THESE MOTIVATIONS

OVERCOMING THE FEAR OF FAILURE

treasured100@yahoo.com (Salau O John) — Mon, 08 Nov 2010 04:58:08 PST

It’s yet another great and wonderful week.

I bring to you as promised, another help from one more of my books.

I believe with the message I bring to you from this book today, there’s a lesson to be shared:

FEAR
Fear is something that holds many from the road to success, but basically it means “False Evidence Appearing Real” in its real acronyms put together. This means that it is something that is never seen but a make believes; and to be candid many fears are unfounded because by the time it is looked into nothing is ever found that caused the fear – it came of its own volition and disappears unexplainable.

Somehow understanding this is the best way to become victorious in life and all! (more from the book)!

WRONG FEAR
The wrong fears brings us down, never allowing us to see where we are going; it is the fear of not waking up the next day, the fear of what to become, the fear of whom to marry, the fear of tomorrow and future – these all keeps us thinking and worrying.

More in the book…

RIGHT FEAR
The right kind of fear is to understand fear itself as a helper and overcome everything that brings the ones that will delay or limit our progress in life.

More in the book…

OVERCOMING FEAR
It is very easy to fear, so stands the same for not having to fear at all. All things are easy to those who by experience have understood that fear in it itself does not come to those who are determined against all odds to become what they believe in; those who have accepted their vision and purpose as the only life that they have got. Or how can the world make a person a hero when he/she is so scared of living that everyday there is something to run away from?

More in the book:

FAILURE
Failure is the art of trying and stopping through an obstacle of life created by not seeing ahead a situation that is before one. It means a crash landing on an island of life which necessitates to either rebuilding the crash landed plane and flying again or building a house on the island and staying there without another problem; or using the solution learned in the crash landing for a better sailing through to where you were going before your fall when you are rescued.

WHY FAILURE:
A child that has been taught from childhood to fear when grown will find it hard to stop, and he who learns the art of reading devotedly cannot be stopped in the future; the same applies to the reasons of failure. Many things have been taught to man but not how not to fail in things, career, relationship, love, and life.

More in the book:

OVERCOMING FAILURE
It is very easy to overcome anything in life when we have understanding towards it. Overcoming failure is through knowing that there’s a lesson to be learned, and that every problem or failure has an expiry date to it.

More in the book:

CHARACTER
There is nothing in the world great in any way but man, there is nothing truly great in man but is character. Character is the sum total of ones qualities which distinguishes one person from the other? A gentleman’s first characteristic is the fineness of structure in his body, fineness fitted by his nature.”

More in the book:

Thank you for reading,

Enjoy your week!

John O Olanrewaju
treasured1
Poet, Author, Teacher, business manager & Publisher

THE POWER OF DETERMINATION

treasured100@yahoo.com (Salau O John) — Mon, 01 Nov 2010 01:15:40 PDT

A CHRISTIAN MOTIVATIONAL PIECE

I guess I just can’t stop helping you out here as I know we all do need a little help here and there to get to our dream destination in life.

So this week I bring you another analyzing help from one more of my coming book to make you learn a little of the book before they are out and see what it has in store for you and your future growth in creative business life, and vision.

I wish all the very best in reading and gleaning the facts I lay down here on this blog and to plan on laying your hands on this motivational book as its due out for your reading education.

Chapter One: GET DETERMINATION
In every way we all do need determination to get to where we are heading in life for without it we can miss our destination and hold unto compromise that will lead us on a journey of losing time, money, etc.

WHY DETERMINATION?
Every time you find work to do, do it the best you can. In the grave there is no work. There is no thinking, no knowledge and there is no wisdom…. Eccl.9 vs.10

Determination is the process of making a choice toward achieving something in life, and taking the right steps towards it, even when all things stand against making it. It is the ability to be focused on one thing without turning back until its fulfillment; the power of following your God-given vision and purpose in life till its end.

Everyone needs it to make it in life. So get determination to be what you ought and want to be!

BEING DETERMINED
But Daniel purposed in his heart that he will not defile himself with the portion of the king’s meat, or with the wine which he drank: therefore he requested of the prince of the eunuchs that he might not defile himself. (Daniel: 1 vs.8.

It takes a purposeful heart to make it in life and all.

Its up to you to become all that God has listed for you to be in all things!

DICTIONARY DEFINITION
Determination is taken from the root word ‘deter’ which is to ‘keep from an act by fear, self, punishment, etc’. And from ‘deter’ we come to ‘determine’ which means ‘to be the cause of control of something or ones mind, ambition, or future, etc’.

BIBLICAL DEFINITION!
This is the ability to make up ones mind to do the unbelievable through faith, trust in God and His word, based on known and believable or unbelievable facts seen or unseen. It is the acceptance of the word of God as the final authority, in things believed; and walking in it even though it is unacceptable, unbelievable to others because it is Gods authoritative word.

WHY THE FAILURES
If a person refuses to learn from his mistakes, then he will be poor and ashamed, but if a person listens when he his criticized or punished, then he will profit. Prov.13 vs.18

The problem of failure is a big thing in the world, not only to the poor, foolish or unwise but to all, even the wise; and the difference is very glaring to only those who by wisdom have exercised their minds to become determined against all odds to make things happen for themselves.

We have the negative and positive failures (You can find out in the book)
One leads to success and the other to failure....

WHY YOU NEED DETERMINATION
Every man on earth have a dream, vision and the longing to become something great in life, and to achieve anything there must be a willingness to do and to become, which brings about why everyone need to be determined to get what they want and desire in life.

Without determination a lot of things will be left undone and others unfinished as many things will call our time and attention but we have the power to do what we want.

Until next time,

Enjoy your week!

John O Olanrewaju
treasured1
Poet, Author, Teacher, Business Manager & Publisher

YOU CAN MAKE IT 2

treasured100@yahoo.com (Salau O John) — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 02:06:45 PDT

It’s another wonderful day again and I come to you with more help from my book, “You Can Make It”, as that is the book in the market for now among 36 books I have written waiting to be published.

I know in time you’ll get to read a part of all of my books and see them in the market as the work progress here and there.

So let’s get started on the journey of today’s post, the part 2 of helping you out with some information from my latest book…

1. THERE ARE NO LIMITS: In many ways we often forget that there’s nothing we aren’t capable of. The human minds have no frontier except to those who have of themselves limit their life and thoughtful purpose.
Nothing stops us all from becoming achievers in life or to have that dream we are set to achieve if we can follow the right direction with focus.

2. NEVER STOP THINKING: Thoughts rule the world. This is a hard nut for some to crack as not everyone thinks aright before jumping into what they are entering into. As we all know truly well, that thoughts makes us and life is never actualized without first sitting down and thinking to procure the right solutions to a burden.

Every great poet, author, artistes/artists would never have gotten to their break through without a thought; so its your turn to think and move with the right plans in hand.
3. BE PATIENT: This is a virtue we all must cultivate as nothing can help us if we are always running to get to the finish line.

In actual fact, we will miss a lot of the joys and lessons on the way if we are not patient enough to look at the way we are going as any destination in life without speed pumps some times lead us to feel we are the best of that we do, when in actuality we are under training.

Learn to be patient!

4. FORGET THE ORDINARY: This is about you living above the mundane in this life and believing the impossible as only your belief matters in making a meaningful life and dream become a reality.

There may be some laws against you, your own set limits to set you back, only you holds the key to become all that you are dreaming of, and nothing can stop you if you know where are you are going in life with your dreams and creative talents.

So go on my friend and worry not about life’s limitations as every law can be changed if your dreams for your reality is set in the right mind and frame.

Now go and break barriers with your creative business mind and be yourself!

Till next time,

Thanks for your time,

John O Olanrewaju (Salau O John)
treasured1

YOU CAN MAKE IT

treasured100@yahoo.com (Salau O John) — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 01:59:10 PDT

I bet you will think me insane for doing what i am about to do here today, but in a way I am merely trying to help you out in your dreams and creative work, to become better, whether you have read my book or not.

I know its not everyone that will have the chance to lay their hands on the book but it behooves me out here to help you become the best in all your endeavors just as my book has suggested to you, if you have read it or not.

So here I’ll start this week with the first chapter even if I can’t finish its content today, I believe another day stands sure for it.

The first chapter comes with this title: “Know what you want”, and it you have subtitles to guide you on your journey of reading the book.

KNOW WHAT YOU WANT: in reality to get to your destination in life you need to know what you want or want to become, where you are going and search for your destination in actual fact.

The subtitles are:

1. Ask questions: The level at which we all go on in life, not knowing the road to making things work and never asking the right questions or asking for help at all burns us all. You need to ask questions, get mentors who know the road and have been there before you to help you gain access to your dreams and vision.

2. Be happy: Happiness is a state of mind and you need to work in that state to be the best you can as no one will offer you happiness but you in what you do, desire and work in. Just try to get yourself happy in every sense of the word and you’ll be able to think aright in your cause in life.

3. Be focused: Being focused is letting go of all other things that might come to impair your way to become that dream you have planned out for yourself. Life will bring many things our way but we decide on what to with them and which one to hold unto.

So go forth and make the right decision in your creative life!

4. Never give up: Hey, have you falling or failed in doing the things you promised yourself that you want to do and it seems achieving that thing can’t be possible? the fact remains, but in actual truth only standing up after the failure or fall makes you the person you want to be as it is said, “Rome wasn’t built in a day” and the best things in life never comes easy.

You've got to dust off the failed plans, pick up your lessons and move on as many are waiting for you at the finished line. Its time to run onward and never worry about the falls or failure, its all part of life and its lessons for you to be the best you can and want to.

Till next time,

Thanks for coming along with me here,

John O Olanrewaju (Salau O John)
treasured1

NOT JUST A WRITER (3)

treasured100@yahoo.com (Salau O John) — Thu, 23 Sep 2010 06:14:42 PDT

Hello friends,

After posting the first and second part of the story here for you to learn something from and understand that not everything in life ever remains the same.

A lot of people ask me if I can put up the next part; I can tell you here that the book has been written and finished unedited for so long that until now I never thought I'll be using it on thus blog but for you, nothing can make me say no as my intentions here are to help, or is that not the reason for this blog?

So today, let's get on with the third (3rd) part of the story...

Enjoy!

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After his first love Quizzical, he had met so many other beauties but none of them could offer what he was really looking for, either they want his talent, his money or just want to learn, gain something from him. Some would not even mind offering their body for the price. He attended parties, clubs; a good dancer was he, trying to be among and lug along with the happenings around him, yet finding no comforting shoulders.

Everything gore him that he had to lay it all down to a resolve of facing poetry and book writing, teaching and being himself, pouring all his heart and soul into writing, teaching, reading, listening to music from different artistes and attending churches, seminars and symposiums.

He could only remember easily that his mother was not behind him at all in going back to school because of the trades he had learned. She wanted him to face making money, driving and doing aluminum or electrical jobs. But he had made up his mind to never turn back, though he love his mother but he had learn the lesson of his life through his past experiences and that of others. That parent can bring you to the earth but when you are of age you are on your own to make the right decision for distinction and only with God you must brave the right road.

