TJ and Shelbie

Bienvenido a Miami!

2013-02-17T11:42:00.001-05:00

TJ is being transferred to Station Miami Beach, FL! We are super excited! We'll be 4.5 hours from family and finalllllly back in the Florida sunshine!

2011 Update

2011-01-08T14:47:00.009-05:00

Ok.. I'm no longer promising to be better at blogging. I can't seem to update regularly anyway. Here is the latest news in our lives:

Advancement to MK2
On 1 Jan 2011, TJ made MK2! I am so, so proud of him. I was lucky enough to pin one of his crows on him. Before the pinning, we talked a bit about it. I was telling him how proud I was and that there was a chance that I would cry. He quickly told me that crying was not allowed at these sorts of things. ;) Ok.. So it didn't go quite like that. I didn't cry, but I was just gushing with pride. I think that is allowed at those sorts of things. :)

Final Chapter of My Bachelor Degree
In January, I started my LAST semester of my Bachelor degree program! I spoke with my advisor, and I graduate June 2011! TJ and I will be driving to DC for the commencement ceremony. We're hoping to stay the weekend and do some sight seeing as well. I am so excited! I think I might be more excited about my break from school (April 2011-August 2011). Yes.. that's right. A break from school. August 2011, I am expecting to start back on my Masters in Education. I'm still trying to find a school to apply to. That is, if I don't enroll in the program my current online school offers. Online is just so convenient with our crazy lives.

Busy Year Ahead
Looking at a calendar these days kind of freaks me out. We have a week long vacation planned in March. I am SO looking forward to it! We will also have a new nephew born at the end of March/beginning of April! In June we'll have our trip to DC. Finally, in November, we'll be going to Florida. My sister is getting married!!! We're hoping to be there for a bit longer than just their wedding. We'll see what the Coast Guard says about that.

Coincidentally, today is the 1 year anniversary of TJ's grandmothers passing. I think about her quite often, as we all do. I know she's with us everyday. While we were in Florida, TJ's mother, gave me a ring that belonged to Ms. Jo. I was very honored and touched that she gave me the ring. It means a lot to me to be able to carry her with us always.

We were also lucky enough to have a friend take our pictures while we were in Florida. This is the same friend that did our wedding pictures. Here are a few of our favorites (let me tell ya, it was really hard to narrow it down. We LOVE them all!)

Ok. So finally, I want to put my New Year's Resolution in writing.. Hopefully, that'll make me stick to it!
1. Get in shape and STAY in shape. I am eating better (no processed foods, no soda, no refined sugar etc). I also have a few workout games for the Wii (Zumba and Just Dance 2). I want to make myself do these 3 times a week (at least).
2. Teach myself the ins and outs of my camera. I've had my Nikon for 1.5 years, and I have JUST started to learn about my manual focus settings. I am forcing myself to get out and take pictures. Here are a few:

and finally, 3. Get out of debt. TJ and I have a plan in place. We are going to stick to it, and be debt free by the end of the year!

Well, that's it for now. Hopefully, I'll remember to update again soon :)

A New Year

2010-02-08T22:46:00.003-05:00

Well.. I am going to try to be better at this. The truth is, we aren't very exciting people ;).

Anyway, the beginning of this year has been hectic. And I wish that wasn't the case. Sadly, TJ lost his grandmother at the beginning of the year. Ms. Jo passed away very unexpectedly on January 8th. We are all missing her everyday. She was a great woman. TJ and I both designed a tattoo's to get in memory of her. TJ's tattoo says "I go to prepare a place for you so you too can have everlasting life." It means a lot to him. I got a butterfly with the words fly free over it. The butterfly is significant because the hospital staff placed a paper butterfly on her door just after she passed. Anyway, we got the tattoo's for Ms. Jo, but we both know that if she were here, she would have been right next to us getting a tattoo of her own. <3

Not much else has changed. We're still adjusting to the cold. Connecticut is VERY different than anywhere else we've lived. Everything is different here. We are trying to make the most out of our adventure up here. We've made some great friends and have made some great memories.

TJ is adjusting to the station life okay. It's definitely different than the last two boats he was on. He also just started back to school full time. He and I both take courses through AMU. He's working on his Bachelors in Criminal Justice and I am working on my Bachelors in Religious Studies.

