Tokii.com, one of the world’s most relied upon relationship management website platforms for couples, just launched its Kony2012 DiscoveryGame in order to gain feedback, get people talking about the issues, and boost awareness on Kony. Each week Tokii.com offers a number of new DiscoveryGames relating to an array of topics like current events, politics, travel, holidays, love, romance, and sex.

Kony is now in the public eye big time since the world has learned of how he and his LRA regime kidnapped over 30, 000 children so they could work in its rebel group. Under Kony’s ruse, he made young boys and men soldiers, and sadly, young girls and women into “wives” and sex slaves since forming the LRA in 1986, according to the Associated Press.

“The social media world has exploded with so much response this week following the launch of a documentary titled Kony 2012,” says Karla Stephens-Tolstoy, founder and CEO of Tokii.com. “The 30 minute documentary is now posted on YouTube and Vimeo, and as March 20, 2012, the film was viewed over 80 million times. This demonstrates the power of social media and how people want to talk about the issues at hand.”

The documentary, which was directed and produced by Jason Russell for the campaign group Invisible Children Inc, was made in an effort to increase US involvement in capturing a the man who founded the LPA.

“Tokii.com and its Kony 2012 DiscoveryGame is yet another effective tool in promoting awareness of Kony. Simply put, Tokii.com and its members want to make a difference and feel the need to participate in our DiscoveryGame,” says Tolstoy.

Tolstoy points to some thought-provoking results from members who participated in the Kony 2012 DiscoveryGame. “Interestingly, the majority of men feel that he will be killed rather than being captured, while the majority of women suggest he will be caught this year.”

She adds, “A point to highlight from our data is that while both men and women feel the use of social media is effective in creating awareness on the issue involving Kony, our members strongly feel that the negative media attention in the end will not make a difference in the end.”

Of course while the Kony 2012 documentary has generated chatter, so has Russell himself, the film’s director who was involved in a scandal only days ago. Despite this however, men and women with Tokii.com don’t feel it does not alter the problem.

Click on the following link to play game: Kony 2012 Tokii.com DiscoveryGame

The data collected form the Kony 2012 DiscoveryGame on Tokii.com is valuable as it serves as a snapshot of the viewpoints from global citizens.

Joseph Kony has been able to continue his brutality for over 20 years; Do I think the international community will be able to catch him in 2012?

27% of men, 59% of women: Yes, this is the year

9% of men, 29% of women: No, he’ll continue to elude them

64% of men, 12 % of women: He’ll like be killed, not caught

With this latest negative media attention, do I think the KONY 2012 Campaign will be able to actually make a difference?

12% of men, 12% of women: Heck yes!

12% of men, 12% of women: Impossible to say

75% of men, 75% of women: No

How do I feel about the KONY 2012 campaign after the scandal involving co-founder Jason Russell?

33% of men, 33% of women: Doesn’t change the issue

17% of men, 28% of women: Less optimistic

25% of men, 28% of women: Cynical

25% of men, 11% of women: Totally ruined the momentum

Why do I think the organizers want to make Joseph Kony “famous” for his crimes?

50% of men, 59% of women: To spread awareness

42% of men, 29% of women: To get the attention of the US Government

8% of men, 12% of women: Easier to unite against a known villain

What do I think is most effective about the KONY 2012 campaign?

17% of men, 39% of women: It appeals to youth

33% of men, 22% of women: Its use of Facebook

25% of men, 22% of women: That is expires on December 31, 2012

25% of men, 17% of women: It’s a twist on fame/celebrity

Do I agree with the organizer targeting the youth to generate support?

50% of men, 37% of women: Yes, youth can influence adults

25% of men, 26% of women: No, youth are easily swayed

25% of men, 37% of women: If it works, who cares

The organizers of Invisible Children have been criticized for spending large amounts of donations on travel and production costs. Do I think the expenses are justified?

42% of men, 33% of women: Absolutely! It’s about awareness, not aid

25% of men, 39% of women: No, the money was misspent

33% of men, 28% of women: Not sure, don’t know enough  yet

Do I think the larger issue of the use of child soldiers is getting lost in all the focus on Kony himself in the media?

