To Get A Date

How to get a date in the next 24HRS.

noreply@blogger.com (Omar Erwin) — Mon, 14 Jan 2013 23:36:00 +0000

To Get a Date

Today in 2013 those of us who are not married (happily) or involved in an ongoing relationship are looking for that special someone. Some of us go through all kinds of different methods and techniques to find REAL love.

I get many inquiries from singles who don't want to be lonely while their family and friends are cozily spending quality time together. These singles don't want to be alone, they want to have fun with someone!
So I got creative. If you're single and want to have fun with someone here are five ways to get a date within 24 hours.

One qualifier... in Conscious Dating a "fun" date is recreational dating, the purpose of which is to have fun, not find a long term partner, therefore anyone fun qualifies. Therefore, you don't need to carefully choose someone who is highly aligned with your requirements and highly attractive to you. The hard part of recreational dating is keeping it fun and not getting involved. Believe it or not, it's easiest to do this with someone that clearly is not a good match for you!

With that qualifier in mind here are some ideas-

1. Date your Ex

   Got your attention? It's not as crazy as you might think! If you have a cordial relationship with an ex, why not? You know each other well and know how to have fun together.

2. Date out of your league

   We get so focused on finding "the one," wouldn't it be fun to take a break and date someone significantly older or younger, of a different race or gender, etc, than usual? Recreational dating is easiest when it's with people we clearly wouldn't choose for long term, so how about dating someone dramatically different from your usual pattern?

3. Post a contest on Craig's List

   "Win a date with me!" contest. Entrants submit a description of what they propose to do on their date with you, and you choose the one that seems the most fun. People cruise Craig's List and similar online communities for things to do, places to go, and people to meet. DO NOT use this strategy for anything other than recreational dating!

4. Date a "loser"

I know I'm going to get flak for this one... but search personal ads for the most pathetic lost soul you can find who would be happy to go out for a little fun and let loose, knowing it's a one-time thing. Someone who you wouldn't ordinarily consider dating in a million years. Who knows? You might have fun and learn something about yourself and the human race.

5. Date a family member or friend

Wouldn't it be nice to have fun with one of your kids, your brother or sister, mother or father, or a friend? Take this opportunity to get to have fun with them and get to know them better by breaking your usual pattern with them and go out to a dinner and play, etc.

If these strategies don't appeal to you and you want more than fun, you want a relationship, then take care of yourself by not settling for less and continue your quest for your life partner. In the meantime, I recommend spending quality time with your family and friends, and perhaps widening your social circle by making new friends. Not only will this help you get your social and emotional needs met while you're single, but here's a secret... most people meet their soul mate through doing random and sometimes ordinary everyday things!

To Get A Date

noreply@blogger.com (Omar Erwin) — Fri, 11 Jan 2013 02:39:00 +0000

To get a date is not too complicated, but rather a balance of how you carry yourself and who you choose to date. This a universal law that applies to both men and women. If you are having problems with finding a date you should ask yourself some questions.

Am I attractive?

This is a necessary evil that I have to get into. I don't mean to offend ANYBODY but the world that we live in today is biased. Bottom line. Attractive people will find that getting a date is not the problem. Their problem when it comes to dating is dating the RIGHT person. Attractive people have people flirting, and hitting on them all the time. So if these caliber of people find themselves in bad relationship after bad relationship it's more than likely that they keep choosing the wrong people. For the not so attractive person those people have to work a little harder. Your attitude can make you unattractive or it can make you extra attractive. I have seen some people that are physically beautiful, but their attitude turned them into an ugly person in my mind eye. And at the same time I have ran across people who were ugly to me until I got to know their personality and then all of a sudden I start to see the beauty in them that I would not have seen had I not took the time to get to know them.

What kind of person are you?

In order to get a date with the right person you must ask yourself this question. If you don't know the answer just ask some of the people who you have known for a long time. By asking other people what they think of you you can get an outside perspective of who you are and what you are about. Some of us have the talent to give great evaluations of ourselves, but still it is best to get second opinions just to confirm your own observations. Sometimes when tend to not see what other people pick up on. The answer to this question is very important because of a thing called the law of attraction. This universal law affects everything in the universe. If you are always in a negaitive state of mind you can expect for MOST of you memorable life experiences to be negative. Even if you are talented enough fool everyone around you there is no escaping the energy that you attract to. This also applies to a positive state of mind. The law of attraction is something that was created along with the universe. So in order to get a date with that special someone you must think and act like that person to whom you want to marry.