TJ handed in his paperwork to take the SWE in May. After he takes the exam, he'll be placed on a list to make MK2. We are both very excited, and TJ deserves it. He's worked hard to get here and I am VERY proud of him <3.

Anyway, I'll try to keep up with this. Thanks for reading :)

Another update.

2009-07-14T22:26:00.003-04:00

Well, it's official. I am NO good at blogging. Maybe now that things have settled down I'll be able to blog more often. Ah heck, who am I kidding? I'll most likely forget about it for 3 months again ;).

Anyway, we are in Connecticut. TJ has started work at the station. Station life is definitely different than what we are used to. Does it make any sense that I'd rather him be gone for 8 weeks than 2 days? It seems much less lonely to have him gone for 8 weeks- don't ask me how, it just does. Hopefully, his schedule will calm down by the end of the month. He's working his tail off to get his qualifications done and I am so so proud of him.

Hmm.. let's see. Oh, I'll be a full time student in about 3 weeks! Yay! I'll be going back for my Bachelors in Sociology. That's my major for now. I'm sure I'll change it a few dozen times before I graduate. I've enjoyed the time off. A lot happened during my break. Let's recap: TJ started terminal leave, TJ started AND finished a semester of college, I started working part time (eek!) and quit working once I found out we'd be leaving, TJ and I made the decision for him to reenlist in the Coast Guard, and we move 1300 miles up the east coast. Phew... I think that is it.

So the house is pretty much unpacked. I just need to bribe TJ into hanging my pictures. Yeah, that'll happen- pshh ;). The dogs are adjusting. I'm sure they are just glad to be out of that truck. I thought for sure they were going to go insane.

As well as working on his qualifications for the station, TJ is working hard to get his stuff in order to make 2nd class. I know he wants to make 2nd so bad and he deserves it. It will be a huge step in his career.

I'm still trying to decide what it is I want to do with my life and career. In all honesty, I would LOVE to be a part of an animal rescue. I tell TJ all the time, it breaks my heart in a million pieces to hear about an animal that is homeless or abused. I want so bad to help put an end to animal cruelty and find all of these loving animals homes, I just don't know where to start. I feel helpless and so guilty because I can't help.

Anyway, I've gotten a bit off track. That is pretty much all that is new with us right now. I promise to try to update more regularly :).

-Shelbie

Another update.

2009-04-27T08:04:00.002-04:00

Well, TJ and I found out Friday that we're being transferred. We'll be going to New Haven, CT. We're both excited and nervous. We are so used to the south, and the north is going to be a big change! Anyway, we'll be transferring around June or July.

There isn't much else to update on. I'll be going back to school for my Bachelors once we move. TJ has made it through his first semester of college. He didn't suffer to bad.. haha!

Well, I need to get on here and upload some new pictures. I'll update again.. soon :).

Short Update.

2009-01-17T22:56:00.002-05:00

Here are a few pictures of our vegetable garden. We had to plant them in pots and keep them inside because of the weather. As it turns out, I don't have a black thumb! I made something grow!!

Anyway, here they are:

Our Garden

2009-01-04T10:47:00.008-05:00

FINALLY! I started my garden! I told TJ, "All I want for Christmas is a vegetable garden." Well, he got me a little more than that, but we finally started the garden. Right now we're using an indoor "greenhouse" to start the seeds out in. We planted them 5 days ago and they are sprouting and growing like crazy! Here are a few pictures!

01 January 2009

2009-01-01T18:03:00.005-05:00

Wow. It's 2009 already! I can't believe it, but it's here. TJ and I have had such a good and BUSY 2008, it is going to be hard to remember all the good stuff. Let's give it a shot, shall we.

-TJ and I decided to get out of the Coast Guard Active Duty and go Reserve.
-TJ and I became an Uncle and an Aunt! Our beautiful neice, Hailey, was born in June.
-I graduated with my Associates Degree! Woo hoo!
-TJ enrolled in his first semester of college!
-TJ and I celebrated our 3rd wedding anniversary in September and our 7th anniversary together in October!
-TJ and I were able spend a lot of time with our family this whole year after being away for 2 years.

Phew.. we had a really busy and blessed year! We are definitley looking forward to making 2009 just as good, if not better.

