The Road to Pampanga

Speak your truth quietly and clearly - Desiderata

2012-01-18T06:17:00.000-08:00

Speak your truth quietly and clearly.

Many of us avoid confrontations. Like me, I'd rather write you a letter than tell it straight to your face. Because of that, I am often misunderstood. Avoiding my confrontations most often than not leads to more disaster.

As my great dictum states, SPEAK YOUR TRUTH QUIETLY AND CLEARLY. No need to make a scene. No more misunderstandings.

I found these on marcestes.com, tips on confrontations.

Confront in private, not in public – Don’t create a scene, or embarrass someone. Have some wisdom and find a quiet place.

Don’t delay – The longer you wait, the harder it becomes and the easier it is to justify why you should leave it alone -

Deal only with a single iusse – Don’t bring a laundry list and attempt to address every issue that is on your mind. It may be overwhelming.

Don’t repeat yourself – Unless they didn’t hear what was being said, avoid be redundant. Most people comprehend the issues being presented.

Be careful of the words you use - Don’t be condescending and don’t exaggerate of overstate your issues.

Don’t confront issues that a person can’t change – There are some issues beyond a persons ability to control. Be sensitive to the battles you choose to face.

Avoid demeaning or tearing the person down - Talk to the person, don’t talk down to the person.

Help direct the person to acknowledging their problem by asking open ended questions - You might consider asking questions that cause them to own the problem.

Don’t apologize for being truthful – Being sheepish will only minimize the truth that you are trying to communicate.

End on a positive note - Reaffirm your support, thank them for listening and communicate your commitment to forgive and move forward.

As far as possible without surrender, be on good terms with all persons - desiderata

2012-01-09T16:44:00.000-08:00

IMAGINE ALL THE PEOPLE LIVING LIFE IN PEACE

-John Lennon

Remember what peace there may be in silence - desiderata

2012-01-08T08:53:00.000-08:00

do you still remember the last time you were still?

In silence, you hear yourself think

In silence, you hear yourself answer

Hitting rock bottom might force you to sit still. Be silent.

For in silence, you find inner peace.

Go placidly amid the noise and haste - desiderata

2012-01-05T21:59:00.000-08:00

I admire people who take time. In this day and age, you hardly find someone who actually savors every waking moment, WHO ACTUALLY SIEZE THE DAY. Whoever wrote the Desiderata probably had the best life ever lived.

In fact, I read a bible passage that changed my life.

This is from Eccl 3:1

Take time to think. It is the source of power
Take time to read. It is the foundation of wisdom
Take time to play. It is the secret to perpetual youth
Take time to be quiet. It is the opportunity to seek God
Take time to be aware. It is the opportunity to help others
Take time to love and be loved. It is God's greatest gift
Take time to laugh. It is the music to the soul
Take time to be friendly. It is the road to happiness
Take time to dream. It is what the future is made of
Take time to pray. It is the greatest power on earth
There is a time for everything.

Get rich quick scheme anyone?

2012-01-05T04:47:00.000-08:00

Just yesterday, I thought I was spammed.

I am spiraling over the turn of my life events because law school seems to be taking forever for me! I really need to make money. So I surfed the web for online jobs and actually found some. I registered but sadly, the income is depressing.

Data entry jobs makes you type 1000 characters before you can earn .30 USD = 12 PHP!
Paid to click websites pays you a tenth of a penny (0.01 USD = 43/100 PHP) for clicking an ad

I'm not sure if there are more securing online jobs out there but the ones I found are definitely not worth it.

Then out of desperation....

I came along this website http://thepaidtoclickmoneybooster.net63.net that gave me the feeling that this is it. I know! Most of you might think that I shouldn't have.

I clicked the Buy Now button. Paid for it. and waited...waited.. but no ebook.

I got so frustrated that I thought I was spammed.

I didn't realize right away that my payment redirected me to another page. So I got the download. I now know the secrets to PTC advertising. I just wanted to share this all to you. I finally found a legit online business.

thepaidtoclickmoneybooster.net63.net -- try the link. No risks. :)

The Happiness Project (Day 6)

2011-12-22T09:34:00.000-08:00

Find a reason to be happy

For weeks straight. I have been depressed. I am so down, I don't even feel like trying. Up to this very moment I am writing this, I am still depressed. It's the bitterness reigning over me lately.

and to end all this, I want to be truly honest with myself. I am sad because...