Being able to go to school was the happiest thing in his life and a greater achievement was his expanding talent. The school transformed his whole idea of thinking, and brought him in contact with what he needs to be as a man.

He had been a comfort and a shoulder to all who need his help without collecting a penny from them; he would teach courses they do not understand, narrating and answering their hard questions. Always in the lecture room, and whenever he could not understand a subject he would ask questions, collecting books from other sources concerning his course, and never bringing any book or jotter during examination days but pen, and making the best mark or score in the school. He was always there for all in the school at all times to learn, to teach and to make an impact in helping others, leaving behind his own problems.

So many girls looked up to him and wanted his friendship, guys too really did like him due to the fact of them being able to get his help whenever they need it, but some still hated him.

Many of the girls wanted a far more reaching relationship with him but he was not unwilling to give it, he was only dillydallying because he had not found what he was really searching and praying for. He believes in the reciprocal love in all things, and anyone who can not be that is not worth his love.

Coming from a polygamous home with the ups and downs he had coped with gave him the scare of double dating; the pains of his mother then, the mistrust of the father, the stepmothers and children with lies and negative words of discord that he had breathe. Lies can never be and was never his way of wooing beauties.

Once he thought he had found love in school, he met a beauty named Poised. She was there for him in some ways, getting him a seat beside her whenever he comes late for lectures; they were often seen together talking, making fun and doing the school assignment together, though he was always the one to help both out in such areas, he never mind, for he believes he learns more anytime he teaches others. In the process of time things started to dwindle between them, for other girls too came for his help, though he tried to make her understand no matter what may be, she alone remains the sun in his life, yet she could not take it. To sum it all up she had to tell him a lie that she already have a baby for someone else before coming to the school, hoping he will let go and flow without her in his life. But he just told her that a baby is not a disease, and if she is not married to the father there is no problem between them (for she had told him that the father left her). He had hoped they could both still continue to lug along but she would not hear of such from him which led to the dissolving of their friendship. Though it hurt him yet what could he do; he had to let go, making her his friend after a lot of persuasion from her friends.

There problem was not that she could not really get to understand him in the areas of helping others out in school. He tried making her understand the truth about his life but it was taken up by deaf ears. All in all, what pained him most was she talking about their problem with her friends while he was still searching for a way to resolve things between them. He had believed that nobody was there when they had met and nobody ought to be called to settle whatever problem they might have; and if they are both matured to start such a relationship, they need to be more matured in settling their problems themselves.

They could not really yoke together like before but stand cubing all that dote them by in the school because her mind could not be changed, though he loved her.

He was a man giving to understanding, living with all odds and forgiving at all times, never hoping for enemies; though he knew they exist, he never look there, believing that God is in control. He taught many to be good writers in the school, creating an atmosphere for others to become poets and writers.

The life he lived was paved with prayers, doubting nothing; and the use of the time at his disposal. Although sometimes he did procrastinate before doing the right things, it’s merely because he loves to pray and plan aright in all things before he could embark on it.

Hoping you are learning something here,

Till next time,

Enjoy your day out there,

John Olanrewaju

Poet, Author, Speaker, Publisher & Business manager

aka

NOT JUST A WRITER (2)

treasured100@yahoo.com (Salau O John) — Mon, 06 Sep 2010 06:55:02 PDT

Hello friends,

Well, just decide to post the second part of the story, though a true life one but the names are not real….This is a complete book though been finished and left unedited for too long…I guess we all need this part…It could be about you….A book title: “From A Boy to A Man”… Enjoy!
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In his utmost thinking mind, he sat down to look into how life has been favorable and unfavorable to him; how he made it all through at the end, though more steps stands to be plied.

He had been an Evangelist in a prominent church; a house fellowship leader; a choir master, and also plays the part of a children's pastor, having had different certificate from numerous bible correspondence course from across the globe, a literature and English teacher, worked with different people and organizations to learn to be able to stand on his own in the future.

Many still hoped he will be a minister because of the way he speaks and writes his speeches, poems and lectures, loving to exhort people at all times.

During the course of planning and upgrading his life for the future he was aspiring to get to he had also learned a little fashion designing, at least for eight months but never did plan on using it to earn a living on commercial ground. The fashion designing was something he had put his mind on when the father was still alive but situation was not favorable to him in the course of learning it. He had opted out when the fatigue and burdens of walking or trekking and the tiredness of no food got unbearable for him. He was staying with his mother then. Neither his mother nor father gave him anything to learn the trade with still they could not help him finish things up. He made up his mind to face life the way it comes and win his battles through Gods help.

He was the first born of his mother but not of his father. He had lived, loved and dined with the beautiful ones, the ugly ones, the rich and the poor; searching for a stand in love and life, believing that one day he will go back to school to make an impact in the world of writing, singing, teaching and creating a better atmosphere for all artistes in the society he lives in.

Life is not a bed of roses, for those who made it sure; they know where the shoe pinches. He had come a long way to be where he is now and he alone knows that there lies no turning back from where he stands. So many times wishing he had killed himself and so many times believing to live another day brave-safe.

His first love was a beauty named quizzical, they both were in infant love, infatuation or lust. They were both yoke together, but not in the night crawling waves of passion. They only believe a future could be plan-mapped out of their relationship.

The beauty was a student who steals time to see her love. They had them a tacit agreement in walking together. He was a good cook (a thing he had learned from his stepmother), always trying to make her happy, but sometimes youths plan to fail or succeed because they fail to open their eyes to see the big picture of time and future.

Quizzical was never supporting him in anything or advising him concerning his future, except to take. He saw it all coming to an unexpected end but he would not look the way. He believes that with time and love things will change for the better. But not all things in life are really fathomable.

She was a taciturn girl who never really talked about her family, and he never bothered, even when he asked her, no answer was given. He never did complain about it. But everything came to an end when Mr. T’s father traveled out of the country and he had to go and stay for a while with his mother till his father would come back. When his father came back, he rushed home to discover his Quizzical was no where to be found. He asked, searched, looked everywhere for her and was told that she had gone to her father’s house outside the state.

By the time he went checking her in her father’s house, he got to understand that when two people are in love or in courtship and planning to be real lovers, the past, the present and the future must be known and paved without any secret hidden somewhere.

He discovered that she was a Chiefs daughter and pained him, but what could he do for the unknown secret? The hardest part was when they both met eye-to-eye and she said he should go away, “what are you doing here, what do you want”, saying her father must not see him. He asked, ‘what of our plans together, she said, she already had someone else whom she would soon be walking down the aisle with, to say I do. He pleaded, tried persuading her to alter her mind and cried, hoping she would change her mind, but nothing could be done as she shouted for him to leave.

After all was said and done, he left dejected from her place.

On his way home; he doesn't drink nor smoke, he could not really tell how he made it home that day; he only knew that he bought almost seven yogurts on his way hoping to dawn his worries with it. He wished he had not gone to see her at all. It was not a story he could download to his friends who will only laugh at him because his own ways of relationship was not like theirs at all. So he was left in his resolve to agonize alone.

Reminiscing about the times they had had together, how he used to give her money whenever she was going to school, cook for both of them, celebrate her birthday for her with lots of gifts, hoping they will be together forever.

How time changes everything as he went black and blue, teaching himself to face life in another direction and turning to face the reading and writing of books and poetry.

He turned to God in the nick of the year 1987 to try and find a new leaf to his life. This made him read the scriptures in three different translations from cover to cover to find, know God more, and develop his own writing style. It wasn't easy but it was worth it.

His stepmother did help him in some ways while the father was still busy trying to or never to take him out of the country. Harmed with a VISA for six months, yet could not use it until it expires twice at home; asked to choose between serving Christ and traveling to out of the country. What a world to be in? Becoming a house help in his own fathers house and cooking for the whole family like he has no sisters.

He did love it, for he believes in learning anything that he can lay his hands upon. He was able to teach himself the art of driving by watching his brother’s friend and his stepmother while sitting beside them whenever they go out. He was in love with athletics and acrobatics, doing weight lifting and jogging. He was a man to the brim in things needing learning and understanding that he even took to farming when there was nothing worth doing in his mother’s house.

So many things did bother him in heart, though there was love lost, life was still affordable and things were changing without a father to lord.

He paved way to be a conductor just to make ends meet; it was humiliating especially in a state like Lagos where everybody abuses those who do the work but cannot offer anything good to any of them.

He learn to save what he earns and in the process becomes a driver of one his uncles buses, being sought of by bus owners to use their bus for them. But along in his work he discovered that when you are good people will always love to use you for their own selfish ends. So he decided to opt out. His knowledge and talent endured him passage everywhere he went.

During the course of his writing careers the Poetry society wanted him, drama artistes searched for him and the music industry look for his writing abilities, pious, loving and compassionate heart, even some friends wants free proposal writing from him.

He had set his goals to achieve – to make it no matter what by going back to school. he attempted the General School Leaving Certificate (GCE), seeing the result was favorable in his center but he could not get the original result out for him to enter any higher institution. He made way to see the agency in charge of the result and was given another result with his name on it to use in going to any higher institution of his choice. He did the Joint Admission Matriculation Board (JAMB) exam and made it in flying colors but refuse to enter for full time, not for financial constraint for he had been saving for the school while working but he understand that backup cash is required if he would finish the course he wanted to go for. So he opted for a part-time course in mass communication. Though he knows that he’s supposed to be studying communication arts to improve himself better than what he knows and where he’s at. He continued writing his poems for his friends, and everyone that needs his help in such areas that he can help without collecting any pay for it, poems that speaks of love, comfort, hope, issues of life, happiness and trials.

During the course of his schooling he met a lot of people and friends telling him to keep track and record of all his write-ups, that he might need them in the near future. This was something he knew he had been doing, though not all were kept because some were given out immediately he finished writing them. But he made the decision that same day to have it all kept no matter where he may be; all his written songs, plays and poems. His song had given him the opportunity to become a choir master, which he decline and with his poems he had gotten awards and nominations to travel out of the country and attend conferences, symposiums, lectures and competitions. The only thing that kept him from traveling was his fear of being retained by the invitees.

His poetry and giving heart had endeared him friendship in many areas; being given a web-page free for his personal poems, getting to know people and marketing on net with accounts in different places across the globe.

The attainment of a man is likened to climbing a mountain; as in one step at a time; though not all can wait the time of the budding, because impatience is the order of all men; and only few knows what is meant by “patiently waiting in prayers for Gods answer to a future plan-mapped.

It was a Saturday morning that he chose to sit under the tree to look into his past and present. He looked up, down, and around, smiling, not for the cool atmosphere, nor for the receiving of a contract to publish some new writers, but finding his stand in the world and love at last, paved only of God for him.

Hoping there's a lesson or two for you....

John Olanrewaju (Salau O John)
aka
T1 always

JUST ABOUT ME

treasured100@yahoo.com (Salau O John) — Fri, 03 Sep 2010 02:42:51 PDT

Well, well, well,

I guess you all will be happy to know me, I mean the real me out here, so I've decided to put up this post today to create a way for you to know me better and get to understand why I've chosen to be a writer and help you out in your quest to become a success in life, business, relationship and creative works.

