2. Common Goals. We all have ideas of where we want to be in life and things that are important to us, such as career, habitation, children etc. If you’re involved with someone who doesn’t want the same things as you, you will experience difficulty down the line. Sacrificing for someone is only good if it’s for the betterment of the relationship - it can’t be at your own expense. If you lose site of the things that are really important to you, you may end up blaming and resenting your partner for not allowing you to pursue what you needed in order to be happy.

3. What do your friends and family think about your partner? When we’re in love, the last thing we want to hear is that they don’t like our partner. As much as we may feel it’s none of their business however, it doesn’t hurt to take their opinions into account - they know and love you, and they also can be more objective than you in this situation. Try to take off the rose-colored glasses early on in the relationship and pay attention to the interaction between your partner and your friends and family. If you find that you are more isolated and not socializing with your inner circle - ask yourself why.

4. You make excuses for your partner. If you find you are constantly having to defend them, it’s a pretty good sign that you’re in denial about who they really are. Open your eyes to the actions, not the words of the person you are with. Women especially can get confused by the physical bond between themselves and their partners and confuse it with real love.

5. How is your overall mood within this relationship?Are you happy? Do you worry a lot about your future? A healthy relationship is one where we feel safe and loved. We trust our partner and they trust us. When we invite someone into our lives, unless they are adding something to our quality of our lives, they are most likely the wrong person.

It can be difficult to see reality when we’re in a state of relationship bliss. Keeping these points in mind BEFORE we get involved with someone can really help us keep one foot on the ground while our hearts enjoy the passion of a new relationship.

If you’ve ever been super motivated to start a new exercise plan only to lose interest after a few weeks of sticking to the new routine you understand the difficulties associated with finding a workout plan that truly works for you. If you want to prevent that motivation loss from happening to you or just want to find the motivation to start exercising in the first place, then check out these blogs below. Whether you are interested in running, biking, climbing, or using your video game console to get you moving, you will find something of interest here.
Exercise and Fitness
If you just like a well-rounded approach to exercise and nutrition or can’t make up your mind where to focus your energies, these blogs are for you with their multi-approach to exercise and fitness.

1. FitSugar. Women will find this blog about getting and staying fit an interesting read. Find reasons to exercise, good nutrition tips, and read about fit celebrities.

2. Really Useful Fitness Blog. Find out tips for burning fat, working out for maximum effect, and more with this blog. Recent posts cover circuit training, almonds for weight loss, and the best way to lose stomach fat.

3. Top 42 Exercise Hacks. These ideas from Zen Habits will get you moving and stay moving. Check out other posts at this blog that touch on topics such as ideas to start the exercise habit and how to get back into the exercise habit.

4. Lift. This blog is an elite adventure magazine all about physical fitness for those who can enjoy the better things in life. The motivation in this blog is not only to get off the couch, but to enjoy the journey.

5. Starling Fitness. Read about nutrition, biking to work, weight loss, staying motivated, and much more on this blog that can help you reach your personal fitness goals.

6. Bill’s Training Blog. This blog brings insight to Bill’s attempts at fitness through various activities including walking, push-ups, and running (lots of running) while trying to maintain a healthier lifestyle of vegetarian eating and no alcohol.

7. Bike About. With a title like this, you would expect to see this blog in the section below for cycling, but the posts here offer much more than just biking with thoughts on healthy eating, hiking, and more.

8. Trying Fitness. This blog offers tons of suggestions for ways to get yourself moving in the name of fitness. Check out the fitness interviews with reputable personal trainers.

9. Cranky Fitness. Read about fitness, nutrition, and exercise with a humorous twist and lots of kitty pictures here. As they say, “because most health and fitness advice is too damn cheerful.”

10. The Great Fitness Experiment. This blog offers insightful explorations of such fitness topics as living up to your potential, body confidence, and running like a girl (it’s probably not as anti-feminist as you think).

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Deadly Wife Seduction Mistake # 1

Trying to learn how to be an awesome lover. I’m referring to becoming better in bed.

