Weekend Reads

The etymological odyssey of “Odysseus”. (Mashed Radish)

The disturbing rise of ‘gooner’ assaults at Dollar Tree stores: ‘They find it funny to degrade women’. (The Guardian)

9 Things Experts Wish You’d Do in Midlife to Increase Longevity. (New York Times – gift link)

L'Agence launched petite jeans up to size 34!

Why Kids Can’t Quit Roblox. (The Atlantic – gift link)

America’s Grocery Monopoly Problem. (Dame)

I may hate them in person but I ordered these in blue. I'm envisioning with balloon pants, with cropped pants and midi skirts, and peeking out of my brown leather pants.

What to do when your estrogen patch is out of stock. (New York Times – gift link)

‘People Are Tired of Feeling Like Extras in Someone Else’s Video’: Why a Nantucket antiques-store owner is beefing with influencers like Paige Lorenze. (The Cut)

So I splurged and bought these… they are so freaking cute and comfy too! More my speed than Bostons or UGGs.

U.S. government map of Africa mislabels every country at global conference. (The Guardian)

Why You're Still Looking At Your Ex's Instagram (Even Though You're 40 & Broke Up At 16). (Scary Mommy)

This is a cute bag for now through winter. Great statement, goes with everything style!

Employees at the world’s biggest AI companies are calling for a slowdown in AI development. (CNN)

I shared on Instagram Stories that my husband just got this cutting board… and the replies! I didn't know folks were so passionate about cutting boards. Two shared this is their go-to gift for weddings, housewarmings, and showers!

A pharmacy chain in Vermont implemented AI for efficiency. It’s led to delays, incorrect information and privacy concerns. (VT Digger)

The Most Famous AI Writing Tic Is Also the Most Mysterious. (The Atlantic – gift link)

Same Shoe, Different Factory. (Worse on Purpose)

We had a meeting with E's guidance counselor to go over what she needs for graduation and we realized we were twinsies both with the same exact phone case! It is really solid and just as gorgeous IRL.

Factoids are stubborn things. (Aristotle's Guide to Soul Bending on Substack)

I took this towel to the beach last weekend and it's impressive how quickly it dries, doesn't collect sand, and is still soft and cozy!

A U.S. Citizen Deleted His Phone’s Data. Now He Faces a Felony Charge. (New York Times – gift link)

I just got this necklace and it's so awesome; it's a long pendant, it's a classic length, it's a choker, and it always gets comments from strangers!

How Duke’s Mayo got cooking with restaurants to grow retail sales. (Retail Brew)

For those who use Amazon, would you consider helping to “clear the list” for a teacher who is a fellow member of the Wardrobe Oxygen community? Genevieve is a new Family and Consumer Sciences teacher and would really appreciate you helping her supply her classroom! You can access her wish list at this link.

Style Inspo & Sale Alert

Soma is a favorite for its Vanishing undies that virtually disappear even under white linen pants. Well, the intimates brand has now come out with Vanishing bras! I have asked Soma to send me one and I'll be sure to share my thoughts!

Sale Alert

Bare Necessities has up to 40% off swimwear at this link. This is a fabulous time to buy swimwear: enjoy now, but also be ready for next summer for less! I hope this swimsuit is still in stock at the time you read this because it's a really great one, especially for those of us looking for swimsuits for large busts!

This is not a drill… Universal Standard has its linen 40% off through August 3rd. IMO, this is a sale worth shopping. I am a big fan of US linen (check out my Universal Standard linen review that features photos of me and my sister in many of the pieces). It holds up summer after summer, the colors are saturated, the styles are elevated, the hint of stretch doesn't take away from the breathability, and it just gets softer (while staying saturated in color) with each wash.

My personal favorites are these pants (all I had to do was hem them to fit well), this dress (as a dress alone or belted, swim coverup, or duster – very cute with the matching pants), this jumpsuit (covers bra straps, I like it without the self belt for comfy summer style), and my sister has this dress in the Ink Bloom Print and each time she wears it someone stops her to ask where she got it.

Baublebar has its Big Biannual Event going on through August 9th with 25% off sitewide and 20% off custom items. This will be their last big sale until Black Friday so now is the time to shop! I have gathered all my picks at this collection on ShopMy, but quick picks are this necklace (any color or size), these earrings (both colors, all sizes), this ring (I have gold and topaz), and this hinged bangle (for my fellow big-handed friends). For gifts, my teen daughter loves this bracelet and this tote.

Style Inspo

Woven flats are a trend that isn't going anywhere anytime soon. From basketweave soft suedes to wicker-like woven leather and even knit, these shoes are great now and into fall. I've gathered the ones that caught my eye with plenty of options for support and widths, and if you don't like the color but like the style, click through as most come in quite a range of choices!

one | two (under $100) | three | four | five | six (3 widths) | seven (arch support & 3 widths) | eight (arch support) | nine (machine washable) | ten (my personal fave) | eleven | twelve | thirteen (under $100) | fourteen

See/Hear/Read

Last weekend at the beach, my friends and I watched Jerry & Marge Go Large, a 2022 film available on Paramount+ and Prime. Bryan Cranston and Annette Benning star as a retired couple who find excitement gaming the lottery. It's based on a true story, and it's truly charming. Jerry (Cranston) is neurodivergent, really connecting with numbers, sometimes more so than his kids. He and his wife Marge (Benning) have a beautiful relationship, and he becomes a town hero.

For books, I finished The Messy Lives of Book People (mentioned last week) and really enjoyed it. The author Jojo Moyes was mentioned in this novel (it really is a book about book people) and when I went to Libby for a new book, The Giver of Stars was one of the first audiobooks offered as available. Eons ago I read Me Before You and After You but never this book by Moyes and I borrowed it without even knowing what it was about.

It is an historical novel based on the Kentucky Pack Horse Librarians (Smithsonian Magazine). Five women from different backgrounds come together to manage this small town library. Only halfway through, this is very enjoyable but it's very… Fried Green Tomatoes. Not at all the same story but the same vibe.

That being said, the narrator is Julia Whelan who you may recognize if you listen to audiobooks. She has done a lot of Emily Henry, The Women by Kristin Hannah, Educated by Tara Westover. Folks loooove her but I find her voice to sound very cynical and sarcastic and it has made me DNF books before. But I learned on 1.4x speed, she doesn't bother me at all.

For Your Entertainment

It's a little David Bowie, a little Queens of the Stone Age, and I always love to see some grown folks doing it and doing it well… Triggerfinger is a Belgian rock band that formed back in 1998. Originally a trio, member Paul Van Bruystegem passed away last year from a prolonged illness, 55-year-old Ruben Block and 54-year-old Mario Goossens have continued the band with a new album coming out in September. “Through the Beam” is the latest single from it, and I am a fan.

I know I am not the only woman who hit her 40s and started struggling to go to sleep. If I did fall asleep, no matter what time my head hit the pillow, I'd wake up at 3am with a start… and often in a pool of sweat. My husband would be a burrito wrapped up in layers of bedding, and I would be miserable under a damp sheet, wishing I could have the comfortable weight of the bedding but unable to be comfortable.

How We Learned About Eight Sleep in 2022

My husband is the one who found out about Eight Sleep. He listens to the Rich Roll podcast and I guess Eight Sleep was a sponsor and Rich Roll would talk about how much he enjoyed it. My husband knew I was dealing with night sweats and had always been a warm sleeper. He invited me to investigate it and see if it may be a solution.

One friend had an Ooler (now called the ChiliPad), another had a Bed Jet, and both didn't sound appealing to me. I liked the idea of no sound, no wind, and with the Eight Sleep it could offer dual-zone cooling but also heating, and scheduled adjustments through the night to keep one comfortably asleep.

This means, when I get into bed at 10pm my side of the bed could be cozy and warm, but by time I am ready to turn off the light, the temperature has gone down to a more neutral level. Then into the night, right around that 3am waking hour, my side of the Eight Sleep would get cooler, keeping me comfortable enough to not get night sweats and not wake up. No breeze, no fan, no noise, and my husband's side of the bed can have a whole other temperature setup.

Eight Sleep for Perimenopause: My Review

This was the summer of 2022, and if you have read my articles about perimenopause, you know I was in it bad at that time. Perimenopause was not only affecting my sleep, but my job, my marriage, my ability to parent, the level of comfort in my body, and most everything.

We decided to try the Eight Sleep Pod 3, which was a mattress cover that offered the temperature regulation. It would wrap around our existing mattress, have a tube going from the center head of the mattress to a almost-silent machine called a hub that is about the size and shape of an old-school desktop computer tower.

At that time, the Eight Sleep mattress pod cost a bit over $2K; not the kind of money we had sitting around to play with, but with Affirm, it was interest-free monthly payments of around $65. That we could handle, and that was cheaper than a lot of the random-ass supplements, pillows, and cooling tools I had been buying to try to find relief.

