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PEGGING ~ WHO'S ON TOP?

2012-05-28T12:23:00.003-07:00

If you haven’t heard the term, you’re probably familiar with the concept whether you’ve experimented with it, or not. “Pegging” defined as the act of intercourse where a woman inserts a strap-on dildo into the anus of a man.

If you’re butt cheeks just clenched, or a thought bubble with a question mark just appeared above your head keep reading if not for the enjoyment of the topic, at least for a little education and some conversational fodder. The concept of Pegging really started to take hold back in the late 90’s when the ‘edu-porn’ movie Bend Over Boyfriend first came out. With the release of the movie discussion about the topic became more and more widespread, and slowly awareness about this growing phenomena was coming to light, even to the point Prostate Massage made the mainstream in an unforgettable scene in the 2000 dude comedy movie Road Trip (Google it). All of a sudden a growing number of men were discovering that they enjoyed anal stimulation even though they weren’t gay, and that it was ok. At this point though, there still wasn’t a term for the act of Pegging. So in 2001 infamous sex columnist Dan Savage came up with a contest amongst his fans to give a name to the act. After numerous submissions ‘Pegging’ was bestowed as the term of choice.

Now for those that are still sitting there with clenched cheeks, and wandering why the h-e-double hockey sticks some guys are into this. Well there are a couple of reasons. First is the psychological turn on some men get from being submissive, and penetrated by someone can be quite intoxicating. This can hold especially true for men in positions of power where being the dominant person in numerous environments needs to take a rest on occasion so another state of being can be experienced. Aside from the mental aspect there is the physiological aspect as well; it just plain feels good. The anus is heavily endowed with one of the richest concentration of nerve endings on the human body, and is the gateway to the male G-spot, or P-spot (for prostate) as it’s more affectionately called. Stimulation of the P-spot can induce powerful orgasms, and is good for the overall health of the organ by bringing in a fresh flow of blood and nutrients to it, and all of the other surrounding organs.

With the male side of the question answered some of you ladies might be wandering what’s in it for me, after all isn’t it already easy enough for him, what about my needs? Well maybe one of your wants, or needs is to be the dominant in a given session, or you simply want to help fulfill the fantasy your partner craves. You may even find yourself really enjoying the novelty of the role-reversal your experimenting with. As far as equipment goes, don’t worry the sex toy industry already been thinking about these things for you and have come out with some really cool designs for ergonomic double-ended dildos. Toys like the Feeldoe, or Share are designed for both the pleasure of the giver, and the receiver. When in use these dills will ply on the front wall of the vagina, so as to target all of the nerve endings located there while giving a gentle vibration that emanates from the base of the toy.

So now that you’re thinking hmm perhaps we should give this a shot, or at least talk about it a little more you’ll need to stock up on a few supplies. Namely you’ll need a strap-on harness, a dildo of your choosing, and a bottle of good quality water-based lube. Then as with all things anal you’ll need a lot of foreplay, and some mandatory knowledge of the topic prior to setting the scene. Aside from that you’re on your way into a new facet of erotic adventure sparked by creativity, pleasure, and fun. Enjoy!

HYPNOTIC SEXUALITY ~ YES PLEASE!

2012-05-24T16:38:00.000-07:00

Ever heard of Erotic Hypnosis? It’s the act of influencing another person’s sexuality by affecting their perceptions around certain topics, or opening their willingness to experience certain things. What that means in a nutshell is you’re allowing your mind to be opened to the power of suggestion so that erotic possibilities that have been locked inside you for a long time are allowed to come out and play. For many couples in long-term relationships they are looking for that little spark to ignite the intensity they felt when they were first falling in love. While others are looking for ways to break their own mental programming to achieve more, and or better sexual experiences. On the 7^th of June we’re holding a couples workshop at our Squamish store with Sylvia Rayner CSH, CTHt. who will spend a couple of hours bringing a handful of willing couples some great information, and tools about Erotic Hypnosis that they can bring back into their own relationships to build greater intimacy with.

For those of us that have experienced truly great sex, you’ll be able to relate to that trance like feeling you get, where you and your partner are completely lost within a lingering moment. A place where time becomes completely irrelavent, as your bodies and spirits merge into something that words fall short of, but can be only described as pure emotional bliss. This trance like hypnotic state is no accident, but rather an example of a growing body of evidence to support a theory that both trance like states and sexuality are connected via the part of the brain they’re operating from.

When we’re hypnotized we delve into a state of trance, and we can become open to communication that is allowed to pass right past the frontal lobe of the brain (which is responsible for our executive functions) and into the limbic brain, which is responsible for emotions, behaviour, and motivation amongst other things. In effect hypnotic suggestions are passing right by the secretary, and walking right into the sexual arousal boardroom. While we’re here verbal triggers can be introduced that will get your partner to recall certain emotions, or ways to act post-hypnosis.

If you happen to be around the Squamish store before the 7^th please come and register for the class. If not check to see if there are any hypnotists in your area that offer Erotic Hypnosis. Sex is a creative process, and our minds our most powerful sexual organ. By tapping into that sexual power, and igniting the creativity that resides in all of us we can turn stale toast into spicy salsa, and infuse love, lust, and good old-fashioned sass into all the corners of our life!

POSTION OF THE WEEK ~ REVERSE COWGIRL

2012-05-22T15:12:00.000-07:00

So there you are deep in the throes of a fun and sloppy 69 session and your tongue and jaw are starting to get a little sore, and you’re thinking how should we take this to the next level. Well why not fluidly slide a new position like the Reverse Cowgirl (or Cowboy depending on which way you swing) into the mix. This is a classic woman on top position that can really cover a lot of ground while giving you the control you want or need to shift your sexual responses up a notch.

To move into the position make sure your partner is lying on their back, and then straddle them with your face looking away from them and your butt pointing towards them. As we mentioned earlier this is great to flow into from a 69 position because you’ll both be well-lubricated making penetration really easy. Alternately putting a drop of lube on his penis and rubbing it in for a minute will really warm things up. When you’re ready squat, or kneel on his erect penis, or your partner’s dildo. Now you’re in complete control. You can control the speed and depth of penetration to suit your mood, or grind your hips forward, backward and in circles. This is also really great position for hitting the g-spot because whatever’s penetrating you (be it dildo, or penis) it will be brushing its head back and forth right against it. To accentuate this sensation even more arch your back so the angle to your g-spot is even more acute. You’ll also note how easy it is to play with your clit while being penetrated from this angle. If you have a little clitoral vibrator near by like the Siri fire it up and massage yourself with it as you grind away.

While all this is going on your partner will be enjoying the excellent view of your butt, which if you so desire may also be a great segue into some light, or advanced anal play. Assuming your partner is male, and you’d really like to blow his mind start playing with his balls while you’re on top. Depending on how wet you are, or if you need a few drops of lube you can either gently caress them, or be a little more aggressive by creating an o ring with your thumb and forefinger and pulling down on the scrotum just above the balls. When you’re ready to move into your next position going from here to doggie style is a really quick flip, simply have him slide out, and come at you from behind. You can even pass him the Siri if you want to keep the clitoral play going.