How To Get a Date

noreply@blogger.com (Omar Erwin) — Thu, 10 Jan 2013 03:44:00 +0000

Hello,
My name is Omar Erwin, and I am a 36 year old black man. This is quite embarrassing because I don't know who will be reading this because I do plan on publishing this letter? to the internet. You may know me personally or you may not, but the possibility of you knowing who I am is enough. But at the same time those of you who don't know me could very well benefit from this information. And so I push forward.
OK. I have been told that I am not a bad looking guy. Some women have even called me very attractive. I don't know but I don't let those positive opinions go to my head and assume that to get a date for me will be a breeze. Sometimes, well most times a woman doesn't always go by how a man looks. That is a factor though. As a young teenager my step-dad used to literally push me into talking to girls to get their phone numbers when we would be out in public and my mom wasn't around. This was a big thing to me back then because by nature I am a shy person. He may have only done that to satisfy his own conscience by knowing that his son wasn't gay. No offense to the gay community but my family is old school traditional and being gay is not approved of. Anyway those moments helped to build up my confidence when approaching women with the intent of getting a date with them. Back then I was what you would call a player. Me and my cousin used to be in competition. As I can recall I think I juggled up to 9 girls at one time. It was quite fun and time consuming. I played the game well enough to not get caught up. Ever.
Unfortunately for me I was wild and not respectful of the law back then. When I turned 18 I went to jail and couldn't seem to stay out of trouble all the way up until I turned 32. Yeah that's a long time. during those years somewhere along the way I lost my ability to get a date with the women I prefer to date. Maybe it was the years of incarceration, not being able to keep my mackadocious skills sharp because I was living around nothing but men. Maybe it was my self-conscience embarrassment of having a criminal background. It could have been the fact that I was broke without a job. But what I believe it was the most was the fact that my self-esteem had dropped to an all time low. A direct result of living my life the wrong way as a young man and digging myself a hole so deep it seemed impossible to climb out of.
And at 36 I am still somewhat embarrassed about my background but I have a nice relationship with God and now I am finally on the right path. That being said if you are a man who is feeling not so confident when it comes to women, don't be. Stand in the mirror and look at yourself. Smile. Frown. Look at yourself with a blank expression. Doing these things over and over will help you to visualize how you look to other people when you are engaged in conversation with them. If you are like I was, you might feel self-conscience when you get to talking to people especially women you don't know. This can be overcome. All it takes is a little self-encouragement. A little practice. I'm here to tell you that when you approach a woman to get a date with her and she gives you even a little attention you do have a shot at getting a date. And if you get turned down don't let that bother you. Even the most attractive man in the world is not able to get a date with ANY woman on the planet.
There is nothing like that feeling when you feel like you can’t find Ms./Mr. Right. Or having to seek out prostitutes/gigalos in order to get your rocks off. I am a living witness, trust me.

To Get a Date 4

noreply@blogger.com (Omar Erwin) — Tue, 08 Jan 2013 23:55:00 +0000

To Get a Date - Signs That It's Working

Is she looking at your lips? If she's looking at your lips, you have a green light to go forward. If she's looking at your eyes, you may want to wait a second, or turn around and turn back again and try it again. This resets the meter in her mind, so to speak. When you turn around and turn back again, most people consider this to be a fresh start in a conversation. It's a strange loop-hole in psychology.
For some reason, that's how we are as humans. When someone turns away then turns back, we give them another chance moving forward. So if you're getting some resistance, turn around, turn back, smile, and continue. If she gives you resistance again, you probably should back off and find another woman.

If she's looking at your lips and seems to be very comfortable and excited, then proceed. You'll move in very closely and speak almost directly into her ear.

!Important!

