She said something to me that made the light bulb light up bright as ever. In regards to her 2nd marriage, she said “I really hate him, I wish I never have let him into my heart. I have tried breaking up with him in the beginning, But he wouldn’t give up”.

After hearing this, it made me realize that the issue isn’t her ex, the issue is herself. In the past, it seems that every time she let someone into her heart, they left. So that resulted in having commitment issues. She’s afraid to love and let someone else love her for what she’s really worth. She watched her mother go through the same thing, which makes her feel that this is probably how her life is supposed to be. She’s basically afraid of losing loved ones. It seems as if she subconsciously tries to detach by breaking up before she can get hurt again, she distances herself which leads to some attention from her significant other, then there may be a disagreement or an argument with her significant other, she breaks up, she runs away from the problem rather than try to solve it, she leaves because she’s afraid that she may get left behind, she’s afraid that she’ll get a broken heart….so she tries to stay ahead of the “game” and impulse act rather than being secure, mature and in control of her emotions. She’s missing a lot that life has to offer by continuously running away!

She adapts and tries to dig deeper internally trying to find a way out, but she doesn’t realize that the only way out is for her to:

• Let go of the past and learn to take risks and chances
• Forgive herself and forgive her past, only then can she begin to move on
• Accept that even if she failed in the past, it doesn’t mean that she will fail again
• Understand that life is all about learning from our past experiences in hopes of making the present and future experience a happier one
• Stop jeopardizing each new relationship because of her fear of getting hurt or being left alone with a broken heart
• Accept the fails just as much as she can accept the success in other things
• Accept that mistakes and failures will happen, it’s the only way we can learn how to become a better person
• Understand that Life is short and wasting time on the past is taking away time from the present and future
• Understand that God doesn’t give a person more than they can handle
• Know that she is not the only person in this world to experience a difficult obstacle like this
• Appreciate the fact that she was lucky enough to have found love (most people spend their entire life searching for love)
• Become more of an optimist rather than a pessimist (stop looking at what once was, and start looking at what could be)

Now I am quite aware that most of you that is experiencing a similar situation will read this and may say “it’s easier said than done”, but I must let you know that It’s Only As Hard As You Make It And It Will Always Be As Easy As You Allow It To Be!!!

Hold on to what makes you happy, but let go of what makes you hurt!!!

At the end of a year, I think we should all take some time to reflect on the year that just ended. Look back and think of the accomplishments you have achieved, the hearts of others you have touched, what were your selfless acts, how can you do better in the coming year. Look back at the moments you felt love towards another, never forget the people that has touched your heart. Ask yourself, how can you make this new year better than the last for yourself.

Don’t just look at the materialistic things and decide what you’ve purchased and what you want to purchase….but do take a moment and ask yourself…..were you good to each and every person that you crossed paths with? How can you be better or what can you do to show more gratitude? How can you help change one persons life or thoughts for the better? These are more of the things that most people fail to reflect upon.

The coming New Year is a time for us all to clear our minds, get in touch with our inner selves, see our future path clear, plan and accept that there will be life obstacles, set realistic goals and cherish a bit more each and every individual that you cross paths with.

Remember, treating others the way you want to be treated is very hard to do for some, but it never hurts to try. Each of our actions has an impact on another whether it may be good or bad.

So, my message to you is that new years isn’t just a start of a new year, but its a time for you to reflect on your past in hopes  of growing positively as an individual.

May each of you have a Happy New Year filled with an infinite amount of joy and laughter.

Most Important Note

First and foremost, you have to know that regardless of your shape, size or color, you are as sexy and beautiful as you feel. It all starts from deep within, if you maintain the mentality that you are beautiful and sexy, it shows, others will see and recognize your self confidence, and nothing turns a man on more than a confident woman. Do not give a second thought to others thinking negatively of you, if they do, then that only implies that they have personal issues with their own self confidence, don’t let it bother you, after all, your confidence starts deep within yourself!

