THE SEMI-FABULOUS LIFE OF STYLEPLUSGRACE

Happy 30th Birthday to ME!!

2011-04-14T07:12:00.000-07:00

This morning I woke up singing.....

SUPERCALIFAGALISTICEXPALIDOIOUS!!

HAPPY 30TH BIRTHDAY TO...ME!!

Each year around this time I sit and think about my life. I do some what of an inventory on what is going on with me, what has transpired and what goals I have for the future. I will say that I am not where I anticipated I would be in life by 30, but I am blessed...thankful...determined...and grateful for the life lessons that have brought me this far. I am moving forward!! I was originally some what depressed about turning 30, I didnt even make any plans because I just started to feel so inadequate, as far as "life accomplishments" were concerned. Now that my birthday is here I am super excited...i get like this every year. Once my birthday gets here i am all excited and happy when April 14th rolls around. After 30 years you would think I would be used to it by now. LOL

SHOUT OUT TO JESUS for BLESSING little ole me with another birthday...

Dear Jesus...YOU'RE SIMPLY THE BEST!

Fat Girl Interrupted: Entry 3...I love Zumba

2011-04-03T12:12:00.000-07:00

When i first started working out again recently I was going to the gym, pushing myself hard on the elliptical...jogging the track...walking the treadmill, you know the usual stuff. In the past i had taken a hip-hop aerobics class and although it was fun...it was definitely not high intensity enough for me. The people in the class seemed more concerned with getting the dance moves right than they did about actually breaking a sweat. I mean to the point where they were correcting the instructor on the next move, needless to say I wasnt feeling that. Since i do enjoy group exercise i was disappointed that i couldnt seem to find the class that was the right fit for me.

Last Saturday I decided to give Zumba a try, and i absolutely LOVE IT!! The music...the vibe...the moves...I almost forget that i am working out. The only thing i could do without are people in my class that rush to get a sip of water after every other song. I think that is a little excessive and ridiculous LOL...other than that I'm hooked!!

Fat Girl Interrupted: Entry 2 Emotional Eating

2011-03-30T07:02:00.000-07:00

Last night I had a stressful evening over the phone. I had one of those crossroads nights when I didnt respond to stress the way I usually would. I hung the phone up, I didnt cry. I didnt do anything. I didnt yell. I didnt react. I got in the bed and went to sleep. The stress didnt go away, I just chose not to react the way I usually would. This morning I came to grips with something I didn't actively realize about myself. I am only now willing to face the fact that, "I am an emotional eater." When I find myself in stressful situations my first method of coping is to eat something. As I thought about how I would deal with the situation today, I had to literally talk myself out of going to Dunkin Donuts to get a breakfast sandwich. It just felt like food was the first step in even sorting out the situation in my mind. Since I have changed to a healthier lifestyle I don't even give a second thought about stopping at Dunkin Donuts, and especially not when I am carrying my healthy breakfast in a bag that I am holding, but today...today was different. I know that the pressure and the stress that I was feeling was propelling me to eat food that I generally consciencely would not eat. It was at that moment that I stopped and thought about what had just happened. I thought about the thoughts that were filling my head. I thought about the sausage egg and cheese criossant, hash browns and coffee coolata that were calling my name. I told myself just because I am stressed that is not an excuse to eat unhealthy, and the food won't make the situation go away, it will just end up making me lose sight of my goals. How sad is that though? Somewhere deep inside my mind there is a thought that thinks that food will help me resolve problems? WOW...how crippling...I am glad that I was able to fight back today. After losing 3 lbs last week I know that I am at a high risk for relapsing right now, so I am being even more conscience of the choices I make this week.

Fat Girl Interrupted: Entry 1

2011-03-25T14:05:00.000-07:00

The time has come for me to get real with myself, push back from the table, and slowly put down the proverbial cheesburger.

I though about starting a new blog to chronicle my fat girl interrupted escapades but i realized no matter how many blog sites i looked into i just never feel as at home as i feel blogging here, where i blog about the rest of my semi-fabulous life.

I was really torn because i wasnt sure if i wanted to become so transparent here. i realized that true transparency is the only way to overcome the one thing that has plagued me for the majority of my life. I also though blogging about my weight loss efforts could quite possibly bore some of my readers to death LOL, but then i again i am so hit and miss with this blog i dont think anyone is holding their breath checking to see when i am going to post again LOL.

Nevertheless i decided to give it a try and see how I like letting the world get "down and dirty with my "fatscapades."

