All I wanted was balance.

I don’t know about you, but I am sick and tired of reading articles about “Why you need to have balance” or “Here’s how to have balance.”

The fact of the matter is, there is NO SUCH thing as balance. Ultimately what it boils down to is one thing:

Peace and happiness.

See, if you think about it, we want thing this called balance because what we’re really after is happiness and peace.

So why not just focus on being happy and peaceful rather than driving ourselves crazy trying to be balanced?

Life is fluid. Stuff happens. Things change.

And so my friends, today’s Keepin’ It Real video gets straight to this point.

Balance. Is. A. Myth.

Click play to watch today’s Keepin’ It Real video.

Once you finish watching, I’d love to hear from you:

What’s ONE thing you are going to do to focus on bringing more peace and happiness in your life?

I’ll see you down below in the comments

Love,
Vasavi

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Hope you had a great weekend filled with rest, relaxation, and fun. If not, be sure to do one (if not more) kind thing for yourself today.

I was recently interviewed by the Wall Street Journal on a topic that I was hesitant to talk about. But, as you know by now, I cherish personal freedom more than anything in this world, so I said YES because my hope was that if one person could be positively impacted by me sharing my truth, then my purpose in life would have been fulfilled. And with any mainstream media publication, there are a ton of people commenting. I got thrown off when I read all those comments. Essentially, I fell off my positivity wagon.

With a little help from my toolbox of positive thinking, my family, and friends, I was able to get back on track.

Many of my clients are super motivated and passionate about living their best life. They are committed, driven and focused. And sometimes, they fall off track. I have to remind them that it’s normal.

This week’s Keepin’ It Real addresses this very topic.

Click play to watch today’s video where I share what you absolutely should NOT do if this happens.

As always, I want to hear from you. Have you ever been on a positive path and then gotten thrown off? How did you bounce back? I’d love to hear your story.

Have a beautiful week ahead and I’ll see you down below in the comments

Love,
Vasavi

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Are you loving the interviews?

I sure hope so!

Anyways, have you ever wondered how to take all the great information that you receive from books, CD’s videos, seminars and actually put it into practice?

I struggled with implementing much of what I had already learned for a very long time. I had all the knowledge in my head, but I didn’t know how to have it come to life on a day-to-day basis.

And then I found what was missing.

Today, I’m interviewing the beautiful Nisha Moodley, Founder of Fierce Fabulous Free . So not only do I love what Nisha stands for – freedom – which I’m all over like a moth to flame….wait for it..it gets better..

Nisha and I are both from the same part of India (Chennai, formerly known as Madras) and our native language is Tamil. I mean I couldn’t believe it. Soul Sisters for life.

If you think I keep it real, wait till you hear from Nisha. This girl can break it down about what’s holding you back and getting you to move to becoming your fiercest, most fabulous, and FREE self.

If you have some tips and tricks on how you have implemented what you have learned throughout your life, I’d love to hear more in the comments below

As always, thank you for being a part of my life. It truly is my purpose and honor to share my message with you so that YOU can live an extraordinary life.

Love,
vasavi

P.S. By the way, we had some tech breakdowns (like three) throughout the interview, but I gotta say, it was probably the best part of the interview. Stuff happens. Gotta keep your head up and move forward!!!

And now on to today’s Keepin’ It Real.

For the longest time, I used to worry about what other people thought of me. A lot.

Do I still care? Absolutely. By nature, I am extremely concerned with making sure everyone around me is taken care of. However, the opinions of other people (and trust me there are a ton of opinions out there) do not determine my self-worth.

Let me break this down for you.

Caring is not the problem. Worrying about it is.

Caring about what others’ think simply means that you respect their opinion and will keep it in mind, but it does not mean that you will allow it to determine your worth.

Worrying about other people’s opinions imply that your self-worth and value is contingent on someone else’s approval.

If you fall into the worrying bucket, you are not alone. In my line of work I find almost all people now and then do worry about living up to other people’s expectation. Totally normal. It is human nature to want to be loved and accepted.

For as long as I can remember, my father used to say to me, “What other people think about you is merely a thought in their head.”