Years ago while growing up I can actually remember telling my family, "hey I'm going to be a writer, though then it might sound like a joke but in reality I was into it, I mean writing from the word go but little did I know that I'll come back and be that which I've always told myself severally until now.

Well, So many things have happened since then, when I said those words to my family, and the most baffling things have happened as well.

I had to go through a lot of things to get to where I am today and some of those things are not what i really in actual facts bargain for.

Was it the time when I tried my first singing, or acting that turned me into being called different names or my first poetry rendition, or the time when I tried writing and was beating blue and black for trying out love notes; which one can I talk about here? O yea, I get it, the trouble I went through when I was stopped from schooling in primary 6 and I said I want to go back, which fell on deaf ears.

It wasn't easy then I can tell you, when everyone will drive you here and there, telling you to learn a trade. I can say I did gain a lot in them days as I learned to be a fashion designer, Aluminum fabricator, go through painting and glazing school, did diploma in electrical electronics and finally at the end I had to send myself back to the school I had always wanted to go and read mass communication.

Now the deed has been done and I still have a lot going for me out here but the issue is in all these things, I've learned that the ball has always been in my court all along, all I needed was to take my life in my hand and do what I must to get to where I am going.

Now with my book published and in the market, plus 38 books written and registered (still counting) with my personal company done; I can say, the sky is not just the limit but above the heavens!

Here I know so many things we all do go through in life, among friends, families and foes but the truth is we all have what we need to stand and be all we ever can/could dream of becoming.

My routing in life now is that I write daily poems and put up motivational messages of facts I know well enough while growing up and the true motivational understanding I’ve gotten from books, trainings and readings that have helped me in getting my life on board to the best it can possibly be.

I have made up my mind and my own mandate to help others out with the things I’ve gone through hoping they can learn from my mistakes and success and the tales surrounding my thoughtful daily, weekly living.

Till next time,

Feel free to get to me on any information you think or feel want to know and you can’t find out here about me. (treasured1creativeideas@yahooo.com or treasured100@yahoo.com )

Thanks for coming along to knowing me.

John O Olanrewaju

(Formerly salau O John)

aka

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SOMETHING ABOUT MY BOOK 2

treasured100@yahoo.com (Salau O John) — Wed, 01 Sep 2010 01:37:47 PDT

Just wanted to let you read a little of my books coming soon. I guess you must have enjoyed the previous one posted last week.

Now you are having the privilege of reading the next ones before they are out in the open.

This books are already registered with their ISBN and copyrighted intact. It's for your perusal here.

1. Friendship and Courtship: ISBN:

You & Your Friends

It has often been said that, “the people you know matters in life”, and the same applies to any relationship in life, especially that dealing with the matters of the heart.

Anyone who must have friends must be friendly as only birds of a feather flock together. Life is all about relationship and relationship only comes through friendship or it’s nurtured by it.

We all do need friends in life, friends who will be there in times of need, comfort etc. as we go on in life our friendship level changes, some friends will be there to hold unto while others we will have to let go of; but the truth of the matter is, to have a good relationship, it must all begin from friendship.

A friend is one who tells you the truth no matter what; a person who knows your faults but loves you anyway, helping you to curb it or finding ways to help you become what you really ought to be by focusing on your strong points, not one who tries to manipulate you for what you have or you can offer.

Friendship

Friendship is sharing warmth and intimate relationship with someone you like and trust. It forms an integral part of a young person’s life because it helps him transform from childhood to adulthood. It provides the chance for acquiring experiences, building self-identity, conflict management skills and interpersonal communication; it’s a very vital ingredient during adolescence and throughout life. Friendship does not involve sex. You must know how to choose and find strong and good friends to be with.

You must work hand-in-hand to build a successful relationship. Never take a friend for granted. To have a friend, you must be a friend yourself and making friends is very easy if you can follow the following rules:

FINDING A FRIEND/LOVE

It is very easy to find a friend or someone to love though the skills are not taught in schools or in life affairs but understanding will birth the way if one truly seeks and really need a friend or is searching for love.

There are so many places to look to:

Meetings: There are so many gathering here and there where you can find someone to be a good friend to though you need to get to know the person well before you can move on to any other direction of your choice.

Churches: You have so many meetings and membership areas for your interest and getting to know one another in a church setting.

Internet: So many online networks on the World Wide Web for you to join and make friends, a wonderful place to get known and make contacts though you need to meet the person face-to-face to find out more, get to know better before you can say here is friendship in reality.

Clubs/Parties, etc.: You have so many clubs, so many entertainment sections for you out there. Just know what you want and go for it.

All you have to do is follow all the guidelines left for you in this book and you’ll see that all things comes easy to those who are really seeking in truth and taking the right steps.

Take the initiative

Never wait for others to come to you, go all out to get the friends you need; get to know people that matters to your becoming what you want to be in life and never neglect anyone out of your way. Take the first step in making friends and you will never regret it for life. Everyone needs a friend and getting one is just a neighbor near you, just talk to the person with a friendly disposition to all those that you might meet on your way up and see how things work out for you.

Be likable

You should be the kind of person who ventures into understanding others and not just yourself. Love and like others even though it may not be your culture; it will help you in the end because we all need someone when we are down and those you meet today may be the ones for your tomorrow’s growth or betterment.

Get names right and give yours

It is very important that you get peoples names right the first time you meet them and if you know that you can’t remember their names, ask again, it won’t hurt you or them if you do. Nobody likes his name being called wrongly or spell badly. It will do you much good if you can even write down the name for keeps in case you might forget it.

Exchange cards, telephone Number

For a fact, it has been observed that the person you keep his or her information and get to know better becomes your best friend in the end of time. He might often become a person that you will need in that dream and goals of yours. If he can’t help you he can introduce you to someone who can and make, pave ways for you to fulfill your dreams and goals on earth. So keep tabs for friendship for future purposes!

Don’t expect perfection

On earth nobody is perfect and until we accept our imperfections can we see to others own. If we all expect perfection then no one will be able to work with each other, our imperfections makes us different from one another and shows that we are still humans trying to attain to what we all want to be. No one is ever going to be perfect but love and understand will create whatever is missing in anyone and bring us close to walk together without strife.

2. Poetry For You: Teaching you how to write poetry: ISBN: 978-978-088-341-6

Coming soon

REAL POETRY

In this Chapter you will find:

A. What is Poetry?

B. What Poetry is all about?

C. Requirements for writing Poetry.

A. What is Poetry?

Has it is said; Poetry is an art (a way of writing). It is the art of writing in prose and stanzas with words on lines, having its own ways of arranging words, line by line. It uses languages to convey a lot of meaning in its own context.

Poetry is the work of poets and writers (those involve in writing prose, plays, song lyrics and movie scripts), which is often referred to as literature in the art world.

B. What Poetry is all about?

Poetry is all about you, your imagination, culture, environment and everything seen, heard, understand, understood and known around or across the world.

It is an aspect of arts that is so unique, powerful in helping to create a balance in a world of chaos, through written or spoken words; helping to create humor in the society, teaching morals, educational and cultural lessons.

It is about building a better you, country through good information, education and analyzing prospects for better ethical standards.

Basically, it deals with the morals (good behaviors) and amoral (bad behaviors) acts of a giving society and help in curbing amoral acts, bringing it to light for all to learn something out of.

C. Poetry Requirements.

Many hobbies or sports require special equipments but with poetry the arrangements needed are not special in any form because it is not a dangerous hobby. All that you need is a pencil, pen and a piece of paper.

When a car breaks down a mechanic comes around to repair it. Usually he has a bag of tools with him. Nearly everybody needs tools to do their job. A painter can't paint without a paintbrush, paint and other tools for his trade.

A poet needs tools also: A pen or pencil, something to write on, perhaps a word processor (computer), but most important of all - words. The more words you know, the better equipped you are to write poems.

You don't have to have a big vocabulary to write poems. Sometimes the simplest words can produce beautiful poems. But poetry is all about finding the exact word that you need.

How do you improve your word power? The best way is to read. Read lots of books or have a catholic taste for books - and whenever you come across an unfamiliar word, find out what it means. It could be just the word you'll need in your next poem.

Most people (adults as well as children) tend to read the same sort of books all the time. You find a type of story you like, or a favorite author, and you read it. But poets try different sorts of stories. Read newspapers and magazines. Try reading novels and motivational books. Once in a while try an "adult" book. And if you are going to be a poet, read lots of poetry. You probably have some favorite poets, but read other poets too. Keep on reading to improve your word power!

You should understand that a pen and a paper are the only things you need, but in serious writings there are other tools that are valuable to your trade, which you must have, and they are listed hereunder.

1. Notebook

This is the most important tool of the trade. A small notebook/notepad, better still one that can fit into your pocket, that you can take along with you everywhere or wherever you go. You can't tell when ideas will occur to you, and if you don't write them down, you stand the chance of forgetting them.

Having or carrying a notebook with you all the time will help you in writing or jotting down your ideas immediately when they occur to you so that none will be forgotten.

· Usefulness of a notebook or Journal

Some poets consider using a Journal, which is like a book having blank pages that you, can write anything into. It is like a diary only that it does not have pages for each day of the year, but you can organize or arrange it in anyway you like it to be. But here, understand that a notebook is more appropriate for the job because of the advantage of being able to carry it about in your pocket.

Now, if you are ready to be a poet: then go get a notebook or journal or a pocketbook and start jotting or putting down your ideas, this does not mean writing an entire poem. It can be as simple as noticing a word, a rhyme, whatever word that can be of use or of interest to you.

You don't need to worry yourself on neatness, spellings or punctuations, just write as you wish, don't worry about the write-up. What matters is being able to capture ideas as they come to you by keeping them in your journal or notebook.

Thanks for reading. Wishing you all the best out there:

John Olanrewaju (Salau)
aka

SOMETHING ABOUT MY BOOKS

treasured100@yahoo.com (Salau O John) — Fri, 20 Aug 2010 05:17:42 PDT

Hello friends,

Just a quick post here today about what has been keeping busy of late.

I guess I just have to give you a short preview of my latest work, my books, has they have been keeping me out of my weekly writings on this blog for some time now. I know you are all anticipating when you can lay your hands on them in the book stores soon.

Well, I am giving you the privilege of reading a little of 2 of the books before they are out in October 2010 to get at all the leading book shops nation wide in Nigeria.

The book titles are:
1. 101 Ways to Succeed With your Dreams & Talents (Motivational)
2. The Power of Determination (Christian Motivational)
3. Friendship & Courtship (Relationship Motivational)
4. Poetry For You (Teaching Poetry Writers how to write)

Well, a preview of the first book is given, and the second as well bellow:

101 Ways to Succeed With your Dreams & Talents (Motivational)

Chapter One

WHO ARE YOU?

1. Realize your potential

In order to succeed at anything, you need to see that you have the potential to reach your goals. For example, if you want to be a recording artist but have no singing ability, having success in this field is not likely. However, if you love working on computers and have a real talent for fixing software and doing computer repairs, and to you success means working for Microsoft Company, you have the potential to learn and achieve that success.

2. Don’t Look Back

Everyone has failures or mistakes from the past. To have success, you need to learn from your past and value those difficult lessons but do not dwell on your past. Simply move forward and make better, more educated decisions from the lessons learned.

