They Call Me Ms. Carter

Less Than 60 Days

2016-06-09T13:03:00.000-04:00

In less than 60 days, my life will make a big transition. I will become someone's wife and we will be on our own. It has been a long road for me to get here. In some ways l feel I am ready, and some ways I feel like I'm inexperienced. I really don't let the world into my personal business, but here is a look.

I have never been so stressed in my life until I started planning this wedding. At first, I didn't know where to start but I knew I had some time to plan because the wedding was a year and a half away from the date we got engaged, on my birthday November 18 2014. Then one of my fiancee's aunt said there was going to be a family reunion on a cruise ship. The dates of the cruise went along for the date we wanted to get married on. We thought that would be fun and decided to get married on the ship. We were saving up and then in August 2015 the craziest thing happen. The car that I bought in 2013, from an accident, just broke down and there was nothing left to salvage. We were on the side of the road in the middle of the night, where it was pitch black and in the south. I was so scared when a police car rolled up because it took about 30 mins to get police on the phone. When we finally reached the police, we were barely off the phone before the police car arrived, plus I didn't know what to expect. We are in the times where police are killing us, African Americans, for no reason. The first thing my fiancee does is just walk up to the cop car. All I can think is, Jesus please don't let this policeman be trigger happy. To my relief, the policeman thought we were college students, kids, and tried to help us as much as he could. Eventually, all the money that we saved up had to go to a new car. We couldn't get married on the ship now, and plus the family cruise was cancelled.

So, by February 2016 we had to figure out if we were going to have a wedding at all. I got to the point where I was like, fuck this, let's just get married at the courthouse. But then, my mom felt bad and said she wanted me to have a wedding since I was her only biological child. So, we started planning with help from some of my friends. In the middle of planning, my great grandma, who was 105, passed away. I didn't cry as much because I knew she had lived a long life and she was going to a better place. I did start feeling extremely sad and feeling some type of way because I only have one grandparent left and she can't even talk. Planning had to be pushed back and the feeling of not wanting to have a wedding crept back into my mind. When I came back home from the funeral, I had to make a quick decision and the wedding was back on.

I reserved the hall with the quickness. But all the other vendors didn't call me back. I though that was strange because if you are a business and a potential client wants your business, I think it is a courtesy to call them back, even if you are booked to capacity. When I actually called the vendors back, one vendor said they had a meeting about my call but never called me back. So, eventually one hotel, one caterer, and Publix called me back. I just had a friend of mine who was a graphic designer, design the invitations. I just chalked everything up to it's a Charlotte thing and that everything is going to work itself out. It eventually is going to work out.

Anyway, the one thing that really took me for a loop is finding out who my real friends are. I lost a so called friend I had known for 30 years and who was going to actually help with planning the wedding. Apparently, this so called friend had a problem with me for years and didn't want to tell me because our families were close. We were so close I considered her my family. What you don't do, is tell Facebook about a misunderstanding and proceed to tell the world how bad a friend you think someone is to you. You have to remember it takes two to have friendship, though. I never once repaid her back because I wasn't raised to be that kind of woman and I know there is thing called Karma. I have felt so vulnerable that I have become an introvert when I'm usually a social butterfly. Now, that I'm blending families together the vulnerability became a little worse, but I'm working myself out of being an introvert.

So, as the days get closer to my wedding, I just left it up to God. I can't take the stress anymore and I was becoming a bitch. This is not me at all! I'm the happy go lucky chick, who loves to laugh, like a kid, and be positive. This is my first and last wedding. I am 34 just getting married and I'm so happy that I waited. I was able to live my life before I settled down. I have no regrets. This next level of life, I am praying will make be a better person than what I am now. This is my first time being someone's wife and this new venture is scary but also exciting. The people who come to the bridal shower and wedding are the people who love us and are supposed to be there. Now that I have gotten this off my chest, I feel so much better. Talk to you soon.

A Great Family Comedy

2014-05-23T14:48:00.000-04:00

I know it is Memorial Day Weekend and you may be looking for the right movie to watch that you can take the whole family. Look on further than the movie Blended starring Adam Sandler and Drew Barrymore. Adam Sandler plays a widowed husband taking care of three daughters, while Drew Barrymore is a divorcee taking care of two boys. The two end up sharing a blended family vacation in South Africa for their children's spring break. The vacation was meant for Adam Sandler character's boss and his family. Even though many critics think this movie is crappy, I loved this movie!