In the past if you’ve tried reverse cowgirl and it hasn’t been your thing give it another shot. Overtime our bodies change and what might have been ‘meh’ at one time of your life, may be just the thing you’re craving now, and you don’t even know it yet.

MISMATCHED LIBIDOS? IT'S NORMAL

2012-05-19T17:13:00.001-07:00

Over the years working at Trinity Romance Shop many people will openly chat about issues within their love life, while looking for accessories to liven things up. One of the more prevalent themes that seem to get brought up from time-to-time is that the person they’re seeing just doesn’t seem to have the same libido that they do. The issue that they’re not realizing is that this is not a problem, but rather a state of the human condition. Much like the fact we are all individuals as people we are all individuals as sexual beings as well, and the concept of sexual individualism is responsible for our sexual appetites. These days most people can agree to the theory that sexuality is defined differently for each individual. For a few reasons though this theory that we can generally identify with hasn’t sunk into our collective belief system yet, with the result being sometimes tension is created in relationships where a couples libido’s just aren’t on the same page.

Like many things that persist in our society the phenomena of sexual disconnect can be traced back in parts to the way media promotes sexuality and the feeling that is evoked of trying to keep up with the sexual Jones’s. In this perceived reality size matters, orgasms are the end all and be all, and hard core sex the norm. This message is hammered home so frequently that it’s relatively easy to connect the dots of how belief systems around how our sex lives should be becomes so entrenched in our collective psyche.

The contradiction of our societies relatively newfound freedom of sexual expression is that while our understanding of the mechanics of sex, and relationships has increased greatly in recent decades, our capacity to accept each others own individual libido types without expectations has not. Often times this will lead to feelings of rejection, hurt, and frustration within the relationship. Then when our sex lives aren’t as great as we envision them we think that something must be wrong somewhere and doubts about our own sexual abilities, or if our partner loves us equally start to work their way into our minds. It’s fair to say that the sexual messaging we’re receiving and reality of being in a relationship are two entirely different things.

To deal with mismatched libidos within a relationship either as a couple, or within a poly family you need to identify what’s happening in each others “right now” reality by practicing open heart communication. Work on receiving your partner’s information, appreciate their point of view, summarize what you think they’re saying, and finally ask your own questions. This will allow each other to understand the issues each individual is experiencing while exploring strategies to bridge them. Knowing what your own wants and needs are and how they mesh with your partners libido will help you each find meaningful solutions in your relationships so that a mutual respect for each others own unique sexual appetites is built and appreciated in all the beauty that they are.

SEX-ED, LET’S DO THIS THING!

2012-05-18T16:46:00.000-07:00

The debate over sex education is once again being rehashed in the halls of power. A recent exhibit in the Museum of Science and Technology in Ottawa has garnered a lot of interest of late. Sex: A Tell All Exhibition was designed by the Montreal Science Centre to compliment sexual health curriculums, and is targeted to a 12 year old and up audience to align with the physical, and emotional changes they’re experiencing in a way that engages them on their level. To date the exhibit has been shown in both Montreal, and Regina with great success and little complaint. However after opening in Ottawa it has received numerous people requesting the need to edit it, or shut it down all together. The cries have reached enough of a fever pitch that Conservative Heritage Minister James Moore has chosen to use his political clout to complain enough that the museum made changes to the exhibit by raising the age level to 16, and pulled a movie about the topic of masturbation.

When issues like this arise a plethora of questions bubble up into the collective conscious. To begin with we need to objectively look at what is the purpose of an exhibit like this, and why did the professional educators and scientists deem it necessary? It doesn’t take a Social Sciences professor to conclude that now more than ever before we have greater access to a wide variety of sexually explicit content, and the conversation about the sexual media we’re engaging in is lacking, or just plain non-existent. What fills the place of conversation is ad driven media that quite frankly is designed to titillate rather than educate. At 12 years old boys and girls are experiencing urges, and experimenting with their burgeoning sexuality hence the need for exhibits like this to engage youth in a matter of fact way that relates to them about these new emotional and physical changes.

One Conservative minister actually had the audacity to say “this educational exhibit didn’t have anything do with science” (biology anybody?), and that the exhibit goes “much farther than anything he learned in school.” Well that pretty much sums up the problem doesn’t it? In this day and age if we fail to educate our children with the facts, and the maturity to deal with abundance of information out there at a time in their life when they’re biologically ready to experiment with these new-found capabilities than they are going to figure it out for themselves by making a series of choices that may not always be good ones. Granted they could get in trouble regardless of how well you teach them, but at the very least your mitigating that risk by providing them the tools they need to navigate the waters around masturbation, sexual identity, and STI’s by having a mature conversation. In our eyes it’s encouraging to see an exhibit like this come about. It builds on the classroom style set up that some students simply don’t engage with and gives it an interactive engaged platform to build a conversation off of.

Sexuality is a normal human function, and the more adept we get at having the discussion about what feels good, and safe ways to practice fantasies the better off we’ll all be. The closet isn’t a place where we should feel we have to keep our sexual proclivities, unless of course that’s your thing. Breaking down these barriers around our fear of sexuality must be done through education. It’s not only the smart thing to do; it’s the right thing to do as well.

TOP 10 ROMANTIC THINGS TO DO IN WHISTLER

2012-05-17T17:01:00.001-07:00

Whistler is obviously famous for all it’s amazing winter activities, but in our opinion the possibilities really open when the snow is off the ground, layers of clothing are shed, and the village patios are pumping in a warm dusty glow. So if you find yourself with your significant other, or are simply looking to impress a certain someone into a good time here is a list of some romantic things that Whistler has to offer. Of course you’re only as limited as your imagination, and if your imagination sees fit to add a few saucy tidbits to this list by all means put them in the comment section, we’d love to share them.

Head out to the local airport for a surprise flight tour all around the local mountains. It’s probably one of the best ways to see the alpine, and some of the helicopter options will even land you on a glacier for lunch.
If you’re feeling like a classic date night there is no better place to go out for a romantic dinner than the Bearfoot Bistro. Boasting one the best champagne and wine collections in North America this is the perfect location to impress someone special, while enjoying amazing food and drink. The Bearfoot will offer an experience to enlighten all of the senses.
They say relaxation is the gateway to greater intimacy, and the Scandinave Spa is a great way to spend a few hours with someone in a truly calming environment.
Do the double bungee. Nothing beats looking into each other’s eyes and counting 3,2,1, Bungee and free falling for 50m over the Cheakamus River. Trust, anticipation, and adrenaline, all rolled into one shared experience.

