What other job do you get to show up in shorts and flip flops, and all of your customers come in bikinis?

Some of you have been following my blog for years now, and you’ve noticed a lot of changes. I’ll be the first to say that I’m not perfect. But that’s my strength as well as my weakness. I’m always striving to better myself and to learn and grow more and more. The reason why I first started the PUA Summit with Vince Kelvin was because I wanted to learn from all of the best pick up artists and Gurus from around the world.

What I learned from hanging out with guys like Adam Lyons and Speer, is that life style is important. Which is why I decided to change my life style into one where women come to me.

However, if I didn’t first spend the time learning how to talk to women and how attraction, seduction, and the process of meeting someone to having sex worked, all the life style in the world wouldn’t help. So I’m really glad that I read the game, learned all about pick up, took a bootcamp, and continued my education and self improvement to lead me here today. I hope everyone reading my blog is also on their way to pick up happiness.

1. Being alone isn’t the same as loneliness.

If you can’t eat alone in a public restaurant, or find yourself reaching for your cell phone or something to do anytime you’re waiting and standing or sitting alone, you were just like me and everyone else in society. We always have to look busy, or be doing something, or with someone. Why? Can’t we just be?

2. There are Two types of Happiness - and most of us only know the first.

The first type of happiness is through stimulation - Doing something, eating something, buying something or having something that makes us happy. Some external factor, whether it is music, a friend, or something is the source of our smiles. Whether it talking to someone, listening to your favorite song, eating food food, or even hanging out with friends. These aren’t bad things, but it makes us depenant.

The second type of happiness is just being. It took me 13 days to finally just be able to sit, alone, at a restaurant, doing something, thinking about nothing, looking forward to nothing, just to be able to smile and realize that I’m happy, just because.

3. Our possessions posses Us -

Before moving to Koh Tao, I was in a car dealership trying to figure out a monthly payment to buy a new corvette. If I had been able to afford it, I would have been stuck paying $800 a month for the next four years, and would never have been able to travel.

The $800 Louis Vuitton Handbag is the same price as a round trip plane ticket and a few days of expenses in Paris. yet, I know 20 girls with LV bags, and only 1 that has ever been.

4. The Duty of Effort is today, and even tomorrow we may die -

Whatever our Duty, Job, or Chore is to do, instead of trying to rush through it to empty our inbox, we should realize that our inbox will never be empty, even when we die. So we might as well enjoy the act of working by doing it mindfully and live in the moment, enjoying every minute of it.

5. We are fine exactly the way we are -

Whoever we are, is okay. if we can’t even love ourselves, how can we expect others to love us?

6. When we get angry at someone, or something, it hurts us more than it hurts them.

It’s funny that we can relive angry moments that happened years in the past so easily. We can bring them up in our minds and feel hatred and anger as if it was happening to us today. Friends may come and go, but enemy’s accumulate. By being mad at someone, does it hurt us more than it hurts them? The answer is definetely yes, so why do that to ourselves? We need to just let go and let karma take over.

7. Material things can never make us happy as they are fleeting -

Every time I buy something, before I buy it, in the days, hours or months I dream about it, I smile. But soon after I have it, the smile disappears and I want something else. Expensive things cause more stress in life, and we really don’t need it.

When I drove a Porsche, I always had to put the top up so people wouldn’t fuck with it. Everyone I met assumed I was a pompous, spoiled asshole. People expected and treated me differently, and not in a good way. The only thing to do to make myself feel better was think of them as jealous, or envious, but that never made me happy. Everyone would ask why I didn’t buy the 911 Turbo instead. No one was ever happy for me to have acquired my dream car, and my dream turned out not to be what I expected. When I drove my Celica, Miata, or even my 87′ Nissan, I was happy and no one ever treated me with ill will.

So why do we think luxurious things, expensive things can make us happy? Is it because we want to fit in, or is it because we want to have what others have? Either way, I finally realized that I don’t need it.

There is actually very little we need in life, and the most basic things are, the happier and more free we become.

My final thoughts:

If you agreed with any of the above or learned anything from it, please do yourself a favor and realize that the worst thing we could do is simply read it, nod our heads and then never think about it again. Even worse is reading it and saying to yourself, oh I already know this.

It took me 10 days of living it, to realize it for myself and have it really settle in and will try to do my best everyday for the rest of my life to remember these things I’ve learned and actually live them.

Thank you for taking the time to read my thoughts and about my experience. As far as how this relates to pick up, I think there needs to be balance between self improvement, and accepting yourself.

If you can’t love yourself or even like yourself, how can you expect any women to love you? Let’s work on both at the same time, balance is the key.

Ten days of Silence. Tens days of shutting off my monkey brain. Ten days of no sex, for being a better man for the rest of my life.