*Mommy has everything she wants. A new car that she promised to give me but never did but instead got one herself. A career. A lover who I hate the most. All the money she needs... And yet, I cannot understand why she can't let me be happy too? She's too proud when handing me money (making me feel even lower than I already am). She won't allow any of my guests in the house whenever she is not around (I have to spend money to host them outside). She doesn't want me to spend quality breakfast time with someone I really want to be with. I feel she's being too selfish.

But I also feel that I am being too narrow.

She deserves everything she has. The car she owns, she earned every bolt. The career she's in, she worked like a donkey to get into. And even if I hate her boyfriend WITH EVERY BONE IN MY BODY, she also has every right to love and be loved.

My mom, even as an uncompromising authoritarian that she is, I love her so much.
I'm happy because she has been blessed with another year of life. Turning 53 today, I can see her standing on the topmost pedestal. My mom is living a wonderful life and I should be happy for her.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO THE MOST AMAZING MOM IN THE WORLD!

Happiness Project (Day 5)

2011-06-29T07:26:00.000-07:00

Day 5

I fell in love with the wild waters

For a sweet escape, I went to a very special place.

Beforehand, I was too depressed. I am having an internal crisis. I didn't think it was possible for me. I was always happy. Always high. This weekend was not for me. I fell. My life was a wreck.

Who could have thought that the waves will wash away everything? It was definitely a sweet escape. I fell in love with the wild waters. and that love. that love is perfect.

A beautiful sunset

Happiness Project (Day 4)

2011-06-25T09:23:00.000-07:00

The RAIN

I was friggin' cold yesterday. So I called in sick and skipped work. Luckily, or unluckily, for me... the meeting was cancelled. (So wala rin pala. kala ko nakatakas na ko. hahaha!) Anyway, I was compelled to stay at the bed for hours to end. Then I really had to go eat.

I asked ate amor to buy me chicken... tatay taught me how to cook arroz caldo.

the photo above is too ambitious.. mine looks a little like this....

and the rain... it suppressed all of my depressions that day.

Happiness Project (Day 3)

2011-06-24T01:05:00.000-07:00

Day 3

Finding yourself a new motto

Don't Quit
When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest, if you must, but don't you quit.
Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don't give up though the pace seems slow--
You may succeed with another blow.
Often the goal is nearer than,
It seems to a faint and faltering man,
Often the struggler has given up,
When he might have captured the victor's cup,
And he learned too late when the night slipped down,
How close he was to the golden crown.
Success is failure turned inside out--
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far,
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit--
It's when things seem worst that you must not quit.
- Author unknown

My Happiness Project (Day 1)

2011-06-21T12:38:00.000-07:00

Day 1

Appreciate a new music

RESHMONU’S THE WAY IT MAKES YOU MOVE

It’s actually 3 AM and I am still enjoying the sound of this new high. It makes me happy because it makes me want to dance…even in the wee hours of the night.

"I like the way it makes you move… the way it makes you move…the way ot makes you move."

It’s on replay, baby.

The way it makes you move

My Happiness Project

2011-06-21T12:28:00.001-07:00

Today, I commit to look back at the little things that makes me happy.

This is my own happiness project.

As much as possible, I want to savor every piece of beautiful memory.

For 365 days, my blog will house life's simple pleasures like a beautiful song, a walk with your loved one, the drizzle of the cold rain, an ice cream shared with your dad... those kind of things.

Life could be too short.

Minsan Parang Tanga Lang

2010-12-05T00:12:00.000-08:00

Ang blogpost na ito ay nakasulat sa Tagalog dahil gusto ko munang tangkilikin ang sariling wika kahit sa isang sandali lamang.(This blogpost is written in Tagalog for my intention of honoring and loving my own language even for just a short while.)
MINSAN PARANG TANGA LANG - Dello of Fliptop

video courtesy of Youtube's DelloFansClub

Una sa lahat, dahil sa kantang ito ni Dello, at dahil narin sa dinami-daming magagandang awitin ni Micheal V, nais kong ipakalat na mahalin natin ang sariling atin.

