What’s a girl to do? Don’t worry ladies, as the cuckold phenomenon has become more and more popular, we’ve learned from our friends – and from personal sexperience – how to bring out the cuckold desires in your man.

Yes, it’s a guide for the women on how to make their man into a cuckold enthusiast.

Converting a normal guy? A thousand wannabe cucks just cried out in despair and anguish…

do women despise cuckold

Now, I’m not a woman and I’m not a cuckold, so maybe people with a bit more experience than me can chime in to answer that. But here’s my thoughts on it:

This is the biggest danger of “how do I persuade my wife to cuckold me?”-type though processes. Because if your wife isn’t inherently turned on by the idea of cuckolding you, of getting a level of sexual freedom unavailable to most women, then pushing her into it – and some women will do it for the sake of the man that they love – runs the risk of creating exactly this situation.

My wife is turned on by this idea – but she’s hugely cautious about it for a number of reasons, not least the biochemical bonding that happens between a couple having sex, and the risk that puts on an established marriage. Pushing a woman who doesn’t like the idea into having sex with another runs the risk of her forming a stronger bond with anothe guy, of her despising you for not fighting for her, of her thinking your don’t love her enough to be possessive of her. I remember a situation at university where a friend asked her boyfriend if she could sleep with other men, and was devestated when he said “yes”. She’d wanted him to say no, and prove his intense desire for her.

So yes, a woman can despise a cuckold. Beware.

If this were a fantasy blog, here would follow a tale of investigation, arousal, and revelation. This is not a fantasy blog.

I hurt.

I felt betrayed. I felt that the woman I’d shared my life with for the last decade was not who she said she was. This was not a fantasy. This was a nightmare.

Let me take a step back here. Whatever impression this blog may have given over the years, we’re not actually a cuckolding couple. We are both excited by the fantasy, and have played with it as an idea, but we made the joint decision a long time ago that the infidelity was a barrier we wouldn’t cross. So, as you could imagine, this discovery was initially shocking – it knocked the wind out of me. I was upset. I felt betrayed. I was driven on a roller-coaster ride of emotions. And yet, as the days passed until I could confront my wife about this, I began to be able to seperate my feelings out a little more.

I was hurting, and I was hurting because she was lying to me, and hiding things from me. I was hurting because I felt that I’d been a trusting fool and had been betrayed. I was angry because at least one of the possible candidates for her infidelity was a man for whom that would have been an appealing, but ultimately cruel, decision. But, uncomfortably sitting with this, was genuine arousal at the thought that she’d been with someone else. That cuckold fantasy, the darker, more extreme part of my femdom leanings, was genuine. I was turned on by my wife fucking someone who wasn’t me.

I confronted her. And she proved, conclusively, that I was misreading things. She was faithful, I was wrong, and I learnt a little more about how she thinks in the process. I can genuinely say that we grew as a couple as a result of this.

But I’m left more uncomfortable with myself as a result. I’ve discovered that the idea of being a cuckold, of my wife taking others is more than just a fantasy idea for me, it’s something that I could enjoy. And in a sense, that’s left me less comfortable with the fantasy than before. I now know that I do have it in me to be a cuckold. That I could cope with my wife screwing other people. The our marriage, that my life, could potentially walk that path.

But do I really want that?

A woman wearing thigh-high boot

So, thigh-high boots are this winter’s fashion trend, hmm?

What was I saying the other week about femdon-inspired fashion that keeps its inspiration quiet?

"Cyberchic" from Karen Millen

The latest post on the Karen Millen blog cheerfully informs us that their new look is “cyberchic”.

Take a look at the picture (left).

Cyberchic?

Or Mistress chic?

I think we all know the answer…

However, my mistress and I are in the process of taking some tentative steps back into a more “interesting” relationship, and I’ll do my best to share that here…

Incidentally, this blog is in a brand new home, as I was approached by the WordPress.com guys for http://subscribe.wordpress.com to use for their new comment subscribe functionality. I’d planned on moving to self-hosted WordPress anyway, so welcome to the new digs. Do you like ‘em?

Scary. Sexy. Cool.