Overcoming myself

I find this so beautiful...

2014-05-07T10:03:00.000+01:00

Muhammed Ali's advice to his daughters...
An incident transpired when Muhammad Ali’s daughters arrived at his home wearing clothes that were quite revealing.

Here is the story as told by one of his daughters:
“When we finally arrived, the chauffeur escorted my younger sister, Laila, and me up to my father’s suite. As usual, he was hiding behind the door waiting to scare us.
We exchanged many hugs and kisses as we could possibly give in one day.

My father took a good look at us. Then he sat me down on his lap and said something that I will never forget. He looked me straight in the eyes and said, “Hana, everything that God made valuable in the world is covered and hard to get to. Where do you find diamonds? Deep down in the ground, covered and protected.
Where do you find pearls? Deep down at the bottom of the ocean, covered up and protected in a beautiful shell.

Where do you find gold? Way down in the mine, covered over with layers and layers of rock. You've got to work hard to get to them.”

He looked at me with serious eyes. “Your body is sacred. You’re far more precious than diamonds and pearls, and you should be covered too.” From the book: More Than A Hero: Muhammad Ali's Life Lessons Through His Daughter's Eyes.

Universal Day for Women - Helena Marques

2014-03-29T11:03:00.001Z

Failing to plan is Planning to fail...

2014-03-18T16:10:00.001Z

I read a while ago a friend of mine's blog and he wrote a list of things he wanted to achieve in that year. And to be honest I loved the idea! I decided to do my own personal one and I will keep you guys updated about it!

Here goes.... 25 things I want to do between now March 2014 and March 2015....

1. Set up my own business

2. Randomly give a waiter a huge tip

3. Visit Brasil

4. Go to the Temple of Solomon opening in Brasil

5. Take a selfie with 'Christ the Redeemer' in Rio

6. Be featured in a newspaper

7. Start my own society in my Uni

8. Teach English to at least 10 people

9. Model at a fashion show

10. Visit European Parliament

11. Pass my driving test

12. Lose 4 stones

13. learn to do a back tuck

14. learn to do a forward/backward walk over

15. Make a custom made dress for myself

16. Publicly embarrass a friend

17. Create something amazing from scratch

18. Find something in myself that is so unique that people will say "Only Tillyah"

19. Conquer my fear of heights

20. Buy my own house

21. buy my own car

22. Have an amazing dinner party

23. Throw a house party and invite everyone I know

24. Annoy my friends and see who sticks with me

25. Move to Italy without having a panic attack before

I will upload pictures and proof I have done these things...! So exciting! If you want to do the same as me let's go!

Love and Hugs!

x

How to be an independent woman

2014-03-18T01:30:00.000Z

I love how practical this advice is for us women! Enjoy!

Pointless video with laughs....

2014-03-16T00:35:00.001Z

Hey Guys!

So I filmed a funny video on my birthday itself and so I decided to edit it and put it up! Just a pointless video but I think it shows a bit of my personality...I think ahahaha!

It features my two girlies Aisha and Siobhan; two beautiful women of God who have helped me to smile through the trials and keep my head up and keep my eyes on God. We had a sleepover at my house - sorry Shiv! ahhahahaha!

Love you both times a million!

Just a video to say...

2014-03-12T18:19:00.001Z

So I turned 22 yesterday and it was a bit of an emotional day...I haven't written on this blog since the 26th March last year. Since a couple of weeks after my 21st birthday. And boy after that did battles come.

Here is to name a few:

Got injured in Cheer; had to quit cheerleading as well
Left Kent University
Started working for a TV Production company
Started off working towards my own business
Went through trials
Saw who were my real friends - dropped the fake ones
Other personal things happened
Received my Title as a "Lady" (yes, I am Lady Tillyah for real!)
Reconnected with old friends
Started attending Royal Holloway
Started off my own radio show
Met new people
Most importantly got closer to God

That is only a few but I think if I was to name them all....we would be here all day!