42% of men, 44% of women: Yes, it’s not discussed enough

42% of men, 22% of women: No, that is the focus

17% of men, 33% of women: Aren’t they one and the same?

What do I think of the KONY 2012 campaign’s use of Social Media to spread the word and get people aware of Joseph Kony?

67% of men, 71% of women: It’s relevant and effective

8% of men, 6% of women: It’s purely opportunistic

17% of men, 12% of women: Hey, it’s free advertising

8% of men, 12% of women: Did not like it

If the KONY 2012 campaign works, do I think it will set a new precedence for going after other international criminals?

45% of men, 59% of women: It will definitely influence other cases

45% of men, 24% of women: It may help with catching other warlords

9% of men, 18% of women: It won’t make a difference long-term

How would I say I feel about the KONY 2012 campaign as a whole?

20% of men, 29% of women: Totally supportive

20% of men, 29% of women: Mostly supportive

30% of men, 29% of women: Somewhat critical

30% of men, 12% of women: Cynical

What type of action am I most likely to take for KONY 2012?

11% of men, 12% of women: Get the kit, hit the streets

0% of men, 12 of women: Share on Facebook

67% of men, 65% of women: Follow the news

22% of men, 12% of women: Don’t care

For more information and to play DiscoveryGames, please visit: http://tokii.com

For media interviews, please email us: ceo@tokii.com 

Tokii.com just expanded its ecosystem of relationship support and resources with the launch of Tokiitales.com. Through a unique mix of real life stories and fiction about relationship experiences, the site content is hot and steamy, but it also creates learning opportunities in thought-provoking ways.

According to Alison Sigmon, therapist and author, storytelling is a cornerstone of cultures around the globe and essential to personal and relationship growth, influence, and evolution. She continues with saying, “It is the most effective method when sharing wisdom, gaining insight, changing behavior, and inspiring others to try something new or different. When we see others have experienced what we’re experiencing, we feel more confident and inspired to act in thoughtful ways.”

Tokiitales.com is a platform for members to contribute their stories, and at the same time get analysis, advice, and tips from subject matter experts that readers can learn from and use for themselves and their relationships. It promotes exchanging ideas, sharing perspective, and peeking into others’ experiences through story-specific comment streams. Sigmon added, “Just like reading a parable, watching a film, or listening to a great storyteller, Tokiitales.com offers a stage and an audience for anyone seeking information and support about relevant, current subjects in entertaining and even provocative formats.”

No holds barred – the site does contain material that is sexually explicit in nature and adult discretion is advised – Tokiitales.com offers an array of categories for online readers which include “What Turns Me On?,” “Erotic,” “Relationship,” “Life Challenges,” “Humour,” and “Mystery.”

Here are two links for men and women to learn more about Tokiitales.com:

For Men

For Women

Karla Stephens-Tolstoy, Founder and CEO of Tokii.com, indicates that the launch of Tokiitales.com is another avenue to provide experience and knowledge through methods tailored to the needs and style of the individual.

“Our website is growing strong simply for the reason that people out there want credible advice on love, relationships, sex, and even dating,” she says. “We are now becoming a household name in Canada, the USA and beyond as more and more couples turn to us so each day so that they can better discover new aspects of their relationships when dealing with their partners.”

Tolstoy adds, “The launch of Tokiitales.com will be a hit for new and current members. Let’s face it, the world is a changing place and people in relationships who have careers and living fast-paced lives need a site like ours for advice, guidance, and support. We want everyone to share their stories, post comments and engage in dialogue on topics that focus on love, sex, and relationships and so much more.”

Tokii.com is a free online relationship management platform that helps busy couples stay connected. The site is interactive allowing couples to participate in an abundance of DiscoveryGames, and the site provides couples with advice columns, blogs and stories on love, sex and relationships. Tokii.com will “tune up” any relationship so couples can “tune in” to each other’s needs and get the spark back they need.

