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Ask Allie: Dressing a Top-Heavy Figure

noreply@blogger.com (Alison (Wardrobe Oxygen)) — Thu, 23 May 2013 18:00:00 +0000

I am a 5'3" 165lb 40DDD woman who has no hips or butt but a mommy/muffin top. While I have a few additional pounds I am not plus size. I look horrible in button down blouses but find that a fitted top shows the bulge and loose tops makes me look pregnant because of the bust. HELP!!!

I feel your pain. It seems that in the apparel world, curvy means plus size, or else you have hips/thighs/a rear. For voluptuous women who are not a true hourglass, it can be extremely frustrating. Earlier in your letter you also mentioned that your life needs more of a jeans wardrobe, but you’re not afraid of trends, color, heels, or the occasional skirt.

First thing, check out surplice and wrap tops. Such tops come in pretty much every fabric, from silk to cotton to jersey and they are awesome for a busty woman. While some styles may feel too low-cut, others will flatter (and some can be modified with a strategically placed safety pin or a camisole). These will elongate the neck, flatter the bust, and show that you have a figure and are not pregnant. The gathering is also great for disguising a muffin top. As you can see from my collage above, such tops can be dressed down or up with ease. If you do wear such a top with a skirt, one with a bit of fullness (a-line, swing, pleated) would be a good choice to balance your bottom half. Another great choice is a wrap style with a soft peplum (like the purple one above). I have this top from MICHAEL Michael Kors and love it because it flatters my bust, hides my tummy, and balances my figure without needing a lot of volume on the bottom. I’ve worn this top with white jeans and sandals, boyfriend jeans and booties, and silk harem pants with heels.

Keep this idea in mind when shopping for most anything. Wrap dresses are available year-round at every pricepoint. A simple jersey sleeveless wrap dress can be thrown on with sandals for running errands, a wrap maxi is a great summer staple even with flip flops.

To balance the body, trick the eye with choice of color. Have the color or white on the bottom which will draw the eye there and make that part look a bit bigger, and the dark color on top will minimize the bust and give an illusion of balance. This is a time where a contrast shoe can be good because it also tricks the eye into seeing more of an hourglass. A black top, white skinny jeans, and black or a bold color of shoe is a great combination for a figure like yours.

Your figure is made for belts, which give the illusion of an hourglass figure. A skinny belt in a contrast color, or a wide elastic belt will cinch the body (and will also gather the fabric to help disguise a muffin top).

Finally, get bra fitted at LEAST once a year. We busty women are more likely to have our size change on a regular basis, thanks to the occasional weight loss/gain and gravity. No offense to Lane Bryant and Victoria’s Secret, but I highly recommend visiting a lingerie boutique where staff is professionally trained to deal with a variety of sizes, body needs, as well as a variety of brands. Not every brand will fit and flatter every woman, while one may swear by Wacoal, another may have loyal allegiance to Bali. A bra boutique or high-end department store’s lingerie department will have the variety and expertise to help you find the perfect bra for your figure and wardrobe.

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If I could Start Over: #Project333 Inspiration Update

noreply@blogger.com (Alison (Wardrobe Oxygen)) — Thu, 23 May 2013 14:00:00 +0000

With my first Project 333 post it got me thinking about what I should have in my closet versus what is currently in there. I love using Polyvore to feel out an idea or capsule wardrobe – seeing the pieces together sans models or distracting backgrounds helps me imagine mixing and matching and seeing them on my body instead of another’s. After making the set of my current wardrobe choices if I did do Project 333, I made this set of what would be better choices:

You can see it’s not drastically different. Still have the white jeans, the black pants, the boyfriend jeans, the silky slouchy tee and of course an Old Navy Vintage v-neck tee. But I realized I needed what I had, but slightly different. Let’s take the striped top for example. I have a TON of striped shirts, but none are quite right for the summer. I have short sleeved, but it’s a boatneck, or it’s a scoop but the stripes are too small, or it’s sleeveless, or has too long of sleeves for the warmer months. Or black skirts – I have one in taffeta, or a pencil that’s a bit too tight and short for versatility. My black ponte dress is cute, but a bit too low-cut to work at the office without a scarf or jacket.

I saw the need for more versatile tops. I like having a drapey silky sexy top to wear with white jeans for a Date Night or concert, but my current one can't be worn really anywhere but there. Something like the gray silk top in the collage above could be worn to work tempered with black pants and a scarf, or under a blazer. I also realized how many times I wish I had a long gold statement pendant - something unique but no color so it can dress up or down and be a classic. I recommend them constantly but I don't currently own flat gold sandals and need to replace them.

As I mentioned in my Summer SAHM wardrobe post I find printed dresses to be better for summer than solids, and I don’t have many that are prints right now because I haven’t found many I like. I realize the reason may because I am shopping by pricepoint more than actual style. The older I get the more I am realizing that sometimes you need to spend more on an item to get what you actually want, and in the long run you spend less because you stop buying “almost not quites”.

I just don’t want to shop like I used to. I could spend an hour scrolling through online shops for entertainment, for boredom. I’d look for something that would fit and flatter, but also look cool on the blog. Brighter colors, unexpected silhouettes, a statement accessory. While I love you folks, it’s pretty silly to shop for the blog and not for life.

So this potential wardrobe is very very similar to the last one, but a bit harder working, versatile, and polished. It’s inspiring me for this season to be more thoughtful with my shopping, be it quality, quantity, where it was made. Knowing I’m buying less means it’s easier to stomach a higher pricetag.

Next step is gutting my closet. Last week I went into the back of my closet to get my black matte jersey maxi dress to wear to a wedding and I learned two things: the matte jersey maxi dress looks dreadful on me now (had it altered to fit the year Emerson was born and well, the breasts and shoulders are very different now), and I forgot about a black drapey handkerchief hem dress I got on clearance at Ann Taylor last fall. While I was thrilled to find the dress (and wore it instead to the wedding and loved how it looked), I was horrified to have items in my closet I didn’t know about. Come on Alison, you know better and that’s what you constantly preach! So a closet gutting is in order, knowing there will be huge holes and lots of empty space and possibly a panic attack about how few pieces I have for summer. But I think with closets less is more, fewer pieces means less drama in the mornings and fewer opportunities to make things work or buy things I don’t need to make the “almost not quites” work.

As for the Polyvore set, it has transformed my shopping list and is a visual reminder of how my wardrobe SHOULD and CAN look. I look forward to seeing how this exercise progresses...

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The Best Part of Waking Up: Folgers Jingle Contest

noreply@blogger.com (Alison (Wardrobe Oxygen)) — Wed, 22 May 2013 14:00:00 +0000

There are two thing I must have to get the day started – music, and coffee.

As soon as my alarm goes off, my music goes on. Sometimes it’s FM radio, more often than not it’s Spotify where I love learning about new artists and making playlists of my faves. My daily outfits are often influenced by the music I listen to – be it poppy, romantic, slow, fast, emotional or inspirational. I start my outfit posts for the blog at home before I head to the office, drinking a steaming cup of coffee (cream, half a Splenda please) and listening to my tunes. I often take the rest (or more) of my coffee with me on my commute, listening to my iTunes through my car speakers.

When I think of both coffee and music I think of my morning routine, but I also can’t help but think of Folgers, who has one of the most iconic jingles in history. I think we all know that the best part of waking up is Folgers in your cup!

Composed by Leslie Pearl, that original and iconic Folgers Jingle debuted in 1984; since then the Jingle has since been transformed into country, gospel, jazz, R & B, folk, Celtic, and a cappella versions. They even have versions from Rascal Flatts and Aaron Neville on the Folgers Jingle site. Folgers has a fabulous competition going on where emerging artists can enter with their version of the famous Jingle. Entries were judged on factors such as creativity/originality, musical performance, and adherence to the creative assignment.

The Folgers Jingle Contest has narrowed down to just ten finalists, and the talent is remarkable. I encourage you to check out these amazing artists and vote for the best. What a fantastic opportunity for one who is talented and passionate, your vote could change a musician’s future. Not only can your vote change the artist’s life, but also yours. With each vote you can win awesome prizes like free Folgers Coffee, iTunes® gift cards, signed CDs from Jingle Contest spokesperson Gavin DeGraw, and even a $10,000 grand prize!

Be sure to vote for the best Top 10 Finalist in Folgers' Jingle Contest! Meet the Top 10! Take a look at Folgers® Jingle Contest Finalists, and listen to the tracks that earned them a spot in The Top 10. Cast your vote once every day through June 19th. Vote now! Before you vote, follow the Road to the Jingle on Facebook to see how they traveled the U.S. to track down the Top 10 contestants!

Remember, you can vote once a day through June 19th!

Click here for official rules.

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A Break from Regular Programming...

noreply@blogger.com (Alison (Wardrobe Oxygen)) — Tue, 21 May 2013 16:30:00 +0000

I’m not one to write about every global tragedy, but the tragedy in Moore, Oklahoma has left me utterly speechless and horrified. I just can’t write about what to wear when on a day like today, so instead I’d like to share some information for those of you who feel as helpless and upset as I:

American Red Cross - Text REDCROSS to 90999 to donate $10 to American Red Cross Disaster Relief, donate online, or donate by phone at 1-800-RED CROSS.

