Time, Sex & Relationships

My Philosophy:

2013-04-10T04:44:00.000+02:00

My Philosophy:
* PEOPLE ONLY TREAT YOU ONE WAY...THE WAY YOU ALLOW THEM!

* If someone treats me like s-hit, I just remember that there is something wrong w/them, not me. Because normal people don't go around destroying other human beings.

* Saying yes to happiness means learning to say no to things/people that stress you out.

* Don't be upset with the results you didn't get w/the work you didn't do (this includes relationships)

* What defines us is how well we rise after falling

* If you don't go after what you want, you'll never have it

* Be with someone who knows what they have when they have you. If they don't, someone else will.

* NEVER CHASE LOVE, AFFECTION, OR ATTENTION!! If it isn't given freely by another
person, it isn't worth waiting for nor having.

* One does not attract what they want, but what they are. In the same respect, one does not attract what they want but who they are.

* Be mindful of what you toss away, Be careful of what you push away, and think hard before you walk away.

* I have no patience for a woman that can't act like a woman. I already have a di$k, I don't need another.

* if someone doesn't appreciate your presence, make them appreciate your absence.

* Strong men only intimidate weak women.

* Don't sacrifice what you want most for what you want right now.

Im back

2013-01-29T08:14:00.000+01:00

It's been a while since I posted my last blog on here relating to the topic of what I first posted I first have to apologize to my readers for such of a delay. I recently had some great tradegy that befalle3d me and l=my life and it has taken me sometime to finally get back to what all you guys have gotten from me in the past. I recently lost as of June, July & Aug of my grandmother, father and mother to cancer in which it has at best been a traumatic experience . I have alone been able to finally get over this loss to continue to bring to you the things that I first started. So now it is back to business as usual and once again I do apologize for leavin you guys without any further provacation. But as you can all understand a great lost as the one I have suffered has taken a toll on mentally, physically and emotionally and I can finally say that I am back to basic knowledge . so as we all look forward into the new year of 2013 I hope this new year has come in as you all expected it to be. I will post further back to the topic I originally started but until then I do wish all my readers a Happy and Glorious new year with many more to come twith the hopes that the new year brings to you and your family all the wishes and dreams that you have long for till m y next full post I wish you all the best and here is a great year with greater things to come....RealTalk 100...

Is your man withdrawing? Here are five ways to explain his behavior.

2013-01-29T08:12:00.002+01:00

Here you go Ladies here is a little exerpt FOOD FOR THOUGHT
Is your man withdrawing? Here are five ways to explain his behavior.
Any woman who's actively dating will at some point deal with a man who is pulling away. If you notice that a previously attentive man is showing signs of fleeing, one of these things is likely going on:

Your Self-Esteem May Be Costing You a Great Relationship!!

1. He's just not ready. You may have been communicating effectively that you're playing for keeps (and if so, great job!) but this has him exiting stage left because he is not ready for the commitment.
2. He is scared to take the next step. One of men's primary fears is the loss of freedom. He may be evaluating whether or not what he will gain by having you in his life is worth the inevitable loss of his sexual freedom, financial freedom or time.

3. You're experiencing "man time." When a man gets involved in anything that consumes his attention (work, sports, hobbies, to name a few), he loses track of time. When he finally realizes how much time has passed, he may be too afraid to call you and risk having to face how pissed off you may be.

4. He thinks you've changed. You're not being the same gal he started with. Instead of being easy-going, fun and clearly appreciating who he is maybe he's getting a taste of another side of you; someone who is hard to please, insecure, needy or just not fun anymore.

5. You're not the one for him (or he's not the one for you). You may feel disappointed by this realization at first but in the end it's for your benefit. If this is the case sooner or later that the relationship is going to end.

Glowing Review of My book

2011-10-18T12:08:00.002+02:00

This was a recent review of my book, if you aint got your copy yet then you are behind the curve... Go get that http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?field-keywords=Time%2C+sex+%26+relationships+-+are+we+really+that+different&url=search-alias%3Daps&x=0&y=0

Kevin - I found your book interesting and amusing. As a writer you play to your strengths: above all confidence allied to practical experience and a curiosity which steers well clear of the merely prurient. Men and women will enjoy reading your book: it is well set out and and descriptive of a wide range of attitudes to human sexuality and erotic expectations of both genders. Most sex is of the recreational variety, which is just as well or there would be even more people on the planet. Few people will admit to a lack of expertise, but as with driving, there is always scope to improve on the basic technique. And also as with driving, sex is an activity which brings pleasure when skilfully exercised but can be dangerous if the risks are ignored. A drawback in your skilfully anticipated scenarios is that there is no prior risk assessment so the chance element dominates and determines predictable outcomes. Of course that is perfectly natural and does not detract from the drive of your approach to the subject of sexual relationships. *****
Tony Brady - SCENES FROM AN EXAMINED LIFE - Books 1,2 & 3.

Food for Thought

2011-10-10T13:58:00.002+02:00

For the most part, I am a realist and a very logical thinker. there are still so many things about the male and female mind that amaze me still. Like when will people ever learn that it is never a good look that your entire relationship is on facebook or tagged, and everyone knows your business. What is even funnier is that you get mad when someone comments on a comment you posted for example; you post "I miss you babe, cant wait till you get back, and I luv u <3" now by doing that you opened up your relationship to the internet. Some how some way that post makes it to the wall of the guy or girl you was fckng the night before and not the intended person, they respond "I miss you too, I will be back that way soon" Oops!!! Now your totally screwed and now the world is in your business. I just do not get it.

Now I am a Generation X baby and I would like to know when did it become the norm and cool to get relationship advice from your single friends. I am so baffled by this one. Ok, how is a single person going to be able to tell you how to be with someone if they themselves are alone as well. Counter productive dont you think. Can you say the blind leading the blind. As well, why are people seeking this advice about the opposite sex from the same sex that they are. Counter intuitive I think! JustSayin....

That leads me to my final point

We will never understand each other if we fail to understand ourselves first. They say perception is reality, I say reality is what I choose to percieve as real. (perceptional thinking) What may be your reality may not be mine, because we will percieve reality differently. what we may percieve to be real may not be even real at all. It is all in what the mind tells us to believe.

"Knowledge is knowing, Wisdom is understanding" - RealTalk 100

WTF!!!

2011-10-07T15:30:00.000+02:00

Somebody, has just made me come out of my comfort shell and I have to get up on the soap box once again. (standing on soap box) Ahem, this is what has me on baffled, I quote

"Also, you will not only have a firm grasp, understanding and in depth insight into the mind of men, I like to call MY POSSE OF EIGHT, from being able to identify him quickly - what is the 'posse of eight', how is it relevant, and this sentence as a whole doesn't actually make sense. You will not only have... needs to lead to but also (you won't just have this, you will have that as well). Do you mean you categorise men into eight types, or something? If so, then your bit at the end about understanding men as individuals doesn't work. They're types or individuals, but not both.