For more information, visit  http://tokiitales.com 

For the main site, please visit: http://tokii.com

For media interviews, please email us: ceo@tokii.com

Toronto, Ontario/March 13, 2012 - Let’s face it, we live in a busy world where work and our career life occupies most of our time. So, how does this all play out when you are in a relationship? Well, it can be tough for many couples living a hectic lifestyle, there’s no doubt about it. It seems that there are not enough hours in a day where couples can really take the time they need in order to find ways to understand each other.

But don’t despair, there’s good news – really good news that is, and it’s only a point and click away with the mouse.

Tokii.com, one of the world’s most relied upon relationship management website platforms, provides products that facilitate couples through gamification experiences that help them discover, reveal, and share their needs, desires, and interests.

Now Tokii.com offers even more resources with the launch of TokiiLab.com. Alison Sigmon, therapist and author, says about Tokii Lab, “Tokii Lab takes the topics, opportunities, and possible points of conflict uncovered from using Tokii products, and extends the conversation with tips, support, advice, and insights for how they can meet their respective needs, desires, and goals on and offline.”

Already known for supportive, original content in Tokii.com, Tokii Lab gives even more in depth, practical content experiences from trusted subject matter experts in a variety of areas. Sigmon continues with saying, “Tokii.com and Tokii Lab address age-old problems and concerns in current time-saving ways. People in or out of a relationship can try, share, learn, explore, and get great ideas through a variety of media formats.”

Tokiilab.com allows couples to submit questions and obtain advice and feedback from popular relationships experts. The site also has plenty of information for couples seeking insights on communication, love, friends and family, health, home life, holidays, lifestyle, current events, sex, info graphs, and quotes and humour.

What makes the site even more unique is that it follows the pulse of couples and how they interact with one another. Content is then created based on user data. So, for example, if couples are playing a lot of the finance DiscoveryGames, then Tokiilab.com will quickly know that this is an area of interest and will provide more content with advice columns, stories and blogs for its members.

Here are some examples of online posts that prove valuable for couples:

Love is the Stanley Cup

Sex Toys Done Right Are a Complement to Your Sex Life!

It’s Complicated

Love in a Digital World

Info-Graphs

Ask Toki

Tokii.com is a free online relationship management platform that helps busy couples stay connected. The site is interactive allowing couples to participate in an abundance of DiscoveryGames, and the site provides couples with advice columns, blogs and stories on love, sex and relationships. Tokii.com will “tune up” any relationship so couples can “tune in” to each other’s needs and get the spark back they need.

For more information, visit tokiilab.com

For the main site, please visit: tokii.com

For media interviews, please email us: ceo@tokii.com

Tokii.com recently unveiled its Planning for St. Patrick’s Day DiscoveryGame on its site and couples took part in the interactive game which generated some interesting results. The biggest finding from the world’s most relied upon relationship management platform website for couples revealed that most men feel that St. Patrick’s Day should be a day off from work. As well, both men and women support the Shamrock fanfare as the definitive occasion to recognize St. Patrick and Irish culture.

Here is a breakdown of the highlights from the data collected from members of Tokii.com who took part in the Planning for St. Patrick’s Day DiscoveryGame.

Facts About St. Patrick’s Day:

29% of men, 28% of women say “Yes” to recognize local Irish.

47% of men, 33% of women would enjoy a day off.

41% of men, 17% of women are well versed on singing both the clean and dirty version of Irish Folk Songs

41% of men, 56% of women don’t know much about St. Patrick but toast in his honor

Top Cities to Celebrate:

41% of men, 11 % of women: Boston

24% of men, 50% of women: New York

Men versus Women on the History of St. Patrick:

54% of men, 39% of women knew that St. Patrick was canonized by the Catholic Church for banishing snakes from Ireland

When St. Patrick’s Day falls on a Friday, the local Bishop can grant a dispensation of the diocese from abstinence:

38% of men, 28% of women would take advantage of the day off from lent

More Neat Facts:

Under 20% of men and women knew that St. Patrick used the shamrock to explain the Holy Trinity to the pagan Irish and therefore associating green with St. Patrick’s Day

62% of men, 44% of women agree that “Everybody’s Irish on St. Patrick’s Day.

