What would it be like to live in a world where everyone loved themselves? 

Now, I don't mean egotistical conceit.  That's not love.  I mean living among other humans who had self-compassion, self-acceptance, self-kindness, self-caring, self-respect, self-love.  I mean living among human beings who motivated themselves through positive means rather than criticism, anger, fear and other negativity.  Not possible you say.  Well, I think it is, and I think it begins with each one of us.  My interior reality creates the exterior reality.  We are told that over and over. Today those saying it are scientists and quantum physicists. 

So, when someone recently asked me how loving myself contributes to the world around me, I was surprised.  How I feel about myself within, creates the reality I create around me.  But, I guess everyone doesn't get all the aspects of loving oneself.  Like self-acceptance, self-esteem, self-caring, self-compassion, self-kindness, self-respect -- to me these are all aspects of loving oneself.  When you walk in the joy of self-acceptance and self-compassion, you automatically generate that in the world.

I'm a photographer as well as a healer and writer.  I get the opportunity to see how folks react to photos of themselves all the time.  Just yesterday I took a lovely photo of a woman at a networking event and then showed it to her on the LCD of my camera.  She immediately began to find fault -- not with my photo but with her face.  Do you do that, too?  What about when you look in the mirror.  What do you say about the person you see?  Is it critical and judgmental or encouraging and compassionate. 

We look in mirrors all day long.  Every other person we see is a mirror.  How we see them often mirrors how we see ourselves.  And, how we see them often creates how they respond to us.  Years ago in sociology I studied something called the "self-fulfilling prophesy" in Social Theory and Social Structure by Robert K. Merton.  But he didn't originate it. He got it from W. I. Thomas who clearly got it from observing what went on around him.  The whole idea can  be traced back to the Ancient Greeks.  It's just another way of saying "We create our own realities. What we expect to be so, will be so."

That leads me to the next question.  What creates our expectations? My thought about that is that our interior environment creates the expectations.  If our interior environment is one of self-acceptance that plays out in our exterior reality.  If, on the other hand, that interior environment is one of self-criticism, self-pity, mistrust and vicitimizaition that's what we'll see in the world and create more of in the world.

Back to my earlier question. What would it be like to live in a world where everyone loves, respects and accepts themselves?  It's my mission to contribute to that vision.  Starting with myself and others who might like to join me.  I don't pretend to have "made it" yet.  I'm learning and growing and changing every day.  Some say you teach what you need and desire to learn.  And I'm certainly doing that.  I've found several modalities that assist me to change the trauma and the negative beliefs I have about myself.  I've also found that when I work with a group with these modalities we all benefit.  The synergy of the group leads us to great growth than we would be able to accomplish on our own. 

I've put together a whole curriculum on Loving Yourself to  an Abundant Life.  Part 1 of that program deals with Receiving and with Our Bodies.  It is a 5-part teleclass and the program includes 2 private 45-minutes coaching sessions to work with each person individually as well as in the group.  If you are interested, you can learn more by going here.

If you'd like to know more, call me.  818-590-0062.

The class begins on June 16, Tuesday evening at 6 pm and goes for 2 hours.  The first class is on receiving and the ways we block the receiving process.  Learn more here.

When things are going just the way I want and I know I am in life's flow I find it easier to love myself.  But what about when I'm in what I call the the "all that is" Soup Pot.  The temperature is rising, and tons of new ingredients are being tossed in the pot with me.  What do I do then? 

One strategy, which I would not recommend, is to start to criticize and judge.  Another strategy that fails to produce any love is to second guess the decision to jump in the pot.  Indulging in comparisons with the other ingredients is a very unsuccessful strategy as well.  After all, each of the ingredients was chosen for the uniqueness it would add to the overall flavor symphony of the soup.  Than means me we all have a unique contribution.

On the other hand, when the water starts to boil and the other ingredients bump me around, whirlpools push me under the stock, the salt bites and that dash of cayenne gets in my eye, how do I stay in my loving of myself.  At this point in the post, you may be saying to yourself, what is she talking about?  How can I love myself when I know I'm comparing or judging. 

It is at this very time that I use the tools and practices I've built with ThetaSynergy to find my way back to the loving because this is when I need my own self-acceptance the most, when I need to have the self-compassion to know that the heat and turbulence of the moment is the very synergy that is creating something new. 

Last week I felt like it was me in the "soup pot", struggling to keep my head above the surface in a balanced and centered way.  I knew I was grumpy, to put it mildly.  And, some part of me was grumping about every little thing.  Mostly it seemed as if nothing was right.  I know enough to stay away from second guessing myself, and yet, I was thinking about how to get out of the soup pot.  Was there a way I could come home earlier.   I asked for assistance and guidance, and one of my clients called me for a session.  What do you know. the universe displays it's brilliance again.  What my client needed assistance with was just what I needed to do for myself as well.  Shortly after that and still in the commotion of the pot, I found myself saying to myself "I wonder what I'll taste like when I'm done cooking?"  What new delicious qualities are being cooked into me?  Where ever that question came from, it gave me some perspective.  It is that perspective I'm writing about now. 

As I feel it, the energies in the universe are like riding intense rapids or being boiled and then simmered with a bunch of seemingly different ingredients. My translation of what my Astrologer friend Carolyn tells me about the Planetary energies is the our friend Pluto is setting dynamite charges to unearth and excavate any areas where we need transformation, and Saturn is following right behind with sandpaper to make sure all the edges are smooth and polished.  I know I'm mixingmy metaphors all over the place, but I think you'll get the idea.

Are you feeling some of that too? Just remember that the flavor of the soup contains all the different tastes of the ingredients and synergizes them into a brand new creation.

For more understanding of how to love yourself in the soup pot, check out my new Loving Yourself to Abundance Transformation Program which includes teleclasses, private work and practices that keep the loving flowing even in the soup pot.

There's a free teleclass coming on loving yourself. Dates to be posted soon so check back. Lina and I will be giving you some secrets to Loving Yourself, letting go of judgments and releasing and clearing downloads.  Stay tuned. 

I experienced something today that seemed so abundant to me, so luxurious, so in fullness of the flow of life that I decided to write about it.  What was it?  I know, the title gave it away.  It was the luxury of watching clouds change. When was the last time  you did that?