Although I have to say I have a problem with your blurb in general. As a lesbian, the last thing I need is a self-help book about forming relationships with men, but your blurb reads like you don't think very much of men to begin with e.g. sense of the chaos, deceit and frustration that exists inside the male mind.

I just read that and thought "harsh". If you don't appear to like men, how can you claim to be an authority who understands them? I have mainly male friends (if I had been born a gay man my life would have been much easier ) and men are funny, vicious, charming, confused, loving, lonely creatures - just like women. "

Kate
Ok, here is where she lost me ImJusSayin!!! This has come from a lesbian so obviously men are not on the top of her food chain per say. and that line she quoted actually reads exactly how I would say it in front of you if I was standing in front of your face. Now do not get me wrong any critque is good critque good or bad, It appears to me and obvious anyone that has read this far that my book is simply not for her, Any women who has dealt with men as potential partners have experienced chaos, deceit and frustration that exists inside the male mind. and to accuse me of being a man hater simply because I stated the obvious. No Mas!! this book will work for men on men - women on men - understanding each other. women on women not so much! "I would have to write a new book for that one" I just might never know. All I am saying is this it is actually a wonderful thing to be critical, but pick that fight when there is a leg to stand on, for god's sake your a lesbian telling a man about men, is it not agreed thats a little ironic. I have nothing against lesbians or even homosexuals for that matter, I love a good fight and freely welcome a debate anytime. What I have written in my book may be over some people's heads of comprehension, but it is 100% about understanding us ( MEN) I will now proceed to step of my soapbox... Goodday!!!

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2011-10-06T11:40:00.002+02:00

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I am puzzled!!!!!

2011-10-05T11:34:00.001+02:00

OK, so I am sitting here drinking my coffee and checking my group pages and email's and I come across an email that came from one of my readers Jasmin Mercer,(not her real name) Chicago, IL. She is having some major issues with her boyfriend. Keep in mind she has read my entire book https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/93311?ref=KevinRichardson
and what puzzles me about her question was she asked me what type of man is she dealing with and should she stay with him. I think her question is to really test my expertise on matters like this so here is the situation she gave me. I am going to answer her publicly and you be the judge tell me if I am right or wrong!

He seems never to have time for her even when he is off, they have been together for approx 2 years, he never talks with her about anything emotional wise, no future plans with her, and she feels so disconnected from him. He always seems to have time to work longer, or go out with his friends but less time to spend with her. She thinks that he is only with her for the sex. That is her perception of the situation.

Well, Jasmin let me respond to what is to me the classic female mistake that I see everyday. Now Jasmin I am not going to tell you what you should or should not do about your relationship that is entirely your decision. But I will say this, " This may get a little rough people" you must be the most simple minded female that I have ever encountered. Are you really serious when you ask should you stay with a man that basically shows you no attention, and he rather chill with his homeboys than you . On top of that, when he is around, he is only around long enough to have sex with you, and he is gone soon after till the next time. REALLY!!! SERIOUSLY!!!! You read my book right? So you know you are dealing with the Party Animal! If you really understood my book I think you would clearly see a pattern to your madness as well have been able to correct your own behavior if this is the man that you really want to be with. Honestly, I am just stating my opinion but it is silly, you are a grown woman playing a high school game. You are not the only woman in his life, nor have you been the past 2 years, you are right you are there only for the sex. You can either accept that role or move on to greener pastures. I am quite sure he would have no problem letting you go! Just like he has 2 options of dealing with you, you should have options on dealing with him.

He is focused on making his money girl, you can not see that, the last thing he wants is a long term situation with a woman he is having to much fun and he is getting something from every other girl he has that you may know about or not. I am going to leave you to figure that one out. Hope I did not offend anyone by my little rant but I have to say to the women readers. If you had the power to foresee this situation and prevent it from happening in the first place, like Jasmin did. Would you? Read my book and see what Jasmin so clearly missed from the beginning with her boyfriend.

I have to keep it real or real would not be me..."Knowledge is knowing, Wisdom is understanding"

RealTalk 100....

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The Paper Back

2011-10-02T09:20:00.002+02:00

Here is the link to the paperback book -

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It is finally here!

2011-10-01T09:55:00.000+02:00

The wait is finally over. My book titled Time, Sex & Relationships - Are We Really That Different is now available on Amazon http://www.amazon.com/Time-Sex-Relationships-Different-ebook/dp/B005QQBB5G/ref=sr_1_4?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1317454218&sr=1-4 http://www.amazon.com/Time-Sex-Relationships-Different-ebook/dp/B005QQBB5G/ref=sr_1_4?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1317454218&sr=1-4, you can also get it at BN.com - http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Time-Sex-Relationships-Are-We-Really-That-Different/Kevin-Richardson-Sr/e/2940013362536

Its Coming

2011-09-29T15:25:00.002+02:00

My book will be up for sale online in 2 days time, in either paperback format or ebook. I will post the link addresses in a few days as well.

My Book

2011-09-23T12:35:00.001+02:00

My Book Time,Sex & Relationship -Are We Really Different? Is competed pending minor ajustments I am proud to say. The past 11 years of my life has contributed to this book, and its contents are revoluntinary! I hope to have it published soon, and as soon as I have a date, I will make that public. Thank you all in advabce for the support.

Just a Thought!

2011-09-15T10:28:00.001+02:00

I was talking to a few of my female friends last night to get some more insight on the information that Im writing about. The question came up last night why am I doin this? I explained to them that it is not me doing anything, it is the ladies that keep screaming Im tired of being alone, I'm tired of getting hurt by guys, where is all the real men at? That I am in fact doing this for. My mother told me as a young boy that life was going to teach me more about myself and other's than any school book could. Look at the world for what it is and trust your mind, it's brilliant! Take the gift you have and use it to help others. So now I had to ask myself this question is all this worth it? Are people really going to listen? Has society screwed up so many peoples minds that even if they read what you write are they really listening. How can you change someone's mindset, when its the only mindset they know? Are people really that scared of hearing the truth? Why isn't anyone challenging my mind? "I need to be challenged"
I almost stopped writing this blog because of those questions! If you was me what would you do?

The Relationship Dimension - Lion/Sheep

2011-09-13T10:51:00.001+02:00

This dimension will describe a man’s relationship – and general plan & concept for balancing his dating and romantic goals against and paired with all other aspects of his life.

The terms Lion and Sheep really describe how they view their future life with a partner or without one. Out of the three dimensions, (time, sex, relationships) this is the least likely to change, its implanted in his brain at the early stages of his youth when we (and I’m talking about myself also) thought about the type we wanted, and tends to stay pretty constant throughout a man’s life. If it does happen to change as all things can, it would have took something really powerful to do so!

Again the Lion/Sheep dimension is the one that deals with the conflict between his inner instinct and drive to be a father/husband and take care of his family(this is man’s first natural instinct), and the fast paced, modern society with all the stereotypes and stigmas that come along with society that pushes him to work on his career and not worry about being the perfect family situation but more on his money situation.

Again – her biological drive urges her to focus all of her energy on her family, but society, especially her schooling, urges her to work on her career.

