene

Valentine's Day, part one

2012-02-07T00:00:00.000-08:00

is only a week away. Wow, how time flies! It seems like just yesterday we were celebrating a new year and making all those resolutions. (How are they coming along, by the way? Have you kept yours? Remember, I didn't make any, so I haven't had to worry either way!)

Valentine's Day causes a bunch of different reactions. Some are a little more on the bitter side, while others are well, romantic, of course. I'm of the romantic-persuaded. Seeing hubby walk into the house with a bouquet of flowers and candy? Yep. I'm going to melt. Guaranteed. :)

But seriously speaking, where did this Holiday come from? Is it truly a Hallmark Holiday because the candy-makers and card companies wanted to make money?
Not for this romantically minded woman.

I did a search for Valentine as I've heard of a story about a young priest. And while the details are murky at best, this is what I've heard. (Of course, I don't claim this as concrete evidence. Only what I've heard.)

Valentine lived during a time when the Emperor of Rome, (Diocletian, I believe) decided it was better for his armed forces if the men weren't allowed to marry. Seeing this as wrong, as well as cruel, the young priest performed secret marriages of young lovers. Having been found out, he was captured and thrown in prison. (Wow. What a stiff sentence, right?!) Anyway, while he was in prison, he met a young woman, some believe it was the jailer's daughter, and he fell in love with her. Before his execution, he wrote her a letter and signed it, Your Valentine, which is the norm for adoring people still to use on this special day.

If you'd like to read more legends, myths, and stories about Valentine, here are a few places you can visit:
Wikipedia
History.com
TheHolidaySpot.com
There's a ton more, so search till your heart's content.
To be continued...Check back on February 14th, and see what I'll be giving away!

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Twice The Reading For Twice The Fun

2012-02-06T00:00:00.000-08:00

Hello everyone! Since this is my first official post as the host of Kids Korner - Mondays With Aileen, I thought I would give you twice the reading fun by introducing you to two great writers just getting started with their careers. My first guest is Sherry Rossman author of the book The Miracle of Rain. Sherry has created a wonderful story with The Miracle of Rain. You and your children will find yourselves rooting Nora and her cat Molly on as their friend Smickett the raccoon shows them that God has a purpose for even the loudest and scariest of rain storms. You won't be disappointed as you see how Nora is transformed from a fearful young girl into a fantastically happy one who dances to the rhythm of the rain.

My second guest is Maranda Russel author of Ode to Icky. Ode to Icky is a well written, funny story of a girl and her stinky cat with amazing illustrations that bring the story to life right before your very eyes. I read with interest, wondering what the outcome of Candy's perfume experiment would be. The only flaw I found with this book was that the ending left me wanting to know more about what Candy felt or learned from the incident.

My Read-O-Meter gauges both of these books as great gift ideas for children between the ages of four and eight. Well enough of my blathering for now, on to the interviews!

Tell us about yourself Sherry. Where you are from, How many books have you had published, how did you get your start, etc...
I'm from the land of cactus and cowboys, or Rimrock, Arizona. With such a wide expanse of country to play in, my imagination developed quickly and I grew to love creation - finding ways to reflect its beauty by drawing and writing. The Miracle of Rain is my first published book. I started writing because I loved to express my ideas with stories, along with drawing, but for the longest time I felt like those things were too unrealistic to pursue. Later, I realized that God is bigger than the rules that our culture creates for itself and decided to use the talents that He gave me. After a lot of perseverance and faith, I finally became published.

What were some of your favorite books as a child?

I have long since forgotten the title of one of my favorite books, but I remember the affect it had on me because that's where I discovered the word "autumn". Thinking that was a much prettier word than "fall", I started to pay more attention to books and the things that I could learn from them. As I got older, I fell in love with Judy Blume books and on to Louisa May Alcott who remains one of my all time favorite authors.

How long did it take you to get your first book published? Were there ever moments when you became discouraged?

It was seven years from the time I wrote my book to the time it became published. I was not looking for a publisher the entire time, but discovered that I could not be content until I did my absolute best to bring my story to life. There were many moments of discouragement, but something kept pushing me until I reached my goal. That was a great lesson for me to learn about purpose and the need to explore the reason why we need to be who we are made to be.