Gentle reader, to say I was obsessed with our Eight Sleep is to put it mildly. This was such a gamechanger not just for me, but also for my husband.

• For once, we could comfortably share the same bedding.
• I'd snuggle up on his side and be floored at how hot it was, but how I couldn't feel it at all on my side.
• In the winter we kept our bed warm, in the summer kept it cool, and were able to reduce our utility bills because our bedroom didn't have to be as drastic of a temperature difference from the outside.
• We would be in the car heading home from an event and be able to prepare our sides of the bed so it would be the perfect temperature once home.
• Our little dog Oscar gets cold easily; I would set the Eight Sleep on my side up to +10 and he'd burrow under the covers and take the happiest naps.
• When our daughter wasn't feeling well, she'd ask to sleep in our bed and would warm it up to be all cozy and snuggly.
• My husband would use the alarm feature, which would warm up and vibrate his side of the bed to wake him up more gently than a typical sound-based alarm.

The only maintenance needed was to switch out the water tank every few months; we'd keep a gallon of distilled water in the bathroom for that, but Eight Sleep would even email us to let us know it was time to do so.

Upgrading the Eight Sleep Mattress Cover

At the beginning of 2025, with good friends who were both dealing with health issues that affected their temperature regulation, we gave them our old Eight Sleep, and decided to upgrade to the newer Eight Sleep Pod 5.

The newer Eight Sleep was even quieter than the one we had. With the old Eight Sleep hub, there would be a quiet “woosh” when you changed the temperature. With the new one, absolutely no noise. The newer one gets colder and hotter, and can adjust temperatures much more quickly. There is a “hot flash” feature that will quickly make that side of the bed super cold, and a “nap” feature so you can have it keep you comfy for however long you plan to doze.

But one of the best features of the newer Eight Sleep is there are controls on the side of the mattress cover. No need to get out of bed or touch your phone (the Eight Sleep is controlled by an app). Each time you press the bottom button, the temp drops a notch; the top button it rises. The middle button can be either a “snooze” button for the alarm (what my husband has) or a button for “hot flash mode” which instantly cools your side of the bed (my choice). Your side of the mattress cover vibrates once to let you know it is adjusting per your request.

For the newer Eight Sleep, we again went with Affirm so there's a reasonable interest-free monthly payment instead of dropping almost $3K at once.

As for the Eight Sleep app, you don't need to touch it after setting up your device and setting how you want your schedule to be. However, it's a pretty nifty app. It will track the quality of sleep you got your breath rate, resting heart rate, heart rate variability (HRV), and even how much and how loud you snored. You can do even more robust metrics if you desire to add in data about your day (workouts, consuming alcohol or caffeine, travel, illness, etc.).

My Eight Sleep app tells me my sleep is high quality (usually high 80s to mid-90s) and when it dips, I see how it's connected to drinking alcohol or being under the weather and no longer related to stress or emotion or perimenopause. My husband used to get up at least once a night to use the bathroom (men over 40, IYKYK). Now he has to maybe once every other week, and it's usually because he drank a lot of water before bed. I'm the same; rarely do I get up anymore to use the bathroom.

Both my husband and I had WHOOP fitness trackers, but when Eight Sleep upgraded the app to have all these metrics, we stopped using them (which saved us money that made the monthly Eight Sleep cost feel less painful).

Is the Eight Sleep Worth The Money?

Over the past several years, we have committed over $5K to Eight Sleep… and I think it's some of the best money we have spent. It truly is worth the cost. We live in a society that celebrates burnout, where we compete for who is more busy, more tired, who got the fewest hours of sleep. And it's literally killing us. Sleep is the most valuable thing for your mind, your body, your spirit.

I have bought so many pillows and cases and supposedly cooling sheets and comforters. My husband had a weighted blanket, grounding sheets, and his own mix of pillows. Now we each sleep with one pillow (he's a Mellow, I'm a Purple), “normal” sheets (we vary between Boll & Branch and Ettitude though we do have Slip pillowcases), and in summer a comforter with a blanket and quilt added in winter.

And my friend with the Ooler? After needing to have it replaced multiple times, she finally got an Eight Sleep and regrets not switching sooner!

A Few Questions I've Received About Our Eight Sleep

Over the years, I have had a lot of questions asked about our Eight Sleep; I hope to answer them here.

I hate to say the Eight Sleep is worth the cost, but it is. So ask me anything, I am happy to share any detail as this is not sponsored (though I do have affiliate links) and each month I see money going out of my account to pay for “just a mattress topper” that is anything but.

I know that first paragraph is blunt, but it's true. Recently, as I sat at the second funeral of the season chatting with friends about the failing health of a friend's parent and how another friend wasn't there because just a month prior, their parent died and had the funeral in the same venue… I realized we're the age where we need at least one at the ready funeral outfit.

What to Wear to a Funeral

When you're in mourning and also trying to plan a memorial service, or you're busy caring for loved ones who are dealing with grief and planning a funeral, or you're just frantically trying to keep all the balls of everyday life in the air and realize in three days you're attending a funeral for a relative and need not only plane tickets but something to wear… it's nice to have already in your closet something ready to wear. Let's make that happen, and make it something you can reach for time and time again without a lot of stress or thought.

Do You Have to Wear Black to a Funeral?

One does not need to wear black to a funeral. For my mother's memorial service, I wore a floral dress. For my father's, a rich chocolate brown. However, the outfit should be a somber color (unless otherwise directed). Navy, plum, teal, forest green, chocolate brown, gray, and subtle prints in darker colors are all completely appropriate for most funerals, wakes, memorial services, celebrations of life, and repasts.

Consider Coverage

Different houses of worship have different guidelines for how much skin to cover. A safe bet is choosing something that covers the shoulders, the back, most cleavage, and at least hits the knee. Some houses of worship prefer women to wear skirts in place of pants, some desire headcoverings, some require more skin coverage. If unsure, it's okay to ask a family member. You can also tuck a shawl or cardigan in your bag to have just in case.

Shoes for a Funeral

Your shoes should go with your outfit, but when choosing shoes for a funeral, consider the kind of event and the season. Is it a memorial service at a funeral home and then a repast at the family home? Or is it a funeral at the house of worship and then all head to the gravesite? Do you need to walk a distance or stand for a span of time? Will it be rainy, or muddy, or hot and sweaty?

A pair of comfortable black flats is a safe bet for most any situation. Black will work with any dark color outfit, is easy to polish up between wears, and won't steal the spotlight from your outfit. For winter, a pair of tall boots keeps you warm while making it so you don't have to worry about hosiery.

Speaking of hosiery, if you wish to wear it, a sheer option that is virtually invisible is back in style, as is a sheer black. You can also choose a more opaque version for fall and winter. I would not choose a printed or textured tight or hose for a funeral, but you know the family and loved ones best.

Funeral Dresses for Women in Midlife

The best is a travel-friendly dress with stretch that doesn't cling, doesn't need fancy undergarments, and can work with comfortable shoes that won't sink into soil or sand. Even better if it's machine washable.

Timeless Funeral Dresses You Can Wear for Multiple Seasons & Multiple Years

I am all about a one and done dress. You know where it is in the closet, you already know what shoes work with it, what underpinnings, maybe even what accessories and coat. Unless it's a more personal and emotional service and the dress may have memories associated with it, having a timeless funeral dress makes these situations easier. This is not being boring, this is being stylish and smart.

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Top row, left to right: one (XS-XL: link to plus sizes) | two (XS-4X) | three (XS-3X) | four (14-32) | five (14-24)
Bottom row, left to right: one (XS-XL; link to plus sizes) | two (00-40) | three (0-14) | four (14-32) | five (4-16)

Buy once, wear for years, and if you choose the right fabrics and style, you may be able to wear almost all year long. In summer, style with sandals or ballet flats. In winter, block heel low pumps or boots.

Travel-friendly Funeral Dresses

Quickly packing for a flight or long drive to a funeral is not the time when you want to worry about a garment steamer or travel iron, or be screwed if you don't fold and roll with the utmost care. These dresses will still look presentable if shoved into a carryon in the 11th hour and don't need to be dry-cleaned.

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Top row, left to right: one (2-16) | two (2-24 & petite/plus petite) | three (XS-3X & petite) | four (10/12-30/32) | five (2-14)
Bottom row, left to right: one (XS-4X & petite/tall) | two (XS-3X & petite) | three (1X-3X) | four (XS-3X) | five (0/2-20/22)

Funeral Dresses with Two-Day Shipping (Or Faster)

Yes, you can go to Amazon; I am usually against using this company but in a time of need, it can be handy and have a list of funeral dresses I made before on my storefront. However, all these dresses below are available with two-day shipping or less. Some may require additional shipping costs, but all have reasonable return policies. Some also offer store pickup to expedite the process even further.

