Application of God's Word

What Man Has Joined Together...

2025-07-14T15:34:00.002-04:00

Several years ago, I attended a beautiful wedding, one of those picture-perfect ceremonies where everything seemed just right. The couple had been together for a few years, and by all outward appearances, their marriage was inevitable. The bride glowed with joy, the groom charmed the room, and the guests whispered about how "perfect" they were for each other. It looked like a fairytale.

However, "not everything that glitters is gold." Those of us closest to them began to notice warning signs that things weren't as they seemed. Their relationship, though strong in physical attraction and public image, seemed to lack something deeper. Conversations about God and faith were rare. Their plans rarely included prayer or spiritual accountability. Family and friends quietly wondered if this marriage was built more on lust and social expectations than on genuine, God-honoring commitment.

Fast-forward a few years into the marriage, and the cracks beneath the surface became visible. The first sign was that they stopped attending church. God was no longer part of their conversations or their decisions. Communication broke down, and arguments became frequent and public. There was even a time when they separated. The lady went to stay with her mom and left her husband at their house. Instead of seeking Godly counsel, they refused pastoral support and shut others out.

Though the physical connection between them continued, it wasn't enough to hold them together. After each heated argument, the same cycle repeated: temporary closeness, followed by emotional distance. Without the foundation of Christ, the relationship couldn't withstand the storms of life. Eventually, they separated and divorced.

It was painful to watch but unfortunately, it is not uncommon.

This situation and others like it, left me asking a hard but necessary question:

"Did God truly join this couple together, or did they join themselves together?"

Matthew 19:6 reminds us, "What God has joined together, let no one separate." But what happens when God wasn't the one who joined it to begin with?"

Too often, people step into marriage for the wrong reasons, timing, pressure, attraction, loneliness, or a sense of obligation. They assume that because a relationship feels right, it might be from God. But feelings alone do not confirm a divine connection. God's confirmation is found in peace, counsel, alignment with His Word, and most importantly, in seeking Him first.

What Is a Human-Driven Marriage?

Human-driven marriages are often shaped by our desires, expectations, and what the world tells us a relationship should be. They’re not always filled with conflict, but they are frequently built on shaky foundations. When the motives behind a marriage are rooted in attraction, convenience, or personal gain, the relationship is at risk of crumbling when those elements shift, which they often do.

Characteristics of a Human-Driven Marriage

Self-Focused
In a human-driven marriage, each partner may focus more on their own happiness than on the well-being of the relationship. The mindset becomes “What can I get from this?” rather than “How can I serve and love?”
Guided by Emotions
When emotions lead the way, stability disappears. Feelings are fickle. Without a spiritual foundation, the marriage can quickly unravel during seasons of stress or disappointment.
Worldly Priorities
These marriages often prioritize career success, image, or even physical attraction above spiritual unity. While those things aren’t inherently bad, they’re not strong enough to sustain a lifelong covenant.
More Susceptible to Conflict and Division
Without God at the center, trials feel like battles instead of opportunities to grow together. Instead of pressing into God, we may turn on each other.

Biblical Examples of Human-Driven Marriages and Relationships

The Bible offers real stories of what happens when marriages are built on human desires instead of God’s design.

Samson and Delilah (Judges 16):
Samson’s attraction to Delilah led him into a relationship that wasn’t rooted in faith or purpose. Delilah ultimately betrayed him, showing how dangerous it is to be guided by passion without wisdom.
Ahab and Jezebel (1 Kings 16:29–33):
King Ahab married Jezebel for political and personal gain, but their union led to idolatry and disobedience. Jezebel’s influence pulled Ahab and Israel away from God.

These stories remind us that who we join ourselves to matters—and so do our reasons.

How to Discern the Foundation of Your Marriage

So how do you know if your marriage is human-driven or God-joined? Here are a few questions to reflect on:

Is Christ truly at the center?
Do you and your spouse pray together, seek God’s guidance, and prioritize His Word?
Is your love sacrificial or self-serving?
Are you willing to put your spouse’s needs before your own, or are you focused on personal fulfillment?
Do you feel a shared divine purpose?
Are you united in your calling and mission, or are you simply coexisting?
How do you handle trials?
Do you turn to prayer and faith in difficulty, or rely on your own strength and end up blaming each other?

If any of these questions reveal areas where God has been sidelined, take heart. It’s never too late to invite Him back in.

Rebuilding on God's Foundation

The good news is that God doesn’t discard broken things—He restores them. A God-joined marriage may not be perfect, but it is anchored in something greater than emotion, culture, or circumstances. It is sustained by grace, built on love, and shaped by purpose.

Jesus said,

“Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” —Matthew 19:6

This means not only that others shouldn’t interfere, but also that we shouldn’t take over what God intended to lead. When we take the reins, we risk steering the marriage off course. But when we give control back to God, He can do what we never could—make two become one, in unity, peace, and power.

For those who are not married, this is a great resource. Here are some important questions to ask before you get married.

Important Questions to Ask Before Marriage

Before you say "I do," ask yourself:

Did I seek God about this relationship, or just follow my heart?
Has this person been confirmed in prayer, or just through emotions?
Do we both honor God, seek Him, and aim to build a life that glorifies Him together?
Are we pursuing purity, peace, and purpose—or are we driven by chemistry and comfort?

Remember: a God-ordained relationship is built on spiritual substance, not just emotional sparks. That’s what gives it the strength to last when life gets hard.

Whether you’re preparing for marriage, in the middle of it, or rebuilding after hard seasons, ask God to examine your foundation. Is it built on Him—or on you? A God-joined marriage may require surrender, humility, and growth, but it is worth it. Let Him write your love story—not just the beginning, but every chapter.

God bless you as you seek His will in your relationship.

Living with Grief

2025-02-03T11:51:00.014-05:00

Life is a gift, fragile and quite fleeting, and yet it is filled with so much purpose. Death though inevitable, often feels abrupt and harsh, leaving behind a trail of grief that each of us must figure out how to navigate. Recently, my family experienced this firsthand with the passing of my beloved Aunt Merilee. Her passing has left a void in all our hearts, but it also reminded me of the profound truths God has given us in His word about life, death, and the hope for eternity.

Aunt Merilee was very dear to us all. I cannot imagine the hurt and pain her children are all experiencing as they mourn her passing. She was one of the matriarchs of the family that exuded strength, bravery, pride, love, selflessness, and resilience. My aunt endured many hardships and challenges yet she persevered and never gave up. She also had many joyous moments in our life. Her family was always a source of pride and joy. She loved her children immensely. She was tough but loving and nurturing. She would work tirelessly to make sure her children had what they needed. Aunt Merilee never hesitated to be there to help out during any family crisis or celebration. Her generosity, kindness, and sacrifice have left an undeniable mark on everyone she encountered.

My relationship with my aunt was a special one. She would call me her adoptive daughter and we would joke that she was my real mom due to our similar features. This of course would upset my mom and my cousin but it was our thing, our special bond. It breaks my heart to know that she's no longer with us.

The Bible reminds us that our lives are but "a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes" (James 4:14). Our time on earth is but a moment in the grander story of God's plan. It is important to remember that our time here is short. Our interactions with each other are but for a moment. Let's make them meaningful and ones that will last even after we are gone.

In the days following my aunt's passing, our hearts felt heavy with grief. When someone close to you passes, you can find yourself oscillating between memories you shared together, the laughter, the joy, and the pain of their absence. When my father passed, I went through waves of emotions. There were even moments I doubted he had passed and what kept me going was the memories and continuously reminding myself that he would want me to be happy.

There will be moments of stillness when the pain of losing your loved one hits you. Yet, in the stillness of those moments and in the pain of those moments, we are to remember that "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit" (Psalms 34:18). God is near. He is even more present in your brokenheartedness. He knows and understands how you feel. God wants us to draw close to Him during those painful times. As He draws close to us, will you draw close to His comforting embrace?

Grief is not linear. Some days, the pain feels unbearable and other days it is manageable. But through it all, I am learning to embrace both the sorrow and the joy. "There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die." (Ecclesiastes 3:1-2). Death reminds us to cherish the life we've been given and to trust in God's timing. Grief has a way of humbling us, reminding us of our fragility, our humanity, and hopefully reminding us of God.

Aunt Merilee taught me about self-sacrifice, love, and the importance of family. In honor of her, my dad, Rodney, Uncle Rodrigue, and all the loved ones who have gone before us, let us live life more intentionally. Let us remember that we are here for a purpose and let us strive each day to live in it. Aunt Merilee touched so many people with her love and she will forever be in our hearts.

If you are grieving, I encourage you to lean into God's word and His presence. Allow yourself to feel the depth of your emotions, but also invite His peace into those tender spaces. Life, death, and grief are all part of the journey, but through it all, God remains faithful.

Rest in peace, Aunt Merilee. Until we meet again.

"He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away." (Revelations 21:4).

God bless you!

When You Can't Communicate With Your Spouse

2024-10-19T00:00:00.005-04:00

Anyone who has been in a relationship, whether romantic or not, knows that communication is paramount for it to be successful. Communication is the cornerstone of any healthy marriage, but there are times when you may feel like you can’t talk to your spouse. Whether it’s due to conflict, emotional distance, or simply feeling misunderstood, the silence can feel heavy and isolating. During these moments, it is crucial to remember that you’re not alone and that there is a way to bridge that gap through faith and intentional effort.

Here are a few steps you can take to get the communication re-ignited.

1. Understanding the Root Causes of Silence

The first step in addressing communication issues is understanding why you may not feel like you can talk to your spouse. This silence can stem from various factors, such as unresolved conflicts, fear of being hurt, or a lack of understanding.

In James 1:19, we are reminded: “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.” This verse highlights the importance of listening—both to our spouse and to ourselves. Before approaching the conversation, reflect on what might be causing your reluctance to communicate. So the first step also involves reflection. Reflect on any past arguments or misunderstandings that may have contributed to the silence.

2. Pray for Guidance

When you find it difficult to communicate with your spouse, prayer is a powerful tool. Take time to pray individually and together, asking God to soften your hearts and help you communicate effectively.