The Realist / Idealist dimension is less of a coping strategy, but more describes which drive she favors. Of course, every woman will have some component of each, but there will ALWAYS be one that she favors and gives priority over the other.

All women have a fear of not finding a great guy to be with, that will provide and take care of her and her family – but Realists feel the fear the most, and because of that strive to become completely self-sufficient.

Lion:

The Lion is a man who is REALISTIC in the sense that YES, it is possible, very possible – especially with today’s divorce rates the way they are – that he will be not end up with a girl that would be perfect for himself. So he is the type of man who will focus the vast majority of his time on his studies, and have very ambitious career goals. He will often be more logical in his thinking and decision making.

Most of the Lions who I’ve met were born with those natural urges to become great providers and caretakers of the family, but over the course of growing up and in childhood, have seen men who were incapable of taking care of their wives or families. It could have been their father, uncles, or husbands of their mother’s friends, or I’ll go as far as saying his father’s male friends either the men left completely, or were just not suitable to be good supportive husbands and fathers.

And then they of course are also seeing the polar opposite. They would also see these men who have careers, who were independent and seemed to be positive reinforcement for succeeding and dominating the negative effects of incapable men.

So really – this dimension is all about upbringing, and that’s the reason why it’s the least likely to change throughout his life.

I was in a situation when I was younger where my family was struggling financially at times, and I actually met a man who was a Lion and he became sort of a mentor for me, he helped me expand my mind by simply digging into the depths of things and not to stop digging until I hit a place where the only place to go was up (looking back he was a Wine, Charmer, Lion). And it turns out he built and sold a business, and was very successful. But in the back of his mind, with that self-sufficiency he is always going to have a belief that you may not be there for him one day, so he will in a sense always keep one foot outside the door. And – if he is Water, he will be even more likely to ease that feeling by keeping other girls in his life to combat any feeling he may get of settling down.

A lot of Lions don’t believe in the idea of marriage. Of course many do however – but out of all the men who have told me they have no desire to get married, and don’t plan on getting married, marriage to them is not important to their happiness they have ALL been Lions.

It’s not that they can’t be in a functional, loving relationship, it’s that they realize what marriage really is – nothing more than a legal agreement between 2 people that they ratify on paper and has very little to do with love. REALLY! The real mark of a Lion is his self-sufficiency and independency – which some guys and certain girls might confuse with being over masculine… but it isn’t. It’s merely because his hidden fear of being alone are SO overwhelmingly great that he resorts to that – but deep down he is still a man and using the right mindset and plan of action you can get complete devotion and have a very genuine and loving partner.

No let’s recap:

• Lions have no fear of not finding a woman to spend his life with but fears not being able to support themselves

• Lions focus on goals and advancement of their career over the goals and advancement of a relationship

• Growing up, Lions had weaker male figures in their life which cause them to adopt the “I’m not going to be like him mentality”

•Lions are powerful and can take care of you. They actually enjoy it, It’s the protective instinct

•Lions always have one foot out the door, unless you PROVE to them that you will be there for him, not impossible to accomplish

Sheep:

Sheep’s maintain the IDEAL image of a “happy life happy wife”, man and woman living in a house with a couple very happy kids. And this image is so strong, that he is willing to overlook the possibility of it never coming true and him never getting the perfect girl for him or his perfect family. He disregards those fears totally. Of course the fears will always be there, he never forgets them – but they don’t affect the way he thinks and dreams, and relishes in his fantasy of having a perfect family someday.

Most Sheep were brought up around capable men who were happy in their natural protective roles. Many Sheep came from families that stayed together, had a very large immediate family structure, and the parents never got divorced, their dad was successful, and their mom was an awesome housewife and cook, maybe she had a job, maybe not. As a result he would naturally be more ambitious about the future because he has a strong feeling that he will have that perfect family. Being with a Sheep is one of the most satisfying, emotional experiences a woman could ever have. He believes in TRUE love, DREAMS TRUE love and if you ask him about it, he can talk about it with great ease he knows and believes that love is a real thing, and he will gladly share the vision of his ideal future with you.

Sheep love to daydream and often have very vivid imaginations. Most of the Sheep intentions rely on taking advantage of that imagination and filling it with thoughts of the two of you being together. One of the drawbacks is that a Sheep will eventually want to get married. If you have been dating him for two years or more exclusively! This might be great for some women, but if you’re looking to take advantage of men be a female player of sorts and date lots of men – be careful with that. You could end up breaking some hearts.

Let’s Recap:

• Sheep most likely grew up around more capable men who were supportive and present and played major roles in their lives

• Sheep have a vivid imagination and think about the perfect family

• Sheep will eventually look for marriage

• Sheep are very clear on their vision for the future

The Sex Dimension - Poet/Charmer

2011-09-12T11:25:00.000+02:00

Like I promised, now we will start our journey to get a firm understanding of a man’s battle with SEX!

The sexuality battle - Where men and women love the physical pleasure of sex equally, not more than one another as many would like to believe, there are a lot of social consequences for him and her equally for not having sex or having too much.

This is critically important – because if you meet a guy you like, at some stage you’re going to want to have sex with him. And this conflict explains what his mindset about sex is going to be like then and also later on down the road even after sex has taken place. Specifically more important are the reasons why he’s going to attempt to have sex with you and also how he is going to think about it before and after. And I’m sure this is something you’re going to want to know. How a man deals with the sexual conflict is going to be key to your approach because, whichever trait is dominant changes your approach dramatically.

He loves sex and the emotional bonding and physical pleasure he gets from it – but sex has had negative consequences like emotional trauma and societal judgment. A man will also deal with the sexual conflict in two different ways. And it has to do with how big of a deal sex is in his mind. He is going to either never ADMIT the sex happening or Give REASON it happened, and think that it wasn’t a big deal.

This explains why some men end up sleeping with much less girls than others. Poets pretend sex doesn’t happen, suppress their ideas about sex, view sex significant as well as an emotional connection between two people and make it harder for women to seduce him, on the flip side, Charmers see sex as insignificant and meaningless, and let it happen many, many times. Just give the charmer the word or sign and he’s ready to go no convincing needed!

Poet /Charmer Is the SEXUAL dimension of a man’s character type that we are going to discuss today.

To me, this is the 2^nd if not most important dimension, and it is the one that you the reader should pay attention to the most in your interactions with men. The reason is because men’s most predominant role (believe it or not) in a woman’s life is sexual. Sex is the reason why we all exist, and it is very primal and basic. Really quite easy to understand after all we are simply nothing more than mammals.

So please pay attention.

Let’s talk first about the conflict a little bit. Most, and if I had to put a number on it, probably 45% of men have experienced SOME level of sexual trauma – or negative feelings and emotions associated with sex. It may have been a poor performance or lack of sexual knowledge he actually may have felt he was being just used for sex. This is something that is a challenge to understand as women, that men yes do have horrible experiences relating to sex. More than some would like to have you believe!