I'm in Maui and had walked down to the beach with a friend.  There's a rock wall along the area in Kihei where we were and so we stopped and sat on the rocks.  I looked up and saw these wave clouds all in a row. Yes, I'm including a photo so you can see what a "wave cloud" looks like.  To us they were shaped like waves coming in.  And there was even a little grey cloud just above the mountain that reminded one of a fish.  We were witnessing the great ocean in the sky. At first there were 12, then 13 then 15.   

As we continued our conversation, I would occasionally glance up to the sky.  At first the waves were multiplying. Then they began to change shape. At one point they looked like rowers in a very long canoe. Then they began to move outward in a semi circle in an ever-enlarging circle that looked like rays of the sun.  Eventually they dissipated.   

Somewhere in the last few minutes of their existence I realized just how long it had been since I'd watched clouds change.  As I began to notice I felt the luxury of it.  Just to be able to sit, converse, watch the many different shapes emerge and flow above me and not have to run off some place or go get something done.  What an amazing luxury.  And as I acknowledged the luxury, the feeling came in even more fully.  It reminded me of being on my Manifesting In Motion Class this Morning.  I was sharing and one of those truths popped out.  I heard myself say, When you get present with the abundance in your life, more immediately comes to you.  Abundance attracts abundance.  Luxury attracts luxury. 

Love attracts love.  And, unfortunately, negativity attracts more of the same.  These are turbulent times.  Yes, I know I've said that before. I feel a turbulence in the energy around us.  We are really all feeling it.  And how you move in it, how you ride the rapids of this flow of life depends a lot of what you feel and think about yourself.  The more you love your self, the easier it will be.  Why, you might ask?  Because the more you love yourself, the more centered and present in now you are. And the more present in now you are, the harder it is to trigger you. 

So, if you are finding yourself getting caught up in the drama and emotion of these times, getting angry or upset with things pretty much outside your control then probably there's more work to do in the area of loving yourself.

Now as it happens, I have a 6-month transformational Program starting on May 22 called Loving Yourself to Abundance which is a combination of teleclasses, personal Theta and coaching sessions and ongoing practices to assist you to expand your capacity to love yourself and maintain it.  For more information, click here.  The cool think is you can pay by the month. 

Recently I had a client ask me this question.  It surprised me because I see loving yourself as a key to a consciousness of abundance.  From my perspective they are totally connected. But, I'd never taken it apart, so I welcomed the question.  It began the following thought process which I expect will lead not only to more than more blog posts, but has also led me to offer a series of classes. 

What is loving yourself?  

Some simple answers to that are feeling good about yourself.  Being understanding and compassionate with yourself no matter what is going on inside or outside yourself. In my work, I see that most of us treat ourselves worse than we would treat our worst enemy.  We criticize, we judge, we constantly change the rules on ourselves, and often say harsh things. Certainly that is not loving ourselves, but I think in some twisted way we think it is.  I cannot think we would heap the criticism and judgment upon ourselves that we do, unless we thought it was accomplishing some higher goal. 

Oh, at this point if you are a reading this and you never judge, criticize, or second guess yourself, STOP reading this now.  Unless of course you have a friend that you feel is very hard on themselves.

What does judgment and criticism achieve?

Why would we judge, criticize and doubt ourselves?  Many might say it is the path to greater excellence, achievement and perfection.  Some might say that judgment is the only way we'll "get it right."  

What I've seen is that self-judgment, self criticism, the act of "trying to get it right"  disconnects us from a greater strength and energy.  Judgment and criticism are mental and analytical functions that actually interfere with the flow of life energy.  Look at a finely tuned athlete.  They can look at a film to see where they can improve.  But if even for a millisecond they stop to think about what they are doing wrong in the actual process of performing their athletic feat is takes them off stride, out of sync, away from the relaxation and flow off their best performance.  The pass receiver who takes his eye off the ball , the sprinter who tenses up because he thinks about his form, the ice skater who moves out of the flow for that fraction of a moment and lands off the edge all have something in common.  Their need to get it right jumps in so strongly that in fact, they tense up and get it wrong. The move out of the flow or another way to say it is they move out of the present. 

When we are loving ourselves we stay in the flow.   When we stay in the flow we have access to that greater part of ourselves that can manifest magic. 

When the joy is flowing, when things are going in a way that we judge to be "right" it's much easier to stay in a place of love and acceptance with ourselves.  But, what about those times when we are sure it is "something" we did that's making life the way it is.  And the way it is, is just NOT the way we want it to be? What about those times?  How do we stay in loving with ourselves at those moments.

And how is all this connected to abundance? 

The great abundance writers tell us one of the keys to having and manifesting what we desire it is be able to visualize what we want, what we desire, to feel it, hear it, smell it, taste it.  The Law of Attraction works through the feelings -- and the higher feelings of love and joy.  Self-judgment and criticism are not pathways to love and joy.  The are pathways to anxiety, fear, stress and tension.  The very feelings that interfere with manifesting our deepest desires; the very feelings that interfere with staying in a feeling of abundance.  

Do you have criticism going on a lot of the time in the background?  Thetahealing can find the sources of this and release it.  We judge and criticize ourselves because we have beliefs that it will achieve something greater.  IF we knew how to do better we would.  Theta sessions can assist you to re-write the software within so that you have more praise than criticism, more love and joy, than judgement.

Call me to learn more.  818-590-0062 

My 6-month Transformation Program is now available, Love Yourself to Abundance.  Find out more here.

I just received what I believe will turn out to be a major clue to living a happier life.  I finally see why I set up my own life to have so many challenges.  The short answer.  I have a need and desire for situations that require extreme courage.  So I create them.

How did I find this out?  Well, I'm taking a class with Alexi Sebasttien, Manifesting in Motion.  Currently I'm in part 2 the class, called The Prosperity Project.  Alexi is a very talented coach and is also learning Thetahealing from me.  She does something called Hand Analysis and from the first time she started speaking to me about my hands I knew she was spot on.  My whole purpose in life is Love.  And, it is my lesson as well.  Requiring me to be clear about boundaries and about emotional authenticity (which sometimes is a difficult one for me, though I am clearing those beliefs about what will happen if I truly say what I feel as quickly as I find them).  In her hand analysis she also looks at your heart line -- which I'll talk about in another post.  And your special gifts.  Turns out your gifts come with penalties if you don't use them.  And, if you are not using them one way, you'll find another. 