Since i started getting serious about losing weight i cant stop thinking about what "triggered" me becoming overweight as a child? I started out a lean 5lbs 6.0z LOL, throughout nursery school i was thin, kindergarden...still thin...first grade? the chubby cheeks started filling in, and by second grade full blown chubby, but what caused it? Something happened in those years that set the pace for how I viewed food for the rest of my life and i am determined to find out what it was.

My Amazing Rings & Sparkly Things: Rock Jewelry

2011-02-21T07:00:00.000-08:00

I thought I would share some pics of the jewelry I'm "rocking" today...LOL (pun intended).

100% Ginuwine

2011-02-18T07:06:00.000-08:00

STILL FINE...STILL FLY...STILL GINUWINE!!

Same Ol' G

Ok so yesterday after work I went over to the FYE in Center City to snag an autograph from Ginuwine....yes GINUWINE!!

I originally wasnt going to go but it turned out to be a really nice time. I met some cool people while standing in line waiting for him to arrive. The event was supposed to start at 6pm but GINUWINE got stuck in traffic so he didnt arrive until about 7pm...and I cant front while i was in line I was doing plenty of COMPLAINING about him being late, but oddly enough I still wasnt upset enough to step out of line. LOL

Even more strange when it was my turn to go up the steps to actually set my eyes on GINUWINE my heart started beating kinda fast...I know RIDICULOUS right! I am STYLEPLUSGRACE, I DONT DO NERVOUS, but then again, I guess I do when I am in the same room as GINUWINE. When I finally did see him I got SUPER NERVOUS and didnt even say much to him other than telling him my name so he could sign the CD cover for me, and asking him to sign Happy Birthday on my GINUWINE calender. He took a picture with me, and I got to snap a few pics of him sitting signing autographs. He really seems like a nice guy and just very down to earth. I am just so mad at myself for acting so dumb...LOL oh well.
Oh and if you are wondering...it was definitely worth the wait.

Well you know wherever there is a celebrity, you can count on always some outrageous fan to take it over the edge, one way or another. There was quite a colorful crowd there, and when I say colorful I mean, "GIRL WHAT ARE YOU WEARING?" I mean some of these chicks came to show "a whole lot of nobody wants to see that," LOL. One lady had on a ill-fitting see through lace tank top...another was sporting her liquid tights with a whole lot of everything hanging out...it was just a lot of "WHY GINA WHY??" going on. A couple of people even tried to turn it into a mini-American Idol with their busting out in song...this one guy started singing, "So Anxious," out of nowhere. I was so embarrassed LOL I mean seriously SIR??

All in all it was a feel good night...
GINUWINE's new CD is called Elgin and it is in stores now.

Fashion Disaster: Gabourey Sidibe... PART II...The Saga Continues

2011-01-19T07:34:00.000-08:00

Now as I did in the first fashion disaster I posted featuring Gabby...I would like to share with you a much more flattering and very pulled together look she stepped out in at one of the previous Golden Globe Awards she has attended...

She looks very soft and pretty the lighter hair is very flattering as well as the style...the dress is beautiful and as well as the color...extremely well done not ill-fitting or too bold and busy with too too many prints. The makeup is even very stunning...clearly whoever helped with styling her for this event took a hiatus during this year's Golden Globes.

This year...2011...not so much...I think the pictures will speak for themselves...

From far away it really isnt "that bad"...but again i said "that bad" meaning there is some level of bad even from far away. Its just too busy...almost looks like a really pretty house dress or one of those satiny print robes my aunt wears around the house...pretty robe....ugly red carpet gown...

A little closer view and here my friends we have the mother of the bride...(in the face doesn't she look like "Aunt Ella" from the Jamie Foxx Show in this picture?)

Ok if the dress wasnt bad enough...the hair???? It's a bad wig....the bangs are all wrong...too short...I mean come on there is no way she cant afford to get her hair done better than this... too much make up...and why does this woman never use PRIMER to cut back on the makeup oil buildup and shine??
shes in her 20's...no seriously she is...

the shoes...no comment...but really for the golden globes?? why do her feet always look like they have a touch of ash on them in every picture I see of her? They always got that "oops I forgot to lotion but let me put a quick dab on" look...pull it together!!
This my friends is a woman in need of dire fashion assistance...where is her assistant to help dab some of that sweat off her brow between photos??? I know that it is hot out there but this is ridiculous...this is not attractive...to have sweat dripping down your sideburns...this picture really...it's just WOW....and I am in no way talking about size here...I am talking about looking pulled together and this is if there ever was the opposite of looking pulled together!"

I want people to stop treating her like a charity case...Look she is not PRECIOUS...she just played that part in the movie.

