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Joint Seminar with Illuminatus & Aaron Sleazy / Nottingham, England / 27th August 2011

Aaron Sleazy — Sat, 06 Aug 2011 11:32:59 +0000

Hello,

it is my great pleasure to announce my upcoming seminar with Illuminatus aka. Corvette. If you have first come across my articles when I was still actively posting on seduction forums, you have surely read some of his writings as well, and if not, I urge you to check out his homepage as he has written a great number of interesting articles, and recently he has released his first book, too. Please note that this will be my only seminar in 2011.

Illuminatus will speak on overcoming social anxieties, a topic most relevant for seduction. My talk will be based on my upcoming third book, in which I will outline the by far clearest, simplest, and easiest to implement "method" of seduction. It will blow your socks off!

The full announcement is attached.

Best regards,
Aaron Sleazy

Full Announcement

60 Years of Challenge, Top 10 PUA of 2010

TheLetter — Thu, 30 Dec 2010 23:45:32 +0000

Congratulations to 60 Years of Challenge, who has been named to TSB Magazine's Top 10 PUA List for 2010!

The Seducer's Newsletter Volume 1, Issue 7: The Game Plan

TheLetter — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 17:51:58 +0000

Table of Conents

The Game Plan, by 60 Years of Challenge
Some Nights There is Zero, by Aaron Sleazy

The Game Plan, by 60 Years of Challenge

It's not the girl it's the game plan.

The strategy stays the same. Screen out the uninterested girls quickly. Escalate fast. Drag her away. It's so simple. But sometimes we unnecessarily complicate things. What do I do if she is being difficult? What can I say if she has a boyfriend. What is the hidden secret for getting the 10's?

For every cute girl with a boyfriend that is giving you a hard time, there are ten others just as cute who don't have a boyfriend who would love to be hanging out with you. For every ONE frumpy girl that won't let you kiss her there are three other really fun girls who gladly will. Why spend valuable time trying to change women with bad attitudes, rigid rules and weird hangups. As Paul Janka said "difficult women remain difficult".

Guys always ask - what is the secret technique for getting the really hot women. There is no secret technique. You do the exact same things. The only difference is you may be more intimidated to do them because you think she is so beautiful. But there is really nothing special you need to do. You still hold her gaze. You still get close quickly. You still grab her hand and don't let go. You still escalate the vibe, tap into sexual tension and drag her away when you know it's mutually on. That is always the game plan.

You're hanging out in a trendy neighborhood in NYC. You still screen out the time wasters. You are on vacation in Italy. You still escalate quickly. She is a high-powered attorney and graduated from Yale. You still drag her off. All of these labels like "exotic dancer" , "the girl of my dreams" , "it's different because she is _____" just confuses guys. There is nothing different you need to do.

One of the best things I learned from my friend Sleazy is that "some nights it's zero". And what that quote means to me is that you stick to what works and you don't change your strategy for every single girl. Be patient, stick to the plan and you will see results. I would rather have a night where nothing amazing happens than run around talking to everyone, waiting hours to make a move and trying to convince women with boyfriends or hangups about sex to go home with me.

No thanks. I'd rather stick to the game plan.

A game plan that has been proven to work.

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Some Nights There is Zero, by Aaron Sleazy

Even though I distance myself drastically from the mainstream seduction community, it provided me with two key insights early on, which changed my “game” --- and my life --- forever. One was that you could simply go out and talk to girls and didn’t need to wait for any kind of chance encounter or divine intervention. Instead, you could make your own luck. The other key insight was much more specific. It was the step from “I can make my own luck” to “This is how I make my own luck!” I have done this by being more systematic about my approaches. Sure, some people advocate doing “warmup sets”, but imagine this situation: You are trying to entertain a group of girls you don’t feel attracted to and are practicing the “delivery of your routines”. Meanwhile, you notice that at the far end of a bar a really attractive girl orders a drink --- and before you can “eject from your set”, some other guy has made a move already. She smiles as she sees him, giggles, now it’s one minute later and they are making out…

No, you don’t want to be the guy that goes around providing free entertainment to girls that wouldn’t even get him hard! There are much better role models available than that. Well, even though mASF has gone down a cliff in recent months, this site still provides great value in some of the archives of the ancient posters, guys such as MrSex4uNYC. (No, as many great seducers, he doesn’t post there anymore.) In one of his articles, he wrote that before he does his first approach, he mentally ranks the girls in his head and then starts with the most attractive, working his way down to the bottom of the list. Admittedly, this is a relatively systematic or maybe even robotic approach, but it is a sound game plan. Obviously, if you have approached every attractive girl in the club but still didn’t get anywhere, you do what doesn’t seem obvious to many guys: you cut your losses and go to another venue. The loser strategy is --- similarly to the guy doing “warmup sets” --- to stay in the venue and approach girls that don’t even turn you on, or waiting for hot girls to show up.

