Here’s another video I saw that is somehow related with the previous video I shared. It’s about a man’s promise and a woman’s patience, or lack of.

I like how it was presented here.. Although it depicts a certain sadness on the part of the man for he was about to fulfill his promise, at all costs, only the woman was not there..

I saw this video at You Tube, and I feel this is so nice to share on this blog…

The language of love is indeed very strong as it knows no boundaries nor any degree of separation.. Deaf, or not, when it finds you, it pursues and not falter in its quest.. If the saying is true that love is blind, in the video, it’s all about the language of love..

Anyway, CLICK HERE to know more about the video that I shared.

In most countries in Asia, and here in the Philippines, there are still a lot of homosexuals and lesbians, bisexuals and transgenders who are afraid to come out, and so they go into relationships but hide them from their friends, and especially their families.

This video I saw at You Tube is a PINK DOT 2011: SUPPORT THE FREEDOM TO LOVE , launched today, June 18, 2011… I am sure this video will make you feel something. I know how it feels like because I have close friends who are in this same position.. I feel their pain and longings. And one friend whose been so dear to me died without ever letting his family know that he is gay. They just found out when he has already passed on.. I wish people could be more open and accepting of other people who love and also need to feel loved in return.

More info at PINK DOT…

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When we are hurt by someone, there are two reactions formed. Either we shun away and become emo about it for life, or we move on and move up…

If you ask me, the negative feeling will stay for a little while. And it could stay longer if you choose it to. Moving on means you have recuperated from the pain. That you are ready for love and life once again.. It may take some time, but normally, we get to realize that we must move on in order to be happy.. Those who can not may ask help from professionals, for it may be something serious. Probably something deeper that can cause some psychosis of some sort..

We went to the Malagos Garden Resort last Sunday, where we were able to watch The Amazing Bird Show.. In the video below, courtship among birds was shown and explained..

Here’s a really yummy treat from Lachi’s in Davao City…

If you are courting thy lady love, and she happens to like chocolate, then try this really yummy treat..

Below is a video I found in You Tube. This is perhaps the most popular song among the masses because of the storyline..

It’s about a father who went to work overseas. Who trusted his wife to care for his two kids and his earnings. Unknown to him, she had been irresponsible towards their children, who ended up as substance dependent and drug addict, while she spends his hard earned money on another man, who eventually got her pregnant and the third baby was named after the husband, and included in the budget and everything else that the two kids enjoyed…

I could not imagine how it would feel like when he came home and knew all these things, and soon after learned that all his hard earned money were taken by the wife and her lover when they escaped.. Sad, isn’t it? And why this song became popular is because it happens in real life— I have learned of three people who has this similar story, in different scenarios of course, but similar in the experience of how they were cheated, used and abused by the persons they married.. But of course, all three have moved on already, and are now living better lives, with better partners..

I came across this post since it’s link was shared at Facebook. And well, what do you know, I ended up reading and sharing it. Why?  Well, go on over there and read it for yourself.. It is so sweeettttt…

How I wish all MEN will have that same insight as the author of the post, “Date a Girl who Blogs“, Jayvee Fernandez..

I wish husbands will also fall in love all over again with their wives who blog— But if you ask me who to marry, my answer is, the man who can take really nice photos with really good editing skills.. Then it will be a match made in heaven..hahaha, a blogger’s wish!

Oh, he must also know how to ghost write, and be willing to do it even on a rush… hahaha

Who among you here are fond of watching cartoons even at that age of yours? Well, count me in. I am after all a mom who wishes to see what my daughter is also watching.. I have cried, and laughed with my daughter, answered endless questions that lead to more questions, and well, believe it or not, I enjoy it more than it irritates me sometimes, hehehe. I must admit I get kinda irritated some times by some questions, but of course, I must also understand that my daughter is yet a pre-schooler who is curious about everything..

Anyway, two days ago, we watched UP. A treat from PIXAR and Walt Disney. Actually, I had it here in my lappy the whole time as a friend of mine gave me a copy and well, I have forgotten about it till we opened the folder where it was located.

Here is the trailer from You Tube:

Well, it is your typical cartoon, with a heart from Walt Disney and Pixar. But it has this twist where people of all ages can relate with. Issues like marriage, death of a spouse, wanting to go on an adventure but was never able to, and realizing one’s dreams, fulfilling a promise, etc… All the characters in this cartoon film will give a kid insights as to how it will be in the real world, with the wit and charm of a wild imagination..