Recently I've been writing about the idea of competing creations as a reason that what we desire is not manifesting.  And, I've been totally aware that I had a competing creation in the area of money.  I am a powerful manifestor and if something I'm desiring to manifest is not manifesting, then it's because I'm creating in an area that competes with this. I just wasn't sure what it was or why. 

NOTE:  I had pretty much finished this post and my computer crashed.  So I lost everything from this point. Had I been writing this in Word, it would have been saved, but only that which I had thought to save was recovered here.  Maybe this is another challenge to overcome. 

Extreme Courage is the gift.  And it means that I do well in challenge situations.  And it means that I NEED challenge situations.  I need the "extreme sports" of life.  Maybe it's why I like watching sports so much.  So when not faced with a challenge, I subconsciously create them. And I like the adrenaline.   I've always been calm in emergency situations, it's a point of pride. I've faced a lot -- including a gun without flinching. 

In fact, I have a bullet wound in my back from that one.  I was volunteering at a drug rehab therapeutic community and someone "split" from the program.  A staff member and myself went to this bar in a particularly rough section of Richmond looking for the errant resident.  As we came out of the bar and got back into my little Simca, two guys put guns in either window and wanted our money.  I didn't have any but I did have a gas card I didn't want to give them.  And my friend was from a tough section of Boston so I knew he wasn't handing over anything.  I looked at the robber on my side and he took hold of my hair and I just kept looking at him, eye to eye.  He let go of my hair and seemed to be a little less certain. At the same time I had the car keys in my right hand and was working them around to point at the ignition.  I knew my friend would do something and I needed to be ready. 

There was only one hitch.  My car had a broken solenoid switch and had not started on the first turn over in over a month.  IN fact, it usually took me 5 or more minutes of clicking to find that place where it would turn over.  That it would not start in this situation never crossed my mind.  I just knew I had to be ready and my friend grabbed the guy on his side and pulled him in the window and said "Hit it!"  I jammed the key in the ignition and turned it and......... the car started on the first turn for the first time in many weeks.  We took off down the street.  The man on my side fired and the bullet was slowed down by the back side window and just as it would have hit me I had flattened my shoulder blade so that I could pull the gear shift around the extra body in the front.  I felt it hit and just kept driving, though I did tell my friend what had happened. From that time on, I've known I was protected. 

In our class today I realized that I need the physical challenges as well as the mental ones.  One of the things Alexi suggested was that I needed to physically challenge myself like going to a rock climbing gym or something extreme.  And, truthfully I had noticed these stairs at the Metro Station on Madre Street last week.  Currently I have a problem with one heel, Achilles tendinitis, and so walking is difficult.  Dancing is not, but dancing at home is not as challenging and dance classes are much more expensive.  Sometime last week I got this idea that I could ride my bike to the Metro Station and then do the stairs like my own private gym work out area.  So while the class was still going I had my assistant get air in the tires of my bike and as soon as the class finished I was on that bike.  I love stairs.  When I was working in EarthQuake Recovery at Cal State Northridge I could run 8 flights of stairs without stopping and without breathing too hard at the end of a 10 or 12 hour day.  I like pushing myself physically and have not been doing it because of the heel. 

The metro station parking structure is 5 stories or 4 1/2 flights.  I found I could go up them at a steady walk without too much trouble.  I was breathing at the top but not out of breath.  So then I came down a flight and explored the whole station, looking at maps and figuring out where I could take me and my bike on the metro for even more exploring.  Then I walked over the freeway to where the trains are and went down a long couple of flights and back up.  Now I could really feel it.  My muscles were doing that sort of weak swishy thing that says "we're not sure we're going to keep working and what are you doing to us anyway?"  Great feeling.  I could feel the joy bubbling inside me.  Yes! On the way home some part of me was thinking about how to make the bike ride more difficult just to make sure it stayed challenging. 

For 10 years I had a successful painting contracting business.  As I was writing this I realized that one of the things that kept it interesting and challenging was the continual physical exertion of it.  From the very beginning I pushed my body to do things it wasn't used to doing.  I even learned to spray lacquer with both right and left hands because my right arm wasn't strong enough to keep going all day.  Squeezing a spray gun with the same feel with both hands is tricky and you need to do that to make the lacquer spray match.  More challenge. 

Today's class was one of those defining moments of my life.  I feel as if I've been given a key to a door that's been locked for a long time and behind which are some of the most important secrets about how I function as a person. Once I know these secrets I can modify them and set up positive working situations with my ThetaHealing Skills.  It's the knowledge that I got from understanding Alexi's hand analysis.  The "ah ha's" just keep coming.  Current and past, much of the landscape of my life makes a lot more sense to me. 

For over a year now I've been feeling like I would be moving.  I just didn't know where.  Portland Oregon was high on my list but there were other locations that were in the running as well.  I love moving, love going to different places and sort of "starting over".  One of my favorite jobs was running social science survey offices for a statistical research firm.  I came to LA for the first time in the mid-70's and ran an office at 44th and Vernon.  We had the highest numbers of any survey in the nation.  I only knew one person when I came to LA and left knowing a lot.  I was sure I was coming back to this city and even though it took almost 10 years, I did. I also ran offices in San Francisco, Pittsburgh, and South Bend, Indiana.    Before that I'd walked away from all my possessions in Richmond Virginia to go to Atlanta and then finally landed in D.C.  In the late 90's I set it up so I was bi-coastal.  And then moved to Bethesda, MD for a couple of years.  I do so love LA. And, I've kept feeling this urge to move into the new. 

After today's class I'm thinking maybe I don't actually need to move.  Just set myself a challenge of setting up a new business location somewhere else and making that a success, too.  Like living in two places and going back and forth.  Whatever, at least I understand the feeling.  Now, I can more clearly decide what I desire and use my Theta Skills to create it. 

One of my gifts is being able to see and find others Competing Creations.  It's just my own that are more elusive. And now that I see how and why I keep creating challenges I can use my Theta skills to make magical changes.  Yes!  Yes!  Yes! 

If you want to know more about ThetaHealing just email me at thetahealingblog@gmail.com.

The short answer:  It's changed and transformed my life and I want others to have this powerful and life changing tool.