Step 1

If you’re dating, invite him over for dinner; If you’re living together or married, give him notification that you’ve planned a special evening for him at home, this way he’ll definitely make himself available on that particular night. Before he arrives, be sure that you’ve decided on what will be served for dinner, either you can cook his favorite meal or place an order to go from his favorite restaurant. After you’ve planned out dinner, you may want to freshen yourself up, shower and apply your sexy fragrances (All the more better if you have edible lotions that you can apply near certain areas on your body); wear your sexiest lingerie, it can be actual lingerie or nothing at all, but regardless, be sure you’ve got the stilettos near by. It may be a great idea to even wear a lacy apron over your lingerie, this way as you serve him dinner, you will be partially covered up, leaving his imagination to run wild.

Step 2

Now timing is everything, a few minutes before he arrives, throw on a robe, this way everything will be hidden until the right moment. As he walks in the door, greet him with a hug and a sensual kiss that leaves him wanting more. Grab his hand and guide him to the bedroom, whisper in his ear that you’ve got a great evening planned that’s just going to blow his mind, let him know that you’ve got just a few more things to prepare, and by the time he’s out of the shower washing his stressful day away, your romantic night can begin. As he is in the shower, bring the dinner out, set the table, light the candles, get rid of your robe, dim the lights, pour the wine, be sure the romantic music is softly playing in the background and put on your stilettos!

Step 3

Now he’s a bit more relaxed and the suspense of what is planned for him is circling is mind. He comes to the dining room to see a wonderful romantic dinner waiting for him, he sits down across from you and just stares with the sweetest most pleased smile, you raise your glass of wine and you cheer to a wonderful evening with love. I bet he won’t be able to take his eyes off you, at this point he can’t even imagine what’s coming next, continuously look at him with your flirty eyes and glossy plump lips. Start a conversation with him unless he starts one first. Reminisce on all the romantic dates you both had, the special things you did for each other, the first time you seduced him, your fantasies, etc….you get the point….these topics may just lighten the mood (as well as the wine). =)

Step 4

At this point, dinner is complete and you’re now ready to migrate to another room of your choice; while holding his hands, sit him down; ask him to get a bit more comfortable, remove his shirt slowly and tastefully, gently start rubbing your hands across his body; have him close his eyes (or you can use blindfolds), and ask him to just relax. Grab your massage oil and and pour a little on your palm; slowly begin to massage his shoulders and his neck, take your fingernails and gently stroke the back of his head (this gets the blood circulation going and he’s definitely going to feel the tingles); massage his back, move your way down to his pants, massage his inner and outer thighs (tease him a little if you know what I mean), keep moving further down to his legs, then to his feet, really massage him until his entire body is so teased with the touch of your fingers, he uncovers his eyes, pulls you closely, kisses you in such an erotic manner that it makes you weak in the knees. Now it’s time to take over control….

Step 5

Have him sit in a chair, grab his attention with your eyes, tease him with your body (stand in front of him and emphasize your feminine figure); slowly and seductively begin to dance in slow circles around him all while your hands are touching him gently; as he just tries to grab you, restrict him; pull back seductively, look him in his eyes and nod “no, no, no”; let him know that your body is off limits at the moment and that you are In Control; this will make him want you even more. Men/Women tend to want what they can’t have, so creating the illusion of “you can look but can’t touch” makes him want what he can’t have. After you’ve danced around him a couple times in slow circles, dance with the floor in front of him showing off your best assets; show him your angles, your sexy moves, slowly crawling towards him on all fours, kiss him from his legs all the way up to his lips, at this point you should straddle him, kiss his neck all while you’re slowly and seductively rubbing on him (use your imagination). After he’s as awake as can be, grab the handcuffs or the ribbon or what ever you may have; tie his hands behind his back; be sure he’s comfortable, we don’t want to cut the circulation off in his wrists =) Slowly begin to undress yourself in-front of him and in your most sexy walk, position yourself directly in front of him, lean forward while only slightly bending one knee, give him a kiss that he’ll never forget!

Step 6

At this point….You’ve made him hot and steamy and wanting more more more, I can only guide you to utilizing your imagination from this point on. Continue to be gentle and teasing; guide him, take control, not only do you do onto him, but you let him do onto you, then eventually he will definitely portray the manly behavior, he’ll untie his hands, step up and take full control of your entire body and your every position. From this point all you can do is succumb to his actions!

Happy Love Making!!!