What made you decide to write for Children/YA age groups? Are you currently working on anything else?

I write children's stories for many reasons, one being that I love the world of imagination. I also have a strong desire to help children know the big picture in all things which is God. This way they will know they aren't alone when going through difficult times. I'm currently working on a new children's picture book about guardian angels – but not your typical book on angels – this one is told through the voice of Goodwin; a friend and observer.

What do you find the most difficult part of being an author?

The most difficult part of being an author is the time and energy spent on marketing my book. I want to spend the little time that I have to write my stories, not "sell" them. Writing is so much more of a business than I ever thought it was.

What are some of your hobbies, other than writing?

Like I mentioned above, I love art – painting especially. It's just another great way to tell a story. I also enjoy reading, of course, and fitness. I'm one of those people that actually enjoy exercising, although with two little ones at home, it's difficult to find the time I need to get into great shape.

What words of encouragement would you give to children who might not be great readers yet?

I would say to think about your favorite thing in the world, and then find a book about it. Many kids don't realize that there are books for everyone, but when they find them, they will discover a whole new world of cool.

Do you hold any other jobs outside of your writing? If so, do you find that this helps your writing or gets in the way?

Besides being a full time Mom, I work part time at a retirement resort. This job has helped me in so many ways – the World War II generation has seen so much of life – it's nice to gain wisdom from them as they reflect about their past experiences and present perspectives.

If you could meet one author, living or dead, who would it be? Why?

This is a difficult choice as I have so many authors that I admire. I'm going to break the rules and choose a few. Charles Dickens – he created such fascinating characters, I would love to find out what inspired him. Ted Dekker – He has the ability to connect with a side of life that many Christian authors don't discuss in their own writing.

Do you have any other information you would like to share, such as a website, author page, awards won, etc.?

I'm excited about my website which is currently undergoing a re-design. It will soon have much more to it that will give readers a better understanding of who I am and what I'm about. Please visit and comment, if you wish. www.sherryrossman.com

Hello Maranda. Tell us a little bit about yourself: where you are from, how many books have you had published, how did you get your start, etc...

I am from Muncie, Indiana originally, although I now live in Dayton, Ohio. So far I have had two e-books and one print picture book published. I have also recently signed contracts for two other picture books that will be released in the next few years. As for how I got my start, I have been writing for most of my life but it took many years before I was finally able to land that first contract.

Of all of the books you have written, does any one title or series hold a special place in your heart?

All three that I have published are special to me personally. In Memory of Dad was based on my own experiences after losing my father at the age of twelve. Weezie, the Elephant with Allergies was inspired by my work with children in the foster care system. Ode to Icky is a tribute to my fat and lazy (but loveable) cat, Einstein.

How long did it take you to get your first book published? Were there ever moments when you became discouraged?

It took years of writing, editing and sending out submissions before I finally started to have some success. I did get discouraged at times and even told myself I was quitting, but I could never stay away long. Writing is something that is either in your blood or isn't.

What made you decide to write for Children/YA age groups? Are you currently working on anything else?

The major reason I write for children and young adults is because I honestly still like reading books for children and young adults. When I go into a bookstore I am always drawn to the kids' section. In many ways I feel like I retained my childhood spirit.

What do you find the most difficult part of being an author?
Having to do public speaking events is very difficult. I am a recluse by nature and would rather stay at home and out of the spotlight. But in this field, if you want your books to be a success, you have to occasionally step outside of your comfort zone to make it a reality.

What are some of your hobbies, other than writing?
Reading, dancing, hiking, art, doing puzzles, shopping, watching movies and working out (yes, I am one of those weirdos who actually likes to work out).

What words of encouragement would you give to children who might not be great readers yet?

Keep trying. Reading the right books can really change your life for the better. If you don’t like a book, just try another kind until you find a genre you do like. There really is something out there for everyone.

Do you hold any other jobs outside of your writing? If so, do you find that this helps your writing or gets in the way?