I fell in love with the location of this movie, which is in Africa. All the negativity and disgrace Africa gets in the media, it was exhilarating to see a positive viewpoint of Africa. Secondly, I enjoyed seeing the luxurious and serene sites in Africa. Thirdly, I loved how the audience was able to relish on African culture values on family. The values on family are: sense of community, sense of good human relations, sense of sacredness of life, sense of hospitality, sense of sacred and religion, sense of time, sense of respect for authority and elders, and sense of language & proverbs. We, as Americans, have gotten so far off track when it comes to our families. We seem to be for ourselves and not for what will benefit for the family as a whole.

This film had me laughing from beginning to end. It made me see, it takes a community to raise a child and no one person can do it by himself/herself. It is okay to ask for help when you see someone has a trait that you are lacking. We, as a family, should communicate and not assume everyone is doing well. We also need to be there for the people in our families. We, as human beings, should be able to explore who we are as people and should not be afraid to talk about issues we are having with, like wanting to have sex or going through puberty. We should respect all religions and gain a deeper bond with our God every day. We should be more loving to people who need more love and help than we do at that moment. We should let nature take its course and not try to stop what will be. Lastly, we have to watch what we say to people and always be respectful and honorable to our elders.

The movie Blended is a great movie you can take the whole family to see. Your kids will definitely laugh and want to imitate the jokes from the movie. This movie gives a viewpoint of the 65% of American blended families and how they are growing daily. We need to get back to loving our families more! Blended also made me want to call my travel agent to book me an African Safari Family Vacation. All the actors in this movie did a great job. Go and buy your ticket now!

I give this movie:

2014 Big Business Virtual Tour

2014-03-24T20:38:00.000-04:00

Is your business is in a need of a re-boot, re-branding, and/or re-building? Then you should invest in the 2014 Big Business on a Bankrupt Budget Virtual Tour. This tour will show you how ideas, goals, and plans are good on paper, but you need to put them into fruition. The topics of the tour are:

Lets's Get Social
Financial Management Habits for a Healthy Business
Profitable Radio Marketing Exposed
Create an Opt-In Form that Grabs Readers' Attention
Turning Browsers into Buyers
Grategize Your Business
Re-Brand, Re-Boot, and Re-Build

So, for $29 on April 1, 2014, from 12 pm-7 pm, you will be able to get the most effective information for your business to have longevity. Meet the speakers for the tour:

1. Rhonda Nails (Host)- Re-Brand, Re-Boot, and Re-Build

2. Lisa Ryan- Grategize Your Business

3 Keys to: Customer Engagement, Acquisition, and Retention

3.Lashanda Henry-Turning Browsers into Buyers

Building a website that works for your business

4.Veronica Drake-How to Create an Opt-In Form that Grabs Your Readers' Attention &Builds lists with Ease

5. Katherine Waddell- Profitable Radio Marketing

Understanding What Needs to be Said

6. Kemberli Stephenson- Essential Financial Management Habits for a Healthy Business

7.Lucille Divine- Let's Get Social!

What and Why is Social Media an Important tool for your business

So, you have six days to register and secure your seat. This will be a great asset for your business. Please go to this link to register now! http://www.eventbrite.com/e/2014-b4-virtual-conference-re-brand-re-boot-and-re-build-your-business-registration-8742810983?aff=tameikac. Hope to see you there!

2D Musiq

2014-02-26T13:05:00.000-05:00

If you are looking for new music that will inspire you, look no other place than the independent musical artist 2D Musiq. 2D Musiq a.k.a Tudi has been singing since the age of five. In high school, he realized his love and passion for music. So, he took his passion and moved from New York to California. Once he mastered the in's and out's of the music business, he returned to New York. Once in New York, 2D took his craft to another level. He attended the Institute of Audio Research to gain a higher knowledge of producing and engineering music. After gaining the business skills, 2D transformed his life and is pursing his music with the help of the Lord. 2D started his Indie recording label called "Vero Record Music Group."

Check out his music at: http://www.2dmusiq.com/music.html and

Check out his video:
http://youtu.be/0xOjYixP_X8

2D was also a guest on my show, They Call Me Ms. Carter radio show on Blog Talk Radio. He was a great guest and he gave much wisdom about his musical craft & the entertainment business. He is a family man, who loves to teach and inspire youth with his music. His love for God will convict you to always put God first and anything you choose to do in life can and will be done. He is an ambitious man who is determined and a driven conqueror.

Check out the show:
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/theycallmemscarter/2014/02/12/interview-with-tudi-musiq.

2D is an artist and business man, who takes his craft serious and an artist to watch out for. Don't sleep on him! For more information about what is next for this artist, please check out his website: http://www.2dmusiq.com/.

