Unsingled

Single Friends

2015-04-12T21:24:00.001-05:00

We are still going strong. The Unsingled group had an awesome time hanging out this weekend. Unfortunately, after almost three years, everyone in this photo is still single. But we are closer than ever and we consider each other family. Priceless!

Freaky Friday-Something for the ladies and the guys(to laugh at)

2014-08-21T23:31:00.002-05:00

Where do they get this stuff from? lol
K.P.Welch posted this today and the responses were hilarious.

K. Smith responded first and said that there would be 'no return text'.
C.C. said that she would say, "Dang, I never saw a Suzuki like that before." lol
Brandy W. said DELETE..... and she's right!!!(I agree)
C.G.B. had an entirely different response. She said, "Thank you Baby," and S. C, said that she would be rolling on the floor laughing. hahaha
Wow...the ladies in the group are so different until it's not even funny. Some will enjoy; others, like me, will throw up a little.
But to each his own, right? :)
Feel free to leave your response on this post.

C.N.O. posted this for the fellas. (Pick your poison)

J. W. said number 1 and 4. "Don't judge me!" He demanded, as usual.
Gary S. said that he already has three baby mama's so he cannot judge. He went with number 1.
And of course most of the guys went with number four. Who cares if their girl post porn, right? I guess.
I said that if I had to choose it would be #1 because kids grow up, so you wouldn't have to deal with the daddies forever. Besides, nine out of ten, they are probably already missing in action.
What are your thoughts? What would you choose? And btw, no one decided to take a stab at the bi-polar/no medication broad. They're so scary!

How long should this take?

2014-07-29T20:32:00.003-05:00

Original group members- We love each other but we still need love

Here's a little update...It's 2 yrs. after the single's group was created. Boy does time fly. But why is mostly everyone in the group still single? Does it really take that long to find a significant other? My answer, "Yes, it does. But why?" Some people say wait until love finds you. My answer to that is, "How long does love take to find you, and are you in the places where love is looking?" What about online dating? How successful is that? Any suggestions? Any single friends looking for quality people to meet? Please comment.

Mostly Single Friends

2014-07-27T00:42:00.002-05:00

It's been a year since my last post, and the group is still alive and kicking.
I guess I've ben MIA because I've been doing two things, writing a novel and dating.
There still aren't many connections within the group, but we are all still the best of friends. Since a lot of us have been dating and some are now in relationships, we decided to call ourselves "Mostly Single Friends." But the blog will keep its title and I promise to start posting more frequently...Stay Tuned

Get it together!

2013-06-02T22:36:00.000-05:00

It's been so long that I almost forgot my password to this site! I apologize. I've been focusing on working things out within this singles group. Unfortunately, I cannot seem to find a breakthrough.

The summer is literally around the corner. Of course winter is a great time to be in a relationship, who doesn't wan't someone to cozy up to, but come on now...It's the summer...you're talking a whole new ball game.

There's so much to do, so much to see, so many things that are far more enjoyable with that special someone...Starting with the beach. What woman doesn't fantasize about walking along the beach with that special guy, holding hands and watching the sunset. There's over 100 people in this group...why don't they like each other?? This is so frustrating! I need help!! Well...they need help!!

Feel free to leave suggestions on how to get these people connected. I have literally tried Everything!

Don't be shy!

2013-06-02T22:26:00.000-05:00

I asked the question, "What are the things that you remain shy about even after spending a good bit of time dating a person?"
"Passing gas," said Marie M. I agree. In the words of my kids...I'd die first!
"Eating messy foods." Olga J. Said. Most people say that they have no problem eating in front of anyone, but I'd have to say that it takes me a while to get comfortable eating in front of my boo too. They probably couldn't tell because I'm so smooth with mine, but I am a little shy about that for a while.
#2. Do you know what we mean by that? Right!! We will not shit in front of you or even in the same house with ya! Ok Bye!! Gotta go.

What do you have a problem getting comfortable doing in front of someone?