This now leads to the quote by Sixty above: “On some nights the number is zero.” The full context of this statement is that I don’t follow a rigid structure a la, “approach x girls a night”, but simply girls I feel drawn towards, no matter how many there are around. In a small venue, on an off-night, the number might indeed be zero. On the other hand, in a big crowded venue, it could be several dozen. A reasonable “game plan” takes those factors also into account. This doesn’t mean that you can’t go to a dive bar and have a beer, but if your goal is to get laid, you better have a different approach. Chose your venue, keep your game plan in mind, and you stick to it!

Books

Sleazy Stories, Aaron Sleazy

The Complete System, 60 Years of Challenge

The Seducer's Step In, TheLetter (Coming 2010)

Phone Consulting

Seminars

Seminar In London, TheCostOfSuccess
Club Game Mastery, Aaron Sleazy
Fast Sex Seminar, 60 Years of Challenge

Live Instruction

Live Coach, 60 Years of Challenge
One-on-One Training, Aaron Sleazy

Audio

Elite Audio Club, 60 Years of Challenge

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Release: Debunking the Seduction Community

Aaron Sleazy — Tue, 27 Apr 2010 21:59:27 +0000

The subscribers to my newsletter heard the news first, and now it is time to announce the info on TheSeducers.com: "Debunking the Seduction Community" is done.

Download it directly from my website. It's a PDF with 400 KB.

For a short description, check this page.

Key points of this book are:

Commercial foundations of the seduction industry
Why game is not the "great equalizer"
The disastrous role of Neil Strauss' book "The Game"
Why phone numbers and make outs are red herrings for seduction
The unfortunate marriage of new age and the pickup scene
A very simple overview of seduction and how it really works

Enjoy the book, and please let me know what you think! You can post comments on my forum or send me an email.

New 60 Article at TSBMag

TheLetter — Thu, 15 Apr 2010 18:59:32 +0000

I'm sitting in a local coffee shop with Sixty, and just noticed something pop into my RSS reader. tsbmag.com has published Sixty's latest article "Getting Over Your Fear of Escalation". Check it out, and leave a comment to show your support.

The Seducer's Newsletter Volume 1, Issue 7: Guiding Your Personal Development

TheLetter — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 02:53:24 +0000

Personal Development Traps To Avoid, by RagsToRich
Looking Back and Moving Forward, by Aaron Sleazy
Making A Change, by The Cost of Success
Accountability in Personal Development, by TheLetter

Personal Development Traps To Avoid, by RagsToRich

Who I am today bears little resemblance to the person who first typed “how to attract girls” into Google, and was brutally awoke to the reality of who I was. See for me, discovering pick-up wasn’t like waking up to a world of riches to be plucked, I awoke to the messy reality of the person I was. It was clear that before I even started thinking about women I had some change work to do.

What we’re talking about here is someone who had only ever worked in retail, chain smoked, had very few friends, and was basically a loser with some unrealistic fantasies about sex. Comparing that person to someone now who has a well-paid corporate job, is starting their own business, gets sex with new girls frequently, has an abundance of really great friends, and is doing some very exciting and cool things with their life.

The smelly bedroom nerd who goes out night after night with no social skills trying to ask women their opinion gets nowhere slowly. Personal development is crucial. You have to learn to be cool socially – that means changing habits and trying new things.

But as long as you’re improving as a person, there are several challenges that will need to be overcome again and again. Being aware of these “traps” makes that a little easier and ensures you’ll reach the end goal.

Two examples:

1. Being frustrated when elements of your old self crop up.

Habits can die hard, especially social habits. You have to be very tolerant of this as you change yourself. You can’t expect to polymorph over-night and likewise you can’t micromanage social habits. You have to change these things slowly. If you start thinking about every little thing then you’re heading very quickly for a world of pain and self-consciousness.

So the trick… let go. Expect nothing. Leave your self-analysis for back-home – when you’re out interacting with cool people just have fun. If you do something weird which is some old habit you had, just make a note and move on. Tackle it later. You’ve got to go easy on yourself.

For example I used to have this really nasty streak where I’d start to vent venomously about how bad things were for me (public self-pitty… not an attractive quality). I realised it needed to go of course, but making that decision was not the last time caught myself falling into the habit... no, I did it many times after that. It died slowly.

It took a little self-awareness, but self-acceptance and patience were absolutely crucial to my success.