Naisipan kong ipost ito dahil sobrang natuwa ako sa kanta ni Dello. MINSAN PARANG TANGA LANG. Ay, totoo. Ang tao nga naman, minsan parang tanga lang.

FLIPTOP - First Filipino Rap Battle League. Dahil dito, sumikat si Dello k

asama ng ilang magagaling na rappers tulad nila Target, Loonie, Zaito, Batas, Fuego, etc. Ito yung pinoy version ng rap battle nila Eminem sa 8 Mile.

A scene from the movie 8 mile. Audience cheering for rap battle.

Kung mapapanuod mo yung mga videos ng FlipTop sa YouTube, nakakaaliw nga naman talaga. Kaso medyo nakaka-off yung puro lang kabastusan at mura (no offense, Batas). Para di na kayo mahirapan, ito ang ilang links ng mga magagandang rap battle:
Dello VS TargetLoonie VS ZaitoBatas VS Fuego - ito yung ayaw ko.
Naalala ko yung conversation namin ni Ma'am Karen Davila (kahit di siya nagrereply para sa meeting namin tomorrow, idol ko parin sya), na maganda ifeature ngayon sa Krusada yung WORLD CLASS FILIPINOS. Naniniwala ako na world class ang ating mga filipino rappers. Hello, ang gagaling kaya. Kung barahan lang ang labanan, walang tatalo sa pinoy.

The reason why we are changing our primary photos on Facebook

2010-12-04T04:47:00.000-08:00

am ultimately sensitive of the issue of this blog post. I had to think twice before actually posting this.

Change your facebook profile picture to a cartoon from your childhood andinvite your friends to do the same. Until monday (December 6) there should be no human faces on faceb

ook, but an invasion of memories! This is for a campaign against violence on children.

The last count of child abuse cases in the Philippines was 4,456 on year 2007. Can you imagine four thousand four hundred and fifty six children b

eaten to death, harassed, maltreated, neglected and/or threatened beyond sanity?

SEVENTY SEVEN (77%) PERCENT of child abuse cases are rooted under sexual abuse.

Just so you know, there are four main categories of child abuse:

Neglect - Neglect happens when the responsible parent or guardian fails of his duty to provide the child the primary needs for living like shelter, clothing, food, and hygiene. A neglected child usually has these indicators: dirty skin, offensive body odor, malnourished body, tattered or over-sized clothing, and is frequently unsupervised.

Physical Abuse - As the video suggests, a real child does not bounce back, physically abused children suffer severe aggression and injury from their own parents or guardians. It can involve kicking, slapping, punching, and its worst case, strangling and killing.

Emotional Abuse - Emotional abuse could be defined as name calling, ridicule, degradation, and destruction of personal belongings of an adult to a child. There is a much wide range of variety categorized under emotional abuse. Thus, making it very difficult to box.

Child Sexual Abuse - This is a form of child abuse wherein an adult utilizes a child for his/her sexual pleasure. It could involve pressuring a child into a sexual activity, touching a child's genitals, indecent exposure, and forcing a child to view pornography. Below is a video of child sexual abuse courtesy of Prithvi Ministries Activities.

I, too, have been maltreated in a way I don't ever want to disclose. At whatever cost, I will fight against child abuse and seek justice to all that is concerned. This is my crusade.
One more thing, the victim almost always becomes the perpetrator. To all parents out there, adults, and guardians, please realize that the child you have is the parent of tomorrow. Whatever example set upon him will be exemplified and executed to his future children and the children of his children. Trust me, I should know.

THE PROBLEM WITH HOUSING AND DIGNITY

2010-12-03T22:00:00.000-08:00

Did you know that only ¼ of our entire nation population have decent shelter? The rest of the rate is living on urban slums, makeshift homes, and government owned lands. End of the day, they get demolished, deprived of a home, exiled to an unknown relocation site without the necessary means of living like water and electricity.

I have observed that slum residences almost always lack a decent toilet, a private room, or a clean kitchen. I honestly feel that dignity is robbed from them because of their situation.