3. Dare to Dream

To succeed, you need to have dreams and aspirations. Be honest with yourself, know what you want out of life and what you want to give of your life. Allow your mind to dream big and think big.

4. Business Plan

Create a business plan, your very first step if you are planning to build a business. Whether you will be searching for investors or not, this plan will be the blueprint to your success. The business plan will consist of market trends, financial planning, competitive analysis, exit strategies, marketing and promotional options, everything about your goal. When going before an investor, you’ll be required to have a business plan. This is by far the most important document of all. If your success were something personal, you would not need to create a business plan although a project plan would be a good option to allow you to keep track of everything involving your goal.

5. Don’t Give Up

To reach success, you have to persevere. Even Thomas Edison had to learn this. When he was creating the incandescent light bulb, it took him more than 10, 000 times to get it right. Keep striving even when it becomes challenging...

The Power of Determination (Christian Motivational)

Chapter One

GET DETERMINATION

WHY DETERMINATION?

Every time you find work to do, do it the best you can. In the grave there is no work. There is no thinking, no knowledge and there is no wisdom…. Eccl.9 vs.10

Determination is the process of making a choice toward achieving something in life, and taking the right steps towards it, even when all things stand against making it. It is the ability to be focused on one thing without turning back until its fulfillment; the power of following your God given vision and purpose in life till its end.

To be determined, or to have determination in the real sense of the word, is to know what you want to do, or be in life, daring the odds, setting your priorities straight, following them and doing what it takes until you get the end result.

Determination cannot be overlooked in life, no matter the task, because it is the power to change ordinances, lives, and the future; anything needing change in this world and beyond.

BEING DETERMINED

But Daniel purposed in his heart that he will not defile himself with the portion of the king’s meat, or with the wine which he drank: therefore he requested of the prince of the eunuchs that he might not defile himself. (Daniel: 1 vs.8.

From the above scripture, we read of Daniel, how he was so determined to be different in all things in another mans land through a purposeful heart and what became of him at the end.

We can also read the story of his three friends, (Shedrach, Mechach and Abednego), how they settled everything in their heart; what to do no matter the outcome of all things surrounding them, and the glory that followed after. (Daniel 3 vs. 16 — 28)

DICTIONARY DEFINITION

Determination is taken from the root word ‘deter’ which is to ‘keep from an act by fear, self, punishment, etc’. And from ‘deter’ we come to ‘determine’ which means ‘to be the cause of control of something or ones mind, ambition, or future, etc’.

From determine we have ‘determined’, meaning ‘having an intention firmly fixed in ones mind to be done immediately or later in the future’.

After all these we come to our pot of call which is; ‘Determination’:

Determination is the ability to continue trying what you have decided to do or become, focusing on one thing, even when it seems difficult. It is having a strong mind to do something and allowing no one or anything put a stop to it. It is also the art of doing what is set or settled in the mind or heart of an individual to be done; to do something no matter the odds against it, with immediate effect; not looking or minding roadblocks or working in procrastination.

Biblical definition!

This is the ability to make up ones mind to do the unbelievable through faith, trust in God and His word, based on known and believable or unbelievable facts seen or unseen. It is the acceptance of the word of God as the final authority, in things believed; and walking in it even though it is unacceptable, unbelievable to others because it is Gods authoritative word....

Available in stores now (A pocket motivational book)

Learn something from this: Just a Poem

Balance that life

The job will call man to work

And obligation will rant and vent

But time lost is time gone

Yet there’s another time to invent

Balancing the time is truly tightening

But to rest, to play and worship calls

Life was made for a balance in learning

Though many try in failures cage

Man must rest and play to refresh

And give time for worship and work

But few understand this balance

And many in life have waylaid luck

God in six days work and worship

But the seventh he rested to fellowship

Generations are plagued with work ethics

And the children days forgotten to click

Thanks for coming along with me here.

Till next time when I come your way with a tip of the next 2 books, feel free to contact me for any other information you might need (08028607952 or treasured100@yahoo.com).

Wishing you all the best in all out there,

MY NATURE

treasured100@yahoo.com (Salau O John) — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 03:13:07 PDT

MY NATURE

ITS MY LIFE (SOMETHING FROM THE PAST)

treasured100@yahoo.com (Salau O John) — Tue, 10 Aug 2010 01:14:26 PDT

Well friend,

I guess its been a while leaving you out here without a word from me to you.

Its the business of life and learning, working on my new books and trying to see what next I can teach with my life's journey.

So, today we are going to start from a true life experience, a story written for those who really need to understand the lessons life offer and sometimes the reason we all do go through different things to become better for others and our future.

I pray you learn as you go on with me here, in a story titled "From a Boy to A man: Enjoy!

The day could not be imagined. It was one of those lovely days in which the flowers blossom beautifully, the birds sings, the wind owls, and the trees whistle. The stillness of the earth could not just be imagined. It was a wonderful sight, and a day for the earth to be alive. But for one man stood a fallowing problem; he was lonely with so many talents to sooth and booth the world. He was a writer, a singer and a poet, but his family would neither jeer him up nor look his way. He loves being himself, attending church services, seminars, writing and giving out poems. Though there were many who pray to have just one of his many gifts, yet all who have met him only want to receive, not lend any helping hand for his progress.

He was determined to make it through in life knowing that the greatness of any man is achieved in tests, trials and taking only God as a bait. He has few friends, not so close to him; no girl as a real partner but friends. People call him “trainer” but his name was Mr. T; and truly with his name abound good speeches, a different techniques of writing poetry, speaking, singing and teaching; he was good.

Looking into the profile of his growing up in life; he had started writing from primary school, only then his words were dotted on love letters and life sayings, and he could not get past his primary school level due to different burdens from his family. The mother was not there to take care of him after he had been waned from infant milk. He grow up trying different things, then work for a while to get some cash saved for going back to school but his father subscribed the money for playing a game of pool. His life wallows in religious propagation from friends, families and foes. He became a reader, reading any book worth his salt. He compose songs, wrote poems and plays. None could believe nor accept that he will ever get above his primary education, for they all thought he would just learn a trade and lay around, becoming nothing. But his mind was made up to get to the top, more than anyone can think of him in life.

Mr. T had gone through the thorny side of life trying to be a man; from a polygamous home with religious biases, propagation, to being a Christian in one soul and spirit.

He sat under a tree to think about his past, and where he is going. His father was a traveler who loves women to the core. His mother was not really there for him as he grew up with his stepmother until almost the end of his father’s life.

It had not been easy when his father was alive; he was beating up whenever he went to church, although it wasn't like that from the beginning, things just changed all of a sudden when he became a christian. He remembered the time he was given a scholarship to study music, his father turned it down; how he was accused of stealing things he never did touch. It was not an easy thing to be in but he endured it all. He tried to be what he wanted to be has a boy but he was forced to learn different trades. But no matter how much he tried his mind still dotes on writing books, teaching and performing his music and poetry.

He had attended a government training school called at the time "School on Wheels" to learn to design, paint and draw, read books on computer practicing them for his good. And had gone on to learn fashion designing for one year, Aluminum fabrication trade for three years with eight months in an institution, where he learned electrical electronics for his own use. Whatever there was to learn, he was always ready to learn, read and pave his own way out of it, even though the frustration of doing the trades were burdensome for him, no one understands him and his toils in life...

To be continued...

AM I A WRITER NOW

treasured100@yahoo.com (Salau O John) — Mon, 02 Aug 2010 02:01:30 PDT

It had taken a while in my head to remember the days, days when I fought to become a writer, promising my family that one day I’ll become the best, the best that will change the world with my poems, my songs and motivational words.

I can remember how I was laughed at, jeered at and told that it will be better for me to learn a trade.
Now, this you may not understand but I’ll explain; you see, my father was a man giving to polygamous ways, and he had more than six wives, I just couldn’t understand how he was able to, though he was a graduate of business from Oxford University in London. I wish I know what he learned in there before he came home and married more than one wife.

Well, for me I was never given the chance to go to school more than primary six but my dad had a library at the time and nothing could stop me from devouring all the books in there. I love reading, and my hunger for it made a way for me to write and read all kinds, I was not particular about a genre or writer, from motivational books, fictions to horror; the hawk series, mills and boom to Nigerian stories, though I always love stories that give a meaning to a better life after suffering due to the way things were with me at then.

Growing up was not an easy cast but it was well, as I grew up being trained by my step-mother who herself was another story entirely as she travelled almost all the time, leaving me alone with the wolves I call brothers, sisters and step- mums; my life was in between, but I learned a lot from it.

As I’ve read in the happily ever after stories, I’ll say life can work that way too for anyone but to those who can fashion it out for themselves, having a plan, being focused in their vision and doing the right things. Truly it was tough but at the end, my father died, my step mother stepped on everything he had, leaving nothing for anyone as she had the most privilege when he died in England (they both there together). I was left alone, my brothers got something but they could not help one another out in anyway. I had to send myself to school by doing anything I could lay my hands upon.

My break was at the end; my singing got noted, my book got published after a lot of trails and errors, I was made a choir master as my songs, poems got noticed, family and friends want to get a come back from me. Speechless I stand.

Still I am asking myself; am I a writer now?

To be continued

GETTING YOUR LIFE BACK AFTER ALL

treasured100@yahoo.com (Salau O John) — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 03:42:19 PDT

Hello there my friend,

Today is another day for a little understanding to one of the issue life brings our way, the burden of letting go of life, a friend, or just being sick of situations that damping our spirits.

I believe you'll love reading and learning from this as much as I like to blog about it.

We all do know that sometimes life has the habit of kicking us in the teeth, perhaps through no fault of our own. Things get tough and we have periods of sorrow and hurt, this could be the death of a loved one, a breakup of relationships or sickness.

We have two options to dealing with what life throws at us and these are to give up and go into depression or to accept whatever happens in life and then move on with our lives, if we make the right choice then we grieve of course, then pick ourselves up and move on with our life.

Bereavement
Bereavement comes to us all eventually in life, sometimes it comes cruelly and strikes the young while others are taken expectedly when they have lived out their years, whenever bereavement chooses to strike it is just as heartbreaking for those left behind. Grieving will of course vary from person to person and there isn’t any set limit on the amount of time which we should or shouldn’t grieve, there are also many stages to grieving starting with shock, numbness, fear and unsettlement being just a few of the many feelings which can flow through a person during this time. Grieving however is a normal occurrence and an important one if we are to get over this time and eventually move on with or life, it is human natures way of letting go and you shouldn’t
try to hide any feelings or thoughts during this time. Having someone you can turn to such as a family member or friend can help greatly during your greatest time of need and if you are lucky enough to have someone like this then it is essential that you take them up on their offer of being there for you.

IllnessCoping with a severe or life threatening illness can be devastating; it can bring a whole range of emotional problems along with physical disabilities. Finding that we have or someone we love very much has a life threatening or severe illness is devastating and brings feelings of fear, uncertainty and even denial before true acceptance. Denial to a degree is not necessarily a bad thing, if denial is used in a positive way, it can help to overcome problems to some degree and enable you to get back to living your life. However total denial and not accepting at all is something entirely different and if this is the case then you might need to seek help.

