Why do "they" keep taking us away from our Mommy & Daddy?

OFFENDING PARENT? REALLY, TAKE A LOOK AT YOUR OWN REFLECTION.

2011-12-12T16:42:00.000-08:00

OFFENDING PARENT.
THOSE ARE TWO OF THE DUMBEST WORDS I HAVE EVER HEARD.
SERIOUSLY.
TAKE A LOOK AROUND, IN AN INSTANT ANY PARENT, CARETAKER, RELATIVE CARETAKER, FOSTER PARENT OR CPI WORKER CAN BECOME AN "OFFENDING PARENT" KNOW WHAT IT TAKES TO BECOME AN OFFENDING PARENT?
ONE ARGUMENT WITH YOUR SPOUSE.
ONE LOUSY DAY AT WORK AND BY THE TIME YOU GET HOME YOUR PATIENCE ARE ALREADY GONE WELL BEFORE YOU'VE HEARD "HONEY CAN YOU" AND "MOM!" AND "NO!!!!" A THOUSAND TIMES AND YOU YELL.
ONE NOSEY NEIGHBOR WHO PUTS THEIR INTEREST IN YOU A BIT TOO MUCH AND ALSO HAPPENS TO BE THE NEIGHBORHOOD COP CALLER.
THAT IS ALL IT TAKES TO BECOME AN OFFENDING PARENT AMD HAVE YOUR CHILDREN RIPPED AWAY FROM YOU, YOUR FAMILY DESYROYED, YOUR CHILDREN'S HEARTS BROKEN AND CONFUSED, YOUR OWN LIFE MEANINGLESS AND THE FINGERS TO BE POINTED AT YOU. EVERYONE ASSUMES THERE HAS GOT TO BE MORE TO THE STORY. THE STATE CAN'T TAKE YOUR KIDS AWAY FOR NOTHING.
TO HELL AND BACK THAT THEY CAN'T.
THEY DID. THEY HAVE. THEY WILL AGAIN.
IT IS THE ONLY WAY THE SY.CONTINUES TO RUN.

HOW ELSE ARE ASSISTANT STATE ATTORNEYS GOING TO CONTINUE TO CHERRY PICK KIDS TO ADOPT?
I HAVE A REAL PROBLEM WITH THAT, ALTHOUGH THIS WASN'T WHAT I PLANNED TO POST ABOUT. WHY THE HELL IS THE ASSISTANT STATE ATTORNEY, MORE IMPORTANTLY THE ASSISTANT STATE ATTORNEY ASSIGNED TO MY CASE WHO HAS HAD HER FANGS OUT FOR ME FROM THE BEGINNING I SWEAR, ADOPTING KIDS.FROM THE SAME COURTROM THAT SHE IS ARGUING IN EVERYDAY?

Our Lil Loves, Stolen from Mommy & Daddy on FALSE, UNPROVEN, ALLEGATIONS BY CPI FLORIDA

2011-08-13T11:36:00.000-07:00

OUR LIL LOVES, 4 YEARS AND 2 YEARS OLD ---- DO THEY LOOK ABUSED OR NEGLECTED TO YOU?
ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!
STOLEN FROM DAYCARE ON 7/26/2011 AND IMMEDIATELY RETURNED ON 7/27/2011 VIA COURT ORDER
STOLEN AGAIN ON 8/4/2011 IN FRONT OF A DIFFERENT JUDGE, WITH THE SAME ALLEGATIONS FROM 7/26/2011 THAT WERE DISMISSED AND DISPROVEN!!! CPI TRICKERY AND THIEVERY OF OUR CHILDREN!!