This may shock the hell out of you, but it’s the wrong approach.
I’ll explain. Here is what the guy thinks:

The wrong approach: He thinks that if he becomes so good in bed, his wife will want to keep coming back for more.

Every guy thinks this. So just relax, it’s normal.

Let’s talk about why the thinking is flawed. Again, the guy thinks if he puts on a world class performance she will want it all the time. In reality, it doesn’t matter how good you are in bed if you are a lousy sexual salesman she will not buy into your offer. There is such a thing as poor salesmanship. And a poor salesman couldn’t sell hundred dollar bills for 50 cents.

Trust me, I’ve seen poor salesmen in action. And in many cases they will talk themselves out of the sale. They actually end up convincing the person not to buy. Keep this in mind: SEX is the product and SEDUCING (or the word I like to use is SEXUALLY INSPIRING) is the process of selling the product. I’ll give you another example.

I could be thinking about eating a bacon cheeseburger from a certain fast food restaurant. I know it tastes great because I had it before, but I’m not inspired to eat it.

But when I see the commercial (which seduces me), I suddenly have a strong urge to have it right now - and as a result I will hop in my car and drive out there to get it.

So it wouldn’t matter at all if they kept trying to make the burger better and better and better.

So that is the mistake that guys make. They try to improve the product (i.e. sex or the burger), but NOT the more important part:

The selling process (seduction).

If you have little sexual value, then your mission should be to increase it. And you can increase it. And it’s not hard to do.

Just be sure to understand that what you do technically in the bedroom will not matter as much.

Remember, if a woman can cum from thought alone, then that must mean the mental side of things is very important. The great news, is that your sexual salesmanship is based purely (100%) on how effective you are at pressing her emotional and psychological hot buttons.

That’s it.

Have you ever been caressing a woman and suddenly she begins to orgasm? If you get a woman really turned on, this can happen. It depends on the woman and your sexual value. My point is it wasn’t the fact that she was being rubbed that resulted in her cumming. It was the fact that she was being rubbed by someone with sexual value.

So when guys try to learn how to be better in bed, they are not considering the most important part - and that is increasing their sexual value.

The right approach: 1 You must increase your sexual value 2 You must focus on selling (seduction) instead of improving the product (getting better at sex).

Deadly Wife Seduction Mistake # 2

The wrong approach: Focusing on how you should approach her for sex. This happens when the guy gets rejected and through some sort of perceived logical process he concludes that the rejection was a result of how he approached her.

Here is why the thinking is flawed.

Again, the guy thinks that if he approaches her the *right way*, then she’ll be turned on.

The hard fact is: If you have little sexual value it doesn’t matter how you approach her. That’s like saying:

What would a 900lb woman have to do to get you in the mood?

If she has no sexual value to you, then the answer is nothing (as in nothing will work).

Imagine if you saw her obsessing over how to approach you for sex. That is actually the perfect analogy because guys are more physically turned on (so we tend to associate sexual value with looks), whereas women are more psychologically turned on.

Wouldn’t you agree that in order for you to want sex, her sexual value would have to increase? (i.e. by losing weight).

Focusing on how to initiate sex is 100% meaningless if you don’t have any sexual value.

If you have done the things to increase your sexual value, it really won’t matter how you initiate sex.

The right approach:

1. You must increase your sexual value.

2. You must understand that you do have the ability to increase your sexual value.

This can occur at any time during the day: while cooking the family meal, or polishing off the children’s leftovers. It usually occurs because you are tired and the body is sending signals that it needs energy or it may be that you have had a stressful day and are looking to food as a source of comfort.

Just accept that some days you will overeat but it is not a sign of failure. We all do it occasionally because we are human. Be your own best friend and don’t be tempted to call yourself names or feel down about snacking. Don’t indulge in negative, self-critical talk, but concentrate on the positive aspects of your day. Make a mental note not to buy foods that you can’t stop eating. Like. Peanuts, chips and sweets.

