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	<description>Exploring the path to real love, with Imago Relationships International</description>
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		<title>Why monogamy – and what that has to do with couples therapy</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 15 Sep 2011 18:43:29 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tim Atkinson</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I am sitting right now in the offices of Imago Relationships in New York, an organization whose core values are about monogamous committed long-term relationships.  I sat up a little straighter when I came across a blog post on Psychology Today entitled &#8220;Why we think monogamy is normal&#8221; by Michael Price, PhD.   As someone who accepts monogamy [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Celebrating 25 years of Harville Hendrix on the Oprah Winfrey Show</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Aug 2011 19:41:18 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tim Atkinson</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Oprah Winfrey just released a special commemorative issue of her magazine to celebrate 25 years of the Oprah TV show, and Imago founder Harville Hendrix was featured as her #2 &#8220;Aha&#8221; moment. (You can buy it at the newstands or through this link) Oprah writes about how she saw her relationships in a completely new light after the [...]]]></description>
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		<title>MamaNatural likes Imago – and made a video or 8</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 27 Jul 2011 22:14:16 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tim Atkinson</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Relationship Advice]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[How delightful to discover that Genevieve and Mike of MamaNatural have made a series of 8 videos about Imago. Here&#8217;s the one I like most, where they demonstrate both how to fight, and how to dialogue.  Beautifully done.  The complete series of 8 cover the range of &#8220;Getting The Love You Want&#8221; and are a [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Schwarzenegger, divorce, and an old joke about directions</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 17 May 2011 17:38:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tim Atkinson</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Relationship Advice]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[The break-up between Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver reached such epic proportions of tragedy this week, that I prefer to start this post with a joke. I was visiting Washington, DC , and got horribly lost.  I asked a passer-by directions to the White House.  He looked me up and down and finally said &#8220;Well, [...]]]></description>
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		<title>How much are you “pretending” in your relationship?</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 15 Feb 2011 15:11:12 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tim Atkinson</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Couples Therapy]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[In the movie, Sandler’s character, a single plastic surgeon, pretends to be unhappily married in order to attract sympathetic women.The underlying premise is ‘I’m not good enough as I am’.   In real life, you might be surprised how many of do this subconsciously, and that can get in the way of real connection.  

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		<title>No couples therapy, no divorce!  That’s Wyoming for you.</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 31 Jan 2011 20:26:50 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tim Atkinson</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[“Mandatory counseling for couples contemplating divorce maybe a great way to salvage a relationship on the rocks, and avert behavior that poses a threat to an already fragile marriage” says Tim Atkinson, Executive Director of Imago International. “Take Scarlett Johansson’s husband Ryan Reynolds, for example. Right after their split he was seen cavorting with Sandra Bullock, his co-star of the film “The Proposal.” That’s bound to have added another lead weight to his sinking marriage,” Atkinson commented.

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		<title>I’ve loved you for 20 years…then I met someone else</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 19 Jan 2011 16:13:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tim Atkinson</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Celebrity Relationships]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Couples Retreats]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[After 20 happy years together, couples are still vulnerable to someone else coming into their lives.  How can you keep your relationship strong?]]></description>
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		<title>A world of difference about love and commitment</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 01 Oct 2010 21:04:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tim Atkinson</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Relationship Advice]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Love and politics have collided in my homeland.   I was back home in England last week, when the British opposition party elected a new leader, Ed Milibrand.  Right now Britain has a coalition party in power, which is always a bit shaky.  I heard a lot about Mr Milibrand on the radio as I drove [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Couples therapy – what a drag!</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 22 Sep 2010 18:52:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tim Atkinson</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Couples Therapy]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[In most couples there is a someone who is "dragged in".  We call them the draggee.   So you are not alone - you may even be a group that is nearly half of all those who go to some form of couples therapy or workshop.
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		<title>Are you married to a stranger?  Or your deepest friend?</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 13 Sep 2010 21:43:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tim Atkinson</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Then I read some advice from Steven Stosny in Psychology Today.  He talks about how couples get locked into a conflict about emotional needs.  "As long as they perceive themselves to have emotional needs that their partners must gratify, their desire to love is reduced to Getting my needs met,"   Steven reminded me of how often we are living on the surface of our relationships, caught in a game we don't understand, fighting to get what we each need]]></description>
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