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Top row, left to right: one (0-14) | two (0-14) | three (XS-4XL) | four (XXS-XXXL) | five (XS-XL)
Bottom row, left to right: one (0-18) | two (0X-3X) | three (0X-3X) | four (XS-L) | five (XXS-XL)

Funeral Dresses for Work-Related Situations

You're attending a funeral and then heading straight to the office or client site, or maybe it's the memorial service for an employee or colleague. These are dresses that look respectful and professional.

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Top row, left to right: one (14-24) | two (XS-XL) | three (2-14 & petite) | four (00-20; ALISON15 for 15% off) | five (14-32)
Bottom row, left to right: one (12/14-28/30) | two (2P-26P & misses) | three (XS-XL) | four (00-40) | five (00-18 & petite

Sustainable & Ethical Funeral Dresses

You don't need to sacrifice your ethics to dress for respect at a funeral. These dresses are all from sustainable and ethical companies, and most are from natural breathable fibers, also making them great for summer funerals and funerals in tropical climates.

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Top row, left to right: one (S-XXL) | two (XS-2XL) | three (XS-XL) | four (XS-2XL) | five (XS-XXL)
Bottom row, left to right: one (XS-XL) | two (XS-3X) | three (XS-1X & petite) | four (XXS-3X) | five (S-XXL)

Alternatives to Funeral Dresses

One does not need to wear a dress to a funeral if one doesn't want to. However, you want your attire to be the same level of formality as a dress one would wear to work or a house of worship. Some options:

• A fine-knit sweater (merino, silk blend, acrylic blend, pima cotton) with a pair of ponte wide-leg trousers. The sweater can be crew neck, v-neck, turtleneck, surplice, or even a twinset. For shoes, loafers or flats are a comfortable option that can also handle if you are walking in a cemetery. An alternative if you are doing a lot of walking or have foot issues is a black leather or suede sneaker with a black sole and black details.
• A suit. Suits are always appropriate for funerals, whether it is with pants, a skirt, or a dress. Make sure the base layer works well on its own in case it's warm outside or in the building.
• A blouse with trousers. The pants should not be too tight and of a fabric that looks more dressy (triacetate or crepe instead of twill or chino). the blouse should be of a drapey fabric with not too low of a neckline. If the blouse is even a hint of being sheer wear a camisole in a dark color underneath. Loafers, flats, elevated tonal sneakers, and ankle boots are all smart shoe choices.
• A matched set. A button-front shirt or blouse with full-length or slightly cropped pants in the same fabric are a good choice. The fabric should have some drape. If the fabric is drapey, a sleeker shoe like a flat or leather sandals are a good choice.

It is ridiculous that 67% of the women in the United States are plus size, and the average American woman is a size 16, yet we continue to struggle to find plus size belts. I am updating this post in 2026 with a fresh list of retailers that actually carry them. I hope this is a useful resource for you, and if I missed your favorite belt retailer, do share in the comments!

Where to Shop for Stylish Plus Size Belts for Women

This list is not exhaustive; it is just the places where I or folks I know have had success shopping for plus size belts. The list is in alphabetical order. I look forward to your comments on where you shop for belts so I can ensure this list is a valuable resource for those seeking plus size women's belts!

ADA Collection

I have loved ADA Collection wrap belts for years; here I am, styling an ADA wrap belt back in 2015. High-quality leather from a woman-owned sustainable company, these belts can transform a wardrobe, and I often wear them in place of a dress' self-belt to switch up the look. ADA offers its wrap belts in an extended length that is 5″ longer. I have the shorter length and have found it work well up to a size 16 and could possibly do an 18; the 5″ longer option would make these belts available to a few more sizes.

Anthropologie

Anthropologie has a selection of trendy and classic belts in various materials including leather. If you are looking for a belt incorporating current trends, Anthropologie likely has it available up to 3X.

Plus Size Belts at Anthropologie

From classic styles to the hottest trends, you can find them in sizes 1X-3X

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Ashley Stewart

If belts are on trend, then Ashley Stewart is sure to carry a few styles in sizes 1X-4X. Ashley Stewart has been a favorite place over the years to find chain belts in fall and winter and sparkly belts at holiday season.

Ashley Stewart Belts

If you're looking for fun statement belts, you need to check out Ashley Stewart's collection available up to 4X.

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ASOS

If you are looking for plus-size belts at wallet-friendly prices and/or that incorporate the latest trends, check out ASOS. I have several belts from ASOS, and while they aren't the quality I'd need for hard-working everyday use to keep jeans in place, they are fabulous for adding style to outfits, and ASOS offers up to 4X in belts.

Plus Size Belts at ASOS

Affordable and on trend, ASOS is a great destination for plus size belts up to 4X.

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Bella Belts

Bella Belts is one size fits most, and most means up to 59″ which is equivalent to a 6X. Instead of holes, Bella Belt's buckles have a unique locking system which makes it up to 600% more flexible than traditional belts, ensuring it always fits comfortably, regardless of the day. Bella belts offers a variety of buckles, belt colors, and both leather and vegan options.

Bella Belts

No belt loops, a locking systemm with belts up to 59″ in length

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Beltaway

I love Beltaway. This is a metal-free durable elastic belt with a sturdy plastic buckle that is fantastic for keeping jeans from sliding down. Beltaway comes in size 0-14 and size 16-4X. They are strong, washable, adjustable. I love my Beltaway also for faking a tucked-in top.

Beltaway

I've been a fan for well over a decade. Great for travel, faking a tuck, being virtually invisible under untucked knits.

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ELOQUII

Depending on the season, ELOQUII offers a range of fashion and traditional belts in sizes 14/16 to 30/32 in faux leather and novelty textiles. ELOQUII is a great place to find belt trends for reasonable prices.

ELOQUII

A reliable destination for stylish and statement-making fashion, it's also a great place for fashion belts in plus sizes.

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Etsy

I have often shopped for plus size belts on Etsy because I can get the width, the length, the color, and the style I desire in any length I need. You'll have to do a bit of digging but with the right keywords (for example, “leather dress belt plus size” or “custom length stretch belt women”), you can find some gems. Do not focus on gender; often the belts advertised for men are right on trend for any gender and often high quality and thickness.

Etsy for Plus Size Belts

Custom lengths and designs at reasonable prices from artisans. The belt in the photo is from this seller.

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JCPenney

JCPenney is a great destination for classic belts for work and weekend available up to size 3XL and they are almost always $30 or less.

JCPenney Plus Belts

Great prices for both classic polished belts for work and fun trendy belts for weekend.

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J.Jill

J.Jill carries all of its fashion in misses and plus sizes and that includes the belt collection. A mix of classic belts for trousers and jeans to more fashionable seasonal belts to accessorize a dress or make more of a statement, all of J.Jill's belts are available up to size 2X/3X.

J.Jill Belts

From stretch raffia belts in summer to sleek leather styles for cold-weather fashion, you'll find a great selection in sizes XS-3X.

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Lands' End

Lands' End makes quality leather belts in plus sizes 1X-3X and waist sizes 40-58. These are classic belts for dress/work and for casual/denim usually in brown, black, and occasionally a color like tan or cognac. For those unsure about number sizes of belts, you choose your waist size in inches for your belt and it should fit on the middle hole with some room for natural body fluctuation.

Plus Size Belts at Lands' End

Classic styles and quality belts in leather to last a lifetime in sizes S-3X.

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Lane Bryant

Lane Bryant has been bringing it lately and the Lane Bryant belt selection has improved with on-trend styles, leather options, and sizes 14/16-26/28.

Lane Bryant

Classic to trendy, and always a nice price, Lane Bryant offers a broad selection of plus size belts in sizes 14/16-26/28.

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Maurices

Maurices is a great place to find plus size belts for less. Each season Maurices has a few casual styles great for jeans and weekend looks in sizes 1X/2X-3X/4X.

Maurices

Wallet-friendly casual styles of belts in plus sizes 1X/2X to 3X/4X.

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Midnight Hour

If you're looking for corset-style belts, harnesses, and hardware, check out Midnight Hour. Dedicated to apparel and accessories to explore your mystical side, Midnight Hour offers belts and harnesses up to 5XL.

Midnight Hour

Dramatic and decadent belts, harnesses, and waist accessories available up to size XL.

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Old Navy

Old Navy doesn't always have an extensive belt selection, but when Old Navy offers belts, they are available up to size 3X/4X. Wallet-friendly prices, and a mix of on-trend styles and classic belts makes Old Navy a place worth checking for plus size women's belts.

Old Navy Belts

Budget-friendly classic and novelty styles available up to size 3X/4X.

