The Untold Secret

The World Has The Habit Of Making Room

2011-08-08T12:10:00.001-07:00

“The World Has The Habit Of Making Room For The Man Whose Actions Show That He Knows Where He Is Going.”

My Dear,
Have you ever walked downtown at a pace that conveys that you have urgent things to do? Isn't it funny how people make room for you?

Have you ever said something in full confidence? Isn’t it funny how people don’t question you?

The world has the habit of making room for the man whose actions show that he knows where he is going.

Isn’t it funny that if you know where you’re going, the world makes it easier for you to get there?

Truly yours,
Napoleon Hill

Internet Book Databases?

2011-08-08T02:20:00.000-07:00

An anonymous reader asks: "There have been several attempts at creating a book database like the IMDB. I list several [in the full article] and I would like to know which you like best, and which you use most often. What are the features you find the most useful out of the book databases you use?"

"Here is a list of free Internet book databases:

IBDOF - The Internet Book Database of Fiction

IBList - The Internet Book List

Parchayi.net - Parchayi.net Book Database

SciFan - SciFan

FantasticFiction.co.uk - Fantastic Fiction

And I know of only one commercial one, the FictionDB, which is the largest among all the ones that have been listed.

Does anyone know of any others?"

Happy Friendship Day

2011-08-07T10:55:00.000-07:00

At the end of Friendship Day, I want to share a nice quotations by Anais Nin

Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.

"A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out."
Friendship Day Quotes by: Walter Winchell

Few Cool Books on Friendship

The Law of Action and Reaction

2011-08-04T14:08:00.000-07:00

Yes, Here you are going to read The Law of Action and Reaction proposed by Newton. Famously known as Newtons 3rd law of motion, We all have read long long explanation on above statement. Here I am going to show you a very new picture extracted from above statement from the eye of a philosopher ;).
that stats:

For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.”

Similarly
For Everything You Have Missed, You Have Gained Something Else, And For Everything You Gain, You Lose Something Else.”

The law says, for every force, there is a counter force. The greater we stretch a rubber band, the greater its snapback. Similarly The more I scowl at you, the angrier you will become; the more you smile at me, the more pleased I will become. We could also express this idea by calling it the Law of Cause and Effect, or just by saying that virtue is its own reward and wrongdoing causes suffering.

A positive attitude may not solve all your problems

2011-08-04T14:00:00.000-07:00

A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.

By Herm Albright, quoted in Reader's Digest, June 1995

If you don't get everything you want, think of the things you don't get that you don't want.

Oscar Wilde

This is about

2011-08-04T13:33:00.000-07:00

DEPRESSED

2011-04-09T23:41:00.000-07:00

DEPRESSED

You prepare yourself mentally for a new day, but await a new start. You look in the mirror every day and question the person standing on the other side. You fake a smile for all to see, when really you are screaming inside. You cry when no one can see or hear you. Sometimes when someone says something that triggers a memory, you burt into tears. You just want to escape from this world of misery, your personal hell. You always get hurt no matter what, and you think you can take anymore bull shit.

The Must-Follow Money Rules for Couples

2011-03-09T05:26:00.000-08:00

Keep your finances—and your relationship—happy with these quick and simple guidelines from iVillage personal finance expert Carmen Wong Ulrich

When it comes to how to handle money as a couple, advice runs the gamut from one extreme to the other. Talk to lawyers (especially divorce lawyers) and they’ll probably tell you to keep all of your money separate. Talk to your local priest or minister and he or she may say you must share everything with your spouse.

There are some edicts, however, that always ring true. The rules below will help you not only have a better financial life together, but may actually help you do more lovin’ together.

It’s not so much how you divvy your money up, but that you both agree on a method and stay informed.

Some women marry later in life and, as they’ve been paying their own way and saving and investing for 15-plus years, are happy to keep their finances completely separate. Some other perfectly happy gals walked the aisle in their 20s and immediately blended their finances with their husbands. And then there’s me. My husband and I put money into a joint household account to take care of household bills and goals, but also keep our own personal accounts—the same when it comes to credit.

Here’s what matters: does it work for you both? If it does, you’re probably OK. But, if you don’t like your financial arrangement with your spouse or partner, have that discussion and change it up.

However, if you’re OK with things because you prefer not to know a thing, it’s time for your wake-up call. I had a male guest on my show once, a certified financial planner, who told me that his wife knows nothing about their finances—nothing! My response, “WHAT?! How could you?!” (I liked the guy, but he went down several notches in my book after this revelation.) He said that she was fine with it. She didn’t want to know. This is the only arrangement that should set off alarm bells. Even if you’re a stay-at-home mom, you must know at least the basics of where the money is, how much there is, and where it’s going.