The longer answer:  I grew up in the mountains of Southwestern Virginia near the West Virginia,  and Kentucky coal minin' country.  Anyone hear of Harlan County -- only about 45 miles from where I grew up.  I had the good fortune to grow up on a farm next to the Clinch River instead of tucked back in one of those hard to reach hollers you hear about.  My grandmother had graduated from college and she taught me to read at a young age.  So I was smart, too.  My father was an alcoholic. My Mom supported the family and spent her time tip-toein' around so she wouldn't upset my father and cause him to start drinking.  Not so me.  I was curious, argumentative, and stubborn or you could call it determined.  Qualities that usually created upset in my father.  Why am I telling you all this?  Well, just to give you a bit of an idea why I might have grown up with a less than stellar self-image. 

Not sure what all contributed to it, but by the time I was 15, I was pretty sure I was unlovable and certain I wasn't enough for whatever.  And still I got myself out of Richlands -- yes, they called it Richlands -- to Virginia Commonwealth University in Richmond, Virginia.  This occurring even though my guidance counselor had told my mother not to send me to college.  he told her it would be a waste of her money. It wasn't her money but the life insurance from my father's death that funded my first year of school.  Everything else I borrowed or earned, working full-time and going to school full-time the last 3 years.

I told you I was smart, so I knew I had some pretty serious problems.   Because I drank alcohol I was afraid I might be an alcoholic, but a psychotherapist told me I was fine and I believed him and still knew I was not a happy person inside.  No, I didn't do much drugs.  Just never interested me.  I mean I tried things -- LSD, grass, etc.  But it just wasn't where it was for me.  I was just down most of the time. 

In my last two years of college I found sociology (though I have a major in advertising) and became a student organizer.  I wanted to help the world so I began to work for a program for disadvantaged student after college and volunteer for a drug rehab theraputic community.  I learned about things like attack encounter groups where I routinely crumpled into tears if anyone looked in my direction.  But I wanted to learn about myself.  I saw other folks all around me that seemed to be all right with who they were and somewhat happy.  Why not me?  

I had a lot of questions, lots of negative feelings and no real answers.  After college I made it to D.C. and began my search for some of those Answers.  My first well-known potential source was known as est -- I did a lot of est workshops.  These days it's called Landmark.  Same language, same focus, probably some upgrades.  That journey went on for a couple of years with temporary effects but no lasing ones.  Someone told me about Insight Training Seminars so a friend and I went to Aspen, Co. to do the workshop there.  After that I became the Insight Coordinator in D.c. and we had a workshop in 6 months in D.C.  Assisting at an Insight Busienss Training I met Jack Canfield and first heard the word self-esteem.  I knew it was what I was looking for and hoped that if I did enough Insight Tranings I'd develop some.  I did all of their trainings including their month-long Trainer Training in LA and even went to work for them for a while as their National Marketing Director.  I learned a lot but not about loving myself more.  They talked a lot about love, and I made some surface changes but not the depth I desired. 

Along the way I found a brilliant teacher who was doing ground breaking work in holding energy, opening to spirit, developing character and in belief work.  I thought I was with my soul mate and so I spent 18 years following this path only to see that the same pain that had driven my earlier searches was still with me.  So I walked away and began to look in other directions.  I'm not going to bore you with all the details. 

Feminie Energy work with Claire Andrea Zammit at the RoseWood Center gave me some clarity about the kinds of beliefs that were sourcing the pain, and still those beliefs stayed put. 

Drum Roll!!!  In comes our Hero -- ThetaHealing.  After doing the ThetaHealing Basic Training and then the Advanced I began to see myself change.  There was a lot more of my time that was happy than sad.  I'd be down, and be able to change it right then.  Whoa.  This stuff worked.  Now!  I want to point out here -- you had to work it.  I had friends who were working it and we worked on each other and on ourselves and really spent time using the principals.  I manifested the computer I'm typing on now with Theta and the money to take the first Manifesting and Abundance Class in Idaho Falls.  then I manifested the Teacher Training and came home to build a business. 

That's why I teach ThetaHealing.  After a 30 year journey, it's the first thing that I've found that really worked and keeps on working.  Yes, you do have to work it.  It won't work if you take a class and then forget you ever took it.  But, then what does.

I used to get very anxious about my financial situation and of course that would contribute to it becoming worse.  Now, the anxiety is not there.  The challenge can still be present and the anxiety isn't. 

I'm a happy woman.  I've never been able to say that before in my life.  And without ThetaHealing I would not be saying it now.  I love my life.  I love who I am.  I appreciate myself.  And I treat myself well.

How are you treating yourself?  Are you kind and gentle and loving with yourself?  Can you look yourself in the eye and tell yourself how beautiful you are (without a lot of side talk)?  If something goes wrong do you blame yourself or others?  Do you stay in balance or get angry and out of balance? 

The other day I surprised myself.  I was talking on the phone and one of my cats was perched on top of the DVD player which was on top of the TV.  Somehow he unbalanced it and it slid off the back of the TV and crashed to the floor.  I was totally calm.  Continued my conversation.  Didn't think the DVD was broken just let it go for the moment.  When I finished my call, I got up, picked up the DVD player, kept thinking about how it was going to work, put a DVD into it and it still works.  Yes! 

With just the input from this life, I know there's quite a bit to change. The time I've put in so far has made changes in my life I could only dream of before I found this tool.  And, I know others where the same is true.  I see the changes in the people who come to my classes. 

So, if there's something you've wanted to change in your life or maybe a few somethings, come and be a part of the Theta Healing Basic Training coming up soon -- February 27, 28 and March 1.  Each day of the training is 9:30 to 5:30. IT's 3 days where you'll learn all the techniques, and get a chance to practice them hands-on for yourself and with others.  You'll thank you afterward.

Through Feb. 19, I'm offering a special price to the first 3 people who contact me.  If you call me by Feb. 19, you can do this workshop for $395.00.  The regular price is $495.00 so that's a hundred dollar savings. 

Here's my number 818-590-0062.

Happy Valentine's Day!!!

Through the aches, pains, sore throats and other unmentionables of the flu, I am happy to announce that love is still alive -- Yes, I'm talking about my love for myself.  I awoke today feeling new energy flowing and enthusiastic about the day for the first time in what seems like a while -- though it really hasn't been -- 3 days maybe but it seems like eons.  I'm so unused to having anything slow me down.  All through it I kept sending love to myself and letting my body know that whatever it had to go through was just a part of the process.  Okay, Okay, I did indulge in a little self-pity and "Why me?" but not for long.  And I awoke today realizing it's Valentine's Day.  I was maybe supposed to do something this evening but I nixed that possibility yesterday in favor of giving my body whatever time it needs to heal.