It’s called a Meditation Retreat. Where for ten days, I learn how to stop thinking, and just be. Honestly, this is my biggest weakness and biggest strength in life at the same time. I think too damn much. It would be easier for me to be dropped off in the middle of the ghetto wearing nothing but “I hate negros” t-shirt or even in the middle of the jungle like on Lost than it will be for me to not talk, and not think for ten days. Ten days of vegetarian food, nothing to eat after noon or at night, a wooden pillow, no reading, writing, talking or even thinking. Oh my Buddah this is going to be difficult.

But I know this is something that I need. This is something that if I can make it through, will change my life for the rest of my life. So see you guys in twelve days, and wish me good luck.

Here’s the website and info if you’re curious or interested: www.suanmokkh-idh.org

DAILY SCHEDULE

04.00AM *** Wake up ***Monastery bell
04.30 Morning Reading
04.45 Sitting meditation
05.15 Yoga / Exercise
07.00 *** Dhamma talk & Sitting meditation
08.00 Breakfast & Chores
10.00 *** Dhamma talk
11.00 Walking or standing meditation
11.45 *** Sitting meditation
12.30 Lunch & chores
14.30 *** Meditation instruction & Sitting meditation
15.30 Walking or standing meditation
16.15 *** Sitting meditation
17.00 *** Chanting & Loving Kindness meditation
18.00 Tea & hot springs
19.30 *** Sitting meditation
20.00 Group walking meditation
20.30 *** Sitting meditation
21.00 *** Bedtime
(the gates will be closed at 21.15)
21.30 *** LIGHTS OUT

RULES:

• Keep complete silence throughout the retreat

• Stay within the boundaries of the retreat center;

• Keep the Eight Precepts, which are:
1. intend not to take away any breath (abstain from killing)
2. intend not to take away what is not given (abstain from stealing)
3. intend to keep one’s mind and one’s body free from any sexual activity
4. intend not to harm others by speech
5. intend not to harm one’s consciousness with substances that intoxicate and lead to carelessness (no alcohol, no drugs, no smoking etc)
6. intend not to eat between after noon and before dawn
7. intend not to dance, sing, play or listen to music, watch shows, wear
garlands, ornaments and beautify oneself with perfumes and cosmetics
8. intend not to sleep or sit on luxurious beds and seats.

This is the moral code for those who seek normalcy plus lightness and simplicity in living.

Warm Regards,

Johnny Wolf

Girls come up to him and say “I had to tell you that you are beautiful.”

In which he responds, “Only on the outside.”

Hanging out with him, I’ve realized that he kind of just says whatever he wants. However, he builds so much physical attraction that he can mess up 90% of the time and he still gets more women than he can handle.

The reason why I know, that verbal game has almost nothing to do with his attraction is because he’s currently hooking up with a French girl who doesn’t speak a word of English…and he doesn’t speak a word of French.

The Lesson: If we spent as much time in the gym, eating healthy and working out, as we do reading pick up books and opening sets. We would have a huge advantage in the attraction stage.

However, a minimal understanding of game, and a very good understanding of logistics and structure will still be important. But either way, we should start hitting the gym, hard.

Edit: A few weeks later, I’ve been hanging out with another guy that is in almost as good shape, but has zero game and zero knowledge of logistics, and he hasn’t gotten laid in a year.

Balance really is the key, yes Physical attraction is much much easier to obtain if you’re in great shape, but without knowledge of game and pulling women, it’s useless on it’s own.

Kai gets laid so much because he gets attraction, is confident enough to go for it, and had just enough game to pull it off.

The verdict: If you’re chubby or fat, you need to start working out to get to a normal body, whenever I’ve been overweight, it’s been at least 20x harder to f-close than even when I was just normal. For me, 200lbs is in good shape for me, 220 is the cut off point where it becomes a big hinderence for me to f-close, and any time I’m 240+ it takes me twenty times the effort to f-close, which means I have to do everything 99% correctly when I’m out of shape.

For skinny guys, just get big enough where you are confident. That’s it. Think about it from a guys point of view. A fat girl gets zero attention, no matter what she does, she’s just unfuckable.

You don’t need to have the body of adonis, but you need to be in the fuckable zone.

1. The guy that doesn’t know how to approach and talk to women at all.

2. Guys that get stuck in the friend zone and are always just friends.

It’s funny…you would think the first guy is worse off, since he’s usually the one standing around not talking to women at all. He’s the guy that sits at the bar or at the party not talking to anyone at all.

The second guy is always with attractive women, and can easily meet others.

Question: Who is more sexually frustrated?

I think it’s the second guy. The guy that doesn’t have women in his life in the first place, doesn’t feel like he had a shot anyways, but the second guy always feels like he’s soooo close. Until one day the girl starts telling him about some hot guy she met.

The worst feeling in the world is standing by and listening to her talk about a hotter guy that she desperately wants to hook up with. This is because it makes us feel like we are not men. Inside our heads we’re thinking, what the fuck, what about me.

Which guy are you or were you before you found the PUA community, and which guy do you think is worse off? Leave a comment.

We’ve spent so much time learning how to make it look like we are attractive and getting laid all the time, but when it comes down to it, we’re often only impressing other men.