Presently, couples now have the chance to play a new online DiscoveryGame, The History of St. Patrick:

Karla Stephens-Tolstoy, Founder and CEO of Tokii.com, knew that the Planning for St. Patrick’s DiscoveryGame would generate a lot of interest from members.

“St. Patrick’s Day is a big event and so many couples enjoy celebrating the occasion with green beer and cheers,” laughs Tolstoy.

She adds, “It’s interesting to know that there is a movement among our membership which proves that men want the day off to soak up some Irish fun. As well, in all, our members revealed that St. Patrick’s Day is the official day of the year to acknowledge the Irish.”

Tolstoy indicates that the DiscoveryGames offered on Tokii.com is a unique way to measure how couples feel and interpret special occasions and topics of interest. Tokii.com has been providing a variety of DiscoveryGames since launching its website only a year ago.

“As our membership grows, we are seeing more and more couples participating in our online DiscoveryGames,” she says. “It’s fascinating to learn what people are thinking and the results we share with our members, the general public, and the mass media serves as a unique educational tool on many levels.”

Tokii.com is a ‘made in Canada’ initiative and now thousands of couples rely on the site as a beneficial tool in learning more about relationships and love.

For more information, visit http://tokii.com
For media interviews, please email us: ceo@tokii.com

- Some of the highlights from our members and comments from experts:

29% of men, 11% of women feel it is important to make love on Valentine’s Day

Sex in a relationship is important, period. Studies show that sex is a predictor of a happy relationship.  [It] can be a miracle worker. Good sex induces the release of oxytocin and dopamine [and] fosters trust; a feeling of closeness long after the act itself is over.

(Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel S.F. Heller, MA “Attached: The New Science of Attachment“)

25% of men, 19% of women absolutely believe Valentine’s Day is for females

Females are usually more concerned about the relating aspect of relationships.  They often pay attention to details and may feel unloved, unacknowledged and unappreciated if they don’t receive a Valentine’s Day gift.

(Dr. Erica Goodstone, twitter.com/BoomerHealthy)

45% of men, 19% of women think men should also be spoiled on Valentine’s Day

Let’s face it; Valentine’s Day is for women!  It’s advertised to men that they need to do something for their significant other, [but] there is nothing a man wants more than to be wanted!  What better way to show it than on Valentine’s Day!  It’s a great opportunity to shake things up in a relationship!

(David Simonsen MS, LMFT. Creative Solutions Counseling)

Tokii asked, the community responded:  

Would Your Partner Be Devastated if You Forgot Valentine’s Day?

37% Men say yes – 13% Women say yes

Fool Around in Bed All Day?

32% Men say yes – 9% Women say yes

Play Dress Up With a Sexy Costume?

19% Men say yes – 59% Women say yes

The Valentine’s Day online game also garnered other noteworthy answers in the area of what men and women want for the Holiday.

Here are some highlights:

Do Women Want Flowers?

45% Men say yes – 4% of Women say yes

Do Women Want Jewellery?

27% Men say yes – 36% of Women say yes

Do Men Want Sports Tickets?

20% of Men say yes – 29% of Women say yes

Do Men Want Sex?

50% Men say yes – 38% of Women say yes

Karla Stephens-Tolstoy, founder and CEO of Tokii.com, the brains behind Tokii’s Valentine’s Day campaign, knew it would gain lots of attention among devoted Tokii members.

“We wanted to really know what Valentine’s Day means for men and women, and we sure learned a lot. The results from our community have generated some striking differences between men and women: some aren’t all too surprising, women are interested in gifts and being pampered, men want the sex, but what’s great is that the context for these needs.  When you read between the lines a little you can see that what women really want is thoughtfulness, and what men are after is to feel needed.”

Those serving in the military also took part in the online game tailored to their situation, which also produced some interesting findings.

Here are some highlights from Military Valentine’s Day Dreams:

We asked Our Couples in the Armed Service:

If They Feel Messages of Love Keep Loneliness Away

Men 56% – Women 54%

Where They Would Like to Be Whisked Off to For a Special Valentine’s Day?