Ok so I know some people are going to say I am being mean on this one but I really don't care because, I feel as though as a fat girl myself I have the authority to call another chunky chick out when she is out of line, and this chick is just making everybody look bad. Although I am not as heavy as "Gabby" I understand the dynamics of wearing flattering clothes. She and her stylist obviously do not.

NUFF SAID! HATED IT!!

Random Ridiculousness in the City: I am the leader of The Thundercats

2011-01-18T16:47:00.001-08:00

Happy New Year to all the BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE!!

So as you may or may not know I make a living in the city of Brotherly Love...Philadelphia...a place where whole lot of ridiculousness is going down....

So TODAY I went to grab some lunch...Church's chicken...and might I add it was really good I mean like the kind of lunch you sit back from and say, "Seriously that hit the spot," or you might say,"That was on point." LOL

anyway as I went out to grab my lunch and I am heading back to work I see this guy standing at the top of the escalator that leads up to Market street, and he's yelling.

At first I couldnt make out what he was saying because at the bottom of the escalator there was a seemingly disgruntal "FINAL CALL" and "BEAN PIE" salesman yelling out...

"GET YOUR FINAL CALL, FRESH BEAN PIES HERE!" it didnt look like he was making many sales...maybe thats why he was looking so disgruntal. Usually he looks so happy about what he is doing....I couldnt understand why he was trying to sell with so much negativity today...

ANYWAY so at the top of the escalator there is this man and he's yelling, so I pause to see if i can make out what he is saying, and this is what I heard.

YES...I AM THE LEADER OF THE THUNDERCATS!!!

YES...I AM LION-O!!!

I AM THE LEADER OF THE THUNDERCATS!!!!

I AM LION-O!!!

I paused and so did a lot of other people, and then we went back to work. He however took it very seriously and who knows how long he stood out there and it was cold today; an icestorm even...I hope he wasnt out there ranting and raving about his Thundercat leadership for too long.

You may be asking yourself, "WHERE THEY DO THAT AT?"
the answer my friend is..."PHILLY PHILLY"

Yes I did laugh if your wondering. I couldnt help it, he had the arms up and flaring. He was so serious...so in the zone. I mean as a 80's baby I did appreciate the Thundercats reference in his ranting, and I even pictured him powering up the way Lion-O does on the show...but it didnt feel right. Sir you are not Lion-O please discontinue all use of his likeness and image...LOL

Random Ridiculousness: Where they do that at??

2010-08-26T08:21:00.000-07:00

I'm Stuck on THIS: I LOVE Remi Hair

2010-08-16T07:03:00.000-07:00

One thing about me...I love hair!! I mean more than the usual person. I mean i love it...its just apart of me...i am not just talking about hair extentions i love all kinds of hair...i mean i actually watched the movie "Good Hair" more than once...everyone else i know hated that movie...not me LOVED IT LOL!! I am actually considering going to school for hair since I have quite a few clients that style on the regular....besides all that lets get to the point of this post...Remi Hair!!

Now I havent ventured out into the land of the virgin remy hair that can only be purchased online and can cost up to beyond $400.00 ...i just cant in good conscience bite that bullet yet. So I buy the best hair my beauty supply store has to offer. although this hair is more processed than virgin hair it is not nearly as processed as regular beauty supply store human hair...

ok enough of the technical stuff...

the hair I am in love with right now is that BOBBI BOSS IndiRemi Ocean Wave 16 & 18in ...i actually found out about it on youtube and havent looked back since.

heres a video from one of the ladies who made me a believer eveschild848...check out lover4fashion, danniebeeloved, mrsdivalike & dominicalovely on youtube too for more info about the hair

These are a few of the other types of beauty supply store remi hair I have tried:
Goddess Remi: Yaki Straight (a whole mess)
Outre Velvet Remi: European Deep Wave (liked it), Yaki Straight,(hated it), Spanish Wave (liked it), French Wave (hated it)
Milkyway Saga Remi: French Allure (loved it), Parisan Glam (it was aiight), Aksent Body Wave (not so much), Finger Roll (liked it)

and i am sure tons more these are the only ones i can think of off the top of my head...all of these were nice compared to regular human hair but none i mean none of them have held up like my Bobbi Boss hair.

The pricing on Bobbi Boss is about anywhere between $84-99.00 a pack....2 packs are needed...it may seem pricey but I think it worth it, especially for me because i install my own hair so its not like i have to pay someone to actually do my hair so for the cost that i would pay to have an install done I am getting it done and purchasing the hair...WIN-WIN situation

If your going to wear a weave i think it should amazing all the time...not just the first week LOL
there is nothing worst than seeing a woman with what looks like birds nest resting on her head, neck, and shoulders...

Poor Momma Frankie...Go head Frankie...work that weave girl...SMH

We Must Praise...