Fact, the penis does have enemies, it’s cold weather and cold water. Testicles need to be warm to effectively create sperm and testosterone. So after a dip in the pool a man’s tools will literally huddle up against him to stay warm.

2. Men Do Not Need Their Brains to Get Off

Now this isn’t a big surprise, but it has been learned that his “O” actually starts with his spine. The signal to ejaculate is the result of muscle contractions in the spinal cord and pelvis. Sort of gives new meaning to the statement, “you’ve got no backbone”.

3. Extra-Large Rubbers

Only 6 percent of the male population needs extra-large rubbers, according to condom manufacturers. In other words, 94 percent of men lie. Be sure he’s wearing the right size, it’s for the protection on both sides.

4. Penises Are All Created Equal

All adult penises typically measure between three and four inches when flaccid and five to six inches when erect. And just FYI, when it’s time to get busy, a man who started out on the small side, can actually end up expanding proportionally more than larger dudes.

5. The Shoe Size Theory is a Myth

There is no connection between a penis size and shoe size, hand size or nose size. And the bad news is even worse for gold-digging nymphos: There’s no also no connection between a penis size and a wallet size. So no more judging a book by it’s cover, what you see may not always be what you get, it may be more or it may be less.

6. It’s Not Genetic

Unlike those baby blues, penis size, thickness and shape are not genetic. Penises are actually formed in utero when those wild and crazy male hormones kick-in. So if your man is unhappy with his package, he has no one to point the finger to other than Mother Nature.

7. Can You Break a Boner?

Penile rupture is very real. It usually happens mostly during vigorous sex, but overly enthusiastic solo action can also be at fault. Most men who’ve experienced the unthinkable, report hearing a popping noise, followed by excruciating pain. And as profoundly humiliating as it may be, a trip to the ER is in order, because an untreated fracture can lead to permanent erectile dysfunction (ED).

8. Men Are Programmed to Finish Quickly

Don’t take it personally, the true purpose of intercourse is procreation, and men have evolved to have sex just long enough to get the job done. Majority of men can seal the deal in three minutes or less, however it’s the wise man who hangs in there long enough for his partner to catch up, especially if he wants her to make breakfast in the morning.

9. The Penis Does Have a Mind of Its Own

Your acquisition is correct, the penis does have a mind of it’s own. The penis is controlled by the nervous system, which means erections can occur at any given time. For example, that morning wood he’s always so eager to share, it’s most likely the result of impulses firing from the brain during REM sleep. And just think, all this time you thought he was dreaming about the Victoria’s Secret Swimsuit Catalog!

10. Is Masturbation Healthy?

Masturbation is actually healthy. It really is, the “Use it or lose it” statement is evidently the conclusion of some sex experts. The less a man uses his sexual tool, the more problems he’ll have well later on.

11. A Vasectomy Doesn’t Always Lead To Freedom

Sperm are tenacious little suckers and can hang around, ready, willing and able to cause trouble, for up to two months post-op. So it’s important to use some kind of protection until the doctor gives him the all clear. And just in case he’s whining about having this simple little procedure (which, by the way, is far less invasive than a tubal ligation), make him aware that getting snipped has no effect on a man’s sexual prowess.

12. Growth Spurts

Nothing can make a penis bigger, except aging. Unfortunately, men stop growing by the time they hit their early 20s. Growth spurts do not last forever.

13. Curves Are Not Rear

The majority of penises lean slightly to the left or right when rigid (you were probably just too distracted to notice). However, some bend so dramatically (or curve up or down) that having sex is almost impossible. This is known as Peyronie’s Disease and happens when the penis doesn’t expand evenly during a hard-on. So just note that it is definitely common and it doesn’t label a man as “not normal”.

14. Blue-Balls

Men really do get “blue-balls.” Technically called “prostatic congestion,” the achiness in the testicles is caused by trapped blood. You know that crap he lays on you about orgasms being the only way to relieve it? He’s right. But not so fast, a warm shower or aspirin will also do the trick.

15. The Color of Penises

Penises are generally darker in color than the rest of the body. Ever wonder why? Well, it’s part of the sexual maturation process, but it’s also because during puberty, nature introduces men to a special friend: their right hand, which also causes your skin to darken if you manhandle pretty often.

