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A quiet pool day can sink fast.

This lifeguard met one guest determined to fight every new rule.

Then a birthday party’s pizza landed at the wrong table.

Tempers rose. Phones came out.

Let’s check out all the details below.

This isn’t your pizza ma’am

In our area there are no zoning laws so we have homeowners associations (HOA). That way a bar can’t be built next door to your dream house.

You pay an annual fee and there amenities like maybe a park and a pool. The HOA contracts with a company for lifeguarding and pool cleaning to avoid liability.

Let’s meet our cast of characters…

LG- my daughter the lifeguard

Lifeguard- any other lifeguards working that day

Jerk – she’s lived her forever and getting YOU fired

JH- Jerk’s hubby

Jr- Jerk’s 4 yr old son

IF- innocent family

Setting: it’s a beautiful summer morning in Pool wonderland. Children laughing and splashing and several lifeguards including my daughter sitting on her throne of peace and tranquility. Pool wonderland has some new rules this summer:

No going down the water slide with a child in your lap.

No non-swimwear in the pool.

If you happen to require a head covering of any kind it must be swim wear material. This is an important detail for later.

Lets enter the first scene…

Jerk: KH take jr down the water slide.

KH: sure thing!

Lifeguard atop the slide: sorry sir no children riding in your lap, we do apologize, it’s a new rule this year.

KH: hey no problem.

Jr: disappointed but not an unruly little thing.

Jerk: what the heck? That’s rude!

Jr: beginning to cry as I assume this tone signals to Jr that once again mommy is gonna lose it.

KH: it’s no big deal.

Jerk: now addressing LG why can’t my son go down the waterslide with his dad?

LG: (explains the rules and Jerk doesn’t like it but compiles in a huff)

Now, scene two…

IF shows up and orders pizza. They have a small family birthday party which was scheduled in advance with tables reserved.

Many of the women are wearing what I understand to be Muslim swimwear- appropriate fabric for the pool and covers much of the body including a hijab.

IF decides to get in the pool. Jerk also gets in the pool wearing a tshirt and some shorts.

LG: ma’am I’m sorry but you will have to get out of the pool. You can’t wear that in the water.

Jerk: excuse me I pay for the privilege to swim here and you cannot tell ME what to wear.

LG: it’s a new rule this year we can’t allow people to wear cotton fibers in the water because it messes up the plumbing.

Jerk: what about THEM (she says disgustedly referring to the ladies in the IF) if I have to get out so they THEY.

LG: (now realizing she’s dealing with a jerk) Ma’am they are wearing swim wear, you are not.

Jerk: we’ll see about that.

At this point Jerk is now being told by the lifeguard supervisor on duty being told the same thing.

Nice try Jerk!

And finally, scene three…

Pizza arrives. There are 4 and drinks and breadsticks. Jerk gets up and takes the pizza which was paid for already I imagine as no money changed hands. Not even for a tip. #%*!!!!

Jerk juggles all this to her table and sticks her legs in the water on the side of the pool.

Another pizza arrives and the IF is approached by a lifeguard as they were expecting a delivery. IF says no that isn’t ours. We ordered 4 pizzas and drinks and breadsticks from <not that pizza place>.

LG looks around and sees <gasp> 4 pizzas and drinks and breadsticks on Jerk’s table.

LG to IF: I bet I know who this belongs to, let me help you! <she’s thrilled after Jerk has been so nasty*>

she didn’t even say anything. LG walked to the table, set the pizza down and helped the IF carry the 4 pizzas and drinks and breadsticks.

Jerk: EXCUSE ME WHERE DO YOU THINK YOURE GOING WITH OUR FOOD?

LG: this pizza isn’t your pizza ma’am. She has the order on her phone matching the pizza place and the order. Your pizza was delivered a moment ago and on your table.

Jerk glances back in confusion covering her embarrassment (it wasn’t even the same delivery place) with pure rage now yelling at LG and demanding the police be called.

LG: why would you call the police?

Jerk: you have been harassing me all day and I know you have been staring at my son! I have lived here for years and I’m going to the HOA board to have you fired!

LG: laughs nervously and turns and walks back to her stand.

(My daughter has bad anxiety and for years, she’s perfected a stonewall exterior where you think she doesn’t care but she will cry later because I mean she’s human).

Jerk is trailing behind and yelling expletives now.