That left me with thoughts about making this a special day for me, by me, to me.  So I began asking, How is my own relationship with myself?  Does my love and respect for myself reflect the love and respect I desire to receive?  Am I treating myself as that delicious special person in my life?  This morning's pondering led me to the re-realization that this relationship with myself was the ONE -- the one with the longest distance, the most lasting potential, and most importantly the mirror for all the others that come and go out there in the world.   Am I being my own best lover?  And are you? 

Today is a day that a lot of folks put pressure on themselves to do for others, or pressure on others to do for them.  But how are we treating ourselves this day?  What is the one special thing that you are going to do for you?  As a woman, I certainly want to be cherished.  And then the questions is, Am I cherishing myself?  Men desire respect.  And so men, are you respecting yourself? 

What's one thing you can do today to add to your love affair with yourself?  Is there something special that you want and you think no one will give you?  For example, I love flowers.  And I have no expectations that anyone will send me flowers, except for virtual ones maybe, and so I'm going to give myself some Iris from Trader Joe's.  Men, is there a tool you've been wanting, or that new gadget or maybe a new CD, or just to spend some time with yourself meditating or making music.  Whatever ever it is, are you willing to give it to yourself in the next couple of days? 

Just writing this, I can feel the joy flowing fuller and fuller in my own being?  The act of writing that I love myself seems to please some part within me.  What about you?  What do you love about yourself?  Ah come on!  You can do this! This little moment is for you -- whether you are a man or woman -- write a list of the 10, 20 or 30 things you really dig about yourself. Right now, if you can. 

And if you are finding that your loving of yourself in in the minus column, call me to find out about my ThetaHealing Private Session Specials, 818-590-0062. ThetaHealing can assist you to build a powerhouse of a relationship with yourself.  We are the world we create within us. 

As a final note someone recently sent me a Harvard Study that shows that Happiness is contagious -- just like this flu virus that's been with me.  So, why are we not having a happy epidemic?  Or a love epidemic?  My take is that the loving and happy has to begin at home inside us.   

Have a wonderful love day with yourself!  And then share that with someone else. 

Love and Blessings to you all on this glorious, beauitufl day.

I pledge to do at least one free teleclass a month so that whoever wants to can experience transformation on subjects related to service.  It is my pledge to do what I can to change the beliefs that create the world we are presently living in.  I believe that as we change ourselves, we change the world.  And my service pledge in answer to President Barak Obama's call is to contribute to anyone who wants to change themselves through these teleclasses.  Thetahealing is the most powerful change agent I know, which is why I'm making this pledge. 

The first of these teleclasses will be about how giving and receiving relate to service.  Our ability to give is enhanced by the full opening of our ability to receive.  Giving and receiving are a flow -- like breathing in and out.  When is it better to breathe out than to breate in.  When I give to you, and you receive it, then I receive joy from having what I give received.  If I give, and you don't/can't receive it the gesture is blocked.  Giving without the full ability to receive drains.  Giving and receiving in a flow fulfills and fuels more ability to give. 

I will be scheduling this teleclass in the next week.  And then email everyone the time and date.  It will be recorded so you can receive it at your convenience. 

What is your pledge?  How are you contributing to this new world we are building?

Are you alone? 

Are you in a relationship that you'd like to have work better? 

Do you keep creating the same negative relationship patterns over and over?

If so, read on!

If you want more, maybe it's your beliefs about yourself that's limiting your relationship happiness.

Recently two friends and I worked on beliefs we had about romantic love, and about having a great relationship in our lives.  One of us was already in their special relationship and the other two had men in our lives and wishes. We still found so much was buried deep in our psyches.  So which are you?  Are the one who is happily in a special relationship?  Or are you the one with the wishes?  Either way, there might be more to learn. 

When I started doing ThetaHealing I had no "significant other" type relationships in my life and no possibilities on the horizon. I knew I was pushing men away.  The two encounters with men that I'd had previously had soured me to both love and ses.  Yet, I really wanted men in my life but I was still holding onto past hurts that were draggin' behind me like a cart full of baggage.  Way too much baggage to be present enough to even think about receiving what I wanted and desired.  So, I started letting it go.  I worked with numerous Theta buddies on it.  Then, when I thought I was clearer, I did a 6 part relationship teleclass and the results were amazing.  All of a sudden I started allowing men into my life.  But, I wasn't ready to even think about manifesting my "most compatible soul mate", yet.

Vianna Stibal, founder of Thetahealing, says we have many possible "most compatible soul mates" and that who is "most compatible" changes as we change our beliefs.  Her point of view is to do as much work as possible on yourself before doing a manifestation using Theta because close relationships usually reflect back to us the work we still need to do.  Better to let go of major baggage before actually pulling someone into your life. Our beliefs create our reality and if you think that men/women will fail/deceive you, they will.  If you believe they will bring joy, love, respect to your life, they will.

Way before Thetahealing and before I did my own relationship classes, I attended Kathryn Woodward Thomas's "Calling in the One" class several times and Alison Armstrong's Making Sense of Men and Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women workshops.  These have been very helpful to me, but it was Thetahealing that made the changes that have lasted. 

I love Kathryn's book, Calling in the One.  It's full of fabulous exercises for discovering just what the baggage is that you carry.  Awareness is a key.  When you become aware of beliefs that you have, you can clear and change them easily with Theta Healing. One of the things that Kathryn points out is that a man can treat one woman badly and move on to the next and treat her like a queen.  Why do you think that is?  Exactly. Because one woman thinks of herself as a Queen and the other's opinion of herself is not that high.   

During my Thursday night ThetaSynergy class we've devoted several classes to exploring relationships, compatible soul mates and the beliefs within us that block having what we desire.  We even came up with this magnificent list of what we desired in a relationship so that our manifestations would be specific.  One continuing member of this class spearheaded the list and has manifested her "soul mate" relationship. 