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Lauren Ralph Lauren

I am a big fan of Lauren Ralph Lauren; it's one of the few brands that hasn't lost its quality or its size range in the past years. Classic, stylish, an reliable, Lauren Ralph Lauren offers a selection of elegant real leather belts in sizes XS-3X.

Lauren Ralph Lauren Plus Size Belts

Quality and style; real leather and high-end hardware in belts available up to size 3X.

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Torrid

Torrid carries clothing and accessories in sizes 10-30 and each season, Torrid has a good selection of plus size belts. Many of Torrid's belts are more for fashion (faux leather, chains, stretch, etc.) but Torrid usually also has one or two leather belts perfect for keeping up jeans and trousers while also looking stylish.

Torrid Belts

On-trend belts and classic styles in sizes 10/12-30.

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Vermont Country Store

I doubt you were expecting this suggestion, but the Vermont Country Store carries a highly-rated pebble grain leather dress belt available up to size 3X/47″.

Vermont Country Store

Classic grain leather dress belt in a range of colors and sizes up to 3X

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Wildfang

Part of their collaboration with Debbie Harry, inclusive fashion brand Wildfang has a vegan leather and stainless steel belt available up to size 4X.

Wildfang

A classic belt that doesn't subscribe to a binary available up to 4X.

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Where to Buy Extended Size Belts for Women

While these places do not offer a true range of plus size belts, they are known for regularly offering belts up to XXL in size. Please note, this is a list of brands that carry XXL-specific belts, not XL/XXL combo styles.

• Banana Republic Factory: A retailers that offers fashion up to size 20, Banana Republic Factory also offers all its belts up to XXL.
• Carhartt: Carhartt carries women's work belts in size XXL.
• Hank's Leather Goods: For classic and high quality belts up to XXL, check out Hank's.
• Kohl's: Kohl's claims to have plus size belts, but the selection only goes up to XXL.
• Madewell: Madewell offers its entire quality belt collection up to XXL.
• Wrangler: Wrangler carries select styles of Western belts in size XXL.

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Weekend Reads

The Rise of Fashion Slop. (New York Times – gift link)

Instagram now lets you swap out the music in your old posts. (Tech Crunch)

I dig this graphic tee.

Sephora introduces store quiet hours. (Retail Dive)

This phone case is so chic.

Taking Out the Trash: These Old Ladies Are Cleaning Up Cape Cod. (New York Times – gift link)

I love a fun shoe that is also comfy!

After 3,000 Years, People Are Finally Reading ‘The Odyssey’—at Least on Wikipedia. (The Wall Street Journal – gift link)

I think I need this in my sun-loving life.

Speaking of sun… this is genius.

She knew he wasn’t real. She was in love with him anyway. One woman’s story of a romance scam. (AP)

Has anyone tried this at-home facial device?

I Survived a Cold Plunge and All I Got Was Everything I Ever Wanted. (New York Times Magazine – gift link)

I'm totally preordering this book!

Gen-Z women are paying for, and parenting, their boyfriends. (The Cut)

You know I love a badass ring that comes in larger than a size 8; this one is currently on my radar.

Since the camera is always watching, why not snap a surveillance selfie? (CNN)

I love the color of this going out top and love it's machine washable. Imagine with white jeans, cream or brown pants, with olive, with all shades of denim…

The Fake Influencers Selling Wellness on Your Feed. (New York Times – gift link)

When I wrote about using oral minoxidil, many of you shared you were also using finasteride and ketoconazole. Have any of you used this?

Style Inspo & Sale Alert

Summer is just starting in many parts of this country, but if you're buying clothes right now, it makes sense to buy pieces that can continue to work at least through October. These pieces mix and match with what you own and are wearing now and will transition into fall with ease.

Style Inspo: Mini Capsule for Late Summer

stripe cotton/modal sweater (XS-3X & petite/tall) | sneakers | pants (XS-3X & petite/tall) | jeans (0-18 & petite/tall; ALISON15 for 15% off) | belt (XS-XL) | earrings | sunglasses | convertible necklace | cotton sweater (XXS-XXL & petite/tall) | convertible bag (I own) | knot tee (XXS-3X; ALISON15 for 15% off) | flats | poplin skirt (XS-4X & petite/tall)

Sale Alert

Bembien has its Summer Sale going on with chic and timeless quality bags and other leather goods up to 40% off. I really dig this bag; in olive it's that goes with everything neutral for four seasons.

Ruti is having its Birthday this weekend with 20% off the core collection. No lie, I type this while wearing these jeans and this blouse so clearly I am a Ruti fan. These pants are part of the sale and a Wardrobe Oxygen Community bestseller month after month (and one of the best rated travel pants for women, too!). BTW, code ALISON15 gets you 15% off at Ruti!

PROMIX has its Birthday Sale going on with 34% off sitewide through 7/28. If you use protein or supplements, PROMIX is worth checking out for quality ingredients and no weird artificial flavors, colors, and sweeteners and no weird chemicals but still tasty. The strawberry milk protein powder is truly delicious, and even my teen will eat the birthday cake flavored protein puff bars.

The Haus Labs Bi-Annual Sale is here with 20% off sitewide through 7/27. I've heard good things about the Triclone Skin Tech Foundation.

See/Hear/Read

I am almost halfway through The Messy Lives of Book People by Phaedra Patrick. On Threads, someone asked about entertaining audiobooks and someone who also recommended The Wedding People (which I enjoyed) recommended this one, and it was available in Libby. Some parts are cliche, but I am still enjoying it very much!

We've caught the first episode of the 8-part series, Ride or Die (Prime) starring Hannah Waddingham and Octavia Spencer. It's a lot of fun, though it's clearly a show creat4ed for us grown-ass women.

For Your Entertainment

BG, Zeimani, and Kucha Womack are The Womack Sisters, an soul & R&B trio from Los Angeles with quite a pedigree. Granddaughters of Sam Cooke, neices of Bobby Womack, and daughters of the 80s R&B duo Womack & Womack, the Womack Sisters have a retro sound that still feels fresh. Their latest single is “If I Let You,” and local yokels, if you like their sound, they'll be at Wolf Trap this September wth LA LOM and Thee Sacred Souls!

This summer, SPANX launched a new swimwear collection. This collection of one- and two-piece swimsuits offers clean, classic silhouettes in bright solid colors and sizes XS-3X. The fabric is what makes it unique, offering the trademark SPANX smoothing, shaping, and sculpting compression built-in, but without the bulk or extra fabric often found in other compression or sculpting swimsuits.

I invited a member of the Wardrobe Oxygen community to provide a SPANX swimwear review. I reached out via the community Facebook page, and longtime reader Tai reached out. SPANX provided four swimsuits of Tai's choice in her size and preferred color. A review was not required by SPANX, they did not know this review was being written, and this is not sponsored by SPANX. Tai gets to keep the swimsuits and I paid her a fair rate for her article. Check out past Wardrobe Oxygen Community Member reviews.

I knew Tai would give a thorough review: like me, she has a larger bust and soft belly. But Tai is a swimmer (she's training for her second Ironman) and feels at home in a bathing suit. I knew she could give us an honest and detailed review of SPANX swimwear and if it could work for a woman in midlife, and how it handles a large bust and soft curves. Because “model vs. me” photos were seen as so helpful in my SPANX apparel review, they were added to this SPANX swimwear review. And with that, Tai's thoughts!

Spanx Swimwear Review: Honest Thoughts

I am a 45-year-old totally blind triathlete living in Minneapolis, Minnesota. I am currently training for my second full Ironman (Ironman Florida) this November. I swim often, and I go through swimsuits frequently. Being a cusp size person, I was excited for the opportunity to try flattering compressive swimwear.

I am 5’ 5” and 185 pounds. I have a 36G chest, my waist is approximately 37, and my hips are approximately 46. I have a pear shape and tend to do best with high rise bottoms that cover my soft belly. I need a lot of chest support. I tend to prefer a bit of padding, as I have large nipples. I also prefer underwire styles but always hope to find a wireless option with great support.

SPANXshape Swim Cutout One Piece in black, XL

Sizes: XS-3X | Colors: Very Black, Hibiscus (light pink), Caraway (light brown) | Shell: 85% Nylon,15% Elastane | Lining: 66% Nylon, 34% Lycra® Elastane | Price: $180

This suit has great compression across my stomach and around the torso. I like the cutout detail and the wider straps.  It has a higher leg cut than some of the suits, and I like that. However, it lacks chest support. It does have padding and good coverage for my larger nipples, but it lacks lift.

Like many of the other Spanx suits, this suit also feels a little tight in the torso. I don’t consider myself to have an extra long torso, but this swimwear collection indicates that perhaps I do. The suit was too short and felt tight in the crotch and around my legs. I have a feeling that a longer version might be too long for me. I may be somewhere in between.