Take a ride on the famous Peak-to-Peak Gondola between Whistler and Blackcomb and take in the view as you’re suspended 436 meters above the ground. If you manage to find your way onto the glass bottomed cabin focus on transferring the excitement of the moment into an erotic suggestion for later.
One of our favourite places in the valley is Lost Lake. This one is a great choice for a picnic, and if you’re so inclined the nudie dock is always available to inspire and partake in.
If you’re feeling rebellious take a backpack, blanket, headlamp, and some vino for a nighttime hike up one of the ski runs. The view of the village at night is sure to go over well for a little outdoor action.
For the Hemmingway in everyone patio hopping with someone special is a great way to day trip through some nice summer drinks on route to grander things. This one could be a great prelude to the Lost Lake Nudie Dock picnic.
Canoe the River of Golden Dreams. Nothing like cruising with your partner down the river soaking in the rays, loving the views.
I’m seeing memories of Kermit and Miss Piggy for this one. Rent yourselves a couple of bikes, and cruise the valley trail, while looking for make out spots along the way.

LOVING LOCAL

2012-04-07T13:07:00.000-07:00

Chaya Jorgensen is making moves. The Independent Home Party Consultant has recently left a multi-national Home Party Company that wasn’t listening to her concerns, and is joining the ranks of a Squamish based company that is.

For the last 2.5 years Chaya has been selling lovers accessories through her home party business all over the Sea-to-Sky area, while nurturing a growing passion for animal rights activism. When her concerns over whether the products she was selling were cruelty free, or not were met with an inordinate amount of corporate brush-off she contacted Eric Armour at Trinity Romance who had recently launched a home party division of his business to see whether his company’s values would align with her own.

"The more involved I became with the animal rights movement the more I realized that my profession was not dove tailing with my passion. It simply was not enough for me to hear that the final products were not tested on animals. I wanted to hear 100% cruelty free through the entire manufacturing process and was willing to work with my previous company to do the market research. Months later we still made no progress and so I called Eric at Trinity Romance and we started working out the details. It was a difficult decision to leave my team but in the end I had a responsibility to not only the animals but to the whole animal rights movement to own what I believe in, and I hope it inspires others to do the same. It's time we stop doing what is convenient and start doing what is right.”

Armour couldn’t be more excited about the whole venture. “I’m really happy for Chaya, and for us. It’s really refreshing to see somebody living their life, while making a living on the principals they believe in. It’s a way of being that is close to my own heart, and I’m really excited to be able to offer Chaya the opportunity. Not only is she talking the talk, but she’s also walking the walk when it comes to her home party business, her love of local, and her animal activism.”

If you'd like to connect with Chaya go check out her newly launched affiliate site. She's a wealth of information, and is an inspiration to us all.

SEXUAL SELF-CONFIDENCE ~ LET'S BRING SEXY BACK

2012-03-06T12:54:00.000-08:00

"If you want my body and you think I'm sexy, Come on honey tell me so". Rod Stewart couldn't have said it better, let alone embodied the concept of sexual self-confidence. All you have to do is Google image search for ‘Rod the Mod’ to see this 5’2” Londoner isn’t your prototypical male model machine. Given his lack of physical attributes he doesn’t carry himself like he’s missing any pieces of the puzzle, in fact he’s brimming with what a lot of us are lacking in; sexual self-confidence. Sexual self-confidence can be directly attributed to your self-esteem and how you look at yourself, or rather how you believe the world looks at you. Low self-esteem can come from a variety of sources. You may have experienced physical, or emotional abuse in the past, or are feeling the throes of societal pressures put on us by the media, which is constantly creating a redefined reality around body image. Being immersed in that media imagery ether has an osmosis effect that at some point has all of us falling into mental traps where you find yourself saying, “I’m too old”, “I’m too fat”, or “I’m too skinny”. It’s these three factors of physical, emotional, and societal challenges that can have adverse effects on how confident we are in addressing our own sexual wants, needs, and desires.

A systemic issue that we face as a society is the fact that we don’t talk about sexuality, or how issues of self-confidence can affect our own sexual experiences. Despite this massive communication breakdown there is a steady stream of media manufactured imagery making it’s way onto our billboards, buses, magazines, and hard drives. We tend to think of the likely victims in these scenarios as youth, but in fact it can be anyone that is experiencing challenges in life, and genuinely learning new things about themselves. This confidence searching confusion can be dramatically heightened when you start throwing concepts such as sexual preference and gender issues into the mix. One thing we all have in common is that we are sexual beings, and while we swim around in this sexual self-confidence soup trying to figure ourselves out, one has to wonder how something so simple as talking about what ‘our normal’ is in terms of our sexual maturation can be so taboo.

If you find yourself not necessarily feeling that keen on shaking what your momma gave you, but you have a desire to explore your sexual side then you just may want to take some steps towards believing in yourself, and beginning to appreciate the great things about what makes you, you. Once you start feeling better about who you are the sexual self-confidence will start to show itself. Now that you have it make sure you’re in a trusting environment, free of judgment and rock it! At the end of the day it’s not about what you look like it’s the attitude that you put forward, and showing your partner that you’re aroused when your around them will only build that confidence in both of you.

YOUR FIRST VIBRATOR

2012-02-29T22:20:00.000-08:00

You’ve heard the hype, you’ve even thought about it for a while now, but you just haven’t gone that extra mile yet and purchased your first vibrator. Frankly it can be quite daunting on a few different levels. Practically speaking there are a million wonderful orgasm-inducing models to choose from, and without knowing a thing about any of them you might find yourself asking where does one start? If this is your first vibrator you might even feel a little awkward talking about your desire to own one, because of your own personal comfort zones around discussing your sexuality.

In case you weren’t aware our friend the vibrator, along with the pill are probably two of the greatest

game changers in terms of female sexuality to come out of the 20^th century. Both of these marvels levelled the playing field for gender inequality when it came to sexuality. The vibrator enabled women to come on their own terms without the use of a penis (which unfortunately isn’t the best tool for female orgasm anyway), or extended periods of manual manipulation. The latter cannot only sometimes be tiring; it can also be next to impossible for those with physical disabilities. There are probably as many reasons to get a vibrator as there are nerve endings in the clitoris, which if you were counting is somewhere in the neighborhood of 8000. You could also be one of the 75% of women that doesn’t reach orgasm through penetrative sex, you could have a partner that is more of a taker than a giver, you may not have a partner, or you’re just plain curious about your own sexual response cycle. Whatever your reason the vibrator much like your sexuality is not something to shy away from.

For those we talk to about which toy would best suit them for a first time out, our recommendation is generally something relatively inexpensive, reliable, compact, and geared towards clitoral stimulation. Vibrators like these are generally not as intimidating, easy to manipulate, and are rather discreet. A couple of great vibes in that respect are the Ipo, and the Jolie. Neither is exorbitantly expensive, and they both cross really well into couple play, which is great for any partners that are nervous about a sex toy stealing some of their thunder. If you do have a partner that has some silicone envy check out this recent blog post on getting getting creative with your vibe for some ideas. When it comes right down to it though how you would like to embrace your sexuality is entirely your choice, but just keep in mind that a vibrator is an accessory that can take self-exploration, and discovery to a whole new level.

If you’d like to delve into the topic a little more deeply here are a few more tips for choosing a vibrator located within our Shopping Guide.

WHO WOULD LIKE SOME KINKY ROLE-PLAY?

