The Urban Dater. A Blog About Sex, Dating & Relationships

I am NOT an Expert

I write about relationship advice and I never claimed to be an expert, I stress this often. I feel like a fraud. Why? Because despite the fact that I give good relationship advice, and let’s face it I know I do, I can’t seem to make my own relationships work. I realize that in saying/writing [...]

6 Ways to Leave the Gold-Digger Behind

Whether you were born into money or you’re a self-made man, you will no doubt encounter the infamous gold-digger at some point in your dating history. You know the type. When the bill shows up at the end of the meal, she doesn’t even lift a finger, but rather looks at you expectantly, as if [...]

the Little Black Dress

If I am Super Man then the Little Black Dress is undoubtedly my Kryptonite, rendering me into a state of enervated goo. It’s quite a pathetic site really. However, I cannot help this; I’m genetically predisposed to be wooed silly by any woman, regardless of the shape or size of the woman who dons the [...]

The eFlirt Date Expert Explains it All

At the Urban Dater, if I’m not writing about dick and fart jokes it just isn’t “business as usual.” People wonder what the hell is going on. However, since my dear mother reads this blog, as well as many other parents, I’ve decided to do something a little different. Today, we’re going to class the [...]

Lessons in Love and Retail

It may come as a surprise to those that know me, but I was once a painfully shy person. I would shun the sun, if a woman walked up to me I would make a b-line the opposite direction. No, I didn’t like strangers and I didn’t like the unknown. Therefore, I had few options [...]

Who Needs a Wingman Anyway? Not Me!

At the Urban Dater we love to feature a variety of voices. Today I’m very happy to be featuring a contributed post from one of our Followers on Twitter, BeingDirect. Read his tweets and you know what’s on his mind: Women. The man is the connoisseur of the “Pickup.” There’s no questions, no playing games; [...]

Will Your Lover Bail on You?

I’m Watching ESPN, drinking a six pack of O’Douls while listening to a Carpenter’s and James Taylor Mashup Remix by the Dust Brothers, I was in an odd state of mind. Sure, “odd” is sort of my default setting, just ask those who have met me in person. On the “Tube” I see this lovely [...]

Damn, We Should Have a Theme Week, Like Shark Week! With Less Blood!

There I was sitting on my pleather couch eating a fist full of self respect and washing it down with a stiff glass of shut the hell up juice! My eyes were fixed on the TV. You see, it was Shark Week. I never got the popularity of it all, and Craig Ferguson wasn’t doing [...]

Is Technology a Crutch When it Comes to Dating and Relationships?

I love technology every bit as much as you, you see, but I still have more love for technology. This statement is cold hard fact. As true as north as I can get; I love me the t3ch! The tools we use to make our lives easier have changed us drastically and in so many [...]

The Urban Dater Featured on How Very Lucky!

At the Urban Dater, we’ve had the great fortune of meeting a number of our fellow blogger contemporaries and readers in real life (IRL)… Actually, should I be explaining the full text summary of a phrase with an acronym? Oh technology, you amazing f#cker. Anyway, we’re honored to be featured over on Lucky Girl’s blog, [...]