Trying to stay connected and present when your seperated from your children

2011-04-24T14:59:00.000-07:00

The most difficult, heart wrenching part of the past 5 Months for me has been not being with my children everyday, not knowing if they brushed their teeth, practiced their letters, how school was, the current days rambling about preschool love lives but I always worried endlessly that they would forget that Mommy exists, or the sound of my voice,or how much I love them. While I continue to be met with resistance from my soon to be ex husband, I mail my kids pages I've colored for them almost daily or stickers ect, on Valentine's I bought a recordable card and wished the kids a happy Valentine's and thankfully he sms give them that. One of the best things I've been able to do to keep my voice present and accessible anytime my daughter needs it is I purchased one of hallmarks recordable books, all the ways I love you, read and recorded it, added a few personal lines and gave it to my daughter during a supervised visit. That way I knew she got it since I handed it to her and the family specialist was also aware of it which ceased any petty disputes my ex could raise about it. My kids however LOVE that book and still listen to it several times a week, my 4 year old likes the last page where I wish her good night, tell her to wish on our star and that I love her so much.
It's a pale comparison to the relationship and interaction we are used to and should have but sometimes a little bit of something ls better than nothing! Check out a couple of the links below for recordable books.

Search Amazon.com for hallmark my little princess recordable book

legal books, day planners for note taking!

2011-04-23T19:14:00.000-07:00

The Shelter Hearing ... September 9, 2010

2011-04-23T11:04:00.000-07:00

The emergency shelter hearing was held on September 9, the kids had not been removed from our care at that time , but Child Protective Services was seeking their removal on that morning based on allegations of neglect via failure to protect, allegations of substance abuse and allegations of domestic violence. I was a wreck. When I took the kids to school that morning I threw up in the parking lot terrified I wouldn't be picking them up that afternoon.
The hearing was held in front of the honorable Judge Day in Pinellas County, Unified Family Court, ie, juvenile dependency court. The CPI worker was present presenting her allegations and reasons she wanted to remove my 3
and 1 year old from my care, her shelter petition was denied, thank god
Judge Day stated he saw a lot of smoke but no fire, dismissed and denied the states motion but allowed the department to do a direct file if they desired and ordered mg husband and I to cooperate with the community provider, Eckerd / Directions / ECA. All said we left that day ecstatic that our children were not in jeopardy and believing the worst was behind us, wrong again.

But for that day, life was good, I picked my kids up, had a normal few weeks and prepared for our trip to my hometown in Indiana for my 10 year high school reunion that was approaching the 25th of that month. Days before we left we received a call from the appointed case manager from Eckerd , C. Manning , setting an appointment for September 29, 2010. Our trip to Indy wad amazing yet again I was fooled by my hopes and eternal faith in being a blissful family, ignoring all signs that should of prompted me to recognize and address my husbands deciet. The meeting on the 29th with CManning would turn out to be another foreshadowing of what the future held for my family and I.

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The kids and I in Indy, September 2010, after the denied shelter hearing and before the initial appointment with the case manager assigned to our family thru Eckerd /Directions , the CBC for Pinellas County. the kids and I were happy, bonded, well adjusted Mommy and kids still at this time. Little did I know that my husband, Eckerd and the GAL were going to be railroading me soon and destroying the life my children were meant to have.

JAIL AS UNISHMENT FOR MOM IN DEPENDENCY COURT???

2011-04-22T23:12:00.000-07:00

Family Court Crisis-Abusers Getting Custody!

2011-04-22T21:06:00.000-07:00

Family Court Crisis-Abusers Getting Custody!

Family Court Crisis-Abusers Getting Custody!: MATERNAL ABSENCE

2011-04-22T21:05:00.000-07:00

Family Court Crisis-Abusers Getting Custody!: MATERNAL ABSENCE

The Footsteps to Hell

2011-04-22T15:59:00.000-07:00

I cringe every month now when it comes time to flip to the start of the next month, it would be safe to say that I hate the 1st of each month. My life seems to get turned upside down on the first of any given month, here is my best attempt to explain how my children's lives, my life, my familys life all began to unravel starting with the first of the month of course.

September 1, 2010 is when my personal hell began, or where my personal hell became a not so secret hell possibly. The previous night my husband and I had an argument, your typical why can't you do abc type of argument but none the less a verbal spat that ended with him going to his Mother's, turning off his phone and not returning home for the evening.