See when you look at it that way, there is really is nothing you can DO about what other people think of you. People will in fact have their opinions and judgments about who you are, what you should do, what you should not do, how you should dress…you get the idea.

This week’s episode of Keepin’ It Real will be answering this very topic on how to stop worrying about other people’s opinions of you. It’s going to be a good one.

Once you watch the video, I want to hear from you:

Whose opinion of you do you need to stop worrying about? AND, what’s one action you will take for you to start accepting more of who you are?

Can’t wait to see what you have to say!

Love,
Vasavi

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With the age of Facebook, Twitter, and other social networking sites, It’s really easy to get caught up in the “their life is so AH-mazing..and my life sucks.” mentality.

I have a secret to share with you. Most of the time what you see “out there” is rarely ever a true representation of what actually is. You see, it’s easy to get caught in the “perfection” of other people’s lives and miss out on the beauty of our own life.

The problem with this is that when we are not happy in our lives, we bring that energy into our personal relationships. To be real honest with you, there was a point in my life where I struggled with being a perfectionist and control freak (who would have thought? )

This had a major effect on my relationship with my husband Ashish because I expected him to be perfect. And as you know, there is no such thing as being “perfect.”

You’re in for a special treat today because I am interviewing Arielle Ford, a leading pioneer and personality in the personal growth and contemporary spirituality movement.

She’s going to be talking to us today about Wabi Sabi Love, The Ancient Art of Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships.

You can use this ancient art with your partner, family members and friends..just about everyone in your life.

I have a feeling that you are gonna love this interview so I’m super excited to hear your comments.

What I’d be curious to know is –

What’s one imperfection in your relationship that doesn’t seem to be quite that big of a deal anymore?

Be sure to leave a comment below.

I can’t wait to read what you have to say

Love,
Vasavi

P.S. This is a special shout out for all you single ladies who are ready to find real love! My friend Kavita J Patel just released a brand-new Done With Being Single Video Training Series where she’s showing you how to break through the most common blocks she sees single women experiencing in love. I love Kavita — her approach is totally no-nonsense and she gets straight to the core of what’s blocking you in love.  So, if you want to meet the love of your life, and you are wondering what you’re doing wrong, she is going to tell you what might be getting in your way — and also, there’s no charge to watch these vids. Check out the video series HERE!

People often ask me how I am able to balance my relationship with my husband given all the traveling that I do. It’s not easy. There are times that I feel guilty and worry that Ashish and I will grow apart because I’m always traveling! There is no way I can sit here and say that all the money and success means anything to me if my home-life is hanging by a thread.

Now more than ever, we are committed to strengthening our marriage because we both believe that the quality of our life is determined by the quality of our relationship. This includes going to marriage therapy and reading books on marriage. But even more than that, it’s about being intentional each and everyday about the words that we speak to one another and setting time to BE with each other.

Click play to learn how to put the “sparkle” back in your marriage. And listen, even if you aren’t married, watch the video anyway. Because whatever your current relationship status may be- your life is made of relationships.

Once you watch the video I would love to hear what has worked for you to put the “sparkle” back in your relationships?

Pumped to hear what you have to share!

Love
Vasavi

P.S. I am hosting an interview with celebrity nutritionist, Cynthia Pasquella, TODAY!! We’re going to talk about her new book, The Hungry Hottie Cookbook, which is like no other cookbook you’ve ever seen. It’s been called a cookbook for your body and your life and it truly is. Cynthia will be sharing some pretty revolutionary stuff when it comes to weight loss, dieting, emotional eating and healing your relationship with food for good. To register for the call (and it’s free) click here and you’ll be able to listen in on the call. Don’t worry if you can’t make it because when you sign up, you will also be sent the recording!

As you may or may not know, I don’t have kids. And when I got up on the stage, I had to keep it real with the audience and share that I have no clue what it’s like to be a mother (unless you count my being a mother to our Golden Retreiver, Laney). But I do know one thing. That every human being wants to be happy and to feel free.

In a society that moves so fast, it’s so important that we stop and smell the roses. Literally.