Jerk proceeds to use her phone camera to video my daughter hoping to catch her doing what… I don’t even know I mean she’s literally paid to watch and scan patrons of the pool. That’s most of your job as a lifeguard.

By the end of the day the police have been called because Jerk insisted the staff was out of line.

Finally!

Jerk’s disruptive behavior has actually bothered other patrons (mostly the IF) as ugly comments about swim wear were overheard and made them uncomfortable.

It was following guards and taking cell phone video that actually got Jerk and her family kicked out.

Many lifeguards are minors and this made the staff uncomfortable. Not to mention it’s ludicrous to be distracting a first responder from their job.

Jerk did not return to the pool for the remainder of the summer. Not because she was banned.

Hopefully she went home and looked in the mirror and was too embarrassed by her behavior.

Let’s get into the comments…

This person has sympathy for the lifeguard.

This person had a quippy comment!

This commenter has a theory for why the jerk stayed away.

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And this person hopes she learned her lesson!

This guest fought safety rules, targeted Muslim swimmers, and mistakenly claimed another family’s pizza.

Her harassment brought police attention and got her family removed, and she never returned that summer.

The post She Objected To The Pool’s Requirements And Wouldn’t Cooperate, So A Routine Rule Enforcement Situation Escalated Into A Call To The Cops appeared first on TwistedSifter.

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So many people swear by coffee as not just a pleasure to cope with stress, but an essential tool to be able to function. Caffeine fuel.

But that’s not what this story is about. See how a nosy coworker gave this blood lab worker bad feelings.

Apparently I drink too much coffee for some people

I’m a middle aged person who is going back to school earning a second bachelor’s degree to be a medical professional.

I’m a senior in my 7th week of clinicals at a hospital 45 min from my school.

My doctor would not accept me handling it the way she does! This seems like a lot to me.

I got along great with everyone so far. I typically have 2 to 3 4oz cups of coffee while I’m there.

A phlebotomist walked in and I was sitting there having a cup after lunch. She said loudly “You drink a lotta coffee and I mean a looooootta coffee… Do you drink coffee right before bed??!”

I said “No. I don’t drink coffee after I leave here.”

Then it got super personal and nosy. I’d probably refuse to answer. The nerve!

She asks, “How old are you, if you don’t mind me asking?” I told her “43”, she says “Hmm you’re not that old..”.

I was sitting there looking at her, trying to figure out why I’m being ambushed about my coffee intake. I couldn’t believe it was happening.

This part made me sad because she feels violated and also powerless. She should contact HR. I would!

It was like a dream. She seemed really bothered over me having a grand total of 12oz of coffee.

In my mind I’m thinking “Witch, mind your freaking business!!” But I can’t say that. I don’t want to get kicked out of school.

Here is what folks are talking about.

No, she reminds me of people I’ve known who literally surveil you for opportunities to give you a lecture and try to make you feel small.

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I think she’s trying to shame OP for not having the energy without coffee.

Whoa! This would make any kid anxious. Maybe it’s a cultural thing?

43-year-old lab worker drinks a lot of coffee and her colleague has a problem with that for some reason.

The post Her Older Colleague Kept Counting Her Daily Coffee Cups—So She Shut Down the Workplace Interrogation for Good appeared first on TwistedSifter.

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I don’t say this very often, but this story is STRANGE.

VERY STRANGE.

And it also goes to show you: sometimes, you never really know who your friends are!

Check out what this woman had to say about how things went off the rails when it came to her “friend’s” wedding.

Get all the details below and see what you think.

AITA for not walking the dog?

“I have three friends that I’ve been really close with, Isabel, Margaret, and Julia.

We’re all teachers and hang out pretty much every day. Margaret and I are teachers together, she was also planning her wedding.

On top of her giving me all the teacher prep work to do, Margaret was also giving me wedding stuff to do. I was of course happy to do it as I thought we were friends.

What?!?!

However I was told I would not be getting an invitation to this wedding about two months before it. I was crushed by this. I thought we were friends and that I would also get to enjoy this great milestone with her.

On top of the fact that Margaret and Isabel both invited themselves to my aunt’s house over Spring Break when I told them I was going to clean the estate after her passing. But they turned it into a whole vacation because it’s located in the islands.

She nailed it!