2012-02-23T14:25:00.000-08:00

Have you been fantasizing lately about what it would be like to be seduced by an older woman, or connect with a casual encounter? Here is a quick hit list of some great role-plays you can live out with your partner(s). In general terms role-play involves a combination of two, or more people playing out the roles involved to create a sexual fantasy. In most role-plays there are defined power roles where one partner would be considered the dominant, and the other the submissive. These roles are always interchangeable, but some like to hold on to what’s familiar. Regardless of which way you roll the choice is yours. Enjoy the ideas and feel free to contribute more in the comment sections if you have them.

Top 10 role-plays

The Examining Room ~ There are a few different takes on this classic, but take some time to think about your roles and stick to the character. Some examples are the doctor/nurse, nurse/patient, or you could involve multiple partners as well by bringing in other medical staff.
Mrs. Robinson ~ If you’ve ever seen the movie The Graduate you’ll know what this one’s all about. In this role-play the woman pretends to be an older far more experienced woman seducing an awkward virginal young man.
French Maid S'il Vous Plait ~ One can’t have a top 10 role-play list without the ubiquitous French maid. Be it in a hotel room, or your abode there is certain je ne sais quoi about this situation. Even better served with in the original language, or a convincing accent.
The Switch ~ Have a thing for wearing women’s underwear? In The Switch, one or both partners takes on the role of the opposite sex to mix up the gender binary.
The Burglar ~ This one can be played by either partner and involves one person ‘breaking into the house’, and getting caught in the act. This role-play can take a variety of different routes, and is probably best served with a pre-established safe word.
The Hitchhiker ~ Once again either gender can take on this role. Anyway it’s played out there will definitely be some hot and steamy automotive related promiscuity to keep things sexy.

The Kidnapper ~ This one’s definitely one of the edgiest role-plays out there, and only recommended for those that are experienced with role-playing, safe words, and planning. As you can guess a partner is scooped up and taken off to a remote location to live out the fantasy.
Casual Encounter ~ Welcome to the world of online. With this role-play have one partner setup a casual encounter post on Craigslist, and have the other be the one trolling the ads. Make sure to have some code words arranged so you know you’re getting the right partner, and plan your meet up at a hotel. The two of you may want to build the erotic anticipation by continuous sexting.
The Interview ~ This is a classic power differential role-play. One partner wants the job really badly, and the other holds all the cards. Be sure to dress for the occasion with a well-cut suit, and some revealing business attire.
The Interrogation ~ A classic scene that can be played with just the two of you, or multiple partners. As you can imagine the perpetrator is brought in for questioning, and must not divulge their secrets no matter what is done to them.

WOULD YOU BUY YOUR VIBRATOR AT A DRUGSTORE?

2012-02-21T14:50:00.000-08:00

There you are walking down your local drugstores family planning aisle on your way to the pharmacy counter when you notice your friend, and mine the vibrator sitting right next to the condoms and lube. These are exciting times indeed for the world of sex-positive culture. You’re now able to pick up a bag of chips, your band-aids and your sexual self-pleasuring device all in a convenient one-stop-shop. From a birds eye view we’re really excited about the fact that society has become comfortable enough with the sale of vibrators that having them in your local London Drugs ‘ain’t no thing’. That said even though we are excited about this empowering consumer option, we also realize it’s not a new thing, it’s just a rebranded thing. For those that aren’t in the know, department stores and drug stores have been selling “massagers” for decades. The Hitachi Magic Wand is a classic example of this. The difference know is that companies like Durex, Trojan, and We-Vibe are marketing them as vibrators, and to that end good for them.

The million dollar questions though (and there are two) surrounding this whole situation are would you feel comfortable saddling up to the till with your basket of Advil, tampons, and vibrator for the whole world, and your next door neighbor to see, or are you just not there yet? If you are all the more power to you, because that’s indicative of the sexual self-confidence we should all be maturing towards. The next question boils down to choice, and the consumer experience. Would you feel good about buying a vibrator from a large department store with a limited selection, and no service? Didn’t think so. The great thing about sex toy stores, well at least the nicer boutique style sex toy stores is that they’re a wealth of amazing information, not just about the products on the shelves but about all things sexual as well. The staff culture at these stores is generally one made up of people that are into sexuality, and are very passionate about the topic. If you want to talk about sex, and find out what’s best for you these are the folks to do it with.

What are your thoughts? If you’re reading this blog you’re probably already pretty comfortable with your sexuality, and have a general interest in the topic. Given the opportunity would you buy your sex toys from a drugstore, a boutique style shop, or would you prefer doing it online? We’d love to hear your comments on the subject. Like we said before the proliferation of sex toys into the market place is nothing but a plus, but we’re curious to know how you feel about the drugstore phenomena.

THE VALENTINE'S HANGOVER

2012-02-20T17:16:00.000-08:00

For many out there Valentines is that special time of year when you make an attempt to go that extra special mile for the one you love. Well what about the other 364 days a year? What are you doing to show your love, and create a feeling of increased intimacy with each other? At some point in long-term relationships we all stumble and fall. Whether we’re taking our partner for granted, having communication breakdowns, or in general feeling a lack of passion towards them. There are a million possible situations that can happen to us all from time-to-time. If we’re not careful the routine of life, and responsibility can create a mindset where we shift from being present with the one we love, and move into a series of roles that can hamper not only our relationship growth, but our personal growth as well. For those with little ones this is especially pertinent as the tiny amount of time you do have together you’re generally trying to communicate over the screaming children that don’t yet necessarily grasp the subtleties of the art of conversation.

So how do you keep the spark alive, while creating greater intimacy in your relationship? You can start by focusing on effectively communicating your needs to each other. By connecting in a way that’s respectful of each others individual realities you can gain a real understanding and empathy about what each other is experiencing. You can also try accepting each other for who they are. It sounds simple and obvious, but we often get into these patterns of trying to change, or control the ones we’re with, while forgetting the reasons we were attracted to them in the first place. Relationships are work, infinitely rewarding work, but work none-the-less. By working at becoming a reliable and consistent presence for each other you help to manifest trust within the relationship. With that trust comes a sense of safety for both individuals to express themselves in an open and nonjudgmental environment. While you’re working on the intricacies of personal and relationship growth be sure to take some time and recognize and communicate your appreciation for each other’s strengths and vulnerabilities. Lastly don’t forget to forgive. Being able to forgive your partners slip-ups is to accept their humanity and, allow you to each move forward in your growth as individuals together. By using some of these tips you’ll both increase your capacity for staying present with each other, while creating a deeper intimacy within the relationship that will carry that Valentines love the whole yearlong.

VIBRATORS ~THINKING OUTSIDE THE BOX~

2012-02-02T14:33:00.000-08:00

If you are a person that thinks vibrators are just for masturbation, well this blog post is for you. We’re here to tell you that vibrators and other types of sex toys are great for playing with your partner(s) as well. These little buzzing icons are fantastic for levelling the sexual playing field, as well as bringing a heightened level of spice into the mix. After reading this post you’ll be able to add a few tricks into your repertoire that you and your partner can experiment with the next time your fooling around.