SPANXsculpt Swim Halter One Piece in red, XL

Sizes: XS-3X | Colors: SPANX Red, Very Black, Caraway (light brown) | Shell: 57% Nylon, 43% Lycra Xtra Life® Elastane | Lining: 55% Nylon, 45% Lycra® Elastane | Price: $200

I like the flattering dart details on the cups of this suit. Try as I may, I cannot make this halter top supportive enough for my chest, even if I tie the halter very tightly. I like the inset panel below the chest which provides some great structure.

Like all of the Spanx one-pieces I tried, this halter one-piece also feels tight in the torso. I like the compression around my stomach. As someone with a slightly longer torso, this suit feels a bit short for me overall, and it’s tight in the crotch.

SPANXsmooth Swim Scoop Neck One Piece in Current, XL

Sizes: XS-3X | Colors: Very Black, Current (royal blue) | Shell: 85% Nylon, 15% Elastane | Lining: 56% Elastane, 44% Nylon | Price: $160

This suit was promising, but the straps were too narrow to provide enough chest support. This suit has the same padding as the others and does a great job of covering my large nipples. Like the others, the smoothing compression is nice around the stomach and rear.

However, this particular one-piece was quite simple and surprisingly lacked the flattering details I expect from suits at this price point.

SPANXshape Swim Halter Bikini Top in red, XL

Sizes: XS-3X | Colors: SPANX Red, Very Black, Current (royal blue), Hibiscus (light pink), Caraway (light brown) | Shell: 85% Nylon, 15% Elastane | Lining: 66% Nylon, 34% Lycra® Elastane | Price: $80\

This bikini top felt a little flimsy and lacked enough material. I wish it had more underbust support. It would benefit from underwires. Like the halter one-piece suit, I cannot tighten this one enough to make it more supportive. I wish it were long-line.

SPANXshape Swim Ultra Hi-Rise Bikini Bottom in Red, XL

Sizes: XS-3X | Colors: SPANX Red, Current (royal blue), Very Black, Hibiscus (light pink), Caraway (light brown) | Shell: 85% Nylon, 15% Elastane | Lining: 66% Nylon, 34% Lycra® Elastane | Price: $90

This bottom provided great coverage and compression. It offered more coverage on the bottom than any of the other offerings. I tend to do best with high-waisted bottoms, and this one was great for flattening my stomach. I would have liked ruching or other details to make this more flattering. I was also surprised that I wished it had a bit less coverage. It’s a bit too much coverage for me. I’m curious to know how the skirted bottom they offer would have worked on me. They also offer another bottom with a “cheeky” less coverage back.

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Summary:

I have loved most items I have purchased from Spanx. They offer comfortable flattering solutions. While I love the compression of these suits, they do not provide enough chest support for me. As someone whose torso is longer in proportion to my legs, these suits felt a bit short for me. For reference, I really like swimsuits from Lands End and Miraclesuit which have fit me very well in the torso.

The Spanx swimsuit fabric is substantial and I find it is more compressive than most swimsuits. I will be interested to see how it holds up in and out of sunshine and chlorinated water over the next few months. It is smooth and buttery to the touch. It is not overly thick as some compression can be. It has a soft handfeel, and also feels great against the skin. It has just the right amount of stretch.

Had I paid for these suits, I would have expected more flattering details such as ruching and more chest lift at this price point. These suits do a great job smoothing the stomach and torso. If you have a short to average torso, seek stomach compression, and do not need a great deal of breast lift, these suits could work for you.

Thanks to Alison for the opportunity to review SPANX swimwear. This is the first time I have ever taken photos for a blog post, and I am learning so much!   

Tai Tomasi

I am a totally blind attorney and triathlete from Minneapolis Minnesota. I compete with a sighted guide using tethers for the swim and run portions, and riding a tandem bike for the bike leg. When I am not working or working out, I enjoy learning about colors and fashion from a visual perspective, as well as evaluating fashion from a sensory perspective (how an item feels against the skin, and how it feels to the touch). I appreciate clothing with extra details that add texture and tactile interest. I am happy to see that brands are taking an interest in more than just the visual aesthetics and effects of the clothing on the wearer. Sensory considerations are so important.

I live in Minneapolis with my partner, my retired lab golden retriever cross Seeing Eye dog Lava, and my current Seeing Eye dog, a chocolate lab named Gwynne. We love attending outdoor concerts and festivals together.

And right now, it's not just one style of sneaker that is incorporating perforated leather, mesh, and open-work styles. Gorpcore chunky sneakers for the trails, sleek retro-inspired styles made with satin and suede, and sneaker classics get a glam-up with breezy open textiles.

The mesh sneaker is lighter in weight, more comfortable in the heat, and even when chunky gives a lighter effect making them great for travel, for looking more dressy than classic trainers, partnering with suits and skirts with plenty of style. I don't see the mesh sneaker trend going anywhere any time soon.

Popular Mesh Sneaker Trends

If you're interested in mesh sneakers, you may be wondering how to style them. I am going to share the most popular styles of mesh and perforated sneakers, how to style them, offer some style inspo from street and celebrity style, and keep reading for tips on what socks to wear with mesh sneakers.

Mesh Sneakers for Now and Into Fall

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It's still Deep Summer, but I know we're all thinking if we buy anything now, hopefully it will transition into fall. No worries, mesh sneakers may be great for hot summer days, but also work well for breezier autumn afternoons. Don't go too bright with the colors, consider more autumnal textiles like suede, and if you go more classic not only will it be more versatile, it will be more likely to look chic come next summer.

Elevated Perforated Sneakers

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Perforated sneakers from leather and suede can actually look more elevated than a solid shoe, making them a great choice for some personal style aesthetics as well as those looking to style sneakers for the workplace.

The sleek low-profile style is popular with perforated sneakers in leather and suede, but you will also see styles with classic soles that are usually a contrast in white or cream. Neutrals and metallics will not only be more versatile, but more elegant.

Gorpcore Mesh Sneakers

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The “gorpcore” trend of chunky sneakers ready for the trail or the track has been gaining steam the past few seasons. I appreciate a trend that is fashionable but also functional, and with mesh insets they're also breathable and lighter weight.

These may feel harder to wear after so many seasons of sneakers getting slimmer and sleeker. If they're not your jam, that's okay. But if they appeal to you, they go well with the athletic-inspired looks right now (track pants, longer shorts, leggings), but also can be a really cool juxtaposition with unexpected items (slip dress, midi and maxi skirts, wide-leg pants in satin or tweed).

Mesh Sneaker Hybrids (Mary Jane Sneakers, Sneakerinas)

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The sneaker hybrid has been a trend for a few seasons now, and it's not going away any time soon. From the Nike Air Rift with the tabi toebox to the incredibly popular Adidas Samba Jane, this is a shoe that naturally offers more airflow. With mesh and perforation, it's a summer winner and the change in texture elevates the shoe making it even better for dressing up.

You will see a lot of these with shaped “barefoot” style soles that have plenty of grip but not a lot of arch support. More low profile, these can often be easier to transition to dressier situations, take up less space in your luggage, and sometimes even double as a water shoe.

What Socks Does One Wear with Mesh Sneakers?

When you research what socks to wear with mesh sneakers, the main advice is go sockless. Yeah, that advice is probably from the same folks who are recommending we wear jelly shoes again. Been there, done that, learned our lesson.

The key is to either have your sock disappear, or make it clearly visible. You want a no-show sock, or a crew sock. Also check out my favorite hack for a no-show sock effect.

If it is a no-show sock, you do not want it to peek out of the opening at your ankle. The whole sock should be within the shoe. Go ultra-low profile with a color close to your skintone, or high enough to fill the whole mesh area. If it is a taller no-show sock, it can be your skintone or a color that complements your shoe. White, black, or have fun with colors, using a shade that pulls from the print of your outfit or a pop of color that adds fun and interest to your ensemble.

Best No-Show Socks for Perforated and Mesh Sneakers:

• Sheec Secret Ultra Low-cut No Show Socks: Available in four sizes so they're less likely to ride down, these come in three skintones and classic black. The seam and terry bottom makes them absorbent and a better fit than many no-show socks.
• Flat Socks: Made from 100% polyester microwool, these are inserts that go over your shoe's insole to absorb moisture and add comfort. Not always the best choice if you're looking for heel and/or toe protection, but a great option for shoes where no-show socks are a no-go.
• Bombas Lightweight No Show Sock: If you're looking for a no-show sock that will hide under the shoe, not slip, and come in some fun colors to peek through the mesh, these are ones I really like.
• ONDO: A personal favorite, ONDO socks come in cotton or merino wool and a range of heights. I love the merino version, which come in four sizes and I find stay up whether it's loafers or sneakers. If you want even lower profile, the low-cut option stays in place and I find hides even under ballet flats.