Why? Because you cannot afford to not stay informed, no matter your financial arrangement. We live longer, are more likely to have to care for children and aging parents and we’re more likely to have less money in retirement. The odds are stacked against us. Find an arrangement that makes you both secure and informed, and you’ll be happier.

Someone has to be in charge

Every household needs a Chief Financial Officer. And no, it shouldn’t automatically be the guy. Which one of you is better with money? Which of you always pays bills on time and has a great credit score? Managing the money can feel like a chore if you’re always saddled with doing all the work, but there needs to be someone who takes the initiative to keep track of everything—not just bill-paying, but your goals as a couple too.

Quelle surprise, I’m the head of the money-household at home—I make sure bills are paid, savings are made and I monitor our investments as well. And the majority of you say that you do the same. Pew Research found that women tend to rule the roost when it comes to making financial decisions. In almost half of all households women say that they are in charge of money matters while only 23% say their husbands are and 29% say it’s a joint operation.

But, that doesn’t mean that what I say goes, no matter what. Family CFO’s are not tyrants. As household CFO your job is to keep the team informed as well as to be open to changes and disagreements along the way. I make sure to communicate almost daily with my husband about financial obligations as well as upcoming big bills or purchases, and most fun of all, how we can reach goals together.

Stay informed. Feel secure. Two things that are sure to net you fewer scuffles and more snuggles!

Got a question for iVillage personal finance expert Carmen Wong Ulrich? Send it to her at homeand.garden@nbcuni.com

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Happiness

2011-02-15T11:25:00.000-08:00

Happiness often sneaks in through a door you did not know you left open. - John Barrymore

Story of Appreciation

2011-02-04T23:07:00.000-08:00

One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.

He passed the first interview; the director did the last interview, made the last decision.

The director discovered from the CV, that the youth's academic result was excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never was there a year he did not score.

The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarship in school?" and the youth answered "no".

The director asked, "Did your father pay your school fees?" The youth answered, "my father passed away when I was one year old and it was my mother who paid my school fees".

The director asked, "Where did your mother work?" the youth answered, "my mother worked as cloth cleaner." The director requested the youth to show his hands and the youth showed a pair of hands that was smooth and perfect to the director.

The director asked, "Did you ever help your mother wash clothes before?" The youth answered," never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books, furthermore, my mother could wash clothes faster than I could"

The director said, I have a request, when you go back today, go and help to clean your mother's hand, and then see me tomorrow morning .

The youth felt that the chance of landing the job was high and when he went back, he happily wanted to clean his mother's hands. His mother felt strange. With happiness mixed with fear, she showed her hands to the kid.

The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly and his tears fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and that there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that she shuddered when his mother’s hands were cleaned with water .

This is the first time that the youth realized and experienced that it is this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to earn him the school fees and that the bruises in the mother's hand were the price that the mother paid for his graduation and academic excellence and probably his future.

After finishing the cleaning of his mother's hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.

That night, the mother and son talked for a very long time.

Next morning , the youth went to the director's office

The director noticed the tear in the youth's eye and asked: "Can you tell what you did and learnt yesterday in your house?"

The youth answered, " I cleaned my mother's hands and also finished washing all the remaining clothes'

The director asked , " please tell me what you felt "

The youth said, "Number 1, I know what appreciation is now'. Without my mother, I would not be successful today. Number 2, Now I know how to work together with my mother. Only now do I realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done. Number 3, I know the importance and value of family relationship.

The director said, "This is what I am asking, I want to recruit a person that can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the suffering of others to get things done, and a person that would not put money as his only goal in life to be my manager. You are hired.

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates, every employee worked diligently and as a team and the company improved tremendously.

A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he needs, develops "entitlement mentality" and always puts himself first. He is ignorant of his parent's efforts. When he starts work, he assumes every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the suffering of his employees and always blame others. These kinds of people, can achieve good results and may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel a sense of achievement or satisfaction. If we happen to be this kind of (protective) parent, this is the time to ask the question- whether we did/do love our kids or destroy them.

You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn to play the piano, watch a big screen TV but when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it. After a meal, let them wash their plate and bowl together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love and show them the correct way. You want them to understand that no matter how rich their parents are, one day they will grow old, become weak and that their hair too will grow gray,. The most important thing is for your kid to learn how to appreciate experience and learn the effort and ability needed to work with others to get things done. They should also value, appreciate what the parents have done and love them for who they are!

Beautiful Sound of The Ocean

2011-01-24T00:19:00.000-08:00

Facebook

2011-01-22T22:34:00.000-08:00

Facebook blamed for growing divorces

Lawyer says 30 cases she handled involved site

IANS

Published: 00:00 January 23, 2011

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London: The social networking website Facebook is being blamed for a growing number of divorces in Britain as married partners are caught cheating online.

A lawyer said how every divorce she had dealt with in the past nine months had involved the social networking website, according to The Sun.

