Theel - thefreshmaker

The art of positive thinking

2011-05-16T00:21:00.000-07:00

Polish people are regarded as pessimists and malocntents. They are usually dissatisfied with life, they have a strong sense of wrong and they are convinced that all th calamities happen only to them, of course unjustly.
Therefore, they have a right to complain, to be querulous and to lay claims to everything. At the same time they are egoists envious of people who are more self-contented and more successful than them.
According to many philosophers, everyone can achieve happiness in life. It depends only on ourselves. However, most Polish people are even afraid of calling themselves happy. When an American is asked about his frame of mind, he invariably answers: "I am fine. Everything is okay". A Pole says: "I feel rotten. Everything is going wrong" even if he has just bought a new Mercedes. Such negative thinking, so typical of Polish people, brings about difficulties in achieving a state of satisfaction.
It seems that the best way to become more optimistic is to accept and make friends with oneself. People who consider themselves less clever, less interesting or less successful than the others are never likely to be happy.
American doctors have invented a simple therapy which helps change the negative attitude towards oneself. You stand before a mirror, look at your own reflection and repeat to yourself: "I am great. I am satisfied with life". You say this with a deep conviction, not laughing at yourself and not being ashamed. This might be stupid or childish for someone, but I swear it really works.
Another essential thing is this therapy is to realize that you are not the hub of the universe and that there are many people aroung you who are less fortunate than you are.
Instead of coplaining, you should try to be more active. Remember that happiness overlooks passive or lazy people.
Do not except others to solve your problems or to make you happy. Seek happiness on your own account.
Work out a positive attitude towards life. Happiness is of course desirable but do not delude yourself that it is a permament state. Fortune is fickle but never give up when something goes wrong.
Do not be so strained. You can always have a break and ease off a little. Remember that optimists live longer, so enjoy life and always keep smiling.

Snobbery

2011-05-12T06:07:00.000-07:00

Snobbery is regarded as a negative quality. Snobs usually pretend that they are better or wiser than others. They also pay too much respect to social position or wealth and often imitate the style of life of the upper classes to which they do not belong.
According to psychologists, almost everyone is inclined to be a snob. This is inseparably connected with human nature. Everyone wants to be important, more famous and better-off than he is. There is no doubt that those who do not belong to any social group are more often subject to snobbery. A good example are country people who move to big cities and want to integrate quickly and be like their neighbours. Of course there is nothing wrong in it as far as they imitate people of worth and try to be as good as them at speaking foreign languages or using a computer for example. In this sense snobbery is a positive phenomenon.
The positive influence of snobbery also lies in the fact that at first people only imitate others out of sheer snobbery but then they gradually begin to be truly interested in something and in the process of time become real lovers of painting or classical music.
In the past, people in Poland used to pretend that they were great experts at new trends in art and they imitated popular artists. Nowadays, they are more prone to imitate actors and singers in fashion. They would like to know them personally and look like them. The latest rage is also copying American models, especially by young people who like to add American words into a conversation (ex. 'wow', 'okay' or 'sorry'), wear sports clothes (ubiquitous jeans and T-shirt), watch American films (considered to be the best ones) and adopt an easy manner. Polish people in general tend to admire and uncritically accept everything that comes from the West. They are also pround of their noble ancestors and often unwilling to confess that they are descended from the peasentry or the working class.
Psychologists say that there are more snobs among men than women. The reason is that men are more often driven by a desire to make a career and achieve success in life. If they do not fulfill their ambitions, they suppress failure and pretend to be someone they have never managed to become.

The magic of laughter

2011-05-11T05:51:00.000-07:00

It is hardly believable but the ability to laugh is only quality which distinguishes us from animals. Laughter is a real benefit. It is even said that it heal body and soul. There is much truth in that.
Laughter helps relieve the stresses of everyday life, smooths away tiredness and depression, allevites suffering and ensures sound sleep. It is also the best means to prevent illnesses as it speeds up the process of metabolism, stirs up the circulation of the blood, strengthens the defensive functions of the body and, as a result, builds up the system.
Apart from its therapeutic effect, laughter plays a very important role in human relationships. It is commonly known that people who often laugh are more successful in life. Why? The answer is simple. Firstly, thery make friends more easily than ill-humoour fellows. Secondly, they never take themselves too seriously and this helps them maintain mental balance. Thirdly, they are being employed more easily than non-smiling workers. The reason is that they achieve better results at work: a cheerful shop-assistant sells more goods and a buoyant manager concludes more contracts for his company.
It has been proved that people who like laughing are self-confident, tolerant and more willing to accept other people's weaknesses. It is so because laughing purfies the emotions and helps get rid of aggressiveness. If we do not try to relieve tension, it finally turns against us: we either fly into a rage and worsen our relationships with other people or we restrain our emotions and drive ourselves to a breakdown. Therefore, instead of damping other people's spirits or bringing a disease on ourselves we should burst out laughing as frequently as possible. Even 'dying' with laughter does not harm anyone. Neither has it any side effects. On the contrary, it is the key to happiness.

Shyness

2011-05-09T13:02:00.000-07:00

We are often envious of people who easily make friends, who are open and spirited. We would also like to be so resolute and energetic. However, shyness paralyses our actions. We feel uncomfortable in the presence of other people and are afraid of coming out of our own shell.
Everything we are going to say seems to us so stupid that we withdraw into ourselves. We are also afraid of being ridiculted or rejected. We think that we are so boring, unatrractive and uninteresting that we are unworthy of anyone's notice. And that is exactly where the problem is. If we do not cope with it, we shall never manage to get out of this vicious circle.

A positive attitude towards oneself is the first step to overcoming shyness. If we assume an attitude of negation or dissastisfaction, we generate certain negative radiation which is intuitively perceptible by other people. Positive thinking, on the other hand, facilitates relationships, with others and makes our contacts easier. The best recipe is therefore repeating to ourselves that we are nice and attractive people, untin it sinks into our mind. A very helpful thing is also the language of the body: a smile, glance, mimicry, gestures or even the way we lean the head. If we return someone's smile, we can be sure that the next step will be much easier.

Welcome to the jungle!

2011-05-09T10:14:00.000-07:00

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Here I am. Theel. You won't find anything interesting on this site. I will write here some stuff which has been created in my brain. Nothing special, though. Just enjoy the show. Frist note will be able soon. And it's going to freak you out.