First up is for male focused oral. Next time your giving your man a blowjob take your little vibrator and hold it up to your cheek, then down around the base of his balls, followed by pressing it gently onto his perineum (aka the taint). During erections the penis becomes increasingly sensitive and adding a vibrating element to the experience can cause a high level of excitement. If you have a branch style vibrator like a Rabbit put his shaft in between the clitoral stimulator, and the shaft of the toy while performing fellatio. If you’d like to mix the sensations, and timing up you can also use your vibrator on his nipples during foreplay to drive him wild as well. As things progress pass the vibrator to him so he can use it on you. If you’re female get him to put it on your clitoris, while your still giving him oral. This will make a nice segue into him returning the oral favours.

When it’s time to switch it up, and have your partner perform cunnilingus a lot of the same tricks can be flipped back in your direction. If you’re the giver in this situation hold the vibrator on the clit while you swirl your tongue around the vaginal entrance, and inner thighs where the clitoral legs branch downwards. If you have a small penetrative vibrator handy that is curved for g-spot stimulation insert is slowly into the vagina, press gently down on the Mons, and use your tongue on the clitoris. This technique should heat things up pretty quickly. When you finally do make the next step to penetrative sex try sandwiching a vibrator between the two of you during missionary, or using the vibrator directly on the clitoris during woman on top, or doggy style. As you can see there are lots of different ways to incorporate vibrators into your sex play. The only thing really limiting you is your imagination. If you find yourself daydreaming over coffee, and staring off into the wild blue yonder start putting together a few sequences together in your mind incorporating toys, and see where your mind takes you, you may be surprised.

JAMES BONDAGE 2012 COSTUME IDEAS

2012-01-28T15:52:00.000-08:00

With our annual James Bondage event people have a tendency to always ask the question, what should I wear? So in the spirit of helping your creative juices ooze forth, we've compiled a quick list of 50 Fairytale characters to give you a little help. We'll also be posting some links on our Facebook Page over the next few days to interesting blog posts we see that are steeped in Deviant Fairytale mystery. If you have any suggestions to add, by all means tack them on to the comment section for your fellow revelers.

Alice in Wonderland
Peter Pan
GoldiLocks
The Big Bad Wolf
Gretel
Hansel
Snow White
Rumplestiltskin
Sleeping Beauty
The Pied Piper
Cinderella
Jack and the Beanstalk
Queen of Hearts (Alice in Wonderland)
A flying monkey from the Wizard of Oz
Puck (A Midsummer Night’s Dream)
Titania- Queen of the Fairies (A Midsummer Night’s Dream)
Pinocchio
Any number of evil witches
The Nutcracker Prince (The Nutcracker)
The Snow Queen (The Nutcracker)
Fezzik (The Princess Pride)
The Little Mermaid
Prince Charming
Vasilisa the Beautiful
Ali Baba
Unicorn
Enkidu (The Epic of Gilgamesh)
Ishtar (The Epic of Gilgamesh)
The Hare (The Tortoise and the Hare)
Belle (Beauty & The Beast)
The Beast (Beauty & The Beast)
The Elf Maiden
The Emperor (The Emperors New Clothes) see dress code
Maid Maleen
The Knight in Shining Armour
The Forest Nymph
Aslan the Lion (The Chronicles of Narnia)
The Emerald Witch (The Chronicles of Narnia)
Gingerbread Man
The Sugar Plum Fairy (The Nutcracker)
Puss n’ Boots
The Sphinx
Nick Bottom (A Midsummer Night’s Dream)
Elisa (The Wild Swans)
The Seven Dwarves (Snow White)
The Banshee
The Ogre
Glinda the Good Witch of the North (Wizard of Oz)
The Leperchaun
Jezebel

JAMES BONDAGE ~THE DEVIANT FAIRYTALE~

2012-01-23T14:48:00.000-08:00

Well it’s that time of year again. The time when New Years resolutions are getting old, and the winter cabin fever is starting to reach a squirrelly crescendo. The time I’m talking about of course is James Bondage time. In this its 8^th inception Trinity Romance’s James Bondage Fetish Fundraiser is preparing to incinerate the proverbial box that hems in creativity, and inhibition. With a laser gun of love our crew is ready to drop funky sass bombs on an unwitting populace in a fairytale inspired fetish party aimed to impress.

Personally this is one of my favourite times of year. Together with my team we get to hold a party of epic proportions all in the name of a good cause. Since it’s inception 8 years ago we’ve managed to raise approximately 35k for the Howe Sound Women’s Centre, 10k for public art projects, 10k for local mountain bike trails, and 2k for the Sri Lankan Tsunami relief, all while having an amazing time. It’s been a thrill to witness over the years how people’s creative juices pour out for this event. The ensembles people put together, the décor that is installed, and the performances that are brought in are quite simply mind bending. If you haven’t been before you need to do yourself a favour and come and check this party out. This year we’ll be transforming three rooms and creating two stages into a Fairytale masterpiece for the senses.

Occasionally we’re asked what does a fetish party have to do with raising funds for the local Howe Sound Women’s Centre? My line of thinking on that one has always been that since they are in the business of empowering women, and we’re in the business of sexual empowerment throwing a party that fed into that synergy seemed like a natural fit. We’re really proud of our local Women’s Centre; they not only support our community but also service the whole Sea-to-Sky Corridor, as well as coastal towns all up and down the British Columbian shore. The list of services this great resource provides is quite extensive, and could warrant a blog post in and of its self, but in short we’re really glad to have them in our community, and take pride in supporting this amazing asset as frequently and wholeheartedly as possible.

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SHEJACULATION IT HAPPENS, ENJOY IT!

2012-01-12T13:52:00.000-08:00

So you the story goes like this you were having sex, and getting really into it, then you begin to climax and start expelling a significant amount of fluid out of your vagina in either a squirting, or gushing like fashion creating what may be deemed by some, a messy situation. Initially you feel amazing, but then all of a sudden you look at your partner to see what happened, and a range of emotions run over you. You’re shocked, worried, embarrassed, and you might even apologize.

First what the h-e-double hockey sticks are you apologizing for? You were having amazing sex, had an orgasm, and some fluid came out of your vagina. You can sure bet there’s going to be some fluid coming out of his organ when the time comes (if it hasn’t already), so why the need to feel ashamed. It’s not normal you say. Well there is definitely a difference between rare and not normal. Just because it doesn’t happen every time to every woman doesn’t make it weird, it just makes it special. That’s right special. If your partner can’t handle a few ml of fluid gushing, or squirting out during some hot sex it may be time to consider moving on to a new partner that can appreciate you for who you are, and what your body does.

What’s happening is completely natural, and a result of a little known organ called the Skene’s gland that’s close to the vaginal entrance and is thought to be responsible for squeezing out the liquid. Oh, and by the way if you think its pee it’s not. The medical community is not really 100% sure what it is, and there is a lot of conflicting science about where it comes from, but one things for sure urine it is not. So if you’re a squirter, or are in a situation where you’re having sex knowing full well that your bladder is empty and you feel that “I have to pee” urge, ride it out, and see what happens. It could be totally amazing, and something that you thoroughly enjoy the experience of. If you’re not sure how your partner might react try to keep them in the loop, and be sure to keep the towels handy, and above all enjoy!