For me I'm excited about having delicious, exciting men in my life with whom I feel comfortable and have fun.  It is a first for me with these kinds of relationships.  I know I created it with Theta.  And I also know that I'm clear enough to have one, special person be in my life. There's no hurry about that. No desperation.  I have so much joy with myself and with all the fabulous people with whom I get to play.  And yes, I am ready for someone special. And he's on his way to me.  I know that too.  I don't have to look for him.  I spent years doing that.  This man will come and claim me.  My focus is being fully open to receiving him.  My job is to enjoy every moment of my life, be present in my life right now. 

In the past, every time I'd meet a man that attracted me, I'd first contract and then wonder -- Is he the one?  Men feel that.  It's a pressure. Now, in the dance of life I'm mostly present with what's with me now and when I'm not I use that as a gift to learn how I can be more present.  What is it I need to do for myself, or what is it I need to communicate, or clear, using Theta to be more present? 

Which brings me to the whole point of this blog post.  Valentine's day is coming.  For women it's often a time of longing for what you don't have, creating expectations about what you want and for men it's a time of pressure to make it special for someone you care about.  In any case, only a few get to truly be present and enjoy it?  Let's be a part of that few. 

I decided to do a 3 part Teleclass to assist us to further clear whatever we need to clear to have the romance in our lives we desire to have. I'm going to limit it to 10 people who truly want to make a difference in their romantic lives.  Here's what the 3 part class will include.

Class 1.  Beliefs about myself.  What beliefs do each of us have that will limit or block having the types of relationship and connections we desire?  If you have ANY negative talk about yourself with respect to romantic relationships, this is where we'll clear them.  I'll be sending out a worksheet to assist you in discovering these beliefs so we can do the clearing with ease and speed.

Class 2.  Beliefs about the opposite sex.  (or beliefs about having a romantic relationship with the same sex.)  What you believe about the opposite sex is what you get.  Worked with someone recently who had done a lot of work on relationships and she still felt she could not depend on men, count on men, and that men would fail her.  If you've had any father issues or even brother issues this can be buried in your subconscious.  For men it's the reverse.  (There's a worksheet here, too.)

Class 3.  Manifesting the romantic relationship you desire.  In this class I have a guest working with me.  Lora Cain, Also know as Miss Lora, the Internet Dating Coach.  Lora had used Theta Healing to manifest her most compatible soul mate and she's going to join me on the call to answer questions that you may have about that.  We'll be emailing the relationship list -- just so you can use it to compile you own.  And we'll talk about what happens when you surrender the job to Creator or Source. 

Normally, this teleclass would be $79, but if you sign up by Friday, you can do it for $62.00.  The teleclass is limited to 10 people and it will run for 2 hours for each class. Register Now!

Note:  Limited to 10 participants.

          No single classes -- You must be in for the whole run.  Classes will be recorded. 

          Class Dates:  Tuesday, January 27, February 3, February 10, 2009

          Class Times:  6 to 8 p.m. pacific time. 

To Register, click here. 

What if happiness, joy and good feelings are attainable right now or at their greatest distance,  are only a few thoughts away?  Let me tell you why I think that may be the case.

My clients and my teleclasses are my teachers.  I learn so much from them in many ways.  Recently a client and friend called and said she wanted some time to explore how she'd been feeling over the last little while, I think she used the word doopey or poopey or something like that.  I got the message anyway.  When I work with folks, sometimes I do straight Theta sessions and sometimes I use my coaching background to just probe about and get a better understanding of what is going on.  As we began to explore she said she was not "on fire" anymore in her life and she could remember when she had been. 

My first thought was to find out what was present in her current life that did fire her up, turn her on, so to speak and then to find out how she could have more of that, what was in the way of having more of that and to clear any blocks from the path to more of the feelings of joy and fire and enthusiasm using Theta Healing. So I asked if there was any place in the last month where she'd felt fired up.  Her Theta Healing practice was the first thing out of her mouth.  I could certainly empathize with that and intuitively knew with this client there was much more to be seen.  So I asked again and this time she described to me a very special way her heart had been touched by the movie Benjamin Button. My client is a writer, director and filmmaker, and I smiled to myself as I felt the joy and heart felt passion in her voice.  

I asked for another time.  Took maybe 30 seconds and she had another one.  An amazing moment under the stars in Topanga.  We were on a roll.

"So where else in the last two weeks or a month did you feel that fired up, enthusiastic, ready to go feeling?"  My client spent the next 2 or 3 minutes describing a beautiful, playful time with a friend. 

I take extensive notes when I work with people so I can go back and check everything that clears so I was writing all of these joy filled moments down and all of a sudden I realized she'd listed 5 with little or no hesitation.  "What would happen if we went for 10?", something inside me whispered. "Ahhh, what a great idea", another voice within me answered and I asked for another example. 

"Breakfast with Buddha was her instant reply." and I got a rundown on the book that made me want to read it too. 

We went on like this for at total of 10 or more occurrences. And by the time we reached 10 the fire, enthusiasm, joy, love, happiness was alight in my client's voice.  She was literally dancing on the phone.  "I didn't realize I had such a fabulous month. I'm feeling so good." 

Her energy had totally changed -- done almost a 180 before us.  And all I'd done was ask some questions and, of course, listen which was probably the most important thing.  And, I noticed how much her joy added to my own joy. 

We went on to clear some things I'd heard in the process that were creating limitations and so the joy and happiness she was feeling went even higher. 

Later in the day I tried this out with another client with the same result.  Once I got her to start talking about the things that had given her joy in the last month, her whole attitude changed and she got it too. 

One of my focuses is to put things into my daily life that feel the joy and happiness I'm already feeling.  I spend some time each day loving and appreciating myself and what I do.  And, thanks to my clients, I realized that another practice is to just spend a little time each day looking at the moments in the day that brought a smile to my face, a feeling of joy to my heart -- whatever that might be -- the feel of the sun on your face, a song on the radio, an email or text from someone letting you know they are thinking of you or just a job or task you did well. 

We are told over and over that the way to create more of what we desire is through the positive feelings of joy and happiness.  But, how to get there in the stresses and worries of the day, that's the question.  Well, one way is above.  Another way is to clear the beliefs in the subconscious that color how we see the day. Our beliefs are the filters, the glasses that cast a glow or pall over the events in our lives.  They are the "I'm a loser no matter what I do."  Or "Nothing ever works or for me?"  or "What's the use, not matter what I do I never get what I want."  thoughts that plague us when the going gets tough.  These can be changed.  I know, I used to have them. That's why I can write about them so easily.  Because of the work I've done on myself with ThetaHealing, those kinds of thoughts just aren't there any more -- even when faced with the same challenges that might have created them in the past.