Take the case of Ate Monica, a woman around her thirties. Amazingly at the size of their makeshift home which is approximately less than 20sqm [probably the size of your garage], the members of her household is the same number as her age, 30. We question their dignity in the light of not having a private area to change clothes, to pee, to poop, and to have sex. We question their dignity because only three of them have a job, a sense of responsibility in their case. We look at them as if they are also deprived of hope and respect.

HERE COMES THE PROBLEMATIC PART

But a home is still a home. No matter how small. Who are we to judge that dignity is lost without a home? Nothing is lost if we never had it in the first place. What if I’m born without a hand, without sight, without voice? Will I ever feel that I’m deprived of something? If I never had it in the first place.

It backfired to us that maybe people without a decent shelter never really cared about having one. Sure, it might occur to them to aspire. But that doesn’t mean that it makes them a lesser person. Dignity is a God-given gift, inalienable to any person.

Is it a reason then, that without a home, you lose your dignity?

THE DELIGHTS AND PERILS OF ONLINE DATING

2010-08-19T23:46:00.000-07:00

Yes, with the internet and the connectivity, we could finally find an answer to the perennial question – “When will I ever find my true love?” It may seem interesting for a normal person in search of a soul mate, but it does have many risks and uncertainties on its back. For a five minute read, find out the most important online dating pros and cons.

Online dating delight number one. Men, women, and complicated genders of all ages could literally specify the qualities they like for a lover. Do they want a male, a female, or someone who doesn’t smoke? This kind of person could be found in one tick of a box. But lo and behold, for here also lies online dating peril number one. Amidst the convenience of finding the perfect match in one check, one could never be completely sure that the ticked boxes ultimately represent the person hiding behind hot_chic24. For all we know, this hot chick number 24 could be a swindler for a black market at Iraq, 2006-present. Tip: Be on the lookout for someone who is too good to be true. Remember, those kinds of people will not need an online dating site to find a date.

Internet dating delight number two. Everyone is pretty sure that each member of an online dating site is well, looking for a date. It’s like gazing upon an open aquarium of untamed fishes. It’s good to know that a hundred-fold of other people are also desperate to find a partner, a lover, or a fling. For sensitive people, internet dating peril number two could be such that not every person available in an online dating site is serious. Some of them only want phone sex, IM sex, or even a one night stand. There is no need to rush anything. Take some time to know who the person really is, and of course, don’t forget to dive into his real motives.
Online dating delight number three. Finding dates across border and time is fantastic! No one is limited to one’s zip code anymore. If one wants a date from California, one gets a date from California. New Zealand? China? Australia? Yes sir, the internet got that covered. It’s as easy as one two three, the net guarantees, you’ll get your lover from me. The peril here is that by being really, really honest on your state address, you could never be too sure that you are safe come midnight. Some find it interesting to spy, to harass, and to interfere with the private lives of the people they met online. So be careful.

The internet answered YES to the never ending inquiry of finding a true love. It is indeed possible online, noted that it is the right time and the right person. And the next question should be – “Given its delights and perils, should I try online dating?” Of course you should! Unless married or committed, you deserve to have some fun once in a while.

My media

2010-08-04T03:42:00.000-07:00

I temporarily found my place in the professional era, the Kung Kaya Mo, Kaya Natin Ito Productions. The first few days were brilliant! I got to go out and meet people from the media. But then they appointed me as a news writer/copywriter. I thought, hey, this could be a good thing! But then, I couldn't get out anymore. I stayed at the office the whole day. I was prepared to sacrifice anyway since this is a news team, this is where I wanted.

We recently had a meeting with the big boss. He reprimanded a colleague of mine because she was asking the wrong questions to the interviewees. It seems like she was suppose to ask the same questions to every single person she will interview. On her desire to veer away, she consulted the boss. He told her, "Wag mo masyadong dibdibin yang media ID mo. Front mo lang yan para makapasok sa Government Agencies." It shot me like lighting. What the hell?

So yeah, we are not an official news team. However, I wasn't bothered much since I get to write feature stories about government officials. But days passed by and I realized I wasn't writing relevant and timely topics anymore. I was writing proposals, segments, invitation letters, and website copies. I am doing the website copy for almost three days and it is starting to piss me off because this isn't part of my job description as a radio reporter/media assistant - not at all.