16. Drinking And it’s Effects

Men will go limp if they drink too much. I’m sure there are lots of men that can 2nd this statement. How do you know what is too much? Well, about three and a half drinks for a 150-pound man is adequate, after that, you might as well just call it a night.

There is no way to measure the love that I have for my son. I know it will only get stronger as I watch him grow up and face life the way I have.

The little moments I have with my child is absolutely priceless, the times when he at only 5 yrs old, repeated to me things I have taught him is absolutely priceless. Yesterday as I was putting together a jigsaw puzzle, I made the comment that “this is so hard”, he got next to me to help me and said, “mommy, never give up, just keep trying, that’s how you will get better”. Oh my god, my jaw dropped to know that he actually pays attention to me when I talk to him, he practically repeated word for word what I tell him every time he tries to give up =)

There isn’t anything I won’t do for my son, he is the only person in this world that will always stand by my side no matter what lies ahead of us, and he knows that no matter what, mommy will always be here for him, he knows I’m his safety net!

To my wonderful son:

You have made me so proud of the little person you have become
There isn’t anything that I won’t do for you, you are my heart and joy!

From the moment I felt you touch me inside
I knew we both felt alive
I felt the strong bond we started to build
I waited patiently for you to show your face
I read to you, I sang to you, I talked to you and kept you safe

Then the day came when I got to hold you close
I looked at your little face and saw my little miracle come to life
You held your face against my chest
You felt comfortable in my arms, you were familiar, you knew who I was!
You are the best gift anyone could have ever given me
I held your hands and vowed that I won’t ever let go

I always made silly facial expressions just to hear one beautiful sound
Just to hear the sound of your laugh and giggle
It made my heart smile, you kept me alive
I am so blessed to be able to call you my son

A year has passed, and you began to walk and talk
You ran to me every time you saw me
You always knew how to make the sun shine in our days
I won’t ever forget all that you have done for me
You changed my life for the better, you showed me what life is really worth

Another year has gone by, major changes in our lives occurred
From this point on it was just going to be you and I
You saw my tears and pain and I’m sorry you had to see that
You sat next to me, you held my hands, you hugged me
Your simple actions caused me to realize that it’s time….
It’s time to rebuild a new life for you and I <3

You are now 6 yrs old and I must say….
Looking back at what we’ve been through and what we’ve accomplished
We can honestly say, WE DID IT, you and I…we really did it!!!

I LOVE YOU MY LITTLE JAYDEN <3
You ARE an amazing child!

Questions I Ponder:

• “Why can’t people just be nice and civil to each other?”
• “Why yell at each other and name call?”
• “Why say something that you KNOW will hurt the other person?”
• “Do they get some sort of satisfaction from hurting others?”
• “Do they really feel better about them self knowing the other person is hurting based on the words they just said?”
• “Do they get a “Mission Complete” feeling once the other person curls up like a little child inside?”
• “How can one person be or act so mean towards another human being?”
• “What is it exactly that goes through a person’s mind when they verbally or emotionally hurt someone?”

I don’t believe I will ever comprehend it, but it really boggles my mind; I feel that I do understand that this is a behavior that is developed over time; I know that people weren’t born with this mentality but acquired it over time; I feel that certain instances in a person’s past may be the contributing factor(s) in why such a behavior develops.

The following is a fictional story:

Let’s use the names Tony, Cindy and Hailey to avoid confusion:

Tony was in a long term relationship with Cindy, and just like any relationship, it was blissful for the most part, then there came a time when Cindy’s personality became very controlling and simply put, rude. Cindy pretty much was in full control of this relationship from arguments to deciding where to have dinner, etc…Tony’s character wasn’t the type to argue back, he pretty much just went with it all because he absolutely loved Cindy, and in the back of his mind, he always held on to the person he fell in love with; After some time passed, Cindy decides she wants out, so the relationship came to an end and they both moved on to their new lives with others.