Philippians 4:6-7 encourages us: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” By bringing your concerns to God, you invite Him into your situation, seeking His guidance and peace to address the challenges you face.

3. Start Small

When you’re feeling disconnected, it might be helpful to start with small, low-pressure conversations. Rather than diving into heavy topics right away, engage in light discussions about your day, shared interests, or future plans.

In Proverbs 25:11, it says: “A word aptly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver.” This emphasizes the beauty of thoughtful communication. Starting small can help ease tension and gradually open the door for more profound conversations.

4. Use “I” Statements

When it’s time to express your feelings, consider using “I” statements instead of “you” statements. This approach focuses on your feelings rather than placing blame. For example, instead of saying, “You never listen to me,” you could say, “I feel unheard when we talk.”

Ephesians 4:15 encourages us to “speak the truth in love.” This means being honest about your feelings while also ensuring that your spouse feels respected and valued.

5. Seek Understanding and Empathy

When discussing sensitive topics, aim to understand your spouse’s perspective. Sometimes, what feels like a communication breakdown stems from a lack of understanding.

Romans 12:15 reminds us to “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.” This calls for empathy and emotional connection. When you strive to understand your spouse's feelings and experiences, it can help foster a sense of unity and trust.

6. Don’t Rush the Process

Rebuilding communication can take time. Don’t expect immediate results, and be patient with each other as you work through your feelings.

Galatians 6:9 states, “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” This encourages persistence, reminding you that the effort you put into improving communication will pay off in the long run.

7. Consider Professional Help if Needed

If you find that communication issues persist and become overwhelming, seeking help from a marriage counselor or therapist can provide valuable insights and strategies for improvement.

Proverbs 15:22 says, “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” Sometimes, having an unbiased third party can help both spouses express themselves more openly and find common ground.

It is normal to go through periods when you don’t feel like you can talk to your spouse. However, by approaching the situation with prayer, patience, and a commitment to understanding one another, you can work toward bridging the communication gap. Remember, marriage is a journey, and with God at the center, you can navigate even the toughest moments together.

As you seek to rebuild communication, lean on the promises of God, knowing that He is always present to guide and support you. Trust that through your efforts and God’s grace, you will find your way back to each other, creating a deeper bond rooted in love and understanding.

God bless you in this process.

What God Has Joined Together....

2024-10-16T02:30:00.005-04:00

In today's world, it can be easy to approach marriage with a mindset of romance and personal desires. We see it in the movies, we read it in romance novels, and we get swept away by the facade of love.

For Christians, marriage holds a deeper and divine significance. We often hear at weddings, "What God has joined together, let no one separate" (Matthew 19:6), but what does that really mean? Can we discern between marriages that are divinely ordained and those that are driven by human desires?

Sarah and Gregory met in the most unexpected way. Neither of them was actively looking for a relationship; however, they're meeting was divinely orchestrated. They were both simply trying to grow closer to God and focus on their individual callings. They crossed paths at a Bible study. At first, they were just friends, talking about scripture, dissecting the Word of God, and discussing their future plans to serve Christ and bring others to Christ.

As time went on, their friendship deepened, and things began to shift. Instead of rushing into a relationship based on their feelings, they both, independently, sought out an answer from God. They both prayed and asked God, "Is this from You?"

Sarah asked God to block this relationship if it wasn't His will, and Gregory prayed for God to reveal His will for his life concerning his future with Sarah. They both got a confirmation in the form of peace. That was the first sign that this wasn't a human-made connection. There weren't fireworks, not obsession, not anxiety, just peace. It was something sacred.

Through more confirmation from God, Sarah and Gregory sought out mentors and Godly counsel. Their courtship was low, prayerful, and intentional. They fasted and prayed before taking steps forward. They prayed together and apart. And when they finally got married, it wasn't because they were pressured by culture or swept up by chemistry. It was because they both clearly sensed that God had joined them together.

Their marriage is not perfect. They have disagreements and challenges. However, what sets them apart is when things get tough, they both run to God first and to each other. They are not just husband and wife, they are partners in prayer, purpose and pursuit of Christ.

This is an example of a God-ordained marriage. It doesn't always look glamorous on the outside, but it's rich on the inside.

What does it mean for God to join two people together?

A God-joined marriage is one that reflects His divine will and purpose. It is a union that is Christ-centered, where both partners seek to glorify God through their relationship. This kind of marriage goes beyond personal satisfaction or worldly success; it aligns with God's larger plan and purpose for both the individuals and His kingdom.

Characteristics of a God-Joined Marriage

Centered on Christ: Both individuals place God at the center of their marriage, seeking His will above their own desires. They rely on prayer, Scripture, and God’s guidance to shape their relationship.
Mutual Submission and Sacrifice: In a God-joined marriage, both partners are committed to loving and serving one another as Christ loved the Church (Ephesians 5:21-33). This love is not based on what they can get from each other, but on what they can give.
Divine Purpose: A God-joined marriage has a higher purpose. It’s not just about companionship or fulfilling personal desires, but about partnering together for God's glory. The couple seeks to live out God's mission for their lives together.
Resilient Through Trials: A God-joined marriage can weather life's storms because it is anchored in faith. The couple knows that they are united by God's will and lean on Him during difficult times. Ecclesiastes 4:12 says, “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” That third strand—God—is what keeps the marriage strong.

Examples of God-Joined Marriages in the Bible

Abraham and Sarah: Despite the many trials they faced—waiting for decades to have a child, moving to a foreign land by God’s command, and experiencing moments of doubt—Abraham and Sarah’s marriage was ultimately a testament to God’s faithfulness. Their union was part of God’s divine plan to establish a nation through their descendants (Genesis 12:1-3). Though they made mistakes along the way, their relationship endured because it was grounded in God’s promise.
Boaz and Ruth: The story of Ruth and Boaz is a beautiful example of a marriage that reflects divine guidance and purpose. Ruth, a Moabite widow, followed her mother-in-law Naomi to Israel and trusted in God’s plan. Boaz, a kind and righteous man, saw Ruth’s faithfulness and honored her by marrying her. Their marriage led to the birth of Obed, the grandfather of King David, and is part of the lineage of Jesus Christ (Ruth 4:13-22). This shows that God’s plans for marriage often extend far beyond what we can see at the moment.
Mary and Joseph: The marriage of Mary and Joseph was not just about them—it was about God’s plan for the salvation of the world. Joseph’s decision to stay with Mary, despite the unusual circumstances of her pregnancy, reflects a deep obedience to God. Their marriage served a divine purpose, as they became the earthly parents of Jesus (Matthew 1:18-25). In this union, we see how God’s hand works even in unexpected situations to fulfill His plan.

Discerning the Difference: Is Your Marriage God-Joined?

If you are married or considering marriage, it’s important to reflect on whether your relationship is God-joined or human-driven. Here are a few questions to help you discern the difference:

Is Christ at the center of your relationship? Do you and your spouse pray together, seek God's guidance, and build your relationship on His Word?
Are you both committed to serving each other selflessly? Is your love based on mutual sacrifice, or is it more focused on what you can gain?
Do you feel a sense of divine purpose in your marriage? Are you working together to glorify God and fulfill His plan for your lives, or is your marriage primarily about personal fulfillment?
How do you handle trials? Do you rely on God to strengthen your marriage during difficult times, or do you turn to worldly solutions and blame each other?

Whether you’re preparing for marriage or are already married, it's never too late to align your relationship with God's will. A God-joined marriage honors Him, reflects Christ’s love, and is built to withstand the challenges of life. As you seek to discern the nature of your marriage, turn to God in prayer, ask for His guidance, and commit to living out His purpose in your relationship.

“What God has joined together, let no one separate” (Matthew 19:6). Let these words be the foundation of your marriage as you pursue a union that is blessed, sustained, and guided by God’s hand.

God bless you!

What Should I Do If There Is No Intimacy In My Marriage?

2024-10-12T19:47:00.002-04:00

Hello everyone!

I am continuing the series on marriage and divorce. Today we are going to discuss, intimacy in marriage. I received this question on the post Marriage is Sacred and Binding and I wanted to answer it as best as I could based on scripture. I did not realize I would get so many comments on the post but I am excited to share them with you.

This is a question we all can learn from and one that is more prevalent than we would like to admit. I have a personal experience of discussing intimacy in marriage with a friend that can shed some light on the topic.

A few years ago, my friend and I met for coffee to catch up. With our hectic schedules, we had not seen each other in months. We kept in contact over the phone but we usually met for coffee at least once a week. Anyway, as we were talking and catching up, I asked about her husband and how things were with his business. Tears immediately welled up in her eyes and she whispered, "It feels like the love is gone. He is obsessed with work. We live separate lives and we hardly spend time together. It feels like we are roommates." She spoke of the emotional and physical distance. She felt lonely, confused, and unsure of what to do. Her words hit me hard. I've known them for a long time and they were always a model Christian couple, one to be revered so it was hard to hear that they were going through a rough patch. So I will share with you some of the scriptures I used to encourage her but before we do that, let's first take a look at what intimacy in marriage looks like.

Intimacy is the heartbeat of a marriage, the glue that binds two people together in a unique and sacred way. Without intimacy, a marriage will feel cold, distant, and empty. You can mask the lack of intimacy with work and keeping yourself busy but it is always there. I know of couples who do a good job of putting on a mask for public outings but when they get home the masks fall off and the truth is revealed- it was all a rouse for people to think we are "that couple" when in fact we don't get along. There are married couples that enjoy passionate physical intimacy but their relationship is still lacking true intimacy. They fool each other into thinking that a physical relationship equates to intimacy, but sadly it does not.

True intimacy goes far beyond the physical. It encompasses emotional, spiritual, and mental closeness between two people. It is vulnerability, trust, and allowing your spouse to know you fully without fear of rejection or judgment. It is the foundation of any marriage. It involves sharing your innermost thoughts, feelings, fears, and dreams with each other, trusting that your spouse will handle them with care, and not divulging your secrets carelessly. In marriage, this means that a spouse is supportive, attentive, encouraging, and present through the highs and lows.

To understand, intimacy between a husband and wife, we have to first understand what God intended for intimacy to look like in marriage.

"Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife, and they shall become one flesh" - Genesis 2:24

Becoming "one flesh" is not solely about physical intimacy but it is about emotional connection, spiritual unity, and deep partnership. Marriage is a reflection of God's covenant with his people, where two become one, mirroring the love and commitment God has for us.

"Leaving" does not mean that you abandon or cut off your relationship with your parents. A spouse who truly understands the importance of family and parents in your life would never ask you to cut off your parents. However, the bible addresses "leaving" as a requirement for the married couple to "become one flesh." This requires that the spouse shifts his primary loyalty and commitment from his parents to his wife.

In the culture of the time, men often remained in close proximity to their families, so this scripture emphasizes the importance of prioritizing the marriage relationship over the old family structure. In fact, for a marriage to thrive, there must be a change of priorities. While honoring and loving one's parents remains a biblical commandment (Exodus 20:12), the relationship with a spouse takes precedence. In practical terms, this means that the husband and wife are responsible for making decisions together, solving problems as a team, and supporting each other as the primary partners in life.

Marriage creates a new family unit, independent and distinct from the parents, while still honoring them.

When my friend discussed the absence of intimacy of marriage, it was painful to talk about and it was a difficult situation to be in. One spouse may not see that there is a problem with how things are and there are spouses that do not know what intimacy looks like nor do they seek knowledge on the topic. Although it can be a difficult topic to discuss, there is hope. The bible provides wisdom for restoring intimacy in a God-honoring way. Here are some steps to consider, along with scriptures to encourage you.

1. Seek God First Through Prayer

When intimacy is lacking, it’s important to turn to God first. Only He can give you the wisdom, patience, and love necessary to navigate this difficult time. Pray for your marriage, your spouse, and for God to heal and restore the areas that feel broken. Ask Him to reveal any areas where you may need to change and to soften your spouse's heart.

In Philippians 4:6-7, we are reminded of the power of prayer: "Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."

God cares about every aspect of your marriage, and He is able to provide healing and restoration where needed.

2. Communicate Openly and Lovingly

A lack of intimacy often stems from unspoken frustrations, misunderstandings, or unmet emotional needs. Sometimes couples withdraw from each other when they feel hurt, unappreciated, or misunderstood. And then again, life happens. We become so consumed with our work and other responsibilities that marriage takes a back seat. One of the keys to restoring intimacy is open and loving communication.

Approach your spouse with grace, being careful to express your feelings without assigning blame. Instead of focusing on what's wrong, share your desire to strengthen the relationship. Ephesians 4:15 encourages us to “speak the truth in love.” This means being honest about your feelings while remaining kind and patient in your approach. Make it a habit to check in with one another regularly, discussing emotional, spiritual, and physical needs in a loving and non-defensive way.

3. Rebuild Emotional Intimacy

As I stated, intimacy is more than just physical closeness; it starts with emotional connection. To restore intimacy, focus on rekindling the emotional bond you share with your spouse. This can be done by spending quality time together, listening to one another, and showing appreciation.

In 1 Peter 3:7, husbands are specifically told to be considerate of their wives: “Husbands, in the same way, be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.” This applies to both partners: being thoughtful, considerate, and understanding is essential to fostering a deeper emotional connection. Emotional intimacy will often lead to a natural restoration of physical closeness.

4. Seek Unity in Spiritual Matters

Spiritual intimacy is a powerful aspect of marriage that is often overlooked. Praying together, reading Scripture, and seeking God as a couple strengthens your bond and invites His presence into your marriage.

Ecclesiastes 4:12 reminds us of the strength that comes from unity with God: “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”

A marriage that invites God to be the "third strand" in the relationship will be much stronger. As you grow closer spiritually, you'll find that other areas of your relationship—emotional and physical intimacy—also improve.

5. Practice Patience and Grace

Restoring intimacy, especially after a long period without it, requires patience. Healing doesn’t happen overnight. Be patient with yourself and your spouse, remembering that God’s timing is perfect. Show each other grace, just as God shows grace to us.

In Colossians 3:13, Paul encourages us to be forgiving and patient with one another: “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”

This is important when it comes to rebuilding a marriage. If past hurts have contributed to the lack of intimacy, both partners need to extend forgiveness and move forward in grace.

6. Honor the Physical Aspect of Marriage

Now let's discuss physical intimacy. Physical intimacy is a gift from God designed to deepen the bond between husband and wife. While emotional and spiritual intimacy are foundational, physical intimacy plays a vital role in marriage as well. Paul addresses this in 1 Corinthians 7:3-5:

“The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”

This passage emphasizes the mutual responsibility of husbands and wives to care for each other's physical needs. It also acknowledges that physical intimacy should be approached with mutual respect and love.

7. Seek Counseling or Outside Support

If you've exhausted all of these steps or still feel intimacy is lacking, you may need to consult outside support in the form of Godly, scripture-based Christian counsel. Sometimes, intimacy issues are complex and deeply rooted. If you’ve tried praying, communicating, and rebuilding your connection without progress, seeking outside help can be beneficial. A Christian marriage counselor or pastor can offer wisdom and guidance, providing tools to help you reconnect.

Proverbs 11:14 reminds us of the value of seeking wise counsel: “Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety.” A trusted Christian counselor can help you and your spouse navigate challenges and work toward a deeper, more intimate marriage.

When intimacy fades in a marriage, it can feel discouraging, but there is always hope in Christ. As you turn to God, communicate with your spouse, and take steps to rebuild emotional, spiritual, and physical closeness, trust that God is at work.

In Romans 12:12, we are encouraged to be “joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.” Patience and prayer are key to restoring intimacy. Remember that God desires for your marriage to flourish, and He is able to bring healing, unity, and intimacy back into your relationship.

Trust in Him, continue to seek His guidance, and remain committed to the process of growing closer to your spouse.

I want to thank the person who asked this question and has allowed me to explore this topic. I pray that God blesses each marriage with true intimacy as He originally intended.

God bless you!

God's Intent for Marriage

2024-10-04T03:00:00.026-04:00

Marriage is one of the most profound relationships we can enter into, and it is important to understand its significance from a biblical perspective. In a world where the definition of marriage often fluctuates and the sanctity of the union is sometimes overlooked, it’s vital to return to the roots of what God intended for this sacred covenant. Here, we will briefly cover the major points of God's marriage intention. Why did He create it and what is the purpose of marriage?

1. Marriage as a Divine Institution

From the beginning, God established marriage as a fundamental part of His creation. In Genesis 2:18, we read, “The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.’” This scripture illustrates that God created marriage to address the need for companionship. We were not designed to live in isolation; instead, we are meant to support and uplift one another. To be there to help one another through this life. This not only involves being a helper, but being suitable, someone who is right or appropriate for the person. Therefore, the woman God created for Adam, provided him with support and strength. She was an equal partner in the marriage, designed to complement and support her husband, just as he is to care for and cherish her.

2. A Reflection of Christ and the Church

Another important aspect of God's intent for marriage is how it should mirror Christ's relationship with the Church. In Ephesians 5:25, Paul instructs husbands: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” This type of love is sacrificial, unconditional, and selfless. It goes beyond feelings but instead, it encourages spouses to put each other’s needs above their own. Just as Christ laid down His life for us.

Is that bible really asking husbands to die for their wives? I don't believe that it is asking husbands to literally die for their wives but in extreme circumstances this kind of sacrificial love might involve putting their lives on the line. Nonetheless, I think that it speaks to a deeper sacrifice just like Christ's sacrifice on the cross for us. It means dying to selfishness and putting your wives' needs ahead of your own desires. It speaks to serving sacrificially and loving unconditionally with patience and forgiveness.

While physical death might be the ultimate expression of this sacrificial love, the focus or the emphasis should be placed on daily acts of love, care and sacrifice that demonstrates a Christ-like love in every aspect of the relationship. When we view marriage through this lens, it becomes clear that it is not just about personal happiness, but about reflecting God’s love to the world.

3. The Covenant of Marriage

Marriage is not merely a contract but a covenant, which signifies a binding agreement with God at the center. In Malachi 2:14, we see that God views marriage as a sacred covenant: “The Lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth… and you have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant.” This highlights that marriage involves commitment, loyalty, and faithfulness—not just to one another, but to God. When you view marriage as not only your commitment to the other person but to God, it should change your perspective on marriage.

4. Mutual Support and Growth

One of God’s intentions for marriage is mutual support and growth. In Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, we read: “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.” This passage emphasizes the importance of marriage partnership. Together, spouses can encourage one another, face challenges, and experience the joys of life side by side.

The reality is that some people get married and they still feel alone, unsupported, and unhappy. We have to know that this is not God's intent for marriage. Your significant other should be your number one cheerleader, they should help you grow and flourish. Unfortunately, I have seen a relationship in which the spouse gets more support from their family and friends rather than the person they married.

Marriage is a partnership, your success is your spouse's success and your wins are their wins. Adversely, your hurts are theirs and your losses should be theirs as well. We have to share in our ups and downs. When one person is feeling down or falls, your spouse should be there to pick you up. That is how God intended the relationship to be.

5. A Foundation for Family

Marriage is also the foundation for family and nurturing children. In Psalm 127:3, it states, “Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.” The reality is that there are married couples without children, however, marriage is still a foundation for family. You and your husband/wife are a family. The legacy of marriage extends to how we raise and siciple the next generation. You may not have children, however, you still can make a positive impact on the lives of the next generation.

Married couples with children know that a strong marriage provides a stable environment for raising children, allowing them to witness a loving partnership that models God’s love and faithfulness. I watched my parents marriage and wanted a similar marriage. Their marriage was not perfect, sorry to break it to you but no marriage is perfect. However, their were key principles and examples that they instilled in me that I want to implement in my marriage.

The home is the first place children learn about love, faith and trust in God. A strong, Christ-centered marriage is one of the most powerful testimonies we can give our children or the next generation.

6. The Call to Unity

God’s design for marriage includes unity. In Mark 10:6-9, Jesus reminds us of the importance of this unity: “But at the beginning of creation God made them male and female. For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” This underscores that God intends for the marital bond to be strong and unbreakable, emphasizing the importance of working through conflicts and challenges together.