Red Cross Safe & Well - Visit here if you’re searching for a missing relative; also register on the site if you live in the disaster region so loved ones know your status.

Operation USA - Donate online, by phone (1-800-678-7255), or by check (address on their site). You can also donate $10 by texting AID to 50555. Operation USA is also accepting corporate donations of bulk quantities of disaster-appropriate supplies.

Feed the Children – Feed the Children is accepting donations online or by phone (1-888-873-7062) to support the Oklahoma tornado relief efforts. Feed the Children will also be accepting in person donations today, Tuesday, May 21, until 4:30pm at the McCormick Distribution Center (29 N. McCormick). Items accepted are diapers, canned goods, non-perishable food and snack items, water and sports drinks.

Please readers in that area, do let me know you are okay. I know I have many readers in Oklahoma but not sure the exact whereabouts. I was glad to hear that my sorority sister who lives in the area is safe, but I have been sick with worry about all of you who I can’t contact, and I won’t see a Facebook status. My heart goes out to the people of Moore, and those affected by yesterday’s tragedy.

If you know of other charities that are supporting those in Moore, please leave the information in the comments. It doesn't matter where the help comes from, as long as the help comes.

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Ask Allie: Vegas Bound - What to Wear

noreply@blogger.com (Alison (Wardrobe Oxygen)) — Mon, 20 May 2013 17:00:00 +0000

I’m heading to Las Vegas for my friend’s 30th birthday and I have NO IDEA WHAT TO PACK! I live in a small town where a night out is the local bar or Ruby Tuesday’s and I usually just wear what I was wearing all day. I’m not a skinny gal and am pretty freaked out by all I see online where it’s skinny girls in bikinis and little dresses and heels. Any advice for a fellow curvy married gal who wants to have fun but not look insane? THANK YOU!

There will be seriously every style and look imaginable in Vegas, so don’t feel that EVERYONE is dressing a certain way. No need to go out and buy an entire sequined-covered wardrobe for this trip.

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Nightclub Attire
Most nightclubs have dress codes, so it’s better to dress up than down for the evening. That means leave your shorts, flip flops, and logoed tee shirts in the hotel room. Think of it as a festive version of Business Casual. You can’t go wrong with an LBD, it's something you can re-wear, and you can amp it up for Vegas with more dramatic accessories and makeup. Color is great too – a fun cocktail dress with a bit of sex appeal and some fabulous shoes that still let you dance all night is a smart choice.

Evening Attire (Casinos, Shows, Nice Restaurants)
Again, leave the shorts, flip flops, sneakers, and tees at home. A sundress, a cute skirt or pants with a blouse, or even the LBD you plan on wearing to the club is a smart choice. Again, a concept of Festive Business Casual is a good rule of thumb and it’s better to err on the side of overdressed than underdressed.

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Sightseeing Attire
During the day, you will be going from frigid air conditioned casinos to the sweltering hot temps outside on the Strip. A simple sundress or shorts are perfect; be sure to wear comfortable sandals or shoes because you will be doing a LOT of walking. To protect against the sun, wear a hat, sunglasses, and sunscreen, and reapply that sunscreen often. A crossbody not only lets your hands be free, but also is better at preventing pickpockets. Be sure to tuck a cardigan in your bag to be comfortable indoors.

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Pool Attire
It may seem intimidating to imagine a poolside full of slim women in string bikinis, but do know there are people of all shapes, sizes, and styles in Vegas. Take a suit (or two!) that flatters your figure and makes you feel confident. I usually go with the LBD of swimsuits – something black that supports the breasts, whittles the waist, and makes me feel svelte and sexy. As with the LBD at the danceclub, if you have a simple dress then have fun with accessories – a big floppy hat, fabulous sunglasses, a festive coverup or caftan and metallic sandals.

Additional Tips:

In Vegas you can carry off things you may not be comfortable rocking at home. Caftans at poolsize, sequined mini skirts, giant floppy sunhats. It’s a good time to wear all those items you own but fear wearing in town!
It’s hot outside. Drink lots of water, especially if you’re drinking alcohol. Keep reapplying that sunscreen, and give yourself some breaks.
You’re going to walk more than you think. Get some comfortable sandals for the daytime (and that doesn’t mean cheapy flip flops) and consider getting a pair of foldable flats to tuck in your bag for your nights of clubbing.
Enjoy yourself, and let others enjoy themselves. This is not the time to be stressing out about your appearance. The goal of the trip is to HAVE FUN! Enjoy the experience with your girl friends, a great smile and laugh is the best accessory you can wear. One is more conspicuous when they are feeling awkward and trying to hide their figure than when they are just enjoying the moment. Your participation and experience is far more important than what you pack in your suitcase. Have a blast!

Have you been to Las Vegas? What are you suggestions for what to wear?

Fabulous selection of cocktail dresses at www.missesdressy.com/dresses/cocktail-dresses

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How to Do a Concert with a Bum Leg: Father John Misty at the 9:30 Club

noreply@blogger.com (Alison (Wardrobe Oxygen)) — Mon, 20 May 2013 14:00:00 +0000

Father John Misty and my bum leg.

Last photo courtesy The Washington Post.

See train arriving on Metro platform. Know going to have to switch at Gallery Place so decide to jog up two cars to be closer to the escalator.

Take one step, feel a POP in left calf and sudden searing pain.

Hobble onto train, fighting back tears, freaking out the people around you. Man offers seat, woman offers seat, another woman offers the pole to grab on for dear life, another woman rubs my back telling saying will be okay. Tear up even more over the kindness of strangers at rush hour no less.

Hobble to the Green Line. Sort of stuck in the middle of the city so might as well meet friends and then take an Uber home. Feel helpless and tired and scared and yes, am in pain. More kindness of strangers knocks me for a loop and makes me love DC even more.

Hobble out of the U Street Metro station and collapse in the grass next to the Navy Memorial, frantically Googling what in the world I did to my leg and how to treat it. Ugh, torn or pulled calf muscle. Clean up my tear-streaked face.

Husband arrives.

Sister drives by and picks us up.

Decide instead of our original dinner destination to hit Satellite Room because there’s no stairs and it's right next to the club. Famished and sister has ibuprofen in the trunk of her car so we figure might as well eat a bit before cab home.

See friend at Satellite Room who has VIP pass she can’t use. Talks to the 9:30 Club staff who reserve a stool for me in the VIP balcony. Hug friend and tear up over the awesome gesture.

Yet again attempt to clean up tear-stained face but instead decide to take a tip from the FJM handbook and just leave on my sunglasses.

Take ibuprofen, bartender wraps ice in a towel and put it on calf. Eat some food (hello tater tots!) and a Jack and Ginger (or two) which makes everything feel far better.

Hobble/hop up the stairs at 9:30 and arrive to a stool in VIP with name on it. Tear up again from the kind gesture and also the exhaustion and pain of getting to said stool.

Don't even try to clean up face, it's dark and my sister got me a cocktail.

See a phenomenal concert. My sister also got VIP so we had a great time together; Karl went down into the throng but I could see him from my vantage point. It was clear he too had an amazing time.

Let the crowd disperse then my sister helped me down the stairs. Met Karl outside, and Debbie had scored a sweet parking space right in front of the club. Headed home, sharing our stories from the evening.

Video from the show at The 9:30 Club performance, not too far from my vantage point.

Drama aside, Father John Misty puts on an amazing show. His voice is just as good as on the album, but he’s more sarcastic and snarky and ridiculous in person. His hips gyrated, he made jokes, he was everything I hoped for in the show. He did a cover of Happiness is a Warm Gun and a song off his upcoming album (videos not from 9:30 show). I’m even greater of a fan after the show and am so glad things worked out for me to actually attend. While Father John Misty is doing the festival circuit, he won’t be at any of the fests I plan on attending; it’s exciting that I was able to see him when I did!

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True Fashionista: Laura

noreply@blogger.com (Alison (Wardrobe Oxygen)) — Fri, 17 May 2013 16:00:00 +0000

“Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.”

― Leonardo da Vinci

Simple isn’t easy. It’s easy to pile on the trends and hide behind flashy baubles and of-the-moment silhouettes. It takes skill to make simple pieces and ensembles look chic, polished, and covetable. I’ll admit, this is something I am working on, and I am always thrilled to find a blogger who masters simple style. When I found the blog Laura Wears I was hooked, and I was thrilled when Laura was willing to be part of my True Fashionista series.

Laura makes simple chic style look effortless. She wears the same pieces over and over without it being boring or wackadoodle (far too many blog posts out there claiming anyone can make a dress into a jumper or skirt or a shirt into a skirt). She dresses for her real life – you’ll see her in outerwear, career attire, formalwear, and everything in between.