If it is a crew sock, you want the weight of the sock to complement the style of the shoe. The more low profile and delicate the shoe, the thinner the sock. A thin cotton crew in white is a very on-trend option that works with most any color and style of mesh or perforated sneaker. That being said, socks are a place you can show personality with sheer printed styles, fun pops of color, and even lace and fishnet. A thicker cotton crew goes well with chunkier athletic styles and trail sneakers.

Best Crew Socks for Wearing with Fashion Sneakers:

• HUE: The O.G. for stylish socks for women, HUE continues to offer the current trends without being over the top, or costing an arm and a leg. While HUE is carried at Nordstrom and various online retailers you will find the best selection on the brand website. For dressier styles of mesh sneakers, try the Sleek Sock, Bobby Sock, or the Sheer Anklet. For more athletic styles, the Mini Crew Top Sock doesn't feel try-hard for us grown folk.
• Stems: Another brand found at department stores like Nordstrom, Stems offers high-quality stylish socks that are a bit more elevated and understated while still being completely on-trend. You can't go wrong with any of the styles, but I am a personal fan of the Netted Crew in any color to go with your sneakers, as well as loafers, flats, slingbacks, and Mary Janes.
• Bombas: I am a big Bombas socks fan. Bombas is known for more athletic styles of socks, but in recent seasons has gotten some more trendy yet very wearable styles. The Lightweight Quarter Socks in white is a safe bet for any mesh or perforated sneaker; the Ruffle Rib Half Calf in gray reads fashionable without being a fashion victim (also a great choice for loafers). The Sheer Quarter Socks are a fun but not too wacky option for low-profile open-weave sneakers as well as flats, Mary Janes, and loafers. BTW code WARDROBE20 gets you 20% off your first order at Bombas.
• Hansel from Basel: I learned about this sock brand from my friends at Rise Styling. While I linked above to the brand on Nordstrom, Hansel from Basel also has a website, though it's orders of $75+ for free shipping and returns need to be in the exact condition you received them (hang tags still attached). But cool prints, thin socks that stay up, good quality.
• Sock Candy: If you want fun socks, you want Sock Candy. These are the sheer printed socks you see on a lot of street style and social media fashionistas. Sock Candy also carries a selection of socks over a size 10, which is great for those who feel size range is usually limited to more boring options.

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Of course, with all fashion trends, you do not need to embrace the mesh sneaker trend to look stylish. However, if it is a shoe style you wish to incorporate, I hope this guide proves helpful!

What Is Oral Minoxidil and Why I Tried It

It seemed as though once I turned 40, my body began to change. One of the things I noticed most was my hair. While I never was one with really thick hair, I never thought much about it. But now, over 40, it was visibly thinning. My part was wider, I began getting a receding hairline, and it began thinning so much at the crown of my scalp that I sometimes saw a bald spot in photos.

Everything I Tried Before Oral Minoxidil

I began trying every product on the market to prevent hairloss, regrow hair, or try to create the look of thicker and fuller hair.

Topical Minoxidil: Various Brands

I tried Rogaine, I tried Hers, and when JLo had her own line of topical minoxidil, I tried that as well. And every single one, within a few weeks I got a rash on my scalp. After having a similar allergic reaction to SkinMedica, I wonder if it's the propylene glycol, which is an ingredient in both products.

Supplements and Vitamins I Took for Hair Growth

From biotin and keratin to Viviscal and Keranique, Nutrafol and Vegamour, prenatal vitamins to collagen peptides, I consumed all sorts of pills and supplements to improve my hair and only ended up with cystic acne and greasy roots.

Shampoos and Scalp Treatments I Tested

I used shampoos, conditioners, thickening products and scalp treatments from Hair Biology, Vegamour, Virtue, GrandeHAIR, and others that are no longer sold… likely because I found all of these either did nothing or dried out my hair. The volume-boosting products worked, but it was just cosmetic as my scalp was still showing underneath.

Cover-Up Products That Hid My Thinning Hair

I became a fan of products designed to hide the scalp and create the appearance of thicker hair at the roots. Toppik was a favorite; the powder would add thickness to my roots and cover grays while also tinting my scalp. Madison Reed's The Great Cover Up, L'Oreal Magic Root Cover Up, and Boldify powder were always in my medicine cabinet, purse, and travel toiletries bag for quick coverups as my grays would make my scalp look even more visible.

I tried rosemary oil, scalp massagers, even clip-in extensions to try to make my hair look thicker and grow back. My hair stylist encouraged me to embrace my natural hair texture and go curly. Not only improving the condition of my hair, curly hair created the look of more volume and better hid my scalp. But I was still losing hair and feeling self-conscious.

Earlier this year, I updated a post of what I had tried to fight hairloss and in the comments many recommended oral minoxidil. As I shared in this Weekend Reads in January, I decided to take your advice and got a prescription for it through Alloy. And now it is July and I feel I have been on it long enough to provide a thorough review of my experience with oral minoxidil for hairloss in midlife.

Getting an Oral Minoxidil Prescription Through Alloy

I went with Alloy because I had used Alloy before for tretinoin and was pleased with the customer service, product quality, communication, and pricing. While I have received free skincare from Alloy in the past, my oral minoxidil prescription is not covered and is not part of any campaign or paid promotion: I am sharing this review as a regular paying customer.

How the Alloy Telehealth Process Works

With Alloy, like other online telehealth companies, you say what you want, fill out some personal information, see if your insurance will cover it, and your info is reviewed by a doctor. Depending on your answers, you may have a telehealth call, or you may just get a message in the site's portal sharing the doctor's recommendation. It also comes with a generic video of that same doctor introducing themselves and info on how to use Alloy.

My Starting Dose and What My Doctor Told Me

The email message I received after providing my info:

Hi Alison, I have reviewed your intake questions and I have completed your treatment plan.

Based on the details you shared, oral minoxidil with added vitamin D is a good option for supporting hair density and reducing ongoing thinning. This combination helps improve blood flow to the follicles and may reduce inflammation that can contribute to shedding. Your medication will be shipped directly to you.

Oral Minoxidil 1mg/Vitamin D 1000IU Compounded Capsule
Take 1 capsule by mouth once daily.

Contraindications for this medication include a history of uncontrolled high blood pressure, significant heart disease, kidney or liver disease, pheochromocytoma, pregnancy or breastfeeding, or any allergy to minoxidil or vitamin D.

Possible side effects can include lightheadedness, dizziness, swelling of the feet or legs, unwanted hair growth, weight gain, chest pain, or shortness of breath. Rarely, pericardial effusion can occur. Please reach out if you notice any of these symptoms.

You can message me anytime with medical questions or updates to your health. For shipping or billing questions, contact support@myalloy.com.

Regards,
Dr. Allison Hill

I received in the mail within a week a traditional prescription bottle containing 90 Oral Minoxidil 1mg/Vitamin D 1000IU compounded capsules. It came with plenty of paperwork explaining the medication, when to take it, potential side effects, and how to contact Alloy if I had questions or concerns. Also, knowing from using Alloy before, it came in an orange logoed zipper pouch that is a great size for travel and randomness.

My Oral Minoxidil Results, Month by Month

1mg of oral minoxidil is really low; my PCP shared she usually starts folks at 2.5mg. However, she said 1mg would make sense as the first three months you really don't see any benefit, you are just having it build up in the body… but you do something experience shedding of your existing hair. I didn't experience any shedding; it may be because the dose was so low.

The First Three Months on 1mg

I felt nothing. No weight gain, no hair growth in unusual places, no dizziness or lightheadedness… nothing. I took the pills every morning with my other morning medications so it was easy to remember. The capsule was small enough that it was no issue taking even dry.

Why I Asked to Increase My Dose

Three months went quickly, and when I received an email that my next shipment was being prepared, I reached out asking for Alloy to bump up the dosage. I wanted to be sure I would see results, and I had not had any negative effects from oral minoxidil. I don't have a record of what I sent in the portal, but this is the reply I received:

Hello Alison, I’ve reviewed your dosage change request and have updated your treatment plan.

Since you reported doing well on the 1 mg dose without side effects, increasing the strength can provide additional support for hair density and regrowth. Oral minoxidil works by improving blood flow to hair follicles and helping extend the growth phase of the hair cycle.

The following treatment has been prescribed and will be shipped directly to you from our partner pharmacy. These products are automatically billed and shipped, so no approval in your Treatment Plan is needed.

Oral Minoxidil 2mg/Vitamin D 1500IU Compounded Capsule
Directions: Take 1 capsule by mouth once daily.

Contraindications for Oral Minoxidil 2mg/Vitamin D 1500IU Compounded Capsule:
History of uncontrolled high blood pressure, significant heart disease (including congestive heart failure or pulmonary hypertension), kidney disease, chronic or severe liver disease, pheochromocytoma, pregnancy or breastfeeding, or allergy to minoxidil or vitamin D.