In my West LA ThetaSynergy Group recently we worked on how to feel joy and happiness for no reason.  How to be present in joy and happiness whatever is going on in our lives.  A lot of the downloads from this class will be in my teleclass plus a number more that we'll find from each member of the class will be a part of one of the classes in my new teleclass that starts this coming Wednesday, January 14, Achieving your Desires, Focus 2009.

Want to know more?  Call me at 818-590-0062.  Or check out my ThetaHealing Coaching Specials here. 

Want to play, but private sessions are a bit pricey.  I have a new Teleclass, Achieving Your Desires, Focus 2009 starting this Wednesday, January 14 at 7 p.m. pacific.  My teleclasses work like private sessions only with a bunch of us.  We use the valuable insights and beliefs of each other as a way to dig deeper and  create greater trasnformation for all of us.  There's a synergy that exponentially enhances transformation for us all.  Again, if you want to know more, call me.  818-590-0062.

To find out more about the Teleclass, Achieving Your Desires in 2009, click here. 

When someone tells you Mercury Retrograde is coming, what do you do? 

A lot of people I know wince and say, "Oh No, not again."  We shore up, hide under bed and wonder how are we going to make it through this one. By the way, there are 4 Mercury Retrogrades this year, instead of the usual 3.  Given that, we thought a different take on the subject might be refreshing. 

What opportunities do Mercury Retrograde and the full Moon on Jan 11 bring to us? 
What's so good about this time?
How can we profit from it and use it to our advantage? 
In this free teleclass we'll be using ThetaHealing to assist us to: 

     -- ride the wave of the cosmic energies instead of being sucked into the undertow.

     -- reassess, revamp and realign our lives with what serves the greater good

     -- align with and balance powerful masculine and feminine energies to empower love and joy in our lives (this is part of the full moon )

     -- complete things hanging from the past

     -- get our "stuff" in order on all levels

     -- increase patience and flexibility

     -- become more aware of the pace and flow of the moment and alignment with that

     -- hone our communication skills

     -- find and reconnect with people and things from the past

     -- invest ourselves and our hearts into the fabric of our lives. 

Email me at thetahealingblog@gmail.com to get the Call In Info for this FREE Teleclass.  A download for the recording of the teleclass will be sent to all who reply.

There are some turbulent times, difficult energies and strange influences happening in the World and in the heavens.  Astrology reflects these.  And in December I began to work with Carolyn Goldman, an Evolutionary Astrologer, to see if I could use ThetaHealing to balance things within me that would allow me to more easily go through major shifts in the planetary energy.  We tried out my balancing for the Full moon on December 12 and found that indeed we could make changes within ourselves that instantly gave us more internal ease to the intensity of the emotions that were being generated by the stresses of the Grand Cross (Pluto and Saturn in opposition) which was something like being caught in a 4-way tug of war.  To continue this exploration on Christmas Eve I did a ThetaHealing meditation and Download session to assist us to open to Pluto's transformation. This transformation is like a snake shedding it's skin, forcing us to let of what no longer serves our evolution. We get to choose to open to it or resist.  Resisting is much more painful and so I decided I wanted to use Thetahealing to teach myself (and anyone else who was interested) what we needed to know about letting go of what no longer serves in our lives with ease and grace.  (Download this meditation for free for next 7 days by clicking here.)

Since the energies affecting 2009, and beyond, promise to be continually volatile and also offer tremendous opportunity for individual and planetary growth, we decided to play with these concepts on a continuing basis.  Embraced in their flow, these energies can be used to assist us to manifest our dreams and make amazing changes in the planet as well.  Now Mercury turns retrograde on Jan. 10 and there's a Super Moon on Jan. 11.  Either one of these requires us to move into more flexibility, enhance our communication skills and to learn how to open to receive more fully from the universe. Taken together, they may bring an intensity that has emotions in a jumble and things not working as well as they might.  At least that's one perspective.  There's another one.  And that is that both of them bring tremendous opportunities and we can be in a position to use these energies to our advantage.  That's what this free teleclass is all about. 

Want to know more, find out what we are up to, and in the last half hour ask questions of your own -- come join us on
Wednesday, January 7 at 6:30.  We will go till 8 p.m.

To get the call in number you need to reply to the above email. And yes, we will consider that you are opting to in to our list.

The class facilitator is Suzanne Peters.  Trained by Vianna Stibal, founder of ThetaHealing, SUZANNE PETERS is a certified ThetaHealing Instructor and Practitioner with over 25 years experience in Belief work from other modalities.  Her experience as a executive coach and leadership development consultant, coupled with her excellence in ThetaHealing and other powerful personal group techniques bring to you many bonuses.  Her Theta Synergy classes and Teleclasses have been hailed as ground breaking and life changing. One client summed it up this way, “Suzanne is taking Theta Healing one step further.  I can’t believe how much difference there is in my life.” Her one-on-one consultations get to the root of negative beliefs quickly and effortlessly and she has seen immediate changes in her clients.  Suzanne is an artist, photographer, small business owner and former executive leadership and marketing coach.  She incorporates her in-depth understanding of business success and creativity in her work with private clients and uses it to bring additional depth to the Basic and Advanced ThetaHealing classes.  This is your opportunity to work with her on a 1-day basis and change your life.

The Evolutionary Astrologer is Carolyn Goldman who has studied and worked in various forms of astrology for the past 20 years.  She has used astrology in healing, therapeutic environments and in her chiropractic business to assist people to align with and understand their life purpose. She also specializes in relationship astrology which means she can tell you the pluses and minuses of the man or woman in your life and how to make adjustments so that the relationship will work more easily. 

Just click Reply and Send to get the Call In Info for this FREE Teleclass.  A download for the recording of the teleclass will be sent to all who reply.

This is a bit last minute, so please forward this to folks you think would be interested.

Want to know more about ThetaHealing, check out Suzanne's blog, www.thetahealingblog.com or email her at thetahealingblog@gmail.com

Happy New Year, Happy New You!  Happy New 2009! 