Bedroom at Home: 22% Men – 10% Women

Special Memory Location: 22% Men – 50% Women

Exotic Location: 22% Men – 40% Women

Together With Family: 33% Men – 0% Women

What Loving Words They are using on Valentine’s Day

Women 60% likely to say, “forever,” while 44% of men likely to say, “counting the days.”

More Stats from the Tokii Community:

16% of Men, 52% of Women are envious of romantic gestures others receive

45% of Men, 19% of Women think men should also be spoiled on Valentine’s Day

63% of Men, 69% of Women think getting engaged or married on Valentine’s Day is a ‘cliché’

33% of Men, 59% of Women want to serenade their lover with a romantic song

57% of Men, 19% of Women want to set aside time for a “special massage”

48% of Men, 61% of Women find it hard to be creative with Valentine’s Day surprises

Do Women Want to be Wined and Dined on Valentine’s Day?

0% of men say yes, 20% of women say yes.

Do Men Want New Lingerie for Their Partner?

20% of men say yes, 21% of women say yes.

Do Women Want a Gift Involving Pampering on Valentine’s Day?

27% of men say yes, 40% of women say yes.

Do Men Want Something Practical on Valentine’s Day?

10% of men say yes, 12% of women say yes.

Tokii is the world’s first Relationship Management Platform – RMP—a unique and sophisticated Web and Mobile social platform specifically designed to enrich and strengthen relationships through interactive games, quizzes, trading favours and chores and, of course, flirting.

Attached are info graphics based on online Valentine’s Game results which approx. 1500 members of Tokii took part in.

Head to Tokii.com today and add your perspective to the Community Stats by playing the game for yourself, and for your partner.

*All community responses were pulled from the Valentine Dates, Valentine’s Day: Gift Giving, Valentine’s Expectations and Valentine’s Day:  Far Away Romance DiscoveryGames  

For more information, visit http://tokii.com
For media interviews, please email us: ceo@tokii.com

Here are a few of those more common differences:

• 45% of men said they feel they achieve intimacy by connecting sexually
• 85% of women said they feel intimacy by connecting emotionally

So the majority of women are more likely to seek intimacy through an emotional connection like talking and cuddling as opposed to men who are actually split between connecting emotionally and physically.

But what about frequency? Stereotypes suggest men are always on the prowl… and that one’s mostly true, but what about for women? Tokii’s stats revealed that men and women are thinking about sex quite a lot:

• 49% of men said they think about sex as often as they breathe
• 46% of women said they have sex on their mind as frequently as they check their email

What is it about sex that has men instinctually craving it like a natural bodily function? Perhaps they are more naturally aware of the benefits of sex on reducing stress. When men were asked if they use sex to reduce stress and feel better, over 80% gave a resounding “Yes!” When asked the same question, only 50% of women said they use sex for the same benefits.

But perhaps it’s not that women don’t get the same benefits to stress relief. As Certified Professional Life Coach Wendy Kay points out, there may be a more scientific reason why women don’t feel the need for stress-reducing stress:

“Both genders feel more relaxed after experiencing the release of endorphins and oxytocin that result from having sex. The chemical gives feelings of euphoria and a sense of bonding and will stay in the system for carrying times. For a male it could last 1 to 2 hours. But for a female, it could last up to 2 days.”

Despite of the clear differences between the way men and women approach intimacy, there are important similarities:

• 40% of men and 62% of women agree the neck is hot spot for physical intimacy
• 57% of men and 48% of women agree kissing is their favorite form of foreplay

In addition, both men and women agreed that the mouth was one of the most intimate parts of the body. With one kiss, men and women said they are able to communicate their desire, their needs, and the interest for one another.