So as I embark on being 22... I am going to try harder to write more, video and edit more...Greater things are yet to come because my journey isn't over until I am in the clouds with Him.

Thank you Jesus for allowing me to see 22 and everyone...watch this space!

May God abundantly bless you all.

Love and Hugs,

Tillyah

21-Day Fast: Day 21

2013-03-26T16:17:00.001Z

The 21 days always comes at the right time...it always comes in the moments when I get tooo busy for the things of God! And I confess lately this has been me. And thank God he has brought this.....even in the time of my exams and stressful assignments due the 21 days is here for a reason. I am going to share everyday these videos from Nanda Bezerra's Blog although I have no time for entertainment I know I need to make more time for God and the things of him....what have you realised through this message? share it!

21-Day Fast: Day 21

Just a little something...

2013-03-12T01:18:00.001Z

Friendship February – Proverbs 12: 26 (Part 3)

2013-02-12T16:37:00.000Z

Ciao tutti!! (Thought I would mix things up a little bit - add a bit of Italian in there!)

A recap of what we have been talking about ...

I will tell you about where a bad friendship can lead you...I'll give you my example:

When I was in school, I had been smoking for a while and so I would go behind the gym and smoke with all the other girls who smoked. However, my best friend didn't smoke. And no matter what I tried she wouldn't come to the smokers corner in school.

So what I did was I brought a packet of cigarettes (those were the times you had to be 16 to buy a packet of cigarettes and they sold it to school children) and I brought it somewhere we went. I actually cannot remember where!

Well, eventually I coaxed her to take a puff of the cigarette. (Yes I know I was not good influence at all – but remember this was in the past).

Soon enough I encourage most of my circle of friends to try smoking at least once – two of my best friends (at the time) are still addicted to cigarettes even now. I influenced them to start – which is bad HOWEVER that is not the point.

The point is that my influence on my friends impacted their lives – in a bad way. Now I try my hardest to influence my friends in a great positive way.

The word of God is good and true – now that I am older I want to tried be the good friend and pick good friend.

Hope this helps you as a tip!

Will post very soon

Love and Hugs

Tillyah!

Friendship February – Proverbs 12: 26 (Part 2)

2013-02-04T17:13:00.000Z

I left the last post disagreeing with the statement – “Friends come into your life for a reason; some for a lifetime and some for a season”. First of all the reasons why I disagree with this statement is because the real statement is: “People come into your life for a reason – some for a lifetime and others for a reason.

But…

Let’s think for a second here if this statement was really true…how would you be? You wouldn’t trust anyone would you? I know I would because you’ll be continuously second-guessing who would be in your life for the rest of your life or for a little while. That would keep me edgy if I be honest. Maybe I am looking at it in a negative way…? (Let me know if you think I am)

Anywhooo back to the point of this post:

Proverbs 12:26 says this – “The righteous should choose his friends carefully, For the way of the wicked leads them astray.”(NKJV)

I love this bible verse! When you sit down and really meditate on what God is sharing with us in just this short verse; it’s so nice and wise!

So in the last post I said that we need to be like fishermen when it comes to friendships – let anyone in (No I do not mean spilling your life problems to just anyone). The fishermen leaves the net for anything to come in but then he sorts out the fish from the rubbish isn’t it? That’s what God is showing us in this verse. We need to be open to have anyone and everyone in our lives, not discriminating, no predjuice, no bias – just openness. However we need to do the selection process of who is going to have that title as your ‘Friend’.

The title of a friend is a very important thing to me because I know that its my friends that influence me. They are the ones I trust to tell me the truth – no matter what. They are the ones I count on to care more about my soul than my feelings. It is a very hard job and a huge role and only few make it. That is the reason for the selection process.

The bible verse says that the righteous should choose his friends carefully. When you do something carefully – you leave no stone unturned. And this is what we all need to do when it comes to our friendships. Friends are a long term thing…it is not for a short period of time – a true friendship is for a lifetime. And you need to bare that in mind when choosing friend.