I took a step back and realized I was being more of a friend to her than she thought of me and I was neglecting some of my own other duties so I took a step back from doing all the prep to also focus on my other responsibilities.

She took that as me being upset with not being invited and talked to Isabel about it.

Hahaha, what?!?!

Margaret then asked me if I would want to walk her dog down the aisle but then promptly go home after.

I was offended by that offer and stepped away from her even more. I still did all my work, I just wasn’t as giddy to do whatever she wanted.

Julia eventually had a talk with Isabel about it trying to tell her about how disrespectful I felt but Isabel took it as me slacking on work because I’m upset I misread a friendship.

I confronted both Margaret and Isabel about the whole thing and they way they are treating me but they just called me a jerk for throwing a hissy fit over the whole thing and slacking on work because I’m upset and even refusing a nice compromise that was offered.

Her wedding is approaching soon and I’m not sure now.

Have I been a jerk about this whole thing and refusing to walk the dog down the aisle?”

Here’s how readers reacted to this story.

This person had a lot to say.

Another Reddit user shared their thoughts.

This individual weighed in.

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And this person spoke up.

How insulting was this request?!?!

Wow!

I’m shocked!

She needs to distance herself from these people immediately and never hang out with them again!

The post She Was Snubbed from the Guest List—Then Expected to Walk the Bride’s Dog Down the Aisle appeared first on TwistedSifter.

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Small vacation disagreements can sting when the person beside you does not offer support.

In this story, one resort guest followed the cabana rules, only for her friend to back down and apologize.

Instead of feeling supported, she wondered why pleasing a stranger mattered more than standing together.

See how this poolside disagreement disrupted what was supposed to be a  relaxing getaway.

AITA for being annoyed over a cabana?

I am a 35-year-old woman, and I am currently on holiday at a resort with my friend (also female and 35), who I love dearly.

At the hotel, there are a few coveted cabanas that are first come, first served.

This morning I got up early and forewent breakfast, hoping to get one for us – but all were already “reserved” with towels.

The pool manager came over and I asked him about it, because they have signs all over that if the cabana is unoccupied for more than thirty mins, they will remove your stuff so someone else can use it.

Let’s see what the pool manager had to say about this.

The manager tells me everyone came down at 6am, put down their towels and went back to bed.

It was around 8am, so I asked him if that means they should be free now, because of the thirty minute rule. He agreed. and freed one up for us.

I lay down, and when my friend joined me and I told her the story, we agreed that should someone come and try to claim it, we will show them the sign and point them to the manager.

But when the expected happened, it didn’t quite go to plan.

An hour later, a woman comes up and says we’re in her cabana.

I told her that the manager freed it up for us because of the thirty minute rule, but she called the manager over, who told us we can switch to the next one which has also now been empty for three hours.

The woman said no, her friend was reserving that one.

I was a bit annoyed at that point and said again, well there’s a rule and I don’t think it’s fair we have to move.

And that was when her friend got involved.

My friend then chimed in and said it’s fine we will leave. I accepted, since I didn’t want to argue further.

We packed our stuff and then my friend walked up to the woman and apologised. She says the manager said it was ok, but we’re really sorry, we didn’t know it was occupied.

The woman said “it’s ok” and shot me a dirty look.

My friend and I are now at a different spot with regular sun lounger and I’m trying to get back to regular happy holiday mood but I’m honestly hurt that she didn’t have my back.

But all this has put a dampener on things.

Now my friend says I am ruining our vacation by being so silent – and I get her point, but I’m trying really hard to not feel hurt.

I feel like she cared more about that lady she will never see again not being mad at her than supporting me.

And even though it shouldn’t matter, it feels like I am the angry black lady while my (white) friend is “the good one.”

On the other hand I understand it’s stupid to be mad about a thing with a cabana.

AITA?

This woman has been put in a really difficult position, since she and her friend had an agreement about how they would react if confronted – but when they were confronted, her friend backed down immediately.

If she had known she was going to do that she shouldn’t have agreed in the first place – or if it had been a spur-of-the-moment thing, the least her friend could have done was apologize to her.

But guilt-tripping her about ‘ruining the holiday’? That’s not a nice thing to do.

Let’s see what folks on Reddit thought about this.

This person thought that she shouldn’t have been treated the way she was.

While others blamed the pool manager for trying to make them move.

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Meanwhile, this Redditor encouraged her to open up to her friend about her hurt.