I love that Laura’s wardrobe is a mix of high and low. Thrifted gems, pieces bought on travel, popular retailers like J. Crew and Banana Republic, as well as factory store scores. Laura will also let you know the age of a piece, be it something she bought a couple years ago or something she bought back in high school. It’s inspiring to see someone truly have a working wardrobe of staples that transcend the years and the trends.

For those who mention that my outfits aren’t relevant to you because you live in a place with a colder climate (or who want to see what style bloggers wear in the snow), I encourage you to check out Laura Wears, for Laura lives in Ottawa, Canada and often poses in parkas and boots with a snowy background.

Laura shows with her blog that you don’t need an overflowing wardrobe or every hot trend to look stylish and sophisticated. Simple can be elegant and quite chic. She reminds me that often less is more, be it choosing just one accessory or focusing more on fit than trend. I am glad she was willing to be part of my True Fashionista series; I asked her to answer the same five questions I ask of each participant:

How would you describe your personal style?
I would say my style is mostly preppy and classic. On occasion, I try to incorporate other trends, namely bohemian pieces. Each season I try to incorporate a few trendier pieces into my wardrobe (ie. I finally made myself a peplum top...).

Where did you get your passion for fashion?
From a young age, I always loved seeing people (men and women!) with beautifully put-together outfits. This probably had a huge impact on my love of fashion. Also, since I am not overly artistic in my everyday life, putting together and photographing my outfits quickly became an outlet for creative expression.

Where do you find sartorial inspiration?
Everywhere! Blogs, magazines, people on the street, Pinterest, etc. As crazy as it may sound, I also get a lot of inspiration from menswear blogs. I absolutely love the simplicity of men's looks. The no-muss-no-fuss style really appeals to me

What is the difference between fashion and style?
Style is timeless. Fashion changes each season.

Any advice for a woman who is starting to find her personal style?

Experiment, experiment, experiment!
Seek out some help from the sales associates/personal stylists at your favorite stores. They normally have a wealth of knowledge and can help you pick out great pieces.
Consider photographing outfits here and there... Taking photos for my blog has really helped me interpret what works for my body and what doesn't (the mirror sometime lies!). On occasion, I'll leave the house with an outfit I love, but when I see the photos of it, I have a what-was-I-thinking moment.

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Throwback Thursday: Prom Edition

noreply@blogger.com (Alison (Wardrobe Oxygen)) — Thu, 16 May 2013 16:00:00 +0000

When I was a sophomore in high school, a senior asked me to go to Prom with him. I went to a relatively small high school for the area (less than 1,000 students) and there wasn’t a Junior Prom, so going to Prom as an underclassman was a pretty exciting thing. It was also exciting to go with this guy, I had been crushing on him all year long.

I went all the way to Potomac Mills to look for a prom dress, and found THE ONE at Nordstrom Rack. It was ruched white satin, off the shoulder, and I felt like Marilyn Monroe in it. Shoes were easy – I bought a pair of white satin dyeable pumps from Payless Shoe Source, high enough heel so I could comfortably dance with my tall date. At the time, my head was shaved from ears down and I was growing out a blue-black dye job, so I wore it wavy like a bob, using a rhinestone clip to hold back one side. I remember buying some really sparkly dangly rhinestone earrings and a rhinestone bracelet from Afterthoughts.

When my senior year came around, I felt a bit too cool for school, and for proms. Not only that, but I had some high school drama earlier in the year where I didn’t have that many girl friends left and had no desire to spend a lot of money for an evening with frenemies. My boyfriend also felt he was too cool for school; he went to a different high school and had already decided he would NOT go to his prom. However, I read far too many teen romances and heard too many adults tell me I would regret it if I didn’t go, so I asked my boyfriend if he would be willing. He was a great guy and agreed to it.

I bought my first prom dress at Merry Go Round in Laurel Mall. It was a black velvet column dress with a pearl beaded halter collar. Tres chic, and I can recall it being $125 which was an insane price. I vaguely remember either putting it on layaway or having them hold it until I got my next paycheck from my job at the florist. Then a month later, my friend who worked at Merry Go Round told me that our classmate bought the SAME DRESS for prom. This classmate and I did not get along, so I of course could NOT wear the dress, and the dress was not returnable. I went to TJ Maxx and found a short black sheath with a lace overlay. High neck, but the armholes cut out in a cool modern way. I decided I would channel Audrey Hepburn, with a French twist, black stockings, black pumps, maybe even opera-length gloves and a tiara. The dress was on clearance, I think less than $20.

A week before prom, I chickened out on wearing the super short, super tight lace dress. I went into a total panic, and my mom the superhero MADE MY PROM DRESS. We picked a cornflower blue moiré and I was imagining Madonna in the Material Girl video (had yet to see Gentlemen Prefer Blondes). With very little time, there wasn’t some crazy bow off the back, no time to search for a giant sparkly necklace, and my mom’s white opera gloves did not fit over my arms (always had big arms), so we took the rhinestone detail off the dress I wore to Prom in sophomore year and put it on the front of this dress for some shine. I loved the shade, it was not a trendy color and I believed I’d be the only person at Prom in blue. Luckily Payless could dye a pair of 4" heels (very tall boyfriend) and clutch purse on short notice in the same cornflower shade.

I had an appointment to get my hair done, still wanted a French twist. Still had a lot of my head shaved (by this time the sides had grown out but the back was still shorn). The woman at the salon had no idea how to make my hair look like anything, so she put it in a ponytail on the top of my head and hard curled it and pinned the curls like some sort of updo. It was dreadful, and so sprayed and gelled I didn’t dare go home and change it. I tried very hard not to cry and mess up my face. My mom helped, trying to make it look a bit better.

Prom was as terrible as I thought it would be. While I did have a whole table of friends to hang out with, there were people there who didn’t like me. And there was one other girl in blue, and of course it was a girl who despised me, the one I got in all that drama with (funny enough, she is one of the few people from high school I am friends with today). I remember dancing with my boyfriend, looking up at the mirrored ceiling and seeing another girl mouth, “bitch” to me and give me the finger. We got our pictures taken, and when my friend said she was ready to go less than two hours after we arrived, we were thrilled.

We went back to my boyfriend’s house where he spent an hour taking bobby pins out of my hair. We watched Beavis and Butthead and made out all night. I got back the pro photos, and saw my hair had fallen and the slit of the dress got messed up and the dress folded inside itself making me look like even more of a hot mess. I never gave out any of the photos, though my parents had one of the 5x7s on top of the family piano.

It all worked out though… that boyfriend ended up being my husband 11 years later!

And those two unworn prom dresses? I ended up wearing both of them (the lace one more than once) to sorority and fraternity formals in college!

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Lifesaving Lilac

noreply@blogger.com (Alison (Wardrobe Oxygen)) — Wed, 15 May 2013 18:00:00 +0000

Dress: "Sabrina" Sheath c/o Dobbin Clothing | Shoes: Joan & David (similar) | Jacket: ASOS | Watch: c/o WatchCo | Large Bracelet: J. Crew (similar)

You all know I adore my Dobbin Clothing dress; I was excited to see their new Spring collection - fun new colors and silhouettes. Jessica at Dobbin Clothing was kind enough to send me the Sabrina Sheath in this perfectly springy shade of purple. It was just the ticket - I had a majorly stressful day at work yesterday and a long evening at a blog event (if you follow me on Facebook or Instagram you know what it was, the rest of you a post will be coming soon!). So to be able to have one-piece dressing this morning was so very needed, and it's nice to have it so easy yet look quite professional and be comfortable in high quality ponte knit. I thought it was going to be chilly and added the jacket, but it's actually colder in the office than outdoors!

This week is a bit of a killer for me at work, and this weekend is going to be busy. This past weekend I had some serious writing mojo and have a couple posts in the queue for the rest of this week and next. I'm trying to blog less often, but work smart not hard on what I do write. While I seem to be putting out just as much content, it's not stressing me out as much and feels more authentic... more old school Allie. The wardrobe change, the blog change, the season change... it's a lot of change but it all feels very good!

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Shopping with Intention and Changing Shopping Habits with #Project333

noreply@blogger.com (Alison (Wardrobe Oxygen)) — Tue, 14 May 2013 16:00:00 +0000

Reader (and friend after all these years) Linda made me aware of the blog, Project 333. Project 333 is a minimalist fashion challenge that invites you to dress with 33 items or less for three months. Linda has been really interested in minimalism, and recently I have been as well. Linda asked me to think about what 33 pieces from my wardrobe I would save from a fire.

As the next three months are spring/summer, I had to get into the warmer weather state of mind. I went through my outfit posts from last summer and thought about what was currently in my wardrobe. I wanted to consider work of course, but also casual weekends and the occasional date night, concert, wedding, or other social occasion. What I came up with:

Trying to use images available in Polyvore, this is only a representation of my actual items (for example the floral dress represents my orange Ikat-print dress). I have linked to the actual pieces when they have been featured on my blog or Instagram (the zebra scarf to the site, the pink dress to an image I found online). However I think this collage gives the right effect.