Possible side effects for Oral Minoxidil 2mg/Vitamin D 1500IU Compounded Capsule:
Lightheadedness or dizziness, swelling of the feet or legs from fluid retention, unwanted hair growth, facial swelling, weight gain, chest pain, or shortness of breath. Rarely, a condition called pericardial effusion (fluid around the heart) can occur. Please message me if you notice any concerning symptoms.

Hair growth changes usually become noticeable after about 3 to 6 months of consistent use. Some people notice mild early shedding as follicles shift into a new growth cycle, which can be expected.

If you have medical questions or notice any changes in your health, feel free to message me here. For questions about billing, shipping, or your account, please contact support@myalloy.com.

Best,
Dr. Allison Hill

Five Months In: The Results I Didn't Expect

I have now completed two months at the increased 2mg oral minoxidil from Alloy and have seen both side effects and hair growth.

Side Effects of Oral Minoxidil I Noticed

I want to break down the side effects, negative and positive, that I have experienced with oral minoxidil through Alloy.

Hair Growth Beyond My Scalp

I began laser hair removal last summer, a “nose to toes” program where it's from face below the nose literally to my toes. The only part I left untouched is my arms. I used to find my arms overly hairy as a teen and in midlife found not only the hair on my head thinned, but so did my arms and I finally had the level of armhair I desired back in the day so I kept it.

I saw after about a month, the hair on my arms didn't get thicker or darker, but the patch of hair seemed to get larger, spreading more to the back of my forearm by maybe 1/2″. Totally something only I would notice, and the new hair is just as fine as the original hair.

I didn't get my brows lasered and haven't had my brows waxed or professionally groomed in years. Personally, all I do is occasionally tweeze away an errant hair. I haven't felt I've had more hairs there than before.

That being said, I shared my experience using oral minoxidil on Instagram and one person DMed me saying they experienced their nosehair growing faster than before… and it made me realize I was also experiencing that. Nothing as extreme as waking up and having some long hair hanging out of a nostril or anything, but I keep a facial razor in my medicine cabinet and one on my dressing table in the cup with my makeup brushes and take care of things when I notice it's needed.

I also still occasionally get a dark hair under my nose or near the edge of my lips and I just swipe it away when I notice it. As a woman in perimenopause, my family is already on rogue hair alert, being kind enough to let me know if there's one I may have missed. But I haven't noticed much more than before.

I have seen no hair growth on my back, chest, upper arms, and since I stopped laser hair removal for the summer, no breakthrough hair happening that is thicker or darker than expected.

Hair Growth on My Scalp

As for my head… the hair is growing back and growing so fast I am going to have to schedule my salon visits more closely together. I have the roots I'd usually have after a few months and it has only been a few weeks since I last saw my stylist. I also have baby hairs all over my hairline and in the space where I previously had my receding hairline.

I never took a “before” photo in January when I started my Alloy prescription for oral minoxidil, but I found this photo from 2022 and tried to recreate it with the same pose and same lighting. It's clear how much more hair I have on my scalp in general, how much hair I am holding in my hand, and how my hairline is filling in. Even with it gray, you can still see the thickness, when before my gray roots would look transparent.

The Blood Pressure Side Effect Nobody Warned Me About

Two years ago, my PCP sent me to a cardiologist, concerned with my high blood pressure. It had been slightly elevated since 2017, but now was concerning, especially with my family history. I was told to begin more regular and longer spans of cardio activity, watch my sodium intake, work on stress reduction, check my blood pressure daily, and come back in six months. In six months, I had an echocardiogram, an EKG, found out I lost a few pounds and dropped my blood pressure from the “oh shit” territory to “don't change anything, but you're not going to explode tomorrow” territory.

After two months on oral minoxidil, I had the most normal blood pressure since turning 40. And yesterday, as a 5'3″ 200 pound 51-year-old, after five months on oral minoxidil, at my doctor's appointment I had a BP of 114/74. I know right?

See, minoxidil used to be prescribed for high blood pressure, and folks saw the side effect was hair growth. Now in 2026, minoxidil is prescribed for hair growth with the side effect of a lowered blood pressure.

Minoxidil belongs to the general class of medicines called antihypertensives. It works by relaxing blood vessels so that blood passes through them more easily. This helps to lower blood pressure.

I am still lifting weights and doing longer cardio workouts on my Hydrow rower. I am still watching my sodium intake, focusing on sleep and stress reduction, quality foods, and staying hydrated. But this side effect of oral minoxidil has been a positive one for my overall health and longevity.

Is Oral Minoxidil Right for You?

I am not an expert; minoxidil is a drug and should only be taken with medical approval and supervision. Even though I get my prescription through Alloy, my PCP is aware of it, knows my current dosage, and keeps it in my record to ensure it's considered with other medications and any health issues.

My experience may not be your experience. But I know a lot of you too have dealt with hairloss and thinning hair in perimenopause or just in midlife. It's hard to know what to believe in a time of influencers, and as an over-50 content creator, I have been offered paid opportunities and gifting from a LOT of brands that carry products for hair loss, hair thinning, hair breakage, etc.

I know Alloy does a lot of paid partnerships with content creators; I myself have been offered them for other products in its collection. But as an actual customer with an actual issue that is actually being helped by oral minoxidil that I by chance purchase through Alloy, I felt my review may be helpful.

If you too have tried oral minoxidil for hair loss, do share your experience, positive and negative, in the comments. It can really help another reader. Comments are as anonymous as you wish; you can enter anything for a name and even a fake email address. But all of us, especially women in midlife who are being sold all kinds of snake oil now that perimenopause is a hot topic, deserve some honesty and transparency so we can be informed consumers and take care of ourselves well.

FAQ: Oral Minoxidil for Hair Loss

IMO, These are the Best Quality Beach Towels

With life changes, I am spending less, buying less, and usually only buying when something needs replacing. But when I am replacing, I am buying quality. I am good with beach towels, but when a good friend got a beach house and needed to create a supply for her guests, I got to researching and was highly disappointed by review sites I used to trust. I saw recommendations for brands I had tried and KNEW weren't worth the money and recommendations for fly-by-night Amazon brands with reviews clearly created by bots or even rating a completely different product than the towel being sold.

I'm here to be legit with you. Sure, I may make a commission from some of the links in the reviews below, but others I don't because the goal is earning your trust and preventing you from experiencing retail regret. All of these towels I have personally experienced, either by buying myself or using a friend's. I am also focusing on experience from purchases PostPan as a lot of reliable brands have reduced quality in recent years.

If you disagree, or you feel I missed a winner, please share in the comments below so this can be a reliable and regularly updated resource.

True Luxury: Boll & Branch The Beach Towel

We know by now that I am a MAJOR Boll & Branch fan. Such high quality, incredibly comfortable, and the longevity of Boll & Branch, even with hard wear and care, make the cost per use cheaper than what I've bought at big box retailers. Industrial dryers, mildewing in a tote bag in the trunk for a week, drying off the dog, and then being stripped and still looking new… the Boll & Branch beach towels are ridiculously luxurious and a stellar investment.

These are 40″ x 70″ in size, made from 100% GOTS-certified organic long-staple Turkish cotton with a velvety top and classic loop terry bottom. They are plush and soft, but quite absorbent, and the terry bottom sheds sand quite well. The towels are made in a Fair Trade facility, so you can feel confident that the towels are made with ethics and care. My only negative is the lack of color options. While you know I am a Boll & Branch fan, I'd love some bright colors and patterns to have fun in the sun. But that's just me, the blues are quite elegant and classic!

Use code WARDROBEOXYGEN for 15% off your order at Boll & Branch!

Family Durability: Lands' End Beach Towels

Lands' End used to be my favorite place for beach towels, and I own some that are 20 years old and still look and feel great. However, in recent years, they have not been as large or thick. That being said, they are still of good quality for a really nice price (most are under $40 and regularly on sale for closer to $20), and I appreciate the option to get them embroidered with a monogram, name, or phrase. I have found that the lighter-weight version is better for the beach, and it keeps its color beautifully even when washed in hot water.

At 40″ x 78″ and 100% cotton, these towels will cover most of the pool lounge chair and have enough length to be clipped to the back of the chair to stay in place while still covering your calves. At 450 grams per square meter (GSM), they are still thick enough to keep you warm and cozy or absorb plenty of saltwater. The edges are heavily folded over and hemmed for nice weight on a breezy beach, and they won't fray even after years of hard use.

I've found these towels make for a great housewarming gift for those who get a new beach house or boat, and the monogramming prevents your towels from going home with the wrong teenager at the end of a pool party. Each year, Lands' End offers different colors and prints, so you can often create a rainbow of towels over time, or find a nice rugby stripe or velour print that matches your beach chairs or boat tote.