Right now I stay home and write; but I am also a foster parent, which is a full-time job in itself. Between the writing, marketing, public appearances and foster parenting, I'm pretty darn busy!

Do you have any humorous stories to tell about being an author or dealing with the public?

What I find most amusing is that many people assume that once you have a book published you will automatically be rich. I wish that were true, but it’s just not realistic.

Do you have any other information you would like to share, such as a website, author page, awards won, etc...

Yes, my website is www.marandarussell.com. You can find lots there, including book reviews, author interviews, tidbits of my personal life, information about all my books, and some random stuff that is just for fun. I also have a Facebook Fan Page that I would love to have you all visit called Maranda Russell Writer.

Well thank you Sherry and Maranda for sharing yourselves with us today. It has truly been a pleasure to get to know you better. And to all you children and YA book junkies out there, stop by and leave some comment love for these wonderful gals.

So join me, Children's Author Aileen Stewart, next week same krazy time, same krazy channel. And feel free to drop by my personal blog Aileen's Thoughts any day of the week for even more on reading, writing, and life in general.

Sunday Mornings with Kristi - Welcome!

2012-02-05T00:01:00.000-08:00

by Kristi Burchfiel

I love to study God’s Word!

For me, that statement sums up so much of my life at this point. When I was asked to be a part of this wonderful team of ladies who will write and share their passions with you, I was honored and humbled. I volunteered to write a weekly Bible study. As I sat down to figure out where we’d begin sharing with each other in the Bible, I realized that the best place for me to begin is with my beginning.

As I said earlier, I love to study God’s Word, but I haven’t always felt that way. For many years, even though I had accepted Jesus Christ as my personal Lord and Savior, was in church every Sunday, and even married a pastor; I didn’t love to study God’s word. I would struggle through a “quiet time” trying to figure out what I was supposed to be doing during that time. Most of the time, I would just skip it. After all, I had been in church my whole life, graduated from a Baptist university with a ministry degree, and had married a pastor. I knew all the answers and even though I knew I was not perfect, I would have been hard pressed to identify my wrong-doings if anyone had asked. I thought I had already learned what I needed to know about the Christian life and I didn’t need to study any more. I couldn’t have been more wrong.

God got my attention. If you have ever had a time when God got your attention, you know exactly what that four word sentence can entail. If you haven’t, don’t worry, your time is probably coming. God uses several different methods to get people’s attention. For me, he took away something I thought I was in control of. He took away my control.

I’m a planner and organizer. I always have been, and it’s easy for me. I have plans and back-up plans and back-up, back-up plans. The way God got my attention was to have all my carefully laid plans crumble into dust while I watched, helpless. At the end of the cascading avalanche of my plans and dreams, I sat in the rubble, looked up at God, and angrily demanded He answer for what He’d just done.

Over the next year, God slowly unraveled me. Piece by piece, I was forced to examine my life as He laid it next to His standard of perfection. I was forced to admit and acknowledge my failures. I poured over scripture, dug through it, took copious notes. I held on to God because I was still so angry and confused that I was going demand an answer from Him, even if it cost me everything. I felt like Jacob wrestling with God (Genesis 32). Just like Jacob, I was rewarded with a blessing. Just like Jacob, I was left with spiritual scars that I'll carry with me the rest of my life.

God revealed to me two main truths during that time. First, it’s not enough to know His Word. I must be actually applying it to my life. Reading scripture, memorizing it, talking about it, all that means nothing if I’m not living it out daily. Second, no matter how hard I try, I cannot possibly hope to be able to live out His Word. I will never be able to plan enough, study enough, or work at it enough to hope to be able to apply His Word in my life daily. God’s truths were only ever perfectly lived out by Jesus Christ. The only way I’ll ever be able to live out the truths of God’s word is for me to surrender myself to Jesus Christ moment by moment so that He can live through me. That is my purpose. I am to die daily so that Christ might live His purposes through me (Galatians 2:20).

I never truly understood faith or trust until then. I also never understood hope or peace until then. I still struggle with my desire to be in control. It truly is a moment by moment battle for me. It is my most frequent prayer that people who look at me will see less of me and more of
Christ. This is my passion. This is my calling. Writing applicable Bible studies and devotions became the natural overflow of this passion as I seek nothing more than to help others to find and apply these truths to their lives by allowing Christ to live through them.

