are there any mature couples over 55 in the riverside California area? seems couples like us are rare:redflag:

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You just never know where a party might be. Checking into a Doubletree with a family might be more than you thought it would be.

We are very new to the lifestyle. We have had FFM play before so husband decided to try lifestyle. I am up for it. Well we have been to a local small club and only played & had sex with each other. We have gotten a couple of notices from other couples and the girls don't seem to be into my husband (he's being shy which isn't him).So now my husband has decided that he's unsure of the lifestyle. He just said that he didn't want to feel rejected and doesn't know why he can't be himself. He is use to being the Alpha male & doesn't like the idea of having to work at getting people to like him.

Hey everyone happy new year!

I have the biggest fantasy of having a gangbang with my girl. The thought of a lot of men having their way and cumming in her really drives me wild. I think it�s sexy having her in control of all of us and all her holes filled. She has told me her biggest fantasy is to have more then one guy have sex with her at the same time. I believe she means double penetrating her with just me and another man. That would be a great start but she has told me this is only a fantasy and would never act on it.

How can I approach this topic and also put her at ease and make our fantasy�s come true? I truly love her and don�t wanna hurt our relationship. Any advice is appreciated!

Hello everyone!

This is my first post, Hope everyone is having a great New Year.

I have a huge fantasy of having my girl gangbanged or at least a threesome.

The though of many men coming in her or triple penetrating her while she satisfies all of us blows my mind. It makes me feel she is super powerful and In control of us. She has told me her biggest fantasy is to be with more then one man, I think she means only me and one other man at the same time. The thing is she said it’s only a fantasy and she won’t act on it. Is there any advice you all can give to ease her mind and help us both live our our fantasy? I truly love her and this can be a touchy subject, I don’t wanna ruin our great relationship but would love to take it to the next level.

Thanks everyone!

We haven't made any, but we are talking about going on an adventure this year. We have been conservative about doing anything outside our family (David, Red, Clair, Lora and me) for several years now, except for the married boyfriend (his wife approves) we women share. Even Lora's ex-husband, who we used to get together with occasionally, has dropped out of our lives.

None of us are into the traditional swinging scene with one-off stranger sex, it has always been with people we already have known for a while, felt comfortable with and attracted to, "dated" for a while, then let whatever sexual thing that seemed inevitable, happen. Any thoughts?

Wishing all the couples, singles, triads and more a very Happy New Year and wish you all the very best in 2020. We've gotten good advice and new perspectives from reading the many posts on this board. Recently, we read something really interesting - and it was posted in 2007 :-) This board is a great resource for couples either new to the scene or, like ourselves, slowly inching back into it. So thank you to all and have a great 2020 :)

We're a soft swing couple for many years. Probably like so many, after sex got a bit one dimensional, we started chatting about spicing things up. I found I really enjoyed hearing about her past sexual experiences before we met. Loved hearing all the juicy details. We both loved massages, but she normally got them from females. A friend of hers recommended a guy she said was great. We arranged for him to come to our house. I asked if I could watch, he said sure, not a problem. He gave a really good massage, not sexual at all. But while I was watching and she was face down with sheet over her ass, I noticed the sides of her pert little breasts were very visible to him. I had a strange feeling, a bit jealous, but also very turned on by the thought of this stranger seeing the sides of her breasts. We chatted about it after he left and I admitted I was turned on. She also said it was fun. We decided to explore our new found curiosity. I found a guy that gave sensual massages and set one up. We never looked back. Let us know if you want to hear the details of her first erotic massage.

We recently introduced a strap on into our bed. It was originally for me to have sex with both my wife and the other girl. ( I am not allowed to have sex with the other girl with my penis) It was fun at first until my wife put the strap on on and started having sex with the girl. At first it was ok but then my wife got really rough with it. She was going to hard that the other girl couldn�t even do oral on me. Then my wife just rolls her over to missionary and then I am immediately excluded. I gave the code word that I was uncomfortable and my wife got kissed off at me and said I was rediculous. Needless to say, it caused an argument. Then I am sleeping and a here covers moving. I look up and my wife is fingering the other girl again, even after I was uncomfortable with what had just happened. Am I justified in being upset with my wife for the strap on activity and then the fingering during the night even though we just had an argument about the sexual activity?