Men will often recall at least once when they had a really bad experience in relation to women and sex in comparison women slightly often, but more frequently have traumatic events in relation to men and sex. It would be very foolish to think that a woman does not want sex as a result of past events. Just like men, sex feels VERY GOOD for women also – and they want it…if not more than men. So this creates a VERY strong conflict for her as well. Now men deal with this conflict by either being a POET or CHARMER.

Let’s begin with Poet’s

A Poet will consciously BLOCK out and remove any negative experiences from his memory about sex, he will literally believe they didn’t exist, and will deny anything bad ever happened to him relating to sex. His mental mechanisms simply will not allow him to confront those memories.

Knowing this issue exists in him and approaching it properly will cause him to become more and more open and honest with you. They will sense that you “are one of them” and things that he would NEVER tell other girls will be put on the table for you because you went about it with the right plan. And no, it’s not all stuff you don’t want to hear – there are some AMAZING benefits to being in the “Know”. Men will be much more open to letting you have multiple relationships, casual / no strings attached relationships,(If ultimately that’s what you’re after) and they will feel much more comfortable showing you the full spectrum of their sexuality.

But, that’s beside the point. Let’s get back to Poets. There are definitely some downsides to Poets. First of all, and this applies to ALL men, men will sometimes be more likely to lie to you the more they like you. Why would they do that you ask? They lie because they can and they will be more concerned with maintaining a certain perception that you might have of them if they really like you. There’s more to lose if you don’t approve of their image.

And – if they cheat (which odd as it may be is actually less likely to happen with a poet than with a Charmer) they will be FAR, FAR more secretive and less likely to let you find out. (Majority of the time you won’t even know it happened) Usually it will just be a onetime thing, and they will suppress the memory as if it never happened. However, doing that type of thing is something that women are MUCH better at than men. FACT! The Poet is very aware and conscience of how he is being perceived at all times.

Extreme Poet’s will sometimes even pretend to be “disgusted” by sex or by other guys who have been with more women than them. They will call other guys dogs just like women do, be very judgmental and critical of men who have had sex with just 15 or more women. The average Poet will usually sleep with 15 or less women in his entire lifespan (will lie to make you believe that number is higher) Now 15 may seem like a lot, because of what I just said, but you have to realize that most of those numbers have been accumulated as he got older. Men have a tendency to become more and more like Charmers as they get older. Their issues with sex got worked out and resolved slowly as time goes on, and they become more open to casual encounters. (Old guy in the club, I know you see him) We call this the “Sugar Daddy Effect”. You know what I’m talking about…

Just because a man is a Poet, it does NOT mean it will take a long time for him to try and sleep with you. When we get into the Poet’s behaviors, I will show you why it is actually good to sleep with a Poet quickly, and I’ll give you some specific reasons why that is.

Another reason why these types of men are called Poet’s because he flows just like good poetry, specifically they will refuse your sexual advances. But they do it in a very specific way. The will use a “not yet” approach, and eventually cave to your advances. That’s a very big difference between Poet’s and Charmers as you will see.

To a Poet, having sex can sometimes feel like they have lost something. Because at times, they sometimes associate sex with pain and emotional loss, if you haven’t laid the proper groundwork, they will withhold sex to maintain the power they think they may have in the relationship.

Let’s Recap:

• Poet’s will have far fewer sexual partners than Charmers by choice

• Poet’s tend to have hidden secrets – only a women who really understands man’s battle and his traits will learn these secrets

• Far less likely to cheat than the Charmer, but also less likely to tell you if he does

• Poet’s are more reserved and low key about sex and talking about sex

• Just because he is a Poet, it doesn’t mean he’s harder to sleep with if that’s all you’re after. You just need a different plan of action cause throwing the goodies at him will more than likely turn him off rather than on

• Poet’s are often judgmental and critical of guys we would deem as players or ladies men

Charmers:

A Charmer has the same negative sexual experiences that a Poet has – but he uses a different mental strategy altogether to combat those experiences… He will simply devalue the experience by lowering the significance and importance of sex in his mind.

By lowering the importance & significance of sex, it makes the negative experience easier to deal with and less painful. This allows him to retain full access the memory, because it has a much lower intensity and those memories are not a hindrance to him having sex.

The mental thought process will be something like “oh sex doesn’t mean that much” or “sex isn’t such a big deal” – and this mental dialogue aligns his full belief set to become congruent with that.
Now as a consequence, sex actually begins to mean less to these men and for women it’s very hard to try and control these men with the threat of no sex. “Sorry ladies that approach won’t work on this guy” He will give it up without so much as a thought and most importantly to any woman, he will be more likely to do things like have sex in public, have threesomes with other men and women, and go into professions like being an escort or exotic dancers. (Btw not all male exotic dancers are Charmers – but a vast majority is.)

And as such – having sex with a Charmer carries much less weight and baggage than it would with a Poet. Charmers, unlike Poets are very sexually open and will sometimes have hundreds of sexual partners over their lifetime, and if like Wilt Chamberlin – thousands.

One big surprise to me is that over the past 7 years with me secretly doing this research into men’s and women’s psyche, I found a very high number of men that I met during this time that have been with over 150 women openly and shamelessly, with widely different social backgrounds. These weren’t just men in their forties or older either – many of them were in their early twenties who were able to accumulate those sex numbers in college, often sleeping with a new girl every other weekend, if not every weekend.

Just because a Charmer has a lot of experience and may be considered loose sexually (ya’ll came him the player), it does not mean that he cannot be a wonderful boyfriend.

In fact, if you can become his “Queen of the Nile” Charmers can and do become incredibly loyal and safe from cheating. This is something I’ll talk about in depth when we get into the advanced strategies. Here’s a hint though – you will NOT become his “Queen of the Nile” if you are too focused on sex. That’s a huge difference. Because he has reduced the significance of sex in his mind – if you seem to desperate for sex, or make sex seem like a big deal, or make too many advances, or in general seem like you are too open sexually, he will lose respect immediately, and it’s usually something that’s nearly IMPOSSIBLE to recover from irregardless of what you might set out to accomplish, once a man's view has been set about how you are sexually there is no changing his opinion EVER!!!. It’s all about the mindset, some men may fit the female pretence that men think physically, however the vast majority is very mindful of his thoughts and actions and will make decisions based upon what he feels rather than what he sees visually.

When they do go with your advances, Charmers will sometimes go so far as to think that themselves that hooking up with you was their idea! This makes them VERY open to sexual refraining, sexual prizing and women falsely accusing them of being perverts and wanting them too much. More often than not this guy just wants sex, nothing more nothing less. Again this will be covered in depth later on in our ongoing discussion.

If you’re currently dating a Charmer – you have to be extremely vigilant. Charmers love to test your limits (don’t confuse this with the testing dimension, I’m talking about testing YOU and your patience) but a Charmer will test you over and over to see how much of a woman you think you are or claim to be. You need to be VERY aware of these tests so that you can nip them in the bud by punishing them IMMEDIATELY. It is for that reason, that charmers are a big challenge to many girls – but if you pass his initial tests, having sex with him is INCREDIBLY easy and takes barely any effort at all. If you get alone with him it’s RARE, and I will go as far as guarantee there will be none if any resistance whatsoever. It though is not the same for every man you meet.