This is who I am. I am only a person struggling to let Christ have more and more control of me and my life. I felt it was important to start here so that you can know where I’m coming from. I look forward to sharing with you each Sunday truths from God’s Word as we all seek to learn more and more about God’s Word and how to allow God to apply it to our lives daily. I welcome your comments and feedback as we go through this journey together.

We’ll spend the next 10 weeks going over the fruit of the spirit found in Galatians 5:22-23. The first week will be an overview of the passage and then we’ll take each part of the fruit in turn.

Why do you study the Bible?

What's on Your Heart?

2012-02-04T00:00:00.000-08:00

Wow! This is an exciting day as we launch the "Dear Dee Dee" column at Sisters in Cahoots! I hope you will subscribe to the blog so you can read each featured author's contribution. The ladies who contribute to this blog have a heart for God, for you, and for ministry.

As surely as Abraham stepped out in faith at God's command to "Go!", I am stepping out in faith to see what God will do not only through this column but also in the lives of the readers and myself. I covet your prayers for wisdom as I seek God's Word for the answers to your questions.

You may wonder what qualifies this prematurely gray-headed gal to offer anyone sage wisdom for the dilemmas of life. First of all, that's not really what "Dear Dee Dee" is about. I'm not a Dear Abby or Oprah Winfrey or Dr. Laura. Rather, I am a servant of God who in her fifty plus years has learned that living a life surrendered to Him and anchored in the promises of His Word is a great adventure and the only assurance any of us has that we are going to make it through this life in one piece. That's not to say we won't emerge from the battle wounded and scarred, but by the grace of God we will emerge victorious!

The purpose of this column is really what the heart of my ministry is all about -- encouraging others with the truth of God's Word. Drawing on my own struggles in the areas of family dysfunction (I am a child of divorced parents), low self-esteem, financial management, parenting, relationships, marriage, and substance abuse, I offer you a heart sensitive to the hurt and frustration we all feel at times and the encouragement God gives us in His Word to make it through each day one step at a time.

I covet your prayers for this column, that God would direct me to the right words in His Book so that you may be encouraged and find grace and strength to help in your time of need.

It is our hope that you, the reader, will write in with your questions. While I won't be able to post each Q&A on this blog, I will endeavor to answer each question personally and to the best of my ability with the guidance of the Holy Spirit. Please email your question to deedeewike@gmail.com or snail mail it to: Dee Dee Wike, PO Box 193, Collierville, TN 38027-0193.

In the words of J. Vernon McGee, "May God richly bless you, my beloved."

For God and God alone,

Dee Dee

Sisters in Cahoots! ~ April McKinnon

2012-02-03T00:00:00.000-08:00

Meet our Sister Resident Reviewer, April McKinnon

I'm thrilled to pieces to introduce our Resident Reviewer, April. (Isn't she so cute?!) I met April a while ago, and I'm just astounded and tickled pink to call her friend. She's not only a great encouragement to me, but she's got an awesome sense of humor ~ just what I like ~ laughing with friends! On the last Friday of every month, April will let us know what she thought of a book she's read, if she liked it or not, and why. Always honest with her reviews and thoughts, you won't be disappointed.

Let's see what she has to say...
Would you like to tell us a little about yourself and what you'd like to see happen with your column?
~ I am an avid reader and have been since high school. When I was younger and had the time I would finish a book at least once a week sometimes more. If I had the time now, I would probably do the same! I love to review books for both adults and children, so I am hoping this column will give readers an idea as to whether or not they would enjoy the book or would allow their children to read the book.

What types of books do you review? Not review?
~I only review Christian books or clean books. I will not review books that are full of language or sexual scenes/encounters. I feel that to even knowingly read these types of books goes against my standards.

