Wayne 'Juggler' Elise's Charisma Arts

Before Opening: What to Do by JulianL

Dan Tena — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 20:45:06 +0000

I believe an approach can be made considerably easier by observing a few key points even before the approach.

I used to be so terrified of approaching I would just duck in there as if under enemy grenade attack. As anybody can guess, that made for some nasty blow ups, pun intended. Here’s a few ideas to make your life a lot easier than mine used to be.

You can skip everything that follows by answering for yourself the simple yet important question:

What makes me comfortable?

Think about what strangers do to make you comfortable. Chances are, what “works” on you will work on everybody else, too.

All you need to do in the initial stage of your interaction is to make her feel comfortable. Everything is built upon that foundation. If she’s not comfortable with you nothing will happen. If she is, well, the sky’s the limit. In order to make her feel comfortable you have to be comfortable (or at least appear to be.

James’s favorite “Pickup Guru” on Approach Anxiety

Dan Tena — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 04:33:57 +0000

Who would be the hardest man on the planet for a woman to “blow out”? By that I mean to reject a person who comes up and attempts to start a cold conversation. I reckon the Crocodile Hunter. Yes, I am serious. Try to imagine politely getting rid of a guy with that much energy and enthusiasm. Now consider 90% of guys I coach cannot consistently manage and elevate their energy levels. They will not be successful at starting conversations with women, much less seducing them, until they can manage their energy or state. Energy is the most important factor in making powerful, confident first impressions. Steve Irwin helps so many of my students. I studied acting. It helped me grow as a man in many ways, especially in socializing and improving my confidence with the ladies. As an exercise I encourage my students to visualize and feel Steve Irwin’s freakish energy and passion within themselves before approaching a woman.