TJ and I both made New Year's Resolutions to get healthy together. Eating better and excercising more regularly. We even started my vegetable garden!! We'll be growing everything from peppers to parsley! I can't wait!

Well, that's it for now. I'll try to update more regularly...

Not really an update..

2008-11-18T22:14:00.002-05:00

Well, there isn't much new in our lives. TJ is currently in Baltimore working on the boat. When the boat makes the trip back to St. Petersburg, it will be TJ's last official underway trip.

He told me the other day that his first day of terminal leave will be January 21st. Terminal leave... Wow. That sounds so official. Even though TJ will still be in the Reserve, it is still a scary feeling to know that he'll no longer be active duty. We have talked about it and talked about it. We know we're making the right choice for us. It is scary because the Coast Guard and military life is all we've known. We're used to the military life, and the military schedule- or lack of schedule.

This is going to be a big change for us. It is a change that we're excited about. In January TJ will be starting school and I will be taking a break from school. Hopefully, I'll be working. Surprisingly, TJ is excited about going to school. Anyone who knows TJ, knows he never really liked school.

Anyway, that is pretty much it. Exciting, I know. Thanks for reading. I'll update again soon- hopefully!

Not much of an update...

2008-10-16T22:59:00.003-04:00

Well I am no good at blogging on a regular basis! There isn't much new in our lives. TJ is still working.. all the time. I am still in school. I will be graduating in December though! Anyway, TJ and I are still exploring the new town we live in. It is close to Tarpon Springs, and we are lucky enough to be able to spend some time there. It really is pretty there.

Anyway, last weekend Brittney, Hailey and Lundy came to visit. It was so nice to see how big Hailey is getting. She is so much more alert and awake now. TJ and I couldn't keep our hands off of her. She's just too sweet.

We spent the weekend hanging out, watching the Gator game against LSU (GO GATORS!), and walking around Tarpon Springs for a little while.

Here are a few pictures.

I'll update again soon...

Wow.. it's been a while.

2008-09-21T09:23:00.002-04:00

It's been a while since I last posted on here. Here is a little update on us. We just recentley moved. We were in Gibsonton and now we live in Holiday. It is closer to work for TJ and it's closer to family. So far we really like it over here. In other news, TJ and I have been discussing him going overseas for 1 year. The Coast Guard put out a solicitation for MK3's and TJ called me to see what I thought. It is something that he is really interested in doing. It would be really good for his career and it would be a really good experience for him. We're still talking about it and we still have a little bit of time before he has to make his decision. When we make a decision- we'll update everyone!

Thanks for reading!

Some more of Hailey <3

2008-08-07T07:46:00.003-04:00

Look at how sweet!!

Look at that face! She was getting mad at us for messing with her while she was sleeping. Yep, she's a Bible!

Hailey and I. Isn't she beautiful?!?!?!

Hailey wearing the outfit TJ picked out for her <3.>

Brittney and Hailey.

How sweet is this?! TJ and Hailey.

So, so sweet!! <3>

Some pictures of Hailey

2008-07-04T16:05:00.003-04:00

Look at that grin!

Our beautiful niece, Hailey.

Yes, Brittney.... I stole these pictures from your myspace. We don't have any close up like these :).

Sailor of the Quarter (and other news)

2008-07-02T13:12:00.004-04:00

Well, TJ just found out Saturday that he was chosen as Sailor of the Quarter for CGC Resolute! He got a letter, a day of special liberty, a parking spot next to the Captains, his name on a plaque on the boat, and head of the breakfast and lunch line. In the letter it stated, among other reasons, that he received the award because of his hard work, his "sharply pressed ODU with highly polished boots", and his drive to get things done.

He also got a Good Conduct award, medal, and ribbon because he has not been in trouble in time that he has been in. I am so so proud of him and I can't think of anyone that deserves these 2 awards more than him. Ok.. so maybe I'm a little biased. But anyone who knows TJ, knows he is a hard worker. I can't think of any day that he wasn't pressing is uniforms or shining his boots.
He is a hard worker and it paid off!

Here are a few pictures of TJ receiving the awards. Next to TJ is the CO of the Resolute.