DANGER TIMES
Just home from work or school- a snack to cheer ourselves up; a cake to celebrate the end of the day; a biscuit or two to make us feel better; a bar of chocolate to make us feel less tired. Turn on the television and open a packet of chips.

It is a good first step to recognize why you are having a snack. Is it because you are hungry, or is it comfort food? We all eat comfort food, to a degree. If you find you are eating a lot of comforting snacks, then you want to ask yourself why. Look at the problem at its source and deal with it. Recognise that you are using comfort eating as a coping mechanism. Snacking on sweet food sends the blood sugar levels soaring, only for them to crash again, leaving you just as dissatisfied as you did before the snack. Sugar contains empty calories and is converted into fat by the body. It is a real indulgence and you don’t need it.

CUT DOWN ON SUGAR

Try to put less sugar in tea-or better still, give it up-don’t sprinkle sugar on cereal; gradually decrease the amount-choose unsweetened fruit juices-cut down on sweet snacks by eating fruit instead.

Plan to eat three healthy meals each day. Ensure that you are eating enough complex carbohydrates to ensure that you have enough energy.

Never start the day without a good, healthy breakfast.The place for children’s leftover is in the dustbin.

If you recognise that you are eating for comfort, tell yourself, “This snack will only make me fat”.

THIS WORKS FOR ME!

Although I have three balanced meals per day I still get hungry between meals so I have a mid morning banana, and at 4pm. I will have a chocolate biscuit with my afternoon tea. About 6:30pm, while I am cooking supper I will have a handful of mixed nuts. I only usually have real dessert at weekends but if I feel like a dessert midweek I will have a jelly or a fruit salad with a tablespoon of Greek yoghurt. This works for me and keeps my weight stable.

Would you believe someone’s boss actually brought this into the office? (Or should I say, “The Office”? It certainly looks like something the guys would order for an office party, doesn’t it?)

I love that someone - either the customer or the decorator - felt that “sexual harassment” needed to be illustrated. And I realize that the decorator can’t be expected to be Picasso or anything, but check out how far the girl’s feet are off the ground. Either that was the Spank Heard ‘Round the World, or she’s on an invisible step while Chuckles there digs for gold.

Before you ask, yes, I hear the boss got in some deep doo-doo. Can’t imagine why, though; I mean, it’s got a big red “NO” symbol over it, doesn’t it? And all those spanking demonstrations were purely for educational purposes, so really, what’s the big deal?

I don’t really have anything to say about it - it was just too bizarre not to post.

I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry at this one because obviously someone doesn’t get it! I would like to take these guys, sit them down and make them watch the Mel Gibson movie “What a Woman Wants”.

Like 16 times he should watch it!

And then be made to eat the whole cake…HA!

Source - Cakewrecks

Simple things, such as making out a grocery list, is full of decisions. Should we not buy the ice cream because we are on a diet, or the steak because we are on a budget? Should we buy healthy foods that are more expensive, or rice and potatoes that we can more easily afford?

More complex things, like choosing a mate or choosing a career follow the same process of pulling or pushing. We might push away the manual labor jobs and embrace the mentally stimulating ones, or pull the beautiful men or women toward us, and push the physically unattractive away. We call this making choices, but in reality, we are trying to be happy.

The problem is, when we push away or pull toward us, this is called attachment and aversion. These two, attachment and aversion, seem to be a natural way to live, but when looked at closely, pushing and pulling is the root of our unhappiness. And as long as we push or pull, happiness will avoid us like the plague.

This statement seems to be false, because when we pull something toward us, it is a happy experience. The problem lies in the fact that we cannot continue to pull it toward us without forming a dependency of that particular person or thing, and once we become dependent, we then must control it. Otherwise, if we don’t control it, it can slip away, and we would be unhappy once more.