2010-08-13T08:00:00.000-07:00

This is what I am feeling today...and who better to sing it than one of my favorite singers

Karen Clark-Sheard

Enjoy!!

I have to sing tonight at my aunt's church and i am considering attempting this song...i know it wont sound like Karen but it just feels like the song that i need to sing today :-)

Go Jesus, Go Jesus, Go!!

Ear Candy & Noteworthy Music: Janelle Monae

2010-08-12T07:55:00.000-07:00

Her music is not for everyone and i am not a fan of every song...well actually i am but that doesnt matter...since i am an undercover nerd, a former band geek (i play 3 instruments), and a lover of all different kinds of music...her mix of genres pretty much makes me feel like she is one of the most refreshing voices i have heard since Lauryn Hill.

I am not ashamed to admit that the songs, "Cold War", and "Say You'll Go" both brought me to tears... :'(

when was the last time you heard some music that moved you to tears??? If you say never you need to open your ears and find at least one song in this life that will make a tear trickle down your cheek...

Go cop her new album The ArchAndroid...it's been out since May go get it already...

I also have to congratulate Diddy for allowing this young lady to fully express herself and not doing like he usually does and jumping in the videos of every Badboy Records artist...2 THUMBS UP DIDDY!!

P.S. Lauryn we still miss you...

I'M STUCK ON THIS: 3D NAIL DESIGNS & MINX

2010-08-11T07:00:00.000-07:00

ok so recently i have been really really stuck on nail designs but not just painted on im talking about 3D designs...i know im ridiculous...especially since i used to say how tacky i thought this was. here are some designs i am feeling...

Venus williams rocking the rhinestone manicure

Katy Perry Rhinestone Manicure

Rhianna..Love it!

I have never seen beads on nails but i like it...call Terice if you want it done...

this is a pic of a recent design that i had...LOL you know i had to get a lil shine LOL

thats a pic of my piggys and my design...LOL

Minx: Ok so I have never tried these but i am kinda thinking about it...they are these paper type strips with these amazing designs on them that are applied with heat in the salon...ala beyonce in the single ladies video...solange is pictured below rocking a pic of obama on her nails...i found a place in Jersey that does this so i'm debating whether to get them done...i'm thinking after i get done w/ the rhinestone trend MINX will be my next move LOL

My 2 Cents: Rick Ross..The Cop...The Rapper...The Hairdo Thief...The WHOLE Buster

2010-08-10T11:05:00.001-07:00

i tried not to blog about this but i just gotta...

RICK ROSS you are dead wrong...and you know it!!

I cant even stand to look at this guy anymore...

just a buster! You even stole the man's hairdo LOL

Ok...so for those who dont know the story the real "RICK ROSS" or "Freeway Ricky Ross" went to jail for something in the neighborhood of 20 years and comes out and this guy is running around talking about he's Ricky Ross...blabbing on and on in these songs about how he used to hustle...basically pretending to be him and is earning millions of dollars by taking on his persona....so the real "Freeway Ricky Ross" is suing the rapper "Rick Ross" and in my opinion rightfully so...i mean it's like someone walking like "Oprah" talking like "Oprah" calling themselves "Oprah" and then saying "I'm not acting Oprah." I just don't like fake people, i don't listen to this type of music like that but I just gotta call a spade a spade on this one...it's like Jay said, "He's alright but, he's not real."

I mean seriously dude..."GET REAL."

This is the real "Freeway Ricky Ross"

i hope ole boy wins the court case and plenty of cash to go with it...but even he is getting a little overboard asking for 1/2 for rapper Rick Ross's royalties...i think thats a lil much i mean you didnt actually work on the songs but i get your point they are playing you in the songs so why not...either way i think this guy needs to be compensated.
now the thing about this whole story that got me is the fact that the rapper Rick Ross took this guy's image down to the man's bald head and beard...now why couldn't he have left the beard and bald head alone???...i know, i know there are plenty of people who have a bald head and a beard, but in this case for me it is just too much of a coincidence...for you you might feel i am exaggerating but i think its pretty unlikely...LOL

i wouldn't think this was as ridiculous as i think it is now if Rapper Rick Ross didnt have the same hairdo as ole boy, but that just added insult to injury...LOL i mean come on now, if your going to be a former cop turned rapper at least come up w/ your own name and style....he's the type of person you never tell about something you are planning buy because of course he is going to try to go buy it first...you tell him your getting a black volkswagon...he goes and gets the same car...same year same model, but in red...LOL LAME...just LAME LOL

Rick Ross you are a WHOLE BUSTER...and you are extremely RIDICULOUS!!