In a loud environment like a bar, you'll want to speak louder, but don't raise your voice. Make your voice very low so that you have to be very, very close to her ear for her to hear. Then you're going to keep talking... What I usually say is, "No one is going to see this. It's just going to be our little secret. I promise I won't tell anybody only if you promise that you won't tell anybody either."

As I'm saying this into her ear, I make sure that she's feeling my breath on her neck. So I'm sort of breathing out a little bit more than normal as I'm speaking so she can feel that hot air on her neck. Please don't have toilet mouth while doing this. This usually gets a very visceral, deep, sexual response from women when you do this.

As you're speaking really close to her ear, you'll, very slowly, press your cheek against hers as you're talking. Then you'll move your head over so that your mouth is closer to hers, and then... you'll start kissing her. And if you do this right, you start out with just one soft peck... then stop and ask for that date. Or even better, take her to a more private setting. By now you have won her over and in total control. This process can happen in a lot less than 40 seconds - I've done it in less time, and I've seen other guys do it, too.

To Get A Date - 3

noreply@blogger.com (Omar Erwin) — Sat, 05 Jan 2013 18:56:00 +0000

Here's how to get a date

This is where the most powerful kind of frame control comes in. It's very, very important that you understand how to control someone else's frame if you want to come across like you're a pro at this to get a date. By "frame," I basically mean their "reality." You're controlling what they experience. You have to be able to stay in control of that experience in order to really bring her to the level where she feels comfortable going on a date and making out with you immediately. I'm going to give you a very quick, punchy, fast way of doing this. I'll explain as quick as possible; that way you can go straight out and try it...

Here's what I would say, word-for-word... Walk up to a girl, when you get up to her and right when she makes eye contact with you, I want you to SLOWLY put your finger up by your lips and say this, "Shhh…" Then slow your speech pattern down and deepen your vocal tonality. And immediately say, "Wait just one moment." You can also say, "Stop for one minute." I suggest using a bit of ingenuity here. Whenever someone hears "stop," "wait," or "don't," they immediately register whatever comes after that.

So if I say, "Don't think of a black cat," what do you do? Immediately, you think of a black cat and whatever version of one you have in your head. So if I said, "Don't try to go on a date with me," or "Don't go on a date with me right now," girls are going to be consciously hearing, "Don't go on a date with me," but their subconscious minds will be hearing, "Go on a date out with me right now!" You're attempting to sort of use real-life Inception to get going on a date to be HER idea. She should be thinking, "I should go out with this guy."

Now, during frame control you'll be using a lot of these subconscious triggers in order to get this to go as fast as possible. Please only use this for good. There are lots of evil ways to use this. Don't try to seduce women who don't want to be seduced. Again, that's one of the reasons why it's important that you notice a woman who really does want to be seduced by a man.

So to recap so far: you walk up, you put your finger over your lips and you tell her to "Shhh" for a second and then you say a sentence that starts with "don't" or "wait" or "stop." My typical is "Don't worry... right now." That's all I say. And I slow that speech down – "Don't…worry…....... right now."

Then I go right into the next statement, which is, "You and I are going to have a secret. We're going to secretly kiss and no one will know." And as I'm saying this, I'm leaning in... and you'll be doing the same when you do it. You're leaning in ever... so... slowly. At the same time, you're looking from her eyes down to her lips and back up to her eyes again. This is called "Triangulating." Count to three looking at her eyes, then look down to her lips and count to two, look back up and count to three, look down and count to two... etc. Do that about three or four times as you're talking. This can be a lot to remember, so you may want to practice it a little bit. I wouldn't expect you're going to get it perfect the first time.

So again, you say, "We're going to have a secret. We're going to kiss and no one is going to know." From here on out, you're really just filling up space with words as you're leaning in so you're still controlling the interaction. So you're going to very, very slowly, take your right or left hand – whichever one is more accessible – and reach around her back. You won't pull her in toward you or anything yet, just touch her very lightly.

To Get A Date - 2

noreply@blogger.com (Omar Erwin) — Fri, 04 Jan 2013 22:13:00 +0000

To Get A Date

What To Look For

The first indicator is a woman looking down often. When a woman looks down often, she is accessing her emotions. Let me explain... When we look in different directions, we access different parts of our brain. These are called "Eye Accessing Cues." When a woman is in a bar setting and looking down, she's accessing her emotional brain.