In other news, TJ found out yesterday that he was accepted to Hillsborough County Sheriffs Office Law Enforcement Academy. He applied to the Academy a few weeks ago, and the day after he submitted his application online, the detective recruiter called to speak with TJ. The detective that he spoke with was very impressed with TJ's resume as well as his qualifications. I am so so proud of TJ for all of his hard work and accomplishments.

We have not made a decision to get out or stay in the Coast Guard, but we are very relieved to have this as another option. We are going to make our decision in November, and we'll definitely keep everyone updated. Thanks for reading :).

We are an Uncle and an Aunt!!

2008-06-28T15:42:00.004-04:00

We are an aunt and an uncle! On 26 June 2008 at 23:13 Hailey Marie arrived. She weighed 7 lbs 12 oz and she has a head full of hair! She is beautiful!

Brittney's water broke at about 6 am that morning, and I got a call at about 630 from Mr. Tim. He told me that they were on their way to the hospital and I said I'll be there as soon as I can.

I packed and left immediately. TJ wasn't able to be there because he is out on a patrol right now, but he'll be pulling into port tomorrow and then driving home so we can go back to Inglis to see Hailey.

Our Adventure in Chattanooga, TN

2008-06-24T17:44:00.007-04:00

Moving to Chattanooga was a great experience. We had never lived on our own before and there we were, making the 7 hour drive to Chattanooga the day after our wedding with a U Haul trailer in tow. It was great and sad at the same time. We had to move away from our family. Saying goodbye to my mom and sister was another really difficult time that still brings tears to my eyes. My sister and I were finally friends, just like my mom always said we would be. And my mom was more than a mom to me, she was one of my best friends.

Once we got there and unpacked, the real adventure began. I thought, "Oh boy. I'm really married and I am really doing this." Being married and living together meant TJ was going to see me at my worse. I stayed out at his house enough to be considered living together before we were married, but this was different. This meant he'd see me at my worse. I'm talking my sweats and non-matching T-shirt, without makeup, occasionally with a mud mask, cleaning the toilet worse. Amazingly, after he saw me like that he still loved me. Whatta guy!

Being married and living together was a big change but so was walking into a room full of people (or in my case, a bowling alley) you'd never met before and attempting to make friends. That was very difficult for me, especially because I was the youngest person there- well, besides Grayson <3. I felt like most people thought they were babysitting me even though no on ever made me feel that way. After a while, though, I made some of the greatest friends. Friends I'll always have and friends that I can always count on- even if it is a MySpace chat. Some of the best memories TJ and I share are from Chattanooga and from the friends that we made there.

We had all kinds of great times in Chattanooga. We camped just about every weekend, we went to UFC fights at Jessie and Todd's house, we even made a few trips to Knoxville, Nashville, and Gatlinburg. We were so blessed to have been able to do all of that so young.

I was lucky enough to not have to work and so I started college in Chattanooga. Chattanooga State Technical Community College. That was a big step for me. I had only been out of school for a year when I started back. And it felt great, a little overwhelming at times, but great.

Chattanooga has a lot of sentimental value for us. That was where we had our first apartment and made so many memories. Man, oh man, that apartment. I do miss it. It was so very hard to leave it when we moved. TJ had left for MK A School about a week before I left to go to Florida. After everything had been moved to storage and my sister, her boyfriend, and I were getting ready to leave. I went back inside to make sure we didn't miss anything and started crying. I sat in the middle of our bedroom floor and cried. It was very difficult to close that chapter of our lives, but I knew that another wonderful chapter was about to begin. I still get a little misty-eyed thinking about it. I know that one day we'll go back. We absolutely love Chattanooga.

Well I just had to take a stroll down memory lane ;).

Our Life Today

2008-06-23T11:04:00.000-04:00

Our life today is wonderful. It is getting close to time for TJ and I to decide whether he is going to reenlist with the Coast Guard or get out. We are trying to look at all of our options and make the best choice for us. We are also looking at what decision is going to make us happy. The time we've spent together while TJ has been in has been great. It truly is an adventure. The Coast Guard has really taken care of us and we really do love being a part of the Coast Guard- it is like a huge family. The separation is what has been the hardest.

I am trying very hard not to complain because I really do understand how much worse it could be. This is just pretty tough. It isn't something you get used to really.