Now Tony finds himself in a new relationship with Hailey, he’s come to find out that Hailey has everything he’s always wanted in a woman, and like usual, for the first year, things are blissful and they’re both so happy in love, it’s the perfect story. After time, the small disagreements and tedious typical arguments occur, its complete normal when the honeymoon phase is migrating to a more serious phase, every relationship has these. Now, the way Tony decides to handle himself in these arguments, is completely different from how he handled it with Cindy. This time around, Tony finds himself reacting in a hurtful way towards Hailey; He uses profanity, he raises his voice, he blocks out every good thing about Hailey, he belittles her, he completely forgets how to be understanding and communicate; He never raised his hand at her, but he beats her down verbally and emotionally. Even though she sits there crying inside, a person can only take so much, then suddenly he says the right thing that triggers her tear flow; and shortly after, he walks out and leaves her alone instead of apologizing and making her feel comfort. He constantly threatens their relationship which makes her feel as if she has to tiptoe around him just so he won’t break her heart.

After some time has passed, and Tony has calmed down, they’re back in each other’s arms, he never once apologizes, it’s as if he doesn’t know how to say the word “I’m Sorry”; even though sometimes all Hailey needs is an apology, she at times doesn’t bring it up; she understands him so much and knows that the fact that he’s here holding her, is his way of saying sorry rather than actually saying the word. Hailey is a great judge of character, she’s very patient with him because she knows that deep down inside, he means no harm, and there’s always more to the story than one can imagine. Hailey is aware of his past relationship, so she can see or assume that has a lot to do with is behavior; and Hailey knows that there are more good between them than bad, she knows that the good supersede the bad by far, and when things are great, it’s really great! She’s not the type to let minor obstacles/disagreements dissolve her relationship with Tony. He does feel the same but forgets this a lot when his defense wall is up, he treats her with the utmost respect, he shows her love, he makes her feel like she’s the only girl in the world, they have future long term plans together and there isn’t anything she would try to change about him other than when they have minor arguments. She just hopes that with time, he’ll learn how to not let his blood pressure hit the roof and he’ll learn how to handle relationship arguments in a more civil way.

My Opinion

Now, my opinion is that Tony really needs to take a step back and realize that Hailey is only human, she’s not perfect and same for him, they are both wrong at times and it’s obvious that Hailey is being very patient with him, but if he doesn’t learn how to handle his belittling ways, he might just lose a wonderful person that loves him enough to stand by his side more than anything in this world. I see that in Tony’s past relationship, he didn’t really stand up to Cindy, he didn’t belittle her or hurt her to the core verbally and emotionally; he just tolerated it; but in his relationship with Hailey, he decides that no one is ever going to treat him the way Cindy treated him, so at the slightest sign of an argument, Tony puts up his defense wall, blocks out everything mentally and opens his mouth and just lets it all out regardless of how much the words he says hurts Hailey. Tony needs to grasp and understand that no matter what others say, Words do hurt and he should really choose his words wisely. And he must not forget the fact that once upon a time he used to be in Hailey’s shoes!!!

There have been several different occasions where someone close to me managed to hurt me with their words. Some say words don’t hurt but I beg to defer, Words definitely hits you where it hurts when it’s said by someone you really care for. I’m very optimistic that people like this can change, I understand that for them it’s a feeling of protecting themselves emotionally at all costs. My reaction when faced with a person like this is to just be quiet; they can talk as much as they want, hurt me emotionally if they choose to, but at the end of the day, I won’t be living with the guilt of belittling another human being. And I can honestly hold my head up high and say that I’ve treated them the way I wanted to be treated, which is with respect. I believe in Karma and eventually in time, they will be faced with the payback of Karma. That’s just my personal belief.

There isn’t anyone that can change a behavior unless they really truly recognize that there is a problem! Hurting others will never be accepted. This world would be a better place if we all treat each other the way we want to be treated. Be considerate of the ones in your life right now, treat them as if today is the last day you will ever see them!

Truly, Madly, Deeply

When you’re truly madly deeply in love with someone, you tend to give it your all, each love in your life is a different experience. You find yourself willing to do anything and everything for this one person. Sky’s the limit, there isn’t anything that you won’t do. This person is on your mind all day long, you randomly reminisce of sweet precious happy memories when you’re away from this person, you have absolutely nothing but the positives to think about because the positive traits supersede the negatives by far. Keep in mind that no one is perfect, we all have our flaws, but it’s always amazing when one finds that special someone and falls head over heels in love (regardless of their flaws). It doesn’t matter what this person does, you will always forgive them, (to a certain extent). Note: Abuse of any sort, cheating….etc…is just not tolerable!