Random Ridiculousness: NYC edition

2010-08-09T14:04:00.000-07:00

Yup NY...has just as much random ridiculousness going on as Philly Philly... if not more...I found this sign proudly posted up on a recent trip to NY with my cousin. We actually only browsed the store so I could get a snapshot of the sign...occasionally thoroughout the rest of the day I would say, "UNLIME-TED," just to give myself a laugh. Yes I too am Ridiculous.

SHOE CRUSH OF THE WEEK: Cassie's Hot 97 Summer Jam 2010 Footwear

2010-06-08T06:59:00.000-07:00

(Pics from Blogxilla.com)
Cassie...Cassie...Cassie...i have never been a fan but these shoes right here...these shoes are FIYAH MISS HONEY! The shoes she has on in this particular pic from the Hot 97 Summer Jam have made me a believer. Who cares that they dont go with or coorindate with the rest of the outfit in any way....these shoes are amazing and she knows it. the Balenciaga bag is hitting it too...but the shoes out shine them all...and i'm usually a stickler for nail polish on hands and feet matching but i dont even care because these shoes are so AMAZINGLY SPECIAL to me right now LOL. Its not even a shoe that most people would like or understand but if you have that special lil sense of style that makes you a risk taker you will understand these shoes... I dont know who makes these shoes or how much they cost but i need them in my life.

In other shoe news: Coach Zorra Khaki Magenta Multi Signature SneakersI snagged these great COACH sneakers yesterday from Burlington Coat Factory for the low price of $39.99...they retail for $98.00 but you can find them online for about $74.99...either way i saved a ton of money by snagging them from Burlington Coat Factory. I am not really a sneaker-type of chick but when i do put some on i like to wear the crazy funky edgy sneaks...i have to admit I wasnt in love with these at first but the price tag and the lil hot pink leopard print won me over so they were right up my alley and went directly into my cart LOL....I would probably wear these if im going to Six Flags in the summer or some other day thats filled with tons of walking and heels or wedges just wouldnt be appropriate for...I'm sure they are probably from last season but WHO CARES especially since I'm not big on keeping up with COACH and especially since I paid the LOW LOW price of $39.99...LOL

Happy FLYday...let me sum up my week RIGHT quick

2010-06-04T07:00:00.000-07:00

ok so today is FLYday well friday and I have quite a bit on my mind...other than the fact that i left my wallet at home today it seems to be shaping up to be an interesting weekend. I was on twitter today doing my random tweeting and for some reason twitter is just not as interesting to me as it initally was when i first signed up...in the beginning it was AMAZING. now its just so mundane....anyway i sooo lets sum up my week RIGHT quick

Monday: Happy Memorial Day...just another reason to fire up the grill...i jumped some double dutch...who said chunky chicks cant jump double dutch...

Tuesday: saw alot of dumb stuff this week i went bowling tuesday night with the fam and their was a chick bowling while holding a 8 month old baby...a loud mouth teenager who was an embarrassment to the race with his constant repetitive use of the F word...

Wednesday: Hated my hair loved my outfit...got home early watched some show called weird or what...sadly couldnt fulfill a request for a friend...went to bed

Thursday: hated the hair and the outfit LOL...went immediately home from work...do not pass go in this outfit...seriously what was i thinking...went back out grabbed some dinner...told this guy i would appreciate if he would stop contacting me...he didnt seem to like my attitude about it and proceeded to tell that he didnt like my attitude but really do i care about how you feel about me telling you im not interested...hey, thats life buddy...off to bed

Friday: woke up early did my hair yay and refreshed my lashes...MUCH BETTER...i have been looking like i wasnt pulled together for 2 days...ugh! and that brings us to today LOL...such a short but long and boring week On another note...i think i have a stalker...but not a in your face stalker a text stalker this other guy wont get the hint...he just wont take it i dont text him back but he insists on continuing to text me everyday! its like come on sir take your dignity and run...

Fashion Disaster: The star of "Precious" Gabourey "Gabby" Sidibe

2009-12-09T07:00:00.000-08:00

Please watch this video first or at least the first 1:45 sec...

Okay everything I am bout to say no one else is going to say so i am going to say it....and i feel that i am a fat enough girl to call another fat girl out when she is dead wrong!!!

WHERE IS TIM GUNN WHEN I NEED HIM?? Who is dressing this woman?

I rarely watch Jay Leno but last night as I lay under my covers watching...i was just so floored. I am strictly talking about fashion here people...

Everything else about this young lady seems very nice but the fashion side....whoooooo is handling her?????