So if you're wondering, what's this company really... It is a man-power agency that uses media as a marketing strategy. Yes, we are a genuine production house. But boo y'all, we don't make our own questions -- they are based on a template.

I'm bored. I want to resign and apply for a real news team. But it is still uncertain out there. Plus work hours here are so unjust. We're working for 13 hours straight without overtime fee!

Career hunting

2010-03-13T21:35:00.000-08:00

It's hard to build up a career if you have a specific one in mind. I want to become a news correspondent. But it seems like employers want someone who has an online presence. Well, Im about to build mine.

There's facebook,

There's multiply

And there's blogspot

SO HELP ME GOD.

ostrich find your way out

2009-09-20T05:25:00.000-07:00

assign for photog

BOOKS IM READING

2009-09-20T05:19:00.000-07:00

i smiled a little bit more (from my i yebah blog, 2006)

2009-09-08T21:07:00.000-07:00

As i sit here..
Waiting..
Playing d0zens and d0zens of my favorite s0ngs.
Here I am again
Trying t0 pour out everything
Just f0r the sense of Letting my heart breath..
Yes.. It can't s0metimes...
And i will have t0 pull myself over just to give it s0me air..
And if you may ask,
What is this I linger?
Wait for that cl0ck to start ticking faster
Until it reads ten thirty
Until this teleph0ne rings…
And then s0ftly hear the v0ice of that person who gave me the same reason to let my heart breath…
And Let it stop there..
Stop within the warmth of his sweet thoughts..
Stop so that he could steadily grip and hold on
For everyone to see..
Each twinkle and every flicker of these eyes
The sinuous sparks from my smile
That was carefully drawn by no other
And if I may be asked again,
What is this for?
This absurd elucidation of my feelings
Of course.
Simply but to brag about everything
he causes..
about everything
he gives..
about everything
he makes me feel
and I know,
I HAVE NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED OF
Or at least to be scared of
For I am loved.
And I am proud of it.

Faith is blind

2009-09-07T07:16:00.000-07:00

"Faith is walking face first and full speed at dark"
-Elizabeth Gilbert, "Eat, Pray, Love"

Gilbert is right, you don't see them, you don't feel them, you don't even hear them yet you believe. What good would it give you to belive anyway? I always feel that there's hope for everything and that hope is harbored by faith. Without faith, how can you even hope?

It's wrong to say that love is blind for love always sees. It sees the differences and mends them, it sees the beauty and appreciates them. But faith could never see, nor hear, nor feel. Faith devoids you of all your rightful senses. But it utters you to believe.

it feels so good to be inlove

2009-08-27T19:28:00.000-07:00

I don't know how or why, I just know I love this person. He makes my heart skip a beat everytime he shows up. He makes me forget all the troubles I'm in or I've been. Even if he comes in an untied package, I love him to death. He corrects my mistakes even if I kept on doing them. He is learning to understand me everyday, which gives me hope of the bright future ahead. All the time I've been with many guys, I never thought that I'd be perfect to stay with this one person all my life.

"...to get to you I'd walk a thousand miles..

my love is all i have to give, without you i dont think I can live. "

I love my angel super. I don't know what I'd do without him. He has become my everything.

DAGA!!

2009-08-27T19:20:00.000-07:00

GRABE! nagulat ako to the nth level. everytime kasi bubuksan ko aircon ko, maraming lumalabas n styrofoam? akala ko kung ano lang yun. pero this time, malakas yung ingay.. tapos hindi styrofoam ang lumabas.. ISANG DAGA! isang daga na pinagkasya ang sarili sa loob ng aircon. nagulat ako talaga. ayoko na dito sa kwarto ko! pinamamahayan na ng mga daga! OMG!!!

A qoute for the day

2009-08-13T08:42:00.000-07:00

To be anxious is to live in the future,
to be depressed is to live in the past.

I say, try to enjoy every living moment. Try not to think about the weary past or the dreadful future ahead. After all, what's left of you is what you are today. None of us are ever measured by our pasts or our future. :)

look at me, im so vain

2009-08-12T09:04:00.000-07:00

MY MANY FACES :))