I don't want to hear that!!

2013-06-02T22:15:00.001-05:00

I asked the crazy little crew of "Unsingled" the question...What is the one thing that you do not want to hear in a relationship that you THOUGHT was going well?

I said...the words..."Slow Down!" To me that means that you two are on different pages, and the last thing I want is to be in a relationship where the feelings are not mutual, so to me those words mean...I might do a little more than slow down. I might be out!

Fe Ann said..."I'm seeing someone else." Yeah, that's the last thing you want to hear when you thought that you and your significant other were happy.

And then there's that dreaded..."We need space." That response came from both sex. They finally agreed on something. Will F. and Barbara W. responded almost simultaneously.

Chantel J. said that he last thing she wants to hear is that the sex is boring. Can that really make or break a relationship? That' what they're saying. Lol

And then, of course, the post became never-ending with the back and forth bickering between the guys and girls wondering why an overwhelming amount of guys said that they simply hate to hear...We Need To Talk!
They claim that those words are usually accompanied by complaints, being unsatisfied, or the woman wanting more. How dare they!!

I love it when he/she

2013-06-02T22:01:00.002-05:00

Being in a relationship can be so rewarding. I've decided to ask the group what in particular did they love while in a relationship. I can think of a laundry list....I'll start with1. The way he looks at me. 2. The way he smiles at me as soon as he sees my face. 3. His touch. 4. His kiss.

Sorry...got carried away. Let me tell you all what they said.
Also, I've made it easier than ever to leave comments, so feel free to chime in.

There's nothing better than love, what in the world could you evveeer be thinking of. :)

If I got one response from a man, I did good. So let me start with Reg R.'s response, which usually has some form of filth incorporated in it, but this time he made m proud when he said, "I love when she tells me she loves me, but shows me better. Wait...hold on...did he pull the wool over my eyes with that one? Was that intended to be sexual? Oh we'll...Anyway....

Gina G.-the one who absolutely HATES hand-holding, shocked me by saying, "The way he kisses my face and says that he loves me.
"The way he play in my hair, touches me, and hold me tight," reminisced Marie M.
"Compliments me, snuggles with me, knows how to have fun," says Fe S......Yep, I can dig it!
Brandy W. says that she loves it when he is encouraging and makes her feel like she can do anything, and then backs her up. Love that answer!

Keep in mind....With some of these responses, these situations are not current, as this group is filled with individuals who are either single or unsingled....meaning lightweight dating, nothing heavy.
If you are interested in joining this group. Email me at deemillers@yahoo.com

Running Back

2013-03-16T16:49:00.001-05:00

Hi Everyone! It's been a long time. I have been pretty busy working on other projects, and I am happy to say that one of the projects that I have been working on is my book. Please scroll down to read the first chapter of my upcoming Novel "Running Back" and please do not hesitate to ask questions or leave comments .

Thanks!

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!

2013-02-14T05:14:00.002-06:00

Although Valentine's Day is a day set aside for lovers, many people feel as though it is just another day and that your love for your mate should be expressed year round. Some feel that it is for the ladies, but a lot of men feel as though they should be celebrated and appreciated on that day as well.
Anyway, Single Friends have discussed this day in many different angles, and in a nutshell, because most are single...to them today is simply Thursday!
And for those that have made connections.........to be continued. I will follow-up with more comments and ideas regarding Valentine's Day 2013 as the day progress.

Passion or Pleasure?

2013-02-07T22:56:00.000-06:00

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What girl doesn't like pink and purple? What man doesn't like a woman in pink and purple?Decisions.Decisions.

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Trust or Communication

2013-01-12T22:33:00.004-06:00

The question was asked....What is more important? Trust or communication? What is more important to you? They are close to being equally important, but you must choose one, and feel free to comment at the end.

To me, the most unique responses were:

Kevin S. said that communication was more important because you get to know an individual on various levels and from this, bonds and connections are made, and from this...trust is developed.