In this video this dress is all wrong...the shoes...all wrong...everything she has on is a whole mess!!! i know she is a plus-sized woman but there are clothes out here for her!!! I dont know if she is dressing herself but these "ill-fitting" clothes must come to an end.

it all starts with the FOUNDATION and when i say FOUNDATION i mean undergarments...as i watch this video i cringe there is so much adjusting and readjusting of the dress and undergarments.

I mean come on she needs a full body shaper and yes they do sell them in her size...why is she adjusting her girdle on stage...help her someone please!!! i wish i could help her myself this is a catastrophe...down to the bra whatever undergarments she has on they are not helping to enhance her shape...

My mother always taught me if you have to keep pulling at your clothes...they dont fit!

The color of this dress is very pretty but the fabric and style of dress for this particular woman is just all wrong...it clings in all the wrong places....i like the color on her but i would like to see her in a color that is more flattering...even a nice purple, olive or even an indigo would have complimented her...but this gold with the black patent leather sling backs...who is doing this to her?

I want her to seek out EMPIRE WAIST dresses!!! The shoes are too high she could barely walk across the stage...someone please step in and help her!!!

I know she is just starting out but i really want someone to help her...someone please this is a FASHION EMERGENCY!!! Now the hair i actually like on her...I know she is young and new to the industry but someone please take her under your wing ASAP!!

Now I did find some more flattering pictures of her...very nice!But clearly whoever was dressing her for these events is no longer dressing her. I would venture out to say either her worst enemy is dressing her or she is more than likely dressing herself now.

Please please lady hire someone...to help you along ...this is not a good look!!

Random Ridiculousness: BABY SIZED CUSTOM-MADE LACEFRONT WIGS

2009-12-08T06:50:00.000-08:00

I recieved this in an email entitled...How Hood is this??

The mother of an infant daughter wearing her first lacefront wig writes: “It’s never too early for my baby to start looking glamorous like Beyonce!”

Mom said she had the wig custom made human hair to match her own lacefront. “I wouldn’t be caught dead without my lacefront and my baby won’t either!”

But is that adhesive glue safe or gentle enough for the child’s baby hairs???

Are you kidding me?? I have to just pass on COMMENTING on this one i cant even articulate how outlandishly foolish and ridiculous this is...talk about giving the baby identity issues...what is wrong with people?? need i say more?? I hope this is a joke..if not this is just beyond sad.

You must be kidding me...GET REAL

2009-12-02T07:30:00.000-08:00

Aiight so I have been thinking about this conversation i had with this guy on Sunday pretty much on and off all week, and i keep wanting to blog about it so here it is....

me and dude were having the typical get to know each other conversation and after asking me what kind of things i look for in a man i responded honesty...he said thats it? I went on to say I look for the traits of Christ. He said thats it? i said yes, and he pretty much lost it....flew off the handle...flipped his lid...etc...etc.

He basically said to me that honesty is something that is earned in a relationship. He claimed that honest is something that you are not and should be feel obligated to be when you dont know the other person and are just beginning to know them. (HUH?) He went on to explain his point by telling me that he can have any woman he wants its just a matter of listening to what the woman needs and playing the right role in order to get what he would want. He sounds like he has been slathering a daily dose of deception and manipulation onto the lives of the people he comes into contact with if you ask me. I guess my response or lack of response to his rantings caused him to continue to run his self-made motivation down. I was actually thanking God while he was talking that i am so not interested in these kinds of slick talkers anymore. Sadly alot of women cant see through these kind of men or dont listen to the intution that screams put the phone down and back away from these kind of people. He explained that getting what he wants is a matter of his thoughts and self-esteem about himself? He said he could have me or any other woman he wants, if he makes his mind up he can have anything he chooses...he stressed this point several times...(i can have you if i want he went on and on blah blah....go have a dose of get real sir) he claimed it has nothing to do with what the other person wants if he wants something he makes it happen. Since when did self-esteem morph itself into forcing you to be a liar? getting what you want should not force you to go beyond the truth...he basically said that honesty is optional...I explained to him that this would be considered manipulation and the results would be pointless. He seemed to want me to react to his rantings but i just calmly listened. He went on to say that my temperment is not going to get me far in life...i guess he was looking for me to go "sista-girl" with a touch of "typical-black woman" on him??....he went on to further insult my intelligence by assuming i didnt know what temperment meant. Was this guy serious??