One final thought – do not make the mistake of thinking that a Poet is a good boy and a Charmer is a bad boy. It has nothing to do with morals or his overall intentions being altruistic or mean spirited. It is simply his individual defense mechanism to dealing with a very real and powerful life conflict. The key is not to judge it, but instead to understand it, and know how to use it in your favor.

Let’s recap:

• Charmers usually end up having many sexual partners over their lifetime, often over a hundred sometimes more

• Charmers tend to act on their sexual urges, and then give the reasons why they did it later

• Sex is not a big deal to Charmers or as important to them as you might think! Never has and never will be

• You need to punish a Charmer for disrespect IMMEDIATELY, or you’re in the “friend zone”

• If a Charmer is resistant to sexual escalation YOU MUST chill out and appear indifferent. If they sense you want sex too much, you’re finished.

So at this point you should have a really good understanding of Time – Water/wine and Sex – Poet/Charmer. Any Questions?

A lock (man) who can be opened by many keys (women) is called a bad unsecured lock. But a key that can open many locks is called a master key - UNKNOWN -

“Knowledge is Knowing, Wisdom is Understanding” RealTalk 100

Real life examples to think about!

2011-09-10T00:19:00.002+02:00

What I’m going to do now is give you some real life focus examples to think about over the weekend, this process will also solidify what I have said so far into your mind, and if you are still a bit confused with the different types and how they all work, this will more than likely make it much clearer for you. I know personally I work really well with real life examples, so this is where I really enjoy beginning to apply this knowledge and understanding. A2YA7A8JB3SS

So …..

Water/Wine

Trying to figure out if he is wine or water is actually going to be the most challenging one out of all the traits I will discuss, because as mentioned before, guys who are Water will act like they are Wine, and keep the fact they are really Water secret. So, this dynamic can take a little bit of time to determine.

1 .You look at a guy’s Facebook, and tons of girls are leaving flirtatious comments on his page. Water or Wine?

2. If you knew a guy as part of your social circle, you see each other here and there occasionally as you have mutual friends in common, and you hear things about him such as that he is playing the field. Which type do you think he is?

3. Ok. A guy you recently met appears to only have male friends. Is he Water or Wine?

4. If you meet a guy online, is he on average more likely to be Water or Wine?

5. If you are hanging with a guy and he’s messaging people a fair bit more than the normal, and although he tells you they are guys he is texting, you feel intuitively that it’s actually to girls. Water or Wine?

6. You know a guy reasonably well and he mentions only having had a couple of relationships that were fairly long (years in fact), what is he signaling there?

7. When he talks about dating and finding a girl, he seems to be totally uninterested and could care less about meeting that “perfect girl” it’s more about having fun, what do you think? Water or Wine?

8. This guy you really like has a girlfriend, and complains about her a fair bit, but doesn’t actually leave her, Wine or Water?

9. This guy you like seems to have quite a few girls hanging around him as “players on his team” – girls who he seems to be stringing along keeping as friends or flirting with – and he seems to have quite a few female options. Wine or Water?

Sneek peek!

2011-09-09T21:44:00.000+02:00

At this point after reading all that I have written so far you now know more about the inside of the male psyche than a vast amount of PhD Psychologists and they been trying to figure this out for years. So this is a simple moment to add pure simple logical thinking to this thing we call dating. Of course there is the one size fits all approach and sometimes dealing with the opposite sex can be fruitful when you look at things that way. But talking realistically who in the world honestly thinks that the one step approach to finding your mate actually has worked as it was hyped up to be…HONESTLY…ask yourselves that simple question right now! Remember you being told and you at some point believed all men/women are the same…WELL I AM HERE TO INFORM YOU, NO WE ARE NOT!!! I am standing on my rooftop screaming this out to you wonderful women of the world men have drastically different looks on life and it’s hard to have the one step theory apply to every man so I am given you the opportunity to really understand men on a level that majority of men don’t even understand about themselves while many will claim that they do. I already gave you a simple sneak peek, but you have no idea where I am about to go. Stay tuned, next I’m going to introduce you to the Charmer and the Poet, when we take a really long dive into the battle with sex. On Monday, so good weekend to everyone, “It’s About To Go Down” – Kevin Hart (in my Kevin Hart voice) RealTalk 100

At the park!

2011-09-09T13:44:00.001+02:00

Im sitting in the park at the moment people watching and I just witnessed the ultimate male and female encounter FAIL... It is almost sad to sit here and watch it unfold but I did...lol...This what happened the guy is what I call a modern man - Water, Charmer, Focused!!! Those are his three dominate personalty traits, think water and wine in your mind. Guys sitting in the park reading a book on something to do with medical stuff on a bench, girl first walks right past him says nothing. Turns around after about 150 yards and walks back to the guy sits down next to him and put her hand on his hand...omg...."It's about to go bananas"
Guy instinctivly pushes her hand aside proceeds to stand up throw his book down on the bench say something really shocking because the girl turned beet red got up and walked away barely missing this tree that was right in front of her. ROTFLMAO!!!!!! Now this lil episode could have been avoided had she stopped for just a second make a quick observation then proceed with the right idea and it would have worked out way better. All she had to c was what kinda man he was. By his reaction to her he has told me a. I dont like to be touched - water trait b. School or work is important to me because Im in a damn park on a Friday reading a damn medical book - Focused. c. If her move on him seemed more on the seductive side his reaction instead of im interested in approach - charmer but more because he is also water....remember these men are the Head Coach - women are his team....So to him he picks who plays and who sits on the bench!

The Time Dimension - Water/Wine

2011-09-09T09:36:00.003+02:00

Let’s take a look at the man that carries the dominate water or wine trait (remember we are talking about them subjectively in a generalized format as they are right now) so see if you can picture a guy you may know past or present that are like this and then start looking at other men and you will notice more often than not a lot of them will carry one of these trait's to help deal with his Time battle. So where we are going today some may know this already but it is only one part to the total picture I’m painting.

Let’s take a deep look at Mr. Water

It’s all about emotional diversification for this guy. He doesn’t want to put all of his nuts in one tree. Most likely it comes from being traumatically hurt in the past. So he samples. He keeps women on the side. He flirts heavily and leads girls on. Literally has no shame. What is important is the understanding behind WHY he does/doing these things. Many people make the mistake and assume that men who we call water date many girls at the same time in order to affirm his stature as a player or ladies man. Or is he simply trying to figure out which one is the PERFECT girl.

And sorry to say they’re WRONG!!!!!

In fact Mr. Water does NOT really even CARE about finding ONE perfect girl. He can totally give a rat’s ass. He is getting the total package and total fulfillment by getting certain types of value and emotions from the combination of women he has chosen to surround himself with without having to actually emotionally commit to any one woman.

And, he is simply thinking “I’m just having fun for a few years and then I’ll find someone to settle down with later”. I got plenty of TIME!