Kenneth E. says that trust is more important because you can easily communicate a lie. Good Point? I don't know...he and I rarely agree. :)

Lets get some ladies point of views...

Melanie B. said trust, which is quite interesting because someone that she seems to be developing a special friendship with said communication. Hmmm. She said that things change and so does the way you communicate, but trust is constant and essential, and besides, some of the best liars are great communicators. I am really liking that answer. One of my favorites thus far!!

And for the other ladies...they are pretty hard-headed because just about all of the others that responded chose both, saying that they go hand and hand. the question was...which is MORE important. Answer the question correctly or leave it alone like I did. lol I couldn't decide.

Scandalous Cheaters

2013-01-10T20:52:00.000-06:00

Seems as though we are all eager to watch the new episode of Scandal tonight, and while we await, although our subject was totally unconnected to the television show Scandal, seems as though our post were oddly related...we could not seem to stay away from the subject of Cheaters.

I posed the question...who has found that they have pretty much cheated in practically every relationship that they were in? And then there was a follow-up post asking...what is the typical reason that you find yourself cheating? Amazingly so...a lot of women have responded to this post saying that they have found themselves being a cheater in many relationships, but the main reason was that it was subsequent to being cheated on. A few fellas have admitted their infidelities, concluding that
basically.... just because.

Ronald A. put it simply, saying...just for the sport of it.
Ray D. Says that he was too immature to deny himself instant gratification. Now that's honest and probably many guy's true answer, only they do not know it.
And of course Jermaine W. plead the 5th!

The women stuck with answers like Retaliation, attention, and that something was missing.

If you are a part of Single Friends or would like to be a part, email me @ deemillers@yahoo.com. I think that we have all matured and are ready for positive, monogamous, loving relationships. I can help guide you in the right direction.

Singles December Events

2013-01-10T19:32:00.000-06:00

Single Friends Network ended 2012 with some exciting, interesting Singles events and we plan on starting the new year off even better. Connections were made and fun was had by all!

Come and Join us on January 19th to start the year off with more connections!

Too Good to Be True

2013-01-08T22:43:00.003-06:00

Kenneth E. asks the question...Have you ever met someone that was so good to you and seem to be so good for you, yet somehow you find yourself waiting for the other shoe to drop? Hmmmm...so I guess people actually expect the worse. Let's see what was the common view of most Single Friends

Jermaine W.'s view is that we place so much pressure on ourselves to be happy instead of just allowing the friendship to grow into something meaningful. Ok...now I'm interested in seeing what a woman has to say.

Fe S. said that she had someone that was so good to her and seemed to be so good for her until she put him on a very high pedestal thinking that he could do no wrong, until when he finally did...it crushed her to the core.
G.Young says that believing someone can do no wrong is just not realistic. Everyone has potential to fall, we are not perfect beings. -And I'll close on that note...it couldn't have been said any better.

If you want to be a part of the FB group Single Friends to read more comments about this post or to simply be enlightened by other singles, email deemillers@yahoo.com

2013

2013-01-07T19:27:00.001-06:00

I am so excited about the new year and all of the possibilities!! I fell off of the blog a little at the end of 2012, focusing on different ways to connect singles, and fortunately...a few connections have been made, but this year I plan on utilizing every possible avenue to make these connections more available and more plentiful!

So Happy New Year Everyone!! Let's fall in love!!

Happy Thanksgiving!!

2012-11-22T18:33:00.002-06:00

Happy Thanksgiving to all of my Single Friends out there! I think that we are all most grateful for all of the new friendships that have been made through this singles network...however, we are delighted that there have been a couple of wonderful connections!! hopefully we will see many more as we approach the New Year!!

How do you deal with a controlling ex?