Sometime late in the night he called and asked if he could return home the following morning to talk, we agreed around 9:30am , after I took our 3 year old to preschool. The next morning came and went, no husband, nap and lunch came and went, no husband, as my 1 year old and I were leaving my husband arrived, carrying a bag of drinks and snacks. As we were both on the front sidewalk anyway we continued our conversation to the front of his car. We weren't fighting or disagreeing, if I recall correctly I told him it irritated me that he ran off to his Mom's without so much as a good night to the kids and he stated something about needing to get away for the night. About this time his Mother jumps out of the car and grabs, twists and scratches my arm, while I'm holding my son. I handt known she was even in the car so to say I was caught off guard is an understatement. My son was fine, my arm was not and I called 911. In the end the officer didnt have a unbiased version of the events and no charges were filed. I was irate at that, I was assaulted on my property, in front of my car with my son and there was no recourse??!

Lesson #1 , it never pays to become upset, emotional or loud with officers. My emotional outburst that day, while quite possibly justified would come back to bite me several times.

Regardless, my husband took his Mother home, returned and we picked up our daughter from school together. We never finished our discussion of .our previous nights argument and he had a new guilt due to my fractured arm and I had a new resentment because of my fractured arm but as people do we stayed silent, for the time being at least.

The one question I had continually asked was why didn't you show up at 9:30am and why was your Mom even with you? I didn't get a good answer to either but by the following day, September 2 , I had new concerns anyway. The afternoon of September 2,2010 a CPI and police officer showed up at the house. Clueless as to why I openly chatted away and answered their questions until an hour of questioning had gone on and no answer as to what they wanted. At some point they eventually referenced an anonymous call they recieved along with violence involving my son the previous day, I thought great they are going to.arrest her for assaulting me then! Wrong. They were going to civilly charge me with failure to protect! And the anonymous call they recieved, that came from my mother in law after she returned home from the previous days incident! Both of those alone didn't concern me much, as there was no validity to one and I didn't cause the other and I aS injured,, not my son. What I didn't know was how manipulative my husband, who was seemingly distraught, really was and what he had been doing the previous morning. CPI ended up leaving, stating they'd be in contact if they needed anything and yet again I was off to pick up my daughter. Sometime that night I decided I was in need of a quick, relaxing get away with the kids so I packed an overnight bag, loaded up the car that Friday and we headed to Sanibel for the labor day weekend.

We had an awesome time and really lived it up, my husband even joined us and I truly believed we had reconnected and life was turning right again. Then reality hit. On the following Tuesday I recieved a call from ERT, whom the CPI worker apparently referred us to. She wanted to come out that day and I explained we were in Sanibel, she referenced she would go ahead and just meet with my husband then and to call when the kids and I returned. I corrected her and told her we were all 4 in Sanibel and was met with dead silence. I recall thinking these people must deal with messed up families if she's speechless over a family vaca. Then she said, what about the injunction, what injunction? The one your husband petitioned for on September 1 and the hearing tomorrow, part of the need for agency involvement. I told her she must be confused, we didn't file for an injunction, no your husband did against you, on behalf of the kids was her response. It was denied but a return hearing had been scheduled for the following day. I thought my head might explode.

My husband, my children's father, the man I trusted, loved, created life with had gotten mad, left, stayed out overnight, filed for an injunction against me , involving my kids, then allowed his mother to attack me, left on vacation with us and had failed to mention the small fact that he applied for protection against me?! To my true surprise, I didn't yell or get angry, I was more hurt, but yet again it was just another bit of the writing on the walls.

We returned home on September 8 and were informed that due to the application for the injunction (done early on 9/1/10), followed by the 911 domestic call (9/1/10 afternoon) and the abuse hotline call (9/1/10 evening) the state of Florida, on behalf of Child Protective Services, would be filing a Petition for Dependency the following morning, 9/9/10 , against my husband and I, attempting to shelter our children in relative care or foster care.

My world was falling out from underneath me and I dint know who to, or who not to, trust.