And surprisingly – of course over time, even if they find that perfect one, his “Halle Berry” they might still date others who are not as good as her just to have some symbolice of what his world used to be like! Hold and squeeze your man too tight and he will revert to what you may call going from wine to water. THINK ABOUT IT! Many of you are guilty of and have been the cause of why a lot of men think and live this way now…FACT! Ya’ll Know I’m Right!!!!

I’m going to generalize a little bit just for the sake of doing so as some are not yet really grasping what I’m writing so here goes – and this isn’t the case 100% of the time, but in general Mr. Water has suffered some kind of romantic loss or trauma relating to a woman where he has felt cheated and betrayed by a woman in his past. It can go as deep as this trauma being caused by his mother, sister, aunt, grandmother.

Mr. Water is sampling multiple girls to feel significance – to be validated as a desirable, attractive man. And this is VERY important to men. even though many won’t admit to it, It’s about the male ego the only way to heal past pains in Mr. Water’s mind is to gain as much admiration from as many women as possible.

I met this guy recently and to say the least I was amazed by what he told me about his current life at that time. He was dating this girl for well over 3 years and he wanted to marry her in fact. But what ended up happening was totally way out of left field, his child’s mother had passed away and while he was at his child’s mother’s funeral his soon to be fiance was sleeping with another man in their bed and he came home and caught them. "NO BULLSHIT" At that point I was heartbroken for the guy. The apathy I had for him at that moment changed as rapidly as it came when he said and I quote “I stopped working no BS, took a 6 month vacation moved to NYC all set out to date as many women as I could in those 6 months”, (sick right?) and from what I gathered from him during our conversation he did just that and accomplished his goal. On average he was telling me, he dated 8 to 10 women at the same time and all were oblivious to this fact that “wake up boo boo u not the only one”. He did all the right things for all of them, but at the end of the day they all thought they were the only one. Yes he SERIOUSLY dated on a full time basis, a professional dater if you want to call it that, don’t know how he did it, really didn’t care but I immediately identified him as a man who at one point was wine, trauma came and with it the dominate water trait and all we did was have a general 10 - 15 min conversation. So I didn’t know WHO to feel apathy for at that moment, him or the girls.

Now here’s the kicker to his story, these unsuspecting girls who were unaware of this specific trait in men or even some of the information u have now. or even knew there was a trait. May have actually thought of him as “Mr. Wine” (although they wouldn’t know the correct terminology) because each had no idea about all the others and found themselves getting burned, and it would be safe to assume that every one of those women assumed all the attention was focused on her. End Result, was he said in one move he broke up with each one simultaneously moved back to his home town and returned to work and he is still single. So now somewhere in NYC there are roughly 8 to 10 women that he just destroyed their mental reality and are now broken hearted and alone again I suppose, “make’s you kinda feel bad”. I know a girl who is going through that right now. I really and truly hope I am able to help some of you to identify the subtle clues so you can really figure out the guys who are really Water. Because as I said before Mr. Water will present an image to girls that they are actually Wine. So who's to blame in this situation? The guy for just doing what men with that trait do or The girl for being clueless to the type of man she was dealing with?

I wonder if this has happened to you or someone you may know…JustAThought!!!

I would not doubt that some of you have already started looking at men a little differently now, what’s hilarious to me is that, you doing it would not be a shock to me because I know as women readers specifically I’m a man so you are going to question everything I write….I’d at least hope that is what you are doing, if not I wouldn’t have a reason to keep writing…but anyways

These men are indeed extremely powerful, and emotionally unstable. As women I need you to be very mindful and you have to be especially careful of them. It’s best to know a guy is Water and treat him exactly that way or I can almost guarantee you will be the victim each and every time, (Tired of being alone I just gave you one key to stop the madness, Hope your paying attention) This is going to be a surefire way to grab his real attention, if his attention is what you actually want at all. This man can be tamed! (I will go into detailed strategies as we progress forward)

Please take this very seriously, do not try and implement any of this little information you now know too your advantage on your man/men you are currently dealing with. Try to have a little bit of tact, but most importantly patience do not try and mold them to what you want, it will go horribly bad this I promise you and it will ‘GO BAD’. It is still too early to effectively implement what I have said thus far properly and get the best result with the least amount of effort Men have 3 life battle’s they fight daily, (reference the title of this blog) and 2 simple but yet very dynamic ways of dealing with each individual battle being the traits he inherent are extreme opposites of each other and right now I’m only talking about 1 Battle and its 2 traits at the moment, so if you think you can bake a cake and don’t know the ingredients but you try and bake one anyway without the full recipe “NO slow down boo boo” we all know it will be a horrible disaster. So please do not try to convert any men. YET!!!!!!LOL

Let’s do a quick recap of Mr. Water

• Does not care about finding the one perfect woman he is perfectly satisfied and getting what he needs from a combination of girls

• He will have multiple girls to feel significance, to feel validated and wanted Give that old Ego a boost

• He’s not always sleeping with all of the women on his team, this is very important for you to remember it is going to come back up as we keep going forward

• He has sophisticated almost unrealistic strategies to keep the woman he really does not want emotionally, he keeps her around for her one quality or skill. Part of the team but currently they are the bench warmers think of him as Head basketball coach and the women, are players on his basketball team. ARE YOU PART OF YOUR MAN’S STARTING 5?

• Water can be turned into wine if you have the right skills and you have the right mindset.

Let’s take a deep look at Wine:

So while Water is indifferent to really finding that one “perfect girl” Mr. Wine DOES have getting the perfect girl in the back of his head. However – it’s not that he finds the perfect girl and then decides to stick with her, oh no no – it’s that he is trying to FIX her. He sees that she has potential. The girl simply has POTENTIAL to be perfect for him. And that is what keeps him devoted to her. He will usually have ONE THING and only that one thing he is trying to “change” so that she becomes perfect for him. But here’s the kick in the ass – once he does manage to get her to change that one thing – his interest level in her usually goes right out the window along with the relationship. Because for him – just the feeling of having the challenge of something to “fix” is what keeps him motivated, interested and attracted. That will play heavily into our in depth plan for attracting Wine instead of water.

Mr. Wine makes GREAT boyfriends – that much is certainly true. And well, Mr. Water can be a lot of fun, but if you want to change Mr. Water into Mr. Wine, that is going to take a completely different plan and course of action - which we’ll discuss later. What’s even more interesting to the point of almost being borderline psychotic is that Mr. Wine will stay with a girl until he is CONVINCED she is not the one. The key to all this is him being convinced. He usually has to be convinced BEYOND A SHADOW OF A DOUBT that she is not that one. And if he is convinced, he will without any hesitation move on to the next girl, sometimes directly into a Mr. Water phase in between them, to settle his urges and re-adjust.

And Mr. Wine has also suffered some kind of romantic or traumatic loss in his dealings with women – but does NOT feel cheated or betrayed, either he had to move away from a girl he really loved, or lost her in some other way – OR and this is a big one! bombshell dropping –he actually blames HIMSELF for the loss . And what he is doing by BEING Mr. Wine is he is somehow proving to himself that he CAN create the perfect relationship by helping a girl step into a role that isn’t necessarily natural for her. It’s simply his way of feeling he’s supportive, important, and needed. Those are the emotions that drive him and cause him to be exactly the way he is.