If you want to post your thoughts/opinions about 2D Musqi or you want to personally chat with him, check this link out: http://2dmusiq.com/team-musiqlover.html

Relationships: The Good, The Ugly, & The Unconditional Vol. 1

2014-02-18T12:17:00.001-05:00

On November 3, 2013, I published my first E-book on Amazon.com. It is a collection on 10 articles I wrote on my relationship column on Examiner.com: http://www.examiner.com/african-american-relationships-in-charlotte/tameika-carter. I have been going to radio shows to promote the book. Here are some of the shows just in case you missed them:

1. Got Controversy:

(1/4/2014)- http://www.blogtalkradio.com/gotcontroversy/2014/01/04/abuse-why-is-it-accepted-and-tolerated-by-women

(1/6/2014)- http://www.blogtalkradio.com/gotcontroversy/2014/01/06/teach-me-how-to-love-you

2. Spirit Soul Radio:

(1/9/2014)- http://www.blogtalkradio.com/diandrasmith-hall/2014/01/09/relationships-the-good-the-ugly-the-unconditional-with-tameika-carter

3. Stilettos in the City:

(1/14/2014)- http://www.blogtalkradio.com/stilettosincity/2014/01/14/relationship-author-tameika-carter

4. This Needs To Be Said:

(1/17/2014)- http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thisneedstobesaid/2014/01/17/relationship-round-table-with-stephan-labossiere

Now that you have heard what is in the book, don't forget to go and buy the book on Amazon, now! http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_i_0_16?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=relationships+the+good+the+ugly+%26+the+unconditional&sprefix=relationships+th%2Caps%2C271&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Arelationships+the+good+the+ugly+%26+the+unconditional.

Until next time, continue to love one another!

SharkyNet

2014-01-20T13:00:00.000-05:00

Do you need a personal or business website at an affordable price? Well, the SharkyNet company is the company just for you. SkarkyNet is a European web design, web development, and web hosting company. They are an award winning company who have always left customers very satisfied. This professional company has excellent customer service to address any problems you may have and help you solve your technically problems in a timely fashion. Here are their services they offer, which come with affordable hassle free packages:

1. Websites
2. Mobile Websites
3.Web Hosting
4. Web Maintenance and Repairs
5. Custom Logos & Designs
6. PSD to XHTML, WordPress
7. Content Writing

Not only is SharkyNet an outstanding professional business, but SharkyNet also gives back to the community. They have a great charity program. Each month they choose a group of organizations, who help others, and provide these organizations professionally done websites for free of charge. On the websites, the organizations can showcase their work, collect donations, and receive all the help they need. This month SharkyNet are choosing to help Animal Rescue Organizations. So, if you are an animal organization please apply. You don't have to be a non-profit to apply.

So, if you are looking for an excellent professional company, who wholeheartedly gives back to the community, to build your affordable website, look nowhere else but to SharkyNet!

Check their website out!Their company can be a great asset to you and your company! http://www.sharkynet.com/

Advertising Sale!

2014-01-15T13:02:00.000-05:00

They Call Me Ms. Carter Radio Show is having an Advertising Sale! For $40 a month your company can get a radio commercial to be ran on our show. Your company can also get website/logo advertisement on our websites and social media pages.

Our websites:
1. Company: http://www.theycallmemscarter.com
2. Blog: http://www.theycallmemscarter.blogspot.com

Our Social Media Pages:
1. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheyCallMeMsCarter
2. Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/memscarter
3. Google+: https://plus.google.com/u/0/116616937849345566430/posts

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Go to http://www.theycallmemscarter.com and click on the pic Advertise Here on the homepage. You can choose as many months as you want.
*Sale Ends February 28, 2014*

Radio Show Ratings!

2013-12-20T11:56:00.001-05:00

It has been 4 months since the launch of the They Call Me Ms. Carter Radio Show! Since then, the show has had 3,869 listeners. If you haven't listened or checked out a live show, here are the highly rated shows you can listen to:

1. The Things God Whispered to Me: #1 highest show with 603 listeners http://www.blogtalkradio.com/theycallmemscarter/2013/11/20/the-things-god-whispered-to-me.

2. Aqua Blue: #2 highest show with 471 listeners http://www.blogtalkradio.com/theycallmemscarter/2013/10/25/aqua-blue.

3. Inter racial Dating: #3 highest show with 347 listeners http://www.blogtalkradio.com/theycallmemscarter/2013/09/06/inter-racial-dating.

4. We All Need Love: #4 highest rating show with 344 listeners http://www.blogtalkradio.com/theycallmemscarter/2013/10/18/need-love-advice.

5.Young Women Know Your Worth: #5 highest rating show with 280 listeners http://www.blogtalkradio.com/theycallmemscarter/2013/10/11/young-women-know-your-worth

6. Against Bullying: 277 listeners http://www.blogtalkradio.com/theycallmemscarter/2013/11/08/against-bullying.

7. Business Intelligence: 273 listeners http://www.blogtalkradio.com/theycallmemscarter/2013/11/01/business-intelligence.