Nowadays, even flirty messages and photos of new lovers after a split are being used by former spouses as "ammunition" in divorce proceedings.

Lawyers are advising couples to stop using Facebook and sites such as Second Life, Illicit Encounters and Friends Reunited until legal proceedings are finalised.

Emma Patel, of Hart Scales and Hodges Solicitors, in Surrey, has dealt with 30 divorces since May, and all involved Facebook.

What effect does Facebook have on relationships? Has it become a way for partners to check up on one another? Should messages and photos be allowed as evidence during divorce proceedngs? Tell us what you think by posting a comment below.

http://gulfnews.com/news/world/uk/facebook-blamed-for-growing-divorces-1.750522

Gates of Happiness are Open

2011-01-14T00:09:00.000-08:00

"For you see, each day I love you moreToday more than yesterday and less than tomorrow."~ Rosemonde Gerard

“You rose into my life like a promised sunrise, brightening my days with the light in your eyes. I've never been so strong. Now I'm where I belong.”~ Maya Angelou

"Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness."~ Oliver Wendell Holmes

"In the arithmetic of love, one plus one equals everything, and two minus one equals nothing."~ Mignon McLaughlin

When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible. ~Nora Ephron, When Harry Met Sally

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Divine accident

2011-01-11T04:32:00.000-08:00

"The most wonderful of all things in life, I believe, is the discovery of another human being with whom one's relationship has a glowing depth, beauty, and joy as the years increase. This inner progressiveness of love between two human beings is a most marvelous thing, it cannot be found by looking for it or by passionately wishing for it. It is a sort of Divine accident." Sir Hugh Walpoe

"Today I begin to understand what love must be, if it exists. . . . When we are parted, we each feel the lack of the other half of ourselves. We are incomplete like a book in two volumes of which the first has been lost. That is what I imagine love to be: incompleteness in absence". Edmond de Goncourt (1822-96) and Jules de Goncourt (1830-70), French writers.

My heart to you is given: Oh, do give yours to me; We'll lock them up together, And throw away the key.

"Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit".

ye mahaloN ye taKhtoN ye taajoN ki duniya

2011-01-05T23:21:00.000-08:00

Going over the list of posted songs and nazms, I was surprised to see I hadn’t posted this song yet on this site. This happens to be one of my favourite songs from one of my favourite movies ever, Pyaasa (Guru Dutt). The song is simply amazing! I think it fits in nicely with my recent posts regarding patriotic/nationalist songs by Sahir.

Enjoy the song, a video, courtesy the amazing posters at youtube, is posted below as well.

ye mahloN, ye taKhtoN, ye taajoN ki duniya
ye insaaN ke dushman, samaajoN ki duniya
ye daulat ke bhuukhe, rivaajoN ki duniyaa
ye duniyaa agar mil bhi jaaye to kyaa hai
ye duniyaa agar mil bhi jaaye to kyaa hai

har ik jism ghaayal, har ik ruuh pyaasii
nigaahoN me uljhan, diloN meiN udaasi
ye duniyaa hai yaa aalam-e-badhavaasii
ye duniyaa agar mil bhi jaaye to kyaa hai

jahaaN ik khilona hai insaaN ki hastii
ye bastii hai murda-parastoN ki bastii
yahaaN par to jeevan se hai maut sastii
ye duniyaa agar mil bhi jaaye to kyaa hai

javaani bhaTaktii hai bezaar bankar
javaaN jism sajate haiN baazaar bankar
jahaaN pyaar hota hai vyopaar bankar
ye duniyaa agar mil bhi jaaye to kyaa hai

ye duniyaa jahaaN aadmi kuchh nahiiN hai
vafaa kuchh nahiiN, dostii kuchh nahiiN hai
jahaaN pyaar ki qadr hi kuchh nahiiN hai
ye duniyaa agar mil bhi jaaye to kyaa hai

jalaa do ise phuuNk DaaloN ye duniyaa
jalaa do jalaa do
jalaa do ise phuuNk DaaloN ye duniyaa
mere saamne se haTaa lo ye duniyaa
tumhaari hai tum hi sambhaalo ye duniyaa
ye duniyaa agar mil bhi jaaye to kyaa hai

2010 ka akhri din

2010-12-31T07:17:00.000-08:00

This is my annual post, the last post of 2010. and here i will sum up, what happened in my life in that year and look ahead to what’s going to happen in 2011. I do this so I can have a handy record that I can get to in seconds.
First month of 2010 was not good, after the month of march that year starts bringing me alot of happiness, in my personal life as well as in my career. Thanks to ALLAH for each and everything.