So let us recap Wine:

• He wants to have the perfect woman – but is really looking for POTENTIAL in the one woman he is with

• He more than likely tends to only date one girl at one time and puts all his time and energy in just that one girl

• He would rather have fewer relationships over his lifetime, but longer relationships is what he’s after

• In most cases, if he is successful in FIXING you, he loses interest (no more fun)

• He will stick by your side devotedly unless he is CONVINCED you’re not the one, then moves on quickly to the next girl

Does anybody have any question at this point? Feel free to take this time to ask about anything you are not quite sure about. I don’t bite! Your question may help other readers with the same questions or idea all reach a general understanding.

A2YA7A8JB3SS

Something Subversive to Really think about!

2011-09-08T10:02:00.001+02:00

Following up on what I have already been discussing with you:

Let’s just talk about the downside of NOT KNOWING this information or for that matter not taking it seriously. And you meet Mr. Water, you might be thinking he’s only dating you, and you’ve got it easy. Meanwhile, he could be dating four other girls who are all striving to gain his dedication and affection! But you would have no idea. He may be behaving weird or doing strange things, and you would chalk it up to it’s because he’s not interested. But that’s not going to be you, is it? Nope, you are going to understand what I’m putting forth to you. You’ll know how to immediately tell when you’re dealing with water or wine and also how to get water to remove the other women in his life and focus all his energy on you, and become incredibly loyal to you. What’s even more powerfully dumbfounding is that if you DO tame water, water can become even MORE loyal to you because he will feel as though he had to go through many different girls to find YOU. Now I know this is exciting and a little bit overwhelming but be patient because we need to discuss a little bit more about the specific character traits of water and wine before we can talk about the advanced methods of dealing with them. This is only the tip of the iceberg we still got 4 more traits to discuss.

Let’s talk DEDICATION - From any man, no matter how old he is, what race he is, how much experience he has, how many other girls are chasing him, and of course his physical appeal. And by total dedication I mean that he is willing to give up his current life circumstance, and take this journey with you. You’ll have him bending over backwards, going to ridiculous lengths to be by your side, supporting you, and making you his first priority above everything else, (except for the things he will do to keep everything stable) So not only will you get the normal things that most girls want – like picking you up, getting him to be responsive to your calls, getting him to do practically anything you want, whenever you want – but you’ll also be able to take the relationship much further.

For example if you want a man to make your life easier and give you that real feeling of YEAH this guy would do ANYTHING for me, does it with no problem and his heart is behind his actions one surefire way of getting that to happen. Is to pay attention that simple. In fact now that I think about it, that is exactly how one of my best female friends (I’m not giving any names, don’t ask) boyfriend treats her now. That’s crazy but she is not complaining and oddly enough neither is he.

The key is to knowing who he is mindfully rather than physically, what he may do vs. what he is doing and not be wrong about it. That will take really understanding what I am saying. You do the wrong thing with the wrong kinda guy and its game over. Things like disloyalty, him cheating on you, rejection, him flirting with other girls, losing interest in you, getting in arguments, all comes from the usage of the wrong type of mindset. I am going to try and change this thinking.

Now back on Topic a man’s time struggle

Men are biologically programmed to mate with the most amount of women he can throughout his lifetime (spread his seed) dominant women, passive women, high status women, low status women, beautiful women really does not matter! Men can find women anywhere, with any demographic you can think of, so therefore he instinctively wants to spend time with as many woman as humanely possible, out of sight & mind he has been really screening the women he dates or is currently dating to find the best one - but there is pressure from society (his fellas, other men) to be the man, IE: Player, Ladies Man…. REALLY no man will admit to this that he deep down wants only one woman. So this is why you will see men who are older and have yet to settle down, becoming players, and becoming much more aggressive in dating, going out, and meeting women (if they are single, then again men do cheat) Even to the point of hitting on the girls that are totally out of his spectrum of reality. instead of just getting old in age he will continue to think he is that dominant man he was when he was younger for his biological TIME is “I can make babies till I’m 70 or 80 years old FACT!I don’t have to hurry not at all to settle down.

Now here is a fun fact: The world’s population is currently estimated to be 6.94 billion humans worldwide. There are approximately 6 million more women than it is men, 51% of that number (3.060.000.00) is currently living without a partner/spouse/mate, Now think about it out of a sample size of 10 for every 10 women there is 6 guys, which gives men 4 other options besides you the odds are not in your favor. Have light bulbs started popping yet?

As in relation to women Time to you in this realm is simple (Gentlemen Pay Attention)(this is one for you about women) Women are wired to mate with the most dominant, high status man they can find "the Alpha Male is what they call him" so therefore she puts good amounts of time in (let’s say interviewing) the men she dates and finding the perfect guy for herself, be mindful that there is pressure from society to be with a guy who has high status, the supposed aplpha male – that’s what society today has been teaching women to go after, I can go on all day on this subject but I will not today. It does not help the fact that in the eyes of women it is looked down upon if a girl is single for a long time. This is why you will see women as they get older, start, becoming much more aggressive in dating, going out, and meeting guys. Even to the point of hitting on the guys (exactly like old men, different reasons). In comparison across the room the younger girl and the way she thinks in her young age is more likely to just sit there and let men approach them. It all has to do with her feeling that her time is running out… This is every woman’s untold demon…..

With men it’s the polar opposite that’s why the wine trait you want to find and harness in the man, they actually get BETTER with age, more successful, better traveled, they have more sexual experience. And they can have children, now especially with many of the medical help he can make babies up until the day he dies. Why would he rush?

Stay Tuned it’s going to get deeper…Knowledge is knowing, Wisdom is power!...RealTalk 100

Oh no he didn't

2011-09-07T10:08:00.000+02:00

Yesterday was the beginning and today is its continuation….

I may have gotten a little ahead of myself with the info that I put out so I am going to back up a little so I can explain what the motive is behind this is and what as a woman and being a reader you will get from this and be able to do with this information

Here is what you will be able to do:

• You will be able to SEE INSIDE THE MIND of ANY man you choose. You won’t literally see his exact thoughts, but you will be able to predict, with a high level of accuracy, his emotions, feelings and future behavior. (You will know what’s going to happen before it does)

IE: Instead of hindsight you will have deadly accurate foresight

• You will have a hyper-understanding of the male mind which will CHANGE the vibe you are putting across. Believe it or not men will instinctively sense the difference between you and other girls. It mostly manifests in your facial expressions, eye contact and body language. He will know that there is something different about you. It’s just like being in a foreign country and seeing someone from your home country – you can sense it from their mannerisms and body language before you even hear them speak. It is with that instinct combined with this information that will make this all possible for you to see and view men in a way you never did before.

• You will be able to influence his behavior. Because you will understand him better than he knows himself, you will be able to behave in a way so that you are an authority, a guide to his own inner understanding which will give you unlimited persuasive power. Take caution. You will have men’s lives in your hands.