Break up of relationshipsThe break up of any relationship can be traumatic particularly if you have been together for many years and/or there are children involved in the relationship. Again fear plays a big part, fear of what the future will bring, how you will cope, feelings of betrayal and desertion all play an important role.

Time usually plays a crucial factor in healing after a breakup and grieving to an extent over what is essentially a loss helps to get your thoughts and feelings out and enables you to move on with your life and take the next step forward into a new chapter.

TIME

The first time is never easy

It was meant for your going up

Aspiring high the second time

Shows you’ve learnt a lesson

For the tough gets tougher

And life is more joyful with

Its ups and down

Get acquainted with your problems

The facts of life are easily diluted

If only you’ll accept them as they come

Facing them and winning

The first has come and gone

Now the second is here

Do it better and be tough

LET GO

Like a cage

You lock up your heart

So afraid

You never want to fall apart

You’ve got to let go

So many times

Will you be fine?

It stays in your heart

The fear of the past love

You’ve had

You’ve got to let go

Thanks for learning with me.

To your help,

Salau O John (Olanrewaju)

aka

http://www.towerofpower.com.au/getting-over-a-relationship-break-up

http://www.ehow.com/how_2311321_move-after-break-up.html

Steps To Your Procrastination

treasured100@yahoo.com (Salau O John) — Tue, 20 Jul 2010 06:33:50 PDT

Hello friend,

Really never had it in mind to post these steps today but due to some questions and discussions from/with a friend on the subject I thought it fit to write on the issue bothering solving this problem as many really do face it without knowing or understanding how to get out.

Procrastination is a burden many do not really know they are into because it often starts unconsciously before it becomes a part of a person.

So are you a victim of laziness, a root cause of procrastination? Do you often suffer because of what you initially considered as easy has turned difficult with the loss of time, and what appeared hard, due to further delay, has
become impossible now? You may draw comfort from the fact that you are in the company of many that are affected by procrastination. But you must realize that you will experience true comfort, if you get rid of your laziness by shaking yourself up into action. Like many others, you can indeed stop procrastinating and start meeting deadlines, by following a few simple steps that teach you effective time management.

1. Plan your daily must-do activities. Draw up a to-do list; preferably, write it down on paper; or, use a computer if you prefer.

2. Prioritize the activities, the more important ones taking precedence over the less important. If there are urgent things to do, but not important enough to be worried about if not done, put them below the important ones. The idea is based on the established principle that 80% of rewards accrue from 20% of effort directed towards accomplishing important work.

3. Estimate the time required for each of the listed activities after analyzing their complexity. Avoid underestimation, as you may not have enough time to do well a particular of piece of work. Similarly, avoid overestimation, for that may leave some activities without enough time. A realistic budgeting of time is a must. Time allocation is a skill that is acquired with experience. So keep reviewing and revising your time schedule as you progress.

4. Organize your life. That will help you avoid wasting your precious time and leave more time for the actual work. Remember indiscipline causes confusion, even chaos, in life. It eats into your time. Avoid sloppiness. For instance, leave your personal belongings of daily use, like your glasses, your clothing, your computer etc., in the same place. If you do, you won’t need to spend time looking for them all over the place. Apply the principle of doing work first and then taking time for pleasure and relaxation. Reverse the order only at the pain of falling prey to procrastination. You can get time for rest and relaxation if you are efficient in doing your assigned work.

5. Start working bit by bit. You may see a mountain at first, but mountains can be moved, especially if you begin by moving just a small stone from it. You know you cannot move the entire mountain all at once. Do not be overwhelmed by the immensity of the task before you. That will put you off.

And you will put off the task for another day, which will never come. Just begin by taking one small step and you will invariably reach your destination.

6. Put first things first early in the day. Remember procrastination grows into a habit by the minute. Begin your day by launching yourself head first into the most important job waiting to be done.

7. Learn to cope with anxiety, depression, stress and other similar conditions of the mind related to your problems in life. Keep yourself fit, not just physically but mentally as well. Learn and practice suitable mental relaxation techniques such as meditation.

When to pray

Not tomorrow, not tonight but now

Are you in daily distress, downcast?

God sees your sorrow no how

Are you fretting a future to feature?

The Lord, the word an answer no foul

Are you happiness your hopes gotten?

The prayer, your prayer must tongue

Is your friend, your family yearning stopping?

Your time, God’s time must song

The time to pray lies no turning time

For God a spirit you to His due

And prayer is rain to future dues line

So you must might your all to do

The enemy enlists your other line

With prayers you prow termination on

A book hooked of God to remember thine

The more, the store place them long

Cool down

Like the storm in a raging sea

Your future has been tolled, toiled and tailed

You feel and fear parts that’s free

I call you to cool down!

Like a man in a jungle you stumble

And the darkness dolls you ailing

You feel there’s no way to bubble

I call you to cool down!

As in the battle of the Titans

Your friends, families you can’t see

You feel like you’re alone in the lighten

I call you to cool down!

Like Daniel in the lion’s den

All the earth frets against thee

Know thou God knows with a plan

I call you to cool down!

To your success in all,

Salau O John (Olanrewaju)
aka
T1

Procrastination: Why You Do It, What to Do About It Now

The Procrastination Workbook: Your Personalized Program for Breaking Free from the Patterns That Hold You Back

The Complete Idiot's Guide to Overcoming Procrastination

Control that addiction

treasured100@yahoo.com (Salau O John) — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 07:52:01 PDT

Another day another time out here, just wanted to help you out in the issues concerned with our addiction and getting out of the ruts we get into sometimes with eyes open, other times just by trying things out and never being able to get out again.

I believe there's something here to learn.

First of all, have you even realized you need to break free from your addictions? If not, now is the time to make a conscious decision about regaining control over yourself by really trying to kick your harmful habit NOW.

You can’t wait forever for an opportune moment, because it will never come if you don’t want it. Once you decide to quit, make your decision public. Tell your family, your friends and everybody and anybody interested in your well being about it. By doing so, you are making it rather difficult to back out. You are perhaps also indirectly indicating to all of them that you are seeking their support for your decision. Actually, it is important to openly enlist their help and co-operation to help kick your bad habit.

Avoid getting into situations full of temptations. No matter how strong you are, the temptation will be overwhelming. When you are trying to give up sexual addiction, smoking, for instance, hanging out with your chain smoker friends will do you no good. Don’t accept invitations to party, when you know you will be subjected to peer or situational pressure to take the very things you are trying never to use. If you do, you will never come out of your compulsive weakness for a particular drug, drink or smoke or some habit you have decided to kick.

You may need professional help If you are a long-term slave to alcohol or drugs or tobacco or pornography or any of the several other equally harmful substances or things, you may need professional help in addition to the support from your family and friends. After an in-depth look at your case, specialists will chalk out a program for you to follow under their supervision over a specified period of time. Several support groups may join in. Following the rehabilitation program is key to getting yourself back on track. Ultimately, your own will is the only thing that can get rid of the addiction for good.

People under some stress or tension wrongly believe that they can calm themselves and feel relaxed if they use tobacco or alcohol or drugs. They first try to drown their sorrows in addictive substances and habits injurious to health, but end up drowned in their addictions. If only you realize the futility of seeking relief from your grief in addictions, you will never put yourself under the risk of damaging your health and losing your wealth as well as destroying whatever happiness you have had so far. There are better ways to confront and conquer your problems than giving in to addiction.

Outlets for addiction
Learn to relax and rebuild your physical and mental reserves by doing regular physical exercise, meditation or taking to hobbies by exploiting your creative interests. Instead of attempting to escape from reality through the door that addictions seem to open for you, learn to adopt a positive attitude and face the inevitable and overcome the consequences with courage.

YOU are in control
Remember there are few quick-fix solutions to life’s problems. Likewise, there are no easy ways to overcome your addictions. Only concerted efforts on your part will help you in the end. Take control of yourself by training your mind to face life’s tough challenges.

Heart troubles

The past calls us back in

Though atonement we’ve alight

We cry and fry the pains seen

And wish another way this light

Why wail a forgiving past

Though this punishment we must buy

A little line and time to last

For God, so bold, our ways sigh

It’s a matter of time to pine

For a lesson learned, a future gotten

Blame thou not God, your sign

You were forever let go but burdened

Your troubles for the time, your lessons

Only adjust in aligning order bent

For greatness, success, your troubles are blessings

But only God thou to hold none relent

HARD TO COMPREHEND

The issues of the human minds

The throes of life in thinking

The thoughts propelled by different kinds

How on earth can man comprehend?

The thoughts of business and relationships

The bugs of heartbreaks and poverty

The back-turned human burning lordship

Who can comprehend these burning tides?

As the journey goes on differently here

The pangs of different connotations bout

Faces differ, only the best must care

Life only in sphere does exist

Our thoughts probes us daily

What we know is half boiled

Only learning keeps us here daily

As understanding birth peaceful progress

Have a lovely time out there,

Salau O John

aka

Is this happiness?

treasured100@yahoo.com (Salau O John) — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 02:35:23 PDT

Today I would like to examine something critical to all of us, "happiness".

I do know we all do go through this burden, searching for a meaning to living happy and feeling good in life and love.

The fact of living and having happiness in life calls on all and becoming happy is something everyone wants and will cherish having.

Do you feel there is something missing from your life? That perhaps the world is against you or that other people seem to smile, laugh and be a lot more happy and contented in life than you are? Have you ever stopped to wonder why this might be? Moreover, what you can do about it? Have you even considered what happiness actually is?

Happiness and contentment in life differs for all of us, what makes one person happy doesn’t necessarily bring contentment to another. Very often we are happy in life but we just don’t realize it. Very often the hustle and bustle of life can completely overtake all else and leaves us little time to enjoy the things that make us smile and enjoy life to the fullest. If you stop and sit down and think about what actually makes you happy and feel contented, you might actually find you have those things already around you but you just didn’t realize it.

However there are times when we can get into a slump and haven’t yet come across the conditions that we regard as bringing happiness and contentment. If this is the case then you have to figure out what changes you need to make, to bring happiness into your life, in most cases it is the smallest of things which bring happiness and you have the power to gain them by working towards them.

Your happiness and contentment depends entirely on you, no one else can give it you, it is something inside you that you have to find and work towards.

You can either decide to stop in the rut or to take positive action and make changes to your life or yourself in order to accomplish contentment. In order to understand what happiness means to you, the first step you
should take is looking at your emotions, ask yourself questions such as “if I could be enjoying something in my life, what would it be?” and “what makes me feel contented in my life right now?” Once you understand what your vision of happiness and contentment is you can build on what you have now or focus on changing your life to what you would like it to be.

The important thing to remember is to examine your feelings by way of the answers you give to your questions, examine them honestly and concentrate on the good or bad feelings that you get from your questions and answers.

There is no magic spell or potion that can bring you contentment and happiness, it is something that is already right there inside of you, you just have to realize what it is and develop and bring it out to start enjoying life.
Happiness can be found in family life, work, relationships, nature or a pet, to name just a few, in fact it can be found in anything and any situation if you just know where to look and look in the right direction, the inner you.

All men cry

Men do mean cry

Have you ever seen love line?