8. Are We Taking Care of Ourselves?: 260 listeners http://www.blogtalkradio.com/theycallmemscarter/2013/09/20/are-we-taking-care-of-ourselves-1.

So, as you can see, They Call Me Ms. Carter Radio show has been busy. We would love for you to take a listen to any these high rated shows and all the rest of the shows at: blogtalkradio.com/theycallmemscarter. Our shows are on Fridays at 1pm. If you would like to be a guest of the show please email: theycallmemscarter18@yahoo.com. If you have a topic that you think we should talk about on the show please email us at: info@theycallmemscarter.com. Don't forget to check out the website at: http://theycallmemscarter.com/ Thank-you to all the listeners you have made our show a success. Also, thank-you to all our guests. Please continue to support us and see you on the air waves!

The Four Agreements

2013-10-02T23:39:00.000-04:00

On tomorrow's show, Thursday October 3, I will be discussing the book The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz @ www.blogtalkradio.com/theycallmemscarter. If you want to voice your opinion/view please call in during the show at (646) 716-7273 or email at theycallmemscarter18@yahoo.com or just respond to this post. So, let's get the conversation started.

Many people feel as though they are caged in and aren't able to be free in their lives. The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz will be able to free you from bondage. If you stick with these agreements on a daily basis, your life will start to change.

1. Be Impeccable With Your Word- Many people seem to not be committed to what they said they were going to do. If you just become a man/woman of your word, you will not have to tell lie or explain yourself. You will be respected more if you just kept your word.

2. Don't Take Anything Personally- This is extremely hard to do at first, but you have to learn not to take things personally. You have to learn that people act a certain way because of what they went through in life and it has nothing to do with you.

3. Don't Make Assumptions- Making assumptions is how you make an a** of yourself. So, if you don't understand anything just ask a question. Everything will be so simple.

4. Always Do Your Best- Make sure everything that you do, you give 100%. You give less than 100%, you will not get the full treatment.

Tune in to hear how you can apply these Four Agreements to your life. See you on the air waves!

Police Brutality

2013-09-27T10:50:00.000-04:00

Join the informational conversation today, Friday September 27th, from 1pm-1:30pm on Police Brutality on the They Call Me Ms. Carter radio show http://www.blogtalkradio.com/theycallmemscarter. If you want to voice your opinion/views please call in during the show @ (646) 716-7273 or email: theycallmemscarter18@yahoo.com or just reply to this post. If you have been a victim of police brutality, please tell us your story. So, let's get the conversation going.

I want to say this. All policemen/policewomen are not crooked. I want to thank all the cops who uphold the law and do a great job! Thank-you for risking your lives everyday for all citizens! Ok, now back to the conversation. There are many police officers who feel as though they are above the law they are sworn to uphold and protect. They think they are better than us, citizens, because they wear that blue uniform. They are not better than us, they are actually supposed to protect and serve us not harm us. The police brutality on minorities is at an alarming rate, especially against African-Americans and Hispanics. Statistics say 1 out of every 116.4 officers allegedly engage in misconduct. Since 2012, 215 fatalities were connected to alleged police misconduct. By these statistics, there are many police officers that should not be a police officers.

Tell me what you think! See you on the air waves!

Are We Taking Care of Ourselves?

2013-09-20T11:41:00.001-04:00

Join us today @ 1:pm-1:30pm for our discussion on Are We Taking Care of Ourselves? Please listen to the show @ www.blogtalkradio.com/theycallmemscarter. My guest for the show will be personal trainer and owner Ty McMath of Atlanta's Torch Fitness. If you want to voice your opinion/view, call in during the show @ (646) 716-7273 or email: theycallmemscarter18@yahoo.com or you can chat with me during the show. So, let's start the conversation.

America is known to the world as "the fat country." We have the most people who are obese living in America. We as a nation have been eating tool much fast foods, sodas, sugars, etc. Many of us seem to have no filter on what we put in our bodies and in our minds. We are a society where we are always on the go and we seem to not take the time and take care of ourselves. Taking care of our physical part of out bodies, is a portion of the whole picture. We must be able to take care of not only our physical, but also our mental, emotional, and spiritual parts of our bodies, too.

Are you taking care of your body or you are having trouble? If you disagree with this topic, please let us know. We would love to here your viewpoint, too. If you are having trouble, tune into the show and we will be able to give you some tips on how to take better of yourself. See you on the air waves.

Discovering The Power Within You!