LOL i pretty much just looked at the phone and did my confused face...He began to tell me about how he does not "do" relationships he "does" companionship. (LOL as if i was interested in anything after he told me honesty was optional.) He had a whole practically rehearsed speech as to why he considers himself a great catch that will never be caught etc etc...He and i went back and forth for a few more rounds and then i realized that i need not waste my time any longer listening to this ridiculousness he was seriously trying to feed me. I cut him off mid-sentence and said, "well you have a good night." and hung the phone up. This guy carried on conversation like he had a built in bullhorn...and talk about defensive...sheesh buddy i dont have to agree with everything you're saying...and more importantly we should be able to carry on a calm debate/converstaion...bright side is that i learned in a matter of minutes what kind of guy this dude is...where as someone else will end up being manipulated and end up putting up with all this ridiculous propaganda he is promoting for a series of days, months or possibly even years. this guy seemed like he wanted a full blown argument from me,

sorry i couldnt deliver on that...wrong type of chick...After i hung up i felt so relieved...there is nothing worst than having a conversation with a person and feeling exhausted after the fact...and especially when you barely know the person...GET REAL. I protect my peace. I mean but seriously tho are people really living like this? Honesty is really optional for some people?

this my friends is what i call...MALARKY...put in a box, gift wrapped and tied up with a pretty bow...and thats one gift i will pass on.

Shoe Crush of the Week: Dansko Professional Peltro Patent

2009-11-30T12:35:00.000-08:00

price: $120.00

available @ zappos.com

I know most people wont understand this pick but Dansko's are a style of shoe you just cant knock til you try them. They improve your posture and feet love them. These are not your Dr. Scholl's or Wal-Mart clogs...they are well worth the 120.00.

The color alone makes these clogs must-haves!

"Danskos' are the Michael Jordan of Clogs"
I have a pair of the plain black Dansko's but I cant wait to step out in a jazzier pair.

Thanksgiving

2009-11-26T18:26:00.001-08:00

so today is Thanksgiving I enjoyed a nice day surrounded by family...I didn't rush to do anything just enjoyed the day at a nice slow pace. no complaints. I just couldn't help but think about the homeless today. We all have so much to be thankful for...any one of us could be like those people. I see homeless people everyday and I always wonder what their story is how did things get to this point for them. sad world...

Random Ridiculousness in the City: Old Twins

2009-11-24T20:52:00.000-08:00

So the other night I was walking to the train station and in the midst of the crowd i saw this little old man he had to be about 80+ years old with this very bright loud shirt on, some kind of bright hawaiian print with this long trench coat, sneaks and cowboy hat.

I looked at his outfit (mainly the huge ten gallon hat) and was just thrown off...i remember thinking huh? in my mind LOL. i remember pausing for a few seconds and just having this look on my face.

as if that wasnt enought out of the crowd comes a second man 80+ years old with the same outfit on...TWINS...not just TWINS but TWINS with matching outfits.

The best part of this story is as they were crossing the street the one i first noticed helped the other brother across the street and side by side they crossed....all of a sudden i felt all warm inside...there's nothing in this world like family.

The outfits were still ridiculous tho...extremely randomly ridiculous LOL

O.T.T. stands for: Over the TOP

2009-05-07T19:24:00.000-07:00

aiight it took a while to get my blog juices flowing today but now that they are started

oh boy watch out...LOL.

So i came up with the idea to blog about all the things that i feel are O.T.T. (OVER THE TOP) past and present....OK let me start light so yall can get the flow of what i mean about things and people being O.T.T.

sooo first on the list of my list of Persons, Places, and Things O.T.T. is:

PAULA ABDUL

what qualifies her as being over the top...the tears..."the ooooh dont listen to randy or simon or anyone you are a star" comments...well for me Paula is just sooo extra she's the kinda person that its not enough for her to give u a hug she wants a kiss too (and its her first time meeting you). She tries sooo hard its just over the top. I'm not knocking her but its just so exhausting...

O.T.T. Rating: 4

Next on my list of things OVER THE TOP is:

THE SUPER LONG PINKY FINGERNAIL

That long pinky nail qualifies you...yes you sir or madam for a O.T.T. badge...there is no serious explanation for it...cut that mess off. I found some interesting uses for these long pinky nails online...

1) sign of a pimp

2)long pinky often used to open envelopes

3)sharpened hard pink nail can be used as a weapon and can be a sign of prison time

4)picasso kept a long nail for mixing paints

none of these reasons are reason enough to be walking around with one long pinky nail...its OVER THE TOP and you are seeking attention...knock it off

O.T.T. Rating: 9

(just because your being ridiculous)

Next up we have:

PEOPLE AND CHICKEN

(especially fastfood chicken)

Why does this woman in the picture have to be holding the chicken bucket like a baby??

anyway ok so recently there has been ALOT of shan-i-gans going on at the local KFC's and Popeye's chicken resturants between Oprah giving away free chicken at KFC and Popeyes offering a 8 piece for $5.00 i have been seeing alot of Police activity at the local chicken spots...if you are one of the people causing a disturbance at a KFC, Popeyes or any other fast food resturant then you are seriously O.T.T... you need to get real with yourself, calm down, and get out of line...its just chicken

O.T.T. rating: 10

Here comes:
Fat Joe

CRACCCKKK..JOOOEEEYY the simple fact that this guy is always screaming out his name gets him nominated as O.T.T. its just too much...take it down a couple of notches...