Many days was very good, few days was bad. this year i got sick 4 times.
This Year, I read almost 52 great Informative books on Islam, Life, and Science.I learn alot from those books. and i have change my life too much, beacuse i have implemented 80% in my life, that i read from books. Books are the best friends of a person. I spend my free time with books.
This year i didnt watch Television. as compared to past years. Only 2% of my time of 2010 i sit infront of tv to watch it.
I spend alot of my time on internet, for reading articles and news all around the world.

This year was nice. and I pray ALLAH, the coming year 2011 bring alot of happiness for my loved one,family, and friends.and take away all our sorrows and problems from our life. Make us powerfull,happy and healthy,wealthy. and A good MUSLIMS as ALLAH says in QURAN. Ameen

Muslim scientists are the founders of current science and technology

2010-12-22T00:27:00.000-08:00

Dream Fable

2010-12-21T23:37:00.000-08:00

I saw myself in a wide green garden, more beautiful than I could begin to understand. In this garden was a young girl. I said to her, "How wonderful this place is!"

"Would you like to see a place even more wonderful than this?" she asked.

"Oh yes," I answered. Then taking me by the hand, she led me on until we came to a magnificent palace, like nothing that was ever seen by human eyes. The young girl knocked on the door, and someone opened it. Immediately both of us were flooded with light.

Only Allah knows the inner meaning of the maidens we saw living there. Each one carried in her hand a serving-tray filled with light. The young girl asked the maidens where they were going, and they answered her, "We are looking for someone who was drowned in the sea, and so became a martyr. She never slept at night, not one wink! We are going to rub funeral spices on her body."

"Then rub some on my friend here," the young girl said.

"Once upon a time," said the maidens, "part of this spice and the fragrance of it clung to her body -- but then she shied away."

Quickly the young girl let go of my hand, turned, and said to me:

"Your prayers are your light;
Your devotion is your strength;
Sleep is the enemy of both.
Your life is the only opportunity that life can give you.
If you ignore it, if you waste it,
You will only turn to dust."

Then the young girl disappeared.

My Greatest Need is You

2010-12-19T23:35:00.000-08:00

My Greatest Need is You

Your hope in my heart is the rarest treasure
Your Name on my tongue is the sweetest word
My choicest hours
Are the hours I spend with You --
O Allah, I can't live in this world
Without remembering You--
How can I endure the next world
Without seeing Your face?
I am a stranger in Your country
And lonely among Your worshippers:
This is the substance of my complaint.

My Beloved

2010-12-18T23:37:00.000-08:00

My peace, O my brothers and sisters, is my solitude,
And my Beloved is with me always,
For His love I can find no substitute,
And His love is the test for me among mortal beings,
Whenever His Beauty I may contemplate,
He is my "mihrab", towards Him is my "qiblah"
If I die of love, before completing satisfaction,
Alas, for my anxiety in the world, alas for my distress,
O Healer (of souls) the heart feeds upon its desire,
The striving after union with Thee has healed my soul,
O my Joy and my Life abidingly,
You were the source of my life and from Thee also came my ecstasy.
I have separated myself from all created beings,
My hope is for union with Thee, for that is the goal of my desire.

taqdeer

2010-11-28T22:11:00.000-08:00

I am happy

2010-11-25T23:28:00.000-08:00

I am happy because I always choose the right moment. I am happy because I am a good listener. I am happy because I keep my voice down. I am happy because I do not try to convince others. I am happy because I do not complain. I am happy because I do not do two things at the same time. I am happy because I never think of two objects at the same time. I am happy because I have realised the truth that the most important thing in my life is self-improvement. I am happy because I unreservedly accentuate the good in others. I am happy because I have considerably cut down on my desiring needs. I am happy because I follow my thought-control programme every day. I am happy because I never quit. I am happy because every day I purify my heart by offering my heart of gratitude to the Absolute Supreme. I am happy because I know that my love of purity works wonders.

Dil Se Mere Door na Jana...

2010-11-22T09:56:00.000-08:00

Eid Mubarak

2010-11-16T02:21:00.000-08:00

Eid days are meant to celebrate
the goals and the achievements
that make you happiest.
The ideals you believe in,
the dream you love the best.

Smoking ban to be enforced inside Saudi airports

2010-11-06T22:35:00.000-07:00

A ban on smoking inside Saudi airports will be enforced from Sunday, starting with King Abdul Aziz International Airport in Jeddah.

Riyadh: A ban on smoking inside Saudi airports will be enforced from Sunday, starting with King Abdul Aziz International Airport in Jeddah.

The ban will be enforced at other airports in the kingdom gradually, where offenders will pay a 200-Saudi riyal fine (around $53).

Special rooms for smoking will be set up at airports.

Earlier this year, an advertisement campaign was launched on local TV about the harms of smoking targeting Saudi youth.

Saudi smokers spend eight billion riyals on cigarettes every year, according to local statistics.