When thinking what to keep, the most important thing was to have appropriate attire for work. I am lucky to work in a relaxed business casual office, where jeans are acceptable on Fridays and colored denim can make a pass during the week if it’s crisp, saturated color, and dressed up like pants. With this collection, I was able to create 40 different work ensembles for a possible 60 days in the office during a Project 333 period of time. (I know the actual project suggests swapping only three items at the end of the period of time, I am just trying it in this manner for now.)

What this exercise really did was make me realize how woefully inadequate my current wardrobe is. My body has changed, but I have also had a transition in my personal style. With the warming temperatures, I am finding my closet more and more frustrating, the pieces I currently own so mismatched. I’m trying to buy less, and just filling holes, but it feels as though there’s more holes than current wardrobe. This made me realize that instead of filling holes, I maybe need to start from scratch in some ways. Not buy what works, but what is right. Knowing that the whole season will only be 33 pieces (including shoes and accessories – even sunglasses!) is a relief. When you see it’s only 33 pieces, you don’t feel as much as though you’re going to go bankrupt to dress for a season. I looked at this collection above and felt I could really live with these pieces, and only needed a few minor changes to make it perfect.

Will I be taking part in Project 333? No, at least not now. My blog is my part-time career. I have made my outfit posts a way to offer inspiration and creative ideas for fellow women who may have similar figures or lifestyles. I also use the posts as a way to feature brands I like or have just learned about. However, Project 333 really forced me to look at what I buy and why I buy it; it has also transformed how I plan to shop and dress myself this year. You can expect to see a change in future purchases (as well as more items I will likely be selling on eBay - follow me on Facebook for updates when I am having sales).

The horrible tragedy in Bangladesh really got me thinking about what I buy. One can’t just blame H&M or Forever 21 for such situations, bargain basement to high end designer lines ship their manufacturing and/or fabric weaving to other countries where it can be done for far less. We expect to get more for less and to accommodate, retailers sometimes do shifty things to still make a good profit. Be it purchasing used, or purchasing darn near perfection to reduce how often I spend, I’m trying to make a difference. Project333 really forces one to shop with thought, with a plan, with intention. Imagine if we all shopped with intention instead of in desperation, purchasing good enough, using shopping as therapy or entertainment. Imagine our wardrobes, they would be full of quality, well-fitting pieces, signature items, pieces that both flatter and inspire.

This won’t be my only post on this topic, I plan to think about what I wish was in my closet for the 333 Project, and how I plan on taking the lessons learned from this with me as I do shop, and how it will affect my fall/winter wardrobe.

What do you think of Project 333? How does it make it look at your current wardrobe and your shopping habits?

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How I Shop

noreply@blogger.com (Alison (Wardrobe Oxygen)) — Mon, 13 May 2013 19:00:00 +0000

I worked in retail for a decade. I was a personal shopper, retail manager, apparel visual merchandiser, salesperson racing from fitting room to denim wall to register. Because of this, I enter a mall maybe twice a year, and always at off-peak times.

I also don’t shop in malls because I find them frustrating, overwhelming, and demoralizing.

Near my office, there is an Ann Taylor, a Gap, a Nordstrom Rack, and a few other shops. Near my home on my way to the bank or Emerson’s dance class there’s a Marshall’s, a Ross, an Old Navy, a Target, and a couple smaller shops. I will occasionally shop these retailers if I have time or they are near my necessary errand locations, but otherwise I shop online.

I shop online because the selection is better.

I shop online because I have flattering lighting.

I shop online because I trust my own mirror.

I shop online because I am then never pushed to buy something by someone who doesn’t know or care about me.

I shop online so I can be sure the item works with my shoes/bra/purse.

I shop online because they have my size.

I shop online so I can take the time to sit in something, see it from behind, make sure it works with my body and movement.

I shop online so I have time.

I shop online so I don’t become a sweaty frustrated mess who wants to drink all the wine at California Pizza Kitchen and enjoy all that wine with spinach artichoke dip.

I shop online so I get what I want in a manner I deserve.

I don’t shop in person, and that includes thrift stores, because I just don’t have the time. I work over 40 hours a week and commute almost 10 hours more. I blog, I help my husband with his business, I have a child and family and friends. When I have free time I don’t want to spend it shopping, I want to spend it living. I spent too much of my past using shopping as a source of entertainment and all it gave me was a lot of debt and crowded closets. When I do go to stores I so often see bored kids in carts, whining to leave. I have limited time with Emerson, I’d rather spend it doing something we both can enjoy.

Where I mainly shop:

Nordstrom. They have petites and larger sizes and great reviews from fellow customers to help me choose the right size or to not buy an item. They have free shipping and free returns. Nordstrom also has surprisingly awesome prices – their sales are fabulous, and brands like Halogen and Caslon give you current trends for reasonable prices.
Ann Taylor. The brand fits me. Sometimes I love their stuff, sometimes I hate their stuff, but I find the quality and sizing to be relatively consistent and their style to fit my lifestyle. Oh, and they too have great sales and take returns in-store.
Talbots. Consistent sizing and quality, great wardrobe staples, great customer service. I swear by Talbots skirts, very flattering and classic.
Zappos. Extensive selection, free shipping and returns.
6pm. If you know what you like, check here and you may find it cheaper. Free shipping.
Amazon. Same with 6pm, it’s a good place to find very specific items at a great price.
Gap. I like them for basics – tee shirts, summer dresses, the occasional pair of jeans. Their sizing and quality is inconsistent so I don’t shop there as much as I used to. But they have a broad range of sizes, and I can do returns in store.
eBay. I buy a large percentage of my wardrobe from eBay because it’s saving stuff from landfills, saving me money, and giving me variety. I like to look for last-season’s items on there (I’m the crazy person who remembers the names of different dresses and jackets).

How I shop:

I always go to Ebates first. I have written about Ebates before, but it’s a no-strings, no-spam way to get true cash back (not points, not gift cards) on where you shop. Big fan.
I always make a list and try to stick to it. Very little virtual window shopping, which can be bad for the wallet.
I often sort items from lowest to highest price so I see the more budget-friendly options before falling for one that is more expensive.
If the site doesn’t have reviews, I Google the name of the item and “review” to see if I can find them elsewhere. Many blogs do product reviews these days which are super helpful when determining brand or size.
I don’t usually veer from brands I know unless there’s a lot of reviews letting me know about quality and fit.
I don’t like shopping places where the clothes aren’t on human beings. While some models are smaller than mannequins and clothes are often clipped and pinned to fit, a human model gives me a better feel of drape and fit than a mannequin or having it on a white background.
If an online retailers has a PITA return policy, I won’t shop there unless I know before I buy that I will not want to return (specific size and style of shoe, an accessory, etc.).
If I want a very specific item and the site doesn’t have my size, I will Google to see if I can find it elsewhere.
If I want a specific item (say a Western shirt) I will search my favorite haunts, then I will Google the item with “2013” to see what blog reviews or sites have something with that description. This saves me time and often brings to light new and interesting retailers.
I never check out before searching for a promo code. RetailMeNot is my favorite place. I also subscribe to emails from my favorite retailers to get promo codes.
I don’t rack up debt, but I do have Nordstrom and Banana Republic (which also works for Gap, Old Navy, and Athleta) credit cards and put my purchases on them. I pay them off right away, but I acquire points on purchases which earn me store credit.
I have a box at home where I keep all receipts and packing slips. As soon as I buy something, the receipt goes there in case I need to do a return or exchange. Also helpful if I want to replace something via eBay, I know the name and SKU.
I also have a box of shipping materials. In there goes all the shipping bags that deliver product, as well as any tissue paper or bubble wrap used to protect accessories. This way I have free materials for returns as well as old items I sell on eBay.

I have become a bit of an online shopping pro. I know how to find what I want with minimal time, and how to get the best price (or cash back). I know my body, I know what brands usually flatter, so it reduces my number of returns. Online shopping is like any other activity, you become more skilled with time. I have found this to be a good skill to hone because it saves me time, saves me money, and saves my confidence.

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Recent Beauty Buys – Anti Aging Edition

noreply@blogger.com (Alison (Wardrobe Oxygen)) — Mon, 13 May 2013 16:00:00 +0000

My skin is now at the point where anti-aging products aren’t just to prevent wrinkles, but to make my current skin look better. I’m finding products for aging skin have ingredients to plump, add extra hydration, and often add a bit of shine or a dewy look. Yes please, I’ll take it all! Here’s some recent products I have tried that are geared towards aging skin, or slowing down the aging process:

Maybelline Instant Age Rewind “The Lifter”
The Lifter is a “lifting” foundation and smoothing primer mixed together into a mousse-like formula. I bought from CVS, guessed on the shade (Pure Beige), and found it to be a perfect choice. One pump is enough for my face, and the product blends really nicely. It does a good job of hiding pores without looking as though product has fallen into them, and it stays on nicely throughout the day. I apply with my fingers on moisturized skin.