Young people of today do not very often think about the future like we did back in primary/secondary school. We used to fantasise being doctors, lawyers – in my case politicans…and etc. This is what we need to do for friendships. If you notice that some has a bad character and you stay around them – eventually that bad character is going to be passed on to you….

Don’t believe me?

Check out the next Friendship February post…

Love and Hugs

Tillyah

Friendship February - Proverbs 12:26 (Part 1)

2013-02-03T00:49:00.002Z

Carried on from the last post…

So, as a child you accept every- and anyone – you do not see skin colour, age, sex and etc. You just see the person and you look at them with such good eyes, they can never do wrong in your eyes. They are your friend and that is it. They like the same things are you, you guys are very similar – and that is it. Point blank.

Now the reason why I am saying this is because we need to do this. HOWEVER (there is always a but isn’t there?), we need to be careful. So this week (I know I started a bit early – but yeah) I have picked a bible verse that suits with what I will be posting this week. Now there are a lot of things that strikes me in this verse – I promise we talk about it. (If you want to already read the bible verse – it’s the title of this post)

However tonight I just want to carry on from yesterday; it will lead us ever so slightly into our next post…

Now…when a fisherman casts his net does he leave extra wide holes in case a bit of rubbish is swopped up with the fish? No, he doesn’t does he? Because that would mean that the fish will seep through. And this is what you need to do as a first to making true friendships. You are the same with everyone, open and polite and treat everyone as you would want them to treat you.

-It works best with people that you don’t like or that don’t like you. –

So once you have cast your net you need to careful look through and separate the fish, the rubbish and the sharks/crabs.

Someone told me something that really stuck to me about friendships. She said to me “Most people that come into your life will leave it – friends, acquaintances. You need to be a friend to get a friend. But you cannot think that everyone you treat like a friend will be a friend.” She went on to say “You should always have more acquaintances than friends. If you don’t there is a problem. Friends are not just meant to be in your life for a season but a lifetime.”

Ever heard the saying:

“Friends come into your life for a reason – some for a lifetime and some for a season?” I sincerely do not agree with that….

In the next post I will be explaining why!

Love and Hugs

Tillyah

Friendship February

2013-02-02T00:05:00.001Z

Every so often I make a post to speak about friendships or a friend and etc… This month – the month of ‘love’ I am going to make all my posts on friendships in some way (just to be different!)

At the start of this year I said to God that I do not want to waste any time that I have and also I made a prayer asking God to show me what I have to see rather than what I want to see. So many times we love to overlook the signs – the signs that show through someone’s true character. Signs that their character is bad – that’s what I mean! (Got there in the end hey?!)

So where am going with this – I wanna help you see the signs with me as well! So it’s a new journey that we will embark on. I have been betrayed, hurt, disappointed, abandoned by friends but this doesn’t make me bitter. Why? Because I am glad – it showed me how to be a true friend and see who my true friends are. Let’s say I just learnt from other people’s mistakes.

I, myself only let a small selected few that I consider friends and everyone else as acquaintances. However every so often I see that I wasn’t careful enough…

Remember when you was younger – in primary school you would met someone in the playground and if you guys liked the same thing then you would become the best of friends? And your circle of friends got bigger and bigger as you let anyone in? Yes? That’s how you need to be even now as you’re older.

You must be confused right? Well I am going to give you a few tips in the next month of how to become a true friend and how to spot one….Starting as of today – Friendship February!

I will continue this post tomorrow…

Love and Hugs!

Something I read...

2013-01-15T07:40:00.001Z

I was reading something the other day that really struck a cord...

And I thought to share it on here.

I have been reading a book called 'The V-Woman: modern, in the old-fashioned way' by Cristiane Cardoso. It's based on the woman described in Proverbs 31. It has been schooling me on how to be a woman.

Being a woman isn't about makeup and what you wear and looking pretty. No way! Being a woman is so much more than the appearance. (if I explain you will be here all year - its best if you get the book and see for yourself.)

That's not what I am going to talk about though...I wanted to talk about the chapter called 'She helps - "she extends her hand to the poor, yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy" Proverbs 31 vs 20'.