This woman had the pool manager’s permission to use an abandoned cabana, but her friend quickly surrendered it when another guest complained.

Commenters agreed she was not wrong for needing space after her friend apologized and made her look unreasonable for following the rules.

All that drama came from people trying to reserve furniture while they slept.

The post Resort Guest Wanted A Cabana Badly, So When Other Vacationers Ignored The Rules, She Saw An Opening And Quickly Claimed The Spot appeared first on TwistedSifter.

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If there’s one thing that pretty much nobody enjoys, it’s when another person makes a comment about their body.

So, in the interest of keeping everyone happy, let’s just agree not to do that, okay?

Well, we can hope…

But we all know that some people just can’t help themselves.

Check out what this guy had to say about how he got fed up with aunt’s comments.

Get started now!

AITA for telling my aunt she’s gotten fatter?

“I really do like my aunt, but like my grandma and other relatives, she always felt the need to comment on my weight.

That’s no cool…

“You’ve gained weight, maybe take it easy with the food today”, “you lost weight, you need to eat more” – you know how it goes.

I’ve always felt uncomfortable because of those comments.

But that was 30 years ago. I’m a grown man now. I’m in the best shape of my life, I’ve run marathons, I regularly go climbing indoors and outdoors, I lift and do strength training. I know how to eat healthy and take care of my body.

Here we go again…

And STILL when I invited my aunt over a few weeks back to my new home, the FIRST thing she said to me was how I lost weight and look scrawny and should eat more. She even grabbed my sides to check my ribs! That really, really set me off!

In turn I grabbed her sides, squeezed her fat rolls and told her that she’s gotten fatter. I tried to “sell” it by being extra gentle and show her the irony, but I don’t think that worked… (BTW I’m 77kg on 1,78m; she’s more like 110kg on 1,55cm …).

Uh oh…

As you can imagine this somehow killed the mood.

She didn’t really talk to me for the rest of the evening and my wife later told me that I was super insensitive and couldn’t say stuff like that. Other relatives told me that as well.

But then why is it okay when she did it my whole life!?!

AITA?”

Reddit users shared their thoughts.

This reader said he’s NTA.

Another individual agreed.

This Reddit user shared their thoughts.

Another person spoke up.

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And this individual weighed in.

Well, she kind of asked for it…

And he gave it to her!

Bam!

He had enough of the insults and he finally snapped!

The post Man Gets Tired Of His Aunt Making Comments About His Weight, So He Fires Back By Calling Her Fat appeared first on TwistedSifter.

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When you live with several roommates, it is common that each one will have different standards when it comes to cleaning, and that can cause a lot of conflict.

What would you do if one of your roommates almost never cleaned his assigned areas, and when you tried to get him to do it, he just got upset and acted like it was no big deal?

That is what the young woman in this story is dealing with, and she doesn’t know how to get him to keep the place clean.

Unfortunately, unless it is so bad that it is unhealthy, there is likely little that she can do. Read through the full story below and see if you have any suggestions.

How to deal with roommate who hates being kept accountable?

I (f24) have three roommates (m22, m25 called “X”, f24).

Why does he think that he doesn’t need to clean up after himself?

Since before I moved in, there have always been problems with X never cleaning his fair share. In the past, he even said that he doesn’t see himself responsible for cleaning at all.

I.e., since I moved in a year ago he has cleaned no more than three or four times total (not the wohle flat, just one area each).

What a jerk.

However, he expects us to accept him pregaming on a regular basis and then leaving the kitchen and living room trashed the whole next day.

When I confronted him about it, he said “Well, we’re just uni students.” He leaves trash out for days but, when asked about it, says “the way you talk to me about it makes me want to not clean up at all”.

They are trying to find ways to get him to pull his weight.

After several talks, we – once again – implemented a cleaning plan a couple of weeks ago. Of course, X did not clean some of the most important areas of his assigned room (which was completely filthy) at all but marked them “done” on the shared app.

First, I asked nicely in the group chat to please remember the cleaning plan as the turn to clean the rooms was up. No reaction.

To be fair, it doesn’t sound like he ever agreed to the cleaning schedule.

The next day, I wrote “Hey X, when will you finish cleaning? We all need to be reliable when it comes to cleaning. If the arrangement isn’t working, it is your responsibility to communicate that. But I am tired of you never cleaning and just hoping that noone will say anything.”