Before I move on to the things that once revealed can never be forgotten and can be used to take advantage of a person. I’m totally serious about this. This is the real information no one else has. You will not find this level of honesty and disclosure anywhere, and that is why I urge you to take a good look at yourself and ask yourself “am I really ready to take an uncensored look inside the mind of men everywhere, no matter if it’s good or bad?” If not, again, turn back. I am sure if you have read this far you have an interest of wanting to know more, please if you really do not want to know this information leave this blog now never return and your social life will continue on the path it currently is on. But if you are one of the many brave individuals out there who really want this information and knowledge that not many in this world have and change your dating adventures with men and change your fortunes keep following and step by step you will make the impossible, possible…..

So let us now get into the grits and gravy of it all. Let us take a good look into the depth’s that would classify a man as water.

WATER – This characteristic is one that can change and is the easiest to be fooled with so with this one you have to be very diligent and the polar opposite of what this trait entails.

A man with the characteristics of water will be one in which he has many women in his life FACT. I do have to say I am sorry for this fact though because it can also be very misleading; actually doing exactly what it was intended to do confuse. As much as it shames me to say, ladies you get this one wrong 95% of the time. A man that has this trait generally dose not care what you look like, your social status, how good you are in bed it is an illusion makes no difference what he is doing for you or even with you, simply if you haven’t challenged this man to change this trait to wine in a reasonable amount of time he will continue to search and add to the group until he finds a challenge to him you have something and simply one thing that some other woman may not have hence, many women…wink wink ;). If you the pretty one in the group of many “you go girl” but your only there till he finds someone prettier…sorry!! Oh and before I forget if you think that he is sleeping with all of them he most likely not. He may be sleeping with 2 or 3 out of the group but only those 2 or 3

Bottom line on this is that this trait gives meaning to don’t let the smooth taste fool you. Because it can change rapidly without warning to our next man that I will call Wine…

Wine – This man on the other hand is of a different breed he is untamable because he is already tame (do not break him) Women tend to do that not knowing that they did .OUCH! He is a strong man dedicated to one and only one at a time. This man is not a guessing game he wears his emotions on his sleeve like a badge of honor, he is proud of whom he is and will stand by his woman no matter what FACT! Oh but be very careful, because he can also be very dangerous. He can easily be water pretending to be wine to attract you, remember I said these traits are inter-changeable so you have to make sure you see this one clearly or you might get bitten.

This man trait is associated with the nurturing and caring for his woman, he wants to be with her and he will remain faithful to her, he wants to protect her like he would protect his mother. Be cautious though his attraction is to a certain female that fits his perception and he is going to attempt to fix whatever he thinks he might need to try and fix to make you perfect. This can backfire if you are saying ‘sounds easy enough” you are sadly wrong. It can go horribly wrong with this man if he fixes what he thinks is broken and you do become perfect. He’s A Man Ladies!!! He will start to revert to the characteristic water and start to search for another woman he can try and fix. I am not saying don’t let him fix you, all I am saying is you now have knowledge of this trait “KNOWLEDGE IS POWER, WISDOM IS UNDERSTANDING’

Now for all you non believers that have kept reading to this point I would like you to do me a favor if you’re female think back in your life at some point you know a man who has one of these traits I know the light bulbs are going off, use what I just said thus far and apply it to everyday life I promise you your eyes will open to things you wish you never could see….If you’re a guy I give my congrats to you for making it this far I suggest you keep reading with us cause it’s going to get much crazier as I go on and you might learn something about yourself that you didn’t know and then again I am sure you will learn about what females think of men in general stay tuned……..RealTalk 100

Game changer

2011-09-06T16:50:00.000+02:00

As this is the first official post that I promised to be explosive in nature, I hope you got on your big boy/girl underwear cause I am about to the change the game for both side’s and I believe by me doing this it is for the greater good for all of us as people to understand what makes us who we are… Once again I do welcome all input to this topic as a look to deepen the understanding….. I am writing this from my own point of observation and strictly my point of view or my opinion I just want to give you a look into what I found….

Let’s discuss time remember the blog is called “Time, Sex, And Relationships”….time as it relates to men and trust me 99% of the men that read this will all out not agree with what I have done, but I said I was going to effectively change the game. The one thing that I have learned with the women in my life is that they do not really understand men and why they act the way they do. (Gentlemen I am Sorry but our women deserve better)

Time – I want you to understand that a man’s time is a battle that he fights daily it dictates what his dating habits and tastes will be, All you really need to understand about men and their time are he has 2 choices in how he deals with it when it comes to women he is either Water or Wine everything that he does day in and out in this world is tied into his battle with time. By no means do you ever underestimate a man’s battle with time unless you know and understand his battle with it, and even then don’t underestimate it. Here’s why;

1. He has plenty of it most men this modern day have so much free time that they themselves don’t know how it happened.

2. His general upbringing will ultimately dictate his dating style and how he spends his time, but the vast majority of men do tend to change as they grow older and more experienced.

3. He will only make one choice based on 2, what you as a women have to figure out is which of his choices is he currently living presently Is he Water or is he Wine (Stay Tuned I’m going to give you the secret to figure that one out quickly)

4. This is very important lady’s, You can only change a man’s choice of water into wine one time, so pay attention to this so you are not the one who makes the mistake of turning wine into water.

Keep in mind that I am talking only about the man’s mind and his thought process to women and relationships and why it is that way….

If you want to know where I am going to go next with this topic stayed tuned there certainly more to come RealTalk 100….

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Welcome...

2011-09-06T13:47:00.001+02:00

Welcome to Time, Sex, and Relationships, A place where finally we will tackle this thing we like to call misunderstanding of the sexes, from both sides of the fence Bottom line, understand, understanding. Some of the things that I will write upon are not going to be liked, agreed with, accepted, may even piss off men and women alike. The one thing that I can promise is that at the end of the conversation on what ever given topic it was there will be some form of understanding. Ultimately that is the goal… So with that I will like to say thank you for reading and following and I hope to help many of those out there who in their lives just want and need some understanding about the things that they worry about the most…

I would like to take the opportunity to thank all the women that have given me the courage, and a lot of the insight that I will be using on this journey.

Wanda Lynn Little – I love you mama R.I.P… We are going to change the world!!!

Yvette Thomas

Daphine Thomas

Theresa Smith

Ernistine Owens – I miss you grandma R.I.P

Shannon Gonzalez

Mimi Downing

Aylin Altinkaya – I finally did it

I would also like to thank all the men of the world who for not for them this would not even be humanely possible for me to do…

On that note I leave you with this wonderful saying ‘Knowledge is knowing, Wisdom is Understanding”

IT IS HIGHLY ENCOURAGE BY MY READERS TO ASK QUESTIONS THAT YOU HAVE BEEN THINKING ABOUT IN YOUR LIFE RELATING TO TIME, SEX, AND REALTIONSHIPS AND WE WILL DO OUR BEST TO GAIN UNDERSTANDING OF IT....

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