And something that struck a cored with me was this.."we shouldn't help or give because we'll get something back, we should do it because its the right thing to do". It's so easy to say 'oh yeah I give money to charity, and give offering in church and etc'. But think with me; when was the last time you gave out of JOY? From your own heart and not out of obligation.

When was the last time you spent proper time with your family, not just told them you love them but showed them?

Hard isn't it?

For me this made me think and analyse and reevaluate some decisions I had made. It also made me think of the bible verse that says: 'The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish pulls it down with her hands.' Proverbs 14vs1.

Strong isn't it?

And what's more is that the V-woman does it out of love and joy. Who out of us can say we do that all the time? I will be the first to put up my hand and say in don't - I know that I can change this. New changes will be taking place from this!

I was fortunate to meet the write of the book herself and got it signed...here are the pictures hehe... (Yeah I know I'm strange). I suggest the world buys this book and read it - its such a blessing!

Constantly praying for you!

Love and Hugs,
Tillyah

Little Bump in the road

2013-01-09T12:09:00.000Z

So just after I made a vow write/video log everyday - my internet starts playing up so much that it stopped working all together!

Perfect!

Is that going to stop me?

ERM.....NO!

Do you know why? Because I know that what I am going to be posting will help you and I more than if I give up. I also learn from my mistakes - I read through these posts and I plant what I have learnt in my brain so that I can know what to do next time.

So am I going to let a little bump in the road bring me down? NO WAY!

This coinsides with what was being preached today in the Faith School meeting at 10am...

In the study something that really stood out for me was this 'For those who think that following the Lord Jesus means to be free from your problems, you are very mistaken'. There was examples of problems that servants of God - heroes of faith went through that God delivered them from. He delivered them from being hurt or killed BUT he didn't stop them from going through it.

Why - you might ask? Because the more problems we go through the stronger our faith. The stronger our faith, the closer we are to God and the closer we are to God - the more problems we endure.

The greatest thing about it is that God is there to guide and help along the way.

So if you are going through problems - maybe the best thing to do rather than complain is just TRUST in God. Be like Daniel.

Constantly praying for you!
Love and Hugs
Tillyah

Don't waste your time

2013-01-05T22:19:00.003Z

I shall let the video speak for itself....

People that drag you back

2013-01-04T00:28:00.000Z

Hey! Apologies for not being able to post; Wednesday - 14 hour shift and today revamping my room. Nthat you need to know my life story! But I have been busy busy busy - new month and so I have to change around my whole room - sorta have OCD about that!

So the motto for the year is - Don't waste time; but what if you have people around you that try to drag you back? People that waste your time? Those waste of space 'friends'? What do you do then?

Well...I have just recently come across this and I honestly have to say I have just had enough and sent that 'friend' right into 2012. I said I was not letting myself waste time and that also means I am not allowing myself to be influenced by others and allow others to waste my time.

Not to get into detail of what happened but lets just say this year is a brand new year and a brand new me. I am not letting go of this new way of living for me. Harsh but true - how else am I going to see results? Sometimes we have to be brutal in our faith and not take any prisoners.

Best way to deal with people like that - cut them off with no mercy! Then when they come needing your help - you help them out...

Remember - don't waste the time you have now!
Constantly praying for you...
Love and Hugs!

'Wishing you a happy new year'

2013-01-01T22:26:00.003Z

Every single year it is the same old thing...the fist few weeks of the year we 'wish' people a happy and prosperous year. But what happens after that? People go back to that same old complacent routine they always do and never change anything like they always say they will.

In the lead up to the new year you always see statuses or tweets like 'New year, New me' or 'Things are going to change in the New Year'.

BUT...

After a year everything goes down hill.... why?!

Because we as humans EXPECT things to drop into our laps. We are lazy beings, we don't like to work.

Whoever said 'Good things come to those who wait' LIED to you! This is because good things come to those who WORK. What athlete sits back and expects to get a gold medal? Name one...can't seem to? That's because you know the facts. This isn't even mentioning the word of God.