The first day of the new year is always a very special day to me.  I do everything in the day with intention and focus.  I notice what I want included in my new year and as much as possible I include that in my day.  Thus, writing and this post.  Writing is something I desire much more of in 2009 and using my blog more is another focus.  Along with that goes expressing my thoughts and being willing to put them out into the world. 

My year ended and began with what I roughly estimate to be the giving and receiving of at least 100 plus hugs!! That alone is an amazing way to end and begin a year.  That alone was enough to keep me smiling all day as I thought of it.

Last night I celebrated the entrance of this new year with over 300 folks that I dance with on Sundays at Fumbling Toward Ecstasy, Gabrielle Roth Style Free Expression movement.  If you want to know more about this dancing, there are two web sites,  www.movinground.com and www.spiritweaves.com.  We had a pot luck, ate amazing food, talked, danced, celebrated and had tons of fun.  There were many new people and people who had not connected with the community in a while.  A group of us helped set up and decorate the person's home where the party was held, and I made homemade hummus and gluten free brownies - tasty and healthy.  So many people brought amazing food.  The food and deserts never stopped flowing throughout the night.  I saw the new year in with new people, old friends, people that I do ThetaHealing with and people who have no idea that I do Theta.  I danced with friends and strangers, men who were older, men who were much younger, and other women in the celebration of the last moments of the old and the welcoming of the new.  The whole evening embodied my desire to have joy, fun, dance, friendship, community, connection, participation and upliftment in my life.  I came home to find money in my paypal account from someone signing up for coaching.  Such a wonderful surprise, and the way I want it to be. 

1:45 a.m. this morning found me spending time working on a book I'm assisting someone else to write because I want to have the book and it's success be a part of this amazing new year.  At around 3 a.m., before I finally retired, I spent time telling myself what I appreciated about what I've accomplished this year.  I've built a thriving ThetaHealing business from scratch.  And there's a ton more to go.  I've built a place that lives within me that is loving, kind, gentle, compassionate and appreciative of me and who I am.  I treat myself well, love myself well, appreciate myself on a daily basis.  I am a happy woman.  As I write this it occurrs to me that this may be my most important accomplishment in the last year.  There have been so many, it's kinda hard to rank them. 

At the root of all of them is the lifetool ThetaHealing and my willingness to use it in any and every way possible.  Also at the root of this is the amazing group of people who have participated with me in all my Theta classes, all of them intent upon self-transformation.  I am so grateful for my life and all the people in it. 

I spent more time in the mirror this morning, expressing love and appreciation to me and my body for the support, health, youth, energy and beauty I feel within me.  Meditation and a trip into Theta just to access guidance about the day along with some wonderful coffee and an email to my best friend Charlotte.  I had a scheduled Theta session which really turned out to be more coaching and mutual support and the creation of a buddy system so we can encouarge each other forward in 2009.  Building a support system for yourself is crucial, I think, to living the life you desire.  Then, I went back to the West Side to assist in cleaning up after the party, enjoyed more hugs, came home, did some clearing of energy that I felt was a bit out of balance, and took a nap. 

Nap you say.  On this special day, you are going to sleep?   Oh, Yes, naps are one of the ways I take care of myself and that's something I definitely want in my life in 2009.  Taking care of myself is an active acknowledgement of my self-apprecaition for the support my body give me.  Later, I did some heavy duty theta clearing with a friend so that our runways would be clear for our manifestations to land in 2009.  We spent time looking at what fears and beliefs were in the way of us manifesting our gifts, our talents, our special and unique abilities and cleared them off the runway.  Whatever I've done today, I'm been aware of it as setting an intention, being a symbol of what I desire to be, have or do in my life in 2009. 

What if I live my life this way every day? 

I love to drive and think.  Driving is one of my favorite thought and idea times.  On my way to Culver City, I was coming through the high-rise offices of downtown LA with the beautiful reflections of a sunny day delighting my photographic eye when the thought hit.  What if I live each day as if everything I do in it creates more of the same. The truth is that is does.  But I don't necessarily live with that in my awareness, right in front of my face, on the dashboard of my life, so to speak.  If I do, then awareness becomes a key.  If I notice negativity or being out of balance, then it's my responsibility to be aware of it, change my focus, find a way to clear it or change it.  That is, of course, assuming that I want to have less and less negativity in my life, which I do.  This means that every negative emotion or negative voice within me is really a gift of awareness that allows me the power and opportunity to change to more of what I desire to have, be, or do. 

It also means that anything I do to disrespect myself or others is something to notice and clean up.  Notice please that I said clean up, not beat up.  One of the things I continually battle with is staying on schedule, even setting schedules and being on time.  I did notice today that when I said I'd be in Culver City was when I got there.  For the past year, I've worked on being in time in a way that is respectful to myself and others.  I know I've made progress because my best friend, who in the past has been crazed by my loose and flagrant lateness, has both commented and complimented me.  And, there were deep seated beliefs I had to clear before being on time, or even early (a fate that used to be worse than death) was even a possibility for me.  But, all that is another blog post. 

If there's a rumble in the jungle of my consciousness, then I'm responsible for exploring that, and making it a positive contributor to my life and year.  This is how I want to live every day of the next year.  Knowing that in each moment I am a creator of my own life, and in each moment, like the artist I am, I can make changes to the canvas enhancing the life and vibrance of the painting. 

So I invite you to live the next week like this and see what happens.  Everything that is in your life is a creator of more of what you desire, or an indicator of changes that need to be made. 

What is it that you desire more of in your Life?

What do you want to include?

Who do you want to include? 

What activities do you desire to have as a part of your life?

What do you want to feel? 

What values and qualities do you desire? 

Where do you want to be of service? 

Where do you want to give? 

Where do you want to receive?

At the end of each day, tell yourself in the mirror, what you appreciated about yourself and the day? What were you happy with?  What were you grateful for? 

What would you change?  (Here's an important point -- no self-abuse or shoulda-coulda-woulda criticisms.  Just notice?  And how can you change it?  What will it take to change it?  Sometimes it's just the awareness that you need for the change.  Or awareness and a little work on it.  And sometimes, there's deep seated beliefs that just keep directing you in a direction other than the one you want to take.  That's where ThetaHealing comes in.  It can change those beliefs in a snap.  So call me.  818-590-0062

In the meantime, let me know how your week is working.  Email me or comment on this blog.  If I send this to you via email, click on the blog address below and comment. 

Happy New Year!