His response, “Yeah and it isn’t good for the atmosphere if you come on here exposing me every day. You can’t just expect me to cater to your needs from 0 to 60. Its no big deal if we just clean it less often”

Her needs are her needs, not his. You can’t force people to have the same standards.

I said, “‘My needs’ are the cleaning plan we talked about as a group. And ‘0 to 60’ means you doing your assigned tasks, nothing more.”

When we talked in person afterwards, he told me several times how I must communicate better or else he has no motivation to clean up. Also, I should just wait at least a day before asking him about cleaning up trash.

If the other roommates don’t care enough to say anything, how bad could it be?

FYI, me and the other roommates have no problems with each other at all and all of us do our share of the cleaning plan.

However, they have kind of checked out when it comes to telling him to clean up but tell me they share my opinion.

She is trying to be nice.

It has even gotten to the point where I ask my boyfriend whether my texts to X are okay to send as I feel like I’m walking on egg shells.

I don’t want to feel like I need to find the perfect emoji-to-friendly-sounding-text-ratio for him to act like an adult human being.

It is about cleaning to her standards and on her timeline.

It’s just about cleaning up after you’ve used shared spaces and doing your part of the cleaning plan.

How on earth do you deal with that?

Honestly, these two are simply not compatible. Yes, he should clean up and shouldn’t need to be treated like a child to get him to do it. She, however, seems to think that she can demand that everyone have the same cleaning standards as she does.

Let’s see what the people in the comments have to say about it.

This commenter thinks he is gaslighting her.

Issuing a cleaning fee isn’t a bad idea.

This commenter thinks she is being too nice.

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Here is someone who had a roommate just like this. It didn’t end well.

This is one option.

He needs to clean up his act, but that is unlikely, so they need to kick him out.

The post Woman Is Tired Of Nagging Her Roommate To Clean His Assigned Areas, But He Still Refuses To Pull His Weight appeared first on TwistedSifter.

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Automation can transform a business by directly increasing profits or making processes more efficient and less wasteful.

Do you think that’s what the business in this story thought would happen?

Unfortunately, A.I. often does none of that. Read and decide if it because of how the technology is used or because companies use it at all.

Unprompted Job Text that was very unprofessional.

My husband received some very weird texts greeting him with, “I need to talk to you. Let’s discuss please, do you have time?”

Alarm bells rang for him and I would absolutely also look up the sender and contact them.

It seemed 100% like a scam to me (former bank fraud assistant.)

So I helped him find the website of the company and wrote to HR.

The explanation was surprising and an indictment of backwards tech adoption.

Apparently the texts were from them. Their AI chatbot is try to find candidates for jobs.

He responded that they won’t get any candidates this way because it was disturbing

Here is what folks are saying.

Is he implying I’m a “middling intellect”? I’m hurt.

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Not just the future. It’s always been this way. I’ve thought that since I read Frankenstein.

Take heart. It isn’t a matter of if this will come back to bite them, but when. I find it satisfying and simply avoid working with those types of companies.

AI proposed as the solution to everything by the people who don’t understand it at all.

The post Woman Thinks She’s Protecting Her Husband From A Scam, But The Suspicious Text Turns Out To Be A Legitimate Job Offer appeared first on TwistedSifter.

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Jeez, talk about weaponized incompetence…

Imagine if a friend of yours who was in their late twenties told you they weren’t comfortable flying to another country alone.

I know what I’d do…

Laugh at them!

And then tell all my other friends!

Is that harsh?

Sure…but that sounds like pretty manipulative behavior if you ask me…

Check out what this woman had to say about her friend and her unusual request.

AITA for asking my friend to fly internationally by herself?

“All 3 of us are 27F and American.

My and two of my friends (X and Y) are trying to plan a Europe trip for spring of next year. We all work in healthcare, but me and X have a different schedule than Y. We work 7-on-7-off (so 7 ten hour shifts followed by 7 days off) while Y works Monday-Friday.

We were initially talking about doing a two week trip, but with our different schedules, it’s not possible for me and X to take only two weeks off.

This was all very complicated.

In order for our time off to align with Y’s time off, we would need to take PTO our full “on week”, which means we would really have 3 weeks off.