I sent a broadcast on bbm earlier today telling everyone that of my plans for this year and that I am not going to wish myself a good year - I am going to make it this way. I planted a lot of seeds in 2012 that I will be reaping in 2013 BUT I will not rely on just that. I will be sowing everyday to reap the following day.

As I said in my video log last night; I am not wasting my time....what are you going to do?

Constantly praying for you!
Love and Hugs!

Happy Happy New Year!! 2013!!

2013-01-01T03:02:00.001Z

I will let the video do the talking for me....

Happy new year everyone!
Constantly praying for you!

Starting something new...

2012-12-04T20:34:00.000Z

Hey all! Take a look at my first Vlog!

Second year....

2012-11-15T18:10:00.001Z

It has been so long since I have gotten a chance to post! I have had assignment after assignment and add in a midterm and an exam - second year is really not easy but God is giving me wisdom to get through it!

So uni has fully kicked in and tried its hardest to take over my life but that is really never going to happen.

New responsibilities, new opportunities and of course new learning curves!

I decided this post is going to be a few tips I picked up in my first year that's really helpful:

1. Do your readings for your modules - if you cannot do it get the summary off google scholar.

2. Don't ever use Wikipedia...I don't even need to explain why, should already know.

3. Instead of buying the book for a certain module, try finding the ebook, if there is no ebook then spend time in the library!

4. Plan your week on Sunday night/Monday morning (it works out if you have a student planner as you would have your timetable on you so you can plan around it)

5. Budget your finances. Do not think that student finance is going to help your life if you do not use it properly and before long you're in your overdraft and in debt!

6. Don't get down when you don't do as well as you thought - read the feedback and work on it.

7. If you have to be alone because everyone is going out...this is the point where most young Christians fail. Nearly all of my first year on my own in my flat....but I used the time to seek God, read my bible and strengthen my relationship with God. It's hard but worth it.

8. Join a society but observe it first - don't give your money and then see it isn't for you after....trust me I did that. Waste of my money. However this year I joined a sport society (Cheerleading) and its so great!

9. If your new friends do not respect your faith and do things that offend you don't have to take it. Make sure they know - you may be saved but you are not soft.

10. (The last one I promise) make sure that God has everything to do with your education. Pray, speak to Him and surrender everything into His hands because He knows all things - He will help you out!

Hope this helps you as much as it helped me, university has been the most trying time for me but I am overcoming because I am firm in my faith my God.

Praying for you always!

Love and Hugs,

Tillyah

Flavia Barcelos: I support the Rahab group - How about you?

2012-11-13T11:40:00.001Z

Flavia Barcelos: I support the Rahab group - How about you?: Hello my darlings :) Please forgive me for not writing anything last Friday. We are putting all our strength for our Break the Silen...

True Friendship: Jas

2012-10-15T01:36:00.001+01:00

I met this girl in May 2010 when I first started attending the church....but never got to really talk to her until September. This is how she looked at the time...we were 18. We got a chance to work together in the same tribe -Manasseh. (Mana-sah-mana-mana-na-na-na-sah) She became my hairdresser and when I tell you she has helped me so much - it is almost an understatement! We were at someone's house and while she was doing my hair we spoke about a lot of things.

The most important thing that I remember that she told me was a part of her testimony. It really touched me, she probably doesn't know it (well now that she has read this she will know) it spoke such volumes to me. It made me see that I could actually change! We grew closer and closer together...Even when I went off to university last year she still stayed the same towards me when many turned there back on me....

To cut a long story short in the space of two years; you became my hairdresser, my stylist and my friend - a real friend. I know I can come to you and tell you anything and not be judged - you will tell me things straight as you know lying will both hurt me and you. What I love about you the most is you love and care with a pure heart and the way you constantly put people ahead of yourself...

There are not much people I regard as friends but you are definitely one of them! Yesterday (14th October) was your 21 birthday...tried to get home from Strattie in time to write this before midnight - but that didn't work!