Enjoy yourself, it's later than you think,

Enjoy yourself, while you're still in the pink.

The years go by as quickly as a wink,

Enjoy yourself, enjoy yourself, it's later than you think.

-The Specials-

TOP 10 ROMANTIC & SEXY NEW YEARS TO DO’S

2011-12-30T13:58:00.000-08:00

With New Years upon us we're all sometimes left wandering what can I do to make it a memorable one? I've always believed New Years is what you make it, and if you bit a little bit of effort, and creativity the holiday presents a ripe excuse to create a lasting memory, and intention going forward into the New Year. So without further adieu here is a list of our top 10 romantic and sexy things to do with your partner this New Years Eve.

1. Indoor Picnic- Create a fireside romantic scene for you and your lover complete with blanket, candles, chocolate fondue, strawberries, massage oil, toys, and love… lots of love

2. Champagne Kisses- Best performed in a bathtub, hot tub, or wherever you don’t mind a little champagne spilling. For this you will each take a mouthful of champagne and start kissing feeling the bubbly overflow out of both of you, as it trickles and bubbles down your intertwined bodies.

3. Moonlit Hike- Depending on where you are, and what the weather is doing take your partner on a moonlit hike, or snowshoe complete with headlamp complete and a unique present just for them from you.

4. Relationship Resolutions- Create a list of the 10 things that you really value about your partner, and different ways you want to manifest love in the coming year, and recite it to them at midnight.

5. Book of Us- Create a little photo album of fun things you’ve done together over the last year.

6. Fireworks- If you can get them, and you’re not breaking any bylaws in your area then do so. Nothing says excitement like a little pyrotechnics show for two.

7. The 12 positions- Either dream up a sequence in advance, or work together in the moment to maneuver through 12 different positions. One for every month of the year.

8. Set the Tone- Create a playlist, or as a close friend labels them GFM’s (Good F*^@’in Mix) of time related songs, with the occasional new years tune thrown in for good measure.

9. Scavenger Hunt- Create a scavenger hunt for your partner either around the house, or around the town that ends up with you presenting yourself, or something really romantic at the end, hopefully they'll finish before the clock strikes 12.

10. Breakfast in Bed- After a night of high romance, and sensual love making be sure to have your fridge stocked with all the necessary ingredients for a memorable breakfast in bed. Don’t forget the mimosas, or Baileys and coffee!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!

VAGINAL TIGHTENING CREAMS EXPOSED

2011-12-29T16:51:00.000-08:00

Do you think your vagina isn’t quite as tight as it ‘should’ be? Have you ever thought of using a vaginal tightening cream to ‘firm’ things up? Well we’re going to take a minute to tell you about some of the stuff that’s in those creams, and why not to bother. There are lots of companies out there that will spends tons of advertising dollars to let you think that too much sex may stretch you out, or how childbirth can irreparably change your vagina forever. Generally the marketing spin that has spawned products like vaginal tightening creams can be attributed to a lack of knowledge, or misinformation around the topic of vaginas in general.

These fear-based products feed on women’s insecurities around their own sexual self-image. Often they are similar in thought design to breast enhancing creams, or penis enlargement cures. These concoctions will at best swindle you out of some of your hard earned money, and at worst cause an allergic reaction or give you an infection. Here’s a fact, vaginas are muscles meant to expand and contract. Just like any other muscle in your body the best thing you can do for it’s overall health and wellbeing is to exercise it either through kegels, or sex itself.

In terms of some of the ingredients that go into these creams it could be as basic as Aloe Vera or as dangerous as aluminum. Some of these creams even contain numbing agents that lower your sensitivity, the concept being that if your vagina isn’t stimulated enough it will not fully engorge to its normal size, nor will it lubricate itself as much. With less lube comes more friction giving a feeling of tightness around the penis. What you’re also getting is a mask over any pain your body may be experiencing, and an increased risk of minor tearing and possible infections. Generally any numbing cream during sex is a bad idea, due to the fact that your pain receptors are there for a reason, and if you can’t feel damage being done in the moment, you’ll surely feel it later. Some of the worst vaginal tightening creams contain aluminum, which has links to Alzheimer’s. Use of these can cause inflammation and dryness giving a tighter feel for the penis, but a rather unsexy possibly painful feeling for the vagina.

If you really are suffering from issues like incontinence, or the effects of childbirth our best advice to you is don’t buy into a magic cream that is going to make everything better, because it won’t. Go and have a visit with your doctor, do a little homework and get to know yourself inside and out. Not only will you have a few more dollars in your pocket at the end of the day, but your vagina will thank you as well.

WHAT IS NORMAL SEX?

2011-12-11T15:06:00.001-08:00

How do you define normal sex? If we look at it from a broader traditional western outlook it’s probably safe to say that ‘normal’ sex consists of hetero man on woman in the missionary position. What’s really interesting about that is the actual percentage of people having sex the ‘normal’ way, and how amazing it is that the above formula is so entrenched in our cultural zeitgeist.

It’s our well substantiated feeling that ‘normal’ sex is in fact really not that normal at all, and for those that are doing it the normal way all the time you have to ask yourself are they really enjoying it? Most likely if they’ve been in a longer term relationship and the good old fashioned in and out isn’t so new to them they’re probably fantasizing about something else, or living those fantasies out with another partner on the side. That raises a couple of questions. First for those who prefer the safety of the ‘normal’ paradigm what’s keeping them there? The second question that pertains to everybody else out there doing it, why aren’t we talking about all of the fun, and amazing pleasure we’re receiving through a healthy sexual relationship?

This is a fact. It’s 100% healthy to be open to your sexual desires and fantasies. For those that would like to explore those desires in a safe, and consensual way well we define that as being an integral part of what should be considered normal sex. To further illustrate the disconnect we as a society have with what we do behind closed doors, and how we express ourselves in the public realm we have to look no further than how we interact with our local sex shops.

Occasionally we’ll hear comments either in our shop, or out at our local watering hole about how someone may not need that vibrator, cuffs, or paddle, and that the good old-fashioned way works just fine for them. Well that’s great if that’s truly all you want, or fantasize about, but let’s take a second and shift that paradigm a little. As consumers we don’t walk into shoe stores for example look at the offerings adorning the wall, and think oh my God what do they need all these shoes for, don’t they just need something to put on their feet! Freaks! The disparity between the two does make for interesting conversation about what we do, or think about doing sexually and how those attitudes manifest themselves in our public mind.

So right now we’re going to present a challenge for you. There are two parts to this challenge, the first is to initiate a conversation about sex with your friends at the next social function your at, and the second is to have a heart-to-heart conversation with your partner about your sexual desires. The first does the world a service by bringing out the greatest thing we all do, but rarely talk about into the public arena, and the second even if not played out will give you a chance to connect with your partner and perhaps learn a thing or two, about what makes each other tick. Enjoy!

