I feel the need to put on my detective’s hat and unmask some urban legends I’ve noticed regarding my favorite part of Juggler Method: the Statement of Interest.

I’m known for teaching my Big Four to students — four basic ways to become great with women — and the results don’t lie. (Check out my recent reviews on the forum.)  But within that four, I consider this part the most powerful: “Tell her you like her.” This is the part associated with the SOI, and if you know nothing else, know this: If you can consistently show justifiable interest in women, expect to write a fun-filled journal. It’s worked for me.

But much like The Force, the AllSpark or any other film reference my nerdy mind can think of, this knowledge can be used the wrong way. The acronym itself — SOI — can be confusing to a beginner, which is why I prefer to say “tell her you like her” or “show your interest.” Allow me to set straight some common misconceptions:

Myth: An SOI is meant to compliment a woman’s character trait and make her feel sexy.

Truth: We are not trying to make women believe they’re sexy. ]]> http://www.charismaarts.com/attracting-women-by-showing-interest-myths-and-truths/feed/ http://www.charismaarts.com/attracting-women-by-showing-interest-myths-and-truths/ http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/WayneElisesCharismaArts-BeAmazingWithWomen/~3/dT2r0692gvg/ http://www.charismaarts.com/before-opening-what-to-do-by-julianl/#comments Sun, 28 Jun 2009 20:45:06 +0000 Dan Tena http://www.charismaarts.com/?p=488 I believe an approach can be made considerably easier by observing a few key points even before the approach.

I used to be so terrified of approaching I would just duck in there as if under enemy grenade attack. As anybody can guess, that made for some nasty blow ups, pun intended. Here’s a few ideas to make your life a lot easier than mine used to be.

You can skip everything that follows by answering for yourself the simple yet important question:

What makes me comfortable?

Think about what strangers do to make you comfortable. Chances are, what “works” on you will work on everybody else, too.

All you need to do in the initial stage of your interaction is to make her feel comfortable. Everything is built upon that foundation. If she’s not comfortable with you nothing will happen. If she is, well, the sky’s the limit. In order to make her feel comfortable you have to be comfortable (or at least appear to be. ]]> http://www.charismaarts.com/before-opening-what-to-do-by-julianl/feed/ http://www.charismaarts.com/before-opening-what-to-do-by-julianl/