When’s the last time you did something for yourself simply for the sake of it? When’s the last time you allowed yourself to bask in the pleasure of truly being alive?

When I think about pleasure I think about dark chocolate, fresh air, a walk in the park with Laney, and being with my husband, Ashish.

Speaking of pleasure, today’s Keepin’ It Real has a new twist. I love sitting on my signature green couch and talking to you every week. But I also want to introduce you to some of the amazing people on this planet that are committed to helping others achieve and unlock their greatest potential.

Click play to watch the interview I did this week with the fabulous, Jena La Flamme, founder of Pleasurable Weight Loss.

Once you watch the video, I would love to hear:

What’s one simple pleasure that you will allow yourself to experience this week?

I can’t wait to hear!

Love
Vasavi

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What I am learning more and more about myself is that the less I worry about money, the more it flows into my life. The less I worry, the more mental space I have to create programs and services that will help people move forward in their lives.

It wasn’t always that easy. I would often find myself scratching my head wondering, where is the money going to come from? It was quite the paradox. On the outward, I seemed to have it all together, but my bank account was a hot mess. HOT MESS. My self-worth was wrapped around how much money I made (or didn’t make). I mean, come one now. My mother is a doctor (how Indian of her) and my father is a CPA. Both in private practice. Both have worked their little brown butts off. The bar was set from a pretty young age.

Needless to say, I lived a very abundant life. I got to travel all over the world from a very young age, meet people that I would not have typically had the chance to meet. But most importantly, like the thing I am most grateful for- is the opportunity to invest in myself through formal education, certifications, books, seminars, retreats, and mentors.

I no longer view money as something that defines me. Rather, it is merely an expression of my work, creativity, and commitment to service. It’s taken consistent practice and discipline to get to this place.

Click play to learn the NUMBER ONE thing to focus on to detach from money.

Once you watch the video, I would love to hear:

Are you funny about money? What were the messages you received as a kid? Was there not enough of it? Too much of it? Or, my favorite- was it wrong to want it if you were a spiritual or religious person?

Have a beautiful week and I’ll “see” you in the comments below!

Love,
Vasavi

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I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in December 2002. For almost years I was on heavy medication to “stabilize” my moods. In these past ten years I have successfully managed to get two Masters, an Ivy League education, become a certified coach, a best selling author, a radio show host interviewing NY Times best-selling authors, a bi-weekly spot on our local morning show, Kansas City Live, and create programs for people who want to shift their mindset so that they can experience freedom. Oh, and I got married and moved from NY to Kansas. And got a dog.

Last year I chose to get off medication once and for all. See, I believe no amount of medication can substitute our internal power. Thus, I got off.

And recently I heard from my husband these words, “Babe, every day you become more and more of the person who you are meant to become.”

My heart swoons.

Now let me ask you. Have you ever been in a funk? Hear me out. This isn’t about having bipolar, depression, or anxiety. This is about being human.

So, how do you stay positive when shit hits the fan?

Click play to learn how to create small shifts in your daily thoughts and activities so that you can experience long-lasting positive change.

Once you watch the video, I would love to hear in the comments below:

What small shifts will you make to experience positive thinking in your life?

Love,
Vasavi

P.S. NOURISH Retreat is officially open and accepting applications! Click here to learn more and APPLY today.

I really believed that I was right.

Have you ever told yourself a story so many times that you start to believe it’s the “truth?”

How’d that work out for ya?

Well, if you had a similar experience to mine..then it SUCKED.

Because:

I alienated myself
I made my family wrong
I never believed I was “enough”
I rejected their love
I was cold and abrupt

The day that I realized that my story was a big fat lie, was the day I was set free.

Click play to learn how to choose your response when you feel stuck in your family story.

Once you watch the video, I would love to hear:

Next time you are with your family, how will you now choose to respond?

What do you learn about yourself and why you get triggered??

I’ll “see” you in the comments below!

Love,
Vasavi

P.S. We’re officially opening up the doors to apply to attend NOURISH Retreat in beautiful Malibu, CA next week!!!! If you haven’t gotten on the invite list, click here and you will be the first to know when applications are open.