The primer mixed in doesn’t do as good as a job as Smashbox, but it’s better than foundation alone. The combination does have the skin look more airbrushed without being cakey. The Lifter is not a heavy foundation, in fact I found the formula to be a little bit thicker than a BB Cream, more sheer than a traditional foundation. However, I do think it blurs fine lines and hides pores nicely. It looks more natural than my previous foundation and provides better coverage and a lighter formula than BB Cream. So far, I am a fan and would re-purchase.

Maybelline Instant Age Rewind Eraser Dark Circles “Neutralizer”
I love Laura Mercier Secret Camouflage for concealer, but I need to spend about 15 minutes with a brush to get an application that hides my dark circles and doesn’t look heavy or cakey. So when I saw this "dark circle neutralizer" in CVS I thought I’d give it a try under my concealer.

I’m not a big fan of gimmicky packaging – special applicators and added touches don’t impress me and I rarely use them. However, the sponge applicator on this concealer is quite nice in lightly applying this product. It’s a liquid, dries very quickly to a powdery finish, is lighter than my skin, but not ashy looking. I apply it after my foundation and it’s easy to blend it with a mix of my ring finger and the applicator. I like it so much, I also use it around my lips to hide fine lines and prime for color. the only issue I have with the applicator is that it took over five minutes of clicking to get product on the sponge and I wonder about the value of this product/how long is will last.

On weekends, I will use this product alone just to make me not look like Death’s Door. During the week, I wear it under Laura Mercier. It doesn’t crease, doesn’t melt, and isn’t cakey. Very light and sheer, but truly does neutralize dark circles, redness, blue veins and all the rest that happens on a face. I still want to play with this more – I have mainly used in a rush but think with some time it could really work for a flawless face. As it is, I like it enough to re-purchase.

Hydroxatone AM/PM Anti-Wrinkle Complex SPF 15
Disclosure: I received this product free though iFabbo but wasn’t required to write a review.

I have yet to find a night cream that is a Holy Grail product for me, so when I can get a free sample of one, I jump at the chance. I already have a daytime moisturizer I like (that also has higher SPF), so I chose to try Hydroxatone at night. The product is thick (comes in a tub not a bottle), but it’s not greasy. It would make for a great day moisturizer because it absorbs so quickly, leaving a pretty smooth finish. I actually found it too light for my skin as a night cream alone, and have been wearing it after an application of a serum.

First week, not impressed. My skin woke up looking parched, and there wasn’t any change to the skin (other than dryness). Second week… I get why this product gets good reviews online. I honestly think I have seen a change in my skin. Dark patches seem to be lighter, skintone seems to be more even, and everything seems to be a tad bit more taut. Is it Holy Grail? Nope, it’s still not hydrating enough for me for evening, but it’s a great choice for a daytime moisturizer, or a night cream for those with less dry of skin!

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An Old Favorite

noreply@blogger.com (Alison (Wardrobe Oxygen)) — Fri, 10 May 2013 19:00:00 +0000

Dress: Vince Camuto (similar) | Belt: HOBO Bags (similar) | Shoes: Mootsies Tootsies

It's funny, when I first wore this dress I didn't like it. It felt too much - too much fabric, the mullet skirt, the bold color. Now it has become a favorite because while it looks polished it's super duper comfortable and easy. It's easy to switch up the look and level of formality with a change of accessories. I've worn it before with a wide belt, and I like it equally well with strappy heels or pumps.

Speaking of pumps, on Sunday I was perusing 6pm.com (those of you who follow on Facebook know since I kept posting really awesome deals from their Cinco de Mayo sale) to find shoes for K and E. Found nothing for them, was ready to sign out and saw these for $25. I have had no luck with nude shoes the past few springs, figured for such a price I could try and if they sucked, could return or sell on eBay. Well they're super close to my skintone, they're comfortable, and a reasonable heel height. While I really wanted pointy for a more classic look and to look better with pants, the round toe is fun and not too twee and gives my toes more wiggle room.

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True Fashionista: Beverly

noreply@blogger.com (Alison (Wardrobe Oxygen)) — Fri, 10 May 2013 16:00:00 +0000

It’s so sad when a beloved blog stops posting. You may have never met the blogger, heck you may have never even commented but when the blog leaves you feel as though there’s a hole not just in your RSS reader, but also your life. Blogs just have that effect on some of us. So when a favorite blogger returns, it’s cause for celebration. And a blogger whose style is worth celebrating is in my mind a True Fashionista. This is why I asked Beverly of Beverly Like Hills to be part of my True Fashionista series.

I work in an office. I’m not 21 anymore. I have a daughter and my social life is more restaurants and wine in a friend’s living room than clubs and bars. Blogs that have fun yet realistic style for my life are sort of hard to find. Beverly from Beverly Like Hills isn’t 21 anymore either. She works full time, is a parent, has a life but a life I can relate to. All this, and she has amazing, inspiring every day style.

Excellent use of color? On-trend prints and silhouettes? Drool-worthy shoe collection? Awesome specs and awesome hair? Beverly has all this and more in her personal style. She shops from popular chain stores, incorporates hot trends without looking like a fashion victim, has polish and professionalism while having a sense of whimy and fun to each outfit. I think I’d wear almost every item in her closet and often see that we have similar pieces (or the same like the brown Banana Republic hobo in the first collage!).

Beverly rocks fabulous, wearable fashion. She’s not afraid to embrace a trend or modern silhouette. She proves that you can be chic, trendy, fabulous when over 40. She proves that age is but a number when it comes to fashion, and one shouldn’t feel the need to only shop certain stores, silhouettes, or trends because of what is on her driver’s license.

I’m thrilled to have Beverly back in the blogosphere, and thrilled she was willing to be part of my True Fashionista series. I asked Beverly the same five questions I ask of each woman in this series; her answers:

How would you describe your personal style?
I’m going to start off with “a classic cocktail: shaken with a splash of trend”, add a little “menswear gone girly”, and end with “mature on the edge”.

Where did you get your passion for fashion?
This may sound strange, but I think I was born with it, although it went unrecognized for years. My mom has shared with me stories of how picky/stubborn I was with regards to my clothing when I was a little girl. I also remember memorizing outfits of friends I saw at school or from movies I watched as a kid. I had no idea there was such a thing as “fashion” or “style” until I was well into high school. I just knew what I wanted to look like. It wasn’t until I started purchasing my own clothes that I discovered fashion magazines and catalogs. That opened a whole new world for me and basically validated my love of clothes and how I dressed.

Where do you find sartorial inspiration?
EVERYWHERE! I’m always looking: blogs, magazines, online lookbooks, pinterest, the mall, the street, Starbucks, school parking lot, TV, movies, etc. My eyes are always wandering. You never know when inspiration will strike.

What is the difference between fashion and style?
Well, that’s THE question, isn’t it?

I’ve read how others have answered this question and I agree with all of them. Fashion is what’s being offered and style is your personal interpretation of it.

Getting nerdy on you, fashion is a fixed point in time, as in, that was in fashion the Spring of ’92. However, style is timeless and never fixed. Just like your life, your style changes, evolves, adds pieces from the Spring of ’92, then keeps maturing.

Any advice for a woman who is starting to find her personal style?
Wear what makes you happy, cover your basics, and know what fits your body. Once you got that down, start experimenting and don’t stop. The more you do that, the braver you become. As we age, we have a tendency to tame our style of dressing. It should be the opposite. What you wear is it’s own language, so why not say, “Look at me! Look at what I’ve accomplished”? Believe me, people like me are looking at people like you and we are appreciating your efforts.

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Festie Frame of Mind

noreply@blogger.com (Alison (Wardrobe Oxygen)) — Thu, 09 May 2013 19:00:00 +0000

Dress: Seafolly Saltwater Crush Maxi c/o InStyleSwimwear.com | Necklace: Had forever (similar) | Sandals: Softspots | Sunglasses: Kentucky gas station (similar) | Bag: HOBO Bags (similar)

The weather is getting warmer, we've bought tickets for Forecastle and Americanarama and I can't help but be in a festie frame of mind. InStyle Swimwear was kind enough to send me this fabulous tie-dye maxi dress from Seafolly and I just KNOW it will be worn to at least one festival or outdoor concert this summer! Lightweight cotton, comfortable, and adjustable straps to boot! I was also thinking it would look cute with my denim shirt tied over it, and I also liked it cinched with a vintage brown leather belt (expect to see that combo on the blog later in the summer!).

Update on the hair: what I am doing to get it like this is I am applying Paul Mitchell Surf Spray and Rusk Thick on my hair, blowdrying it in a haphazard manner or letting it air dry. I then put big sections in my curling iron, curling away from the face. Finger comb, and then a bit more of the surf spray to have it piecey and messy and more casual. So far, so good and it works well in the heat.

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The Search for the Perfect Western Shirt

noreply@blogger.com (Alison (Wardrobe Oxygen)) — Thu, 09 May 2013 14:00:00 +0000

I mentioned in a previous post that I wanted a Western shirt for spring/summer. Unlike my chambray shirt, a Western shirt would be heavier weight (actual denim, though a lightweight variety), more fitted, hopefully have pearl snaps in place of buttons, and some Western detail in the seaming and pockets. My husband has a Western shirt that he has worn for a few years and it just gets better with time; I was willing to drop major cash for such a piece knowing it would be a wardrobe staple for years to come.

