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	<title>The Relationship</title>
	
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	<description>Exploring the path to real love, with Imago Relationships International</description>
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		<title>Imago relationship help just got a whole lot better</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 25 Aug 2010 16:50:07 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tim Atkinson</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[If you want relationship help, where do you start?  There's often quite an emotional barrier to picking up a phone and saying to a stranger "My relationship could do with some help."  It's hard enough to even say it to yourself.  ]]></description>
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		<title>Marriage Counseling online – by the masses</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 19 Aug 2010 22:00:02 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tim Atkinson</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Marriage Counseling]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Online marriage counseling meets Sienfeld!  "The Marriage Ref" is a TV show produced by Jerry Seinfeld where couples reveal their relationship problems, and a referee steps in to say who wins.  Now there's an online version.  And you can be "the marriage ref".  Or you can reveal your own disputes and see which side the world votes for.  Want to try it - just go to http://couplesspark.com/.  

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		<title>Why use validation in Imago Couples Therapy?</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 17 Aug 2010 21:57:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tim Atkinson</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[For those of you new to validation, this is what we call the second main step in a dialogue.  First you would mirror your partner, carefully repeating back what you had heard.  And then you "Validate", which doesn't mean any form of clerical processing, but just simply saying "You make sense, and the reason you make sense is..."

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		<title>Marriage counseling help – online is the new couch</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 22 Jul 2010 22:02:23 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tim Atkinson</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Marriage Counseling]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Getting The Love You Want]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Hardly surprising then that Tara Parker-Pope, writing last month in the New York Times  talks about how several groups are turning to online approaches to end marital strife.  Some approaches are based on the idea of an online survey, which measures your marital health, and points out areas where you might need relationship help.  Other approaches are more like Imago couples therapy, where couples learn to understand and accept each other more fully.]]></description>
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		<title>Good endings to relationships…perhaps?</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 23 Jun 2010 22:46:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tim Atkinson</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Japanese innovation leads the world yet again, this time in the field of relationships.  Ending them, that is.

Reuter's reports on ceremonies to end a marriage, held with family and friends around, and even a ceremonial gavel to smash the ring.  You aren't allowed to do that while it's still on your ex-partner's finger though.  

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		<title>Marriage advice for the United States of America</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 15 Jun 2010 22:54:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tim Atkinson</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[No, I'm not offering marriage advice to every citizen of the land.  But a good friend sent me an interesting piece of political writing from the New York Times, and pointed out the connections it made between Imago couples therapy and the way Professor J.M. Bernstein writes about anger.

Bernstein's article looks at what he calls "The Very Angry Tea Party".  Here's a quote. "This is the rage and anger I hear in the Tea Party movement; it is the sound of jilted lovers furious that the other — the anonymous blob called simply “government” — has suddenly let them down."
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		<title>Alanis Morissette wedding – congratulations from Imago</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 09 Jun 2010 23:26:41 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tim Atkinson</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Relationship Advice]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Alanis Morissette is one of Imago&#8217;s fans!  So we&#8217;re very excited to hear that she married recently in a small private ceremony.  So private &#8211; that it took the media two weeks to even find out about it.  But her relationship success adds a new meaning to the beautiful video she recorded showing her appreciation of [...]]]></description>
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		<title>When to give relationship advice, or not?</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 26 May 2010 20:15:02 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tim Atkinson</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Relationship Advice]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[couples counseling]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[The delight of being a blogger is searching for what to write about.  It sends me scouring the internet for articles of interest about couples therapy.  And in the process I came across a short blog post on psychology today which really got me thinking.  In the post, Joni Johnston PysD talks about three things to consider before giving relationship advice.  Since she is the author of the "Complete Idiot's Guide to Psychology"  I like her take on things.

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		<title>Couples counseling across the happiness divide</title>
		<link>http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheRelationship/~3/4ZNoriOowmk/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 24 May 2010 15:38:28 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tim Atkinson</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Regular addicts of this column may recall my obsession with connecting relationship help and happiness.   Voyagers to the mountain kingdom of Bhutan can enjoy a country whose success is measured in happiness, and that good relationships are honored as the best path to a happy life.

Unless you are a man who is happier than your wife.  
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		<title>Couples Counseling for the Shy perhaps?</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 20 May 2010 14:24:13 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tim Atkinson</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[The main result from Baker and McNulty was that if you are shy, you will find it just as easy to find a partner as everyone else.  But you won't be as happy.  There's a poignant twist.  Your partner maybe blissfully happy with the relationship, partly because you may be too shy to tell them that they need to shape up and meet your needs more]]></description>
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