7. The Role of Love and Respect

Lastly, God intends for love and respect to be the foundation of marriage. In 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, Paul describes love: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” Love is meant to be the driving force in marriage, guiding how spouses interact with one another.

God’s intent for marriage is rich and multifaceted, designed to be a source of companionship, love, support, and growth. In a world that often complicates or misunderstands the purpose of marriage, returning to biblical principles can provide clarity and guidance.

As you reflect on your own marriage or prepare for one, seek to honor God in this sacred covenant. Embrace the opportunities for growth, service, and love that marriage offers, and trust that God’s design is meant for your good and His glory. By aligning your marriage with God’s intent, you can experience the fullness of joy and fulfillment that comes from a Christ-centered union.

Why Is It So Hard To Get Married These Days?

2024-10-02T14:37:00.002-04:00

One of the readers left this question under the post "Marriage is Sacred and Binding." They asked, "Why is it so hard to get married these days?" This is a great question and one that has many layers. I will provide some insight from a biblical perspective. I do not claim to have all the answers and I welcome your comments on the topic.

I believe that marriage is a sacred institution designed by God, yet many people today find it challenging to take that step. This can stem from numerous societal, emotional, and spiritual factors influencing our relationships. Let's be real, marriage does not get a good rap, especially when you look at the divorce rate. I'm sure we have seen toxic relationships that have left an imprint on us or have been in one that has left us scared. Just ask anyone who is married and they will tell you, it is not for the faint of heart. It requires a lot of work and it is HARD work.

Based on my research, here are some factors that may influence why it is so hard to get married these days.

1. Cultural Shifts in Attitudes Toward Marriage

In recent years, societal views on marriage have shifted dramatically. Many people now see marriage as an option rather than a necessity, leading to a decline in traditional marriage rates. Remember that in the beginning, God created marriage as he saw its necessity and importance. In Genesis 2:18, God saw that Adam was alone and He said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” God created marriage to fulfill the need for companionship and support. However, in a culture that increasingly prioritizes individualism and personal freedom, the commitment of marriage can seem daunting or unnecessary.

2. Fear of Commitment

Another significant factor is the fear of commitment. Many individuals have witnessed or experienced the heartbreak of divorce, which can lead to hesitation about entering into a lifelong commitment. If you have ever been in a relationship where you were hurt by a breakup or by what your partner did, you know the lasting impact it had on your heart. It might have made you fearful to enter into another relationship because of the heartache you felt. Imagine a marriage, a sacred bond, instituted by God, it becomes even more frightening as the stakes are higher.

However, fear should not deter people from getting married. Putting God first is key, so is fasting, and praying. You should also read the bible to familiarize yourself with what God says about love, the characteristics of a husband and a wife. This will help you when choosing a mate and make it less fearful. Our Lord is the only one that can drive that fear away from your heart. In 1 John 4:18, it is stated, “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear…” God's love is complete and unconditional. God's love offers assurance and security, so there is no need to live in fear.

3. Changing Priorities and Values

Today's generation often prioritizes career, personal development, and experiences over traditional milestones like marriage. Many young people feel pressure to establish their careers or pursue education before settling down. There is nothing wrong with that. We each have our priorities and with the cultural and economic shifts, we want to be financially secure and pursue our dreams, among other things. This generation tends not to prioritize marriage therefore, fewer people want to get married.

With seeking our dreams, educations, careers, and different experiences, let's remember that in Matthew 6:33, Jesus advises us to “Seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” This emphasizes the importance of prioritizing our relationship with God, which can ultimately guide our decisions regarding marriage. When individuals put their careers or desires above God's will, it can lead to a delay in pursuing marriage.

4. The Impact of Technology

Modern dating has been profoundly transformed by technology. While online dating and social media provide greater access to potential partners, they can also foster a superficial view of relationships.

In Proverbs 4:23, we are instructed to “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” The abundance of choices and the ease of communication can make it difficult to form deep, meaningful connections. This can lead to a tendency to keep relationships casual or to avoid commitment altogether.

5. The Importance of Preparation

Many people feel that they need to be fully prepared—emotionally, financially, and spiritually—before getting married. While preparation is vital, it can also be a barrier if individuals wait for the "perfect" moment that may never come.

Proverbs 24:27 encourages us to “Put your outdoor work in order and get your fields ready; after that, build your house.” This illustrates the importance of preparation but also suggests that we shouldn’t let the quest for perfection keep us from making significant life decisions.

6. Spiritual Readiness

Lastly, spiritual readiness plays a crucial role in the decision to marry. For many, the foundation of a successful marriage is rooted in faith. Individuals may hesitate to marry if they feel unequally yoked with someone who does not share their beliefs.

2 Corinthians 6:14 warns us, “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.” When couples do not share the same faith or values, it can create significant challenges in their relationship. This may lead to individuals waiting until they find a partner who shares their commitment to Christ before considering marriage.

The difficulty of getting married today can be attributed to various factors, including cultural shifts, fear of commitment, changing priorities, the impact of technology, the need for preparation, and spiritual readiness. While these challenges are real, it’s essential to remember that God has a purpose for marriage and that He is always working in our lives.

As you navigate relationships, seek guidance from Scripture and pray for discernment. In doing so, you’ll be better equipped to understand God’s design for marriage and take the steps necessary to build a lasting, committed relationship. God’s plans are always for our good, and with faith and patience, He can lead you to the right partner in His perfect timing.

God bless you!

Do They Really Love You? What True Love Looks Like 1 Cor 13:4-8

2024-10-01T03:00:00.007-04:00

Hello everyone!

I hope you are all doing well. Welcome to a new month! Over the next few weeks, I will be diving deeper into the topic of marriage and divorce. After reading the comments on my blog post, Marriage is Sacred and Binding, I realized there are important topics that we need to explore. While I hold the sanctity of marriage in the highest regard, I’ve received several questions about divorce that I feel compelled to address, using the Word of God as my guide. I do not have all the answers, but I’m learning more each day, and my goal is to approach this topic from a biblical perspective. I encourage you to join me on this journey, seeking God’s wisdom together on the topic of marriage and divorce.

I want to start the series by discussing "Love." Love is a word that is used casually in today’s world. We hear it in songs, see it in movies, and even use it in conversations without always considering the depth of its meaning. "I love your pants," "I love that movie," and on and on it goes, throwing the word love around so callously. I am guilty of this sometimes. But as we are constantly striving to live a Christ-centered life, we have to understand that love is far more than just a feeling or an attraction—it is a reflection of God’s character.

This brings me to today's blog "How do we know when someone truly loves us in the way God intended? I believe that leading with the topic of love is the best way to begin this series. Love is the foundation of marriage and upon which a strong and healthy marriage is built.

The Bible offers a clear and timeless definition of love in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. These verses are often quoted at weddings or written in greeting cards, but their message is more than poetic sentiment. They serve as a guide to recognizing God-like love, which is the type of love we should seek in our relationships.

Let’s take a moment to walk through these verses and apply them in a practical way to assess whether someone's love aligns with what God calls us to.

Love is Patient and Kind

1 Corinthians 13:4 (NIV) says, "Love is patient, love is kind." Now imagine replacing the word love with the name of the person who says they love you. For example, if their name is Joseph, ask yourself:

Is Joseph patient with you? Does he give you the grace to grow and make mistakes without frustration?
Is Joseph kind? Does he act with compassion, always seeking to uplift and encourage, rather than criticize or belittle?

If patience and kindness aren’t characteristics of the person you’re with, it’s important to reflect on whether their love is genuine or self-serving.

Love Does Not Envy or Boast; It Is Not Proud

Next, the Bible tells us that love is not envious or boastful, nor is it proud. So, we continue:

Is Joseph free from envy? Does he celebrate your successes without jealousy, or does he feel threatened by your accomplishments?
Does Joseph refrain from boasting? Is he humble, or does he constantly speak of his own achievements, seeking to outshine others, even you?
Is Joseph not proud? Does he avoid arrogance, instead approaching your relationship with a spirit of equality and mutual respect?

True love doesn’t compete or try to dominate. If someone is consistently envious or prideful, it may be a sign that their love is conditional or rooted in insecurity.

Love Is Not Rude, Self-Seeking, or Easily Angered

Continuing in 1 Corinthians 13:5, we see that love is not rude, self-seeking, or easily angered:

Does Joseph treat you with respect in all situations, even when things don’t go as planned, or does he lash out with rude words or actions?
Is Joseph selfless? Does he put your needs ahead of his own, or is he constantly seeking what’s in it for him?
Is Joseph slow to anger? Does he show patience when you disagree or face challenges, or does he quickly become irritable or angry?

Love should create a safe and supportive space, not one filled with tension or selfishness. If rudeness, self-centeredness, or quick tempers dominate the relationship, this is not the kind of love God wants for you.

Love Keeps No Record of Wrongs

One of the most profound qualities of love is that it forgives. In 1 Corinthians 13:5, we are reminded that love “keeps no record of wrongs.”

Is Joseph forgiving? Does he let go of past mistakes, or does he continually bring them up in arguments to guilt or shame you?

A person who truly loves you will reflect God’s grace, offering forgiveness and understanding instead of holding onto bitterness and resentment.

Love Rejoices with the Truth

True love delights in what is good, righteous, and true. It doesn’t tolerate deceit or manipulation. Ask yourself:

Does Joseph stand for truth? Does he lead with honesty and integrity, or are there patterns of dishonesty and half-truths in your relationship?

A foundation of truth is essential for any loving relationship. Without it, trust crumbles, and so does the bond you share.

Love Always Protects, Trusts, Hopes, and Perseveres

Lastly, 1 Corinthians 13:7 tells us that love always protects, trusts, hopes, and perseveres. These are enduring qualities that reflect commitment and selflessness:

Does Joseph protect your heart, your well-being, and your emotional safety, or does he put you in harm’s way, physically or emotionally?
Does Joseph trust you, and do you trust him? Without mutual trust, love cannot thrive.
Does Joseph inspire hope in your future together? Does he share your values and aspirations, or are there doubts about where the relationship is headed?
Does Joseph persevere through difficult times, or does he give up easily when things get hard?