We miss you Big Pun and we dont like your replacement...

we just deal with it

similar to Paula Abdul...its just exhausting to watch him try so hard to be cool.
I did like that song, "Let Me Take You Home" a while back so I wont be too hard on Joey
O.T.T. rating: 6

OH LAWD:
Tonex

Well what can I say Tonex is a gospel singer with a unbelieveable voice screaming for attention...
bicycle chains...check...
type of wife beater tank made famous by 50 cent...check
dash of scarf...check
fur coat...check
bluetooth earpiece...check
dont forget the mohawk'd tracks down the middle
its just alot going on
O.T.T. rating: 10
(we dont need a gospel version of Prince)

Next on we have:
Mr. Michael Baisden

This semi-sheer muscle shirt and the almost high top fade in this picture says it all...this guy screams Over the TOP. I like some of the things he has done as far as making people more aware of the issues but this guy has a real chip on his shoulder. The other day my co-worker was listening to his radio show (loudly) i hear him saying how he needs PRESIDENT OBAMA to call him right quick...and then says I mean I would hope he would take time to call up here b/c this is an important topic. Seriously Sir u r Over the TOP!!
O.T.T. Rating: 9
(assuming the PRESIDENT should make time to call you because your black and he's black is just foolishness)

You guessed it:
Charlie Wilson

Oh yeah this guy is OVER THE TOP way OVER

he single handedly took the cool out of cornrowns...but thats not it

Everytime i see this picture i have to laugh this guy is actually alot younger than i thought according to wikipedia he was born in 1953 which would make him 56...i had the man well into his 70s...this blatant attempt to look younger has backfired. LOL the wave cap & the cross are really what did it for me...that pencil thin mustache is a dead give away...Uncle Charlie please knock it off LOL

O.T.T. Rating: 7

Next on my list is:
Fleetwood the Lion...Fleetwood the Lion from the Wiz

Now dont get me wrong i love THE WIZ one of my fav all time movies but this lion right here is OVER THE TOP...i dont know if yall realize it but homie wears platform shoes thru out the movie and that alone gets him O.T.T.'d he is my least fav character in the movie and i wish i could trade off the lion from the wizard of oz for him. Everything he does in the movie is done bigger and more dramatic than necessary...hes just all over the place...even when he busts out of the statue....OVER THE TOP LOL

O.T.T. Rating: 8 (just because I dont like those platform shoes he wears)

Up next we have:

T-Pain (Self-Explanitory)

Ok so this guy has morph'd into what i consider to be baffonery...but thats not the focal point of this post let me show u why i feel he is over the top

All this circus nonsense...and the top hats i am not digging it in any way shape or form...and who told him he can dance? he looks like a california raisin in a hip hop aerobics class trying to figure out which step comes next...Tallahassee Pain you are O.T.T.

O.T.T. Rating: 8

OH What's her name??? What-cha-ma-call-it you... know the one who almost pulled a Britney but changed her mind:

CASSIE

I mean there isnt much left to say can the chile even sing? all i remember is a low whisper of a video...If she was already popular then i probably wouldnt even feel the way i feel about this...why isnt she doing something to become more of a socialite? this attention seeking behavior will not make people buy your music...

O.T.T. rating: 10

(gotta give you a 10 your just being desperate honey)

Last but certainly not least:

PATTI LABELLE (80's version)

I used to straight think Patti Labelle was crazy...i mean the lady had the strangest hair ever....she was bizarre but still so cool...she still kept her personality so REAL...well that is when not in the middle of a performance...because when she performs this lady does whatever she wants...lays on the floor...flaps her wings..jerks her head...kicks off her shoes...jumps up and down..wears crazy costumes...tip toes across the stage...points her long nails at people all while singing...flawlessly might i add

if you can get thru either one of these or both of these videos trust me you will not be disappointed...

SHE IS OVER THE TOP...trust me she DELIVERS LOL

80's version of Patti LaBelle...

MISS THANG...

you are the epitome of O.T.T.

YOU ARE OVER THE TOP

SHOE CRUSH OF THE WEEK

2009-05-05T22:30:00.001-07:00

Pelle Moda Women's Kammi Peep Toe Cutout Bootie: $204.95