Making Long Distance Love Work

I have a friend that not only believes but he feels that he’s found his soul mate, the only obstacle is the location of where they reside. He resides in the United States and she resides in South America; they’ve been making this relationship work so far, and it can only get stronger as long as both parties understand and accept the downfall of being in a long distance relationship along with comprehending the long road ahead. Traveling is always available, but the cost of traveling makes it very difficult for them to see each other at any given time hence one of the downfalls of being in a long distance relationship.

• How do you cope with the fact that you’ve found your soul mate but you can’t see him/her at any given moment?
• What do you do when you lay down at night and all you can think about is your love?
• Do you have any idea what it feels like to want your lover to hold you but you know it’s impossible at at that very moment?
• How long do you think you can go on without being able to see the one face you want to see the most?

Giving It Your All

I haven’t ever been in a serious long distance relationship before, so I can only share my opinions and not my advice because I have yet to experience what my friend is going through at this very moment. He is truly fighting with all his power to bring the two of them closer; He’s working so hard to gain the funds that will send him into her arms; He’s been utilizing Skype and other social networks to stay in touch with her; Most men would probably give up, but that only means that they fail to see love from the eyes of a person in True Love. As long as the communication and trust continue to stay alive, all will be well! There are lots of things that can be done to keep a long distance relationship alive, and my friend and his love have been doing it all, I only wish that it remains strong and strengthens until they can be in each others arms each and every day!

My thoughts are that my friend is doing the right thing by being optimistic. He’s continuing to be strong as each day and night goes by, he’s fighting this universe for the well deserved relationship between him and his true love. He’s doing what his heart tells him to do regardless of what anyone else says. He listens to the perspective of others, but in the end, he will always follow his heart, which is one thing we all admire!

Showing Support

We’ve all heard or read about love stories like this, and we all feel the pain and achy hearts of the lovers at stake, so let’s just show our support by sharing thoughts that can shed some light on his situation. Great words of wisdom is always helpful to us all when we’re in tough situations, having support from friends and readers is what motivates us all, at times it helps us see things clearly or from a perspective we didn’t imagine. So don’t be shy, share your thoughts =)

Regardless I would love for his story to be heard, I want the universe to adjust itself in a way that will bring them together. I hope and only wish that I can shake her hand or hug her and tell her how lucky she is to have found a man that will do anything and everything for the love he shares with her.

My friend wrote, produced and sang a song for her, he’s an artist, please check out his video and show your support.

You can also help bring him and his love closer together by purchasing his song on itunes.

iTunes

Thank you to all my readers, I really appreciate your loyalty more than you can imagine!

I Love you for….

• The way you always find a new way to “WoW” me
• The way you never let my hands go
• The way you can always make me laugh at any given moment
• The way you are spontaneous with me and down for whatever
• The way you are not embarrassed to say or do anything in front of me
• How you watch chick flicks with me
• They way you look at me sometimes as if you know what I’m thinking
• The silly inside jokes that we have with each other
• The way you’ve become my personal IT guy =)
• The way you love me thru my emotional ups and downs
• The way a thought of you makes my heart smile
• The way you know my weaknesses
• The way you motivate and inspire me
• All the little things you do to make me happy and keep a smile on my face
• The way we can be goofy with each other
• The way we get along so well <3

All the attention and support you show my blogs =)

With that being said, the jig is really up guys, if you all know and understand our bodies so well, then why is it so hard for you to touch and please the certain areas that will drive us crazy, make us weak in the knees and help us achieve orgasms? I am aware that many men are just lazy or tired and only seek that “wham bam thank you ma’am” opportunity, but note that If you spend a few extras minutes stimulating her sweet spots, you’d be amazed at her body language and her body’s response towards you physically and emotionally!

My message to women, don’t be afraid to tell him or show him what you like, sometimes we just need to guide our men, if they are aware that we enjoy or prefer a little stimulation first, then the chances are most likely they will honor our preference, but if we don’t speak up, they may think you are completely satisfied with their normal bed behavior or routines. I’m sure most men can relate to what my significant other has told me on different occasions and situations, his exact words to me was…”I’m not a mind reader, you know”, and he’s absolutely correct, we shouldn’t expect another person to know what we’re thinking, we should all be able to speak up and express our thoughts.