When love is genuine, it is enduring. It doesn’t give up when challenges arise but works through them with faith and hope.

Putting It All Together

One powerful way to test whether someone’s love for you aligns with the characteristics outlined in 1 Corinthians 13 is to substitute their name for the word love in these verses. As you go through each attribute, reflect on whether their actions match the God-like love described in scripture.

Joseph is patient.
Joseph is kind.
Joseph does not envy.
Joseph does not boast.
Joseph is not proud.
Joseph is not rude.
Joseph is not self-seeking.
Joseph is not easily angered.
Joseph keeps no record of wrongs.
Joseph rejoices with the truth.
Joseph always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

If the person’s actions align with these truths, it is a strong indicator that their love is genuine and reflects the heart of God. If not, it may be time to re-evaluate the relationship.

I was listening to a podcast and the lady was discussing this and I had never heard it presented the way she discussed it and I wanted to share it with you. I believe we all can benefit from looking at love through the lens of 1 Corinthians 13. This is a great way to evaluate your relationships, especially for those who are single and contemplating marriage, take a step back from what you think love is and look at it how God intended it to be. While you are evaluating the one you are in a relationship with, take a minute to evaluate yourself:

Are you patient?
Are you kind?
Are you envious?
Are you boastful?
Are you proud?
Are you rude?
Are you self-seeking?
Are you easily angered?
Do you keep a record of wrongs?
Do you rejoice with the truth?
Do you always protect, always trust, always hope, and always persevere?

It is always easy to blame the other person but take a moment to look at your part in the equation. Do you uphold the standard of love according to scripture?

The Ultimate Example of Love

Let us remember that the ultimate example of love is Jesus Christ. His love for us is selfless, sacrificial, and unconditional. As we seek love in our relationships, let’s hold ourselves and others to this divine standard—not out of legalism or perfectionism, but because God desires the best for us. True love will always point back to Him.

If you’re in a relationship or considering one, use this biblical guide as a mirror to reflect the true nature of love. And always pray for wisdom and discernment as you navigate the path of love that leads to God’s ultimate purpose for your life.

May God continue to bless you!

When People Remind You of Your Past Mistakes

2024-09-30T11:40:00.005-04:00

Have you ever been in a situation where someone brings up your past mistakes, not to encourage you, but to make you feel inferior or unworthy? It’s painful when others try to drag us back into a past we’ve worked so hard to leave behind. It can feel like a heavy weight on your soul whether it’s a reminder of past failures, sins, or struggles. But here’s the truth: if you are in Christ, you are a new creation, and your past no longer defines you.

No matter how messy, broken, or sinful, it is not who you are anymore. When people remind you of your past to bring you down, it’s crucial to remember who God says you are, not what others say about you.

1. God Has Forgiven You

We discussed this in the previous post on forgiving yourself but let us be encouraged by God's word. The most important truth to cling to when someone tries to use your past against you is that God has already forgiven you. Psalm 103:12 says, “As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us.” If God has removed your sins and no longer holds them against you, why should you let anyone else do so?

It’s easy to feel discouraged when others try to keep us trapped in our old mistakes, but God’s forgiveness is complete. The sacrifice of Jesus on the cross was enough to cover every sin, and when you accept His forgiveness, you are free from the burden of your past. Romans 8:1 reminds us, “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” If God does not condemn you, neither should anyone else.

2. People Will Try to Keep You in Your Past

Unfortunately, not everyone will understand or accept God's transformation in your life. Some people may try to pull you back into who you used to be, either because they refuse to see your growth or because they want to make themselves feel superior. But their opinions do not determine your worth or your identity.

In the Bible, even the apostle Paul dealt with this. Before his conversion, Paul (then Saul) was known for persecuting Christians. After his dramatic encounter with Christ, many people were skeptical of his transformation. They remembered his violent past and doubted whether he had truly changed. But Paul didn’t let their doubts stop him from embracing his new life in Christ.

In Philippians 3:13-14, Paul writes, “But this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before, 14 I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.” Paul knew he couldn’t allow his past to define him. Instead, he focused on what God had called him to do. You can do the same. People may bring up your past, but you have the power to focus on God’s future for you.

I was talking to a friend recently who told me about a meet-up he had with an old friend. It had been over a decade since they’d seen each other, and both were in completely different places in their lives. Back in the day, my friend used to smoke, party heavily, and hang around some shady people. But since then, he has turned his life around—he's now a successful businessman, married to a God-fearing woman and they have four beautiful children. He has left that lifestyle far behind.

As they caught up, the old friend kept bringing up his past, reminding him of the wild days. “Remember that night you got so drunk, you broke into your neighbor's house and stole their radio?… Now look at you, all successful and stuff!” the friend said, almost with a hint of disbelief. My friend laughed it off initially, but it became clear that his old friend wasn’t simply reminiscing. It felt more like a judgment, as if my friend’s transformation didn’t sit well with him. By the end of the conversation, my friend felt like his past was being held against him, as if his growth didn’t really matter.

As we talked, I reminded him, like I stated previously, of Philippians 3:13, where Paul says, “Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead.” His past didn’t define who he was anymore. People might bring up his old life, but God had already made him new. 2 Corinthians 5:17 reminds us, “If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has gone, the new is here!”

Sometimes, people will remind you of your past to make you feel like you haven’t really changed or to bring you down. But remember, your past doesn’t hold power over you anymore. You are no longer defined by who you were, but by who God has made you now—a new creation, forgiven and transformed.

3. Your Identity is in Christ, Not Your Past

It is essential to remember who you are now. Ephesians 2:10 says, “For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” You are not the sum of your mistakes; you are God’s masterpiece, created for a purpose far greater than your past failures.

The enemy loves to use people to try and make us feel small, unworthy, or trapped in shame. But the Bible teaches that once we belong to Christ, we are His, and nothing can change that. 1 Peter 2:9 reminds us that we are “a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His wonderful light.”

When others try to drag you back into the darkness of your past, remind yourself that you have been called into God’s wonderful light. Your identity is not in the things you’ve done wrong, but in the God who has redeemed you.

4. Forgive Yourself and Move Forward

The only way others can be successful at bringing you down is if you haven't fully forgiven yourself. If you find that you’re still holding onto guilt or shame from your past mistakes, take this opportunity to bring it to God and allow His grace to wash over you. Isaiah 1:18 says, “Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool.”

When God forgives us, He does so completely. If you’ve repented and turned to Him, then you are washed clean. Forgive yourself, and don’t allow anyone—whether it’s others or your own inner critic—to make you feel like you’re still stained by the past.

5. Responding with Grace

When people bring up your past, it’s natural to feel defensive or hurt. But as Christians, we are called to respond with grace. Colossians 3:13 encourages us, “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” This doesn’t mean you have to accept harmful behavior or allow people to mistreat you, but it does mean letting go of bitterness and showing Christ’s love, even in difficult situations.

By forgiving those who try to bring you down, you free yourself from the chains of anger and resentment. More importantly, you reflect the heart of God, who forgives us endlessly despite our own shortcomings.

6. Focus on Your Future, Not Your Past

Ultimately, your past is behind you, and God has a future filled with hope and purpose for you. Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Don’t let anyone distract you from the good plans God has for you by pulling you back into a past that no longer defines you.

When people try to remind you of who you were, stand firm in the knowledge of who you are in Christ. You are forgiven, redeemed, and chosen. God has called you out of darkness and into His light, and no one has the power to take that away from you.

Walk in Freedom

People may try to bring up your past to make you feel unworthy or inferior, but their words hold no weight in light of God’s truth. You are a new creation in Christ, and your past is covered by His grace. The next time someone tries to drag you down with reminders of your mistakes, remind yourself of Romans 8:31, which says, “If God is for us, who can be against us?”

Walk in the freedom that Jesus has given you. Your past no longer has power over you, and no one can make you feel inferior when you stand firm in the knowledge of who you are in Christ. Let His grace define you, and keep pressing forward to the future He has in store.

God bless you!

Forgiving Yourself

2024-09-29T22:03:00.002-04:00

In the previous posts, we focused on forgiveness. We've discussed forgiving others, and its importance to our spiritual journey, however, we neglected to discuss forgiving ourselves. Forgiving ourselves is paramount to the overall forgiveness process. Forgiving ourselves can be one of the most challenging aspects of our spiritual journey.

Forgiveness is something we often think of in terms of others. We know Jesus taught us to forgive those who wrong us, but what about forgiving ourselves? For many of us, self-forgiveness can be one of the hardest things to grasp. We carry the weight of our mistakes, reliving moments of failure or regret, and struggle to let go. Yet, the Bible reminds us of God’s grace and how deeply He desires us to walk in freedom—not just from the sins of others, but from the burden of our own past.

Understanding God’s Forgiveness

Before we can forgive ourselves, we need to understand how God forgives us. 1 John 1:9 tells us, “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” This verse is a promise that no matter what we’ve done, God is ready to forgive us as soon as we come to Him in repentance. His forgiveness is immediate, total, and unearned.

But here’s the problem many of us face: while we believe God forgives us, we have a hard time accepting that forgiveness for ourselves. We may continue to replay our mistakes in our minds, doubting that we’re worthy of God’s grace. This is where self-forgiveness comes in. If God, the Creator of the universe, can forgive you, who are you not to forgive yourself?

Letting Go of Shame and Guilt

Often, we hold onto guilt and shame as a form of self-punishment, thinking that we need to pay for our mistakes. But when we do this, we minimize the power of Christ’s sacrifice on the cross. Romans 8:1 says, “There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” If you are in Christ, you are no longer condemned. Jesus paid the ultimate price for your sins, and continuing to hold onto guilt is like saying His sacrifice wasn’t enough.

For a long time, I struggled with forgiving myself for mistakes I’d made in the past. I thought that holding onto guilt somehow made me more repentant or responsible, but in reality, it just kept me in bondage. What I’ve learned is that self-forgiveness is not about excusing your wrongs, but about accepting God’s grace and moving forward in God's love.

God’s View of You

One of the most profound shifts in my journey to self-forgiveness came when I began to see myself the way God sees me. The Bible is full of verses that tell us who we are in Christ—redeemed, loved, and forgiven. Psalm 103:12 says, “As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us.” If God no longer holds your sins against you, why should you?