2. Feeling defeated, feeling confused about what you need to do, and feeling like you’re getting nowhere.

You’re going to fuck up. Accept it. Things will go wrong, again and again. No-one succeeds with everything they try and do. You may have shit nights where you end up thinking “what do I do now?” and have those feelings of being lost and confused.

It happens to everyone on their journey – just roll with it.

The trick is to learn to pick yourself up. Accept how you’re feeling, let it go, subtly alter some of the things you were doing, and try again. Don’t be tricked into thinking you haven’t improved, that’s just how defeat related emotions can make you feel.

Approach development with an attitude of limitless persistence, but also changing your approach when things don’t work.

Think of an inventor. They fail 100 times, but every time they make an adjustment, then they get it right once and that’s it – they’re a big success.

I know people who’ve been at this for years and they’re still exactly the same dude they were when they started. I also know people who started a journey years ago, and then gave up because they either became too frustrated or too dejected.

Don’t be like either of these people. Realise you have to change, and approach that change with patience and persistence.

RagsToRich regularly writes articles on personal development at his website The Real Mind.

Looking Back and Moving Forward, by Aaron Sleazy

An interesting aspect of progress is that you might very well feel as if you are not progressing at all. In mid-2008 I remember that I went home rather frustrated. I had about a handful of great interactions with girls, and if I recall correctly, I made out with all of them. For some reason, though, nothing came from it. I had lost them at one point or the other. The usual reasons: escalating too hard, cockblocking, has to get up early the next day. In a just world I should have had sex with all those girls, but the actual results were less than glorious.

In moments like those it is easy to throw in the towel. No matter what “skill” you are working on --- learning a language, picking up a new sport or, heck, even seducing women --- roadblocks are unavoidable. Luckily, I kept a journal, which was the main reason I didn’t jot this night down as a “disaster”. As I looked back, skimming my “field reports” from three months back, I realised how incredibly far I had come. Once lucky to end up kissing a girl, was I now routinely “isolating” if not “extracting” them. Also, this recap motivated me far beyond that. My mentor Nashvilleplayboy from mASF said, “Have a look at those old reports again. It will blow your mind.” It really did.

None of us gets good overnight. This is also one of my objections against boot camps that promise you to turn you into a lothario in the course of a meagre weekend. We all take one step after another. We all hit roadblocks, and we all have those moments in which we ask ourselves whether all of this is really worth the effort. The standard path, i.e. settling for a random girl, doesn’t look that unappealing at times, and I understand why so many men do this. However, every time you push past your imagined limitations and reach a higher level, you will be fueled even more.

This did wonders for my game. As probably most guys, I started out with some rather vague goals, like “getting more sex” or “getting a girlfriend”. Then I focussed on getting just one “same night lay”. For some reason those kind of hookups have a certain mystique around them. Eventually, I got bored of those as well, and I began to really push the boundaries of how far I could get with a girl right here and now. The rest, as they say, is history.

Joint Seminar: Aaron Sleazy and 60 Years of Challenge

Hosted by TheLetter
7PM on April 15, 2010
In Pittsburgh, PA
More Info

Making A Change, by The Cost of Success

Why should you make a change?

Well, its all about making the world more what you want it to be. What we all imagine it could be. Now, I would advise AGAINST everybody trying to become Don Juan or marylin Monroe. Instead I would say that, a SMALL change, is just what everybody needs.

And whilst it might require quite a bit of push initially.. We aren’t going too far.. And we aren’t going to overlook how it fits into your life. We just want to do enough, to increase your satisfaction, smooth over difficult patches, and bring in some more small and warm memories, that help your eyes glow, on that stormy night.

If that’s what you want. Then you might need some focus, and some intent, to initially brunt through the start, and get to that place. The challenge is.. Just don’t get TOO hooked, on the journey, cuz I’m only going to lead you through, to a nice little subtle change. So whilst you should be focused, and prepared to accept this small gift of learning. Also, be prepared to go back to your own life.

Where just that little bit of luster, adds fond memories for you to remember until you are old and crippled, looking back on your life with a warm glow.

It is more important, not just to change, but for most, not to get lost in it.

A Book by The Cost of Success writing as Taylor Truth
What We Find Attractive: The Mystique of Seduction

Accountability in Personal Development, by TheLetter

One of the most important aspects of my personal development was introducing checks that made me accountable for my improvement. Ways I kept myself accountable included: writing regular field reports, tracking relevant records, and finding friends and mentors to support me through my development.

All these sources of accountability actually stemmed from my field report writing. Early in my seduction career, I was inspired by a number of posters who made frequent field reports. Sleazy was one of them. For the beginning part of my career, almost every night out was recorded by a field report. As Sleazy pointed out in this newsletter, it is amazing to go back and read old reports and see how far I came.