We asked if Y could also take 3 weeks off, which she denied and said she could only do two weeks. Me and X want to fully utilize our PTO and use the full 3 weeks, so we asked if Y would be okay with us flying out first while she could join us later.

This would require her flying to London by herself, but we would meet her at the airport.

Really…?

Y declined this option, as she does not feel comfortable flying by herself, and doesn’t think her parents would be comfortable with it either.

For additional context, Y has not flown internationally before, but in November she will be flying to Mexico (with X). So flying to London would be her first time flying internationally by herself. I believe she has flown domestically by herself before.

I live on the East Coast, while X and Y live in the Midwest, so I will be flying by myself regardless and meeting them in London.

We’re kind of at a standstill… because X and I want to utilize our full three weeks, but Y would prefer X flies out with her instead.

Obviously I’m not going to make her do anything she’s uncomfortable with, and I want to find a solution that all 3 of us are happy with. If her flying by herself is truly a dealbreaker, then we’ll figure something out.

AITA for asking?”

Check out how readers reacted.

This person said she’s NTA.

Another individual didn’t hold back.

This Reddit user weighed in.

Another individual spoke up.

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And this Reddit user shared their thoughts.

This is wild!

And sounds kind of manipulative, don’t you think?

Her friend is being incredibly immature about this!

The post Her Friend Refuses to Fly Solo across the Globe—Holding Her Entire Overseas Vacation Hostage appeared first on TwistedSifter.

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Having a crush is normal, and having a crush on a neighbor is okay too. But if it goes wrong… Oh, boy.

In this situation, it went very wrong when the “hot neighbor” started wanting attention and admiration. Things got weird and comical but also uncomfortable.

To be honest his behavior sounds exhausting.

What would you do in this situation?

Check out the full story below.

Am i overreacting about my neighbour or he is just being playful?

There’s an attractive neighbour who lives one house after mine.

When i first moved into the neighborhood and noticed him, I was mesmerized so me and my cousins used to admire him.

We were very obvious so he caught on quickly and felt awkward but would still play with the attention whenever he felt comfortable.

He was very indirect and subtle which often left me thinking his behaviours were coincidences.

But that soon changed.

Since I’m his neighbour, he got comfortable with me and dropped his subtlety.

He would do bizarre things like whistling at me (started with the pretense of doing it to the dogs but dropped the indirectness later).

Showing up in his balcony shirtless or in his best looks, doing random sounds to get me to notice him, followed me to shop once, threw indirect flying kiss, watches me from his windows and many more stuff.

He did all that, only to get very awkward and avoidant whenever i would notice him or look directly at him.

He is so awkward that if i would unexpectedly appear or we run into each other in a close range, he would malfunction. And he would get mad and petty if i would ignore or avoid him.

Things got WAY worse.

I later found out that he had been calling me and my cousins losers and fangirls on his instagram account which shocked us and we all pulled away.

Since then we both started to have this push pull thing.

I got emotionally exhausted from the constant back and forth so I started to stop using my own rooftop and avoiding overlapping our timings.

I thought he would stop but he kept inserting himself in my routines to encounter me.

I started to exist around because it is my house and i shouldn’t hide. He would keep provoking me even if I either ignored him or just acknowledged him like a normal neighbour.

Him, basically.

He never stopped and kept desperately trying to get my attention and to keep the indirect interactions alive.

So I sent him a friend request on Instagram to see what he does and he accepted my request but didn’t follow me back.

After all that desperation, he couldn’t even follow me back.

I didn’t make a big deal out of it, unfollowed him and carried on as if nothing happened.

I even tried to normalise things between us by acting as if nothing happened so things won’t become awkward between us and we can exist peacefully.

But it was too late.

At first he was avoiding me but then he started trying to make me interact with him again by doing his attention seeking tactics but i didn’t want anything to do with him so he kept coming and avoiding.

And it’s been months now that he’s not getting any reactions but he still keeps provoking me.

I don’t know how to get him to leave me alone since i know he’ll use his plausible deniability situations to deny what I’m claiming.

What did Reddit think?

Yup.

Sounds like good advice.

Doesn’t everything?

Another reader chimes in.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a neighbor who keeps reporting a neighbor who is constantly parking in the handicapped spots.

True.

Whatever is wrong with this guy, she doesn’t have to figure him out to decide that she wants distance.

This is a cautionary tale, though.