My specifics: A shirt that can be worn untucked or tucked or tied and be flattering (meaning it is slightly fitted). Sleeves that can comfortably be rolled two to three times. Preferably pearl snaps, though if the buttons or snaps are dark and a bit worn looking it may pass. A wash that isn’t too faded but isn’t dark – something that already looks a bit worn. Not chambray, but not as heavy as a denim jacket.

J. Crew

J. Crew’s Western Denim Shirt is quite popular with fashion bloggers. I’ll admit I haven’t bought anything from J. Crew in a long while, finding their prices too high for their current quality. However, I figured since this shirt was a perennial blog favorite, it was worth a try and maybe was worth the $98 pricetag. In the past and with eBay purchases I have found J. Crew doesn’t give much allowance for breasts, so I sized up with a 14.

The denim was heavier than a desired; with my curves it just looked bulky, almost like a jacket. While the 14 did fit my bust, it was way to big elsewhere and surprisingly short (hit just below my jean’s waistband, no tucking and slight blousing out possible). It didn’t have much shape on me and looked dowdy, though I really did like the color and wash of the denim. Returned.

Madewell
When I was on the hunt for a Western shirt, many of you told me to check out Madewell. Gosh, I even used a Madewell Western shirt in the original post. I have never bought anything from this company; I once went to a blogger event at their Georgetown store and everything just seemed too small and too expensive. This is another popular blogger brand and I’ve heard many well-dressed women rave about Madewell’s denim and shirts so I decided to order the Western Jean Shirt in Willow Wash, size XL since I had a feeling this brand would run small.

This shirt was odd. While the site showed snaps, my shirt actually had buttons. And not only that, but it buttoned the opposite way, like a man’s shirt. The button holes were a bit small so buttoning was tough, and the placket was very thick and heavy, making the shirt hang a bit funny. While the XL was too big in the body and neck, the sleeves were narrow, making rolling more than once impossible. Also I found this shirt a bit too short as well. Returned.

Two by Vince Camuto
I searched Western shirts on Nordstrom.com and was surprised by the lack of options. I decided to try the Two by Vince Camuto Denim Western Shirt. I have had success with Vince Camuto in the past finding the brand to have good quality and nicely incorporate current trends. I ordered it in a Large, knowing Vince Camuto fits true to generous in size.

This shirt was so bad, I didn’t even take it out of the plastic when it arrived. Weird wash of denim, ugly buttons, I could find more style and quality at Target. Returned.

Gap
I haven’t been wanting to buy from Gap. Not thrilled with their inconsistent quality and fit (and possible sketchy manufacturing), and I think they’re trying to go the route of J. Crew and seem more cool with higher prices. However, they sent me a coupon for 30% off and I knew they had a Western shirt in two washes. I put the darker one in my online shopping cart at 11pm the evening before my coupon was valid. 6am, the shirt was sold out online in both washes so I stopped by the location near my office after work.

I circled that location three times looking for the Western shirts and finally asked a salesperson who confirmed they were sold out, but I found the lighter wash in a Large tucked between a bunch of chambray shirts. I had wasted all my time searching for the shirt I didn’t have time to try on before buying. It wasn’t the color I desired, but figured I could at least try it and then maybe search eBay if the fit was right.

Got it home… and I liked it. While the wash is lighter than I had envisioned, I like how the light really contrasts with my jeans for a denim on denim look. It also makes it easier to pair with dark colors like navy and black. While it’s a bit snug over the bust, it has the pearl snaps I desired, the right weight, I can comfortably roll the sleeves, and it’s that length I desired to be versatile. I’ve now seen the darker wash in person and it’s not what I desired, I think this lighter color is a better option. Best part is that this shirt is substantially cheaper than any of the other shirts I tried. Kept, and worn on the blog here and here, off the blog I wore it untucked with distressed darker jeans, and open over a band tee shirt with ponte leggings and boots. It washed and dried nicely, no shrinkage. Keeper!

I may still try to find the female version of Karl’s shirt (which is also Gap, though years old). A bit darker with some fading in just the right places and those classic silver and pearl snaps. But until then, I’ll be rocking the unexpected winner in the search for the perfect Western shirt.

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Ask Allie: What to Pack for a Comfortable Flight

noreply@blogger.com (Alison (Wardrobe Oxygen)) — Wed, 08 May 2013 19:00:00 +0000

I haven’t taken a plane anywhere in 25 years and my daughter is getting married in California this summer and I am flying there. What should I pack to be comfortable for a long flight across the country? Are there any things that are must haves or must not haves?

At my last job, I traveled quite frequently on business and got to the point where I had a second set of all my cosmetics and toiletries so I could keep them in my suitcase at all times, and had a carry-on bag almost completely packed and ready to go. Here’s some things that I had in my carry-on bag that made my flights more comfortable; I still carry such items when I fly:

Reading Material. I highly recommend a variety; if you get on board with just one book you may regret it. Jet lag, motion sickness, wedding jitters and more can make that page-turner of a crime novel too heavy or distracting. While I am a big fan of the Kindle app on my phone and adore e-readers and tablets, sometimes it’s enjoyable to physically flip through a glossy magazine. A few fun reads that are not your normal subscriptions can be fun; flights and pedicures are the only time I read gossip rags and they are so perfect for such situations. I also like magazines like Rolling Stone, Vanity Fair, and Entertainment Weekly for catching up on entertainment. If you have an e-reader, fill it up with more than one book so you have some variety and don’t end up without any material for your flight home.

Audio Entertainment. A bit of music can help calm nerves, lull you to sleep, or drown out the snoring guy in the seat next to you. As with reading material, have a bit of variety so you’re not trying to take a nap to GWAR.

While on this subject, have some headphones or earbuds that are comfortable for long periods of time – that means a pair that is NOT what came with your Smartphone. If you can afford it, consider noise-cancelling so you can enjoy your music at a reasonable level while drowning out the snoring guy in the seat next to you!

Writing Material. When I am on a plane and unable to surf the Internet or jabber on the phone with friends, I find I have time to let my mind wander and the mind thinks of some pretty awesome stuff. While you could type it out on your laptop or iPad, there’s something awesome about a travel journal and frantically writing on that fold-down tray. A retractable pen means no lost caps and no penmarks in your bag.

Creature Comforts. I have found a few things that take up little space in your carry-on bag but make a major impact in how comfortable your flight will be:

Pashmina - Way softer, better smelling, cleaner, and all around nicer than an airplane blanket. Loop around your throat for your travel outfit and remove to be a blanket or even ball up and use as a lumbar cushion or neck pillow.
Eye Mask – Also nice to have at the hotel or if sleeping at a friend’s house that has sheer curtains or skylights. An eye mask will let you sleep even if the plane has all the window shades up. Don’t be afraid of looking silly, half the plane will also be wearing them and the other half will wish they were.
Ear Plugs – If your headphones are comfortable enough, you may not need this. I personally find music to be too distracting when sleeping and headphones a bit uncomfortable. Ear plugs let me sleep comfortably and drown out most noise yet I can still hear the flight attendant if she speaks to me directly. I have this eye mask/ear plug duo and like it – the ear plugs are pretty standard issue, but the mask is quite comfortable and doesn’t press against my eyes so I can open, blink, and not mess up my makeup.
Inflatable Neck Pillow – My husband got one for Christmas one year and ever since we have fought over it. It has a soft velour cover, but inside is pretty much a beach ball that self-inflates with the twist of a cap. It folds down to almost nothing. It’s also great to have when sleeping in a strange bed, and even when lying out on the beach.

Personal Care. A plane is a dirty and dry place to be. I fill my TSA-approved Ziploc bag with as many TSA-approved mini bottles as possible to have my necessities on me in case they lose my luggage, but also to feel clean and hydrated during and right after the flight. My essentials:

Simple Makeup - A tinted lip balm that can double as cream blush and a compact foundation or powder so you can refresh quickly once you get to your destination. Many pack more, I find these two to be the minimum to not look like death after a flight.
Lip Balm - Apply it regularly. I like fresh’s Sugar because it tastes like lemonade and is really creamy; choose one that feels good, smells good, and tastes good even if you’re feeling under the weather or nauseous.
Face Mist - I swear by Body Shop’s Vitamin E Face Mist. I have had a bottle or two in my possession since I worked for the company over a decade ago. It’s a TSA-approved size, has a faint smell of roses, will provide hydration without smearing your makeup. When I worked for The Body Shop, flight attendants would come in my store and buy this spray by the case because it’s so great for flight. When not on a plane, use it to prep skin before makeup and to set applied makeup; stick in your fridge for a nice pick-me-up on a hot day.
Hand Cream - Planes are dry, choose a hand cream that is low on smell and not too greasy. My sister turned my on to Glysomed, I keep a bottle at my desk at work and another in my purse.
Face Wipes - Target always has a travel pack of Neutrogena face wipes in their travel section; I not only keep these in my carry-on bag, but I even put one of these packs in my purse. Small, can fix smeared mascara or wash your entire face. I have been known to use one of these wipes to freshen up under the arms, along the bra wires and between the breasts when on a long flight or a very long day away from home.
Travel Toothbrush and Paste - I have a kit similar to the one shown – a very tiny tube of toothpaste I only use for flights so it won’t empty quickly, and a tiny toothbrush. On a long flight I will brush my teeth on the plane to feel refreshed, especially after a nap. No matter the length of a flight, as soon as we arrive at the airport I brush my teeth to feel more refreshed.
Brush/Comb - At least a small one will help clean you up after a long flight. I have one of those small combs you get on Picture Day back in grade school which will smooth frizz, straighten my bangs, and clean up a fuzzy ponytail.