When loneliness atone the try

And love lights no line

All men do mean idle cry

When love is so far and all done is try

Yet all doors closed and friendship fry

It is the dillydallying of all men.

Men and their mean boldness

Showing not the cloudiness but soundness

It is that plan-mapped of youth

Yet all men do wail idle cry in truth

See the steps gaily sought

Women taught gentle vessels

Yet in love and loneliness men are tough

But in creek secret, men fry in cells

Malice

There is fear in malice

If you believe me not

Try to keep it and see

It breaks friendship and fries it hurt

I saw you and I say not hi

And I walked in my bemoan heart

Noting not the future that ply

But bullying a better future for start

I say you smell and I hiss

Yet within me your past smiles I miss

I know love stands our remedy

But what ails your heart indeed

Let’ walk together laying them eggs

With alone to lay our togetherness

For lives are mapped in fun-friendship

And malice does mar the only truthfulness

Salau O John©

Music

Like the balm of Gilead

It sooths and comforts me

And the sound breaks the boundaries to lead

It lies in setting the heart free

For millions of hearts a burden atoned

And from ages untold the words did fall

For in these our hiss in the world burned

And pray for only God the song to call

From above came the fire of tongues

But on earth a change of tone

Yet our hearts hails in heavenly songs

For that we hope a song to swing

Music

A thing for hearts projection

Men and women forever to click the critique

And God with angels connotation for consolation

Thanks for reading my blog,

Salau O John (O.O.J)

Beating the Bad Day Blues

treasured100@yahoo.com (Salau O John) — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 06:09:40 PDT

Hi friend,

Just a quick one this week to help you out with the days when things feels like you need to give up an d let go of living the life you were created for, to enjoy and be the best of all.

I sure do hope you'll find something out here to help you become happier than the problems of life and living.

Whenever you have a bad day for whatever reason, what you need to do is think. Think hard, but not about the misery or the misfortune that has hit you.

You may be of the opinion, of course, the unfortunate events or experiences of the day are going to haunt you, put you under depression and mental stress, drain your emotions of their usual energy, kill your enthusiasm for life and spoil everything that you hold dear in life. In short, your negative thoughts may make your bad day seem worse than it actually is. Undoubtedly, that will be the case if you surrender yourself to the consequences, not otherwise. If you take control, you can devise ways and means of beating the bad day
blues.

Since negative thoughts and emotions tend to overwhelm you on a bad day, you must think of strategies that thwart them. Turn to vigorous physical work out. Or, take a long walk or go swimming. Or, just get out into the open and sit somewhere and observe the plants and trees and flowers or the sunset, if it is sunset time. Read a pleasurable book, watch a funny movie or do something that distances you from the bad day situation, preferably both physically and, more importantly, mentally.

The good times past
Remember the good ol’ days that enriched your life in the past, all the happy experiences that elevated your spirits and all those special friends and relatives who brought cheer and laughter into your life. Think of the good things of your life and be grateful for the blessings bestowed on you. Put against the bright light of your appreciation of all those better days, this single bad day or a small bunch of bad days will pale into insignificance.

Do not wallow in your bad moods and emotions because that is a sure way of plunging deeper into sorrow. A bad day will not become a good day by stewing over it. Remember that a bad day is just one passing day. It might have left a few scars on your mind and body but is important to remember that the pain is temporary. Time is a great healer. Today, just ignore the negative aspects of the day. Instead, look at the positive side of the bad event or happening that spoiled your day. Are there any lessons in it for your future?

How can you avoid getting into the same or similar situation?
This does not mean that you start thinking about your purpose in life, your personal relationships, your career graph or your future on a bad day. The day is not suitable for taking any major decisions about your future life, because such decisions cannot be sound, given the dark background. Put off taking important decisions till a better day when you regain your mental poise and composure.

One simple formula that will help you on your bad day lies in the fact that your sorrows get divided and your pleasures get multiplied when you share them with your close friends or confidantes. You may try to overcome your bad day by discussing your problems with your close friends.

Any or all of these easy-to-adopt measures will be helpful in providing relief to you on a bad day.

CHOOSE TO LOVE

I have been hurt and pained

But we al choose that wanting

I have been beating and slay

But I chose to love again

I have died to my past

Awaken am I to my future

Hurt and pain can’t really last

Our choice makes joy in the fronting

Life will teach o learn lessons

But men will choose that to learn

How often men cry for treason

But the truth is in us all

Our choices changes the minds burden

To love to hate either one recoil

Though we hold power for future frozen

Choose the best to live alive

ACTION AND WORDS

They say action speaks loudest

But sometimes that unnoticed speaks

They say seeing is believing

But that unseen too really breaks

Men and their mean idle threats

That said most never portrayed

Like hiding in darkness for cover

That done is never that prayed

In love the heart calls true

In life many things are amiss

We see only that we want seen

After everything we cry amiss

In separation many things helps

In understanding and trust love’s built

Life will always teach its lessons

Men will and may not suite

Thanks for your time.

Feel free to leave your comment here!

To your success,

Salau John

aka

Turning hate into good

treasured100@yahoo.com (Salau O John) — Thu, 17 Jun 2010 00:17:51 PDT

In many ways we all do have something to hate here and there about life, our job, people and things but the actuality of understanding brings us to try and live with some of these hates to make us a better person even in the midst of not feeling happy about our character at the time.

There's nothing bad in having a little hate for something but learning to manage that hate is another thing for us all.

How many times have we said to ourselves “I hate this or that” or even “ I hate him/her”, but where does hate get us, does it make us feel any better by declaring we hate something or somebody? Hate is a negative feeling and negative feelings only bring about bad. When we think of the word hate we start to have thoughts of coldness towards others or something, we automatically isolate ourselves from that person or situation and nothing good can come from feelings such as these. There are many types of hate such as racial, sexual, ethnicity or just plain disliking a situation or disliking a situation due to a phobia, here are some ways you can think about turning the hatred into a more positive and good approach.

Racial hate
People are people, we are all flesh and blood whatever the colour of our skin or our background in life, we all have the same color blood flowing through our veins; we have the same shape hearts and brains, we all have fingers, toes and the ability to communicate. Why then do so many people profess to hate someone else just because they have a different color skin or come from a different country? It is worthwhile remembering that underneath we are all basically the same and want the same out of life for ourselves and our families, there are good and bad people of all colors and nationalities in life.

So instead of just hating someone because the look differently to you look deeper inside than the color of the skin and see the true person.

Sexual hate
What difference does a person’s sexual preference make to the person that they are, many people hate others solely based on their sexual preference, but why? For example you could meet someone quite by chance enjoy being in their company, laugh, talk have a great time until you found out that they were gay or lesbian.

All of a sudden your feelings alter towards this person yet nothing has substantially changed from a few minutes ago, the person hasn’t changed, they are still the same person you were having fun with whom you liked being with, yet this simple point changes everything. Maybe its just a matter of ethics, how you were brought up, what you were brought up to believe in, but why cant you change your thoughts and feelings, why cant you just allow yourself to continue having fun and enjoying being with that person?

If they were a good person before there admittance of their sexual preference then they still are now.

Hate due to a phobia
People can truly hate certain situations or objects in life due to an excessive phobia, this could be a hate of heights, spiders, snakes, the dentist or being enclosed in elevators. This type of hate is brought about by fear, a deep fear of something or situation that for those affected have hardly any or no control over, however since fear is all about feelings and thoughts, fear and hate of this type can be controlled with the mind with a little help and know how. An analyst can help to turn this type of hate and fear into a more positive outlook and help the person overcome the phobia and turn a fearful situation into a good one.

FIGHT THE FEAR

Do the things you fear

Take a ride with your fear

Aim higher than the sun to become

That you act as dead is gone

Cowards die before death tolls

Get knowledge awareness your tools

Self perseverance breath with fear

Stand doing things without care

Make your fear your tools

Walk in the present be cool

Evils that never happens why worry

Only once is life in a hurry

Plan on that you truly fear

Bring not to friendly care

Close eyes for dead troubles unseen

Face that undone before and glean

CHANGING THE WORLD

It’s all part of a process

A step a day for the future

In discipline all must to recess

And action through practice for cure

Its not just words but ways

To learn and live by some rules

To become a man changing days

Lives are interwoven through tools

Every book read, every way known

To stand and become is a process

No one without discipline is shown

And only few had the world restless

Changing the world is mans control

The process is mission, vision holding

But who understands even their soul?

The paths are laid to be reigning

Wishing you all the best in all,

Salau O John

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Hate the Evil, Hold Fast to the Good: Structuring Romans 12.1-15.1 (Library of New Testament Studies)

Take This Job and Leave It: How to Get Out of a Job You Hate and into a Job You Love

Developing healthy communication skills

treasured100@yahoo.com (Salau O John) — Sun, 13 Jun 2010 09:03:28 PDT

Today my friend I'll like to help you out in the most important area of life and living aright.

Just to put you on a straight cause in communicating well in the areas that matters.

We all are made to speak and showcase to the world what and who we are through good communication and well developed manners.

So here I believe you'll be glad to read something of interest to all and sundry.

Developing good communication skills is essential in all walks of life and different situations. Relationships rely on good communication to survive and strengthen, how you live among your neighbors requires good communication, in your work, doing well in school or college and dealing with difficult people are just one of the ways excellent communication skills can help in life.

Most of us have to deal with difficult people at some stage or another in our life, so it is essential that we know how to deal with them effectively, to get the best outcome. If we are faced with difficulties as a common part of our day-to-day life it will gradually have an effect on your life, you will become nervous, anxious and stressed. The easiest solution is to eliminate the difficulty from your life; however this is impossible if the problem lies with a co-worker or a loved one. If this is the case then you have to develop strategies to help you develop healthier communication between you and them. Here are some tips to help you.

1. Where possible avoid getting into any personal discussion such as religion or politics, basically avoid any subject that can easily cause conflict. If you sense the other person is trying to goad you into a discussion that will probably lead to an argument then change the subject or leave the room.

2. Trying to change the difficult person you are dealing with will only result in them becoming defensive; it will eventually turn into a power struggle and make the person even more difficult to deal with.

3. Try changing how you respond or see the other person, if the person is treating you unacceptably then draw boundaries that they cannot cross.

4. Try to see the other person’s point of view and remember that you are not always right.

5. Focus on the positive aspects of the other person; this can be especially helpful if the person is a family member.

6. Accept the person for who they are, good or bad

7. Learn to recognize when you need to put a distance between you and the other person and act on it when the time comes.

8. When you feel negative interactions try not to blame either one of you for them.

9. If worst comes to the worst then just being polite could be the best you can hope for with certain people, sometimes people just don’t get on, no matter what.

10. Try to keep your sense of humor when around someone who is being difficult.

11. Be sure to have positive relationships around you to offset the negative ones.

These are just a few of the ways which you can use in your daily life when faced with difficult people, while they wont change the person, they can make life and the person involved a lot easier to deal with. Along with developing healthier communication skills you should also practice ways of de-stressing, particularly if you are confronted by facing and dealing with difficult people who you cannot avoid on a daily basis.