Control, however, is never happiness. Control is fear-based, and fear can never breed happiness, fear can only breed stress. Therefore, the moment we pull anything toward us, or push it away, fear and stress is involved at a subtle level at least. This is never easy to see, especially when what we pull toward us is pleasurable such as a love affair. However, this pulling toward us forms an attachment almost immediately, and underlying the romance and wonderful feelings are the fears that something might happen. Then, because of this underlying fear, we begin to make sure that nothing will happen.

We might do this by securing our relationship with some kind of arrangement, such as a marriage or engagement. The contract is supposed to insure that we will not lose our attachment, however a contract does not take into account that feelings will change, and when they change, the contract can do nothing for us except cause complications.

Therefore, no matter how we try to insure our happiness, we cannot, except by one method. The only way that we can insure our happiness is to situate ourselves so that each moment of life affords us the opportunity to be happy without something else in the way. This means that we can never attach or push away, and must accept all that comes before us. No attachment, no aversion. Only when we don’t attach or avert can we be free, and freedom is the only thing that will insure us lasting happiness.

The trick in not attaching or averting is in the one who attaches or averts; in other words, our “selves.” This is the problem. As long as we believe that we are a separate self against the world, we will naturally attach and avert. When we see through this delusion of self, however, then life becomes happy, and this is the only lasting happiness. All the happiness’s that are based on an idea of a separate self are destined for dissolution, because it is impossible to sustain that kind of happiness. That kind of happiness cannot sustain itself; it will eventually move from happiness, to neutrality, and then to stress, as things change. And everything is constantly in flux.

Conversely, when a self is absent, happiness is constant because without a self to discriminate and judge, there is only “what is,” and “what is” can only be perfect, every moment, in absence of a self. This is what meditation is all about - this dissolution of self and the arising of constant happiness.

Take a candid look at your life. Not your ideals or beliefs, but your actual life. Are you happy? Is your life becoming a mess? How much effort have you put in to make yourself happy, and has it worked?

These are questions only you can answer, and the answers are what should make you look around and realize whether what you are doing is really working, or whether you are still waiting for it to work because of some kind of vague promise.

Only you can change your life. Nobody else is that interested; they are all involved with their own problems. So take control of your life to the point that control is no longer necessary. This is a different approach, and one that takes the strength and resolve of a warrior.

Take the first step.

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The nearly four-minute video, which was posted online Thursday, shows the man taking the bath to celebrate his birthday. In the video, shot by another worker, the employee refers to himself only as “Mr. Unstable” and appears to be naked.

Timothy Tackett, 25, told WDTN-TV in Dayton that he is the sink-bather and that he made the video for his MySpace page. The video had been removed by Tuesday night. Tackett said he regretted taking the bath because it led to the firing of the employee who did the recording, as well as the restaurant’s shift manager.

Burger King spokeswoman Denise Wilson said earlier Tuesday that two employees involved in the incident were fired and a third quit. She declined to identify the employees or say whether the man who took the bath quit or was fired.

Tackett said he was fired.

A message left by The Associated Press for a Timothy Tackett in Centerburg was not immediately returned.

Greene County Health Commissioner Mark McDonnell said he dispatched an inspector to the restaurant, but workers had already sterilised the sink, which is used to clean large pieces of equipment.

E! Online reports Jolie has replaced Cruise as the lead actor for the new espionage thriller Edwin A. Salt. The script is being rewrote so the main character will be a female spy.

The movie is about a CIA spy who gets accused of spying for the Russians. It will be directed by Philip Noyce, who also did the Bone Collector.

This comes as the political website Wilshire and Washington reports the two American presidential candidates are in a scramble for Jolie’s endorsement. She is one of a few Hollywood celebs who have not yet made up their mind about whom they are supporting.

In a statement to Variety magazine, Jolie said, “I have not decided on a candidate,” Jolie says, “I am waiting to see the commitments they will make on issues like international justice, refugees and how to address the needs of children in crisis around the world.”

Her final choice, Jolie says, will depend “on issues like international justice, refugees and how to address the needs of children in crisis around the world.”