Number of girls in this photo I actually slept with: Zero

Thinking about the past 20 girls I slept with how many I “entertained”: Zero, they all entertained me.

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“Being funny/entertaining does NOT create any sexual attraction. Of course it’s great to be funny and entertaining just for it’s own sake, to have a good time and laugh. But really, it will do NOTHING to make a woman want to have sex with you.

Here’s why: a woman’s sexual attraction to you is mainly based on her subconscious mind answering the question “will this guy be able to satisfy me sexually?” If you trip her triggers that let her know that you’re a sexually confident man, she feels irresistable, gut-level attraction. If you don’t, then she doesn’t feel anything.

Being funny or entertaining really has nothing to do with how sexually valuable you are. Although it definitely doesn’t hurt, making jokes doesn’t make her think you’re a great lover either.

IMO the reason why being funny is so vastly overrated is because entertaining funny guys LOOK like they’re getting laid a lot. They always have women laughing, touching them, etc…but at the end of the night I’ve found these guys typically rarely get laid.

I also know guys like Vin Dicarlo who couldn’t tell a joke to save their lives who get laid like crazy…but to the casual observer, it doesn’t LOOK like they’re anything special. It just looks like they’re talking for a while with the girl…then they leave to go have sex.

It’s kind of like the effect a super funny/entertaining girl has on us. Sure it’s nice…but at the end of the day we fantasize about models and actresses (sexually valuable women) not fat female standup comedians. Women work the same way….while funny is nice, in the end they end up going for the sexually valuable men regardless of humor.”

Thoughts? Leave a comment.

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Hey man, I never thanked you for changing my life the first time around with the game. So I figured before you got bombared with thank you emails for Emergency I thought I’d shoot you one first.

Your writing style is so captivating that I can never put your books down. The only other two authors that I can say that about are Chuck Palahniuk and Tim Ferris. Well, mainly chuck, but I got to give Tim credit for changing my life.

I started reading Emergency on the plane ride over from San Francisco to Koh Tao, Turtle Island Thailand…

and finished your book while trekking through the jungle, attempting to survive on coconuts and bananas I found on the way, but like you, I grew up as a city boy, and for the last three years, my idea of roughing it was walking from the standard back to my car at the saddle ranch while wearing uncomfortable yet fashionable boots.

Luckily, there is life after “the game” and recently, about six months ago back in November I found it, and decided to semi quit teaching bootcamps and move to Koh Tao to train as a professional scuba diver. As a rescue diver I had to go through CPR and Emergency First Response courses, I took a Seinshido Knife Defense class after getting out asses kicked in Las Vegas for stealing a hot blonde from some guys along with two other puas that couldn’t defend themselves either.

Thank you for your inspiration once again, my jungle bungalow is now stocked up with whole wheat biscuits, cans of baked beans, and jugs of water. If shit hits the fan and you need a place in Thailand to hide out, my bungalow is all yours man.

With Sincere Gratitude,

Johnny Wolf, PT

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Through my travels I’ve learned that we have a moral obligation to be happy….so follow your bliss and you’ll never look back. Always go towards what makes you happy and your heart will be fulfilled. Live for today, in the moment, this very moment, smile, breath, and just be.

Warm Regards,

Johnny

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If you guys haven’t read Emergency Yet, get it today. If anything it’s just an interesting read that you won’t be able to put down, just like the game. If anything it should have been called “Life After the Game”
You’ll get to see everything that Neil’s been up to, about his love and sex life with his new girlfriend Katie, and what there is in life after you’ve become successful with women.

Emergency: This Book Will Save Your Life

It’s only $11.55 on Amazon!

It’s been around for a bit but I just found it and though it was hilariously stupid. But it’s definitely good for some laughs and for some fun! By the way, I played it at Adam Lyons house, and we both agreed that we should have talked to the mix set near the front of the bar. =)

The Game: Flash Game
(After going to the website, click on “PLAY THIS GAME!”

Let me know how you liked it, and leave a comment.

The top three books that changed my life are the following:

1. The Game by Neil Strauss -

A story about a true “zero to hero.” Although I don’t’ agree with the tricks and tactics in the book what I got out of it was priceless. Inspiration that anyone could change and be great, and it opened my eyes and my mind to self help books.

2. Rich Dad, Poor Dad, by Robert Kiyosaki -

Taught me what I should have learned in school, or though my father. Totally shifted the way I thought about money.

Playing the board game version Cashflow 101 was another big relation on the way I spend, save, and think of money. - Go to meetup.com and join a cashflow101 group and play the game.

3. Four Hour Workweek by Tim Ferris -

Showed me what was possible. Inspired me to move. Gave me step by step instructions on how to do it.

FYI - There’s a 2 page section on “How to become an expert in your field” I followed it exactly and ended up becoming a Harvard Guest Lecturer on Social Confidence.

What are your top three? Leave a comment, I want to know.