Just because someone’s attractive doesn’t mean they’re safe or nice… or normal.

The post She Had a Massive Crush on Her New Neighbor—Until His Bizarre Behavior and Attention-Seeking Turned Her Off Completely appeared first on TwistedSifter.

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There’s a fine line between teaching respect and sounding like the fun police.

A mom drew that line with her preteen daughter, who loved to talk and play games with her friends on video calls. She answered them in public and at home, often loudly, and often over a movie or show the rest of the family was trying to watch.

The mom was happy her daughter was social, but the noise was overwhelming for someone with severe ADHD, and she also thought it was just plain rude.

But when she asked her to take the calls to her room, her daughter heard something else entirely and accuses her mother of not loving her.

Keep reading for the full story.

AITA: Daughter FaceTimes in Public / In Family Room

My preteen daughter likes to FaceTime her friends and play Roblox, and will answer phone calls in the middle of the store or at home when we’re watching a movie/TV with the rest of the family and loudly talk over the show or us, dramatically yell with her friends about games, etc.

This mother knows her daughter is simply having fun, but the constant interruptions are starting to weigh on her.

I’m so happy she has friends and enjoys hanging with them, but this irritates me so much. I have severe ADHD, and the constant sounds/their high-pitched squeals really overstimulate me.

Tbh, plus I just kinda think it’s rude and not proper etiquette to do this in front of other people or over someone watching a TV show.

She’s gently tried to steer her daughter in another direction, but it’s never gone over well.

But when I kindly mention, “Hey, if we’re going to FaceTime, let’s do it in our room,” she gets super offended and tells me I don’t love her or want to spend time with her.

AITA?

Sounds like this mom needs to put a stop to this disruptive behavior.

Permissive parenting affects parents, but also teachers too.

Her phone bill, her decision.

Talking to her daughter should be the first step.

Teens are going to have attitudes, but it’s up to the parents to deal with them.

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This mom has the right instinct and needs to follow through on it.

Considering her ADHD, asking her daughter to take loud calls to her room is a fair rule, and a polite one too.

The guilt trip is where the mom has to hold firm. Telling a parent “you don’t love me” can end an argument fast, and her daughter has learned that. If it keeps working, the rule will never stick.

Boundaries only count when they’re actually enforced.

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If you’ve ever felt used and misused by your employer so they can save money, this story is for you.

Check out why this worker is sick and tired of the exhaustion and exploitation.

I got so burnt out from the short staffing

A lot of reasons I feel burnt out right now but short staffing is a persistent problem they just don’t seem to want to fix.

The old manager didn’t listen when I brought up feedback that only 2 of us to help the customer line (work at a credit union) on a particularly busy day, while whoever was left was on the desk.

The situation made her feel so unhappy, stressed and undervalued. I’ve heard that a lot of banks are like this and also underpay.

I didn’t say anything after that since I felt like I’d just be ignored. But two things happened recently.

My co-worker once said to me in passing we’ve been “chronically understaffed” for months. Which for me at least means I felt validated if someone else feels it. But what does it mean if you’re not the only one feeling it?

My other co-worker who’s full-time recently left and the new manager decided to change his position to two part-times. One in morning and one in afternoon.

It seems like the only way to get ahead, but if I could afford to, I would quit this job ASAP. I’m exhausted just reading this.

Every newbie starts out part time in the company, and work their way up. If you were full-time like me you probably have adequate work experience there.

So not only has the short staffing been this way for months, the amount of full timers went from 3 to 2. I’m burnt out since it’s like they’re trying to stack as much work on me as they can.

If you went to your bank and only saw 2 people helping the line, it could look unprofessional.

Here is what folks are talking about.

Definitely! Don’t wait until the company goes under. Save and get out. I’ve left clients for much worse. It’s not worth your health and happiness.

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Not sure I agree with this. Might lead to confrontation instead of change. I’d just call the boss out on my own.

Same! It’s awful.

Credit union worker is overworked because of overstaffing and very discouraged.

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Having a roommate can be a great way to save money, split up the cleaning, and generally make life easier, but only if the roommate is good.

What would you do if you got a new roommate, but she turned out to be very messy and unreliable when it comes to things like scheduling repairs or other work?

That is what is happening in this story, and since this is the first time she has lived with a roommate, she doesn’t know if she is expecting too much.

Read through the full story below and see what you think she should do.