Stay in Place on the Chaise: Frontgate Cabana Stripe Chaise Cover

When I visited my friend's house and saw she had two of these Frontgate Cabana chaise covers for her backyard lounge chairs, I was impressed. And I have considered buying one to take with me to our neighborhood pool that has those chaises with the rubbery straps that stick to legs and backs.

With a weight and quality of a nice towel (450 GSM Turkish cotton), the Frontgate chaise cover has a deep pocket to slide over the top of the chaise and a smaller one to catch on the foot. But that's not all… it has a side pouch pocket that can hold your phone, your sunscreen, your lip balm, and your sunglasses. And with piped binding, this towel cover is durable enough that you can throw it in the washer and dryer after each use.

These towel chaise covers are also a great way to give new life to old lounge chairs on your property. Like car seat covers, they give patio furniture a “glow-up” and can be easily changed out or replaced. Oh, and you know I love that it can also be monogrammed!

Big, Beautiful, Quick-Dry, and Sustainable: Nomadix Original Towel

Quick-dry towels are great for beach days when you don't want to carry home half the ocean and sand on the beach, for travel when you want to pack light, for morning laps at the indoor pool, and sweaty yoga sessions. However, they often feel like rubber, are too small to cover a beach chair or wrap around your body as you walk from the sauna or swimming pool to the locker room. They're also often boring or ugly.

At 30″ x 72.5″ in size, the Nomadix Original Towel is large enough to function as a traditional beach towel, but has the quick-dry sand-brush-off super-absorbent capabilities of its smaller sister towels. A corner loop makes it easy to hang up in an outdoor shower or RV. Since this towel dries quickly, it won't get funky-smelling and will be ready the next day to pack in your luggage and head to your next destination.

Oh, did I mention how utterly beautiful these towels are? Dozens of prints, from classic cabana stripes to representations of national parks. Made from 0% post-consumer recycled polyester, Nomadix towels resist sand, pet hair, and most anything else while absorbing up to 4X their weight in water. Nomadix is a member of the Outdoor Industry Association (OIA) and has adopted its Fair Labor Code of Conduct. I've seen Nomadix on sites like Amazon, but I recommend shopping directly from the brand's site to ensure authenticity.

Use code WARDROBEOXYGEN for 15% off orders $35+ of non-sale items at Nomadix!

Classic Favorite for a Reason: Peshtemals

My sister introduced me to the awesomeness that is a peshtemal, also known as a Turkish towel. Lightweight, larger than a traditional towel, quick-drying, and sand-resistant, she takes one on every trip, whether or not she's going to visit a pool, spa, or beach. She often uses them in place of tiny hotel bath towels, and in a pinch, can be a shawl, a sheet, a floor mat, and more.

My sister has peshtemals from two different sources: ArastaCrafts on Etsy and the “Pure Series” towel from Pestemal.

• The towels from ArastaCrafts are 40″ x 70″, which is an average to large size for Turkish towels. At 300 grams, they are the average weight for a Turkish towel. They start at $8.20 and offer free shipping on orders $35+
• Pestemal “Pure Series” towels are 39″ x 71″, and my sister says they feel thicker (though also 300 grams) and her personal favorite for beach, pool, and bath. They are $5.95 each.

The problem is that Pestemal is a wholesaler, and you must place an order of at least 50 towels, with a minimum of five per design, to be eligible to place an order. If you're not looking to buy 50 towels, use these dimensions and weights as your guide, focusing more on the actual product itself rather than the name on the label (which may just be hiding a Pestemal label). I did some work for you to find some of the most oversized Peshtemals, at least of this weight:

• On Etsy, I searched Peshtemal towel 39″ x 71″ and found TurkishTowelArt, which has towels of that size and 300g in weight. They start at $8.40 each, and orders of $35+ have free shipping.
• WetCat, a brand found on Amazon, also has its own website. Their Turkish Beach Towel is 38″ x 71″ and 300g of Non‑GMO Turkish Cotton for $34.00 with free shipping and 10% off if you buy two or more. I own one of these and IMO it's nicer than another I got on Amazon that is the same size and price.
• Turkish Linen & Towels has 85″ x 63″ 530g “Premium Classic” towels, 70″ x 40″ 340g “Chevron Cascade” towels, and 74″ x 39″ 453g “Diamond” towels, if you are looking for thick and large.

Turkish towels are famous for their flat weave; this towel will feel more like a piece of fabric than something cushy or spongy. But don't let that fool you; the flat weave of Turkish cotton is highly absorbent, softens with each wash, and resists mildew and funky smells. Once you try them, you, like my sister, may become a convert.

Yesterday I went to see The Odyssey at the theater with my husband. We came back, had a lovely dinner… and I forgot to finish weekend reads. Especially in summer, life happens. I hope your life happens this weekend.

And yes, I liked The Odyssey, and I am glad I saw it in a theater. I think it benefits from a big screen.

Weekend Reads

The US just approved a giant space mirror to test ‘sunlight on demand.' Low Earth orbit is getting weird. (PhysOrg)

The Woman in the Photo Wanted to Be Alone. Instead, She Went Viral. (NotUs)

It has pockets!

Barns, Go-Karts and Strip Malls: The Wild West of Private Schools That Collect Taxpayer Dollars. (ProPublica)

I saw this dress at the mall and that back tie will totally hide a strapless bra. This hack will also help.

Bath & Body Works collabs with Hilary Duff to introduce Fruit Fusion. (Retail Dive)

The princesses of China. (Articles of Interest on Substack)

I think you GenX folks know what stare I'm giving these cute sneakers.

‘I trust my own body’: The rise of the unquantified self. (Dazed)

Airbnb Promised a Home Away from Home. Now It’s a House of Horrors. (The Walrus)

If you follow my Instagram Stories and saw what I wore Thursday night to the theater, it was this dress with this underneath. The dress I got UK18/US14 and it fits me like it's tailor made, even over the boobs.

What Body Liberation As We Age Is Really For. (Unapologetic Aging on Substack)

Everytime I wear these earrings, a stranger stops to compliment me.

Does Recycling Even Work? (The Preamble on Substack)

Music influencers are getting paid to promote songs — and they're not telling you. (NPR)

My Right to Die. (advantages of age on Substack)

The color, the weight, the breezy style… just ordered this to survive the summer with style. ALISON15 gets you 15% off.

Style Inspo & Sale Alert

Midi, an online e-health site specifically for women in midlife, is known for offering perimenopause medications (hello estrogen in stock) plus other treatments for hairloss, sexual wellness, and more. Midi also offers its own line of supplements and it is currently having a bundle sale. 25% off subscriptions, or 15% off one-time purchases. Midi offered me a bundle, and I chose the Brain Fog option (my peri sisters, you know why). I liked how the creatine was not only gummies (easier for busy mornings and travel), but includes fennel seed which counteracts the bloat that many experience with creatine. I haven't tried the others yet because I need to factor in the supplements I'm already taking and adjust; but if you're not taking supplements right now this is a good combo with good ingredients.

Lo&Sons has a flash sale this weekend only with 50% off the Catalina collection.

ELEMIS is offering a FREE 3-piece gift (worth $121) with any full-size purchase using code CLEANSE. Featuring a full-size Dynamic Resurfacing Facial Pads, this complete cleanse ritual is the perfect way to elevate any skincare routine.

See/Hear/Read

Thursday night, my friend Gretchen invited me to see CrazySexyCool – The TLC Musical at Arena Stage. OMGOMGOMGOMG folks, if you're an elder millennial or GenX you have to see it! The dancing, the costumes, the telling of the story we all knew but only from the tabloids POV, and the SINGING! Seriously, this was phenomenal. CrazySexyCool is at the Arena Stage through August 9th; grab friends, maybe dress up in your favorite 90s gear (saw lots of folks doing just that), and grab a bite before or a drink after at The Wharf right across the street.

Not planned, but perfectly complementary, this week I finished the audiobook of Arsenio Hall's memoir, Arsenio. If you're my age, you know, and likely have fond memories of Hall. From his role in Coming to America to his groundbreaking late-night TV show,

Arsenio Hall is an icon of the 20th century. And unlike many other icons who have disappointed us with showing their true colors, Hall continues to be well-loved and respected by his peers and those who have worked for him.

And if you didn't know much about Arsenio Hall beyond his name, you can still enjoy this memoir. Hall got his big break thanks to Nancy Wilson. He met Johnny Gill and Jay Leno early on and stayed good friends. Artists like Snoop Dogg, Ice-T, MC Hammer, and Tupac became household names thanks to Hall.

And who else in the 90s was giving a stage to Bill Clinton, Sammy Davis Jr., Louis Farrakhan, Maya Angelou, Madonna, Prince… he gave two shows to Magic Johnson to share how he had HIV, a show dedicated to the LA riots…