Plane Preparation. Target also has small packs of Clorox or sanitizing wipes in their travel section – a pack of these are great to wipe down armrests and trays on the plane, and for once you’re at your destination if you have to deal with gross bathrooms or grimy situations. Also bring a pack of gum – not only does it help freshen your breath but it can also help with ears popping from the altitude change. Finally, bring some cash – good to be prepared if you need to catch a taxi at the airport.

Additional Suggestions:

If you’re on an especially long flight, a pair of slipper socks or travel slippers can be great. Your feet may swell and anyway it’s easier to nap and relax with happy tootsies.
If you’re on medications, be sure to have those in your carry-on bag.
If you’re checking luggage, make sure you have a change of clothes and basic toiletries (contact lens solution, deodorant, etc.) in your carry-on in case your luggage is lost or delayed. While at it, pack any non-replaceable things like jewelry in your carry-on as well.
Many flights have dropped meal service so be sure to pack at least a snack. While you can grab something at the airport food court, it’s cheaper and healthier to make your own sandwich or buy a granola or protein bar at your neighborhood grocery.
A friend of mine packs one of those collapsible water bottles and fills it at a water fountain once she gets through the security checkpoint. She refills on the flight with cups of water the flight attendants offer, and then has the bottle available for her vacation.
I was on a flight once when a man asked the flight attendant for a cup of hot water and he dipped a dry washcloth in it and wiped his hands and face with it to feel refreshed. I can’t say I have ever done that but I found it utterly brilliant.
I have such things in my Purse Survival Kit, but it’s smart to have a stain remover, some safety pins, and some anti-nausea or anti-diarrhea pills in your bag in case of wardrobe or digestive malfunctions.
Since the plane is so drying, it’s pretty smart to pack some moistening eye drops and saline nose spray.
If you wear contacts, have drops, your case, and a pair of glasses handy. I know my contacts give me major trouble on flights and I usually just decide to wear glasses from the get-go.
If you’re a frequent flyer, consider an adapter so you can use your headphones with the plane’s audio/TV system.
Just because you're on a long flight doesn't mean you should dress in your pajamas and sweats. Fabrics like ponte, stretch denim, merino wool and matte jersey can have you look polished and still be comfortable. And you never know, your sophisticated outfit may help you get upgraded!

What are your essentials for a comfortable flight?

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Black and White and Orange

noreply@blogger.com (Alison (Wardrobe Oxygen)) — Wed, 08 May 2013 14:30:00 +0000

One day it's 80 degrees in DC, the next it's 40. I thought I'd be packing away the tights and tall boots, but with this weather I figure I can eek out a few more wearings! I bought this dress during one of Ann Taylor's 30% off sale deals several weeks ago, ended up being under $35 (note it's cheaper in store than online). It's cute but short with the self belt, but I like it for say a date night with my DKNY super opaque tights, or even with leggings. For work, I took off the belt for a looser silhouette and longer hemline.

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Check Out the #NewFaceofHawaiianTropic

noreply@blogger.com (Alison (Wardrobe Oxygen)) — Wed, 08 May 2013 13:30:00 +0000

Bikini contests are so passé. I’ve always hated such things, where a woman is solely judged by her body and not her mind, personality, or contribution to society. So when I heard that Hawaiian Tropic® brand decided to drop their bikini contest I was thrilled. They are now holding a contest for the “New Face” of Hawaiian Tropic® brand.

Click to learn more about The New Face of Hawaiian Tropic®…

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Concert Review: Jim James at the 9:30 Club

noreply@blogger.com (Alison (Wardrobe Oxygen)) — Tue, 07 May 2013 19:00:00 +0000

When I was in high school I obsessed over certain bands and singers. Sometimes it was because their lyrics spoke to me, their beats could make me dance all night… but usually it was because of image. Some hot guy mourning over a girl, a badass woman with a nose ring singing about female empowerment. The image always did it for me, it was that thing that got me emotionally invested in an artist.

I’ve written about my reconnection to music before, but a big difference in my new love of music and old is the lack of the visual. I’m not turning on MTV every day after school, I’m not seeking out videos on YouTube or Googling pictures of artists. Often, I find band recommendations from the pages of Rolling Stone or Bust, or through friends or music forums. I often download music or add to a Spotify playlist based solely on the artists’ name or title and maybe a brief paragraph or “sounds like” description.

While there are some artists I find even better with the visual (well HELLO Father John Misty), many I prefer without the visual to muddy the message. One I think of the most is Jim James and My Morning Jacket. I find this man and this band utterly brilliant – simple yet poetic lyrics, creative songs, ability to play so many different instruments, music that is entertaining, thought-provoking, catchy, yet unique. As for appearance? I don’t care what they’re wearing, I don’t care what they look like, I don’t really care one way or another about album art and have seen very few videos. I just love Jim’s voice, the lyrics, the sound, the whole package.

My mediocre Instagram photos; for far better shots of the show see Brightest Young Things' article

This past Tuesday, I went with my sister and husband to see Jim James perform solo at the 9:30 Club. We’re such big fans of MMJ that we’re fan club members, and got there early for primo location during the live event. The show did not disappoint – Jim James is a genius and also a stellar performer. I think the show blew Karl’s mind; he’s not the type to get all gaga over anything, but is a giggle teenager when it comes to Jim James. I had a blast, he was SO good, so engaging with the audience, did a fan-geek encore with solo, MMJ and Monsters of Folk songs (as well as a couple covers). In my eyes, James can do no wrong and I can’t wait to see him again at Forecastle Fest this July.

I go to see concerts these days to see the artists do what they do best – perform their music. Jam out, see the skill on their instruments, hear voices without computer enhancement, experience the unexpected. When I was younger, I geeked over musicians hoping to touch them, make eye contact, have a bit of a fantasy in my head along with the songs. Now, I just want to go on the ride that comes with the music, and the scenery is in my mind. I think this is why I have become a major geek over Jim James and My Morning Jacket; I think they encourage this sort of fandom. They want us to think, they want us to journey, they want us to be surprised and elated and excited and they feel these emotions with us through the concert.

If Jim James is heading to a venue near you I encourage you to get a ticket. He’s hitting up venues much smaller than MMJ would perform at, and not many know him by his name meaning the crowd is friendly yet passionate. I hadn’t been to a show since Superbowl weekend and this show was just what the doctor ordered to get my music mojo back and have me in the swing for festival season!

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Sight-Seer

noreply@blogger.com (Alison (Wardrobe Oxygen)) — Tue, 07 May 2013 15:00:00 +0000

Tee: Banana Republic | Jeans: Gap | Bag: Hobo Bags (similar) | Shoes: "Dhani" c/o Naturalizer | Sunglasses: Ray-Ban

Naturalizer was nice enough to send me these sandals and I will forever be in their debt. I thought these shoes looked cute on their site, but they're even cuter in person. Not only that, they fit my chubby feet and are so comfortable, I could wear them for a day of museum hopping and sight seeing around DC. While they are orange, they are still a neutral that I know I will be pairing with most every sundress in my closet. It may be hard to accept such raving since I got the shoes for free, but do believe me. There's few brands of sandals and summer heels that work with my feet and now I am happy to say I can add Naturalizer to the list.

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#Blog4Good with Goodwill Greater Washington

noreply@blogger.com (Alison (Wardrobe Oxygen)) — Mon, 06 May 2013 20:00:00 +0000

In honor of Goodwill Industries Week, I am taking part in #Blog4Good, a campaign to highlight Goodwill of Greater Washington‘s mission to end employment by supporting and training the unemployed and underemployed in our area.

Thrifting has become a hot way to look on trend and hone your personal style. I embrace this trend because it’s budget friendly, it keeps clothing out of landfills, and it helps others. Goodwill of Greater Washington’s primary mission is to provide job training and employment services to people with disadvantages and disabilities. They strive to provide the populations they serve with the tools they need to become self-sufficient.

In 2012, Goodwill of Greater Washington directly affected the lives of more than 3,200 locals who found re-dignity that comes with being a contributing member of our society. Goodwill is also responsible for diverting more than 20 million pounds of trash from DC-region landfills through their donation program. This is just stats for my area, imagine how much good Goodwill does with their 2,650 retail stores and shops across the country and Canada!