2012-11-06T20:15:00.002-06:00

The question was...Has an ex caused a problem in a new relationship or are you the trouble-maker in your ex's new relationship? What is the problem and please don't use the kids as an excuse. Lol

Jermaine W. said something that made all of the sense in the world...It's funny how you can meet someone and go out for months and the baby daddy has been out of the picture forever, and now suddenly he wants his family back since he knows that someone else is in the picture. It's sad and crazy to hear a brother saying, "I don't want him around my baby," but you aren't the father you need to be. -J.W.

Mia M.says that you just gotta cut 'em off. Get 'em straight. Get their mind right. Whatever you have to do, can't let them become a problem in the new relationship.

I say that it's crazy how most of the time it's the person that has left you that gets jealous when you have moved on with your life. It's as if they want to see you miserable...or are they wanting you to still be available when they have come to their senses.

Anyway...Control is never a good thing, and it can come in so many forms. You have got to get out of that situation if you ever expect to find happiness.

Is runner-up a bad thing?

2012-11-05T18:55:00.002-06:00

Everyone wants to be with the man or woman of their dreams, but reality is that most people do not end up with that person. Should you wait on that person even if they are not yet ready for that role, with hopes that they will come around or do you embrace your second choice, someone that you may not like as much as your number 1, but there is no doubt that you are their #1?

This topic created quite the debate. With over 50 comments, I will touch on just a few. Gina G. Seemed to be quite passionate about the topic. Her overall view was that Settling on #2 is doing both parties a disservice and while most relationships may not be 50/50, if you enter it at anything less than that, you are doomed from the beginning. She overall thinks that people should not settle for their mate, they should wait to be with the person of their dreams.
Shedwrick R. thinks that if someone adores YOU, then you should give them a shot. You may have a shot at being happy, he thinks. Hmmmm...you think?
Fred G. said something that sounds good but I don't know if it is that realistic. He said that he was told that if you wanted to be happy, love the person that loves you.
I'm sure that works for some, but I know that it doesn't work for all.
Kenneth E. agreed with Fred and of course had more to add when Fred went on to say, who cares if I was your 1st, or 3rd choice. Someone is always more vested than the other person. The only thing that matters is that you are with me now. Wow!! Become a part of the group Single Friends to read the rest of Kenneth's response.
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Expectations

2012-11-03T12:06:00.000-05:00

One of our singles, Baheejah H. went on a date last week in which she had to pick him up (no, he was not a fellow group member) and apparently he did not even offer to buy gas or be gentlemanly because she ended the date within 20 minutes and posted the following.....When newly dating someone, do you impose your expectations, such as opening a door, pumping the gas, or picking up the check; or do you just go with the flow and make mental notes? Most members felt that she should not have ended the date so prematurely and that gas should already be in your vehicle, but the following members thought this...

James R.- I think that people are too quick to judge folks based on their expectations and assume that anyone who doesn't live up to it is a no-good trifling POS. (What's that?)
Jermaine W. asked, "Why are expectations so great for a new friend but you are willing to accept all kinds of foolishness from an old flame?" Of course everyone disputed that, but they lying! Lol
Cherri F- Mental note...you want to know who they are and if you make small suggestions, most men assume that you want to change them.
Marie M.- Mental notes- Want him to be a real gentleman, not the gentleman....until he gets her.

Ok, so no one thinks that you should put your expectations all out on the table, but what happens when you turn the car around after 20 minutes? won't they be stuck wondering what happened?

Sorry!!

2012-11-03T11:52:00.000-05:00

I have been away for quite a while. That is because my kids broke my laptop. (sap sucka's) Of course they are refusing to own up to it...but that's ok. I am back in commission and will continue where Inleft off!! :)

COLD CUDDLE CONTRACTS!!

2012-10-27T13:46:00.003-05:00

These people think of everything!! Kyna S. came up with a great idea! She suggested that whenever the temperature drops below my 69, we sign a 24-72 hr. cuddle contract and lay up under each other until the contract either expires or the temperature goes back up. Many people thought that this was a great idea!
David M. simply said...That would be nice!
Sabrina C.-"I love it!"