If an author were to ask you for a review, what is your review policy? And how can they contact you?
~I would love to review your book. My policy, again, is not to review any books that are full of language or sexual scenes/encounters. I also ask that you note that I review one book per month, so if there is a deadline on reviewing your book, please let me know so that I may schedule accordingly or decline if I am unable to meet the deadline. You can contact me at apesydaisy at gmail dot com

Do you have a favorite format for books? Why?
~My favorite format for books is in eBook format for my Kindle because it is so easy to carry with me. However, I still love to have a book in hand and will review books in print format as well.

There you have it! I look forward to reading her first post on February 24th!

Why Do We Write...And Why is it Important?

2012-02-02T00:00:00.000-08:00

If you hope to find the definitive answers to those questions in this post, you will be disappointed. However, I wish to expound upon both in this blog. Why would you be interested in my thoughts? There are two possible reasons: I am a published author, which should give credence, and I have taught writing in some form for seventeen years.
Each week I will post on the subject of writing. It may take the form of a tip I have learned when trying to cultivate my own craft. I will endeavor not to ask you to take my word alone, but will provide other resources that corroborate my opinion.
It may be a strategy I have used when nurturing the craft of writing in students, or an anecdote which reveals what has worked best for me (or not...). Hopefully my mistakes and lessons learned will help those of you who wish to spend more time teaching writing but struggle with the inherent challenges.
I encourage you, fellow authors and educators, to share your experiences as well. Like any blog, this one can only be stronger with interaction from you!
I will leave you with a partial answer to the title questions as they apply to me personally. I write because putting my thoughts down on paper (or computer screen) help me to sift through and organize the chaos that is my mind! Whether it a story that runs through my mind's eye like a motion picture, a biblical truth the Lord is trying to help me understand, or an emotional reaction to something that has happened in my life, writing helps me breathe. It expunges anxiety, calms excitement, and expresses joy in a way that my introverted nature has difficulty doing through speech.
That is part of the reason I write.
What's yours?

Growing in Christ

2012-01-31T23:32:00.000-08:00

What does the phrase “To grow in Christ” mean?

Since this phrase will be the focus of my Wednesday blog post, I thought it best we begin with the basic thoughts behind the idea.

When I think about growing in Christ, to me (and since I am the one writing this column) it means that tomorrow I should be different; better, stronger, wiser, more humble, closer to Him, spending more time with Him, more loving (you get the idea) than I was today.

It means that I am constantly looking for and asking the Holy Spirit to show me what needs changing in me. Where can I make changes that will make me more like Christ? Can I change a little something in my attitude? Is how I am speaking keeping someone from accepting Christ? Is my dress appropriate for a woman who calls herself a Christian? Am I listening to the Holy Spirit and heeding His voice?

There are so many areas of my life that need work. Yet, I can look back on my life and see that I am not the same person I used to be. I do not have a temper like I used to. My tongue is much more controlled (that was a tough one!). My flesh is learning daily that it is not in control. My thoughts are less self-centered and self-serving. I have finally learned what it means to be in one accord with Christ…to want His will and purpose to be accomplished in my life.

I remember when the scales on my eyes were taken off. I was sitting at the computer whining to myself and to God about someone who said they’d do something then not doing it. And how if that person ever needed help, they would be hard pressed to get it from me. All of the a sudden I heard the Holy Spirit whisper in my ear…but, what if it was my will that you do it any way? What if I would be glorified? Would you do it for me?

In a heartbeat, I said yes and I repented. That is when I realized that everything that happens to me, through me and by me is solely for His glory, not my own. And if He deems it necessary for me to clean toilets or change babies diapers, then I’ll do it. If it is His will that I continue writing books and speaking for truth, then I’ll do it. If it means I help the person who purposely hurt me, then send me Lord…for I will do your will. I want the Lord to be exalted by my words, my deeds, my attitude, my everything.

What does Jesus say about “growing in Him?”

Glad you asked!

"All scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work" (2 Timothy 3:16,17).

This is as good a description as any. We are to look to scripture as our instruction guide. Everything we need to grow is at our fingertips.

In almost every post you will receive teaching from the Word with practical applications for your life. Together, we’ll grow in Christ and become all that He has intended us to be.