Visit the Goodwill of Greater Washington website to learn more about its mission and programs that are being recognized during Goodwill Industries Week. You can also follow the DC Goodwill Fashionista (and the Spanish version too!) and share your stories on Twitter with the hashtag #blog4Good. If you desire to shop or donate, you can find your local Goodwill at Goodwill.org.

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Go Big or Go Home

noreply@blogger.com (Alison (Wardrobe Oxygen)) — Mon, 06 May 2013 15:00:00 +0000

Shirt: Gap | Skirt: Etsy | Shoes: Miss Sixty via eBay (similar) | Bag: Banana Republic via eBay (similar)

I was on the hunt for a maxi wrap dress, and decided to check out Etsy. I didn't find one I liked, but I found this skirt and I just couldn't resist. At first, I thought my life didn't NEED a big skirt like this, but I indulged and this is the third time I have worn it. I like it on weekends with an Old Navy vintage tee (white and charcoal) knotted at the waist, and think this summer will be cute with a tank, and maybe a different print scarf tied at the waist like a cummerbund. It has one pocket, the only think I don't adore about this skirt is that there aren't two. But reasonable price, looks just as it did online, didn't have to wait too long for shipping. I definitely favorited this seller and may look to have her make that elusive wrap maxi dress for me this summer!

There is an historic Art Deco theater in my community that holds a lot of good memories for people in our community. I remember seeing movies there when I was younger, and we love being able to walk down to see an indie hit or an Oscar contender. The Greenbelt Theatre is up to receive a $100,000 grant from Partners in Preservation and we're in our last week of voting. We keep teetering between 4th and 5th place; I doubt we'll be win (we're up against the National Cathedral), but there's funding for runner ups. I'd really appreciate it if you'd take a moment to vote for the Greenbelt Theatre. The login process is pretty simple, anyone across the globe can vote, and you can vote every day. I thank you in advance!

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True Fashionista: Cynthia

noreply@blogger.com (Alison (Wardrobe Oxygen)) — Fri, 03 May 2013 16:00:00 +0000

I’m kinda glad that Google Reader is disappearing. I had been neglecting it for a long while and with the news, I decided to find a new subscription tool (Feedly, which has an awesome app and plug-in for Firefox) and with it, have been reading blogs more regularly. It reminded me that there’s a heck of a lot of awesome blogs I follow, bloggers who inspire me and consistently have fun and fabulous fashion. And one of those who I have reunited with thanks to Feedly is the awesome Cynthia of Simply Cyn.

If Cynthia looks familiar to you, you may remember her blog with the old name, Addicted2Etsy. While Cynthia is still a big fan of that site and features sellers and products from it regularly, her blog showcases her personal style, as well as peeks into her personal tastes and lifestyle. Her music mentions thrill me because I often learn about new artists that I too end up loving. Her hair is amazing and she regularly writes about how she cares for it. She does reviews of fashion and décor trends and beauty products without it being overkill and they always fit her clean, bright, fun and spirited aesthetic.

And Cynthia’s personal style? Just as stated above, it’s bright, fun, and spirited. She can pattern mix like the best, but always does it in a clean, thoughtful manner. You can see her personality and lifestyle through her clothing choices, be it a vintage Coach bag from Etsy, a band tee shirt, or a pair of sandals she picked up on a trip to Barcelona.

Cynthia can rock color and bold prints without it feeling costumey. She has a good eye for proportion, balancing voluminous blouses with skinny jeans and knowing the right hem length to flatter her figure. She shops at budget-friendly shops but looks like a million bucks with her creative styling and pairing. I love how her hair is constantly changing, switching up the look of re-worn pieces and giving a whole new effect to her personal style. And her smile – gosh it’s refreshing to see a big happy smile in a sea of duck lips and pouts!

Simply Cyn is a blog I always look forward to showing up in my reader; Cynthia is positive, creative, and inspiring. I was thrilled that she was willing to be part of my True Fashionista series. I asked Cynthia to answer the same five questions I ask of each True Fashionista; her answers:

How would you describe your personal style?
I think my personal style is about being chic but with a healthy dose of ease and comfort. There was a time I would try anything that was fashionable but I learned that I feel most beautiful and get the most positive response from people when I wear something that I am truly comfortable in. Being comfortable in your clothes and in your skin really comes across. It's about confidence.

Where did you get your passion for fashion?
My mum was always a top notch dresser. I grew up in Cameroon, West Africa and my mum actually owned a tailoring shop. I would hang out there with the tailors and watch them work and watch my mum give out instructions. I think that's where I started really liking clothes and patterns and different designs. It wasn't however until later that I realized how that fashion is not shallow, at least it doesn't have to be. It can really help on a crap day, the saying that when you look good, you feel good.

Where do you find sartorial inspiration?
A few years back it would have been mostly magazines, but now it's definitely from other bloggers and living in NYC, its the ladies & gents on the street and on the train.

What is the difference between fashion and style?
Fashion is temporary, style is forever.

Any advice for a woman who is starting to find her personal style?
Experiment. Its harder in the beginning, but if you don't try, you won't figure it out. Grab something you wouldn't normally wear, pair pieces you don't think go together. Be adventurous. You might be surprised what you discover.

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The purpose of the Friday True Fashionista series is to show women who use clothing to express their personal style. Each woman has a different, unique look and opinion on clothing and fashion. These women inspire me in my clothing choices, and possibly their bold sartorial statements will inspire you. Stay tuned, there will be a featured True Fashionista every Friday. And if you know of a True Fashionista in your life, tell us about her in the comments... you never know she may end up being featured!
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Throwback Thursday: Wedding Edition

noreply@blogger.com (Alison (Wardrobe Oxygen)) — Thu, 02 May 2013 14:00:00 +0000

I can’t believe that in June, Karl and I will have been married nine years. Nine years! Where does the time go? I’ve been thinking about our wedding a lot since the cicadas are set to return this summer and they were here for our wedding. I decided to take a walk down wedding dress memory lane for today’s Throwback Thursday.

Though I South Beached most of my engagement, I was still a size 10/12, which makes dress shopping hard. Most boutiques only carry sample sizes, which are in the single digits; no matter how many binder clips they use to attach that dress to your bra, you can’t get a good feeling for how it will actually look when the dress is several sizes smaller than you need. So my first stop in dress shopping was David’s Bridal, where I knew they would have all the popular silhouettes and also have many dresses in my size. I went, and thought I found THE ONE on the first visit. Came back a second time, took pictures and realized that while the dress did flatter, it wasn’t quite right. However, that trip to David’s helped me narrow down silhouettes and know what styles flattered my figure and fit my sense of style.

I ended up with a very similar gown I remember it was called the “Temara.” I tried on at a boutique in Baltimore, but found it for almost half the price online (thank you Bridal Bargains!). It had the a-line skirt and wrapped waist I found flattering on me, but was ivory silk shantung (always been a sucker for shantung) and Swarovski crystals along the top. Lace-up back so alterations were minimal (which was a good thing because I somehow LOST weight on my Bachelorette weekend of debauchery in Dewey Beach). I had my seamstress make my veil, the week before the wedding I decided I HAD to have a tiara and ordered one online. It was small yet sparkly and I must admit I still pull it out from time to time to wear around the house. My shoes were hot pink and found for almost nothing at the now-defunct department store Hecht’s. I went to a Chanel counter to have my makeup done; the artist was going to do my makeup that day but cancelled short notice so I did it myself.

My favorite color was and still is orange. We had orange invitations, orange flowers for the ceremony and centerpieces, the boutiques were predominately orange (with Kermit green flowers to represent my dad Kermit). Tables were named after places we had traveled to as a couple, written on shades of orange and pink paper; that same paper was used for the programs and cardstock in the same shades was used for placecards. We even had an orange signature drink – the Orange Crush that I had enjoyed many times with my friends during our Dewey Beach adventures. I wanted my bridesmaids to wear orange tea-length dresses but they vetoed me and wore a much wearable shade of bronze.

Our wedding was at an historical mansion that was just a few miles from where the two of us grew up. The plan was to have the ceremony outside on the terrace. The cicadas were in full force and we were considering all sorts of ways to deal with them (have catering sweep up the carcasses 10 minutes before people were to arrive, have the minister ask the audience to do a round of applause before we walked out to shush them long enough for the ceremony). Even though the farmer’s almanac said it would be fair weather, it rained all day and evening so the whole event was inside and cicada-free.

Looking back, I think the most dated parts of my look were the cosmetic ones – the shimmery silver shadow, the deep maroon lips, the very slicked-back updo. The dress still holds its own; in fact I went to the David’s Bridal site to look at their current dresses and found almost the same dress that I almost got (though the one I tried had a solid skirt and was a dark ivory/candlelight color). Like wrap dresses, pointed-toe pumps and dark straight jeans – some trends just don’t disappear because they are so figure flattering. I think my wedding dress could be rocked now, though I would likely replace the lace-up back with buttons, wear my hair down and cut down my makeup by a million. And the shoes? Oh I would still totally rock those shoes!

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