I suggested that the contract needed to be twirked a tad bit. 8-16 hours is more than sufficient in my book! Is topic is brand new today and still trending...I'll tell you what the others think later! Need a cuddle buddy? You know where to find them! Single friends on Facebook!
View the slide show. See anyone that might interest you? Email me...Deemillers@yahoo.com

Struggling with Committment

2012-10-27T13:37:00.003-05:00

Ron H. had a very legitimate concern, therefore he asked this very important question...Is it possible that after being single for so long that people often struggle with the committment parts of a relationship?
Me personally, I can definitely see that being a problem.

Kevin S. response was that he did not think that it would be a problem if both parties are bringing everything to the table. In fact, he says...."I would be thrilled."
Sabrina C.- We're used to doing whatever... whenever, when we are single, but I would welcome committing some of my time to someone else. I do find at it is kind of difficult to get the men to free up any real time so we can simply get to know one another. She has a very valid point!
Raschida T. also made a valid point saying that she is used to doing things on her own. She goes on to say that it would be a major adjustment to be in a relationship; however, she is ready and willing to give it another try! Good for her!!
Join these discussions via Facebook. Deemillers@yahoo.com

Facebook's the Devil

2012-10-25T20:04:00.001-05:00

Would you have a problem if you met someone and you were hitting it off pretty good but they did not feel that you should be Facebook friends for whatever reason?
It was a simple question that I asked...but this particular post caused a Huge division amongst the group. Of course most of the guys felt that it was simple insecurity as to why the ladies felt that they needed to be FB friends with their love interest; but shockingly, a couple of women agreed as well. Here are some of their responses...What do you think?

Danielle T. was adamant about being all over her man's page. Lol She said that if she can't be their Facebook friend then they don't need to be together. It's about respect! Yeah...I gotta respect that.
And furthermore, she says...he needs to have my name posted as it relates to us being in a relationship... and post a picture every chance he gets.
Hahaha. Hole up now...
Brad W. says that FB has become way too significant in defining a relationship; it was not designed to make the insecure feel better about their relationship.
Gina G. said that she doesn't have a problem with it one way or another, but he's definitely not getting any passwords.
Dahnisha H. was the first to chime in saying that if they are hitting it off, what's the problem? Friends in private but not public? Delette R. had a similar view.
Lana T. And Carlos N. are left straddling the fence, while Jermaine W. dropped the mic and exited the stage a couple of times after making his point or non-point, saying that this isn't high school...FB is not that serious. Because you are not on your mates' page doesn't mean that they are ashamed of you or trying to hide something, it's social media. Not that serious.
Darrell M. feels that people should have their separate lives and space.
My response was...I understand both positions, but I might have a little bit of a problem with him having pics of his mama, kids, dogs, and cousins on there but none of me. Men can be pretty tricky in their operations and this might be a red flag.
Anyway, I didn't put a dent in this topic. There are over 150 comments on this post. You can join my FB singles page to meet these nuts and join in on all of the interesting conversations. Deemillers@yahoo.com

Need Single Friends?

2012-10-23T18:56:00.003-05:00

Whether actively looking for a mate or not, many single men and women are simply looking for new friends. As adults, who because of kids and careers have practically forgotten how to have a good time, this group has pretty much brought everyone back to life.

We have so many talented and entertaining people in this group that you just gotta love 'em, and
although it is very frustrating that after months of being in a singles group, there are still very few connections; what is often praised are the newly developed friendships.
Whether it is attending a Singles Mixer, a Cancer Walk, Line-Dancing class or Jazz Brunch, the singles absolutely love getting together.
On Saturday, a few Single Friends got together to walk in support of Breast Cancer, and just yesterday, this group in the photo, along with a couple of others, have gotten together to attend one of our members, Lady D's, line-dancing class.
There isn't a day that passes by that someone doesn't thank me for putting together this group. Yep...Gotta love 'em!!
Blessed to be a part of such an awesome, supportive group. Thank You Guys!!