THE EXERCISE LIBIDO CONNECTION

2011-08-22T16:12:00.000-07:00

We live in a culture of busy. Busy schedule, busy lives, busy, busy, busy. The

responsibilities of everyday life seem to exponentially compound themselves the deeper we move into adulthood. It’s easy in our fast paced lives for the stresses of the everyday to create a strain on the amount of exercise we do, and the amount of sex we have. The correlation between exercise and libido is a strong one. If the energy and desire for a plethora of torrid lovemaking sessions complete with vibrators, cuffs, and other accruements has been waning lately you might want to reflect how your exercise routine is.

There are certain hormonal changes that happen during exercise that affect our sex lives in a positive way. When we exercise we release endorphins that make us feel good, while providing relaxation, and reducing performance anxiety. Adrenaline and testosterone are also released into the mix. These ‘pump up’ our level of alertness, while increasing the level of our sex drives. All of these hormonal

secretions work together to increase libido and enhance sexual performance. While these hormones are great for increased libido we need to be very aware of the stress that we bring into our lives. Stress can release the hormone cortisol, which is responsible for our fight, or flight response. If by stressing too often about numerous things the constant release of coritsol can reduce the production of testosterone, progesterone and estrogen negatively impacting our sex lives.

From a mental standpoint exercise will do a lot to increase our level of self-confidence allowing us to have fewer inhibitions. Self-confidence is an attitude, and attitudes are a function of our experiences. If we’re experiencing positivity as a result of exercise induced hormonal releases feeling secure, and confident in yourself will naturally grow from that. The benefits from of a more confident point of view will not only be an increased sex drive, but perhaps provide the security one needs to experiment with different things like role playing, use of different sex toys, or even swinging to name but a few.

In short if you find your sex life waning, and your to do list exponentially growing take some time to start incorporating a regular exercise routine into your daily

life. If you’re in a relationship try exercising with your partner, not only will you be on similar wavelengths it’s also a great time to hang out with each other, while strengthening your bond. The world of sex is as boundless as the imagination, and bringing a certain level of effort towards enhancing the physical aspect of our lives truly stands to benefit the pulsing libido in us all.

CUNNILINGUS LOVE- HOW TO GO DOWN ON A WOMAN

2011-08-10T12:34:00.000-07:00

Cunnilingus is the act of oral sex done upon a woman’s vagina, and clitoris. Sometimes it’s commonly called eating out, giving face, or a multitude of other terms that you’ve probably heard everywhere from the school yard to the water cooler. If you’ve ever wandered how to get really good at it, we’ve decided to throw a few tips your way. As with any sex act it’s hugely beneficial when your partner is relaxed first. Just jumping right into it may work occasionally for some, but it’s usually a safe bet to start slow and follow your partner’s cues. Remember your not simply following a recipe that’s going to produce the same results every time you’re practicing some techniques that will if done just the right way create something akin to a musical masterpiece ending in a crescendo like orgasm.

For the adventure your about to embark on you’ll need a giving demeanour, lips, tongue, chin, hands, and your fingers too. Some women can be self-conscious about what they can’t easily see, so be sure to compliment her every step of the way. Practicing compliments and communication as to how things are feeling will also go a long way to creating that environment of relaxation. Also pay special attention to your partners body responses, remember your communicating yourself sexually from your mouth through her vagina so you want to be aware at all times of how they’re feeling about what you’re doing.

When you first begin the clit may be too sensitive for direct stimulation, so

focus your attention to places like the outer labia, and inner thighs. Then gently spread apart the outer labia and with a relaxed tongue gently caress the moistened folds of her vagina. As things begin to warm up play with both the firmness of your tongue, and the pressure you apply to different parts of the vagina. You’ll want to tease, and taunt to bring the heat of the moment up. Your partner will also enjoy the feeling of having your tongue penetrate as you grind your freshly shaven chin (assuming your male) into her vagina. Grinding that chin is also a great way to catch your breath for a second while slowly coaxing the clit to come out and play if it hasn’t already.

At some point she may feel comfortable with you placing two well-lubed fingers, or a dildo inside of her. For some extra success curve your fingers in a come hither motion so they are pressing on the nerve endings on the front wall of the vagina. Some women may be into some light anal play too, and will let you know they would like a finger in their rectum. If that’s the case make sure your nails are well trimmed, and fingers very well lubricated and listen to what she tells you do. For health reasons once you put a finger into the rectum never put it back in the vagina.

Generally at this point things are starting to heat up, and you can start paying some more focused attention to the clit by licking gently around it until you notice it expose itself. Now lightly tease it with your flicking tongue, but not too much you don’t want to desensitize things if it’s still too early in the game.

If things are going really well though and your partner is really responding well via bucking, moaning, or squirming by all means keep doing what you’re doing. Those signals mean she’s enjoying it, and an orgasm is near so whatever you’re doing for the love of a higher being don’t stop!

Once she comes once again follow her lead. Some women will simply want to rest and be cuddled, while some may be eager for more play. Whatever you do be sure to listen to your partners wants and needs before your own. You may even find sometimes that none of this progression is happening for you, and that’s okay too. Don’t force the vibe, put pressure on yourself, or your partner, simply relax and try it another time.

TOP 10 REASONS TO USE SEX TOYS

2011-08-06T17:17:00.000-07:00

Well to begin with there are so many great reasons to use sex toys whittling it down

to a list of the top 10 was tricky. There are so many types to choose from dildos, vibrators, cock rings, anal toys, and bdsm related accessories reigning the list into a few choice selections that speaks to all facets was a tough job, but as you guessed somebody had to it. Without further adieu here is our Top 10, and if you have any others to add to it we'd love to hear your reasons in our comment section.

TOP 10 REASONS TO USE SEX TOYS:
1. Great for achieving female orgasm during partner play.
2. They don’t talk back.
3. They’re ready and willing whenever you are.
4. Sex Toys allow you to become familiar with your body, and it’s different sexual responses.
5. They can add sass to a stale a relationship.
6. Different shapes allow you to target different erogenous zones.
7. For men cock rings will help you maintain an erection longer.
8. There are as many options as there are ideas.
9. Teaching your partner how to use a sex toy on you in combination with them can make for amazing partner sex.
Now for Number 10... Initiate drum roll...
10. Call it obvious, but we like to keep it simple. Sex toys are really fun, and they give you orgasms. Yes, we know it's utterly obvious, but so very true. Besides who can argue with the benefits of an orgasm.

WHY'S MY SEX TOY LOOK LIKE A SMILING ANIMAL ANYWAY?

2011-07-28T16:33:00.000-07:00

The last time you were in a sex shop, or perusing some online catalogs you may have noticed a significant amount of vibrators that were reminiscent of a wide variety of animals. Perhaps you saw a beaver, a hummingbird, a dolphin, or even the infamous Rabbit. For those that don’t know the “Rabbit” was made famous by now legendary episode of Sex and the City when Miranda gifts Charlotte one, and she subsequently becomes addicted to its buzzing and twirling pleasures. Now, you may ask yourself how did I get a little rabbit, or any other animal for that matter pressed up against my clit, or penetrating my vagina? I mean I’m not complaining if feels really good, but just curious why the funny shape?