Unlike many other celebrity endorsements, Jolie’s carries the weight and influence of her extensive humanitarian work around the world, as the goodwill ambassador for the United Nations High Commissioner for Refugees. Her statement was an indication that she would be open to choosing a candidate.

Although most celebs seem to favour Obama, Jolie differs from the Democratic contender on his Iraq policy.

In a recent op-ed in the Washington Post, she declared that she is not that keen on a fast withdrawal from Iraq. She wrote, “My visit [to Iraq] left me even more deeply convinced that we not only have a moral obligation to help displaced Iraqi families, but also a serious, long-term, national security interest in ending this crisis.”

In the meantime, Paris Hilton has declared that she will not affiliate herself with any party that doesn’t pay her at least 40 grand to attend and set her up with a sweet gift bag.

So why is it, that it is women that generally buy sex toys and not men? Some women purchase the old ” Rampant Rabbit” (That’s a rather large and amusing vibrator, for those of you who have never ventured into a sex shop or been invited to a sex party) solely for the purpose of using this in the privacy of their bedroom alone. This could be because they are currently without a partner and require satisfaction.

Some women buy vibrators and other sex aids to enhance their sex lives with their men. So if women are involving their men when purchasing sex toys why do some men still feel intimidated by these plastic vibrating giants? Size? Doing a better job? Because plastic cant say no? Never tires? Take it from me a female and user of a number of said items, you cant beat the real thing. There’s nothing like the human touch. Show me a vibrator that can wine and dine you, tell you that it loves you and fix your fence.

Men are more visual creatures on the other hand, some might say a bit shallow. They are aroused by pictures of scantly clad ladies, and videos or dvds of a pornographic nature. Why are women intimated by these images? Firm buttocks? Pert breasts? Toned bodies? Take it from my partner, who’s male. He says this is not reality. These women strutting their stuff across the screen are not natural to the everyday man, they are just a kind of sex aid/toy for men.

So it seems that both men and women enjoy sex aids of some kind, but obtain their pleasure from different sources. Many couples are happy to combine both preferences and enjoy fulfilling sex lives.

So it is really down to the individual or couple as to whether sex toys/aids are a good thing.

So to sum up… Maybe we should all be a little more tolerant to our partners needs. Ladies, shorten the plastic, and men, switch off sooner……

Would you like your future life partner to be somebody who has slept with a numerous amount of people and knows the body and intimacy of those who will in the future become strangers in your relationship?

Or, would you prefer somebody who wants to have that experience with you and only you because they know that sex is something serious?

Would you prefer spending your life with someone who has been within 50 different relationships, or with someone who has never had a boyfriend/girlfriend?

Does it not sound better if both can be able to learn form each others sexuality rather than permitting your partner to learn with others? Would it not sound better to be your partners first and last? Yours and only yours.

Not every body thinks this way. But be honest to yourself, isn’t this better than what common society tells us?

Now I understand that many might say that “nobody waits for marriage anymore”. But this is the exact same reason why we have so many problems when it comes to the topic of sex:

The exact same reason why people suffer from so much “emotional baggage”. The exact same reason why HIV is a top threat to modern society. The same reason why so many people die from AIDS. The top reason of so many abortions. The seed reason for why more than 50% of all marriages end in divorce because of infidelity .

So, whats wrong with sex before marriage? All that is stated above.

Now a sexual experiences is not just any type of experience. It is something that stays recorded in the mind permanently. When this is lived with someone, that person becomes more than just anybody for you.

When a relationship is over, people tend to say that “it is the past”. But the truth is that it’s not in the past because the past forms part of your present and your future. What ever was done in the past becomes part of you for the rest of your life consciously or subconsciously.

Proof of this is the knowledge you have of everything you know. This would include the alphabet, numbers, the language that you speak, the people that you know and everything that you do on the daily basis, you owe it all to your past.

So when it comes to live that moment with that special someone, it would be almost inevitable to forget the past sexual experiences from others, staining the present moment with your beloved partner.