After many years of talking about it (in and out of bed lol) we decided to invite a single male to join us. After placing a few ads and responding to more we think we have found the right person. Still have to meet in person, but we have traded pics and all signs point to a good match. The wife is happy, he sounds like a nice guy and he's less than half her age :facelick:
We are planning a first meet just to get acquainted but if we click in person the way we've clicked online we'll be getting a room that night :lol:
All of a sudden we're confronted with questions we're not sure of.
* What kind of hotel should we look for? A short stay where you pay cash? Or a nicer hotel, where you would need a credit card to rent?
* Our plan was to bring condoms and be 100% safe for oral and intercourse (maybe dispense with them once we built a relationship). After some of the threads we've read it sounds like a lot of people don't use them for oral. Thoughts? Any last minute advice? LOL

There is a swingers club in or near Pompano Beach, FL called Club Hedonism. Has anyone been there, if so how was it, what age group, etc. Any information on any other clubs in the area would also be helpful. Will be spending some time down there this winter. Thanks.

Some of you may have read my post "embarrassed newbie" over in first swinging experiences. If not, step over and read it to get all of the details. To make a long story short, we ended up having our first swinging experience a week ago with a couple we have known for years. It was completely unplanned and we didnt even know they were in the lifestyle until that night. My wife had the time of her life, I on the other hand, couldn't get it up. I know it's only been a week, but I am eager for redemption. I cant believe I let myself get so drunk that I couldn't perform on the night of my life. My wife loved it so much that it seems like she would be willing to try again, but she keeps saying "it was great. I enjoyed him and was really turned on watching you eat her out, but I'm not sure if we will ever do it again." I need a way to get my redemption without making her feel pressured. Should I keep bringing it up, or just continue with life and hope I get another shot before I go crazy?
A couple years ago, we had anal for the first time. My wife seemed disturbed for a couple days afterwards. She finally admitted that she loved it, but felt bad about loving it, if that makes sense. I kinda feel like she has the same feelings about this. She had a great time, but somehow feels dirty or wrong for participating. How would yall approach this situation?
On a positive note: We have had sex every day since this experience. Prior to that, I would say we averaged once or twice per month.

Got to my urologists office about 9:30 in the morning. He was tied up with a prostate surgery, so he was delayed about an hour. The nurse had me undress from the waist down, and wrap up with a sterile drape. I had taken my pre-procedure meds (cephalexin and Valium) at 9:00, so the delay gave the Valium time to start working. I was pretty relaxed by the time the doc came in. He rinsed my whole groin area with some kind of sterile solution (betadine, I think) and tucked some sterile towels around my scrotum. I tended up when he put the first shot of lidocaine in, but the pain wasn�t any worse than a wasp sting. From that point on, I felt no discomfort. We actually had a conversation while he was working: talked about Star Wars, vacations, driving in snow, etc. One of my vas deferentia was thinner than the other one, and so we talked about it as he cut it, cauterized, and sewed up the proximal end. I�d opted for an open-ended vasectomy, so he only cauterized the distal (testicle) end of the cut. Once he had the left side done, he repeated the procedure on the right. As before, only brief pain with the injection, and after that nothing. Once everything was sutured up with dissolvable sutures, he told me I could shower Saturday morning. No lifting of anything over 5 pounds. Frozen peas and bed rest for a couple of days and Ibuprofen every 4 hours for a week, whether I felt like I needed it or not. No ejaculating for ten days. After that, I have to ejaculate 12 times before I bring his office a sample. He wrote me a scrip for Norco 10, but my pain so far (6 hours later) isn�t any worse than a headache, and not nearly as bad as my osteoarthritis.

Is it ever right for a brother and sister, both single, to play as a couple?
I should say that it doesn�t bother me but I do question it. I know I have been to parties where relatives, not mine, have played. This is both coming as a couple and playing as a couple.
My husband thinks it�s fine.

So the wife and I just returned home from a weekend getaway with another couple. We have known this couple for somewhere between 8-10 years. Somehow after all of this time, we did not know they were swingers. We also found out that the couples they swap with are also couples that we have known for several years. I assume that the reason we never knew is because my wife is a sweet and wholesome girl, or I guess I should say, WAS sweet and wholesome lol. It all started like I'm sure a lot of encounters do, with shots of tequila, which moved to the hot tub, which moved the wives to get nude and make out, which then moved us all inside for a full swap. There I was in the middle of a lifelong fantasy of mine. A fantasy I had never revealed to my wife because of her "wholesomeness". Sounds great right? Well, there was one small problem. No, it wasnt premature ejaculation like I always assumed would happen in that situation, it was worse. Somehow, while experiencing the real life version of an imaginary scene I had masturbated to countless times, I was unable to get an erection. I blamed it on the alcohol, the expirenced couple blamed it on my nerves. How could it be nerves? I have literally dreamed of this moment for years. My wife should be the nervous one, but she had the time of her life on my best friend's dick (which is strangely hot as hell to watch.) The main reason I'm posting this is for some advice. Was it my nerves or the alcohol? If it was nerves, what the hell did I have to be nervous about? My wife was right there partaking in more than I was, so why be nervous? The main question is how do I get my redemption?