QUESTION OR QUESTION

Life and men like solders

To command respect or demand it

The rich is respected even covered

How many understand these roles

The stage had been set here

Servants are commanded to obey

The leader demand respect and fear

But the servants fear only roles

Another leader came to command

But in love everyone obeyed

A friend to servants in regard

Love blossom to enthusiastic work

The question probes hearts alive

Which to follow of two leaders?

Demanding or commanding respect hive

Men knows that to hold brief

To your success,

Salau John (O.O.J)

aka

Messages: The Communication Skills Book

Business Communication: Building Critical Skills

Stay Happy: Let go of Grudges

treasured100@yahoo.com (Salau O John) — Fri, 04 Jun 2010 03:57:42 PDT

In a way we all do go about with grudges troubling us and holding us back in heart for a better thing awaiting factual movement to success. Sometimes the things we fight and hold grudges about are not really important and finding a solution to the cause is of paramount importance in our daily living, if we want peace of mind.

By holding onto grudges, we are holding onto the past and this holds us back and stops us from growing and going onward with our lives. Grudges and not allowing ourselves to let go of the past is negative and negativity holds us back and stops us from achieving what we are capable of achieving out of life and encourages resentment, unhappiness and fear instead of being happy in life and finding peace within ourselves. Forgiveness is the key to happiness, true forgiveness is when you can release all your negative feelings towards another and let them go completely, you have to let the grudge go not only through words of acceptance but also feel it in your heart and soul.

Why is forgiving so difficult to do?
It is our negative ego that causes us to hold a grudge and tells us not to let it go, like all things that block success and happiness in our life, negativity again plays a huge part, only this time it affects our ego. By letting negativity affect our lives this way we are opening up the door and welcoming bitterness and deep resentment and these manifest deep within us and show themselves in our health. Holding onto a grudge causes ulcers, stress and general overall poor health so it is essential that we learn to let go of our resentment and move on with life by letting go of our grudges. As with every other problem relating to negativity in our lives it is all about how we think, forgiveness is all about letting go of harmful train of thought patterns and developing new ones.

Developing the ability to let go
Developing the ability to let go takes time, if you allow yourself to look at your feelings honestly and calmly then you will realize that negative feelings evaporate and you begin to feel peace of mind through letting go of deep resentment. The key to truly forgiving is first being able to release your hurt and anger that person has caused you, without letting go of these feelings; true forgiveness is next to impossible. If you try to forgive without releasing these feelings then the hurt and anger you feel will only continue to build and will manifest as resentment further down the road and resentment will eventually rear its ugly head, have no doubt about that.

A great way of releasing your feelings is to look directly at them and in great detail, admitting what it is that has hurt you and why it hurt you and realizing why you have to let it go, look at your feelings in a different light and gradually allow yourself to forgive and let go. Forgiveness has to come from deep within you, there is no outside force which keeps a grudge building up, the feelings of forgiveness can only be generated from within yourself, only you can take responsibility and forgive and let go and move on in a more peaceful and contented life.

THIS COMMON LIFE

Daily we go on with different situations

Trying to breathe different facts out

Though seeing so many things, no consolation

Higher or lower we are compelled

Situations differs to all in bliss

Whether sorrowful or joyful we go

The trailing and training of all these

We are humans in our connotations

We go on again breaking rules

Running the race life offers all

Friends or enemies may toil

But we all do get there

O for knowledge to brood all!

The heart lingers over living choices

We are making the calls to ball

Our common life is calling onward

I TEACH TODAY

Somehow we’ve met here today

Tomorrow may not be foretold

But in our today don’t delay

As I tray all I’ve learned

Maybe we were meant to meet

I know not what tomorrow holds

Maybe just for your season unfit

We are friends today but tomorrow

All that I’ve gleaned in facts

To you I sail before time

Tomorrow may be our friendship pact

We see nothing but our today

I’ve only come here to teach

To tray that I’ve only seen

As the highest knowledge none can reach

My gleaned, known, suffered, I give

To your success,

Salau John

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10 tips for effective communication

treasured100@yahoo.com (Salau O John) — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 07:45:04 PDT

Hey friend,

Just remembering the issues we mostly have in our normal everyday discussions with one another, how we most times just can't wait to get our facts straightened out, jumping into conclusions and creating issues out little verbal words that can be settled with a little patience.

I believe we all need time and understanding in this issue of communication and having an effective, happy brain-word storming right.

The ability to be able to communicate well is essential in all walks of life if we are to succeed and accomplish the goals we set out for ourselves. The key to any successful relationship is having the ability to communicate and this applies equally to personal relationships as well as building interpersonal relationships within the workplace. Here are ten tips for developing good communication skills that you can use to build upon.

1. Always let the person who is talking finish what they are saying before you speak, if you speak before they have had their say then you could miss a valuable point, if you break into their conversation it also shows
that you think what you have to say matters more than what they do and is extremely bad manners.

2. Listen intently to what the other person is saying to you, if all you are doing is thinking of how you are going to reply to the person then your full attention isn’t focused on what they are saying and you could miss
something important.

3. Always stay focused on the present and never bring up past issues, however related it may seem. This only cloud the present issues and can make the conversation difficult and even more confusing.

4. Really listen to what the other is saying to you, it is so easy to drift away with thoughts of your own especially if you don’t agree with what the person is saying to you, try not to get defensive and don’t interrupt
them before they have made their point.

5. Instead of trying to win an argument or conflict try to reason and find a solution that is agreeable to both parties, this is a much more effective way to communicate than trying to battle it out just for the sake of
winning, this way no one is the loser.

6. Take a break if you cannot come to a reasonable agreement in a conversation when at odds, taking a break will allow you to cool down and gather your thoughts before communicating again.

7. Try to see the others point of view and don’t just stick with what you have in mind, talk over the ins and outs and explain simply and fully why you don’t think their idea is a good one while making suggestions of your own, but don’t be too quick to dismiss the others idea until you have the full picture.

8. Even if you don’t like what other person is saying try to be respectful of their opinion and do listen to what they have to say even if you don’t necessarily agree with them.

9. Don’t blow things out of proportion while conversing, if possible avoid starting sentences with “you always” or “you never”, always think about what you are saying and make sure that what you are saying is true, blowing things out of proportion, blaming and bringing up the past only creates more negativity.

10. Don’t always put all the blame on others, sometimes we handle conflicts by blaming things entirely on others and criticizing; try to analyze the situation objectively to find a solution.

HIS HE LISTENING

So many times we’ve all prayed

Waiting for an answer in halls

Like Jesus in Gethsemane no answer

We see life and many things ball

We are all same in this journey

But time holds behind the scene

And without patience we frolic

Scared of all that’s seen

Quietness parades our sights

And we hoped in answers boldness

Even the world frustrates our reckoning

We are men of great wilderness

He is listening for no answer

The command stands that He gave

But all men wait for another

Only obeying that known is safe

QUESTION OR QUESTION

Life and men like solders

To command respect or demand it

The rich is respected even covered

How many understand these roles

The stage had been set here

Servants are commanded to obey

The leader demand respect and fear

But the servants fear only roles

Another leader came to command

But in love everyone obeyed

A friend to servants in regard

Love blossom to enthusiastic work

The question probes hearts alive

Which to follow of two leaders?

Demanding or commanding respect hive

Men knows that to hold brief

Enjoy your day,

Salau John

aka

Developing Relationships for Happiness

treasured100@yahoo.com (Salau O John) — Thu, 27 May 2010 05:40:57 PDT

It's a wonderful day I believe out there my friend,

Just thought of helping you out in a way on that relationship of yours, thinking we all need some understanding to make it last in our own way.

Enjoy the days post and feel free to post your comment.

Learning to develop your relationship skills can have a huge affect on your life and happiness in life, we all have relationships whether they are marriage, living together, sons, daughters, friends and family and having a good relationship with them makes a big difference.

The biggest downfall in relationships is poor communication, communicating poorly in a relationship leads to problems such as misunderstandings, disagreements, and anger and eventually putting your relationship at a distance. Improving your communication in relationships can help you to develop a deeper, lasting, more meaningful relationship and so a much happier life. There are many tips and techniques which are quick and easy to learn to get more out of your relationships and develop them into more meaningful ones, here are just a few.

- When dealing with conflicts in relationships never bring up the past, try to stick to the issue at hand and working towards a solution, bringing up past issues will only confuse the situation more and is very unlikely to go towards resolving the problem.

- Try to see any conflict from the other person’s point of view, if you are both only focusing on your own point of view there will very likely be no give and take and ultimately no solution to the problem.

- Always listen to what the person is saying, while many of us think we do very few actually do listen whole-heartedly, most of the time we drift off to think about other things or think about what the person is going to say next.

Don’t immediately get on the defensive when you are criticized, while this is hard to do, as no one like to hear criticism it is important to understand the others thoughts.

- Instead of being pig headed and always trying to win the argument, try looking for ways that you can come to some sort of compromise together, working together is more productive than working against each other.

- If tempers become frayed while discussing a difference of opinion, take a break; going at it all out will only lead to one or the other saying something which they will regret when cooled down.

- Don’t always put the blame on the other person, realize that you are not perfect and not always right all the time.

- If you feel your relationship is going downhill fast then don’t be afraid to get some help via counseling.

- Make time for your relationships; take long walks that give you the opportunity to talk instead of sitting down in front of the TV.

- Make a surprise and unexpected call to your loved one, family members or friends if for nothing else but just to say “Hi, I was just thinking about you”

- Make them feel special every now and again, give them a token of your appreciation to let them know you care or to say thank you.

- In loving relationships make sure the other knows how you feel, when talking hold hands or show some other sign of affection to them.

TO YOU

I have given my love to you

And nothing else holds me

I have sailed my words, my due

And none can hold me back

All I have I’ve tray you

Though my lights are obscured

All I’ll be I’ve shown you

Though for now God’s our line

You have given your heart to me

And nothing else held you back

You have shown more love to me

And proved that God is true

All you have you’ve given out

Though many times I pretend truly

All you’ve won was spiritually bout

Though truly Gods love made it sure

Our love was cloven from heaven

For through Gods love we’re out

And the end our love grows fruits, leaven

LET’S GO BACK

The foundation was rightly laid

But in building, cements, not enough

The beginning was correctly paved

But in the middle we wobbled

Now prayers are calling order

And time is pursuing unseen faces

While the future waits on plans alive

And hard-work takes tolls in places

The foundation is intact, let’s renovate

Many more things miss9ng can be added

But only with the builders to collaborate

Bringing back the missing links of beginning

It should have been to the end

But many things stole time away

And uncompleted brings many bends

Let’s go back to the beginning again

YOUR LOVE

It was your love keeping me

I kept on moving and glowing

It was your love setting me free

I kept on sowing and showing

What hails me without your love?

For so many times I fall short

Yet you stood in all my resolve

Helping me to move in the forth

What am I without your love?

A moving bullet without a target

You were my all, my days revolve

And in all I’ve found no regret

Where would I have been without you?

For like a child I fail to grow

But through the mist you were true

And all in all I can glow

To your success,

Salau John (O.O.J)

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Let's Talk About Anger (Part 2) 7 Ways of Controlling Anger

treasured100@yahoo.com (Salau O John) — Tue, 25 May 2010 06:27:22 PDT

Another time another day out here to you my friend.