Now, you have no excuses, the survey below tells and shows with a diagram exactly what women like and where we like to be touched and caressed. Take mental notes and apply it the next time you have an opportunity!

female_orgasm_facts

We all tend to always pay attention and look at the things that our men don’t do rather than looking at the things that they do for us. When you sit back and really analyze it, you would realize that your man does all the things that actually does and is supposed to make you happy, you may not be happy because you obviously take him for granted. Here are a few questions to ask yourself, its simple but a ot of women tend to overlook the non relationship things that our men do for us….

• Who is the one person you would call if you needed help?
• Who is the one person you feel safe with when he hugs you?
• Who will give you his jacket when you’re cold?
• Who is the one person that will make sure you are comfortable where ever you go?
• Who will fix anything that is broken in your home?
• Who tries his best to make sure you are happy at all times?
• Who will defend you if someone tries to hurt you?

Fake-Sters
Women are guilty just as much as men are when it comes to being someone you’re not in the beginning of a relationship. We as women will do the things that we think will impress him, we want him to love us, we want him to know that he made the right choice by being with us. Now after we realize that he’s actually in love with us, some women will tend to let this fade and slowly we find ourselves being guilty of not performing the wonderful things we did in the beginning. My advice to women, no matter what happens, please maintain that special place in your heart to continue to please your man. Don’t let the days go by with you doing less and less. He will love you no matter what as long as you maintain the same personality that he fell in love with. Granted we will have our moments, but that’s when our men will need to understand the moods we experience at random moments and just provide comfort.

The Little Things That Counts The Most
Women, you have no idea how much the little things count the most. Some things as little as being sexually active with your man at random moments, surprising him by dressing up in your sexy lingerie, cooking dinner, giving him a massage after a long day of work, leaving him special messages, texting him good morning and sending him lovey dovey messages, etc. Not only that, the little things that our men does for us should not go unnoticed; All the random foot massages they give us, the way they talk to us, the attention they give us when we need it, the fact that they will put their friends on hold just to spend a little quality time with us, the way he looks at you in your eyes, the way he listens to you when you’re having a breakdown, they support he gives, the way he holds your hand when you’re together, the way he cuddles with you at night; don’t let these simple things go unnoticed! Men show their love in a completely different way than women do, and we as human beings need to understand that and adjust our mentalities to find that so close to perfect median.

If He Doesn’t, That Doesn’t Mean That You Shouldn’t
If he doesn’t do something special for you exactly when you need it, that doesn’t mean that you should hold it against him and not do something special for him. Some men just aren’t very good with hints, so don’t play games with each other, be open and communicate on each others likes and dislikes. The same rule applies as my previous blog….if your man doesn’t hold your hand while you’re together, then don’t get angry, there is nothing wrong with you taking the initiative and holding his hand, after all, you can’t expect a man to be a mind reader. Don’t let the little things get in your way of pursuing what could be a wonderful long term healthy relationship. If he isn’t doing something you expected, don’t assume that he doesn’t care or doesn’t love you, he just may not even be aware of your current needs, most men aren’t. They’ll get the big picture but you have to help them get there, its a walk for both parties to engage in.

If We Do Then He Will
It doesn’t matter how much we do for our man, they are not the type of creatures to show acknowledgment every day like we do and we can’t expect it, it’s just they way they were built. Women, do understand that men also take mental notes, they are quite aware of how great we are, they are aware of all the sacrifices we make for them, they are aware of all the wonderful things we do for them, and deep down inside, we are aware that they see us for who we really are, but the thing that we fail to remember….is that they will sporadically show their appreciation versus showing it daily. This is a mistake we all make, we need to not tell our men what to do and how to react, we need to just have the mindset to be the wonderful person he knows with no expectations and just let him act on his own. It will pay off in the end as long as we don’t apply pressure to the relationship. Men tend to run away as far as they can once the sense pressure!

Understand that Men are very different from Women, we can’t expect them to treat us the exact way we treat them when it comes to Love and Attention, don’t ever forget that they are very sporadic in this department!!!