In the end, Carl realized that it was not the great adventure that Ellie has valued more, nor did Ellie feel that she missed out on the greatest adventure even though they were not able to go to Paradise falls together.. It was having Carl along in her journey through life that she considered her greatest adventure.. But of course, Carl fulfilled his promise anyway, and had the greatest adventure of his life—

This is a transferred post from Married and Divorced on FB dated Feb 20, 2009…

My friend from the old neighborhood got married on FACEBOOK. Not real marriage, but just some crazy act of  joining the bandwagon of being married in the social network. She has a son from her previous relations  with a married man, and with that, added to being a college drop out from one of the provincial colleges, she was never been able to reach out to us and keep in touch, not until she declared herself married for this sole purpose. Last week, after Paula and Cynthia (not their real names) confronted her, and asked why they were never invited to her wedding, being that the three of them grew up together, as classmates and neighbors, she told the truth and she said that the guy really exists, but they are not really married, and not even living together. He is not at all that technologically inclined that is why she had to create his account, declare him as married with her and link  it to her account for her friends to see.  The two were shocked with what they had heard. Paula called me that same day to join them, since the ladies have always been updating me with the goings on in their lives and the old community I used to live in. Appalling as it may seem, we just have to support her and her coming out.

Since her grade school years, she has often been cautious about what other people would say and how she will be judged. She narrated how her mother, being a public school teacher from the high school she graduated from, always insisted that she and current boyfriend should get married so she will no longer be shamed by her  daughter’s current status: “Impregnated by a married man and sleeping with a man she is not married with”. Harsh. And as those words came out from her lips, tears were falling from her eyes. She continued that current boyfriend has so much on his sleeve, with no job, no money, and is even in a draw with his financial obligations, being that he owes a lot of people money  from a failed overseas job employment due to illegal recruitment, so he refused to marry her. He told her she should wait until everything is okay financially as money is tight, and he is not ready for another obligation. Whatever that means, only time will tell. So with her meager income as a sales agent, she even shares with him her own income. That really struck me as some desperate move. “Why on earth would you go with a man who can not even spend for himself and spend for him, when you have a kid to support?”, I literally snapped at her. I was angry with her stubborn and stupid approach to life.  But then of course, all I could manage after that was to hug my dear friend as she was already sobbing. Then all four of us hugged like crazy– Reminds me of the time when we were yet 10. Hmm. That will go into another post.

It’s not easy being a single mom when you have nothing to assert for. Let alone a very judgmental environment to live in. We do not judge her. I personally pity her for her suffering and lack of foresight. Sorry girl, if you read this, you know I love you, but I can never agree with such foolishness. I just hope she will learn to fight battles the way I have done so. Not to be  intimidated by the other people and not to live according to how others want her to live. It’s not the end of the world if she has a son and not married. She doesn’t have to be desperate as to declare herself married and create an account for the guy just to show  her friends that she is, even though she is not.

I convinced her to go back to school and file  VAWC for the father of  her son acknowledged their offspring. It’s his birthright. And as a woman, she should not suffer alone, financially, emotionally, psychologically and spiritually. The father should give what’s due to the child and not even the wife can stop that. If  she complains and mistreats her and tell her she has no right whatsoever to ask for support because she is not the legal wife, and so on and so forth, then all the more she should file VAWC. Point of the matter is that,  the support will come from the father and not the wife. Besides, whatever the wife will do, the law will always side with the child and the child’s welfare will always be the main concern.  But I guess the worst  scenario that of  the  irresponsible father who pretends to have his girlfriend/live-in partner, a barkada (peer) or even a distant relative, to pretend to be married and have the woman act as the bitchy wife who will do anything and everything for the man to  avoid giving financial support.  Anyway, that is someone else’s VAWC story I listened to months before, and it always makes me laugh how ignorant some people can be. Creating a false face just to avoid responsibility, yet it always backfires on the irresponsible  man!  Another is the story of the “Running Man” or should I say, the “Hiding Man”, where the supposed wife or mother or any of the relatives will declare the irresponsible father as “Gone” or “Abroad”.  But of course, wherever he might be, the law will always get him, especially when he has already pleaded in court. I  sure get a lot of these tales from the VAWC Crisis Center (name withheld for security reasons) as I volunteered to help women there through workshops and counseling. And although these women have already survived VAWC and won their VAWC cases, still, the experience has left the women, and even their children, devastated and needing support. VAWC survivors need to be WHOLE again before they can go into another relationship. That is a suggestion, but not a requirement. (I will perhaps have a separate post for this.)

I am sure a lot of women suffer the stigma of being a single mom, whether directly or indirectly, whether it’s their personal experience or a sibling, or a friend’s. The challenge is even greater for professionals and single women in service for previously, this state have added a more painful truth that career-wise, they suffer all the more. But then, times have changed, and The Magna Carta of Women highly supports single moms who are professionals to continue, if not gain their ground in whatever career-path they take.  So, single moms  as solo parents, now have a voice and security in the law.  To allow each and every single mom to say that it is better to be able to stand up and carry one’s torch as the challenges  are overcome one after the other, rather than declare oneself as married if only to be accepted by the society, even if no marriage ever took place. Besides, FB is not NSO. Fake documents sold on the streets can never pass as legal and binding. If and when used, it will ONLY lead to a legal problem.

Anyway, over coffee, after the movie marathon and the baking sessions, I asked her, “If your relationship with your boyfriend now won’t work out, would you declare yourself  DIVORCED on FB?”, she looked at me sternly and the four of us laughed.