Hoping you enjoy the last post on anger, knowing fully well that sometimes in anger we all do go turning little matters into great burdens.

Today, just a look at ways to help in confronting anger and make a better living through it.

Please feel free to make your comment and kindly enjoy the post.

Everyone gets angry at sometime in his or her life over something that happens. However, anger is a negative emotion that leads to feelings of sadness, guilt, frustration, unhappiness and helplessness. Anger is an emotion which we must recognize and be able to let go in order to be happy and successful in life, finding a resolution for the anger is essential in being able to let it go and move on. Knowing what you are actually angry with helps, do you feel angry at another’s actions or are you angry at your own reaction?

Finding out what actually upsets you is an important factor in actually narrowing down what it is that is bothering you. The more you practice controlling your anger the easier it becomes to let it go and move on and by learning to control your anger you are effectively learning to take control over your life and happiness. Here are 7 top tips for gaining control over your anger.

1. When you feel anger beginning to build up inside of you, let your whole body droop and relax to the best of your ability while beginning to breathe from the diaphragm, breathing in this way helps to calm both the body and mind which leads to letting go of the anger before it takes a hold.

2. Ask yourself if being angry and working yourself up is going to make any difference to the situation, for example if someone cuts in front of you, is it really going to change anything if you curse and blow your horn. Is it worth stressing yourself?

3. Visualize a stress free zone in your mind, this should be a place where you feel totally relaxed and calm and a place which only you knows about where you can quickly go too when you feel anger beginning to build up inside. It can be a totally imaginary place or one that you have visited in life where you feel totally relaxed and at ease.

4. When you feel anger beginning to build up due to someone else’s actions think of yourself doing exactly the same thing as they did, would you be angry with yourself if you were the one doing it?

5. Realize that it’s you and you alone that is allowing the anger to build up inside of you, while it may have been caused by someone else, you chose to let it bother you and to get angry.

6. Counting to 10 really can help to diffuse anger, by concentrating on counting you are forgetting what happened and are consciously letting anger go.

7. Repeat an affirmation or mantra to yourself whenever you feel anger beginning to build up inside, for example tell yourself to “take it easy”, “I feel calm and relaxed”, “anger isn’t going to get me anywhere” or “let it go”. Affirmations can help to diffuse your anger and get you back on the right track to thinking in a more positive and calming way.

ALLOW NOT TEMPTATION

It is beautiful it looks wonderful

What I have is not enough

It looks better than one at hand

Have you understood devil’s strategies?

To tempt to destroy future goods

Love dies for selfishness in chronologies

But to God many must only tray

Temptation will and must arise

But only discipline before helps all

Though in falling rising must twice

Everyone the process of perfection follows

One step and two many have failed

Allow not that loved to lead thought

But confer the word and sail

For in time you’re a savior

LOVE OR TONGUED

The word goes on a voyage

I love you God bless you

But the needs stand without courage

And in un-happiness life goes on

Love or words which do part?

The world is selfish, not all

I’ll help you not with the heart

Men will and will be men

The words the action portrayed

The game of living and dying

How many understand what sailed?

We portray words where’s the action?

One step daily backward in words

While many are dying for the trust

We call leaders’ mistakes our sword

But who can but look the mirror?

To your success,

Salau O John

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Let's Talk About Anger (Part 1)

treasured100@yahoo.com (Salau O John) — Thu, 20 May 2010 03:59:01 PDT

As the day rolls on, let's talk about anger and solving its issue today.

Nearly anyone and everyone – people of all ages worldwide – is prone to displays of anger. The degree of frequency and level of intensity of the emotion are what vary most and most often result in how well a person
handles the anger and whether there are positive or negative results.

A key to those who successfully manage anger is gaining control. And in order to gain control over the emotion, it helps to first take a look at anger itself, what it is and how to deal with it effectively.

Anger is an emotion. It can be triggered by a variety of things, issues, people, places, etc. Some of the top triggers are jealousy, confrontations, failure, greed, fear, low self-esteem, assertiveness, feeling threatened and pain.

When a person gets angry, the negative emotion can actually harm the person’s physical and emotional well-being. The heart rate increases, stress levels rise, and often a fight or flight reaction is the immediate response, neither one always presenting a healthy alternative.

What counters anger best is to be prepared in advance to learn major triggers, how to tell when they are about to happen, when possible, so as to avoid them, plus a variety of coping skills in order to deal with what is necessary. To help, keep a private journal to note any anger triggers, ways to possibly avoid confrontations down the road and possible coping techniques to try. You can use the following triggers, coping techniques and helpful tips as a good starting point.

Trips Your Trigger
When you’re calm, make a list of things, people, places, events, etc. that tend to trip your trigger:
1. Calling businesses and getting automated menus to choose form that run you in circles, accomplishing nothing productive.
2. Handling angry customer service calls

3. Going to visit in-laws

4. Heavy traffic during rush hour

5. Loosing with my Mutual Funds account in the stock market

Anger Aids
List ways to deal with anger when you’re have a positive frame of mind and are in a good mood, to spark better creativity:

1. Cool off with ice cream – As simplistic as this sounds, something cool and soothing can often help take the heat off the moment and begin cooling the entire body down.

2. Take a hike or walk – Taking a step back, away from it all, can do wonders to give you a more world-view of the situation. Being in the center of issues can make them seem larger than they really are,
making the proverbial mountains out of molehills.

3. Dance – Let it all out via your own expression. Dance to the beat of the music of your choice.

4. Write it out - Journal and create a column of ‘lemons’ along with another column alongside for solutions or ‘lemonade.’

5. Avoid / alter path of destruction in advance – Take a different route during rush hour or alter your schedule.

By planning, you can prepare yourself in advance. Plan and conquer, and keep at the process on a regular basis.

KEEP THINKING

Deeper than life stronger than death

Strange is the heart that can read

Harmonies of life oneness of birth

The mind is an ocean of thought

Concentrating the heart waiting for time

Building the life creating the future

Thoughts make that to be primed

The mind is an ocean of thought

Becoming great releasing the actuality

All that will be thought will be

Making the man making the faculty

A vision through thought must be

Keep thinking the straight course

Hiding the mind forwarding the vision

Hearing the guilt’s breaking the curse

A mission thought must be

JUST YOUR INSIDE

What is professed what is seen?

Life and the difference faces tray

We say but the heart is gleaned

Who understand that men lay?

The inner man against the outer man

A cry within and smiles without

Against sin cried but closet manned

What is portrayed what is left out?

The inside trays the home call

A little leaven kills the whole

How can time change for all?

The day came for the beginning soul

Just the inside trays the life

For practice makes perfect all

One day the hidden will alight

For nothing change but practice calls

Not Yours

The life that be, a borrowed life

The time that taken a given one

Yet you’re promised the world no lies

And forget all things do long

The days and ways do ply

But runs no end it’s own

It’s mans mistakes flying by

For tomorrow tows in line alone

Except the Lord should have been said

But no give was called upon

From foundation you came, the last felt

Yet your heart self do open

I call to order the days that dote

But will you listen, time tolls

The seeds do die before growth

So open thou eyes the days die

Till next time.

Enjoy your time out there,

Salau John (O.O.John)

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Tips for Getting Out of a Rut

treasured100@yahoo.com (Salau O John) — Tue, 18 May 2010 00:55:41 PDT

Thanks friend for being with me all this while. Here is a post I believe will do some service to you out there today.

Just another lovely day for a post like this to help you get out of your burdens. I know sometimes we all get to that place of what can I do to get this done or that out of my mind.

Today is a great day to let go of those bubbling troubles and giving a chance to learn from what i have learned in life and being me is better off than just looking at you and others going through it.

Here I propose a helping hand and I believe it will be of great help to you in time.

Do you feel stuck in your life? Has the world suddenly seemed to have closed in around you? In addition, are you are doing the same thing day in, day out? If this sounds like your life then you are probably stuck in a rut, with what seems to be no way out.

Being stuck in a rut can drag you down, make you feel depressed, or as if life is something you just go through but have long since stopped enjoying. You become this way slowly without even realizing it, until one day you wonder what happened and when.

For many of us our daily life is governed by some form of routine which we cannot avoid, for example going to work 8 hours a day, taking the kids to school each morning, this is daily life and routine which for the most part cannot be changed. Another reason behind routine is the safety barrier; we get comfortable with our lives and feel secure in them, so why change?

However, sometimes routine can start to get us down, leave us with a feeling of dissociation and start causing problems in relationships, work and daily life in general, we gradually become unhappy. This is when a change is needed; this is the time to dig yourself out of the hole you have put yourself in and start enjoying life again.
Here are some tips to help you begin to take back control over you life and get out of the rut.

1. Do at least one thing everyday that is different to your normal routine, this could be something as simple as taking a short break and going for a walk, sitting down to read a chapter of a book or any other hobby or pastime you once enjoyed.

2. Take up a new hobby, make sure that you give yourself some times throughout the day to just enjoy something you like doing.

3. Shake up meal times by having something different, you can either try a different recipe or order different take out, try foods from different cultures.
4. Get out and meet new people, there are many ways you can achieve this, join a gym, club or attend a self-improvement class or hobby class.

5. Drive a different way to work or if possible walk or start bicycling, not only will this break the rut you are in but also get you fitter.

6. Take up a new sport; there are many types of sport with something for the fitter to the more moderate forms of exercise.

7. Do something each day that is totally out of character for you, start off with small changes and work your way up to bigger ones.

8. If you are stuck at home with children then change your routine throughout the day, don’t always do the same chore at the same time, shake up the way you do your housework.

9. Make small changes around the home or work area.

10. De-clutter your home or work area; it is surprising how being surrounded by clutter can get you down.

Enjoy your day,

HARD TO COMPREHEND

The issues of the human minds

The throes of life in thinking

The thoughts propelled by different kinds

How on earth can man comprehend?

The thoughts of business and relationships

The bugs of heartbreaks and poverty

The back-turned human burning lordship

Who can comprehend these burning tides?

As the journey goes on differently here

The pangs of different connotations bout

Faces differ, only the best must care

Life only in sphere does exist

Our thoughts probes us daily

What we know is half boiled

Only learning keeps us here daily

As understanding birth peaceful progress

SELFISH ME (Heb 13 v 1-3)

I give myself to the world freely

All I know and do for free

I find my comfort in helping all

But who buys my bubbling calls?

I gave my love to all but one

Yet in time selfish builds that

I am called selfish for loving throughout

Yet I know there’s a judge above

Never was I lazy in loving all

But this pines my heart to ball

I was created to build my time

But I die daily to be fine

THIS WICKED WORLD

There’s a dream planned for a child

Keeping it secret is the whole matter

Though some might search being mild

The future, it will surely come

Delay is not denial they say

But many have died displaying nothing

The world their wicked belly lay

How many understand these things?

Hard-work goes slavery comes

That to become is run after

And confusion breaks hearts in tones

The world seems peaceful in laughter

Making a dream praying the dream

Becoming the dream is working the dream

The world is a strange bout place

And planning with God lays the way

Salau John (O. O. J)

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