Well for the answer we’ll take a little trip to across the pond to Japan. These animal shaped vibrators came to be from a rather antiquated Japanese obscenity law that essentially outlawed the penis being manufactured for purposes of a sexual nature. So what did Japanese manufacturers like Vibratex do? They not only subverted the system they turned the sex toy industry on its head. Being Japanese they installed some really good electronics, then worked around the law by themeing their vibrators into animals. The most important aspect of their toys was the fact they paid attention to the clitoris by putting a powerful vibrator right at the base of the shaft. An intelligent blend of form, and function, mixed with the spirit of subversion had these toys creating a global phenomenon in no time.
What happened next? As with anything wildly successful everybody wants to rip off your idea, and before you knew it the mainstream toy providers were riding the wave minus the body safe materials, and quality electronics and churning out carbon copies at such a rate that something designed out of a cultural taboo merely became the norm.

In the mid 90’s the German company Funfactory came to the table and took things to

the next level. By riding what the market place was familiar with and fusing it with the best body-safe materials Funfactory essentially began the next generation of sex toy. One that wasn’t only interested in pleasure, but also was built well, and with materials that didn’t leach toxins into vagina’s, anus’s, or mouths like the lower end Rabbit like knock offs were doing.

These days the popularity of the animal is starting to fade, and toys are trending towards more ergonomic features, and sleek designs that veritably scream sexy. It’s

encouraging to see how our societal attitudes towards sex have evolved. What was the creative yet entertaining reaction towards a fear based law about sexuality that allowed us to laugh at ourselves, has morphed an industry, and a world into a place where not only can we laugh about sex toys and sexuality, but we can become inspired to create sophisticated designs, and features that truly celebrate the beauty of sexuality not only in our toys, but in ourselves as well.

WAX PLAY, WHY NOT?

2011-07-22T17:41:00.000-07:00

You’ve heard the term, your curiousity has been piqued, but you’ve yet to venture down that path. For those that aren’t familiar wax play is a form of edge play where one partner is considered the top, and the other the bottom. Scenes are usually played out with the top dripping wax from a lit candle, or drizzled from a ladle onto their waiting partner. As you can imagine it can make for a pretty hot scene (no pun intended), especially when paired with blindfolds, restraints, and toys. If it sounds a little out there don’t sweat it, just read on and turn that nervousness of the unknown into knowledge of what’s possible.

Wax play can be a fun, safe, and very erotic experience to share with your partner where you can enjoy a wide variety of sensations, and emotions. To get into it you’ll need a bit of basic knowledge, and the right equipment. To start with you’ll need candles. The best options for those are plain uncoloured paraffin candles, similar to the type you’ll find in an emergency kit in most camping sections. Paraffin candles will burn at a lower temperature, are more economical, and don’t contain additives or pigments that could have the potential to burn. For those adverse to paraffin wax soy candles are also a good alternative, even if they are a bit more expensive. We strongly recommend staying away from beeswax candles, due to their high burning temperature. You'll also want to be wary of coloured candles that contain pigments rather than dye. Depending on the pigment it can burn at higher temps, while dyes tend to be a bit on the mellower side.

Once you’ve got your candles all lined up you’ll need a few essentials to carry out the scene. Grab yourself a drop sheet, or tarp, mineral oil, plastic scraper, butter knife, scrubbie, towels, a damp cloth to cool down hot spots, and a small bucket of ice. Most importantly keep in mind you’re playing with fire, so it’s a good idea to keep some form of extinguisher close by too just in case.

Now that you’re all prepped let’s build the scene. Have your partner lay down on the tarp blindfolded, and restrained if you like (just be sure to remember your safe word). Once their comfortable you can use the mineral oil to rub gently onto any hairy body parts. Doing this will make the removal of the wax easier. Now turn on your favourite mix of ambient music if you so desire and light your candle. Always let your partner know what you’re doing, and keep those lines of communication open, complete with check-ins. Once lit you can start drizzling the wax slowly over your partners waiting body. The back and the chest are usually good places to start, because they tend to be a less sensitive allowing your partner time to adjust to the sensation. Be sure to rotate your candles as you apply the wax to give the candles an even burn. If you want to slightly increase the intensity to a given area drip the wax on one spot a couple of times to provide a more pronounced sensation, but keep in mind it also takes slightly longer to cool off. Now that you have things warmed up and a good base of clear paraffin applied you may feel like getting a little artsy. Now is a great time to break out the coloured candles that tend to burn at a slightly higher temperature, because you have your protective clear base their will be less contact with the skin so the intensity will be somewhat diffused.

Now that your artwork is complete you can continue to ramp up the scene with a little bit of partner play, or you can change the sensation up by beginning the clean up. If you’re thinking partner play perhaps a small vibrator, or other sensory devices will kick things up a notch. If you’re ready to begin the clean up break out a few of those ice cubes you have with your equipment and begin rubbing them over the body to cool any of the warm wax down. Not only will this provide a unique sensation on its own, but it also makes it easier for the wax to flake off. Next you can use a variety of tools to take the wax off. Try a butter knife, a plastic card, or our favourite a little scrubby. A very fine tooth comb will come in handy to for getting any wax out of the hair. If the comb pulls too much a shower with conditioner will also do a great job of getting the wax off.

With your partner free of wax you’ll both note how sensitive the skin has become. Take the time to provide the appropriate after care and love while you bring your partner back to their regular level of consciousness and feeling.
So there you have it. We hope you learned a thing, or two. If you have any additions, or questions please feel free to add them to the comment section, we’d love to hear from you. Most importantly remember to have fun, and play safe!

10 MOST ROMANTIC THINGS TO DO IN SQUAMISH

2011-07-13T15:49:00.000-07:00

The other day we had one of our staffers draft up a quick top 10 list of the most romantic things to do in the little mountain town of Squamish where our brick and
mortar store is located. Needless to say she had as much fun writing it as we did reading it. Give it a look over and let us know what you think, and by all means add as much as you like in the comment section.
1. Do an early morning walk in the estuary, and listen to the birds together.
2. Have a picnic at Rose Park.
3. Make an early morning date at the Spit for some yoga.
4. Go for a horse ride together through the trails.
5. Relax at one of the lakes, and if it’s one of the more private ones perhaps a little skinny-dip.
6. Take in the sunset together on a mountain summit.
7. Have a dinner date downtown at the Parkside Restaurant with a nice bottle of wine.

8. Make use of the ocean to go sailing, or kayaking.
9. Bring a blanket for some outdoor lovemaking.
10. Share the biggest ice cream cone you can get at Gelato Carina look deep into each other’s eyes and touch tongues while the ice cream melts between the two of you. Keep in mind that vanilla has aphrodisiac properties.

There you have it, as told by one of our great staffers. We especially got a kick out of the ice cream bit. If you're ever looking for more tips on sparking the romantic bug have a peek at our tips on choosing a romantic gift post, and hopefully it will help spark some creativity!