As for me, I am in school full time. I am planning on graduating in December of this year with my AA in Business from St. Petersburg College. It is a very exciting time for us. I wouldn't have been able to get through school if it wasn't for the support TJ has given me. He has been really great. Depending on what our next adventure is, I am thinking about starting again in January for my Bachelors Degree. We will see what happens.

The Beginning

2008-06-22T20:19:00.001-04:00

Hmmm.. where do I start? I've never really "blogged" before. Well, I created this blog as a way to keep all of our family, near and far, up to date on our lives. I guess I can start from the beginning.

TJ and I have been together since October 3, 2001. We began dating in middle school after becoming very close friends. We weren't always friends, though. TJ used to aggravate me to no end. When we were in 5th and 6th grade together, he'd follow me, try to talk to me, boy.. he'd love that I'm sharing this story. Anyway, he became a very close friend of mine when I went through some tough times in middle school. Soon after, we began dating. We dated through middle school and high school. We even got back together after a short break up in high school.
Fast forward to after graduation. TJ decided that he wanted to join the United States Coast Guard. He had always talked about it and was practically born and raised on a boat. I thought, "Okay. Cool- Coast Guard." I guess I was never expecting him to go. I assumed he'd go to a law enforcement academy and become a cop- his dream job since he was a kid. He enlisted in the beginning of 2005 and left for bootcamp in Cape May, NJ April 5, 2005.

The next 8 weeks were the toughest of my life. I truly knew nothing about the Coast Guard until he went in. I researched and read anything and everything I could about the Coast Guard. A few weeks before graduation, TJ called to tell us where he had been stationed- on CGC Ouachita in Chattanooga, TN. This was very hard for me to absorb. I had never been to Chattanooga before and didn't even know how far of a drive it was. But again, I researched anything and everything I could about Chattanooga, TN.

The time had come to go to TJ's graduation from bootcamp. I started looking at airline tickets and talking them over with TJ's dad, Tim. Tim quickly said, "Oh, we're not flying; we're driving." I thought, "Dear God, an 18 hour car ride with the same man who farts in the car and locks all the windows so you can't get a breath of fresh air. Okay.. I'll do it for TJ." Just kidding, Mr. Tim.. ;). So TJ's dad, his sister, his friend, my mom, and myself packed the truck full and set out to Cape May. That was an interesting trip. Finally, we arrived in Cape May at our hotel.

Later on that day (the night before TJ's graduation), we took a trip down to the Cape May Training Center to take a peek. We were a little disappointed when the guard at the gate insisted we could not go on base "just to look around" when really, we all wanted to go knocking on doors trying to find TJ. So we went back to the hotel to sleep and await daylight so we could finally see TJ graduate.

The morning we had all been waiting 8 long weeks for was finally here, May 27, 2005. We showered, got dressed and scooted out the door to be first in line for graduation. The hour we had before the graduation couldn't have gone by any faster. The ceremony finally started and before we knew it, it was over. We were all racing to TJ as soon as they announced we could. It was very emotional and quite a shock. This person I was hugging and kissing wasn't the same as the person who left, and still he was. He was much more mature and disciplined, but still very warm hearted and kind, not to mention incredibly handsome in his uniform. He walked very squared away and with every salute he gave to his superiors, with every hand that he shook, I was overcome with a wonderful feeling of pride. That was my boyfriend standing in that uniform and this was going to be our life. If I hadn't known before (which I secretly always had), I knew then- this was going to be the man I spent the rest of my life with.

Anyway, we all hopped back in the truck and after a nice long dinner with most of TJ's family, we headed back to Florida. While in Florida, TJ had 15 days until he had to report to Chattanooga, TN. In that time, TJ planned a nice quick trip to St. Augustine (one of my most FAVORITE places in the world) where he proposed in the gazebo in St. Augustine's Square. It was incredibly romantic and very much a surprise to me. Of course I said yes! 3 days later, he had to go to Chattanooga. I rode with him up there and his dad was behind us. We hung out with him for the day and headed out that night.

TJ came to Florida when he could over the next 2 months. He was working hard and still trying to get out of the negative with his leave. Finally, we decided we wanted to get married, soon. We set the wedding date while he was home one weekend and with the help of my mom and sister, we began the planning immediately. September 17, 2005 we were married in Yankeetown, FL in the Winding River Gardens Gazebo.
Well I think this is a pretty good first blog.. long but good. I'll write again later!