Sometimes it's so weird I feel like I've known you for so much longer! I am so glad you love your birthday present - I wanted it to be something special just for you. Thank you so much for being my friend, you proper accept my craziness in the beginning and although I must have been annoying - you still was patient. I have so much to write but I will write it to you personally....

I am taking my beautiful friend to the Lyceum Theatre to watch the Lion King. She has dreamed of going to see it for YEARs but hasn't gotten to it. I will add pictures of our day out on here..

At the age of 21 and blossoming into a beautiful Rose that your future husband will make sure he treats you like the queen that you are...

Happy birthday REEEEEN (Jas)

Godllwood - More than a Challenge - Don't Waste Your Time!

2012-09-14T00:55:00.000+01:00

As you can probably tell by now I am not good with change. However I have the understanding that change is necessary. At first I am reluctant but then I give in as I know it is for my own good.

So...last night whilst on the train heading back to Canterbury from London (don't ask) I wrote a quite lengthy post. BUT my oh-so-lovely-HTC did something weird and then deleted everything I wrote! Then coincidently died shortly after. Honestly need to take that phone back to carphone warehouse for a refund! ANYWAYS.....

(rant over..)

This post is actually about (the worst subject for me) Time Management! - cue dramatic music-...DUN DUN DUUUUN! (I apologise I am feeling in a silly mood).

One thing that has been hard for me is managing my time especially when a new change occurs (which happens quite frequently). This is not an excuse - but it contributes to my reasoning for not posting as I should.

I must say that the last few months since becoming a pledge in Godllwood; this has changed. We had a discipline task that made me really search and push myself to be able to handle my time more efficiently (watch me using big words!). I must admit I surprised myself and am doing it very well.

For example juggling doing my Godllywood tasks, the work of God, moving back to uni, work - and I will not even mention my responsibilities at uni (I will tell you about them soon enough...) - would be absolutely impossible for me a year ago. I would break down and say I can't do it!

So what I did was - at the end of July I got myself a student planner...planning everything I was going to do and drotting down everything (you can see the picture of my planner for this current week). Everything that comes - I write it then later on decide if I can make it or not. In other words I prioritise my time effectively.

This is something that each and every one of us can do...it's so hard at first but then it get easier...every step becomes easier.

There is a bible verse that always reminds me of this -

"Let all things be done decently and in order" 1 Cor 14vs 40.

I keep it in my head with whatever it is that I do - especially with my daily life so that I can please God not just with the service to him but with my life.

Hope this helps you!

I will post more soon ...

Love and Hugs

xx

Godllwood - more than a challenge

2012-09-13T00:55:00.000+01:00

This picture says everything I wanted to say....

Godllwood - more than a challenge

2012-09-11T00:54:00.000+01:00

Apologies for not posting for the past few weeks...I wanted to emphasise the Realise event.

So the last post I was talking about patience as one of the first things I learnt in Godllywood. This post is about patience as well but it is with something else - and I think this was one of the most hardest for me.

I had to be open and sincere with my Big sister. It was fine because I had my big sister since January. O did my interview with her, spoke to her and bore all. But a week after my pledge night...the big sisters changed! (The Godllywood groups follows the example of the church - its so beautiful)

At that time I went through a series of emotions - that was the dangerous part. The day I had a meeting wig my current big sister; that night I found out who my new big sister was.

So I had to go about meeting my new big sister, get her contact details and etc. However I bit the bullet and forgot my emotions. I made an appointment with her that Thursday and told her everything about myself. I told her about my life from when I was a kid and even up until I got to sisterhood.

All in all we spoke for 3 hrs and had fun getting to know each other. As I have previously told you, I hate speaking about myself, it is one of the things that make me go shy. However I know the experiences I went through make can help people and help others understand what makes me me.

From that even though it was something little, it helped me a little more comfortable to speak up about my life and I went through.

Now what about you? I would love to hear your stories too! You can send me an email or comment on here!

Love and Hugs
Tillyah x