Up on Cloud 9---An Unbelievable criminal story

Forgiveness

2013-03-18T05:14:00.000-06:00

Don't dwell on what could have been, but wasn't.

Actions Speak Louder than Words

2011-12-18T02:50:00.001-07:00

Beware of those who wear two faces-work and home. Next time around, I will be looking for authenticity from the get go. I tried to fool myself - and knew these traits were lacking-and hoped for the best-thinking love could save even him. Mom was right all along-funny how that is. Learn and Live-move forward and be grateful this unhealthy relationship is over. Tomorrow is a brand new day!

Pre-Incident Indicators for Spousal Abuse

2011-08-23T20:36:00.000-06:00

Women may have an intuition that she is at risk for violence.

Being treated with intimidation, and verbal abuse is never acceptable and should never be tolerated.

If alcohol or drugs become part of the behavioral environment of the spouse, the chance of violence is significantly increased.

The National Domestic Hotline can help.

National Domestic Violence Hotline

2011-08-23T20:28:00.000-06:00

The telephone number for the National Domestic Violence Hotline is
1-800-799-7233

If you know anyone who is being abuse, please share this telephone number. All calls are confidential.

forgiveness

2011-06-21T18:00:00.002-06:00

Forgiveness

Up on Cloud 9 - Domestic Violence Survivor

2011-02-27T02:16:00.000-07:00

Looking back, I see I was trying to change my abusive husband.

I am thankful I made it away safely, leaving the violent relationship behind. I see now I was trying to change my abusive husband, motivated by a strong desire to help, and understandably reluctant to accept failure on the marriage vows taken.

WHAT LOVE ISN'T . . .

2011-02-22T16:46:00.000-07:00

LOVE IS NOT BEING HIT OR SLAPPED
                         BY YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER.

LOVE IS NOT BEING INTIMIDATED
                      OR COERCED IN A RELATIONSHIP.

Domestic violence is a crime and can become more serious as time goes on. Many times domestic violence can lead to homicides-which is dramatically increasing with victims reaching into the thousands each year.

              Protect yourself

              If you need to talk about domestic violence -    contact the Hotline - they are open 24 hours a day-every day-confidential help is on the way.

The National Hotline:

1.800.799.7233 (SAFE)

MOSAIC THREAT ASSESSMENT

2011-02-22T15:58:00.000-07:00

VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

CHECK OUT THIS WEBSITE
HTTPS://WWW.MOSAICMETHOD.COM

A CONFIDENTIAL ASSESSMENT USED TO ORGANIZE YOUR OWN INFORMATION IN A WAY THAT HELPS YOU SEE AND EVALUATE THE POSSIBILITY OF DANGER IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

THINK OF THIS REPORT AS A DIAGNOSIS RATHER THAN A PRESCRIPTION. IT CAN SHOW YOU WHERE YOU ARE- SO THAT YOU CAN CHOOSE THE BEST COURSE FOR YOURSELF.

The Hotline-Domestic Violence Hotline

2011-02-22T14:33:00.000-07:00

The National Domestic Violence Hotline

1.800.799.SAFE (7233)

ANONYMOUS & CONFIDENTIAL HELP -24/7

GET HELP OR TALK ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Dr. Mary Pat Baxter

Domestic Violence-Spouse Disrespect from the Get Go

2011-01-17T05:06:00.001-07:00

My marriage was a scam from the beginning.

He set up the bank accounts after we were married. Being that he lived ____,he already had his personal account. So it seemed logical to open "Household account". And, because I really trusted him-I let him take care of the so called bills. About 5 years later-all of those bank statements from the bank. After, opening 3 years of unopened statements-it was clear as day. He had a little "switch-a-roo-" scam at the bank-because his name was on our family account-the teller allowed him-dishonorable system. This was in the 1997 years when each activity concerning statement was documented. It was easy to see -he had the teller take from the account ______ and place into his personal account. Over the years, that had totalled up to about $65,000.00.
By the time I arrived home, the mail would be put away-however, dinner would be waiting. So, I settled into a routine of working and allowing him to handle the financial aspect of the marriage-big mistake. ( I learned a lesson) Four Years later, on medical leave, decided to open all those statements hidden away in the bedroom. I was stunned-that someone could be so manipulative while portraying the act of "the great husband".

I was completely unaware of his bank "switch-a-roo" or "take yours and give to me" scam at the bank. The sad fact - I really trusted him and loved him. I had taken a vow to love and respect and I was dedicated to making our marriage work.

Money is important- but to think you have to lose integrity and honor - to justify that sense of entitlement-is beyond my thinking. A value system that is lacking morality is why we don't belong together.

It is nothing short of greed and lust for money.

I should have listened to my mother.

Water over the Bridge-or yesterday's mail- It is time for healing and moving forward, and letting this go.

Dr. Baxter

The Hotline Gives Thanks « National Domestic Violence Hotline

2010-12-07T22:25:00.000-07:00

The Hotline Gives Thanks « National Domestic Violence Hotline

December 8, 2010 "It's Time to Talk About Domestic Violence"

Liz Claiborne Inc is sponsoring for the seventh straight year "It's
Time to Talk About Domestic Violence" and encourages Americans
to speak up about this subject most people prefer not to discuss.

God Bless,

MaryPat

" It's Time to Talk"

Children's Diabetes Fundraiser Camp-Keen Mountain, Virginia2009

2010-11-28T00:10:00.000-07:00

Please Donate to the Children's Diabetes Awareness Camp- Keen Mt. Virginia. Volunteer - Be a Role Model- teach Children about Nutrition and Physical Activity. Make a difference- Inspire, educate , teach. Just do it! Diabetes Health Made Easy- online lectures that can help you live well with diabetes.