2013-09-12T21:57:00.003-04:00

This week on the They Call Me Ms. Carter radio show, we will be taking about the book Discover the Power Within You by Eric Butterworth. Please join us tomorrow Friday September 13, 2013 on BlogTalk Radio @ http://www.blogtalkradio.com/meika10. To voice your views on this subject call in during the show at (646) 716-7273 or email: theycallmesmscarter18@yahoo.com or chat with me during the show or just reply to this post. Now let's get the conversation going.

Have you discovered the power within you? Well, many people feel as though they have to find themselves. They go to college, take trips, read books, etc but fail to realize that they aren't lost. They just have to learn how to tap into the power inside them so they can live abundant lives. Eric Butterworth gives us tips on how to tap into that power.

1. You can change your life altering your thoughts.
2. Life is lived on the inside out
3. Life is about growth and unfoldment
4. The Divine is always in you

I hope you tune into the show tomorrow. Do you feel lost? Or haven't discovered the power within you? Or want to have a relationship with your God/Higher Being? Then this is the show for you. See you on the air waves!

Interracial Relationships

2013-09-06T12:10:00.001-04:00

Join us today at 1pm http://www.blogtalkradio.com/meika10 for our discussion of Interracial Relationships. If you want to voice your opinion during the discussion please call in @ (646) 716-7273 or email theycallmemscarter18@yahoo.com or chat with me during the conversation or just reply to this post.

So, let's start the conversation. In America race is a big issue in society. There are many stereotypes of each race that other races believe or assume are true about a certain race. So, marrying outside your race was a taboo subject and law until the 1967 Supreme Court decision that miscegenation laws were unconstitutional. Now a day, 8.4% of marriages in America are of interracial couples compared to the 3.2% in 1980. Interracial marriages and relationships are not taboo but a rarity, but each passing year its less of a rarity.

Do you agree with an interracial relationship? Or Do you oppose? Or Do you have don't care at all? Please let me know. I hope to see you on the air waves at 1pm.

The State of Hip Hop: How Come Real Hip Hop is not Being Played on the Radio?

2013-08-29T14:01:00.000-04:00

This Friday August 30, 2013 at 1pm-1:30pm, come and join the conversation about the State of Hip Hop: How Come Real Hip Hop is not Being Played on the Radio? on http://www.blogtalkradio.com/meika10. My guest are the independent artists E.Pillz of KOBK Records and Issa Minkah. Please call in at (646) 716-7273 or email theycallmemscarter18@yahoo.com or comment on this post to view your opinion.

So, let's start the conversation. Hip Hop is so much different than when it started in 1979. It is a culture that pulls every race of people together. When Hip Hop first started, the artists were rapping about having fun and every day life. Then as the culture grew, artists started rapping about what was really going on in their hood. The artists were poets of the generation.The artists started having sophisticated lyrical battles. These battles defined the artists lyrical growth and the cultures growth. In 1999, The Hard Knock Life Tour, featuring Jay-z, DMX, Redman, Method Man & etc artists, was the highest grossed tour at the time. The biggest Hip Hop tour that broke all the fears of not having any violence at any of the tour dates. Rap songs and artists had substance with deep meaning.

Now a day, Rap songs have no substance to it. Everything is put out there. There is no lyrical content. Everyone raps about glorifying drug dealers and taking drugs to get through life. It seems as though anyone can become a rapper. Artists seem to rap just to get 15 mins of fame instead of trying to have a long lasting career. Why do we as a culture accept these songs? Why don't we as a culture demand the artists bring lyrical substance to the table?

Please let me know what you are thinking. I would love to hear from you. See you on the air waves!

New Radio Show!

2013-08-22T13:58:00.000-04:00

Hi Everyone,

It has been sometime since we talked. I have had this blog for 3 yrs and some months now and I appreciate all the love and support you give. I wanted to let you know this blog is going to be on Blog Talk Radio starting tomorrow Friday August 23, 2013 and every Friday @ 1pm-1:30pm.

Our topic for tomorrow's show is: African-Americans Are We Fulfilling The Dream? We are going to be talking about the 50th Anniversary of the March on Washington, which is this Saturday August 24, 2013. There is going to be a march to commemorate the Anniversary. We will also be talking about the issues African-Americans face in society and towards one another.

So, I would love your view point on the subject. You can leave a comment on this blog or you can call tomorrow during the show @ 1pm (646) 716-7273 or you can just listen or email us at theycallmemscarter18@yahoo.com. I hope you take the time out to listen http://www.blogtalkradio.com/meika10 See you on the air waves.

Love Ya,

They Call Me Ms. Carter

Stop the Hate!