If she makes eye contact with you, looks down then back up again, she's saying: "I have an emotional response to you looking at me and I'm looking down." And if she tilts her head down as well (and doesn't just use her eyes to look down), she's physically dropping herself a little bit lower and showing submission. This gives you the ability to walk up and be the dominant man.

Now, if she looks at you, smiles and doesn't look away, this could be a lot more difficult situation. Socially, she's meeting you head on, and not showing immediate submission. Women who you're going to be able to get a date with in 40 seconds or less should automatically take the submissive role as a woman. That's one quality which shows you'll be able to get a date and quickly make out with her.

Another quality is that she's actively looking around to make eye contact. This is crucial. A woman who is engaged with someone specifically and she's not looking away is not going to be as easy to get a date with in 40 seconds or less. It's going to take much longer. Again, you're going to have to play a totally different kind of game when you walk up. You can't just walk up and make out with her. So instead, if you see a woman who is in a conversation but she's constantly looking around and trying to make eye contact with a lot of people, this is probably a very, very likely opportunity for you and that's a woman you can walk up to and immediately become sexual with.

Other traits are revealed in the way they're moving and how they're dressed. Let's say she's standing with her feet about shoulder-width apart. It's less likely that a woman standing like this is going to be available for you to walk up and dominate. That's because she's standing in a dominant position, with stronger body language and she'll probably be a lot more resistant. Instead, you want to find a woman who takes up less space. She has her legs closer together and seems to be outside of a group, looking around a little bit.

Another thing is the way she's dressed. If she's dressed in a way that's super flashy and attracting lots of attention, she probably isn't the kind of girl you can walk up to get a date with in 40 seconds.
This kind of women is looking for attention - not for someone to dominate them. What you want is someone who's in between "I don't care" and "Stare at my tits, bitch!" Somewhere between wearing sweatpants with an elastic waistband to the bar and done up really, really beautiful and sexy with a really low-cut shirt. You want to find someone who's in between those two extremes.A lot of women who are on vacation fall into this realm. They don't want to over dress or under dress, and don't know how the bar atmosphere is going to be. They'll usually come in open-minded, and start looking around trying to make connections. This is an excellent situation for you (and her, of course).
That's what to look for and how you spot her in the first place. If you see some of those, you want to watch her for a second. If you think that she is the kind of person you can walk up to and do this, then proceed.If not, I'd actually suggest you proceed anyway, just to see what happens.

Next, right after you get that done and you've seen your girl (there are probably three or four of these girls in a bar at any given moment) you're going to walk up and start the scary part.

To Get a Date - Part 1

noreply@blogger.com (Omar Erwin) — Wed, 02 Jan 2013 22:25:00 +0000

If you've ever seen a guy in a bar walk up to a girl he didn't know and make out with her almost immediately, it can be a completely mind-blowing experience. Especially if you yourself are trying to get a date It may seem like it's magical or out of reach - a special ability or super-power that someone is born with. But it's not. And it can be broken down into a few simple steps you can follow in order to make the same thing happen for you. I'm going to break down those steps.

The first step to get a date is to realize that about 90% of the difference between someone who's really good with women and someone who's not so good or mediocre with women, is the ability to spot a woman who's ready to make out.

I know it sounds kind of crazy at first, but it's true. If you walk into a bar and go up to any woman without knowing what signs to look for, your odds of success go WAY down. You must know how to spot that woman who's already in this "make-out ready" state, so you can walk up and be "that guy" and get a date.

Don't buy into the myth that women don't want this to happen.

Women are as sexual (if not more sexual) than guys are. Most of the time, this "turbo" make-out session never happens, because so many guys are afraid to go for it. And when this doesn't happen, the girls end up going home alone or worse.. stay being kind of mean to a lot of guys in the bar, being resentful and angry because no one's approaching them the right way.

By putting this technique into practice, in order to get a date you want to discover how to see the women who you're able to make out with in 40 seconds or less in the first place. There are a few excellent indicators that will (especially in a bar atmosphere) tell you if a woman is game, or ready for an instant make-out session.This is a sure fire way to get a date