This realization changed everything for me. God sees me not as my mistakes, but as His child. He calls me beloved, and He has a purpose for my life that is not defined by my past failures. When I began to embrace this truth, I was able to let go of the guilt and shame I had been carrying for so long.

Steps to Self-Forgiveness

If you’re struggling with forgiving yourself, here are a few practical steps that have helped me along the way:

Acknowledge Your Mistakes: Denying or minimizing your mistakes won’t lead to healing. Be honest with yourself and with God. Confess your sins and ask for His forgiveness, knowing that He is faithful to forgive.
Accept God’s Grace: Once you’ve confessed your sin, believe that God has forgiven you. Don’t let feelings of unworthiness or guilt prevent you from accepting the gift of His grace.
Renew Your Mind with Scripture: Fill your heart and mind with the truth of God’s Word. Meditate on verses like 2 Corinthians 5:17 which says, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.” Let this truth renew your thinking and release you from self-condemnation.
Let Go of the Past: Philippians 3:13-14 encourages us to forget what lies behind us and to strive forward to what lies ahead. It’s time to stop dwelling on the past and focus on the future God has for you.
Live in God’s Freedom: Christ came to set us free, not only from the sins of others but from our own. Galatians 5:1 says, “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.” Forgiving yourself allows you to walk in the freedom that Jesus has already won for you.

Moving Forward in Freedom

Self-forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting your mistakes, but it does mean releasing their power over you. When you refuse to forgive yourself, you remain chained to the past, unable to move forward in the abundant life God has planned for you. But when you embrace the truth of God’s forgiveness and forgive yourself, you can step into the fullness of His grace.

We all make mistakes. Some of us carry wounds from the past that we think we’ll never be able to heal from. But remember this: God is bigger than your mistakes. His love and mercy cover all your sins, and He has already forgiven you. Your job now is to accept that forgiveness, let go of the guilt, and walk in the freedom that God offers.

Forgiving yourself can be hard, but it’s essential for your spiritual and emotional well-being. Don’t let guilt or shame keep you from experiencing the abundant life that God has promised you. Remember, Romans 5:8 reminds us that “God demonstrates His own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” If Jesus thought you were worth dying for, you’re certainly worth forgiving—both by God and by yourself.

So today, I encourage you to release your past mistakes into God’s hands. Accept His grace, forgive yourself, and step into the freedom that He has already given you. You are loved, redeemed, and forgiven, and it’s time to start living like it.

God bless you!

Why You Should Forgive Instead of Seeking Revenge

2024-07-26T01:38:00.004-04:00

In the previous post, I discussed forgiveness, its importance, and how God wants us to forgive those who have wronged us. It's a challenging task but it can be done.

One of the hindrances to me forgiving was wanting revenge. That would make me feel better to know that the person who had hurt me was also hurting.

We live in a world where wrongs are often met with retribution. The call to forgive instead of seeking revenge can seem counterintuitive. Yet, the Bible offers profound wisdom on why forgiveness is not just a virtue but a divine mandate. In this blog post, we will explore why forgiveness is superior to revenge, drawing from various Biblical scriptures that illuminate God’s perspective on this crucial aspect of our faith.

The Call to Forgiveness Over Revenge

Forgiveness might feel like a challenge when we’ve been hurt or wronged. However, the Bible consistently teaches that forgiveness is God’s way, offering us a path to healing and reconciliation rather than perpetuating cycles of pain. Here are some key scriptures that reveal why forgiveness triumphs over revenge.

1. Romans 12:19 (KJV)

“Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.”
In this verse, Paul directs us to leave vengeance to God. Revenge is God’s prerogative, not ours. By refraining from taking revenge, we trust in God’s justice and allow Him to handle the wrongs we’ve suffered.

2. Matthew 5:38-39 (KJV)

“Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth: But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.”
Jesus redefines the Old Testament law of retaliation, advocating instead for non-resistance and forgiveness. This teaching encourages us to respond to wrongdoing with grace rather than vengeance.

3. Proverbs 20:22 (KJV)

“Say not thou, I will recompense evil; but wait on the Lord, and he shall save thee.”
Proverbs advises against seeking personal revenge. Instead, it encourages us to wait on the Lord, trusting that He will provide justice and deliverance.

4. 1 Peter 3:9 (KJV)

“Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.”
Peter instructs us to bless those who wrong us instead of retaliating. By doing so, we align with our calling to inherit God’s blessings and reflect His grace.

The Biblical Example of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is not merely a command but a reflection of God’s own nature and the teachings of Jesus. Examining the examples set by Christ and other Biblical figures helps us understand why forgiveness is a more righteous response than revenge.

5. Luke 23:34 (KJV)

“Then said Jesus, Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do. And they parted his raiment, and cast lots.”
Even as He suffered on the cross, Jesus asked the Father to forgive those who crucified Him. His example shows that forgiveness can be a powerful testimony of divine love amidst injustice.

6. Genesis 50:19-20 (KJV)

“And Joseph said unto them, Fear not: for am I in the place of God? But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive.”
Joseph forgave his brothers for selling him into slavery, understanding that God used the wrongs done to him for a greater purpose. This story illustrates that forgiveness can lead to redemption and a greater good.

7. Matthew 18:21-22 (KJV)

“Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.”
Jesus teaches that forgiveness should be abundant and limitless, reflecting the endless forgiveness God extends to us.

The Spiritual Benefits of Forgiveness

Forgiveness brings profound spiritual benefits that far exceed the fleeting satisfaction of revenge. Let’s explore how forgiveness enriches our lives according to Biblical teachings.

8. Colossians 3:13 (KJV)

“Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.”
Forgiveness is a direct response to the forgiveness we receive from Christ. By forgiving others, we grow in grace and embody the love of Christ in our relationships.

9. Psalm 34:18 (KJV)

“The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.”
Forgiveness and a contrite heart lead us closer to God. When we forgive, we align ourselves with God’s heart for reconciliation and healing.

10. James 2:13 (KJV)

“For he shall have judgment without mercy, that hath shewed no mercy; and mercy rejoiceth against judgment.”
This verse highlights that showing mercy, which includes forgiveness, is essential for receiving mercy from God.

Embracing Forgiveness in Our Daily Lives

Forgiveness is a journey that requires patience, grace, and reliance on God. Here’s how you can start integrating forgiveness into your life:

Reflect on God’s Forgiveness: Regularly remind yourself of the forgiveness God offers you. Understanding the depth of God’s grace helps you extend that same grace to others.
Pray for the Strength to Forgive: Ask God for the strength and courage to forgive those who have wronged you. Prayer is a powerful tool for overcoming feelings of anger and bitterness.
Seek Reconciliation: When possible, strive for reconciliation with those who have hurt you. Forgiveness is not just about letting go but also about mending relationships.

The Bible offers a clear and compelling case for why forgiveness is preferable to revenge. Through scriptures from the Old and New Testaments, we learn that forgiveness reflects God’s character, fulfills His commands, and brings about spiritual and relational healing. By choosing forgiveness over revenge, we align ourselves with God’s will and embrace a path of peace, grace, and love. When I forgave those who had wronged me, I felt a burden lifted from my shoulders and felt an inner peace that I had not felt in a while.

I hope these scriptures inspire you to embrace forgiveness in your own life and to follow the example of Christ, who forgave even those who wronged Him. As we forgive, we walk in God’s grace and reflect His love to the world.

May God Almighty continue to bless you!

20 Biblical Scriptures on Forgiving Others

2024-07-14T20:02:00.004-04:00

In my previous post on Forgiveness, I discussed how difficult it is to forgive someone and let the hurt go. In fact, give it to God. I wanted to share some biblical scriptures on forgiving others to help those on their journey to forgiveness. It is indeed a journey but is doable when you realize how crucial it is as believers.

Forgiveness is a cornerstone of the Christian faith. It is a profound act of grace and mercy that reflects God's love for us and His desire for reconciliation. Let's take a look at 20 powerful scriptures from the King James Version (KJV) of the Bible that illuminate the importance and transformative power of forgiving others.

Understanding the Call to Forgiveness

Matthew 6:14-15
“For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”
These verses from Jesus’ Sermon on the Mount underscore the reciprocal nature of forgiveness—our forgiveness from God hinges on our willingness to forgive others.
Ephesians 4:32
“And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.”
Paul emphasizes that our forgiveness of others should mirror God’s forgiveness of us through Christ, rooted in kindness and compassion.
Colossians 3:13
“Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.”
This verse instructs believers to forgive others as Christ forgave us, setting aside grievances and disputes.
Luke 17:3-4
“Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him. And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him.”
Jesus teaches the necessity of forgiving others, even repeatedly, if they sincerely repent.
Mark 11:25
“And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.”
Forgiveness is crucial in maintaining a clear relationship with God, as Jesus explains in this passage.

The Power and Benefits of Forgiveness

Matthew 18:21-22
“Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.”
Jesus challenges us to forgive others limitlessly, reflecting the boundless forgiveness we receive from God.
1 John 1:9
“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
Confession and repentance lead to God’s forgiveness and cleansing, setting an example for how we should forgive others.
Psalm 103:12
“As far as the east is from the west, so far hath he removed our transgressions from us.”
God’s forgiveness removes our sins completely, illustrating the depth of forgiveness we are called to extend to others.
Isaiah 43:25
“I, even I, am he that blotteth out thy transgressions for mine own sake, and will not remember thy sins.”
God forgives us for His own sake, not holding our sins against us—a model for how we should forgive others.
Proverbs 19:11
“The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to pass over a transgression.”
Choosing to overlook offenses and forgive demonstrates wisdom and brings honor.

Practicing Forgiveness in Daily Life

Luke 6:37
“Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven.”
Jesus connects forgiveness with avoiding judgment and condemnation, emphasizing its importance in our relationships.
James 5:16
“Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.”
Confession, prayer, and forgiveness are intertwined processes that lead to healing and restoration.
Matthew 5:23-24
“Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee, Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift.”
Jesus prioritizes reconciliation and forgiveness in our worship and relationships with others.
2 Corinthians 2:7
“So that contrariwise ye ought rather to forgive him, and comfort him, lest perhaps such a one should be swallowed up with overmuch sorrow.”
Paul urges forgiveness and comfort for those who have repented, preventing excessive sorrow.
Matthew 18:35
“So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses.”
Genuine forgiveness from the heart is essential for receiving forgiveness from God.