2013-03-11T14:29:00.002-04:00

Its Monday and today's theme is Stop the Hate! Life is really too short to put energy towards hating someone. Use the stored up energy and begin to become a better you. We also need to stop the racism because too many innocent people are continously being killed over it. I hope you had a great weekend and this blog helps start your week off right.

If you are viewing this blog from your mobile phone, please click on the arrow near "Home" to view all the rest of the posts. Please be free to comment on any posts you choose. If you have a topic or great quote you would like to me write about, email at theycallmemscarter18@yahoo.com and put Topic or Great Quote in the heading. If you have any technical or any other problems email at mscarter11@hotmail.com. I hope you have a great day!

Love Always,

They Call Me Ms. Carter

Have You Laughed Today?

2013-02-28T17:21:00.000-05:00

Laughing is the theme for today. At times it is hard to laugh, but its not impossible. Laughing is one of my best medicines. I have learned to laugh at myself because life is not that complicated. I want to bring some laughter to your life today.

If you are viewing this blog from your mobile phone, please click on the arrow near "Home" to view all the rest of the posts. Please be free to comment on any posts you choose. If you have a topic or great quote you would like to me write about, email at theycallmemscarter18@yahoo.com and put Topic or Great Quote in the heading. If you have any technical or any other problems email at mscarter11@hotmail.com. I hope you have a great day!

Love Always,

They Call Me Ms. Carter

Be Happy and Smile Today!

2013-02-25T13:53:00.000-05:00

Today's theme is about being happy. All the topics are about learning how to be happy with yourself, putting yourself first, and being happy with everything you do. Life is too short not to be happy with everything your God has given you. If you haven't smiled today, I hope these posts with help you.

If you are viewing this blog from your mobile phone, please click on the arrow near "Home" to view all the rest of the posts. Please be free to comment on any posts you choose. If you have a topic or great quote you would like to me write about, email at theycallmemscarter18@yahoo.com and put Topic or Great Quote in the heading. If you have any technical or any other problems email at mscarter11@hotmail.com. I hope you have a great day!

Love Always,

They Call Me Ms. Carter

Empowering Blog!

2013-02-21T14:26:00.004-05:00

     Hi everyone. As you can see, I have changed my blog. I decided to make my blog an empowerment blog. I realize there is much negativity in the world and here would be a place where you can read and see some positivity. Please feel free to comment on any and every post you choose. Come back to this blog every Monday and Thursday to get your positive fix.

    If there is a topic you would like for me to talk about or you would like to write about or have a great quote, please email at: theycallmemsmcarter18@yahoo.com. Please put Topics or Great Quotes in the heading. If you have any problems technical or others, please email at: mscarter11@hotmail.com. I hope you are empowered and feel loved.

Love You Always,

~They Call Me Ms. Carter~

A New Year!

2013-01-03T18:33:00.002-05:00

Hi everyone. I'm so grateful to be blessed to see a New Year! The old events of last year are behind me and now I'm looking forward to the new events of this new year. Every year I, we, make new year's resolutions and seem to never keep them. We get disappointed in ourselves and just stop moving forward. So, I decided in 2007, I would do something that would not only help me reach my goals, but never disappoint myself.

I decided to create a vision board. I was watching an Oprah show, when it was on, one week and I saw this woman had created a vision board. The board was pictures of goals she had for herself and wanted to obtain in her life. It worked! So, I was at a turning point in life. I wanted to my Bachelor's degree to be useful in my life and I just wanted to get health insurance so my health would not continue to deteriorate. I wanted to be in a meaning relationship with someone who would be faithful to me only and be trustworthy. I had these God given talents and wanted to be able to use them the way God intended. So, I created my own vision board.

It took me until 2011 for my vision board to come into fruition because there were somethings and people I needed to get out of my life. I'm a loyal person who holds onto society's view of life and people because I have learned not take anything and/or anyone for granted. But I had to realize not everyone was supposed to go with me on my journey like my mom and uncle Greg told me. Trying to reach society's goals for myself was driving me insane. I had to come to grips that society's goals and my goals were totally different. In order for me to keep sane, I had to choose to obtain my goals for my life! I also had to learn how to be still and wait on God. The waiting part was hard for me because I felt I always seemed to get the short end of the stick. God taught me by waiting, I would get whatever I need and desire from him in due time.

When you make your vision board, you can't show everyone. You can show the people you trust like your mom and/or best friend. Some people are just going be haters. There are some people who just don't want to see anyone succeed as long as they aren't in the high position they feel they should have.Your vision has to be marinated before it comes into fruition, so you have to wait. While you are waiting, you should go and help those in need. You can help by donating clothes, volunteer at a soup kitchen, give a friend a ride to work, be a listener to a friend or family member, adopt a pet, etc. Helping others will not only make you feel good about yourself, but it will also help you get the blessings God has in store for you.