Lord, I ask that you change me. Search my heart oh Lord and renew in me a right spirit. I do not want to be the old me. I want to look more and more like you, every day of my life. I want to see the changes in me and more importantly, I want others to see those changes in me. In your precious name, Amen.

Sisters in Cahoots! ~ Amanda Stephan

2012-01-31T00:00:00.000-08:00

Hostess of ~ Amanda's Grab Bag
Tuesdays with Amanda

Yes. This is weird for me as well. I'm introducing myself. To my blog. I can hear you now...Hello! Amanda! Have you lost your mind? Well, not exactly. Perhaps close, but it's not entirely gone yet, so please bear with me a little while longer!

So, just so you know and don't get confused, I'm the last of the Sisters in Cahoots! But, just in case you're a little disappointed, I've got my eye on at least one more Sister out there ~ you know who you are...

Just a quick little pass over my bio info. Of course, as you know, I'm a Christian romance author. I honestly believe that God can work miracles in multiple formats ~ devotionals, non-fiction, fiction, music, and more. I'm called to write Fiction ~ I've been writing for as long as I can remember, but what grabs my attention ~ and creativity ~ is Contemporary Christian romance.

What I expect to bring to this group?
Well, I guess I'd have to call it eclectic...I get sidetracked a little. Um, perhaps a little more than a little...Darlene. No comments, please! jk :) So, I thought I'd bring you a little bit of everything ~ crafting, marketing ideas, creative marketing, guerilla marketing techniques, recipes, reviews, friends, funnies, and sales
...I'm sure you get the idea. So stay tuned for Tuesdays with Amanda!

And, just like the rest of the Sisters, please feel free to check out my books ~ Click on the covers!

Lonely Hearts is only 99¢ at Smashwords...

Sisters in Cahoots! ~ Aileen Stewart

2012-01-30T00:00:00.000-08:00

Hostess of ~ Kids Korner
Mondays with Aileen

Everyone has a little time for fun, and we're glad to welcome Aileen Stewart to our chummy little Sisters in Cahoots! group. Aileen is a great friend and I'm tickled she's going to bring us our Kids Korner on Monday's.

Aileen, what would you like to tell picky parents out there?
I write children’s books for the eight to twelve tween group. I chose this group because I never really out grew my love of children’s books and this is an often overlooked age wedged between pictures books and YA fiction.

What can we look forward to with your column?
My column is Kids Korner where I will be sharing book reviews, author and illustrator interviews, and other assorted kid friendly items. My goal is to encourage reading by introducing fun, fresh, entertaining, confidence building, morally sound books that both kids and parents will enjoy. So come join the adventure and maybe you will find an adventure of your own!

Remember, click on the book cover below to get an inside peek at Aileen's book, Fern Valley!

Sisters in Cahoots! ~ Kristi Burchfiel

2012-01-29T00:00:00.000-08:00

Hostess of ~

Sundays with Kristi ~

Devotionals

Hi Kristi! I'm so excited to introduce you to our lovely group of readers here!

Can you please tell us a little about yourself?

I write Christian Bible studies and devotions. Honestly, I've never seriously thought about writing anything else. I enjoy being able to study the Bible and learn what God has for me. I believe God teaches each of us about who He is and what He has for us so that we can both apply it to our lives and share it with others so they can grow in their relationship with Him, too. I love seeing God speak to other people through the words and examples He's given me.

Would you care to tell us a little about your column?

My column is "Sunday Mornings with Kristi." My prayer is that God will use this time with all of you to share together in learning and applying God's truths. I want to share what God is doing in my life and showing me, and I want to hear your story and how God is using scripture to impact your life. I look forward to growing together with you!

I'm sure you're working on something new a fabulous. Would you like to tell us about what you're doing?

I have a couple of new works in progress. My new Bible study, "The Decay Within: A Study of Amos" is now available in pre-sales on my website and will officially launch April 10th. I'm also working at adding to "The Daily Devotional Series" ebooks and plan to have the devotions over Psalm available in mid-February.

You're more than welcome to click on the Book Covers below and read a little more about Kristi's books at Amazon.com ~

And check out her newest devotional, The Decay Within at her website at http://www.kristiburchfiel.com/ !

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