The Example of Christ and His Followers

Acts 3:19
“Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, when the times of refreshing shall come from the presence of the Lord.”
Repentance and forgiveness lead to spiritual renewal and refreshment in God’s presence.
Hebrews 8:12
“For I will be merciful to their unrighteousness, and their sins and their iniquities will I remember no more.”
God’s forgiveness includes forgetting our sins, demonstrating His mercy and grace.
Romans 12:14
“Bless them which persecute you: bless, and curse not.”
Responding to persecution with blessings and forgiveness reflects Christ’s teachings and example.
Luke 23:34
“Then said Jesus, Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do. And they parted his raiment, and cast lots.”
Even in His suffering, Jesus forgave those who crucified Him, exemplifying radical forgiveness.
Matthew 9:2
“And, behold, they brought to him a man sick of the palsy, lying on a bed: and Jesus seeing their faith said unto the sick of the palsy; Son, be of good cheer; thy sins be forgiven thee.”
Jesus demonstrated that forgiveness of sins is a profound act of mercy and healing.

These 20 scriptures illuminate the profound importance and transformative power of forgiveness in the Christian faith. As we reflect on these verses, may we be inspired to embody God’s love and grace through forgiveness in our relationships and daily lives. Let us strive to forgive as we have been forgiven, reflecting the heart of Christ and fostering reconciliation and healing in our communities.

May these scriptures guide and enrich your journey of faith and forgiveness.

Forgive, So God Can Forgive You

2024-07-13T19:12:00.004-04:00

It weighed heavily on my heart. It made me cry. It hurt so badly that I got choked up just talking about it. I would cry myself to sleep so many nights just thinking about how this person hurt me. I don’t think if it were a stranger, I would feel this type of pain. What made it worse was that the person that I thought would support me and understand why I felt this hurt, did not believe me. They took the other person’s side. I guess knowing someone longer trumped the truth, every time. I held this pain in for years and I felt justified in doing so because this person hurt me for no reason. What they did was unforgivable.

After years of holding in all the injustices this person had done to me, I finally decided it was time to let it go. Letting go was only part of it, the other major and most important part was forgiving them. I talked myself into believing that I had forgiven them because I wanted God to forgive me of my sins. Matthew 6:14-15 says:

14 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: 15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

However, the true marker of my unforgiveness was the hurt and pain I still carried around. One day, I was listening to a preacher and although his sermon was not on forgiveness, he started to discuss forgiveness. He stated that one must remember Ephesians 6:12 which states,

“For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.”

Although someone may have hurt us, remember that our real adversary is the devil. The devil has a way of influencing people to do things to hurt us in turn to cause us to sin. We must keep this in mind. It does not absolve the person of their part but remember that our fight is not with a physical person but the forces of darkness that we cannot see.

It reminded me of the story of Job. The devil (with God’s permission) killed his children, stripped him of his livelihood, and afflicted him with illness. Job, of course, was depressed, and rightly so. His wife told him to curse God and die. This was his wife’s solution to the problem. This also showed that those closest to us can be influenced by the devil and not give the best advice or be the voice of reason. But Job refused. God is showing us that although Job lost everything, he did not sin against God.

“In all this Job sinned not, nor charged God foolishly” - Job 1:22

This further shows us that although someone has wronged you, that does not give you the right to sin. It can feel justified but it does not make it right. Carrying that unforgiveness was a sin because it came in the way of my relationship with God. I was not allowing my savior, Jesus Christ to take the pain away to ease the heaviness in my heart.

Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you. - 1 Peter 5:7

Also, I had to remember that I am human. I have hurt others, whether knowingly or unknowingly. When I go before my heavenly father in prayer, and confess my sins, I want Him to forgive me (Matthew 6:14-15).

After that sermon, I asked God to remove my unforgiveness and free my heart of all the hurt I was holding in. I also asked Him to forgive me because I know I have hurt others and I am not even worthy of His forgiveness but because of Jesus, He will forgive me.

I felt lighter. I realized that it was the devil’s plan all along to keep me in bondage with all that hurt in my heart. After praying, I knew God had set me free. I knew that talking about the situation would not bring me to tears anymore. I prayed for the person who had hurt me and asked God to heal them of the hurt that they may be harboring and to set them free.

43 Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbor, and hate thine enemy.

44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;

45 That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust. - Matthew 5:43-45

Ultimately, our goal is to be children of our Father in heaven and how can we do that if we do not show that he lives in us. I learned that each day we are blessed with is another day to strive to become better in our God-like characteristics. God forgives, therefore, we must forgive.

I hope this message has blessed you as it has been a blessing for me.

I love you.

10 Popular Scriptures on Love

2023-02-21T12:49:00.008-05:00

As we continue with this month's theme on Love, we will look at 10 scriptures on Love. In the last post, we reflected on scriptures that spoke of God's love. This post looks at scriptures that generally speak about Love.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 - "Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."

John 15:12-13 - "This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends."

1 John 4:8 - "Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love."

Romans 12:9-10 - "Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor."

1 John 4:19 - "We love because he first loved us."

Ephesians 5:1-2 - "Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God."

Galatians 5:22-23 - "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things, there is no law."

Colossians 3:14 - "And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony."

1 John 3:16 - "By this we know love, that he laid down his life for us, and we ought to lay down our lives for the brothers."

1 Peter 4:8 - "Above all, keep loving one another earnestly
since love covers a multitude of sins."

10 Scriptures on God's Love

2023-02-09T21:15:00.005-05:00

The month of February brings a lot of anticipation about Valentine's Day. There are Christians that choose to celebrate it and then there are others that do not. Whatever your decision or stance may be, I encourage you to think about the origins of Love, the originator of Love with is our Heavenly Father. There is no greater love than the love He has shown us and continues to show us.

Here are 10 scriptures on God's love:

John 3:16 - "For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life."

Romans 8:38-39 - "For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord."

Ephesians 2:4-5 - "But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ—by grace you have been saved."

1 John 4:9-10 - "In this, the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins."

Isaiah 43:4 - "Since you are precious and honored in my sight, and because I love you, I will give people in exchange for you, nations in exchange for your life."

Romans 5:8 - "But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us."

Psalm 136:1 - "Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good, for his steadfast love endures forever."

Zephaniah 3:17 - "The Lord your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with loud singing."

Jeremiah 31:3 - "The Lord appeared to him from far away. I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore I have continued my faithfulness to you."

1 John 3:1 - "See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are."

Valentine's Day is one day, God's love is every day. You get to experience it every day. Focus on God's love that does not fade nor end.

Seasons Change

2017-07-21T09:11:00.009-04:00

Summer happens to be one of my favorite seasons. Aside from the smothering heat and mosquitoes, I enjoy the summertime. There are many reasons why I prefer summer over the other seasons and most of these reasons stem from childhood memories. As a child, I enjoyed playing outdoors with family and friends. I enjoyed being able to go for a walk and feeling the sun on my face. I enjoyed going to the beach and spending all my time building sandcastles with my friends. As simple as these reasons may seem, they bring me joy every time I reflect on those memories. Those simple memories have the ability to make me feel calm and help to put things in perspective.

In the book Songs of Solomon, chapter 2, verses 11-12, these scripture references the seasons and the renewed awareness that they bring. The previous verse, v.10, begins with, " Rise up..." This was a call for action because, in order to fully appreciate what is going on around you, you have to rise up or wake up from your slumber. The next verses detail what to take note of. One of those things is, in v.12, "The rain is over and gone, the time for singing has come."

In our lives there are different seasons, there are times that bring sunshine, like summer, and then there are times that bring dark clouds, rain, and a depressed state. I encourage each one of you to know that, that season is not going to always be the state of your life. It is for only a time, it too shall pass because it is just a season.

When that season is over, acknowledge that it is over by rising up, taking note of what was and what is to come. I want to go a step further and encourage you to speak God's words of hope even in the midst of a bad season. Sometimes you have to go through it to get to the place God wants you to be.

"To everything, there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven..." - Ecc 3:1

God bless you!

The Lord Is My Shepherd ...

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The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want. - Psalms 23:1

Psalms 23 is one of the more popular Psalms and each verse gives us a picture of God as the good shepherd. Today, I just want to focus on the first verse.
I have been praying for months for God to help me receive a scholarship to go off to school. However, these past couple weeks, I've found myself in deeper communion with the Lord. I prayed more, read my bible more and acknowledged God more throughout the day. I had moments when I doubted if God would allow this to happen. I cried, I prayed, I talked about it with my mom who prayed with me and encouraged me daily. Every time I had a moment of doubt, she reassured me. Every time I felt helpless and frustrated,
I meditated on the word of God.
So today I woke up and on my phone Psalms 23:1 came as my verse of the day. At first I just read it and didn't pay any mind to it and then I read it again and tears filled my eyes. I knew automatically God was speaking to me. His word was reassurring me that no matter what, as His child, I will never want for anything. I felt a weight being lifted off my shoulders. I got on my knees and started to pray. I thanked God as I knew He wouldn't let me down.
I had been calling the company all week concerning the scholarship and couldn't get through. When I called today not only did I get through but I heard the best news ever. I had received the scholarship!!! My heart was filled with so much joy. As I was on the phone, I mouthed, "Thank you Lord" with my hands up in the air. I was beyond elated.
I wanted to share this with you, to remind you that no matter what is going on, continue to seek God, remind Him of His word and He won't fail you. He will never fail you. In my life, I've seen this over and repeatedly. Through the hurt and pain, through the laughter and joy, there has always been one constant in my life and it has always been God. He has delivered me time and time again. My testimony is one that brings tears to my eyes every time I think of it. With God as my shepherd, I will not want for anything. He will always provide for me. He will always keep me satisfied as He is enough.