In addition, writing field reports is a great way to let mentors find you. Historical fact: Sleazy and 60 Years of Challenge did not take notice of me because I PMed them asking for advice. Sleazy recognized me as a frequent field report poster, and started commenting when he thought there were areas he could really help me with (and he did). Similarly, Sixty noticed me due to my field reports which he though captured parts of his style. In addition, writing field reports allows you to gain the respect and friendship of other guys in similar boats. A great example of this is RagsToRich, who I first recognized when we were both hard-working beginners. We've been leapfrogging each other skill-wise since, partially by learning from the others' recent breakthroughs.

Most importantly, though, field reports are for you. Taking the time to write out a field report allows you to reflect on what happened and process it. It allows you to identify areas where you struggled, points you'd like to improve on, as well as points to be proud of and to be repeated. Even if not a single person comments on it, you still gain lots of benefits from recording what happened. After a while, you may choose to not publicize your reports for privacy reasons, but there is still a lot to be gained from the self reflections.

Books

Sleazy Stories, Aaron Sleazy

The Complete System, 60 Years of Challenge

The Seducer's Step In, TheLetter (Coming 2010)

Phone Consulting

Seminars

Seminar In London, TheCostOfSuccess
Club Game Mastery, Aaron Sleazy
Fast Sex Seminar, 60 Years of Challenge

Live Instruction

Live Coach, 60 Years of Challenge
One-on-One Training, Aaron Sleazy

Audio

Elite Audio Club, 60 Years of Challenge

Not Sure Which Product Is Best For You?

Integrate Your TheSeducers Account with Twitter

TheLetter — Tue, 06 Apr 2010 19:18:12 +0000

Did you know you can integrate your account at theseducers.com with your twitter account?

Go to: http://theseducers.com/user/me/edit/twitter to add your username.

Once that page refreshes, select that twitter account as the one to which updates can be sent.

This will enable you to tweet your status updates to twitter, as well as post announcements of any forum or journal posts you make.

Enjoy!

--TheLetter

Forum-Integrated Journals At TheSeducers.com

TheLetter — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 02:17:14 +0000

Exciting news, guys. I am introducing Journals to theseducers.com. Other boards have sub-forums for keeping user journals, but to me using a single forum thread to maintain a journal has always felt... upside down since online journals are typically read newest entry first like a news site. Cliff's List has a blogging feature that works somewhat like this.

Then again, there is still a desire to keep your forum posts as part of your personal record. You want to be able to view your story in one post, but you'd also like to put up your field reports or thoughts in with the main forum.

Well, after some work, I've managed to integrate both "blogging" and "forum posting" into a user journals at theseducers.com.

You can now post a journal entry that is independent of the forums. Alternatively, when you make a forum post there is now a check box that will add that particular forum post into your journal. Thus, your journal is a compilation of journal entries and selected forum posts.

Additionally, you can protect journal entries to be friends-only.

Hope you get some mileage out of this. I know I'll be using my journal. In fact, this post is a part of mine .

Your own journal is viewable at theseducers.com/journal/uid/me and a compilation of everyone's journals is at theseducers.com/journal. Individual user journals are at theseducers.com/journal/[username]

--TheLetter

But to be less slogany, tandem soloing is when two guys go out together, but avoid working the same groups of girls, and when they do, to simply take a divide and conquer approach instead of trying to pump each other up and all that.

One of the worst possible ways to ruin your night is to work with a less experienced guy who is tanking your interactions, so tandem soloing is a way to buffer against that.

You can view the article here.

The Seducers

Joint Seminar with Illuminatus & Aaron Sleazy / Nottingham, England / 27th August 2011

60 Years of Challenge, Top 10 PUA of 2010

The Seducer's Newsletter Volume 1, Issue 7: The Game Plan

Table of Conents

The Game Plan, by 60 Years of Challenge

We've Got Forums!

Some Nights There is Zero, by Aaron Sleazy

More from The Seducers...

Books

Phone Consulting

Seminars

Live Instruction

Audio

Release: Debunking the Seduction Community

New 60 Article at TSBMag

The Seducer's Newsletter Volume 1, Issue 7: Guiding Your Personal Development

Table of Contents

Personal Development Traps To Avoid, by RagsToRich

Looking Back and Moving Forward, by Aaron Sleazy

Joint Seminar: Aaron Sleazy and 60 Years of Challenge

Making A Change, by The Cost of Success

Accountability in Personal Development, by TheLetter

More from The Seducers...

Books

Phone Consulting

Seminars

Live Instruction

Audio

Integrate Your TheSeducers Account with Twitter

Forum-Integrated Journals At TheSeducers.com

Recommended Reading

Recommended Reading

Tandem Soloing