So, instead of making resolutions, make a vision board. This way, you can see how many goals you can accomplish in the year. You will not accomplish all your goals in a year, but you will not disappoint yourself. Get rid of the dead weight of society's view of you and malicious people out so you can move forward positively in your life.Understand, your other goals are on the way and you will be able to have a fulfilling life God has always wanted for you. Make your board today!

Django Unchained

2012-12-27T16:30:00.000-05:00

When I woke up Chrsitmas day, the first thing I did was not open gifts, but I went to see Django Unchained. I really wanted to see the midnight show, but no theatre was showing a midnight show since it was Christmas Eve. I just couldn't wait to see this movie and this movie exceeded all my expectations.

Django Unchained was an astonshing movie. It was dramatic, comical, inspiring, amazing, and educational all at once. I'm so glad someone did a pre-civial war movie where there was no great white hope helping the slaves. I'm also glad there is a movie from a slaves point of view about slavery because America always down plays slavery. America wants people to forget and get over slavery, but when it comes to the Holocust it was a tragedy when the Holocust didn't even happen in this country. Slavery happened. We must understand and accept it. It is a big piece of American history that needs to be acknowledged and Tarantino acknowledges it in Django Unchained.

Tarantino is a genius when it comes to screenwriting and being a director. I enjoy all of Tarantino's movie, but this movie is by favorite from him. All of Tarantino's films are controversial and this movie didn't have any exceptions. Spike Lee, the film director, said he wasn't going to see Django Unchained because it is disrespectful to his ancestors. Well, I'm African-American and I didn't think this movie was disrepectful to our ancestors. I think Mr. Lee should have gone to see the movie before forming an opinion. Plus, I haven't seen Mr. Lee rush and direct any new movies, especially on slavery.

I recommend this movie for everyone to see this movie. Now a day, people are forgetting all the trials and tribulations America went through before it became America the free. We need to know our history before we know where we are going. I give it 5 stars out of 5. Before you see this movie make sure you use the restroom because you aren't going to want to miss any moment. If you are going with a friends, take turns if you have to use the restroom so you can fill each other in on what you missed.

Every actor in this movie was brilliant. I think Jamie Foxx, Christoph Waltz, Samuel L. Jackson, and Leonardo DiCaprio should get Academy Awards for their work. Jamie Foxx should get the Academy Award for best actor again! So, everyone go and get your ticket!

Are You Greedy?

2012-12-18T16:29:00.001-05:00

Since the beginning of November, I have been disgusted by the terrible behavior of us humans. We are so consumed with instant gratification of material things, we have camped out, trampled people and even shoot at others to get our fix. It seems as though people have become like crack feens over materialistic things, its nauseating. Its just we are so greedy that we can't see that Christmas is all about love, being & spending time with family, and celebrating the birth of Jesus.

Actually, greed has nothing to do with money. Greed is when you take more than what you need. We bust our butts for a 40hr or more a week job and still complain about what we don't have. We also spaz out when funds are low, but what will you actually do if you were that 1% who have all that money and power? Would you be happy? Would you go against your morals and your beliefs?

I have to confess, I have been complaining. I have been complaining that I don't make enough money. I have been feeling like I'm a disappointment because I haven't found the right job for me and I'm not using my degree at all. I have also been feeling like why am I still at my parents house? What is the point of disability if its at a set rate?

What I and many other people don't notice, is that I don't need to complain. God has always provided for all my needs and most of my wants. Many people can't find a job and I'm lucky to work for myself. I'm still at my parents house because I'm on disability, and I do have a plan to be on my own. I'm should be grateful to be on disability because my medical condition has made it so that I can't work a 40hr week.

So, this Christmas we need to learn to see the little things. We should open our eyes and see the glass half full instead of half empty. God, family, and friends should be all that counts in life. If you give a gift, its the thought that counts. The gift doesn't have to be as much as your rent. All I want to do is be able to live comfortably and I'm doing exactly that! I never want to compromise my morals and beliefs just for a status. I'm right where I need to be. I hope you are too.

God is Always with You!

2012-12-18T15:37:00.000-05:00

Since Friday, the nation has been horrified and deeply sadden of the shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Connecticut. I, myself, started shaking because I just can't believe a man is so evil as to kill innocent babies because he was angry towards his mother. Then the next day I heard that a crazy man in China went and started slicing up innocent elementary kids on the same day as the Connecticut shooting. These 22 children did survive but they sustained severe wounds to be kept in the hospital.