Dr. Baxter's lecture on Severe Hypoglycemia could save your life. Watch for it on - Diabetes Health Made Easy-Severe Hypoglycemia.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE-

2010-11-12T21:38:00.000-07:00

Though leaving is the best response to violence, it is in trying to leave that most women get killed.

Dr. Baxter
A victim of Domestic Violence

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE-

2010-11-12T21:32:00.000-07:00

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

We all remember the voice of Nicole Brown Simpson: " You never do anything about him. You talk to him and then you leave."

The police should be held accountable for a death that should never occurred. How long it going take for our law enforcement to get a handle on domestic violence. Women are the victims most of the time - and how many lives are going to be lost to domestic violence?

Dr. MaryPat Baxter

Victim of Domestic Violence in Sullivan County, Tenn
2000-2009

Domestic Violence is so very hard to speak about . . .

2010-11-04T23:16:00.000-06:00

Domestic Violence

Domestic Violence is not a temporary loss of temper

It is not about a partner's anger-

It is about people who when trying to gain power
or seeking control in a relationship-act in ways
that are not appropriate, illegal, and often dangerous.

Being hit or slapped is never minor.

Being intimidated or coerced is not part of being loved.

Check out the best website to examine factors or situational events-
that could save your life- http://www.mosaicmethod.com/

This site is used by Supreme Court Justices to assess threats and can be used also in domestic violence cases.

God Bless,

Dr. Baxter

Domestic Violence- Up on Cloud 9

2010-10-30T18:51:00.000-06:00

If you are a victim of domestic violence - please consider adding this number
The National Domestic Violence Hotline (www.thehotline.org) 1.800.799.7233. into your cell phone.

This group or agency can assist you in making a plan for protection and they offer confidential help 24 hours a day.

Also, I found the website www.mosaicmethod.com helpful in giving
an assessment of factors experts associate with violence and danger.
The report helps the victim become more aware of factors that can end in an episode of violence.

Remember, computer usage can be monitored-so use a safe computer.

I wish you the best.

God Bless,

Dr. Baxter

Up on Cloud 9: The Avett Brothers Tiny Desk Concert for NPR Music

2010-10-29T17:54:00.000-06:00

Up on Cloud 9: The Avett Brothers Tiny Desk Concert for NPR Music

I love the sound of this band_ one of my all time favorite band's.
Keep on singing . . . remember life is a journey and the best is yet to come.

Dr. Baxter

2010-10-29T16:49:00.000-06:00

The Pre-incident factors that can lead to spousal abuse and violence are listed below.
*the woman has intuititive feelings that she is at risk
*spouse verbally abuses most of the time
*spouse resolves conflict with intimidation, bullying,   and violence
*spouse uses alcohol and psychotropic agents, like xanax or valium
   *spouse is a pathological liar-lies about past work experience-ego narcissistic behavior.
   *weapons are part of his persona
   *spouse constantly blames others for his mistakes or problems-never taking responsibility for the results of his own actions
   *spouse minimizes incidents of violence

Domestic violence is a crime and can become more serious as time goes.
Many times domestic violence can lead to homicides -which is dramatically increasing with victims reaching into the thousands each year.

Please be safe and if you are a victim - help is right around the corner-
       1.800.799.7233   National Hotline for Domestic Violence open 24 hours a day.

God bless,

Dr. Baxter

2010-10-29T16:18:00.000-06:00

Domestic Violence is similar to a shark attack-deadly!
If you are a victim of abuse -please contact the National
Domestic Violence Hotline- 1-800-799-7233-with confi-
dential help- open 24-7. Protect yourself!

2010-10-29T16:14:00.001-06:00

Educate and learn what reliable pre-incident indicators
associated with spousal violence and murder are. They will
not be present in every case but if a situation has several of
these signals-there is reason for concern.

Domestic Violence is Criminal

2010-10-29T01:02:00.000-06:00

Stop Domestic Violence _ As Time Goes on -it only gets worse. Protect yourself and others-get out of those relationships that are demeaning and negative. Love should build one up - not constantly tear it down. I know I have been there - with a spouse who constantly found fault and demoralized my ever action.

Please don't think violent abuse will go away-verbal or physical-it breaks one spirit.

God bless and please do not ever give up-life is journey and the best is yet to come.

Always Dream!
Plan for the Future!
Laugh, Laugh and laugh more.

Dr. Baxter

Domestic Violence breaks down the spirit . . . .

2010-10-28T22:08:00.001-06:00

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE is cruel as well as criminal.

Domestic Violence is not a temporary loss of temper.
It is not about a partner's anger-it is about People who when trying to gain power or seeking control in a relationship act in ways that are not appropriate, illegal, or often dangerous.

Being hit or slapped is never minor.

If you are a victim of abuse-don't give up.
Always believe in yourself and find things that make you happy. Create your own dreams and follow them until they are a reality.
Stay safe and remember the best is yet to come.

God Bless,

Dr. Baxter

The Avett Brothers Tiny Desk Concert for NPR Music

2010-10-28T21:48:00.000-06:00

STOP VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN NOW-DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS CRIMINAL.

The Avett Brothers - I And Love And You

2010-10-27T03:20:00.000-06:00

The Avett Brothers - I And Love And You: " Domestic Violence is against the law.

STOP DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

2010-10-26T20:16:00.000-06:00

Domestic violence is a crime and can become more serious as time go on.

Educate and learn what factors are spousal indicators of violence and murder.

The Mosaic Threat Assessment should be mandatory learning for law enforcement. This information could save a life.

I appreciate your time.

I love that song -"Human" by The Killers.

Dr. Baxter