Roommate issues

I have a roommate. I was initially living on my own, but had to get another roommate to save up.

Having a roommate can be wonderful.

I was initially excited because I thought it’ll be nice to have company. I did not take anything other than rent and 1/4 of the security deposit.

She has been using all my utensils, she used to keep them extremely untidily. To a point that every day I used to come back from office to an untidy kitchen.

She has the role of primary roommate, even if she doesn’t want it.

I tried to adjust and not complain as much as I could, however she kept on doing it. She barely participates in household activities. I have to coordinate and manage everything.

A recent instance I would like to mention is that we recently had a short circuit in our house. I coordinated for everything electrician, Aquaguard everything.

This is just unacceptable, but why isn’t the landlord handling all of this?

She has more flexible hours, and I checked with her before booking called and confirmed on the day as well and she said yes and then up and left for some work thing.

The Aquaguard guy started screaming at me. I had to come from office and handle everything. We also had to replace fans. All she has to do was be there and let me know a time she is available.

She offered to coordinate asked for a number then just did not do anything about it. I had to finally get him to come and my landlady to look after it.

Her roommate seems unreliable.

This is one of many such instances.

I have been beyond frustrated I genuinely don’t know if I am asking too much. I am a bit particular about things, but it’s so frustrating I am trying to be as understanding as possible but I really do not know what to do.

It seems like she is taking on too much herself.

She’s not a bad person but this is just too much.

I have never had a roommate before but this feels like an unfair bargain. Wanted to know if this is normal behavior.

The roommate does seem very unreliable, which is annoying. That being said, it sounds like the author of this story is taking on things that she shouldn’t. Most of these things should have been coordinated by the landlord.

Let’s see what the people in the comments have to say about it.

This person’s child went through something similar.

Being direct is often hard, but effective.

Apparently this is a pretty normal experience.

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Talking to the roommate directly might help.

Most of her expectations are not the roommate’s job.

Her roommate is being irresponsible in areas for which she is not responsible. That can be annoying, but it is understandable.

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Couples can disagree about just about anything, even the temperature on the thermostat.

One woman woke up freezing on a chilly morning, and since she was working from home, she turned the heat on.

That would have been all well and good, but her partner was getting dressed for work at the time, and he noticed right away that it was warm.

So instead of talking through the issue calmly, he immediately got a nasty attitude, asking why she’d do that while he was getting ready.

The topic may have seemed inconsequential to many, but to this couple, it was a window into a relationship that was already dysfunctional.

Keep reading for the full story.

AITA for turning the heat on while my partner was getting ready for work?

I woke up freezing while my partner was getting dressed to leave for work. I’m working from home today, so I turned the heat on.

He mentioned being hot and asked if the heat was on, and I told him “yes.”

That’s when things got even more tense between the couple.

He got an attitude with me, asking why I would do that while he was trying to get ready for work, and asked if I’d want to be sweating while getting ready and if I understand his frustration.

She reminds her partner that he isn’t the only person she’s taking into account.

I told him that I understand, but it is 55 degrees outside, I’m cold, he’s about to leave, and I didn’t get why he had to get such a big attitude about it.

And responds with the same argument and “I thought you said you understood.”

So instead of dropping it, her boyfriend continues to drag out the argument.

He leaves the room and starts walking downstairs before turning around and asking if I want the heat back on. I responded, “Yes, please,” and he says, “See? See how I asked first?”

I told him that I saw how he’s trying to make a point right now, to which he responds, “Two things can be true at once,” before telling me that he’s leaving for work.

AITA?

Sounds like there’s more going on here than just a squabble over the thermostat.

What did Reddit think?

This user doesn’t understand where the boyfriend is coming from at all.

This commenter really doesn’t feel much sympathy for the guy.

Maybe it really was too hot in there.

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This user agrees it’s time for this couple to take a good, hard look at the state of their relationship.

When you look closely, there’s a pattern in how these two argue. One person makes a decision, the other reacts with an edge, and the conversation turns into who’s being unfair.

That cycle is hard to break when neither of them is willing to budge, and the thermostat was never really the point. He wanted his morning respected, and she wanted her comfort respected, and neither request was unreasonable.

Ultimately, both parties could have done better at understanding what their partner actually wanted.

Being in a long-term relationship means compromise, and the thermostat is no exception.

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