When asked about the similarity between the sexes, Therapist and Author Alison Sigmon explains, “the mouth is a very intimate place – we use it to test many things – even compatibility. Think about all the things we do with our mouth and the role that is plays as a gateway to our body and our mind.” The tongue, Sigmon adds, lets us know if what it’s touched tastes good and is safe, and our lips – with all the many nerve endings – tell us about warmth, cold, roughness, etc. She also offers a reason why a kiss doesn’t always generate the same response:

“Combine these components into a single experience like a kiss, and you’ve got the story of the other person in an instant, which fires off a ton of information that tells the body what kind of hormones should be mobilized for the experience. This is likely why you physically and emotionally respond differently to your Aunt Bessie’s sloppy smooch and your partner’s slow, present kiss.”

Tokii’s own Community Stats help us to understand the differences and similarities between the male and female perspective, and Tokii’s founder and CEO, Karla Tolstoy-Stephens, says that has been part of Tokii’s mission since day one:

“Tokii’s goal is to provide current, informative, and reliable answers to topics that can be illusive and at times uncomfortable. We also provide resources and support to help couples avoid unnecessary conflict in their relationship. Our products make it easier for men and women to interact and discover new and delightful things about their relationship and themselves.”

Head to Tokii.com today and add your perspective to the Community Stats by playing the game for yourself, and for your partner.

*All community responses were pulled from the Intimacy His Way, Intimacy Her Way & Dirty favorites DiscoveryGames on January 17, 2012

Tokii’s Discovery Game, Republican Primaries Potluck, asked men and women their opinions about how the Republican candidates are presenting themselves and what they consider to be most important. Overall, women indicated a lukewarm reception to the candidates while men showed stronger opinions.

Tokii’s Findings:

• Half of the men and 40% of the women who participated indicated that a candidate’s performance on a televised debate is important in his/her overall ability to lead a nation.
• Mitt Romney’s business acumen makes him a more appealing candidate in “fixing” America, half the men and 40% of women responded.
• 100% of men and 60% of women view Texas Republican Ron Paul as a radical or maverick when compared to the other candidates within his own party, because of his more liberal views and yet very few respondents see him as being out there on the fringe.
• Responses regarding Newt Gingrich were very polarized as half the men and 40% of the female participants think that Newt Gingrich is on the ropes as he has lost significant ground to Mitt Romney. However another 50% of men & 40% of women believe he still has a chance to regain momentum.
• Most men, 75%, and half the women responded that Rick Santorum’s strong support from the evangelical Christian groups gives him the potential to become the wildcard in the Republican race.

Political observer Andrew Lawton of Landmark Report (andrewlawton.ca) suggests Tokii’s findings reflect an overall lackluster campaign by most of the frontrunners, provoking some weak opinions.

“From this data, we see lukewarm support of Rick Santorum from female participants, which is common with candidates like Santorum who are known predominantly for hardline socially conservative positions. As well, we see more optimism for Mitt Romney’s business background from male respondents, which is understandable given the general trend of females not voting based on business acumen,” said Lawton.

“The fact that women are less decisive than men on Ron Paul is indicative of the fact that female Republicans are (generally) less conservative than male Republicans. Ron Paul, while seen as liberal by many conservatives, is one of the most extreme candidates in his views, which never bodes well with female voters,” Lawton concludes.

Media consultant Roni Weiss, co-producer and panelist for Don’t Worry About The Government (dontworry.tv), said that Americans have said that business skills are not necessarily transferable to the White House.

“Americans have a disconnect when it comes to business and politics. Or rather, they connect them too much,” said Weiss. “But Americans see that there are economic problems and think that if someone has experience in business, they will be better able to solve them.”

John Cavanagh, president and CEO of Cross Cultural Communications, (crossculturalcomm.com) found the gender differences of opinion reflective of the bigger picture.

“This could be an overall gender difference in the support of Governor Romney with more men than women having a variable impression,” said Cavanagh.

On the question of Santorum’s evangelical support, Cavanagh suggests the gender difference could lie in the candidate’s heavy reliance upon conservative “family issues”.

About Tokii.com

Since its launch in 2010, Tokii has been the premiere online relationship platform for couples looking to rekindle their romance and discover more about themselves. In addition to the Discovery Games, Tokii also publishes Tokii Lab – a blog and forum for the sharing of personal and relationship success stories and expert analysis.

For more information visit tokii.com or email ceo@tokii.com

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