Many people have questioned, Where was God? If you don't know, you should know God is omnipresent. He is everywhere and he will be with you wherever you go. The reason why people questioned about the location of God is because we, as a nation, have idolized materialistic things and celebrities so much we don't even notice God until something tragic happens.

I want you to know that God didn't cause this and he didn't want this to happen. What people don't understand that God gives us free will to do and be who we are as people. When tragic things happen, it is someone's will and wants being pushed onto others. This is that time. These men were so angry that they took their want for someone to hurt, because they were hurting, too far. God was there because he shielded his children by sending their brave teacher. God was there when he sent the police and the medical attendants. Stop always thinking God has to show us this grand movement, when it is really the small things you should pay attention to about God's love.

We need to open our eyes and see God is with us always. If you don't know God or have a High Power, you should start today. I have just finished reading Discover The Power Within You by Eric Butterworth. I recommend this book to everyone, no matter what religion. This book talks about the divine being within everyone. We already have the confidence and the knowledge about living in abundance, we just have to learn how to tap into it. We no longer have to go and find ourselves. All we need to do is just take a deep look in ourselves and we will find ourselves.

We don't need to kill anyone, let alone babies. If you have an anger issue, go do something constructive, like boxing, to turn the negative energy to positive. Also, you can go to therapy or go to support groups. We all get angry sometimes. It is all about how deal and solve the anger problem, than to act upon it. I hope we learn to treat each other better because God put us here on earth to help one another. God loves you unconditionally, love each other the same.

How To Maintain and Grow Permed Hair

2012-09-10T21:33:00.002-04:00

I have noticed many black women have permed hair and some don't know how to take care of it. I have had permed hair for 15yrs and I would like to give my tips on maintaining & growing permed hair. Here are the tips:

(1) When To Get Your Perm: You should get your perm every 7 or 8 weeks. It gives your roots time to grow and breathe. It also saves you money. Make sure when you get a perm, get a keratin treatment. The keratin treatment helps strengthen your hair, help your hair grow, and give your hair body.

(2) Washing Your Hair: You should wash your hair every week & 1/2 to two weeks. I found that if you wash your hair every week, it dries your hair out. All the vitamins are drained out and makes your hair weak. Use a conditioner you have to wash out. Leave in conditioners will make your hair very weak. Make sure you sit under a dryer with your conditioner for at least 20mins.

(3) Products to Use: Make sure you read your labels and also make sure the product has a low percentage or no alcohol at all. You can use mousse. Make sure it is a Non-Alcoholic Mousse.The mousse should allow you to use it on wet and dry hair. It should not dry your hair out, but give your hair body.

(4) Braids and Weaves: Do Not Get a Weave or Braids The Same Day You Get A Perm! The weave and/or braids will pull your hair out. It can give you bald spots.Your hair may not grow back. You should wait until you have new growth to get a weave/braids. Plus, wearing a weave/braids all the time is not only heavy to your roots but a financial burden.

(5) Curling Irons: Curling Irons are not good for your hair at all. If you need to curl your hair, you should get heated rollers or or ceramic curling irons or use the soft curlers at night. Heated rollers give you the warm look without the excessive heat on your hair. Once you put the soft curlers in at night, when you wake up you should either wrap your hair or just run your finger through your hair. Ceramic curling irons are for when you need fresh curls in a hurry.

(6) While You're Sleeping: Wearing a silk or satin scarf at night will let your hair breathe and your hair will end up growing. Do not used bandannas! If you have a headache or feeling ill or just forget to put your scarf on, sleep on a silk or satin pillow case. It will not dry your hair out and your ends will not split.

So, these are my tips. Make sure you get a trim when you get split ends.Cutting the dead hair off will make your hair grow faster. Let me know if these tips have helped you. Also, let me know if there is a tip you would like to give. Talk to you next time. Lata!

Encouraging You To Vote!

2012-09-03T17:11:00.000-04:00

We have 63 days until Election Day, Tuesday November 6th. If you are 18yrs and older make sure you are a registered voter. I'm encouraging all my African-Americans, Native Americans, Latino Americans, and Asian Americans to vote. Many people don't fully understand how others have marched and died for us to have the right to vote. Sometimes, we take for granted that we always had the right to vote and we will always have the right to vote in the future.

We don't know what the future holds, but we must take the advantage to voice our views. As of right now, there is that 1% of the population that rules the nation. If we, the 99%, don't get out there and vote our civil & voting rights wil be surpressed. There is strength in numbers and numbers don't lie. So, if majority rules, we must show the 1% where we stand and out rule them.

I encourage you to take these 63 days and research who you want to vote for. Make sure you vote for the right person that will carry out your views and fix the issues you face. Don't let anyone discourage you from voting because all citizens have the right to vote!