God has always been there for me. I am always reminded of this verse:

"It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.” Deuteronomy 31:8

God is able to answer our prayers, He is able to give you the desires of your heart. Do not be afraid to ask Him, to seek Him out and to knock for Him to open doors for you. He is more than able to. Develop a relationship with Him. Get to know Him and you will not be put to shame.

"Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. Luke 11:9"Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart." Psalms 37:4

"No one who hopes in you will ever be put to shame, but shame will come on those who are treacherous without cause." Psalms 25:3

Hopefully this will encourage you. I needed encouragement and I thank God for those who were there for me to do that but there are times when encouragement will come from the least likely of places. An excellent source of encouragement has always been the bible for me.

Continue to be blessed by the word of God.

Thank you my Father and my Lord.

Taste and see that the Lord is good... Psalms 34:8

2015-08-07T12:38:00.002-04:00

Oh, taste and see that the Lord is good; Blessed is the man who trusts in Him! Psalms 34:18

One of my favorite fruits to eat in the summer time is watermelon. I love the taste, the texture and how refreshing it is. I think it's the best fruit to eat on a hot summer day.
Since I know the taste of watermelon, I've become knowledgeable about what it does to me and how it's good for me and how it makes me feel. All this knowledge I've acquired not only through experience but through looking up the benefits of the fruit as well.
Similarly, can we give the Lord God, our creator, the creator of heaven and earth, the same
benefit? Can those who do not have a relationship with him take a chance to experience Him? Will you take the chance to research the bible and find the benefits of living for Christ? Would you find that it does your mind, body and soul good? Will you find that your life, your quality of living will be enhanced by choosing to walk with Him? Or will you find that is is too difficult of a life to commit to and continue living the way you are?
David said to taste which in essence means to experience, have a personal relationship with the Lord God, and you will leave that encounter knowing, seeing, verifying and believing that the Lord is good. You cannot know how a meal tastes unless you've tried it. You have to experience it. You have to use your senses to help you make a decision or judgement on this meal. The same is true with God, you have to experience His love, his forgiving nature, His kindness, His steadfastness, His power, His majesty, His protection and His glory to really understand who He is.
When you walk with the Lord, you get to know His will for your life, you get to know Him, experience Him, you enter into a relationship with Him. What we believe and what we've experienced is what David knew through experience. Over and over in David's life, God showed Himself to him and proved that He is good! The Lord is good. In fact, the Lord is better than just good, He is excellent, fabulous, wonderful, fantastic, marvelous, we can go on forever... But we could've never been able to say these things if we never had an experience with him, better yet a personal relationship with him.
We should not solely rely on one experience to dictate the status of our relationship with God because time and time again He will prove Himself more than worthy or our praise. Sometimes in life, it only takes one experience to make us realize that we want nothing else but to serve Him, we want nothing else but to to know more about God and walk with Him.
So as David admonishes us to taste and see that the Lord is good, we too do the same. We urge you to get into a relationship with the Lord God and get to know His will for your life.

If this or any of our post, has been an inspiration to you, share it with your family and friends. Let us get the word of God out there. God bless you!

Happy Love Day!

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Today some people are celebrating Valentine's Day. Receiving flowers, chocolates, poems and heartfelt sentiments are all part of this celebration. For some, Valentine's Day is a wonderful day to show their loved ones how they feel about them. For others, it may be depressing as they may not be in a relationship to receive gifts. For some, this day is just a regular day. There are others still who do not celebrate it. Some may even ask, "What is the craze all about?"
The craze is about L-O-V-E. Everyone wants to feel loved. In fact, it's a longing that every human feels at one point. God the author of creation, whom love resides and flows from, created us out of love. Therefore,
for us to show love and be loved is a part of our make up.
I believe that Valentine's Day, I choose to call it Love Day, should be every day. We may not be able to afford the chocolates and flowers every day but showing someone love and care is free. It doesn't cost money to tell someone you love them or to give them a hug. It doesn't cost money to give someone a kiss or to spend time with them in meaningful conversation. It doesn't cost much to give someone a call and tell them how much they mean to you. There are so many ways you can show someone you love them. Material things can never reflect true sincere sentiment of the heart only an act motivated by love can.
My favorite definition of love is what Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. If I'm ever confused about what true love is, I reflect on that. I take my time to read it slowly, meditate on it and let it reside in my spirit. I need to know what it is, in fact we all should know. I invite you to take the time to read it slowly, understand it and meditate on it.

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8 Love never fails.

We all long to be in love with someone who loves us with the knowledge of what love is so they can act on it. However, until that happens, let's continue to work on ourselves, love ourselves and show this love to those who we hold close and dear keeping in mind God's definition of LOVE.

God bless you on this celebrated Valentine's Day.

Look... God

2014-01-20T07:38:00.005-05:00

Happy New Year! New Years Resolution - Trust in God

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5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; 6 In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6

Happy New Year to each and everyone of you! I pray that this year brings positive changes, spiritual maturity and growth, knowledge and understanding in the things of the Lord, blessings beyond measure and so much more!

Every year that approaches, you will find that this is the time people want to make drastic changes in their lives. They have a bunch of goals and dreams they want to accomplish each year. But how many of us follow through with our goals? How many of us actually are successful in accomplishing these goals? Statistics show that we rarely accomplish all of these goals however we accomplish a few or some of them.

This new year, 2014, I urge you to make resolutions concerning your relationship with the Lord. I urge you to
, more than anything, to put your trust in Him. There is no greater freedom in life than trusting God and letting Him direct your path. To truly give up control and let His will manifest in your life, is a process that is easier said than done. Also, it's not something that happens over night. It's a process that entails reconditioning your mind. It all starts in the mind. As Paul states, you have to be transformed by renewing your mind, Romans 12:2. Your mindset is the first hurdle you have to get over to start trusting God. In fact, you will find that in accomplishing your goals, you have to firstly change your mindset. That is the only way you can truly be successful.

Let's make this a great year as we learn to trust God in our day to day lives. Let's learn to let go and let God.

Be encouraged my brothers and sisters. God bless you!

To Obey Is Better Than Sacrifice

2013-11-28T21:03:00.002-05:00

Thought-provoking Thursday
But Samuel replied: "Does the LORD delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices as much as in obeying the voice of the LORD? To obey is better than sacrifice, and to heed is better than the fat of rams. 1Samuel 15:22

Samuel spoke those words to Saul after God had given him specific instructions to wipe out the Amalekites and everything that belong to them. What Saul did instead was spare the life of King Agag and he kept the best of the best for himself and the people. God rejected Saul as king from that point on and although Saul wanted Samuel to go worship with him, God had already rejected him.
It's interesting that King Saul was rejected immediately after not following God's orders. Saul's heart was not in the right place. As king, he was more concerned with hearkening to the voices of the people instead of the voice of the Lord. By pleasing the people, he in turn disobeyed God.
In life, serving God and living according to His word must
be of utmost importance. We have to put that above everything else. We cannot please the world and expect to please God as well. Those two do not correlate. Also we often believe because God is a merciful God, we can disobey Him and then ask for forgiveness later or in Saul's case offer up a sacrifice. For Saul, it was too late, God gave Him specific instructions and he disobeyed. From then on, there was nothing he could have done to make up for what he had done.

Let's try to obey God when He speaks to us the first time instead of thinking we can disobey and repent later. To obey when He talks to us is way better than any sacrifice we can ever offer up to Him.

Hope this was a blessing to you. Please share this message with others. God bless you.

Let The Past Go, Look Toward Your Future

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The past is the past, let's leave it there! As much as we would like to leave our past behind, the devil will always find a way to remind us of it. If it was up to him, we would be wallowing in our own self-pity, depressed and hopeless. But God.

God has redeemed us of our sins and has cleansed us of our sins and past mistakes once we accepted Him as our Lord. None of us has made mistakes in the past. Although some may be more detrimental than others, mistakes are still mistakes.

God does not look at our sins and use them against us. Only the devil does. In Psalms 103:12, it states, "As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us." Can we fathom the distance from the east to the west? Or try to fathom the multitude of sins God has removed from us to make us brand new, cleanse us, and become the people He has called us to be?

Let's walk into our destiny. Don't look behind, look forward because your future is more promising than what the Lord has in store for the devil. Be encouraged.

If this has motivated or inspired you, share this with a friend. God bless you!

Be Strong and of Good Courage

2013-11-18T00:00:00.002-05:00

Motivational Monday!

“Be strong and of good courage, do not fear nor be afraid of them; for the Lord your God, He is the One who goes with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you.” Deuteronomy 31:6

The words of God will live forever and ever. What He said to His people then, He is saying to us now, if we would just follow Him.

These words are repeated over and over when He was speaking to the Israelites because they needed encouragement, they needed to know that God was with them regardless of
how many times He had proven this, He still reminded them that He was with them. Sometimes, that is just how we are as humans. Although God has shown Himself to be there for us over and repeatedly, we still need a constant reminder.

When you have God with you, you shouldn't fear anything. In fact, Paul states in the new testament, "If God be for us, who can be against us?"-Romans 8:31. Meaning that whoever should rise up against you, is of no significance because you have the Lord Almighty on your side. God will not leave you nor forsake you so be strong and do not be afraid.

Thank you for reading our Motivational Monday Message. Hope it has been an inspiration to you and if it has share it with others.

God bless you.

In Life by Angie Flores

2013-11-11T12:01:00.002-05:00

In life there are people that will hurt us and cause us pain,

but we must learn to forgive and forget and not hold grudges.

In life there are mistakes we will make,

but we must learn from our wrongs and grow from them.

In life there are regrets we will have to live with,

but we must learn to leave the past behind and realize it is something we can't change.

In life there are people we will loose forever and can't have back,

but we must learn to let go & move on.

In life there are going to be obstacles that will cause interference,

but we must learn to overcome these challenges and grow stronger.

In life there are fears that will hold us back from what we want,

but we must learn to fight them with the courage from within.

God holds our lives in his hands. He holds the key to our future.

Only he knows our fate.

He see's everything and knows everything.

Everything in life really does happen for a reason: "God's Reason".

Source: Faith and Courage In Life, Inspirational Poem http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/faith-and-courage-in-life#ixzz2jwNczkhk

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